I wasn't prepared for this - Who am I NOW?

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  • Опубліковано 19 лис 2024

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  • @janemacmurray
    @janemacmurray Місяць тому +11

    Sweet Rachel … you are such an amazing individual. You are so intelligent, creative, kind, compassionate and of course, so UNSELFISH. You will find yourself … just give yourself some time. Everything will settle down; everything will fall into place. You deserve a medal for all that you do. Give yourself a pat on the back and tell yourself « you’ll do just fine ». Warm hugs from Canada 🇨🇦

    • @pamparsons171
      @pamparsons171 Місяць тому

      So well said!

    • @pamparsons171
      @pamparsons171 Місяць тому

      Even when things get better sometimes there is an unexplained grief that rises up. Experience letting go of the dark so you cal fully embrace this new light!

    • @SimplyRachelOBare
      @SimplyRachelOBare  Місяць тому

      This is truly so kind! Thank you so so much 💛💛

  • @sherriemerson4471
    @sherriemerson4471 Місяць тому +8

    You are Kyle's wife and a wonderful human being. ❤ you are going to know exactly who you are and what to do. My thoughts and prayers are with you both. Enjoy your new season! ❤

  • @jenniferhamer167
    @jenniferhamer167 Місяць тому +2

    I only found out recently that endometriosis is an autoimmune disease. My friend had laser treatment and never looked back after 20 years of terrible pain. Sending love to you both. Just take each day as it comes, like you did before the tumour was removed. Xx

    • @SimplyRachelOBare
      @SimplyRachelOBare  Місяць тому

      I am so happy for your friend and that the surgery was so helpful for her! Sadly I had surgery 1.5yrs ago and that hasn't been my experience. Maybe in time it will start to get better but currently something that I just have to move through.

  • @CherylHamburger
    @CherylHamburger Місяць тому +4

    You are experiencing what all mother's feel when their child becomes an adult. Bless you, younare Amazing!

  • @deniseoconnell2276
    @deniseoconnell2276 Місяць тому +2

    I love your strength in asking these questions. Such a beautiful perspective. Love yourself through this process. You are worthy of all good things. ❣️❣️❣️

  • @LindaBell-444
    @LindaBell-444 Місяць тому +2

    Girl! I think you have lived a 1000 lives you are so self aware and open. What a beautiful gift ❤ Remember clarity and growth comes from the discomfort 🙏🏻😊

    • @SimplyRachelOBare
      @SimplyRachelOBare  Місяць тому +1

      Your are so right I do feel like i've lived so many lives in this one beautiful one and what a gift that is!

  • @ruthsebastian4760
    @ruthsebastian4760 Місяць тому +7

    You are truly inspiring Rachel. A beautiful person. Love you😘🤗🙏

  • @lindc1070
    @lindc1070 Місяць тому +6

    Everyday we are evolving whether we know it or not. Dont overthink it. Just go with the flow. You will find yourself.

  • @stephaniegraham9155
    @stephaniegraham9155 Місяць тому +4

    Basically you have been on autopilot for a long time! Now you can take back the control ! You don’t have this big ugly tumor controlling your life!
    Welcome back ! To finding yourself again! Both of you! ❤🙏🏻

    • @SimplyRachelOBare
      @SimplyRachelOBare  Місяць тому +1

      🥹🥹 thank you! I excited to see what’s over on this side and all the magic it will hold

  • @tricia3945
    @tricia3945 Місяць тому +1

    Rachel, I’m so excited you are shedding your skin as your new skin will undoubtedly be more vibrant and healthy. It is natural that that process is uncomfortable. Love the one who is feeling scared/uncertain and go inside and have what you are feeling. You have become very skilled at being a caretaker. Now it is time to take those well earned skills and apply them to you. I have no doubt you will find your way masterfully.

    • @SimplyRachelOBare
      @SimplyRachelOBare  Місяць тому

      Thank you for your beautiful loving words! I love how. your said now it's time to apply those skills to me a wonderful and much needed reminder!

  • @maryyung1994
    @maryyung1994 Місяць тому +4

    Your perspective and your approach on life is so interesting. I have honestly learned things from you that I've never even thought about before watching your videos. I'm sure you are beyond overwhelmed with what your role is now with Kyle. It's hard to let go of what you've gotten used to.

    • @SimplyRachelOBare
      @SimplyRachelOBare  Місяць тому +1

      I am so glad my sharing my thoughts and feelings have resonated with you and allowed you to maybe see things differently. That’s truly a honor to hear, thank you 😊

  • @donnabankstahl2457
    @donnabankstahl2457 Місяць тому +5

    Rachel you are an amazing young woman! I love that you can express yourself so clearly and quite frankly you are helping so many people. The new change in both of you is going to be a little scary but it takes an extreme amount of courage to embrace this new reality that you now find yourselves in. Embrace this new season but as you so eloquently said be gentle with yourself and each other. I will continue to keep both of you in my prayers. Much love from Fl🥰❤️🌴🦩Donna😘

    • @SimplyRachelOBare
      @SimplyRachelOBare  Місяць тому

      Donna! Thank you this is truly so kind and deeply felt. Thank you thank you 💛💛

  • @Gigithehippie
    @Gigithehippie Місяць тому +2

    You are so spiritual, and loving full of compassion traits so many people don't carry...
    your healing will be another journey in itself.
    So, let it happen don't try to hold back let it all go, cry and release all of that energy you don't require anymore.
    The butterfly has been in a cocoon a long time, now its time to be beautiful talented gifted YOU!!
    Everything will fall back into the right places,
    can't wait to see you blossom 😍

    • @SimplyRachelOBare
      @SimplyRachelOBare  Місяць тому

      Thank you thank you this means so much! You kindness is deeply felt and your so right I cannot wait to blossom! 🌻

  • @heather4180
    @heather4180 Місяць тому +1

    Thank you for sharing this. So many people find themselves in a similar position, myself included. It’s an adjustment that many don’t understand or even realize. You are strong, brave, genuine and kind. I’m always rooting for the both of you. I know you’re scared, I’d be concerned if you weren’t. You got this. Give yourself self some grace. If possible try to lean into all support from here. Loads of Positive Energy being sent your way. ♥️🕊️✨

    • @SimplyRachelOBare
      @SimplyRachelOBare  Місяць тому +1

      Thank you for for your kindness! I agree it is something so many experience yet I don't hear it spoken about it's a weird adjustment but one that is also so wonderful and welcomed!

  • @kathyhelmold7358
    @kathyhelmold7358 Місяць тому +1

    Dear Rachel. I love your willingness to open up and share your deepest thoughts and worries. You are wise beyond your years❣️❣️ You and Kyle’s lives will be enriched with everything life has to offer and with less worries now! How wonderful. Live your life to the fullest💋💋❤️

    • @SimplyRachelOBare
      @SimplyRachelOBare  Місяць тому

      Thank you for your kind loving words it means so much! 💛

  • @virginiahamel8973
    @virginiahamel8973 Місяць тому +2

    Rachel
    Letting go involves loss and grief
    It is always painful
    You are filled with sweetness and love
    Try to stay in the moment as much as you can
    ❣️❣️🙏🙏

    • @SimplyRachelOBare
      @SimplyRachelOBare  Місяць тому

      Thank you so so much! It is filled with sweetness and love and seeing more and more of that each day!

  • @janc6281
    @janc6281 Місяць тому +1

    You are a wonderful and special young woman. Can’t say it strongly enough. You have been through so much. Show yourself grace if you can. Congratulations for everything you accomplished. God bless.

    • @SimplyRachelOBare
      @SimplyRachelOBare  Місяць тому

      Thank you so much I deeply appreciate you and your kindness!

  • @julienelson8162
    @julienelson8162 Місяць тому +1

    Thank you for sharing with such openness and honesty. You have given me insight into my own fears, which I try to discard rather than understand. Now is the time to adjust, to recognize the pain, and to gently shed my own skin. Again, thank you. ❤

    • @SimplyRachelOBare
      @SimplyRachelOBare  Місяць тому

      I am so honored sharing my experience could help you in yours that is my greatest wish in sharing here. Sending you love and ease in the shedding of that skin!

  • @maureenharrah931
    @maureenharrah931 Місяць тому +4

    We shed.....but WE, as women get a RENEW every month. Just day to day living , be open, and your path will happen. People try TOO hard to find themselves, but just take the days as they come and who you are and your path will open up. For everything there is a season.... a new season.

  • @ninaanetteassarsson4328
    @ninaanetteassarsson4328 Місяць тому +3

    Sounds like grief . Let it take time to find your new place again. Talk to someone. Take care of you ! 🤗🤗🤗

  • @gorjanninkovski935
    @gorjanninkovski935 Місяць тому +2

    You are an amazingly strong lady Rachel. You and Kyle finally get to enjoy your life, worry free.

  • @Kamiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii
    @Kamiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii Місяць тому

    I had endo for decades before they figured it out. They said getting pregnant would be almost impossible, because it was so bad by the time they diagnosed it. I was in horrible pain for 3 weeks out of the month, and it is very draining, I would just sleep on the floor because I was in so much pain and sick all the time. I finally had my son, but it came back. So I had to have a partial hysterectomy, because of all the cysts/tumors on my ovaries. Boy was that a relief. Instant relief!
    Then it took Drs. about 2 decades to figure out I had Fibro. which I cannot take any medication for, because of being allergic to tons of medications.

  • @maryjaneomalley9888
    @maryjaneomalley9888 Місяць тому +2

    Your fear is a normal reaction….there are a million new things about to emerge. Kudos for being able to acknowledge and recognize this…hoping that you can settle into your new role as the fall and winter evolves and allows you to settle in and enjoy the warmth inside your lives. Please give yourself a break…and know there is a spring that will follow! What a gift you share with Kyle and your subscribers….you can do it…please watch and listen to this vlog…it is exquisitely comforting.

    • @SimplyRachelOBare
      @SimplyRachelOBare  Місяць тому

      Thank you thank you your kindness means more than you know! 💛

  • @gingerevans1346
    @gingerevans1346 Місяць тому +2

    I agree with a previous post, in that you have been through so much for so long, you are on auto pilot. I imagine that it will take some time for you both to heal from this chapter in your lives. I have no doubt that you will as your journey continues for at least another 54 more years. 😘💕

    • @SimplyRachelOBare
      @SimplyRachelOBare  Місяць тому

      Thank you so much!! Another 54 here we come 💛💛

  • @andreakelly8701
    @andreakelly8701 Місяць тому +1

    You need to focus on The embracing current AND future you! Stop focusing on sending all you... look forward! Enjoy that in a way... you both are so darn lucky to have a new beginning!! Move forward!! Enjoy the present!! You've got this!! How lucky to have a new beginning!! Bravo for you both!!

    • @SimplyRachelOBare
      @SimplyRachelOBare  Місяць тому

      Thank you it is a gift to be in this moment and I see that fully!

  • @loramull6377
    @loramull6377 Місяць тому +1

    I so appreciate your vulnerability in this video. Sending you and Kyle lots of love and healing in this new season ❤trust

    • @SimplyRachelOBare
      @SimplyRachelOBare  Місяць тому +1

      Thank you for watching and for your kindness! Let this new season begin 💛

  • @JBS1987
    @JBS1987 Місяць тому +3

    I know what you mean. My husband and I are finally empty nesters after 36 YEARS! I have cared for children and grandchildren for almost 4 decades. It is an adjustment.

    • @SimplyRachelOBare
      @SimplyRachelOBare  Місяць тому

      Wow that is a major adjustment sending you so so much ease and joy in this new season!

  • @snugglebear4eva
    @snugglebear4eva Місяць тому +1

    Rachel you will do great. Things will all work out. Everything changes all the time. Embrace it!!

    • @SimplyRachelOBare
      @SimplyRachelOBare  Місяць тому

      Thank you I know things will work out but we move through the ways and sometimes you can't see the shore and then finally it comes into sight!

  • @katenickels617
    @katenickels617 Місяць тому +2

    change is constant. I am inspired by your self-knowledge and bravery

  • @missiris1234
    @missiris1234 Місяць тому +2

    Give yourself time Rachel. Your husband will definitely still need and love you very much

    • @SimplyRachelOBare
      @SimplyRachelOBare  Місяць тому

      Yes he will and that is beautiful but what a gift to get more space as just Kyle's wife we haven't had that and I am thrilled for it!

  • @angeladenmark3164
    @angeladenmark3164 Місяць тому +1

    Remember that "New Beginning is a major change"!!! Being a "caregiver" you are grieving and now the "new" name you can enjoy is being a "wife"!!!! Rest in your daily "normal"!!!! It remind me of the Scripture- II Timothy 1:7-"For God has not given you the Spirit of Fear!!! But of "Power & Love & Sound Mind!!!! You have to walk daily to trust God "for the ride"!!!! God Bless!!!

    • @SimplyRachelOBare
      @SimplyRachelOBare  Місяць тому

      Ahh yes to finally step into being the just a wife something we haven't ever experienced!

  • @Riptide1976
    @Riptide1976 Місяць тому +2

    One day at a time!!! You will get there! You are in discovery mode. It’s like a new month or new year, it will be a new you and that is okay.
    ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @dianagrosz6652
    @dianagrosz6652 Місяць тому +1

    Remember how butterfly are born from a larva(sorry about My English,I am argentinian)You Made a pause for Kyle...now allow your process to be an individual human ❤ again...also allow Kyle to be himself..❤❤❤

  • @Sundaymagpie
    @Sundaymagpie Місяць тому +2

    You become the “care receiver” which can be an unexpectedly difficult transition. Try not to get wrapped up in needing to define it.

  • @frictionlessme
    @frictionlessme Місяць тому +1

    Stay in the moment.❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @marciawright2600
    @marciawright2600 Місяць тому +1

    Who are you? An amazing beautiful soul! Time for you now. Massage, EMDR, somatic yoga therapy, talk therapy etc...Check out your throat Chakra. Your voice is rough. What are you not saying? What are you not embracing? Peace. ☮🕊

  • @susiehoule
    @susiehoule Місяць тому +1

    There is work to be done! 🎉😂❤

  • @auggiedoggiesmommy1734
    @auggiedoggiesmommy1734 Місяць тому +1

    So … what happens to women and shedding, etc. who have a hysterectomy or post menopause?

    • @SimplyRachelOBare
      @SimplyRachelOBare  Місяць тому

      Well yes, I was speaking to the actual bleeding you experience during a cycle it absolutely doesn’t take away that women go through cycles and changes and some spiritually see menopause as a well of stepping into all the wisdom you have learned in your life. It’s a new chapter and just as beautiful

  • @jf5336
    @jf5336 Місяць тому +1

    But everything IS unknown, is it not? The stress is slowly leaving, you need to let it drain away.

    • @SimplyRachelOBare
      @SimplyRachelOBare  Місяць тому

      Yes everything is unknown and this unknown feels even more unknown!

  • @lauraleecreations3217
    @lauraleecreations3217 Місяць тому +1

    ❤❤❤❤

  • @IBELIEVEINME3
    @IBELIEVEINME3 Місяць тому +1

    ❤❤❤