@@Aliens-Are-Our-Friends2027 it's a great mental exercise that will increase your own self-reliance and self-confidence, as well as force you to be more creative in the moment as well. Trust me. You don't have to do the openers forever I'm not saying use a crutch exactly - just give yourself a period of time for using them. Just come up with some and do the work, find out which ones work best, you'll have canned lines that RESONATE with your personality and things will be easier to come up with on the fly because you actually did the work doing a ton of approaches trying each one on your list. It's great that we're all learning from Todd, but field experience is first, field experience is king. Don't forget that.
Fantastic analysis and the notes and points on the screen were extremely helpful. It's much easier to understand when the points are on the screen giving context to the discussion.
Hes good but he doesnt fully understand human nature or at least doesnt admit it. There are certainly alpha males and betas, and women like the alphas who can properly communicate. Ive seen him deny that. Simply wrong.
@Kal El what about the studies on chimps? Were much more similar to them. I don't buy it. I've experienced too much in life to deny that there are essentially alphas and betas.
،amazing topic and input thank you my two favorite takeaways were: be polarizing to strangers but more elegant with social circle .. using slightly leser success probability gambits so your opponent cannot predicted it ( novel and leaves an impression)is better than using predicted higher success probability gambits, especially if you can follow up
Game is one of those things that is just so fucking random, there can't be too many rules. Other than the fundamentals, everything in game is literally just adapting
You definitely know your stuff. I’ll be honest though. I’m a little overwhelmed just watching the video. I feel lost not knowing where to begin. That’s the honest truth.
It's really refreshing for someone to say something's "like chess" but actually have some knowledge about chess to legitimise the comparison, instead of just using chess to make a thing sound more intellectual than it actually is.
Hello, Todd :) I've got a question about online messaging. I have a couple of girls on Instagram, that I'd like to get to know. But they don't know me as well as I don't know them. I just found their profiles on some dating platform. I don't even know if some of them have boyfriends. So, the question is - how to start a conversation with them? 'Cause we don't have a match in Tinder, it wasn't cold approach on a street. We are complete strangers to each other.
I remember one time tyler said that julien almost won todd a match of chess and then said that, that'd be like todd winning julien in destroying girls emotionally
Hi, I'm in my mid 50's and due to some unforeseen circumstances new to game. I love to workout and would love a woman who does as well. I'm concerned about the limited number of women at my local gym, and definitely want to approach some of them, but don't want to get a reputation for hitting on many of the girls who workout there. What are your thoughts?
A few different ideas: 1) be friends with everyone in the gym. Older women, guys, the front desk staff. Now when you are talking to women and everyone else is saying hi to you, you are just the guy that everyone knows. Transition this to social events outside of the gym. 2) or just not give a shit. You have a goal. Whats the consequences of being known as the guy that hits on women? If its a big gym with lots of turnover, probably wont make a difference. Maybe go to a different gym for a while and work on your game, then go back to your main gym if you have some sort of social standing there already. Its been a year since you posted this comment. How ars things going?
I am 5'6". What helped me was what Nathanael said, positive affirmations and Most importantly: positive experience. Get yourself reference experience and prove to yourself that you are attractive. There's no denying you got it harder than taller men. But also there are plenty of women who also like smaller guys plus enough who value confidence and "good game"/being socially intelligent and cool over appearance. Working out (not too bulky! It will look strange quickly if you're working out too much as a small person) and having your shit together dress and hair wise will also be Paramount. I made huge experience gains by this and by making personal break throughs in online game, which made me believe in game more than ever.
Like I was saying, I would like to see a video of you in the field testing this in today's real world Covid Pandemic situation where you approach a woman wearing a surgical mask. Never take it off and just simply use your words to get her to go home with you! That would be the true test of your skills!
My go to opener use to be, “I thought I would see if you are as cool as you are fashionable.” One time I said this to a girl in a laundromat. The girl got pissed. I realized later that she could have had on her last clean outfit.
For the people that actually practice, where do u go to practice during covid(I try the gym but I’ll run out eventually and that malls around me are like wastelands)
Todd can't give you morals and ethics, that's for you to decide. Just don't be a scumbag. Don't act in ways that if you saw another dude doing the same, you'd want to punch him I'm the face.
Did anyone catch what he said he always does within the first 30 seconds? I decided to write it down after the video finished, but now I can't find where it was :/
Hi Todd, you always tell us we must think in the frame of 'being a win for the girl' on your UA-cam videos. But that seems to not be enough sometimes. How can I beat a guy who is also 'a win for the girl as well' this is not a oneitis. I did sleep with this girl in 20 minutes but it was a little painful watching her get into a relationship with another guy only 2 months later, because I know deep down I was better win for this girl, both in terms of mentality, resources and the value that I have to offer.
Maybe he's a better catch in reality(like money, looks, height, status,...etc). But the reason Todd said that is because beginners don't think they're good enough for the girl, and they won't approach because of it. So having the mentality of I'm a high value man, who's providing value to the girl. Will help you take action. But a Really high value guy is gonna get the girl for long term. Why not still take a chance on her if she responds then you know what kind of women she is.
Serious tinder question. What's the logic behind when women give you silence? I mean the situations when everything is going great like she flirts and you flirt back and then silence? It seems like they wait for a new opener but why tf would you continue conversation when other side is not?
Could it be that you take it too long and so the girl gets bored? Maybe you should go faster Mine is just a supposition, maybe you didn't think about it... i'm not firmly stating anything (just to be clear)
@@simosavustaja9420 well then the interaction really is not that long If it happened to me I would suppose no interest is there, but I imagine other variables should be considered... I hope you figure this out in some way
@@tomswiss7128 Interaction is longer, that's just the main point where the silence comes. I tested this and when you send her a new messaga she is totally interested in asking questions etc. Main problem is that i have no clue what's the logic behind this silence? Maybe they just get bored strangely.
@@simosavustaja9420 Ok, I misunderstood your point Based on what you say, then, I would still believe that your tease doesn't have anything wrong per se, but the girl goes silent because she is like "idk what to say next" and that happens precisely because you were forcing the conversation too long via text (or, in the worst case, the girl was never interested)
hey. Does Todd have a illness or like a health condition? because i always get a sickly vibe from him? aids? immune issue? Don't get me wrong he is the king, but just a side question :/
This is an overcomplication of a simple thing....its an application of a formula or a algorithm.....honestly, no offense guy, but theres something about you that sceams financial stability and it isnt your good looks and it isnt your intelligence...ill just leave it at that. That easily stands to cloud your judgment on the effectiveness of this whole thing, and im gonna go out on a limb here and say that it quite evidently already has. You guys subscribing to these notions are buying into the idea that it all boils down to a science, the science is the times, the science is nature, and this is an attempt to put ones thumb over that shit and any success derived from it you chalk up to ITS success, and thats never been anything more than an emotional mindset-meaning, you wanna be more like a woman? Well theres your ticket.. Theres truth in this..but the point of it is to obviously create a seeming heirarchy of knowlege that requires charts and white board blueprinting and fast talking to illustrate some kind of overfamiliarity, the sole purpose of which is to leave the audience feeling out of their depth. Its like those video game bloggers, like-we get it- youre a little past beginner stage but tell me why the outward display of that fact always has to include you doing everything at 90 miles an hour.. All this conversational pre-strategizing, they see right thru that....THATS the credit you should be giving women instead of thinking youre going to throw a strategic wool over them, beat them over the head with it and get them back to your lair. I agree that women should be looked at as opponents but THIS puts too much emphesis on their complicated nature, or their complicated FRONT i should say (which is just a societal euphamism for 'mostly irrational') and if youre gonna liken this to a game you should be referring to poker...you think you hide your shit behind strategy but youre full of tells that NATURE has their eyes open to, not to mention the arrogance of this complicated technique demands validation. So youll be looking for ways to justify its success or lack thereof instead of judging it rationally and more importantly: organically. Im not saying, 'be yourself'...what i am saying is that if this is your idea of game you definitely have a long way to go, and i dont mean with women...i mean with yourself. This whole thing is damaging to men because it puts women up on a pedestal. And a man who shapes themselves around these strategies builds up women as inpenetrable without a scientific level of CATERING....and yeah....again.....CATERING....this is a mindset that spells your own doom, because you create this tier of 'success' to aspire to...and truth is, youve never MADE it with a woman...there's no 'over there'.....theres never gonna be a 'got ya now'....its always right here, right now...and catering is a suicide move whether youre 2 minutes into meeting a woman or 2 years into a relationship.....you cater your life to her and youre DONE there and then...you typically end up just walking around not knowing it. Ideas like this are the shortest route to a complete detrioration of your dignity. If youre one of those guys who feels like youve landed a girl or look at her simply being in the house at the end of the day or her having an 'in a relationship' status on her social media as being evidence that youve accomplished something...then this fuckin video is for you, and carry the hell on.
everybody should stop making "game" so theoretical and turning it into a science or mental mastrubation.. that guy compares it with chess.... migga you probably gon be virgin for life with that thinking
I really enjoyed answering this question so I thought I'd share it with you. Full episodes of my podcast can be found at www.toddvdating.com/
What's your best mask opener to get a girl to take her's off ... "I'll take mine off, if you take off yours" ?
@@Aliens-Are-Our-Friends2027 Write down 5 of your own and go field test all of them first
@@razzdiamond6447 working on openers seems boring lol, prob best to work on freestyling in the moment
@@Aliens-Are-Our-Friends2027 it's a great mental exercise that will increase your own self-reliance and self-confidence, as well as force you to be more creative in the moment as well. Trust me. You don't have to do the openers forever I'm not saying use a crutch exactly - just give yourself a period of time for using them. Just come up with some and do the work, find out which ones work best, you'll have canned lines that RESONATE with your personality and things will be easier to come up with on the fly because you actually did the work doing a ton of approaches trying each one on your list.
It's great that we're all learning from Todd, but field experience is first, field experience is king. Don't forget that.
Todd can you look into putting an 'auto-play button' of some sorts on your website for the system and perhaps the vault videos?
He didn't mention it but when he was a kid he won his state's chess championship
How you know?
@@dylanjardon7136 older videos
@@dylanjardon7136 Google
That's bad ass.
Yeah, can tell from this video his knowledge of openings was at least intermediate if not advanced.
This dude is legit. Thanks Todd! I’m a beginner but can already see the potential. Already got some results w beginner stuff.
Fantastic analysis and the notes and points on the screen were extremely helpful. It's much easier to understand when the points are on the screen giving context to the discussion.
he’s still the king, like him or not
todds the man, hes the father and brother and mentor i never had....until now! ( dum dum duuuuuuuuuummmm)
Hes good but he doesnt fully understand human nature or at least doesnt admit it. There are certainly alpha males and betas, and women like the alphas who can properly communicate. Ive seen him deny that. Simply wrong.
Oh yeah that's right!
@Kal El what about the studies on chimps? Were much more similar to them. I don't buy it. I've experienced too much in life to deny that there are essentially alphas and betas.
@Kal El well look up chimpanzee alphas and betas. Same behavior we see in humans. I think people liked it because it explains a lot
Love the chess analogy & dope edits 🤯
Excited for more Todd V Show vids 🙌🏽
Now we need a poker analogy video
No, soccer.
Just remember to open tight in the front and loose in the back...
No, porn.
approach with emotionless stone face and say nothing, and wait ?
Best Content On UA-cam‼️Immensely Appreciate every piece of knowledge & game guidance Big Bro‼️
،amazing topic and input thank you my two favorite takeaways were:
be polarizing to strangers but more elegant with social circle
.. using slightly leser success probability gambits so your opponent cannot predicted it ( novel and leaves an impression)is better than using predicted higher success probability gambits, especially if you can follow up
Haha what a beast Todd is
hes got game down to a science
1:46 - Why ask todd a question? We all know what the answer will always be. It depends...
He went on for 21 more minutes.... that’s your answer
todd should write a book called....." it depends"
@@Mr.Moneybags40 Lol... I like it!
Game is one of those things that is just so fucking random, there can't be too many rules. Other than the fundamentals, everything in game is literally just adapting
I really like the edited effects of this Todd ... you're going beyond Super Saiyan now. Kaioken x 4
Kaioken times 4 is stronger than super saiyan ?
What kinda dragon ball did you watch 😅😅
love these new animations
Todd has upped my game big time cheers bro 👍
You definitely know your stuff. I’ll be honest though. I’m a little overwhelmed just watching the video. I feel lost not knowing where to begin. That’s the honest truth.
Great production quality. Improved a LOT compared to the last few vids. GJ guys
the analogy just keeps going, I learned not only about game but about the game.
It's really refreshing for someone to say something's "like chess" but actually have some knowledge about chess to legitimise the comparison, instead of just using chess to make a thing sound more intellectual than it actually is.
Thank you so much!! Truly life changing info!
We need a Todd valentine documentary on netflix
Would be a must see
Does the verbal game program have direct verbal game?
Amazing analogies
Hello, Todd :)
I've got a question about online messaging.
I have a couple of girls on Instagram, that I'd like to get to know. But they don't know me as well as I don't know them. I just found their profiles on some dating platform. I don't even know if some of them have boyfriends.
So, the question is - how to start a conversation with them? 'Cause we don't have a match in Tinder, it wasn't cold approach on a street. We are complete strangers to each other.
Todd what would you recommend for dming girls on Instagram? Same rules apply?
You have to have checkmark, very good profile , good looking or rich , otherwise you swim between 1000s of DMs they everyday .
todd whats your open for white ?......and whats your open for black against e4???
7:10 “crank it up to extreme depth” bruh Todd breaking out the AI vernacular? Dude knows chess ig
The best opener is the opener that doesn't sound like an opener or pickup line. The same stuff you would say to a friend you just met.
If it contains the elements that make it a good opener, yes.
We love you Todd!
when does VGA drop todd??
I remember one time tyler said that julien almost won todd a match of chess and then said that, that'd be like todd winning julien in destroying girls emotionally
What?
went from black short sleeve shirts to long black sleeve shirts
i struggle alot with transistion in daygame.. and make them into me.. like they never invest or ask me a question back
I have good question....: What to do over 50 ?
It's nonsense to walk around the clubs.
It's harder to build attraction during the day game to.
23 min video Praise God (Todd) 😄
15:25 So if I changed the proportional symbol to an equals, what would the follow-up constant be? ;)
What do you think about Valentino Kohen's game?
Me a lover of chess and woman love this question
I don’t even know what game is but this was beautiful.
This feels eerily like watching AI safety videos explaining how Alpha Go works
Hi, I'm in my mid 50's and due to some unforeseen circumstances new to game. I love to workout and would love a woman who does as well. I'm concerned about the limited number of women at my local gym, and definitely want to approach some of them, but don't want to get a reputation for hitting on many of the girls who workout there. What are your thoughts?
If you got money I heard Jon Anthony is good
A few different ideas:
1) be friends with everyone in the gym. Older women, guys, the front desk staff. Now when you are talking to women and everyone else is saying hi to you, you are just the guy that everyone knows. Transition this to social events outside of the gym.
2) or just not give a shit. You have a goal. Whats the consequences of being known as the guy that hits on women? If its a big gym with lots of turnover, probably wont make a difference.
Maybe go to a different gym for a while and work on your game, then go back to your main gym if you have some sort of social standing there already.
Its been a year since you posted this comment. How ars things going?
What's your elo rating?
What are your thoughts on oneitis?
king shit, love ur vids i’m turning my life around
My approach anxiety is due to the fact that I am an insecure person due to my short stature. I am 5.3 feet. How can i solve this?
I am 5'6". What helped me was what Nathanael said, positive affirmations and Most importantly: positive experience. Get yourself reference experience and prove to yourself that you are attractive. There's no denying you got it harder than taller men. But also there are plenty of women who also like smaller guys plus enough who value confidence and "good game"/being socially intelligent and cool over appearance. Working out (not too bulky! It will look strange quickly if you're working out too much as a small person) and having your shit together dress and hair wise will also be Paramount.
I made huge experience gains by this and by making personal break throughs in online game, which made me believe in game more than ever.
Sounds like your a serious chess player Todd. Whats your rating?. Im about 1800. I know your a grandmaster in pick up.
As a chess and game enthusiast, I fucking love this video!
Like I was saying, I would like to see a video of you in the field testing this in today's real world Covid Pandemic situation where you approach a woman wearing a surgical mask. Never take it off and just simply use your words to get her to go home with you! That would be the true test of your skills!
Kinky bro
My go to opener use to be, “I thought I would see if you are as cool as you are fashionable.” One time I said this to a girl in a laundromat. The girl got pissed. I realized later that she could have had on her last clean outfit.
5:50 I love these
see if you're crazy... theres good crazy and bad crazy ;)
For the people that actually practice, where do u go to practice during covid(I try the gym but I’ll run out eventually and that malls around me are like wastelands)
Walmart lol
I noticed that Target & Sprouts has many pretty women that shop there.
Great
i would really appreciate a psyolocial video about man and women dynamics
Master Todd at again
@Todd Can you do a video on ethics in game?
Stop caring about ethics. As long as you don't break any law.
Todd can't give you morals and ethics, that's for you to decide. Just don't be a scumbag. Don't act in ways that if you saw another dude doing the same, you'd want to punch him I'm the face.
When I first read the title I thought it was "...like a grandma"
diffrent women have their preferable types of men. are types based on physical or personality characteristics ?
Both I would say. Some women prefer that hard rugged sheriff type, some prefer that Stoic silent type, some prefer the life of the party type.
Did anyone catch what he said he always does within the first 30 seconds? I decided to write it down after the video finished, but now I can't find where it was :/
Still practicing my conversation skills
how is it now
Спасибо большое за субтитры :)
Огромное спасибо )
Бля, они только в начале (
Tripa tripa losky
Verbal game let’s get it
The King 👑
Loving the makeover but just make sure your low frequencies are cut out. I think I can hear a fridge ;)
The Danish Gambit lol 😄
the green button on the site doesnt work for me
I'm not sure which site you mean, but email support@toddvdating.com with any technical issues please. They'll help you out.
Hi Todd, you always tell us we must think in the frame of 'being a win for the girl' on your UA-cam videos.
But that seems to not be enough sometimes. How can I beat a guy who is also 'a win for the girl as well' this is not a oneitis. I did sleep with this girl in 20 minutes but it was a little painful watching her get into a relationship with another guy only 2 months later, because I know deep down I was better win for this girl, both in terms of mentality, resources and the value that I have to offer.
Maybe he's a better catch in reality(like money, looks, height, status,...etc). But the reason Todd said that is because beginners don't think they're good enough for the girl, and they won't approach because of it. So having the mentality of I'm a high value man, who's providing value to the girl. Will help you take action. But a Really high value guy is gonna get the girl for long term. Why not still take a chance on her if she responds then you know what kind of women she is.
My man.
Serious tinder question. What's the logic behind when women give you silence? I mean the situations when everything is going great like she flirts and you flirt back and then silence? It seems like they wait for a new opener but why tf would you continue conversation when other side is not?
Could it be that you take it too long and so the girl gets bored? Maybe you should go faster
Mine is just a supposition, maybe you didn't think about it... i'm not firmly stating anything (just to be clear)
@@tomswiss7128 It's possible. Still kinda weird when conversation goes:
me: *tease
girl: hihi dont tease me (lots of emojis)
me: *tease
girl: silence
@@simosavustaja9420 well then the interaction really is not that long
If it happened to me I would suppose no interest is there, but I imagine other variables should be considered... I hope you figure this out in some way
@@tomswiss7128 Interaction is longer, that's just the main point where the silence comes.
I tested this and when you send her a new messaga she is totally interested in asking questions etc.
Main problem is that i have no clue what's the logic behind this silence?
Maybe they just get bored strangely.
@@simosavustaja9420 Ok, I misunderstood your point
Based on what you say, then, I would still believe that your tease doesn't have anything wrong per se, but the girl goes silent because she is like "idk what to say next" and that happens precisely because you were forcing the conversation too long via text (or, in the worst case, the girl was never interested)
Tyler, Max, Julian, Todd, Who is most favorite?
Being genuine/honest and confident/cocky at the same time is pretty complicated
I made myself a blurry version of this question
Bro. U a genius but i can tell u need sleep. All that nightlife and ladies. Take care of your body too!
Players don't need sleep
Canned lines vs natural game
hey. Does Todd have a illness or like a health condition? because i always get a sickly vibe from him? aids? immune issue? Don't get me wrong he is the king, but just a side question :/
I bet you are pretty good at chess
70% improv, 30% canned for set pieces
I struggle with running out of things to say, I like shit tests because there is always a cocky answer.
🙏🙏🙏
Everyone reply with your best openers ;)
I want to play chess now....
looking for his videos of him actually picking up chicks
This is an overcomplication of a simple thing....its an application of a formula or a algorithm.....honestly, no offense guy, but theres something about you that sceams financial stability and it isnt your good looks and it isnt your intelligence...ill just leave it at that. That easily stands to cloud your judgment on the effectiveness of this whole thing, and im gonna go out on a limb here and say that it quite evidently already has.
You guys subscribing to these notions are buying into the idea that it all boils down to a science, the science is the times, the science is nature, and this is an attempt to put ones thumb over that shit and any success derived from it you chalk up to ITS success, and thats never been anything more than an emotional mindset-meaning, you wanna be more like a woman? Well theres your ticket.. Theres truth in this..but the point of it is to obviously create a seeming heirarchy of knowlege that requires charts and white board blueprinting and fast talking to illustrate some kind of overfamiliarity, the sole purpose of which is to leave the audience feeling out of their depth. Its like those video game bloggers, like-we get it- youre a little past beginner stage but tell me why the outward display of that fact always has to include you doing everything at 90 miles an hour..
All this conversational pre-strategizing, they see right thru that....THATS the credit you should be giving women instead of thinking youre going to throw a strategic wool over them, beat them over the head with it and get them back to your lair.
I agree that women should be looked at as opponents but THIS puts too much emphesis on their complicated nature, or their complicated FRONT i should say (which is just a societal euphamism for 'mostly irrational') and if youre gonna liken this to a game you should be referring to poker...you think you hide your shit behind strategy but youre full of tells that NATURE has their eyes open to, not to mention the arrogance of this complicated technique demands validation. So youll be looking for ways to justify its success or lack thereof instead of judging it rationally and more importantly: organically. Im not saying, 'be yourself'...what i am saying is that if this is your idea of game you definitely have a long way to go, and i dont mean with women...i mean with yourself.
This whole thing is damaging to men because it puts women up on a pedestal. And a man who shapes themselves around these strategies builds up women as inpenetrable without a scientific level of CATERING....and yeah....again.....CATERING....this is a mindset that spells your own doom, because you create this tier of 'success' to aspire to...and truth is, youve never MADE it with a woman...there's no 'over there'.....theres never gonna be a 'got ya now'....its always right here, right now...and catering is a suicide move whether youre 2 minutes into meeting a woman or 2 years into a relationship.....you cater your life to her and youre DONE there and then...you typically end up just walking around not knowing it.
Ideas like this are the shortest route to a complete detrioration of your dignity. If youre one of those guys who feels like youve landed a girl or look at her simply being in the house at the end of the day or her having an 'in a relationship' status on her social media as being evidence that youve accomplished something...then this fuckin video is for you, and carry the hell on.
Levels 🔥
I feel like Todd plays QID
Coomer the todd
You gotta make a move which makes her protect her piece 😉
i didnt connect to this video .. i usually do ..more of a speech session this was
Play chess with me Todd
It feels like he’s just reading from a script
Yeah, from his brain.
Guess who wrote the fucking script?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
bruh tf when did he get so old I'm lost
He's almost 40...😀
Can't we just talk? You guys are treating it like a hard and complex thing
no
Playing for a draw... only in chess at times in need
yeah dont ask a hot tall girl how tall she is
Ppop
Get some sleep bruh
You make it so complicated Todd. Too much theory. I like you but you need to be more practical in your videos
Hahaha why waste time chasing women play chess instead and watch my videos!!!
I bet Todd voted Trump in the election but tells everyone he voted Biden.
Absolutely. He definitely has some political preferences that he doesn’t want to share
Whats wrong with voting trump?
There is so much underlying sexism with this guy its hard to watch
Where? How?... Dude, if this works who's fault is it? This is dating, your pc views, opinions are a waste of time.
@@JstJaybeingJay thanks for pointing that out, you are right, my pc views are a waste of time
everybody should stop making "game" so theoretical and turning it into a science or mental mastrubation.. that guy compares it with chess.... migga you probably gon be virgin for life with that thinking