9 Comforting Things Introverts Would Like To Hear
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- Опубліковано 15 чер 2024
- Are you an introvert? Have you ever wondered what an introvert would like to hear once in a while? Just like any other person, introverts need to hear encouraging words once in a while. Maybe even more so because we tend to be a bit more sensitive than others. If you’re wondering how to make your introverted family member or friend’s day, keep watching.
We also made another video on the things introverts want you to know: • 6 Things Introverts Wa...
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References:
Oyibo, Y. (2021, October 12). 11 Comforting Things Introverts Would Love to Hear. IntrovertDear.Com. introvertdear.com/news/11-comforting-things-introverts-would-love-to-hear/
What are some comforting things that you would like to hear? Comment below.
I like to here I'm a good person. But not for vanity reasons, because I am used to worrying about my conscience.
I would love to hear my parents say "You can go whenever you like" cause they are practically forcing me to attend family events or just any events even though sometimes I don't have the social energy to do so 😔
You are the one who understands me I love talking to you.
Your words are so comforting to me ❤️
Thx for making this I rlly need videos like this.
i just want people not to say i'm 'emo' or 'edgy' or 'dark and depressing' just because i don't talk to them
"It is very satisfying when someone acknowledges the mental and emotional work that introverts put into their thoughts. "
Exactly!!
Being somewhat of an introvert, what I would appreciate is for people to recognize that I do possess feelings just like everyone else. But I seem to keep them locked up and do not exhibit them as easily! \🕶/
Same, sometimes it's just easier to hide feelings instead and it's a wonderful release when they're noticed
It's safer that way, in my opinion.
Same
@@LtRee96se yea I totally agree
You're all addicted to comfort.
Time Stamps:
1. Words Of Appreciation: 0:27
2. Are You Ok?: 1:12
3. Compliment The Way They Think: 1:54
4. I Love The Way You Are: 2:35
5. Thank You For Your Insight: 3:13
6. I Feel So Comfortable Around You 4:03
7. You Were/Are Right: 4:49
8. You Can Go Whenever You Like: 5:30
9. I'm Here For You: 5:56
Thanks!
I feel like this applies to anyone. Not just introverts
@Gеnshin lmрасt 🅥 finally who tf asked
Huh, Never Knew These Are The Words I Wanted To Hear..
I’m so happy because my best friend is an introvert and even before watching this, I have always said nearly half of this list to her. Now I know some other things to say, too!
"I feel so comfortable around you"
I've heard it from every person I've known (not many, but a lot for me)
It really helped me a lot, I used to doubt myself so much I even was prepared to isolate myself, and then people would save me with this
I feel comfortable around you too my dear friends ❤️ you saved me
Thank you for sharing. I felt the same way and sometimes I still do. Then I’m told I’m comforting to be with. People that are close to me can be themselves.
Goddammit guys. This is what I needed. I'm an introvert and being surrounded by extroverts, even in my close family is draining. I really needed to know that I'm not alone and that someone out there understands me. Maybe I'll meet someone like that one day.
Thank you Psych2go.
I'm with ya on this one, Captain!!
Yea I'm in the same boat😒🤦🏽♀️
@@blackrose.28 Yes, we are in the same boat, but at least we know the Captain. I am comfortable with myself. How about you?
@@LtRee96se Honestly where I'm at in my life right now I'm comfortable with myself but I guess to a certain extent. I do wish I was fully comfortable with myself like I use to be back then when I didn't care what ppl think of me but I have children now and my son is a big time extrovert. I try hard to get out of my comfort zone to bond with him on a daily but it's draining af and some situations we're in, I'm not going to lie I'm VERY uncomfortable lol I'm a BLERD who's socially awkward and being around to many ppl make me feel like the walls are closing in on me. 🤦🏽♀️ But I do It to make him happy you know. Don't get me wrong times I do enjoy myself in certain uncomfortable situations only if it brings positivity to us. But at the end of the day no matter how much fun I had with him, I'm just ready to go back in my hole for a week or two alone to recharge. 🤣 So do I go back to the way I've always been and stay happy and comfortable with myself which might make him distant with me or do I let him bring me out of my comfort zone and be uncomfortable and drained for the rest of my life lol🤷🏽♀️
@@blackrose.28 Remember, extroverts need someone to listen to them. My nephew is a big-time extrovert and yet he sometimes listens to his quiet aunt. I would think, with your son, it might be a give-and-take situation. As long as you get some time to recharge, it should work. Just let him know that you love him and the rest might just work itself out. In the end, you can't really change how you were made or how he was made. I haven't had a lot of time with my nephew as he grew up, but I was there to support him at the football and hockey games. I always cheered and never lectured him. I just told him what I thought was good. His father (my brother) always told him what he did wrong. I think the difference was noticeable. And I think he never forgot that I was there for him. If I can do that with my nephew, I know you can do better with your son. I don't know, of course, but I doubt that he wants to drain you or make you uncomfortable. Is he old enough to understand the difference between you and him? If so, just talk to him about it. If he loves you, it won't matter. See how you are trying so hard for him? That's love. Because I sell my art at conventions, I have to recharge as fast as possible for the next day. I found what can help me the most and so I do that. This weekend is a big convention (I hope) where it may be intense. Reading helps me as there are no outside noises to distract me.
As an introvert, I can confirm that these are not specific to introverts. Everybody likes their thoughts, opinions, contributions or existence acknowledged and commended. As an introvert, the things I truly appreciate are
1- When others initiate the conversation, because initiating conversation for us is a true hassle. We are socially awkward, and very rarely nail the right intro. And then we replay the thing in our heads for weeks, sometimes years about how we made a complete moron out of ourselves. Just save us the trouble. Say hello. We'll be receptive and appreciative.
2- When others ask us out to go hang out, because even though we would like to hang out with friends, for us it's very challenging and draining mentally to ask that question.
3- When we are left alone for our "me time". I'm an introvert and you know it. I'm not comfortable with constant socializing. So while I appreciate that you want me to be an active part of your life, it would also be great to leave me alone to rest my nerves every now and then.
4 - Furthermore, parties are not my scene. I can tolerate joining one or two once a year for special occasions, but if you don't ask me to go to every single party on the block with you this weekend that would be great.
5- When I have something to say once a blue moon, and it is actually listened. I don't speak much, so when I do, it's because I have something good or something important to say. I wouldn't otherwise even attempt. I like to stay quiet. I'm an introvert.
6- When people recognize that I'm an introvert and don't ask me things like "why don't you have more friends". I don't ask you how many of your "friends" you've spoken to in the last 3 years, so don't criticize the number of real friends that I have. Because let's be real, my 1 good friend is a much better friend to me than your 100 friends combined to you, but you don't see me rubbing that in your face.
7- Or "why are you so quiet". Like you don't know what an introvert is. Worst is, that question is mostly followed by the "then why are you an introvert" like I had a freaking choice in the matter. Don't be that person, because honestly for us such questions has the same intelligence level as "why are you a blonde". In other words, you will get looks.
Pretty sure there are more, this is just off the top of my head.
Your numbers 3 and 4 seem very privileged because a lot of introverts don't even have these things to be annoyed by (even though they'd like them, as annoying as it can GET). Also...criticism is cool, but don't assume you're the expert either. I'm pretty sure Psych has said they aren't professionals etc etc, so take everything they say with a grain of salt. I agreed with their points and most of yours, but let's be nice shall we
Very cool points. I can really relate with some. Thanks for sharing 🙏🏻
@@jevan1247 I don't see what might come off as privileged in 3, but I see your point about 4, though the "party" was a figure of speech and the exaggeration of the frequency was deliberate. I just meant to say "don't make us have to join every get-together you guys be doing" whether that be family gatherings, friends, business, casual, whatever. Introverts feel boredom and often anxiety when surrounded by too many people for too long or often. This is not me pretending to be an expert, I just know because I'm an introvert also. I know how introverts think, feel, because it's how I think, how I feel. All the stuff I shared above is what I know that applies to at least 90% of all introverts. Psych2Go did make great points for sure, but if we're being real here, a lot of those apply to people in general, introvert or extrovert. That's why I said that at the beginning. I wasn't trying to rant, or come off as aggressive. Just sharing my own pow. Of course we can be nice about it, no reason not to be :)
@@mgc26133 I have to agree that number 3 doesn't sound privileged at all. There are people who want to spend every bit of their free time with an introvert and don't understand the whole "me time" thing. I know this because I've experienced it as an introvert.
For #3, letting us be alone, but ready to jump when we're ready is a great feeling
Wanting to be with us but willing to give the space we need
Gives us that respect we crave
i went to a teen camp for my church not too long ago. Hearing another teen who was just like me, say that they were there for me if i ever needed them... I almost cried. It's the mosst love and support ive gotten from friends since third grade.
To all the introverts there is nothing wrong with you. You are amazing as you are!! "To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment." So be your awesome self:)
TYSM!! Love you💝💝
Tysm same to you
You made me cry... Much love ❤
Being an introvert, it took several years to develop meaningful friendships. Even still, I don’t think my friends have ever asked if I was okay, or said they were here for me. I don’t have bad friendships, but I have definitely put in a lot of work that wasn’t appreciated
Having a person who being there for me and actually caring about who I am is the best thing I would ever need to hear to not be alone. Even sometimes "being an introvert can be a curse and a very beautiful gift."
You said that perfect. That is my problem. I feel all alone in the world.
Top Comforting Things Introverts Would Like To Hear.
“I love how real you are.” ...
“You have an awesome personality.” ...
“I love the way you think.” ...
“You always know exactly what to say.” ...
“I love how unique you are.” ...
“You're someone I can trust.” ...
“I'd love to hear your opinion on this.” ...
“You're a great listener.”
As a predominantly extroverted person dating an introvert, I really appreciated
hearing more things to say to my partner and to know I’m on the right track already telling him things listed here. 🙏🏻
Do you like the extrovert/introvert dynamic? I’m curious
@@SimonB. It can if both are closer to being an ambivert. But definitely will be a major difficulty if both are on extreme ends of the spectrum. Ultimately every relationship is different though, so any pair can find a way to balance it.
@@omiquewilliams8632 It's different than my past relationships with fellow extroverts and we meet each other's needs. Today actually marks 7 months we've been dating which is the longest relationship I have ever had, so all good things! Lots of green flags. 👍
@@viktoriaschmied6627 Agreed! I'm mostly an extrovert, but do have some ambivett in me too. Adding to the reply for @Simon B. it's different than my past relationships with fellow extroverts and my current partner and I meet each other's needs. Today actually marks 7 months we've been dating which is the longest relationship I have ever had, so all good things! Lots of green flags. 👍
@@Vampireninja102 I’m so so happy for you! ❤️💕🎉
Watching this made me happy and it made my day, not just because I'm an introvert but because I've heard some of them from the people who finally understands me and care. Being asked if I'm okay really means a lot to me because the truth is not everyone asked that to me, only to those who is concerned about me.
I would kind of disagree with number 2. Sometimes being quiet is just being quiet, or lost deep in the realms of thought. It's actually annoying to constantly be asked if you're okay. Unless you really know the introvert, are up-to-date on what's going on in their lives, and are prepared to offer help or just let them vent, the question comes of as insincerely offered or a little prying. I could be biased, of course. It's just, in my personal experiences, being asked if I'm okay is really them figuring out if I'm a problem to work around, not because they're actually concerned if I'm having problems of my own. It's like they're assessing what I can contribute today instead of what help I may need.
I don't think they meant to do it constantly, and obviously they are talking about someone who will actually care to listen to you for real.
@@soccerchamp0511 I know their point was well-meant, and for some people it's a perfectly workable method. The counterpoint I'm making is that some introverts are going to bite your nose off if you ask if they're okay, no matter your intentions when asking. Not everyone has someone who cares enough to listen without some kind of agenda of their own.
Number 4 really spoke to me, I very much dislike it when people say something like I should be more extroverted or think I need "fixing".
Introverts definitely aren't in need of fixing their introvertedness if they don't want to.
Yes, and that kinda contradicts number 2. Constantly being asked "are you okay?" is exactly the sort of thing that makes it seem as though we are wrong to be who are and that we picked wrong at the character creation screen of life or something. Obviously if you really think somebody might be having issues then do so, especially if you are close to them (and in that case you should be able to make a more clear distinctiob between how they generally act and when something is going on and they are upset or sad or whatever the case may be) but I can definitely see how that part can be taken the wrong way
as an introvert, i dont like being asked if i’m okay because people always think something is wrong just because im quiet which isnt true
The “are you ok?” Makes me so happy that someone noticed I’m not and that they see it’s not just me being dramatic that it’s actually me needing help!
9 comforting things introverts would like to hear
1-words of apprecation
2-Are you ok?
3-Compliment the way they think
4- I love the way you are
5- Thank you for your insight
6-I feel so comfortable around you
7-You were/are right
8-U can go whenever u like
9-Im here for u
Bricked up
I'm an ambivert but people mostly think I'm an extrovert but treat me as an introvert. People never listen to what I have to say unless if I say something smart during any classes I have. It sucks because I'm constantly being used and never get a thank you for all the hard work I do. Even with my friends I'm ignored from time to time which is why I only show few of them what I'm truly like and what I'm capable of doing and accomplishing because they appreciate everything about me and what I do.
4:04 yes! I just heard this yesterday and... I was unsure if he even liked being around me ❤ someone who is also introvert feels as safe and at peace around me as I do around him. No romance, just quality companionship, and it is the best 😌
That's true! This is truly awesome to hang around with introvert friend who deeply understands you...😌
@@danoncho i agree you
For me I like when people compliment me because it makes me feel good about me
I loved this sooo much!!! As an introvert and as a friend of introverts who I want to make sure they know they are loved and appreciated, this video is highly valuable 😍
#1 fits me 100%. I dislike being the center of attention. I prefer being behind the screen. But it's nice to hear once in a while that my work/deed is appreciated.
I relate to everything. it is really nice to hear something positive from someone. It really does make our day.
I relate to everything described here.
We have to learn to express what we need (and learn what that is in the first place) and not be afraid to be who we are. There may be this *perceived* (i.e., not necessarily correct) expectation of how to be or how to behave in every social environment, at work for example. Imagine 5 introverts at work all thinking they need to be/act more outgoing than they actually want to. In the end you have 5 people stressing over this constantly when they could all just reflex and be themselves and feel comfortable.
As an introvert, this video reassured me that people do care about me, even when I'm going through some tough times.
I’m an introvert, and I often get the same compliments, occasionally from the same people.
This may not be the case with all introverts, but definitely myself: the more you hear a compliment, the more insincere it feels. It lets me know that there’s only one or two aspects of my person you feel are worth something.
"I love the way you are"... Damn, I actually need to hear that. Being made to feel faulty cos you don't act boisterous in situations actually takes a toll... But hey, what can I do. Sometimes, you just gotta keep moving
Thank you for making this video, needed to hear these today :>
Hope you are all having a wonderful day, take care
It can be challenging to navigate the world as an introvert as it can often be misunderstood. Often feeling drained when in social situations or afterwards and needing time alone to recalibrate.
I love how all this is true and really positive
All of these made my smile as an INTJ, thank you (:
My boyfriend’s an introvert i never even thought of his brain process in this way i wanna try it to be more supportive
😢😢😢❤️❤️❤️ thank you... I was bawling my eyes out listening. Needed to hear this it looks like. It's hard for me to see what I need sometimes. I'm autistic with ADHD, and introverted.
That list is so on point, couldn’t agree more 🧡
Oh, gosh... you were talking to me. You nailed it. All those things are true, at least to me. But also, very important, "once in a while". It's not about hearing it all the time. Dependency and low self-steem are a problem. But, once in a while... yes. I also loved that you can feel at peace when you are with some people. It's not that you are comfortable or not. It's something deeper. With some people, very few, I just feel ok. It feels right to be me.
I'm an Introvert, I'd always help if I can. I just want a friend to talk with everyday, a comfort person, but most of my class just go : "What's wrong with her?" "I don't want to be near her, She's weird"
Don't worry that happens to me too
sadly a lot of people don't understand that there are many types of people and not everyone behaves in the same way because they just follow what they're supposed to do instead of being themselves, so they see others as 'weird'
This sum it all up. As an introvert, It's like I'm reading myself about how I feel about certain things and how I wanna be treated but yeah it's not always someone there for you to understand.🥺
Yes we need words of appreciation! I don’t really get that in my home. I started a new job a few months ago and everyone is very nice, every now and then thanking me and/ or telling me I’m doing a good job. It makes me smile every time ☺️
I realised that everything in this video is true about me.
Things I will like to hear:
1. “I feel comfortable around you”.
2. “I will always be there”.
3. Words of appreciation.
This was great to listen to as an introvert and found literally all of these points spot on. Being the only few introverted people in my church I’m always felt pushed to go to events or activities with most or all of the church and when I tell them it would be draining for me and try to explain why it seems like they just can’t process that so they keep on at it and find they start pushing harder especially if it’s drawing nearer and that ends up draining also. Sorry totally just went on a rant but seriously that helped.
Can relate so very much as an introvert being told that you're appreciated and important to a person, is one of the most uplifting things you can ever hear 😘🥰 Especially being told 'I love who you are' and being thanked for your insight, that is amazing in such a humbling way 😘❤💚💜 xox
This information is spot on! Thank you!
i love to read people emotion 🥺
you dont even know how I am relating to this video I feel like you read my mind every each of those comforts are so true thank u so much people dont know that thing and tend to think that there is a problem with being an introvert and with one video you made my day a bit better to know that more people will know that
I have no doubt that introverts have changed my life more than most extroverts have on a more significant and life changing level, they’re like ninjas that are saving lives as they work from the shadows, and that shvt is so dope ❤️
All of these r true. Especially the no escape option is really hard, I was on a party once and my friends didn't wanna leave though I actually started having physical pain from tiredness and exhaustion and I was dependent on them. It was horror to me. I am actually really blessed to found a person that is introvert himself and knows what I need and what makes me happy. He always asks me if I am okay, he tells me how much he appreciates to be with me, that he feels peaceful with me and he acknowledges my opinions on things. I feel extremely happy and understood thanks to him and not deeply lonely inside anymore.
This was great info. Happy to see I am treating my introvert well and I learned some new ways to validate them.
This made me feel seen. Thank you. Anyone watching this you are valuable and loved. 💜
I love the relaxing voices on these videos, the abrupt cutoff of the last word rocked me harder than I expected : P
Your ideas are very practical and obvious but not so obvious at the same time...will definitely try :))
I find you voice very comforting.
Thank you
Thank you so much 😭😭 you make me feel better and make me brave! Thank you!
“Are you okay.” Always breaks me down when I hear it. If you ask me this, I will be so grateful, and probably open up to you.
All of the were relatable for me and really thank you for your really good video ,I hope people around me see this video=) cause I need them so much ❤️
Your voice is so unbelievably soothing
thank you for making me understand more about people ❤️
As someone who is on a spectrum and introverted this would be soooooo great! I have spent way too much time around people who just sap your energy. I wish I could make some friends like that one day. Of course I'd be that friend too for sure! Too bad I rarely leave my house nowdays ...
Love this contents, every single word or part ❤️❤️❤️
This video hit me deeply on an emotional level, this video is talking about the *exact* problems we have, or at least I do, can't speak for everyone.
Hello new voice! I love their accent ❤️ it's so peaceful 🥰 thank you for the video! I hope to hear them again!
Thank you! Introverts like myself are important and valuable.
I didn't knew about how an introvert feels until I became one of them.
Thanks for this, eventhough i just heard those words from the video but somehow i feel like i have someone that really understand me 🔅
Omg this narrator's accent and voice is SOO beautiful 🥰 we would like to hear more of her narration!
No 7 and 8 I felt a lot, I tend to simply watch others fall into disaster and pretend I had no idea because sometimes people don't see it or acknowledge it, and then if I tell them that I saw it coming and tried to warn them I get lashed out at, and the amount of parties and events I get dragged to, makes me wanna fall into a month long coma sometimes.
I’m just binge-watching all of these introvert videos while coming home from vacation because SO understood it’s amazing
Love this... Yeah, I did some of these to an introvert loved one and they work. 💖
thank you pysch2go these are words i needed to hear most and it really comforted me, thank you
Me wishing that my friends and family watch this video instead of me 😭😂 I almost want to send it to them or make them watch it, but wouldn't that be too attention-seeking? 😅
Not at all. Especially if you could find a friend or someone else to send it to them.
I really love this video, thankyou very much
So true!! I would like someone to say these to me.
Especially when you overthink and tell ppl the consequence, but then they either reject your thought or later say you said something negative that's why it happened .
I would LOVE to hear any of these. The only I've ever heard any is watching this video. Usually I hear the exact opposite of these things. The criticism and abuse versions.
Very rarely i do get told some of these things and when it does happen i can confirm it does make my day
Thank you so much , Psych2Go!!
Even if no one says these things to me that heal me and my mind I always feel that there are people out there like me who can understand me and my feelings and emotions. This channel heals me . I love this channel so much!!💝💝
For all you extroverts out there, I'm honestly happy for you all for not having such a hard time with social behaviour. Not that you guys don't have anything to worry about in your own lives, and not to sound like a victim or anything, but as a fellow introvert, may you please be so kind as to not stare in my direction when I seem awkward or shy? That would really help me and probably many others out there, thanks!
Yours truly the biggest socially awkward person to ever walk this earth.
Not every introvert is like that. You somehow described an INTP or an INTJ. Cool Video!
I can ... relate to this.
The most comforting thing ever said to me was from my elder brother last week. "Do what you feel is right."
This was in direct response to me telling him that I won't be travelling interstate to attend our mother's 80th birthday as our family gatherings have not only always drained me, but the experience leaves me feeling extremely depressed due to the extremely toxic nature of many of my family members.
I just watched this video a second time. It spoke to me. Thank you, @Psych2Go. I liked the comforting things that were given in the video. I have a question for the community to ask.
Over the past 2 decades and counting, I've become kinda numb to receiving praise. Sometimes, even if I have done something worthwhile or honorable to someone else, it makes me cringe a bit. [I'm guessing part of it is due to not wanting to be the center of attention.] I'm still embracing my introversion (with some sprinkles of ambiversion), thanks to earlier Psych2Go videos I've watched since 2019. (Those videos helped me realized I sometimes fluctuate between introvert and ambivert, but I'm mostly on the introvert side of life and embracing it! 💌) I don't think I'd mind the comforting things because Drew's (vo) right - we don't hear them enough or any at all. For me, though, they might feel like praise, which I'm not good with receiving. Has anyone else encountered similar feelings? If so, how did you handle them?
Halfway through the video and I've already decided that it needs to be shown to Silvervale's discord
I'm sure some of us try to say these things unconsciously, but it's so nice to know we're helping her feel better for herself
Additional stuff I like to hear as an introvert :
I missed you!
Take your time
Don't be afraid, just ask!
This was really nice. All I want to do is secluded myself for a bit at the end of the day to recharge but when my family want to talk right away and have a negative reaction to me wanting some time by myself I feel guilty and ashamed.
I do like when my insight is appreciated but I don't know how to respond to compliments, i just say thank you but feel like it isn't enough and feel bad, for me I love it when someone listens to me talk about something I'm really interested in and ask a question that shows they listened, when people just say stuff like "oh, that's really interesting" it doesn't feel like they listened, but I'm so used to that response that showing that you listened feels like an incredible privilege now and I'm not sure if it is.
As an introvert, I actually don't really want to be asked "Are you ok?" when I'm perfectly fine. I guess depends on the situation.
When one of my friend texted me and said that she was glad to have a friend like me, I started crying a happy tears because no one else ever said something like that to me
oh thank you! just helped me thru a really bad depressed moment
This is such a beautiful video. I found myself in most the examples. Thank you for sharing Psych2go 😊🌻
i feel so understood from ur videos ❤
I don't know if you take suggestions, but if you do, I think you should do a video on tertiary attractions, nobody talks about them :)
I'm an introvert, yet I do my best to be a good Person to everyone. I have an introvert friend, I always respect her ways to be silent even if I feel like she doesn't really care because more than introvert she is probably a narcissist and our affection doesn't feel like mutual.
Number 7 is something I can really agree with, I'll say something I think we should do in order to make sure something goes right, or to see the other possibilities and prepare, or maybe I say something I feel is smart and other people should think about and know, but they'd usually brush it away, not only does it hurt then, but when something does happen that if only they'd listen, it could've been avoided, or if only they had thought about that then maybe it'd go better or other people (or maybe their own) life would be better, I never get credit in the end. It may feel weird to say it, or awkward, but trust me, we'd love to hear in the end that you acknowledge we were right, or that you'd at least consider it, give it thought, instead of immediately shunning it away.
i related to all of this. sometimes at home i dont feel appreciated for the good i do and all of the negative things i may have done, recently or in the past, i never live down. i try to express to my family i wished theyd be more appreciative of what i do rather than always call out my mistakes, especially when it's in the PAST when i'm trying to do better TODAY. my parents just assume i'm just whining from attention and remark why do i need to be validated for what i do when thats furtherest from the truth. w/ all that being said, i also sometimes feel heard but not listened to whenever i try to explain why i'm upset, and it just leads me to getting more frustrated and agitated as a shouting match between myself and my parents ensues which follows up w/ a sharp decline in my mood and me just clamming up. i am also sometimes forced to interact during social gatherings because my family believes i'm being "anti-social" since i prefer to be surrounded by ppl i know or just to be off in a corner by myself to read, watch videos or play games on my handhelds. whenever i am off alone, my parents always come over and scold me to be more sociable, dragging me alone behind them to introduce me to ppl and/or telling me to go hang out w/ anyone my age at the location.
this is not to say my family are neglectful or anything like that (like they do sometimes praise me for my thought processes/observations and compliment me from time to time as is suggested in this video), but i do feel like they dont truly understand introverts. theyve known ever since i was a little girl i was very quiet and shy, preferring to relax alone, or just having fun w/ my family and/or friends/ppl i know. now that i'm older, i'm very much a ppl-person and i joke i'm an extroverted-introvert since i love helping and being around ppl (that i know), but i tend to be very quiet, observant and borderline distrusting at first, especially after ive dealt w/ bullying when i was around 10 - 13.
this does beg the question now what extroverts find comfortable. i mean, i feel like itd be obvious, and it probably should be, but ive met some extroverted friends who dont have a "night life" nor are interested in going to fast-paced, energetic and wild locales w/ a bunch of ppl...and, even if they are the type, they tend to confess to me and other friends they get just as drained as introverts do at times. i'd love to see a vid about how extroverts feel and think as is presented in this vid, or, if theres already one, if someone could point me in the right direction 😄
I wish my friends would know English well, so they could understand this video! I’m sure I’ll not translate this one just to make them know what I would love to hear.
I agree with every topic approach. Hearing that I was right on my observations is better than a material gift, for sure!
as an introvert (who is rediscovering his introvertedness) i like to be appreciated for my hard work ☺️❤️
I need my friend to see this. Great video
I appreciate you so much!❤️
Yup thank you true introverts act this way though giving compliments I wouldn’t say quite good we shy away people because we feel we’ll get our hearts hurt if we open up too much or being smart to give a bonus appreciation on people we care about is a great thing true introverts value one or friends at best not a lot to us we rather have one great friend we can literally tell anyone anything least that’s how I am not sure about everyone else but thing I will mention is not every introvert the same acts the same in every manner etc
Thank you for the information
Ok I'm subbing. I going to use these methods more often until we go on our end of school trip to Cardiff in Wales in may. I'll tell you all in a comment where this goes after that. Cuz I'm confessing that day.