What is Addiction? [Gabor Maté]
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- Опубліковано 4 жов 2024
- Dr. Gabor Maté talks about the root causes of addiction and how to deal with them. This is taken from the Q&A part of TJ Dawe's show - "Medicine".
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Best 3 1/2 minutes I've spent today. My NEW favorite quote of Dr. Mate's is "how can people BE WITH THEIR PAIN, and live with it? Only if they sense some compassion, from somebody." Go and be somebody's face of compassion TODAY.
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Very well done enjoyed every minute
preach! I always say that be kind and empathetic. You have no idea what their going through.
Starting with ourselves...😘
@@yeyesanchez1141 Absolutely!!! ❤😇😊🥰
When they showed this video in one of our psychology lectures it brought tears to my eyes
It's in the music.
@@LuxMeow not only, individually though 😊
Thank you. I am "with my pain," with my isolation and loneliness, every single day. How to make it end? I will keep listening to this video. The one "gift" I have found from this pain is compassion for others. I did not have that before.
Thank you for posting.
Umarmung, Catherine ❣️
May I help you. Just thrust me. We are human we need to help each other.
A helpful book to find the causes of pain is by Beverly Engel - Healing your Emotional Self. A lot stems from our upbringing.
i need a long hug
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This video literally changed my life from the moment I saw it. I feel so grateful torwards Mr. Maté and the producers of this video. Thank you
This was my favorite video because he knows that's addiction is used to escape pain, and that addicts need compassion in order to recover. I love what he said about ,don't try and escape your pain, be with it because to to escape from pain is what causes more pain, That's the reality of addiction.
"whatever you do, don't try and escape from your pain, but be with it."
That video hit close to home. The idea about the vicous cycle of pain is nothing new to me, but I almost forgot about it. Understanding the problem is the first step to solve the problem. Thanks a lot for this!
Thank you for putting the time and energy into making this video, it is greatly appreciated!
This video has inspired me to get over my addiction of ice cubes.
And yeah, my addiction isn't exactly life threatening or supremely dangerous, so I'm thankful for that. But it is still harmful. It has damaged my teeth so much. It's harming my health. And, above all, just the fact that I'm addicted to something for so many years does not sit well with me.
And before anyone says that it's caused by vitamin, zinc or iron deficiency, think again. This might be true in some cases, but in my case, I've tried everything from supplements to subliminals to help my case, but nothing has helped.
So, I am going to get over my addiction. I'm going to overcome it now that I know what addiction is and what's the cure. Thank you Dr. Gabor Mate!
Hands down stunningly accurate, concise, effective, and of enormous value as someone in the USA can attest to the vast number of souls that suffer from addiction due to pain triggers.
This video makes so much sense. Pain is the big trigger point in addictions.
Learning to cope with all types of pain has indeed been my hugest hurdle of life to overcome. The message I get here is we must become comfortable living our lives with all pain in order to overcome it. This video is so worthy of your time.
This has been the best attempt at trying to describe an addicts obsession with drugs/alcohol.
This is spot on. Addictions begin and end in pain. So true. I love Gaor, gives me hope.
Question: How can we help to effect a greater change in society? Maybe one answer is awareness and education?
I'm so very grateful for Dr. Mate's presence in the world.
Great video. As someone in the early stages of fighting a porn addiction, I too have come to realise the importance of understanding the root causes of your addiction, which is definitely a means of escapism. It is really interesting to see you pin down this escapism on the relief from pain, in whatever form that may come (physical, emotional etc). I'm still trying to work out what my pain is, and am getting professional help to uncover this.
Mine was being sexually abused and neglected as a child
I hope you are doing well today, I have the same problem and tried to get rid of this addiction for the last 3 years. Stay strong.
Dr. Mate is a brilliant doctor and human being
this is hands down one of the most important messages i have ever heard; i grew up in a household where in order to survive i had to develop compassion and empathy beyond my age, which i always felt was important but this video explained so well as to why; it also reassured me that it was so hard to see the truth about my own life because i never had a close enough friend i wanted to trust with my pain, let alone any compassion for myself; when you take it out of your life it's like you're only living with a brain and no heart. compassion begins when you connect your reason with your heart. thank you Gabor
What the Tibetan saying really means is that we must relive our pain to gain control. To conquer our pain we must first fully immerse ourselves in the thoughts that give us pain. This feeling changes the whole electrochemical relationship between every cell in our body.
To conquer the pain (and addiction) fully this state of pain, doubt, incompetence etc must be achieved and then completely altered through bringing a feeling of strength and belief in ones future. This changes the electrochemical messages throughout the body once again. Once done (may take multiple times) you will find it is impossible to get back into the negative feeling because the electrochemical path that your body was generating leading to the feeling and behavior has been altered and does not make sense anymore.
The key to this is completely allowing yourself to feel every negative emotion at once, then refocusing until it is completely different. You will notice a change in heart rate, breathing, and may experience the feeling of vibration.
whatever you do, don't try and escape from your pain, but be with it. Because the attempt to escape from pain is what creates more pain. reality of addiction
Wisdom and compassion--what a great summary of addiction.
It is so refreshing to hear someone who thinks likes you cuz most don't. We seem to be surrounded by people dealing with our "effects" I don't know when they lost interest in the cause. Thank you very much!
Hello Gabor nagyon szep video. Magyar vagyok.
it's so amazing when as usual you just click to watch another video on youtube and you get rewarded with a new vision on the problem that bothered you for a long while, with a new answer on a question you didn't even think of ..
you, sir, do a wonderful job and, honestly, if only i could, I would personally pay you for at least another 10 years to do such amazing videos .. and I really mean it !! you should be reminded everyday that your work is appreciated, because your videos, that include the speech and the text of it, get into our heads a lot more deeply than just listening or reading apart !!! keep spreading ideas and remember that at least today you changed someones mind in a better way ;)
ps: english is not my native language, sorry for any errors
ps: could you please post a link to the hole video of the TJ Dawe's show - "Medicine" ? I was able to find only different small parts of it on youtube, but I definitely would like to watch if full ;)
here's the full video of Medicine: ua-cam.com/video/47MoQTDJ3wQ/v-deo.html
5 days clean from cannabis, about 3 months clean off opioids . Thank you Gabor .
"addictions begin with pain and end wtih pain"
I literally ended my cannabis addiction with physical pain being triggered after smoking for years.
Keep it up, you won't regret quitting.
Beautiful wise concise insightful and true.
I love the calming pace of this clip ~ Thank you ☆☮♥
Great video,I am a recovering addict and I have been looking for something like this to relate to in some way for a while now.Thanks for sharing.
This guy has become my god. I discovered him a year after I left rehab and I've never looked back. He's like my own personal support worker, he makes sense and talks my language. I'm just writing a recovery programme and it will be his videos I will be showing my groups along with teal swan. She's a brilliant spiritual worker who makes sense to me also. If you havnt watched these people then you should. Very informative. Thank you gabor I love you xx
Brilliant. I am in recovery myself sober now for a long time and I worked in the field for 9 years. I knew this instinctively.
This video should reach every addicted human to help him
+we4sley1 or her*
This video changed my entire life view of pain and it's relationship to addictions. It even inspired me to write this blog post resistancealways.wordpress.com/2014/01/30/pain/
Thank you OmegaPoint and Dr. Gabor Mate for your efforts and work!
That's awesome. I will read the blog tonight when I get home. Thank you!
Hi, my prof showed us this video and in class and I came across you're comment and you're blog. I have to say, that is a very well put and I have never bothered to comment on any video till now. Thank you for sharing that.
Brilliant Mohadesa
Gabor Mate is fucking brilliant. I love this edit. Well done.
just noticed you got fully funded for your kickstarter...... that's great news! I love your videos my friend. Keep em coming. :D
Yes! Will surely keep em coming xD
I don’t comment but I just wanna thank anyone who helped make this video
Now, I understand why I am not an addict because I have always been with my pain. However, I have no real support system! Why, I always flirted with suicide.
I definitely recognize this in my own life. Working on what's causing the pain (not running away from hell, but be with it) slowly decreases all kinds of addictive behaviour in my life. What I would also like to add is that, in my experience, every time you indulge in an addiction, this is causing more trauma and therefore more pain. Even with so called 'less harmless' addictions as working or checking your e-mail or phone. Hard loop to break. Beautiful that it's done with compassion. It can be given by others, but also by yourself. Thank you for making and sharing this video.
Thank you for everything about this.. I really needed it right now, and being a filmmaker myself I just can't get over how perfectly you presented it.. The narration, the message, the editing style, the music, everything is just incredible! It would be an honor to collab on a video with you one day my friend, thanks again
I am glad I had you as a dr when I was living in the eastside. I will never forget you dr Gabor Mate thank you I now have 5 years clean and in college now too help other like me. If I can do so can away one
Whatever you do, don’t try and escape from your pain, but be with it.
This video completely change my point of view of human behave! A great inspiration of generating hope of our world!
great channel mate, keep em coming the world needs this. the world needs US.
I love how he mentioned the internet and other addictions that are not as notorious as the "hard drugs", but are just as destructive. Drugs are not the only medium people use to self soothe. I think there is also a misconception that all pain is bad, some pains are just growing pains.
This man is amazing. A true healer.
I love Gabor's work. He gets it. I strongly believe the way to beat serious drug addiction and the problems it causes in society is with compassion. Not criminalising and further isolating people who are already traumatised and burning out fast.
Thanks, thats what my thought is aswell…
Overcoming pain is incredibly satisfying.
the way to cure the pain to be with the pain. amazing , love the video .
Find a way to be with your pain. I used my own fear. Lifes hard but I was fearful of making mine harder. Take the pain, it's part of the package. I never went down the road of addiction. I was too scared to walk that road.
I have so much respect for Maté and his work ❤ thank you for this great video!
Mad respect, he's amazing
Seems like capitalism thrives on our escapism from pain
deep.....
brave new world
Yeah that is true my cousin from Cuba didn't have money to buy drugs he couldn't Panhandle and the government wasn't going to cut him a fat check while he sits on his butt so there's a lot of Truth to that I'd rather have capitalism and have choices
ACE Study of over 17000 participants by Anda and Felitti provide research based evidence of what Mate is asserting
wow that was a great video!
Life is a constant experiment. Nobody really knows that what they are doing will yield something extraordinary or what their pain may lead to. Sometimes to great things! One of the most important tenets is - what we concentrate on grows. That is not to suggest we must never concentrate on pain. No, not at all. But we often neglect to concentrate on our strengths and inner resources, on the beauty we each encapsulate and that is our birthright and we concentrate too often on our "blockages". My view is we ought to recognize our capacities constantly so that we find ways that they will grow, and link with others in the human family. It's no wonder people lapse into addiction to cope with the ugly, cruel world they have come into. But the world is only ugly and cruel because we make it that way. We have enabled the ugly and cruel instead of the beautiful and the pleasurable. What if we refused to accept anything that was not beautiful to us or that was not enjoyable? People think that's unrealistic but how do they know? When have we tried? We often act like chickens running around scared of the big bad rooster. Roosters are full of bravado. Try something different! Just go "boo" and see what happens. The roosters are not getting the proper feedback so they continue to peck. A rooster is anyone who tries to tell you how to live, who makes rules for you to follow. These rules have not averted chaos. Quite the contrary, the rule makers perpetrate chaos. Until we know with our every fiber that nobody is superior or inferior to us and that every living thing has as much right to live as we do, ugliness and cruelty will be the order of the day. Fortunately at every given moment, we have a choice and the choices are unlimited. We just have to have the creativity and the boldness to try something we've never tried before.
Thank you Denise. Wise words!
Denise Ward "the world is only ugly and cruel because we make it that way." Until one gets raped or taken hostage. Then someone else makes it that way. And yes.
You have to deal with emotions otherwise they will never come to pass. Substance abuse is nothing more than a symptom to a greater problem.
Dr Gabor Mate if u see this I'm Jo rain creating awareness for the residential school trauma that we as first Nation suffer I wanted to see if I could use some of your clips because your words are like reading my mind n I got the utmost respect for u I appreciate. All your work n hope to meet you one day thank u
One of the best video in UA-cam, thank you!
Awesome video. So powerful!
“There is a saying in Tibetan, 'Tragedy should be utilized as a source of strength.'
No matter what sort of difficulties, how painful experience is, if we lose our hope, that's our real disaster.” - Dalai Lama XIV
I need that support 43 years of pain, I can't run anymore. I just want the basics, nothing complicated
As a former crystal meth and alcohol addict, I agree, I was in so much emotional misery, before I started using, it will take me away from myself (hence Richard Keech) in the end it was a slow death
His conversation with Tim Ferris on his podcast is amazing. Go listen to it.
Wow, thanks so much for making this video. It is so true.
^The best Video ever on net not only yuotube it spoke the truth...
Go Owls !!!
AA should listen to gabor mate
All substances of abuse (addictions) are pain killers. Addiction is the attempt to soothe or to kill pain - and to feel alive. The paradox that’s happening here is that, in the attempt to live, the addicted die. This is awful, but I understand. I didn’t see this clearly before but it makes total sense. So sad. I feel so much compassion.
Physical pain and emotional pain are experienced in the same part of the brain! Emotional rejection, for example, is experienced similarly to being stabbed!
The root of addiction is emotional - loss or trauma. Addictions are all attempts to get away from emotional distress. Addiction isn’t a choice, a volitional act of the will. Nor is it a result of genetics. It is an attempt to escape the pain of life.
What’s the solution or at least part of it? Don’t try to escape pain. The attempt to avert or to escape pain actually creates more pain. The attempt to escape pain leads to addiction which leads to pain which leads to addiction and on and on in a vicious vortex it goes.
The other part of the solution equation is, surprise surprize, compassion. “… only when compassion is present will people allow themselves to see the truth!”. Compassion is like a runaway lane on a highway, an alternate route, for a vehicle without brakes and certain to crash. Compassion embraces the addicted and provides vital support to stop the pain run. Notice, compassion isn’t judgement or abandonment or well wishing (“Hey, you got this!). Compassion is a firm declaration, an infusion of the support of another (“Hey, I got you!”) that assists the addicted to turn around - to square off with pain.
Relief isn’t instant however. Addiction (pain) cannot be effectively dealt with through distraction. Once again, reality sovereignly dictates that there isn’t a quick fix - even in a society of “fast”.
In summary, addiction is the manifestation of emotional pain and requires the infusion of the compassionate support of another in order to deal with it effectively instead of vainly attempting to escape.
My heart goes out to people know one really knows how it can feel to be on this side people are so cruel
Gee I didn't know! Thanx for sharing your infinite wisdom.
Awesome guy!!
Excellent!
How does this have only 363 k views while a video of a sneezing Panda has 220 million? I like the panda clip and all but bloody hell, this just shows how unwilling most people are when it comes to facing and feeling their pain.
... and great, thoughtful, useful video. Thank you!
excellent insights
I love this approach!
I always believed that i just can deal with lost. I lost my father wheb i was kid and start drink every single day, take ecstasy on a daily basis. With 30 years old lost my life love then went to other level. Start use heroine, crack.... Mostly heroine. And I realized, i was with a big problem. So, definitely, de pain, the emotional pain is very danger. I have benn clean for 3 months, after 3 years of drugs. But there's not a single day i do not think on her on drugs
Really touched by this insightful video! Thank you
Arthur Janov wrote about this already over 30 years ago in "Prisoners of Pain" and all the other books about Primal Pain.
The band "Tears for Fears" based all of their songs on the album "The Hurting" on this subject: Feeling your own pain! With songs like "Mad World", "Pale Shelter", "Ideas as Opiates", "Watch Me Bleed", "The Prisoner" and many more.....
"Ideas As Opiates":
Say what you want
Say what you will
'Cos I find you think what makes it easier
And lies spread on lies
We don't care
Belief is our relief
We don't care
It is good to know about Love, And truth of life segment of societal force of Britain.
If I had $1 for every time I shared this video I’d be getting rich. I can tell you personally it’s the most important video in regards to addiction and explaining addiction & hopefully understanding addiction ✨💛✨
Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
Amen Dr - you are amazing you really get it !! 🙏
Gabor Mate, great mind great video thanks for sharing.....
My family will never understand this. They are much to shallow. Addiction is far more deep than a choice.
Beautiful.
Excellent video
AHO thank you Dr. Mate!
I need a dr to bring me back to life
We all have pain but some don’t have the tools to cope
that will help me in my gratuation's uni research. thank you
Yes this is absolutely true.
addiction awareness pulled me here
Thought the lady near the end was about to drink some wine. It was ayahuasca. When I noticed that I almost threw up on my iPhone. Good medicine!
Awesome video, thank you!
I need a therapist like him.
wow you 're great Dr.
This is good information; however, I'm quite concerned about the possible "trigger" effect of the imagery you use. Addicts watching this video are highly likely to experience any number of triggers throughout the 3 minute presentation. Please consider putting the information forth without the drug culture visuals. Thank you for listening.
It was an escape. It was a relief ( at the moment ). Yes I agree quit sweeping issues and past pain under the rug. Deal with things. I don't think there is one person on this earth said to themselves when I grow up I want to be a junkie or a crackhead or an alcoholic. It's life circumstances. A person can only take so much and their going to need and want an escape. Especially If you grew up in a dysfunctional home. In a dysfunctional home your not learning or receiving any needed tools you need for life. When you grow up in a dysfunctional family your hypervidulant and trying to stay safe. Your waiting for the next dirty look or screaming match. It's so sad that some people get the short end of the stick and it takes a lot of mistakes and hard lessons learned to see the light. All's we ever wanted as children was to be accepted and loved!
This man is selfless. He truly cares about people. I love listening to his videos and I am reading a book he wrote on my kindle app. ♡♡♡
What we resist, will persist.
Thank you!!