it’s not you, it’s the job market | 5 things I’ve learned from being unemployed

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  • With mass layoffs, dissatisfaction with jobs, and a tough economy, being unemployed during this time can be rough. But what if it doesn't have to be? Sharing 5 helpful tips & advice I've learned during my time of being jobless, and how to thrive while being unemployed. Here's your friendly reminder to take care of yourself and remember that you're THAT b*tch. Sending much love to anyone in their job search -- this is your moment! Keep going ❤️
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  • @JeriDro
    @JeriDro Місяць тому +281

    what pisses me off is when people who have jobs and your family act like you are lazy and don't want to work

    • @elvincheah6412
      @elvincheah6412 Місяць тому +14

      Same happened to me. Stay strong :]

    • @robm321
      @robm321 Місяць тому +5

      Oh JeriDro thank you! My fiance is always saying she wants to quit a high level marketing job at Nvidia. I'm like, just to let you know what You're going to be dealing with...

    • @JeriDro
      @JeriDro Місяць тому

      exactly, keep the job until you can find something else. The desert is vast@@robm321

    • @starrangerfan1878
      @starrangerfan1878 Місяць тому +1

      Omg! Yes! My last job last year ended and I was looking before the job closed and i did and I only applied to two jobs and the last year and one didn’t reply back or I got an interview and didn’t get the job. Now am I financially stable? yes because I do get disability benefits. Plus I would be looking for a part time anyways because I don’t want to lose my benefits just in case. Plus I had bad experiences at my last job so that’s probably a factor why I am not actively looking. I am more happy unemployed then I was employed.

    • @elviremerrelle
      @elviremerrelle 26 днів тому +1

      Girl please say that louder because is tiring having to justify this

  • @rougeur
    @rougeur 24 дні тому +146

    "Being unemployed has been a challenging but valuable experience. I've learned that having a financial safety net is crucial, and investing in yourself and your finances is key. Five things I've learned: prioritize needs over wants, build an emergency fund, diversify your income, and invest wisely. It's never too late to take control of your financial future."

    • @AllisonSherman657
      @AllisonSherman657 24 дні тому +1

      I agree with you and I believe that the secret to financial stability is having the right investment ideas to enable you earn more money, I don’t know who agrees with me but either way I recommend either real estate or bitcoin and stocks.

    • @face2lune
      @face2lune 24 дні тому +2

      I keep wondering how people earn money in financial markets, i tried trading on my own made a huge loss and now I'm scared of investing more…

    • @rougeur
      @rougeur 24 дні тому

      @@face2lune Understanding your financial needs and making effective decisions is very essential. If I could advise you, you should seek the help of a financial advisor. For the record, working with one has been the best for my finances.

    • @face2lune
      @face2lune 24 дні тому

      I’m Glad i stumbled on this. Please, if its not too much of a hassle for you, can you drop the details of the CFP that assisted you and how to get in touch….

    • @rougeur
      @rougeur 24 дні тому

      @@face2lune I get guidance from *Susan Tori Davis* Most likely, the internet should have her basic info..

  • @misugrrl
    @misugrrl Місяць тому +209

    There are SO MANY fake job listings right now - and there are so many repeat job listings. Positions posted by the company, and then reposted by temp agencies trying to fill those roles. I've been searching since Sept 2023 (layoff) and its been rough and every day I have to give myself similar pep talks. This video is extremely well-timed, thank you.

    • @taylorluchansky3055
      @taylorluchansky3055 Місяць тому +4

      Keep pushing my friend.

    • @Urmomlolllllll
      @Urmomlolllllll Місяць тому

      I’ve noticed the same here in Ireland. Same jobs posted over and over. Wasted my time over weeks prepping for hours for 5 rounds of interviews. 2 rounds were business cases. By the 5th one I was exhausted. Glad I was rejected. Rather than being disappointed I am now glad about every rejection, always feels like I dodged a bullet.

    • @jeannierobertson1210
      @jeannierobertson1210 Місяць тому +1

      Been laid off since sept 23 got job offer and they canceled offer 2 days prior to start

    • @misugrrl
      @misugrrl Місяць тому +2

      @@jeannierobertson1210 Oh no I'm so sorry - I've been reading how that's happening a lot more frequently now. Keep pushing forward, things are bound to get better. I am still searching but actively interviewing. For me, interviews and calls have definitely picked up.

    • @---zg7ex
      @---zg7ex Місяць тому +1

      i left go in Aug 23, i have been searching for a while, i found two pheno. 1. fake job posting 2. video interview spang 4 - 6 weeks is extremely stressful, you have to prepare and wait and accumulate stress , any one of them think you are too old, you are done.

  • @forgottenamericana
    @forgottenamericana Місяць тому +130

    I lost my executive job end of 2022...As of today I'm 110 applications done, 3 interviews, 1 unacceptable offer. Ran into many junk jobs, scams, and sales pitches for career courses on some of these applications done. I'm 50, so its even harder for us as we're looked at as "untrainable" or over qualified. We had to sell our home and now live in an RV. Just know GenX like me some of us are hurting too, it's not all Millennials and Gen Z. This isn't my first experience of this, I was laid off in 2008, and now going through it all over again. After all these years I am finding most careers and corporate life and its fickle culture unfulfilling. It seems I have always been sacrificing for someone else to benefit, now I feel like it needs to be my turn.

    • @stonesfan285
      @stonesfan285 Місяць тому +5

      Oh yeah I have gotten interviews but I'd say 99% of them are phone screen even though I explain clearly what type of position I am seeking, multiple interview rounds (my last one was 5 and required me to travel 30 minutes each time because they don't know how to use Zoom), and there is a technical assessment but I was eliminated before that. I am sick of it. I had a contract drawn up by a friend who is an attorney that when they reach out, I tell them what I am seeking and if they want to move forward, I charge a $50/hr 'consulting' fee for any further work which I describe as emails, phone calls, interviews, travel, assessments/assignments and if I have to stay overnight or buy lunch they agree to comp me for it. I have had a couple agree to it but my skills are fairly in-demand. I encourage everyone to do this and make it the norm for skilled positions as I am sick of employers abusing people and acting like they have all the power.

    • @jeffstevens9729
      @jeffstevens9729 Місяць тому +3

      Sorry to hear this man. Would love to chat with you about this. happy to buy you a cup of coffee (or lunch). Just let me know.

    • @Urmomlolllllll
      @Urmomlolllllll Місяць тому

      Fellow gen x here. Had an amazing career in Finance and was lucky to survive 2008. I took a break after I had my daughter. I still worked (for free) helping out my husband’s family‘s business and now juggle two freelance jobs (barely- adding up to anything). Despite 15 years of work experience, I have only gotten entry level interviews paying little over the minimum wage. After 3-5 rounds of interviews, successful assessments and case studies I’ve never received an offer since I started trying last year.
      Also, with minimum wage and my two side jobs I still can’t afford rent in Dublin. I’ve been considering an RV, too. All the best to you!

    • @---zg7ex
      @---zg7ex Місяць тому +2

      I am in my 40's, have been layed off 5 times in my career so far. The crazy thing is that this time is much much much difficult to find a job that matches my level or even lower level. 1. too much fake job posting 2. the video interview span for 4-6 weeks too long and really stressful , anyone think i am old (40) will say no and no result.

  • @computer-training-for-seniors
    @computer-training-for-seniors 2 місяці тому +104

    In Japan they have a thing called "forest bathing" to get away from screens and take a walk amongst mother nature.

    • @ryanwbourquin
      @ryanwbourquin Місяць тому +1

      I thought that was swedish…whatever it is, it is a great concept!

    • @trya314
      @trya314 Місяць тому +2

      Yeah! It's called 'Shinrin(forest) yoku(bathing)' in Japanese. We believe that forest bathing is like a kind of aromatheray, which purifies us both physically and mentally😊

  • @tine272
    @tine272 Місяць тому +103

    if you are jobless and still feel "calm and happy" it just means you're rich

  • @alona724
    @alona724 2 місяці тому +320

    This is the new normal. 40 years at one company is long gone…

    • @Austin-wz5xk
      @Austin-wz5xk 2 місяці тому +30

      Yep. Also, working until you're 75 and over is going to be the new normal as well. Scary times.

    • @craigman7262
      @craigman7262 2 місяці тому +9

      Makes sense. People job hop and thus employers are acting accordingly.

    • @HipHopTheme
      @HipHopTheme Місяць тому +1

      Unless you’re in Japan.

    • @user-ni6oz7bj9l
      @user-ni6oz7bj9l Місяць тому

      That is not true. Work a union job. Get into a trade or go work for UPS.

    • @Austin-wz5xk
      @Austin-wz5xk Місяць тому

      @@user-ni6oz7bj9l unions are as corrupt as these corporations. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @kayla3972
    @kayla3972 2 місяці тому +157

    Through this journey of unemployment, I've become closer to God. Life is so unpredictable and I know now that I can't control what happens because of the job market. Thanks for making this video. I'll keep searching for a job but I cant be fearful anymore, I've been working since I was 16 and never had an issue finding a job so this has been very uncomfortable. Good luck everyone looking for a job.

    • @PastelAfroMetalhead
      @PastelAfroMetalhead 2 місяці тому +5

      Thanks

    • @LaurenceHoneytoast
      @LaurenceHoneytoast Місяць тому +9

      Same just had an interview yesterday thank God he does not give us what we can't handle.

    • @KawaiiJimmyMcGill
      @KawaiiJimmyMcGill Місяць тому +6

      Same! I have always loved spending time with God but nowadays that’s all I ever do. We live in a society that forces us to honor God every chance we get and lean on the divine for support.

    • @universtar-me
      @universtar-me 22 дні тому +1

      Same

  • @eobrkk
    @eobrkk 25 днів тому +11

    "the universe might be protecting you" exactly Lauren, thats exactly whats happening..i concur

  • @trishmccallister
    @trishmccallister Місяць тому +16

    These are really good reminders during my current job search. I find myself checking my email and job boards all day but it just causes more stress and doesn’t move the needle forward.

  • @catcreme
    @catcreme 2 місяці тому +176

    when times are hard, and the longer you are on the job market, you will certainly feel desperate to get any job. I did the same, I was impatient and accepted a job I thought would be easy bc I just wanted to be employed. But only THREE days into the job I realised what a completely wrong fit it was and I knew I'd be miserable if I kept up with it.
    I had to quit and then it was back in the unemployment arena. It's been almost 9 months but I'm def more picky and want to get a job that won't mentally wreck me. I'm one of the lucky ones that I can wait and be unemployed for a longer period, but if you're in a tight spot and need any job, I hope that you find something good!

    • @TheSnerggly
      @TheSnerggly 2 місяці тому +5

      Same here, just did this with a low-paying job. I hated it, and it didn't pay nearly enough to cover any of my expenses.

    • @lauren_joe
      @lauren_joe  2 місяці тому +17

      I totally relate to this! I took a job that seemed great on paper, but definitely had red flags that I brushed off. I was soo desperate to get out of my unemployment hole, but long story short, the job was not a fit and took a huge toll on my mental (and even physical) health. It's scary to take a risk to leave a job considering not only this terrible job market, but also starting over again in your search. BUT because of that experience, I am too being picky/selective and extremely cautious of red flags! I'm now protective over my mental health and work-life balance, as everyone should be. I'm so proud of you prioritizing yourself and wellbeing! Thank you for sharing your experience and sending love your way!

    • @marquisdehoto1638
      @marquisdehoto1638 2 місяці тому +2

      jep same... but I stayed for 6 month until they kicked me due to financial reasons. I don't know why I stayed so long... it didn't even give me relevant work experience.
      I had zero energy to look for jobs....

    • @Lulusvideos1
      @Lulusvideos1 Місяць тому +3

      I did that also, unemployment ran out after a contract job ended and I was desperate, so I accepted a customer service position. I applied for an accounting position and a recruiter reached out and asked if would interview for customer service in the same company, 100% remote, and I could apply for other positions after six months. I knew it would be longer than six months but that was fine, so I accepted the position. Now two years later I find out that customer service management doesn’t let their employees move to other departments, and will do anything to keep them, including sabotaging them by bad mouthing them, and placing them into ‘performance management.’ Being remote I didn’t know about this, I saw reviews on Indeed and Glassdoor from employees who had experienced it.
      I’ve never seen this before, I’m over it all, done with the drama, so I decided to retire next year and am counting down!
      I’ll be preparing all year so I’m ready.

    • @GTaichou
      @GTaichou Місяць тому +2

      @@Lulusvideos1 That sabotaging to keep you from moving jobs is illegal. Get yourself some paperwork and evidence and keep trying to get out. Lawyer up if you must.

  • @mak3462
    @mak3462 2 місяці тому +133

    I graduated last December and still haven't been able to get my foot through the door. Thankfully, I have a support system to where I dont have to immediately find just anything, but it is just extremely discouraging not being able to start living the life I want to live and the constant anxiety of the longer I'm unemployed the harder it will be to find something. Not to mention comparing myself to friends who are doing better. I am of course so happy for them and proud, but I also can't help but feel left behind. Just the other day I had a huge breakdown home alone because I'm on month 4 and just feel helpless. This video was very peaceful. Though our situations aren't exactly same, it was still very relatable 🩷. Thank you 💕✨️!

    • @lauren_joe
      @lauren_joe  2 місяці тому +16

      I've been there! It's scary to feel left behind or even starting over in your career. But your time will come! I'm 100% sure of it. There's soo much self discovery and lessons to be learned during a job search/unemployment. This time is perfect to reflect on what makes you you, and what brings you joy, career aside. And as someone who struggles with imposter syndrome, one of my favorite quotes is "comparison is the thief of joy". Keep focusing on and appreciating YOU. I'm rooting for you

    • @19Bosses
      @19Bosses 2 місяці тому +2

      Wishing you the best.. I have been there before.. I can promise you that somehow, it gets better, and you find yourself out on the other side.

    • @jaycurry742
      @jaycurry742 2 місяці тому +1

      I’m in the same boat you are not alone I also graduated in December and friends seem to be doing good I also feel left behind

    • @lindsay3793
      @lindsay3793 Місяць тому

      If I interviewed you fresh out of college, I would not hire you. College makes people w0k3-washed. You've been freshly mentally militarized to be radical, combative, and non-compliant. There is no way I would want a college grad on my team.

  • @VietJohnVo
    @VietJohnVo Місяць тому +27

    I recently got laid off. Thank you for this reminder. Wishing everyone the best of luck and you got this! We got this!

  • @spkim0921
    @spkim0921 2 місяці тому +114

    I got fired in September 2022 from a 7 year banking career. At this point I had been studying computer science part time at a local institute of technology for almost 2 years. So I doubled up on the course load and amassed a tremendous amount of knowledge. I also worked out every morning, ate healthy, and blocked off time during the day to apply for jobs. Completing multiple CS programs built up my confidence because I obtained new software development skills and knowledge, even if I was unemployed. The software developer job market right now is hard, but objectively speaking, I am more valuable than I was before because I now have more tradeable and marketable hard and soft skills.

    • @lauren_joe
      @lauren_joe  2 місяці тому +6

      This is so inspiring! You investing in yourself is amazing and will absolutely pay off. Thank you for sharing your experience and thoughts!

    • @platformxp5820
      @platformxp5820 Місяць тому +3

      I wish you nothing but success, good luck on your job search. I’m certain you’ll find something that’s a great fit for you!

    • @user-xd7rc6eo8n
      @user-xd7rc6eo8n Місяць тому

      Exactly. ya either grab life by the fkin balls or ya end up in the gutter.

    • @irenael6068
      @irenael6068 Місяць тому

      A huge well done ❤

    • @stevenhenry5267
      @stevenhenry5267 Місяць тому

      You should have worked on something else. AI is coming for you.

  • @Lulusvideos1
    @Lulusvideos1 Місяць тому +9

    I’m retiring next year at 62, my work life has been a journey, I was with a company for 17 years, began entry level moved up over the years, got my Business degree and Project Management certified, then I was laid off. Talk about losing your identity, I felt so lost and undecided on what to do, and where to go. I worked a few jobs, meanwhile my old company called me back as contract, worked that for two years and saw my company had become a shell of what it once was. So many people were laid off or had quit. The corporate world has changed so much, for the worst, glad I’ll be putting it behind me. Good video.

  • @jragon9215
    @jragon9215 Місяць тому +20

    The hard part is comparing yourself to others and being judged negatively, that’s the hard part, how do you handle that part? It’s not the money or waiting in the unemployment line, that’s the easy part but it’s comparing yourself to others your age that are doing well.

    • @paolaanimator
      @paolaanimator Місяць тому +3

      I felt this comment. I see others my age doing so much better than me. Meanwhile I just stay home all day to save money of what’s left in my savings and been applying for any jobs because I need to support my family on the bills. I see my friends or family members traveling, getting married, getting new house, etc. It’s really hard sometimes. I really want to go back to college but I need to save up first…

    • @tommyv5866
      @tommyv5866 19 днів тому

      Then stop?

  • @LuisRodriguez-tm1ld
    @LuisRodriguez-tm1ld Місяць тому +9

    I felt that I was the only one going through this struggle, I have learned that I am not alone . One day I will find my purpose.

  • @brokenmelancholyx
    @brokenmelancholyx 2 місяці тому +21

    i've been laid off since last october and it's really taken a toll on me. it was my second layoff last year, too. thankfully, my partner is able to support me (financially) but mentally, it's been very challenging to navigate. thank you for your transparency and sharing your experience! it definitely makes me feel not as alone.

    • @19Bosses
      @19Bosses 2 місяці тому

      I am so sorry to hear this.. I have been impacted by layoffs 3 times in my career .. it is never easy. Wishing you the best and hope you find the right job and good people to work with

    • @artcraftmathcareenjoylearn1434
      @artcraftmathcareenjoylearn1434 2 місяці тому

      Try your state’s employment commission or organization for benefits until you hopefully find a work

  • @SebeneleDlamini-ge9ct
    @SebeneleDlamini-ge9ct Місяць тому +6

    I swear just five minutes ago i was sobbing because I am not getting any luck with finding a job and still living with my parents with zero to show in my name.

    • @ginastar5991
      @ginastar5991 Місяць тому +1

      I cried in the shower couple days ago bc I felt the same thing

  • @xRaGxRaGx
    @xRaGxRaGx 2 місяці тому +24

    Thank you! I was laid the previous month and I started worrying about the future. Your video is just what I needed to make me see things in a different perspective and trust the process. ❤

    • @lauren_joe
      @lauren_joe  2 місяці тому +2

      Glad my video helped! It’s easy to get in our head about it, but keep focusing on you and everything will work out the way it’s supposed to ❤️

  • @andrewberrio7374
    @andrewberrio7374 2 місяці тому +17

    Wish you the best luck!
    What worked for me was working half time on job search and portfolio. Half time creating the work I wanted like: make your own web site, share what you like in a blog like movie reviews or conversations with friends, photography whatever you really like.
    And write down bad emotions on a specific time. 11am is usually a good time, never at night or close to sleep time.

  • @timtanhueco1990
    @timtanhueco1990 2 місяці тому +42

    Career shifting from Hotel and Restaurant Management to studying my Master in IT has been a challenging part. What’s worse: I can’t land a job without graduating first. I’m already turning 34, but there’s way too much competition in the IT market.

    • @aislinnes
      @aislinnes 2 місяці тому +5

      Me neither! I am 24 and going to be graduating with my bachelors in marketing, and I am in my last year. What is worse is that I cant even get an entry level marketing job paying $15-20 an hour (so low) without my degree. I cant even get an internship either, it is so competitive where I live!

    • @user-mz7de3kc3d
      @user-mz7de3kc3d 2 місяці тому +5

      IT market is just not where it’s at 😢

    • @reaganhiggins8963
      @reaganhiggins8963 2 місяці тому

      @@aislinnes What type of marketing are you trying to do?

    • @aislinnes
      @aislinnes 2 місяці тому

      @@reaganhiggins8963 really anything! I already have a year of experience with social media marketing, email marketing, etc

    • @19Bosses
      @19Bosses 2 місяці тому +2

      I know it can be tough... I am sorry you're experiencing this.
      One thing, depending where and how you're applying, is that sometimes recruiters will use a screening tool before they look at resumes... if you REALLY like a job you're applying for, take the extra time to edit your resume to include words in the job posting/description.
      Often, it helps get your resume seen and short listed. Good luck!!!

  • @freedom-xx2iw
    @freedom-xx2iw 2 місяці тому +13

    Was in dire need for this pep talk. Somedays I just don't even feel like applying or studying at all.
    Was going through one of those unstructured days. Much thanks! ❤

  • @derrickrocha2069
    @derrickrocha2069 2 місяці тому +14

    Glad to see I'm not the only one going through this. This really helped. Thanks and good luck 👍🏼.

  • @MgltheKing
    @MgltheKing Місяць тому +3

    Keep your head up queen. I am going through the same exact thing but in cybersecurity. I was questioning everything including whether my resume was good enough but in the past 2 weeks I got 5 interviews to prepare for. I am glad I had a stoic mentality to embrace change and keep an optimistic mindset. This is just a learning lesson to make you a better person ;)

  • @yvonnelucchesi6713
    @yvonnelucchesi6713 Місяць тому +4

    Thank you so much for this video. Everything you said really hit home. I was laid off unexpectedly in November and i experienced all those emotions and you’re right each day is different and you can go from one to the other within the same day. It’s been difficult at my age twice yours, to find a real job. And also encountered fake jobs. The hardest part is waiting to hear back after interviews. I will try to take your advice, today was a hard day for me so thank you for your words.

  • @SABRI22
    @SABRI22 Місяць тому +3

    I'm 30 and also on the same boat, except that this is my first time being unemployed. It's been a rollercoaster of emotions and tbh family and society pressure is a very real thing.. I just happen to be trying the tips in ur video (thank u btw for this), and hopefully tides will turn.

  • @zachandbro
    @zachandbro 2 місяці тому +10

    I greatly appreciate your positive affirmations in this video. The job market is treacherous at the moment but its important to remain present and take it a day at a time. I also heavily agree about using this time to read books you've been putting off and develop new skills. You never know where they can take you and are fantastic talking points on a resume

    • @lauren_joe
      @lauren_joe  2 місяці тому +2

      Absolutely. Taking things day-by-day is the only way i've maintained my sanity. Looking too far ahead or stressing about the past does more harm than good during unemployment. Showing up and being present daily is the best we can do. Thank you for your comment!

  • @benekag
    @benekag 14 днів тому +1

    I spent the day crying due to a rejection and watching this makes me want to cry some more. Thank you so much for the words of encouragement. We totally got this💪🏾

  • @camspocketdiary
    @camspocketdiary 2 місяці тому +11

    Such a helpful video. The job market right now is so bad. I'm in Toronto, Canada, and have been looking to find a job for months with very little luck. I remember just a few years ago (when I had even less experience), it was SO much easier, or you could at least actually get interviews back then!! It's crickets right now. Yes I do hope there's a shift soon, although on the bright side, with the time being unemployed it 's helped me begin a new side hustle and I'm so grateful for it, because now it's actually starting to pay off (and cover my rent). There really are so many lessons to be learnt being unemployed.
    Subbed :)

    • @lauren_joe
      @lauren_joe  2 місяці тому +1

      Absolute crickets on my end too! Sometimes it feels like your application goes into a black hole, without getting any updates, interviews, or even rejections. This market is tough! But that's AMAZING that you found your side hustle!!! How inspiring -- keep going and learning, and i'll be rooting for you

    • @19Bosses
      @19Bosses 2 місяці тому +2

      One thing, depending where and how you're applying, is that sometimes recruiters will use a screening tool before they look at resumes... if you REALLY like a job you're applying for, take the extra time to edit your resume to include words in the job posting/description.
      Often, it helps get your resume seen and short listed. Good luck!!!

    • @alessandroc47
      @alessandroc47 3 дні тому

      Toronto's job market is in dire straights right now, unemployment 7.2% and climbing. Most job postings are fake, and many lower level positions are going to the hordes of "new immigrants" being brought in. I wish you the best of luck.

  • @Chubbyjobs
    @Chubbyjobs Місяць тому +3

    Its okay girl!!!! we got this! thanks for sharing and we are on the same boat. Praying for the both of us, Gods timing is perfect

  • @katmuworld
    @katmuworld 2 місяці тому +7

    Needed to hear this especially right now, thank you sister ❤

  • @MariahBunni
    @MariahBunni Місяць тому +3

    Thank you for this video. I have bad anxiety about my job search after leaving a job that had a toxic work environment. Your advice is very calming and reassuring.

  • @Issaeyescream
    @Issaeyescream 2 місяці тому +4

    Thank you so much for sharing your experience and food of thoughts. It's hard to navigate the unemployed phase even when I quit the job willingly. Your video really reminded me how important it is not to tie my worth/self-esteem/ identity with my job title/ company. Sending you love and hope you're having a great day while reading this comment ;)

    • @lauren_joe
      @lauren_joe  2 місяці тому

      I quit my previous job willingly (for many reasons), which was absolutely terrifying knowing how rough the job market was. But putting yourself first will always be the right decision, even if it comes with challenges. I'm so happy this video resonated with you and thank you for the kind words

  • @markdotinc8371
    @markdotinc8371 2 місяці тому +8

    It's gotten harder for me over time.
    After almost ten years of working a bunch of different corporate jobs, I'm still struggling to find something that I can feel proud of, or bring me some meaning. And as I get older, the opportunity set for my future feels like it's getting narrower and narrower--and I don't know if I'll ever feel better.

  • @ingridleiria
    @ingridleiria 2 місяці тому +9

    I needed this today! Thank you!!! ❤

  • @FatalCracka
    @FatalCracka Місяць тому +5

    Sometimes I feel a little guilty about working two kushy jobs. I'm grateful that i'm overemployed! Just keep at it and even when you do land that job, always have a backup plan and remember your network is your money.

  • @skipperpenguin9680
    @skipperpenguin9680 Місяць тому +1

    Thank you for making this video, really needed this advice cause my life seems pretty bleak at the moment. But this gives me hope that this is just a phase and I should take care of myself in the mean time.

  • @Mscocoapuffz
    @Mscocoapuffz Місяць тому +2

    This video came to me at the exact moment I absolutely needed it. Been unemployed since January 2024 and it has been rough since I did a career change but these places are not hiring. Thank you fir the helpful tips❤

  • @elevatewithnia
    @elevatewithnia 2 місяці тому +3

    Thanks for your transparency and sharing! All the best to you on your journey 🌟

  • @mikiw9834
    @mikiw9834 Місяць тому +2

    I really needed this. Thank you so much for sharing the insight!!

  • @ritadere2287
    @ritadere2287 Місяць тому +4

    I'll admit, my depression has gotten so horrible because of this. I was fired from my last job for no reason. I ended up having to work at Target to make ends meet. I HAVE found a positive though: Taking time to make healthy meals and exercise daily.

  • @toolbelt
    @toolbelt 15 днів тому

    Thank you for this. It’s been two and a half months since I was laid off. So many other videos leave me filled with angst. Yours makes me feel inspired.

  • @melaniek.breatherelaxmedit2271
    @melaniek.breatherelaxmedit2271 Місяць тому +1

    Not sure why your video pop up for me but i am SOOOO appreciative. Thanks sis! I really needed to hear this because it has been HARD!!

  • @laurasmemoirs
    @laurasmemoirs 2 місяці тому +7

    I feel you! It's hard not to be hard on yourself when it feels like it's your fault, I've applied to over 70 jobs, only got a callback from 3 and just 1 interview, that I had today and I passed the next round! I feel so grateful becaus I have learned so much during the months that I've been out of a job and in all honestly I kinda needed the break, one of the hardest parts is to not feel guilty because I was relieved(? like huh that's weird, but honestly I'm excited because this position is a substancial salary increase for me and I have weeded out of offers that are not as good solely because I'm desperate. Also I'm fortunate enough that I can live with my parents because heaven knows what would be of me if not, fortunately latino parents always want you in their house so it's not expected to move, so I can actually save up if (when) I get this new job and create financial security for myself, so I am grateful.

    • @lauren_joe
      @lauren_joe  2 місяці тому

      Thank you for sharing -- and wishing you the best of luck with this next round!

  • @paolaanimator
    @paolaanimator Місяць тому +1

    When I’m working class and barely any savings. I’ve been urgently looking for a job due to bills. The only good thing is I’m with my family but even my family don’t make much either. I feel like not panicking means it’s a privilege, you may have plenty of savings and it’s easy to take the mind off of things. I help my family out and I want to make sure I have a job to support my family out. I did try to keep myself distracted by learning to code or watching tutorials.

  • @trakficjam17
    @trakficjam17 Місяць тому +3

    Thank you🥲 I never cried so hard on a UA-cam video ever. I been with a grocery store for three years, making money, and work full-time til I was fired because the people made me uncomfortable at my job. I always prayed everyday to find my dream job. I subscribed to your channel. You're a blessing 🥹

  • @SailorJupyter
    @SailorJupyter 18 днів тому

    I'm not alone, thank you this gives me hope. I hope you find what you are looking for! I apply to jobs full-time.

  • @marieberg4371
    @marieberg4371 2 місяці тому +5

    Thank you! I need this video so hard right now. I'm in my first job searching right now and it is terrible

    • @lauren_joe
      @lauren_joe  2 місяці тому +2

      Keep your head up! Your job break-through is coming -- just keep focusing on yourself and remembering your value/potential. We're in this together

  • @sabiwapan3296
    @sabiwapan3296 2 місяці тому +1

    this video brought me so much comfort as someone who got laid off a few months ago❤ I've been getting desperate to take any job at this point, and its infuriating how I've been ghosted, rejected, and a few times got an offer thats "unpaid", as someone who has had 4+ years of specialized experience in tech, I thought it wouldn't be so hard but it has been. since my situation at home isn't great, I'm just being so hard on myself, that I CRY everyday, this video came on my feed after I literally had a headache from crying so much, I just want to live on my own and have a job but its been hard to say the least, but watching this video I felt a sigh of relief, this was really validating and something I needed today so thank you, and good luck for all of us job searching, I hope whatever is best aligns soon ❤

    • @lauren_joe
      @lauren_joe  2 місяці тому

      You're doing great and just know that things will get better! Hang in there

  • @xavierjones6852
    @xavierjones6852 Місяць тому +1

    Have hope guys. I was in the same position a few months ago. Took me 3 months to find something..got fired after two weeks and found a job I really like in the field I was trying to get to. You have to stay strong positive and always ask for feedback so you can improve on whatever it is that kept you from getting it. It’s rough out there but folks are still winning

  • @OGbornsinnerz
    @OGbornsinnerz Місяць тому +2

    This was genuinely great advice been going thru job after job and now I decided I wanna have a boxing career and give it all I got

  • @Amina-cw1em
    @Amina-cw1em 2 місяці тому +15

    Thank you for this video. We're on this journey together (also 30). I'm in a similar situation where I have also had unemployment periods and I feel embarrassed to have a Linkedin, as well as connecting with people. IDK how to put myself out there when I'm embarassed. It just feels like I'm expected to have a perfect resume and perfect job history.

    • @lauren_joe
      @lauren_joe  2 місяці тому +1

      Networking is still something i'm struggling with! At times it can feel transactional, or feel like you're groveling. But I've also realized that being unemployed is waaaay more common, and more times than not, people in your network have been there before. Hang in there and give yourself a pat on the back! We're in this together

    • @mohamedhasan318
      @mohamedhasan318 2 місяці тому +1

      You got gift to discover the meaning of life, and it's not job

    • @Amina-cw1em
      @Amina-cw1em 2 місяці тому +2

      @@mohamedhasan318 Thank you Mohamed! It's harder when your in your "30s" and feel like you're supposed to "be" somebody by now to enjoy life but life is to enjoyed anyways. That's probably one of the meanings of life to be happy anyways.

  • @MB-tz7by
    @MB-tz7by Місяць тому +1

    great, mature response to the setback. All the best and I'm sure you will land from on your feet in a good position.

  • @pkpknao.2604
    @pkpknao.2604 Місяць тому +1

    Yes!!! Finally, I found someone who express this! 🎉🎉❤

  • @valenciawalker6498
    @valenciawalker6498 Місяць тому +2

    Thank you, going through this. God bless 🙏🏽🕊️✝️

  • @gman2015z
    @gman2015z 7 днів тому

    Spending time alone is a huge thing. I’m 31 n just got my Masters degree but just getting by with a sucky job I recently took that’s desperate 4 ppl and a revolving door. Working out is the best thing and just taking time away to listen to music or enjoy nature on nature trails with no interruptions.

  • @julieta.343
    @julieta.343 2 місяці тому

    I love your video, I really need this today ❤

  • @berniekatzroy
    @berniekatzroy Місяць тому +4

    It's never a good time when being unemployed though it is good to put that time to good use. Never give up.

  • @tj_puma
    @tj_puma Місяць тому +2

    Great tips - we’re in the SAME spot, just like thousands of others. It’s really hard to stay positive, so I appreciate the encouragement and acknowledgement that this job market is TRASH!!
    No to the ppl saying “work at McDonald’s”, obviously entry level jobs are always available - I’m talking the high paying jobs that I got my degree for! I’m sure it’ll even out one day

  • @Dennis07-yl3cf
    @Dennis07-yl3cf Місяць тому

    I needed this thank you man these layoffs sucks the soul out of you

  • @ericecw117
    @ericecw117 Місяць тому +2

    stay strong keep pushing forward!

  • @sriramcan
    @sriramcan Місяць тому +2

    I am 45 and got laid off for the first time in my career . my last date is May 31 2024.Life still goes on and need to find another job. Planning to enjoy the free time till then.

  • @beetea9380
    @beetea9380 Місяць тому +1

    You got this. Thank you for your information.

  • @Ddeath.Eaterr
    @Ddeath.Eaterr Місяць тому +1

    great video and advice. thanks for sharing. ♥️🙏🏽 i hope we all find jobs that are well paying, stress free, and without toxic culture.

  • @nanawordie7967
    @nanawordie7967 Місяць тому

    thank you for posting this. i graduate college in 2 weeks and it's so hard to find a job fr

  • @PaulYeghouchian
    @PaulYeghouchian Місяць тому +1

    great tips and advice, keep crushing it!

  • @biddlefufty
    @biddlefufty Місяць тому +1

    Thank youuu! Just, thank you. Encouraged!

  • @decisnrgmail
    @decisnrgmail Місяць тому +1

    Take it as this guys and girls I’ve filled out thousands of applications without a single bite. I had to basically get in by knowing someone and I’ve been climbing poles for 7+ years as a veteran lineman it shouldn’t be this hard for someone like me to get into another power job but it was knowing people will help you go a lot further into getting into a company. I was 2 weeks away from losing all my hard earned things.

  • @StephieOmbre
    @StephieOmbre 2 місяці тому +2

    I left my shitty delivery job a week before I turned 19 that was almost 2 years ago I’m now going on 21 and still unemployed and it’s been such a hard 2 years not just in job market but for my health and starting college but sometimes you just have to exhale that out and just say fuck it and take in that relief sometimes because it’s what we all need

    • @19Bosses
      @19Bosses 2 місяці тому +1

      I am sorry to hear you're going through that.. wishing the best for you! I know it will all work out, even when it doesn't feel like it will in the moment

  • @taliajournee212
    @taliajournee212 Місяць тому +1

    Wow, so what you're telling me is we are living the same life? LOL, I'm 37 and same, my mental was really going through it from unsupportive family, work trauma, and debt--I nearly lost my mind at one point. I'm hoping to get an income sooner than later as I can't take a vacation without having money. Best of luck on the job search!

  • @chynnaurl
    @chynnaurl 2 місяці тому

    Great video Lauren.

  • @carlan.8698
    @carlan.8698 Місяць тому +1

    I needed some realistic optimism shot today :)

  • @MsTwilightSpeaks
    @MsTwilightSpeaks 2 місяці тому +12

    2008 all over again

  • @Sushidogbat
    @Sushidogbat 3 дні тому

    Honestly if I lost my job I would cry it so hard to get one. True learning something new is a good idea haha.

  • @user-mk2lv5cp1g
    @user-mk2lv5cp1g Місяць тому +1

    Thank you for such a positive video!

  • @Lord_Submissive
    @Lord_Submissive 2 місяці тому

    Thank you so much for this❤

  • @sereneshen6576
    @sereneshen6576 Місяць тому

    Currently in the midst of my job search journey after i left my job 2 months ago . Just went for an interview last week… Thanks for this video which makes me feel better❤.

  • @heyailish
    @heyailish 5 годин тому

    This was so helpful, thank you :)

  • @ryanwbourquin
    @ryanwbourquin Місяць тому +1

    Thank You for this ❤

  • @imchubacca
    @imchubacca Місяць тому +1

    I’ve been unemployed for almost a year now, turning 40 makes it even worse…I felt relieved at first because I was able to get away from terrible managers and leaderships, but now…I feel lost and doubt my ability. So far, I’ve only got one phone screen and that was it…the feeling feels terrible…don’t know how to move forward…

  • @almabehar7815
    @almabehar7815 День тому

    I was laid off on May 2. My mental health has been affected. I appreciate your suggestions. It is important to have a routine and learn a new skill 😢

  • @elderelliott
    @elderelliott 6 днів тому

    This was very helpful. Thank you!!!

  • @NatileNative
    @NatileNative 17 днів тому

    Been unemployed for 4 1/2 months. 😭 You really hit the nail when you said imposter syndrome. My ex co worker really targeted me b/c of that so it doesn't really disappear w or wo a job.

  • @Greg-ck9dx
    @Greg-ck9dx 4 дні тому

    Thank you. Good luck!

  • @TimewithLivi
    @TimewithLivi 2 місяці тому

    This was right on time 😌

  • @gabrielaemiliano6840
    @gabrielaemiliano6840 Місяць тому +1

    i went to school for data analytics and after my first internship and graduating, i haven’t been able to find an entry level job. it’s been a year and change and i’ve been doing real estate, my area of expertise making just a little above minimum wage. it’s very humbling to say the least

  • @pippylunalove
    @pippylunalove Місяць тому +1

    I'm also on my third time being unemployed and I'm also 30. I have found this time around to be much harder than previous times and that is with getting more job interviews than ever before. I am fully aware that getting 1st or 2nd job interviews is better than others who are getting ignored. But it is also harder because you get more hope that this will be the one that likes you and you can start earning again. I've been unemployed for 7 months now, and if I hadn't done any job applications and just focused on learning new skills (work or hobbies) I would have way more to show for it than I have had with applying for jobs.
    I'm thinking of changing careers, I'm looking at apprenticeships just so I can get experience but I know I do not like merely working in digital space as in emails, I need to be physically doing tasks, not just organising. Any carpenters, manufacturing people, upholsters, horticulturists, lab technicians about to offer help, or advise to someone looking to change but with no idea where to start.

  • @andrearmattoe2669
    @andrearmattoe2669 Місяць тому +3

    I graduated in 2023, I had earned my bachelor's degree in Communications, but I still didn't have any real job experience. The closest to an actual job was when I did a virtual summer internship. Over the course of last year and recent months I've had about over 20 interviews but still couldn't land a job. Why is job searching so hard for a recent college graduate these days? do you have any suggestions people?

  • @sechartpechart
    @sechartpechart 2 місяці тому

    needed this ❤❤

  • @neb9052
    @neb9052 17 днів тому +1

    Thank you for your wise advice

  • @ESRAKAPICI
    @ESRAKAPICI Місяць тому

    feel ya sis! thanks for sharing

  • @milkbread5036
    @milkbread5036 2 місяці тому

    thank you for this!

  • @amandajewell
    @amandajewell 2 місяці тому +1

    love this

  • @wendellflowersmusic
    @wendellflowersmusic 2 місяці тому

    Love your style of storytelling

  • @alannabors
    @alannabors 2 місяці тому +1

    I’ve been trying to get into my career field for almost 2 years now. Ended up going back to school after graduating this past year and got. Cert in IS. But it’s still hard I haven’t had any luck with internships or jobs 🤦🏾‍♂️🤷🏾‍♂️ im kinda in this situation where I’m gonna have all this education and no XP

  • @soyandoat4106
    @soyandoat4106 Місяць тому

    Thank you for your sharing and video!

  • @brownmallory6
    @brownmallory6 Місяць тому +1

    Thank you for this video.

  • @MillennialDiligence-sx8re
    @MillennialDiligence-sx8re 2 місяці тому

    I envy your calmness. Good video.

  • @OfficialDarkSoulMusic
    @OfficialDarkSoulMusic 2 місяці тому +8

    Life is so dark and hopeless right now. In every way.

    • @lauren_joe
      @lauren_joe  2 місяці тому +3

      I'm sorry you're feeling defeated. You have a special purpose for being on this earth and i'm glad that you're here. Your life is powerful and there's so much potential to awaken to! Sending you love & light, and keep doing things that bring you joy

    • @OfficialDarkSoulMusic
      @OfficialDarkSoulMusic 2 місяці тому +5

      @@lauren_joe thank you. I am trying my best to not give up. If my 18 year old self would've told me this is where I'd be at 31, I would've never believed him