5 Ways To Care for Your Introverted Friend
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- Опубліковано 13 кві 2017
- Whether or not you're dating an introverted boyfriend or girlfriend, here are 5 ways to care for introverts. Extroverts may find it hard to date an introvert, because of the difference in the introvert-extrovert personality. Introverts prefer more alone time less energy related activities while extroverts prefer to socialize more and do things that are considered more exciting. Introverts may find it hard to communicate to an extrovert their needs. This video is a simplified way of how to love and care for an introverted friend or significant other. If you're an introvert, you can share this video to your extroverted friends so that they get it.
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Watches video about introverts while in hibernation inside his room wrapped up in a blanket completely blocking out all human activity....
I wonder how many of us are in the same boat right about now. It's that season huh.
Random Alex haha same here
Random Alex me too
The ultimate netflix and chiller true friend is an introvert. A person who will binge watch shows with you and not make you spend money every weekend on a trendy restaurant.
+A1M4T1R1 thinks* but yea, same here XD
I'm an introvert and I watched this video to see how to handle and take care of myself lmao
Same XD
Lol same 😂😂😂
Same we need useful life skills
Same
Yeah!
When youre the introvert and youre also the one watching this for self care
that point when you are forced to hang out... so you just sit behind everyone, not talking at all, spending 3 hours wasting your time when you could do something more creative just by looking at your wall
Valantis Alatsas yea hahaha
dude, same. they're always like: come on, lets dance, found someone and talk. And when you say: BUT I DON'T WANT TO! They're like: but why! you're so asocial.
@@tue89 I agree so much. Most of my friends or family are like that -_-
@spacey editz luvie ❤️🖤
Just think of creative pranks that you can use them in!
I wish my mom knew those tips, she is an extrovert and I'm an introvert and she was allways pushing me, and blaming me for not having much social interactions
Dorago Same here. she makes me feel bad for being introverted
Dorago My life in a nutshell
Hey we should have a group here lol
#TheParentsDontUnderstand
Dorago Same... :')
I definitely have problems with extroverts not listening to me when I'm trying to explain something interesting or just telling a joke. They zone out half way through without waiting to see if what I'm saying is interesting or not. Most of the time I don't say anything just because I know I'll get ignored.
theacp127 I know exactly how you feel
We (introvert) know that feel,
When we talk nobody seems like giving even the slightest attention to us..
Thats what make us silence all time, and then they asked "why are you so fucking silenced dude?"
Dude waat? 🙄🙄🙄
you ever thought about how you people do the exact same thing?
Well it's kinda hard because we're not talking, buddy
then talk, buddy
The hardest thing for me is trying to sit around and interact with a bunch of extroverts that I don't know. While they are talking up a storm, I can feel them looking at me and judging me for being quiet. Then I hear things like "Why aren't you talking? Do you not want to be here? It's your fault you didn't say anything. Its not that hard to talk, just say something." For someone like myself, its not that I don't want to talk or interact, in fact most of the time I badly want to feel accepted and feel like a natural interaction, but it doesn't come that easily to me. I can't just talk for the sake of talking. Id rather listen, laugh along with your jokes, and only speak if I feel really compelled to speak. And why can't that be okay? Instead of looking at me as the shy loser why not just accept that maybe I'm not saying anything because I simply have nothing to add, maybe I don't relate.
Anyways these are the things that physically and emotionally drain me. It's hard. I am 25 and still struggling with this. With people I don't know, with my friends, and even my family. I hope that one day I will find a way to get over this, or learn how to overcome it, because it makes the simplest of interactions, quite difficult. Does anyone else relate?
rsoxfan123 I totally relate. This is me to a T. I literally can't sit there and talk for the sake of talking and filling in the quiet. I hate being around a bunch of extroverts I don't really know because you can totally feel the judging and questioning what's wrong with you in their minds when you're with them. I only speak usually when directly spoken to or when the topic is something I'm really interested in or can relate to. But by then they've already labeled me because I'm not like them and they don't want to go any farther to try to get to know me or build a friendship.
I am 24 and also still struggle with it. Especially when there is someone new I'm interested in getting to know but they are extroverted and always surrounded by others and I literally can't handle groups like that. I have had extroverts as friends, but it always seems to fizzle because they want you to step into their world and become like them, but don't really understand or try to step into your world. I don't even have a close friend I can talk to because of this, besides my mom and grandmother. I hope I can overcome it too, because I do love being around other people and having a good time just as much as anyone else. I just havr to approach it differently than others.
I relate to this so well, I always felt like the odd ball, the one watching on the sidelines but never apart of the group. I want to be more confident with talking to others but my past experiences tell me "why bother? It's not like anybody cares about what you have to say or think. It's your fault for not responding quick enough."
This video is really helpful just wish I knew a way to explain it to my family.
Yes
Matt M I can relate 100 percent. I’m the exact same way.
Yup
I have an annoying cousin (whom my whole entire family sees as the "ideal" daughter btw) that heavily criticizes me for not being comfortable in social situations. I'm not very good at making friends, and she gets mad/annoyed that I don't talk a lot to people, especially ones that we both know and are her friends. Only once in my life has an adult ever told me that it's okay for me to be myself and that there's nothing wrong with me. I started bawling my eyes out because no one, not even my mom, had ever accepted me for who I was. It meant so much to me. I wish more ppl were like this. It genuinely pisses me off because not every single human being on this planet is the same! We need to be more considerate of others.
I'm with you
Say your going to get some friends but then do whatever.
Unless she comes.
I feel you
I understand. I've met some extroverts willing meet me halfqay, but it's rare. Just today, without seeming to spare a thought for how it might hurt me, someone I'm pretty close to, said that another person who's introverted wasn't normal and therefore wasn't able to have a normal relationship and there was something wrong with him. She was talking to a fellow extrovert who was talking about having trouble communicating and feeling close to her new boyfriend (an introverted dude). I was in the room, trying, and largely being talked over, to explain how they can work to meet each other halfway and learn to communicate meaningful in ways that satisfies both of them. It was like getting slapped and no one seemed to notice. It's brought my old insecurities right to the surface. My asshole father and brother used to say I wasn't normal and there was something wrong with me.
I haven't had that problem but I do understand. Sorry for that, I'd get ticked off two if my family and friends were like that
as an introvert I don't talk a lot but when I do I think it's worth saying and it kinda upsets me when extroverts interrupt me with some blah gibbrish that's basically just "I'm here look at me!"
TheThagenesis ikr
TheThagenesis the worst is when you need someone to talk for you because no one else gives you a chance. ;-;
The rare time I talk in a conversation I say something meaningful and some extroverts do that it's so sad.
And I also hate it when an extrovert forces you into a social event it's literally the scariest thing ever
I can relate to this so much that it hurts...It always drives me fricking nuts and as in a bigger group i speak rarely, i sometimes tent to shout"Can you for ONCE not interrupt me??" but only having those bad days. For god's sake i also have the need to speak in the conversation! But none of the extroverts gives the chance to do it, pisses me off as hell
TheThagenesis Thats litterly me and my family...yay
Instead of pushing them out into your world, spend some time in theirs. There is nothing wrong with spending quality time indoors with only 1-2 people reading, watching TV, movies, internet videos, or cooking together.
Aneko Foxx that is the best comment I've seen in this comment section.
Aneko Foxx best comment. I've been told hard luck most of the world is extroverted.
By an introvert.
I don't know man...have you seen my world?
It's not a particularly welcoming place.
Aneko Foxx ikr? Like...come to the dark side, we've got cookies :v
Yeah and there is nothing wrong with spending quality time indoors with only 12 people reading. XD
My friend pushed me to tell me crush I liked him. She did it for me by yelling it across the pool making him and me extremely nervous, so I physically pushed her into the pool. My anxiety gets the best of me..
LUL
I wish it was always that easy
How did ur crush respond
hyperspace
You did well child. Your training is progressing smoothly. Next, we will teach you the how to disappear. Are you ready for it?
This is why the freinds I tell my crush to are also introverts
As an introvert I find it a little irritating when people try and break me out of my little bubble when I'm in it, if anything it makes me want to stay in it longer
GhostDogg o I can’t say that to my dad
Extreme A same
I swear, every time I watch these introvert videos, I sit here like "that sounds EXACTLY like me." I don't know why I keep questioning myself about it :p Thank you, Psych2go for making these videos. The voice is so smooth and soothing while the drawings are cute and happy :)
Justonian I do the same thing. I'm happy that I'm not alone
Safiya Haha me too :)
Hey Justonian, we're happy to hear you relate so strongly to our content! High five! We will pass along the kind message to our team! :)
Psych2Go Thank you so much! High five to you as well :D
Yup I once again came here to find out more about myself and to see if my friends care for me, I think they do, but not very many of them understand me and find my ideas of comfort strange and abhorred, calling me prood or uncultured.
As an introvert with an extrovert best friend, while it's true other extroverts have tried to convince me to leave the house and go to parties, etc, my extrovert best friend never pushes me to do anything and I really appreciate that
I relate to you :)
Relate
I have one too, he is such a caring friend
You really have hit the jackpot with that friend of yours.
Other extroverts should really take a leaf out of your friend's book.
So I am an extrovert my friend is an introvert please tell me how to deal with him I just want him to be happy but I think I'm forcing him to talk and because of that I am so depressed we always fight because of this what do I do please tell me....
0:37 Make them feel accepted for who they are
1:01 Acknowledge them for their goodness
1:35 Do not push an introvert
2:13 Be ready to give back
2:40 Accomodate introverts differences
Thanks!!
It always annoys me when people don't listen to me because they don't expect me to be talking. It's not really out of menace, just slight ignorance. I find myself having to repeat myself multiple times and eventually give up because everyone else has a much more exciting thing to say in a much louder voice than mine. Do any other introverts feel the same way?
I totally agree! This is me in a nutshell! I get to the point where I just stop talking at all. If I don't think anyone would be interested in my thoughts or ideas, and I get "chewed out" for stuttering and mumbling then why would I try to talk? Maybe one day we will figure something out and overcome this most challenging situation 😅🤔😊
Yes totally agree, even my parents sometimes to this to me 😐😑
I completely agree! Sadly I had friends who did this to me for years, until I was able to finally cut off my friendship with them and find friends who accept me for who I am and give me a change to talk!
EXACTLY! I've gotten to the point where I barely talk to my family because it's almost like they don't hear me. When I say nothing, they get mad that I didn't tell them something like I'm also avoidance attachment, so I have trouble talking personally about myself, admitting when I'm sick, so that just makes it 2x as hard when you're also an introvert.
I hate hanging out with more than 1 person at a time. I truly cherish my time alone. Guess I'm an intro.
I am sure a lot of introverts can relate to this! :)
Me too :(
But sadly, I am the third wheel in like four friendships. So usually I keep to myself, because three is basically and crowd.
ghost teeth I have a decent sized group of acquaintances. Each person is awesome, every one of them is interested in pretty much the same things as I am, most of them are around my developmental age, I can totally relate, and one of the girls has Aspergers Syndrome, like I do. I really wouldn't mind hanging out with them. In fact, I rather enjoy the time we spend together.
Only problem is: When they hang out, they hang out like a herd of wild cattle! There's too many humans in one place, at one time, and I can only truly appreciate one acquaintance at a time and keep up with the conversation. I can, occasionally, keep up with 2 people at a time, in a sense. I have to really know and trust both of them, and even at that, I have a poor time at turn-taking, and I either silently observe the other 2, or I engage with one, while practically ignoring the other.
ghost teeth same I wonder how people like to meet someone or be social
YES!
Do you find it frustrating when your more extroverted friends always want to hang out, and don't get your introversion? Here's a video that you can share with them so they get it. Happy Friday everyone!
Psych2Go thank you... I'll make sure to send this to them ^o^
yw ^^
seriously >_
+Psych2Go yes, I've always wanted to let my friends somehow know what i feel like, i couldn't explain it so this really helps, thanks :D
yeah, i can understand. My bofriend is an introvert as well and i try t help him as much i am capable of. When i met him, i knew he is something different, and imo introvert people need more care, more love in their lives as extroverts.
Maybe like... Don't push ANYONE to do something they're not comfortable doing? It's not just a thing for introverts, it's basic human decency, and you shouldn't have to label yourself as an introvert for people to understand this.
Some people respond really well to a push tho, like me!!
True, although introverts are more "sensitive" when people do that
They me to Make us introverts talk to people make us go social when we don't want to
Another tip: certain people or social situations exhaust us more than others. For extroverts, It rejuvenates them, but for us it can be very tiring and we may not feel up to doing certain things or hanging out with certain people at the moment. This does not mean in any way whatsoever that we don't like you, it just may be that we emotionally capable until we gain some more energy
Trash exactly!
I am an introvert. Recently one of my colleagues in class is trying to open me up more to people. However I feel really uncomfortable because he speaks to me a lot and pushes me a little bit too far. But of course I don't have a courage to say it to him, because we are not close, not really. I really do agree with everything in the video, but the third point is something I find truly relatable
Weronika Kruszyńska
I've often found some people are really not interested in you're well being, rather a self gratification in feeling there giving there friends what they need. kinda a egotistical way of feeling your not like them, so they want to change you, most time's it works out that if you did change they would no longer see a reason too speak to you. I'm not saying that's the case with you or your friend. It's just be happy with what you are. The hole point of human's is we are not the same. There's a reason you are what you are. your unique.
Weronika Kruszyńska The same as me. I have a friend like that, but whenever I couldn't be socialize or anything like that, she will be like "Why are you being a scaredy cat, it's just a simple thing to do" with a mad face, like ????? Do you even know how it feels to be an introvert? And who do you think you are being mad at me like that?
Guys, chill. I was the one on the other side with an introvert friend like you. If your friend is just honestly want to help, you should try talking to him/her and sort things out. They won't know until you say what you're thinking and it will only keep the cycle. Also, try not to be too round about saying it and still considerate of him/her. If they accept it then it's good, if not then they will eventually so don't worry too much. Luckily I'm way pass that with my friend and we're good now. Good luck with that friend of yours.
People shouldn't try and push you if it's making you uncomfortable but keep in mind that as extroverts think differently they don't really understand how you think, what you feel and why.
I'm a straight up social butterfly, my fiance, significant other of 7 years and close friend for over a decade is an introvert. The reason we have worked is because he has done his darndest our whole relationship to *try* and communicate what he is feeling and why, with varying levels of success.
That being said, if something makes you uncomfortable and they don't respect that (they know just don't care) they aren't a very good friend. In the event something bothers you but you haven't told them they likely don't know and will feel pretty bad when you finally tell them.
Long story short a good friend can't read your mind but should accept answers like "it just makes me uncomfortable". Yes they will probably ask why, but they should also accept that you may not be ready to talk about it.
Notes are a lifesaver for us. When he can't tell me to my face he writes me a note.
The key to relationships of any sort between introverts and extroverts is that both sides are *trying*. For introverts this usually means telling people when something makes you uncomfortable, and perhaps at some point trying to explain why. For extroverts this means patience and a solid understanding that sometimes people just don't want to talk about things.
Like we're a friking different animal species
Aanje Greymountain This was made for extroverts who don't get us.
Extroverts consider introverts to be aliens, and generally try to get these "aliens" to learn how to be more like them.
This is like fandom But not really. I'm an extrovert People always call me loud And I get along with Boys than girls. The boys are louder and the girls are quiet and introverted is what I hate About because They always Shush me and it's annoying unlike boys
We are...
Ikr
You know that moment, when you make up a “important chore” so you escape social activity?
Do other introverts hate when people touch them? I when people put their hand on my shoulder or tap me. I like my personal space and extroverts don't get that.
It can be very startling when people I am not comfortable with do it, but some people I actually wish could touch me or more so that I could touch them more. People I'm friends with and care about, not so much strangers and acquaintances. I think that I am very affectionate (think of a puppy) because I want to hug friends, touch their hair, or just be close to them. I like that more than the pressure of talking, and it's more intimate and loving for me. But I don't know if they're comfortable with that or if they would misinterperet it as creepy or sexual, so I just sit still and let myself feel deprived. I can't be able do that if they're not comfortable. I still am too shy to ask most of the time if they are comfortable with being touched, so I rarely have anyone to be affectionate to except for parents. It makes me kind of sad when I see friends hugging or wrapping an arm around eachother etc. and it makes we wish I had someone to do that with or someone that felt comfortable and natural enough to do that with me :(
@@aiiiia9971 I think the same way. I think that I am very affectionate to my friends too. But a stranger (someone I just met) sees what I do and thinks them has the right to touch me. When you say you're uncomfortable: but you touched her/him, they say. They never understand the difference. If I'm joking with my friend, touching them hair and shoulder, that's because I want to. My friends knows this, because they knows me, I have opened my heart to them; and actually that means i love them.
GhostDogg o that's not what introverts do.. -._.-
I feel for you with that
If its someone i don't know i wont them to touch me at all, not even tapping. That's one reason i dont like sitting next to people on the bus.
Would you do this video about extroverts? I'm an introvert and it would be very helpful too :)
LittleDormouse Oh yes. I just thought the same.
Me too,,
Idk how to put this concisely, but the sad thing about being extroverted and committing these mistakes is that you don't mean to be obnoxious. :( That is, to the comments re: when we interrupt as you say something "of substance," maybe it's 'cause you'd been quiet the whole time; speaking from my experience, when extroverts talk it's very natural, and a single train of thought can occupy a whole monologue, so we end up not noticing when the flow is breached by a single voice. :) We'd assessed before beginning that it was our turn, so the babble can't be stopped 'til we're done.
Also, about trying to force you guys to socialize. In some cases, apologies on behalf of those who do not wish to understand. But in other cases, that's our way of accommodating, actually! We think that it's "right" to not exclude you from our lives, but I see now that I shouldn't force it. Forgive those who do mean well, and muster the will to say no to them.
Aivscene Menytings yes!! I love your comment! thank you
Someone said I'm an extrovert, if it is explained somewhere I may relate and find out what exactly I am. Because when I want to say something I just say it doesn't matter who is listening and when I don't I just don't, I'd be quite.
When I want to go somewhere I just go, does not matter how close the people are but when I don't I just refuse doesn't matter how close the people are. I'm just confused after I came to know it's a kind of people called introverts and others are extroverts.
I'm an introvert and some of this Is true cause my family is making me make more friends and trying to make me be more sociable
Same
It really helped me to respect more my best friend who's an introvert. Thank you so much for your content!!!
As an introvert, i agree with everything in this video! But I don't like how it's framed like we have to be taken care of by extroverts. I don't think they meant it in that way, but it feels weird.
Totally agree with you. We don't need to be taken care of by extroverts. We need to mutually respect and be respected who we are, no matter introverts or extroverts.
I think it's cute ^^
Yah but people need to respect us
Yeah Introverts need some time alone
My parents need to watch this
SAME
My email tire family needs to watch this
Every introvert's parents do.
I wish
I am not even sure that with these great vidéos would make them understand lol 🦊
I'm introverted but everyone at my school has labeled me as shy so I just pretend to be shy and hide my introversion from them. But now I'm home-schooled so now I can be who I really am and not just pretend to be someone else. I was the only introvert at my school (somehow because there was 145 people there) 😋😁
Lucky you! Glad you made the choice to be home schooled. Wish some of us had done the same :)
For sure there was some other introverts, maybe they just use their energy at school or something haha I wiss I could be home-schooled!
oh how i wish to get home schooled :( my country doesn't approve on the idea of home schooling..
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Home schooling is a bad idea, it encourages you to be anti social and you won't make many friends that way :P
How to care for introverts:
You don’t
They care for themselves, we are self sufficient, and when possible, we donate our remaining care to others
That is why introverts are the best people for teamwork, in the right situations
A dearly dreaded fear of mine:
"We're going on a party"
i just eat food and sit on a couch or chair the whole time lmao
this helps me so much. i'm going to show this to my friends!
Cheers! :)
I am so grateful, that you made this video. When you were talking about not to push introverts, I was about to cry because it felt as if you were referring directly to my lifes situation. Thank you for your hard work and I hope that this project will grow and grow to help people understand topics not so often talked about.
This is how i want my friends to care about me.
Cause they always push me.
I'm there for them. The're not here for me.
Are they really my friend's?
Pet Vac my best friend is an introvert she blocked me randomly. what should I do?
Manny N I don't know
I totally feel you
Manny N give her space
Nah
This makes me feel so calm for some reason I like being an introvert of course most of the time
Am I the only introvert here who actually likes hanging out with other people and doing social stuff, but is simply too shy to do so?
I see a lot of comments from people saying that they dislike being pushed into social situations because apparently, introverts don't like that, yet I appreciate being pushed into such situations (as long as the number of people I'm together with is rather small), because I fail at pushing myself into them, yet actually enjoy them.
I'm exactly the same.
ThePC007
I guess there are just more introverts who are like the ones you describe. (myself included.)
How do you read minds?
Your an ambivert
It's like if you're an introvert doesn't mean you act and feel all those things that is pertain of introverts. Me as having introvert nature often think and believe that my mood (being happy or sad) or other people deteremine how introvert I am.
I'm an introvert and I study nursing in Germany. And at the last station/unit i was the people really don't understand me. There were all more extroverted and giving me really bad feelings.
I wish i could all show them this video to proof them that they all thought totally wrong of me.
Thank you very much for the videos you make. They give me the feeling that I am not alone.
1. Accept them.
2. Acknowledge them for their goodness.
3. Don't push.
4. Give back.
5. Accomodate introverts' differences.
Introverts are amazing if you become friends with them. At first they might seem stuck up but they’re the kindest nicest people ever.
on Nr 3:
it's true that an introvert feels really uncomfortable when pushed. But at my year abroad, the only job I could got was a door to door fundraiser. I got only paid when I had results, so I was forced to learn to be comfortable with complete strangers at there doorstep. I wouldn't get paid and wouldn't have food and accommodation if I wouldn't have learned to feel a little bit more confident and relaxed while socialising with strangers in my second language.
A little bit of force may feel not as suitable for all introverts, but it really worked for me.
Johan Hilbig It didn't helped you, it forced you to become someone else. With that job you either lost something of your personality or you could become a good actor right now.
Max Mustermann yeah it was a bit of acting, but also training of my social energy capacity... (in another video they talked about the difference between introverted and extroverted people's capacitys)... So the time span until I felt annoyed by the interactions and just needed my private time with a book got extended...
Johan Hilbig I agree that a little bit of force could be good sometimes. I don't see it as losing a part of yourself, It's more like leraning a skill. I've forced myself too and it has actually helped me to deal with social situations with stranges a lot better, even enjoy them at times. It has made my life so much easier.
I am an introvert and so are all my friends, all 8 of them. Why am I even watching this?
elliot521 same X3 maybe because we're curious to see ourselves explained. So many introverts here, haven't seen an extrovert yet.
Maybe it because extroverts spend more time with people so has a better understanding of the human mind and not as drawn to videos/content that talks about it.
elliot521 me too, all 0 of them
"Having 5 friends seems like a Herculean task..."
-Sheldon Cooper, _The Big Bang Theory_
Me: I agree so much...
I don't have a lot of friends; I became an introvert because I didn't believe in friends anymore, I saw the world another way: Hypocrisy
@i .candy true
Yeah, as an introvert, I wish I was more social. The teacher or just generally people around you are always like "You're so quiet." "Speak up" when they dont even think about what you might mentally be going through, honest.
I really enjoy your videos and think that they are really accurate as an introvert and i wish i could share this videos to people who are close to me because i feel like some of them don't understand me, but i'm scared about them thinking that it's just in my head, that it's stupid and that it's cringy when it's actually true...
I'm an introvert person, I guess why this is so hard to other people to understand?. I had a relationship where my boyfriend was an extrovert, we broke up because he wanted to be more sociable, he never understood my introverted personality and I was always pressured to go out with his friends and made me feel uncomfortable :/
Iza Cavazos my best friend is an introvert she blocked me randomly. what should I do?
Manny N As an introvert myself, maybe just give her some space. She may just want a break.
I'm an introvert and I seem to be the only one around me and nobody understands me... I hate it 😭 not only that I'm also really sensitive so my emotional outbreaks are awful, because I've been bottling up so much. Thank you for this video. ♥
I'm here because I love my introverted friend but I don't understand her attitude and behaviors frequently.
I want to educate myself so I can be a better person for her and have a healthier relationship.
I hope this video and your advices help me
*When your an ambivert or extrovert watching this to learn more about introverted people*
You're an amazing person trying to help us feel more comfortable.. People around you sure are lucky
If you are an ambivert you understand both
I am an ambivert😄.
Growing up, my best friend was an introvert and I’m an extrovert. We aren’t friends anymore but I still hold her dear to my heart. I look back and think of things I could have done differently in our relationship, and I definitely wish I would have watched this video at the time. Maybe it would have helped me understand her more or push her less to try new things. You live and learn. ❤️
I seriously love you guys. This video basically made me cry. Because someone decided to talk about introverts, especially that often introvers have a hard time express their needs, in such a beautiful way. Also watching this video made me think about all this situations when I wished to be treated in the way the video shows.
I wish my family would follow #3. My parents and peers push me (sometimes literally) into activities, like dancing or swimming, after I politely and repeatedly say no. I'm always the one who accomodates them instead, pretending to "have fun" but then retreating about a minute later.
Oh yeah, also there's the parents telling their acquaintances about how timid and introverted I am. I've heard my mother voice her wish to see me get out more and be more outspoken... while I'm listening right next to them. I should probably stop letting my family do that sort of shit to me.
I really hope you will make one on extroverts too, we also need love :c
will do! :)
this is cute
The difference is that extroverts are the population majority and are more naturally understood than introverts. Historically introverts were labeled as shy, weird, or snobby just because they were the wallflower at the party or business meeting. They are often pushed aside in their jobs for less skilled people who are more social than them. Introverts actually NEED these videos to help be understood while extroverts just WANT them for some perceived equality.
Extroverts are privileged because society values them more. Let's not make the problem about you when there isn't one.
Hi Jenny, thanks for the reply. Your comment really made me think about this topic and my brain feels energized :p I do agree with some parts of your statement.
However, I do not like how you presented extroverts in your message. Being an extrovert myself, I felt like you made us look like we put introverts down and make their life harder. While the second part may be true, it's not entirely our fault. It's just how it works. Don't tell me that introverts are not well aware that social skills play a huge role in basically every aspect of our lives that include interactions. I'm not telling that every introvert should magically transform into a social butterfly. They can even hate people! What I'm trying to say is that, yes, it is hard for introverts to learn how to be more influential or give an excellent public speech, but it's not IMPOSSIBLE. If they choose not to learn these things then YES an extrovert is very likely to, for example, get that promotion, or give a better first impression, but here's a question. Is it the extrovert's fault? Don't make introverts look like victims constantly being put down. They are not.
Also, where did you get that statistic? I've heard that statement before, but never really came across any solid evidence to back it up. Can you maybe link it? I would really appreciate that. :3
More power to ya!
Im so tired to be an introvert !! Every time i went outside with a good feeling something breaks it completely down. Why ??
Ikr...
Watching these videos makes me happy, it makes me go like "somebody who understands!" I accept myself and I am pretty happy with the person that I am right now. It really frustrates me when others make me feel like my introversion is not normal and it's something that I should change about myself.
When people see me alone, they used to think I was lonely, but I really NEED that time alone. Sometimes social interactions can be very draining, sometimes even when friends are involved, but that doesn't mean we don't love them. We just need time to recharge.
I was about to cry from this video, You explained that very beautifully and you make it so adorable with the animations.
Thank you so much for the explanation to care for an introvert, I'll spread the word so people know who they should look at when they are hurt.
Once again, thank you so much!
It always pissed me off when people try to get me to go out to extra social events and things like that
~Animal Jam Fanatics~ Ikr
~Animal Jam Fanatics~ lmao thankfully my friends know that if i go when i dont want to, itll be horrible for everyone (i sulk BIG time)
~Animal Jam Fanatics~ lol I usually make a BS excuse to get away from the event but at one point I have to go because I've been flaking out for too long
Me: I dunno... I dont think-
Friend: TEACHER! SHE'S READY TO PERFORM
Me: I THINK WE SHOULD STAY AS STRANGERS. ITS NOT ME, ITS YOU.
Anna DanFran lol
DUDE THE SAME THING HAPPENED TO ME TOO WTF
i wish my parents knew this my parents doesnt believe in introvertness she kept thinking im lacking human interaction but in reality i just love alone time where no one bothers or ask stupid questions about me
My parents still don't know I am an Introvert
So far, every one of the descriptions about introverts is on target. I see myself as a thoughtful, caring person, and a great listener. Great listeners take in the whole person as they talk. Watching how words match facial expressions and body language. Considering the context as well as past behaviors. I ponder what people say. The best expression for me is "quiet waters run deep." There is a lot to an introvert's package that the world could benefit from.
This video makes me so happy, because I'm an introvert, and my best friend is an extrovert. Ironically, she treats me EXACTLY like it's mentioned in the video.
But in reality, very few extroverts would do that to introverts
there many people who does not know what is introvert or extrovert. i think
There is a better way: phone on silent, don't open social networks, and just do the things you'll normally do carelessly xD
nahh there's alot of extroverts who do that to me
TheDrunkenRebel
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Period.
well... i showed this to my only friend who is an extrovert, and she told me that she's not gonna do that bc she doesn't want to, bc its very normal bla bla bla... the thing is for the end of all the things she said, at the end she ends with a "mentally ill"
*sorry about my english, i know is not that good*
With all the vids about introverts and extroverts that I've been watching yesterday and today, its helped me to understand more about myself as a person and where i am and to know that I'm not the only introvert in the world, and its also helping my extrovert friends to understand me and and other introverted friends whether its my introvert friends, their introvert friends or if we share the introvert friends, and a lot of people that I'm friends with understand that if they want me as a friend, they need all the time, patience and understanding of the world, and sometimes, some of them would sit close to me to talk and get to know me better whilst making sure they aren't in large groups as they understand that I cannot handle large groups of people very well, because of how shy I can be and because I also used to be bullied by large crowd of people from september 2009 to about february or march of 2010, when I was in year 4, which is 9 years of age, it may sound confusing for those who don't live in England, its too much to explain, but year, i left the school in the first half of year 4 due to being bullied so much, had to be homeschooled for 6 weeks while my mum looked for a school for me, and started at the new school on the first day back from the easter holidays, and when I explained to a few of the people in my college group about that, they understood and said to the others about why i couldn't handle large groups easily, because of being an introvert and because of being bullied, and they understood that and one by one, for about a week or 2, they would take turns in sitting with me and talking to me about themselves to help me get used to them, so i could find it easier to talk to them, and letting me know that if i ever needed help or a friend to talk to or anything, they were always there, and they still are helping me and stuff, some understood especially well as they either have family or relatives who are introverts, have friends who are introverts or are introverts themselves, some of them are ambiverts as well, so they knew how to understand me and how to tell if i was okay or not, even when i didn't show or say it as i find it difficult to e press myself a lot, it also doesn't help that i have ADHD the attentive type and possibly autistic, but only diagnosed with traits if autism as the autism has to be diagnosed by someone else, so yeah, but everyone understood and are so helpful so much, i do t even know how to say it myself, and even if i did, i don't think id ever find a way of saying thank you to them so much, also, my old school friends from secondary school did the same thing but at breaks and lunch times as we used to have a specific sitting plan that the teachers did but yeah, i'm actually surprised everyone had the time, patience and understanding to let me get used to them and to know me and understnad me the way i am and why i am the way i am and just fully accept me the way i am just like i fully accept them the way they are, and all my friends have my back, if one person said something bad about me, my friends would always say something to make the other people shut up, so yeah, not sure what else to say now so I'm gonna go and get ready for college as its now 11:30 am, got to leave by 12 noon at the latest as I'm cycling to college, it takes me 50 mins at the most to get there and the lessons starts at 1pm, so yeah, but the videos on intros, extros and ambis do help a lot
Your opener is very accurate. I am shy as well and have so much trouble fidning and keeping friends. People tend to keep me at arms length and think I am weird when I would make such a fantastic friend if they ever gave me a chance and got to know me. Nobody can ever understand why I don't have friends when they find me kind, funny, generous, understanding and sweet. I found comfort in your comment on the voiceover because the implication to others is that I am weird and that nobody likes me and it is deemed a failing of me.
I lost a lot of extroverted friends by not socializing in their big groups. They kept pushing me to go to clubs, fast food places, sunday bbq parties, but all the people, small talk, and loud noise was really uncomfortable and exhausting. They never understood how I came off as an intelligent and very funny person when we hang out 1 on 1, but I was a completely different person in big social groups and eventually stop declining the invitations or just not showing up even though I told them I'd be there.
I've never got why another person feels a need to change another person, isn't that there own egotistical trate, A some what controlling person. Let's say you're introvert and you're friends are trying to "get you out of your shell". Wouldn't it sometimes be the case that that's why there you're friend's, so they can have a social superior feeling in themselves. supposing you did change to be what they wanted you to be, wouldn't that mean there whole point in that friendship has gone, they wouldn't feel the need to constantly say "be like this" "talk like this". who is it for, is it for there ego or to really change you into what they see as better. Nothing wrong with being introvert, nothing wrong with extrovert, they both have there place.
Can't be more thankful for the content this channel have been giving us about introverts. Thank you so much for your help to understanding myself more. ❤️🙏
Lately I've been trying to learn who I am. This channel has helped me out a lot. All of what you say is so accurate and I am thankful for it.
Matthew Ripley we're so glad we can help you learn more about yourself :) thank you for sharing!
**Takes video**
**Shoves it in my friend's face**
WATCH IT, JEEZ
My parents are sending me on a whole course to become more extroverted
oh shit xD
You have horrible parents
My parents might do it too one day
I think these tips are great. I am an ambivert, although I lean more to the introverted side. All of your statements are true, and so if people did all of these things for me I’d feel a lot happier(not that I’m not happy already lol). Your videos are so great! Thank you for them! I think they really help people understand each other better, and if everyone watched your videos, the world would be a better place. Thank you!
1:47
I cant get over that cinnamon roll being pushed into that little earth
Fun fact, while introverts are introverts to people they dont know very well, with a friend they can be VERY extroverty,
Teacher: Zara?
-here!
Ruby?
-here!
Imogen(me)?
-*talks slightly above silent* h-here
Okay, Imogen’s not here, Aaron?
*internal screaming*
Thank you, I fully support the things you point out in the video! I feel I'm form the more introverted kind and I often recharge my batteries alone best. From time to time I find it very confusing and unfullfilling just the unability of other to understand that i need more time by myself. Is not that I don't like to be around, just maybe don't need it that much. I have my life and things I love to do as anyone else :)
Yes this really accurate. I'm an introvert myself and some of my friends are also introverts. I notice these things in myself and in my friends who are also introverts. These tips might really help other people to understand us better instead of try to force us to do things we don't want to do.
love this and my adorable introvert boyfriend
I'm an Ambivert, however I have a question just to help my introverted friend.
How do you help introverted friend If they're surrounded by loud extroverts that are willing to talk to the introverted friend?
Try to pull the friend out of the situation
When we're ready to do something or take a step outside of our comfort zone, then we will. I had to but myself out there as I was apart of my high school marching band and I had to be on a field in front of my peers, when the first show was done I felt embarrassed because I made some mistakes but I was told it was our best opening show so far. I've also gone to a few concerts with friends, massive step out of my zone but I enjoyed every second of the concerts.
This actually helps a lot, because being an introvert, I make up for personal space in public with my hoodie, and being constantly pushed by friends or family to experience sociality more just kills, me, and these videos on introverts help me form an argument to teach them that I just want space
like how do you ask people to listen when they ask me I usally find them crying some where or they text me like:
them:OMG U WONT BLIVE WUT HAPEND TO MEH TODAY!?!?!!??!?
me:what
them:* deppersing story thats so complicated *
me:* apperitly the awnser to life or so I have been told *
now do ive tryed doing the same but they dont listen
Maddie Cariss glad to make people laugh but a year aint nobody got time for dattttt
me af -_- the worst part is, people always want me to open up to them, and when I try, I just get ignored.
Freeeeeeeee27 Saammmeee
"Hey do you want to go-"
*burns my phone*
I love to sit back and watch these introverted videos, they help me a lot understanding myself, Cause Im a HUGE introverted, and i Like to watch these and see Im not The only one Who is Like this, and that i Just need to embrase Who i am.
That's pretty deep, ive always been aware of my introvertness... But never could really explain how I feel this video just nailed it on the head.
Dont tackle or ruthlessly touch introverts.
3:01 "Live in the present"
Me: The present only lasts 1 second before it's the past, while the future is always 1 second ahead of the present
I'm an really extrovert person but I love to hang out with introverts. It grounds me. And when I let introverts do the talk they are so funny and well thought people! My brother is extremely shy and i'm trying to help him with it to overcome his insecuritys so this video helps me a lot! And it works. I give him small tasks to train in conversations and it helped him a lot! I helped him with these exercises:
For example he had to: try to address to strange people on the street, supermarket and in the bus. Just a reaaally small conversation. He took the dog for a walk and speaks to every other dog owner he passed by: "nice dog! What's his name?" Really simple. First it was scary for him but after a few goes he wasn't scared to talk to strangers anymore. He even had chats with people for a bit longer
I'm an introvert who has learnt to get out there and mix with people and am comfortable with pretty much anything now, but I still find myself doing this for fellow introverts. But it's an amazing experience to get an introvert so comfortable that they appear to be an extrovert for a day (until the next day, when they go quiet again and evaluate what just happened and recharge).
there's a boy at my school who is 2 years younger than me, but my friends and i want to be friends with him. we told him once that he looked like a famous actor and he was really nervous, and seemed to want to escape. i feel i am pushing him when i tell him through messages that he should say hi to me when he sees me at breaks or lunch time idk. we haven't talked in a few days. he lives 2 blocks away from my house and i am planning to wait for him and be like oh hey! what a coincidence....ok no but PLEASE I NEED HELP how do i make him feel comfortable? i'm an extrovert but i enjoy introvert habits. i always speak to people who have trouble socializing so that they don't feel uncomfortable but PLEASE I DONT KNOW HOW TO TALK TO HIM PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Heavy migraine, I might be able to help. Number one, don't go with that plan. Trust me, it scares off introverts(I'm one of them). Instead, try talking to they directly about something you know apply to you both . We value our time so try keeping topics unrelated to the conversation out. And make sure that he is not outnumbered. We feel really uncomfortable when we are all of a sudden swarmed by a group. It really is suffocating. Instead, try to talk to him casually one on one or in a SMALL group. No more than I would say 2-3 people? Something like that. Anyhow, with the pushing, try to not tell him what to do and what not to do. Again, suffocating. Try instead to say hi first. We really don't feel the need to start a conversation if we don't need to. Sometimes it helps us if we are talked to first. Anyway I really do hope this helps and you guys become friends. Also, just a tip, don't call them unless you need to. Don't know what it is, but we hate being called. Anyway, again, I hope this helps!! If not, you can bash on me.
DEATHSTAR 401 thank you soooo much, your comment is really helpfull thanksthanksthanks but what do you mean by: make sure he is not outnumbered?? i'm sorry i don't know what that means, my native language is not english, it's actually spanish but again thanks your reply 😁
heavy migraine I mean that don't have too many people surrounding him at one time. Hope that clarifies.
DEATHSTAR 401 oh yup thanks
Np
When you want to show off ur ear drawling skills 2:35
Yes I am an introvert but I have different definition for my introversion. Yes these tips do really help me and I confront myself through your videos. Thank you.
This introvert approves especially the appreciation one. you have no idea how much most of us prize those words, nor how consistent silence of them will affect our thoughts after a while we start thinking you don't give a damn about anything involving us which will anger or make us withdraw
The number one tip is don't label them as introverts my bestie never labels me and that's the reason she's my bestie 😘
Please take care of us ! ^-^
this was a very sweet & helpful video and it all makes perfect sense. i still have not figured out if im an introvert or an ambivert, but im NOT an extrovert,i know that. i like your videos,great job
im watching this because my loved one is an introverted, and since i really don’t know how to treat her well we’ve had some up and down moments.... i want to learn to love her as she is and to make her feel happy and loved always.
Well...oops. I'm glad I found this video because I think I've been an awful person to introverts.
How to actually care for an introvert friend
just stop being friends with them
Good advice
No... That's what my friends did in grade 8. I have eaten lunch by myself everyday for the past 3 years. I have nobody.
I have social anxiety and depression, and I am also an introvert. I used to have friends who would push me. That was the time in my life I had the most breakdowns. One day I snapped, yelled at them, and went to find new friends. I now have a true best friend who doesn't push me, but motivates me. She helps me in social situations and I couldn't have found a better friend.
I though that this was very helpful. I love my introverted friend and want to get better and better at loving them!