Billionaires Do This Every Morning - End Laziness, Escape Mediocrity & Master Success | Mel Robbins
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Mel Robbins is a powerhouse speaker with one of the top 20 TEDx talks in the world. This former criminal defense attorney turned on-air commentator and CNN contributor exposes the myth of motivation and explains how to make the micro-decisions that will launch you into success in this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu.
Tom Bilyeu is the co-founder of 2014 Inc. 500 company Quest Nutrition - a unicorn startup valued at over $1 billion - and the co-founder and host of Impact Theory. Impact Theory is a first-of-its-kind company designed to facilitate global change through the incubation of mission-based businesses and the cultivation of empowering content. Every piece of content Impact Theory creates is meant to underscore the company mission to free people from The Matrix and help them unlock their true potential. Impact Theory exists to inspire the next generation of game-changing companies and creators that will make a true and lasting impact on the world.
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SHOW NOTES
Mel explains why she thinks motivation is garbage. [2:31]
Mel talks about taking control of micro moments. [5:57]
Tom and Mel discuss the origin of her life’s work. [7:16]
Mel exposes the trap of the knowledge-action gap. [14:07]
Tom explains why he wore his NASA t-shirt. [16:07]
Mel describes the science behind the 5-second rule. [21:56]
Mel reveals how to outsmart your brain to further your goals. [23:42]
Mel debunks the myth that confidence is a personality trait. [29:00]
Tom and Mel talk about overcoming the habits of worrying, anxiety, and self-doubt. [31:44]
Mel spells out the body’s physiological response to agitation. [36:35]
Mel shares how she used an anchor thought to overcome her fear of flying. [41:56]
Mel talks about her course called The Million-dollar Morning. [45:25]
MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE
Mel’s popular TEDx talk “How to Stop Screwing Yourself Over” bit.ly/1dK6evy [1:13]
Mel’s inspirational news website Inspire 52 bit.ly/2k2ybXo [1:37]
Mel’s new book The 5 Second Rule amzn.to/2kNn4Rp [1:56]
The spotlight effect bit.ly/2kdu5OJ [5:22]
The sunk cost fallacy bit.ly/1hMFIoJ [9:15]
Metacognition, or thinking about what you’re thinking bit.ly/2kcWfZN [23:43]
The definition of habit loops stanford.io/2k2YdtH [24:25]
The storage center for feelings and emotions, Basal ganglia bit.ly/2kDPZYe [24:37]
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I can't believe this was 7yrs ago but its so relevant to me now. Im currently stuck in a high functioning depression cycle. I procrastinate but still get things done, im basically doing enough to survive but not enough to live the life I want. Im stuck in a job i hate, with a boss who is such a bully and i dont even have the will to apply for a new job. I really needed this. Thank you
Get up and get going fam, I'm getting through the same cycle now myself.
Please watch Gabor maté maybe you're just stuck in your traumas ,he can provide wonderful insights about it, I'm struggling too but I don't judge myself or others,I just become more aware about my traumas and working on set my mind free of them, don't let them control your life❤❤
Me too after back pain i quit 30.3.
so i am scared to change but all is better than that
Same!!!
@@MacWell11 thank you 🙏
For years, before my dad passed away, he started every day by jumping out of bed (without an alarm) and shout so his voice rang throughout the house, “Good Morning, World!”
Maybe that's what killed him?
@@choomanfoo maybe you should have your brain air conditioned with a 45 APC.
Sounds like a great Dad. 😊
I LOVE that! ❤️❤️❤️
@@choomanfoo bruh....dark humor is fine but come on, you are an assh0le
1. Motivation is garbage
2. Knowledge action gap
3.counting backwards 5seconds rule
4. Say “I am excited to do this “more often Ask yourself why am I ready to do this ❤
Just look at the clock,I'm going to be late if I don't get up off my arse!
The WHYs? So often in Quran it's emphasised to inquire about universe, about creation, seek wisdom in day and night events.
Thank you for this recap you saved me so much time.
Thank you
Motivation is not garbage a lot of people have it. So "you' need to make yourself do things you don't want to do. What's the fun in that?
I'm 435 lbs on a weight loss journey I've lost and gained a million and one times. The whole day today has been about creating new HABITSSSS healthy habits Incorporating exercise into my life and my hobbies and being productive. I'm going to start doing this... I think it'll really help! I just need to take action. Like my deceased grandma used to tell me "Like Nike says Just Do it"
Thank you so much for this message Mel and Tom! I think its going to take me places!!!!
I will be praying for you. I know that my overeating is connected to feeling bad about being too overwhelmed, depressed, anxious and fearful to get anything done!
Hey, I only eat one meal a day. I don’t eat any processed food. None. Almost only meat. Pure real meat. Grass feed. Organs as well as they are the best vitamins you can consume and absorb. I’m very physically active and ripped. I don’t work out. My whole family is. We all practice this. It’s the key to life. Eat liver and eat once a day. You will burn fat for evergy so fast
Prayers for you to achieve all your goals😊
Tgat is a great decision you made, I hope you will stick to it, 🙏🙏🙏
A man I was dating told me "IT'S NOT WHO WE ARE THAT HOLDS US BACK, IT'S WHO WE THINK WE'RE NOT"! I am a worrier, never sure in my decisions. Thank you for your 5 4 3 2 1. I am excited to have this guidance.
You go Linda! Much love, strength, & success. God Bless.
I'm gunna use that one "It's who we think we are not". Thanks for sharing that. Don't you mean "I have the HABIT of worrying"??
My best friend of 13 years lived by that motto! 😄RIP BDL 🦋💕awesome vid!!
Smart man ❤ And YOU'RE SMARTER THEN YOU THINK.!!! So SMILE YOUR LIFE is gonna change FOREVER if it hasnt ALREADY!!!😊❤
And thank you very much for being such a great interviewer and not interrupting her all the time. I love how you ask her the questions and then let the woman answer.
And that makes you feel empowered does it.
@@age_of_reason It's not about what you think. Generally interviewers don't let anyone talk really.
I totally agree
That's how you do an interview
So she was a criminal defense attorney and worked at CNN?
Sounds about right.
This woman is a genius. One thing that I've come up with in recent years is that yea, I never FEEL like eating healthy or exercising and it's so easy (especially when I've struggled with it my whole life pretty much) to just fall back into that comfy zone. The comfort zone is a myth, it's more like a death zone...it will KILL YOU slowly. I say, don't think, not on this type of stuff...just do...do what you know you need to do to improve yourself no matter how you "feel" because otherwise, you will always be trapped in that death zone AKA the comfort zone.
Mmeldr😊
You are genius
I'm sorry, a "genius" she is not. But if she helps you, God bless you. Do what YOU need to find your peace. 😊
@@johnstagl5651 do you feel that
@@johnstagl5651 did find thatb way, where you are happy... aaaa ..... And you quit eating bad staff
Thank you Tom for allowing Mel to talk without being interrupted. A lot of presenters don't have this skill. This message of NASA is amazing I feel that I have discovered treasure. And all for free. My heart is full of gratitude. I can already visualize my life changing. Much appreciated. I'm following your channel going forward. All the best to all of us. Cheers!
Thank you
I'm going to try my best and my father and God I won't let you down if I don't know what I'm doing me some help I don't mind asking y'all tell me thank you
@@annpipes5601 👽 🤯
me too!
Yes I agree it was refreshing 🥰
OMG!!!!!I believe that knowledge is power!...This has been a total game changer for me! A heartfelt thank you!
The best thing about Tom is he lets his guest speak. And he doesn’t interrupt even after they finished speaking.. because many times people have more to add ! And he always does his homework !! Great Job Tom.
Pp
“Confidence isn't assuredness, it's the willingness to try” wow, that's the best idea I've heard in a while. I can totally relate to this, sometimes I'm confident in my ideas but I'm unwilling to draw attention to myself.
So me saying I am not confident I can do something is the same as me saying I am not willing to try it 🙃 😩....ok let me work on that
Your response Resonates so much with me. Very confident in my ideas but reluctant to put it into action. I have constant negative thought of failure on ideas I know should work.
Over the years I’ve told close friends of several and to see them succeed on my idea has placed me in an emotional rut. It felt like a breach in confidence going behind my back to spearhead something they never thought of and ending a lifelong friendship over monetary gain without my inclusion. I no longer share my ideas but hoard them silently without action for fear of rejection or failure, especially financial failure. I can truly relate to this interview wholeheartedly.
@@sjgeneralcontractors2137 if they are wonderful ideas that change the lives of others for the better and you are too scared to pursue them is it not a good thing that someone else has gone ahead with the idea? Just an idea... Although i truely hope you can use the 5 second rule to begin on a new venture based on one, or many, of your great ideas! All the best for the future
I relate to “unwilling to draw attention to myself.” Thank you!
It's absolutely true when Mel said, "There are tremendous number of introverted people that feel uncomfortable putting the attention on themselves, but they are very, very confident in their ideas." I think I am one of those.
Yea me too.
I also understand! 🤍
So me
Me too
That me for sure 👍introverted,but sure about my abilities.
thank you very much for being such a great interviewer and not interrupting her all the time. I love how you ask her the questions and then let the woman answer.
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Yes! Interviews where the interviewer/interviewee are always cutting each other off give me so much anxiety lol. Tom is so gifted.
That is awesome. My dad grew up in the very cold Midwest. The only food they had was what they grew on the farm. Nine kids, and a dad who beat the boys regularly. My mother told me after he died that he would not wear shorts bc of the scars on his legs. He once had milk spilled on him while milking their cow, and wore the same clothes all week. Apparently no other clothes were available. Wore 2 left shoes to high school bc that’s all he had. He pulled himself up, borrowed money from his kind sisters to buy an old car, then again to go to college working full time with a wife and children at home. No student grants. No military benefits, bc he was in a terrible accident and lost part of one hand. Graduated, and went on to have a government career lasting over 30 years. When unmotivated, I try to remember what my father did, and for my heritage. Honestly when I’m feeling lazy or feeling sorry for myself, I don’t.
Even if you are unmotivated, please remember that you-you-are worthy. ❤
I love it when she said "You don't have to buy the book." It shows dedication for others' improvement in life. I've just discovered recently. Thank you for your story, Mel.
When she said "you don't have to buy the book" she actually told you "buy it" 🤔🧐
@@Goratek well I took her advice literally. So ya didn't buy 😆
Lmao wtf that's such basic manipulation no way u and 64 people believed that
@@Goratek 00
@@gabrieljohnson4213 00?
This has definitely helped me develop a new habit of not sleeping with my phone, hitting the snooze and getting up when I hear the alarm at 5AM. I am getting so much done in a day. #5SecondRule
That's so awesome to hear! It's been amazing to hear how many people have been affected positively by Mel's 5 second rule!
I'm trying it and other things but i was a fentanyl addict. 2yrs clean but my brain is struggling. I just feel worst. The dopamine clearly overloaded my brain.
@itzjess88 keep trying and don't give up. You got this❤
Here to spread some love and kindness to those reading this comment. Have the best day. You deserve it🧘🏻♀️
It is happening folks, the future of work is being redesigned. Yes, More tech companies wants to fire more workers from next week: "The third wave is going to happen next week. That affects everybody in the biz teams, including in my organization. It's just a time of great anxiety and uncertainty" Says Meta President.
Time and tide will not wait for any person. That means we must pay attention to how new technologies, and specifically AI, will make it easier for companies to become more efficient. Simply, this companies may not need a lot of workers, your bank may not need many staff. Your insurer may not need many workers. And the list keeps growing.
It has nothing to do with AI. Economic distress in America is enormous. Many banks have gone under. Inflation is biting harder. Ukrain miscalculation is obvious. Facebook has been using AI in most of its features and products for more than 15 years now, so Ai has nothing to do with it. They embarked on unprofitable projects. And over hired. Apple has never laid off employees despite the economic downturn. They did well in hiring and never had failed projects. Metaverse failed. Gaming projects failed. Fintech, Lira failed. In the last 20 months, Sanbberg left, nobody is there to "tame the lion"
Most Tech companies went woke: hired talents in order to prevent competitors from having access, they kept them idle, just to hijack a pool of talent. Over hired without proper assessment and protection. The existing projects couldn't turn in expected revenue, even before inflation war in USA set it. Let's put it in perspective without blaming AI. 95% of big tech have been using AI in the last 15 years. Building a passive income is a real hedge against inflation. Such is a thing that won't fail when the govt and the big tech fails.
@@RickMckee-nq4ni I wish I could tackle your submission but I already threw in the towel before I read the last line. I give it to you on this. I'm very interested in building a passive income but it seems like I will need a lot of coaching as I do not posses the required expertise. You on the other hand seem very well knowledgeable in that field, can you give out some tips on getting started with passive income or can you recommend a personal financial coach?
@@AndrianWiener focus on acquiring a trusted advisor who can guide you. With their assistance, you can engage in trading and generate profits in stock and cryptocurrency markets, even if you lack prior knowledge.
@@AndrianWiener Mine is "Michelle Christine Parker ".
Four years ago, I found this video. I was stuck in a job I didn't enjoy and was terrified to leave. But I listened to this video everyday driving to work. I finally left, which was one of the best decisions I ever made. Thank you to both Tom and Mel for such a wonderful interview. It truly changed my life.
It's called motivation, because of of her video you did something that you didn't gave the courage to do before
Shed say motivation is 💩 crap...lol
😂 Aaron's paying attention
Kudos!!!
Any updates?
This stuff makes so much sense. I'm sharing the information with my kids. I wish I had understood all of this years ago. My son went to baseball tryouts this week and he struggles with anxiety. When he said, "I'm really nervous," I asked him, "what are you feeling?" He grinned at me knowing exactly what I meant and he said, "I'm excited!" I love that I could give him a tool to deal with tough situations.
That's AWESOME, Tammy!!! I know Mel will love hearing that!!!
As a Mum (of sons) and someone who has had horrific (I can't cross the street) panic attacks, ANYTHING we can do to help our boys is awesome! Congratulations to both of you!
Aw that's great Tammy! Great way to help kids deal with their emotions, more mums need to learn about this 🥰💖💪
My high school swim coach taught me that same lesson!!! At a championship meet, 30 years later I still recall the moment as I looked up at him and told him how scared I was. He looked at me and firmly said, Brandy you’re not scared. You’re excited. I dropped my jaw in confusion and have spent the rest of my life remembering it once it registered. Amazing advice. Amazing that you have that bond with your son. How beautiful!!!
Mine is a teenager and she know everything already, but I'll try.
Confidence is not a personal trait, it’s a skill. Loved that one ❤
Yes, of course it's a skill
Its a skill if you have to aquire it yes, its inate if your born & wired that way , yes
I've been doing this for two days!
Any time I catch myself having an anxious thought....."5,4,3,2,1 replace with boring mundane thought to replace it!
Seriously think you might have worked out how to cure my anxiety!
Thank you Thank you Thank you SO MUCH!
Thank you!
Budha said this before: "Suffering is caused by decisions not made". So once you have made any decision you were pondering on instantly you feel better and calm, even when the decision is something you know it's going to be painful, it just give you the certainty you need
Humility, be teachable and honest. Remember when you decide not to make a decision life will make it for you. Therefore don't believe in yourself but God.
Faith without works is dead!
@@cheylou1 Yes!! Let God & Let God! 🙌🏻
@@jencaligal6345 you mean let go and let god?
actually buddha said that desire is suffering. so wanting anything will cause you suffering.
That’s not always true we cause a lot of our own sufferings let’s keep it 💯
This woman is brilliant
Ashton Christopher Agreed!!!
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I completely agree!
She was just sad. Found her answer. I applied her theory, and it works.
It's not dumb, Your Teacher. We all have motivation, else we wouldn't be depressed or distressed about our situations, but how much does it really help? - Don't fat people have motivation to lose weight? Don't poor people have motivation to make money? Yes they have! - And yet, most people don't up their game and actually act on the things that would improve their lives - even when they know exactly what to do.
Kind of like running a marathon. Most of us could, and we also know how to do it - it's just one leg in front of the other - and yet, very few of us actually do it.
She's spot on.
Wow! I love how a 14 year old me, has been changed by knowledge and information found by someone who has lived life. It just shows how the old and new generation co-operate with each other. I'm currently suffering from GAD to a point where it affected my exams and I've been feeling reluctant about school, but as soon as I had that you're decision away from changing your life, something clicked.☺
Despite the economy crisis, this is still a good time to invest in stock and crypto.
Not all of them really do such.
Investing in this economy crisis will be one of the best thing to do this year.
@vallekas And may while the poor spends more to impress the rich.
You're right stock and crypto are the best to invest on right now.
@@maxxggmk and if an opportunity to invest in real estate we can still grab it because I heard those investment pay of really good
I used a lot of her techniques when I was teaching people how to drive. A lot of my students were terrified of driving and I would make them say out loud “I’m excited” right before we started and it really helped.
I have often counted down from 3, but I never thought about the scientific reason behind why counting down worked for me. It was so fascinating to hear her explanation. This quote had the biggest impact on me: “When you understand the power of a 5 second decision and you understand that you always have a choice to go from autopilot to decision-maker, everything in your life will change.” Really awesome!
Yes! That's a very powerful quote! So glad Mel resonated with you!
Ayesha Kamal what happen if you go out and your friends invite you to drink or take drugs at the moment you are enjoying the night. does the counting back trick works as well? i have my doubts its that powerfull
@@unknowndriver6652 what kind of example is that?? some people say NOT to DRUGS no matter the situation they are in.
That quote is at about the 22:00 minute mark
@@unknowndriver6652 just say no because you value health and feeling awesome sober. the idea is that those things give us true happiness when in reality, whatever that may be, they simply contort our perception. you can also party while sober and enjoy the music/laughs- or just set boundaries and say no I've got beddiebies
Started sceptically seeing it's a 49 min video, but now I think this is a video that's gonna help me change my life. Thank you so much! Both of you're wonderful.
This training is also in alignment with the Bible teaching of, “being transformed by the renewing of your minds,” in Romans chapter 12. Breaking negative habits and replacing them with healthy habits is what transformation is all about and This hope is the anchor for your soul.
Such great advice for those with anxiety!!
Thanx Tom and Mel for sharing.
Amen!
So true! We have to make Jesus Christ #1 in our lives. Making Him our Lord and Saviour is the first step. Then listening to the Holy Spirit and obeying is the next step. You have to want to change into the kind of person who God wants you to be. No one can make you. It's a free choice and gift from above, from God Almighty. Satan will do everything in his evilness to stop you, but you have to listen to the still, small voice, the Holy Spirit. Praise God! ❤
I literally just asked my boss to work from home despite the pressure the companies under after watching this so that i can focus on my life and my health from home, Thank you so much
The first time I skimmed through a segment of hers and heard her say, "you're never going to feel like doing what you NEED to do", I knew she was on to something!!! I'm inspired by her advice and knowledge and I will be returning to watch /listen to more when I get "stuck" again!! THAAAANK YOU MEL!
Wow, glad this helps people, but I'm motivated quite often when I need to be. Why didn't the guy jump overboard with his decision in 5 secs? Seems hesitation, not action, saved him.....
@@chtomlin Sounds like you're confident. But she said confidence is a habit. Maybe you learned it early from good parenting or someone in your life.
@@leeleeturn I think I earned it, not learned it, but your point is well taken.... if you learn to be confident and have not earned it, what is it worth?
@@chtomlin Yes, you do have to do something to earn it
Five second rule. Hundreds of tiny decisions to get right everyday.
I think this is the best explanation on how to improve your life.
What a wise and pragmatic
Thanks woman! No more huge decisions to make. Get up and make your bed and walk around the garden. And take five seconds to make the next tiny decision.
Women ☕️
And so simple. We need to reverse engineer life. Instead of saying I’m working out 45 minute s today. Start with I’ll do three reps of these 3 or 5 favorite exercises. Do that for a few days then slowly add. We overwhelmed ourselves. None of us learned how to drive jumping in & slamming a gas pedal to 80 mph immediately. No we learned to trust ourself’s reaction by first learning to start/stop/start/stop and slowly go from there. Thanks Mel!
@@Katiekay. no I’m referring to all “women ☕️”
I haven't even read The 5 Second Rule yet (ordering it now!) and I can already tell Mel had to hold her past thoughts, emotions, and perceptions outside of herself to observe them carefully in order to write this book. That alone makes it a masterpiece. Thanks so much for this interview. It's helping me get through a seemingly difficult week.
I think I have changed as a person while watching this video. This video has shaken my belief system for good.
That's fantastic! Mel really delivered the goods with this one!
Change your decisions change your life. Change your mind and you can change your actions, decisions and everything. Wherever you start interrupt the unconsciousness of your life and become more awake/conscious/aware of your decisions, thoughts, self talk, ideas, beliefs, values, habits, circumstances, relationships and so on controlling your life!
Saurabh Singh sounds like bullshit.
I feel the same.
Bollocks Freemason has brainwashed you
What I LOVE about her and this video is that she REALLY gives away some REAL technics that help people. Not many "speakers" do this or can be this helpful. They usually save the most important info to make people come to their workshops or buy the books.
Yes! This is so valuable
Have you tried listening to Jordan Prterson. All of his lectures are free. She gave just enough to make the book sound appealing, she sounds like a sales person. The book wasn't all that inspiring though... someone like JP promotes his book by teaching deeply about all he wrote about and expands on it further in lectures and discussions.
Hell that's just 1 person and there's many more online. Me thinks you just like how she talks yes?
This video popped up while I was searching for a makeup tutorial on how to paint a fairy face. It was God sent. I have started feeling more and more hopeless to the point of, at times, toying with the ultimate and final way out of it all. This was a beam of light. The openness of Mel about her experiences especially helped. Thank you
You are worth it. You are a child of God ❤️
Jesus loves you!!!!❤
You better off finding that 'fairy face' tutorial
As we lay there thinking of “fairytales” and super hero’s we expect someone else to come to our rescue.
But if we just just “jump-up” and do the Mel blast- we’ll become our own hero !!
Love it !!
Thank you Mel. This is such a timely and heaven sent video. I'm on a new journey with the 5 second rule. It won't necessarily be easy and automatic, and might even seem awkward for me...but I will simply repeat, "I LIKE THIS, I LIKE THIS."
"Our mind is designed to stop you, at all costs, from being anything that might hurt you!" That is so so true... As Mel said that hesitation sends stress signals to stop your brain, to stop you from doing anything...Mel is such an inspiring woman who creates lots possibilities to everyone... very impressive!
Think it, do it. Go by your first thought. Now, if your first thoughts are usually crazy thoughts, then you need to clear out your mind, like suicide or rob a bank,but they are usually not your first thoughts,but people don't know that.
So we go against God's nature and disobey our own brains?
I thought I was the only one who couldn't take action even when I KNEW what to do!! The 5 second rule rules! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!
Out of all these motivational video that flood the internet Mel Robbins video is the most meaningful and powerful of all! Hands down!
Thank you Mel, and Tom, this is pure gold & y'all are beautiful people inside & out! So grateful for you opening up & sharing this! Continue being awesome!
Not sure what else to say but.... WOOOWWW!!... I so needed this kick in the ass!. I'm watching this everyday until I engrained it into my soul.. THANK YOU ... SO MUCH!!
So glad it helped!!! And rewatching is an awesome strategy!
Tom Bilyeu I am on the brink of doing something stupid! My names is Stephen and I am the same as Steve who is referred to in this video! 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 Thank you! I counted backwards 3, 2, 1 and I got up and washed a cereal bowl, to eat some cereal after not eating for almost 9 Days! I was stood at the kitchen sink looking out the window whilst washing the Bowl with this video playing out the rest of it with it, in the background, whilst washing the bowl, I looked up and out the window, into the world I have not been dealing with, and hiding away from! And to the left of me was an aircraft coming into land at our local airport, that Aircraft has just become my rocket moment! Thank you @Mel Robbins ( I would love to know what the musical soundtrack that is playing during this video absolutely fantastic!?)
Stephen Johnston Wow that’s amazing, good on you!
I also watch this video so often!
Jeff Mcilroy 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 yes!!! Doing same hahah
This woman gives the most practical advice i have ever heard 🌞🌞🌞
Wow! I just had a big ‘aha’ moment when Mel said “when you put a lot of time and money into something, it’s hard to let go of it”. In my case, I’ve been hanging on for years to an old camper, constantly paying for upkeep and insurance, not having the confidence that it can even get me from point A to B without breaking down....hard to let go of it indeed.
Ha! My mom and stepdad are trying to buy a camper for full time lifestyle security and stability. It’s funny how things in life come full circle, even in unexpected ways with strangers. You could decide to sell and meet someone like my parents or otherwise where it can help you to feel good that you have made this decision.
People are renting their (non moving) campers out as a living space/small apartment where I live.
Loved the whole thing but especially the confidence part. For most confidence is a defense mechanism that stems from pride and thrives on insecurity and feeds on “feeling they’re better than others or in control of others “.
I bought the book and I’m applying. I am now back into songwriting and have my UA-cam channel that I promised myself I would set up for years. Not a plug btw. Well ... you know.
Thanks Mel! Love Impact Theory.
I just subscribed ur channel!
I went to yr channel. i didn't watch any of yr vids. Cuz i don't care. But i subbed...well, you know. ;)
Which book
Mer Asas thank you so much for that. That’s awesome.
craffte Thanks so much craffte. Appreciate how you can be helpful - even when not caring. Maybe pay a visit? Wishing you all the best.
I love Mel Robbins. Her blunt honesty, her active spirit and her knowledge are inspirations that I go back to every time that I need a lifeline.
Whst do you think about her chin?
Outstanding 🖤
@@snoweewhites9983 it’s a chin is what I think about her chin :)
@@snoweewhites9983 She is a gobbler. And a good one too!
@@seanpaulcurran 😊😊
@@snoweewhites9983 And you're perfect? Good for her for not running off to a plastic surgeon to feel better about themselves. Vanity is out of control
Bravo Mel, I think all of us in our life relate to this issue. I am a decision maker at work and I can’t make myself to do my finances I’m ignoring it and escaping to go away on holidays overseas. I don’t know why my brain is reacting in this way. It’s unbelievable! Thank you for 5 sec rulzs. Will apply this as I need to unlock my mind right now.
Thank you so much Tom, just like an interview with Les Brown said, the stuff you are doing, these interviews are so full of impact, life changing to do the least. This was one with Mel has been my game changer, totally relating to her story, being 41 and just going through what she went through and feeling wow! i will get out of this rutt! Thank you so so so much Tom, you are truly great, and impacting us in such a big way. Thank you!!!!!
It's Ironic how on Facebook the video posted of the first 10 minutes of this interview has over 5.5 million views, yet only 50,000 have gone on to watch the whole interview. It's almost like all those people were interested to watch but their brain said, I don't feel like watching the rest.
They got distracted by any one of a myriad of things and later forgot all about it.
or they did the 5 sec.Rule. Got up and did something.
GOoD catch man! :D
At first I did not give credit to Mel Robbins, but after listening to this interview, I have to say that she is Amazing.
Same here. This interview really is something.
Exactly, I couldn't get her message before. This interview is surely something special. I watch it every time I get a chance
54321 is BRINGING YOU INTO FOCUS!!!
Reta Tus Límites pretty sure it’s not your job to give credit, but get what your saying.
Kim Howard love this reply
Watched this in full and broke down crying. Thank you. I hope today I can make that change. I really do.
Because you're a loser
This is so much more do-able than just trying to "think positive thoughts" Which never worked for me. Thank you so much.
Your videos have helped me reach over $180,000 in trading by age 23! Thanks Tom Bilyeu. Keep the videos coming. 👍🏽
Congrats ! i made a lot during covid from my passive income .
I'm convinced that the big investors and analysts are trying to scare us to keep us poor and ignorant to the market.. because its steady doing good after all the jobless and market crash talks
Congrats and wishing you the best .
@kim sun When I was 20 ,but you need a finance Pro if you don’t want to loose and if you want to be more successful.
@kim sun Follow⬇️⬇️
Dear Mel,
I am generally a very motivated person. I agree with you to just keep it simple.
I need to let you know that I have started using this with my 7 year old son. It works and he loves it. What he has started though without me mentioning anything about you or your work, he decided that we need to continue counting to 5,4,3,2,1,0 then he says lift off and he does whatever we wanna do.
I said to him yesterday, just do it and he responded, well I need to count down so my mind knows!
I almost had tears in my eyes.
I respect your work and am using it im my professional as a change manager.
Respect!
Ali
Wow! I love this! Thanks for sharing.
alvoda I want to thank you, I'm a 44 year old new single mom . Suffering from anxiety and depression for 24 years, you just gave me the brilliant idea of using this in soon future with my 10 months old boy. Thank You!!!! 🙏💛💛💛
@@lolavelmar2996 you're going to crush life
Thank you so much pulling myself through loss depression and self doubt every baby step is invaluable… peace on your hearts
A huge Thanks to Tom and Mel 🙏. Finally, I got the answer that I was looking for since Nov 2021. Mel , just expressed and touched each feeling that I’m having, I was watching her talking, and each word coming out of her mouth, I said yeees exactly thats me , like I finally found someone can understand me , cuz I have been dying to just find an answer to what’s happening to me , why I just keeping thinking and not moving even a one step , what I do is just creating list and plans for each day ahead and not taking actions. Oh God 🙏, thanks for sending people to lighten our path 🙏, thanks Tom for hosting the GREAT Mel Robins , it’s time for the Rocket 🚀 to Launch
After a 3 day, self imposed "silent retreat", by myself, I was stunned by how powerful and apart from myself my brain was acting. It stopped listening to me and took over like a run away train, and I couldn't stop it. You are speaking about this, and since that experience I was truly awakened to the power and control of our brains. Thanks again.
5,4,3,2,1 I have been doing this for about 10 years now. I discovered this as I was a kid. Like on your mark get set go! I use it for work, when I'm angry to calm down and get into a neutral mindset. It works 💪🏽.
I’m curious, if you discovered it as a kid, why have you not been using it for more than 10 years?
I need a major change(reset) in my life, 2023!! I'm tired of feeling like a failure! This is so insightful!! My anxiety is rising up watching this because I know this is what I need to be doing!!! 😩😩😩😩 But I will do it💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
I pray you find the courage to reset your life. God's speed.
You are remarkable lady. speaking raw truth as it should be not wrapped up in fancy lace or difficult jargon . The rule about no phone in bedroom is great . I have a smartphone which i switch off 1.5 hour before bed time and left downstairs and only keep the old phone for alarm and emergency calls. I also have a landline one set downstairs and another in the spare room upstairs that number is ex directory so only my close family have it.
The smart phones and access to social media is destroying children's mental health and their social well being.
I only bought the smart phone during pandemic and must say it helped me in keeping well informed on all aspects because the main stream TV news were just foom and gloom ..thank you for lovely inspiring talk.
Omg, she has so much energy, it is so contagious! And the 5 second rule is so powerful... Amazing episode, time flew by so fast.
Gonçalo Costa So glad you liked it!
I think she is getting all this energy from just being honest. To herself and to people. When you live in illusion and talk about lies, it drains lots of energy.
There is a good reason we hesitate to protect ourselves, because yelling "fuck you" to everyone you meet isn't helpful.
CADs Academy Hahahahaha! Ok... this is funny. You're very right. ;-)
My most honest thought of the month.. hah. Thanks for the reply! You've just gained a sub ;)
haha, there you go, 5,4,3,2,1 FUCK YOU!
P.s. no offence bud😉
Love Mel! Totally captivated by her and her realness!!! And helping us with something from her experiences that actually work and its not all hype! She has my support and going to get her book…5 second Rule!! Hugs & love Mel, thank you soooo much!! Thank you Tom for having her on your show!!❤❤🎉🎉
This was awesome. I've had Mel's book for some years, but THIS interview finally makes all that stuff make sense. As an interviewer, my goodness you have excellent skills, Tom. I've watched this several times. BTW, thank you for the awesome notes on the post, which makes it simple to rewatch a portion that I feel I need to see again. A great outline. I love this!
May I ask what the name of her book is
In seduction they call this the 3 second rule...you see a girl you like and have about 3 seconds to approach before all the excuses kick in
Yes! Gotta act quickly!
#CoachCoreyWayne
Mystery made a fortune by simply using the 3S rule and the Mystery step by step Method. Not a fit for all success recipe, but you get you 80% success somehow :)
Isn't this also what is used in hypnosis for suggestion (10, 5 or 3 down to 1)?
@Ioannis Kanlis Pareto and so
Sensationally brilliant. Love this woman!
totally agree,,,,, she is da bomb. And WE (you too!) have the option, to take her suggestions and PUT THEM TO WORK RIGHT NOW...5 4 3 2 1.....or, just hear, learn and UNDERSTAND the concepts......yet NOT APPLY them.
Which is foolish.
There's a saying that applies.... I paraphrase ... "Knowing but not doing, is as if we never knew it at all."
I agree with you Rita!!!
She is so smart . I have never heard anyone say anything more true and relatable. Like ever !!! This is so crazy
I felt the exact same way and her explanations were so clear and easy to comprehend. This my favorite interview he’s done I can’t wait to apply this to my life
Such a realistic individual. She is real and it's rare to find such individuals in this day and age. Love her energy. Thanks Lisa 🙂
Absolutely the most powerful guest. Mel Robbins spoke to every emotion that I am going through right now. Because of this episode I am 'excited' to move forward in my life, and make the changes that I have been afraid of making because of fear and uncertainty. Thank you so much Tom for this show and your guests. You truly are making an Impact on my life!
That's so awesome to hear!!! Mel is amazing and I'm so happy that her advice is helping you. That's what this is all about!
Blessings to you🙏🏽❤️
I’m going to try the 5 second rule in my life . 27:50 “Confidence is not a personality trait, it’s a skill” WOW.
This video changed my life , I knew something was missing in my life, I finally found the missing piece thanks God bless you Mel.
It’s indeed a ‘life changing material’. Good luck for your future
To bed at 5pm….up at 11:30…1 hour this evening with my diffuser, cup of coffee, Shinrin-Yoku….then off to work at 1:30am….thank you Mel…
Motivation: Doing something to make someone else happy.
Inspiration: Doing something to make myself happy.
Just doing some thing that makes another person happy in turn makes me feel happy.
Basically just like masturbation, inspiration.
Sounds fair to me
That's narrow pow. Extremely..
Funny thing about this, after watching this video i felt "motivated"
Haha! Oh the irony! ;-)
Depends on each person's definition of the word "motivation"..? One man's "motivation" is another man's inspiration/imagination?
Mr.Gregarious so now use the 5 sec rule to get going
thats not motivation its hope my friendo ... hope that you can short circuit the shit out of your self-doubt saboteur without too much schooling,
@@madmanzila damn that's intense right there what you just mentioned. There is hope that is fed by self-doubt sabotage. It's sooooo true, I can hear myself doubting about myself and always looking towards hope. Therefore, I ''need'' hope which is an illusion. Thank you for helping me highlighting this!!!!
Wow, I found this the exact day I needed it! Thank you Tom and Mel 🙏❤️❤️
I needed this, I feel like I'm a chronically lazy person who literally gives myself anxiety for not doing the list of things in my brain, my mind is a nag but also comes up with a million excuses why I can't do it, I have a constant battle in my mind, I've definitely had days where I've turned my brain on silent mode and was able to do so much more, I just haven't figured out how to control that ability quite yet, definitely going to be utilizing this information!
Don't know how this is not a legit TV Show! Love your stuff
Thank you!
@@TomBilyeu YT Red is my only "tv", so YES! I'm so grateful for this content!! Thanks Tom for alllll the awesome. Love to Lisa, too! YOU GUYS F-ing ROCK
@Andrew OBrien 🤣🤣🤣🤣
This is impacting my life tremendously as I found myself in a reality at the age of 41 where I had to radically and drastically change my whole life after loosing everything! I'm still 41 by the way and am finding tremendous benefits in the change that I committed to, so thank you both for this wonderful interview!
I hope that you are doing well
@@grainofsand4176 Yes, creating and recreating life as I go! Hope you're doing well as well.
While listening to this video, I got up and dust off my treadmill, took it out of the closet and I'm planning to exercise first thing in the morning...thank you!
Thank you! I have learned so much watching this video and I want to share it with the world so we can all be better. ❤️🙏🏼
She is so amazing! Thanks to her 5 second rule I am recording my songs and uploading more UA-cam Videos. And I started swimming again!
I found myself worrying about something unnecessary and not only do I recognize it creeping up but now I count 5,4,3,2,1 and I smile and my mind shifts and I feel great again. This is amazing!
Wow!!
This is amazing!
I've been practicing this today!
😭😭😭Listening to this again 3yrs later & it’s hitting me so different!! #tinydecisions #nolongertrapped
So glad you made the decision to relisten. I'm doing the same thing. Only I don't remember if I listened the first time.. Lol I will be counting all day.
It was really a great topics to listen, I always advise my friends going through the same situation, and they were happy I was able to help.
Elaborate, what did this do to help you and why are you relistening to it?
hurt people hurt others....fear makes you do so many things that don't help, but hurt and exacerbate the issue....such amazing realizations and shares....thank you for your work!!!!!
It's an honor! Mel is amazing! So glad the episode resonated with you!
One has come to realize that you're not alone and its not abnormal the way our brains are wired, its a matter of rewiring ourselves. Thanks Mel❣👊🏽
I just love these two wonderful people. Thank you Mel Robbins and Tom Bilyeu ❤️❤️❤️
Tom definitely did his research which makes him an excellent interviewer. It feels more like a meaningful conversation between two individuals. Mel makes everything congestible and with her intelligence and humor. It inspires me to read her book.
I work as an AV technician at a local hotel and I had the amazing opportunity to tech the room Mel was speaking in. Prior to having any idea who she was, I set her presentation equipment up and introduced myself. Then something clicked, I had just gotten back from visiting my brother out of state and he mentioned a book to me because i was explaining to him how difficult it is for me to act on my instincts and I am constantly stuck in my head. Turns out, the book was The 5 Second Rule and a typical day at work turned into one of the most inspirational days of my life. So strange how life can surprise us and magically bring important people into our lives when we need it the most. I mean what are the odds Mel Robbins unexpectedly shows up at my work, still cant get over it.
This is the most perfect interview I have seen, I love science and I love the way she linked it all to science. I've been searching tirelessly for a show like this and I've finally found it. Glad I found you Tom!
Thanks a lot for sharing this important interview. It's an eye-opener!!! 🥳🥰💖💖💖
What a lovely lovely lady💞
Thank you for sharing your insights & growth... this has helped tremendously, highly resonated with all of what was shared! Absolutely incredible 🙏🏾Thank you again!!!
I feel like my heart is burning while watching this, as if i need to do something right here right now! Feels good
Yes! That's the best reaction!
Dang. Tim is an EXCELLENT interviewer hands down. Very articulate and his introductions are phenomenal. I would love for him to write my bio and introduce me 😂🤣🤣 A girl could dream.
Haha! One day. I got you. ;-)
Tom Bilyeu 🤣🤣🤣 Awesome! It will happen.
😂😂 exactly what I think of every time I watch his videos. His introductions gets me excited before even seeing the guest 💆🏾♀️
A girl has a name
Who's Tim? xD
Wow! Ive watched this video many times over a span of time and have put it to work. Yes it is a stupid thing but It is life changing in the most profound way. Im without words and that never happens. Thank you for all that you have done for me! Forever grateful.
can't express enough how impressive this talk is! on so many levels. Love it!
Staying in a body that you are not proud of is a DECISION!!!!!!
LOVE that and LOVE Mel!!!
Totally relatable, down to earth inspiration…
Thank you Tom and Mel for sharing your wealth of knowledge!!!❤️
That one was mine
that is NOT true for many many people.....genetics, and birth defects, accidents and cancer have done things to people's bodies that they have NO CONTROL over......she is very simplistic and superficial if you ask me
I am truly blown away by this video. I feel it’s an awakening and will be rewatching it a few times as my starting point. She spoke to me on a level and I finally feel like I can help myself using these tools to get back up from the rock bottom my life has hit after what I thought was a life destined to fail with such bad luck and listening to others advice not myself enough ,, not using these tools shutting the world out to cope now after so much has gone wrong , but now I feel i can get back up. I will be researching more on the amazing Mel Robbins and also want to say that the interviewer here was great too very engaged and allowed her to freely talk and explain it all so well. Thank you to both of you for this life changing information 🥰 much appreciated.
Update pls millionaire yet?
Thank you for being light in the dark, inspired to do more. Truly grateful ❤️
So true! You must follow your instinct and go, go, go! Do it! Do it! Do it! That's the point! I completely agree with you!