I’m no where near to having a baby but this was super interesting regardless! I’m super happy I had the chance to be involved in my mom’s home birth journey while pregnant with my sister! It taught me so much ❤
My mom was induced early just because the OBGYN was going on vacation the week she was due. I thought that was absolutely wild!! I was born at a low weight and had to stay in the NICU for a couple weeks to gain weight.
With my first baby, I wasn’t prepared for labor and delivery at all. My labor and delivery journey turned out really awful and ended in a C-Section. Now I’m almost 12weeks pregnant and I just discovered your channel. I’m subscribing right away because the next labor and delivery has to be tip top!😊 Let’s go!!💃💃
Hey im commenting here just to let you know that your not alone. I hope my next is better and makes me feel empowered instead of defeated. My sons heartrate dropped at 8cm and they took me into the surgery room. The nurse told the surgeon that his heartrate returned to normal and he literally said, "im cutting her open anyway" and cut into me. I didn't feel the cut but as soon as he reached inside it was the worst pain imaginable and I had to be put under completely because I was kicking and couldn't hold still. It was awful and I regret not having a birth plan and being able to be awake for my sons first moments into the world.
Have you had your baby?? (UA-cam just says the comment was "2mo ago") And if so, how did it go? I'm nervous about my husband being my only support person because I feel like he's completely checked out since my pregnancy (planned and wanted by both of us) started showing. I feel like I should have asked my sister or best friend to be there since I don't expect my husband to be very supportive. 🫤
@@Ad_Inferno yes he came match 7th. I was induced and I wanted for him to come on his own but I wasn't able to do it without an epidural. And that turned out horrible because it didn't take and I had to get another one. My lower back still hurts. But I my best friend was there with me she at the end i had a volunteer doula who showed up. She was still helpful. I would recommend you also have your friend with your husband. He still could check back in. This was my 4th pregnancy. Let me tell you. It doesn't get any easier either. Im not saying that to make you more nervous but it just hurts like hell.. but it's worth it. Wishing you good vibes luv.
@@myras2blessed2beestressed32 Thanks so much. He has three days to decide to check back in, so I've lost hope. I'm considering my options for after the baby is born if he doesn't step up because I'm not confident he will (this is his second child and he was a single dad when his son was a toddler, so I find all of this baffling). I'm glad your best friend was able to be there for you!
Oh👏🏻My👏🏻God👏🏻 I have a Story that was pretty ✨traumatic ✨ Little context: when my son was born i was 4.11ft tall and weighed about 140lbs and my hips specifically are narrow. 2 days before his birth i got checked, ultrasound, membrane sweep, the whole 9. They’re like “oh hes going to be about 7 lbs” HA Sike. This ‘little’ boy made me look like i was carrying triplets. You got little me hobbling around with my beach ball belly. Anyway, next day, started with very mild contractions, they felt different then Braxton hicks which i was having for like 2 months straight so i could tell the difference just by a bit (drove me nuts but yall know, trust the process). Btw at this point it was like a week since i lost my mucus plug. Get to hospital, sit there for a bit, they’re like “they’re not bad enough, go home” we go home and 2 hrs later my water breaks (waterfall style all over my moms bed😂 felt like a balloon popped inside my vag-weirdest sensation ever) I didn’t wanna go sit in hospital forever so we chilled for like an hr or 2 till contractions picked up, Get back to hospital, they try to say my water didnt break while im over here dying in the corner. They finally admit that it did and get me to a room-still dying in the corner. Gave me morphine and no longer dying in the corner but am high as f 😂it was great. Couple hrs later im screaming my head off from the pain and they’re like ‘yo u gotta shut it ur scaring people’😂 im like ‘stfu you push out this baby then’ Give me like 3 shots of morphine in an hr then like a cocktail with anesthesia in my epidural (btw epidural didn’t do anything) Couple hrs later my HR is 65bpm, babys heart stopped like 4 times, im blacking out constantly, they tell me to push, i cant feel my muscles to push but somehow still in agonizing pain in my hips. Got dr at the bottom, 1 nurse popping my left hip outta place and putting back 4 times, mom on my right popped out that him 2 times, another nurse doing full force cpr on my stomach to get the baby out, and dr pops babys shoulder out too. 14 hrs later got my 10lb baby, 3 dislocated joints, and my ODing in the bed. Onto the 6 months of postpartum depression, prescriptions, psych ward stay for not sleeping and drinking 5 monster energy drinks a day to stay awake, and drug withdrawals. So crazy to go through that story again, its been a while. I want a c-section next time😂. Btw hes 2 now and stands up to my torso above my belly button.
I'm glad that you're mostly over the trauma you and baby went through. 👶🏽Giant baby seems to be growing fine.😀🤰 If you have another baby a c-section sounds better, but I think you need some new people on your team. 👩🏼🦳Grandma seemed to be very helpful.💖
My mom was a terrible support person 😅 she kept on pressuring me to get the epidural even though i didnt want one and she wore my down so i finally got it. It stalled my labor 🫠 ten hours after i got it i never dilated any further So when they mentioned csection my mom got excited and was only thinking about how my daughter would be born in a few short minutes. The midwife said i could wait it out longer but my baby would either be birn via csection or with a cone head. So also not a great midwife. I honestly rather of had a conehead baby instead of a csection if it meant i got a normal delivery
Would like to know more about the position when giving birth? As I heard the most traditional way (laying down) isn’t the best for labor but it’s used universally. Will you share this topic please. Thank you. 😊
I missed this!! You’re correct the Lithotomy position on your back isn’t great. I’ve been trying to find a hospital that will let me film in there because mine won’t to demo some of these positions! I have a video way down at the bottom one of the first ones I ever made about this.
That’s the best position for the medical staff but absolutely not for mum for sure! From experience I recommend on your knees and your hands /forearms pushing on something , like on the back of an armchair or a hospital bed raised up. Baby comes super fast! Squatting is a really good one too if you have strong legs! Any position that gravity helps is going to be better.
Not sure if this is everywhere, but in a hospital we gave birth to in Toronto Canada, the nurses refused to check due to liability reasons. Though they were ok to educate us.
I'm no where near birth but my sister's first experience was so bad she had to experience both pains normal birth and then they found out the chord was around the baby's neck thank Goodness it wasn't too late so they did the operation it kinda scared me since then the idea of giving birth 😅
Oh gosh they are great! The water takes weight off your body which makes contractions feel less intense, warm water helps with pain and relaxes you. And warm water on your Perineum helps with tearing!
So am I in the minority that I just want to be left alone during my labor? I mean, I asked my husband to hold my water bottle so I could drink a few times, but other than that I'd just prefer if he and everyone else was not there. So he may have seemed hands off as he sat on his chair at the side of the room, but that is my labor support person preference. 🤔
"I can drop an F-bomb too if it makes you more comfortable." This is exactly the kind of energy I will require during labour. 😂
You should do a video on support persons do/donts
This is a wicked idea!
You are so knowledgeable. I wish you were at the birth of our babies!
Wow, thank you!❤
I’m no where near to having a baby but this was super interesting regardless! I’m super happy I had the chance to be involved in my mom’s home birth journey while pregnant with my sister! It taught me so much ❤
Oh my gosh I love that! ❤ thanks for commenting
Love #7. It was the best part of my labor ❤
That baby belongs on you!! ❤
My MIL was an awesome support person, so chill. Her son, on the other hand... not so great.
My mom was induced early just because the OBGYN was going on vacation the week she was due. I thought that was absolutely wild!! I was born at a low weight and had to stay in the NICU for a couple weeks to gain weight.
I was too! My mom didn't feel safe with the other doctor so she told the doctor either she was induced or I'd be born in the parking lot XD
With my first baby, I wasn’t prepared for labor and delivery at all. My labor and delivery journey turned out really awful and ended in a C-Section.
Now I’m almost 12weeks pregnant and I just discovered your channel. I’m subscribing right away because the next labor and delivery has to be tip top!😊
Let’s go!!💃💃
Hey im commenting here just to let you know that your not alone. I hope my next is better and makes me feel empowered instead of defeated. My sons heartrate dropped at 8cm and they took me into the surgery room. The nurse told the surgeon that his heartrate returned to normal and he literally said, "im cutting her open anyway" and cut into me. I didn't feel the cut but as soon as he reached inside it was the worst pain imaginable and I had to be put under completely because I was kicking and couldn't hold still. It was awful and I regret not having a birth plan and being able to be awake for my sons first moments into the world.
Aaaaaaah how did I miss this comment!! I hope you’re still here, I’m so glad to meet you ♥️
I am so so so sorry. I hope you’re finding healing following an experience like that ❤️🩹
Thank you for sharing the helpful information! ❤
I don't have a support person 😭idk what I'ma do. But I guess my best. 6-8 weeks left to go 😅
Maybe you could search for doula?
Have you had your baby?? (UA-cam just says the comment was "2mo ago") And if so, how did it go? I'm nervous about my husband being my only support person because I feel like he's completely checked out since my pregnancy (planned and wanted by both of us) started showing. I feel like I should have asked my sister or best friend to be there since I don't expect my husband to be very supportive. 🫤
@@Ad_Inferno yes he came match 7th. I was induced and I wanted for him to come on his own but I wasn't able to do it without an epidural. And that turned out horrible because it didn't take and I had to get another one. My lower back still hurts. But I my best friend was there with me she at the end i had a volunteer doula who showed up. She was still helpful. I would recommend you also have your friend with your husband. He still could check back in. This was my 4th pregnancy. Let me tell you. It doesn't get any easier either. Im not saying that to make you more nervous but it just hurts like hell.. but it's worth it. Wishing you good vibes luv.
@@myras2blessed2beestressed32 Thanks so much. He has three days to decide to check back in, so I've lost hope. I'm considering my options for after the baby is born if he doesn't step up because I'm not confident he will (this is his second child and he was a single dad when his son was a toddler, so I find all of this baffling). I'm glad your best friend was able to be there for you!
@@Ad_Inferno Hello, I'm coming across this comment just now and I hope you had a (relatively) peaceful birth and that you are doing well. Much love.
Oh👏🏻My👏🏻God👏🏻
I have a Story that was pretty ✨traumatic ✨
Little context: when my son was born i was 4.11ft tall and weighed about 140lbs and my hips specifically are narrow.
2 days before his birth i got checked, ultrasound, membrane sweep, the whole 9. They’re like “oh hes going to be about 7 lbs”
HA Sike.
This ‘little’ boy made me look like i was carrying triplets. You got little me hobbling around with my beach ball belly.
Anyway, next day, started with very mild contractions, they felt different then Braxton hicks which i was having for like 2 months straight so i could tell the difference just by a bit (drove me nuts but yall know, trust the process). Btw at this point it was like a week since i lost my mucus plug.
Get to hospital, sit there for a bit, they’re like “they’re not bad enough, go home” we go home and 2 hrs later my water breaks (waterfall style all over my moms bed😂 felt like a balloon popped inside my vag-weirdest sensation ever)
I didn’t wanna go sit in hospital forever so we chilled for like an hr or 2 till contractions picked up, Get back to hospital, they try to say my water didnt break while im over here dying in the corner. They finally admit that it did and get me to a room-still dying in the corner.
Gave me morphine and no longer dying in the corner but am high as f 😂it was great.
Couple hrs later im screaming my head off from the pain and they’re like ‘yo u gotta shut it ur scaring people’😂 im like ‘stfu you push out this baby then’
Give me like 3 shots of morphine in an hr then like a cocktail with anesthesia in my epidural (btw epidural didn’t do anything)
Couple hrs later my HR is 65bpm, babys heart stopped like 4 times, im blacking out constantly, they tell me to push, i cant feel my muscles to push but somehow still in agonizing pain in my hips. Got dr at the bottom, 1 nurse popping my left hip outta place and putting back 4 times, mom on my right popped out that him 2 times, another nurse doing full force cpr on my stomach to get the baby out, and dr pops babys shoulder out too.
14 hrs later got my 10lb baby, 3 dislocated joints, and my ODing in the bed.
Onto the 6 months of postpartum depression, prescriptions, psych ward stay for not sleeping and drinking 5 monster energy drinks a day to stay awake, and drug withdrawals.
So crazy to go through that story again, its been a while. I want a c-section next time😂.
Btw hes 2 now and stands up to my torso above my belly button.
I missed this story!! Just read through that’s unreal. I’m glad you both came out of it on this side but sounds like a major path to healing ❤️🩹
I'm glad that you're mostly over the trauma you and baby went through. 👶🏽Giant baby seems to be growing fine.😀🤰 If you have another baby a c-section sounds better, but I think you need some new people on your team. 👩🏼🦳Grandma seemed to be very helpful.💖
My mom was a terrible support person 😅 she kept on pressuring me to get the epidural even though i didnt want one and she wore my down so i finally got it. It stalled my labor 🫠 ten hours after i got it i never dilated any further
So when they mentioned csection my mom got excited and was only thinking about how my daughter would be born in a few short minutes.
The midwife said i could wait it out longer but my baby would either be birn via csection or with a cone head. So also not a great midwife. I honestly rather of had a conehead baby instead of a csection if it meant i got a normal delivery
Amen, stop the I'm sorries! :D
Bustin em up 💪🏻
Would like to know more about the position when giving birth? As I heard the most traditional way (laying down) isn’t the best for labor but it’s used universally. Will you share this topic please. Thank you. 😊
I missed this!! You’re correct the Lithotomy position on your back isn’t great. I’ve been trying to find a hospital that will let me film in there because mine won’t to demo some of these positions! I have a video way down at the bottom one of the first ones I ever made about this.
That’s the best position for the medical staff but absolutely not for mum for sure! From experience I recommend on your knees and your hands /forearms pushing on something , like on the back of an armchair or a hospital bed raised up. Baby comes super fast! Squatting is a really good one too if you have strong legs! Any position that gravity helps is going to be better.
Not sure if this is everywhere, but in a hospital we gave birth to in Toronto Canada, the nurses refused to check due to liability reasons. Though they were ok to educate us.
Great advice ❤
I'm no where near birth but my sister's first experience was so bad she had to experience both pains normal birth and then they found out the chord was around the baby's neck thank Goodness it wasn't too late so they did the operation it kinda scared me since then the idea of giving birth 😅
That does sound traumatic! And often an emergency c section is a very scary time. I’m glad they are both ok!! ❤
@@mamanursetina yeah it was really scary but the baby's almost 9 months now and very healthy❤️😊
Great video! What’s your opinion on water births?
Oh gosh they are great! The water takes weight off your body which makes contractions feel less intense, warm water helps with pain and relaxes you. And warm water on your Perineum helps with tearing!
@@mamanursetina sounds ideal! 😊
So am I in the minority that I just want to be left alone during my labor? I mean, I asked my husband to hold my water bottle so I could drink a few times, but other than that I'd just prefer if he and everyone else was not there. So he may have seemed hands off as he sat on his chair at the side of the room, but that is my labor support person preference. 🤔