How to Instantly Achieve a Calm State | Sam Harris on Impact Theory

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    Sam Harris, 5-time NYT best-selling author, believes the limits to human well-being have not yet been reached. By being open to being wrong, improving our conversations with others and with our own selves, we can learn to control our emotions and our destiny. On this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu, Sam Harris talks about what to do if you suffer from anxiety, feel lost or hopeless, or just want to connect more effectively with real life.
    SHOW NOTES:
    Sam defines what a good life is, and why we have to get our act together [3:05]
    Sam describes the relationship between philanthropy and psychological good [5:12]
    Sam challenges dogma and advocates open conversation and scientific investigation [8:39]
    Sam and Tom discuss skill acquisition, and how even well-being is a skill [16:03]
    Sam and Tom discuss emotional control [22:34]
    Sam explains that he has no life hacks to optimize learning [26:46]
    Sam describes meditation as jiu-jitsu for the mind [29:56]
    Sam explains why ego and never-ending thoughts cause suffering [33:49]
    Sam describes what a flourishing life would be [40:11]
    Sam talks about what to do if you are just completely lost [45:27]
    Sam shares the impact he would like to have on the world [50:24]
    QUOTES:
    We have to be continually open to the possibility that we might be wrong, and in fact we are very likely to be wrong, a lot of the time. [11:59]
    The half-life of negative emotions is incredibly short. [22:30]
    I know there’s an infinite amount of stuff I want to read. I don’t go into the table of contents and look at the structure of the book, and go to the index and look at the topics. I just start on page one and start reading. When I get bored I stop. Do with that life-hack what you will. [28:41]
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    BOOKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
    The End of Faith amzn.to/2x1iE1A [1:34]
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 2 тис.

  • @JonnM
    @JonnM 3 роки тому +1057

    He’s on the button here. A major determinant of how well we feel is framing. When I was a little kid I was always very anxious. One day my father took me aside and told me he observed my anxiousness and asked me what I was worried about. He suggested we write them down. He then put the list in his wallet and said we’d revisit them in the future sometime. A few weeks later he called me in and said “let’s check that list”. He then ticked them off one by one and of course none had happened. He then said to me “worry is a wasted emotion” “Most bad things never happen”. “If your worry is something you can do something about then do it, if you can’t do anything about it, forget it.” 50 years later I often think of that conversation and appreciate it as the best lesson I ever learned. It’s guided me throughout my life.

    • @redfury223
      @redfury223 3 роки тому +79

      Your father is a legend.....what a great way to teach a younger person.....beautiful lesson

    • @grammarnationalistpartylol6301
      @grammarnationalistpartylol6301 3 роки тому +47

      My dad taught me almost nothing. Certainly nothing like that.
      But I liked reading your comment.

    • @jakw97
      @jakw97 3 роки тому +7

      You should be a journalist. I would read texts like this every day/week. This is what some of the big news papers used to have, the New York Times had. All jurnalists today are hacks of each other, and never have interesting storys to tell.

    • @grammarnationalistpartylol6301
      @grammarnationalistpartylol6301 3 роки тому +2

      @Sero Suit I've been working on that, been doing it for a week

    • @JustMe-999a
      @JustMe-999a 2 роки тому +3

      lie

  • @LawrenceAugust_
    @LawrenceAugust_ 4 роки тому +3303

    Sam Harris aka Zen Stiller

    • @voidandnon-2530
      @voidandnon-2530 4 роки тому +93

      Best nickname I've heard.

    • @esh8400
      @esh8400 4 роки тому +30

      🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😊🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠🧠

    • @robindro1961
      @robindro1961 4 роки тому +10

      Hahahaha :D

    • @ks-dd7gv
      @ks-dd7gv 4 роки тому +6

      Hahaha

    • @JeiBurke
      @JeiBurke 4 роки тому +18

      lmao that's the first time I heard that

  • @KphexTwin00
    @KphexTwin00 4 роки тому +643

    Sam Harris is one of my favourite humans.

    • @subatomicparticle
      @subatomicparticle 4 роки тому +16

      You say it as though you weren't human your self

    • @kaufmanat1
      @kaufmanat1 4 роки тому +1

      @@subatomicparticle hahaha

    • @divyasingh4505
      @divyasingh4505 4 роки тому +1

      💜💜💜💜

    • @c.guydubois8270
      @c.guydubois8270 3 роки тому +2

      @fynes leigh hey, imagine you had a treatment that reducers the perception of suffering mentally and physically. Would you tell anyone?...

    • @mariaalano3077
      @mariaalano3077 3 роки тому +1

      i just stumbled into him today, seems i found a guru

  • @Satadru
    @Satadru 4 роки тому +71

    Never get bored of listening to this man. Thanks, Tom, for bringing him in.

  • @Larfage
    @Larfage 4 роки тому +1380

    Thank you Ben Stiller for your zen words of wisdom!

  • @juanbonami2182
    @juanbonami2182 4 роки тому +55

    Whenever i click on longer videos i begin with the slight intention of clicking away after the first 10 min or so... but before i knew it the video was 50 minutes in and the video was over. I love when that happens. Good stuff Sam Harris!

  • @Kinsman19
    @Kinsman19 4 роки тому +454

    Sam is one of the most thoughtful and complete thinkers I've ever come across.

    • @darkday8913
      @darkday8913 4 роки тому +18

      Then you havent come across many people.

    • @Kinsman19
      @Kinsman19 4 роки тому +35

      @@darkday8913 Clever reply, bub.

    • @SupremeIntentionCrew
      @SupremeIntentionCrew 4 роки тому +2

      Checkout Jean Francois Geriepy

    • @MrPDTaylor
      @MrPDTaylor 4 роки тому +2

      @@SupremeIntentionCrew Jean Francois Geriepy is an idiot.

    • @J90JAM
      @J90JAM 4 роки тому +2

      @@darkday8913 and who would you recommend? Genuine question.

  • @coose08
    @coose08 4 роки тому +32

    Thanks Sam, I can’t say how much I appreciate your work.

  • @TrentonErker
    @TrentonErker 4 роки тому +437

    “Most people wait for the world to give them a reason to lose their sense of self.”

    • @zioshi2
      @zioshi2 4 роки тому +17

      This interview has so much information. It's hard to keep track. Thanks for the comment!

    • @ximwise
      @ximwise 4 роки тому +3

      interested in the context, at what point does he say this

    • @johannesyt1526
      @johannesyt1526 4 роки тому +5

      @@ximwise 38:55!

    • @anitarussell1966
      @anitarussell1966 3 роки тому +2

      Rrpoppoooprpr

    • @anitarussell1966
      @anitarussell1966 3 роки тому +2

      Vickrant James rvroo

  • @danchisholm1
    @danchisholm1 4 роки тому +28

    sam and folks like him are slowly making this world better

    • @deerlow1851
      @deerlow1851 2 роки тому

      @@ivotenotocensorship5247 explain yourself

    • @nogrammer
      @nogrammer Рік тому

      @@ivotenotocensorship5247 you gonna explain, or????? whats wrong with being rational?

  • @eawil-sunart
    @eawil-sunart 4 роки тому +2

    My 2 favorite people... Thank you guys for helping me more than you will ever know..... I was at the end of my rope holding on to anything... and your mindset , wisdom and guests provided me with the awareness of so much.... down to realizing I'm actually a bright person.. something I never thought for one second... keep impacting , waking up and helping other make sense of the things that matter in life.... you are both an awesome gift to our universe

  • @thatmexicanwiththemustache
    @thatmexicanwiththemustache 2 роки тому +6

    46:10 “They’re thinking without knowing that they’re thinking” I felt that

  • @Feelization
    @Feelization 4 роки тому +24

    Yes! ✨🙏❤️✨ Feeling The Feeling - without creating a big story around it is a very powerful practice.

  • @VladProkhorovDrums
    @VladProkhorovDrums 4 роки тому +25

    I absolutely love Sam, what an outstanding individual

  • @mattbidus9108
    @mattbidus9108 4 роки тому +14

    You’re at the mercy of who you were yesterday Sam Harris you’re a genius

  • @mjstev
    @mjstev 4 роки тому +1

    Thank you Tom and team for doing such an excellent interview! I am very glad you were able to get Sam on the show.

  • @liberalatheist
    @liberalatheist 4 роки тому +9

    Massive respect for Tom for this. I used to think this is just another motivational channel with no real substance. I've been slowly changing my mind over the past few months, seeing some really solid interviews. And this here does it for me, I'm sold. You're the real deal, Tom. Keep up the good work.

  • @gihaniamarasuriya7465
    @gihaniamarasuriya7465 4 роки тому +248

    Tom, I’ve always watched your videos. But I’ve been binge watching them for the past two days, and I have to tell you Not only do you have the best content with the most insightful people, I look up to you so much for the amount of effort and research you put into an episode. It’s insanely admirable! Keep up the best work. 🙌🏼

    • @GT-xp6bx
      @GT-xp6bx 4 роки тому +4

      Agreed

    • @TomBilyeu
      @TomBilyeu  4 роки тому +38

      Thank you so much, that means a lot!

    • @creativegirl9132
      @creativegirl9132 4 роки тому

      Tom Bilyeu may you give scooter braun to interview like this

    • @creativegirl9132
      @creativegirl9132 4 роки тому +1

      Tom Bilyeu he is manager of famous singers as justin bieber, Arania

    • @asiaminddynamics
      @asiaminddynamics 4 роки тому +1

      It's interesting- around 26 minutes, they start talking about managing and shifting mental and emotional states. I love the discussion, but I wonder, if you know or learned NLP. I know it's efficiency is always being discussed, but there is so much NLP brought to the world, for example with regard to shifting emotional states, letting go of negative emotions, or stepping back from negative situations to gain control over your states. I wonder .....

  • @demi3857
    @demi3857 4 роки тому +3

    Tom Bilyeu and Sam Harris is a magical combo. I feel liberated af after watching this conversation.

  • @mindasriver8408
    @mindasriver8408 4 роки тому +4

    The first moments of this talk are spot on. The feelings themselves aren't that bad, even fear. The story around the emotion is the issue.

    • @trout3685
      @trout3685 2 роки тому

      Probably why people like to imagine their dead parents are in heaven because it softens that dark feeling of loneliness.

  • @moragmcgill
    @moragmcgill 3 роки тому +23

    Love Sam Harris' take on mindfulness and Tom's questioning and listening skills
    Anxiety and excitement: tehe story we tell ourselves 21:45
    Freedom and welbeing is not predicated on getting rid of the physiology: 22:45
    Sense of self: 34
    stream of consciousness: 36:35
    Most people are waiting for the world to give them a good enough reason to just be present: 38:55
    Experiencing self and Remembering Self: 41:10

  • @timothyprindle3850
    @timothyprindle3850 4 роки тому +5

    Thanks for your amazing content Tom! It's inspiring and I love listening as part of my morning routine.

  • @Kyembwa
    @Kyembwa 4 місяці тому +1

    A beautiful soul - Dr Sam Harris.

  • @loobyluB
    @loobyluB 3 роки тому +5

    ‘The half life of negative emotions is incredibly short’ excellent!

    • @joseandrada264
      @joseandrada264 Рік тому

      Then how is it there are thousand of suicides every year?

  • @xInfisphere
    @xInfisphere 3 роки тому +41

    I'm 24 now and I have been following Sam Harris' work for 10 years.
    I have only read a couple of his books, but have watched countless speeches, seminars, debates, and interviews, listened and continue to listen to many of his podcasts, have been using his meditation app and listening to his lessons for over a year, and I am still BLOWN AWAY by his words. I still find myself excitedly inclined to open my notes and write down his quotes. What a wealth of knowledge and wisdom. Each word seems so acutely thoughtful and precise. In my view, he is one of the most authentic and empathetic minds of all humanity.

  • @drewe9514
    @drewe9514 4 роки тому +56

    Favorite guest so far... a true intellectual!

    • @deejaye2647
      @deejaye2647 4 роки тому +1

      I love Sam so much! I've learned a great deal from him the past 2-3 years.

  • @NathanaelMorton
    @NathanaelMorton 4 роки тому +2

    Love this! I've been looking for how to achieve a calm state. I've never been one to get anxiety, but I am definitely the one who is go go go and doesn't take the time to be calm and present. Cheers to you Tom and IT Team, and thank you.

  • @nichleigh9050
    @nichleigh9050 4 роки тому +2

    I CANNOT THANK YOU ENOUGH. THE CONVERSATIONS YOU HAVE ON THIS SHOW ARE DESPERATELY WHAT I SEEK TO HAVE.

  • @MindNow
    @MindNow 4 роки тому +617

    *What has really helped me is actually reminding myself that I’m going to die someday* 🙏
    Coming to peace with death is something really liberating

    • @raymondtendau2749
      @raymondtendau2749 4 роки тому +21

      "Premeditation of Death is premeditation of Freedom"...Robert Greene,Laws of Human Nature.

    • @sodapopinski3208
      @sodapopinski3208 4 роки тому +3

      How?

    • @Shulamitefire
      @Shulamitefire 4 роки тому +9

      *Therefore I said to you that you will die in your sins; for if you do not believe that I am He, you will die in your sins. (John **8:24**)*

    • @JonasAnandaKristiansson
      @JonasAnandaKristiansson 4 роки тому +2

      Yes!! Sadghuru style. Namaste

    • @raymondtendau2749
      @raymondtendau2749 4 роки тому +12

      @@Shulamitefire i accept your "you will die" but "in your sins" part i will not accept.

  • @gurung7271
    @gurung7271 4 роки тому +18

    This is amazing, deep and intellectual, needs to be watched more than once to grasp..

  • @creamrising
    @creamrising 4 роки тому +3

    I've been using the words "alter the metric" and it seems a precise match to Sam's idea of "framing", which is both liberating and empowering to me.

  • @glouconx983
    @glouconx983 4 роки тому +4

    Wow Tom, I was not aware of you and I just have to thank you for doing this near-perfect interview. You and Sam Harris have done a great thing. It will help my life.

  • @ShadowZZZ
    @ShadowZZZ 3 роки тому +12

    I love listening to Sam Harris, he is a great mind, wise philosopher, and logical thinker. I can recommend reading his books the end of faith, letter to a christian nation, free will and trying out his meditation app. He has truely changed my life for the better

    • @ghilas6928
      @ghilas6928 2 роки тому +1

      I second the app waking up. Changed my life starting last year

    • @deepaknambisan3251
      @deepaknambisan3251 Рік тому +1

      @@ghilas6928 thank you for the recommendation

    • @ghilas6928
      @ghilas6928 Рік тому +1

      @@deepaknambisan3251 Of Course

  • @bellafina1916
    @bellafina1916 4 роки тому +16

    He calms my soul honestly

  • @bajpai96
    @bajpai96 4 роки тому +1

    You guys have been two of my favourite people in the world for years now and have honestly just been waiting for you to get together! Finding this was like Christmas for me; Tom you're the best interviewer I know of and always know how to ask the questions I seem to want to know the answers to most too - Sam is the one who answers things better than anyone I know and cares and is an expert in exactly what it is I'm passionate about.
    I don't think the interview could have gone better.
    Note: heard this on your podcast first, but had to come back to see it face to face.
    Cheers Tom, great stuff!

  • @AMentorway4u
    @AMentorway4u 4 роки тому +5

    I love when two intelligent people have a conversation and actually listen to each other without interupting one another. Respect Mr Tom.

    • @zoltarbixbal3190
      @zoltarbixbal3190 Рік тому

      Depends what they say, and if it makes any sense. Personally, not impressed by this Ben Stiller look-a-like comedian.

  • @bartolol
    @bartolol 4 роки тому +6

    Wow, this was fantastic.
    I feel like mindful meditation will help me a lot as I am constantly stuck in my head at home. This was profound, actionable info for me to absorb.
    Thank you.

  • @MrHitchslap
    @MrHitchslap 4 роки тому +114

    Funny how our brains are so complex that a voice like Sam's is often useful and needed to remind ourselves that we can break the spell of negative emotions with ease through mindfulness or reframing

    • @shiskeyoffles
      @shiskeyoffles 4 роки тому +2

      I like his voice

    • @MrHitchslap
      @MrHitchslap 4 роки тому

      @abhitechie well he needs body guards when he gives public speeches since he gets death threats. He has a lot of controversial views lol

    • @snoozyq9576
      @snoozyq9576 3 роки тому +3

      @abhitechie his advice is meant to be useful for people in the first world. It doesn't have to help everyone in the world to be useful...

    • @jaipanesar6027
      @jaipanesar6027 2 роки тому

      @ScienceVideosFan he dad died when he was young plus a failed relationship meant he was lonely and depressed for a long while

    • @karinlarsen2608
      @karinlarsen2608 2 роки тому

      When we hear the truth, we know it

  • @jonasjrgensen2637
    @jonasjrgensen2637 Рік тому +14

    "Most people are waiting for the world to give them a good enough reason to just be present" Wow. Absolutely brilliant. 3 years later and i cannot get that quote out of my head

  • @MegaYounglover
    @MegaYounglover 4 роки тому +2

    Sam maintains the state of calmness effortless , and yet he got my attention 100% of what he got to say!🙏🏼

  • @feezyfutruck6084
    @feezyfutruck6084 4 роки тому +28

    It's pretty amazing how our brains are able to refocus energy to something different in just a second. What we do don't realize is that we are able to 100% dictate what to focus that energy on. Reminds me of the book The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. Great interview

  • @yojohan4564
    @yojohan4564 4 роки тому +17

    I think I have seen everything Sam Harris related that exists online, and this is the best interview I've ever seen with him. Easiest subscribe of my life

  • @Christopher-md7tf
    @Christopher-md7tf 4 роки тому +3

    "I don't think all forms of depression are just a matter of what a person's thinking". Thank you. So many people in the self-development and mindfulness world seem to think that all you have to do is meditate and "keep a positive mindset" to cure depression.

    • @marieb728
      @marieb728 4 роки тому

      just?

    • @Christopher-md7tf
      @Christopher-md7tf 4 роки тому

      @@marieb728???

    • @Terri_2.0
      @Terri_2.0 Рік тому

      Yes, it´s very much diet-related, as well. Many still think serotonin is only made in the brain when we now know most of it is made in the gut. A leaky gut, inflammation, metabolic syndrome, etc. can be at the root of most depression and anxiety. Many success stories out there about dietary changes and mental health. Amber O´Hearn, Dr. Georgia Ede, nutritionist Judy Cho, Brett Lloyd, Emily Penton to name just a few..

  • @ASkepticalHumanOnYouTube
    @ASkepticalHumanOnYouTube 4 роки тому +135

    Sam Harris on Impact Theory? Whaaat?! This is crazy. You're crushing it, Tom!

    • @WillDanceAlone2U
      @WillDanceAlone2U 4 роки тому +2

      @A Skeptical Human BUYERS BEWARE! As many of the entitled videos in this human YT channel show, the user confuses "debunking" with "skepticism," a basic error common in sophomoric
      analysis dipped in entangled methodological and philosophical underpinnings.
      Be skeptical.

    • @bluegiant13
      @bluegiant13 4 роки тому +7

      @@WillDanceAlone2U Calm your tits.

    • @uMadness
      @uMadness 4 роки тому +1

      @@WillDanceAlone2U Not sure I get your point

  • @zenixen
    @zenixen 4 роки тому +10

    Holy s***!! I come home to this! Amazing! I love you Tom! Thank you!!

  • @michaelmarkunas
    @michaelmarkunas 4 роки тому +20

    The interviewer asked rambling self -centered questions. Treating the interview as his own therapy session. Fortunately, Sam Harris is an outstanding speaker. And kept the interview on track.

  • @clarkzy
    @clarkzy 4 роки тому +14

    I haven’t watched much of Tom - but every interview he actually listens, it’s great

    • @oolala53
      @oolala53 2 роки тому

      It's interesting that you say that because although he does listen, I often think he talks too much about his own opinions. But he did seem to be really trying to take in what Sam was saying, which is WAY beyond the average self-help promoters out there.

  • @tomgreen2644
    @tomgreen2644 3 роки тому +1

    Sam Harris is a world treasure!

  • @fredventure
    @fredventure 4 роки тому +6

    My prayers has been heard! I knew you had it in you, Tom

  • @nishantintouch
    @nishantintouch 4 роки тому +28

    Sam is one of the few true intellectual giants mankind has today. Out of the four horsemen, he is the deepest thinker .

    • @ericboaz9631
      @ericboaz9631 3 роки тому +5

      He is gifted not wise.wisdom is to know your source, God; creator of all things

    • @davidcottrell1308
      @davidcottrell1308 11 місяців тому +1

      @@ericboaz9631 please.

  • @iangilbert4811
    @iangilbert4811 3 роки тому +117

    How to instantly reach a calm state: simply listen to the soft tones of Sam Harris's voice.

    • @polymathpark
      @polymathpark 3 роки тому +1

      try his meditation app for more of the sultry tones ;)

    • @melanie851
      @melanie851 3 роки тому +2

      I'm in love with his voice...

    • @jeannedarc7533
      @jeannedarc7533 2 роки тому +1

      He should make an ASMR channel and name it "Harris-ian ASMR"

  • @jondeeca
    @jondeeca 4 роки тому +34

    Years ago in the 80s Stanley Keleman said that the difference between fear and excitement is breathing.
    I believe he wrote this in his book "The Body Speaks Its Mind."
    .

    • @tomhummel2641
      @tomhummel2641 4 роки тому +5

      That is mind-bending and the more I think about it, the more I realise that it might be true. Gotta get that book!

    • @rhondapelletier2141
      @rhondapelletier2141 2 роки тому

      Love that! Ty for sharing

  • @Jamonit81
    @Jamonit81 4 роки тому +3

    I really appreciate this channel. Thanks for being here.

  • @carbon1479
    @carbon1479 4 роки тому +3

    I really love his description of feeling cleaner/healthier coming out of it than having gone in. It's like a pressure wash for your nervous system IMHO.

  • @sudabehmoein1788
    @sudabehmoein1788 2 роки тому +1

    I so so relate to this scientist .. love his honesty about no longer listening to music and constantly learning even in a passive way!!! He made me feel normal! Let’s have Hom back Tom!???

  • @BearFackerr
    @BearFackerr 3 роки тому +1

    I just forget to pause these interviews, they're too good. Especially this one!

  • @eddiedavisjr9771
    @eddiedavisjr9771 4 роки тому +60

    Your interviews are by far my favorite and the way you ask questions is really great! If you had a podcast I’d definitely subscribe 😎

    • @crystalM105
      @crystalM105 4 роки тому +5

      Eddie Davis Jr he does have a podcast is called impact theory as well!

    • @Ketoswammy
      @Ketoswammy 4 роки тому +2

      It’s better than UA-cam because the video adds almost nothing, and you can even turn the screen off.

  • @peterboyle9606
    @peterboyle9606 4 роки тому +6

    Great to have Sam Harris on, awesome!

  • @connieroche6564
    @connieroche6564 2 роки тому +1

    Covid came to unfold a whole year in meditation and mindfulness to release people like you two share your life with others so we can have our expirences validated. Those ingenuous relatives are you and I and them....waking up to a new beginning.

  • @C.D.J.Burton
    @C.D.J.Burton 4 роки тому

    What an awesome interviewer. Great questions. I could speak to both these guys indefinitely.

  • @otheshanash9668
    @otheshanash9668 4 роки тому +8

    Another Amazing interview! Your the Best Tom! Impacting my life on so many levels! Thank you 😊

  • @imblessed200
    @imblessed200 4 роки тому +3

    Tom, your letter to your wife to reshift your brain is awesome. You did that on your own. When I was going through a f'd up divorce (cheating and abandonment) I would listen to Pandora comedy throughout the day. It helped me extremely!! I had 2 babies and my husband was cheating and wanting out and my life was falling apart. The constant comedy playing in my ears was life changing in that moment. Now I know why!! I've healed and moved on from that part of my life and now I'm mildly obsessed with becoming more spiritually aware, thanks to your shows❤😘❤😘

  • @Inashiag
    @Inashiag 4 роки тому +3

    Love love love. Changed my mindset throughout continuous listening

  • @LoftBallerina
    @LoftBallerina 4 роки тому +6

    Great guest and great insights! Interesting how he talks about people seeing themselves as being in their head behind their face and not in their body. I have found that the cure to that is to have a dance practice! Or martial arts like in his case! Movement that is mindful is a game changer!

  • @HumansOfVR
    @HumansOfVR 4 роки тому +131

    *_I recommend looking into stoicism if you are trying to achieve a feeling of inner tranquility_*

    • @HumansOfVR
      @HumansOfVR 4 роки тому +5

      @marshmelo I actually have an animated series on stoicism if you're interested

    • @nick_k.6000
      @nick_k.6000 4 роки тому +1

      Life Progress - Health, Wealth, & Happiness Channel I just finished reading “how to think like a Roman emperor” .. which introduced me to Marcus Aurelius & Stoicism.. definitely opened my eyes to new horizons

    • @camdavbax
      @camdavbax 4 роки тому +6

      Stoicism and mindfulness meditation go hand in hand as philosophies and toolsets for living in our world in line with the logos. Seeing things as they truly are is at the core of stoicism, and mindfulness is the practice of seeing your own consciousness as it truly is, including discovering what is in your control and what is not.

    • @J90JAM
      @J90JAM 4 роки тому

      Any recommendations specifically?

    • @thehighpriestess8431
      @thehighpriestess8431 4 роки тому +1

      Tell that to a grown up who grew up in a war zone. Can you give me some directions?

  • @MemberNo2
    @MemberNo2 4 роки тому +12

    "You are at the mercy of who you were yesterday."

  • @PowerfulU
    @PowerfulU 4 роки тому +1

    Always enjoy listening to Sam talk. Great interview guys. 👏👏

  • @ShadowZZZ
    @ShadowZZZ 3 роки тому +6

    He hit the nail on the head when he said that the things worth learning and doing are ideas which are interesting, intellectual but also important. This is why I'm so into science and philosophy. I am not satisfied with a trivial life, I want to know and understand better whats at the bottom of things, and what core ideas are really relevant, which cannot be stripped down into further more. also I want to lead a good life, a life worth living, where ethics, justice and minimising needless suffering come into play. really, in life the most two important values are truth and good - ethics and epistemology. almost everything we do or worry about intellectuall can be boiled down to these two majesteria

    • @Dman9fp
      @Dman9fp 2 роки тому

      To each there own, whatever makes one feel good in life/ fulfilled without hurting others yes. Just makes me think back on the quote by Watts that essentially 'trying to fit everything into words/categories is just like trying to consume the ocean with a fork'. Some things change by observing them. Some things we can never truly observe about ourselves or others in a certain way because we are biased. And that's fine, a lot of joy can actually be found in thought-provoking mysteries versus trying to find out everything and expecting it to measure up to what we find weird or intriguing enough or whatever other measure/ bar / expectations we set, unconsciously or consciously. Discovery and exploring is still very worthwhile so long as we don't expect it to fix anything or to get us to a certain mindset or place. Just my 2 cents/ reaction to this comment, not trying to change anyone or anything

  • @Laloba007
    @Laloba007 4 роки тому +233

    I have been waiting for this interview FOREVERRRRRRR

    • @manusingh1000
      @manusingh1000 4 роки тому +6

      Sam at his best. His meditations are so uplifting

    • @suryashikhamohanty3740
      @suryashikhamohanty3740 4 роки тому +2

      Better than shadguru

    • @purumr
      @purumr 4 роки тому +1

      @@suryashikhamohanty3740 off course it is, so called shadguru mostly talks bullshit, unscientific things.

    • @shanestrickland5006
      @shanestrickland5006 4 роки тому

      I have been waiting for this interview for an Aionion Aionios.

    • @jamesof7seven
      @jamesof7seven 4 роки тому +1

      What did you get from it? Thanks.

  • @geverniveup
    @geverniveup 4 роки тому +16

    Finally! Amazing to see Harris on here! I’ve been using his waking up app lately and it’s fantastic

    • @Anons687
      @Anons687 4 роки тому

      What does the app do?

  • @Spescorp90
    @Spescorp90 4 роки тому +1

    It’s very interesting how these guys can talk and talk and talk. Never get bored of it though. 👍

  • @ryazaminzadah
    @ryazaminzadah 4 роки тому +1

    Tom, Im observing that your ability to keep up(for the lack of a better word) with the guests to ask relevant questions to steer the conversation towards a mutual point is amazing, could you comment on how your able to sustain that level of clarity in your conversations with each guest?

  • @ziggystardust8482
    @ziggystardust8482 4 роки тому +3

    This has been amazing. Thanks Tom and Sam. Time to rewire some bad circuits.

  • @trashasaurus
    @trashasaurus 4 роки тому +14

    Fantastic interview, Harris is my guy!

    • @adunnou2075
      @adunnou2075 4 роки тому +1

      Robert Braun your guy? Lol what a tool

  • @Claythargic
    @Claythargic 2 роки тому

    Framing is easily one of life's great mental tools. My personal favorite variant of framing is voluntary re-framing, when you deliberately choose to present, to yourself, this current situation in a different way. Sam at his best in videos like this!

  • @reprogrammingmind
    @reprogrammingmind 4 роки тому +2

    Fantastic, thanks for sharing! Always great to hear Sam Harris

  • @yj9032
    @yj9032 4 роки тому +147

    Video is titled: 'How to Instantly Achieve a Calm State'
    Is one hour long

    • @TheCommanderjoe
      @TheCommanderjoe 3 роки тому +4

      Right? Just like all those dumbass videos that show you how to shoot free throws but are longer than the 2 seconds it takes to actually toss the ball 🤬🤬🤬

    • @rocioiruntv
      @rocioiruntv 3 роки тому

      Good point!

    • @JustFingAwesome
      @JustFingAwesome 3 роки тому +2

      It helped me a ton in the first minute🤷‍♂️

    • @dylancoleman1921
      @dylancoleman1921 3 роки тому +3

      How long did it take you to learn to say your first word in your native tongue? How quickly can you say it now?

    • @Patriotsforlife91
      @Patriotsforlife91 3 роки тому +9

      The education isn’t instant. The action is

  • @polymathpark
    @polymathpark 3 роки тому +34

    It is so refreshing to witness such a high functioning, balanced human. Sam is one of my favorite people, no one chooses their words better and sees the world, and life, more clearly than him, IMO. I believe that if more people emulated him, and followed his advice, the world would be a much better place. Thanks to both of you for being great role models, and spreading amazing messages! This content is invaluable these days.

    • @JimmyKlef
      @JimmyKlef 2 роки тому +3

      Everyone likes a sam harris on tv. Nobody likes a sam harris in real life. Most people i have ever known would just inherently exude insecurity and become competitive and probably toxic. Thats likely how many would cope with just a super mindful calm nice smart person. People hate that shit it’s unreal. They’d almost all become parasitic, or damaging, because the only alternative in their minds would be they’d have to worship him. Peoples egos don’t work how we wish they did. How we talk like they do.
      Seriously. Think about the sam harris in your life. You probably shit on them. If you don’t you fuckin know everyone else does.

    • @goingintohellhigh
      @goingintohellhigh Рік тому +1

      @@JimmyKlef would probably have a great conversation even if we may disagree on some points. Sam is certainly a better person to interact with than the people you say would dislike him. Nice people usually attract other nice people. Das real life karma.

    • @underated17
      @underated17 Рік тому

      @@goingintohellhigh Just be nice and treat others kindly, exactly. It's simple. A truly kind person is real and knows how to add humour in life, be sweet to others and smile.

    • @underated17
      @underated17 Рік тому

      @@JimmyKlef Are you actually saying that people hate calm people? That's a gross generalization. People like kindness and not generally obnoxious people.

  • @joemardini3819
    @joemardini3819 2 роки тому +2

    You did a great job interviewing Sam. You made the interview educational. Thank you

  • @denisemcwhorter2646
    @denisemcwhorter2646 4 роки тому +2

    As always, another great interview. I was reminded of Joe Dispenza when Sam mentioned reprogramming and re-framing your mind. I'm a much better person now that I realize I have control over my emotions and how I receive information. My first video I listened to this morning was on Women of Impact and Lisa interviewed Vanessa Van Edwards. She spoke on social anxieties as well. Great to get a double dose of the message today. I'm definitely in the Zen mode now.

    • @rhondapelletier2141
      @rhondapelletier2141 2 роки тому

      Any good techniques that helped you to handle your emotions?? My emotions tend to handle my mind!!!

  • @rogerbabson7221
    @rogerbabson7221 2 роки тому +3

    Best line: "Most people are waiting for the world to give them a reason to just be present."

  • @raymondtendau2749
    @raymondtendau2749 4 роки тому +52

    Just Downloaded his book
    " the End of Faith"...Just a few pages through the book and im blown away already...Wow.

    • @clarkzy
      @clarkzy 4 роки тому +5

      Raymotives Worldwide I love it when I see someone discover Sam Harris because I remember that moment !! Enjoy the book and check out his podcast !!

    • @FiveThings2018
      @FiveThings2018 4 роки тому +1

      @Raymotives Worldwide And here is the first chapter of the audio version of "The End of Faith" Narrated by Sam Harris himself: ua-cam.com/video/L8nqjqaN2C8/v-deo.html

    • @sylvannaidoo9085
      @sylvannaidoo9085 4 роки тому

      A modern day philosopher king..... thanks for helping me and countless others achieve a true sense of self

    • @MikkoHaavisto1
      @MikkoHaavisto1 3 роки тому

      You wouldn't download a car.

    • @raymondtendau2749
      @raymondtendau2749 3 роки тому

      @@MikkoHaavisto1 yeah true.

  • @echonjo
    @echonjo Рік тому

    Tom, ur introduction of people is what gets me want to watch IT

  • @lesleysreadingroom2867
    @lesleysreadingroom2867 2 роки тому +2

    Dear Sam , you have helped me through the most agonising period of anxiety in my life . Your tips are just easy and work like a bomb ! This is better than all my meds put together. I thank you .
    Ohh but , how I would love to help you get the best out of reading that you can . I love your voice . And you speak eloquently . You have wonderful composure and presence in front of the camera . As a librarian and speech coach and I coach reading skills online . I am sure I can help you a little to be able to read more efficiently . We need you to read more so that you can share more of your insights with us .

  • @gloriamariadc7757
    @gloriamariadc7757 4 роки тому +65

    "The diff btw excitement & anxiety is mostly just the framing.." whoa. "The power of framing is immensely powerful. The half life of a negative emotion is incredibly short."

    • @tubo1812
      @tubo1812 4 роки тому +2

      I didn't listen to the video yet but reading that quote makes me think it is a waste of time, only one who doesn't know what anxiety is can say that

    • @Mo-ld1it
      @Mo-ld1it 4 роки тому +4

      @@tubo1812 He literally has a PhD in neuroscience and you're some random shmuck on youtube

    • @gloriamariadc7757
      @gloriamariadc7757 3 роки тому +4

      @@tubo1812 I totally hear u. (Yep, it's hard to hear that kind of quote when one has anxiety.)

    • @megyoung9303
      @megyoung9303 3 роки тому +1

      @@Mo-ld1it What threatens you about this?

    • @Iyiouseismouse
      @Iyiouseismouse 3 роки тому +6

      For what it’s worth I have diagnosed anxiety disorder and many nights have used Sam Harris’ methods in mindfulness and perspective to calm down instead of having to use my when needed anxiety medication prescription. That’s not to say that the meds aren’t good, or that it works for everyone, but it has helped me personally.

  • @toms6356
    @toms6356 4 роки тому +245

    This was way better than "Meet the Parents" but not quite as good as "Dodgeball".

  • @processuscoracoideus
    @processuscoracoideus 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you, Sams message helps me experience more peace in my life

  • @MichaelvanderGalien
    @MichaelvanderGalien 4 роки тому

    That last part hit me in the face, actually, because my uncle -- my dad's twin brother -- just heard that he has throat cancer, and that it looks like it may have spread to his prostate and even to his lungs. We are hoping for the best, because if it has spread, he's obviously in serious trouble. If it hasn't, it's treatable.
    In any case, loved this conversation. Very good points. Very usable.

  • @thereallegend4lyfe
    @thereallegend4lyfe 4 роки тому +29

    Where self help meets full blown philosophy. Wonderful.

    • @markreadin7124
      @markreadin7124 4 роки тому

      Any other recommended thinkers like Sam Harris?

    • @thereallegend4lyfe
      @thereallegend4lyfe 4 роки тому

      Jordan Peterson and Slavoj Zizek. @@markreadin7124

    • @markreadin7124
      @markreadin7124 4 роки тому

      @@thereallegend4lyfe Does Zizek have something that overlaps with self help? I hope so

    • @thereallegend4lyfe
      @thereallegend4lyfe 4 роки тому

      Not really, most of Zizek's work has to do with political philosophy. @@markreadin7124

    • @saritajoshi1737
      @saritajoshi1737 3 роки тому

      @@markreadin7124 Daniel Schmachtenbetber

  • @sarasousasantos7751
    @sarasousasantos7751 4 роки тому +16

    this talk has made me feel so calm, so peacefull (im a highly anxious person ). Mr Harris insights ring so true in my mind, Im going to try to apply these ideas in my day to day life. This was gold, this was precious

    • @MCJOHNSON95
      @MCJOHNSON95 4 роки тому +1

      Get his waking upp app

    • @rhondapelletier2141
      @rhondapelletier2141 2 роки тому +1

      Me too, my only wish in life as I knew this when I was a younger adult. I am in my late 50s and spent my entire life in fear in flight mode...... nobody knew how to explain it to me.......

    • @kyubbi1017
      @kyubbi1017 2 роки тому +1

      @@rhondapelletier2141 and here I am constantly saying I wish I knew this stuff when I was in high/secondary school an early teen , I’m 19 now seeing this made me realise there’s still so much ahead I guess just goes to show that it’s never too late for anything and everything happens for a reason ! Theres still so much left for u .

  • @dauntless9619
    @dauntless9619 3 роки тому

    My favorite conversation I've heard from Sam thus far 😊

  • @benhallo1553
    @benhallo1553 3 роки тому +2

    Don’t know the host but cool to see his vibe in light of Harris’ presence. Most people would feel intimidated and maybe going into a mini ego battle but he remained confident but equally likeably vulnerable at the same time

  • @drivebypoet
    @drivebypoet 4 роки тому +5

    This was great. It inspires me to go meditate.

  • @LissaDraco
    @LissaDraco 4 роки тому +9

    His eyes... They‘re shining. You can literally see very deep calmness radiating from them.

  • @dannyromano8361
    @dannyromano8361 3 роки тому +2

    I love sams ability to break things down the way he does.

  • @takeuchi5760
    @takeuchi5760 Рік тому

    "you're at the mercy of who you were yesterday" thanks

  • @redakotamdm
    @redakotamdm 4 роки тому +5

    Probably the best interview with Sam that anyone has ever done. Thanks, Tom! And thank you for asking him about his process, always wanted to know more about that :)

  • @Fireoncityy
    @Fireoncityy 3 роки тому +5

    He gives such a good hug. I want a Sam Harris hug too

  • @majeszczak
    @majeszczak 4 роки тому +2

    Those questions were well tought and important to ask. Great podcast i subscribe

  • @RJYounglingTricking
    @RJYounglingTricking 4 роки тому +6

    Sam is such a legend ♥️