Why I Got A Divorce

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  • Опубліковано 28 січ 2025

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  • @JakeBroe
    @JakeBroe 2 роки тому +6

    I'm sorry to hear that. It's good to hear that you guys have kept it civil. I hope you find happiness!

  • @shellyb8943
    @shellyb8943 2 роки тому +3

    I'm so glad to see you posted Alice. I've been missing your posts so hopefully you will continue to post to your channel. I'm so sorry you and your husband couldn't make it work. I know all too well being divorced myself. I hope the New Years brings you lots of happiness and good fortune. Have a very Merry Christmas!

  • @EnigmaDave
    @EnigmaDave 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you for sharing this update with us. It does help knowing you both recognized the relationship would not flourish, but after almost 8 years together, you are still mindful of his feelings, and respectful of his privacy. I'm sure making this video wasn't easy, but you're handling a difficult aspect of a public life well. I admire that.

  • @vinaykumars9555
    @vinaykumars9555 2 роки тому +1

    Sorry to hear. Hope you have a smooth transition in this difficult period. Time will take care of things. Good luck on everything. Take care

  • @dragonsong1023
    @dragonsong1023 2 роки тому +4

    Thanks for being honest , that's what counts the most. Also I wish you both the best in your futures. Lastly . Merry Christmas Chika Alice & I hope that you feel better soon.

    • @funkthat
      @funkthat 2 роки тому +1

      Yeaaa shes not being honest. Let me translate the womenese for you. Girl just say what you really feel, its that the partner you were with was good for the time time being but that you can do alot better. You make more money than him and are out of his league and you have better oppurtunity with countless guys confessing there love for you in your DM's.
      Its ok and you should not be shamed for wanting what you deserve. Women are designed to attract and desire secure the best man they can get. Hypergamy is not a bad thing.

  • @chuckwilson8006
    @chuckwilson8006 2 роки тому +1

    Oh no! Wow Chika -- you have had a rough year!! I'm so sorry to hear this. Divorce is very hard -- even when it's mutual. But it sounds like you and Cloud are handling things well. Hang in there -- both of you!! There are better days ahead!! Take care of yourselves .... God Bless!

  • @mattnarayan6147
    @mattnarayan6147 2 роки тому

    Wow. Thank you for the update. Sorry things couldn't work out for the best, even though you both worked at it.
    Good on you both for keeping the details private. Hoping you both find the happiness and compatibility you're looking for.

  • @finchharper4647
    @finchharper4647 2 роки тому +19

    You didn't have to share anything about your divorce, but thank you for sharing and explaining. I am sad for both of you, 8 years is a great deal of investment in time, physically and emotionally. I am glad that you two can be civil, but it is ok to be sad. A divorce is a form of death, so it is ok to be sad and grieve even if both parties are happy to be getting a divorce. So please allow yourself time to allow your emotions to be expressed externally and internally, publicly and privately, so you may remain healthy emotionally. Don't be afraid to use services that are provided for people who are going through or have gone through a divorce. I wish you strength, emotionally, which will give you strength physically.

  • @Mauvaiseplaisante
    @Mauvaiseplaisante 2 роки тому +3

    Your red vs blue metaphor was so spot on. I'm glad that you seem genuinely happy! Being single again can be incredibly fun ;)

  • @jaredoz957
    @jaredoz957 2 роки тому +1

    We always feel sympathy when people we care about hit rough times. I'm glad you two have found a way to make your path forward smooth if divergent.
    I was honestly a little worried when your regular posts stopped. I smirk at myself saying this as I am not a worrisome person. Your regular posts were something I had looked forward to at the end of a looooong night. (I'm a full time ride share driver) I always appreciated your sense of humor and your frankness with your own uniqueness. I found both you and Cloud very relatable.
    I am glad that that vicarious enjoyment may resume.
    I am more pleased that you may have found a path forward to get you out of troubled times.

  • @Iwataro1987
    @Iwataro1987 2 роки тому +10

    I’m sorry that your relationship didn’t work out but I’m glad there isn’t any bad blood between you two. I’m sure you’ll find happiness again soon.

    • @chikanoha
      @chikanoha  2 роки тому +1

      Thanks so much!

    • @funkthat
      @funkthat 2 роки тому +2

      @@chikanoha Lets be real he may be a nice guy but we all know he was hitting outside his league. Chika is a very attractive woman and she makes alot of money. She needs to upgrade sorry but its the truth. Its not rude or mean but its keeping it real. She can easily get a handsome rich guy that she would never have to work again. Please Chika theres a good chance alot of guys you associate with are interested. Don't settle because if you settle you will find out later that you were not happy in that relationship and you are wasting each others time.

    • @technicalmachine1671
      @technicalmachine1671 2 роки тому +1

      @@funkthat Bruh, rude.

    • @sara.cbc92
      @sara.cbc92 Рік тому

      @@funkthat I sorta agree. Mind you I haven't seen all of Chika's vids. But the ones I've seen with her ex are not impressive. He doesn't come across as mature and women past a certain age don't dig that. We want security and men who can lead, guide us. Think of James Bond vs some skater boy.

  • @ericroyal8122
    @ericroyal8122 2 роки тому +1

    Glad to see you grow NOW at 6k nice been following you since 1k all in all you do you girl and stay happy. Things will fall into place. TRUST THE PROCESS 🎉🎉 Happy Holidays to ya and get ready cause 2023 is going to be amazing 🙌🙌

  • @josefanstey3309
    @josefanstey3309 2 роки тому +3

    You will always have my love and support Chika Alice❤️😍👍👍. Stay true, stay human, stay you👍👍👌👌

  • @robertsanchez9030
    @robertsanchez9030 2 роки тому +1

    If you can remain friends is the best outcome in a break up, sorry 😞all break ups are hard.

  • @PREPFORIT
    @PREPFORIT 2 роки тому +1

    Wow Hi, I believe I had just subscribed about a week before all THAT happened. Good to see you back.
    NO rush in uploading content until you are comfortable in your own Solo routine.
    Happy Holidays !

    • @chikanoha
      @chikanoha  2 роки тому +1

      I appreciate your kind words!

  • @jullarmar
    @jullarmar 2 роки тому +1

    You are very brave and sincere. Posting this video must not have been an easy decision. I wish you both the best and it is healthy that you both ended on good terms. Although I didn’t go through the same thing you are experiencing, I did break off an engagement. It was a difficult experience and I emphasize what you are dealing with now. Thank you for sharing your life with us. I hope you keep up your channel.

  • @lisahmitchell
    @lisahmitchell 2 роки тому +1

    Hey Chika! Thanks for keeping us up-to-date and respecting his privacy as well. Best wishes to you two and I hope you get your situation organized and I hope you feel better soon.
    Happy Holidays ☃️ and may 2023 be the best year of your life!

  • @lucysbeautyroom
    @lucysbeautyroom 2 роки тому +1

    Hi chika👋, I hope you get better soon and I really hope that everything in your life gets better as well. God Bless you and remember that when a door closes is because our Lord is going to open up a New and Beautiful Place in your life so stay strong and keep your head up because you are such a beautiful person. God Bless you ❤️ 🐾

  • @3richie212
    @3richie212 2 роки тому +1

    stay warm! Glad to hear you are feeling more content and I hope that cold goes away fast! Cant wait for the next video but if you need time thats ok too!

  • @fisgrisen1585
    @fisgrisen1585 2 роки тому +1

    Looking forward to continue following your path in life if u continue to share it with us. Stay strong and move forward🤙

  • @senseiruthe
    @senseiruthe 2 роки тому +1

    Sorry it didn’t work out but glad you two are able to keep it amicable. Hope 2023 is a better year for you

  • @AtagoJRPG
    @AtagoJRPG 2 роки тому +1

    I can understand the situation that you have gone through cause I was in the same position last year when I was with someone. mad love and respect for you Chika and we will be here to support you. I hope you are doing well in all aspects of your well being and I hope that you will find your happiness and he will find his happiness as well.

  • @the-G-Man2022
    @the-G-Man2022 2 роки тому +1

    Very sorry to hear that the relationship didn’t work out. Take time for yourself. Wishing you peace and happiness.

  • @kuro_kishi
    @kuro_kishi 2 роки тому +1

    I am very sorry to hear that, Chika. Things must have been pretty tough with you and your ex-husband. I hope you are doing okay. I guess we all are going through tough times, especially since majority of us have to learn to adapt to this post-Covid era. But let's not give in. You made an honorable decision. Keep your chin up, Chika, you can do it. Cheers!

  • @dodger1214
    @dodger1214 2 роки тому +1

    Sorry to hear this. Glad you're still on good terms. Hope you are able to find happiness with another person.

  • @gsr4535
    @gsr4535 Рік тому +1

    I like this young woman.............first saw her with "Miley" on her channel in Japan. 😉👍

  • @Stick-a-fork-in-Gmorks-tort
    @Stick-a-fork-in-Gmorks-tort 2 роки тому +1

    I wish the best in life for you and Cloud. Really gonna miss seeing ya together. On a more positive note It's good hearing from you again after so long. Until next time, take care.

  • @Donaschlag
    @Donaschlag Рік тому

    Hi Chika. This is the first time I’ve watched your video. I hope things get better for you. Hopefully you’ll be able to start over and begin a new chapter of your life.

  • @TheEmiMiura
    @TheEmiMiura Рік тому

    Sorry to hear it didn’t work out. But happy to see you handle it well and strong of you bothl. Wish you both the best.
    Brighter future ahead. Ganbatte ne

  • @masamune100
    @masamune100 2 роки тому +4

    I wish the best for both of you guys. Both of you deserve happiness.

    • @chikanoha
      @chikanoha  2 роки тому

      Means a lot, thank you!

  • @jacobsoto7228
    @jacobsoto7228 2 роки тому +1

    Do you think he will go back to the US? I was thinking it may be harder for him to adjust since he's not Japanese.
    There's a book called Single on Purpose by John Kim and there's a group online with them that helped me realize what's the meaning of being Single. It might help you.

    • @chikanoha
      @chikanoha  2 роки тому

      Our divorce didn’t have to do with environmental factors fortunately. He said he will stay in Japan at least for a little longer!
      And thank you for the recommendations!

  • @niojube
    @niojube Рік тому

    Just saw some videos from you on things you wish you knew about japan before moving and red flags for companies. Pretty crazy that the next video I see is that you got a divorce... and from an eight-year relationship. I'm currently in the process of getting a divorce as well, which is hard to type... but is life. I also plan on moving to Japan as well, which is pretty scary to think about, especially being older, but glad to see others in my shoes (though, I guess you already lived in Japan). Wish the best for you.

  • @simonfung2648
    @simonfung2648 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you for sharing the news. I do miss your videos about Japan and I hope you make more. As other have said maybe making videos again will be a distraction and lead you on to more happier life.

  • @nicolasmarin1812
    @nicolasmarin1812 2 роки тому +1

    Sorry to hear that, wish the best for both of you!!

  • @stancassada304
    @stancassada304 2 роки тому

    I am truly sorry it didn't work out. I am happy there is not animosity between the two of you. I can't imagine losing someone as beautiful as you are. Time will ease a lot of things. Keep your beautiful smile and bright outlook.

  • @mnmaddict37532
    @mnmaddict37532 2 роки тому

    Good luck to both of you. I walked in your shoes many years ago. Time will heal a lot of pain and I can guarantee that you will laugh again.

  • @johnmitchell7834
    @johnmitchell7834 Рік тому

    Took a lot of courage and honesty, about your heart, to make that video, You are a beautiful person inside and out and I wish you the best of luck

  • @i10_iO
    @i10_iO Рік тому

    Hello, I have a question: How many working hours in Japan during the week? What is the average salary of a nurse there? I want to work in Japan, but I don't want to spend my life working without days off and rest.❤❤

  • @demetriosantosjr9267
    @demetriosantosjr9267 2 роки тому

    Sorry to hear your relationship didn't work out the way it suppose to. Don't give up on Love ❤️ ~ Chika! Love will happen again one day and you will feel love than ever before with the right soulmate. Recover fast & well and wish you a Merry Christmas and happy holidays! 😊

  • @darkdk
    @darkdk 2 роки тому +1

    sorry to hear about this! Hope both of you the best!

  • @ChroniclesofLuke
    @ChroniclesofLuke 2 роки тому

    I don't usually comment on UA-cam, but been following you a last couple years as I waited until I could return to Japan myself. I am so sorry to hear about what happen between you guys. I definitely didn't see this coming. My prayers are with you guys. Hope you can find some peace and happiness in the future. 気をつけてね!

  • @johnmoore8599
    @johnmoore8599 2 роки тому

    I'm sorry it didn't work out. Please don't feel bad. Your subconscious could not mesh with his and you both could not completely bond. Your conscious minds are trying to make sense of it all and come up with excuses. You still love one another, but only as friends. You both will be okay. You just have to find partners that you can get along with at all levels. Trust your intuition when you meet someone new. Happy New Year and new beginnings!

  • @bluasterisk
    @bluasterisk 2 роки тому +1

    This is quite a personal video, but I'm glad to hear you two ended on good terms. People have things that are important to them and staying in a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship (whether that's after marriage) isn't right for either party.

  • @wawawho18_adventures
    @wawawho18_adventures 2 роки тому +1

    well i glad you are ok and everything happens for a reason =)
    hope to see more videos soon!

  • @xporkrind
    @xporkrind Рік тому

    Relationships are hard for everyone. There are just a million things that you can disagree about and it's hard to find room for compromise. And one big problem is that when you first meet someone you might be attracted to their physical beauty or their personality, but that's just one aspect of having a successful long term relationship.

  • @ronkiyomura986
    @ronkiyomura986 2 роки тому +1

    My best wishes for you two in the new year.

  • @technicalmachine1671
    @technicalmachine1671 2 роки тому

    Huh, didn't expect to see this. It's tough when your values don't align. Good to hear you're still getting along at least. That's pretty mature.

  • @nbrown5907
    @nbrown5907 2 роки тому +1

    It is the end of one journey that spawns two new journeys. Not as sad thinking of it like that. ;-)

  • @seeseeteevee
    @seeseeteevee Рік тому

    I saw you on Miley’s UA-cam channel and both of you worked so well together! Sorry to hear about your break up. It is so hard to change one’s life for another. Take care!

  • @shaunadkins2
    @shaunadkins2 Рік тому

    Hey i’m a subscriber and just saw this video and I want to offer my condolences for you and your ex-husband. I went through a 13 year relationship that was incredibly toxic for both of us and I understand your analogy with the red/blue thing. That’s exactly the situation we had. We seemed like best friends to outsiders but our core values never meshed into a compromising purple. After all those years we were still left with red and blue.
    I feel for you and your partner and wish you both the best for the future-here’s to healing up.
    Sincerely,
    Satoshi Nakamoto

  • @Aaron11411
    @Aaron11411 Рік тому

    You BOTH seem like great people. Good luck going forward.

  • @fabiogdeus
    @fabiogdeus Рік тому

    Life is made of changes, always full of chances and opportunities... And whatever we face, whatever we deal, are like steps that no one can avoid... So my best advice is: Keep moving, keep looking what makes sense for you. Explore your options, and never fear to take the road if deep inside you feel that it's something necessary... Remember that life is ephemeral, and every little second is precious! So keep it in mind, and get ready for very new and different days that are still to come!

  • @momokpopfancams
    @momokpopfancams 2 роки тому

    I haven't caught up with you in a long time (not since like the end of 2017). I didn't even know you had gotten married but even more surprised that you have gotten a divorce. I hope you are able to move on with your life in a direction that makes you happy!

  • @mizuki_1516
    @mizuki_1516 2 роки тому +1

    I hope you both find happiness! That’s the most important

  • @stevetrevor2633
    @stevetrevor2633 2 роки тому

    Your like a real life anime character who Vlogs,.. i could imagine you Inviting little Kotaro Sato for Dinner🥲
    Stay safe and well i hope life treats you well too✌

  • @pihl98
    @pihl98 2 роки тому +1

    I'm sorry. I'm glad everything is OK.

  • @HankandYu
    @HankandYu 8 місяців тому

    Think about this for a second, suddenly your arguing stopped after divorce right? Even if you still live together. You need more than a husband, you need a true friend. I think it's beyond important to meet someone right. I don't know much about your journey but I like your honesty, and I see a lot of struggle in your eyes. Good luck and all the best. This video was posted a year ago so I hope everything worked out well.

  • @kirillnadtochiy5039
    @kirillnadtochiy5039 2 роки тому

    Hey Chika, I hope you're doing alright out there. It would be great to see more life in Japan videos, maybe scenes out there, philosophy on life in Japan etc. I subscribe to a lot of this kind of contents and I find your channel interesting and informative. Especially when you described the workplace interactions you had.

  • @johnmitchell7834
    @johnmitchell7834 Рік тому

    How come you don’t make videos anymore ? I hope you make a new one soon I want to know how you are doing

    • @johnmitchell7834
      @johnmitchell7834 Рік тому

      @ChikaAlice. how do I contact you on tele gram, I have what’s app, I’ve never heard of telegram

  • @リズワン
    @リズワン 2 роки тому

    Hope things go well. Would be amazing to see further posts in the future 💯

  • @randallbro6749
    @randallbro6749 2 роки тому +1

    I'm surprised but hope you two are doing well!

  • @lisahmitchell
    @lisahmitchell Рік тому

    Hi Chika. How have you been? We've been missing you & thinking of you. I hope everything is going well for you. x

  • @rezarranguez2980
    @rezarranguez2980 2 роки тому

    Wish you both the best and hope things work out better ahead. Nothing is ever truly guaranteed in life, but it doesn't mean its all the end. If you're still breathing, if you've got another day ahead, you can always make something new. Like the saying went in The Curious Case of Benjamin Button, " I hope you live a life you're proud of, if you find that you're not, I hope you have the strength to start all over again."

  • @finchharper4647
    @finchharper4647 Рік тому

    Just saw you with Miley in her video and was wondering how you are doing?

  • @itsmeJeanii
    @itsmeJeanii 2 роки тому +1

    Wishing only the best for both of you

  • @battleangel2799
    @battleangel2799 2 роки тому +1

    I hope you find yourself enjoying this new chapter of your life of being single, more power to you, but move out asap

  • @TheWalkMinistry
    @TheWalkMinistry Рік тому

    I’m really sad but I’ve been only watching you for two years I hope you both are cool

  • @jeffreyalansantos2335
    @jeffreyalansantos2335 Рік тому

    Hi Chika san!✌🇯🇵🇺🇲 new subscriber here from Philippines!🇵🇭❤ I love so much about your friend Miley-san's content because of here character and her communication skills that I watch her. It's not because what she deserved for I watched her videos on her UA-cam channel but it's because of cuteness and beauty. No conditions and commentary hahaha. So decided to subscribe your channel because you are the one who knows about cutest japanese girl Mairi Watanabe aka Miley❤😻👩🇯🇵🇺🇲 Love you so much and even your country!🙌

  • @colinmathie2710
    @colinmathie2710 2 роки тому +1

    Hey Chika, great to see you again 😀

  • @spotbrooklyn
    @spotbrooklyn 2 роки тому +1

    Wishing you both the best.

  • @machtmann2881
    @machtmann2881 2 роки тому

    I'm sorry to hear that your relationship didn't work out but it took a lot of guts to be this open. Marriages are hard and don't always work out. But that's okay in the end and I'm sure you will be too. Looking forward to hearing more about your life updates when you are ready to start posting again.

  • @Philson
    @Philson Рік тому +1

    It's ok you deserve much better

  • @RG-3PO
    @RG-3PO 2 роки тому +2

    You may not feel it, yet, but I am sending out some love and support, and goodwill. I hope it finds you well. Take care. One Floridian to another.

  • @andyfnet5503
    @andyfnet5503 2 роки тому +8

    Respect and Support. Best wishes to you both!

    • @chikanoha
      @chikanoha  2 роки тому +2

      Thank you so much!!

    • @andyfnet5503
      @andyfnet5503 2 роки тому

      @@chikanoha I am grateful to the internet and social media that connects us all! We didn’t have this medium 20 years ago.

  • @lilkitten545
    @lilkitten545 2 роки тому

    I'm so sorry it didn't work out, I hope you are okay

  • @paulwalther5237
    @paulwalther5237 2 роки тому

    I’m sorry it didn’t work out. I hope you make more videos again in the future because they’re really good.

  • @torengen899
    @torengen899 Рік тому

    Take care of all the good memory you have. And use it as something to go forward with.

    • @torengen899
      @torengen899 Рік тому

      @ChikaAlice. I got message that I should text you on Telegram... But that's usually phishing message

  • @justsaiyansteve
    @justsaiyansteve 2 роки тому +1

    You dont need to share your personal relationships on the interwebs. Good luck on the future!

  • @jimmierogers9375
    @jimmierogers9375 Рік тому

    That is very regrettable. I hope you are able to land on your feet and feel stable again soon.

  • @sunmi00
    @sunmi00 2 роки тому +1

    I wish you all the best for Chica Alice

  • @lilaclion929
    @lilaclion929 2 роки тому

    Best wishes for you both.

  • @losersneverwin999
    @losersneverwin999 2 роки тому

    Good luck to you in borderland, Alice.

  • @DouglasP201
    @DouglasP201 Рік тому

    Hi Chika, I'm new to your channel, just subbed you. Hope all is well!!

  • @rodjewell240
    @rodjewell240 2 роки тому +2

    My dearest. How is it possible for any person to truly know or understand how you feel at this time. Let alone December 22, 23, 25, 26, and beyond. We all love you. You have dared to share your entire life with us. We all love your courage Alice. We admire you.

  • @mookiestewart3776
    @mookiestewart3776 Рік тому

    hope youre doing well and get back to videos soon!

  • @Yg-te4ig
    @Yg-te4ig 2 роки тому

    Bless.

  • @explorermike19
    @explorermike19 11 місяців тому

    Better to figure it out now and make changes than being in a miserable marriage for decades.

  • @mkoziol2001
    @mkoziol2001 6 місяців тому

    Wow!!

  • @PaulHolmesJr79
    @PaulHolmesJr79 2 роки тому

    Chika what???? I don’t wanna question why but dang chika….I’m sorry

  • @mdabdulkader1141
    @mdabdulkader1141 9 місяців тому

    Love you ❤️

  • @AnjinKyotsu
    @AnjinKyotsu 2 роки тому +1

    Does this mean you are available to have dinner with me?

    • @NoComplience
      @NoComplience Рік тому

      What a stupid inappropriate question.

  • @stancassada304
    @stancassada304 Рік тому

    You are absolutely stunningly beautiful.

  • @alecubudulecu
    @alecubudulecu 2 роки тому +1

    I’m sorry this happened to both of you and prayers for you both to move on healthy.
    I’m 4x divorced and on my 5th and BEST marriage. Haha. The stuff you mentioned …. Compromise. Inability to sacrifice values.
    Honestly that’s the root of all relationships …. The ability to mutually compromise. Ones values. Ethics. Core. Little things. Big things.
    Sucks. But it took me a long time to realize that’s what it takes.
    Communication … helps. But people that say it’s most important are wrong. It’s not. Compromise is.

  • @Mr.Altavoz
    @Mr.Altavoz Рік тому

    Just saw you on Miley... Take care..

  • @vFNN
    @vFNN 2 місяці тому

    wow that's really sad 😢

  • @drummerchicago
    @drummerchicago Рік тому

    i just saw this I hope your doing ok

  • @ThailandBob
    @ThailandBob Рік тому

    Last year at this time I thought I had the perfect marriage of almost 33 years and had no ideal there was any problem. Our only son was in West Point and my wife had everything she needed, or so I thought. Anyhow she soon ghosted/disappeared without even saying what was wrong. With a bogus restraining order, I may never know what caused the divorce!!!! Life moves on for me now! The story of the divorce:
    ua-cam.com/video/1jU2qxezmOY/v-deo.html

  • @mbank3832
    @mbank3832 2 роки тому

    You are beautiful. I am sure you will find another man that will be happy to have you

  • @adleytelfort697
    @adleytelfort697 2 роки тому +2

    I wish you both the best...FYI you know vlogging more on UA-cam has been proven to help get over divorces..hint hint

    • @chikanoha
      @chikanoha  2 роки тому +1

      Lol! Thank you for the idea 💡

  • @happygo1866
    @happygo1866 Рік тому

    😢💔