It seems Facebook is using the 'memories' feature to try and get users back on the platform. However the only person I know who actually enjoys them is my mum forwarding them to the family chat lol
I'm 21 and I am so glad I rejected social media until I graduated from high school. That's the only time I'm actually proud of my, "not like other girls/other people" phase.
Same. :) I`m 26 now, but I refused to be on any social media 2008-2012 (when I was 15-19 years old). Looking back, I`m really happy I did that. It saved me a lot of pain, drama and my precious time too. I got back to FB in 2013 or 2014, because I moved more than 2000km from home and I think that it`s nice to see sometimes how my old friends and classmates are doing; their dogs/cats, babies and stuff. :D You can`t message everyone you know or you once knew...
oh my GOD the liking pages thing... i remember having a literal competition with my friends to see how many we could like, i got to over 1000 before, i guess, we just stopped? and now they all just exist on my timeline. its awful.
I remember back in those days when a friend got onto my account (I left it open on her computer or something) and she went and liked a whole ton of pages that were not relevant to me at all, but would look hilarious when it came up saying "[my name] likes furries" or whatever on people's newsfeeds. That took ages to reverse.
Facebook does not have accurate data on me. Remember when you put good friends as siblings/parents/kids/SO? Thanks to that, according to facebook I'm a divorced single mother with an absurd amount of siblings.
oh trust me, they do! there have been instances where friends of people on facebook get tag suggestions on group pictures, despite not having social media profiles themselves.
When I was 13 or 14 maybe I used to give crazy makeovers to a friend and we’d take pictures, do “photo shoots” (you know how it is) and then we’d post the pictures on facebook. One time I basically wanted to make my friend look like a mermaid and for some reason I thought that that entailed covering her face in shimmery dark purple eyeshadow and I did the same to my own face . Once again we snapped a photo and put it on facebook and no one back then paid much attention to it so life moved on and i forgot it existed. When I started university however my flat mates had this habit of going through each other’s old facebook posts and making fun of them as you do. One guy found the pictures of the “crazy makeovers” and I was horrified when I saw that the picture of my friend and I with purple all over our faces - with the bad webcam not helping us out with lighting- looked like blackface! I had to explain to everyone that I was never racist and it was literally purple eyeshadow and luckily they did believe me but for a while they used to bring it up a lot and refer to it as “the blackface photo”. Needless to say I deleted it as fast as I could.
I don't believe you needed go delete your photo tho💖 I think the original story is cute- and the rest is just a funny, embarrassing(for them, not you) story about how judgemental people can be nowadays 🙈
Pineapple i think it was right to delete the photo. especially in today's climate. it clearly wasn't a monumental part of the person's childhood if they forgot it even existed. and now that the photo can be taken out of context and be detrimental for the person's future (extreme case ofc) it was the right decision.
The only thing those memories made do was erasing every post of one of my ex's and realized, that guy post on my feed every other day....for 2 years!!! And Facebook doesn't like you to erase things. "Erase" "would you like to erase?" "Are you SHUREEEE?"
I'm a year late to this conversation but just yesterday I got a fb memory of me and my friend posting pictures of each other CRYING to the other's wall... What was the context? No clue.
I have heard that some companies look you up and if they can’t find anything (particularly Facebook) oh well you’re probably dodgey no thanks.....I don’t know how true that is though
what's really funny is that the other day i searched "taylor swift make up tutorial" and i saw one called "how to be taylor swift" from 6 years ago. that's when i saw the "tiffanyferg" under the title and was like HOLY SHIT!!!!
When I was 14 I was one of several admins on an LGBTQ+ support account with a few thousand followers on instagram. I once posted an angry rant in which I used an ableist insult against the people who disagreed with me. I was 14. English isn't my first language. I genuinely wasn't aware what the word actually meant, I'd just seen it be used as an insult and added i to my vocabulary without thinking about it. I was cancelled. The whole account was cancelled. There were screenshots floating around other websites encouraging people to cancel us, so it only got worse when I deleted the post and tried to pretend I hadn't said it. I am eternally grateful that I went by a nickname and didn't post any pictures of my face 'cause oh boy, I would not like to have that used against me today.
@@DeanithForeverYoung “nigger” or “nigga” they are names that are used for black people in America. “Nigga” is more friendly and something black people like myself say to other black people “nigger” is more hurtful and purposefully trying to hurt someone. Although in July’s case it was used in a hurtful way.
I hate stories like this. Nothing is accomplished by canceling someone over something so small, people are actual ego maniacs who get a high off of calling people out for perceived “problematic behavior” it’s literally just a power thing
People in the past wrote diaries, and those can be found after they were dead. I think queen Victoria asked for her letters and diaries to be burned, or her daughter did it because she did't like what was there.
I wish someone would set limits on me when it comes to internet use when i was a teenager. My parents did not know how to use social media so i began to understand the "do's and don'ts" of internet through trial and error. I regret a lot of things that i say and did and only now as an young adult i understand.
@The ASMR Queen I'm a young millenial, I was always taught: don't use your real name, don't give out your location or school, don't put your face online. Modern social media is a bit different, but I think those are still good rules if you can follow them. I strongly support 1. don't use your real name. 2. have a public-facing persona for IRL friends which is parent-friendly and 3. if you like fandom stuff, make a private persona which isn't connected to anything else (no phone #, no payment info, no personal email etc.) And if you DO do something dumb, don't take photos, don't post about it. Make sure your friends have common sense, too. Also, like it or not, most kids watch p*rn at some point. Don't make accounts. DO NOT ever stream or video call or record yourself. DO research about *real* sex and intimacy. Do inform yourself on the proper way to approach k*nk and f*tish content. Be careful. Finally, decide how much time you want to spend online and stick to it. Adult you will thank you.
Well, there's a lot of people that identify with this comment, so i wanna say that we all made (big and small) mistakes in life and that's OK. Everything that humans do is full of mistakes. That's the true human nature. I hope you can forgive yourself and move on knowing that you are a better person now.
You were a kid. you didn't know any better. :( and probably at that time, nobody knew how intrusive social media really is. don't be so hard on yourself.
Tiffany: "Remember to delete your old posts!!" Me: * has a breakdown every few years in which I delete all my social media but then I regret it and make a new one* "Done."
@ the people who forgot passwords/ cant delete their accounts, email support for the website and explain your situation! the website's support can most likely delete it for you!
Honestly, all I have to think about is how we all used to say “that’s so gay” or some kind of variety to say something was stupid or bad. Looking back now I can’t believe I would ever say that.
Isn't it interesting to think that gay meant funny, happy, cheerful? something positive, and then the opposite, because we'd call people interested in the same sex as being funny, happy, cheerful, but also as something bad, and then we only used the word to mean bad stuff... ?
I think it’s pretty safe to say that most employers don’t look for your tumblr simply because of how fricken weird it is. They don’t understand the humor or even the mechanics. They might not even know it exists. Also, most tumblr users reblog more than they make original posts, and small-time users barely get any notes on original posts anyways. If an employer were to look on your tumblr, they’d get lost in content posted by other people, and they’d only gain an understanding of your interests or sense of humor. Real names are rarely attached to tumblr accounts at least in my experience and others I’ve seen. I would have no way of knowing if my friend had a tumblr because I can’t search their name and I’d have to guess what kind of whacky url they’d use, which can change often. As long as your name isn’t attached to your tumblr, your years worth of cringey superwholock gifs and One Direction fan fictions shouldn’t keep you from a job. Me n my 19.6k posts containing in-depth analyses of cartoons and oddly formatted humor will all stay right up online in case something other than a bot wants to follow me.
i don’t use my real name on tumblr and i’ve never posted my face on it. i like the fact that nobody irl would find it unless i told them what my username was
Some months ago I deleted my old facebook account I had since 2011. Now that I graduated from university and I changed a lot about my political and social views (I got out of my middle class bubble, thank godness), I started to think it won't do me any favors to leave my old racist, misogynistic and xenofobic comments for anyone to see on the internet. It also made me very embarassed how I could think such horrible things. Now I have a new account with everthing private with a few close friends. I used to have a lot of family members and one time, one of my relatives misinterpreted one of my posts and gurl, it caused me so much headache.
I remember being very, VERY homophobic in my young years bc my mom always taught me that she wouldn't like me to be gay, so I thought that she was trying to say ''Gays are bad'' so I grew with that mindset for a long time.
I love this video, Tiffany! I am so happy you're discussing Zwarte Piet. An outsider's perspective who is not blinded by tradition can really show how racist and hurtful this is! I am a Dutch social scientist and I am very interested in this discussion. For many, this pro-Zwarte Piet stance is combined with nationalist feelings. For them it is the prime example of outsiders "eradicating the Dutch/European culture," and that seems to be the main motivation behind the unwillingness to change. Thankfully, as of this year, the national parades of Sinterklaas will not include blackface. This is a huge step. This perspective that was seen as "extremist" are now more mainstream, which is awesome! As for my own shocking social media post when I was many years younger... I found a post where I complained about my train being delayed because someone who commited suicide on the train track. This is unfortunately not very uncommon where I live. I called this action "selfish," which is absolutely horrifying to me. Since then I have learnt a lot about mental health and now I know how ignorant and hurtful it is to say something like that. And that it perhaps, in their mind, is even the most selfless thing they can do... I still think about this post regularly and I just hope so much that no one who was struggling with their mental health has seen this and was hurt by it.
Use memories feature on Facebook to daily delete posts from this day over 10 years. 365 days to delete excess at least. Better than the alternative of just leavingit
Yes!! When people take random super unflattering pictures at an event or party or something where you are like mid-conversation with somebody, mouth open, eyes halfway blinking, and then they post it on facebook! Ugh whyyyyyy
I think deleting your social media is a very good idea. It’s a good detox that calms you down and helps you be a better person. I can’t count how many times i would wake up in the middle of the night because I remembered that old cringy post, conversation or photo on Facebook that I had 🤦♀️ In the recent years I also realized that all the information that I gave out on the internet is haunting me, I often feel so embarrassed, it’s just harder nowadays to not be judged for your past mistakes in the social media era...
about the whole zwarte piet issue... as a dutch citizen myself, i never really saw a problem with it when i was young bc i was unaware that this was racist in the first place, which actually adds to the problem: little children are simply taught that they are part of our holiday tradition, and there's no one to tell them that this is very problematic. in the last couple of years, there has been more and more attention on this issue and i personally just can't understand why people make such a big deal out of changing the zwarte piet slightly so that it isn't racist anymore. i think the problem is just that people are so ignorant and can be so unempathetic sometimes... there have been experiments done with children to see if they care if zwarte piet's appearance changes and it's proven that they really do not care. this discussion really pisses me off and every year people get heated up about this; the same arguments are repeated over and over again and i'm getting really tired of this. sorry for this rant but i had to get it out (it'll be sinterklaas in december, so two months left before the discussion gets heated up again! yay!)
The thing is , the new generation of parents or parents that have had older children are now truly understanding the consequences of how much social media can affect their kids, i remember my older brother spending WAY too much time on Facebook growing up, and now my parents are limiting mine, it is tough seeing other kids with there socials but atleast I know i get a chance to live a childhood without toxic social media Also im getting insta next year and Im really excited ( im 13 )
I actually paused this video to delete my Facebook account. I didn't even know you could do that. I thought Facebook would hold its users hostage and not let them delete the profiles, and only deactivate them, which means nothing really, on Facebook.
They make it really hard to delete it. I had to google how when I did it and they told me it would take 14 days until it would actually be deleted and if I logged in again during the 14 days, they would stop the deletion process. They want you to have doubts about it so badly. Same with Snapchat. Had to wait 14 days, got a reminder email about it right before the time was up. And then sometimes they'll write stuff like "Sad to see you go" or "We'll miss you" in their automated emails when you want to delete an account. I hate that. It's verging on guilt-tripping.
i only had an instagram fanpage. i’m so thankful my mom didn’t allow me to have social media until i was a bit older. and even though i made my instagram at 13, i didn’t post many personal things.
It's really interesting that you posted this today. Earlier at work I was speaking to my coworkers about something similar, with how invasive and addicting it is. My boss and I spoke about how we don't have social media (him at all, myself connecting my name to my identity online) . It's a scary thing, seeing how invasive all of it is and how it connects the past us to the current and then future us.
I've had my Facebook account since I was 13. I definitely have old posts that I'm ashamed of. Some of them are harmless but embarrassing...for some reason, I felt the need to spell words as incorrectly as I could to make it look "kewl" 🙄 other posts are much heavier, such as me using the "r" word, something I haven't done in years. I've grown, I've listened, and I've learned.
So when I was 19 in college I tried to have a "photoshoot" and take cringey photos of myself in Vintage Glamour shots. The outfit looked really cheap. Just saw someone liked my post from 12 years ago and I quickly deleted the photo
So, I'm a professional in animation.. and I have been using my twitter since MIDDLE SCHOOl (2010) the deleting programs for some reason didn't work so I had to sit down and spend 7+ hours deleting every single drawing of mind from 2010-2019 because the account is now professional. I saved most of them but honestly, I didn't want my harry potter fanart from 2011 to be next to my professional portfolio. It was hell, one of the most hellish moments of my life. EDIT LOL: JUST SO EVERYONE KNOWS I DIDNT SWITCH ACCOUNTS BECAUSE I HAD A LOT OF INDUSTRY PROFESSIONALS FOLLOWING ME AND IT WAS BEFORE I BROKE INTO THE INDUSTRY I couldn't risk them not following me again
Cambridge Analytica also swayed Argentina's election in favor of our current administration (Mauricio Macri's) and since then we are going through one of the worst socio-economical crisis of the history of the country, the unemployment rate sky rocketed, we've taken debt in an unprecedented rate and poverty increased in every measurable way.
I kind of agree, but consider that Cristina Kirshner literally robbed and got away with it bc of very ignorant people. There's no good or bad here. There's no single candidate that I like. I would move away. I would consider this the laziest place in the world I had ever seen.
@@davidkonevky7372 are you serious? Of the 13 open cases against her 3 are already disproven. Alberto Fernández has 0 accusations and Macri has 150 cases of corruption. This narrative that kirchnerism was particularly corrupted was EXACTLY one of the things Cambridge Analyitica made people buy with fake news.
Thank you for your take on cancelling! I've long wondered how that will affect Gen Z going forward because old posts can contain literally a childish mindset/understanding of the world whereas "cancelling" for old posts (not related to present behaviour) is just reactionary. It's a fine line to walk but I very much enjoyed hearing your nuanced take on it.
I feel you on this, but I lost all my Bebo and MySpace profiles from my teens and early twenties. So many memories that are lost. I’m in my thirties now and I would love to have a look through those old photos and posts. I mean they would be criiiiiiiinge AF, but they are my (hazy, mostly drunk) ramblings and pics and they are gone. The twitter auto delete chat I can get behind, but I think I’m gonna hold on to FB, the pit of DataMining it may be, but I know when I’m in my 50’s I’ll enjoy looking back on my timeline...and Zuckerberg will no doubt be our overload by then.
I would die if anyone found my bebo, my friends were very mean to me back then and posted alot of awful things about me from my account. I would love to just eradicate it from being online
Ngaire Pakai I’m so sorry that happened. People can be the worst. If this helps at all, the site got sold off and all the profiles got deleted. They gave people 6 months to get their pics, but the email address they had for me was my high school one that I haven’t signed into in over a decade so....I missed the deadline for that by, 3 years 🤷🏼♀️ anyway - bebo as we knew it doesn’t exist anymore ❤️
My sister said "Twitter is where you go to destroy your career." Which makes sense. If you said something when you were younger (ex: 12-18) and then someone decided to dig way too back to "cancel" you.
He just deactivated it. But I think they’ve made deleting it easier recently. It used to be, the delete link was hidden DEEP in some help article that no one could ever find unless they dedicated at least an hour to looking for it. And then the deactivate button would just be front and center pretending to be someone else.
when i got rid of mine i had to deactivate it, then send an email to FB notifying that i wanted it deleted, and then they left like a 60-day grace period in case you change your mind, and then after that it’s scheduled for deletion. that’s how it worked a few years ago anyway, not sure how it goes now because i avoid that dumpster fire of a website as much as possible
I feel like everyone should delete old and restart new social media pages in their last year of high school. I'm tired of hearing: "I was only a racist because I was 14 years old." "15 year old me was a homophobe, but I'm a good person."
GIRL. I just found your channel and now I'm *BINGING*. I'm majoring in social science at uni and your videos are mad interesting. Love the social topics!
laverna One time I wrote out the entire lyrics for American Pie from memory (if you don't know it, its like an 8 minute song) and posted it on my Facebook. Why? I have no idea
Som Keshav it's not problematic, I just kinda remember doing that and laugh sometimes bc I'm like ??what did that achieve?? lol. My old social media posts aren't really cancel culture worthy, they're just pointless
i am so SO happy that my mom never posts photos of me and my siblings on facebook and she only has facebook for messenger. i HATE pictures of myself and i’m glad that my mom respects our boundaries and doesn’t post her children online
what you bring up is so interesting! i always just think of how it's nice to look back on things and be nostalgic, but it's so scary to think about everything that I've posted that, even years from now, will still be floating around. i don't regard myself as a hoarder of any sort, and in real life, i'm always going through things i used to think would be important to me in the future, but i feel like when we turn to social media our mindsets change so much. thanks for making this amazing vid and getting me thinking!
But, other than that, up until a year ago, my parents have always monitored my online presence and they always scolded me and made me delete any harsh opinions immediately so there’s nothing to find on me, or at least I don’t think there is. Does that count as a pro to having helicopter parents? Idk
"Don't call people out - instead call people in". This is the best one-liner on 'cancel culture' that I've ever heard. It came from a high-school age person that's already more intelligent than I'll ever be. We shouldn't aim to wreck somebody's potential or reputation based on things they've said (online or out loud). Rather, we can build them up by showing them what's problematic about their actions--IN A WAY that demonstrates that we know they can and should do better. And, we should be receptive to when other people do that for us.
Maybe it’s because I’m 17 or maybe it’s because I’m naturally a pack rat of nostalgia and memories terrified of forgetting anything or even because I haven’t used too many social media platforms as personal venting places but for me, at least I like having those old posts around on my tumblr, it reminds me of what I was into and it’s like a time machine of going back to the person I was and appreciating her for making it through tough times. Additionally as a person who’s really involved in a long running fandom it’s wildly entertaining to look back on what everyone else was doing years and years ago and reflect on how the fandoms culture has evolved. Maybe one day I’ll feel different but for right now, given that I rarely ever used any social media under my full actual name I don’t worry and it’s really nice to have an online book of memories to who I once was
I've been deleting things since I was fourteen from my beginnings in social media when I was eleven-I've known how cringey I can be for a long time. My friends STILL find embarrassing statuses about Farmville on my Facebook! I can't win
I've always tried to live by the rule of acting the same online as I would IRL (i.e. being polite, not being a bully), but sometimes I wonder if that's enough. I feel like I'm living on borrowed time until someone decides to go scorched earth on me over a minor disagreement. That may be my social anxiety talking though. I do wish I had downloaded or archived my old Livejournal before deleting it because it was an absolute masterpiece of mid '00s emo cringe.
Thank you for this video. I am very careful about what I comment and post on social media now and only use 3-4 on a weekly basis, but it made me remember that I don’t like to delete anything, so I have old accounts on medias I just used once in 2015 like tumblr. So now I’m on a mission to delete all I don’t use and screenshot moments I want to keep. Thanks to this video I remembered my insta account from 2014 when I was suicidal (let’s just say I don’t need that account anymore). And even if I barely use my real name or share pictures of myself it just creeps me out that so many things that I have created are out there and I can’t stand for those things I’ve said or posted because I have grown so much since then.
a digital detox is a great idea. i quit fb back in 2014 (and tumblr not long after) but ive been meaning to go back and actually delete posts, unfriend people, etc. youre right sometimes it's just too much content to sift through and it's easier to delete things completely. when my myspace profile was deleted a few years back i was sad at the time but now im grateful bc it was soo embarrassing and cringey. tom was looking out for me
I deactivated my Facebook but didn't delete it as I use Messenger pretty much every day to keep in contact with family and friends abroad etc. For me, the thing that made me realise that I'd definitely done the right thing was the fact that whenever I wasn't entirely sure of what to do I'd always go to go to facebook and then I'd be like 'oh yeah, I deleted it.' It actually really freaked me out when I realised that x
Yet again I'm so glad to have been born a bit earlier than Tiff and co. I'm 33 now and would have been 18 when Facebook started, and I wasn't allowed private internet use when I still lived at my family home. My stupid teenage antics were either captured on cheap film cameras or - with an amazing technological advancement - on 8mm video cam tape. That said though, I had a full FB clean-out a few years ago when I transitioned; I didn't have anything too problematic, but having people see that profile and think that was present-day-me was an awful (=dysphoria inducing) thought.
Honestly I'm a lot better at reviewing my public profiles, like Twitter, where I know anyone can see from an easy Google search than my more private profiles, where I only accept friends and stuff but I sometimes worry privacy settings are a false sense of security
I can actually respect somebody wanting to delete past posts or statuses that don't represent them anymore or simply don't match their values of today. Where It can be triggering/embarrassing for some it can also create problems in someone's social or work life. That being said, I personally like to keep the memory of my old slightly sexist or non self aware or sightly hypocritical posts. Just to remember my growth and understanding my childhood and Psyche better. Of course i don't agree with those posts anymore but it's cause of learning new things and meeting new people and exploring empathy that i understood why it's wrong to do a certain thing or say a certain stuff. I simply just like to have memories to differentiate my self from the now me. I hope I made Sense...
I have been on social media since i was 16 (for about 7 years now). I recently decided to delete my facebook and instagram because of mental health reasons but before hand I went through and deleted the majority of my posts and information, there was so much cringe. I did save pictures and screen shot posts that I thought were special to me but At that point I didn't see the need to have both of those platforms anymore so i just deleted them entirely. Feels good to not have that kind of baggage over my head on top of being an adult and paying student loans :'(
my favorite part of my old facebook statuses is when I kept saying "I'll just be a cat lady" when i was 17 years old and screwed over by a bunch of different boys. like i really thought those boys were looking for a long term relationship in their teens lol
My favorite thing is how involved you are with your viewers. All of the videos I've watched, you ask for our feedback and genuinely want to hear it. It's nice
something that i'm surprised you didn't mention during this video was internet archiving. maybe it's because i'm into internet archiving that i immediately thought of it when i saw the video title, but i think that it's important to address it when you bring up the topic of deleting posts. the internet is going to be a really big portion of our human history, so i personally think that we should preserve as many digital footprints as possible, including our own. i know a lot of people who are interested in looking at old geocities pages because of their novelty- but imagine how many geocities archives would be lost if people had the mindset of "digital cleansing"? in the end, it's up to each individual person whether or not they want to delete old posts, but i think the internet history aspect of it is very important to consider. hope i worded this in a way that makes it easy to understand
@@eurekamreum5458 there's a website pretty much dedicated to archiving old internet pages ( archive.org/ ) which lets you input URLs that you'd like to archive. there are also specific branches of archive.org like oocities and gifcities, which is dedicated to archiving websites that were made on geocities and the images hosted on these sites. usually, when a website is archived, it saves a replica of the website (aka a "mirror"). this replica can be viewed as if it were a working site even after the site is altered or even deleted. this is a very bare-bones description but i hope it helps in understanding internet archiving! :)
I really enjoyed this video. I'm glad I was always on the more hesitant side when posting on social media. And every once in awhile I get the urge to delete posts, pictures or unfriend/ unfollow people, which also helps as a mental clean up kind of. And if I want to keep something I just save it on my device before deleting it. I also agree with your points on the cancel culture. Great video :)
You can’t just delete the posts. Sometimes they can still dig it up. I’m scrubbing my accounts off completely slowly just removing myself from social media all together. Keeping like one account down the road for business purpose.
I find it amazing how well she explains everything. in all of these videos it feels like i’m watching someone tell me my own opinions in a way that i can understand in word form.
I definitely get being anxious about other people posting things about you-especially since I was that person. The only removal request that really rubbed me the wrong way was when a friend’s ex-boyfriend asked me to take photos of them down...months after they broke up. It was weird, and even though I could relate, he could’ve just untagged himself, especially since we were not friends. Lol still definitely bothers me even though it’s completely moot now.
I used to have a cringy e-mail address that I made when I was 12. When I was 18 and wanted to e.g. send professional e-mails, I made a new e-mail address and I deleted my facebook profile connected to that old e-mail address. Or so I thought but facebook doesn't actually allow you to delete a profile (or at least not at that time, I'm not sure if that's still the case.) Afterwards I deleted that e-mail adress. A few years later I suddenly see that my friends are still friends with that old facebook account. I can't access it to delete it myself cause I can't log in cause the e-mail adress doesn't exist anymore. I have asked facebook SEVERAL TIMES to delete it and yet it still exists. I didn't deleted the pictures and posts before I deleted the profile cause I thought if I delete the profile everything else will automatically be deleted too. NOPE. There are pictures of me on there in my Pj's at a slumberparty ect..... VERY annoying.
you always make such thoughtful videos and the fact that you include detailed timestamps is a cherry on top. it’s rare to find opinions on such topics that aren’t just one sided which is a reason why i love your channel. in reality, in society nothing is black or white so when people force the idea that you have to choose one “side” or the other, it just makes me so mad. you should be able to give a full opinion without having a single one worded answer. what is the point of just whittling something down to practically nothing when our society and world is so complex??? (reading this back it makes no sense but i hope i got my point across. its late at night so i cant exactly put my thoughts in a comprehensive manner)
This inspired me to go sort through some old accounts, get rid of those, and revamp my current accounts into ones that accurately and more professionally represent me. Thank you.
Private or download everything. If you can't you just have to judge yourself how okay you are with you (And more likely than not some of your friends/family 's ) History on the internet forever
as i move on to student teaching, my professors have strongly urged us to private all our social medias, delete anything that might jeopardize our chances at getting a job, and to google ourselves to see what shows up. i’ve made everything private, not really deleting anything, but i wonder what is everyone’s take on private accounts vs deleting post? is it as effective?
Wow. Sometimes I get bothered by all the old emails in my inbox. You've made me want to purge the emails, get a new email, get a new Facebook, and disconnect everything 😬
This is why I'm grateful I have never felt urge to post things about my life. Plus, I pretty late got my hands on social apps (at least global). I'm in FB, IG, but if I post something that just means I'm remanding I'm still alive. Pretty much it's just new profile picture(very few in year span) or another nature picture in IG and rarely my own. I'm just using them to know news in things I'm interested in and see what other are up to. So I'm pretty sure that social apps shouldn't ruin my life in some way. Yes, they still can gather my data, but I doubt how accurate it is (if you want to know what is gathered about you on internet in your account settings you can see "Data and personalization" and there's ad personalization. There's many small icons of things they have collected about you). I mean yeah, what's there is somewhat true, but it's just basic information and vague. They think I'm somewhere between 18 and 34. They got basic idea, but how vague it is?
I did very good at this, I deleted all my social media lol. And then remade my youtube account. Most of my old internet shit is gone / inaccessible to the public *thumbs up emoji* ETA that being said I also literally burned all my old journals. Haven't regretted it even a bit. Probably the best thing I did on my decluttering journey.
this is perfect timing because i’m deleting my tweets manually because i do want to keep some of my old tweets and doing it in increments to keep myself from becoming overwhelmed
with facebook I am always going through my memories deleting things, that feature made it a lot easier for me to go back and reflect and delete things. There is one post that upsets me (I was complaining about my grandmother bothering me and later in that same year she passed away) but I don’t delete it and every year I share it to remind people that they shouldn't take the people in their life for granted and to love the people around them fully because you never know when they will leave you.
i'm not sure i agree with your reasoning against cancel culture. although it is harmful in the worst ways at times, a lot of these old "takes" that are brought to light are almost always blatantly racist, anti-semitic, xenophobic etc. there is a difference to me in someone tweeting at age 15 a song lyric with the n word vs. a very distasteful racist joke/comment about another race or culture. those kinds of things are not as easily forgivable- that is a whole learned mindset at play that typically doesn't leave you quickly in life.
honestly i'm so thankful that i as an 15 year old girl decided to study media and communications in high school because i learned so much about this topic and algorithms, privacy, laws related to privacy and the internet
I remember when I signed up to Airbnb using my FB account back in like 2012, it listed pages I liked as "interests" on my Airbnb profile. Of course the ones it choose were the most inappropriate ones from 14-16 yo me, mostly about getting drunk and smoking weed and tons of sexual stuff that teenage me thought was bad ass. In reality, I was a quite virgin teen who barely drank & had a joint once. I was mortified because I couldn't remove it even when I unliked them on Facebook and I only notice all of this after I made a booking, lucky the host either didn't see or didn't care and Airbnb took them off after a very angry email to them. It was mortifying and after that I unliked as many pages on fb as I physically could.
It seems Facebook is using the 'memories' feature to try and get users back on the platform. However the only person I know who actually enjoys them is my mum forwarding them to the family chat lol
not to be a fangirl but i love you
hi mike
Omg im in love with your channel🙊❤
Mike's Mic truee, and I love your content mate
why are you here? you should be dating pigeons, mate
I'm 21 and I am so glad I rejected social media until I graduated from high school. That's the only time I'm actually proud of my, "not like other girls/other people" phase.
Im currently doing that! No social media till i get out of high school cause i dont want to cringe in the future haha
@Aliyah J. That's exactly what I did lol
samu baby no way you’re missing out
Same. :) I`m 26 now, but I refused to be on any social media 2008-2012 (when I was 15-19 years old). Looking back, I`m really happy I did that. It saved me a lot of pain, drama and my precious time too.
I got back to FB in 2013 or 2014, because I moved more than 2000km from home and I think that it`s nice to see sometimes how my old friends and classmates are doing; their dogs/cats, babies and stuff. :D You can`t message everyone you know or you once knew...
Girl me too I didn't make any social media until I was 18 and still don't even use it very much so I pretty much have 0 online baggage.
oh my GOD the liking pages thing... i remember having a literal competition with my friends to see how many we could like, i got to over 1000 before, i guess, we just stopped? and now they all just exist on my timeline. its awful.
Sarah S lmao I did the same thing with my best friend back in the day too lol
I'm glad when old pages post. It reminds me to UNLIKE them. They've all turned into ads.
@@julek2589 damn i remember that so vividly as well
Saaame, it's the worst!!
I remember back in those days when a friend got onto my account (I left it open on her computer or something) and she went and liked a whole ton of pages that were not relevant to me at all, but would look hilarious when it came up saying "[my name] likes furries" or whatever on people's newsfeeds. That took ages to reverse.
Facebook does not have accurate data on me. Remember when you put good friends as siblings/parents/kids/SO? Thanks to that, according to facebook I'm a divorced single mother with an absurd amount of siblings.
I haven't used my Facebook in 8 years. Facebook thinks I'm an 84 y/o married to an anime character.
@@Hipoptrofobia I think all of my friends are like cousins or aunts. And my friend was engaged to Vod Ka at one point haha
Definitely "married" my high school boyfriend and changed my last name on FB once XD
*Single mother of children 6 months younger than you
oh trust me, they do! there have been instances where friends of people on facebook get tag suggestions on group pictures, despite not having social media profiles themselves.
When I was 13 or 14 maybe I used to give crazy makeovers to a friend and we’d take pictures, do “photo shoots” (you know how it is) and then we’d post the pictures on facebook. One time I basically wanted to make my friend look like a mermaid and for some reason I thought that that entailed covering her face in shimmery dark purple eyeshadow and I did the same to my own face . Once again we snapped a photo and put it on facebook and no one back then paid much attention to it so life moved on and i forgot it existed. When I started university however my flat mates had this habit of going through each other’s old facebook posts and making fun of them as you do. One guy found the pictures of the “crazy makeovers” and I was horrified when I saw that the picture of my friend and I with purple all over our faces - with the bad webcam not helping us out with lighting- looked like blackface! I had to explain to everyone that I was never racist and it was literally purple eyeshadow and luckily they did believe me but for a while they used to bring it up a lot and refer to it as “the blackface photo”. Needless to say I deleted it as fast as I could.
I'm sorry but LMFAO THATS FUNNY. but terrible hahahahhaa
@@user-wp5cf4uf3b They used plenty of periods.
I don't believe you needed go delete your photo tho💖
I think the original story is cute- and the rest is just a funny, embarrassing(for them, not you) story about how judgemental people can be nowadays 🙈
Pineapple i think it was right to delete the photo. especially in today's climate. it clearly wasn't a monumental part of the person's childhood if they forgot it even existed. and now that the photo can be taken out of context and be detrimental for the person's future (extreme case ofc) it was the right decision.
S no 😂
Facebook status memories trigger me so much oh lord the cringe
The only thing those memories made do was erasing every post of one of my ex's and realized, that guy post on my feed every other day....for 2 years!!! And Facebook doesn't like you to erase things. "Erase" "would you like to erase?" "Are you SHUREEEE?"
I'm a year late to this conversation but just yesterday I got a fb memory of me and my friend posting pictures of each other CRYING to the other's wall... What was the context? No clue.
the only true solution: never, ever, under any circumstances, ever post anything at all ever under your own real name
うぉ〜でぃん still can be traced back by anyone who REALLY wants to (Eg. Stalkers, journalists, enemies, Nev from Catfish 😅)
I always roast everyone under an alt account.
I have heard that some companies look you up and if they can’t find anything (particularly Facebook) oh well you’re probably dodgey no thanks.....I don’t know how true that is though
@@rebeccah8637 use a vpn
Rebecca H lmaooo Nev will definitely find you 😂
I literally have woken up in the middle of the night horrified because I remembered something I posted on social media in 2011
are you me?
what's really funny is that the other day i searched "taylor swift make up tutorial" and i saw one called "how to be taylor swift" from 6 years ago. that's when i saw the "tiffanyferg" under the title and was like HOLY SHIT!!!!
When I was 14 I was one of several admins on an LGBTQ+ support account with a few thousand followers on instagram. I once posted an angry rant in which I used an ableist insult against the people who disagreed with me.
I was 14. English isn't my first language. I genuinely wasn't aware what the word actually meant, I'd just seen it be used as an insult and added i to my vocabulary without thinking about it.
I was cancelled. The whole account was cancelled. There were screenshots floating around other websites encouraging people to cancel us, so it only got worse when I deleted the post and tried to pretend I hadn't said it.
I am eternally grateful that I went by a nickname and didn't post any pictures of my face 'cause oh boy, I would not like to have that used against me today.
@@ju-lq9jp was it with an ‘er’ or ‘a’
@@DeanithForeverYoung “nigger” or “nigga” they are names that are used for black people in America. “Nigga” is more friendly and something black people like myself say to other black people “nigger” is more hurtful and purposefully trying to hurt someone. Although in July’s case it was used in a hurtful way.
@@ju-lq9jp you really don’t have to care about 1 word you said at 14 years old smh
I hate stories like this. Nothing is accomplished by canceling someone over something so small, people are actual ego maniacs who get a high off of calling people out for perceived “problematic behavior” it’s literally just a power thing
Warning: MySpace is not “gone”.
The Valonqar oh dear god
If you’re not a band it is
Sleepy Sartorialist I just looked right at my sisters profile to confirm it’s still there. It is.
*flashback to gangster spongebob*
It's #twentyninescene bitches. Lighten up.
"Degrassi tonight?!?! Pumped!" Lmao girl after my own heart
I remember watching that show when I was young, on Saturday mornings!
same honestly
You look so classy here like damn??? At least give me a warning Tiffany
Yeah!! Tiffany is wearing the new jewelry from Ashley (BestDressed on UA-cam :)
@@artsytype it looks really nice!
Ikr the colours match so well and I love the necklace length 😍
Right!
Why does she remind me of Regina George
People in the past wrote diaries, and those can be found after they were dead. I think queen Victoria asked for her letters and diaries to be burned, or her daughter did it because she did't like what was there.
Is that Ashley’s jewelry line I see!!!!! So cute!
I read that as jawline
I was about to comment this!!!
yess i noticed that too! :)
I wish someone would set limits on me when it comes to internet use when i was a teenager. My parents did not know how to use social media so i began to understand the "do's and don'ts" of internet through trial and error. I regret a lot of things that i say and did and only now as an young adult i understand.
Same here
@The ASMR Queen I'm a young millenial, I was always taught: don't use your real name, don't give out your location or school, don't put your face online.
Modern social media is a bit different, but I think those are still good rules if you can follow them. I strongly support 1. don't use your real name. 2. have a public-facing persona for IRL friends which is parent-friendly and 3. if you like fandom stuff, make a private persona which isn't connected to anything else (no phone #, no payment info, no personal email etc.) And if you DO do something dumb, don't take photos, don't post about it. Make sure your friends have common sense, too.
Also, like it or not, most kids watch p*rn at some point. Don't make accounts. DO NOT ever stream or video call or record yourself. DO research about *real* sex and intimacy. Do inform yourself on the proper way to approach k*nk and f*tish content. Be careful.
Finally, decide how much time you want to spend online and stick to it. Adult you will thank you.
we were guinea pigs. you are forgiven ♡.
Well, there's a lot of people that identify with this comment, so i wanna say that we all made (big and small) mistakes in life and that's OK. Everything that humans do is full of mistakes. That's the true human nature. I hope you can forgive yourself and move on knowing that you are a better person now.
You were a kid. you didn't know any better. :( and probably at that time, nobody knew how intrusive social media really is. don't be so hard on yourself.
Tiffany: "Remember to delete your old posts!!"
Me: * has a breakdown every few years in which I delete all my social media but then I regret it and make a new one*
"Done."
@ the people who forgot passwords/ cant delete their accounts, email support for the website and explain your situation! the website's support can most likely delete it for you!
They can, but will they? I have asked a few forums etc. but have mixed results.
@@elainelouve Well, it's worth a try anyhow.
@@raveng8217 you are right about that.:) It just hasn't always worked out, but I'm glad I tried.
or if you still use the same email you can just put forget password and they will give it to you.
Honestly, all I have to think about is how we all used to say “that’s so gay” or some kind of variety to say something was stupid or bad. Looking back now I can’t believe I would ever say that.
And the calling everyone a bitch phase.
Tayla Maree people do stupid stuff all the time. Don’t be too hard on yourself lol.
Isn't it interesting to think that gay meant funny, happy, cheerful? something positive, and then the opposite, because we'd call people interested in the same sex as being funny, happy, cheerful, but also as something bad, and then we only used the word to mean bad stuff... ?
Tiff why did you like “I was born in the 80’s in Poland?” 😂😂😂
Love ya Tiff- fan born in the 90’s in Poland literally
I was coming to the comments to see if anybody else wondered the same thing 😂😂
I think it’s pretty safe to say that most employers don’t look for your tumblr simply because of how fricken weird it is. They don’t understand the humor or even the mechanics. They might not even know it exists. Also, most tumblr users reblog more than they make original posts, and small-time users barely get any notes on original posts anyways. If an employer were to look on your tumblr, they’d get lost in content posted by other people, and they’d only gain an understanding of your interests or sense of humor. Real names are rarely attached to tumblr accounts at least in my experience and others I’ve seen. I would have no way of knowing if my friend had a tumblr because I can’t search their name and I’d have to guess what kind of whacky url they’d use, which can change often. As long as your name isn’t attached to your tumblr, your years worth of cringey superwholock gifs and One Direction fan fictions shouldn’t keep you from a job. Me n my 19.6k posts containing in-depth analyses of cartoons and oddly formatted humor will all stay right up online in case something other than a bot wants to follow me.
i don’t use my real name on tumblr and i’ve never posted my face on it. i like the fact that nobody irl would find it unless i told them what my username was
Some months ago I deleted my old facebook account I had since 2011. Now that I graduated from university and I changed a lot about my political and social views (I got out of my middle class bubble, thank godness), I started to think it won't do me any favors to leave my old racist, misogynistic and xenofobic comments for anyone to see on the internet. It also made me very embarassed how I could think such horrible things. Now I have a new account with everthing private with a few close friends. I used to have a lot of family members and one time, one of my relatives misinterpreted one of my posts and gurl, it caused me so much headache.
I deleted my first FB account on accountkiller two years ago and oh boy, it was one of the best decisions of my life lol
I remember being very, VERY homophobic in my young years bc my mom always taught me that she wouldn't like me to be gay, so I thought that she was trying to say ''Gays are bad'' so I grew with that mindset for a long time.
I love this video, Tiffany! I am so happy you're discussing Zwarte Piet. An outsider's perspective who is not blinded by tradition can really show how racist and hurtful this is! I am a Dutch social scientist and I am very interested in this discussion. For many, this pro-Zwarte Piet stance is combined with nationalist feelings. For them it is the prime example of outsiders "eradicating the Dutch/European culture," and that seems to be the main motivation behind the unwillingness to change. Thankfully, as of this year, the national parades of Sinterklaas will not include blackface. This is a huge step. This perspective that was seen as "extremist" are now more mainstream, which is awesome!
As for my own shocking social media post when I was many years younger... I found a post where I complained about my train being delayed because someone who commited suicide on the train track. This is unfortunately not very uncommon where I live. I called this action "selfish," which is absolutely horrifying to me. Since then I have learnt a lot about mental health and now I know how ignorant and hurtful it is to say something like that. And that it perhaps, in their mind, is even the most selfless thing they can do... I still think about this post regularly and I just hope so much that no one who was struggling with their mental health has seen this and was hurt by it.
Use memories feature on Facebook to daily delete posts from this day over 10 years. 365 days to delete excess at least. Better than the alternative of just leavingit
Yes!! When people take random super unflattering pictures at an event or party or something where you are like mid-conversation with somebody, mouth open, eyes halfway blinking, and then they post it on facebook! Ugh whyyyyyy
I think deleting your social media is a very good idea. It’s a good detox that calms you down and helps you be a better person. I can’t count how many times i would wake up in the middle of the night because I remembered that old cringy post, conversation or photo on Facebook that I had 🤦♀️ In the recent years I also realized that all the information that I gave out on the internet is haunting me, I often feel so embarrassed, it’s just harder nowadays to not be judged for your past mistakes in the social media era...
about the whole zwarte piet issue... as a dutch citizen myself, i never really saw a problem with it when i was young bc i was unaware that this was racist in the first place, which actually adds to the problem: little children are simply taught that they are part of our holiday tradition, and there's no one to tell them that this is very problematic. in the last couple of years, there has been more and more attention on this issue and i personally just can't understand why people make such a big deal out of changing the zwarte piet slightly so that it isn't racist anymore. i think the problem is just that people are so ignorant and can be so unempathetic sometimes... there have been experiments done with children to see if they care if zwarte piet's appearance changes and it's proven that they really do not care. this discussion really pisses me off and every year people get heated up about this; the same arguments are repeated over and over again and i'm getting really tired of this. sorry for this rant but i had to get it out (it'll be sinterklaas in december, so two months left before the discussion gets heated up again! yay!)
The thing is , the new generation of parents or parents that have had older children are now truly understanding the consequences of how much social media can affect their kids, i remember my older brother spending WAY too much time on Facebook growing up, and now my parents are limiting mine, it is tough seeing other kids with there socials but atleast I know i get a chance to live a childhood without toxic social media
Also im getting insta next year and Im really excited ( im 13 )
When I started UA-cam I realized the importance of deleting the posts of 13 year old me begging Calum Hood to marry me
"I'm amazed at the amount of myself I've shared over the years" same, it's kind of terrifying
Lol my parents didn’t let me have social media until later in life. I was upset then, but now I’m thankful.
I actually paused this video to delete my Facebook account. I didn't even know you could do that. I thought Facebook would hold its users hostage and not let them delete the profiles, and only deactivate them, which means nothing really, on Facebook.
They make it really hard to delete it. I had to google how when I did it and they told me it would take 14 days until it would actually be deleted and if I logged in again during the 14 days, they would stop the deletion process. They want you to have doubts about it so badly. Same with Snapchat. Had to wait 14 days, got a reminder email about it right before the time was up. And then sometimes they'll write stuff like "Sad to see you go" or "We'll miss you" in their automated emails when you want to delete an account. I hate that. It's verging on guilt-tripping.
im glad i dont have social media back in the early 2010s
anamorphic I did 😭 I was so cringey
My mom let me have an account when I was like 9 and I regret it! 😂
I started using facebook back in 2009 and I swear my feed back then was full of pet society and farmville level updates :/
Good. A lot of PC culture stemmed from how awful the internet was back then.
i only had an instagram fanpage. i’m so thankful my mom didn’t allow me to have social media until i was a bit older. and even though i made my instagram at 13, i didn’t post many personal things.
It's really interesting that you posted this today. Earlier at work I was speaking to my coworkers about something similar, with how invasive and addicting it is. My boss and I spoke about how we don't have social media (him at all, myself connecting my name to my identity online) . It's a scary thing, seeing how invasive all of it is and how it connects the past us to the current and then future us.
I've had my Facebook account since I was 13. I definitely have old posts that I'm ashamed of. Some of them are harmless but embarrassing...for some reason, I felt the need to spell words as incorrectly as I could to make it look "kewl" 🙄 other posts are much heavier, such as me using the "r" word, something I haven't done in years. I've grown, I've listened, and I've learned.
being early is NOT fun cause i can’t scroll through comments and read other people’s opinions :(
ainara same
YES
So when I was 19 in college I tried to have a "photoshoot" and take cringey photos of myself in Vintage Glamour shots. The outfit looked really cheap. Just saw someone liked my post from 12 years ago and I quickly deleted the photo
Worst part? It's on Facebook and you could've easily found it under my maiden name. Fortunately my married named is more basic.
The degrassi post had me laughing because....same
So, I'm a professional in animation.. and I have been using my twitter since MIDDLE SCHOOl (2010) the deleting programs for some reason didn't work so I had to sit down and spend 7+ hours deleting every single drawing of mind from 2010-2019 because the account is now professional. I saved most of them but honestly, I didn't want my harry potter fanart from 2011 to be next to my professional portfolio. It was hell, one of the most hellish moments of my life.
EDIT LOL: JUST SO EVERYONE KNOWS I DIDNT SWITCH ACCOUNTS BECAUSE I HAD A LOT OF INDUSTRY PROFESSIONALS FOLLOWING ME AND IT WAS BEFORE I BROKE INTO THE INDUSTRY I couldn't risk them not following me again
I'd have just made a new account tbh, but I'm lazy lol.
I just made another account and use my old one as a time capsule as sort . Which is fine as its not under my name.
Cambridge Analytica also swayed Argentina's election in favor of our current administration (Mauricio Macri's) and since then we are going through one of the worst socio-economical crisis of the history of the country, the unemployment rate sky rocketed, we've taken debt in an unprecedented rate and poverty increased in every measurable way.
I kind of agree, but consider that Cristina Kirshner literally robbed and got away with it bc of very ignorant people. There's no good or bad here. There's no single candidate that I like. I would move away. I would consider this the laziest place in the world I had ever seen.
@@davidkonevky7372 are you serious? Of the 13 open cases against her 3 are already disproven. Alberto Fernández has 0 accusations and Macri has 150 cases of corruption. This narrative that kirchnerism was particularly corrupted was EXACTLY one of the things Cambridge Analyitica made people buy with fake news.
as someone in their early 30's... all my cringy posts no longer exist because the websites don't either. anyone remember xynga???
I'm 12 and I've never heard of that lol
@@fkhan2006 lol I would hope not since it was popular before you were born.
I'm 18 but I'll go ask my mom lol 😂
@@jaydeo7850 it would be a little odd if she kept an online journal in her late teens/twenties... but to each his own I guess lol
@@tillapia Nah she didnt know what it was either lol. She did use Myspace though, I remember wanting an account when I was like 8 but she told me no.
Thank you for your take on cancelling! I've long wondered how that will affect Gen Z going forward because old posts can contain literally a childish mindset/understanding of the world whereas "cancelling" for old posts (not related to present behaviour) is just reactionary. It's a fine line to walk but I very much enjoyed hearing your nuanced take on it.
I feel you on this, but I lost all my Bebo and MySpace profiles from my teens and early twenties. So many memories that are lost. I’m in my thirties now and I would love to have a look through those old photos and posts. I mean they would be criiiiiiiinge AF, but they are my (hazy, mostly drunk) ramblings and pics and they are gone. The twitter auto delete chat I can get behind, but I think I’m gonna hold on to FB, the pit of DataMining it may be, but I know when I’m in my 50’s I’ll enjoy looking back on my timeline...and Zuckerberg will no doubt be our overload by then.
myspace is still there, look up your name
Same, I’m almost 30. I self deleted all my social media like 6 years ago and now I kind of regret it.
I would die if anyone found my bebo, my friends were very mean to me back then and posted alot of awful things about me from my account. I would love to just eradicate it from being online
Ngaire Pakai I’m so sorry that happened. People can be the worst. If this helps at all, the site got sold off and all the profiles got deleted. They gave people 6 months to get their pics, but the email address they had for me was my high school one that I haven’t signed into in over a decade so....I missed the deadline for that by, 3 years 🤷🏼♀️ anyway - bebo as we knew it doesn’t exist anymore ❤️
@@EmmaTheCowie thats actually so releaving for me, sad that others lose all their photos
My sister said "Twitter is where you go to destroy your career." Which makes sense. If you said something when you were younger (ex: 12-18) and then someone decided to dig way too back to "cancel" you.
My boyfriend deleted his facebook profile, and like, a YEAR later, he was able to just log back in again. It's whack.
Ive tried to delete mine at least 5 times and my mother can still see my page. Im not sure how to get rid of it now.
He just deactivated it. But I think they’ve made deleting it easier recently. It used to be, the delete link was hidden DEEP in some help article that no one could ever find unless they dedicated at least an hour to looking for it.
And then the deactivate button would just be front and center pretending to be someone else.
@@chaghetti He did attempt to delete it. I think it stores the data for a period of time before it becomes final
when i got rid of mine i had to deactivate it, then send an email to FB notifying that i wanted it deleted, and then they left like a 60-day grace period in case you change your mind, and then after that it’s scheduled for deletion. that’s how it worked a few years ago anyway, not sure how it goes now because i avoid that dumpster fire of a website as much as possible
I feel like everyone should delete old and restart new social media pages in their last year of high school.
I'm tired of hearing:
"I was only a racist because I was 14 years old."
"15 year old me was a homophobe, but I'm a good person."
GIRL. I just found your channel and now I'm *BINGING*. I'm majoring in social science at uni and your videos are mad interesting. Love the social topics!
Sophia Ke her videos are THE BEST!!!!!
Don't feel too bad about your old embarrassing posts yall we all make mistakes
laverna One time I wrote out the entire lyrics for American Pie from memory (if you don't know it, its like an 8 minute song) and posted it on my Facebook. Why? I have no idea
Mighty Decent well that’s not that bad tbh
Som Keshav it's not problematic, I just kinda remember doing that and laugh sometimes bc I'm like ??what did that achieve?? lol. My old social media posts aren't really cancel culture worthy, they're just pointless
i am so SO happy that my mom never posts photos of me and my siblings on facebook and she only has facebook for messenger. i HATE pictures of myself and i’m glad that my mom respects our boundaries and doesn’t post her children online
what you bring up is so interesting! i always just think of how it's nice to look back on things and be nostalgic, but it's so scary to think about everything that I've posted that, even years from now, will still be floating around. i don't regard myself as a hoarder of any sort, and in real life, i'm always going through things i used to think would be important to me in the future, but i feel like when we turn to social media our mindsets change so much. thanks for making this amazing vid and getting me thinking!
I had to create a facebook account for my college marketing class and I was pissed. I am planning of deleting it once the class ends.
But, other than that, up until a year ago, my parents have always monitored my online presence and they always scolded me and made me delete any harsh opinions immediately so there’s nothing to find on me, or at least I don’t think there is. Does that count as a pro to having helicopter parents? Idk
notification came up, read the video title and immediately went, “oof. this ones for me.”
"Don't call people out - instead call people in".
This is the best one-liner on 'cancel culture' that I've ever heard. It came from a high-school age person that's already more intelligent than I'll ever be. We shouldn't aim to wreck somebody's potential or reputation based on things they've said (online or out loud). Rather, we can build them up by showing them what's problematic about their actions--IN A WAY that demonstrates that we know they can and should do better. And, we should be receptive to when other people do that for us.
“Analyze your own internet” is very meta and I am here for it
Maybe it’s because I’m 17 or maybe it’s because I’m naturally a pack rat of nostalgia and memories terrified of forgetting anything or even because I haven’t used too many social media platforms as personal venting places but for me, at least I like having those old posts around on my tumblr, it reminds me of what I was into and it’s like a time machine of going back to the person I was and appreciating her for making it through tough times. Additionally as a person who’s really involved in a long running fandom it’s wildly entertaining to look back on what everyone else was doing years and years ago and reflect on how the fandoms culture has evolved. Maybe one day I’ll feel different but for right now, given that I rarely ever used any social media under my full actual name I don’t worry and it’s really nice to have an online book of memories to who I once was
I've been deleting things since I was fourteen from my beginnings in social media when I was eleven-I've known how cringey I can be for a long time. My friends STILL find embarrassing statuses about Farmville on my Facebook! I can't win
We need to remember that social media is like a digital bulletin board, not a digital photo album.
I've always tried to live by the rule of acting the same online as I would IRL (i.e. being polite, not being a bully), but sometimes I wonder if that's enough. I feel like I'm living on borrowed time until someone decides to go scorched earth on me over a minor disagreement. That may be my social anxiety talking though.
I do wish I had downloaded or archived my old Livejournal before deleting it because it was an absolute masterpiece of mid '00s emo cringe.
Thank you for this video. I am very careful about what I comment and post on social media now and only use 3-4 on a weekly basis, but it made me remember that I don’t like to delete anything, so I have old accounts on medias I just used once in 2015 like tumblr. So now I’m on a mission to delete all I don’t use and screenshot moments I want to keep. Thanks to this video I remembered my insta account from 2014 when I was suicidal (let’s just say I don’t need that account anymore). And even if I barely use my real name or share pictures of myself it just creeps me out that so many things that I have created are out there and I can’t stand for those things I’ve said or posted because I have grown so much since then.
a digital detox is a great idea. i quit fb back in 2014 (and tumblr not long after) but ive been meaning to go back and actually delete posts, unfriend people, etc. youre right sometimes it's just too much content to sift through and it's easier to delete things completely. when my myspace profile was deleted a few years back i was sad at the time but now im grateful bc it was soo embarrassing and cringey. tom was looking out for me
By 0:20 I was already heading to fb to erase history
I deactivated my Facebook but didn't delete it as I use Messenger pretty much every day to keep in contact with family and friends abroad etc. For me, the thing that made me realise that I'd definitely done the right thing was the fact that whenever I wasn't entirely sure of what to do I'd always go to go to facebook and then I'd be like 'oh yeah, I deleted it.' It actually really freaked me out when I realised that x
You are so incredibly refreshing. The fact that some famous individuals are being “cancelled” for things they said years ago is absolutely ridiculous.
I literally saw your story on the topic and immediately went on Facebook to clean my profile
And yeah, I've been on it since I was nine, cause everyone had an account and my parents let me make one 😬
Went through my feed from when I was 13 and only found really really bad jokes. Man, teenage me tried so hard.
Your eyebrows are perfect in this video!! I love your back and forth dialogue and "note to self's" ..reminiscent of Lizzy McGuire
Yet again I'm so glad to have been born a bit earlier than Tiff and co. I'm 33 now and would have been 18 when Facebook started, and I wasn't allowed private internet use when I still lived at my family home. My stupid teenage antics were either captured on cheap film cameras or - with an amazing technological advancement - on 8mm video cam tape. That said though, I had a full FB clean-out a few years ago when I transitioned; I didn't have anything too problematic, but having people see that profile and think that was present-day-me was an awful (=dysphoria inducing) thought.
Honestly I'm a lot better at reviewing my public profiles, like Twitter, where I know anyone can see from an easy Google search than my more private profiles, where I only accept friends and stuff but I sometimes worry privacy settings are a false sense of security
I can actually respect somebody wanting to delete past posts or statuses that don't represent them anymore or simply don't match their values of today. Where It can be triggering/embarrassing for some it can also create problems in someone's social or work life. That being said, I personally like to keep the memory of my old slightly sexist or non self aware or sightly hypocritical posts. Just to remember my growth and understanding my childhood and Psyche better. Of course i don't agree with those posts anymore but it's cause of learning new things and meeting new people and exploring empathy that i understood why it's wrong to do a certain thing or say a certain stuff. I simply just like to have memories to differentiate my self from the now me. I hope I made Sense...
I have been on social media since i was 16 (for about 7 years now). I recently decided to delete my facebook and instagram because of mental health reasons but before hand I went through and deleted the majority of my posts and information, there was so much cringe. I did save pictures and screen shot posts that I thought were special to me but At that point I didn't see the need to have both of those platforms anymore so i just deleted them entirely. Feels good to not have that kind of baggage over my head on top of being an adult and paying student loans :'(
Me: *not having anything to watch, super bored*
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Girl is that some bestdressed jewelry you're rocking their. You look so elegant by the way, totally boss
this is why i love instagrams archive feature
no one can see it, but i can keep the memories and nostalgia
my favorite part of my old facebook statuses is when I kept saying "I'll just be a cat lady" when i was 17 years old and screwed over by a bunch of different boys. like i really thought those boys were looking for a long term relationship in their teens lol
My favorite thing is how involved you are with your viewers. All of the videos I've watched, you ask for our feedback and genuinely want to hear it. It's nice
something that i'm surprised you didn't mention during this video was internet archiving. maybe it's because i'm into internet archiving that i immediately thought of it when i saw the video title, but i think that it's important to address it when you bring up the topic of deleting posts. the internet is going to be a really big portion of our human history, so i personally think that we should preserve as many digital footprints as possible, including our own. i know a lot of people who are interested in looking at old geocities pages because of their novelty- but imagine how many geocities archives would be lost if people had the mindset of "digital cleansing"? in the end, it's up to each individual person whether or not they want to delete old posts, but i think the internet history aspect of it is very important to consider. hope i worded this in a way that makes it easy to understand
That's such an interesting perspective! I'd never heard of "internet archiving", how does it work?
@@eurekamreum5458 there's a website pretty much dedicated to archiving old internet pages ( archive.org/ ) which lets you input URLs that you'd like to archive. there are also specific branches of archive.org like oocities and gifcities, which is dedicated to archiving websites that were made on geocities and the images hosted on these sites. usually, when a website is archived, it saves a replica of the website (aka a "mirror"). this replica can be viewed as if it were a working site even after the site is altered or even deleted. this is a very bare-bones description but i hope it helps in understanding internet archiving! :)
I really enjoyed this video. I'm glad I was always on the more hesitant side when posting on social media. And every once in awhile I get the urge to delete posts, pictures or unfriend/ unfollow people, which also helps as a mental clean up kind of. And if I want to keep something I just save it on my device before deleting it.
I also agree with your points on the cancel culture.
Great video :)
You can’t just delete the posts. Sometimes they can still dig it up. I’m scrubbing my accounts off completely slowly just removing myself from social media all together. Keeping like one account down the road for business purpose.
I find it amazing how well she explains everything. in all of these videos it feels like i’m watching someone tell me my own opinions in a way that i can understand in word form.
I definitely get being anxious about other people posting things about you-especially since I was that person. The only removal request that really rubbed me the wrong way was when a friend’s ex-boyfriend asked me to take photos of them down...months after they broke up. It was weird, and even though I could relate, he could’ve just untagged himself, especially since we were not friends. Lol still definitely bothers me even though it’s completely moot now.
I used to have a cringy e-mail address that I made when I was 12. When I was 18 and wanted to e.g. send professional e-mails, I made a new e-mail address and I deleted my facebook profile connected to that old e-mail address. Or so I thought but facebook doesn't actually allow you to delete a profile (or at least not at that time, I'm not sure if that's still the case.) Afterwards I deleted that e-mail adress. A few years later I suddenly see that my friends are still friends with that old facebook account. I can't access it to delete it myself cause I can't log in cause the e-mail adress doesn't exist anymore. I have asked facebook SEVERAL TIMES to delete it and yet it still exists. I didn't deleted the pictures and posts before I deleted the profile cause I thought if I delete the profile everything else will automatically be deleted too. NOPE. There are pictures of me on there in my Pj's at a slumberparty ect..... VERY annoying.
you always make such thoughtful videos and the fact that you include detailed timestamps is a cherry on top. it’s rare to find opinions on such topics that aren’t just one sided which is a reason why i love your channel. in reality, in society nothing is black or white so when people force the idea that you have to choose one “side” or the other, it just makes me so mad. you should be able to give a full opinion without having a single one worded answer. what is the point of just whittling something down to practically nothing when our society and world is so complex???
(reading this back it makes no sense but i hope i got my point across. its late at night so i cant exactly put my thoughts in a comprehensive manner)
I like the "on this day" option on fb because it reminds me that I should delete everything
This inspired me to go sort through some old accounts, get rid of those, and revamp my current accounts into ones that accurately and more professionally represent me. Thank you.
But the thing is, I don’t want to delete post from years ago because I view it almost like a scrapbook. I’m documenting major moments in my life.
Private or download everything. If you can't you just have to judge yourself how okay you are with you (And more likely than not some of your friends/family 's ) History on the internet forever
as i move on to student teaching, my professors have strongly urged us to private all our social medias, delete anything that might jeopardize our chances at getting a job, and to google ourselves to see what shows up. i’ve made everything private, not really deleting anything, but i wonder what is everyone’s take on private accounts vs deleting post? is it as effective?
Wow. Sometimes I get bothered by all the old emails in my inbox. You've made me want to purge the emails, get a new email, get a new Facebook, and disconnect everything 😬
Ive been on the internet since i was a literal child. I dont even know what social media profiles i have had over the years or where to find them.
This is why I'm grateful I have never felt urge to post things about my life. Plus, I pretty late got my hands on social apps (at least global). I'm in FB, IG, but if I post something that just means I'm remanding I'm still alive. Pretty much it's just new profile picture(very few in year span) or another nature picture in IG and rarely my own. I'm just using them to know news in things I'm interested in and see what other are up to. So I'm pretty sure that social apps shouldn't ruin my life in some way. Yes, they still can gather my data, but I doubt how accurate it is (if you want to know what is gathered about you on internet in your account settings you can see "Data and personalization" and there's ad personalization. There's many small icons of things they have collected about you). I mean yeah, what's there is somewhat true, but it's just basic information and vague. They think I'm somewhere between 18 and 34. They got basic idea, but how vague it is?
i used to have a 1d stan acc so my early teenage years on the internet were even MORE cringy
I did very good at this, I deleted all my social media lol. And then remade my youtube account. Most of my old internet shit is gone / inaccessible to the public *thumbs up emoji*
ETA that being said I also literally burned all my old journals. Haven't regretted it even a bit. Probably the best thing I did on my decluttering journey.
this is perfect timing because i’m deleting my tweets manually because i do want to keep some of my old tweets and doing it in increments to keep myself from becoming overwhelmed
It's kinda weird to me that we live in an age where a "Twitter Deleter" service is a thing.
with facebook I am always going through my memories deleting things, that feature made it a lot easier for me to go back and reflect and delete things. There is one post that upsets me (I was complaining about my grandmother bothering me and later in that same year she passed away) but I don’t delete it and every year I share it to remind people that they shouldn't take the people in their life for granted and to love the people around them fully because you never know when they will leave you.
i'm not sure i agree with your reasoning against cancel culture. although it is harmful in the worst ways at times, a lot of these old "takes" that are brought to light are almost always blatantly racist, anti-semitic, xenophobic etc. there is a difference to me in someone tweeting at age 15 a song lyric with the n word vs. a very distasteful racist joke/comment about another race or culture. those kinds of things are not as easily forgivable- that is a whole learned mindset at play that typically doesn't leave you quickly in life.
honestly i'm so thankful that i as an 15 year old girl decided to study media and communications in high school because i learned so much about this topic and algorithms, privacy, laws related to privacy and the internet
I’d reeeeally love to delete my FB, but I’m kinda forced to have it for school and work... It sucks.
I remember when I signed up to Airbnb using my FB account back in like 2012, it listed pages I liked as "interests" on my Airbnb profile. Of course the ones it choose were the most inappropriate ones from 14-16 yo me, mostly about getting drunk and smoking weed and tons of sexual stuff that teenage me thought was bad ass. In reality, I was a quite virgin teen who barely drank & had a joint once. I was mortified because I couldn't remove it even when I unliked them on Facebook and I only notice all of this after I made a booking, lucky the host either didn't see or didn't care and Airbnb took them off after a very angry email to them. It was mortifying and after that I unliked as many pages on fb as I physically could.
I barely have a social life so not much to worry about
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