Exploring Masculinity: A Heart-to-Heart with Men on What it Means to Be a Man (Full Episode)
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- Опубліковано 8 лип 2024
- What does it mean to be a man? What is toxic masculinity? Does physical attraction matter in a relationship? Do all men cheat? Is it worth it to split bills 50/50 with a woman?
In this discussion of Ladies Hear Him Out, our panelists define what a man is and explore the roles that a woman plays in manhood. They discuss topics such as toxic masculinity and femininity, the importance of physical attraction, and the concept of monogamy. They also examine the idea of a 50/50 split in a household and the role of vision in your life and relationships
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0:00 - Intro
00:15 - What’s your definition of a man
00:40 - Bethel School of Technology
6:30 - Does a woman play a role in manhood?
13:00 - Do women know what a man is?
13:42 - Is it possible for someone to make someone into something they’ve never been?
16:39 - A man is someone who knows how to express his emotions
17:16 - Do you believe that men have a feminine side
18:54 - Do you believe women have masculine energy?
21:02 - Toxic masculinity and Toxic Femininity
22:58 - A man is knowing who to be at the right time
26:09 - Do men value sex the way women value money
30:11 - Don’t open my love before it’s time(Sexual Appetite)
32:15 - Men were made with an appetite for sex
36:55 - Prizepool
38:13 - If sex is withheld what are you going to do?
40:15 - Is sex in our top 3?
41:40 - is Physical attraction important?
42:49 - Is it wrong to want what you want in a relationship?
44:45 - Love doesn’t sustain a marriage but sustains a Legacy
46:26 - Do all men cheat?
49:18 - Do good men cheat?
51:41 - Why would you want to be the majority of people when it comes to relationships?
54:41 - Monogamy is a concept that was fought for
57:43 - I’m not faithful to my wife I’m faithful to God
59:03 - should men go 50/50 with women? Do men want a boss woman?
1:03:01 - I don’t want a boss in my home
1:07:12 - I don’t mind a boss in the home
1:08:44 - Are we doing 50/50 as men?
1:12:44 - the vision in a household cannot be split 50/50
1:15:01 - can a woman have a vision?
1:19:22 - Final statements
1:19:41- Takeaways from women in the crowd
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#manhood #toxicmasculinity #5050relationships
The 50/50 conversation was missing an element of age. The men who talked about their women holding them down and paying the majority of the bills happened when they were very young. It makes sense when you're young but when you get older, no woman wants to take care of a 40-year-old man.
Exactly! That was left out of the conversation. As a youth you can risk it but in your 30s and 40s, who has time to wait around for you to figure things out.
Exactly my thoughts ma’am!
🔔🔔🔔!!! Nothing more to add!
There shld be no 50/50 in a marriage . It shld be 100/100,
Once married there shld be no mine or hers or his . It shld always be ours regardless of aging . When we first got married I had nothing but he was there to take care of me . Now that am making good money I shld be there to for him .We are married snd we are one . What’s mine is his and his is mine . We both have access to our Money. We both have freedom to do what we want but once the other disagree about something then it will not be done . It’s love and respect .
@@gemmabriggs8139
Maybe I'm wrong but it sounds like they were describing the dating stage and not marriage.
"I am not faithful to my wife ,I am faithful to God,she benefits from the relationship I have with God"
Done!❤
You hit the nail on the head. Bless you and your wife is blessed!
So true
True definition of "submission". A woman submits to a man that FIRST submits himself to God. She must first trust and know that her man is under and faithful to the righteous guidance so that submission is worry-free.
Women can confirm men... all she has to do is hold a mirror and compare his actions to his words. The average man's thoughts of who he is, don't match his behavior. Things like honoring their word, self awareness, good character, and being humble are a thing of the past for many men.
SPEEEEEEAK!!!
Notably, the married men on this panel have a very distinct perspective from the single men.
Both men and women have masculine and feminine energy. Masculine energy is about doing, it's action-oriented, whereas feminine energy is about being, and creative intuition.
Be careful with that. Because that might contribute to the trope that women are human BEINGS and men are human DOERS because it might devalue the humanity of both. And I'm sure you have no desire to do that...
Men, by nature, are fixers, protectors, providers etc. Those are all action words and stem from the nature of a man.
A man operating in his masculine energy is:
* A Leader
* Takes action
* Reasons
* Is Logical
* Adventurous
* Strong
* Loyal
* Firm
* Focused on survival
* Confident
* Focused
* Proud
* Honorable
* Efficient
* Powerful
* Caretaker
A woman operating in her feminine energy is :
•Empathetic
* Nurtures
* Is fluid
* Has a softness about her
* Receptive
* Open
* Devoted
* Creative
* Compassionate
* Community minded
* Heavy on feelings
* Supportive
* Intuitive
* Life focused
* Understanding
When men and women are in balance w/their masculine and feminine polarities, things flow vs being stifled or suffocated when out of balance. It’s my belief that until WE reprogram mindset around the stigma about what it means to be male or female, men and women will have trouble meeting in the middle and where the other is.
@@denisefrank164 That's a list of GREAT attributes, no doubt, YET yet is not mutually exclusive.
@T you don't have to be *nasty* about anything.
Thank you for this 🥰🤷🏾♂️
I wish that this conversation was more in depth about why men have the urge to cheat so much and have multiple women. Can we discuss the toxic music and media that push men participating in degenerate behavior? Yall so willing to admit that most men cheat but won't break down the mentality of a man who can't control his urges. Yall want a pass and you want women to be okay with you spreading yourself all over creation. Then you want submission and a pillow/pillar while you out here acting a fool. Let's really get into it.
THANK YOU!!!! A MAN FINALLY SAID IT. This was horrendous.
I can’t stand beta simp in pastors. Jesus was not sold and fony
Ummmm. 57% men and 54% of women admitted to cheating sometime in their life. 22% married men and 14% married women “admitted” cheating. Practically same rate. Miss me with the “men cheating” narrative. Too many studies and statistics that PROVES cheating is almost identical over genders 🙄🫡
Thankyou for saying this. Do you have friends who think like you? If so you need to redo this conversation and host.
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He said a man is knowing who to be in the room at the right time !!! I SHOUTED!!!!! Yessssssss
Man is who to be in the room ? So the room changes and he changes ?
The right time ? Well What’s the wrong time?
Girl - me too! That was a WORD right there.
God makes man a man! When a male comes into a relationship with Father God through Jesus Christ he comes into the knowledge and understanding of his REAL identity of being man! ❤️
Tell it 👏👏👏👏
Amen!!
I was so happy when the preacher spoke up because that’s who I am interested in. The men who aspire to be the better man the right man for me. Maybe there’s a history but we need to break chains not bind ourselves to them.
I love this... It is refreshing to see men discussing self-development. Honestly, some men do not seem to care about personal development. How to break off from societal conditioning
He said we (ladies) see an idealistic man is one who provides for more than one. Lol. No we don’t. We look at man as a man who provides for his family, period. And that is doing for the community and why the community has gotten so bad is because men aren’t in the homes, not because they aren’t in the community. They aren’t in the homes. Anything he does beyond his family is extra and that’s great but a man in our view is one who does for his family. 9:55
I enjoyed listening to the men, they all brought unique and very valid perspectives on the various issues discussed. I particularly liked how the pastor in the white sweater articulated his points.
I suggest a part 2 with a smaller panel. Some people didn’t get to chime in because others were more vocal. 👌🏾
I'm in love with the message Dr. Bobbi shares! Thank you for being obedient to your calling!❤
This was a quality conversation. I loved the dialog around the first question. Hearing the men define manhood is something I've never heard asked before. Great discussion, fellas.
I absolutely love love love this dialogue. I’ve realized I actually think like a man 😂 but my question is WHY do so many men lack, vision and ambition! My God. My husband was poured into in some many ways and so many angles and still lacked EVERYTHING! Until I realized it was not worth it. Some investments flop clearly but there are so many that lack ambition, drive, and have absolutely no vision.
So many generalizations. I like the doctor's definition of his OWN manhood. He spoke about himself, not every man, or what anyone else thinks. That takes a lot of confidence, which seemed to immediately offend some of them. He defined himself, for himself first and now he is a great help to our community.
I enjoyed listening to my brothers and all of their prospective on the panel. I am a successful black man who has raised 2 very strong, confident and appreciative black boys. I have nice things. When I think of all the great things I heard from this panel, what was most admirable was the brother with red Yankee hat in black. I believe his point about crying with his daughters over the hamster was most profound. That statement spoke to me as a father, a son, a brother, and a black man. My success isn't my money or my nice thing. I would trade it all. I am not willing to trade my connection with my black sons who see their dad as their hero. Thank you who ever you are in the red hat. You hit home for me. I run into so many men who are looking to have that very same relationship with their children. Often times when it's too late. Continue to cry with your daughters. God bless you sir. We as black men can learn a lot from you. I actually want to give a shout to all of the brothers in black. All of you were quiet, but you were profound when you spoke.
Amazing conversation. The perspectives bring life and hope to women who have withered along the way. It also brings much needed clarity. Just as the thoughts conflicted here on stage every perspective women think about has been covered. Appreciated
Very eye opening discussion from a male perspective on relationships... This is the first time I've heard what men really want in a woman.. I like the diversity of men on the panel from married to single and dating. Good discussion...👍
There was a little immaturity in this but I love this❤️❤️
A little! It was about 80%
We are trying to make manhood one dimensional while it is multidimensional , being a man is knowing who to be in the right space
The guy in the white sweater is the best at explaining things
Thank you for sharing this!
Respect to the brother with red shoes.. he’s the realest 🫡
So the message is what makes a man is, a man that manipulates his girlfriend/wife and living off her until he becomes successful and then leaves or cheats ? LOL What a prize
Well, we still don't know what a woman is so...
Why does the woman always have to educate when men have access to the same internet we do?
That’s funny 😂
The last place people need to be educating themselves is from the internet. Not for serious stuff. Just saying.
@@lisacox3750 It's better than doing no research at all and just spouting hearsay and the internet can be a valuable resource if you know what sites usually have accurate information.
Like... The men should be in the doctors office with their wives... The men should know just as much (if not more) as the mom. Especially because he needs to support her in every way. These men are lazy at best, or They don't care at worst. It's so sad.
The pastor …”we make us everybody” I’m with the pastor. His knowledge was key❤ The doctor said what Catholics do to boys was like wow!!
Doc is such a character 😂 loved it ❤️
I really like seeing dr Bobby Prices personality! This is a really good group of men and dialogue.
These topics are very important for both parties ( men and women). Women don’t understand men at all including actions, thought process, how they move, e.t.c. I am glad this panel was diverse and the truth was explained. I will be watching more episodes; very interesting topics that were discussed. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I'm so glad to hear this discussion.
I love to hear men talk with their perspectives and it’s an important conversation ❤
LOVED THIS, LEARNED ALOT & AFFIRMED EVEN MORE!!
Love Pastor Stephen Chandler! Union Church where you at?! ❤️❤️❤️
I enjoy listening to the panel, it is interesting to listen to what each man's opinion is whether they are right or wrong. We should have more of these discussions from men. Women could get an idea how men thinks.
Absolutely love this segment.
I loved truthfulness between this the men on this panel. I agree with some not all of the responses but, enjoyed it non the less.❤
This was pretty good. I loved the variety of male perspectives!
I smiled when I saw this. Blk men having an intelligent conversation. Bring us more .....
I always say Lead with Love and Understanding. 🙏🏾
Wow, I really like that!!!
Thanks Everyone. I’ll be sure Tap In 🫶🏾
I get to pick the vision I submit to! Love this
Great and wonderful points!!
Best show ever. I am loving this. ❤ Thank you sirs so much.
Honest conversation❤
This panel needs Dr. Phil FR FR!
This was a great discussion! 👌🏾👏🏾
Excellent! I enjoyed this, very insightful. Wish the names of the panel were listed somewhere.
Thank You 🙏🏾
You can tell who's married and who isn't. You need to properly vet your panelists next time. This was hard to watch because most of those men were out of their mind. At 20:55 is exactly what's wrong with a lot of bm. Smh
Ohhhh this was soooo good therapy indeed 🌹
Dang after hearing how y’all feel about beauty I’m gonna go on and just be single for the rest of my life because now I see that no matter what I have to offer that because I’m not that physically attractive that he’s always gonna be looking. 😔 But I love, love, loved everything about this panel!
Sistah, know that you are beautiful inside and out. Keep head up high. Know your value.❤❤
Loving this
I want a part two!!
Great discussion! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
love hearing from these men!
This is powerful seeing us talk on a public stage without foolishness. Much obliged gentlemen!
Ohhh this is good ❤❤ and appreciated
Dr. Bobby is the most mature person on this panel!! They need to let him speak
Let’s really talk about 50/50… it isn’t just finances. If both parties go to work, who is raising the children? If both parties are going to work, who’s maintaining the home? Who’s Keeping Dr’s appts? Attending parent/teacher meetings? Both parties working and maintaining a home can be done but something will suffer for it. Be it time with family, “lesser important” chores etc. something will lack.
50/50 isn’t just a financial thing. It’s maintaining your lifestyle. We are both always doing 50/50 even if one is a stay at home parent.
And as RC Blake's has said your father or father figure may have taught you to be a man but your mother taught you to be a GENTLEMAM whoa boy I wish RC was on this panel!
i’m disappointed at some of the responses from you young men. Everybody’s into outer appearance, healthy eating blah se skip It doesn’t matter if you have a healthy body if your spirit and soul is not in alignment with discipline first and foremost a relationship with your higher power, that will keep you because you can’t keep yourself.! This is why I see more and more sisters staying by their self or unfortunately, moving on to different races! I myself wont go there, but if this is the display in the mindset of our man, what’s the point of trying with you? Thank you to the pastors. We’re trying to break it down to you but you can’t hear you think that you’re worth a lot by your physical appearance will fade and nobody’s gonna put up with your BS. When you’re shallow, everybody can see the depth of you! Smh i’m praying for your brothers and I hope that you put a panel women on here season and young ones so that we can really get a handle on the breakdown of communication and healthy relationships in the black community. get it together brothers sisters are tired of you!!! I have some beautiful daughters and you single man you would not be the type of man that I was one of them. I am not a Christian woman so don’t get it twisted but I do know what is right and I do have a relationship with my higher power! I’m tired of everybody looking at black man and thinking you guys are a joke and don’t take yourself seriously but come on now you gotta stop and listen to what you said in this video and step it up!!!! Smh
this was Legendary
I am here for Dr. Price. 😊
I love this topic 👏🏾👏🏾. I wife I got my tickets to see this live!
Pastor Steve is Always on Point.
Excellent balance of spiritual leader and cool bro. 😎
Lies
@@Potencylogic Where's the lie?
Buddy is the letterman sweater made a great point. My only concern is that many people that live paycheck to paycheck want to be Rich but don’t want to invest or do what it take in fear of losing what little they have. So it’s the Same as divorce ..many don’t want to lose what they have. Took some serious sacrifice to get rich and/or stay married . Shame people if you want to but let’s understand why
No scamming bots under this comment . In his name I pray
Love is an action not an emotion ❤️🔥
Preach Pastor
I enjoyed this ❤
Thank you PASTOR
Loved seeing a different side of Dr. Bobby Price. He just comes across as refreshingly masculine.
The gentleman in the brown collard shirt says a lot of amazing things
Good conversation with good points all around.
As great to watch these videos 😊
A men is who to be in what room at the right time (Love it.) that work for me ✔️
For a panel about Masculinity, it was mostly about what they want in a woman.
Right!!! I was like…. This took a turn almost immediately & was no longer about healthy masculinity lmbo
Well yeah... what men desire in a woman is a big part of masculinity. Masculinity is largely designed to attract women.
@@Zayindjejfj That's weird. Masculinity should be able to exist even if there aren't women around. Because what would become of men if women largely became disinterested in them? Mem would lose a big part of their identity without women.
please make another!
When I hear all this amazing discussion I go back to what God lay on what a man is and a women in the Bible that our guide and rule and if this roles will be the right way we will have no confusion
AMAZING?
Buddy with the dreads is a gump. He one of them “woke” “alpha” boys. He need to read more books.
Nah. Maybe stop reading those books! That's why he's so messed up.
@@TBland-ir8kl 😂 right. That manosphere stuff is crazy. It’s simple: find your purpose, find a woman to help you fulfill it, serve others.
yup. I only recognize him out of these guys bcuz i have seen some videos on IG reels and it was toxic. Blocked him after that
I definitely love this
Pastor Stephen 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 always gets it right!!!!
Does he stream his service? I may need to do a virtual visit. What's the name of his church please?
@@zaynayoung2780 Union Church! and they do have online services on their website
This was a great idea.
The hammer part was funny lol but I do agree with him 👏🏽👏🏽 great job dad!
Beauty is subjective , beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder
I love these men panel segment discussions!!! Excellent job Anthony Oneal!!! May God continue to bless and use you and these kings for His glory🦁
The vision conversation was good
I believe that women, the right women, help a man become a greater man. They help each other become greater than what or who they were before they met.
This is in response to the 44:00 min mark(roughly) in regards to Love doesn't sustain a marriage. Love is THE only thing that will sustain a marriage the problem is we really don't know how to love or what it means to love. When people talk about legacy that's a word that satisfies the flesh and the ego. The enemy would absolutely love for us to think that it's about legacy instead of love. GOD IS LOVE and when you establish your marriage on Love(God) your "legacy" building will take care of itself. Don't be deceived by the devil and have him turn your focus away from love to put your focus on "Man made Legacy". Here is a scripture to meditate on: 1 John 4:8 Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. Amen. and Amen.
You got that right! Praise the Lord!
I would listen to the happily married men on the stage & not the single guys. The married men seemed to have the most rational and level headed advice. The single guys were real weird with their comments.
I love this
Awesome
I loved getting a mature perspective from the older men. They saved this panel 😂
Jerry Flowers is needed on this panel.
Interesting convo, sounds like a group of good men.
But a few of them seem to be leading with their flesh.
I like good men but want myself a RIGHTEOUS man.
Agreed
I would have loved to have seen RC Blake's on this panel
Can you add your panels handles in the description for what projects, podcast, or brands they are building?
This was interesting. It was a great conversation. It would have been better without the audience. It felt like going to the movie and having to listen to people yelling at the screen.
No 50/50 financial responsibilities i agree with doc. The women these days who work hard and are boss women who can more than help in the household financially were described in the bible as a Virtuous woman.
A woman can’t make a man a man, he learns that from another real man…but she does make him develop into her husband