lost $1000 to a scammer, I feel so dumb, I will always be suspicious of people now. If things seem too good to be true then it is, it really hurts because I’ve always thought of myself as a relatively skeptical person. I hope people realize that being scammed is not a game over even though it will feel like life is over, it’s simply a setback and we must recover.
I am so sorry this happened to you! I hope you were able to watch more of the videos here and that they have been helpful. It’s hard to really convey how disgusting scammers are and how many tactics they use and how adaptive they are. Ick. I hope you are finding ways to recover and feel better. All my best to you! Cathy
Another warning, everyone. Please be cautious about anyone commenting here and claiming to be able to recover money for you. No one can do that except law enforcement, the courts, etc. Money recovery is a second attempt at scamming people who were already scammed once. There are a huge number of links that will pop up on Google for you and other pages too, and I've had a number of people add comments here and on the other videos. Please watch out for these disgusting criminals!! All my best to you all! Cathy
I have been scammed like 120$. The problem is I brought several people I love in the scam. I feel so bad right now. I blame myself for the red flags were all over.
I hope the videos are helping. What you said is adds another layer to the whole thing, with feeling bad that it affected others you care about. Take care, Cathy
This really helped. Recently, I was scammed out of $150 worth of video game collectibles. It seems silly, but those actually meant something to me, since I had obtained them far before their increase in value. One specifically hurt a lot, since I had bought it back in 2018. I’m still hoping I’m able to reobtain that specific item, hopes and dreams!
I hope you recover that item, too! The emotional distress that is added on top of the financial loss is so awful. It’s one of the parts of a scam that people don’t often realize is happening. All my best to you!
I hate myself for being a fool. Only lose about 60$ but it’s my intern money that i worked hard for ( I’m in vietnam ). Thanks for talking to me, although i still find it hard to get over
I am so sad to hear that this happened to you. Please, please challenge that thought that you are a "fool." Scammers are criminals who use manipulation as their weapon to steal from people. I hope you have been able to watch more of the videos, including one I recently added here about the reasons you are seeing yourself this way. It is the one about why people see themselves as stupid and can help you challenge the thought in yourself. All my best to you, Cathy
this is the feeling i felt most strongly after getting scammed! in fact, i got scared even when rethinking it when i was on my way to the police station when i knew this person was not going to return my money, so much so that i decided to not enter the station to calm myself down. Now, too much time has passed and i finally reported the case, but the advices being given to me all seem to be too late to handle(calling the bank and going to small courts) as too much time has passed Could you please elaborate on how i can turn this fear and anxiety into skepticism? I would really like to move on from this.
Hello, I absolutely can elaborate on that. As uncomfortable as fear is, it is a helpful emotion and it helps to keep us safe. When we feel fear, it is warning us that something could be wrong. But. An unfortunate thing that happens after a situation like being scammed is that the fear (and anxiety) gets huge because it is such a horrible experience. Please try to remind yourself that what you are feeling is your brain and body trying to help you stay safe. While you are reminding yourself, take some deep breaths - it is calming AND it gets more oxygen to your brain! This will help you re-assess the situation at that moment and decide more rationally what you need to do in that moment. I hope this is helpful, and please, ask more questions if you need to!
@@createlifepaths thank you! it is helpful! i thought about it again today and i managed to calm down sooner. i’ve also talked about this to a family member and they were also comforting me to take this as an experience to learn from past mistakes, i definitely don’t feel as ashamed about it anymore! i do have a new question! when you mentioned deciding rationally about what to do in that moment, do you mean we try to continue what we were planning to do / our daily routine to help reduce anxiety in that moment? additionally, i feel like a portion of that fear could be caused by my regret in not taking cautionary steps or acting on the actions i wanted to immediately. is this usually a cause of the fear or could i be analysing this wrongly?
lost $1000 to a scammer, I feel so dumb, I will always be suspicious of people now. If things seem too good to be true then it is, it really hurts because I’ve always thought of myself as a relatively skeptical person. I hope people realize that being scammed is not a game over even though it will feel like life is over, it’s simply a setback and we must recover.
I am so sorry this happened to you! I hope you were able to watch more of the videos here and that they have been helpful. It’s hard to really convey how disgusting scammers are and how many tactics they use and how adaptive they are. Ick. I hope you are finding ways to recover and feel better. All my best to you! Cathy
Another warning, everyone. Please be cautious about anyone commenting here and claiming to be able to recover money for you. No one can do that except law enforcement, the courts, etc. Money recovery is a second attempt at scamming people who were already scammed once. There are a huge number of links that will pop up on Google for you and other pages too, and I've had a number of people add comments here and on the other videos. Please watch out for these disgusting criminals!! All my best to you all! Cathy
You are amazing! Your videos have helped me a lot! ❤
Thank you so much for those kind word and I'm so glad the videos have been helpful! All my best to you as you work through the healing, Cathy
I have been scammed like 120$. The problem is I brought several people I love in the scam. I feel so bad right now. I blame myself for the red flags were all over.
I hope the videos are helping. What you said is adds another layer to the whole thing, with feeling bad that it affected others you care about. Take care, Cathy
This really helped. Recently, I was scammed out of $150 worth of video game collectibles. It seems silly, but those actually meant something to me, since I had obtained them far before their increase in value. One specifically hurt a lot, since I had bought it back in 2018. I’m still hoping I’m able to reobtain that specific item, hopes and dreams!
I hope you recover that item, too! The emotional distress that is added on top of the financial loss is so awful. It’s one of the parts of a scam that people don’t often realize is happening. All my best to you!
I hate myself for being a fool. Only lose about 60$ but it’s my intern money that i worked hard for ( I’m in vietnam ). Thanks for talking to me, although i still find it hard to get over
I am so sad to hear that this happened to you. Please, please challenge that thought that you are a "fool." Scammers are criminals who use manipulation as their weapon to steal from people. I hope you have been able to watch more of the videos, including one I recently added here about the reasons you are seeing yourself this way. It is the one about why people see themselves as stupid and can help you challenge the thought in yourself. All my best to you, Cathy
this is the feeling i felt most strongly after getting scammed! in fact, i got scared even when rethinking it when i was on my way to the police station when i knew this person was not going to return my money, so much so that i decided to not enter the station to calm myself down.
Now, too much time has passed and i finally reported the case, but the advices being given to me all seem to be too late to handle(calling the bank and going to small courts) as too much time has passed
Could you please elaborate on how i can turn this fear and anxiety into skepticism? I would really like to move on from this.
Hello, I absolutely can elaborate on that. As uncomfortable as fear is, it is a helpful emotion and it helps to keep us safe. When we feel fear, it is warning us that something could be wrong. But. An unfortunate thing that happens after a situation like being scammed is that the fear (and anxiety) gets huge because it is such a horrible experience. Please try to remind yourself that what you are feeling is your brain and body trying to help you stay safe. While you are reminding yourself, take some deep breaths - it is calming AND it gets more oxygen to your brain! This will help you re-assess the situation at that moment and decide more rationally what you need to do in that moment. I hope this is helpful, and please, ask more questions if you need to!
@@createlifepaths thank you! it is helpful! i thought about it again today and i managed to calm down sooner. i’ve also talked about this to a family member and they were also comforting me to take this as an experience to learn from past mistakes, i definitely don’t feel as ashamed about it anymore!
i do have a new question! when you mentioned deciding rationally about what to do in that moment, do you mean we try to continue what we were planning to do / our daily routine to help reduce anxiety in that moment?
additionally, i feel like a portion of that fear could be caused by my regret in not taking cautionary steps or acting on the actions i wanted to immediately. is this usually a cause of the fear or could i be analysing this wrongly?
additionally i want to thank you for your videos! they’re really helping me out mentally!
kar tan, this is so good to hear from you. I'm really glad that you have a supportive person that has helped, and that the videos helped too!
I got played
I'm sorry to hear it - and I hope these videos have helped!
hi i was wondering if we can chat about a recent scam i faced and what i should do about it
Yes we can, please email me at cathy@scamsurvivorhealing.com