All women have the ability to be feminine and warm when they feel safe. And that is the problem these relationships out here don't have women feeling SAFE.
@@MulattoStrawberryIt should be conditional. If you're in an abusive relationship, or an unsafe position, your safety comes first, not femininity. Love should be unconditional, not femininity.
I ended my 10 year relationship today. I was taken for granted. I was never able to feel my inner feminine energy for 10 years. Today, i am unlearning my masculine ways and Im so excited to improve myself
Praying before speaking with someone is always helpful for me . I do not know what to say but the Holy Spirit always helps. Staying calm through the conversation helps as well.
I went to church today and afterwards I was talking on the phone to some people. I definitely felt like my tone was more warm and graceful. God changes your aura❤️🌟 Thank you so much for this video ! 🧡
Growing up in a home with a single mum who operates in a highly muscline energy, i always viewed being feminine and soft as a weakness, thank you Dr Michelle for your channel, I have been learning to embrace my femininity... Even though I am struggling with softening the tone of my voice and smiling, I am being patient with myself and through The LORD'S help, I will definitely get there 🥰💝
A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger - Proverbs 15:1 Your videos are always so insightful. The effort you put in is very appreciated!💕
I’m really grateful God led me to your channel, I love how you genuinely care about helping other women be better and I love how you incorporate the Holy Spirit and your journey with your relationship with God! Thank you Dr Michelle for being a great example of what it is to be a woman of God; we definitely need that! I’m excited for my journey and to become a better woman for myself and for this world 🌍
i started saying ‘Hi how have you been?’ instead of ‘hi how are you?’, i think the first one exudes more familiarity and individual interest in the person, it feels more like checking up with a friend, to avoid how the second one feels like an automated response that isn’t as genuine :) thank you Dr. Michelle, you helped me realize the effect thats struggling with a lack of female friends has had on my personality and romantic relationships. I thought of myself as feminine because i dressed feminine and had feminine interests, but i struggle with interacting with others in a masculine way. your videos have helped me so much! and i love that its all in a christian worldview, it really is only possible with God.
Yes, I can see that difference. Thank you for sharing love! And thank you for your kind words. I'm so happy this content has been helpful! God is doing big things in your life. Blessings and love 💋✨💙
It's difficult to be called those negative things by people who have never talked to you or witnessed you speak to anyone. They just see your Black skin and call you aggressive, mean, evil, ect. I have always been soft spoken, feminine, and kind to everyone I interact with. I don't even know how to raise my voice or catch an attitude with people. Even when I'm smiling people have still called that scary. When I was early 20s, I started wearing colored contacts and that made people see me as more approachable and treat me better. It was a sad discovery. I stopped wearing them and my mean reputation is back but I just don't care anymore. I want to learn new ways to come off as warm and soft for my future relationships but not for strangers who would label me without ever being in my presence.
i am sorry you’ve had that experience with people. it is not fair for them to judge you without knowing you, and i’m sure that’s been painful for you. you don’t have to change for anyone. all that matters is you love yourself and if they don’t live you how you are, they don’t have to accept it. you can achieve anything you wish for, including finding that warm part of yourself again. it’s still there underneath. have you ever listened to Toni Jones on spotify?
In my experience as someone who has always been viewed as unapproachable, I found that the reason I was not being warm was because there were things about myself that made me self-conscious like I had a problem with my teeth, and I therefore never used to smile but once I got my teeth fixed smiling was natural. So I think that sometimes you first should deal with yourself, if there are things you can improve and change on then do them and if you cant to be accepting of yourself, be okay with yourself, and your reaction and behaviour towards others will improve a lot. You have got to love all of you and accept all of you to even consider leaning on showing warmth to others. I guess its a thing of being vulnerable or not with things you are self-conscious about....
I can relate😢. I struggle with making friends for fear of being judged. I am generally a nice person but people think that I'm unapproachable and standoffish when I'm just tryna hide my teeth😿
This is the video I needed.. It is very difficult for me to lower my voice when someone yells at me.. I remember as a teenager I would wake up Saturday mornings and make everyone breakfast. At holidays and birthdays, I would make cards with a separate poem for each person. I did all sorts of kind, loving acts. But this was discouraged and I was called selfish and accused of having ulterior motives. I just learned that if I'm kind and loving and show warmth it was bad and I would be criticized. It didn't helpe growing in a black community where being aggressive, fighting and rude was celebrated.
I'm happy to know you needed this. Yes it is difficult when you feel unappreciated or misunderstood. However do not allow other people to change the kind person that you. Their lack of ability to see the truth does not discredit you. You have lots of opposition but staying rooted in truth will always shine through. Thanks for watching love 🤍✨
The moment you began to talk about having a relationship with God, the Holy Spirit, and Jesus, I began to cry. You spoke directly to my spirit. This is your ministry! Thank you so much ♥️
As a 45 year old woman I have always known I was different. I interact with people and especially children very differently then others. It occurred to me last week that I just love making people happy, especially kids. I would say it is probably my defining life principle but I had never put it into words before. I am happy making others happy. It does make me warm. I like that about myself. In my 40's I stopped allowing people to take advantage of that though with clear boundaries. Probably why I like making children happy. They don't take advantage of my kindness. I love your videos. You have such a beautiful spirit. Thank you.
my favorite closing statement when me and someone have to cancel (normally when they cancel) I always let them know it’s totally fine and they don’t have to feel bad for example if they are sick to take care of themselves if they need anything to please call me and if they feel better the offer is still on the table for them to join us at whatever the event was.
This is made for me…. I needed this video been really emotional lately, especially today … and I did not know how to express my self, and try not to exude anger on someone else, but I failed miserably 😪… thank you Dr Michelle … I will try practicing what you said
You're welcome honey. It isn't easy and it takes practice. Forgive yourself daily and try again. You are human and will fall short. That's how you grow. Kisses 💋✨
I love this ! I am beautiful I am kind and I am polite, but people often tell me I come off cold at first and they wish they knew how kind I was but they judged me at first. I want to radiate the real me, I won’t always have time get to know people for them to know the real me so I’m finding ways to appear warmer during our first impression
I have the same issue. It takes me time to warm up to people, and it takes them time to warm up to me. Part of that is true for me especially at work because I work a tough physically demanding job in health care and my game face is on, and partly because I’m introverted. I’m warm but it doesn’t always show. I just gotta work on it more.
awww girrrrrrlll, if thats you in your profile pic, you don't come off as cold :( You seem so kind and loving, you are soooooo beautiful and charismatic. I would say you seem confident, but definitely not cold, maybe its the confidence that makes people feel this way. smiling a lot helps actually, you could smile whenever someone talks to you, It would make you feel better about the conversation toooo!! Now listen, you are extremely sweet and I can already see what an incredible, and loving person you are! Take care if yourself!!
Dang. What got me most is the giving the experience of a nice meal on pretty dishes and stuff. I've been just trying to get by. That's how I was raised. A lot of how I was raised is wrong. Thank you so much.
Random strangers have always loved coming up to me to chat about what’s going on in their lives. I always make sure to keep eye contact and listen actively, and having empathy. It makes me feel so wonderful! 🌺💕
You and your content are such wonderful gifts! My mother is very feminine but not very warm to me and I am breaking that cycle with my daughter. Thank you!!
Thank u for keeping it real and being u. My Daughter will be the most Feminine Women I ever encounter all courtesy of u Teaching me these Powerful Poise Steps that I will Teach her unapologetically. On the real before the Year ends I'ma nost definitely put some of the harden Older Ladies in my Family onto u're Channel too u dropping Jewels; again Thank u for being u👑🛐
For those I know, I ask how they are doing and catch up with them. I love hearing that a person is doing better than they were when I last saw them. I try to intentionally include something new that I’ve been doing without putting too much of my business out there. After meeting someone new, I always say “it was nice to meet you!” even if they don’t feel the same 😂, I honestly love meeting new people and I say it even when the interaction wasn’t that impactful. Some people are surprised when I say that to them. I go into all interactions with the awareness that I can learn something from them. So I show that gratitude by saying that. I also include all the people I’ve ever come in contact with in my prayers when I remember to. I truly am thankful for all people I’ve had the opportunity to interact with. They all taught me in some way.
I've always been a warm person since I was a child, and everytime I go out on a date guys notice it. Thank god. They always tell me im kind and caring. but im still watching this video
Thank u so much for this video. I find myself to be a loving, generous, empathetic person, but at the same time, I struggle with vulnerability….a lot! And I think it comes from insecurities I have. I struggle with temper at times, and patience . I was to be more warm, I want to be more open, and smile more. Taking the steps in my feminine journey to be the woman I desire to be. And yes, the presence of the Lord, is like no other. Again, thank u so much for this video. ❤️
Thank you Dr Michelle. Boss! God bless you. Absolutely true, when you are talking with children please give full attention. Listen to every word a child say and ask them questions, look at their body language. I also totally agree if you are talking to someone put all electronics down, look directly in their eyes and be fully present. Great tips! You look absolutely polished. I love groomed people. 🤗🙏
Oh my God. I recently found your videos and I thank God for introducing me to you. As I learn more about God and strengthen my faith, I'm becoming more feminine. I'm being the woman he called me to be. I embody love and I am able to share it with other people because he loves me. Your videos are amazing. You're amazing! Thank you for sharing and creating a space for women to truly discover what it means to be a feminine woman, a woman of God.
I’ve been off work for three weeks with covid so I’ve taken up to listening to your videos, which are great thank you! I went back to work today one of my colleges said oh you’ve changed so much, can you have covid again for another two weeks 😄😄 I’ve slowed down my walking, stopped the profanity 🫢 I speak more softly & slowly lol I guess it could only go one way 😅😅
I have been watching your channel for multiple days. I'm so glad I just found you. I have so much in my life that I have been through that have molded me into someone that I am no longer content with being. I am ready to heal myself elevate out of being hardened and becoming more soft and feminine for myself, my family and for the betterment of my life. Thank-you for sharing you gift with all of us sis. Thank you. 💜💫
Love, love this! I literally started your video when my dad mentioned how he think God wants us to have more “warmth” in our family which we already have so much or but want even more! ❤️❤️ And he was amazed when I told him I had just started a video talking about that! Love your videos! And oh my goodness, I have so often felt the presence of God! Every day in a peaceful way, but in some more dramatic ways too, especially during prayer or worship! ❤️
This is so important thank you! Women are born into a very masculine world and need this information to help put this crazy place into some perspective 💛
I just feel like when I’m warm and nice I attract people who wanna take advantage or those who think my niceness is some kind of weakness so I immediately jump into my masculine energy to guard myself. Once I feel my warmth is misunderstood Or not reciprocated I bounce back and become a beast. I don’t know how to balance 😢
It sounds like you have amazing boundaries if you recognize the malicious intentions of the other person and adjust your energy accordingly. I’d recommend to keep your boundaries strong and to handle those situations with a bit more grace. You don’t necessarily have to be in your masculine to react, you can react with grace and take a mental note of that persons behavior. Stay true to your energy and don’t match other peoples.
Dr. Daf, I’m so grateful that you mentioned that your interaction with the woman with autism. My son has autism and I worry a lot about his socialization. This gives me so much hope about what is possible for his future. Thank you!
Ways to exude warmth and kindness : “by the way it’s okay to lack a skill, that doesn’t make you a bad person, we all lack something, we keep learning and remembering what we learned all our lives ;)” -watch your tone : speak slower, lower your volume, be present in the moment, don’t use sharp words, don’t talk when you are in a rush or tired, use warm openings and closings in emails -body language : leaning into the person, eye contact, be present, nod, smile a lot, look engaged, turn head to the right side, facial expressions to show emotions and empathy, stay off of multitasking when interacting, touch : hug, hand on back -love for others : when you genuinely love you will do things with love, you will call to check up on them, send cards, intentional openings and closings : how was your weekend, have a wonderful day/weekend, I appreciate this exchange and wish you well, compliment something they put effort into
Sister God bless you, I have been warm and caring but people take disadvantage of me. I am 46 and I am really really really trying with the help of God, to be warm calm and intelligent towards others especially if am been attacked or treated with disrespect. I know now that their are no excuse for our behavior as black women, thank you thank you thank you for been and showing that warmness that you have. so we can see you as an example for us who are struggling. Blessings to you
I think a lot of women feel cold or intimidating as a way of protection. I know when I don’t feel comfortable or safe around a person or situation I have my guard up and can come off as cold or not approachable. Makes a huge difference for me.
Hey Dr,😊 you always make me feel not guilty of not having good quality. But you always show me that as an opportunity to get better. That 😊 makes me visit your channel frequently. And pray for us so that we could get better in life ❤️❤️🙏
Como ser una mujer femenina cálida - Tono + Modular tu voz, hacerla más lenta. + No usar groserías,no gritar. + Prestar toda tu atención en las conversaciones. + Al escribir un mensaje, usar un vocabulario amable, puedes usar emojis. -Postura + No cruzar los brazos, ver de lado a lado,fruncir las cejas. + Inclinarse un poco hacia la persona, hacer contacto visual, sonreír,girqr un poco la cabeza cuando alguien habla. + Tocar a las personas, de una manera delicada. + Evitar el multitasking (una cosa a la vez) - Amor por otras personas + Hacer actos de servicio por otras personas (celebrar sus logros, enviar algo cuando sea una fecha especial...) + Si escuchas que algo pasa con alguien a tu alrededor, mostrar apoyo (estas cansada-yo te cuido a los niños) (Como fue tu fin de semana) + Hacer cumplidos.
I really have never known that there's a stereotype about black women. I've read about it on social media; but I've never understood when I read about it, especially because black women seem to me to be the most accepting, warm people on the earth.
Wow, I had no clue that these qualities were considered warm. Despite being raised in a crazy environment, I actually possess all of these traits but I still will continue to work on myself. The most high is not finished with me yet! Thank you Dr. Daf for being obedient and making these videos. They help more than you know.❤💐
I’ve been praying to God to help me and change me and today this video came up on my home page and it hit everything I feel I needed to know, thank you for always leading us to him. I love your videos and appreciate your wisdom 🤍
I came upon your channel a few days and I have been blessed by your videos on feminine energy. I am working on my feminine energy. I am also going to work on being warm. God is still working on me. I am a work in progress. Thank you for sharing your knowledge on empowering women.
I love this video. I struggle with this due to my upbringing and owning a business. Thank you for making a video on this particular subject. Great content!❤
I m not able to show my emotions. I don't know what about my mental condition but I m not able to vent out my emotions. I just want to be emotional with my husband or my good friends not with anyone else. I guess my all babies will be my best healing.
Dear Dr. Michelle, I am new to your challel, discovered it by accident which i am very greatfull for. I love, love your opening " hello my loves" so warm and welcoming. I am a Bahai and appreciate how you infused God and Chirst in your lessons. All the feminine qualities you discuss are spiritual attributes mentioned in all the Holly Writings of different religions. What a refreshing and interesting way to present them and encourage us to practice them whiling looking our best selves. Thank you love! God bless you!!
Thank you so much for your channel. As someone in the military I often felt I had to “fit” in with the guys. But I’m finding thru your channel I can be feminine even if my job isn’t traditionally a feminine job.
Thank you beautiful Dr Mitchell, I believe I have been affected by different situations that makes want to be less vulnerable towards people and act defensive that I seem to portray a masculine and bossy behavior which I really do not want to act. This video has been a blessing to me ,Thank you so much. I choose to live a beautiful feminine life wholistically.
What a blessing this morning to see a message from you✨ Thank you and as always I pray the Father blesses you in all your endeavors 10fold in Christ Jesus name amen 🙏🏽
I have learned so much from you. Believe it or not, I give your videos a listen and circle back months later and can tell the difference in my personality ,my heart, how aware I have become as to how I come off to others--even my children lol and how I receive others. Thank you so much. I'm sure I'll be back a 3rd time before the year is out. This content is so edifying and it truly resonates with me---many of us,I'm sure!
I absolutely am so thankful for such an amazing women of God like you. You are such a blessing to my heart and I appreciate all the tips and advice you always give.💞💞💞
For those I know, I ask how they are doing and catch up with them. I love hearing that a person is doing better than when the last time I saw them. I try to intentionally include something new that I’ve been doing without putting too much of my business out there. After meeting someone new, I always say “it was nice to meet you!” even if they don’t feel the same 😂, I honestly love meeting new people and I say it even when the interaction wasn’t that impactful. Some people are surprised when I say that to them. I take all interactions with the awareness that I can learn something from them. So I show that gratitude by saying that. I also include the people I’ve ever come in contact with in my prayers when I am in conversation with God. I truly am thankful for all people I’ve had the opportunity to interact with.
I like to ask store cashiers about their day by name and actually respond based on their comment .Also when I'm closing a conversation with someone who will be doing something to help /aid me I always say "name, thank you for your time today ".
I suffer from really bad anxiety I haven't left my room in years I never had friends and I have trouble socializing but when I do start talking I find myself yelling or talking aggressively because most people cant hear me as mostly I'm soft spoken so my voice comes off rude I'm trying to make up for my anxiety
Thank you so much for this. I’ve been struggling to be a warm woman and this is what I needed. You’re such a blessing and I’m glad I found your channel ❤️
Thank you Dr.Michelle. i have this problem. I am so cold at times and I am an introvert but I am trying to change that. I declided to enrol in ballet classes to soften my movements. Thank you for that suggestion.😊
Happy new year! Thank you gorgeous for all your tips on being more feminine and cultivate love and joy. Especially during these hard times , the world needs more love and compassion, which are feminine traits 🤗🤗🤗🤗
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All women have the ability to be feminine and warm when they feel safe. And that is the problem these relationships out here don't have women feeling SAFE.
It should be about who you are or working to be, not who someone else is making you be.
That’s conditional femininity.
I agree
@@MulattoStrawberryIt should be conditional. If you're in an abusive relationship, or an unsafe position, your safety comes first, not femininity. Love should be unconditional, not femininity.
Well said
You've taught me to slow down. I slowed my walking and people have been more courteous, and I slowed my speaking and it softens people, so thank you
That's great to hear honey! You are so welcome 💋
I ended my 10 year relationship today. I was taken for granted. I was never able to feel my inner feminine energy for 10 years. Today, i am unlearning my masculine ways and Im so excited to improve myself
I'm happy for you. Immerse yourself in your feminine grace and celebrate❤
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Praying before speaking with someone is always helpful for me . I do not know what to say but the Holy Spirit always helps. Staying calm through the conversation helps as well.
That is goooood!! I do it too and it makes a big difference! Thanks for sharing 🤍💋
Beautiful ✨
Wow I'm gonna try this, thank you.
True
I’ll try this for a week too!
I went to church today and afterwards I was talking on the phone to some people. I definitely felt like my tone was more warm and graceful. God changes your aura❤️🌟 Thank you so much for this video ! 🧡
Amazing!!!! He really does and it's shocking sometimes 🤍✨✨
Amen sistah! A little mindful goes a long way for all of us ✨
Yes he definitely does. You are truly in your divine essence he’s my 1st husband so I’m able to rest in him. 😊🥰 oh how I love me some YESHUA.
Growing up in a home with a single mum who operates in a highly muscline energy, i always viewed being feminine and soft as a weakness, thank you Dr Michelle for your channel, I have been learning to embrace my femininity... Even though I am struggling with softening the tone of my voice and smiling, I am being patient with myself and through The LORD'S help, I will definitely get there 🥰💝
Same sis ❤️
Feel ya.
I feel yo, I'm struggling with my voice when I'm speaking and smiling too☹️🤦🏾♀️
A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger - Proverbs 15:1
Your videos are always so insightful. The effort you put in is very appreciated!💕
Amen, sure does!!! 🎀✨
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I’m really grateful God led me to your channel, I love how you genuinely care about helping other women be better and I love how you incorporate the Holy Spirit and your journey with your relationship with God! Thank you Dr Michelle for being a great example of what it is to be a woman of God; we definitely need that! I’m excited for my journey and to become a better woman for myself and for this world 🌍
Thank you so much honey. You are most welcome. Thank you for your support! 🤍✨✨
God is really working on my hear...he's transforming me and showing me how to be a woman. Thank you Lord!
as a young girl who has social anxiety these seem difficult but i think we should all try our best ladies! thank you Michelle ❤️❤️
Difficult will grow you and you will be so happy you did it. I'm here to help. You're most welcome sweetheart 🤍🎀✨
me too & i'm also right there with you, thanks Michelle
I also struggle with social anxiety 😭
I needed this, sending you warm wishes. Thank you.
That's it!!
i started saying ‘Hi how have you been?’ instead of ‘hi how are you?’, i think the first one exudes more familiarity and individual interest in the person, it feels more like checking up with a friend, to avoid how the second one feels like an automated response that isn’t as genuine :) thank you Dr. Michelle, you helped me realize the effect thats struggling with a lack of female friends has had on my personality and romantic relationships. I thought of myself as feminine because i dressed feminine and had feminine interests, but i struggle with interacting with others in a masculine way. your videos have helped me so much! and i love that its all in a christian worldview, it really is only possible with God.
Yes, I can see that difference. Thank you for sharing love! And thank you for your kind words. I'm so happy this content has been helpful! God is doing big things in your life. Blessings and love 💋✨💙
This is exactly how I feel!
It's difficult to be called those negative things by people who have never talked to you or witnessed you speak to anyone. They just see your Black skin and call you aggressive, mean, evil, ect. I have always been soft spoken, feminine, and kind to everyone I interact with. I don't even know how to raise my voice or catch an attitude with people. Even when I'm smiling people have still called that scary. When I was early 20s, I started wearing colored contacts and that made people see me as more approachable and treat me better. It was a sad discovery. I stopped wearing them and my mean reputation is back but I just don't care anymore. I want to learn new ways to come off as warm and soft for my future relationships but not for strangers who would label me without ever being in my presence.
i am sorry you’ve had that experience with people. it is not fair for them to judge you without knowing you, and i’m sure that’s been painful for you. you don’t have to change for anyone. all that matters is you love yourself and if they don’t live you how you are, they don’t have to accept it. you can achieve anything you wish for, including finding that warm part of yourself again. it’s still there underneath. have you ever listened to Toni Jones on spotify?
In my experience as someone who has always been viewed as unapproachable, I found that the reason I was not being warm was because there were things about myself that made me self-conscious like I had a problem with my teeth, and I therefore never used to smile but once I got my teeth fixed smiling was natural. So I think that sometimes you first should deal with yourself, if there are things you can improve and change on then do them and if you cant to be accepting of yourself, be okay with yourself, and your reaction and behaviour towards others will improve a lot. You have got to love all of you and accept all of you to even consider leaning on showing warmth to others. I guess its a thing of being vulnerable or not with things you are self-conscious about....
Yup! This is major and I talk about this more in my podcast. I'm happy you were able to realize the root cause. Thank you for sharing love 🤍✨
It's the same for me! I was in "prison" because of my teeth
I can relate😢. I struggle with making friends for fear of being judged. I am generally a nice person but people think that I'm unapproachable and standoffish when I'm just tryna hide my teeth😿
@@lynn3724 Girl find a way to fix them, you don't necessarily need an expensive procedure visit your detnist and see what options you have.
This is so true and hard at the same time. Vulnerability is scary
This is the video I needed.. It is very difficult for me to lower my voice when someone yells at me..
I remember as a teenager I would wake up Saturday mornings and make everyone breakfast. At holidays and birthdays, I would make cards with a separate poem for each person. I did all sorts of kind, loving acts. But this was discouraged and I was called selfish and accused of having ulterior motives. I just learned that if I'm kind and loving and show warmth it was bad and I would be criticized. It didn't helpe growing in a black community where being aggressive, fighting and rude was celebrated.
I'm happy to know you needed this. Yes it is difficult when you feel unappreciated or misunderstood. However do not allow other people to change the kind person that you. Their lack of ability to see the truth does not discredit you. You have lots of opposition but staying rooted in truth will always shine through. Thanks for watching love 🤍✨
The moment you began to talk about having a relationship with God, the Holy Spirit, and Jesus, I began to cry. You spoke directly to my spirit. This is your ministry! Thank you so much ♥️
As a 45 year old woman I have always known I was different. I interact with people and especially children very differently then others. It occurred to me last week that I just love making people happy, especially kids. I would say it is probably my defining life principle but I had never put it into words before. I am happy making others happy. It does make me warm. I like that about myself. In my 40's I stopped allowing people to take advantage of that though with clear boundaries. Probably why I like making children happy. They don't take advantage of my kindness. I love your videos. You have such a beautiful spirit. Thank you.
my favorite closing statement when me and someone have to cancel (normally when they cancel) I always let them know it’s totally fine and they don’t have to feel bad for example if they are sick to take care of themselves if they need anything to please call me and if they feel better the offer is still on the table for them to join us at whatever the event was.
Your whole Feminine Rehab series is amazing. May God bless you.
Thank you honey, God bless you too
Everything is warm and relaxing about this video 🥰
Good morning, gorgeous. 👑🌺🌺 Always dropping gems, my lady. Shine on in 2022⭐🌟⭐🌟
Aww thank you my love! 💋💋
Not youuuu posting this when I was praying about this yesterday! Thank you, Aunty Michelle !
God is faithful 🤍✨
This is made for me…. I needed this video been really emotional lately, especially today … and I did not know how to express my self, and try not to exude anger on someone else, but I failed miserably 😪… thank you Dr Michelle … I will try practicing what you said
You're welcome honey. It isn't easy and it takes practice. Forgive yourself daily and try again. You are human and will fall short. That's how you grow. Kisses 💋✨
I love this ! I am beautiful I am kind and I am polite, but people often tell me I come off cold at first and they wish they knew how kind I was but they judged me at first. I want to radiate the real me, I won’t always have time get to know people for them to know the real me so I’m finding ways to appear warmer during our first impression
I have the same issue. It takes me time to warm up to people, and it takes them time to warm up to me. Part of that is true for me especially at work because I work a tough physically demanding job in health care and my game face is on, and partly because I’m introverted. I’m warm but it doesn’t always show. I just gotta work on it more.
awww girrrrrrlll, if thats you in your profile pic, you don't come off as cold :( You seem so kind and loving, you are soooooo beautiful and charismatic. I would say you seem confident, but definitely not cold, maybe its the confidence that makes people feel this way. smiling a lot helps actually, you could smile whenever someone talks to you, It would make you feel better about the conversation toooo!! Now listen, you are extremely sweet and I can already see what an incredible, and loving person you are! Take care if yourself!!
Dang. What got me most is the giving the experience of a nice meal on pretty dishes and stuff. I've been just trying to get by. That's how I was raised. A lot of how I was raised is wrong. Thank you so much.
my mother was a hard, cold, harsh person and I DONT WANT TO GET THAT thank you i love your channel ty ty ty i want to be like you
Random strangers have always loved coming up to me to chat about what’s going on in their lives. I always make sure to keep eye contact and listen actively, and having empathy. It makes me feel so wonderful! 🌺💕
That is so wonderful! I am glad people feel comfortable to do this around you! Thanks for sharing 🤍✨✨
I am still on my feminine journey, and it seems like there is a lot of work to do. Thanks Dr Michelle and be blessed!
You and your content are such wonderful gifts! My mother is very feminine but not very warm to me and I am breaking that cycle with my daughter. Thank you!!
Thank you so much babe! I'm happy you are breaking the cycle. Blessings and love to you on your journey 💋✨✨
Now we are talking. 19:00 empathy is the key. 23:00 yes!
Thank u for keeping it real and being u. My Daughter will be the most Feminine Women I ever encounter all courtesy of u Teaching me these Powerful Poise Steps that I will Teach her unapologetically. On the real before the Year ends I'ma nost definitely put some of the harden Older Ladies in my Family onto u're Channel too u dropping Jewels; again Thank u for being u👑🛐
For those I know, I ask how they are doing and catch up with them. I love hearing that a person is doing better than they were when I last saw them. I try to intentionally include something new that I’ve been doing without putting too much of my business out there. After meeting someone new, I always say “it was nice to meet you!” even if they don’t feel the same 😂, I honestly love meeting new people and I say it even when the interaction wasn’t that impactful. Some people are surprised when I say that to them. I go into all interactions with the awareness that I can learn something from them. So I show that gratitude by saying that. I also include all the people I’ve ever come in contact with in my prayers when I remember to. I truly am thankful for all people I’ve had the opportunity to interact with. They all taught me in some way.
I've always been a warm person since I was a child, and everytime I go out on a date guys notice it. Thank god. They always tell me im kind and caring.
but im still watching this video
That is beautiful. Keep shining!
Thank u so much for this video. I find myself to be a loving, generous, empathetic person, but at the same time, I struggle with vulnerability….a lot! And I think it comes from insecurities I have. I struggle with temper at times, and patience . I was to be more warm, I want to be more open, and smile more. Taking the steps in my feminine journey to be the woman I desire to be. And yes, the presence of the Lord, is like no other. Again, thank u so much for this video. ❤️
1. Tone
2. Posture
2. Love for other people...
and STOP cussin :)
Stop cussing 😂😂🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
🙌🏾
Thank you Dr Michelle. Boss! God bless you. Absolutely true, when you are talking with children please give full attention. Listen to every word a child say and ask them questions, look at their body language. I also totally agree if you are talking to someone put all electronics down, look directly in their eyes and be fully present. Great tips! You look absolutely polished. I love groomed people. 🤗🙏
Oh my God. I recently found your videos and I thank God for introducing me to you. As I learn more about God and strengthen my faith, I'm becoming more feminine. I'm being the woman he called me to be. I embody love and I am able to share it with other people because he loves me. Your videos are amazing. You're amazing! Thank you for sharing and creating a space for women to truly discover what it means to be a feminine woman, a woman of God.
I’ve been off work for three weeks with covid so I’ve taken up to listening to your videos, which are great thank you!
I went back to work today one of my colleges said oh you’ve changed so much, can you have covid again for another two weeks 😄😄
I’ve slowed down my walking, stopped the profanity 🫢
I speak more softly & slowly lol I guess it could only go one way 😅😅
Wow now that's awesome! Praise God!
Wow great good for you!
I enjoyed this video. Thanks for sharing.
Glad you enjoyed it thank you for watching love!
Thank you for pointing out the stigma with us black women & what we’ve taught
It was nice to hear and to know she cares.
It’s so sad that many BW have not been able to rest in their femininity , history has been hard on us
Can't express how much I love you ❤️ you're literally so kind and sweet you make me smile everyday
Aww thank you so much love!
I have been watching your channel for multiple days. I'm so glad I just found you. I have so much in my life that I have been through that have molded me into someone that I am no longer content with being. I am ready to heal myself elevate out of being hardened and becoming more soft and feminine for myself, my family and for the betterment of my life. Thank-you for sharing you gift with all of us sis. Thank you. 💜💫
Love, love this! I literally started your video when my dad mentioned how he think God wants us to have more “warmth” in our family which we already have so much or but want even more! ❤️❤️ And he was amazed when I told him I had just started a video talking about that! Love your videos! And oh my goodness, I have so often felt the presence of God! Every day in a peaceful way, but in some more dramatic ways too, especially during prayer or worship! ❤️
Yes yes yes!! It is the most beautiful experience. And I'm happy you found me love. Thanks for sharing!
@@drmichelledaf you’re so welcome, love that you are doing this! True femininity and classiness can be very rare and underrated nowadays!! ❤️
I feel so sad I have to look up videos like this. Makes me cry.
It's actually beautiful because you desire the help to change. You're in the right place. This is the beginning of your journey 🤍💕✨
Thank you. Everytime I watch these kind of videos, I instantly feel more calm and centered in the feminine, nurturing essence.
🌟Happy New Year Dr. Michelle!🌟
You are truly a blessing to the UA-cam community!🙏💕🙏
Much Love & Many Blessings! Kenya❤
Aww thank you so much love!! Happy New Year to you too and God bless you 🤍✨
This is so important thank you! Women are born into a very masculine world and need this information to help put this crazy place into some perspective 💛
I just feel like when I’m warm and nice I attract people who wanna take advantage or those who think my niceness is some kind of weakness so I immediately jump into my masculine energy to guard myself. Once I feel my warmth is misunderstood Or not reciprocated I bounce back and become a beast. I don’t know how to balance 😢
It sounds like you have amazing boundaries if you recognize the malicious intentions of the other person and adjust your energy accordingly. I’d recommend to keep your boundaries strong and to handle those situations with a bit more grace. You don’t necessarily have to be in your masculine to react, you can react with grace and take a mental note of that persons behavior.
Stay true to your energy and don’t match other peoples.
Yes, users and abusers are attracted to everyone, they don't discriminate-except against those they've learned won't stand for it
You are a great teacher, and a blessing to some of us!
That is so sweet, thank you love!
Dr. Daf, I’m so grateful that you mentioned that your interaction with the woman with autism. My son has autism and I worry a lot about his socialization. This gives me so much hope about what is possible for his future. Thank you!
It's always a delight to see you, Dr. Michelle
I loved this video…Thank you for the teaching.
I always have been having a warm personality but I would like to work on this more. But I want to be better
Ways to exude warmth and kindness :
“by the way it’s okay to lack a skill, that doesn’t make you a bad person, we all lack something, we keep learning and remembering what we learned all our lives ;)”
-watch your tone : speak slower, lower your volume, be present in the moment, don’t use sharp words, don’t talk when you are in a rush or tired, use warm openings and closings in emails
-body language : leaning into the person, eye contact, be present, nod, smile a lot, look engaged, turn head to the right side, facial expressions to show emotions and empathy, stay off of multitasking when interacting, touch : hug, hand on back
-love for others : when you genuinely love you will do things with love, you will call to check up on them, send cards, intentional openings and closings : how was your weekend, have a wonderful day/weekend, I appreciate this exchange and wish you well, compliment something they put effort into
Sister God bless you, I have been warm and caring but people take disadvantage of me. I am 46 and I am really really really trying with the help of God, to be warm calm and intelligent towards others especially if am been attacked or treated with disrespect. I know now that their are no excuse for our behavior as black women, thank you thank you thank you for been and showing that warmness that you have. so we can see you as an example for us who are struggling. Blessings to you
Amen 🙏🏽 you are so beautiful inside and out! God shines through your essence 🥰
Wow that is so sweet, thank you love!
Glad I stumbled on this site, our voices are important when communicating, tone means everything.
I think a lot of women feel cold or intimidating as a way of protection. I know when I don’t feel comfortable or safe around a person or situation I have my guard up and can come off as cold or not approachable. Makes a huge difference for me.
I love your videos. I pass it on. The worst experience I had recently was a black woman with beauty on the outside but an ugly attitude on the inside.
You have taught me soo much! Thank you.
Hey Dr,😊 you always make me feel not guilty of not having good quality. But you always show me that as an opportunity to get better. That 😊 makes me visit your channel frequently. And pray for us so that we could get better in life ❤️❤️🙏
Como ser una mujer femenina cálida
- Tono
+ Modular tu voz, hacerla más lenta.
+ No usar groserías,no gritar.
+ Prestar toda tu atención en las conversaciones.
+ Al escribir un mensaje, usar un vocabulario amable, puedes usar emojis.
-Postura
+ No cruzar los brazos, ver de lado a lado,fruncir las cejas.
+ Inclinarse un poco hacia la persona, hacer contacto visual, sonreír,girqr un poco la cabeza cuando alguien habla.
+ Tocar a las personas, de una manera delicada.
+ Evitar el multitasking (una cosa a la vez)
- Amor por otras personas
+ Hacer actos de servicio por otras personas (celebrar sus logros, enviar algo cuando sea una fecha especial...)
+ Si escuchas que algo pasa con alguien a tu alrededor, mostrar apoyo (estas cansada-yo te cuido a los niños) (Como fue tu fin de semana)
+ Hacer cumplidos.
Happy new year hun, am learning a lot about femininity on your channel 🙏
I really have never known that there's a stereotype about black women. I've read about it on social media; but I've never understood when I read about it, especially because black women seem to me to be the most accepting, warm people on the earth.
Good morning! Thanks for giving ing me something resourceful to listen to on my way to work.
Good morning sweetie! You're most welcome thank you for listening 💋
This was so inspiring. Thank you so much for this video. I have practiced this for a while now and have definitely seen great results 💕
You're so welcome sweetie! Super happy to hear that!
Such a beautiful speech. As a muslim woman I can relate alot to your input. Thank you for sharing. May God shower you in his blessings.
Wow, I had no clue that these qualities were considered warm. Despite being raised in a crazy environment, I actually possess all of these traits but I still will continue to work on myself. The most high is not finished with me yet! Thank you Dr. Daf for being obedient and making these videos. They help more than you know.❤💐
Im a sophomore in college and I definitely will be using these!!! So glad I found you
I’ve been praying to God to help me and change me and today this video came up on my home page and it hit everything I feel I needed to know, thank you for always leading us to him. I love your videos and appreciate your wisdom 🤍
Good morning! ☀️ thanks for another great video 💕
I came upon your channel a few days and I have been blessed by your videos on feminine energy. I am working on my feminine energy. I am also going to work on being warm. God is still working on me. I am a work in progress. Thank you for sharing your knowledge on empowering women.
Yes sis I feel the warmth in God's presence 🙏 much ❤ love 👋
I love this video. I struggle with this due to my upbringing and owning a business. Thank you for making a video on this particular subject. Great content!❤
I m not able to show my emotions. I don't know what about my mental condition but I m not able to vent out my emotions. I just want to be emotional with my husband or my good friends not with anyone else. I guess my all babies will be my best healing.
Dear Dr. Michelle, I am new to your challel, discovered it by accident which i am very greatfull for. I love, love your opening " hello my loves" so warm and welcoming. I am a Bahai and appreciate how you infused God and Chirst in your lessons. All the feminine qualities you discuss are spiritual attributes mentioned in all the Holly Writings of different religions. What a refreshing and interesting way to present them and encourage us to practice them whiling looking our best selves. Thank you love! God bless you!!
You are like a fresh breeze of air 😍
You're glowing. 😉 Thank u for these great gems. Definitely a struggle for me coming from a family of strong minded women lol.
We share the same struggle😀
Thank you so much for your channel. As someone in the military I often felt I had to “fit” in with the guys. But I’m finding thru your channel I can be feminine even if my job isn’t traditionally a feminine job.
Totally understandable! You are most welcome dear
Thank you beautiful Dr Mitchell, I believe I have been affected by different situations that makes want to be less vulnerable towards people and act defensive that I seem to portray a masculine and bossy behavior which I really do not want to act. This video has been a blessing to me ,Thank you so much. I choose to live a beautiful feminine life wholistically.
What a blessing this morning to see a message from you✨
Thank you and as always I pray the Father blesses you in all your endeavors 10fold in Christ Jesus name amen 🙏🏽
Thank you so very much my darling 💋✨
I have learned so much from you. Believe it or not, I give your videos a listen and circle back months later and can tell the difference in my personality ,my heart, how aware I have become as to how I come off to others--even my children lol and how I receive others. Thank you so much. I'm sure I'll be back a 3rd time before the year is out.
This content is so edifying and it truly resonates with me---many of us,I'm sure!
I absolutely am so thankful for such an amazing women of God like you. You are such a blessing to my heart and I appreciate all the tips and advice you always give.💞💞💞
Wow thank you so much honey!!!
Listening to this video each morning to start my day
Thank you God for Dr. Michelle Daf. 🎉❤😊
For those I know, I ask how they are doing and catch up with them. I love hearing that a person is doing better than when the last time I saw them. I try to intentionally include something new that I’ve been doing without putting too much of my business out there. After meeting someone new, I always say “it was nice to meet you!” even if they don’t feel the same 😂, I honestly love meeting new people and I say it even when the interaction wasn’t that impactful. Some people are surprised when I say that to them. I take all interactions with the awareness that I can learn something from them. So I show that gratitude by saying that. I also include the people I’ve ever come in contact with in my prayers when I am in conversation with God. I truly am thankful for all people I’ve had the opportunity to interact with.
That is beautiful honey 🤍 thank you for sharing ✨
I like to ask store cashiers about their day by name and actually respond based on their comment .Also when I'm closing a conversation with someone who will be doing something to help /aid me I always say "name, thank you for your time today ".
Thank you so much and i'm struggle with this, inside me i'm warm and play full, but life experienced teach me to be tough
I suffer from really bad anxiety I haven't left my room in years I never had friends and I have trouble socializing but when I do start talking I find myself yelling or talking aggressively because most people cant hear me as mostly I'm soft spoken so my voice comes off rude I'm trying to make up for my anxiety
I need to work on these things...Slow, less harsh and be Present!! No Covos when not in my best mood! Thanks
You inspired me to create my own channel, this video is so helpful especially for single mums like me ❤️
I'm learning a lot of things in this channel, even I'm learning English. Blessings to you gorgeous!!
I love listening to you!
Your tone and wisdom are implacable 😌💖
Thank you so much for this. I’ve been struggling to be a warm woman and this is what I needed. You’re such a blessing and I’m glad I found your channel ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing.
❤️🙏🏾❤️
I just subscribed to your podcast💕
Thank you Dr.Michelle. i have this problem. I am so cold at times and I am an introvert but I am trying to change that. I declided to enrol in ballet classes to soften my movements. Thank you for that suggestion.😊
Happy new year! Thank you gorgeous for all your tips on being more feminine and cultivate love and joy. Especially during these hard times , the world needs more love and compassion, which are feminine traits 🤗🤗🤗🤗
You are so welcome love. Yes it does!!
Great video. Loaded with wonderful advice.
This really made an impact on me. Thank you. I also shared it with my two teenage daughters.