As Nietzsche said: "He who fights with Parisians might take care lest he thereby become a Parisian. And if you gaze for long at the Eiffel Tower, the Eiffel Tower gazes also into you." 😄 Thank you for sharing your travelogues, they are wonderful. Now I know someone to got punched by a Russian guy in Riga. I did get my butt slapped once by a lady in Kuala Lumpur back in the 1990s, but that's not the same.
That's a very well-known Nietzsche quite there! Ha thank you, I loved sharing them. The butt-slap definitely counts as SOMETHING, though, I'll tell you that. Feel free to make a video about the incident one day!
I... don't know what to add, because to this day I still don't know the point. I was by myself in an open air food court and stood up -- maybe to get some ABC (air batu campur) dessert? *whack!* not that it hurt, but it was a hard hit. I turned around and a bruiser of a lady was glaring at me. I shrugged in a universal 'what? why?' gesture, and she just kept glaring. So... I didn't pass by her table again (she may have left after that, I don't recall). Anger at a foreigner? I did something rude without knowing? A religious transgression? Or someone just having a bad day? I'll never know...
@@dulles1969 I very much enjoyed this story, even though I don't think you deserved this treatment. Somehow I think it was a challenge, rather than anger on their part or anything you did - I suppose I've had something happen to me similar in an alley in Vietnam but that's another story yet again.
Wow that was a lot of stories to unpack! I'm impressed how many places you've been to and how many people you met and how much you took yourself out of your comfort zone 😊 tbh i wouldn't try socializing with strangers, i really wish to avoid getting punched 🙈 but yeah i do get this weird urge to prove someone wrong if someone says i should do something that goes against what i am. I too would would fly off to Montreal if someone told me to socialize with tons of people 😂
Thank you! Haha yes don't say niet to people in Latvian underpasses. You've had your own odd Riga experiences though, from memory. Ha yeah that urge never goes away I think for many INFPs, I'm proud of myself in retrospect ha.
If you ever find yourself in Canada again, know you’ve got an INFP friend in Toronto. Yes, I’ve had a number of great travel experiences as of late, many of which allowed me to lean in further to my introverted nature. Too much to get into here, but I’m uploading to my channel more and will definitely be telling some stories there soon.
Fellow Canadian!!! Hi!! What part of Toronto are you from? I’m currently about an hour from Toronto…just like everyone else in Ontario. But I lived in North York for a bit and Rexdale also for about 5 years.
Thanks for sharing your travel stories! That's incredible that you went to all those places. That girl is missing out on an adventurous guy who goes after what he wants! I recently traveled a bit by myself. It was freeing but also lonely at times. Socializing can seem daunting to me sometimes, but we are social creatures and there are huge benefits of it 😊
Thank you! Ah maybe, it was very much a case of me and her being very young but it was a great experience in retrospect. Travelling alone is so confronting and can be incredibly lonely (I'm much better travelling alone these days but perhaps partially because smartphones help connect me to others, in those days it was all about hunting for a short period in an internet cafe. Which was probably a good thing.) We are very much social creatures - even the most introverted types definitely require socialising to function. Hope you continue to travel though, I'm desperate at the moment to travel alone again!
I think about this very much because I have trouble making myself socialize. A lot of the time I end up going out to places with lots of people but not really interacting. I think a key part of that for us as infps is meaningful social interactions. On top of that, it's just difficult for us to find people we truly connect with. So seeking that out can feel kind of like a chore when it's like finding a needle in a hay stack
Yeah, that's the key thing, it's a massive chore if you can't find anyone you connect with and I guess that's why I've ended up very much limiting my social activities. I'm lucky that as I've gotten older, the few groups I socialise in have lots of nice and interesting people to connect with, but even then sometimes I have to force it lol.
I feel there are benefits of forcing yourself to socialize. The problem is younare forcing yourself, so it is like you fight yourself. I travelled by myself and there were benefits to it, but I had a really awkward feeling. I was just observing what i saw. I didn't felt like I belong or blended in that environment. It was a resistence there. I can relate to many situations you describe and find them curious. Good luck to you!
Thank you! Yes there is a lot of fighting yourself, that's kind of how it is. Glad you can relate - I think the awkwardness is always there, although it can also be surreal in its own nice way, like living in a dreamworld, not feeling connected to the world around you and the people.
Hello, I found myself laughing along with your stories, and cringing hard at myself for a lot of your stories hitting a little too close to home. I was curious about the acronyms you kept using, so I looked them up and ended up taking a personality test myself. INFP-A, go figure
My younger ISFP brother wrote a play when he was 5 where someone said "I would like some pumpernickel please". I a not sure how he even knew about it. Pumpernickel bread is good, but too serious a bread when you want cake. It sounds from your stories that you being friendly encouraged other people to have a good time as well.
That's funny. Very ISFP of him. I also wrote fictional stories about a character with pumpernickel as a surname. Hm I think you're right, again making me glad I socialised - it was like some sort of unconscious Fe, where I was having a good impact, while consciously always fearing I would have a negative impact.
Wow you travelled the world ! I have Always wanted to do this but something is holding me back. Probably NI critic.leaving my comfort zone is very hard.
I wish I could travel more! And socialise in hostels like I did in my twenties more. But it's a balance - it can also be awful forcing yourself, and sometimes counter-productive too. I think it's worth doing in situations where there are very good, open and safe people around, but usually that's where you're able to leave your comfort zone without having to force it. I think it is Ni-critic, actually...or connected to that.
Hmm that girl seems a bit toxic. A few odd things there. She wouldn’t be interested unless you were with a bunch of other women? What the hell?! If a guy said that to me I would be utterly devastated…that he is such a creep. You deserve better. It’s too bad you didn’t get to enjoy Montreal as much as you wanted. I also remember that you said you didn’t have any of the food there and that’s so sad. Subway sandwiches, ugh. I would say you should go back there, but Canada is full of such amazing places. We have everything, we have mountains in the west and the maritimes in the east and the snowy north or the…south. Skip the south haha. I love all your little tricks to socialise. I do that as well. I have to plan my energy as well so I don’t do well if things are sprung on me. I also value a good night’s sleep so that keeps my evenings and nights occupied haha. Although, I think I can manage a bit better with Se;I just need to have the social energy.
I did feel pretty upset at the time - although in retrospect 15 years later I'm more grateful to have known her, it was a great time in my life. And I suppose she was an INFJ who kind of showed me that I need to enjoy travelling instead of moping around all the time, starving myself haha. I remember being mocked in a Montreal subway sandwich place for not pronouncing 'ham' in a French accent. Ha. But I mean, even my first Japan trip I remember a Kyoto subway stop, all to avoid interaction. Sigh. But yes it's ridiculous that all I saw of Canada was Montreal! I'd love to properly travel Canada. Hm yes, those early tricks I learned were very needed...maybe blindspot Se sometimes is even better than inferior Se, since I could just switch off Se and throw myself into situations and convince myself I wasn't there and it wasn't happening. I don' t know...
@@vondelpete What?? Ham is English🤦. Maybe you had to say "am"...no "h" lol. Like the French do. Or "jambon"? If it makes you feel any better, the Quebecois don't really like any English speakers. Either way, that person sounds like they're from Quebec City so don't pay them any attention haha. Oh yes, blind spot Se I agree is better for introverts that just want to hide, I wish I could do that as well. Nice Radiohead reference as well 👍
@@MichelleMy_Unwell I'd heard a lot about the Quebecois and their attitude haha and I'm kind of glad I got that limited experience. I assume they thought I was from the US. And wow, Radiohead references just pour out of me these days...
Brother, you're not pathetic at all. You're cool dude. And it's a cool story too.
Ah thank you 🙂For some reason my unconscious loves repeating the word 'pathetic' to me lol.
As Nietzsche said: "He who fights with Parisians might take care lest he thereby become a Parisian. And if you gaze for long at the Eiffel Tower, the Eiffel Tower gazes also into you." 😄 Thank you for sharing your travelogues, they are wonderful. Now I know someone to got punched by a Russian guy in Riga. I did get my butt slapped once by a lady in Kuala Lumpur back in the 1990s, but that's not the same.
That's a very well-known Nietzsche quite there! Ha thank you, I loved sharing them. The butt-slap definitely counts as SOMETHING, though, I'll tell you that. Feel free to make a video about the incident one day!
What the hell of a story Dulles, we must hear! 😂
I... don't know what to add, because to this day I still don't know the point. I was by myself in an open air food court and stood up -- maybe to get some ABC (air batu campur) dessert? *whack!* not that it hurt, but it was a hard hit. I turned around and a bruiser of a lady was glaring at me. I shrugged in a universal 'what? why?' gesture, and she just kept glaring. So... I didn't pass by her table again (she may have left after that, I don't recall). Anger at a foreigner? I did something rude without knowing? A religious transgression? Or someone just having a bad day? I'll never know...
@@dulles1969 I very much enjoyed this story, even though I don't think you deserved this treatment. Somehow I think it was a challenge, rather than anger on their part or anything you did - I suppose I've had something happen to me similar in an alley in Vietnam but that's another story yet again.
Wow that was a lot of stories to unpack! I'm impressed how many places you've been to and how many people you met and how much you took yourself out of your comfort zone 😊 tbh i wouldn't try socializing with strangers, i really wish to avoid getting punched 🙈 but yeah i do get this weird urge to prove someone wrong if someone says i should do something that goes against what i am. I too would would fly off to Montreal if someone told me to socialize with tons of people 😂
Thank you! Haha yes don't say niet to people in Latvian underpasses. You've had your own odd Riga experiences though, from memory. Ha yeah that urge never goes away I think for many INFPs, I'm proud of myself in retrospect ha.
If you ever find yourself in Canada again, know you’ve got an INFP friend in Toronto. Yes, I’ve had a number of great travel experiences as of late, many of which allowed me to lean in further to my introverted nature. Too much to get into here, but I’m uploading to my channel more and will definitely be telling some stories there soon.
I will remember this and thank you! And yes looking forward to those stories. Subbed.
Fellow Canadian!!! Hi!! What part of Toronto are you from? I’m currently about an hour from Toronto…just like everyone else in Ontario. But I lived in North York for a bit and Rexdale also for about 5 years.
@@MichelleMy_Unwell I’m in the west end. Are you an INFP too?
@@bizaaron Oh cool! Nice to meet you. I wish, no, I'm an INFJ 🙂
Thanks for sharing your travel stories! That's incredible that you went to all those places. That girl is missing out on an adventurous guy who goes after what he wants!
I recently traveled a bit by myself. It was freeing but also lonely at times. Socializing can seem daunting to me sometimes, but we are social creatures and there are huge benefits of it 😊
Thank you! Ah maybe, it was very much a case of me and her being very young but it was a great experience in retrospect. Travelling alone is so confronting and can be incredibly lonely (I'm much better travelling alone these days but perhaps partially because smartphones help connect me to others, in those days it was all about hunting for a short period in an internet cafe. Which was probably a good thing.) We are very much social creatures - even the most introverted types definitely require socialising to function. Hope you continue to travel though, I'm desperate at the moment to travel alone again!
I think about this very much because I have trouble making myself socialize. A lot of the time I end up going out to places with lots of people but not really interacting. I think a key part of that for us as infps is meaningful social interactions. On top of that, it's just difficult for us to find people we truly connect with. So seeking that out can feel kind of like a chore when it's like finding a needle in a hay stack
Yeah, that's the key thing, it's a massive chore if you can't find anyone you connect with and I guess that's why I've ended up very much limiting my social activities. I'm lucky that as I've gotten older, the few groups I socialise in have lots of nice and interesting people to connect with, but even then sometimes I have to force it lol.
I feel there are benefits of forcing yourself to socialize. The problem is younare forcing yourself, so it is like you fight yourself. I travelled by myself and there were benefits to it, but I had a really awkward feeling. I was just observing what i saw. I didn't felt like I belong or blended in that environment. It was a resistence there. I can relate to many situations you describe and find them curious. Good luck to you!
Thank you! Yes there is a lot of fighting yourself, that's kind of how it is. Glad you can relate - I think the awkwardness is always there, although it can also be surreal in its own nice way, like living in a dreamworld, not feeling connected to the world around you and the people.
Hello, I found myself laughing along with your stories, and cringing hard at myself for a lot of your stories hitting a little too close to home. I was curious about the acronyms you kept using, so I looked them up and ended up taking a personality test myself. INFP-A, go figure
I love this, haha. Of course INFP.
My younger ISFP brother wrote a play when he was 5 where someone said "I would like some pumpernickel please". I a not sure how he even knew about it. Pumpernickel bread is good, but too serious a bread when you want cake. It sounds from your stories that you being friendly encouraged other people to have a good time as well.
That's funny. Very ISFP of him. I also wrote fictional stories about a character with pumpernickel as a surname. Hm I think you're right, again making me glad I socialised - it was like some sort of unconscious Fe, where I was having a good impact, while consciously always fearing I would have a negative impact.
Wow you travelled the world ! I have Always wanted to do this but something is holding me back. Probably NI critic.leaving my comfort zone is very hard.
I wish I could travel more! And socialise in hostels like I did in my twenties more. But it's a balance - it can also be awful forcing yourself, and sometimes counter-productive too. I think it's worth doing in situations where there are very good, open and safe people around, but usually that's where you're able to leave your comfort zone without having to force it. I think it is Ni-critic, actually...or connected to that.
You should also force yourself to eat your meals when you're travelling!!
Ha believe me, I do! It took me until I was 28 to be capable of this, though...
@@sicparvismagna1294 Checked! Thank you!
Hmm that girl seems a bit toxic. A few odd things there. She wouldn’t be interested unless you were with a bunch of other women? What the hell?! If a guy said that to me I would be utterly devastated…that he is such a creep. You deserve better. It’s too bad you didn’t get to enjoy Montreal as much as you wanted. I also remember that you said you didn’t have any of the food there and that’s so sad. Subway sandwiches, ugh. I would say you should go back there, but Canada is full of such amazing places. We have everything, we have mountains in the west and the maritimes in the east and the snowy north or the…south. Skip the south haha.
I love all your little tricks to socialise. I do that as well. I have to plan my energy as well so I don’t do well if things are sprung on me. I also value a good night’s sleep so that keeps my evenings and nights occupied haha. Although, I think I can manage a bit better with Se;I just need to have the social energy.
I did feel pretty upset at the time - although in retrospect 15 years later I'm more grateful to have known her, it was a great time in my life. And I suppose she was an INFJ who kind of showed me that I need to enjoy travelling instead of moping around all the time, starving myself haha. I remember being mocked in a Montreal subway sandwich place for not pronouncing 'ham' in a French accent. Ha. But I mean, even my first Japan trip I remember a Kyoto subway stop, all to avoid interaction. Sigh. But yes it's ridiculous that all I saw of Canada was Montreal! I'd love to properly travel Canada. Hm yes, those early tricks I learned were very needed...maybe blindspot Se sometimes is even better than inferior Se, since I could just switch off Se and throw myself into situations and convince myself I wasn't there and it wasn't happening. I don' t know...
@@vondelpete What?? Ham is English🤦. Maybe you had to say "am"...no "h" lol. Like the French do. Or "jambon"? If it makes you feel any better, the Quebecois don't really like any English speakers. Either way, that person sounds like they're from Quebec City so don't pay them any attention haha.
Oh yes, blind spot Se I agree is better for introverts that just want to hide, I wish I could do that as well. Nice Radiohead reference as well 👍
@@MichelleMy_Unwell I'd heard a lot about the Quebecois and their attitude haha and I'm kind of glad I got that limited experience. I assume they thought I was from the US. And wow, Radiohead references just pour out of me these days...
Why do you have an accent? I thought u were American
Nope, I'm Australian.
video importee dans ma tete.
Hm.