INFPs & Self Care
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- Опубліковано 10 лют 2025
- In this video I talk about my experiences with self-care as an INFP. I feel like we have an interesting relationship with self-care and dealing with our physical selves - and forgetting that the physical world impacts the inner world. What are your thoughts? Let me know in the comments.
I totally agree with that. Self care and especially fooood. Dopamine is very linked to motivation and pursuing life, and food is one of the ignitions for dopamine. It is like you said sometimes a bad mood can be suddenly switched with some food or drinks.
And other activities like moving the muscles, breathing or meditation, they are all things that help with grounding. So we gain more internal trust and happiness rather than focusing on that from the world.
Amazing stories and topic, Pete! Thank you for the video.
Yes, true! I think I really need to also remember about these things that come from within, that can provide its own happiness instead of looking externally :)
I really love the idea of going to a fancy restaurant on your travels. I never seem to darken the door of any fancy restaurants normally haha so that sounds like a great way to make a trip feel extra special. That’s fun!
The thought of you getting cranky and giving everyone the silent treatment because you just need a little snack is really funny. I’m sure all that caffeine and spiking your blood sugar into oblivion wasn’t the best option haha but I can see now it would lift your mood for a few hours. But then again, cheap pita bread offers you neither. All that drinking. Honestly, how are you still alive?
It’s so weird that you have tinnitus, my brother has that too. INFP problems…and probably from playing music too loud as well haha. Probably trying to learn “crazy train” on the guitar. But now we can’t run any fans at our house…but he can play crazy train so it’s all good haha. He really suffers with it though, I feel bad.
I don’t think I do much self care. I think I do get caught up in things and forget to eat. I take my vitamins everyday and eat really healthy and workout 6 days a week. It’s very strict because I have pretty terrible health anxiety. I’m probably 50/50.
It is funny haha, how I was either not eating at all and grumpy, or having a sugar rush to survive. I guess at some point between 25-27 I realised that you can find a middle ground and eat balanced, regular meals...never seemed to occur to me at the time 😂 Oh god your INFP brother has tinnitus too! Wait, why can't you run fans in the house, because of the noise? Maybe he has it worse than me.
Gee. That does sound INFJ of you by the way. My dad is so strict and I think it's all for the best. As I've probably told you about before. INFJs and INFPs and our anxiety about our physical being, eh? I think eventually we just do what we need to to operate.
@@vondelpete He said that fans sound like buzzing flies in his ears. His hearing is insane, he can hear people whispering in another room. I’m pretty sure he can hear my thoughts. He’s tried everything to make it go away and this year he was able to handle having an air conditioner on. Maybe it’s getting better, I hope it is anyways.
I’m glad you figured yourself out early on and are now living a much healthier life. I love how you and Kevin both decided that you just don’t speak to each other until you’ve had something to eat lol. That makes good sense.
Oh my gosh your dad haha such a mysterious INFJ, there seem to be so many differences between him and I, which makes our similarities so interesting to me. Yeah, you nailed it, it’s the only way for us to operate really.
@@MichelleMy_Unwell I hope it gets better for him. See, for me I am always looking for white noise to distract me from my own inner white noise, ha. But it's all different for each person. And yes my dad is definitely a very different variety of INFJ to you, ha.
Hi yes my self care is pretty bad, i had to make a point about eating when i went to Scotland because of the expensive exchange rate 😅 but yeah sweden is expensive so i guess i rarely eat out and have very limited experience of stockholm restaurants 😅 i need to start taking better care of my body 🙂
@@radishraven9 ha yeah I guess so, but I think your cooking videos count as great self care inspiration from my POV :)
@@vondelpete hiding here to say I loved this video and can relate so much. I married someone who actually can cook but still end up on these weird mono-diets (like eating only potatoes) for a month...and then wonder why I have no energy. It's like digesting food takes too much energy when I'm busy digesting memories, criticism and movies. Also I love Bright Eyes and got bullied in high school for listening to them all the time, and also developed tinnitus in my early twenties that never quite went away...coincidence? I think not. Thanks again for another excellent video.
@@bufoperiglenes8634 That is not a co-incidence, I'm kind of sad that you're a fellow tinnitus sufferer too even if it's a bond we can have. Anyway thank you as always and this is a clever place to hide! 🤟
I think self awareness is a struggle. At least at the beginning. To me, when I am at work for exemple, it is a challenge to solve different tasks, but after a while, I find solutions when I am by myself. That is when I become more aware.
I like the fact you decided to travel the world and meet new people and places. I think it can help a lot in our personal development.
I think pushing the limits is a way I learn too. I like to try it out and draw conclusions from that. It is like asking yourself, what happens if I do this. Don't know if this is what you meant. Anyway, nice to hear you.
Yeah I mean, in a way it's a different thing to self-care where my old issue was forgetting to treat my physical self to food. But yeah the travelling at first very uncomfortable and that was also a good thing and I'm very glad I did all that too. It's just so good to get out of our limited scope and I think very rewarding and great for confidence and growth, like you say. And also like you say, asking yourself 'what happens if I do this' and actually writing it, or saying it allowed, is so useful for me. Even on those trips in Europe I mentioned, I had this notebook and I'd write all my thoughts in it as I took trains, or sit in parks each day and write and write, and I made much better decisions that way, even if it was just to remind myself to get more uncomfortable, ha.
Hahaha, Peter and Kevin do Bulgaria 😂 Did you break a dam, too? I'm impressed you took the time to make illustrated portraits of you too, that's super nice, you look so happy! I hope you found something healthy to eat in the restaurants, it can be a challenge sometimes. At least it's a little less ridiculously expensive than the West.
Regarding self care, everything you said was and is valid for me, too. I used to eat mainly junk food while I studied in the university in my twenties. Now I have all these food intolerances and I still struggle to eat like a normal human being (whatever that means). I was talking about this yesterday, that I wish I didn't have to eat all the time, because there are so many more interesting things to do, but no one around me seems to get it 😅
And when I make art, I also lose myself a bit, I sometimes have an epiphany at night and start writing/drawing, I almost definitely forget to eat, but at least I get up with enthusiasm in the mornings, which is a challenge otherwise...
Ha oh, that illustrated portrait was kind of funny, and embarrassing, we were trying to make UA-cam videos in Bulgaria, but yeah it certainly was a happy time. And I guess that's the key, I could actually afford to go out all the time!
It must be a weird thing when you realise you have these food intolerances and how that limits you (I think often though you can end up eating healthier though, depending on the intolerances?) And yeah getting caught up in creativity - that's when you know you're really on a roll and excited and passionate, the first thing that goes is a sense of time and needing to eat and so on 😂 I do miss getting into that sort of mania.
Yeah, I strive to eat healthy really, the problem is with always thinking about food, figuring out what to make, cooking, it's exhausting to me because it's on a daily basis, and I sometimes prefer not to eat than deal with all of it 😅
Taking breaks from manically making art is crucial, I think. But isn't making videos as creatively challenging as anything else? That's what I thought, at least. I'm still trying to figure it out...
@@mary44448 actually that amount of preparing about food does sound exhausting! How sad that it gets to that point where it's easier to just not eat!
You sparked off this interesting thought in my head, whether these videos count creatively. I mean they do. But in order to keep churning them out I've really dialled back the effort - so I don't really get the exhaustion making videos that I used to get. Whereas when I'm returning to cartooning (whenever my eye strain gets better) it really drains me, I kind of shudder to think about it. Ha. But then the mania is kind of cool and there is a feeling of satisfaction if I can ever get to completing anything! But hm yeah, videos like these are minimal effort, or at least are more fun...making music is also a lot more fun. But I think to make something really *good* means I'll have to push myself into a pain barrier more? Maybe you'll relate. Of course, I've done these videos for over a decade now so that might be why it's easier. It was certainly much harder once upon a time...
I tend to expect hearing "Get yourself together, every woman has to think about preparing food, you're not special" or "Are you sure you can't eat this and this?", so it's super nice to get some understanding instead!
This sounds very cool - that you have an established routine that helps you be creative in the long run while having fun and without so much struggle. I think art doesn't have to be hard to be special. Of course, experience makes it less hard, but maybe, just maybe, if it isn't painful we start thinking we're missing something? That we need to be growing and it has to hurt? Anyway, I think you are very good at singing, playing and filming, so I hope you keep finding joy in doing them ☺So drawing kind of intimidates you at the moment, but you want to do it anyway? Maybe that's what my relationship with filming/editing looks like...
I hope your eyes get better soon!
@@mary44448 Sigh, yeah I mean, who needs those judgements? And yeah you know, there is actually some truth creatively in having it to be at least a bit painful, or something is wrong. Especially if it's making art in order to really make something very impactful...and I think the mistake I made, and many INFPs probably do, is remember that making less-pressured work is still good exercise. I think these days I think of it all as exercise, to keep the engines going until the time comes that I really want to try and make something great. I don't know. Thank you so much about the music and filming, I guess again, I wonder if I'll make something a bit more special, hm. Drawing, well. I was putting so much effort into something for the first half of this year, but I strained my eyes and have to force myself to step away, which is so sad! But good in other ways maybe. Maybe you've experienced that when doing art? Although I never had this issue until I turned 39, haha. Thank you so much!