@@bfein6061I hear you. Tendon damage = ankle braces and ankle boots until it’s time for bed. Miss wearing ballet flats as my inside shoes when I ran a home based daycare (in the 90’s). Also, if you have a HHA, CNA, visiting nurse, they are obligated (OSHA) to wear their shoes.
In California at our house, we started taking shoes off inside years ago when we had flooring replaced and it makes such a difference in how clean and in good shape the floors are. We use “inside” flip flops or ‘slides’ that we only wear in the house (wood floors)
Anyone else writing this down like me? Save you some time :-) 1. Eat together as a family 1.b family dinner clean up 2. Never go to bed with a messy kitchen 3. surfaces are hot lava. 3.b the walls are hot lava too 4. If it takes a minute or less do it now 5. A load a day, keeps the laundry mountain away 6. One nice thing for yourself and for someone else everyday 7. Never go to bed with a messy bathroom 8. Reset your bedroom once a week 9. Declutter with each season change 10. No shoes in the house
I’m a Black American and we don’t wear shoes in the house but we also don’t walk around barefoot-we have house shoes for that. The other thing I think we have is that you’re not allowed to sit on a made bed in your “outside” clothes. So if you wore it outside in the elements, you can’t bring that filth to the bed. I definitely still change my clothes when I come in from running errands and I’m 46. My personal house rule now that I’m a homeowner is not to go to bed with dishes in the sink, which is easier since I got in the habit of just not putting them in the sink in the first place. The sink isn’t a holding space for dishes-they go straight into the dishwasher, where they belong
I totally get the "outside clothes" rule! Makes sense! My husband is allergic to everything! Pollen and such stick to clothes. We don't sit on the bed once made anyway, but the whole outside close thing might help with his allergies just to get out of them when he returns home. Thank you for this tip!
I wish my husband would use the dishwasher. He wants to handwash all the dishes so it has become his job. The problem is that there are always dishes in the sink unless I get mad and use the dishwasher.
Canadian here, I also have house sandals in summer and slippers in winter. I just can’t do bare feet on the floor. Living in an old apartment with no carpet I really wish the person living above me would adopt house slippers so I wouldn’t have to hear the aggressive heal toe, heal toe foot steps. Sometimes I’f they are walking hard and fast you can feel the vibration! I second the bed and being in “street clothes or outside clothes” heck NO. Only nightwear in and on the bed!
Oh my gosh..! The “no outside clothes on the bed” rule…I didn’t even consider I was raised with that until I read your comment! We were living with a rule that we didn’t even know was a rule! lol!!!
Rule #10! Wow!!! I'm from Russia. This is the first time i've ever heard you, guys, in USA discuss that. It's always been the most shocking thing we experience here in Russia when watching American films and seeing people wear outdoor shoes inside their homes even while lying in the bed! In Russia it's an interior tradition to have what we call here a "corridor" or entry isolated from other rooms cause this is where you should leave whatever's been outdoor like shoes, coats, hats, bags. Thanks for all your videos! Love watching them so much. Love from Russia 🇷🇺
its quite logical, especially in cold, wet climates. I just experience myself the house stays far more cleaner if you leave your shoes at the door. It saves a ton of cleaning work so i wonder why not everybody does it
I'm from Minnesota in the USA, where winter exists 3/4 of the year, and I ALWAYS took my shoes off. But my father never did in the summers, only in the winter and then half the time he just wiped his boots and wore his outside shoes anyway 😫 My children are now the only ones in their friend groups that take their shoes off when they enter a home, but I am a zealot about it. Tracking in dirt is just gross. (ETA: I live in the south-central US where it's summer 3/4 of the year now 😅 but the shoe rule still stands!)
Same here! We had an exchange student from Michigan. She took out the gym trainers and put them on the kitchen table! She was shocked at our being shock 😂
French woman here : In France, I feel that 99% of people ALWAYS put shoes off inside of their own house. Once we discussed with some people why is there so many people in TV series and movies that walk inside their house with shoes on, and we spotted that this was something only happening in american series and movies so we concluded that it was cultural. I've never seen that in another country. In some Asian countries (Japan, Thailand for example) that I visited you also put shoes off inside of the house. The only exception in France is when you host a party/dinner, people walk inside with shoes on but there is always this moment at the beginning "Could we keep shoes on ? Or not ?" and sometimes even if allowed guests don't agree with keeping shoes on because they feel it's disrespectful. Love your videos by the way ! :)
US here. We take our shoes off. If we are visiting, we ask if we should take off our shoes. Most hosts say, "Whatever you like." That means, if you are uncomfortable taking off your shoes, then leaving them on is fine. When people visit me, I show them their choice. Most visitors take off their shoes.
I think movies and t.v. are movies and tv. Actors and actresses will have shoes from the costume department and they're not actually going to sleep on the bed. Having a "taking off the shoes" part of a scene wouldn't add to the story, but if you don't show it, there's a continuity error between the characters having shoes on and then not having them on. So they're left on.
I agree we in Canada never wear shoes inside and I have a dog and Always wipe his feet with wet wipes when coming in from outside as well. Otherwise our floors would be filthy ❤
MILO AND ABBY!!! I love them - more Milo and Abby please! Seriously though, thanks for all the great idea and entertainment and sharing your adorable kids with us!
These 'Rules' are also setting your children up to be independent, self-sufficient people for when they venture out on their own !!! Always lead by example. All great rules in my book,
Your kiddos are adorable! We always wear shoes in the house. I have chronic foot pain unless I am wearing shoes, so I will never be caught without shoes in the house unless I am curled up on the couch or in my bed. When guests ask if they need to remove their shoes when they come over, I logically state; "I have four dogs. Your shoes are not going to make a bit of difference to the cleanliness of my floors." That is what washing the floors is for!
People that show up at your house unannounced (unless it's an emergency) deserve to have you hide. This never happened in Florida, but since moving to TN, it's a thing. One time someone woke us up...and they weren't even embarrassed about it when they realized this! My husband is a stroke survivor. We move very slowly these days I literally had to tape a note to our front door that said, "If our shades our down, we are not ready for company." 1000 thumbs up on the bloopers!
How cute was this?? I love that your kids feel comfortable enough to be silly, even as teenagers. This video literally makes me wish I had kids, so fun.
Kids are amazing! No one ever mentions that. You really grow as a person, especially in wisdom. Kids are hilarious! We still say phrases our kids did growing up, they are all grown with children. We tell stories all the time, so our family history if you will, continues. We all have journals. We have records from each point of view in the family. Our grand children learn their parents were once just like them.
Ready for a game changer Cas? Get a new toilet paper roll holder where the roll just slides on one side. I bet your kids will have a new home for the tp. 😊
I LOVE the no shoes in the house! It’s NOT weird! It’s too late to undo damage from prior years, but now, as a single mom, my son and I have no problem with the no shoes in the house! We totally get it! Stop and think people, what you bring in your home by wearing the same shoes you’ve been walking around in outside all day! YUK & GROSS! Go Canada!,😊👍🇨🇦
I live in Switzerland and we take our shoes off, but workers are allowed to keep them on, sometimes we lay down cardboard to protect the floors. There are exceptions, as always 😊
When my kids were young I taught them to take their school backpack straight to their room when they came home, but as teenagers they got distracted and forgetful, after reminding many times I began throwing their stuff out the front door into the yard… backpacks coats whatever was left on the floor - It was a quick solution and kept me from getting angry, and they learned quickly - I feel certain our neighbors found it highly entertaining 😂
Great video! I do wear my shoes! It keeps my old feet from getting injured. It also supports my feet or else they will ache so bad I will be incredibly hobbling at the end of the day!
My thoughts too. I can do it while I'm at my sink. If the top drawers open a bit, I have to do it real slow or stuff falls over. Great for my hamstrings.
LOL! I worked at a restaurant years ago where many of us girls closed the oven door with our foot like that, too, and it was a heavy door! It just shows you how inventive we can be when we need to get things done. 😀
I prefer no shoes in the house or at least change to shoes you only wear inside. Really hard to enforce. Haha I sometimes think the hosing out the house would be nice. No one will obey my house rules many same as yours. 😢
🙋♀️ Virginia here - WE do not wear shoes in the house but do not require our guests to remove theirs. When visiting other homes, we always ask the host family their preference. EDIT: I should have mentioned that our whole house is hardwood with a few rugs. We mop often enough to keep it clean, especially after company.
@@laurenhume1012 Thanks for this comment, I live in Virginia, too! And I've been to multiple houses in multiple states. It's totally hit-or-miss if people wear shoes indoors or not.
@lindenpeters2601 - It really is! I have friends who require shoes to be left on the porch and offer clean socks to guests. However, I grew up in a home where we wore shoes inside, and if you left your shoes out, you got fussed at.
Thank you for being flexible to your guests! Some people have legitimate reasons that they need to keep their shoes on, and it sucks when people insist on making it weird. (For the record, I also prefer shoes off, but that's just not reasonable to enforce on everyone 100% of the time).
💯💯💯THIS!!!! I would tell my kids "the same shoes you walk into the Walmart bathroom in, are the same shoes you'll try to wear into the house." And let me tell you, that was enough to remind them to take their shoes off. Haven't had a problem since 🤣.
Dr Oz said taking off your shoes at the door is the healthiest thing you can do for your family. I buy hotel slippers and keep them at the entry for guests. Regular Visiting family all have their own pair of real slippers.
I was born in Japan, but I'm not Japanese. I'm a military kid. When visiting someone else's house and ALWAYS in my home/casa, we always remove our shoes at the door. Thankfully, my family kept that house rule or cultural custom when we returned to the U.S. While I do my best to get friends and visitors to remove their shoes at the door, it's a struggle to help them understand it's okay if they have holy socks or go barefoot in my home. Let those piggies breathe and help me keep my floors clean! Please!! My children (both adults now) know we DO NOT wear our outside shoes into the house. We have a landing pad at the front and side doors, with an assortment of house shoes, so you never have to wear those dirty outside shoes inside! Easy peasy. : ) I enjoyed your video, and I'm now a subscriber. I love your attitude and your encouragement.
Hi - I live in Denmark and here we all take our shoes off before entering. It is considered very rude if you keep them on - unless the hostess tells you otherwise. In winter time we often have indoor slippers for our guests 😊 if they want. Love your videoes ❤
Now, I really know your secrets for a clean and tidy home. You trained your dog to be a drill sergeant. Break a rule and the dog barks everyone into submission! 😂
Dogs naturally get riled whenever there’s horseplay with squeals & screams involved. Had it continued, I think Cass would have been bitten. My mother’s own dogs used to attack her for whipping us.
@@sunshine3914dogs know the difference between playful banter and a fight. A dig will usually protect a child from their parents, but won't bite mom for having a playful "fight" with her kid.
@@sunshine3914The old saying is that a dog is man’s best friend. In your case it was a child’s best friend and protector from a parents discipline. 😂 Dogs really are the greatest. ❤
It’s definitely a cultural thing. I live in Chicago (US) and it’s so split that it’s common to ask when you visit the first time if shoes on or off. People are very convicted about this one way or the other. My Asian mother-in-law has some very strong beliefs about shoes in the house being a no-go.
I'm in Australia and our family doesn't wear shoes in the house. Occasionally my young children forget but gumboots or crocs make it easy for them. If they're barefoot outside in summer I leave a bucket of water and a towel by the door.
The kids were so funny at the end! We tried going without shoes, but that meant we had to change to indoor shoes. I need good support because of foot pain . We finally gave up. We did get a new welcome mat and there’s a rug inside the house where we wipe our feet. It’s right to the side of the front door.
I live in Tennessee. I'm from Texas. Cowboy boots are very common. You *DO NOT* want guests removing their wreaking boots in the house! Leave them on I'll sweep!! 😂 Oh my gosh I'm gagging from the cereal milk rule!
Investing in some cheap hotel slippers or knock off crocs would be what I'd do if I was worried about that. We just don't have visitors that often, with or without dirty shoes or smelly feet! 😂
We have a no shoes policy in carpeted areas. Hard floors like the hallway and kitchen we use indoors slippers. At least we know then we haven't stepped in dog or cat or even fox poo or urine and brought it into the house. Guests are told in advance to wear or carry socks, if we have an indoor party or dinner. Living in the UK we usually have outdoor BBQs in summer so guests enter from the side gate. However, if they need the toilet they have to take off shoes at the bottom of the stairs and go upstairs where our toilet is located. Sweaty socks is much preferred to poo. This being England, there's a lot of it about, on pavements, parks and roads etc. We also walk, a lot unlike Americans who most probably drive a lot and really don't visit friends much as everyone lives too far.
Your kids are stinkin’ adorable! They definitely have your personality. Thanks for including them in this video! And great house rules! I will certainly be adding a few of them to our family, especially the “do something nice for yourself, and do something nice for someone else!”
I have to wear shoes because of the need for arch support, so I had a basket by the door for inside and outside shoes. Getting a puppy meant the expensive, hand-crafted basket was chewed on and multiple shoes were destroyed by pup's teeth. I have enough ADD that I would take out the trash or go down the driveway to the mailbox and forget to change shoes. I even tried keeping wet wipes by the door to wipe off the bottom of my shoes. I gave up. I may try again next year, but my priority right now is restoring health and energy after a serious illness. Thanks for the good tips. I will try them if and when I can get my house back to a normal state.
When we adopted a precious son with cerebral palsy I had to give up my hopes for clean walls. He uses them to help him get around the house and up and down the stairs. But it's okay!!! AND..because he wears AFO devices (braces) on his feet, he HAS to wear his shoes over top all the time!
I think training people to not touch walls is a bad idea. If they ever lose their balance, they're not going to reach out for the wall because they've been trained not to. I use the railing plus my hand on the other wall.
Kathy, consider asking God to heal your son. He doesn't need to continue with this disease. Psalm 103:3 is one of the MANY places God promises to heal our diseases. Matthew 7:7 says "ASK and you will receive."
@@elizabethsydnor5247 @kitw76 Hey, so, uh... I'm not OP of this comment thread but I *am* disabled and regularly interact with the disabled community. A *lot* of disabled people find it weird and uncomfortable that people's (often complete strangers') immediate thought is to pray for our healing upon hearing we're disabled, as if being disabled is the worst thing we could possibly be. My disability, like CP, is congenital, meaning I've *always* been this way. I was *made* this way. For many people disabled from birth, if they've been raised with a healthy self-image (or if we grew into a healthy self-image after not being raised with it, i.e. by finding community with other disabled people happy in their own skin), our disability is often an inseparable part of us and part of what makes us who we are. We'd be _fundamentally different people_ without it, and many of us wouldn't choose to become nondisabled. (Some would; we're all different. But none of us know OP of this comment thread or their son.) Variety is the spice of life--and yes, disability is variety. So, why are we so focused on stamping that variety out?
@@elizabethsydnor5247 So, my previous comment looks like it was lost (it looked like it sent but I'm assuming browser issues ate it?), but a lot of disabled people really find it weird and uncomfortable when total strangers' first reaction to us is to pray that we won't be the way we are anymore. For people like me disabled from birth, that's like praying we won't be ourselves anymore and somebody else can come to replace us, because we were *made* with our disabilities. A lot of us aren't looking for a cure or imagining ourselves as some nondisabled ideal with this awful Thing attached to us. Disability is just something that *is*. It's not something terrible and life-destroying that we have to separate and expunge. Of course, some people do want a cure because we're all different. (Though none of us here probably know OP or their child personally.) But it's distressing how often strangers react to me like I shouldn't exist. I have been disabled my whole life and it's how I was made. It's such an intrinsic part of me that to remove it from me is to remove part of myself, of who I am. I would not exist without it. I would be an entirely different person.
Great to see the kids. No shoes in the house. I'm adding things I do for myself for 10-15 minutes a day and I noticed I spend less time on social media. Right now, I'm trying to use your suggestion of adding 10-15 miutes a day to work on SIMPLE craft projects.
Everyone in my house from the age of 7 had a laundry day and we did our own sheets, and clothes and put them away… and yup, that included ironing! We were assigned a room to keep clean every week it changed..We were told our mother was NOT a maid, so if we left stuff behind, we paid the consequence..
@@robynaboverubiesorpearls we had a house full, 4 of us 9-13 range and one infant..and a military type dad, so yup…it didn’t do us any harm, we had a good work ethic from a young age, and growing up no trouble ever finding work because every one of us could turn a hand to almost anything.
@@annieo54 I'm an only child and that's how I was raised too. By 7 I laundered my clothes and sheets, ironed what needed to be, I cooked, did housework, helped with paperwork (including tax).... Basically I was raised to be independent and I concur, no trouble ever finding work
In Italy we keep our shoes on, unless it's your house then you can have house shoes/slipper. But it's actually seen as not being "well behaved" if you go around in your bare feet, my nonna would actually tell me that I would catch a cold if I did 😂❤
ok, so in Italy and Spain and France babies and toddlers crawl and play in the outside dirt on the floor? I cannot imagine that even a second. No one has to be barefoot - although it is the healthiest for your feet, to squeeze feet all day long in shoes will harm the feet sooner or later - there are a big variety of house shoes, also elegant ones if someone needs to be elegant at home 😄
@@sammyberger3867 well not really, as I said if it's your home, usually people have slippers/house shoes. It also needs to be said that in Italy homes usually don't have a fully carpeted flooring, which traps more dirt, it's mostly wood or some sort of tiling, which is super easy to sweep and mop.
We also take our shoes off at home (Ontario, Canada), however, I do have "indoor sandals" that I wear at home in the house for my sore tootsies. Thanks for your episode. I listened while I did my nightly re-set. I do many of the same things at our house to keep it clean. Luckily I grew up in a household that taught these fundamental life skills. Thanks again. Cheers:)
I’m from the UK and we don’t wear shoes but we were slippers or crocs round the house! When we go to guests house if they have carpet we take shoes off, laminate they’re kept on if only a short stay! ❤
As a kid I grew up non stop cleaning therefore I’m an extremely clean person but as a mom I decided not to set all these rules for my kids. I find them unnecessary not allowing them to relax. Pretty much just clean after yourself just like you do at school and have a designated day of the week to do deep clean and do laundry! This has work great for us ❤
Yeah I agree. These rules sound reasonable, but I think depends on how you enforce them, and how strict you are about them. For example, the wall thing is not for me, I think it's neurotic. But I can see how that could become a rule if kids are literally wiping stuff off their hands into the walls all the time. I do the "no shoes in the house" rule, but never enforce it for guests. I like the kitchen-cleaning rule, but there are some nights that we have to leave literally as soon as we're done eating, for sports, and it's bedtime when we get home. And the messy bathroom thing is a good point. I'm not a fan of assigning morality to cleanliness, but for me, it did take some training to get my kids to stop leaving giant globs of toothpaste in the sink every day.
Great tips! I especially like the tip about having everyone in the family do something nice for themselves and something nice for someone else each day. Regarding shoes in the house - I grew up in central Texas, and you generally only took your shoes off if you were going to be staying awhile (ex. A short visit, no, staying for dinner, possibly yes, but it was really just up to the host). As a kid I generally didn't wear shoes unless I was leaving the house. As an adult, I've come to discover I'm more productive if I keep my shoes on in the house. If I take my shoes off in the house, it means I'm resting and no longer in any kind of work mode. A few years ago, we moved to north central Arkansas, and the culture here dictates shoes off upon entering a home. We actually have to stop people from taking their shoes off at our door (like really! We don't take our shoes off, please don't take yours off!). Seeing other people's socks or feet also kind of grosses me out 🤢.
Your kids were great sports and they were so fun! I wear shoes inside because 1. wet tile (from dogs spilling water or tracking in from wet grass) is very slippery and 2. as I've aged, I need the support for my back.
I grew up in Wyoming on a ranch and live in town in Iowa now and have always taken my shoes off at the door. My entire family does the same. Sometimes it surprises people when we do.
Hey girl! Your posts ALWAYS help me, thank you for your advice and warm friendly energy. You will never know how much the simple encouragement and direction has made a big difference for my life!!! Beautiful home and beautiful family! ❤
My dear hubby used the walks for balance as he walked from room to room. The walls were filthy. He has ‘graduated’ to using a walker and it has made a huge difference - but I’m not really sure it’s worth it.
No shoes in the house her i Norway ! And me and my family also have dinner togheter, alwasy, and everybodey helps to clean up. It's the best way to hear about everybodeys day, to talk to eache other. Love your way of doing things, you and I think very much alaike 😊
Great set of house rules! Thank you for sharing. I live in Minnesota in the US. It is in our culture to remove shoes too. I think it's because of snow, but we do it year round. One issue with the no shoes thing is that people with diabetes should be careful with their feet, so if I know a guest has diabetes I greet them at the door wearing my shoes and insist they wear theirs. Same with any service workers. Wearing footwear is safer for their backs. (Most workers have booties to put over their shoes anyway.)
These were great rules! Love seeing your kids. They've grown so much. The first time I came across your channel, your youngest had been to the dentist or had his tonsils out, and it was a horrifying experience. We sometimes take our shoes off, when we're just in the house and relaxing. Actually, my feet hurt when I go without shoes. I need my good sturdy shoes.
Fellow Canuck here! And ya, no shoes in the house. 1 of my favourite teenage memories; going to house parties where there are 25 pairs of shoes in a pile at the backdoor that you have to walk through or over! Or boots if it's winter, along with a mountain of parkas on the bed in the "spare" room. lolol. I ❤Canada.
Australia here: I hate wearing shoes full stop but I don't expect people to take theirs off when they come to my house. If they are muddy or really dirty most people take them off anyway.
Arizona- we wear shoes in the house. Not muddy or snow boots ( but no snow in Phoenix ); but definitely sandals, tennis shoes, etc. I do take them off usually at home and just where socks for comfort; but not at the front door. Zero shoes at my front door. Wore them inside in New Mexico too.
I live in the USA in the Midwest. For our family we don't wear shoes in the house so there is less cleaning to do but it's very uncommon with everyone I know around us. If I'm going to someone's house for the first time, I usually take note of whether they have shoes on in the house or not and ask if I'm unsure.
I'm a Black American, and I grew up never wearing shoes inside the house and I still don't wear outside shoes inside the house. I have a pair of house slippers. When I was growing up, my parents treated chores like a job so I had to sign a contract and it stated how much I was paid per chore. I guess that's unusual/weird because of I had to sign a contract lol, but I thought and think it's cool.
Love the video, dog was hilarious. We don't wear our shoes in the house, Texas. Also, one of our house rules is, if you cooked dinner, you don't have to do the dishes. It encouraged our so to cooked one day a week, so he didn't have to do dishes that night.
You are Brilliant!! Such Great memories for the family of togetherness, no matter how much grumbling happens in the moment. LOL "Give everything a home." Your kids will be saying these things for the rest of their lives and you will laugh your head off when you hear them all saying it to their kids... and it making all their homes better for it.
If you have pets - aren't they bringing in dirt and germs as bad as, if not worse than, your shoes? I gave up the no shoes in the house rule because my floors are always dirty from my dogs, and I have to clean them constantly anyway. Great content and I always love your videos, especially the stories at the end!❤
I have 4 cats and two dogs. Shoes are fine in my house. High traffic areas I have washable throw rugs I can vacuum and toss in the washer as needed. I wash them often so I have two rugs for each area to swap out.
There are people who wipe their dog's feet after they come in from outside. I doubt it's a ton of people that go to that much trouble, but I know those people exist. I have 6 cats but they never go outside. They do track litter all around the room where their boxes are. I try not to think about it too much! lol
we have 3 cats and a dog and walking without shoes FREAKS ME OUT... all that hair that sticks to your socks (or worse, bare feet!). Even after you sweep, there's hair
I live in Canada and we absolutely wipe dogs’ feet when they come in the house if their feet are wet, muddy, or snowy (but not if they are dry). My parents keep a towel by the door for this reason. I think the climate is the main reason why it’s customary to remove your shoes when you enter anyone’s home here. There’s snow and/or wet conditions 75% of the year. Some people wear indoor shoes or slippers at home (and exceptions are made for guests if they have medical reasons), but the majority of us just wear our socks around the house, and sometimes bare feet in the summer (which is really only 2 months out of the year). In fact in schools, kids bring a pair of indoor running shoes that they leave at school and then wear their outdoor shoes or boots home or when out for recess (they change their shoes at the same time as getting on/off their jackets, snow pants, etc). With pets you just accept that you need to clean your floors frequently because of hair and dirt, regardless of whether you wear house shoes or walk around in sock feet.
Clothing too - dust, pollen, and other dirt aren't even primarily transferred by shoes, it's picked up by clothing outside and then falls off inside. I don't see the point in being strict about shoes if you're also wearing your street clothes on the sofa.
We’re also in Canada and in our house we take our shoes off and wear house shoes instead. To us, it’s a sign of respect for the hard work we do to maintain our floors clean😊
I have no problem with the no-shoes rule, except my husband absolutely refuses to take his shoes off. He wears lace-up boots and works out on our property and brings in so much dirt on his shoes, and on his clothes. I have tried to get him to at least get undressed in the laundry room and then go shower, but he just walks through the house "shedding" dirt as he goes.
I have my photography business attached next to my home. On dry days I don't bother having my clients take their shoes off as it's a commercial space. I'm a bad Canadian and occasionally wear my shoes in the house too if they are relatively clean. We have 4 cats who live with us, OBVI, so I do vacuum and clean at least twice a week so it never gets too gross. Boy your kiddos are growing! Love seeing them in your vids!
I live in Central Coast CA on a ranch and we don’t take our shoes off until bedtime. With 4 ranch dogs coming in and out you don’t want to be barefoot on my floors. Plus I need to always have supportive shoes on to prevent plantar fasciitis.
We had to make our bed every morning. Everything had to be cleaned up and tidy before bedtime. You always hung up your towels and never left on the floor. Love your tips.
It's actually more common to take off your shoes when you go into your house, but where the 90% comes from is that most people switch to slippers or indoor shoes. I am Asian, Canadian, and American, so I've seen many different shoe customs. In Asian countries, you do not wear outdoor shoes inside but switch to indoor shoes/slippers. In Canada, you take off your shoes in the mudroom, which is an absolute must during winter. I've really only seen people wear outdoor shoes inside their houses in the US, and I hate it. Though there are some people who have shoes-off rules like in Canada in the US, so I normally ask or look at people's feet as they walk into their houses. Also, fun fact, midwesterners have the same issues as Canadians so their houses are also typically designed with a mudroom.
I live in KY and we wear shoes in the house. (Which is funny bc lots of people think people in KY don’t wear shoes at all😂). I have bad feet from standing as a hairdresser for many years and I can’t walk barefoot at all. Maybe I need separate house shoes to change into??
Louisiana girl here, and horse woman. I have foot problems, too, and must always have shoes on. I have very supportive house shoes (Dansko), which I wear until I step into the shower, and remain at my bedside while I sleep. I also have animals in the house. I know it's gross, but I'm willing to do the cleaning. Supportive shoes help me with this, as well. Since I live in the country and have animals everywhere, I'm in and out a lot. My Danskos are slip on mules, which makes it easier.
It’s so funny that you said this! It reminded me that when I was growing up in Illinois, I loved being barefoot and everyone called me a “hillbilly.” I literally knew NO ONE back in the 70s and 80s with a no shoes in the house rule.
I am with you. I have to wear my shoes so they are worn in the house. I also would not be so rude as to tell people to take their shoes off. It's not that hard to clean
I live in NH, USA and most people leave their shoes on here, I don't, I love to be barefoot and I take my shoes off as soon as I enter my house, but it's not a cleanliness thing, I just hate wearing shoes :) I'm joining your 30 day declutter challenge :) Growing up we had to clean the house every Saturday, while our friends were out playing we were deep cleaning every Saturday until around 2, then we could go out and play. Your kids are adorable :)
I wear slippers in the house and shoes outside. Thanks for this, Cass! See you at the Get Organised HQ virtual in early September! I'm looking forward to the 30 day Declutter Challenge, too.
Love these! Our dishwasher just went out and in the meantime I feel like I'm the only one cleaning up. I'm starting #1 tonight! Also, I'd LOVE a mini declutter challenge for kids-maybe a 7 day one?
If someone isn’t comfortable taking their shoes off in your house, consider that they may need the foot support. I get a lot of pain in my knees if I walk around barefoot. I keep a pair of house shoes but I don’t bring them with me everywhere. I follow the rules of the house but I wish people were more flexible sometimes. Nobody’s trying to eat off your floors.
My husband has neuropathy in his feet. It causes him a lot of pain to not be wearing shoes. I also remember when we were poor and buying new socks was a luxury. I hated going to houses where we had to take shoes off and they would see, and sometimes comment on, the holes in my socks.
It's a cleanliness issue. There are studies showing that people track in all sorts of stuff if they don't take off their shoes, including feces. I have foot support issues. No problem, just have a pair of indoor shoes that I only wear indoors. Or you could get shoe covers for your guests
But, but... Why do my Dutch guests never ever consider taking their shoes off when they enter my house, and when I am brave enough to ask they look at me as if I have two heads?
Here in the Netherlands we keep our shoes on in the house. I actually only know 2 adresses where I have to take them off. One of them is for the walking noises for the appartement below. I own a mud loving dog and al my floors are tiled or hardwood...
Cas I have just signed up for your 30 day declutter andL and I am very excited! I have terrible ADHD and I am a exploder . I ran a doula service from 1985 -1993. Thank you for all you do! Take care and God bless!
I don’t know why, but I felt teary watching this. It’s so nice to see your beautiful kiddos. I’ve been watching you for years … they are so grown up ❤❤❤ good rules
Growing up my dad had a weird rule about you have to wear shoes at all times (even in the house) because cold feet made you sick. We lived in Texas. It didn't matter if we wore flip flops either. That was the first rule I threw out when I moved into my own house. I love your videos! They make me laugh every time, no matter how bad of a mood I'm in.
Shoe removal depends on where we've been. Our town shoes come off, but if I've only been in the yard, wiping shoes on the mat suffices (unless they are muddy). Our floors are hardwood except for vinyl in bathroom and laundry, so it's no big deal, but we do not wear any outdoor shoes on the living room area rug, period! Most people remove their shoes when they enter our home although we don't ask them to do so. One thing that helps is having an obvious shoe station in the entryway and a decorative basket of clean slipper socks.
We grew up with the "no shoes in the house" rule however as my dad has gotten older he has to wear orthotics pretty much 24/7 so he is allowed his special house shoes. One house rule we have is "for the number of people and animals in the house equals the number of times the carpet and rugs should be vacuumed per week" So for example, in my house we have 3 people and3 animals, so the rug in the living room is usually vacuumed at least every other day (especially during shedding season). Also, make sure the dishwasher is empty before dinner is started (I usually do this in the mornings so my folks don't even have to worry about it). And finally, "put it back exactly where you found it." My mom is always rearranging things so the unwritten rule in the house is to put things back exactly where you found it even if that's not where it usually goes because otherwise mom, who just rearranged everything, will remind that not where that item goes anymore. But if you don't know where it goes, ask.
Thanks for another great video Cass! Knowing that little kids always touch the walls in hallways and up and down the stairs - when my four kids were little I painted the hallways and stairwell walls with semi gloss so they were easier to clean!
I live in Texas, and most of us wear our shoes in the house. I tried the no shoes in the house, and the one who balked the most about it was my husband! He is outside a lot, and said it was too much trouble to remove his shoes every time he came in to get a drink or go to the bathroom. I finally gave up. After all, this is his house, too.
We don't wear shoes around the yard, we wear plastic slippers (sorry for my English) around the yard outside the house so it is easy to take them off and put house slippers on. I walk BF at home so it is even easier. No matter how many times, it is automatic. It would be hard not to do it.
My husband is like a delightful absent minded professor. We’ve tried the no shoes but between being in and out a lot like your husband, he also just forgets. We decided it’s not happening for us 😊
Yep! My husband puts his shoes on in the morning and they are not coming off until bedtime! We also have dogs with a doggy door so I had to clean the floors often anyway. I grew up with no shoes on inside. My personal solution was bare feet all the time! 😂
Growing up my dad made the rule “We don’t heat/air condition closets” which meant that closet doors could never be left open. That got expanded to the door to the unfinished basement, cabinet doors, and other similar storage/utility spaces. My mom’s rule was about our small galley kitchen that didn’t have a dishwasher until I was in high school; “Clean as you go.” Which meant while we were cooking or otherwise preparing food, dishes, utensils, countertops, etc got cleaned immediately after you used them.
Grew up in Texas and we wore shoes. Now in Iowa and we do not. I think the difference is snow. We don't ask guests to take shoes off, but anyone local takes them off immediately. Sign of a good party is when the porch is covered in shoes because the entry way ran out of room.
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Live in Florida and have feet issues. Have to wear shoes inside house.
@@bfein6061I hear you.
Tendon damage = ankle braces and ankle boots until it’s time for bed.
Miss wearing ballet flats as my inside shoes when I ran a home based daycare (in the 90’s).
Also, if you have a HHA, CNA, visiting nurse, they are obligated (OSHA) to wear their shoes.
Done!✅
In California at our house, we started taking shoes off inside years ago when we had flooring replaced and it makes such a difference in how clean and in good shape the floors are. We use “inside” flip flops or ‘slides’ that we only wear in the house (wood floors)
Anyone else writing this down like me? Save you some time :-)
1. Eat together as a family
1.b family dinner clean up
2. Never go to bed with a messy kitchen
3. surfaces are hot lava.
3.b the walls are hot lava too
4. If it takes a minute or less do it now
5. A load a day, keeps the laundry mountain away
6. One nice thing for yourself and for someone else everyday
7. Never go to bed with a messy bathroom
8. Reset your bedroom once a week
9. Declutter with each season change
10. No shoes in the house
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Love these. Any way I can just copy & paste these instead of having to type them out?
Thank you! I wanted to post this on the fridge in my newly remodeled house! AWESOME!
New House! New Rules:)
Thank you! I was going to ask if she had this in a list form. ❤
My favorite is "Don't just put it down, put it away."
I’m a Black American and we don’t wear shoes in the house but we also don’t walk around barefoot-we have house shoes for that. The other thing I think we have is that you’re not allowed to sit on a made bed in your “outside” clothes. So if you wore it outside in the elements, you can’t bring that filth to the bed. I definitely still change my clothes when I come in from running errands and I’m 46. My personal house rule now that I’m a homeowner is not to go to bed with dishes in the sink, which is easier since I got in the habit of just not putting them in the sink in the first place. The sink isn’t a holding space for dishes-they go straight into the dishwasher, where they belong
I totally get the "outside clothes" rule! Makes sense! My husband is allergic to everything! Pollen and such stick to clothes. We don't sit on the bed once made anyway, but the whole outside close thing might help with his allergies just to get out of them when he returns home. Thank you for this tip!
I wish my husband would use the dishwasher. He wants to handwash all the dishes so it has become his job. The problem is that there are always dishes in the sink unless I get mad and use the dishwasher.
Canadian here, I also have house sandals in summer and slippers in winter. I just can’t do bare feet on the floor. Living in an old apartment with no carpet I really wish the person living above me would adopt house slippers so I wouldn’t have to hear the aggressive heal toe, heal toe foot steps. Sometimes I’f they are walking hard and fast you can feel the vibration!
I second the bed and being in “street clothes or outside clothes” heck NO. Only nightwear in and on the bed!
I always change clothes when I come home too!
Oh my gosh..! The “no outside clothes on the bed” rule…I didn’t even consider I was raised with that until I read your comment! We were living with a rule that we didn’t even know was a rule! lol!!!
Rule #10! Wow!!! I'm from Russia. This is the first time i've ever heard you, guys, in USA discuss that. It's always been the most shocking thing we experience here in Russia when watching American films and seeing people wear outdoor shoes inside their homes even while lying in the bed! In Russia it's an interior tradition to have what we call here a "corridor" or entry isolated from other rooms cause this is where you should leave whatever's been outdoor like shoes, coats, hats, bags. Thanks for all your videos! Love watching them so much. Love from Russia 🇷🇺
its quite logical, especially in cold, wet climates. I just experience myself the house stays far more cleaner if you leave your shoes at the door. It saves a ton of cleaning work so i wonder why not everybody does it
Maybe it's a north thing! Much of the year we'd be tracking in snow or mud or rainwater or the likes.
I'm from Minnesota in the USA, where winter exists 3/4 of the year, and I ALWAYS took my shoes off. But my father never did in the summers, only in the winter and then half the time he just wiped his boots and wore his outside shoes anyway 😫 My children are now the only ones in their friend groups that take their shoes off when they enter a home, but I am a zealot about it. Tracking in dirt is just gross.
(ETA: I live in the south-central US where it's summer 3/4 of the year now 😅 but the shoe rule still stands!)
Same here! We had an exchange student from Michigan. She took out the gym trainers and put them on the kitchen table! She was shocked at our being shock 😂
@@SelenaLucia2011 😄
Your kids are hilarious and beautiful 😍!!
French woman here : In France, I feel that 99% of people ALWAYS put shoes off inside of their own house. Once we discussed with some people why is there so many people in TV series and movies that walk inside their house with shoes on, and we spotted that this was something only happening in american series and movies so we concluded that it was cultural. I've never seen that in another country. In some Asian countries (Japan, Thailand for example) that I visited you also put shoes off inside of the house. The only exception in France is when you host a party/dinner, people walk inside with shoes on but there is always this moment at the beginning "Could we keep shoes on ? Or not ?" and sometimes even if allowed guests don't agree with keeping shoes on because they feel it's disrespectful. Love your videos by the way ! :)
In Holland it is not common to take the shoes off. I know al lot off households were the shoes stay on by entering the home.
US here. We take our shoes off.
If we are visiting, we ask if we should take off our shoes. Most hosts say, "Whatever you like." That means, if you are uncomfortable taking off your shoes, then leaving them on is fine.
When people visit me, I show them their choice.
Most visitors take off their shoes.
I think movies and t.v. are movies and tv. Actors and actresses will have shoes from the costume department and they're not actually going to sleep on the bed. Having a "taking off the shoes" part of a scene wouldn't add to the story, but if you don't show it, there's a continuity error between the characters having shoes on and then not having them on. So they're left on.
I agree we in Canada never wear shoes inside and I have a dog and Always wipe his feet with wet wipes when coming in from outside as well. Otherwise our floors would be filthy ❤
yep same in the UK
MILO AND ABBY!!! I love them - more Milo and Abby please! Seriously though, thanks for all the great idea and entertainment and sharing your adorable kids with us!
These 'Rules' are also setting your children up to be independent, self-sufficient people for when they venture out on their own !!! Always lead by example. All great rules in my book,
Abby is your beautiful mini-me! She has your hair, your eyes and that sassy attitude that we all love so much.
Your kiddos are adorable! We always wear shoes in the house. I have chronic foot pain unless I am wearing shoes, so I will never be caught without shoes in the house unless I am curled up on the couch or in my bed. When guests ask if they need to remove their shoes when they come over, I logically state; "I have four dogs. Your shoes are not going to make a bit of difference to the cleanliness of my floors." That is what washing the floors is for!
People that show up at your house unannounced (unless it's an emergency) deserve to have you hide. This never happened in Florida, but since moving to TN, it's a thing. One time someone woke us up...and they weren't even embarrassed about it when they realized this! My husband is a stroke survivor. We move very slowly these days I literally had to tape a note to our front door that said, "If our shades our down, we are not ready for company." 1000 thumbs up on the bloopers!
Oh my!
How cute was this?? I love that your kids feel comfortable enough to be silly, even as teenagers. This video literally makes me wish I had kids, so fun.
Kids are amazing! No one ever mentions that. You really grow as a person, especially in wisdom. Kids are hilarious! We still say phrases our kids did growing up, they are all grown with children. We tell stories all the time, so our family history if you will, continues. We all have journals. We have records from each point of view in the family. Our grand children learn their parents were once just like them.
Yes, kids are so fun. I have 6 and life would be boring without them ♡
Raising kids also is hard. In some cases Very Hard.
Ready for a game changer Cas? Get a new toilet paper roll holder where the roll just slides on one side. I bet your kids will have a new home for the tp. 😊
Yes!! This revolutionized my husband’s bathroom!
We bought some that the bar flips up to change the roll. I Agree- complete game changer!!! 😁🎉
Yes! Recommend this to everyone!
Link or photo please?
Absolutely! I was just thinking this!
It was wonderful to see the whole family participating in this video. It felt like real life advice.
Also, the kids have grown so much and they are the cutest!
Thanks!
I LOVE the no shoes in the house! It’s NOT weird! It’s too late to undo damage from prior years, but now, as a single mom, my son and I have no problem with the no shoes in the house! We totally get it! Stop and think people, what you bring in your home by wearing the same shoes you’ve been walking around in outside all day! YUK & GROSS! Go Canada!,😊👍🇨🇦
Bathroom tidy is a big one! I never thought of it as respecting others, but you are exactly right. It also respects yourself!
100% agree. In general, being tidy and clean around those you live with is a good way to show respect.
I live in Switzerland and we take our shoes off, but workers are allowed to keep them on, sometimes we lay down cardboard to protect the floors. There are exceptions, as always 😊
You have the most beautiful family. Abby looks like a real life Barbie🥰 ❤🙏🏾
She is so pretty. Watch out Cas. Dating is coming up fast😂
When my kids were young I taught them to take their school backpack straight to their room when they came home, but as teenagers they got distracted and forgetful, after reminding many times I began throwing their stuff out the front door into the yard… backpacks coats whatever was left on the floor - It was a quick solution and kept me from getting angry, and they learned quickly - I feel certain our neighbors found it highly entertaining 😂
Great video! I do wear my shoes! It keeps my old feet from getting injured. It also supports my feet or else they will ache so bad I will be incredibly hobbling at the end of the day!
I'm glad I'm not the only one who uses their foot to shut the dishwasher!
My thoughts too. I can do it while I'm at my sink. If the top drawers open a bit, I have to do it real slow or stuff falls over. Great for my hamstrings.
So funny. I thought the same thing...I do it all of the time😁
LOL! I worked at a restaurant years ago where many of us girls closed the oven door with our foot like that, too, and it was a heavy door! It just shows you how inventive we can be when we need to get things done. 😀
Me too 😂
I prefer no shoes in the house or at least change to shoes you only wear inside. Really hard to enforce. Haha I sometimes think the hosing out the house would be nice. No one will obey my house rules many same as yours. 😢
🙋♀️ Virginia here - WE do not wear shoes in the house but do not require our guests to remove theirs. When visiting other homes, we always ask the host family their preference.
EDIT: I should have mentioned that our whole house is hardwood with a few rugs. We mop often enough to keep it clean, especially after company.
Here in Sweden we don’t wear shoes inside. I think it is really strange to wear shoes inside. They are so dirty! 😋
@@laurenhume1012 Thanks for this comment, I live in Virginia, too! And I've been to multiple houses in multiple states. It's totally hit-or-miss if people wear shoes indoors or not.
@lindenpeters2601 - It really is! I have friends who require shoes to be left on the porch and offer clean socks to guests. However, I grew up in a home where we wore shoes inside, and if you left your shoes out, you got fussed at.
Thank you for being flexible to your guests! Some people have legitimate reasons that they need to keep their shoes on, and it sucks when people insist on making it weird. (For the record, I also prefer shoes off, but that's just not reasonable to enforce on everyone 100% of the time).
@@jennenny87 - agreed! My MIL has to have ankle support at all times. I would never ask her to remove her shoes and risk a broke ankle!
YES TO NO SHOES IN HOUSE! Grosses me out that all that dirt and germs are spread all over the house. Here in USA. Love all your top ten as always 😊❤
Yessss!! I agree! I’m also in the US. 🙃
My doctors have told me to wear shoes all the time, so I have shoes that are only for indoors. They NEVER are worn outside.
No shoes in my house. Not in my culture but you walk in spit and dog poop. I don’t want that in my house.
💯💯💯THIS!!!! I would tell my kids "the same shoes you walk into the Walmart bathroom in, are the same shoes you'll try to wear into the house." And let me tell you, that was enough to remind them to take their shoes off. Haven't had a problem since 🤣.
Dr Oz said taking off your shoes at the door is the healthiest thing you can do for your family. I buy hotel slippers and keep them at the entry for guests. Regular Visiting family all have their own pair of real slippers.
I was born in Japan, but I'm not Japanese. I'm a military kid. When visiting someone else's house and ALWAYS in my home/casa, we always remove our shoes at the door. Thankfully, my family kept that house rule or cultural custom when we returned to the U.S. While I do my best to get friends and visitors to remove their shoes at the door, it's a struggle to help them understand it's okay if they have holy socks or go barefoot in my home. Let those piggies breathe and help me keep my floors clean! Please!!
My children (both adults now) know we DO NOT wear our outside shoes into the house. We have a landing pad at the front and side doors, with an assortment of house shoes, so you never have to wear those dirty outside shoes inside! Easy peasy. : )
I enjoyed your video, and I'm now a subscriber. I love your attitude and your encouragement.
Having some cheap slippers you can offer them might help
Hi - I live in Denmark and here we all take our shoes off before entering. It is considered very rude if you keep them on - unless the hostess tells you otherwise. In winter time we often have indoor slippers for our guests 😊 if they want.
Love your videoes ❤
It was super fun to see your kids making this video with you! ❤️❤️❤️
Now, I really know your secrets for a clean and tidy home. You trained your dog to be a drill sergeant. Break a rule and the dog barks everyone into submission! 😂
Dogs naturally get riled whenever there’s horseplay with squeals & screams involved. Had it continued, I think Cass would have been bitten. My mother’s own dogs used to attack her for whipping us.
@@sunshine3914dogs know the difference between playful banter and a fight. A dig will usually protect a child from their parents, but won't bite mom for having a playful "fight" with her kid.
@@sunshine3914The old saying is that a dog is man’s best friend. In your case it was a child’s best friend and protector from a parents discipline. 😂 Dogs really are the greatest. ❤
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@@sunshine3914 😥💔
It’s definitely a cultural thing. I live in Chicago (US) and it’s so split that it’s common to ask when you visit the first time if shoes on or off. People are very convicted about this one way or the other. My Asian mother-in-law has some very strong beliefs about shoes in the house being a no-go.
Norway: we TAKE THE SHOES OFF! Another joyful video of yours! Love it! Thanks for being YOU!
I'm in Australia and our family doesn't wear shoes in the house. Occasionally my young children forget but gumboots or crocs make it easy for them. If they're barefoot outside in summer I leave a bucket of water and a towel by the door.
I can have the worst Tuesday morning and Cas makes me laugh so hard.
I love the hot lava concept . Your family is adorable!
I need to internalize the hot lava concept!
The kids were so funny at the end!
We tried going without shoes, but that meant we had to change to indoor shoes. I need good support because of foot pain . We finally gave up. We did get a new welcome mat and there’s a rug inside the house where we wipe our feet. It’s right to the side of the front door.
I live in Tennessee. I'm from Texas. Cowboy boots are very common. You *DO NOT* want guests removing their wreaking boots in the house! Leave them on I'll sweep!! 😂 Oh my gosh I'm gagging from the cereal milk rule!
Yeah, what's worse, dirty shoes or someone's sweaty socks or stinky feet? Just leave them on. 🤢
Investing in some cheap hotel slippers or knock off crocs would be what I'd do if I was worried about that. We just don't have visitors that often, with or without dirty shoes or smelly feet! 😂
We have a no shoes policy in carpeted areas. Hard floors like the hallway and kitchen we use indoors slippers. At least we know then we haven't stepped in dog or cat or even fox poo or urine and brought it into the house. Guests are told in advance to wear or carry socks, if we have an indoor party or dinner. Living in the UK we usually have outdoor BBQs in summer so guests enter from the side gate. However, if they need the toilet they have to take off shoes at the bottom of the stairs and go upstairs where our toilet is located. Sweaty socks is much preferred to poo. This being England, there's a lot of it about, on pavements, parks and roads etc. We also walk, a lot unlike Americans who most probably drive a lot and really don't visit friends much as everyone lives too far.
Your kids are hilarious! I love to see how you all interact. You must have a fun home!
Your kids are stinkin’ adorable! They definitely have your personality. Thanks for including them in this video! And great house rules! I will certainly be adding a few of them to our family, especially the “do something nice for yourself, and do something nice for someone else!”
I have to wear shoes because of the need for arch support, so I had a basket by the door for inside and outside shoes. Getting a puppy meant the expensive, hand-crafted basket was chewed on and multiple shoes were destroyed by pup's teeth. I have enough ADD that I would take out the trash or go down the driveway to the mailbox and forget to change shoes. I even tried keeping wet wipes by the door to wipe off the bottom of my shoes. I gave up. I may try again next year, but my priority right now is restoring health and energy after a serious illness. Thanks for the good tips. I will try them if and when I can get my house back to a normal state.
When we adopted a precious son with cerebral palsy I had to give up my hopes for clean walls. He uses them to help him get around the house and up and down the stairs. But it's okay!!!
AND..because he wears AFO devices (braces) on his feet, he HAS to wear his shoes over top all the time!
I think training people to not touch walls is a bad idea. If they ever lose their balance, they're not going to reach out for the wall because they've been trained not to. I use the railing plus my hand on the other wall.
Kathy, consider asking God to heal your son. He doesn't need to continue with this disease. Psalm 103:3 is one of the MANY places God promises to heal our diseases. Matthew 7:7 says "ASK and you will receive."
I will pray for your son!
@@elizabethsydnor5247 @kitw76 Hey, so, uh... I'm not OP of this comment thread but I *am* disabled and regularly interact with the disabled community. A *lot* of disabled people find it weird and uncomfortable that people's (often complete strangers') immediate thought is to pray for our healing upon hearing we're disabled, as if being disabled is the worst thing we could possibly be. My disability, like CP, is congenital, meaning I've *always* been this way. I was *made* this way.
For many people disabled from birth, if they've been raised with a healthy self-image (or if we grew into a healthy self-image after not being raised with it, i.e. by finding community with other disabled people happy in their own skin), our disability is often an inseparable part of us and part of what makes us who we are. We'd be _fundamentally different people_ without it, and many of us wouldn't choose to become nondisabled. (Some would; we're all different. But none of us know OP of this comment thread or their son.)
Variety is the spice of life--and yes, disability is variety. So, why are we so focused on stamping that variety out?
@@elizabethsydnor5247 So, my previous comment looks like it was lost (it looked like it sent but I'm assuming browser issues ate it?), but a lot of disabled people really find it weird and uncomfortable when total strangers' first reaction to us is to pray that we won't be the way we are anymore. For people like me disabled from birth, that's like praying we won't be ourselves anymore and somebody else can come to replace us, because we were *made* with our disabilities. A lot of us aren't looking for a cure or imagining ourselves as some nondisabled ideal with this awful Thing attached to us. Disability is just something that *is*. It's not something terrible and life-destroying that we have to separate and expunge.
Of course, some people do want a cure because we're all different. (Though none of us here probably know OP or their child personally.) But it's distressing how often strangers react to me like I shouldn't exist. I have been disabled my whole life and it's how I was made. It's such an intrinsic part of me that to remove it from me is to remove part of myself, of who I am. I would not exist without it. I would be an entirely different person.
Everytime I watch your videos, I am so happy,that I found you! ❤❤❤ Love Simone
So happy to have you here!
Great to see the kids. No shoes in the house. I'm adding things I do for myself for 10-15 minutes a day and I noticed I spend less time on social media. Right now, I'm trying to use your suggestion of adding 10-15 miutes a day to work on SIMPLE craft projects.
Thanks for sharing!
Everyone in my house from the age of 7 had a laundry day and we did our own sheets, and clothes and put them away… and yup, that included ironing! We were assigned a room to keep clean every week it changed..We were told our mother was NOT a maid, so if we left stuff behind, we paid the consequence..
me too!
A seven year old doing laundry, including sheets, and ironing? Wow! 😢
@@robynaboverubiesorpearls we had a house full, 4 of us 9-13 range and one infant..and a military type dad, so yup…it didn’t do us any harm, we had a good work ethic from a young age, and growing up no trouble ever finding work because every one of us could turn a hand to almost anything.
@@annieo54 I'm an only child and that's how I was raised too. By 7 I laundered my clothes and sheets, ironed what needed to be, I cooked, did housework, helped with paperwork (including tax).... Basically I was raised to be independent and I concur, no trouble ever finding work
In Italy we keep our shoes on, unless it's your house then you can have house shoes/slipper. But it's actually seen as not being "well behaved" if you go around in your bare feet, my nonna would actually tell me that I would catch a cold if I did 😂❤
It's the same in Spain where I live.
We do the same thing in France. Guests usually keep their shoes on. Some will ask, but most of the time not.
ok, so in Italy and Spain and France babies and toddlers crawl and play in the outside dirt on the floor? I cannot imagine that even a second.
No one has to be barefoot - although it is the healthiest for your feet, to squeeze feet all day long in shoes will harm the feet sooner or later - there are a big variety of house shoes, also elegant ones if someone needs to be elegant at home 😄
@@sammyberger3867 well not really, as I said if it's your home, usually people have slippers/house shoes. It also needs to be said that in Italy homes usually don't have a fully carpeted flooring, which traps more dirt, it's mostly wood or some sort of tiling, which is super easy to sweep and mop.
Same thing in Greece. We have our house slippers, but guests don't take their shoes off.
Your kids are great! Mine are grown, and it made me go back to the memories of my kids just being goofy. I love it!
We also take our shoes off at home (Ontario, Canada), however, I do have "indoor sandals" that I wear at home in the house for my sore tootsies. Thanks for your episode. I listened while I did my nightly re-set. I do many of the same things at our house to keep it clean. Luckily I grew up in a household that taught these fundamental life skills. Thanks again. Cheers:)
I’m from the UK and we don’t wear shoes but we were slippers or crocs round the house! When we go to guests house if they have carpet we take shoes off, laminate they’re kept on if only a short stay! ❤
As a kid I grew up non stop cleaning therefore I’m an extremely clean person but as a mom I decided not to set all these rules for my kids. I find them unnecessary not allowing them to relax. Pretty much just clean after yourself just like you do at school and have a designated day of the week to do deep clean and do laundry! This has work great for us ❤
Yeah I agree. These rules sound reasonable, but I think depends on how you enforce them, and how strict you are about them. For example, the wall thing is not for me, I think it's neurotic. But I can see how that could become a rule if kids are literally wiping stuff off their hands into the walls all the time. I do the "no shoes in the house" rule, but never enforce it for guests. I like the kitchen-cleaning rule, but there are some nights that we have to leave literally as soon as we're done eating, for sports, and it's bedtime when we get home. And the messy bathroom thing is a good point. I'm not a fan of assigning morality to cleanliness, but for me, it did take some training to get my kids to stop leaving giant globs of toothpaste in the sink every day.
I have indoor shoes… sometimes they go outside… i cant walkbarefoot anymore due to medical drama…
Same. I have a pair of house slippers
Great tips! I especially like the tip about having everyone in the family do something nice for themselves and something nice for someone else each day.
Regarding shoes in the house - I grew up in central Texas, and you generally only took your shoes off if you were going to be staying awhile (ex. A short visit, no, staying for dinner, possibly yes, but it was really just up to the host). As a kid I generally didn't wear shoes unless I was leaving the house. As an adult, I've come to discover I'm more productive if I keep my shoes on in the house. If I take my shoes off in the house, it means I'm resting and no longer in any kind of work mode.
A few years ago, we moved to north central Arkansas, and the culture here dictates shoes off upon entering a home. We actually have to stop people from taking their shoes off at our door (like really! We don't take our shoes off, please don't take yours off!). Seeing other people's socks or feet also kind of grosses me out 🤢.
Your kids were great sports and they were so fun! I wear shoes inside because 1. wet tile (from dogs spilling water or tracking in from wet grass) is very slippery and 2. as I've aged, I need the support for my back.
I grew up in Wyoming on a ranch and live in town in Iowa now and have always taken my shoes off at the door. My entire family does the same. Sometimes it surprises people when we do.
Hey girl! Your posts ALWAYS help me, thank you for your advice and warm friendly energy. You will never know how much the simple encouragement and direction has made a big difference for my life!!! Beautiful home and beautiful family! ❤
I'm 100% with you on the touching the walls!!!
My dear hubby used the walks for balance as he walked from room to room. The walls were filthy. He has ‘graduated’ to using a walker and it has made a huge difference - but I’m not really sure it’s worth it.
Me too!
I love when you have the kids help you make videos they just laugh the whole time!
No shoes in the house her i Norway ! And me and my family also have dinner togheter, alwasy, and everybodey helps to clean up. It's the best way to hear about everybodeys day, to talk to eache other. Love your way of doing things, you and I think very much alaike 😊
Great set of house rules! Thank you for sharing.
I live in Minnesota in the US. It is in our culture to remove shoes too. I think it's because of snow, but we do it year round.
One issue with the no shoes thing is that people with diabetes should be careful with their feet, so if I know a guest has diabetes I greet them at the door wearing my shoes and insist they wear theirs. Same with any service workers. Wearing footwear is safer for their backs. (Most workers have booties to put over their shoes anyway.)
In Scotland people tend to take their own shoes off but it's less common to ask visitors to take them off.
I would say, same as in Germany.
These were great rules! Love seeing your kids. They've grown so much. The first time I came across your channel, your youngest had been to the dentist or had his tonsils out, and it was a horrifying experience. We sometimes take our shoes off, when we're just in the house and relaxing. Actually, my feet hurt when I go without shoes. I need my good sturdy shoes.
Yay! About to have my second baby so that 30 day declutter challenge is right in time!!!
What a beautiful family. A house full of adults. Wow! AKA people old enough to help with anything. Lucky you!
Oh thanks!
Fellow Canuck here! And ya, no shoes in the house. 1 of my favourite teenage memories; going to house parties where there are 25 pairs of shoes in a pile at the backdoor that you have to walk through or over! Or boots if it's winter, along with a mountain of parkas on the bed in the "spare" room. lolol. I ❤Canada.
I forgot about the coats in the winter on the spare bed 😂
Australia here: I hate wearing shoes full stop but I don't expect people to take theirs off when they come to my house. If they are muddy or really dirty most people take them off anyway.
This was awesome and helpful. Your kids are fantastic and fun 😊
You and your family are ADORABLE and INSPIRATIONAL!!!
Hawaii here, shoes are a no go in any house 🙌🏼
Good to know!
Arizona- we wear shoes in the house. Not muddy or snow boots ( but no snow in Phoenix ); but definitely sandals, tennis shoes, etc. I do take them off usually at home and just where socks for comfort; but not at the front door. Zero shoes at my front door. Wore them inside in New Mexico too.
I live in the USA in the Midwest. For our family we don't wear shoes in the house so there is less cleaning to do but it's very uncommon with everyone I know around us. If I'm going to someone's house for the first time, I usually take note of whether they have shoes on in the house or not and ask if I'm unsure.
I'm a Black American, and I grew up never wearing shoes inside the house and I still don't wear outside shoes inside the house. I have a pair of house slippers. When I was growing up, my parents treated chores like a job so I had to sign a contract and it stated how much I was paid per chore. I guess that's unusual/weird because of I had to sign a contract lol, but I thought and think it's cool.
So fun seeing you film with your kids! I hope you all are having a great week!!
Love the video, dog was hilarious. We don't wear our shoes in the house, Texas. Also, one of our house rules is, if you cooked dinner, you don't have to do the dishes. It encouraged our so to cooked one day a week, so he didn't have to do dishes that night.
You are Brilliant!! Such Great memories for the family of togetherness, no matter how much grumbling happens in the moment. LOL "Give everything a home." Your kids will be saying these things for the rest of their lives and you will laugh your head off when you hear them all saying it to their kids... and it making all their homes better for it.
Glad you think so!
If you have pets - aren't they bringing in dirt and germs as bad as, if not worse than, your shoes? I gave up the no shoes in the house rule because my floors are always dirty from my dogs, and I have to clean them constantly anyway. Great content and I always love your videos, especially the stories at the end!❤
I have 4 cats and two dogs. Shoes are fine in my house. High traffic areas I have washable throw rugs I can vacuum and toss in the washer as needed. I wash them often so I have two rugs for each area to swap out.
There are people who wipe their dog's feet after they come in from outside. I doubt it's a ton of people that go to that much trouble, but I know those people exist.
I have 6 cats but they never go outside. They do track litter all around the room where their boxes are. I try not to think about it too much! lol
we have 3 cats and a dog and walking without shoes FREAKS ME OUT... all that hair that sticks to your socks (or worse, bare feet!). Even after you sweep, there's hair
I live in Canada and we absolutely wipe dogs’ feet when they come in the house if their feet are wet, muddy, or snowy (but not if they are dry). My parents keep a towel by the door for this reason. I think the climate is the main reason why it’s customary to remove your shoes when you enter anyone’s home here. There’s snow and/or wet conditions 75% of the year. Some people wear indoor shoes or slippers at home (and exceptions are made for guests if they have medical reasons), but the majority of us just wear our socks around the house, and sometimes bare feet in the summer (which is really only 2 months out of the year). In fact in schools, kids bring a pair of indoor running shoes that they leave at school and then wear their outdoor shoes or boots home or when out for recess (they change their shoes at the same time as getting on/off their jackets, snow pants, etc). With pets you just accept that you need to clean your floors frequently because of hair and dirt, regardless of whether you wear house shoes or walk around in sock feet.
Clothing too - dust, pollen, and other dirt aren't even primarily transferred by shoes, it's picked up by clothing outside and then falls off inside. I don't see the point in being strict about shoes if you're also wearing your street clothes on the sofa.
We’re also in Canada and in our house we take our shoes off and wear house shoes instead. To us, it’s a sign of respect for the hard work we do to maintain our floors clean😊
I have no problem with the no-shoes rule, except my husband absolutely refuses to take his shoes off. He wears lace-up boots and works out on our property and brings in so much dirt on his shoes, and on his clothes. I have tried to get him to at least get undressed in the laundry room and then go shower, but he just walks through the house "shedding" dirt as he goes.
I have my photography business attached next to my home. On dry days I don't bother having my clients take their shoes off as it's a commercial space. I'm a bad Canadian and occasionally wear my shoes in the house too if they are relatively clean. We have 4 cats who live with us, OBVI, so I do vacuum and clean at least twice a week so it never gets too gross. Boy your kiddos are growing! Love seeing them in your vids!
I live in Central Coast CA on a ranch and we don’t take our shoes off until bedtime. With 4 ranch dogs coming in and out you don’t want to be barefoot on my floors. Plus I need to always have supportive shoes on to prevent plantar fasciitis.
We had to make our bed every morning. Everything had to be cleaned up and tidy before bedtime. You always hung up your towels and never left on the floor. Love your tips.
It's actually more common to take off your shoes when you go into your house, but where the 90% comes from is that most people switch to slippers or indoor shoes. I am Asian, Canadian, and American, so I've seen many different shoe customs. In Asian countries, you do not wear outdoor shoes inside but switch to indoor shoes/slippers. In Canada, you take off your shoes in the mudroom, which is an absolute must during winter. I've really only seen people wear outdoor shoes inside their houses in the US, and I hate it. Though there are some people who have shoes-off rules like in Canada in the US, so I normally ask or look at people's feet as they walk into their houses. Also, fun fact, midwesterners have the same issues as Canadians so their houses are also typically designed with a mudroom.
Your kids are so adorable. They are naturals at this.
I live in KY and we wear shoes in the house. (Which is funny bc lots of people think people in KY don’t wear shoes at all😂). I have bad feet from standing as a hairdresser for many years and I can’t walk barefoot at all. Maybe I need separate house shoes to change into??
Louisiana girl here, and horse woman. I have foot problems, too, and must always have shoes on. I have very supportive house shoes (Dansko), which I wear until I step into the shower, and remain at my bedside while I sleep. I also have animals in the house. I know it's gross, but I'm willing to do the cleaning. Supportive shoes help me with this, as well. Since I live in the country and have animals everywhere, I'm in and out a lot. My Danskos are slip on mules, which makes it easier.
It’s so funny that you said this! It reminded me that when I was growing up in Illinois, I loved being barefoot and everyone called me a “hillbilly.” I literally knew NO ONE back in the 70s and 80s with a no shoes in the house rule.
I am with you. I have to wear my shoes so they are worn in the house. I also would not be so rude as to tell people to take their shoes off. It's not that hard to clean
I live in NH, USA and most people leave their shoes on here, I don't, I love to be barefoot and I take my shoes off as soon as I enter my house, but it's not a cleanliness thing, I just hate wearing shoes :) I'm joining your 30 day declutter challenge :) Growing up we had to clean the house every Saturday, while our friends were out playing we were deep cleaning every Saturday until around 2, then we could go out and play. Your kids are adorable :)
I wear slippers in the house and shoes outside. Thanks for this, Cass! See you at the Get Organised HQ virtual in early September! I'm looking forward to the 30 day Declutter Challenge, too.
Love these! Our dishwasher just went out and in the meantime I feel like I'm the only one cleaning up. I'm starting #1 tonight!
Also, I'd LOVE a mini declutter challenge for kids-maybe a 7 day one?
If someone isn’t comfortable taking their shoes off in your house, consider that they may need the foot support. I get a lot of pain in my knees if I walk around barefoot. I keep a pair of house shoes but I don’t bring them with me everywhere. I follow the rules of the house but I wish people were more flexible sometimes. Nobody’s trying to eat off your floors.
My husband has neuropathy in his feet. It causes him a lot of pain to not be wearing shoes.
I also remember when we were poor and buying new socks was a luxury. I hated going to houses where we had to take shoes off and they would see, and sometimes comment on, the holes in my socks.
It's a cleanliness issue. There are studies showing that people track in all sorts of stuff if they don't take off their shoes, including feces. I have foot support issues. No problem, just have a pair of indoor shoes that I only wear indoors. Or you could get shoe covers for your guests
@@yvonner1344 it’s like you didn’t even read my comment, but thanks
Here in the Netherlands we take off our shoes as well. I love your house rules, really helpful!
But, but... Why do my Dutch guests never ever consider taking their shoes off when they enter my house, and when I am brave enough to ask they look at me as if I have two heads?
Here in the Netherlands we keep our shoes on in the house. I actually only know 2 adresses where I have to take them off. One of them is for the walking noises for the appartement below. I own a mud loving dog and al my floors are tiled or hardwood...
Cas I have just signed up for your 30 day declutter andL and I am very excited! I have terrible ADHD and I am a exploder . I ran a doula service from 1985 -1993. Thank you for all you do! Take care and God bless!
I don’t know why, but I felt teary watching this. It’s so nice to see your beautiful kiddos. I’ve been watching you for years … they are so grown up ❤❤❤ good rules
Glad you think so!
Growing up my dad had a weird rule about you have to wear shoes at all times (even in the house) because cold feet made you sick. We lived in Texas. It didn't matter if we wore flip flops either. That was the first rule I threw out when I moved into my own house.
I love your videos! They make me laugh every time, no matter how bad of a mood I'm in.
Great rules. TFS.
You rock Cas!!!
Shoe removal depends on where we've been. Our town shoes come off, but if I've only been in the yard, wiping shoes on the mat suffices (unless they are muddy). Our floors are hardwood except for vinyl in bathroom and laundry, so it's no big deal, but we do not wear any outdoor shoes on the living room area rug, period! Most people remove their shoes when they enter our home although we don't ask them to do so. One thing that helps is having an obvious shoe station in the entryway and a decorative basket of clean slipper socks.
We also take the shoes off. I live in Bulgaria. 😊 You are awesome. I declutter a lot of things in my house thanks to you!
We grew up with the "no shoes in the house" rule however as my dad has gotten older he has to wear orthotics pretty much 24/7 so he is allowed his special house shoes. One house rule we have is "for the number of people and animals in the house equals the number of times the carpet and rugs should be vacuumed per week" So for example, in my house we have 3 people and3 animals, so the rug in the living room is usually vacuumed at least every other day (especially during shedding season). Also, make sure the dishwasher is empty before dinner is started (I usually do this in the mornings so my folks don't even have to worry about it). And finally, "put it back exactly where you found it." My mom is always rearranging things so the unwritten rule in the house is to put things back exactly where you found it even if that's not where it usually goes because otherwise mom, who just rearranged everything, will remind that not where that item goes anymore. But if you don't know where it goes, ask.
We leave ours on. We go in and out so much. Bits a pain to take them off.
Shoes off on the deck. We live at the beach and it’s a no no to drag sand in! Not only gritty underfoot but scratches the finish!
Your kids are the best!❤🙏
Thanks for another great video Cass! Knowing that little kids always touch the walls in hallways and up and down the stairs - when my four kids were little I painted the hallways and stairwell walls with semi gloss so they were easier to clean!
Abby doing the sprinkler at the end, you've raised that child right! 😂
I live in Texas, and most of us wear our shoes in the house. I tried the no shoes in the house, and the one who balked the most about it was my husband! He is outside a lot, and said it was too much trouble to remove his shoes every time he came in to get a drink or go to the bathroom. I finally gave up. After all, this is his house, too.
We don't wear shoes around the yard, we wear plastic slippers (sorry for my English) around the yard outside the house so it is easy to take them off and put house slippers on. I walk BF at home so it is even easier. No matter how many times, it is automatic. It would be hard not to do it.
My husband is like a delightful absent minded professor. We’ve tried the no shoes but between being in and out a lot like your husband, he also just forgets. We decided it’s not happening for us 😊
I feel you. I'm on the same boat. 😔
Yep! My husband puts his shoes on in the morning and they are not coming off until bedtime! We also have dogs with a doggy door so I had to clean the floors often anyway. I grew up with no shoes on inside. My personal solution was bare feet all the time! 😂
I live in Texas and have always worn my shoes inside!
Growing up my dad made the rule “We don’t heat/air condition closets” which meant that closet doors could never be left open. That got expanded to the door to the unfinished basement, cabinet doors, and other similar storage/utility spaces.
My mom’s rule was about our small galley kitchen that didn’t have a dishwasher until I was in high school; “Clean as you go.” Which meant while we were cooking or otherwise preparing food, dishes, utensils, countertops, etc got cleaned immediately after you used them.
I need to clean as I go, but it's so counter to my natural tendencies!
Grew up in Texas and we wore shoes. Now in Iowa and we do not. I think the difference is snow. We don't ask guests to take shoes off, but anyone local takes them off immediately. Sign of a good party is when the porch is covered in shoes because the entry way ran out of room.