As others have said, it seems like the girl cheated on him. So even though his reaction was hurtful, he is probably hurting a lot himself and it would be unfair for her to go to him for emotional support.
How is he the worst? She said so herself that she wasn't gonna be with him anyways. She make her choice to begin with and the relationship is dead. So it doesn't matter in the end.
the girl that had miscarriage said that "its hard to move on where's there are constant reminder of what could have been" yeah that hit me hard honestly.
Its a manipulative tactic that cheaters tend to do. They feel guilty for their actions and so they project that guilt onto you by gaslighting in order to make it seem as though you are in the wrong.
@@therealm1keyy797 yes but you can't just say that everyone that says that it's being manipulative. I had to say something similar to my ex because she thought I was going to cheat on her during a vacation and then when I came back she kept being suspicious about that. It did really hurt me that she thought I cheated
It's hard until you realize that "what could have been" doesn't exist. It's just an imaginary scenario that your mind made up. It's got nothing to do with reality. You've been holding on to a fantasy, and the person you were with were never who you imagined them to be. There are of course exceptions to this, like if your partner dies or if some other circumstance forces them away from you against their will. For relationships that end with breakups though, the truth is almost always that "what could have been" could never have been, or it would have been. Once you realize that your idea of "what could have been" isn't real, then it becomes much easier to let go and move on.
Yeah I was thinking that, I wanted to give her a big hug, she deserves so much better. Yet at the same time thank everything she didn't have that sick man's child.
@@mcd08 My ex used to get angry at me cuz I would try to sleep. Maybe it wasn't like this situation, but sleep is very important to me because health is my greatest value.
@@freedomdividendnews5042 more important than your ex telling you she was freaking pregnant and had a MISCARRIAGE? Idk how old you are but that is ridiculous.
I have an ex that owes me $300. Kept saying he would pay it back. I kept seeing on social media that be was going out with friends so I was like you have money to go out but not pay me back? I was even okay with him paying me back in installments. He never did. I got tired and of it and ended up blocking him. He was still friends with some of my other friends and whenever they would ask him if he paid me back, he would use the excuse "she blocked me on everything so how can I?" Even though he had my PayPal or he could've given it to a friend but whatever. I don't lend out money anymore :)
That cheating story is the D E F I N I T I O N of gaslighting. He was the one who cheated and he ended up being the ‘victim’ at the end of the conversation: “Its really hurtful that you would assume that I would do that to you” , “I love you” , “believe what you want” when he could’ve acted more mature and discussed his mistake with his girlfriend, honestly if you’re gonna end up cheating dont get in a relationship with someone beforehand.
I'm sorry but your comment triggered a phrase I butchered bc I butcher everything. I'd rather ppl hate me for who I am than love me for who I'm not. Wever same difference. Obviously ppl cope differently tho. Me? I wanna feel alllll the emos And truths. Yeah, it hurts. But id rather face it head on then to keep living in delusion. Time wasters r the fn worst. & me being toxic is just getting productive. But I need to sort through it 1 way or another. Honestly don't understand y ppl wouldn't want to see the truths. I've never erased alotta of my exs texts. Bc its 🤷🏻♀️ kind of entertaining to see it from another pov now. Plus, I dont wanna forget. I mean as in I got allllll the receipts. I read my goodbye text like yesssss! Go off! Actually just get out ur emos too tho. Bc it's easy to be there when he's not here. But also me addressing him: . Idk, I must just be different. I'll make myself heal. Imagine my toxic running into my other toxic ex. They'd hate each other, facts. I've never been 1 to get off on dudes fighting over me for no real reason but this? These type dudes? That sh would be funny! I'm not like the others type only they're way alike...
I know this word has already lost all its meaning, but that’s literally not the definition of gaslighting. He’s just lying, gaslighting would’ve been him trying to convince her that what she saw wasn’t actually there, ie. that the other girl wasn’t his screensaver.
He might just be a jerk but finding out that your kid 'kind of' died and the mother was someone you weren't on good terms with, it takes someone really mature, that knows how to handle their emotions to be like "Even though I'm in pain, let me focus on your pain and see if you're good". Miscarriages are of course worse for the mothers but it can be traumatic for fathers. ps. I don't think he did it the right way but losing a child is heavy at any age.
I use that phrase to my boyfriend almost every day, but I am never lying to him, but he never belive in ANYTHING that I say, even the simple things, like "I was seeing a video", so... "belive what you want" 🤷🏻♀️
It breaks my heart seeing how irresponsible people can be towards other people's feelings. Break-ups happen, but there is always the right way to do things. You should always be honest and take responsibility for what you did.
AshKohn47 EXACTLY! It still astounds me, how some people refuse to be compassionate in a situation they will never experience ( a miscarriage for example ). I have a personal hatred for cheaters, but a child died. I am a woman and I can sympathize on that. I can put my hatred aside because my personal feelings cannot surpass the death of a living being.
@@jyhirhatten7556 Im sure the first thing a woman would think while having a miscarriage is " hold up let me get video/photo evidenced for my pos ex" or records lol.
I mean he doesn't necessarily have to sympathize with her he told her he's sorry and that'ts the end of that. He could've possibly been hurt but she didn't nee to know that
my ex would accuse me of cheating every other week and i ended up just wanting out of the relationship so i told him to believe what he wanted do u think that made him more sure i was cheating lol
Sometimes 'believe what you want' is appropriate if you no longer have the time, energy, or inclination to plead innocence for the umpteenth time to a paranoid partner who sees infidelity even when there isn't any. Stalking and possessive insecurity can happen in either direction.
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Imaginary situations: idk bruh. I just think ure the weakest link. But I appreciate your persistence anyways. Maybe try back in spongebob time. In the meantime, feel free to talk to Alexa. K bye.
@@c4yourself319 she has a phone so she is most likely not homeless and better clothes is subjective so stop being ignorant just because you think her clothes are bad does not make her homeless
@@CanIgetsubscriberswithno-zq2nd Ladies and gentlemen, I give you an individual who has no concept of what is literal or serious. Your parents did a *terrible* job my friend.
@@c4yourself319 and you keep replying to multiple comments calling this girl homeless....because your parents clearly did such a great job that you would waste your time cyberbullying someone you don't know
Honestly, the man who just "went to sleep" when she told him that she had a miscarriage, is sort've the most cowardly and ignorant person on this earth. Miscarriages hurt like hell and really affect the mother mentally. Then he just turns his back on her. That's terrible.
Igeeq W he could’ve said something. Something besides, I’m going to bed goodnight. It’s like saying your mom died to someone and they just say “oh sorry that’s bad, anyways I’m going to bed .”
@@essentiallyitsamy its definitely not like that, smh. And she cheated and I'd guess she had been cheating for a while before he found out about it, so the child wasnt his either. He said he was sorry, tf else was he supposed to say, life moved on for him after they broke up. And why do you even care, care about your life
5:27 - 5:42 she just told dude that his baby died inside her and mans said “sorry I’m gonna go to sleep though”??!!? Whoever that guy is he already has a 1 way ticket to hell set in stone
Sometimes people just want to get over it easy and simple. Would you rather if someone invited you to a restaurant and yall had a nice dinner then at the end be like "So this isnt working out, we had a good run but this isn't working out because you aren't the one" then you start hollering like a big baby and BEGGING the person to stay with you then they just walk away leaving you in the dust Or Just text "hey so I know we have been through alot but I need time for myself to think about my mental health and I can't focus on that while we're together, hope you understand" then you would feel better because you would want the best for the person in that case and you could "I completelyunderstand" and save yourself the embarrassment. Which would you rather?
@@dramaticexperiment144 I would rather they took me for a walk and told me, no need for a fancy dinner. People deserve being told in person. At least call them on the pjone
@@sofiabruiz17 maybe they dont want to see or hear you and just want to get it done and over with🤷♂️🤷♂️ I personally would rather a text Don't take me for a walk letting me think I am in for a treat because in my head I might be thinking oh we are going to talk and laugh and have a nice walk. Don't call me because one if I start asking why you might just hang up the phone. Just text me it's way easy and less emotional. If you're breaking up with me I personally do not want to hear your voice or see your face BUT that's just me
My ex was literally the same. I learnt from that, that whoever is the most aggressive in defending his/her right has the most skeletons in the closet. If the guy in this video would have told the truth he would be open to discuss her doubts and assist on clarifying instead of attacking back.
Youre right lol..... but who keeps those txts? Ive always had breakups happen in person... i kinda hope 1 or 2 of them happened over txt, i have a terrible poker face, and felt like breaking down. I felt so embarrassed letting girls see me so vulnerable, in a way they never had.
Thank you for posting this. My ex ended things with me when I lost 2 family members due to covid on 2 consecutive days. It was basically like “I am sorry for loss but this isn’t working out” I was shattered, I guess still am, but knowing am not alone helps.
I cried when Anna described her situation because this also happened to me. A week after the breakup, I found out that I was pregnant, I wanted to communicate with him about what to do next. I wanted to get an abortion because I know I can't raise a kid by myself, and it would be unfair to bring a baby to this world knowing his/her dad doesn't even care about them. So I texted him the situation, and he responded with "What's to communicate? You made your decision." Then he ghosted on me. I am still hurt by what he said to me to this day. How can a person be this dismissive? They acted like if they don't get involved, there will be no problems or troubles. But do you know how much pain we have to bear as a woman getting an abortion?
Happened to me to, but when we were spilt up this girl posted on his socials and I told him to bring my stuff back then two weeks after that I found out I was pregnant and told him he acted so supportive to whatever I chose to do, told me that girl meant nothing to him and he wanted to get back together, I told him I needed him as friend for time being then I went to hospital miscarried and texted him that I needed him to come over to be with me bc I was obviously struggling emotionally and mentally, that afternoon he went to see the girl he told me meant nothing while I was mourning alone. Yesterday after not viewing any profiles for about eight months me and my friends decided to look, the girl is three months pregnant and she’s having the baby. Absolutely rough.
In conclusion I did not need this video in my rec today. But I hope all of you are healing I feel like something like this never fully goes away we just need to find healthily ways of dealing with our pain and not projecting it onto others☺️
Geez Anna I really feel for you. My ex-boyfriend went to ER to save his ex-girlfriend while we were dating, because she had an inflammation down there. He said he will be always there if his ex-girlfriend suffers. But when I found a lump in my breast and I asked him to come to the hospital with me cuz I was scared, he didn't give a f*** and started sleeping. He cares about his ex's private part but not my cancer. I dumped him right after and it felt great. And I also found out I was cancer-free so it was all good. and it's really good that you finished with that guy. The god will send you a real man for you soon so please don't cry. Never fall for a man who doesn't protect you, they're not real men.
@M T Thank you so much for your warm message! Even though my ex didn't care if I was alive or dead, I'm so happy to receive warm message from mindful people like you. Big hugs 🤗
The girl who had the miscarriage should go to therapy. So this single moment in her life. Doesn't control her. Break ups are good and help us grow as human beings
If you can’t see that 85% of what she was dealing with was grief/pain (physical or emotional) because of a miscarriage and only 15% because of some shitty dude, you gotta start talking to more women who have dealt with it.
She could definitely benefit from therapy, because most people could, but she probably doesn't need to hear that what happened to her was good. Stuff like that can easily be super traumatizing.
Break-ups are good? Excuse me? Break-ups are never good, something breaking apart is never good. The lessons you learn from them sometimes (not always) CAN be good, but the breakup in itself could be and often are awful, ugly and painful, so don't try to glamourise it by your misleading words.
I went thru the same thing as the girl who had the miscarriage. We had been broken up for two months when I had the miscarriage. After it was confirmed I reached out to him and told him and he said “I feel nothing towards the situation because we’re no longer together“. Still to this day I don’t know what I expected from the phone call but it definitely wasn’t that. Having to mourn the loss of a relationship and mourn an unknown pregnancy and unexpected miscarriage was very painful. I wouldn’t wish that pain on my worst enemy @Jubilee Life is hard and being a human is hard, so thank you for creating a space for people to be vulnerable in💓💓💓
It’s not necessarily tho, sometimes you know something to be true and just get tired of trying to convince someone so you stop caring... It’s bad to assume, it’s dependent on context tbh
@@RonaldNixiux I agree with you. Usually its used by someone caught lying when they dont know what to say, but not always. Sometimes someone is in the right, and they say it because they just gave up trying to work with the other person. I guess a good way to gauge the situation is how early into the issue they said it
Omg ok people don't believe me because i lie a lot but when i actually tell the truth and people don't believe me i usually laugh and then i go "oh ok believe what you want" I'm a girl btw 😅
she is telling him that their baby died and he just I’m going to sleep.Bro u lost ur baby and she is probably sad about that and u don’t care?I hope she’s better now and I know she will be a good mother someday.much love to her ❤️❤️❤️
They were already broken up and she didn't even know she was pregnant at the time, so he definitely didn't. Why would he feel attachment to it after the fact? Idk, but the whole conversation seemed a little sus on her end.
My heart goes out to all these loving, wonderful souls. I, too, only received a long text, with no decent, respectful closure. It took me months to recover, and now I think I'm finally on the right track again. I hope everyone who makes it all about his/her love can be held tight by someone who cares the same way❤
I understand that what she was going through was difficult, but I was frustrated by the way she went about it and I didn't even know her, I can't imagine someone breaking up with me and then sending me those texts, I probably would have responded in a very similar way. He had no context for what was happening on her end, but she was behaving as if he did and it was hard to empathize with that.
@@kimstolz8880 uhhhhhh. the context was that she was sad and hurting and needed someone she loved to talk to and be there? if that's not reason enough for you to reply positively... then you should not reply at all. that guy was still responding... and he was acting like a prick in his responses when it was unnecessary and she deserves way better. since when does breaking up mean you shouldn't be kind and have basic respect and empathy for the person you'll probably never see again anyway?
@@xoz-- Yeah but what do you know about their realtionship? Was the children his? How did they broke up? Did she cheat on him? Was it a toxic realtion? What i'm saying is that we don't know both parts of the story. Maybe he is an asshole or maybe he was just fed up with her. Or maybe he just didn't love nor care for her anymore, is not his responsability. Idk, i've been in some toxic relation and i can say to you that i sometimes responded like that because usually there is some manipolation behind those kinda text. That being said, i'm sorry for her, it is hard and it's something that you don't ever forget, but from all the people she had, why text someone you aren't in touch anymore?
Or, men can just stop doing free favors. That will teach other women to respect people for what they are. Wanna bet she was hot? Come on man,it's 2020, simping shouldn't exist.
Soimosi Ioana I think that’s a pretty ignorant statement. Especially since we don’t have the full story. Not to mention it wasn’t a “free favor” he trusted her to pay him back, Clearly she fucked him over in the end.
Javan Grimm and yet he still hasn’t received his money back? Quit being delusional, she took advantage of his kindness the entire relationship and got bored of him and found another man. Nice guys always finish last, always.
Swole_Eri Did you even read what I said lol? I was answering what the other person said. She found someone else? That’s a pretty big assumption you’re making but okay, Also nice guys don’t finish last. Maybe you should pick better company?
But here's the question though if a guy says it then he is doing what the girl is accusing him of so what if a girl says that is it the same thing in reverse???
@@efrainsolano2847 It s not a matter of gender and I don't know why you want to make it about that, it s a matter of wrong behaviour. If your partner takes 30 min to come up with a sh*tty answer/story (like said above), dodges talking about the issue and tells you to "believe what you want" , they re basically trying to gaslight you , doesn't matter wether it s a man or a woman, it s gaslighting.
Penina Lafoga I have no evil intentions, I just wish to speak from another POV. There are some people I meet who choose to feed me their own truth. When I try to convince them of something they choose their own words. They prefer to close their mind and ignore what I am trying to say. It hurts me so much because how people take my opinions matter (to a certain extent of course). Sometimes, I get tired of proving to them my point and I just go, "fine, believe what you want to believe." It is something I rarely say, and I only say when I feel most defeated. Seeing the comments about this made me super guilty. But would you still call it gaslighting in my situation? If so, then at least I would know not to do it again.
The immaturity of breaking up with someone via text, especially when two people have dated for awhile is astounding. So cowardly. For Anna...I'm so sorry the narcissist boy child you dated was so cruel. He is not fit to be with ANY woman.
I got blocked. That's it. No text, no email, no calls, no closure. NOTHING. It hurts. That was 4 years ago. Last year, I found someone who genuinely cared about me and we were in a relationship. Now we are going through a rough patch. We are on a break. I guess he wants to break up. We had a fight, and instead of dealing with the conflict, he decided to take a break. That was a month ago. Why can't I find someone who doesn't want to give up on the relationship! They all want roses, but no thorns. A relationship is not just about sweet moments, it's also about fights and arguments. I guess there is something wrong with me. This guy is truly a nice guy.
Y'all really need to start giving these people a dose of their own medicines. If a man tells you "Believe what you want" you better leave their ass on read. Forever.
@Justine Padilla That's just horrible. If he was like in his teens, imagine him as an adult. I hope no one else becomes a victim to someone like that. I'm glad you're alive and well, stay safe, have a nice day
Elias Ziad okay but you are being rude??? NO ONE deserves a miscarriage. No matter what they did. You’re very silly to type something so disheartening. If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say it at all.
A life motivation maybe? To remember the past mistakes so wouldn't repeat again on future? Couldn't move on? As reminder why they move on from that ex? That's the possibilities I could think and relate to myself too.
Damn break ups are bad themselves but through a text must be harder like imagine randomly sitting on your phone and you get a text expecting something different... something happier Stay strong Guys and know your worth!! :)
F. H. literally how it is. i was just chillin listening to music and then i get a text message from her after she ignored me for a week and barely responded. reading that text felt so impersonal, she said she was getting really overwhelmed but it’s like so you’re doing this make yourself feel less stressed and your solution was to break up with me over text to and make yourself feel better and release your stress at my expense? gotcha. thanks i thought you’d care about me. did you think of how that would affect me like?? so yeah don’t break up with people over text.
My ex broke up with me via text when i was shopping at a mall without any real reason and not willing to answer any questions, it's reall shitty, though 6 months later when we spoke about it she told me the reason and actually got together again for like 6 years then we ended the thing again but this time it was in person
It happened to me yesterday when I was at work. I stayed late to try to catch up on things and he sent me the text and I wasn’t able to catch up like I wanted to. It hurt so much because he was being pretty unresponsive but I figured he just had a lot of work. I was wrong
I dated this guy for about a month, he broke up with me. A few months later he said he wanted me back, I missed him too so we got back together. It was great for a total of 4 days. The last 2 days were us barely talking. I tried to reach out to him via text trying to deny what I already knew was coming. That's when he told me he didn't like me anymore. It really sucked. I still like him but I know I can't be with him again. He'll just get bored of me like he always does and I can't put myself through that.
For the lady who had a miscarriage, you dodged a bullet, that is one human being you are lucky not to be in a relationship with, he showed his true colours
It seemed more like the guy was tired of her reaching out to him after the breakup. Look at the texts above the ones she focuses on. You'll notice something like that.
I gaved a guy who i was dating for 1,5 year 500 euro, he gaved it back but after he gaved it back he kind of cheated on me for 2 months. He totally manipulated me. I was a total fool cuz i knew. I never should had helped him. He would had lost his house then.
@@kwasylar3215 If you owe someone money, you pay them back, or risk getting sued, and if you get sued, don't expect any sympathy because you won't get it. Personally, that guy is a bit dull for giving his partner anything more than $0.00, but I suppose I'm just a lot less nicer. If I was dating someone and she asked for money, I'd tell her to start applying for jobs, because I'd rather set my money on fire than to give it to someone else.
4:44 just like how my ex was. it’s so degrading and sad talking to someone who treats you this way. my heart goes out to anna, she deserves the world. the karma will find that guy as it should, and i pray she finds the happiness she truly deserves ☹️
@@annachristine5295 clearly this guy had been a red flag the whole time. Can not such guyz exist in this world shame to even call him a man , a true man would never even think of doing this.
@@annachristine5295 *can not believe ... I am glad u have moved on and doing fine now , I am so happy for u🙏😇👍 best of wishes to u may u find ur happiness
That girl Anna looks like a sweet, loving, caring, and beautiful girl. She deserves so much better I just want to give her a huge hug. That’s something huge to tell someone, and you should not take that lightly. People need to be less selfish. But Anna by the off chance that you are reading this, me and others are here for you don’t hesitate to talk to us. Not everyone is like that douche.
To everyone who’s gone through a painful breakup: please don’t give up. It’s a really hard experience to go through but there are so many amazing people out there who would love to date you. Your future holds so many beautiful possibilities. And everyone is beautiful and amazing enough to deserve them. Please talk to a trusted friend or family member or your doctor if you feel that it would help you with your emotions regarding the breakup or anything else you’re struggling with.
Thanks for that. I was broken up with almost a year ago and I’m still fucked up over him some days. It doesn’t hurt as much as it used to, but it still does and I think about him almost every day. Oh well.
Turtle Man I cant tell if you are being sarcastic, but just because some one has had it worse than her doesn’t mean this girl can’t get sympathy from others, wishing her the best in life.
My Respect Level with the third guy in the cap through 0:31 seconds - 0:35 seconds was skyrocketing! Any Breakups through text is truly painful, even if it depends on the ex and what happened between the relationship. Secondly I just wanna give Anna A huge Hug.❤️ You Deserve Better Boo😥❤️
The girl in the black shirt’s ex boyfriend is just like my boyfriend now. When I don’t believe what he says, he’s always like “ok believe what you want. If you don’t believe me, dont believe me at all” it pisses me off
Siti Natasha gurl, confront with your bf. spill to him that you’re not feeling right whenever he say that and act in a such way. sometimes someone needs a knock on their head cuz they think it was okay to say or do certain things which will bring more harm than the good. love is consist of trust, respect, honesty, communication, etc. kadang2 orang buat macam tu sebab takda siapa pernah confront in a good way to fix that. and kita orang perempuan selalunya merajuk je bila marah atau terasa hati which orang lelaki malas nak layan 😂
The girl who had a Miscarriage, it's not even okay to act like that to a stranger that tells you she's going through that, no matter if you're with them or not, i don't know if it's just how i am and raised, but if some random girl told me that and i could see she really needed to talk, i would take the time of my day to listen to her. People treat each other so wrong, and it's starting to just be "normal" it's a bit sad.
he is a cold asshole, who wanted to get his rocks off, after he dumped her and she finds out she had a miscarriage, at least be relieved and give her a shoulder she could cry on. what a dosh-bag
He sounds quite angry even before she told him about her miscarriage. This makes me think she hurt him badly (hence why they broke up.) Considering he doesn’t want to hear what she has to say, it slightly implies that she could have lied, cheated or something similar. Personally think he was painted in a very bad light and this doesn’t need to be the actual truth. If a person hurt me badly, I really would not want to talk to them anymore, and certainly not try to comfort them.
@@laraahmeti2113 because its not his problem you should have learned to move on if he broke up with you he obviously doesn't care for you anymore so why should he care if you stop eating or drinking that's your fault and you aren't entitled to empathy
the girl that talked to the guy about his screensaver really resonated with me. people get so defensive and manipulative when they're caught in the act. and it's so hurtful when you care deeply about the person and the relationship. seriously can relate to that intense gaslighting and guilting.
gosh this is heartbreaking... why do breakups have to be so toxic. It almost always ends in one person being terrible and selfish. If I ever have a break up, I want it to be mature, understanding, healthy, and at least a little bit mutual. Not something haunting and devastating 💔
but we have to understand that what you just said is something me and you want :)) when your partner doesn't want the same thing and would rather just dump you on a whim (and without reason or explanation), then you have to remember that they were the immature. you didn't want to be dumped, you wanted a healthy breakup. so you tried your best to handle it like a grown up :))) hahaaa that's my opinion on my own recent breakup!
@@bizarrehuh8076 Thank you, this does make sense. I've never actually been in a relationship, but I'll consider your advice when the time comes. I really hope you're doing well on your break up atm! Have a great day/night
Well it depends. I went for that method in my last breakup and since the person hasn't been honest through the relationship, I valued my time too precious to waste face to face and so, the text happened. It depends who is on the receiving end...
I used to believe the same until I wanted to leave my unhealthy, manipulative relationship and I had to resort to text after trying to break up with him twice before in person only to be guilted out of it and continually gaslit. It really depends on the situation when it comes down to it.
It depends. I spent months trying to bring up courage to breakup with my ex, only for covid to happen. And even after six months, we weren't able to meet and I couldn't emotionally stay in that relationship anymore so I broke up over text. I do wish I could have done it face-to-face but I don't regret breaking up. Its so much better to break up than staying in a manipulative, toxic relationship.
I hope Sam didn't lose her romanticism and hope for a deep connection after that experience. Investing in someone is risky, but it also shows the beauty you hold inside.
To the girl with the miscarriage, I’m so sorry you had to go through that and for the loss of your baby… you have a forever angel looking on you now and wish you the best with someone who will give you the care and love you and your babies deserve
I would love to see their exes side of this. Whenever you listen to one parties side of the breakup it always seems they’re the victim, but we really dont know the full story that led to these final texts. The ones that seemed extremely dismissive could’ve have been through years of toxicity or even cheating, causing them to not want anything to do with the other person. Idk, some of the way things were phrased makes me question who was really in the wrong
I had this with my ex gf. She was manipulating and lying and then I just stop caring and said this is it. Please leave me alone. And she was txting me like crazy, making herself look like a victim and it was all my fault that I broke her heart cuz I didn’t care. The past didn't matter, cuz those girls are like "ME, NOW!"
i had this with a friendship breakup. it hurt my heart to act like i was indifferent over text but honestly after all teh toxicity i wouldnt want to cave in, in person. im not that strong. better to cut it off and move on
I mean...all of it is written out over text so, both sides are already seen and they've all said their piece. I don't think we need to see the side of the guy who is currently in a relationship with the girl he cheated on his ex with nor the side of the guy who has zero empathy for the girl who had a miscarriage.
Absolutely, especially the hook up culture. It's so wrong going around trying people on like socks. It's a childish destructive narrative and it's causing a lot of problems. You lose yourself, get under control of your own ego rather than vice versa, expose yourself and everyone else to risks af all kinds. It saddens me how popular it is to behave like that nowadays.
hahaha me too since she doesn't care anymore about my feeling, I also made her as a pest I need to get rid off. thus the love feeling I have for her has turned into hatred. and I said to her that I regret every single time that we've been together as a compensation of her not giving a single mind about what we've gone through at all.. Though, I also regret I cried while playing a song we used to listen on a guitar to remember her the night before we really broke up.. man, I wasted my feeling for a incompetent partner..
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Jubilee how about a “thank you” to those who opened up about their breakup .. geez?!! Good humans my ass.
Thanks for making good videos
MSK 6:47 They did..
Man the guy who didn’t care about her miscarriage is THE WORST. I’m so sorry girl. He completely invalidated all your feelings :(
As others have said, it seems like the girl cheated on him. So even though his reaction was hurtful, he is probably hurting a lot himself and it would be unfair for her to go to him for emotional support.
I went through a similar ordeal. It almost broke me but I am stronger now
@@jaydashnine why do you guys think she cheated?
@@abanana3240 maybe because she said she had a miscarriage you don't if it was his or not not like hes not in the wrong cause he is
How is he the worst? She said so herself that she wasn't gonna be with him anyways. She make her choice to begin with and the relationship is dead. So it doesn't matter in the end.
the girl that had miscarriage said that "its hard to move on where's there are constant reminder of what could have been"
yeah that hit me hard honestly.
Zulfikri Adnan crying in the club rn
The club being my room because quarantine
Mauser 96 birth control is not 100% effective🤦🏾♀️ you can still get pregnant when your on them
@Mauser 96 two of my cousins were conceived while their parents were on birth control. lmao, it's not 100% at all so if you think it is, yikes.
We heard her
when Anna started crying I just wanted someone to go there and hug her. She was so sad. It breaks my heart.
@@SOHAIBMALIK-fh3uf wtf bro .. lol👌🤣🤣🤣
LoL
SOHAIB MALIK 1902
By going around and commenting about your life lmao no one cares if you’re single.
Really felt that way too.
We do not care.
why does every cheater say that "I'm hurt that you would even think that I would do something like that." what a manipulative line.
hello dear friend are you having relationship issues or do you need help on how to get your ex back?
cuz they tryna flip the script so they gain back control of the situation and so it makes it seem like the other person is in the wrong.
My ex told me that
Its a manipulative tactic that cheaters tend to do. They feel guilty for their actions and so they project that guilt onto you by gaslighting in order to make it seem as though you are in the wrong.
@@therealm1keyy797 yes but you can't just say that everyone that says that it's being manipulative. I had to say something similar to my ex because she thought I was going to cheat on her during a vacation and then when I came back she kept being suspicious about that. It did really hurt me that she thought I cheated
When Anna said “I don’t know why I wanted him to care” I felt that
stop the CAP
Laloo Wafiq wdym..
bro yeah, it’s like she’s not asking to get back together but a little compassion from someone that contributed to the situation would’ve sufficed
yes :( I want to give her a hug
@@johannalapere1762 i want to as well
“I know he’s thinking of a lie..” and then the most elaborate lie ever. Giiiirl
@@miipmiipmiipsome people never learn, and others learn when they've already lost the person.
I think she was well rid.... his messages make him sound like a gas lighter..... 'its YOUR fault you think I would hurt you...'
@Sarcasm Patrol She should've asked about the app lol
I would have straight up said "Oh, what's the app?" Because I'm sure that he could have had anything else in that slideshow 😑
time??
the miscarriage one is horrible. that poor girl deserved better. having a miscarriage is devastating to a soon-to-be-mother. i hope she stays strong.
She deserves the world. and that's on creative mode, sis.
Hahahhahahhahahahahaha
Geno it’s not funny man
@@hinataJem same deal with your parents
Kristen 16 omg rekt amirite 😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎
I wanna give Anna a hug :(
Then find her address
Give me instead
@@fbi4618 lmao
reagan wolf damn you gorgeous af ngl
@@Hm-dh1vu you down bad my bruddha
“it’s hard to move on when there’s that constant reminder of what could have been”
damn i felt that HARD
It's hard until you realize that "what could have been" doesn't exist. It's just an imaginary scenario that your mind made up. It's got nothing to do with reality. You've been holding on to a fantasy, and the person you were with were never who you imagined them to be. There are of course exceptions to this, like if your partner dies or if some other circumstance forces them away from you against their will. For relationships that end with breakups though, the truth is almost always that "what could have been" could never have been, or it would have been.
Once you realize that your idea of "what could have been" isn't real, then it becomes much easier to let go and move on.
Karl The Fragr i needed this
@@Fraggr92 thank you for taking the time to type this out
Karl The Fragr thank you for that clarification
💔💔💔
5:41 “im gonna go to sleep though” wow
awful of him to do, she dodged a bullet but im sorry that he hurt her like that
Yeah I was thinking that, I wanted to give her a big hug, she deserves so much better. Yet at the same time thank everything she didn't have that sick man's child.
what if it was like 2am or something and he has work or school in the morning. Sleep is one of the most important things in the world.
@@freedomdividendnews5042 I hope that's a joke.
@@mcd08 My ex used to get angry at me cuz I would try to sleep. Maybe it wasn't like this situation, but sleep is very important to me because health is my greatest value.
@@freedomdividendnews5042 more important than your ex telling you she was freaking pregnant and had a MISCARRIAGE? Idk how old you are but that is ridiculous.
GIRL PAY THAT SWEET MAN BACK HIS MONEY
Sam C yeahhh. I’d like that.
that lesson was probably worth more than $600 in the whole scheme of things
She probably spent it on drugs. Pawned her phone too and everything.
I have an ex that owes me $300. Kept saying he would pay it back. I kept seeing on social media that be was going out with friends so I was like you have money to go out but not pay me back? I was even okay with him paying me back in installments. He never did. I got tired and of it and ended up blocking him. He was still friends with some of my other friends and whenever they would ask him if he paid me back, he would use the excuse "she blocked me on everything so how can I?" Even though he had my PayPal or he could've given it to a friend but whatever. I don't lend out money anymore :)
She’s a female so he’s not gonna get 600 when she couldn’t keep it 💯
That cheating story is the D E F I N I T I O N of gaslighting.
He was the one who cheated and he ended up being the ‘victim’ at the end of the conversation: “Its really hurtful that you would assume that I would do that to you” , “I love you” , “believe what you want” when he could’ve acted more mature and discussed his mistake with his girlfriend, honestly if you’re gonna end up cheating dont get in a relationship with someone beforehand.
THATS WHAT MY EX DID
I'm sorry but your comment triggered a phrase I butchered bc I butcher everything. I'd rather ppl hate me for who I am than love me for who I'm not. Wever same difference. Obviously ppl cope differently tho. Me? I wanna feel alllll the emos And truths. Yeah, it hurts. But id rather face it head on then to keep living in delusion. Time wasters r the fn worst. & me being toxic is just getting productive. But I need to sort through it 1 way or another. Honestly don't understand y ppl wouldn't want to see the truths. I've never erased alotta of my exs texts. Bc its 🤷🏻♀️ kind of entertaining to see it from another pov now. Plus, I dont wanna forget. I mean as in I got allllll the receipts. I read my goodbye text like yesssss! Go off! Actually just get out ur emos too tho. Bc it's easy to be there when he's not here. But also me addressing him: . Idk, I must just be different. I'll make myself heal. Imagine my toxic running into my other toxic ex. They'd hate each other, facts. I've never been 1 to get off on dudes fighting over me for no real reason but this? These type dudes? That sh would be funny! I'm not like the others type only they're way alike...
I know this word has already lost all its meaning, but that’s literally not the definition of gaslighting. He’s just lying, gaslighting would’ve been him trying to convince her that what she saw wasn’t actually there, ie. that the other girl wasn’t his screensaver.
Yeah that's what pretty much all cheaters do, that's the way it's always been.
‘I’m gonna go to sleep though’ is no thing to say to someone who just gave you that news... 🥺
I feel so bad for her that guy clearly didn’t care 🥺🥺 I felt that I hope she’s okay tho
I want to give her a hug...
He might just be a jerk but finding out that your kid 'kind of' died and the mother was someone you weren't on good terms with, it takes someone really mature, that knows how to handle their emotions to be like "Even though I'm in pain, let me focus on your pain and see if you're good". Miscarriages are of course worse for the mothers but it can be traumatic for fathers.
ps. I don't think he did it the right way but losing a child is heavy at any age.
We don't know the full story still.
I mean, what was the reason for him being so pissed at her? Clearly he must've had a reason to react so negatively
Abusive people are always saying "believe what you want" they gaslight like crazy to not take responsibility
Tiara Averhart believe what you want
Believe what you want
Tiara Averhart believe what you want
Completely agree 💯
Not really abuse more like manipulation
“Believe what you want” - Every cheaters favourite line
I use that phrase to my boyfriend almost every day, but I am never lying to him, but he never belive in ANYTHING that I say, even the simple things, like "I was seeing a video", so... "belive what you want" 🤷🏻♀️
Nah its "it's not what it looks like."
not always true, some people dont accept the truth and attack you even when you are just honest.
That's true, they be like 'Finem don't believe me. '
@@lorena.turrini *watching
It breaks my heart seeing how irresponsible people can be towards other people's feelings. Break-ups happen, but there is always the right way to do things. You should always be honest and take responsibility for what you did.
Exactly bro 💯
The lie about the app that shows the pictures as a slideshow though. He really spent 30 minutes thinking about that 😂😂
@Sarcasm Patrol she a female ofx she will assume the worst
@Sarcasm Patrol I feel like ur the guy😂 yo I've seen u in two comments wtf?
R0- TR It’s an obvious lie lol
Hilary Clinton He’s literally still with the girl on the screen saver lmao stfu
He was proud of himself too lol
Girl: I lost our baby
Guy: ok I'm going to sleep
@Sarcasm Patrol but it's still a baby, what if you had a miscarriage and someone was like "ok whatever I don't care"
AshKohn47 then they don’t care
@@jesusrizo5891 feels bad
AshKohn47 EXACTLY! It still astounds me, how some people refuse to be compassionate in a situation they will never experience ( a miscarriage for example ). I have a personal hatred for cheaters, but a child died. I am a woman and I can sympathize on that. I can put my hatred aside because my personal feelings cannot surpass the death of a living being.
@@piangg_0333 you are indeed a wholesome human being. Congratulations, you got the ashkohn wholesome badge!
this man really said he's gonna go to sleep after she said she had a miscarriage. the AUDACITY
The way he was talking implied that she hurt him and the way she phrased everything points to the fact that she cheated so... I mean...
@@sydney4782 Where do you get that from ? theres absolutely zero indication of that.
Theres no proof she had a miscarriage ethier but we dont talk about that huh 💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀
@@jyhirhatten7556 Im sure the first thing a woman would think while having a miscarriage is " hold up let me get video/photo evidenced for my pos ex" or records lol.
I mean he doesn't necessarily have to sympathize with her he told her he's sorry and that'ts the end of that. He could've possibly been hurt but she didn't nee to know that
I hope Anna feels better now and looks at that situation as a blessing. *Sending you virtual hugs*
Also deleted all of these texts 'cause I would just read them over and over..
I would and keep them as receipts for whenever they reappear with a "hey" message
@Soniya Kabdwal Sometimes I wish I would have them back but then I remember how awful I felt when I read them, so I still think it was a good choice.
I deleted mine too. You're just reminiscing on hurt
Marimba Maurice yeah. having the texts available just holds you back from moving on fully imo
literally man i would read the text over and over every time i had the chance. it would really ruin my day and get me in a different mood
When you call out a guy for cheating and he responds "believe what you want", you just KNOOOWW lmfao. Classic cheater move
my ex would accuse me of cheating every other week and i ended up just wanting out of the relationship so i told him to believe what he wanted do u think that made him more sure i was cheating lol
@@30daysnosleep it doesn't look good at all 🤣🤣 but i guess it can depend on the situation
how many times a dude said this to me but then come to find out was actually cheating 😂💀💀
Sometimes 'believe what you want' is appropriate if you no longer have the time, energy, or inclination to plead innocence for the umpteenth time to a paranoid partner who sees infidelity even when there isn't any. Stalking and possessive insecurity can happen in either direction.
You can’t stop a cheater. If they gonna cheat, they gonna cheat.
I feel so sorry for the girl who had a miscarriage. Hope you're okay❤
LoL
It means lots of love that's why both L's are capitalized smh 😐
@@kneegah6136 not many ppl mean lot's of love when they say lol even if it has capitals
Oh well sorry English is not my first language
She looks homeless, obviously she isn't okay.
Some of these breakup texts sound like the emails I got when I got rejected from the companies I applied for.
@frozenbananas the rejections hurt, tho. :(
"Hey, just wanted to say we really like your enthusiasm. Unfortunately, we won't be taking you on at this time. That said, we wish you luck in your career and becoming your best self. Thanks." - Hiring Manager at Brand X
Imaginary situations: idk bruh. I just think ure the weakest link. But I appreciate your persistence anyways. Maybe try back in spongebob time. In the meantime, feel free to talk to Alexa. K bye.
The last girl broke my heart....I hope she finds happiness.
I hope she finds a house and better clothes :(
@@c4yourself319 she has a phone so she is most likely not homeless and better clothes is subjective so stop being ignorant just because you think her clothes are bad does not make her homeless
@@CanIgetsubscriberswithno-zq2nd Ladies and gentlemen, I give you an individual who has no concept of what is literal or serious. Your parents did a *terrible* job my friend.
@@c4yourself319 and you keep replying to multiple comments calling this girl homeless....because your parents clearly did such a great job that you would waste your time cyberbullying someone you don't know
@@c4yourself319 so what you said is a joke well in that case the joke was not funny and very rude so just keep your mouth shut next time
Honestly, the man who just "went to sleep" when she told him that she had a miscarriage, is sort've the most cowardly and ignorant person on this earth. Miscarriages hurt like hell and really affect the mother mentally. Then he just turns his back on her. That's terrible.
SHOARMA SCHAAP uh its not that hard to process “I had a m I s s c a r I g e” it’s like three words no matter how tired he was
@@hanginlxights3_853 and if it wasnt his child, tf was he supposed to say? What if he had a rough day and it was late at night
Igeeq W he could’ve said something. Something besides, I’m going to bed goodnight. It’s like saying your mom died to someone and they just say “oh sorry that’s bad, anyways I’m going to bed .”
@@essentiallyitsamy its definitely not like that, smh. And she cheated and I'd guess she had been cheating for a while before he found out about it, so the child wasnt his either. He said he was sorry, tf else was he supposed to say, life moved on for him after they broke up. And why do you even care, care about your life
Ninjer you’re agreeing with his actions? lmao 🤡
5:27 - 5:42 she just told dude that his baby died inside her and mans said “sorry I’m gonna go to sleep though”??!!? Whoever that guy is he already has a 1 way ticket to hell set in stone
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ikr. I just wanted to hug her at that moment :(
Yep. That guy is the weakest of the weak.
This guy is ....IDK WORDS ABOUT HIM
She's strong❤
Seeing Anna smile in the end gives me amounts of hope I cannot describe.
The worst part is the fact that they broke up with you THROUGH a text message, they couldn't even say it to your face.
Sometimes people just want to get over it easy and simple.
Would you rather if someone invited you to a restaurant and yall had a nice dinner then at the end be like "So this isnt working out, we had a good run but this isn't working out because you aren't the one" then you start hollering like a big baby and BEGGING the person to stay with you then they just walk away leaving you in the dust
Or
Just text "hey so I know we have been through alot but I need time for myself to think about my mental health and I can't focus on that while we're together, hope you understand" then you would feel better because you would want the best for the person in that case and you could "I completelyunderstand" and save yourself the embarrassment.
Which would you rather?
@@dramaticexperiment144 I would rather they took me for a walk and told me, no need for a fancy dinner. People deserve being told in person. At least call them on the pjone
@@dramaticexperiment144 dude I get it, but think about it, a majority of the break up texts aren't with that much empathy
@@sofiabruiz17 maybe they dont want to see or hear you and just want to get it done and over with🤷♂️🤷♂️
I personally would rather a text
Don't take me for a walk letting me think I am in for a treat because in my head I might be thinking oh we are going to talk and laugh and have a nice walk.
Don't call me because one if I start asking why you might just hang up the phone.
Just text me it's way easy and less emotional. If you're breaking up with me I personally do not want to hear your voice or see your face BUT that's just me
Nah
The screensaver guy is such a manipulative person.
Raph who?
My ex was literally the same. I learnt from that, that whoever is the most aggressive in defending his/her right has the most skeletons in the closet.
If the guy in this video would have told the truth he would be open to discuss her doubts and assist on clarifying instead of attacking back.
sounded exactly like my toxic ex
Meltinq_ 3:14 (referring to her bf)
Raph he is an asshole too like he stalks her
"I deleted them all"
Okay thanks for coming get out.
I swear
Youre right lol..... but who keeps those txts? Ive always had breakups happen in person... i kinda hope 1 or 2 of them happened over txt, i have a terrible poker face, and felt like breaking down. I felt so embarrassed letting girls see me so vulnerable, in a way they never had.
😂😂
😂😂 like why are you here.
thats how it went tho!!
Thank you for posting this.
My ex ended things with me when I lost 2 family members due to covid on 2 consecutive days.
It was basically like “I am sorry for loss but this isn’t working out”
I was shattered, I guess still am, but knowing am not alone helps.
Hello friend, I can recommend you to the powerful love specialist who helped me get my ex back in less than 3 days, he can also help you..
Hey Becky,
I’d rather die than getting back together with a loser like that but thanks :)
It’s been a while since you posted this but I truly hope you’re doing well ❤️
@@bookmarkyourthoughtsblog thanks Jenn :) I really am
“I don’t know why I thought he would care” .... I feel so hard for this girl 💔
she said that because she clearly had a miscarriage with another guy, why would he care, its not his child
@@soundye wtf yk that how
soundye where was that stated?
soundye why would you think that? That was never mentioned nor implied
Honk that’s what I thought! People keep saying she cheated wtf
I wanna give that miscarriage girl a hug, poor baby. I hope she's ok.
LoL
@@lntentiveGaming whats funny
@@deborahthomas1012 LoL
@@lntentiveGaming you need help
LOL
"Its an app that changes screensavers like a slideshow" LMAOO WHAT 😂😂
I think such apps do exist. My roommate's phone had changing Screensaver. It is creepy though.
Evan if there is an app why did he have an another girls picture on there if it’s not a family member like that was the most stupidest lie on earth
IKR BAHAHAH
I have that actually
.... But I set it to nature so it just shows random plants, ocean stuff like that
Poignant
I cried when Anna described her situation because this also happened to me. A week after the breakup, I found out that I was pregnant, I wanted to communicate with him about what to do next. I wanted to get an abortion because I know I can't raise a kid by myself, and it would be unfair to bring a baby to this world knowing his/her dad doesn't even care about them. So I texted him the situation, and he responded with "What's to communicate? You made your decision." Then he ghosted on me. I am still hurt by what he said to me to this day. How can a person be this dismissive? They acted like if they don't get involved, there will be no problems or troubles. But do you know how much pain we have to bear as a woman getting an abortion?
This just happened To me. I got the abortion. He said the same. You Made the decision. Thats it. I was sick for weeks ;(
Happened to me to, but when we were spilt up this girl posted on his socials and I told him to bring my stuff back then two weeks after that I found out I was pregnant and told him he acted so supportive to whatever I chose to do, told me that girl meant nothing to him and he wanted to get back together, I told him I needed him as friend for time being then I went to hospital miscarried and texted him that I needed him to come over to be with me bc I was obviously struggling emotionally and mentally, that afternoon he went to see the girl he told me meant nothing while I was mourning alone. Yesterday after not viewing any profiles for about eight months me and my friends decided to look, the girl is three months pregnant and she’s having the baby. Absolutely rough.
In conclusion I did not need this video in my rec today. But I hope all of you are healing I feel like something like this never fully goes away we just need to find healthily ways of dealing with our pain and not projecting it onto others☺️
@@biancacherry7059 Girl...I am so sorry too.
I’m so sorry that you went through that
"When the conversation gets shorter with you, it's getting longer with someone else."
This hurted 😢
True 😅 ☹️
No.
@@PhilFoal not true for everybody definitely but it was something that was a reality for me on a couple of occasions
😭😭😭😭😭
Geez Anna I really feel for you. My ex-boyfriend went to ER to save his ex-girlfriend while we were dating, because she had an inflammation down there. He said he will be always there if his ex-girlfriend suffers.
But when I found a lump in my breast and I asked him to come to the hospital with me cuz I was scared, he didn't give a f*** and started sleeping. He cares about his ex's private part but not my cancer.
I dumped him right after and it felt great. And I also found out I was cancer-free so it was all good.
and it's really good that you finished with that guy. The god will send you a real man for you soon so please don't cry. Never fall for a man who doesn't protect you, they're not real men.
Stay Strong Queen!!! It's gonna be worth it.. sending hugs
@@brockenperfection6925 Thanks for your warm message 😊 Really appreciate it.
@M T Thank you so much for your warm message! Even though my ex didn't care if I was alive or dead, I'm so happy to receive warm message from mindful people like you. Big hugs 🤗
so it was a win-win game for you. dumping an ass and not having cancer. lucky girl
Don't worry!real women get real men.
The girl who had the miscarriage should go to therapy. So this single moment in her life. Doesn't control her. Break ups are good and help us grow as human beings
Only a person who's never been through a really ugly breakup would say something like that
@@StrawberryLegacy yup
If you can’t see that 85% of what she was dealing with was grief/pain (physical or emotional) because of a miscarriage and only 15% because of some shitty dude, you gotta start talking to more women who have dealt with it.
She could definitely benefit from therapy, because most people could, but she probably doesn't need to hear that what happened to her was good. Stuff like that can easily be super traumatizing.
Break-ups are good? Excuse me? Break-ups are never good, something breaking apart is never good. The lessons you learn from them sometimes (not always) CAN be good, but the breakup in itself could be and often are awful, ugly and painful, so don't try to glamourise it by your misleading words.
I went thru the same thing as the girl who had the miscarriage. We had been broken up for two months when I had the miscarriage. After it was confirmed I reached out to him and told him and he said “I feel nothing towards the situation because we’re no longer together“. Still to this day I don’t know what I expected from the phone call but it definitely wasn’t that. Having to mourn the loss of a relationship and mourn an unknown pregnancy and unexpected miscarriage was very painful. I wouldn’t wish that pain on my worst enemy
@Jubilee Life is hard and being a human is hard, so thank you for creating a space for people to be vulnerable in💓💓💓
The whole “ believe what you want “ is such a gaslighting move and to any girl please don’t believe behavior like that and you deserve better .
It’s not necessarily tho, sometimes you know something to be true and just get tired of trying to convince someone so you stop caring... It’s bad to assume, it’s dependent on context tbh
@@RonaldNixiux In this situation, he was clearly cheating on her so, it was gaslighting.
Pink
Agreed, but it not always be like that, that’s not great advice as it doesn’t apply to reality
@@RonaldNixiux I agree with you. Usually its used by someone caught lying when they dont know what to say, but not always. Sometimes someone is in the right, and they say it because they just gave up trying to work with the other person. I guess a good way to gauge the situation is how early into the issue they said it
Sexist. "to any girl" So men dont have any say in this? "You deserve better" But men dont deserve better?
no one:
lying men: believe what you want
Lying women say the same thing.
Omg ok people don't believe me because i lie a lot but when i actually tell the truth and people don't believe me i usually laugh and then i go "oh ok believe what you want"
I'm a girl btw 😅
That's how they manipulate.
@@sdri6463 Its what you deserve honestly.
@@xypaisb8026 ah ok you're right 🥺
she is telling him that their baby died and he just I’m going to sleep.Bro u lost ur baby and she is probably sad about that and u don’t care?I hope she’s better now and I know she will be a good mother someday.much love to her ❤️❤️❤️
it wasnt his baby, she got preg when cheating.
waNErBOY did she say that
Common Boi yeah u are right too
They were already broken up and she didn't even know she was pregnant at the time, so he definitely didn't. Why would he feel attachment to it after the fact? Idk, but the whole conversation seemed a little sus on her end.
ZanderPander well that makes sense considering he doesn’t wanna see her she probably have done something bad and people are blaming him
My heart goes out to all these loving, wonderful souls. I, too, only received a long text, with no decent, respectful closure. It took me months to recover, and now I think I'm finally on the right track again. I hope everyone who makes it all about his/her love can be held tight by someone who cares the same way❤
I feel so bad for the last girl. It’s so hard when you want to share news with someone and you can’t or you see they don’t care.
LoL
When you really want to tell them something and they just don't care is so painful
I understand that what she was going through was difficult, but I was frustrated by the way she went about it and I didn't even know her, I can't imagine someone breaking up with me and then sending me those texts, I probably would have responded in a very similar way. He had no context for what was happening on her end, but she was behaving as if he did and it was hard to empathize with that.
@@kimstolz8880 uhhhhhh. the context was that she was sad and hurting and needed someone she loved to talk to and be there? if that's not reason enough for you to reply positively... then you should not reply at all. that guy was still responding... and he was acting like a prick in his responses when it was unnecessary and she deserves way better.
since when does breaking up mean you shouldn't be kind and have basic respect and empathy for the person you'll probably never see again anyway?
@@xoz-- Yeah but what do you know about their realtionship? Was the children his? How did they broke up? Did she cheat on him? Was it a toxic realtion? What i'm saying is that we don't know both parts of the story. Maybe he is an asshole or maybe he was just fed up with her. Or maybe he just didn't love nor care for her anymore, is not his responsability. Idk, i've been in some toxic relation and i can say to you that i sometimes responded like that because usually there is some manipolation behind those kinda text. That being said, i'm sorry for her, it is hard and it's something that you don't ever forget, but from all the people she had, why text someone you aren't in touch anymore?
The guy at 2:09 seemed like a good man. Sucks when people don’t appreciate good people.
Or, men can just stop doing free favors. That will teach other women to respect people for what they are. Wanna bet she was hot? Come on man,it's 2020, simping shouldn't exist.
Soimosi Ioana I think that’s a pretty ignorant statement. Especially since we don’t have the full story. Not to mention it wasn’t a “free favor” he trusted her to pay him back, Clearly she fucked him over in the end.
Javan Grimm and yet he still hasn’t received his money back? Quit being delusional, she took advantage of his kindness the entire relationship and got bored of him and found another man. Nice guys always finish last, always.
Swole_Eri Did you even read what I said lol? I was answering what the other person said. She found someone else? That’s a pretty big assumption you’re making but okay, Also nice guys don’t finish last. Maybe you should pick better company?
Love your username.
“believe what you want” LMAO WHAT YOU SAY WHEN YOU GET CAUGHT UP IN YOUR LIESSS
But here's the question though if a guy says it then he is doing what the girl is accusing him of so what if a girl says that is it the same thing in reverse???
Took him 30 minutes to think up a shitty solution lmao
@@efrainsolano2847 It s not a matter of gender and I don't know why you want to make it about that, it s a matter of wrong behaviour. If your partner takes 30 min to come up with a sh*tty answer/story (like said above), dodges talking about the issue and tells you to "believe what you want" , they re basically trying to gaslight you , doesn't matter wether it s a man or a woman, it s gaslighting.
@@everlastingideas8625 yep
Penina Lafoga I have no evil intentions, I just wish to speak from another POV. There are some people I meet who choose to feed me their own truth. When I try to convince them of something they choose their own words. They prefer to close their mind and ignore what I am trying to say. It hurts me so much because how people take my opinions matter (to a certain extent of course). Sometimes, I get tired of proving to them my point and I just go, "fine, believe what you want to believe." It is something I rarely say, and I only say when I feel most defeated.
Seeing the comments about this made me super guilty. But would you still call it gaslighting in my situation? If so, then at least I would know not to do it again.
The immaturity of breaking up with someone via text, especially when two people have dated for awhile is astounding. So cowardly. For Anna...I'm so sorry the narcissist boy child you dated was so cruel. He is not fit to be with ANY woman.
girl: *and he put a PERIOD at the end*
me: *GIRL NO HE DID NOT*
4:18 lol
do you know that "period" means "." ??
@@Hantout25 you missed the joke
Krishna Rai I didn’t get u what does period mean
Oh k it’s just a stop
“I don’t know why I thought he would care” Girl you have EVERY right to think he would care. I feel you. I’m here for you. I love you
No she really didnt
chickenmanman jr if he was the father and they had that background, she had the right LMAO
Of course, it would seem natural since he was the child's father after all.
I almost cried when listening to Anna's one.Stay strong girlie,talk to the people who you love and that love you
I also had a jerk like him in my life too
I am 😢😭😭
I saw my ex in that guy.
Bruh you don't know if she cheated or not
@@imadoge5036...still
I just want to give all of these people the biggest hug. Especially Anna. I’m so sorry she went through all that :(
Worst thing is when u don't even get breakup text, no closure.
That just make things worse than anything.
True!
Absolutely
For me, I got a message asking me something but then no closure.
I got blocked. That's it. No text, no email, no calls, no closure. NOTHING. It hurts. That was 4 years ago. Last year, I found someone who genuinely cared about me and we were in a relationship. Now we are going through a rough patch. We are on a break. I guess he wants to break up. We had a fight, and instead of dealing with the conflict, he decided to take a break. That was a month ago. Why can't I find someone who doesn't want to give up on the relationship! They all want roses, but no thorns. A relationship is not just about sweet moments, it's also about fights and arguments. I guess there is something wrong with me. This guy is truly a nice guy.
the most painful thing i've ever been told is literally nothing. silent treatment is the worst thing.
Y'all really need to start giving these people a dose of their own medicines. If a man tells you "Believe what you want" you better leave their ass on read. Forever.
I feel like a good response to it would be "That’s not what I want to believe but it’s the truth"
@@moka9871 people like them do not even deserve a single text after that move
Haha yes. That's what I did 👍
@Justine Padilla I hope his ass in jail, I'm so sorry that happened to you
@Justine Padilla That's just horrible. If he was like in his teens, imagine him as an adult. I hope no one else becomes a victim to someone like that. I'm glad you're alive and well, stay safe, have a nice day
The last girl's testimony was so hard to hear.
@Elias Ziad where does it say that she cheated?
Elias Ziad okay but you are being rude??? NO ONE deserves a miscarriage. No matter what they did. You’re very silly to type something so disheartening. If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say it at all.
Brittle Fondness unless they’re a male then everyone would joke about him
Yes. Too bad she dated a total scumbag. I imagine you would know by that point what kind of person you are with
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why on earth would anyone want to keep their breakup text saved.. I would delete everything to get it out of sight and eventually out of mind
A life motivation maybe? To remember the past mistakes so wouldn't repeat again on future? Couldn't move on? As reminder why they move on from that ex? That's the possibilities I could think and relate to myself too.
Damn break ups are bad themselves but through a text must be harder like imagine randomly sitting on your phone and you get a text expecting something different... something happier
Stay strong Guys and know your worth!! :)
F. H. literally how it is. i was just chillin listening to music and then i get a text message from her after she ignored me for a week and barely responded. reading that text felt so impersonal, she said she was getting really overwhelmed but it’s like so you’re doing this make yourself feel less stressed and your solution was to break up with me over text to and make yourself feel better and release your stress at my expense? gotcha. thanks i thought you’d care about me. did you think of how that would affect me like?? so yeah don’t break up with people over text.
Yeah it’s absolutely rough especially when they refuse to meet in person.
My ex broke up with me via text when i was shopping at a mall without any real reason and not willing to answer any questions, it's reall shitty, though 6 months later when we spoke about it she told me the reason and actually got together again for like 6 years then we ended the thing again but this time it was in person
It happened to me yesterday when I was at work. I stayed late to try to catch up on things and he sent me the text and I wasn’t able to catch up like I wanted to. It hurt so much because he was being pretty unresponsive but I figured he just had a lot of work. I was wrong
I dated this guy for about a month, he broke up with me. A few months later he said he wanted me back, I missed him too so we got back together. It was great for a total of 4 days. The last 2 days were us barely talking. I tried to reach out to him via text trying to deny what I already knew was coming. That's when he told me he didn't like me anymore. It really sucked. I still like him but I know I can't be with him again. He'll just get bored of me like he always does and I can't put myself through that.
For the lady who had a miscarriage, you dodged a bullet, that is one human being you are lucky not to be in a relationship with, he showed his true colours
It seemed more like the guy was tired of her reaching out to him after the breakup. Look at the texts above the ones she focuses on. You'll notice something like that.
Uche Godslove That doesn’t make how he reacted okay
She cheated on him
Ditto..Exactly the sentence which I exclaimed when I heard her story.
@@Meme-oz9ux wait whut
Wow he lent her $600 and she ghosted me. That’s so messed up.
sometimes is not a loss but just the cost to realize the shitty person who was with you
@@kwasylar3215 it was 600 dollars
@@contrametheus could have been worse
I gaved a guy who i was dating for 1,5 year 500 euro, he gaved it back but after he gaved it back he kind of cheated on me for 2 months. He totally manipulated me. I was a total fool cuz i knew. I never should had helped him. He would had lost his house then.
@@kwasylar3215 If you owe someone money, you pay them back, or risk getting sued, and if you get sued, don't expect any sympathy because you won't get it. Personally, that guy is a bit dull for giving his partner anything more than $0.00, but I suppose I'm just a lot less nicer. If I was dating someone and she asked for money, I'd tell her to start applying for jobs, because I'd rather set my money on fire than to give it to someone else.
4:44 just like how my ex was. it’s so degrading and sad talking to someone who treats you this way. my heart goes out to anna, she deserves the world. the karma will find that guy as it should, and i pray she finds the happiness she truly deserves ☹️
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I want an update on the girl who had a miscarriage. I am sure she found her peace and happiness, but want an update :/
I’m doing very well now :)
@@annachristine5295 THANK GOD
@@annachristine5295 Yay we're so happy to hear
@@annachristine5295 clearly this guy had been a red flag the whole time. Can not such guyz exist in this world shame to even call him a man , a true man would never even think of doing this.
@@annachristine5295 *can not believe ... I am glad u have moved on and doing fine now , I am so happy for u🙏😇👍 best of wishes to u may u find ur happiness
“She owed me something in person, I thought what we had was more real than that.” Ouch...can relate....
That girl Anna looks like a sweet, loving, caring, and beautiful girl. She deserves so much better I just want to give her a huge hug. That’s something huge to tell someone, and you should not take that lightly. People need to be less selfish. But Anna by the off chance that you are reading this, me and others are here for you don’t hesitate to talk to us. Not everyone is like that douche.
To everyone who’s gone through a painful breakup: please don’t give up. It’s a really hard experience to go through but there are so many amazing people out there who would love to date you. Your future holds so many beautiful possibilities. And everyone is beautiful and amazing enough to deserve them. Please talk to a trusted friend or family member or your doctor if you feel that it would help you with your emotions regarding the breakup or anything else you’re struggling with.
BethTheVegetarianChef ^^ 100% true coming from me who’s been dumped twice by the same person through text .
Needed this
Jordan I’m glad that helped and I’m really sorry you’re going through a hard time.
I confirm this is true. It DOES get better! Just keep going and one day, you'll realize things r much better!
Thanks for that. I was broken up with almost a year ago and I’m still fucked up over him some days. It doesn’t hurt as much as it used to, but it still does and I think about him almost every day. Oh well.
Interviewer: “Do you have any break up texts?”
Person: “No”
Interviewer: “Ok”
What else were they meant to say lol
The last girl deserves the world honestly
Kenide G yes because no one has had it worse than her
Turtle Man I cant tell if you are being sarcastic, but just because some one has had it worse than her doesn’t mean this girl can’t get sympathy from others, wishing her the best in life.
Greek_Fire ya but he whole world
Turtle Man I think it’s a metaphor
@@andicarusfell8387 she literally cheated on him the pregnancy was with another guy, i really hope she gets the worst out of life
My Respect Level with the third guy in the cap through 0:31 seconds - 0:35 seconds was skyrocketing! Any Breakups through text is truly painful, even if it depends on the ex and what happened between the relationship. Secondly I just wanna give Anna A huge Hug.❤️
You Deserve Better Boo😥❤️
anna, i’m so sorry. you deserve SO MUCH BETTER, love. YOU ARE A QUEEN WHO DESERVES THE WORLD.
Nobody deserves the world
You don't even know her.....🙄
Never end a relationship with a text, that's a coward move.
Facts 💯
or a phonecall........at half 8 in the morning.....at the start of your day !!!
@@360chrisflip geezz sorry that happened to u. What a scumbag
May I ask who the third person is, in your profile picture
I wish I broke up with my ex through text. She deserved it
god, anna’s broke my heart. you’re extremely strong, anna💞
i want to give anna a hug so bad. she deserves all the happiness she can get
The girl in the black shirt’s ex boyfriend is just like my boyfriend now. When I don’t believe what he says, he’s always like “ok believe what you want. If you don’t believe me, dont believe me at all” it pisses me off
Siti Natasha same tho, & that’s on gaslighting 😬
I am sorry if I am overstepping, but have to say it. That relationship is toxic and you need to get out. You deserve more.
@@liyaannmary9156 Facts my ex was just like this. It's like "ur peace of mind means nothing to me you are not worth explaining anything to"
Siti Natasha gurl, confront with your bf. spill to him that you’re not feeling right whenever he say that and act in a such way. sometimes someone needs a knock on their head cuz they think it was okay to say or do certain things which will bring more harm than the good. love is consist of trust, respect, honesty, communication, etc. kadang2 orang buat macam tu sebab takda siapa pernah confront in a good way to fix that. and kita orang perempuan selalunya merajuk je bila marah atau terasa hati which orang lelaki malas nak layan 😂
MANSPLANING, gurrrll runnnnn.
The girl who had a Miscarriage, it's not even okay to act like that to a stranger that tells you she's going through that, no matter if you're with them or not, i don't know if it's just how i am and raised, but if some random girl told me that and i could see she really needed to talk, i would take the time of my day to listen to her. People treat each other so wrong, and it's starting to just be "normal" it's a bit sad.
he is a cold asshole, who wanted to get his rocks off, after he dumped her and she finds out she had a miscarriage, at least be relieved and give her a shoulder she could cry on. what a dosh-bag
He sounds quite angry even before she told him about her miscarriage. This makes me think she hurt him badly (hence why they broke up.) Considering he doesn’t want to hear what she has to say, it slightly implies that she could have lied, cheated or something similar. Personally think he was painted in a very bad light and this doesn’t need to be the actual truth. If a person hurt me badly, I really would not want to talk to them anymore, and certainly not try to comfort them.
@@blu7355 I absolutely think it the same way
@Elias Ziad fornication? do you mean cheating? If so how do you know that she did that
@Elias Ziad how can you be so rude?
I feel so bad for Anna... At least give her the time to hear her out, come on bruh.
Edit: WOW HELLO EVERYONE.
Growth Spurt or he can sleep
only 270 likes chill tf out
goof ayyo thank you!
my ex did the same to me 😞I have a colaps after a week we broke up I didnt eat or drink nothing I went to hospital and he doesnt even care
@@laraahmeti2113 because its not his problem you should have learned to move on if he broke up with you he obviously doesn't care for you anymore so why should he care if you stop eating or drinking that's your fault and you aren't entitled to empathy
I got teary eyed with the last one, That is just horrible. so sad.
no offense , i get this is sad at all buutttt
*who breaks up with someone through text...*
A lot of people
i broke up with my best friend (5+years friendship) through text...
Seth Colby some jerks do that
People that want to escape
A break up text is better than completely ghosting atleast.
the girl that talked to the guy about his screensaver really resonated with me. people get so defensive and manipulative when they're caught in the act. and it's so hurtful when you care deeply about the person and the relationship. seriously can relate to that intense gaslighting and guilting.
i hope anna found someone or will find someone that will care and love her more than she'll do
she really deserves to be loved
Those who break up over text messages do not deserve to be in any new relationship.
👍true sir
Legend has it that the guy is still waiting for his $600.
As he literally said in the video
Na he got paid in sex u get me 😉
Mark Drekaj hope bad karma comes back around and really kicks her up the ass
WeeItsNookies not everyone is like that dude! That’s messed up.
riya varman girl lighten up and look around most women are manipulative and out for the easy way in life which is sex for money
My heart aches for Anna. I am floored at the lack of sensitivity from that guy. Nobody deserves to feel abandoned like that.
gosh this is heartbreaking... why do breakups have to be so toxic. It almost always ends in one person being terrible and selfish. If I ever have a break up, I want it to be mature, understanding, healthy, and at least a little bit mutual. Not something haunting and devastating 💔
but we have to understand that what you just said is something me and you want :)) when your partner doesn't want the same thing and would rather just dump you on a whim (and without reason or explanation), then you have to remember that they were the immature. you didn't want to be dumped, you wanted a healthy breakup. so you tried your best to handle it like a grown up :)))
hahaaa that's my opinion on my own recent breakup!
@@bizarrehuh8076 Thank you, this does make sense. I've never actually been in a relationship, but I'll consider your advice when the time comes. I really hope you're doing well on your break up atm! Have a great day/night
I think it ends that way BECAUSE one person is terrible and selfish
6:30 this was not easy to listen and see her reaction. I hope he has the decency to apologise. She is so bloody strong!
I wanted to jump through the screen and give Anna such a big hug. She deserves so much better than that boy. I hope she's doing okay ♡
That girl that had a miscarriage, I want to hug her so bad. 😔😔😔
yes because she literally cheated on her ex and had a miscarriage and had the audacity to see if her ex still cares
Alisha Jackson yea no....the man was probably really hurt by her actions.
soundye stop saying that ! Are you trolling?! You don’t know that.
@@soundye seems u know her pretty well. Are u the ex or what
Alisha Jackson ...And I’m saying that it’s probably not his child
Texts are the most freaking cowardly way to break up with someone.
Well it depends. I went for that method in my last breakup and since the person hasn't been honest through the relationship, I valued my time too precious to waste face to face and so, the text happened. It depends who is on the receiving end...
I used to believe the same until I wanted to leave my unhealthy, manipulative relationship and I had to resort to text after trying to break up with him twice before in person only to be guilted out of it and continually gaslit. It really depends on the situation when it comes down to it.
Its better than ghosting
It depends. I spent months trying to bring up courage to breakup with my ex, only for covid to happen. And even after six months, we weren't able to meet and I couldn't emotionally stay in that relationship anymore so I broke up over text. I do wish I could have done it face-to-face but I don't regret breaking up. Its so much better to break up than staying in a manipulative, toxic relationship.
Not if you have an only texting relationship too
I hope Sam didn't lose her romanticism and hope for a deep connection after that experience. Investing in someone is risky, but it also shows the beauty you hold inside.
6:24 "It's hard to move on when there's that constant reminder of what could have been"
the fact that the girl was crying and still smiling through the pain, she’s so fucken strong and I hope everything gets better for her🥺
I bet the start of the chat was "You're smart and funny" and when they broke up it's "You think you know everything and it's all just a joke to you!"
Just A Dio Who's A Hero For Fun i remember my ex bf texted me this lmao it hurts
To the girl with the miscarriage, I’m so sorry you had to go through that and for the loss of your baby… you have a forever angel looking on you now and wish you the best with someone who will give you the care and love you and your babies deserve
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I would love to see their exes side of this. Whenever you listen to one parties side of the breakup it always seems they’re the victim, but we really dont know the full story that led to these final texts. The ones that seemed extremely dismissive could’ve have been through years of toxicity or even cheating, causing them to not want anything to do with the other person. Idk, some of the way things were phrased makes me question who was really in the wrong
I had this with my ex gf. She was manipulating and lying and then I just stop caring and said this is it. Please leave me alone. And she was txting me like crazy, making herself look like a victim and it was all my fault that I broke her heart cuz I didn’t care. The past didn't matter, cuz those girls are like "ME, NOW!"
i had this with a friendship breakup. it hurt my heart to act like i was indifferent over text but honestly after all teh toxicity i wouldnt want to cave in, in person. im not that strong. better to cut it off and move on
Very true
noticed ur name, would you like some tea? ☕️🍃💚
I mean...all of it is written out over text so, both sides are already seen and they've all said their piece. I don't think we need to see the side of the guy who is currently in a relationship with the girl he cheated on his ex with nor the side of the guy who has zero empathy for the girl who had a miscarriage.
The dating game destroys people, especially when its constant for years.
Absolutely, especially the hook up culture. It's so wrong going around trying people on like socks. It's a childish destructive narrative and it's causing a lot of problems. You lose yourself, get under control of your own ego rather than vice versa, expose yourself and everyone else to risks af all kinds. It saddens me how popular it is to behave like that nowadays.
@Bugler55 then how?
@Bugler55 I am tired of dating games, unfortunatelly I cannot seem to find any suitable partner for the whole life. I am really unlucky. 😥😪
Queen Sephine too true.
@@lorep7412 then stop LOOKIG FOR a partner. Love can not be forced...it happens out of the blue
I deleted all the medias that remind of him, his phone number, email, etc. Like he never existed in my life right in the first place.
Nurul Fathiyah Saad I did the same thing sister! Don’t want to be reminded of someone that hurt me and come across it and have the hurt come back.
Same love. My ex did me extremely dirty so I cut her out completely. Be strong you'll find someone better.
Yes me too, i even tried do not hold my phone for sometimes
hahaha me too
since she doesn't care anymore about my feeling, I also made her as a pest I need to get rid off. thus the love feeling I have for her has turned into hatred. and I said to her that I regret every single time that we've been together as a compensation of her not giving a single mind about what we've gone through at all..
Though, I also regret I cried while playing a song we used to listen on a guitar to remember her the night before we really broke up.. man, I wasted my feeling for a incompetent partner..
Bad choice
Awww I wish I can give Anna a hug. Stay strong sweetie! You deserve someone way better!
I feel so so bad for that girl who went through a miscarriage. You need people around you. It’s lonely
We must protect Anna at all costs
When she starts crying 6:00 I really wanted to hug her
4:15 that's the most obvious sign of manipulation, making the betrayal about themselves