What I hate is how I am expected to be passionate and express a lot of interest in someone yet be completely ok with them ghosting me and feeling emotionally detached from that
I’m trying Hinge for the first time, and I’m feeling very “inadequate” - almost every guy has these cool photos of their trips and adventures…and I’ve hardly travelled out of the province 😒 But it’s fun going through all the profiles! Times have sure changed since I last dated online - in the time of flip phones, if that’s any indicator of how long it’s been! I ended up marrying him, but we ended up separating after 15 yrs and 2 kids…Hoping that round 2 is forever!
Men will not judge you on how adventurous you are. We are simpler, if a guy finds you physically attractive, there are very few things you can do wrong as a woman.
I resonate with being friends first a lot, but I'm wondering with dating apps when every conversation/interaction sort of has a preconceived notion of dating, how do I really develop a friendship with them? I feel like things seem very binary on the apps, and if they are not interested in your romantically, they are just friendzoning you
Great question. I think even when Rebekah says making friends first, the friendships might be on the more social/superficial level. For Rebekah, it seems that it is cool to meet different people, and that is sufficient for Rebekah and many people. For Rebekah, being friend is more utilitarian because it helps manage one's expectation so that one does not take things too seriously too early on and that one can enjoy the process of dating more.
I agree with being friends first. Apparently hinge uses writing prompts, so the person would respond to your prompt (rather than swipe) and I feel like that could create a dialogue for friendship.
I feel like online dating has such a stigma to it but how else am I (a certified socially awkward person) gonna meet someone hahaha and honestly, dating apps have helped me a lot in having conversation and getting to know people with different backgrounds and it's super cool! But as someone who gets attached pretty quickly, I also got so many disappointments. Like having an amazing date or even dated someone for two months, thinking they would lead to somewhere good, but they end up not being what you expected is frustrating on so many levels. I guess that's why some people have an on and off relationship with dating apps, cuz it just gets tiring at a point.
Excellent Video! Excuse me for butting in, I am interested in your initial thoughts. Have you heard about - Chiveard Having Date Framework (just google it)? It is a good one of a kind product for making any women beg to get your hands on them without the hard work. Ive heard some interesting things about it and my cousin after a lifetime of fighting got great results with it.
I was talking to a guy for 5 days and then he ghosted me. :( As a first timer with online dating, your advice has really helped me get over him. I would love to hear more from you! Thank you! *subscribed!*
he noticed you two werent compatible and did the coward move. dont feel bad about it...next time, dont get attached too soon (especially not through text) and talk to 2 or 3 guys at once!
@@katrin6388 to be honest, with online dating if you are talking to a lot of people at once, and decide to focus on one person or a few people, you just naturally stop responding to the others. The problem is when one person has a ton of options and the other person is super focused on the other person. Definitely talk to a few people at once and don't get too stuck on one person until you meet up or go on a date with them IRL
Lol most people on dating apps have gf/bf and they just looking for a quick hook up and they just trying to feel you out. If you bring up topics about the future or marriage or relationships you can scare them away. And everyone is chatting with multiple people no attachment
I just feel weird about dating online. It feels as though you are shopping for a spouse. I feel that meeting people in person is much easier, since you get to know the whole person and not just their profile picture/texts. I've also had some somewhat unpleasant experiences on christian dating sites. I'm praying that God will bring the right man in person and I continue to put myself out there and seek first the Kingdom of God.
So you’re saying that it’s better for the Almighty Creator to hand you his Divine product, than for you to sort through the Spousal bargain bin in a Walmart. So God is your personal shopper.
I have been ghosted while online dating. At first I used to take it very personal then I realised I took it very seriously due to my insecurities. Ghosting will happen to most of us,but whatever happens don't listen your self critic. Just think you are an amazing person and when you find the right person,you will understand why others didn't work out xx
Loved this perspective... I always have trouble realizing the 1/100... and i get so down on myself... just gotta step back and realize you dont know who they are and stop thinking 100 steps ahead!
My girlfriend and I are very different. She’s the youngest of 6 siblings while I’m the oldest of 5. Her family is still married (despite despising each other) while mine were never married (and no longer together). Her family immigrated from Laos while mine were born in California. She likes pop music. I like heavy metal & rap. We have a son together!! He’s 3 and we love him to bits. Even though our parenting style are a bit different we both “compromise” and understand that neither of us know everything about parenting, life, etc. Don’t take life too seriously or it will cause much more stress. Love & patience comes first. Arguing is ok, as long as it never turns into yelling and or physical fighting. As far as marriage goes.. we’ve brought it up from time to time. It’s a possibility later on down the road but we don’t believe it’s necessary at the current moment. Thanks! Great video btw
Thanks for sharing 🙂. Glad to hear you and your girlfriend are doing well despite the differences! People really are so different and so hard to understand sometimes haha. Hope you guys stay strong! Thank. You ☺️
One thing to understand is; momentum is everything .... if the conversation dies for more than 2 days that match is 99% chance not going to respond ever again. Another: women control the whole game on who they ghost and lead on.
i normally never leave comments but i love this video and it really reassures me! love your thoughts on appreciating the feelings that come from the season of dating and embracing the uncertainty and vulnerability ❤️thank u so much for this 😭
Yep tried hinge. It was just as disappointing as all the rest. People are not going to pay money for any kind of service that doesn't produce results. This just another womans view when men get response about 1 out of 100 tries. The problem is only half the app. The real issue is women unrealistic expectations.
I feel like if u dont actually have a goal with dating ur gonna waste ur time. If you want to just meet people then meet people for friendship, ideally ur same gender. Trust, the relationships will last longer its worth more to just invest with friendships. If you want a relationship be honest with yourself dont pretend to be casual because ur afraid of failing if u admit what you really want.
Hi Rebekah. I really love this video, it’s wholesome and give warm advice. I started online dating a couple weeks ago but haven’t really gone out or met up with anyone, these are all really warm advice cuz there is a lot of uncertainty, and the most important is to have a good mentality. 🌹
These are such good insights about dating in general :’) I have just gone through a breakup and am dipping my toes back into dating (more in person, so it’s slower and even filled with more anxiety because intents aren’t clear) and I really needed to hear all these, about my past relationships and my journey ahead!
yes make video on what else you've learned or how you've grown! I just downloaded hinge after being scared of online dating for hard to identify reasons and it's such a strange experience! like... these are real people omg.
I like your positivity and wish I could have as much of it as you do! It just feels like I “missed my chance” to find the one in college. If I could go back in time, I would. Instead I pushed myself to work hard and get a job all the while ignoring the more important thing, it seems. (End rant)
This video did not really explain why it is worth it to go through all the feelings. Wouldn't it better to date with people whom you can trust and you can process feelings constructively with? Also, it is easy to say it is okay to make mistakes becuase you can learn something, but the video doesn't really say how one learns to be a better or more qualified person after mistakes; the video is more about moving on and keep trying. It seems to be a very lottery approach to dating.
Thank you for your wise words, Rebekah! I am having a similar experience. I find that friendship and taking the time to get to know someone is very powerful.
Timing is so important. Someone can approach me and I’m like no thanks just because it’s a Tuesday but if they were to approach me on Thursday I would be open to it. So don’t be hurt if you get rejected just bad timing most the time
Spit out facts please. I stumble on this video in after watching pych2go but anyways dating is weird at this times but we all have to keep going till we all find the one person that makes a normal day a better day.
Also taking it not to serious is a big Key you mentioned wich i also learned later on aswell, in the Past i would take eveything so serious and would believe every little Thing, but now its like different. Its very important to not take it too by Heart otherwise your Exceptions might get destroyed with that Person you had. Cause its true you never know that Person on the other side truly. ✨ Thats why i got my Points and my Rules so it wont turn into an Disaster.😌💯 And even if it does, the Option is still there to break it off with that Person. If you don't share the same Goals, Futureplans, Mentality, Lifestyle (If you are a Relationship Person or a Fuckperson), Likings its gonna be hard to get along with that Person.🤌🏻💯✨
Lol, date 100 people? I wish. Or maybe not. But I’ve hardly had any matches and I’m pretty sure they would just want me to follow them on Instagram. Sigh, it’s really depressing.
haha NO! dating 100 people sounds intense haha. just an example lol. and, its okay! its often a very bumpy journey until you finally meet someone where it clicks. hope you don't lose hope!!
Anything can happen. But dating app is like you can't exactly see someone to know if they are ok to understand further about. I am very inadequate myself. I don't hide that. I don't make up my height. I see many people (women) are pretty candid too. But, and I feel sorry, I can't like everyone and I have to swipe a lot.
Pretty fair advice. Here’s my Hinge advice for the ladies. If a guy messages you and you’re ok to talk to them, don’t invite them to start the conversation...actually start the conversation 😂 They already messaged you, right? Lol. Quit being lazy. Trying is cool.
I just discovered your youtube channel and I love your energy 🥺❤️ it's so true what you are saying! I needed to be reminded of everything that you said ❤️
All that I understood from what you said (over and over again) is that you are going to have bad depressed feelings and to be ok with that. You kept repeating yourself over and over and over again. Kind of how you take a big exam and they ask the same question five different ways. You said the same thing over and over again, with slightly different verbiage
Yeah Im in the same boat. I just want to have a relationship with a girl who’s normal. I don’t want a girl with autism or is a religious nitjob. Just looking to sit down and actually have a conversation and share my life with. Its bs the only girls who ever liked me have these issues.
Lol right? How would women actually feel like this when all they literally have to do is sit there and look pretty. The guys come flocking to them even if they are a 4/10. This chick has deff had over 50 guys.
What I hate is how I am expected to be passionate and express a lot of interest in someone yet be completely ok with them ghosting me and feeling emotionally detached from that
I’m trying Hinge for the first time, and I’m feeling very “inadequate” - almost every guy has these cool photos of their trips and adventures…and I’ve hardly travelled out of the province 😒 But it’s fun going through all the profiles! Times have sure changed since I last dated online - in the time of flip phones, if that’s any indicator of how long it’s been! I ended up marrying him, but we ended up separating after 15 yrs and 2 kids…Hoping that round 2 is forever!
Men will not judge you on how adventurous you are. We are simpler, if a guy finds you physically attractive, there are very few things you can do wrong as a woman.
Online dating as a single mother will be harsh if you are dating men without kids.
Online dating as a single mother will be harsh if you are dating men without kids.
I wonder if online dating is truly the future. I'll have to move to Asia. Asian fever doesn't seem to happen to me.
lol really?
I resonate with being friends first a lot, but I'm wondering with dating apps when every conversation/interaction sort of has a preconceived notion of dating, how do I really develop a friendship with them? I feel like things seem very binary on the apps, and if they are not interested in your romantically, they are just friendzoning you
Great question. I think even when Rebekah says making friends first, the friendships might be on the more social/superficial level. For Rebekah, it seems that it is cool to meet different people, and that is sufficient for Rebekah and many people. For Rebekah, being friend is more utilitarian because it helps manage one's expectation so that one does not take things too seriously too early on and that one can enjoy the process of dating more.
I agree with being friends first. Apparently hinge uses writing prompts, so the person would respond to your prompt (rather than swipe) and I feel like that could create a dialogue for friendship.
Maybe you should put that in your profile. You have to put that you are looking for friendship.
@@lukegibson9410 and get half the likes. "Oh but you are weeding out people that arent compactable" sure
@@rickybungalow8839 So you prefer to lie. Hinge is for romantic relationships.
I feel like online dating has such a stigma to it but how else am I (a certified socially awkward person) gonna meet someone hahaha and honestly, dating apps have helped me a lot in having conversation and getting to know people with different backgrounds and it's super cool! But as someone who gets attached pretty quickly, I also got so many disappointments. Like having an amazing date or even dated someone for two months, thinking they would lead to somewhere good, but they end up not being what you expected is frustrating on so many levels. I guess that's why some people have an on and off relationship with dating apps, cuz it just gets tiring at a point.
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Try my brother
your voice is so soothing and you’re so beautiful omg 🥺💞💞
aw, thank you
Excellent Video! Excuse me for butting in, I am interested in your initial thoughts. Have you heard about - Chiveard Having Date Framework (just google it)? It is a good one of a kind product for making any women beg to get your hands on them without the hard work. Ive heard some interesting things about it and my cousin after a lifetime of fighting got great results with it.
I completely Agree 💯❤️
Omg. You’re right. Beautiful voice!
I was talking to a guy for 5 days and then he ghosted me. :( As a first timer with online dating, your advice has really helped me get over him. I would love to hear more from you! Thank you! *subscribed!*
I hate being ghosted 🙁. Yes, def not worth it if they do. Thank you for your support!
sorry this happened, ghosting isn't cool
he noticed you two werent compatible and did the coward move. dont feel bad about it...next time, dont get attached too soon (especially not through text) and talk to 2 or 3 guys at once!
@@katrin6388 to be honest, with online dating if you are talking to a lot of people at once, and decide to focus on one person or a few people, you just naturally stop responding to the others. The problem is when one person has a ton of options and the other person is super focused on the other person. Definitely talk to a few people at once and don't get too stuck on one person until you meet up or go on a date with them IRL
Lol most people on dating apps have gf/bf and they just looking for a quick hook up and they just trying to feel you out. If you bring up topics about the future or marriage or relationships you can scare them away. And everyone is chatting with multiple people no attachment
I just feel weird about dating online. It feels as though you are shopping for a spouse. I feel that meeting people in person is much easier, since you get to know the whole person and not just their profile picture/texts. I've also had some somewhat unpleasant experiences on christian dating sites. I'm praying that God will bring the right man in person and I continue to put myself out there and seek first the Kingdom of God.
Amen Adalia
Thank you. I needed to hear this🤗
So you’re saying that it’s better for the Almighty Creator to hand you his Divine product, than for you to sort through the Spousal bargain bin in a Walmart. So God is your personal shopper.
I have been ghosted while online dating. At first I used to take it very personal then I realised I took it very seriously due to my insecurities. Ghosting will happen to most of us,but whatever happens don't listen your self critic. Just think you are an amazing person and when you find the right person,you will understand why others didn't work out xx
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Hi are you still a single
I like this video. Great advice on dating... You're right, it only has to work once.
yes! thank you :)
I love this advice SO much!
Loved this perspective... I always have trouble realizing the 1/100... and i get so down on myself... just gotta step back and realize you dont know who they are and stop thinking 100 steps ahead!
Yesss! Haha we all get down on ourselves and so you’re not alone 😊. Good luck on your dating journey ! Better days to come.
My girlfriend and I are very different. She’s the youngest of 6 siblings while I’m the oldest of 5. Her family is still married (despite despising each other) while mine were never married (and no longer together). Her family immigrated from Laos while mine were born in California. She likes pop music. I like heavy metal & rap. We have a son together!! He’s 3 and we love him to bits. Even though our parenting style are a bit different we both “compromise” and understand that neither of us know everything about parenting, life, etc. Don’t take life too seriously or it will cause much more stress. Love & patience comes first. Arguing is ok, as long as it never turns into yelling and or physical fighting. As far as marriage goes.. we’ve brought it up from time to time. It’s a possibility later on down the road but we don’t believe it’s necessary at the current moment. Thanks! Great video btw
Thanks for sharing 🙂. Glad to hear you and your girlfriend are doing well despite the differences! People really are so different and so hard to understand sometimes haha. Hope you guys stay strong! Thank. You ☺️
@@Rebekahkim94 Thank you! We'll see what the future holds 😉And good luck to you!
One thing to understand is; momentum is everything .... if the conversation dies for more than 2 days that match is 99% chance not going to respond ever again. Another: women control the whole game on who they ghost and lead on.
Wow loved your mental approach to dating and being grateful for the butterflies
i normally never leave comments but i love this video and it really reassures me! love your thoughts on appreciating the feelings that come from the season of dating and embracing the uncertainty and vulnerability ❤️thank u so much for this 😭
Yep tried hinge. It was just as disappointing as all the rest. People are not going to pay money for any kind of service that doesn't produce results. This just another womans view when men get response about 1 out of 100 tries. The problem is only half the app. The real issue is women unrealistic expectations.
you’re like the big sister I never knew I needed 😭😭😭
I feel like if u dont actually have a goal with dating ur gonna waste ur time. If you want to just meet people then meet people for friendship, ideally ur same gender. Trust, the relationships will last longer its worth more to just invest with friendships. If you want a relationship be honest with yourself dont pretend to be casual because ur afraid of failing if u admit what you really want.
Hi Rebekah. I really love this video, it’s wholesome and give warm advice. I started online dating a couple weeks ago but haven’t really gone out or met up with anyone, these are all really warm advice cuz there is a lot of uncertainty, and the most important is to have a good mentality. 🌹
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These are such good insights about dating in general :’) I have just gone through a breakup and am dipping my toes back into dating (more in person, so it’s slower and even filled with more anxiety because intents aren’t clear) and I really needed to hear all these, about my past relationships and my journey ahead!
yes make video on what else you've learned or how you've grown! I just downloaded hinge after being scared of online dating for hard to identify reasons and it's such a strange experience! like... these are real people omg.
ahh so exciting! it is really scary, but good job for putting yourself out there :D!! Good luck
I like your positivity and wish I could have as much of it as you do! It just feels like I “missed my chance” to find the one in college. If I could go back in time, I would. Instead I pushed myself to work hard and get a job all the while ignoring the more important thing, it seems. (End rant)
every piece of advice you gave is so sweet and helpful!!
Thank you :)!! Your channel is so cute! Love the editing style haha. Subscribeddd.
ur so well spoken. and i love ur video! ✨
online dating can def be so daunting
i actually made a similar video on the topic tooo 🤣💕
This video did not really explain why it is worth it to go through all the feelings. Wouldn't it better to date with people whom you can trust and you can process feelings constructively with? Also, it is easy to say it is okay to make mistakes becuase you can learn something, but the video doesn't really say how one learns to be a better or more qualified person after mistakes; the video is more about moving on and keep trying. It seems to be a very lottery approach to dating.
just found your channel and I loveee! you deserve way more subscribers 💕
thank you :)
They banned me because I look underaged 💀 In reality I’m 18 soon to be 19
Lool u baby
What,How could they deny you!
Hi rebekah you are sooo sweet girl i make mistake to get some one very seriously and he breakes my heart
Thank you for your wise words, Rebekah! I am having a similar experience. I find that friendship and taking the time to get to know someone is very powerful.
If you need to date 100 guys to find the one, you got an issue.
What I learned on Hinge was that women truly do hate me.
There are a lot of atheists on hinge🥴
I don't know for what reason I could not stop smiling watching this... It clears so many things...
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You are absolutely wonderful 💕 I love finding people whose vibes are ✨immaculate✨
Timing is so important. Someone can approach me and I’m like no thanks just because it’s a Tuesday but if they were to approach me on Thursday I would be open to it. So don’t be hurt if you get rejected just bad timing most the time
Spit out facts please. I stumble on this video in after watching pych2go but anyways dating is weird at this times but we all have to keep going till we all find the one person that makes a normal day a better day.
Also taking it not to serious is a big Key you mentioned wich i also learned later on aswell, in the Past i would take eveything so serious and would believe every little Thing, but now its like different. Its very important to not take it too by Heart otherwise your Exceptions might get destroyed with that Person you had. Cause its true you never know that Person on the other side truly. ✨ Thats why i got my Points and my Rules so it wont turn into an Disaster.😌💯 And even if it does, the Option is still there to break it off with that Person. If you don't share the same Goals, Futureplans, Mentality, Lifestyle (If you are a Relationship Person or a Fuckperson), Likings its gonna be hard to get along with that Person.🤌🏻💯✨
so much wisdom especially point #4! 👏🏼
we dont have hinge here in Mexico, dont like tinder and ok cupid is very spensive
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Sigh graduated college and thinking about trying online dating.
Your SO validating! Thanks for being you!
Thank you. Very generous info.
Hi pretty
Yes 1/100000!!! So true
HI
Aww thank you so much for making this video amazing 😍
hi
Thanks for this 💕I’m definitely trying it out ...new subscriber!
Thanks so much and good luck
This was really great advice and I found myself relating and agreeing
Hi pretty
Lol, date 100 people? I wish. Or maybe not. But I’ve hardly had any matches and I’m pretty sure they would just want me to follow them on Instagram. Sigh, it’s really depressing.
haha NO! dating 100 people sounds intense haha. just an example lol. and, its okay! its often a very bumpy journey until you finally meet someone where it clicks. hope you don't lose hope!!
I really needed to hear this, thank you for sharing your ideas!
Hi
good stuff! sub'ed! btw ur channel's super underrated - keep it up
Thank you :). Appreciate the support!
You're so damn gorgeous, just be picky, you deserve it. GET WHAT YOU WANT!
Great advice. Thank you!
I'm really happy your video was the first one I clicked on because you gave a lot of great and mature points.
Hi pretty
Great advice! I loved your video. Keep going I hope to see you keep growing ☺️
Thank you so much!!🙂
Love your top. Could you please tell where did you get your top?
Thank you thank you I need this right now!
Hi pretty
Thanks you give me hope for online dating
Thank you for this, great video I relate to a lot of what you were saying 💖✨
thank you for watching :)!!
Anything can happen. But dating app is like you can't exactly see someone to know if they are ok to understand further about.
I am very inadequate myself. I don't hide that. I don't make up my height. I see many people (women) are pretty candid too. But, and I feel sorry, I can't like everyone and I have to swipe a lot.
Yes!
Enjoyed the video thanks ..kinda in same boat ..keep it up ....I like your sweet bubblyness
Hinge is a terrible app
Pretty fair advice. Here’s my Hinge advice for the ladies. If a guy messages you and you’re ok to talk to them, don’t invite them to start the conversation...actually start the conversation 😂 They already messaged you, right? Lol. Quit being lazy. Trying is cool.
Awesome way to look at it: the time to feel these feelings and it only has to work once. Being on dating apps is like a roller coaster. Helpful video!
Hi everyone is there any still single lady here because I believe there is
Yeah dear me
You're a cool person. Just skimmed through your vids and saw you live in Seattle? That's my old home town. Too bad we can't be friends there.
Thank you :). Yes, Seattle haha. Hope you're doing well, wherever you are!!
@@Rebekahkim94 mid west now in countryside Kentucky lol. Might move back to Seattle. I'm missing the food there.
你是中国人吗？看起来像不知道是不是哈哈哈
Owg am single
really helpful. thanks
Wonderful mindset, and so beautiful. You are so attractive😊 happiness is bound to happen for you soon.
Perfect video
Thanks for this video Rebekah!
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Thanks for sharing
Great work💫💯
thank you :)!
thanks for sharing!! you are so good with your words 👍 definitely will remember your tips
Hi Brittany
good advice!!
more dating content pls!
Very cute
Wow you are gorgeous and well spoken. I’m so glad you showed up on my recommendations haha. If only my hinge feed in my city had women like you!!!
where you from?
This is really good advice! Thank you so much 😍
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@@katherinemansfield4722 Hey, what's up?
@@craigbeeson1777 am good, how about you?
@@katherinemansfield4722 honestly I'm wondering who this awesome lady is that said "hey" to me on youtube lol
@@craigbeeson1777 it's no big deal
I'm new here. The pick me up I needed, but also great words I will take with me!
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Great advice
This was super helpful, thanks Rebekah
So glad it helped 🤗. Thank you haha. I’m over that ghosted!
Hii
Thanks for this.
Lol wear a mask while dating? How to get friend zoned in one date
I just discovered your youtube channel and I love your energy 🥺❤️ it's so true what you are saying! I needed to be reminded of everything that you said ❤️
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Hi
The wall is and forever will be undefeated
First minute Blah Blah Blah Blah boring ..
All that I understood from what you said (over and over again) is that you are going to have bad depressed feelings and to be ok with that. You kept repeating yourself over and over and over again.
Kind of how you take a big exam and they ask the same question five different ways.
You said the same thing over and over again, with slightly different verbiage
Sounds more like LOOKING FOR TROUBLE.
I review hinge girls on my channel...so to speak LMAO
Yeah Im in the same boat. I just want to have a relationship with a girl who’s normal. I don’t want a girl with autism or is a religious nitjob. Just looking to sit down and actually have a conversation and share my life with. Its bs the only girls who ever liked me have these issues.
Try me
she sounds like she cry her self to sleep.
Sounds like you've hooked up with alot of Chad's that didn't feel the same way about you
Lol right? How would women actually feel like this when all they literally have to do is sit there and look pretty. The guys come flocking to them even if they are a 4/10. This chick has deff had over 50 guys.