It's hard you can say your going to do those things and even write them down but depression makes the commitment hard to keep. I apply for jobs online all the time and I've worked in multiple feilds and never felt like I belonged. I work hard and it's never enough. At the moment currently jobless in my late 20s almost and depressed because I'm going no where in life. I've tried uni and tried different jobs and I have nothing to show for it but a few things and depression and anxiety. I've had glimpse's of hope where I thought it would get better and I'm like this is for me great! And to my surprise it doesn't work out. Maybe I'm not smart enough or good enough these could be facts. I'm at a loss for what to do I just stay in bed at the moment I used to hit the gym and think positively but when you've been crushed that many times it's hard to get back up. What do you get back up to? Work in jobs you hate and go to the gym not knowing what your passionate about and not having the money or opportunity to find out. What do you do? Anyone has advise that would be great and if anyone feels the same way I do I do hope something gets better for you.
Caleb Mounts Constantly comparing ourselves to others and falsely believing that everyone's way ahead of us in life and has it all figured out? I think social media has only exacerbated this as now we can do this 24/7. It screws with our heads! I mean I'm consciously aware of all of this and yet I still fall into this trap if I spend too much time on social media!
It's not the "norm", so in that sense, no. What's more important is whether it's _healthy,_ and that depends on _why_ you've never been in a relationship. There are healthy reasons and unhealthy reasons.
When I'm depressed, I can't write anything let alone have the attention span to even attempt it. This would work great for someone that just lost $2 on a scratch off, or got kicked off of instagram. What if you have REAL problems? Because the dr. says come back in 6 weeks for another pill so you don't notice how much life you've wasted. Every 30 days if you're lucky
These advice channels tend to cater more toward the needs of down-in-the-dumps neurotypicals. If you're neurodivergent and have those actual mental disorders, look elsewhere. Don't feel disheartened by these types of videos not helping you, they aren't designed to help that more ingrained, hardwired stuff.
ModernHealthMonk hey man, anything about avoiding distractions and increasing focus for improving study time.. As you can tell I'm a student and really struggle with just sitting down and putting in the hours before and during exams... Thanks :)
this is reeally me i am 24 and my health is a total wreck i have developed an auto immune disease where my skin is totally infected and every day is a fight to stay alive and just breath because my body is going insane so it feels like i have no future
Everytime I feel lost about my life ,I come to your channel ...and everytime your videos have helped me tremendously. You are truly genius when it comes to helping people. Thank you so much💝
Im between: Dumping my girlfriend and growing my hair out and go complete apeshit, becoming a disgusting nobody that never showers, that dwelves deep into misanthropy and alcohol And/or Getting professional about things and trying to get somewhere in life, constantly striving towards sucess, putting all focus on career/money
I think one of the biggest reasons why people often feel stuck and unhappy at points throughout their life is because they're so used to the way things have been going (ex. a boring, unfulfilling job) that they can't imagine another life for themselves. People are afraid of failure and afraid of trying especially when they've become complacent. The unknown is scary to them! And I think that is completely normal. But I also believe in picking yourself off the ground and working towards improving yourself and your life. It might be scary initially but it's an amazing journey down the road.
If you refer to a relationship as ‘getting any girl you want’ it may be your attitude towards women and not the fact that you’re fat if you don’t have a girlfriend though.
Mairead Lynch i can hardly survive without writing stuff down. I keep atleast two journals one for my studies and research and other for my personal life.
noorulain naseem So true! I totally feel you regarding writing stuff down. It always makes me feel more together and saner and yet I always seem to fall out of the habit for a while!
noorulain naseem Hahaha thanks! ❤ I sometimes worry about someone finding and reading my journal (my ex used to keep an online one for this reason but I find writing by hand to be much more cathartic) and get too caught up trying to organise my thoughts better across a few different types and styles of journals and then become overwhelmed and obsessive and stop...so sticking to plain old traditional stream of consciousness journaling about my thoughts and day keeps me much more consistent! 😃
Thanks for this video. I’m writing notes in my phone on what to change and how to change it. I’ve had one of the worst days of my life this week and it’s mainly because of me. I love you bruh
Nearly 30 years of bs, I've done and tried my best, I haven't got anybody no friends or fam no nothing, I've had enough of everything. I dnt knw wht the future holds, I wish things'd go my way
ModernHealthMonk, honestly, the answer to “Why?” isn’t simple as it may seam. I am over 50 and you would think I should have........, I was married for 27yrs and my husband passed away 3yrs ago. I have children who love me, I have a roof over head. And yet, I feel empty.
So true! Everything we do in life is in order to avoid pain or gain pleasure! And human beings are far more motivated to avoid pain, even if it's only perceived pain! I'm currently reading Tony Robbins's 'Awaken The Giant Within' and just read a chapter where he talks about this idea in detail. Highly recommend it to anyone stuck in a rut or feeling lost, along with its predecessor 'Unlimited Power'.
Michaels Meditations Same here. I’ve been following a lot of these personal development practices for months now and I still feel shit and depressed. I’m exhausted constantly trying to change at this point.
but what can I do when the pain goes away, I start to forget about it and fall back into the same old shitty behaviour? I want to stop smoking for a long time now and at times where I smoked to an extent where I can feel the negative impact and easily stop it, but after some time went by and the memory starts to fade, it's so easy to fall back.. I'm struggling for some time now and I want it to end
Hey Alex. Been following you for weeks now. This is one of the best channels to get good doable advice if you feel down or just about making more out of life. You're right, it's all about "Intention" or decision to change. All the best!
ModernHealthMonk you should accept you used a wrong word dude. Thats the QUALITY mens attitude when they screw up. Not being childish and sayin "oh unsubscribe me i have plenty others naaa haaa"
I didn't use a wrong world. My speech is casual and direct - not everyone likes that. People commonly used words like "I'm a catch" - so are others not a catch? "I'm a quality woman" - so are others not quality women?
Mostafa it's normal and natural to like people you see on UA-cam, TV and movies, people likes them, women get crazy all the time and they don't know them, he's handsome and has a great personality, I like that, that's it. It was just a funny comment.
I really like your channel, you have this special kind of charisma that i would normally associated with someone much older and your content and delivery, unlike these of many other youtubers, provides me with more than just superficial, quickly fading motivation. Keep up the good job
Modernhealthmonk. We all know the big reason why we feel afraid and sas about the future . while we all can be optimistic in our young years, about becoming a great example. The reality is that more of us will work and be forced to pay for every thing. Its so expensive to live and not enough time to be rich at a 9to5. Ok well get a second job? Really thats your advice will. What about the adventures i wanted to go on . explore the world. Im never going to be able to by the time i make enough money il be old. Why you think its always a old man in a audi or a Mercedes-Benz. A second job sound absolutely painful to the soul i couldn't do that man im sorry but my time is very limited and iam trying to escape the reality that we.face and you guys just pretend its not that bad cause you know if you really were to see the big picture you would feel like i do im sad and scared of what i have to do which is surrender my soul and trade my time for something called money i didnt even agree too to start. I had no decision in that conversation of make them work work work . like come on man no please. I just wana be left alone . but im trapped and im dieing .
Habit 1: Deciding to put yourself on the right trajectory. Set your intentions straight. Habit 2: Use pain to change. Let it fuel your growth. Habit 3: Dedicate 10 minutes a day generating ideas on how to improve your life. List your problems in a journal and list potential solutions, then implement those solutions in your life to overcome your problems.
Hey Alex, I'm searching for PAIN in my clients to generate leads at my software business. It's easier to sell a painkiller than a "nice to have" solution. Sales are showing great results ;) AWESOME video. Thanks a lot.
2:47 Late in life, you seem pretty young to say something like that. I know some people who are 30+ who've never had anyone in their life as far as I know. You still have good points though.
raph009 He's in his early thirties, as far as I know, and everyone knows that most people have relationships of some kind (no matter how fleeting or superficial) or go on dates during their teens and early twenties, whether in high school or college. We see it in real life as well as in tv shows/movies. I mean how many times have we heard the terms 'childhood sweethearts', 'highschool sweethearts' ? I'm not saying that it's the only way to be happy or that those that don't do this are abnormal, as I have several close friends who're also in their mid-twenties and have never had a relationship and are as happy as can be and not interested in having one but everyone decides on their own standards and obviously having a girlfriend by a certain age was something important to him.
I've always been skinny, had relationships 18 - 24 then life has sucked, 29 now but only just starting to effect change in my own life. I think no matter what age there is always that voice inside telling you that you're failing, life is passing you by, that you're getting old. Especially if you're on facebook comparing your life to all your friends (i deleted facebook for this reason). It's only when you get the logical reasoning of "Wow, I can actually change my life, why have I never done this before?" Then you can sort of reset and start over and start asking the questions of "How can I achieve what I want?", "How can I approach life in a different way that will make me happy?" :) Loving these videos, they're really good at making you think about the right questions
Thank you for the motivation. Began my journaling and I will be so busy now actioning my projects I will not have time to be inward looking. Up till now even the slugs in our outhouse were more action centered! Look forward to seeing more of your videos. Thank you. Claire.🐌
Jesus is the answer to life. He defines the meaning of life in John 17:3"And this is life eternal, that they might know thee the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom thou hast sent."
Pain doesnt make me move. It makes me unable to move
That shit numbs me
@walker Jwalker man, we stuck in a cycle. I hope we get out. We on our own fr
I agree.
Yes, it is for me the same.
It's hard you can say your going to do those things and even write them down but depression makes the commitment hard to keep. I apply for jobs online all the time and I've worked in multiple feilds and never felt like I belonged. I work hard and it's never enough. At the moment currently jobless in my late 20s almost and depressed because I'm going no where in life. I've tried uni and tried different jobs and I have nothing to show for it but a few things and depression and anxiety. I've had glimpse's of hope where I thought it would get better and I'm like this is for me great! And to my surprise it doesn't work out. Maybe I'm not smart enough or good enough these could be facts. I'm at a loss for what to do I just stay in bed at the moment I used to hit the gym and think positively but when you've been crushed that many times it's hard to get back up. What do you get back up to? Work in jobs you hate and go to the gym not knowing what your passionate about and not having the money or opportunity to find out. What do you do? Anyone has advise that would be great and if anyone feels the same way I do I do hope something gets better for you.
If this is the most common question asked. Then I wonder what it must be in the culture/society causing so many people to feel this.
Caleb Mounts Constantly comparing ourselves to others and falsely believing that everyone's way ahead of us in life and has it all figured out?
I think social media has only exacerbated this as now we can do this 24/7. It screws with our heads!
I mean I'm consciously aware of all of this and yet I still fall into this trap if I spend too much time on social media!
The way we are all disconnected and divided doing shit we dont want to do for 40 hours a week
I think this is really on point. Social media and the relatively new infinite amount of opportunities is a blessing and a burden at the same time...
Yeah :/
Excuse me everyone is it normal that I'm a 22 year old male, and I've never been in a relationship ?
Matt Sael
I know that there are some people out there my age who still have never been in a relationship. I just want to know if it's normal !
My first legit relationship was when I was 23.
it's normal man, I had my first relationship when I was 22. All good. Don't stress it. Don't rush it.
It's not the "norm", so in that sense, no. What's more important is whether it's _healthy,_ and that depends on _why_ you've never been in a relationship. There are healthy reasons and unhealthy reasons.
You're amazing
You are amazing
All of this advice is great until you're locked in during a pandemic and your future feels hopeless.
I know how you feel
Thanks, I was about to write the same
I love the part where you mentioned how we always focus on the feeling and never on the solution. It's very true and it really needs to change!
There is no solution.
landofw56 exactly
I just realised something pretty weird but ummm here it is
Nowhere
Now here
Weird right
@@landofw56 No one can give you solution except yourself 🙌
This is a VERY COMMON question people ask themselves. Thanks for talking about this subject bro.
It's sad how often it comes up :/
When I'm depressed, I can't write anything let alone have the attention span to even attempt it. This would work great for someone that just lost $2 on a scratch off, or got kicked off of instagram. What if you have REAL problems? Because the dr. says come back in 6 weeks for another pill so you don't notice how much life you've wasted. Every 30 days if you're lucky
Great point, I agree.
These advice channels tend to cater more toward the needs of down-in-the-dumps neurotypicals. If you're neurodivergent and have those actual mental disorders, look elsewhere.
Don't feel disheartened by these types of videos not helping you, they aren't designed to help that more ingrained, hardwired stuff.
You are easily one of my favorite people on YT 💯
Thank you :-) Any video you'd like to see next?
ModernHealthMonk hey man, anything about avoiding distractions and increasing focus for improving study time.. As you can tell I'm a student and really struggle with just sitting down and putting in the hours before and during exams... Thanks :)
this is reeally me i am 24 and my health is a total wreck i have developed an auto immune disease where my skin is totally infected and every day is a fight to stay alive and just breath because my body is going insane so it feels like i have no future
Jasper Gabriels Take care of yourself. Put yourself and your health first.
Get well sir!!!
Thanks, I needed this. I have been stuck in my emotions for awhile. I am looking for ways to empower myself.
Good luck Kyra
Everytime I feel lost about my life ,I come to your channel ...and everytime your videos have helped me tremendously. You are truly genius when it comes to helping people. Thank you so much💝
Are you not like a woman
This is comming at such an appropiate time. Thank you so much
Haha no prob
Im between:
Dumping my girlfriend and growing my hair out and go complete apeshit, becoming a disgusting nobody that never showers, that dwelves deep into misanthropy and alcohol
And/or
Getting professional about things and trying to get somewhere in life, constantly striving towards sucess, putting all focus on career/money
Good video. You are showing off more personality these past several months. You're funny.
Thanks William
There is no way out.
So fight back?! Your backs against the wall anyway. What else do you have to loose? (metaphorically not physically)
NA unless you're leaning against a wall 🤣
I think one of the biggest reasons why people often feel stuck and unhappy at points throughout their life is because they're so used to the way things have been going (ex. a boring, unfulfilling job) that they can't imagine another life for themselves. People are afraid of failure and afraid of trying especially when they've become complacent. The unknown is scary to them! And I think that is completely normal. But I also believe in picking yourself off the ground and working towards improving yourself and your life. It might be scary initially but it's an amazing journey down the road.
This didn't help.
I’m job to job, unhappy, not motivated. Shit sucks man and I’m 21 years old.
I never knew career I wanted .
I never knew job title I wanted to have .
I never knew who I wanted to be .
If you refer to a relationship as ‘getting any girl you want’ it may be your attitude towards women and not the fact that you’re fat if you don’t have a girlfriend though.
So good for you! You are only young, not so easy in later life to change habits of a lifetime.
Hey alex, I agree that writing a journal is the key to being conscious and more connected to your goals and perspectives.
noorulain naseem Do you have a favourite form of journaling? Like morning pages, bullet journaling etc.
Mairead Lynch i can hardly survive without writing stuff down. I keep atleast two journals one for my studies and research and other for my personal life.
noorulain naseem So true! I totally feel you regarding writing stuff down. It always makes me feel more together and saner and yet I always seem to fall out of the habit for a while!
Mairead Lynch gurrl i feel you totally!! But just keep coming back to it. Team journal goooo !!! :D
noorulain naseem Hahaha thanks! ❤ I sometimes worry about someone finding and reading my journal (my ex used to keep an online one for this reason but I find writing by hand to be much more cathartic) and get too caught up trying to organise my thoughts better across a few different types and styles of journals and then become overwhelmed and obsessive and stop...so sticking to plain old traditional stream of consciousness journaling about my thoughts and day keeps me much more consistent! 😃
Thanks for this video. I’m writing notes in my phone on what to change and how to change it. I’ve had one of the worst days of my life this week and it’s mainly because of me. I love you bruh
Hope things have gotten better for you!! 💖✌🏻
Nearly 30 years of bs, I've done and tried my best, I haven't got anybody no friends or fam no nothing, I've had enough of everything. I dnt knw wht the future holds, I wish things'd go my way
*hugs hugs* I hope life has picked up for you my friend. I feel you.
starfood hey nothing has changed but thank you for your message.
Man... you help me feel that I’m going to be alright. Thank you
Life sucks rn for real
Thank you for your honesty. You are so strong and nice helping others.
I try
ModernHealthMonk... and it works! It's very refreshing to see someone so humble and smart on UA-cam. It's rare. Thanks again
I feel hallow, empty and worthless. What can I do, I appreciate any advice you can provide. Thanks
Aisha Ahmed Same here
Why?
ModernHealthMonk, honestly, the answer to “Why?” isn’t simple as it may seam. I am over 50 and you would think I should have........, I was married for 27yrs and my husband passed away 3yrs ago. I have children who love me, I have a roof over head. And yet, I feel empty.
I can relate. In my 50s. 1st husband passed away. 2nd ran off with some ho. I went to my gp for help. That might be a starting point.
E H, If he ran away, then he wasn’t deserving of you. Thank you for sharing, may the Almighty Lord help us all.
Alex, you are so adorable. Your channel is wonderful.
Thank you
He's adorable and I'm a scumbag dirtbag piece of trash loser.
So true! Everything we do in life is in order to avoid pain or gain pleasure! And human beings are far more motivated to avoid pain, even if it's only perceived pain!
I'm currently reading Tony Robbins's 'Awaken The Giant Within' and just read a chapter where he talks about this idea in detail. Highly recommend it to anyone stuck in a rut or feeling lost, along with its predecessor 'Unlimited Power'.
Checkout the book the subtle art of not giving a f:#$ literally everything your saying but much more detailed. .
having a decent loving partner in your life takes some beating.
Beating?
@@ModernHealthMonk beating the meat
What if even changing feels useless tho...
Why does it feel useless?
ModernHealthMonk because all meaning feels so created.
ModernHealthMonk because at the back of your mind, you've experienced nothing but failure, so your main thought is: " why bother, as I'll STILL fail."
Michaels Meditations Same here. I’ve been following a lot of these personal development practices for months now and I still feel shit and depressed. I’m exhausted constantly trying to change at this point.
but what can I do when the pain goes away, I start to forget about it and fall back into the same old shitty behaviour? I want to stop smoking for a long time now and at times where I smoked to an extent where I can feel the negative impact and easily stop it, but after some time went by and the memory starts to fade, it's so easy to fall back.. I'm struggling for some time now and I want it to end
Hey Alex. Been following you for weeks now. This is one of the best channels to get good doable advice if you feel down or just about making more out of life.
You're right, it's all about "Intention" or decision to change.
All the best!
Best advice ever
oof... I needed that. Thanks!!
Thanks Alex, this is definitely something I needed to hear right now. Much love, peace and happiness to you, brother! ❤️☮️😊
listening to you talk is like hearing myself in 5-10 years from now
I cant even go to the pool at the country club, stupid social distancing.
I went to high school and college school and I graduated .
idk why this kinda made me feel like shit guess I'll go journal about it
What the crap is this? Date "Quality" women? I seriously just want to thump my face on the keyboard. Unsubscribed.
No prob
ModernHealthMonk you should accept you used a wrong word dude. Thats the QUALITY mens attitude when they screw up. Not being childish and sayin "oh unsubscribe me i have plenty others naaa haaa"
I didn't use a wrong world. My speech is casual and direct - not everyone likes that. People commonly used words like "I'm a catch" - so are others not a catch? "I'm a quality woman" - so are others not quality women?
I don’t think my life is going nowhere I know it is at the moment.
Please keep going, I enjoy watching your videos.
I have not figured out what it is I want to do with my life and in my life.
Thanks. I know I have taken a lot from this video. 😊
amazing video, helped me a lot! greetings from brazil!
I hate you Alex, because I can't have you and I want you, that's depressing!!!
hahaha
Wth?!
Jessiker X I like him since for ever, maybe because of his personality, but he's just like a platonic love of mine
you don't know him and you're frinedzoning him already
Mostafa it's normal and natural to like people you see on UA-cam, TV and movies, people likes them, women get crazy all the time and they don't know them, he's handsome and has a great personality, I like that, that's it. It was just a funny comment.
I took people's ideas in what to do with my life.
thank you buddy, really great video!
I really like your channel, you have this special kind of charisma that i would normally associated with someone much older and your content and delivery, unlike these of many other youtubers, provides me with more than just superficial, quickly fading motivation. Keep up the good job
Thank you :-)
hi bb I am a new subscriber here and i love your video
That thumbnail is ingenious
You can definitely play with puppies once a week.
hahah
You inspire me
Modernhealthmonk. We all know the big reason why we feel afraid and sas about the future . while we all can be optimistic in our young years, about becoming a great example. The reality is that more of us will work and be forced to pay for every thing. Its so expensive to live and not enough time to be rich at a 9to5. Ok well get a second job? Really thats your advice will. What about the adventures i wanted to go on . explore the world. Im never going to be able to by the time i make enough money il be old. Why you think its always a old man in a audi or a Mercedes-Benz. A second job sound absolutely painful to the soul i couldn't do that man im sorry but my time is very limited and iam trying to escape the reality that we.face and you guys just pretend its not that bad cause you know if you really were to see the big picture you would feel like i do im sad and scared of what i have to do which is surrender my soul and trade my time for something called money i didnt even agree too to start. I had no decision in that conversation of make them work work work . like come on man no please. I just wana be left alone . but im trapped and im dieing .
Habit 1: Deciding to put yourself on the right trajectory. Set your intentions straight.
Habit 2: Use pain to change. Let it fuel your growth.
Habit 3: Dedicate 10 minutes a day generating ideas on how to improve your life. List your problems in a journal and list potential solutions, then implement those solutions in your life to overcome your problems.
Hey Alex, I'm searching for PAIN in my clients to generate leads at my software business. It's easier to sell a painkiller than a "nice to have" solution. Sales are showing great results ;)
AWESOME video. Thanks a lot.
Not happy with the way you looked?
You are really gorgeous.. Just saying
Great video
I love you 💕💕💕hahaha you’re not some toilet paper 🧻 cheered me up
This video came up my timeline just in time even after years. Thank you for making the time to share this ☺️
Thank you Alex.I really appreciate your down-to-earth and humorous approach.
2:47 Late in life, you seem pretty young to say something like that. I know some people who are 30+ who've never had anyone in their life as far as I know. You still have good points though.
raph009 He's in his early thirties, as far as I know, and everyone knows that most people have relationships of some kind (no matter how fleeting or superficial) or go on dates during their teens and early twenties, whether in high school or college. We see it in real life as well as in tv shows/movies. I mean how many times have we heard the terms 'childhood sweethearts', 'highschool sweethearts' ?
I'm not saying that it's the only way to be happy or that those that don't do this are abnormal, as I have several close friends who're also in their mid-twenties and have never had a relationship and are as happy as can be and not interested in having one but everyone decides on their own standards and obviously having a girlfriend by a certain age was something important to him.
HA HA , I was thinking exactly the same thing on the "late in life".
My first serious relationship was at 25. Even many late bloomers I know dated before me hahah
I've always been skinny, had relationships 18 - 24 then life has sucked, 29 now but only just starting to effect change in my own life. I think no matter what age there is always that voice inside telling you that you're failing, life is passing you by, that you're getting old. Especially if you're on facebook comparing your life to all your friends (i deleted facebook for this reason). It's only when you get the logical reasoning of "Wow, I can actually change my life, why have I never done this before?" Then you can sort of reset and start over and start asking the questions of "How can I achieve what I want?", "How can I approach life in a different way that will make me happy?" :) Loving these videos, they're really good at making you think about the right questions
Ove you alex no homo, can’t say it.
Thank you for the motivation. Began my journaling and I will be so busy now actioning my projects I will not have time to be inward looking. Up till now even the slugs in our outhouse were more action centered! Look forward to seeing more of your videos. Thank you. Claire.🐌
Good luck Claire
Some much helping things in the time
This didn't help me
Story of my life...lol
this video is so helpful thank you :)
love your videos dude
I needed to hear this. Thank you!
Thank you🙏💕
Alex you are awesome
what can i do ... are you kidding ? is it that simple ? hard to do anything im broke ...
life is never simple, but this can help you
wow thanks for being real ...
Defs needed this thanks :)
hmmm...
Thank you.
U just read my mind
I need the Infinity Gauntlet up in here.
hahahah
Great sharing
thank you!!!!!
Awesome!
Thnx dude :)
Thank you
Yes ...
Thanks: )
What is that sound from 3:28 to 3:32
72 Moz A plane or something passing overhead?
72 Moz Or maybe someone's just casually hitting a gong in the background? 😂
This is such a perfect timing
You 😍❤️....
:-)
Jesus is the answer to life. He defines the meaning of life in John 17:3"And this is life eternal, that they might know thee the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom thou hast sent."