The brutality of the narc relationship is going from feeling that this person gets you and values you more than anyone in the world to realizing the whole time they just wanted to take all your resources from you and leave you for dead
Listen being with a narcissist is like playing the dozens or “Joaning” as it’s called…baby I’m a master wordsmith… the narcissist is stuck …many new supplies and still trying to find a way to trigger me …. There isn’t a way …. If you don’t treat me like I want ….I walk away mid sentence …so you know no guessing…you can’t devalue me…. You didn’t give my value you can’t take it… they are okay if they are in charge ….but I decide what’s in my life…not them…. And the want to leave me broken….is was and always will be a want…that’s the sad part…not miserable- I changed my number ….
They are just garbage people , they are miserable themselves and making our life miserable too. Its very unfortunate for us who met and dealt with them, but on the other hand it was great lesson about good and evil. Thank you for Sunday morning video, Joe !!! It is always a treat ! 🤗❤
Painful lessons and wasted the best years of my life. I am relieved that I got out but there was collateral damage. I am still going through Parent Alienation. My oldest daughter was turned against me. It is a no-win situation no matter what I do.
@@racebannon96 Be more positive , if you out of the worst , you are blessed and you are winner ! Enjoy your life now doing simple things as walking in the park listening birds singing , laying on the beach on warm sand, having lunch with a good friend... Blessing to you ! ❤
They are trash and if you're a clean and good person, they tend to get tired of staying sober. A lot of them run off to do dope, get drunk, and hang out with trash who are like them.
Contrary to everyone’s opinion, I believe that the relationship we had with a narc was a blessing in disguise. Now I know that not every girl that comes into my life has my best interest in mind. There are people that are beautiful on the outside but rotten to the core on the inside. This will not happen again 😊
MAKE SURE YOU WATCH FOR THE RED FLAGS AND TAKE IT SLOW TO GET ACQUAINTED WITH A WOMAN. A GENUINE WOMAN WILL RESPECT YOUR BOUNDARIES AND APPRECIATE THAT YOU WANT TO GO SLOW.. YOU DESERVE RESPECT AND GOOD TREATMENT AS SHE DOES TOO.
Amen... Id still be of the disposition that everyone deserves love... That everyone truly wants to heal... I know some people just need to be rejected and left to their own devices now
Brutality of indifference… I remember that feeling well. He acted like I meant nothing to him, looked at me w that smirk in his eyes like I was trash… only to come back later and beg me to be w him. No thanks. Narcs are mean and I want nothing to do w them.
The narcissist will return but its only to finish you off! If you discarded them it has caused an narcisstic injury, and they are plotting and scheming your demise! Stay no contact!
So true! I learned this the hard way. My ex was out for blood. When his mask fell off, the hate that felt towards me was so clear. Absolutely stay no contact.
No supply for the narc. Don’t respond to hoovers. Learn, heal and grow and then stay high value. You always were high value but your relationship with them over time made you low value. So take back the power and control that you handed to the narcissist and then stay away. Permanently.
It's been two months. The past week, I've come back to myself. I am at that place now where I feel at ease and comfortable in my skin. I thought this would take much longer. The first month and a half was pure hell, I thought I was having a mental breakdown. I wanted to share this with others so that they know that the withdraws do ease up. You will have to just kind of go through the pain. Lay down and cry. Get mad. Don't repress your feelings but do your best to cut off from the asshole. I have changed my number twice because he mysteriously found out my number the first time it was changed. I was not a robot at first, so of course my emotions came out a couple of times but I did not do anything crazy or beg. I held on to my dignity. He is blocked along with all of his friends, new supply, etc. I am starting school again soon, getting out, working on my image, and take better care of myself. I have found my confidence comes when I do things I was afraid of doing. Narcissists have a way of making you afraid to do things in life that were once not frightening, or at least not as scary.
My narc ex husband (who used to beat the crap out of me) texted me after FIFTEEN years. All breezy, saying "Hey! How are you?" as if nothing happened and no time had passed. Erm, no thanks. Ignored and blocked. They are seriously on another planet.
The narcisisst is truly done for good they're hollow empty before they met you, you can't break what is already broken. You on the other hand feel broken and don't want to feel that way but don't want to use someone to obtain feeling good and thats a good thing because your not hollow.
Sometimes they dont bother coming back if your strong and its easier for them to manipulate the new supply and get supply from them rather than coming back to you who is harder to manipulate as you see them for what they are. This is what the ex narc told our son after i left him in so many words. He didnt say manipulation but he said it was easier for him to move on than to try again with me. Thank goodness i put up with his BS for years.
Your experience sort of parallels my own. They tried recapture three times after discard. The first two times I was surrounded by a support network of parishioners urging me not to resume the marriage. The third time they sought reconciliation, I had already experienced my second spiritual awakening (the first was before we married and I saw infidelity but was lovebombed back) and I (via the heart-mind or Spirit) clearly saw six sex partners and how (the deception) was tactically achieved very clearly. I replied yes we can resume but all your career and achievements obtained from your key lovers must be repudiated and we start together from nothing. By speaking directly to their true malign half-self not their false-self mask, my insight enraged the narc and they angrily said there will be many more lovers, hundreds, and I then felt pity for the narc and we haven’t spoken since. (NOTE: for the first time I heard the voice of their malign true self, it was broken, wounded-sounding, resentful and a deeper tone…a different person). Except for the smear campaign and flying monkeys. After the narc betrayed a key flying monkey by having a dalliance with their spouse, even the flying monkeys disappeared. Now the narc just badmouths me to our adult child, when they are not talking money. The funny thing is the narc kept their word to me, 27 years later I had my third spiritual awakening and saw there had been 25 lovers in our marriage decades earlier and hundreds of instances of infidelity. As Prof Sam Vaknin uncannily said these have included everyone from blue-collar service staff and ride-share chauffers up to executive level people. The narc is now on their fourth marriage and I estimate their “body count” would be in the hundreds and instances of infidelity in the many thousands. In public health terms narcissists are “network hubs” of venereal disease. I had an HIV Syphillis and Hep B, C test after this third belated awakening and thankfully me and my second marriage partner have been free of STDs this past comparatively blissful 25 years. My second partner has been a wonderful step-parent to my son from the marriage to the narc, giving him stability and a great role model.
I was with her off and on six years. I left her in 2016. I never spoke to her again. It absolutely broke my heart. Been single since it all happened. Still have slight PTSD. She still hoovers even now, usually once a year, email it was past time. A gaslight drunken rant from a losing ex narcissist. I laughed my ass off reading it. I never replied, bet it drives her nuts my silence.
This type of discard can happen from anyone,even family, I see the pattern, I didn’t want to believe it at first but the on again off again ghosting, devaluing, the hoovering, wanting, your attention, and others, not really caring about you at all. I realized they just wanted “a back up”, to build themselves up. They would say that “my company is all that is needed” they felt boosted and I felt drained. (That is a sign to me) I’m better off healing, and I also understand now, that this pattern seems to happen when I’m doing better for myself. I’m done giving supply!
Yes you are exhausted and drained, burnt out. That'd what being abused does to you. They sucked out all your postive energy that's why you are tired all the time. You need to rest and go somewhere by yourself and get some peace. I recommend going to a seaside town. Take a few days and you'll find yur strength again. Stay away from alcohol it's negative energy.
I was involved with one for 4 years. She loved to break-up only to beg and plead for us to get back together. It was insanity. I lost count how many times she put me through that. Add mood swings, temper tantrums, disappearing acts, and weaponizing the phone against me. After I ended the relationship, she started calling my best friend and asking him out to dinner. She had a lie or excuse for everything.
I would love nothing more than for them to leave me the hell alone. It's been 8 months since a clean cut/no contact, 8 months of stonewalling, and things are JUST now becoming somewhat peaceful for me. I do still feel a sense of dread, waiting for them to find another way to insert themselves into my life. It's so exhausting :( HOW can i make them bored of me? I don't understand why someone would work so hard to pursue someone who is aggressively ignoring and avoiding them.
I ended the relationship with one. The yelling and criticism from her would not stop. Her harassment has finally died down after 16 years. She was delusional like most narcissists. I was probably the best supply she ever had and I ended it. The rage and hostility narcissists contain inside themselves can be intense and overwhelming. I was her target until she found another. These creatures never get better and usually get worse as they get older.
Yes. One owed me some money she had “borrowed”. She stayed in contact with me for 20 years. I finally decided to end it because I was tired of the hoovering and the petty insults. I asked her to pay back some of the money she had borrowed. First she denied it. When I added more details she blew up and started with the name calling and profanity. Silence for 7 years now. She had no intentions to ever pay me back. By the way, she is looking for husband #4.
@@reneegardner2286 I had asked her to pay me back before and told her No when she wanted $500 to pay her light bill and another time she demanded $2500 to avoid foreclosure on her home. She is a deadbeat and I would find out much later she had many liens placed against her. Live and learn.
The narcissist was never going to connect with you and see your POV. Hard lesson to learn. You should always end a relationship with someone who verbally, or physically abuses you. Trauma bond can be difficult to break, in order to see the bigger picture.
Some narcissists are much more careful with their tactics. Deception, gaslighting, projection, and manipulation are emotional tools that narcissists use too.
My narc boyfriend basically forced me to leave him. I am gutted and brokenhearted. I’m having a hard time coming to terms with him going from loving me so deeply to being so distant and almost no care for me at all. I’m on day 2 since the breakup and I’m lost. I thought I could love him enough to work thru some of these issues. I wasn’t enough apparently.
The reverse discard. Didnt have the balls to initiate the breakup but they do such awful things that force you to leave them. Theyre professional victims. Stay strong it gets better.
Narcissist relationships have an expiration. It takes two to make a relationship. If only one person is putting in the effort, it is not going to work. Go No Contact and give it time. Your clarity will return and you will see that it was never going to work.
There is no way exnarc would ever come back again. He used me for the entire duration of the fake relationship and is on to his new victim in complete love-bomb stage. Eventually they do not return to some victims.
He’s done as far as l’m concerned. What he wants to think is his business. My reality is far different and that’s all l care about. My will, my prerogative, my life.
@beths9113 I did notice many things that weren't "his typical", I questioned his behaviors but of course he denied. He blindsided me for sure because he just came home late from work and packed an overnight bag and left.
@@ladyvirgo013 thank you for responding! Im trying to figure out this whole narcissistic thing.. and I always wondered if someone could go years and not see the signs because of the mask they wear, so thank you !
i broke up with my narcissist , but was hoovered back in , she triangulated me with the new supply, we got back together for one day, i broke up again with her, i cant imagine she will ever come back, i am in a very weak state, i think about her al ot, but the idea she will ever come back doesnt compute.
Unfortunately she'll keep coming back as long as YOU allow her to do so! After being with a narcissist for 13 yrs, I've been there done that! After almost 3 yrs of no contact, he STILL tries to reach out but all he gets in return from me is silence! Rest assured, she will play you for as long as she senses your weakness; & after getting all she can get from you, she'll be gone again! To them it's never about you as a person, it's about what they can TAKE from you! Wishing you the best on your healing journey!
You might not feel like it now. But it’s the best thing to happen to you. You don’t want her back. Please be strong. There are people who will actually love you. Not a fake human who is incapable. I promise it teaches you a lot and things will be better. Sending you a big hug. You are worth much more than this! ❤
Please stay away. Your just going to get used over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over AGAIN. You gotta love yourself more. Dig deep and find what the problem is. Because something is keeping yougoing back and forth. You have to continue to research baby. We trying to save your life and your sanity. You literally need to fall back. It's never going to be the way you wanted to be. I'm going to say a quick prayer for you. I guess you haven't gotten beat up enough. (Metaphorically), and emotionally and mentally. Well good luck with that.😅
@Randall Glatt Well said. I intuitively knew when my Narc was up to something as he shared his excitement of whatever he was getting into with me as like an overflow of emotions from love bombing someone else, I didn't realise at the time but I do now. On the other hand his moods were very dark when he was in what seemed a dry period... he was indifferent, cold, ignorant, passive aggressive, depressed, and antisocial.
I wasn’t devestated openly. I just accepted the break up and moved on reasonably quickly with someone who is far more suited to me. Unmarried for one thing!! When I found out he was married and threatened him with exposure, that was enough to never hear from him again other than him asking if I wanted him to cut me off and block him and that my actions were unacceptable. Haven’t heard a word in 18 months. I’m SURE that is that. Threat of exposure and possible Narc injury would make sure of that, I’m thinking.
Narcissists seem to have a sixth sense when you are at a low point and the Hoovering starts. Narcissists also will use your family and friends to access info on you and get them to drop hints about contacting you. Nothing is off limits to narcissists.
Thank you for speaking about the Harem I often think about this Harem and try and piece together timelines...It is counterproductive to my healing I know but it helps me to understand the mind of the Narcissist. So I am guessing they instinctively know you have healed when they can't feel your energy anymore? Or spying through fake profiles? I have cut off from everyone who surrounded him our co-workers etc, and 2 months No Contact.
Mine recently told me he doesn’t even think about me, threw it at me how his life is great and he’s in a new relationship (he never posts about on facebook). All hear say from others. I only reached out because our dog (he has) is dying. He told I will know what I need to know: nothing. He won’t be back. And that’s just fine.
Oh I got to tell you because my narc boyfriend said something very nasty to me I slapped him in the face then I left I doubt if you ever contacts me again..
My now again ex narcissist bf told me he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me while laying in bed together last week...he took me home at 6am...he went to go pick up another girl...I said I needed time to think...he said I confused him...he said fine I'll give you time to think and changed his numbers...yes everyone numbers
It doesn't make Any difference whether they are done with you. Your done with them game over. No contact no response no way to respond. Forget them. Omg why are you letting them cause Any damage. You know you f them. No one's opinion is more important than yours. Why is there Any way they have any possible contact with you???
Its been 6mos post discard for my covert narky ex gf. She monkeybranched. Ive been strict No Contact. She absolutely doneski w me. Pretty sure im free🦅
@@foreveryoung6464 My narc ex is marrying a homebody which in a different video I saw about narcissists. They don't like. I guess it is only a matter of tjme until she want's to try and reach out. Too bad for her, she is blocked, everywhere.
It's basically the Narcissist's need for attention (both positive and negative) and admiration to fuel their ego and bolster their false self. It's like a drug for them.
seek Jesus Christ, He is the way, For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him. Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only Son Jesus Said, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me" let Jesus into your life and youll see how your whole worldview changes.
The brutality of the narc relationship is going from feeling that this person gets you and values you more than anyone in the world to realizing the whole time they just wanted to take all your resources from you and leave you for dead
That was a bitter pill to swallow😢
This made me sick
So fcukin sad..but so fcukin true. She ruined me. Used me.. and tossed me like a dirty rubber.
Listen being with a narcissist is like playing the dozens or “Joaning” as it’s called…baby I’m a master wordsmith… the narcissist is stuck …many new supplies and still trying to find a way to trigger me …. There isn’t a way …. If you don’t treat me like I want ….I walk away mid sentence …so you know no guessing…you can’t devalue me…. You didn’t give my value you can’t take it… they are okay if they are in charge ….but I decide what’s in my life…not them…. And the want to leave me broken….is was and always will be a want…that’s the sad part…not miserable- I changed my number ….
No forreal 😿… but realizing you were/are in love with you urself from the mirroring 🪞 is empowering 🧚🏽♀️🧜🏾♀️💁🏽♀️
"Anybody who is a human being is not good enough for the narcissist.". 😄
They are just garbage people , they are miserable themselves and making our life miserable too. Its very unfortunate for us who met and dealt with them, but on the other hand it was great lesson about good and evil. Thank you for Sunday morning video, Joe !!! It is always a treat ! 🤗❤
Thank you! Have a great Sunday ❤
Thankyou 🙏🙏
Painful lessons and wasted the best years of my life. I am relieved that I got out but there was collateral damage. I am still going through Parent Alienation. My oldest daughter was turned against me. It is a no-win situation no matter what I do.
@@racebannon96 Be more positive , if you out of the worst , you are blessed and you are winner ! Enjoy your life now doing simple things as walking in the park listening birds singing , laying on the beach on warm sand, having lunch with a good friend... Blessing to you ! ❤
They are trash and if you're a clean and good person, they tend to get tired of staying sober. A lot of them run off to do dope, get drunk, and hang out with trash who are like them.
Contrary to everyone’s opinion, I believe that the relationship we had with a narc was a blessing in disguise. Now I know that not every girl that comes into my life has my best interest in mind. There are people that are beautiful on the outside but rotten to the core on the inside. This will not happen again 😊
Definitely a plus
MAKE SURE YOU WATCH FOR THE RED FLAGS AND TAKE IT SLOW TO GET ACQUAINTED WITH A WOMAN. A GENUINE WOMAN WILL RESPECT YOUR BOUNDARIES AND APPRECIATE THAT YOU WANT TO GO SLOW.. YOU DESERVE RESPECT AND GOOD TREATMENT AS SHE DOES TOO.
Amen... Id still be of the disposition that everyone deserves love... That everyone truly wants to heal... I know some people just need to be rejected and left to their own devices now
Damn right. Will never trust a woman again.
True, I am running for the hills at the first sign
They come back when your energy is good again.
Yes. They can sense it.
So walk around in dirty sweatpants when they’re ever near
Soooo true
@@adamslosar5574 LOL. Start crying.
Brutality of indifference… I remember that feeling well. He acted like I meant nothing to him, looked at me w that smirk in his eyes like I was trash… only to come back later and beg me to be w him.
No thanks. Narcs are mean and I want nothing to do w them.
Same
Just mean bullies.
Radical acceptance- he will never change. He is blocked for all eternity.
Absolutely insane thinking. They're mental.
😂 facts
@@juanjoneznever go back they never change. Their brain is different than ours!😮
Yet he CONSTANTLY told me I had mental illness.
Yes, for staying as long as I did!
The narcissist will return but its only to finish you off! If you discarded them it has caused an narcisstic injury, and they are plotting and scheming your demise! Stay no contact!
So true! I learned this the hard way. My ex was out for blood. When his mask fell off, the hate that felt towards me was so clear. Absolutely stay no contact.
No supply for the narc. Don’t respond to hoovers. Learn, heal and grow and then stay high value. You always were high value but your relationship with them over time made you low value. So take back the power and control that you handed to the narcissist and then stay away. Permanently.
There is no coming back!
I’ve changed my number and my information
Patterns and cycles are their basic giveaways.
Do not go back ,use LOGICAL thinking
I received a hoover 26 years after the most brutal discard. twenty.....six.....years. They'll come back if there is a way.
Incredible
@reneegardner2286 27 years later mine returned.
@@chrissemenko628 holy crap!
Wow
How did they try to come back in your life?
It's been two months. The past week, I've come back to myself. I am at that place now where I feel at ease and comfortable in my skin. I thought this would take much longer. The first month and a half was pure hell, I thought I was having a mental breakdown. I wanted to share this with others so that they know that the withdraws do ease up. You will have to just kind of go through the pain. Lay down and cry. Get mad. Don't repress your feelings but do your best to cut off from the asshole. I have changed my number twice because he mysteriously found out my number the first time it was changed. I was not a robot at first, so of course my emotions came out a couple of times but I did not do anything crazy or beg. I held on to my dignity. He is blocked along with all of his friends, new supply, etc. I am starting school again soon, getting out, working on my image, and take better care of myself. I have found my confidence comes when I do things I was afraid of doing. Narcissists have a way of making you afraid to do things in life that were once not frightening, or at least not as scary.
My narc ex husband (who used to beat the crap out of me) texted me after FIFTEEN years. All breezy, saying "Hey! How are you?" as if nothing happened and no time had passed. Erm, no thanks. Ignored and blocked. They are seriously on another planet.
Delusional. Good to hear you got out.
The narcisisst is truly done for good they're hollow empty before they met you, you can't break what is already broken. You on the other hand feel broken and don't want to feel that way but don't want to use someone to obtain feeling good and thats a good thing because your not hollow.
Sometimes they dont bother coming back if your strong and its easier for them to manipulate the new supply and get supply from them rather than coming back to you who is harder to manipulate as you see them for what they are.
This is what the ex narc told our son after i left him in so many words. He didnt say manipulation but he said it was easier for him to move on than to try again with me. Thank goodness i put up with his BS for years.
My husband of 12 years said its easier to be my friend but not my husband 😂Umm...hell No! Who needs friends like that
@@ladyvirgo013 having him as a husband was probably enough for one life time.
This is true! If you seee the real them they won’t bother ❤
Your experience sort of parallels my own. They tried recapture three times after discard. The first two times I was surrounded by a support network of parishioners urging me not to resume the marriage. The third time they sought reconciliation, I had already experienced my second spiritual awakening (the first was before we married and I saw infidelity but was lovebombed back) and I (via the heart-mind or Spirit) clearly saw six sex partners and how (the deception) was tactically achieved very clearly. I replied yes we can resume but all your career and achievements
obtained from your key lovers must be repudiated and we start together from nothing. By speaking directly to their true malign half-self not their false-self mask, my insight enraged the narc and they angrily said there will be many more lovers, hundreds, and I then felt pity for the narc and we haven’t spoken since. (NOTE: for the first time I heard the voice of their malign true self, it was broken, wounded-sounding, resentful and a deeper tone…a different person). Except for the smear campaign and flying monkeys. After the narc betrayed a key flying monkey by having a dalliance with their spouse, even the flying monkeys disappeared. Now the narc just badmouths me to our adult child, when they are not talking money. The funny thing is the narc kept their word to me, 27 years later I had my third spiritual awakening and saw there had been 25 lovers in our marriage decades earlier and hundreds of instances of infidelity. As Prof Sam Vaknin uncannily said these have included everyone from blue-collar service staff and ride-share chauffers up to executive level people. The narc is now on their fourth marriage and I estimate their “body count” would be in the hundreds and instances of infidelity in the many thousands. In public health terms narcissists are “network hubs” of venereal disease. I had an HIV Syphillis and Hep B, C test after this third belated awakening and thankfully me and my second marriage partner have been free of STDs this past comparatively blissful 25 years. My second partner has been a wonderful step-parent to my son from the marriage to the narc, giving him stability and a great role model.
I was with her off and on six years. I left her in 2016. I never spoke to her again. It absolutely broke my heart. Been single since it all happened. Still have slight PTSD. She still hoovers even now, usually once a year, email it was past time. A gaslight drunken rant from a losing ex narcissist. I laughed my ass off reading it. I never replied, bet it drives her nuts my silence.
Great job bro... I know how hard it is...
Would you mind sharing that email? I think it could be helpful for me...
Great stay strong silence is golden
@@blaqshiep4920it's of no use to anybody. It's just a drunken rant by a crazy bitter ex.
A female narc is never done, NO CONTACT, ever
Never had a female narc come back they're too busy going from guy to guy to guy. Not sure if I'm a lucky one or not
@@LeeEverett1yes, of course, because it is the devil 😈
This type of discard can happen from anyone,even family, I see the pattern, I didn’t want to believe it at first but the on again off again ghosting, devaluing, the hoovering, wanting, your attention, and others, not really caring about you at all. I realized they just wanted “a back up”, to build themselves up. They would say that “my company is all that is needed” they felt boosted and I felt drained. (That is a sign to me) I’m better off healing, and I also understand now, that this pattern seems to happen when I’m doing better for myself. I’m done giving supply!
Yes you are exhausted and drained, burnt out. That'd what being abused does to you. They sucked out all your postive energy that's why you are tired all the time. You need to rest and go somewhere by yourself and get some peace. I recommend going to a seaside town. Take a few days and you'll find yur strength again. Stay away from alcohol it's negative energy.
I was involved with one for 4 years. She loved to break-up only to beg and plead for us to get back together. It was insanity. I lost count how many times she put me through that. Add mood swings, temper tantrums, disappearing acts, and weaponizing the phone against me. After I ended the relationship, she started calling my best friend and asking him out to dinner. She had a lie or excuse for everything.
"Anybody who is a human being is not good enough for the narcis- sist.". 😄
I would love nothing more than for them to leave me the hell alone. It's been 8 months since a clean cut/no contact, 8 months of stonewalling, and things are JUST now becoming somewhat peaceful for me. I do still feel a sense of dread, waiting for them to find another way to insert themselves into my life. It's so exhausting :( HOW can i make them bored of me? I don't understand why someone would work so hard to pursue someone who is aggressively ignoring and avoiding them.
I ended the relationship with one. The yelling and criticism from her would not stop. Her harassment has finally died down after 16 years. She was delusional like most narcissists. I was probably the best supply she ever had and I ended it. The rage and hostility narcissists contain inside themselves can be intense and overwhelming. I was her target until she found another. These creatures never get better and usually get worse as they get older.
I discarded him
❤😂😊
Same here the narc spouse
" you changed " yeah, after all the drama and behavior, I did change 🤣 slowly distance myself till the ghosted discard.
2 years and 4 months divorced and he sends his flying monkeys to drive by my house! No contact forever from me
They'll avoid you like the plague if they owe you money.
Guaranteed.
Facts
Yes. One owed me some money she had “borrowed”. She stayed in contact with me for 20 years. I finally decided to end it because I was tired of the hoovering and the petty insults. I asked her to pay back some of the money she had borrowed. First she denied it. When I added more details she blew up and started with the name calling and profanity. Silence for 7 years now. She had no intentions to ever pay me back. By the way, she is looking for husband #4.
@@racebannon96 you waited 20 yrs for someone to pay you back money 😬
@@reneegardner2286 I had asked her to pay me back before and told her No when she wanted $500 to pay her light bill and another time she demanded $2500 to avoid foreclosure on her home. She is a deadbeat and I would find out much later she had many liens placed against her. Live and learn.
The narcissist was never going to connect with you and see your POV.
Hard lesson to learn.
You should always end a relationship with someone who verbally, or physically abuses you. Trauma bond can be difficult to break, in order to see the bigger picture.
Some narcissists are much more careful with their tactics. Deception, gaslighting, projection, and manipulation are emotional tools that narcissists use too.
My narc boyfriend basically forced me to leave him. I am gutted and brokenhearted. I’m having a hard time coming to terms with him going from loving me so deeply to being so distant and almost no care for me at all. I’m on day 2 since the breakup and I’m lost. I thought I could love him enough to work thru some of these issues. I wasn’t enough apparently.
It will get easier I promise . Stay strong and go no contact ❤
The reverse discard. Didnt have the balls to initiate the breakup but they do such awful things that force you to leave them. Theyre professional victims. Stay strong it gets better.
No one is enough because they don't have themselves.
Narcissist relationships have an expiration. It takes two to make a relationship. If only one person is putting in the effort, it is not going to work. Go No Contact and give it time. Your clarity will return and you will see that it was never going to work.
There is no way exnarc would ever come back again. He used me for the entire duration of the fake relationship and is on to his new victim in complete love-bomb stage. Eventually they do not return to some victims.
Yes if they get good supply. They come back to gloat.
He’s done as far as l’m concerned. What he wants to think is his business. My reality is far different and that’s all l care about. My will, my prerogative, my life.
12 years married.....and then a brutal discard..i didn't even know how evil my husband was until that...cant unsee it or unfeel it
You can also heal from it, learn from it. That’s the beauty of being an empath.
I know this is an older post. But can I ask you.. are you saying you never saw any signs .. blindsided?
@beths9113 I did notice many things that weren't "his typical", I questioned his behaviors but of course he denied. He blindsided me for sure because he just came home late from work and packed an overnight bag and left.
@@ladyvirgo013 thank you for responding! Im trying to figure out this whole narcissistic thing.. and I always wondered if someone could go years and not see the signs because of the mask they wear, so thank you !
@beths9113 I had mistaken all of it for alcoholism, Nope!! Its who he is.
i broke up with my narcissist , but was hoovered back in , she triangulated me with the new supply, we got back together for one day, i broke up again with her, i cant imagine she will ever come back, i am in a very weak state, i think about her al ot, but the idea she will ever come back doesnt compute.
Unfortunately she'll keep coming back as long as YOU allow her to do so! After being with a narcissist for 13 yrs, I've been there done that! After almost 3 yrs of no contact, he STILL tries to reach out but all he gets in return from me is silence! Rest assured, she will play you for as long as she senses your weakness; & after getting all she can get from you, she'll be gone again! To them it's never about you as a person, it's about what they can TAKE from you! Wishing you the best on your healing journey!
You might not feel like it now. But it’s the best thing to happen to you. You don’t want her back. Please be strong. There are people who will actually love you. Not a fake human who is incapable. I promise it teaches you a lot and things will be better. Sending you a big hug. You are worth much more than this! ❤
Please stay away. Your just going to get used over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over AGAIN. You gotta love yourself more. Dig deep and find what the problem is. Because something is keeping yougoing back and forth. You have to continue to research baby. We trying to save your life and your sanity. You literally need to fall back. It's never going to be the way you wanted to be. I'm going to say a quick prayer for you. I guess you haven't gotten beat up enough. (Metaphorically), and emotionally and mentally. Well good luck with that.😅
@Randall Glatt Well said. I intuitively knew when my Narc was up to something as he shared his excitement of whatever he was getting into with me as like an overflow of emotions from love bombing someone else, I didn't realise at the time but I do now. On the other hand his moods were very dark when he was in what seemed a dry period... he was indifferent, cold, ignorant, passive aggressive, depressed, and antisocial.
This happens when you walk away.
When they discard You - They never come.
At this point Joe, Hoover attempts are like a living 🤣lab.. Thanks for your great videos..🕊🙏🏼♥
Just got my first hoover. I’m ignoring!
I will never accept hi back. He’s so so done 😡
I wasn’t devestated openly. I just accepted the break up and moved on reasonably quickly with someone who is far more suited to me. Unmarried for one thing!! When I found out he was married and threatened him with exposure, that was enough to never hear from him again other than him asking if I wanted him to cut me off and block him and that my actions were unacceptable. Haven’t heard a word in 18 months. I’m SURE that is that. Threat of exposure and possible Narc injury would make sure of that, I’m thinking.
He does not have the courage to show his face i dare him i double dare him
Narcissists seem to have a sixth sense when you are at a low point and the Hoovering starts. Narcissists also will use your family and friends to access info on you and get them to drop hints about contacting you. Nothing is off limits to narcissists.
Yeah the only time they seem to want show face is when they know they got u down and under and they want to witness u suffering
Great information. Well spoken. ❤ thank you
Thank you for speaking about the Harem I often think about this Harem and try and piece together timelines...It is counterproductive to my healing I know but it helps me to understand the mind of the Narcissist. So I am guessing they instinctively know you have healed when they can't feel your energy anymore? Or spying through fake profiles? I have cut off from everyone who surrounded him our co-workers etc, and 2 months No Contact.
Where was this so called HAREM Garage ?? Or don't I ever want to know..((??😮😮
Mine recently told me he doesn’t even think about me, threw it at me how his life is great and he’s in a new relationship (he never posts about on facebook). All hear say from others. I only reached out because our dog (he has) is dying. He told I will know what I need to know: nothing. He won’t be back. And that’s just fine.
They always come back
I may be a lucky one. My ex narc is done for his cut off. He wont be coming back thankfully
Not unless they married the new supply, then yes, they will leave you alone.
Oh I got to tell you because my narc boyfriend said something very nasty to me I slapped him in the face then I left I doubt if you ever contacts me again..
My now again ex narcissist bf told me he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me while laying in bed together last week...he took me home at 6am...he went to go pick up another girl...I said I needed time to think...he said I confused him...he said fine I'll give you time to think and changed his numbers...yes everyone numbers
Is it normal to not remember the narcissist after some months of no contact and not caring
It doesn't make Any difference whether they are done with you. Your done with them game over. No contact no response no way to respond. Forget them. Omg why are you letting them cause Any damage. You know you f them. No one's opinion is more important than yours. Why is there Any way they have any possible contact with you???
Its been 6mos post discard for my covert narky ex gf. She monkeybranched. Ive been strict No Contact. She absolutely doneski w me. Pretty sure im free🦅
How do they know how to do everything to work in their favor? In hindsight so planned
How about revenge?
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There.are.a.few.narcs inwas involved with thaf never come back yet...i domt know
Do they still come back even after they move to a different country and get married?
They will contact you if the marriage is boring. The kid with toys just imagine that. Ignore if they come back
@@foreveryoung6464 My narc ex is marrying a homebody which in a different video I saw about narcissists. They don't like. I guess it is only a matter of tjme until she want's to try and reach out. Too bad for her, she is blocked, everywhere.
ARE you sure they ARE not 👽👽👽👽
What is supplying means ???
It's basically the Narcissist's need for attention (both positive and negative) and admiration to fuel their ego and bolster their false self. It's like a drug for them.
seek Jesus Christ, He is the way,
For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him. Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only Son
Jesus Said, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me"
let Jesus into your life and youll see how your whole worldview changes.
Jesus does not exist
@@donavonmacallister3101Yes He does
Also, Jesus never existed.
@@petermoore5203 You're so wrong
He is happy trust me
Can you say Restraining Order Boys and Girls? I knew you could.
Low value, because the narc knows he/she is a terrible human being, after all. Who wants that?