I have applied a lot of tips and advice from your videos into my dating life and it works. It works so well that I got married within 6 months of us dating. ❤
Im sorry but dating men at this point is very exhausting…. The fact that they like when you’re mean to them says a lot about who they really are. Men also think all women like bad boys which is weird because they wear a good guy mask in the beginning….
All we need to do is match his effort, smile be pleasant and pay attention keep our boundaries and have a nice personal routine that we don’t break for anyone… that’s our self care routine. If he doesn’t plan date then keep his word then he naturally will have to plan another date around our natural weekly routine. ❤🎉
If you say “my plans are scheduled a week in advance and I’ll let you know” he will know you are playing games and if he’s smart he will move on Because you I said you know what your week look like and could have said “I’m not available again until next week Sunday after 2pm. Let me know by this Wednesday Either he re plan and by Wednesday or he just won’t see me and eventually he’s just not that into me and has many other potential ppl to date which is great and he can move on.
It is twisted. I agree. Nice vs people pleasing don’t always go hand in hand. Nice and kind also differ. So I think it’s better to inhibit kindness in the way you move in the world. Speak kindly and direct when necessary.
When you are too nice it sends the message that you are desperate and afraid of losing him, you're operating from fear and it shows. When you are secure in yourself, you're not afraid of asking for what you want and be unapologetic in who you are. Be a little selfish, have confidence in what you bring to the relationship, don't be overextending for a guy and don't accept everything. Have a clear list of the things you're looking for and have clear boundaries.
I listened AND applied your ENTIRE feminine energy series and I’m married now. He put a ring on it and he still chases this 🐈 every single day. Lissen sis! 💖
I was nice and I’m married. Don’t pay bills or anything! If someone wants you, they will treat you well. If they don’t, then they will treat you poorly. It’s up to you on what you allow. Definitely shouldn’t want someone that you have to be a B to get, that will wear off quickly
Great advice. I just think as a woman it's so so so sad I have to treat a man like a boy to get results....its so tiring it's just easier to stay single and pour the love and understanding into myself. I can not raise a grown man. 😢
i was told by a man that men need to be trained. They have to be taught how to treat you. This means to be direct, firm, and reward when they get it right because it reaffirms their ego. Trust if he is emotionally invested in you it works. Be kind, nuturing and loving not nice. There was a time when nice meant ignorant and some men still want a woman who is "sugar and spice but all things nice"
Exactly, they think you are easy to be won over. But that just speaks volumes about THEIR insecurities and self-rejection. If he thinks he doesn‘t deserve to be treated well, then he ain‘t for me. I‘ll leave him to the mean women. No problem! 😆
I dealt with this guy for years, we we were friend's with benefits. I put up with everything. He came over one day with all his snacks. I asked what did you get me he said nothing. I said ok, the next time you come over ask if I want something. He came over, didnt bring me anything. I wouldnt let him in. Didnt respond to text or calls for awhile. He never did that again. We latered ended up dating and in a relationship. He always took care of me.
Wow.. Thanks for sharing your experience. It's a learning for me... We teach people how to treat you.. I was always single never understood relationship psychology... I was over giving always sacrificing
I like how you clarify at the end of the video that this is NOT intended to manipulate men. It’s speak to your character and the intention behind your videos. Thank you! 💙💙💙
Yall don't have to manipulate ANYTHING!!! it's not about that, it's knowing your WORTH, knowing your value and letting them know you are NOTHING to play with. I was married before and never set boundaries because I was "Afraid" of losing him if I said no to anything. We'll I been divorced for 8 years now. When I filed he told me he was shocked because he thought I would never leave. I was too nice so I started being stepped on NOT NO MORE HUNNY!!
I told him I don’t like to be spoken to in that way and he didn’t apologize and so I left too, but I left left like forever left. Cut him off left. I was too turned off.
Now this is the MJ Harris I know. I used to binge watch your femininity and love videos in 2020 and now I’m back. I love your advices and they help in relationships and work. Xx happy holidays❤. Sending love from Jamaica 🇯🇲
But I wanna say that you are spot on and I’m glad that I came across your channel. My ex changed one of our first dates last minute and I should have reacted the way that you suggested. I don’t think that he would have adapted and changed his behavior but I would have spared myself a lot of trouble. In the past I thought that this is about manipulating someone into liking/chasing me when in truth it’s about me elevating my standards and boundaries. This will weed out the losers straight away before i can catch deep feelings and will make it clear who is in their divine masculine role.
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
Love this video - it's so spot-on!!! Holding your partner accountable, and having boundaries, is extremely important... and as you said, so is affirming him and reinforcing him (with love/affection + words of affirmation) when he does a great job with this. I'm baffled at people who have commented that it's having to "treat your man like a child" or "raise him." Quite the contrary - this is treating him like a mature adult. I expect the same, in my other non-romantic relationships.
You should be with someone who allows you to be your whole self. Good and bad without judging you Or taking advantage of you. This is how I was taught and I'm 32yrs married. We've had issues before I mean you've been married 32 years of course their issues but we always communicate our feelings and issues even if it's embarrassing or mean. Then we heal together. Ultimately laughing at how stupid we were to argue about the issue anyway. Don't train a man just find the right one who you can build TOGETHER a relationship.
I was too nice, he trampled me and broke my heart then expected forgiveness becasue he knew how much i adored him, i didnt want to hide it, i feel like the workd knew how much i loved him, then he betryayed me 😮 dumped his ass quick, our baby was just 2 months old 😢 he absolutely tore me to shreds emotionally and for what ? Because i was "too nice" nonetheless ive learnt my lesson, never give too much / more than you are willing to lose x
You are 100% correct and really this applies to any relationship. I am an auntie (40+). Much of what we think is nice behavior is doormat behavior. Society encourages, your family encourages it. People want you to give them their way in general. When you can be honest with yourself about what you are willing to do and deal with you benefit. A lot of the time we think we are nice when we are "supportive" or "helpful". Men dont need our help and support is just believing in them. They dont NEED what we as women/feminine beings, do. I can promise that any woman getting mistreated has zero boundaries and prides herself on being nice. Because we are taught that boundaries are mean. Its a childish way of thinking, like getting mad at your parents when you were little, but most adults never grow out of that.
This works for men intune with their masculine energy. Not the ones battling demons and spirit of confusion. They will not respond in this way. It will trigger feminine or mental health struggling men.
Thanks for this video, I met a man I really, really like, and I can see how I am being to available and over accommodating in hopes he would like me more. I see now I need to set some boundaries, and if he doesn't want me, be okay with it and move on. Never do I want to lose myself in anybody.
You always come at the right time! I have fell off and haven’t seen your videos in soo long !! I have been going through something so bad and not eating in 3 days and your video came as a suggestion ! Soo grateful I’m back on track now and need this. What sucks is the dude wasn’t the greatest catch yet I got played
Oh wow, this is the first time I recall seeing your hair in a style like this. I don’t know if it’s the color or the cuts however, the end of the day you are glowing and looking so useful.
So real. Mind you if it feels manipulative it just means your out of alignment with your feminine energy. I used to argue, now I give space because like what fucked up part of me would even be ok with this treatment. So lowkey we are both on time out cause I take the time to process that for myself too 😂
Learned this the hard way and lost the love of my life because I overgave and he got bored of me. Looking back his biggest compliment was I was “such a nice person.” And that’s not what I wanted. He dumped me blindsidingly after 3 years. We’ve been no contact since July and I just want him to come back but I don’t think he will. My silence doesn’t seem to mean anything to him. I’m mad. I’m so mad I was so nice. It made him bored of me or something. He doesn’t even seem to miss me.
@Iloveorliandwicked i wouldn't be so mad at yourself. He just wasn't into you. Had nothing to do with how nice or not nice you were had everything to do with him just wanting different. There is nothing wrong with that. it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you or that you did anything wrong. It simply means you two were not on the same page. Never change yourself for a man or for anyone. You'll know you have found the one when you can be exactly who you are and it's appreciated fully good bad and ugly.. But...until you find that unconditional love from someone else you first have to find it in yourself. And from you being mad for being yourself well it means you haven't started the journey of self-love to attain love from others so get to work. Love yourself like you love others. Appreciate who you are first..remember you are a mirror that reflects how you feel about yourself to others and that shows through the strongest no matter how nice you are.
@ @appreciate the kind words but I was able to be exactly who I was and he was very into me. He loved me. We got through some pretty tough and amazing things together, good bad and ugly of each other. We were together years. He’s got dismissive avoidant attachment style and there were a lot of outside factors that seemed to influence his abrupt decision.
Please move on. He is not coming back to you as you were. He’s only coming back when you get a new man and new look and new life. But by then, hopefully, you don’t want him anymore. But regardless he needs something to be missing out on
Being nice is who you are, however, you still have to set boundaries and don’t let anyone “F “ with you! 💯💪( you’ve mentioned something very important; set boundaries very early)
Thanks for the advice, but I don’t want to be with a narcissist that won’t appreciate me unless I manipulate him. Spiritually and mentally evolved men just want someone respectful they can trust.
I like the points you make, the examples you give and the thorough explanation of the nuances involved. It feels clear and precise. The warm and loving corrections- I really felt that point was the most helpful when you acted it out! Which was so informative compared to other content creators on this topic. If you are interested in expanding on this, describing more situations of holding men accountable and how to handle them would be juicy info to receive from you. Of course, this video is great and complete as it is!
I have been married for 18 years and I promise this is true ❤❤❤ learn to be balanced. I’m sweet and kind but I also don’t play 🥰🥰🥰 and he knows that 😊😊😂
I think you’re right about the value of a “nice” woman. But being a nice woman doesn’t mean being a doormat. And, that’s what this videos about: encouraging women to have boundaries and not be a doormat. It’s not encouraging them to be mean.
I’m kind - but not nice lol. This is great advice. You have your learn when to ebb and when to flow 🎯 teach people how to treat you but matching masculine energy repeatedly is not the answer ❤️
You have to be compatible, period! You play to hard to get can somtimes be a waste of time. You have to know when and how you apply certain natural tactics when your forming a relationship with someone. Being yourself and being natural. If it don't work it's not the one. Keep going....
There are boundaries and there are games! Anything other than authenticity can’t be sustained! Men who need you to be difficult or need obstacles are not regulated or imbalanced! No here for the “damsel in distress “ narrative. I’m not masculine but I’m not weak minded and won’t pretend to be.
Pfff...you are so much Better than all the other relationship advisor UA-camrs I have seen or heard...solo detailed and on point...(Just discovered you) Thank you ❤ 🇲🇽💜💫
I’ve been following you for quite some time and I’m Loving these new content! Hunny upgradeddddd the video quality. Thank you for this video. Needed to hear this video todau
That’s one perspective, but another perspective is that masculine and feminine energy operate very differently. Therefore, you get far better results out of masculine energy if you operate in a way that inspires them to give you what you want.
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I have applied a lot of tips and advice from your videos into my dating life and it works. It works so well that I got married within 6 months of us dating. ❤
That's amazing! I'm so happy for you! ❤❤❤❤
Love that for you!! ❤
This is very informative and congratulations to u !I will follow and see what happens ❤
Congratulations! ❤️ 🎊 👏🏾
Congratulations
"The more you want him, the more challenging you need to be!"
Im sorry but dating men at this point is very exhausting…. The fact that they like when you’re mean to them says a lot about who they really are. Men also think all women like bad boys which is weird because they wear a good guy mask in the beginning….
Yup but then they go after mean or uncaring, or promiscuous women then play the victim. THEY don't like nice girls.
He’s not describing your man or mine… I do this psycho babble mind play.
Either he comes healed and whole or leave me alone.
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All we need to do is match his effort, smile be pleasant and pay attention
keep our boundaries and have a nice personal routine that we don’t break for anyone… that’s our self care routine.
If he doesn’t plan date then keep his word then he naturally will have to plan another date around our natural weekly routine.
❤🎉
If you say “my plans are scheduled a week in advance and I’ll let you know” he will know you are playing games and if he’s smart he will move on
Because you I said you know what your week look like and could have said “I’m not available again until next week Sunday after 2pm. Let me know by this Wednesday
Either he re plan and by Wednesday or he just won’t see me and eventually he’s just not that into me and has many other potential ppl to date which is great and he can move on.
It is twisted. I agree. Nice vs people pleasing don’t always go hand in hand. Nice and kind also differ. So I think it’s better to inhibit kindness in the way you move in the world. Speak kindly and direct when necessary.
When you are too nice it sends the message that you are desperate and afraid of losing him, you're operating from fear and it shows. When you are secure in yourself, you're not afraid of asking for what you want and be unapologetic in who you are. Be a little selfish, have confidence in what you bring to the relationship, don't be overextending for a guy and don't accept everything. Have a clear list of the things you're looking for and have clear boundaries.
I listened AND applied your ENTIRE feminine energy series and I’m married now. He put a ring on it and he still chases this 🐈 every single day. Lissen sis! 💖
I'm so happy for you! It's truly amazing to see how these principles work in real life. 💖
You go girl. 🎉congratulations
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"Still chases this kitty" 🙊😏😁 as he should.... Love this 4 u, babe!!!
Congratulations🎉❤
I was nice and I’m married. Don’t pay bills or anything! If someone wants you, they will treat you well. If they don’t, then they will treat you poorly. It’s up to you on what you allow. Definitely shouldn’t want someone that you have to be a B to get, that will wear off quickly
❤❤❤ Ty for this!
Thank you
Thank you
I agree
I ABSOLUTELY AGREEEE
Great advice.
I just think as a woman it's so so so sad I have to treat a man like a boy to get results....its so tiring it's just easier to stay single and pour the love and understanding into myself.
I can not raise a grown man. 😢
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100%
Right! I’m a teacher and this is exactly how I deal with misbehavior. I’m repulsed.
All these games. Some men are so exhausting. I would rather be alone and happy.
Me too. Enjoying my peace and career.
My grandma and them use to say "you can't be nice to a man", basically the nicer you are the worst he will treat you.
Grandma knows best!
i was told by a man that men need to be trained. They have to be taught how to treat you. This means to be direct, firm, and reward when they get it right because it reaffirms their ego. Trust if he is emotionally invested in you it works. Be kind, nuturing and loving not nice. There was a time when nice meant ignorant and some men still want a woman who is "sugar and spice but all things nice"
Like my grandma used to say to me about how her 50+ year marriage lasted so long with my grandpa: the worst you treat him the more he like it.
Exactly 💯
Yesss mam. Spot on so crazy grandma always right 😅🤣
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This should work for everybody. Even at workplace and at home. Don't let anyone walk all over you.
I was just telling a friend this today. I also used to be too nice and I got the life drained out of me.
And if you are too nice they think you are like that with any and every man. So being cordial is proper it is a big difference
It's asinine, really 😵💫
Exactly, they think you are easy to be won over. But that just speaks volumes about THEIR insecurities and self-rejection.
If he thinks he doesn‘t deserve to be treated well, then he ain‘t for me. I‘ll leave him to the mean women. No problem! 😆
Happily married woman here! This is very true and great advice.
Everything in moderation ladies. ❤
It's all about balance! 💕
I dealt with this guy for years, we we were friend's with benefits. I put up with everything.
He came over one day with all his snacks. I asked what did you get me he said nothing. I said ok, the next time you come over ask if I want something.
He came over, didnt bring me anything.
I wouldnt let him in. Didnt respond to text or calls for awhile. He never did that again. We latered ended up dating and in a relationship. He always took care of me.
It’s awesome that you found your power and set that boundary!
Wow.. Thanks for sharing your experience. It's a learning for me... We teach people how to treat you.. I was always single never understood relationship psychology... I was over giving always sacrificing
This is true. The meaner you are the more they follow you. Idk why! I have a guy who wants me even if I say leave me alone and low key I like him.
I like how you clarify at the end of the video that this is NOT intended to manipulate men. It’s speak to your character and the intention behind your videos. Thank you! 💙💙💙
It’s so important to make that clear, and I appreciate you recognizing it! 💙
I love when men give me advice on men!!! New subscriber ❤
Haha, you're going to love what I have to share! 😉
Yall don't have to manipulate ANYTHING!!! it's not about that, it's knowing your WORTH, knowing your value and letting them know you are NOTHING to play with. I was married before and never set boundaries because I was "Afraid" of losing him if I said no to anything. We'll I been divorced for 8 years now. When I filed he told me he was shocked because he thought I would never leave. I was too nice so I started being stepped on NOT NO MORE HUNNY!!
Good for you 🥳🥳🥳
I told him I don’t like to be spoken to in that way and he didn’t apologize and so I left too, but I left left like forever left. Cut him off left. I was too turned off.
Sis it only works with men that are genuinely into you. And that you genuinely like. He will respect it.
Good for you. You have to show a person how to treat you. The heck with an apology... always look at his actions.
Now this is the MJ Harris I know. I used to binge watch your femininity and love videos in 2020 and now I’m back. I love your advices and they help in relationships and work. Xx happy holidays❤. Sending love from Jamaica 🇯🇲
Thanks for the support! Glad you're back and still finding my advice helpful. ❤
But I wanna say that you are spot on and I’m glad that I came across your channel. My ex changed one of our first dates last minute and I should have reacted the way that you suggested. I don’t think that he would have adapted and changed his behavior but I would have spared myself a lot of trouble.
In the past I thought that this is about manipulating someone into liking/chasing me when in truth it’s about me elevating my standards and boundaries. This will weed out the losers straight away before i can catch deep feelings and will make it clear who is in their divine masculine role.
I love your energy, I used to watch your videos i think a couple years ago and bumped into you yesterday and I'm hooked again 😊
Being a Bish is exhausting, yet refreshingly liberating at the same time - especially as a recovering people pleaser.. but boy does it yield results!
That’s right! Stay unbothered ❤
So glad you’re back to making these types of videos ❤❤
I'm so glad you're enjoying the content!
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
I'm so sorry to hear about your breakup. It's never easy to let go, especially when you've invested so much time and love into a relationship.
@@MJHarrisSpeaksit's a bot. I've seen this on another video. Exact same message.
Am so tired of the games people play!!! Wish people would grow the F up!!
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Love this video - it's so spot-on!!! Holding your partner accountable, and having boundaries, is extremely important... and as you said, so is affirming him and reinforcing him (with love/affection + words of affirmation) when he does a great job with this. I'm baffled at people who have commented that it's having to "treat your man like a child" or "raise him." Quite the contrary - this is treating him like a mature adult. I expect the same, in my other non-romantic relationships.
It's about mutual respect and understanding, and it's great that you recognize that!
You should be with someone who allows you to be your whole self. Good and bad without judging you Or taking advantage of you. This is how I was taught and I'm 32yrs married. We've had issues before I mean you've been married 32 years of course their issues but we always communicate our feelings and issues even if it's embarrassing or mean. Then we heal together. Ultimately laughing at how stupid we were to argue about the issue anyway. Don't train a man just find the right one who you can build TOGETHER a relationship.
I was too nice, he trampled me and broke my heart then expected forgiveness becasue he knew how much i adored him, i didnt want to hide it, i feel like the workd knew how much i loved him, then he betryayed me 😮 dumped his ass quick, our baby was just 2 months old 😢 he absolutely tore me to shreds emotionally and for what ? Because i was "too nice" nonetheless ive learnt my lesson, never give too much / more than you are willing to lose x
MJ Harris been giving good advice for yearsssssss
You are 100% correct and really this applies to any relationship. I am an auntie (40+). Much of what we think is nice behavior is doormat behavior. Society encourages, your family encourages it. People want you to give them their way in general. When you can be honest with yourself about what you are willing to do and deal with you benefit. A lot of the time we think we are nice when we are "supportive" or "helpful". Men dont need our help and support is just believing in them. They dont NEED what we as women/feminine beings, do. I can promise that any woman getting mistreated has zero boundaries and prides herself on being nice. Because we are taught that boundaries are mean. Its a childish way of thinking, like getting mad at your parents when you were little, but most adults never grow out of that.
Very interesting points you made
Amen it's ALL misguided indoctrination. I Rebuke it.
This works for men intune with their masculine energy. Not the ones battling demons and spirit of confusion. They will not respond in this way. It will trigger feminine or mental health struggling men.
Correct, this is only to be used with masculine energy men…!
MJ please more videos like this on relationships!!! Ur the Best!!!💖🔥
This was Gold . MJ we need a workshop!😊
I agree, I'm a nice girl, sweet, kind, and they leave you. They instead want those girls who don't give a dang, they cheat and are rude 😂😂😂
If I have to do all this thinking for both OF US... I'll just chill...because it's too much just to get appreciation and consideration from a partner.
this doesn’t only apply to men, this is a skill you can use towards friends, family, and others. it’s about your power!
Thanks for sending me this link I really needed this information
I'm glad you found it helpful! ❤
They want what they can’t have ❤
Boundaries are so important ❤
I love your videos. You are succinct but accurate,gentle! Manly and feminine at the same time!
Thank you! ❤😉
Thanks for this video, I met a man I really, really like, and I can see how I am being to available and over accommodating in hopes he would like me more. I see now I need to set some boundaries, and if he doesn't want me, be okay with it and move on. Never do I want to lose myself in anybody.
I'm so glad this video resonated with you! Remember, your worth isn't defined by anyone else's approval.
You always come at the right time! I have fell off and haven’t seen your videos in soo long !! I have been going through something so bad and not eating in 3 days and your video came as a suggestion ! Soo grateful I’m back on track now and need this. What sucks is the dude wasn’t the greatest catch yet I got played
I'm so glad this video came at the right time for you! You're a powerful woman, and you deserve someone who sees that.
@ so grateful you replied to my comment! Needed this so bad! Thank you so very much
Honey you have skills !! I love your style and classy ways, for sure I can learn a lot !! 🥰
Thank you! I'm glad you enjoy the style of my videos. 😊
Oh wow, this is the first time I recall seeing your hair in a style like this. I don’t know if it’s the color or the cuts however, the end of the day you are glowing and looking so useful.
Thank you! I'm really loving this new look!
I have just discovered two videos of yours around dark feminine energy , such a fan, perfectly explained and on point !! Thank you!
Welcome to the Dark Feminine Energy fam! 💖
Thank you! I needed this! 💖
Very interesting and informative! Inspiring too! Very cool!
I'm so glad you found it inspiring!
Men like women who don't like them
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So real. Mind you if it feels manipulative it just means your out of alignment with your feminine energy. I used to argue, now I give space because like what fucked up part of me would even be ok with this treatment. So lowkey we are both on time out cause I take the time to process that for myself too 😂
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I needed to listen to this
Learned this the hard way and lost the love of my life because I overgave and he got bored of me. Looking back his biggest compliment was I was “such a nice person.” And that’s not what I wanted.
He dumped me blindsidingly after 3 years.
We’ve been no contact since July and I just want him to come back but I don’t think he will. My silence doesn’t seem to mean anything to him.
I’m mad. I’m so mad I was so nice. It made him bored of me or something. He doesn’t even seem to miss me.
@Iloveorliandwicked i wouldn't be so mad at yourself. He just wasn't into you. Had nothing to do with how nice or not nice you were had everything to do with him just wanting different. There is nothing wrong with that. it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you or that you did anything wrong. It simply means you two were not on the same page.
Never change yourself for a man or for anyone. You'll know you have found the one when you can be exactly who you are and it's appreciated fully good bad and ugly.. But...until you find that unconditional love from someone else you first have to find it in yourself. And from you being mad for being yourself well it means you haven't started the journey of self-love to attain love from others so get to work. Love yourself like you love others. Appreciate who you are first..remember you are a mirror that reflects how you feel about yourself to others and that shows through the strongest no matter how nice you are.
@ @appreciate the kind words but I was able to be exactly who I was and he was very into me. He loved me. We got through some pretty tough and amazing things together, good bad and ugly of each other. We were together years. He’s got dismissive avoidant attachment style and there were a lot of outside factors that seemed to influence his abrupt decision.
@Iloveorliandwicked well hey I'm glad you see his decision was more of a him thing and not a you thing.
Please move on. He is not coming back to you as you were. He’s only coming back when you get a new man and new look and new life.
But by then, hopefully, you don’t want him anymore. But regardless he needs something to be missing out on
I loved this video- the speed, the tone, and of course the reminders of the inescapable facts about relating with a man.
I'm glad you found it helpful! It's powerful to be aware of these dynamics!
Being nice is who you are, however, you still have to set boundaries and don’t let anyone “F “ with you! 💯💪( you’ve mentioned something very important; set boundaries very early)
Thank you MJ, but I’m already exhausted just thinking about doing all this 😓
It takes work, but it's worth it! You're worth the effort. 💕
Brilliant video and I loooove your energy ! Thank you for your wisdom
You’re welcome! ❤️
Thanks for the advice, but I don’t want to be with a narcissist that won’t appreciate me unless I manipulate him. Spiritually and mentally evolved men just want someone respectful they can trust.
I like the points you make, the examples you give and the thorough explanation of the nuances involved. It feels clear and precise. The warm and loving corrections- I really felt that point was the most helpful when you acted it out! Which was so informative compared to other content creators on this topic. If you are interested in expanding on this, describing more situations of holding men accountable and how to handle them would be juicy info to receive from you. Of course, this video is great and complete as it is!
Thank you so much! I'm glad the video resonated with you and that you found the examples helpful.
Happy Holidays!! This is good!! Thanks for sharing 🥰
Wishing you happy holidays too! 😊
There’s definitely a balance. He ain’t lying though❤️
This video is a gem! 💎 Thanks to you I understand that I got the being difficult part right, but I’m lacking in the rewards department
I LOOOOOOOVE your videos, your advices, your examples. So good, so true!!❤
Thanks, I'm glad you're finding them helpful! 💕
I have been married for 18 years and I promise this is true ❤❤❤ learn to be balanced. I’m sweet and kind but I also don’t play 🥰🥰🥰 and he knows that 😊😊😂
This! ❤❤❤
Now I'm not nice and don't want them.
Nice woman allows growth. Mean and controlling woman limit you and blocks gains. A nice woman is a blessing.
I think you’re right about the value of a “nice” woman. But being a nice woman doesn’t mean being a doormat. And, that’s what this videos about: encouraging women to have boundaries and not be a doormat. It’s not encouraging them to be mean.
Nah. Nice women get played.
Y'all don't know what to do with a sweet woman 😂
Amen
No they dont@@ThePinkPantha21
I’m loving your channel!!!! Can you make a video on how to get men properly… what questions to ask in the beginning stages etc. thank you
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i learned these lessons the hard way! MJ this is sooo true preach
Thank you I am now understanding the masculine energy bcz of your tips 😮
I’m kind - but not nice lol. This is great advice. You have your learn when to ebb and when to flow 🎯 teach people how to treat you but matching masculine energy repeatedly is not the answer ❤️
You are so right! It's about knowing your worth and setting boundaries. 💕
Thank you for this!
I learned the hard way.
I could not click on this video fast enough! I’ve always been too nice and you are absolutely right.
It's a powerful shift when you start to see how your energy impacts men and learn to adjust it.
You have to be compatible, period! You play to hard to get can somtimes be a waste of time. You have to know when and how you apply certain natural tactics when your forming a relationship with someone. Being yourself and being natural. If it don't work it's not the one. Keep going....
Absolutely! You have to be true to yourself. 😊
Thank you MJ for all your relationship advice.
The last time I saw one of your videos you had a bald head. Love the new look . Great advice as usual ❤
New season and new look! 😂Thanks so much! I'm glad you're enjoying the new look and the advice! ❤❤❤
The look at 11:55! 😂👏🏼
Right! 😂
Lmao 🤣 he so funny
There are boundaries and there are games! Anything other than authenticity can’t be sustained! Men who need you to be difficult or need obstacles are not regulated or imbalanced! No here for the “damsel in distress “ narrative. I’m not masculine but I’m not weak minded and won’t pretend to be.
You are absolutely right! This video is about empowered feminine energy, not playing games or being inauthentic.
MJ is back with gold 💎💎🔥🔥
I’m taking notes 📝 😊 this is very helpful thank you!
I'm glad you found it helpful! 😉
This advice is EVERYTHING! Thank you darling 😘 🎉
Pfff...you are so much Better than all the other relationship advisor UA-camrs I have seen or heard...solo detailed and on point...(Just discovered you) Thank you ❤ 🇲🇽💜💫
Thank you so much for your kind words! 💕
I love your videos because they are well rounded and straightforward to comprehend
You’re the best friend I have always been looking for 😂 I just discovered this channel and I have been hooked for the past hour 😂 THANK YOU! ❤
Welcome to the channel! 💖
Yaasss!! Needed it so much! Thanksss
💯🎯 I just learned in my last relationship that I’m doing it all wrong.
Thank God i found you ❤
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Love thissss ❤ Excellent advice from a Big Sis kinda advice, Love from Malaysia ❤
I'm so glad the video resonated with you! Sending love back 💖
I absolutely love this video and needed this!
This is so true! They like a challenge…
U r such a precious being. Thank you for this video
When u think about it nobody likes somebody else hats too nice. Women don’t want the nice guy, they want the confident, masculine, attractive man
I’ve been following you for quite some time and I’m Loving these new content! Hunny upgradeddddd the video quality.
Thank you for this video. Needed to hear this video todau
Thanks for watching! I'm glad it resonated with you. 💕
This was amazing 🎉🎉...
ive been told im a handful so i think im on the right path
Mj your looking great love your hair have a great HOLIDAY your the best. Always on point truth spoken.😊❤🌲🌲❤️
Thanks so much! I appreciate your kind words and I'm wishing you a wonderful holiday season as well!
Awesome teachings 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥‼️
Thank you! 💖
Too many games. Too many logistics.
That’s one perspective, but another perspective is that masculine and feminine energy operate very differently. Therefore, you get far better results out of masculine energy if you operate in a way that inspires them to give you what you want.
You need to have boundaries.
Thank you for this, MJ!! 🩷🩷🩷
I'm glad you found it helpful! 🩷
You are so important. Thank you!
You are so welcome!