Talinda Bennington talks about Chester Bennington (+ mental health)
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- Опубліковано 31 січ 2018
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"Mom we should not have gone on that trip, dad would still be alive " this broke something in me...
Kanna Ackerman I agree I wonder want happened on that trip for that little boy to think that.
Lisa Covus I think that he just felt guilty of not being there for his father.... you know I just want to hug them all 😂
His familly, mike ...all of them
That broke my heart.
Kanna Ackerman oh my god 😭
Lisa Covus they just came home a day after Chester did, I think that’s why he said that..
Sometimes the people who act the happiest are the one's who are suffering the most
You are completely right x
agree. body language evaluation from a 2017 video was that chester never stopped acting.... all pretend.... m.ua-cam.com/video/S1pxMpL1n7g/v-deo.html
chester even said "I'm ALWAYS acting" then he quickly turned it into a joke...... with more acting. (from 2015.... 2016 upload) m.ua-cam.com/video/CZ7muzS0y2g/v-deo.html
I disagree maybe to people they dont know well. But if someone close to you is suffering from clinical depression or a serious mental health issue. It's glaringly obvious. If don't notice it's probably because you don't really care. As for knowning the 5 signs it's actually 10. If you want to change how we approach mental health issues it means being honest at the very least.
Phill exactly
“His voice is the sound of generations and he is a legend . “
“Its not my fault, bands fault and childrens fault , its not Chester fault, its the years of untreated mental problem .“
Great 👍🏻 lines by talinda bennington .
Mental Health begins with self. If unwilling, it's unable.
Chester was so much more than just another rock star. His death blew me away when I found out. Once my wife told me what happened I thought shit I can't believe it but I didn't think I would have cried because I didn't know him personally but just a few minutes after having that thought I broke down in tears and for two weeks I couldn't listen to the song one more light without crying. The music Chester and the rest of Linkin Park have made got me through some shit in my life and if it wasn't for them I don't know where I would be right now. I owe Chester a massive thank you for being an inspiration and just and all around awesome guy. #MakeChesterProud
Krys N the best thing about Linkin Park fans is that we are not just fans we are all apart of the Linkin Park family. We come from all different walks of life and live in a world where people put too much focus on our differences and even find ways to hate each other for those differences sadly instead of looking at what similarities we share no matter how small they seem. I believe a vast majority of the Linkin Park family would be there for someone else regardless of their differences because Linkin Park set an example for us to follow and never spouted hate for the sake of hate but instead show us we should embrace each other and the differences we have. Sorry for the long rambling lol.
The Blue Eye Gamer Yeah dude that morning before even gearing the news i felt a stillness in the air then my friend who i hadnt really been talking to text me ...i cried for like 4 hours straight ..i never felt such pain from someone i never met.
Linkin Park has been a major part of my life since the video for "One Step Closer" came out. I always related to a lot of their lyrics, especially when it came to the depressed & suicidal parts. I was having a good day, had taken my kitten to the vet, got her treated for fleas and worms and she was going to be okay. I was delighted. I get on fb, see a post that one of my friends made about Chester being dead and I was like, "No way, this has to be a joke. You know, like one of those celebrity death hoaxes." I Googled it & it wasn't, and I was absolutely devastated. I'm still devastated, and probably always will be. The 20th is gonna be hard af. He's going to be everywhere, and I've already thought about him a lot these last few weeks and have been very emotional. And now I'm crying again. Never in my life have I been hit by a celebrity's death like this before. I was shocked and saddened about Kurt Cobain, and Layne Staley, and Scott Weiland, and Chris Cornell, but Chester......that one fucking killed me. I keep asking myself, when your hero can't fight their own demons anymore, wtf do you do? RIP, Chester.
The hero that helped so many people couldn't help himself
Music Collaborators will make him happy.
He helped me out of my depression and my drug adiction with his Music and voice chester Will always be my hero ❤
I was surprised Chester survived for as long as he did while knowing how much he wore his heart on his sleeve. He touched so many people's lives in the short time that he was here. I don't even think he truly realized how many people either. In the end, we will continue to make Chester proud.
in the end he does even matter.
@SebastianPuentes so put me out of my fucking misery
If you do not want to live and you do not want to feel anything, it does not matter that you have family and children. It's in your head. You do not want to do anything, you do not want to feel. You can not be happy because thoughts overwhelm you, they keep coming back. I know that feeling. There are days when you feel that you do not want to live anymore. So those who say how he could leave his family do not know what they are saying. Chester fought for a very long time .......Chester will always remain in our hearts, thoughts. if he had suicide attempts, I would not leave him alone.
ugiata ugiata I agree with you 💯
that is exactly what I thought! everyone who is in any way related to those themes knows that this date would be a huge trigger ! I mean how could you leave someone you love completely unsupervised ? But on the other hand....you cant force someone to live. Chester knew exactly when someone would show up to take him to his fotoshoot , when the housekeeper would arrive....and he used the hour before they would show up to hang himself.....i mean you would have to take someone inpatient into a psych ward or moniture him every single minute of his life ...because if there is any chance and someone is ready to , they will take it. it's so sad and I wish here would be a rwplay button but it was his choice after a battle that was too much.
“You do not want to do anything“
That's me everyday tho
ugiata ugiata How thoughtful, the world needs more people like you 😊 I'm also heartbroken that Chester is gone, but I'm sure he'd want us who love him to be happy, treasuring the memories we had about him. And I'm sorry you had those times when you felt low, just hope that life would turn beautiful and amazing for you. I wish you only the best things to come 🙂
I feel the same... one day at a time!!
She’s amazing, my husband took his own life 7 months ago and i related to a lot of what she is saying. I think she’s so brave to speak out and help people, I’m still paralysed by grief but one day I hope I can help others too.
I am so sorry for your loss :(((
I’m so sorry for your loss :’( I hope you are coping ok and have been able to find some peace
she remaried after a year of his passing
Es tut mir sehr leid, viel Kraft für dich 🙏🙏🙏.
@@lloydvallentine2 damn 😳
I love Chester Bennington and I pray for his family to be safe and strong.
I’ve gotten to the 13:00 minute part - where she says that their 11 year old son blames himself for his fathers death, that he says to his mother “Mom we shouldn’t have gone on our trip. Dad would still be here!” - this breaks my heart! This poor boy shouldn’t blame himself whatsoever!! It terrifies me with the thought that maybe he does think and feel that....at only 11 years old!! He may think that for his entire life! And with the depression he struggles with himself, I pray that he gets the help he needs and doesn’t one day do the same thing, after his father.
I myself have and still am struggling with depression, have for my entire life that I can remember, even at a very fragile age, maybe barley even 5 years old that I can remember. And it’s hard to cope with it all every single day, every day is a struggle with it all. I can’t take a compliment from anyone, even from my husband or son. Plus I myself have attempted to end it all more than once. So it’s so hard!! And a lot of people don’t realize this!, that this same thing is going on in the minds of more people than we even realize!! Some of the most beautiful, privileged people in this world struggle with this as well!
Having a son myself, who is almost 6, I worry. Which now hearing this, that their 11 year old blames himself, it really scares me. I pray that he can somehow, some day, get past that thought, and one day be able to see his father as a legend.
Please pray for Chester’s wife, children and friends!! It’s not their fault! It’s not Chester’s fault!! The mind can sometimes take over with the worst thoughts you can imagine and take over what you know you should do.
Depression is a battle that not everyone can conquer.
God be with the family! Especially the children. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Chester should be Celebrated, he was a very special and beautiful but complex human being. His contribution to humanity was both huge in itself and hugely important to so many people around the world.
Legendary. 🙏❤💯
That boy needs to be watched very closely, feelings of guilt in someone that young is a red flag for clinical depression
Dear Danielle, that's true, prayer is a powerful thing, I opened my heart in prayer to God when I was 23 years old while reading the new testament for the very first time, that deep emptiness, feel of rejection and depression that I had as long as I can remember, was instantly removed in that prayer like old past away and new was born that evening. From that moment I realize why Jesus went to cross. I am now 39 and still in peace. God bless you and God bless you all!
It's scary how much abuse Talinda experienced from so called LP "fans" at the most difficult and even brutal time of her and their children's life.
People who know nothing of other people's private lives and what it is living with substance abuse,childhood trauma and clinical depression,are quick to jump and blame and point fingers.
Total disclosure. Look it up.
His oldest son thinks they killed him. Is he allowed to say that?
Guys, stop judging. The fact that she had courage to share, to be vulnerable is big. Most of the time, the families are ones left to collect the pieces after someone dies. She decided not only to collect pieces and take care of her 3 kids, but focus on suicide and mental health programs. Is that not enough?! Stop blaming and start practicing compassion and empathy. None of us are perfect. Sitting here and saying family is to blame is a low. Wishing all kindness. #fuckdepression #makechesterproud
Well said!!
susan smith definitely done my hw. Got psychology undergraduate, know ppl who committed suicide, worked with kids with severe disabilities, trained with city of attorney's office on mental illnesses (schizophrenia, depression, mania, etc.). Kindness is not telling someone you don't know to do hw and assume they don't have background, but practicing this everyday by having positive conversations. Wishing you well. :)
his widow is trying to TEACH about mental health...... his interview videos are abysmal. his needs were NOT being met. I've seen things in his videos that I haven't even mentioned because it's THAT bad. I would not bash his widow if she retired to grieve........ of course, she is grieving...... but to say that she had no responsibilty as his partner is absurd. why don't you use your psychology degree to evaluate his april instagrams?
@starlight write
The reason they are blaming Chester death on depression and having a sip of beer. Is because it shuts down any real conversation about his death. And excludes any outside influences that caused him to take such drastic action.
She does not talk about suicide or even make it her cause. She blamed depression immediately when he died and has not stopped since. Depression is a deep feeling of not getting ones needs met. She is using the word incorrectly -- it is sign or symptom not a cause. She would be better off just not hiding things about the lead up to his suicide. Talking about how addicted and sad he was instead of the reasons behind it just makes this all about her.
Iv being suffering from depression for years and thought of suicide many times. I battle with this every day. I just want to say thank you for this talk.
You didn’t have to be married to Chester to see in his eyes, that he was lost. That’s a tough tough place for anyone. Being an alcoholic sounds pretty brutal.
It was heroin too
It is its hell I was alcoholic and drug addict .allso bi poler and board line personality disorder .iv not drank since 2007 allso drugs but I relapsed on drugs for a couple years I was self medicating .I was abused as a kid it destroyed me lost all my friends my family because they don't understand . There needs to be more help .the stigma got to stop !!!
@S A I'm sorry I really hope your doing ok
I'm still addicted to alcohol and this is very true
He told us over and over in interviews and lyrically he struggled for years yet such a sweet soul not fair he deserved more .
exactly
i believe that there is so much more to this than we will ever know :-(
Same I think so too.
Part of me just doesn't want to know about it
I agree and maybe thar truth will never come out or maybe one day it will who knows,my opinion on his wife talinda is she has never once seemed or even looked upset while talking about chester,even in the very early days after he passed away I know that we all deal with things in different ways so I get that,but there has just been something about her that I don't like another side to her that we haven't seen,I think there was something going on in their marriage and unfortunately that was something that pushed chester over the edge.
@@sarahdibble6216 Hi Sarah, Though I would like to believe that Chester passed knowing that he had total and unconditional love from his wife, regretfully, I have to tend to agree with you. I too have never witnessed any emotion whatsoever from Talinda when speaking of Chester or his death. If nothing was at least a little bit amiss, she must be one strong person to not have her voice even crack just 7 short months after Chester's death. Yes we all are different, and maybe she just doesn't show emotion. I'll give her the benefit of the doubt on that one. Personally, though I don't have any concrete evidence at all, I always kind of thought, she married money and fame, not Chester. He was already an established, rich, popular, out-going, Linkin Park front man when she met him. There are also 2 things that I have noticed that make me think she is not who she claims to be. The first is a picture she posted just this past holiday season with one of the girls and Santa cookies. (Instagram I think) She preaches lifting people up, however, she has blackened out her step-son's stocking (Draven) in the picture. I just can't see any reasonable explanation for this ???? How could you block out his stocking, flesh and blood of the man that is the love of your life?? How absolutely horrid if Draven saw that blatant slap in the face :-( How is this lifting up and caring about an innocent boy that was in her life for at least 12 1/2 years.....It astounded me when I saw that picture. It made me wonder what Chester was thinking as he witnessed this action from above. Secondly, was a picture just recently of Talinda showing off her new reading glasses. Who takes a picture of their new glasses in their underwear? This kind of picture, when I see one, just shows me that the person posting is an attention hog. They use the excuse of glasses to show off their body. Fishing for compliments is what that is. Did anyone ever even notice the glasses??? Doubtful ! But, she is determined to keep herself relevant. She has a big following because of who she was married to, not for any other reason I suspect. Also, I did think it was awful quick for her to marry and already divorce when Chester hasn't even been gone 4 years. As a rough guess from the timing of that whole fireman thing, I don't think he could have been gone more than 2 years when that started. As an avid Linkin Park/Chester Bennington fan and being quarantined for almost a year with not much other than the internet to occupy me, I probably have stewed on things like this way too much. But, it does feel good to know there are other of like mind out there. Take Care !!
I agree. I feel she wasn't even into helping Chester with his struggle with addiction and depression... She said several times she didn't force him to take his pills to "avoid starting a fight"... If you truly love and truly care for someone, you don't care getting into a fight to make them take their pills or go to treatment. Even if that means the other person ending the relationship.
I feel that there's too much that's being hidden...
He was “happy” because he had made peace with the fact that he was going to take his own life and the suffering would end. The suffering is unbearable and the fact he made it that far was a testament to his strength. Beautiful man.
Don't pretend like you know what was going on inside his head. You don't.
Jonas Dylmer perhaps it’s a similar story in every heart and mind that makes such a drastic choice. Have you ever loved someone who was that close to edge, and slipped over it?
@@Shadowfiles912 Chester talked about it all the time it's all his songs r about
@@Shadowfiles912 🤡
How tf do you know? That's not a ?
Their latest entire album spoke about depression and death. He was saying goodbye in almost every song. Including some previous songs in previous albums like "Leave out all the rest" from their album "Minutes to Midnight" in 2007 and so many others. He just couldnt handle the pain anymore. Now he is in heaven and in peace, no more pain, no more suffering. RIP Chester, you will always be missed.
This breaks my heart, I lost a friend to suicide, I blamed myself for so long....and then I heard chester back in 2015...went to his last concert in 2017 and when he passed it made me think of both my friend and chester.... I can't listen to chester the same way I did 5, 6, 7 years ago. I blame myself for a lot of things....I still do sometimes....I'm so sorry talinda for your loss and to your kids I feel just awful...
For us fans to lose him, hurt so bad. But, for her to lose her husband and father to her children.... I can't imagine. She's absolutely right, his voice was one of a whole generation.
Chester's passing hurts. The lyrics to his songs are feelings I hold inside my soul. Many times I've felt hopeless and contemplated the same thoughts he felt. He will be greatly missed by myself. I only hope, I can be strong enough to continue pushing through each day. Rest easy Chester...
This might have just saved my life. I was having dark thoughts
A recent interview I saw with Chester he said when he's alone it's really bad and when he's alone it's not a good place to be, so for him to be alone on Chris's Birthday makes sense why he was so low and did what he did, it's so so sad we've lost the best vocalist ever to hit this earth, and was such a humble and caring and lovely funny man, he just shouldn't of been alone on that day of Chris's birthday things would of been so different right now and he would still be here😭
R35addict i remember the interview, yes he said being alone it's really bad for him. how could they leave him alone that day? 😢😢😢 i loved him so much, i can't stop thinking if he wasn't alone that night he would be alive today
mihaela huban it's true. He said in a couple of interviews that inside his head is like a bad neighborhood and he should not be alone in there. It's such a sad moment to talk about that but at the same time it was deep and honest. I miss him so much I envision him right beside me. 😭😭😭Our mental health is just as important as our physical health.
Catrina Roberts I miss him so much too 😥 half of the time I still can’t believe it happened, my mind doesn’t want to accept it.
Justin Timberlake is a better vocalist (jk)
R35addict .. Chester was sober ... A MAN WHOM PROVIDED N LOVED HIS FAMILY N TALKEX ABOUT THE FUTURE AS TOO CHRIS..Chris was gonna divorce Vicky n Start Soundgarden part2 ... Im not expert but, you font make future plans if ur gonna off urself ..
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Talinda is so well spoken! Her words just touched my heart. She is a strong women! God bless her and her family!
Crawling in my skin
These wounds, they will not heal
Honestly I feel that Chester Bennington was a victim of this contemporary psychology and the lack of awareness of others ... meaning them diagnosing Chester with depression is faulty because depression in his case is a symptom not the illness itself... the symptom of complex trauma and toxic shame... it seems like he wasnt receiving adequate “treatment” rather just ruminating with therapists.. I hope psychologists will be more developed and start addressing the root causes of things... why I like this video is that they’re doing what they can to dissolve the stigma
but there's inadequate treatment or awareness regarding c-PTSD and toxic shame from childhood abuse. Contemporary Psychology is behind and out of the loop when it comes to childhood abuse by a narcissist and the C-PTSD it causes.
Well said dude
Dr Jordan Peterson is a light in this pitch black tunnel that life is. I suggest people listen to some of his lectures. They like to smear him because he doesn't bend the knee to politics, but his perception of mental health and illnesses associated with it help out a lot with understanding one's own problems and learning how to cope with those issues. Stay strong everybody.
I feel like he had bipolar disorder too. Depression is just a vague term.
very tue i was in hospital becaue of mental problems and they tried to just heal symptoms but not the problem..maybe i seem im o.k now..but its only outside..noones sees how i suffer inside
💯
She is a strong woman
Agree! maybe a little too strong/happy
Amazing women so incredibly honest. Understanding addiction & depression is extremely difficult if you haven’t suffered in this disease... I am touched by her insight into this very difficult journey, I live in this and appreciate your thoughts!
it's not a disease or journey it is an excuse thrown around by people who wish not to talk about suicide. Chester died sober - remember?
Very
+GodBox 007
more like a "strange woman"
She is such a great influence and role model to her children. It's amazing how open she is to them and how helpful that is for them to grow up knowing how important mental health is. Amazing
Thank you for this...I have dealt with bipolar disorder and severe anxiety my whole life. I'm so glad you are letting others know that there shouldn't be a stigma attached to mental health..it empowers me to reach out more to others and let them know it is ok...WE are ok❤️
Talinda speaks so well
Don't be like that please
What a wonderful person she is. That was the best speech I've ever heard on depression and I will take from this and grow stronger. I will not be ashamed to not be ok anymore! Thank you so much Talinda! I've been battling with severe depression, bipolar 1 disorder, and post traumatic stress disorder(ptsd) since I was 13(my diagnosis) and will be turning 25 on the 28th of this month. This is by far the most outreaching and uplifting speech that I've ever heard and I honestly wish that Talinda could be my psychiatrist!
You are such a wise and strong woman!! Thank you for this! I am a diehard linkin park fan and I am heart broken about Chester. I suffered from depression and anxiety all my life. At times you feel like with world is better off without you. But all the mental health work I did for myself today I am strong and I love myself. It’s not something that ever goes away. You manage it. I can’t imagine going on after a tragedy like that, so I admire you so much! ❤️
I'm a fan who misses and is so very sad about Chester's passing, I can just imagine what pain Talinda , his children, family and friends are going through. It is really very hard and I'm so very sorry for your loss. RIP Chester.
Wow, what a brave lady to talk so candid and open about her tragedy in the hope that others will benefit. Good on you Talinda and I hope you find the strength to continue with this. Love to you & your family.
Hearing/watching Chester talk about his depression got me through some extremely bad times.
R.I.P my friend ❤
This was a wonderful speech. I love how she analyzes behavior and such. May he rest in final peace from all that weighed him down. Sometimes angels are summoned to fly to a new journey. I've lost many friends and family to suicide. They seemed so happy. I'm glad his family is strong and may his legacies live in forever. He was a great man💕💙.
Thank you for your words. All the love to you and your family!
You've given back to the people in this interview babe thank so much for sharing your experience
Talinda, you're making Chester proud. Thank you, for everything you've done and continue to do
“His voice is the sound of a generation” strong words when speaking of Chester in multiple ways. Just wow.
His death may have been a surprise to her, but she still has him in her heart. Talinda, you're an amazing woman! Stay strong. Love and blessings❤ 💪 #fuckdepression #makechesterproud
talinda is a hoe, samantha loved chester more even after they divorced.
This woman is fake like few others
redi kurti it's quite obvious there should be more inspirational people in this world and I believe Talinda loved Chester just as much. You could watch that IG clip of Chester's undying love for Talinda. They've had their ups and downs. She never loved him less for his downfall and relapses.
redi kurti Don’t compare Talinda and Samantha. Both are two very different people.
#FUCKBLAMINGDEPRESSION
Umm, interesting outfit choice, why is she sitting there like Sharon Stone?
The world lost a bright light with Chester passing. I can't imagine what his family is going through, my heart goes out to all of them.
Thankyou for this! We need to hear this for sure, and don’t listen to those people who judge. Our mental health is a fragile thing and needs to be cared for daily. I admire the honesty shared in this video 🦋💕💕💪
Chester saved my life many times, he's a legend to me and I wish I could have met him at least once. RIP brother.
Lisa Covus - finally someone whom one feels sympathetic and honest. Thank you
Talinda is such a strong lady, He is and will be in our heart, thank you Talinda for what you do
I can relate to this ..... all of it .... thank you for using your platform for raising awareness to addiction and mental health❤
Wow this is so hard to watch, she's holding back the tiers so well though. Respect to her! What a brave woman.
Lost my very best friend to accidental suicide via oxycontin. When I was very young. He broke his back in a car accident and spent nearly 10 years unable to walk, and unable to work. I spent every day that I could with him. I only knew him after the accident. But no one could ever understand the pain that he was going through. I wish that I could've understood better. I wish he and Chester were still with us. A year after he died, I had a dream that he and I were chilling and we just hugged and told eachother I love you far the first time.
Please. Tell people you love them while they're still here.
I was a teenager still in school when I first heard Chester's voice. He and many others during the Nu Metal days were the heros who helped lost, different, low confidence kids feel like it was OK to be who we were. It's true that we all need to think more about how we're feeling and our mental state may be like.
Chester is a legend. May he rest in peace.
Chester was my #1. The one singer I wanted to meet and sincerely thank for getting me through some really rough times in my life. His lyrics helped me get through and express myself when I didn't have the words myself to explain how I was feeling inside and out. He will forever live on and be missed!
Talinda, you are a blessing, a strong and wise person. I've lost people to suicide, and I have blamed myself. In the end I had to realize, like you said, it's no ones fault. Listening to you talk was amazing to listen to. I will always remember Chester's beautiful voice. I understand depression and anxiety, since I have had it since a kid, and have had to learn to cope with it, and get help for it. I allowed myself to get help because I was tired of feeling bad all the time. I understand the pain you and your family have gone through, and are going through, and I wish you all peace and love moving forward. Sending you prayers.
What strength you have! God bless u and ur family. ❤️
His voice is the sound of a generation, and that will never die. xx
Thank you, Talinda. Your words have helped me. God bless you and your family
Lost my brother 2 months ago. It's all still so,very overwhelming. Thank you for trudging on and teaching me as you go. God bless you and yours.
Well said Talinda Bennington, Your handsome husband Chester will so proud of you.
Totally agree with you Jennifer Daly, and I love her honesty.
bruh
You just had to say handsome
The Giant Diugh wtf are you then a lesbian
The Giant Diugh taze my eyebrows off dude are you serious
*THE VOICE OF THE GENERATION*
I have only seen this today. She puts it in a very well worded way. It helped me understand everything much better. She sounds like a very strong person. Wish her and the family all the best. 🌷❤🙏🕇
So sad... such an awesome man who had an amazing voice. Its great that Talinda is is trying to spread awareness and getting people to understand depression. 💔
RIP Chester. I’ve been listening to his music since 1999, and his death broke my heart back in 2017. I too suffer with Major Depressive Disorder, and it’s a monster. LP has helped me in my battle with depression in so many ways.
Her words really did something to me. Maybe it is to late now, to save Chester, but we can save other people out there, if we start helping them. #MakeChesterProud ❤️
God Bless you and your family, Talinda. I think about Chester every single day...he has inspired so many and touched lives in ways we could never count... and you have, also... I hope you feel Chester smiling down on you every day..he must be so proud of you.
Tali day it is so wonderful that you are bringing mental health to the forefront!!!! 💗💗💗
Iv listened to this over & over, big long Speech, without as much as tear!!! & with a skirt up to your hips!!!!
Those saying “she shouldn’t have done this; or she should have done that’; try to understand that living with someone who suffers from depression takes its toll too. And sometimes, people think in ways which to someone who is on the outside, so to speak, appear totally nuts.. but because you’re on the inside, you’re in that situation, it seems like a pretty normal way of thinking, and doing.
As someone who struggles with depression, and suicide ideation; I can understand the way she felt that maybe, with Chris Cornell’s death, he’d turned a corner because he saw the anguish it caused his friends and family... when you are struggling, or living with someone else through their struggle, you make all sorts of weird assumptions and bargains, based on your experiences. Because your experiences of struggles with mental health (whether it’s your own, or those of someone close to you) shape your neural pathways, how your brain is wired...and that affects your responses; so that what to you appears to be a faulty response, to me appears to be a perfectly reasonable one.
My heart goes out to this woman who is picking up the pieces, not just f0or herself, not just for Chester, but also for their children... when you’re a parent, things are so much more complex. And on top of that, she gets hate too. I miss Chester because his voice, his work gave me a spiritual connection that nothing ever else ever did, his voice put into words so much that I could not articulate.......but my missing him is but a drop in the ocean compared to hers and to the kids’.
Stay strong , Talinda. Xxxx
Marija Brincat okay so Chester spoke of his battle of depression but he said that 2015 and 2016 was the worst years but after this new album it changed him he was going to the gym working out felt better than ever. Just because Talinda sat this and that means nothing
Well said
Marija Brincat one more thing Chester wasn’t done singing either once you guys that are wrapped in Talinda‘s webs of lies can come back here and say wow you was right she did have him killed. And people one other thing twice now my account on twitter as been locked do to suspicious activity which I’m sure I know who that is coming from. So no her account was not hacked they would of locked it she says no she didn’t tweet that stuff butt yes people she did and she got on Chester’s to so she could send a video to Vicki Cornell so hop you guys can see through her soon Chester needs justice
naysha stong
the best "justice" for Chester is to be ever more open and respectful about mental health issues.
How will conspiracy theories help or honour or even secure justice for Chester?
It is hard to accept, I get that...hell, I still cry when I listen to his voice. But that doesn't mean you can discount the power of his demons, or even of depression.... Depression NEVER quite goes away..it just lies low, coiled and ready to strike anytime.
Why do people assume the worst of Talinda...ffs, idk her from Adam, but hell, this woman's grieving..cut her some slack.
Marija Brincat think of it as one of your children lady are you just going to let it go really? Anyone that says conspiracy I’ve been told is link to them and she is so not grieving What I’m saying is no conspiracy lady. Why do she loose her ring for so long how could she stay in the house where he died and why did she speak down on him when he is dead? Why did they have a casket for the funeral and then cremate him why was nothing investigated such as the Uber driver the so called hacking of her account. That poor man was taken from his kids that he loved. He spoke once of suicide that’s was after his first wife took his home and left him with nothing so you think I know nothing try me he was the happiest guy except first divorce after breaking his wrist and then his leg/ankle. And if they think it’s cause of Chris’s death then her ass should of been there for him. Go ahead do you more to say?
Thank you for your courage and love. Chester touched our lives together and forever, he will always be in our hearts, his vocals and emotionally expressed songs truly touched the most inner parts of our souls. Peace and happiness to you and your family always 💐🌷🌹
I couldn't watch this video for a long time and today I finally did.
thank you Talinda, you are so incredibly strong, you help me to stay strong as well.
Hinter jedem Lachen kann unendlich viel Traurigkeit sein. Es ist wahnsinnig traurig das chester gegangen ist😢. Man kann das Leiden eines Menschen oft nicht sehen, darum ist es wichtig manchmal nochmal hinzuschauen.! Viel Kraft für seine Familie 🙏🙏🙏
Was lovely to listen to her speaking and she made a lot of sense by what she said. I can't imagine how she manages each day since his passing. She has wonderful insight!
God bless you Talking. I couldn't imagine the pain and the pain the kids endured. You seem like a very special person!
Lots of prayers!!! Hope you reach millions and millions of others and from this you make someone's life better. Where i grew up, I lost so many close friends to suicide from depression. It eats at your heart so bad. My kids push me through each day and my Lord Jesus. Thank you for this Talinda Bennington. Chester is proud of you!!!!
It's late but I still want to comment this. Depression is feeling everything and nothing at the same time. It's not that his family didnt matter that he left em or that he was a coward. He had been strong enough. He was brave enough to get through, fall inlove, have kids, experience life. Unfortunately we dont get the help we need when we're struggling. Depression is something that we can't control not even our emotions. I feel fall Chester because,like, things are getting harder for me every day and Im fighting to stay alive because I cant control my emotions and when I get panics I couldnt breathe, I couldnt think straight. Im in an environment where it was believed that depression is a myth and suicidal thoughts is just in your head. So I feel for everyone whos struggling with their mental health. No words can explain the feeling of being on a different level of depression and anxiety. It's just as heavy as staying silent when you want to scream. We are our own worst enemy. It's hard to fight the monsters inside us. I chose to stay but I dont know how much longer. Only if people would understand the pain.
Edit: also I like how she is so strong to handle it and that she shared this to people ❤
People can be cruel it wasn’t your fault people don’t understand how serious mental health is and I love how strong you are being for your children may god continue to keep you strong and your children we love Chester forever
Thank you for this. This will help a lot of people
What an absolutely understanding beautiful woman, sorry for her and her children’s loss.
"Mom we should have not gone on that trip dad would still be alive"
That's so sad, poor kid 😢😢😢
Yeah, these assholes just demolish their families and don't give a shit. Narcissistic fucks
I understand that you can't watch someone who is suicidal 24/7 but on Chris Cornell's birthday? That's such a high risk, someone should have been there.
WOW,, I think this video should be shown to all people in therapy, I suffer from clinical depression and this video helped me a lot and give me a lot to think about ,,, Thank you so much for opening you heart to us all.
This is one inspirational mother a mother to be proud of.
So god damn gut wrenching. Miss you Chester and Chris
Chester was an amazing man, father, husband, friend and musician who touched many. Chester was clean and he had clinical depression and his inner demons, he talked about this in his own words. I just wish all of his children had been notified, and not by TMZ...His first wife Samantha and his son Draven should have been notified when Draven was there the week before and saw his dad a lot. Very sad to see his own son say he was ousted at his own dads funeral...Chester wouldn’t want that. My two cents I don’t see Talinda talk about.
His last interview tells the story in his words...he’d said my head is a bad place to get stuck. It’s not her fault or anyone else’s I can’t imagine how all of his family and friends must feel...
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Best Be For The Betterment of All. I embrace, applaud, and appreciate this Post!
Such a Strong woman! God bless her!
You doing a great Job about spending Mental Health Illness around the Talina Bennington , Depression suck because i have it like really bad.
When Talinda mentioned how their son gave a speech talking about mental health, it made me tear up. I thought about little me in 6th grade hearing that speech and be like “wow I’m not the only one who feel this way.” Strong woman for sharing this. She didn’t have to but she did. Thank you.
"Its up to you, to be who you want to be" This is a great positive line to remember.
Beatiful words Talinda, I will keep: "His voice was the voice of a Generation". RIP Chester!
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Talinda awesome speech . Love it. I’m so sorry you you’re children having get blamed get hurt & are hurt You are the best . Bless you your children . People are very horrible Stay Strong! I’ve had depression since I was young I never knew depression then I look back now I know I had it then too. I’m getting help have been since my dad passed away in 91. Depression bipolar not joke if you’ve never exp it be extremely happy you don’t have it . Suicide thinking is very dark very deep hard keep straight face without crying trying talk anyone that’ll listen . People you don’t have it stop criticizing people you’re hurting people with your words it cuts deep never gets out you it stays in you Have great night !!
Her story about Chester talking to Dave reminded me of their song "Nobody's Listening". And that song perfectly encapsulates that feeling. "Can't you hear so clearly but you don't want to hear me." and "Tried to give you warning but everyone ignored me." I always felt selfish after hearing of his death. I took those words as just lyrics. I ignored the warnings...
I'm so glad to hear her talk about the shame tied to emotions and mental health. Too much shame around feelings causes so many to just put on a face and it hurts.
Its also kind of comforting to know how Chester's perception differed from Talindas in that example she gave because thats a thing I struggle with.
Fortunately the free resources online have helped me get a better grasp of that.
I have a tendency to go off on a tirade when it feels like I'm being ignored. Especially if I'm passionate about something and it feels like everyone is annoyed by me.
And the perception issue causes me to dip in really low states. It takes a lot of effort to gather myself.
I think this issue really goes back to childhood and it takes a special kind of therapist or healer to make breakthroughs.
And of course like she was saying its so important to take care of yourself as best as you can.
You very strong lady. Every word you spoke is so truth. Keep strong we love you. There needs to be more people like Chester. Just someone to show they care. Be the reason someone survives not the reason someone dies.
unfortunatley.. we can't call in at work because we're depressed ... then we go to work and get "dinged" because we screwed up or didn't meet a deadline.
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I am really amazed more people haven't commented on this. It should be pinned.
it's a massive problem.
I have a friend who tells her Boss that she suffering from a migraine rather than the truth that her anxiety is really bad. I think making mental health training mandatory in all places of employment. would go a long way.
well, I have started to call in for a "wellness day" and I've had a few employers receive that just fine. but as a contractor, it's small businesses that I help so I can't speak for corporations. I also don't think employers who mostly employ men are going to be as understanding, but they need to be!
We have short-term disability insurance and Major Depressive Disorder is a disability, albeit treatable. But, Insurance companies make you jump through so many hoops to "prove" you're depressed that you eventually make yourself go until you can't or end up deciding nothing on this planet is worth that kind of agony. In the end, the proof of depression turns out to be suicide. Then everyone wants to help.
Yes you can...under FMLA.
I think the biggest stigma about depression and anxiety are in the workplace. Employers do believe you are weak and need to "man up" if you mention having any of these issues.
In an interview he said as long as he’s working on something his mind is ok and that he’s never alone in that dark mind of his and that morning he was going to a photo shoot, so his mind was focused on work and being a band mate ......... so I say something else happened I’m sorry but it’s just strange
I am so sorry. It took a bit because I lost my husband 4 days later, and I was a Chester fan, but more because we had clinical depression and thoughts were a lot a like.. His music still helps me and I am old enough to be your mama.
Prayers going up and out. Hugs.
She is a beautiful beautiful woman. Making something good out of a bad situation to help others. I think she is lovely
Gotta say , I'm suffering as I write this . I found peace in a lot of the lyrics ,just knowing someone out there understands enough to put these feelings to music . My God when will people stop judging and try to be kind , understand, or just believe that these feelings are real . RIP my brother , I get it .
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I've loved linkin park since I was around 10 years old and hybrid theory dropped, they always made such honest music and chester sang and talked about some tough issues that most won't touch on, a lot of the music and lyrics really made me feel like I wasn't alone, he gave me voice in a way, and all the years of listening to someone honestly and shamelessly pour their heart out on an album for you, you can't help but feel a deep love and connection to them, Chester's death still breaks my heart all the time, it feels as if we have so few real people in this world like Chester was, it felt like I lost a good friend who truly knew my pain. Much love to his wife and children thank you for sharing your husband and father with the world, I know I'm directly a better man because of Chester's time here and the music he wrote.
We will never forget Chester. My greatest singer of all time. From Eastern Cape South Africa.
God bless you & your family. 🙏🙏🙏 Your words speaks volumes. 💜