8 SIGNS A MAN IS STRINGING YOU ALONG by RC Blakes

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  • @jackierumph6963
    @jackierumph6963 2 роки тому +264

    " Every woman should have a man that's PROUD to have her."

    • @marcycat
      @marcycat 2 роки тому +4

      I prefer a man I'm proud I chose to let him be a part of my life because he has mutual love and respect.

    • @vixenxiiiv
      @vixenxiiiv 2 роки тому +1

      💜

    • @sharondewitt2426
      @sharondewitt2426 2 роки тому +2

      This blessed my soul

    • @monabernadotte8521
      @monabernadotte8521 2 роки тому +2

      I agreed!

  • @velvedermskin2371
    @velvedermskin2371 2 роки тому +502

    1. The person can't give a direct answer to a direct question
    2. They possess an endless list of changes they want you to make
    3. He doesn't show you in public...you are a well kept secret... no pics of you on his social media page
    4. He makes no financial investment into the relationship
    5. He gives you the line that he's just not good enough for you
    6. He creates a high sexual frequency to manipulate you
    7. "Breadcrumbing"...dishes out or feeds you just enough to keep you interested
    8. He is not moved by or sensitive to the fact that you're not happy

  • @ventibreeze6648
    @ventibreeze6648 2 роки тому +184

    “they leave you on the edge of hope and they never deliver “
    Very true

  • @yemedemure414
    @yemedemure414 2 роки тому +898

    I done had every kind of man EXCEPT a Godly man who Christ is his head. Legs closed until marriage. Most men lead you to the bedroom but not God. I remember Pastor Blakes said “I love you means nothing if he doesn’t care where your soul ends up” ❤️

    • @porschewalker5652
      @porschewalker5652 2 роки тому +16

      🎯

    • @brendasollers5252
      @brendasollers5252 2 роки тому +13

      Yeme they not all good either they no different then other men out here they still people most guys just want sex or talk bulshit

    • @yemedemure414
      @yemedemure414 2 роки тому +26

      @@brendasollers5252 The one who God ordains for me will be. Hebrew men are different from religious men. Everything will be done in decency and order. He will go to my Elder first to ask permission to court me. No physical contact just discerning each other spirits. And making spiritual and mental connections first. If all goes well, we will be married within 1yr! ❤

    • @yemedemure414
      @yemedemure414 2 роки тому +5

      @@porschewalker5652 ❤❤

    • @yemedemure414
      @yemedemure414 2 роки тому +8

      @@ms.angieb.1597 I had to learn this Sis!! Cracked my head a few times ❤❤

  • @daniellelewis363
    @daniellelewis363 Рік тому +22

    To be honest, a man can marry you and still be stringing you along. I experienced all this in my marriage. It's rough out here. I'm starting to think that I'm better off on my own.

  • @laurapernotto2023
    @laurapernotto2023 2 роки тому +34

    When a man tells you he’s not good enough for you, believe him.

    • @Erica-cf1xb
      @Erica-cf1xb 5 місяців тому +1

      That's bait. Slam the door and watch him try to find another entry point.

    • @stephaniegriffin2171
      @stephaniegriffin2171 3 місяці тому

      The guy that I'm currently with says I need to go for therapy before marriage. Mind you this is a guy who cheated on me years ago with another man!

    • @ashleym6765
      @ashleym6765 11 днів тому

      ​@@stephaniegriffin2171And you still with him? 🤡

  • @tiachantel
    @tiachantel 2 роки тому +51

    “As long as you keep being strung along by the wrong man, you are not available for the right man to find you”. .. SMH 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

    • @Erica-cf1xb
      @Erica-cf1xb 5 місяців тому

      This is any string. Nobody will find you if enough low vibrational entities are pulling at you AND all saying the same thing. It's a trafficker lifestyle.

  • @Indi9oMoorMARs
    @Indi9oMoorMARs 2 роки тому +230

    8 Signs A Man Is Stringing You Along:
    Well one, you're waiting to watch this video... Lol
    2.) He says, "i don't want relationship pressure. I just want to let it do what it does."
    3.) He only comes around at night. (No actual date).
    4.) There's no talk of the dynamics of you 2 together/the relationship, if there's a relationship.
    5.) He hasn't invited you around his family.
    6. Thru 8 games games and more games, mixed with bullswanky, malarkey, tomfoolery, shenanigans, bologna, and hogwash...

    • @RCBlakesJr.
      @RCBlakesJr.  2 роки тому +64

      😂😂😂😂 That was funny

    • @healthylivingandhealthylif744
      @healthylivingandhealthylif744 2 роки тому +24

      So many women need to hear this one

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 2 роки тому +30

      Especially if he is fine with premarital sex. If he truly loves you, he will court God's way or at least attempt to. My man is willing to wait....it's not easy but we were in fornication years ago and we got burnt. Now we are abstinent. That shows me he loves me but let me say it again..lots of warfare' and attacks from the devil. So armour up and don't have your pretty head in the clouds. Don't consider dating an Ungodly man. He has to be surrendered to the Lord. Period.

    • @pattydiggs5018
      @pattydiggs5018 2 роки тому +4

      I had should of filled in for the pastor ...did you see the video because im still waiting for him since saturday

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 2 роки тому +36

      @@iamme17449 Women are intuitive. Deep down a woman knows the deal but often for various reasons, doesn't take heed.

  • @KrystleLaughter
    @KrystleLaughter 2 роки тому +56

    Sounds like my ex-husband. Always making promises, but never able to deliver. I stayed for so long because I saw his potential and I didn't want to be a single mom again. Turns out all he did was hold me back and sabotage everything good in my life. I lost so much in that relationship including myself. Never again!

  • @bree-c4u
    @bree-c4u 2 роки тому +60

    To anyone who is heart broken from a relationship or situationship, I would advise you to go on a fast & ask God to sever all negative soul-ties associated and to heal your heart. It got me through a break up I thought I would never ever move on from. It's been 2 years with that man on blocked & I've never felt better.

  • @c.l.9344
    @c.l.9344 2 роки тому +220

    Just because a man opens up his bedroom to you, doesn't mean he's opened up his heart to you. Lust begins in the bedroom and love begins in the heart. Love begins spiritually before it continues sexually through marriage. Keep your legs close. And do it God's way. 🙏🏼♥️💍💎

  • @brittanyb5942
    @brittanyb5942 2 роки тому +223

    I spent many many years being strung along by men. It's embarrassing and heartbreaking to admit but truth is truth and may it set me free!! 🙏🏾

    • @danyellg3079
      @danyellg3079 2 роки тому +2

      Yes it will! When your heart too dam good 💔

    • @mzsimplybeth
      @mzsimplybeth 2 роки тому +1

      Me too!

    • @lesliethomas5088
      @lesliethomas5088 2 роки тому +11

      You are not alone sis! The revelation is the first sign of healing. God is good

    • @smilingface4761
      @smilingface4761 2 роки тому +1

      I did too

    • @shutit4024
      @shutit4024 2 роки тому +5

      Don’t feel bad! If you heard my story you would feel 2nd hand embarrassment for me lol

  • @ed000
    @ed000 2 роки тому +426

    These signs of stringing always show up in normal friendships, family as well as romantic relationships..... I have reviewed,deleted and blocked all out of my life...I am drinking lots of water, praying and minding my business. Thank you for your teachings and prayer!!

    • @ritascott1104
      @ritascott1104 2 роки тому +18

      You nailed it! " drinking lots of water " lol

    • @Dr.J1972
      @Dr.J1972 2 роки тому +4

      🙌🏾 Praise God for all things.

    • @amerokeewiya1320
      @amerokeewiya1320 2 роки тому +2

      Yup

    • @rrnn6472
      @rrnn6472 2 роки тому +12

      @ I am confident: You are so right. I had a coworker (Christian) who would always say we should go to lunch when next we had a half day. It took me a while to realize she was not genuine. The experience taught me to be careful about my words.

    • @nikkyshamz2696
      @nikkyshamz2696 2 роки тому +3

      Amen

  • @lizafulcher7917
    @lizafulcher7917 2 роки тому +65

    "Sometimes you gotta hurt to heal"....felt that in my spirit

  • @beautyshines2124
    @beautyshines2124 2 роки тому +76

    Stringing is like playing mind games, manipulations and controlling your life. A narcissistic behavior. Leave them coz you can get nothing in that relationship.

  • @zoejaiattoh1243
    @zoejaiattoh1243 2 роки тому +300

    Every time I listen to one of your teachings , I feel so emotional and embarrassed and how many mistakes I have made and if I will ever find the man God has for me .I am in the healing ❤️‍🩹 process. I pray 🙏🏾 your teachings continue to inspire and heal.

  • @vaclinciapounds8859
    @vaclinciapounds8859 2 роки тому +333

    This message really hit me like a ton of bricks! In the past I would confuse sex with love and I have been burned emotionally. Now I let God guide my mind, heart, and spirit and I have been single for three years. It was the line you said Pastor Blakes, "a man can have sex with you and don't even like you." This message goes for so called friendships too because I cut off a lot of females who I thought were my friends and tried to take my kindness for granted. I pray, go to work, take care of home, and stay away from drama and mess! 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @chanellove3482
      @chanellove3482 2 роки тому +11

      🙏🏾👏🏽

    • @trudyramgren8817
      @trudyramgren8817 2 роки тому +7

      Vaclincia I think I misspelled your name. I'm sorry .lol. I agree with you one hundred percent!!!! Thank you for sharing this! ❤

    • @carolmazyck8259
      @carolmazyck8259 2 роки тому +3

      Thank You RC Blake Good Teaching

    • @yvonnewashington7538
      @yvonnewashington7538 2 роки тому +2

      Awesome!

    • @luyandampungose2533
      @luyandampungose2533 2 роки тому +6

      Vaclincia your story sounds exactly like mine, It happened recently the break up I mean* ,I was so hurt because he left and moved in with my best friend friend and my best friend is in on it as well.Just after listening to Pastor Blakes my heart just became at PEACE.

  • @ysmithriley
    @ysmithriley 2 роки тому +90

    BREADCRUMBING - just enough to keep you HANNNGING ONTO THE HOPE 🙏 🙏 🙏 that you'll one day be in a RELATIONSHIP with them ‼️ 100% FACTS❗

  • @samwalker4377
    @samwalker4377 2 роки тому +52

    I was thrown completely off by the actions of one man, he introduced me to his family; met with my parents (his idea) and told my parents that he wanted me to be his wife; he met with the pastor for marriage counseling (told the pastor he wanted me to be his wife); stated he had purchased the ring but he was waiting on the "Right" time to give it. Insisted that the ring was huge (or had a huge stone); offered to give me a key to his place- etc. I didn't accept the key because I didn't want him to have a key to my place. The breaking point, never set a date but continuously put it off, never saw the ring and said he wasn't ready but couldn't tell me when or what had changed. He was 55 years old and couldn't articulate his wants other than physical. I called it quits 2.5 years too long - time that can never be replaced.

  • @helenkennedy4661
    @helenkennedy4661 2 роки тому +84

    It's not so surprising as most men are training women to be happy with crumb trails leading nowhere. We need to flip the script, thank you for your wisdom and help. It means so much to so many.

    • @Dr.J1972
      @Dr.J1972 2 роки тому +3

      💯🙌🏾

    • @meli7315
      @meli7315 Рік тому +3

      Exactly! Every woman needs to say what she wants from a man and if he doesn’t want to commit after a woman has communicated what she wants than bye and the woman need to move one. Otherwise the Trapp is going on and on and walking in cycles and not coming forward in life. Women need to ask direct questions!

    • @Erica-cf1xb
      @Erica-cf1xb 5 місяців тому

      It's already been flipped. Prostitutes are doing it. So to not look like them or be treated like them or attract the same kind of entities that like their smell....you have to detach AND change your chemistry.

    • @kjbkjhkjhjk7775
      @kjbkjhkjhjk7775 2 місяці тому

      be so happy in your life, you know you got all you need already then it looks like nothing in comparison to what you already have!

  • @crystalwilliams6355
    @crystalwilliams6355 2 роки тому +182

    The sad part about it is: that he doesn’t feel like he’s not stringing you along THEY NEVER DO

    • @4booboocito
      @4booboocito 2 роки тому +8

      FACTS!💯

    • @pattygeee2298
      @pattygeee2298 2 роки тому +41

      They are very aware of what they are doing.

    • @Livelearnapply
      @Livelearnapply 2 роки тому +13

      @@pattygeee2298 very very aware. Maybe even told u once or twice but as I did ignore it and think I could change him

    • @larsandradouglas3119
      @larsandradouglas3119 2 роки тому +26

      Trust me they are very aware of what they are doing it’s all a joke to them Queens gotta learn to look past what there mouth is saying and discern there spirit but Only way to do that is to close our legs like God commands and engage the Holy Spirit because the Holy Spirit reveals all things 💯‼️

    • @latonciajones8983
      @latonciajones8983 2 роки тому +2

      @@larsandradouglas3119 that part!!! It works like a charm. Thats what I did and the truth was revealed

  • @LittleBlueFeather-bq8fl
    @LittleBlueFeather-bq8fl 10 місяців тому +4

    "God is not the author of confusion." Amen brother Blakes. Thank you for sharing your words and heart to us all.

  • @jacquelinebell6467
    @jacquelinebell6467 2 роки тому +49

    Breadcrumbing is a narcissist move.

  • @tomikacox360
    @tomikacox360 2 роки тому +58

    He is stringing you along when he does not show any true intention.. I’m 46 and don’t have time for foolishness. At this age, it doesn’t take a man long AT ALL to know if he will marry you or not. I’m not in a relationship but desire one and will wait before settling for foolishness. I don’t have the patience for it. I value my time and energy.

    • @Vicki1951
      @Vicki1951 2 роки тому +3

      I’m right beside you sister. ❤️

    • @denisegreen6878
      @denisegreen6878 2 роки тому +2

      You took the words right out of my mouth I don't have time for it period

  • @cissyetyus921
    @cissyetyus921 2 роки тому +138

    If he’s serious about the relationship, he’ll put a ring on it at least engage you! I just “woke up” on my situation ship…thank you Lord God!🙌🏾🙏🏾

    • @smilingface4761
      @smilingface4761 2 роки тому +22

      I had the ring and it was all a lie. He was supposed to be a man of God and he was nothing in the end but a liar and a devil. My lesson learned is ask God if that person is for you.

    • @reneeoverton2677
      @reneeoverton2677 2 роки тому +7

      I Done I Working On Myself Raise My Two Son's (39,30) Have 4 Grandchildren's Some Men Give You a Ring To Close Your Mouth And They Never Married You Got Back to Love God

    • @cherrycrawford8342
      @cherrycrawford8342 2 роки тому +15

      That " Ring " is a string along " Promise Ring " to take you off the market !! Or to just " Shut you up ". You are Single until you are Married. Period.

    • @shutit4024
      @shutit4024 2 роки тому +6

      I know some people with rings that still haven’t had the wedding and I’m talking about 3 plus years

    • @rainbowtrout75
      @rainbowtrout75 2 роки тому +1

      @@cherrycrawford8342 the ring he gave me was the magicians symbol in tarot-(infinity hearts) perfect because he played magic tricks for fun but he was also a magician in real life, illusionary, a deceiver

  • @Kelly_Lee
    @Kelly_Lee 2 роки тому +55

    Fasting helps with mental clarity... I am on a social media fast as well as intermittent fasting for health and wellness and lifestyle diet changes... Fasting from negative people, places, and things really allows one to see things from a fresh and different perspective... mind, soul, and body begin to get on the same playing field and you become stronger, better, and wiser every darn day! Thank you, Father Blakes, for your teachings! We love you, dearly ❤

  • @jamilabarnes845
    @jamilabarnes845 2 роки тому +43

    RC Blakes you are my secret weapon against the games men play!! Changed my life! Thank you and I praise God for you!

  • @fluffysox6072
    @fluffysox6072 2 роки тому +173

    I know that you intended this to be about relationships, but it really resonated with me about my last job. They would promise everyone the world when they started, but less than 5% ever got to move forward into new positions. For years I was told “maybe next time, just do this, just do that, wait until after this…” eventually I realized it and left that job after 4 years. We were led to believe that you had to struggle, deal with constant rejection and go through the pits to be in a position to use our strengths. This wasn’t true. Now I am making a lot more and I am genuinely appreciated and valued at work. Great word bishop ❤️

    • @avgonyma1
      @avgonyma1 2 роки тому +15

      This is a general strategy, used be many companies, to squeeze the max out of people (by giving them false hope).
      I went trough the same, except I knew from day 1 that this is the case, I even told them.
      When things don't feel right, when they feel off, they are off. When you start to notice that, it's not good to convince yourself that it's not that bad and will hopefully get better. It never does.

    • @11071874
      @11071874 2 роки тому +11

      You can relate Bishop Blakes lessons to everything. I experienced that on my previous job too. Finally left and didn’t look back.

    • @brittanyb5942
      @brittanyb5942 2 роки тому +6

      Wow sounds alot like my the jobs I've had!

    • @shutit4024
      @shutit4024 2 роки тому +1

      @@11071874 same!!!

  • @daphenernorwood
    @daphenernorwood 2 роки тому +88

    Hope deferred does make the heart sick! I’m mad I was so foolish. I’m glad you and God woke me up. I was so enthralled with this person because I wanted a relationship with him. He was my “dream guy.” But I knew deep down he wasn’t God’s guy. Thank you God for your divine protection. Thanks Pastor for this message.

    • @erickacole3818
      @erickacole3818 2 роки тому +2

      This is the one! 😔

    • @16Alessandra
      @16Alessandra 2 роки тому +6

      I love this!!! “Dream guy” but not God’s guy ❤️❤️❤️

  • @suzismith9681
    @suzismith9681 2 роки тому +36

    My mum used to say, give any man what he wants and you will never get a ring on your finger. Theres no bargaining power, he's been given it all ( at no cost to him). Why would he change? Keep your self respect ( not a hot topic, these days) if hes a good one, he will respect you and hang around, if not, he wasn't worth it. That sounds really harsh, but life can be. Thankyou Dr Blake's for telling it like it is. Not giving away your power as Samson did.

  • @lynn4134
    @lynn4134 2 роки тому +260

    Thank you Pastor Blakes! You’ve helped me break a soul tie I’ve been locked into for YEARS! So grateful to you and for your wisdom and straight talk! 🙏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

    • @jillianjillian5493
      @jillianjillian5493 2 роки тому +11

      I'm so proud of you, I know from experience you will be just fine🙂

    • @queenbee297
      @queenbee297 2 роки тому +2

      So proud of you Sis! It's not an easy thing to do.

    • @meli7315
      @meli7315 Рік тому

      💯 thank you 🙏

  • @tai5819
    @tai5819 2 роки тому +10

    “When he running through your house and 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 …and he hasn’t put money on the table…it ain’t going no further”. I fell out 😱😂

  • @peachyone7123
    @peachyone7123 2 роки тому +139

    I’m in tears right now watching you Pastor because every single word you are saying is so true. I am going through this right now as we speak and I am trying break free from this man , every day I pray to God to help me detach🙏🏽😭he strung me along for over a year now

    • @Dr.J1972
      @Dr.J1972 2 роки тому +19

      Keep praying Lakisha 🙏🏽...it is difficult making the decision to let go. You gotta do what is best for you. God's BLESSINGS my Queen

    • @peachyone7123
      @peachyone7123 2 роки тому +8

      @@Dr.J1972 thank you so very much for your encouraging words🙏🏽

    • @Klassyladyk
      @Klassyladyk 2 роки тому +14

      This time is now. A year is too long

    • @peggyrittenberry1613
      @peggyrittenberry1613 2 роки тому +17

      Oh dear one...I can hear the pain in your heart and understand it too well myself. God please help this Sister, and please HELP us follow the unction of the Holy Spirit 🙏 In the strong name of Jesus Christ ✝️💝

    • @tiyamika.yawawa1205
      @tiyamika.yawawa1205 2 роки тому +3

      Sending you self strength💘

  • @anon_ya
    @anon_ya 2 роки тому +11

    “Sometimes you got to hurt to heal, and the hurt reveals where the problem area is.” 🙌🏽

  • @jillanderson3445
    @jillanderson3445 2 роки тому +84

    This was my last 7 years... always hoping for the best, ignoring the signs, years wasted. In that age bracket where I cannot go through this again, no longer trust, exhausted. Thank you Pastor.

    • @AJ-kb9hf
      @AJ-kb9hf 2 роки тому +6

      Get out and hope you find what you are looking for.

    • @kmarie8206
      @kmarie8206 2 роки тому +1

      About to be ten years. Been separated for a year because he wouldn’t marry me. Now all of a sudden he wants to and still nothing. It’s extremely exhausting. I understand what you mean.

    • @abie4230
      @abie4230 2 роки тому

      What do you consider to be the age bracket?

    • @karlaacuna4094
      @karlaacuna4094 Рік тому

      @@kmarie8206same girl.. dated 8 years, broke up and got back together 2020 and now year after year still no ring…

  • @Dominiquebroom
    @Dominiquebroom 2 роки тому +116

    Having peace and raising my babies is everything to me right now!

    • @latrellfreeland3589
      @latrellfreeland3589 2 роки тому +11

      Yes ! I have two children and this has been on my heart heavy ❤ lately!

    • @Dominiquebroom
      @Dominiquebroom 2 роки тому +7

      @@latrellfreeland3589 you got this! Peace, love and happiness

    • @zandilesokhela1578
      @zandilesokhela1578 2 роки тому +6

      Love you sisters!!

    • @Dominiquebroom
      @Dominiquebroom 2 роки тому +3

      @@zandilesokhela1578 love you too !!! 😍😍

    • @Momma766
      @Momma766 2 роки тому +13

      At first I thought I couldn’t do it alone and to my amazement once BD was gone the whole job got easier. House was looking great, kids on a good schedule, going to the gym 3x a week and didn’t miss a beat! I thought that the pressures of being a working mom and homemaker was killing me but the whole time it was just that energy succubus diabolical adult child life waster bed bug. Praise Jesus!

  • @deborahgray8726
    @deborahgray8726 2 роки тому +74

    I want to thank you for this message. Your ministry is truly a gift from God. I was married for 27 years & divorced for 8. I’m still trying to navigate my way through this single life. I have been so broken but thank God that I was lead to your channel. I am now healing. I have subscribed to your channel and I have committed to listening to you daily while at work. I have also committed to take a year off from dating and work on self care. I have had this old car parked in my driveway for 5 years now and it is about to be towed so that my Bentley can come ☺️ This message has blessed me tremendously. Thank you for your commitment to help us women through wisdom and the Word of God.

  • @sergine41
    @sergine41 2 роки тому +8

    " Stop making all that noise. " I was cracking up. 🤣🤣🤣. I thank God for deliverance!

  • @tinajackson390
    @tinajackson390 2 роки тому +15

    I always tell females, males are the best teacher's, regardless of who they are 👏👏👏👏👏👏

  • @Stormy867
    @Stormy867 2 роки тому +35

    This man of God is really dropping the game and gems!

  • @jazmenwalker2828
    @jazmenwalker2828 2 роки тому +29

    You literally just woke me up. I’ve been in this situation and I’ve been the only one trying to make it work, and having those difficult conversations about where our future is headed. And when we have those talks I’m still left feeling confused and unsatisfied smh. I never wanted to believe that the person was stringing me along but I see it clear as day now.

  • @alexusnatoridiamond
    @alexusnatoridiamond 11 місяців тому +2

    My ex physically, mentally and spiritually abused me and never apologized for what he did. After the breakup, he would try to find a way to get around it even when it was mentioned, just never taking accountability for what he did. Before meeting him I was content with where I was with God! I was ashamed of the fact I left that place where I felt so confident, loved, seen and adored by the father for less ... ESPECIALLY WHEN I KNOW BETTER. This man claimed to be a man of God and I believed him until I seen he did not carry the fruits of the spirit whatsoever. Thank you for this video because a part of me still wanted to believe the lies but I know God removed me out of that situation to save my life. This was a needed reminder!

    • @lala5061
      @lala5061 2 місяці тому

      Oh my God...this is something I can write...I am u literally everything u said I feel like we might have been with the same man 🤔...I am so sorry this happened to u, we gotta forgive them and then get those memories out of our head! It's like everyday for many years while with him the memories amd flashbacks would just consume my brain I was making myself self with it all
      ..im still trying to release those bad memories as there wasn't many good ones to think of when I think about that relationship 😕...God bless u 🙏🏽

  • @StandupGirl-ym3ey
    @StandupGirl-ym3ey 2 роки тому +36

    I feel real stupid because I was recently in situationship! Lasted almost 2 months but It was something about him that never sat right! His energy was not good and I would get anxious after talking to him! Smh I got out finally because I felt I knew better!!

    • @Vicki1951
      @Vicki1951 2 роки тому +6

      I’m proud of you. It only took 2 months. I have spent 2 years on a couple.

    • @bree-c4u
      @bree-c4u 2 роки тому +6

      Well done on leaving! 2 months and not 2 years, praise God

    • @Erica-cf1xb
      @Erica-cf1xb 5 місяців тому

      Part of growing up is the feeling stupid part. The alternative route is cosplay. The majority of people are choosing to cosplay put of fear of the exposure. So they teach you the lesson that they themselves have yet to learn or acknowledge.

  • @adelafirme
    @adelafirme 2 роки тому +184

    So ready for another Bishop Blakes #1 hits!!! 😆 Those hits have gotten me through a nasty relationship. I've made it to the other side where healing and wholeness are. So glade to be here by God's good grace. Thanks Bishop 🤗❤✝️

    • @RCBlakesJr.
      @RCBlakesJr.  2 роки тому +17

      Thank you 😊

    • @adelafirme
      @adelafirme 2 роки тому +3

      @@ms.angieb.1597 He's good Sis!

    • @ladyzinada5341
      @ladyzinada5341 2 роки тому +4

      Proud for you beautiful. Know your Worthy

    • @adelafirme
      @adelafirme 2 роки тому +2

      Yes he is!!❤🙏🏼👏🏻

    • @ashantibreland9321
      @ashantibreland9321 2 роки тому

      @@RCBlakesJr. MRS BLAKES I AM NEW TO YOUR CHANNEL I VIEWED YOUR VIDEO VERY WELL DETAIL AND ON POINT IAM A DIVORCE WOMAN WHO IS LIVING HER LIFE KNOW FOR THE LAST 12 YEARS IN THE LORDS WAY IAM CONCERN ABOUT A LADY IN MY BUILDING WHO IS BEING STRING ALONG BY THIS MAN SHE LIVES WITH AND SHE SAYS SHE WAS IN A BAD MARRIAGE WITH OTHER MAN BEFORE THE GUY SHE LIVES WITH KNOW HER AGE IS 53 AND HIM A LITTLE OLDER QUESTION SIR IS THAT SITUATION WORST WHEN THE WOMAN IS LIVING IN THE MAN HOUSE AND HE DONT TAKE HER NOOO WHERE THEY NEVER GO OUT ALWAYS IN THE HOUSE EVERY DAY ALL DAY I BELIEVE ITS TOXIC WHATS YOUR RESPONSE SIR ON THIS???

  • @jacquelinebell6467
    @jacquelinebell6467 2 роки тому +21

    Future faking also a narcissistic move.

  • @iriswood3744
    @iriswood3744 2 роки тому +8

    Unfortunately we all have been mislead by somebody that we thought we knew and all along that person was hiding and lyin

  • @lisasmilez
    @lisasmilez 2 роки тому +50

    The clapping sound effects 😂😂😂😂 Bishop you keep it all the way real. I chuckled so hard at that. Love the message!

    • @Vicki1951
      @Vicki1951 2 роки тому +5

      So Did I. ❤️

    • @makishacox6100
      @makishacox6100 2 роки тому +2

      Yes 🙌, that let us know .. real talk

    • @denisegreen6878
      @denisegreen6878 2 роки тому +4

      Yes girl I was laughing so hard when he did that 😂😂😂😂

    • @candaces2010
      @candaces2010 2 роки тому +1

      I couldn’t stop laughing.

    • @Vicki1951
      @Vicki1951 2 роки тому +2

      @@candaces2010 Candance, neither could I. At first I was afraid to comment on how much I laughed but then, why not? So I did. Imagine how happy I was when I read others had laughed a lot just like me. Now, I know where to go if I need a good laugh, along with real talk too. 😂

  • @carolynknott8913
    @carolynknott8913 2 роки тому +6

    Over 25 years ago, I was in a 4 year long relationship with a man who treated me well and called me wifey. However, we would go on dates often he would lock eyes with men and they would engage in casual conversations. My gut felt it every time. Once night he got drunk and he began to dance uninhibited. I then realized I was his beard.

  • @darlenemoses4692
    @darlenemoses4692 2 роки тому +10

    I've been strung a long by this man for the past 4yrs , been dating him for 20 off and on, all the while I have been trying to figure out away to get rid of him with out hurting his feelings, After watching your video I'm no longer concerned about his feelings, this man is everything your talking about, thank you for this video and may God continue to bless you and your family 🙏

  • @EnjoylifeinJesus
    @EnjoylifeinJesus 2 роки тому +21

    All I can say is I really enjoy this pastor! He's the real deal! Lord please keep him in your care and help him to abide in you always! Ladies if we do the word he preaches and teaches we will have a victorious life!

  • @zweclark3231
    @zweclark3231 2 роки тому +45

    The pain l’m in now listening to this, it’s only the grace of God that will make me date again!

    • @Stormy867
      @Stormy867 2 роки тому +5

      Same here! Or take anyone serious for that matter. I’m so jaded!

    • @bree-c4u
      @bree-c4u 2 роки тому +7

      I'm so sorry ladies 😞 may God restore the peace in your heart. In Jesus name, amen

    • @chrissemenko628
      @chrissemenko628 Рік тому

      ​@@bree-c4uThank-you ❤

  • @FrankiesXpress
    @FrankiesXpress 2 роки тому +43

    This is a real real conversation. Bishop you so real, you don’t mask anything. Love this❤️

  • @shawnyisbless9614
    @shawnyisbless9614 2 роки тому +151

    "They want access to your assets" so true Bishop another point, men string us along because they enjoy sex with you and not even like you. These men are something else 🙄 it's better to be alone than to be with the wrong person, but it's easier said than done sometimes. When a woman know her worth and value then it's easy to leave that toxic relationship alone and align your selves with God's purpose.

    • @ladyzinada5341
      @ladyzinada5341 2 роки тому +7

      Amen

    • @Dr.J1972
      @Dr.J1972 2 роки тому +7

      Amen Queen Shawny!

    • @lyndiamims898
      @lyndiamims898 2 роки тому +4

      AMEN and AMEN
      Queen Shauna,
      Stay prayerful and focus

    • @normamay8020
      @normamay8020 2 роки тому +4

      Amen !

    • @shutit4024
      @shutit4024 2 роки тому

      I feel like when you have a kid by him it’s harder to walk away, idk that’s just me cause I know when I was used for $ex I just walked away and never looked back, I have seen women/girls stay because they had a baby together and they just can’t leave for some reason.

  • @tiabarring
    @tiabarring 2 роки тому +19

    “…toxic hope.” My God! Preach!!!

  • @NisiaRuth
    @NisiaRuth 2 роки тому +21

    Thank you for this. We have to get comfortable with shifting even if we are not comfortable with the shift. It's needed and necessary for our growth, peace and sanity. Wasting time and mental space with something that doesn't appreciate your value is detrimental to your health!!

  • @andromedamaxima1543
    @andromedamaxima1543 2 роки тому +32

    i wish i had known and listened to Pastor RC Blakes 20 years ago… this would have been precious in my 15s, 16s… now i am 40! 😔

    • @TheJamekabrown
      @TheJamekabrown 2 роки тому +1

      Me too sis lol

    • @suzannebonner3477
      @suzannebonner3477 2 роки тому +2

      So true 😩I'm 57. Plan to take this advice to heart even now. 😃

    • @user-nd2td7fx2r
      @user-nd2td7fx2r 2 роки тому +2

      Me too
      I wish I knew this when I was 10, 11,12,13,14 I would have been prepared for my teen years and held strong till adulthood

  • @mujerbella66
    @mujerbella66 2 роки тому +4

    Listen to this man he's laying all the cards on the table. We all make these mistakes in our 20's hopefully by 30 we got all the knowledge.

  • @traceyscanlan1054
    @traceyscanlan1054 2 роки тому +47

    Thank you. Lost my mum at 18 and my dad at 26. I've missed so much from them. Over the last few months your talks have helped me so much. God bless. ❤️

  • @lakendraadams1077
    @lakendraadams1077 2 роки тому +22

    Love the fact you have real conversation. I'm nobody secret. I love your ministry you're stable and real. Alot leader's in the world will not invest into GOD people like this.

  • @vickyferreira3259
    @vickyferreira3259 2 роки тому +11

    "A man can have sex with a woman he doesn't even like" I wish my mother told me this instead of "a man will never want me if I don't lose weight"

  • @brittaneyhill34
    @brittaneyhill34 2 роки тому +65

    I've been in some of these situations, and I woke up since. I'm so glad I've learned and becoming wiser. My Peace is more to me than having a man there. I loved this message!

  • @judywade3124
    @judywade3124 2 роки тому +69

    Pastor Blakes Jr., everything you are telling us women vs men is so true about allowing people to string you along for years. Thank you and God Bless you.🙏

  • @gem4365
    @gem4365 2 роки тому +68

    Thank you for this message Bishop. I recently asked God for clarity and confirmation in my relationship. I asked God to give me the strength when it comes to the revelation. It's so true. You ask God and you will receive. God revealed this person to me. I was heartbroken. Even though it hurts I thank God for showing me the truth. Please keep me in your prayers Bishop 🙏🏽

    • @lindamolyneux3536
      @lindamolyneux3536 2 роки тому +12

      So sorry. I understand that heartbreak. May the Father bind up the wounds and turn your pain into purpose.

    • @jaotv939
      @jaotv939 2 роки тому +8

      This comment hits home

    • @Dr.J1972
      @Dr.J1972 2 роки тому +4

      God's BLESSINGS be with you Queen Kashmere.

    • @don4glenn
      @don4glenn 2 роки тому +3

      I know where you are, because I've been where you are!
      Everyday...life will get better!

    • @shopflana9108
      @shopflana9108 2 роки тому +1

      The same thing happened to me after fasting. I am so heartbroken now.

  • @shreyapeshawaria6533
    @shreyapeshawaria6533 2 роки тому +6

    If a man's heart is there, his treasure is there! He invests money in you!

  • @kareeshasimonebenjamin5706
    @kareeshasimonebenjamin5706 2 роки тому +16

    Samson judged by outward appearance , He was consumed by her package rather than her contents within. Situated in Judges 14:3

  • @Sojourner_TruthBW44
    @Sojourner_TruthBW44 2 роки тому +40

    Thank You Jesus for those prayers. All of these messages have been confirmation, and have only confirmed that I'm on the right 👣 path. I am walking this path alone but really not alone because Jesus is walking with me.

    • @ladyzinada5341
      @ladyzinada5341 2 роки тому +8

      Amen. All of us Women are never alone, even when we think we are

    • @Dr.J1972
      @Dr.J1972 2 роки тому +4

      Amen to that Queen L Moore!

  • @pharvey2473
    @pharvey2473 2 роки тому +11

    I'm old enough now, I can be a true witness,also when it keeps being drawn out, but no fruition,they're lying to you ladies

  • @stormyv.8890
    @stormyv.8890 2 роки тому +3

    There are so many hurt women out here.. me included... We have got to close our legs..... If a man don't care where you're soul ends up.. he doesn't care about you. That hit me hard.. this video had me crying.. thank you for helping me see the light.... PS another hurting woman.

  • @kellytate8422
    @kellytate8422 2 роки тому +7

    I call it trying to make something out of absolutely nothing. The relationship is severely lopsided, in which one party is giving too much. There is no reciprocation.

  • @shreyapeshawaria6533
    @shreyapeshawaria6533 2 роки тому +7

    God is not the author of confusion! Preach!

  • @cathy_clarinet
    @cathy_clarinet 2 роки тому +31

    Pastor Blakes, you are scarily accurate. Absolutely accurate! You’ve made such a difference in my life

  • @emilyfraisar4655
    @emilyfraisar4655 2 роки тому +39

    Amen pastor....From the mouth of a real man of God...I appreciate you taking the time to minister to us all....I have been in that relationship for 7 years and God got me out and kept me strong

    • @don4glenn
      @don4glenn 2 роки тому +2

      I was in mine for over 12 years.
      We were not married.
      GOD got me out of that and I don't feel like I've lost time!

  • @007stinkey
    @007stinkey 2 роки тому +27

    Any relationship I had where I was strung along, they last until they run the course.
    I learned the hard way, you can be seeing a man for yrs, and feel it's some longevity, but it's nothing no longevity, it's just been a long time. I had to loose the idea, of *oh we have something special*
    *oh we are going to figure this out*
    A man will have sex with you and wash you off like you never happened. Each time it means nothing to him, a man entering your body, should be held sacred and in high regard, don't swander yourself and waste time.
    Just know the man will take what is easy, but never respect it.

    • @imblessed5761
      @imblessed5761 2 роки тому

      Walk out and never come back.He's running 🏃🏿‍♂️to the other woman 👩🏾

    • @lala5061
      @lala5061 2 місяці тому +1

      Tell them sis 👏🏽 🙌🏽 this is the truth...I told him NO more and Im on my abstinence journey it is day 36 for me 🙏🏽

  • @faithsandstrom3883
    @faithsandstrom3883 2 роки тому +3

    Great video!!! I've been strung along 8 years....two years we broke up hoovering...I did not go back. Then last month I did and I've had it. No ring and he showed up in a upgraded car...BMW. all about show. Empty package. Publicly silent. No financial connection, no support and help
    No empathy, cognitive disotence.
    I'm aware. Friends first. Their children. Great video...God bless you!!

  • @lindajones684
    @lindajones684 2 роки тому +6

    Wow!!! Bread-crumbing…. that is deep!!! Us women need to make sure we’re not being satisfied with just getting bread crumbs. Never heard that term before. Thank you

  • @cherylmarrie6758
    @cherylmarrie6758 2 роки тому +23

    Lol 😂 “I’m not good enough for you” that line goes back for generations

    • @AskEsh
      @AskEsh 2 роки тому +1

      😂😂 I almost spit my water out laughing at him

  • @deliar.stehle9345
    @deliar.stehle9345 2 роки тому +3

    Omg, you were so on point. I know God let me find you. It hurts but it’s truth. You are speaking to my spirit man. I have got to be strong to let him go. Help me God!

  • @marciaycollins-brown774
    @marciaycollins-brown774 2 роки тому +8

    Wow!!! Breadcrumbing...my ex husband did this :( knowledge is POWER 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @kimmielove1030
    @kimmielove1030 2 роки тому +17

    “GOD’S working on me…One day I’ma come forth as pure gold”😆 Absolutely no one can can deliver a message as Bishop R.C.Blake’s Jr….As Always,bringing thee solid Truth and Wisdom💝

  • @ingridhaughney3645
    @ingridhaughney3645 2 роки тому +3

    ..'.leave you on the edge of hope and never deliver' ...never let some person defer and continuously defer until you are old and beaten... it can happen and it happens to many poor souls, who are strung along on false promises.

  • @kayleehannah179
    @kayleehannah179 2 роки тому +17

    Thank you 🙏 so much for this message. I “stumbled” upon it at EXACTLY the right moment and will not WASTE one more minute of this life God blessed me with. Thank you.

  • @eleverett77
    @eleverett77 2 роки тому +9

    There's no real communication or him showing respect but has changed over the years. Yet I feel I've built him while he buried me.

  • @bettyantiquebootique
    @bettyantiquebootique 2 роки тому +42

    Although I am blessed to be married to an amazing man, your advise is Golden! I love listening to you. Thank you, Pastor and first lady Lisa Blakes!

    • @deb4778
      @deb4778 2 роки тому +6

      This Girl Betty, I’m also fortunate to have a loving, devoted husband, and I still enjoy listening to RC Blakes! Even though his messages are geared toward couples, his advice works for any type of relationships.

  • @Tluv_1955
    @Tluv_1955 2 роки тому +6

    I blocked and deleted his number today had to release the weight of holding on . It’s very hard but I know it was the right thing todo

  • @aroyaldiadem3873
    @aroyaldiadem3873 2 роки тому +26

    My heart, mind, spirit and soul says thank you Pastor Blakes, you are such an effective force in this ever changing and destructive world. God’s continued blessings be with you and yours always!🙏🏽❤️❤️

  • @reneeoverton2677
    @reneeoverton2677 2 роки тому +1

    Stringing is Like Playing Games You Go Wake Up And Get Back To God . He Was Not The Man for Me 1991 Till July 3,2021 This His MCO Love Playing Games And He 63 Year old Thank God For Pastor Blake

  • @pharvey2473
    @pharvey2473 2 роки тому +8

    That's game, point blank period

    • @Dr.J1972
      @Dr.J1972 2 роки тому +2

      💯🙌🏾Absolutely

  • @karengoodman1678
    @karengoodman1678 2 роки тому +7

    THANK YOU PASTOR, FOR BEING RAW, CANDID, TRUTHFUL ABOUT EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE…

  • @keepingthefaithalive
    @keepingthefaithalive 2 роки тому +21

    Thank you Bishop I just got out of a situation it really wasn't going anywhere I was just being string along but Thank god for him delivering me god is faithful 🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @mariafriend644
    @mariafriend644 2 роки тому +6

    Deep…. There’s a broken part of me, which desires this broken connection.

  • @darawatkis7084
    @darawatkis7084 2 роки тому +6

    I wish I heard this message sooner Jesus🙏🏽🙏🏽Moving forward I will never confuse again. Thank you again Bishop.

  • @erinjohnson4273
    @erinjohnson4273 2 роки тому +4

    Thank you Pastor and Mrs Blake's. This makes me realize that even though it gets lonely without a real King, I'm not being strung along. I will continue to pray that my real king finds me

  • @BridgetMouton
    @BridgetMouton 2 роки тому +29

    Wow! Awesome lesson! I was laughing quite a bit because you described these losers so well! I know it's not funny for those going through it now. But in due time when they get through their situation . . . they might find it funny also!

    • @Vicki1951
      @Vicki1951 2 роки тому +7

      I totally cracked up when he was displaying the clown inside the man. I laughed out loud. So you were definitely not alone. And I agree with you. It’s not so funny when you’re going through it but hopefully those that get past it, they can laugh again too. ❤️

    • @anndavis2920
      @anndavis2920 2 роки тому +1

      Its not funny. Its brokenness from others that use people w/kind words n lustful actions. Its all a waste of time. I unfortunately have experienced this horrible behavior from guys. Its devilish n im fed up. Ive been celibate since 2013 because of this crap. Im just fed up completely. I stop doing a lot of things n stopped making tragic mistakes that hurt my heart, soul n spirit. Not Gods will for my life. Be blessed

  • @destinluv3773
    @destinluv3773 2 роки тому +15

    Wow! This was such a blessing to me.I was in this situation going on 3 years ago ,however God revealed to me a lot of what you said here ! After listening I know this was confirmation.❤❤❤🙏🏽

  • @mz.sophisticatedlady8398
    @mz.sophisticatedlady8398 2 роки тому +14

    Pastor Blakes is a anointed vessel of GOD. I stumbled upon his UA-cam page amidst the pandemic I had a lot of things I had been contemplating on in my personal life. Pastor teachings took my mindset to a whole new level. All I can say is I truly thank GOD for him. The only way for your life to experience change is for you to have a renewing of your mind. Blessings to you ALWAYS Pastor Blakes🙏🏽

  • @chantac9815
    @chantac9815 2 роки тому +4

    This message is 110% the TRUTH!!!!! Thank you Jesus for the confirmation and thank You for waking me up!!!!

  • @raeg1788
    @raeg1788 2 роки тому +16

    A friend of mine forward several of your videos to me. They have encouraged and given me the strength to end a long time situation-ship. My prayer is that I find the right words to bring this season to an end when I have this conversation with him. I refuse to go into 2022 with this none committing individual!

    • @darlenefletcher2691
      @darlenefletcher2691 2 роки тому +2

      I just ended mine after almost 2 years. I said 2022 is my year. No more disappointment, no more pain!!! 🙏 Lord cover us girls going through this difficult time.

  • @tinajackson390
    @tinajackson390 2 роки тому +14

    I agree with you 💯 percent, this is exactly why I have been five years ,five months of celbacy. I always say thank you Jesus for keeping me covered.

  • @GodsObedientChild-Deuteron6262
    @GodsObedientChild-Deuteron6262 2 роки тому +15

    Very much AGREED with all that you have said Bishop. God's continued blessings be upon you, your marriage, your ministry and your entire family, in Jesus' Holy and Powerful name, Hallelujah, Amen💖!

  • @ladyzinada5341
    @ladyzinada5341 2 роки тому +11

    Thank you Pastor BLAKE'S. I was Abstinent when I found you 3 yrs ago. Still Abstinent. 6 yrs this year praise God. 🙄😌