Falling For a Straight Guy | My Experience
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- Опубліковано 8 вер 2024
- I was never the kind of guy who wanted or fell for straight guys because I want whoever I'm attracted to to be equally attracted to me. HOWEVER, there was one straight friend in college who blurred that line. One thing led to a next and I fell for him. Spoiler alert, I do not recommend falling for straight guys, but without further ado this is my #nohomo story of the time I fell for my straight friend.
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I hope this doesn’t affect our marriage Plans 🥰 Miss you, Travis!
It's mario😁😁😁😁🙏🥰
Hey Dylan 👋 ..I mean Mario
Lmao that's hilerious 😂😂😂
Smelling a collab. Coming 😂😂
Take Travis with you to some crazy place and let him live a day in your life!!!!
Travis - “First rule of falling for a straight guy; Don’t do it-“
Me, a straight female - “Alrighty, noted. What next?”
Best comment ever
lol
😂😂 Good one 😂
Amen!!!!
Iconic moment in YT history right here
Straight boys are the worst to get over when you have already fallen in love with them 😭 smh #highschoolcrush
TRUEEEEE I had a crush on one of my highschool classmates that would come and go for like 4 years. Straight crushes are the worstttt
actual trash...its more a fetish then planning on being together to the end.
John Wiens and the worst part is that they are the most perfect guy ever ughhhhhh
Basicflxp liking a masculine “ straight “ guy isn’t a fetish, it’s more of a preference when describing ones type in a (gay) guy. But since they are straight there is no chance to date them.
its the worst, every guy i've liked or fallen in love with turned out to be straight, mentally damaging and makes you think love is hard for gay people. Personally from my experience all the hot and cool guys are straight, never met a gay guy that is attractive or cool, most gay guys just dont do anything for me.
You’re a terrific storyteller. Male sexuality is so deep and mysterious and exciting. As humans we have such an urge to want to put everything/everyone in a box. But reality is so often much more gray and fluid than that.
🤮 🤮 🤮
I used to date this kind and beautiful girl whom I love so deeply but unfortunately our relationship didn't last but we remain good friends. Few years later she introduced me to her husband. They have one kid at that time. We would hangout for barbeque on weekends. One weekend the husband invited me to their house for barbeque and beer but his wife was in Mexico with their son to visit her family. He invited me to swim in their pool but I didn't bring my swimwear, so I just wore a boxer shorts. I've caught him looking at me down there a few times. While we were in jacuzzi, drinking beer, he rested his back against my legs. I started feeling uneasy but excited at the same time. We were both tipsy by that time. Then he touched me down there and planted a passionate kiss and went down and performed fellatio on me. I thought that was the best kiss and fellatio I ever had, it was followed with 3 more encounters but we decided not to continue our rendezvous because we both love the wife and I don't think I can forgive myself if I will be the cause of their breakup should she finds out. He felt the same way but he teased me that if his wife agrees for us as threesome couples if I would be ok with it. I just laughed but I didn't say yes or no. The whole thing was too wild for me and that was my first time to be in that situation and my first time to be kissed by a man. I consider myself straight and I don't think it would had happened if not for the alcohol but my thought process have changed that night. I got confused if I was really straight or bi. I saw actors that are straight in real life but they played gay roles with passionate kiss and love making in films like Leonardo Di Caprio, Jake Gyllenhaal, Heath Ledger and many more. They are straight men but I wonder if they enjoy those scenes. Almost all my friends are straight and they all claimed that they would never consider kissing a man and just the thought of it was repulsive. I don't blame them because I felt the same way before...until that night. I know I can't have a relationship with a man as a couple because it's not my thing. But I just don't understand why I felt the excitement...almost a pleasurable gentle electricity running through my body I felt that night, while being kissed and the fellatio was mind blowing.
The 3 of us are still good friends to this day but the husband and I have decided not to hangout if the wife wasn't around to avoid the temptation. Their friendships are very important to me and I love their toddler like my own kid. I can't imagine my life without them and they feel the same way about me...at least that's what they have told me and I believe them because I can feel it and they have shown their sincerity when I got sick and they took good care of me.
He claims his wife have told him that I will always have a special place in her heart. I feel exactly the same towards her and him. Relationships and sexuality can be mysterious at times. I can't undo what happened, so I embraced and treasured it instead. I have never told anyone my story because I'm too embarrassed and I'm afraid that people might think less of me and I don't think people will believe me anyway because this happens only in the movies and it's too weird to be real...but it's true and I wish it wasn't so I didn't have to experience the pain of not having the people that I love because it goes against the norm and the teachings. No society will ever accept it and I understand that. I have a hard time accepting it myself and just because it felt good doesn't make it right. Some drugs feels good but it doesn't mean it's good for us. In fact many drugs when taken in large amount will kill us. The same with relationships, if we are not careful, it could ruin lives.
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Shutup
This story sounds like a slightly sexier ending to All American Boy.
This straight man knew exactly what he was doing. He knowingly played on your emotions and manipulated you to get what he wanted from you, without any concern for your feelings - not once, but twice. The shame is on him, and not on you.
So true! I wouldn't even be friends with him, if I were Travis.
agree
However, it is on Travis because his self-worth isn't as solid as he thinks. This is why a father should NEVER project his own insecurities on a child and throw him out onto the street. It becomes a lifelong trauma that is difficult to heal from, especially when there has been NO THERAPY for either of them. You can't talk yourself into healing. It requires deep work!
He did, but can't happen without a willing participant! That said, should Travis feel ashamed? No.
@@HISBestLifeCoach not to mention . Its.not fair to blame someone who is being manipulated. Emotions are a powerful thing. They make you do things even if it's against your better judgement. I've been there. Where I wanted a man so bad that I tried anything just to have him but he knew he didnt want me from the start so he would manipulate me and make me think I had a chance. The guy that travis was messing with was obviously playing mind games. That's not the making of a good friend
*10 minutes later*
“go lower”
“WHAT DO YOU MEAN GO LOWER. IF I GO ANY LOWER I AM GANNA BE MESSAGING THE FLOOR”
E B I think you mean “massaging”
🤣🤣🤣
You can’t have this turn into a James Charles situation
Hahahahaha
*sips tea*
My god! I can't stop CACKLING!! SIS I-
I was abt to say sksksks
Lul
😥this story is extremely saddening. It’s already hard for us gays to fall in love but when we do and the other person doesn’t feel the same, it hits way different.😞
cant u see he is lying
That's no straight guy.
He's 100% bisexual.
Amen!
@@akill_er about what?
I wasn't able to premiere the video in time this morning to hang with you guys so where's my early fam at so I can chat with you in the comments?!
You are getting back to the old Content of yours 🙆🙆🙆love you for that. Be happy and comfortable always
I’m from Oklahoma
Hi
Best advice: “Don’t do it!”
Lol. 🙌🏽
I love you
“That’s never gonna happen again”
Me. “what are you talking about? Last night I came into the room and blacked out..... did something happen?”
Lmao same asf 😂
that’s summn i’d def do
OMG same he can't break me if he thinks I don't know nothing.
Travis: I fell for my straight friend
James: SISTER SPILL!!!!
Yass
Oof not big on james after the incodent but ill still use his phrases
OMG YAAASSS BITCHHH
😂😂😂
Interested story...... wauuu
Dylan. You know that's never going to happen again
Travis. Yeah
ME. DIES INSIDE AND CRYS
This is a cute story but moral of the story to me is to not change yourself for any man or woman. If they dont like you for you then they are not worth your damn time
I want straight guys to be straighter. Even if one gets curious.. I'll hit them with "let's find you a girlfriend" and everytime the situation gets a little gay I'll bring up girls
OMG lol
Literally could listen to you tell stories all day! Ugh so soothing 😩
He has So Many. ... Lol
You Literally Can
@@ree3197 😅
rightttt
zackery onstott hb
I have been in that same situation (almost). I met my best friend the first week of my freshman year of high school. We became fast friends. We shared the same interests in music, science and many other things. I was also dealing with my "burgeoning awareness" of my sexual orientation (internally). During that first year of HS, "Julian" and I also started a business together. We were spending so much time together that soon people never mentioned one of us in a sentence without including the other...By sophomore year, I was full on enamored with J. One night during our senior year at a party we played one of those HS drinking games that ended up with a number of people sprawled throughout the home of the host. J and I carefully stepped over and around the inebriated pile of people and made our way outside to get some air. We ended up leaving the party and headed back to my dad's home (my parents were divorced at the time). He came in with me and we sat in my room and started talking. He asked me if there was anything I wanted to tell him. (I was quiet that evening). I blurted out, "I'm gay". He was quiet...the room was still. J then got up and came over to me. hugged me....then held me...then kissed me. (I was in heaven). We spent that night together in my bed....Fast forward we went to different colleges our first year, but kept in touched and visited each other (no sex) as often as time and schedules would allow. The second year, he transferred to the university I was attending (YES...I thought) and we continued our business together and then he met a girl (that was to become his wife). My head knew all along that "this" was bound to happened, but my heart pined for him. Immediately after college I took a job that involved international travel and gave me time to explore my sexual awakening. Four years went by and my time in that job ended, J and I started performing together again (now including his wife). Business went well and our friendship grew. I have retired from performing, but Julian along with his wife and kids are still apart of my life with me and my husband. Our high school reunion is coming up and several people still ask if Julian and I are still together. As I looked at my hs year book and the "page" that J wrote to me...there's a love that will never die. "That" night together was a one-time thing and we've not spoken about it again, but it is our secret bond. So for me, it's not a bad thing to fall for a straight man. It's all in the "man" and how you both handle that love.
James Charles is doing research to find out who the guy is
Joan Olga Keine lmaooo imma dying
I won't be surprised if it happened
Lmfaoooo
ahhaaaaha
get over it asshole
Unattractive guys like me don't have to worry about going through things like this 😊
Carrier it is.
Proud ugly here!!
I identify with this way too much.
Everyone is beautiful. As soon as you see it in yourself so will the people that matter. Don’t sell yourself short😘
I feel personally attacked by this comment
I think that every gay man since the beginning of time has fallen for at least 1 str8 guy....I know I did.
Art Stricklen I never just fall......... I effing nose into falling for str8 guys 😂😂😂😂😂
@@maximillionh.1329 Yep, I know the feeling. Haha.
Yeah. Considering about 90% of guys are straight, it's to be expected. If you fall for any guy, chances are he's straight, sadly
@@MrAnthonyIII Sooo true
MrAnthonyIII preach 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
I’m going to take a different approach to this. A more spiritual approach. We humans have a longing to connect to one another and even more importantly ourselves. When you describe your relationship there was an intimacy, a bond that formulated and these things form sometimes in spite of what we normally define as attractive or appropriate for the self identities we have created and learned, . I’ve no way of knowing if there was a traditional sexual attraction by ‘Dillon’ toward you but I think there was a definite emotional/spiritual one. This attraction is something in himself that he found a mirror for in you.
Not seeing you for a long time probably forced him to feel that longing to see himself in you. The act of sex was a way to draw that in to himself as closely as he could. It may not have been something he needed forever or to repeat and maybe he didn’t fully understand it on a most conscious level and why it was happening but at least for that short period of time he was able to lose himself, his guards, his masks, the identity he had taken on and created, long enough to experience himself beyond those confines. That’s pretty beautiful in my book.
Michael OMG who are you???? That was insane!!! I wish you could analyze me. I'm a very ugly 42 year old with some traumas behind me & am like 200% into cute guys (somewhat limited sexual experience) but believes in fluidity & I gave up finding my other half completly but I do crave an intimate relationship with a woman. For the life of me I cannot figure out why cause I never met s woman I was attracted to, like evvvvvvver. A part of me believes it is because I am very distant from my bitchy sisters & another part of me describe myself as demisexual. I wish I'v had a strong sensual connection with someone I could be myself with It but I have gained a lot of weightt after a break up & hate the way I look so much 💜 if you are a psychologist I would seriously consider paying you to analyze me 🤍🙏🇮🇱🇱🇺🌺
I lost my best friend because of the head games he played with me. It was the worst time of my life and I've never forgiven him completely.
Lot's of them do this shit, my best friend tried it, but he regreted it cuz i played the shit out of him. #evolvedgay 😂😂
Same here. I also lost my best friend over a fuckin game. Lool
@@timberr5585 how did you play him? please tell me
Timberr 55 lol
@@David-mc8pt I got him thinking that i am all over him, and that i am sooo anxious about it, and he fell in the trap. After week of my strategic behaviour i called him and said "Hey ****, i have something to tell you that's bothering me, can we meet?" He said yeah, so i went to his house and told him that i was about to explode if i don't tell him this, and that i feel horrible for not telling him.... what i told him is that i have a boyfriend, and that im with him for last 2 months but i didn't want to tell because i wasn't sure if it was 100% sure, but i now know because i'm deeply in love with my boyfriend.... hahaha his reaction was sooo satisfying... He was so confused and lowkey pissed and i was like Don't tell me you're not happy for me, d fuk bro" 😂😂 he was angry at me for 'unknown reason' for a week but than we got back on track... so there you go, recipe for playing the shit out of hetero narcissist's 😈
The fact that he got what he wanted in the end is giving me false hope
I've fallen into that "give me a massage?" trap with str8 guys before and it always got me into trouble. It didn't mean those guys were sexually confused. It had to do with feelings of friendship and being horny and a little curious. It also was about being a young adult in your late teens maybe early 20s. Travis you tell such great stories and this took me back to similar experiences.
Had a crush on a straight flatmate, and every time I saw him I was so nervous that I don't know what to say to him. And over the time, he told me he think I dislike him😂
I guess that was better that way.
Omg same 😭
Lawd have mercy...
*clutches pearls*
*takes cold shower*
Not at all implying you’d lie to us Trav, but even if that anecdote was 100% fiction, damn you’re a great storyteller.
Adam Tyree -- Don't feel guilty, you're not the only one who went through half a box of Kleenex listening to the Tales of Travis. (No, I wasn't crying!}
Me: “oh okay so nothing happens.”
Travis: “UNTIL THE LAST NIGHT”
Me: 😳🤭
You're a sublime storyteller, I enjoyed every second of this. Open-minded, macho straight guys make for great friends, but they're quite tricky to navigate.
Omg... I can imagine how hard it must have been for you to go through... I’m in love with a straight guy who I’ve just met these days. Our relationship has developed in a very unique way just like yours. Since the moment we met each other, we’ve instantly got close to and comfortable with each other. We slept in the same bed for a week and spent the whole week together from morning to night. He let me hold my arms around his body while sleeping in bed and massaged one another’s body as well. As I had to go back to my country, we cannot directly meet each other for a while, but he’s still kept in touch with me on the phone all the time. He sometimes goes like, “If you were a girl, I would definitely be in the relationship with you.” That makes me feel like “Is there any chance for me to have you as my boyfriend?!”😂 I don’t know what he’s thinking about, but I cannot stop this feelings for him cos I have a massive crush on him...😭
99% of comments: *jAmEs ChArLeS has entered the chat*
1% of comments: OMG I CAN LISTEN TO YOUR STORIES ALL DAY ❤️❤️
I don't get it. What does he have to do with it
I just had a similar experience to yours and i think you're 100% right, that we believe that we want to be attracted to someone who is attracted to us too, not only the moment or the atmosphere or because we were drunk and somehow we felt like we can do this... thank you for sharing this experience with us, i love you travis
"Dylan" may have been secretly bi.
True
Remember they were drunk. Dylan, as straight, is turned on by women, not guys. We all do something once we know we will NEVER do again or WANT to, and are not happy we did.
beachesboy1994 this sounds like you had a really bad experience, hope you open up some later in life.
Cheers.
jmaraf77 He was a wrestler so it’s 100%. Just like me
beachesboy1994 hell no! I'd never hook up with a girl
“I wanted him so bad” lost it, I’m going through this right now 😩😂
Your story is similar to my own college-era attachment. This "grand love" was my best friend and roommate M., an unconventionally beautiful, 98% straight young man. Our chemistry was an effortless magic, and I was breathlessly devoted to him for six years. Without protest, I withstood his wrongheaded pursuit and marriage to a vicious, self-absorbed shrew. Graduation happened, and we moved to opposite ends of the state. Before, during and after the dissolution of M.'s marriage, either he or I would make the tedious journey east or west for a visit. On what would be the last night of our relationship, we were alone together at bedtime. He said the he was always curious about sex with a guy; I told him the I had been in love with him throughout our acquaintance, together or apart. Any sex between us would have more consequences for me than it would for him. He was utterly shocked (although I have no idea how he failed to notice). Nothing physical occurred, and, after he left the following morning, I never heard from him again.
When you were describing the instance of him wrapping his arm around you, my heart😭. I know that exact feeling and ugh 😓
James Charles has entered the chat
LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
offfff
😂😂😂
Marijn hahahahaha😂
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA DEEEEAD
“Go lower...go lower.......go lower” very suspenseful. 😏🤯😳Travis is such a great story teller 🥰
OH MY GOSH.
When you said “Dylan had a large family”
I was NOT expecting you to say family 😂
Great story Travis. We all have straight guy crushes we must deal with. 90-something percent of the men we meet can never be boyfriend material. But your experience with Dylan must have been so frustrating! (Although I don't think I could be too close with a guy with tobacco on his breath! LOL)
Great video. I've had experiences like this with straight men a couple times,it's never worth it. Nowadays I never let them get too "handsy."
I just do my best to keep our friendship platonic. Doing that prevents any possibilities for awkward situations.
College days are prime time for experiences like these. I had an experience with a straight friend in college that did get physical but left me feeling somewhat used and exposed. There was never ANY malicious intent I realized. For a couple of weeks after that I felt awkward any time I ran into him on campus. I didn't want to feel this way but I couldn't help it. It wore off after a while and we were cool eventually. There are at least two books -- compilations of encounters between straight and gay men -- that I know of and they're very interesting to read.
what books? can you please remember the name or how to find them?
That one hit hard my dude.
I agree with you. Don't ever ever fall for a straight guy!I made the mistake of falling for my best friend.t happened to me a few years ago and all I got was heartbreak and disappointment. It didn't help that I have seen him naked, he had a great body and we spent so much time together. We are still great friends but I am so glad my feelings toward him have changed.
When he told you to stop talking about the girl, he wasn't "seeing" you. He was jealous.
yasss
no
What?
TELL ME WHY I DIDN'T THOUGHT OF THAT SCENARIO WTF
No, I think he honestly saw through Travis and wanted to stop listening to the bullshit and possibly save Travis additional embarrassment!
I think its nearly impossible NOT to fall for a straight guy. In fact im going through something similar now. But hearing your stories and reading the comments section helps me know that im not alone in this eternal struggle and sorta comforts me too
James Charles should watch this.
Like fr fr
Ahaha ha ahahahah I thought about him too
Did he give him head in the ferris wheel.. or nah? 🤷🏾♀️
@@Flipo_99 james charles met this guy who is straight but james kind of manipulated him into being in some sort of relationship.
Amen sister
Wow this really hit home. I’m not a vocal person about my personal life, but this story reminds me so much about how I lost my best friend. I won’t say his name, but we grew up together I moved to Europe for a bit and when I got back we just picked up where we left off, doing everything together from fixing things, cleaning house, cooking just everything and one night we had been cleaning and drinking like we would and next thing I knew he just looked deep into my eyes and kissed me. He was the first person I was ever with and the next morning well you could things had changed. I look back now honestly and just miss him. It wasn’t till years later and his father died that I drove 3 hours to find him and we did what we always do drink and clean lol but that was the moment he told me it was mutual, but it could never happen. I honestly cried a bit watching this video, but looking back that closer was something I deeply wanted to move on
Nicholas Rito that’s heartbreaking . A very bittersweet ending 😭
Thanks for sharing man. This was way intense, intense to hear, and to physically feel. I'm So glad you're able to just push those feelings away, cuz it really wasn't like a romantic relationship. He cared for you, you cared for him, and you guys showed each other that. That's beautiful in a kind of way, but it can be hurtful for alot of gay guys. Hello everyone and have a nice day!!
Ahh alcohol, always there to give courage to straight boys 😂
courage are just an excuse?
William Julien Nkoghe Olympio exactly!!!!
100% true
Alcohol cant be an excuse....he just felt the atmosphere
That nigga gay
I've been in the same situation. And it sucks. I blamed myself for years when in fact my friend made the move, he wanted it. But it changed everything after, he didn't act the same around me after that. And honestly now it makes me kinda made, like that was so mean to do that, almost like taking advantage of me knowing that I was gay. I feel for ya man. I hope one day maybe you'll be able to see each other and you can tell him how you feel.
Wow....I was glued to my seat...or my bed for this one. Falling for a straight guy can be intense because of the not knowing...and how it slowly develops...and you're always wondering what's next...and if there is really anything there. But those are also the ones that hurt the most. By the time you get your confirmation of spark, you're probably pretty cool as friends too, so when it's done or you get the "that will never happen again" or you get ghosted, you usually lose the whole situation. It's tough.
Why not let him come to you then you ghost him? 🤷♂️
I left my job as a restaurant manager because of a male straight employee. Shaking hands in the morning would not be a quick thing, we would hold the handshake and slowly let our hands slide off one another. Some times when he needed to tell me something job related he would stand beside me and talk to me right into my ear, so close in fact that i could feel his lips moving as he was talking (it got quite loud on weekends so u had to be close to talk but he was real close .......). There was more confusing situations just like those two involving messages about the job but phrased in such a way that you could see a double meaning. He kept on asking me to go the gym with him or go to the swimming pool or go on an air ballon trip over the city ........ i always declined because i started having feelings for him and couldn't have this happen at work. I worked with him for a year before i left and he had girlfriends after girlfriends. As a manager i couldn't tell him that i was falling for him but seeing him everyday and over hearing him talk about his many girlfriends to his friends at work became more and more painful and confusing as those small gestures, touches and his kind nature made me fall for him big time. When i left the job the staff gave me a card and he said "call me after you've read the note" ............ i didn't call him for two days at which point he whatsapped me "did u read that ?" I answered that i did and offered him to meet up for some food and drinks. He said ok but he didn't contact me again for two weeks (i was dying a little bit more everyday during that time). In any case after two weeks i initiated a conversation on messenger. After a long conversation i had to tell him how i felt so i did. He was not surprised but his answer was not what i was expecting ...... "no worries" ............ i invited him out again when he'd be free which he agreed to. I was so happy ....... then days passed, weeks passed and nothing. I'm very confused, did i imagine things like u thought u did with the kiss ? Probably ......... nevertheless it hurts like hell .......
The heart will feel what it feels....I experienced nearly the same situation, right down to the hot night and the back rub. One guy really was straight, eventually married, and remains a good friend. The other guy was gay but didn't know it, didn't acknowledge it until many years later. The timing for the two of us was just off, sadly. Thanks for sharing, Travis -- every young gay guy should watch this video. And I repeat -- the heart will feel what it feels.
Sweet lordy, who wouldn't have a crush on "Dylan" what with all the grabbing, hugging, teasing, flashing, closeness, to keep going lower on his back, the arousal and telling you to *stop* when talking about girls. what gay/bi boy wouldn't think he's also gay/bi.
deep bromance and "mixed signals" - this may be a more common occurrence than most people realize.
- he could just be still trying to figure it out
- he could be gay or bi but just isn't out yet
- he could just want an "intimate bromance"
yeesh; this sounds like something str8 out of a romance novel, a short film or a _p0rn0_
Oh thanky u just put this in the most defin prespective u couldnt have said it better lol teasing our deva after seducing the hell out of him shame
Honestly, after all of that, who wouldn't think Dylan was gay/bi and the crush was mutual, yeesh
This story should be made into a legit gay movie, just tweak the ending so it doesn't end so sad.
Dylan is one of those married guys that be at the cruising area getting they backs blowed out!! LMAO
jay boogie Lmao you already know
The comment i was waiting for!
As a gay guy, I understand when people preach NEVER FALL FOR A SRAIGHT GUY over and over again but it's easier said than done. It almost feels like people expect you to have full control and pick who you have a crush on but the reality is that we don't get that privilege. So I would appreciate it if people replaced NEVER FALL FOR A STRAIGHT GUY with NEVER HAVE HOPES OR EXPECTATIONS OF DOING ANYTHING WITH A STRAIGHT GUY or something along those lines ( you get the message).
But travis did get a chance with Dylan, right?
@@jayving7537 not really. it's just a one-night stand. there was never a hope for a bright future together. it only breaks your heart into many pieces
I had a situation like this before too. A couple of years back I was working as a server at a hotel restaurant and we had a chef, he's a skater, bad boy does weed, smoke, etc. Like just hot. I told my best friend that I find him cute and being my bestie she would always be the wingman and every time we're in the same room my bestie would make a joke about me finding him attractive and cute, he would just laugh and be like ' thanks bro, but I don't swing that way ' we would hang out together with co-workers, drink at bars, even my house at times and for the longest time it always been that routine until one day during closing time at work , I was cleaning up the private room and he showed up and sat on one of the table watching me and smiling, my heart was beating fast coz I always get nervous when it's just him and I together alone, coz I had a crush on him but anways, I was done and about to leave the room and he tells me 'so what?' And I stopped and just looked at him nervously and respond ' so what, what?'. He was like 'so u just all talk' and for a sec I was confused and I told him 'oh don't try me haha'. He responded 'you all talk then' and I approached him nervously as he was sitting on the table with his legs open like normal guys would and I stood in the middle, we were staring at each other so closely and he was just smiling the whole time, so I was like fuck it, and I lean forward to kiss him. Shockingly he kissed back. it was amazing coz I always wanted him but I had to pull back coz we at work. Fast forward, one night he came over to my place, drunk hoped in my bed and started to touch me and things happened. After that incident, we kinda pulled away from each other coz at that time he was seeing a girl and he wanted to just leave it at that . I was devastated coz I thought we can be but now I know it was like a curiosity for him. I don't regret any of it and till now we acknowledge each other when we run into each other but nothing more. And know now he just got a kid recently and he's a kid is wonderful about a couple of months old now. Happy for him and happy to experience that, but that's all the past, coz I am too in a happy relationship with a wonderful guy. Just wanna share my story too, sorry if it's hard to read, I'm using mobile to comment this lol.
Great story. One of the many reasons I like you and enjoy your videos is your uncanny storytelling abilities.
I totally agree that it is not a good thing to establish a sexual relationship with a straight guy if you are gay. Will quickly ruin a friendship!
Keep the stories cumming! 🔥🫶
Thanks for sharing this TB. In the same (similar) situation and it’s the biggest mindfuck. The friendship means the world to me but there’s always that little bit more. Super compassionate and understanding - confiding things to me that he doesn’t with others and withholding things to spare my feelings (does not or very rarely talk about girls in front of me). And there are those daily physical interactions (grabs/pokes etc)
Anyway, super appreciative of your post. Haven’t been able to speak about this to anyone and your post somehow makes me feel a bit less crazy haha.
I know where I stand and what I’m working with but like you, my heart won’t let me feel any different unfortunately.
You have no idea what this video means to me. I actually shed a tear (or two). Thank you so much for making this.
I recently crushed on a straight guy really badly. It was completely unexpected and he made me feel in a way that I hadn’t felt…since high school. And I’m 27. So yeah, that felt like a bag of bricks hitting my head full speed. It really hurts. But reading about all of your experiences makes me feel a lot better, because at least I’m not alone :) Thank you all for sharing.
needed to hear this today! This is the story of my life and just went through it and have been devastated by the experience but I will survive this 🖤🖤🖤
I fell for this guy my junior year. He was about 6"4', number 2 in our class, super attractive, was in band with me, and he sat in front of me in English so we had a bunch of projects together. Nothing came of it but my feelings for him were what pushed me to come out to my parents. I still have to interact with him and I think about him all the time and before I start crying I'm gonna stop typing
I found the story beautiful, touching and tinged with the sadness of such experiences. I recently wrote a short story that rings a bit similarly. You've obviously moved on, but I can't help but feel the frustration and ache for what "could have been".
I felt this on a spiritual level since something so similar happened to me. It always sucks when a straight guy is vulnerable enough with you for something to happen and then the next day it’s weird and then you never talk again 😔
Great story!! Thank you for sharing it. Makes me feel better. I also fell for the "Ol' How 'Bout a Back Rub?" gimmick with a friend. It went from him asking me to look at pimple on his back to asking for a back rub to me kissing his neck to...well, you know. So glad that you were able to get past falling for your curious guy. Me and my guy kept hooking up and I fell hard for him. Then he broke my heart by explaining "that's not how he is," even though we had hooked up dozens of times. Still not over him. Still hoping he comes around, even though I know there's no hope of that happening.
I’ve had two experiences with two straight guys. I could tell they both had feelings for me but I was the first guy they’d ever been attracted to so it was a struggle for them. Despite the obvious feelings and chemistry I refused to play along seriously because I fall hard and it takes me a long time to get over people I care about. Now, one has a girlfriend of 3 years and we are still really good friends, but I know nothing more will ever happen. The other rarely speaks to me. Your situation would’ve sent me spiraling into depression so I have to be extremely cautious when even thinking about the feelings I have for straight men.
My high school bully was insanely hot and obsessed with me. Looking back, he probably isn't straight, but I thought he was at the time. I didn't fall for him, but I had a big crush. It was nothing but pain.
Exactly exactly and they are hate so much on gays like someone gay kill his mother
Omg! The James Charles references In the comments are everything!
WOW TRAVIS - you lived a fantasy of mine! ♥♥ Thanks! You tell a good story ♥
Everytime he says "go lower", I can't help but laugh like a maniac. Lmao.
It wasn't anybody's fault. You both were so young and were subjected in strong sexual energy + alcohol that night. I would just treasure the memory but nothing more than that. I believe in sexual fluidity because I have experienced it before a few times. But I learned my lesson and I don't allow myself to get hurt. Just before intimacy, I would always make it clear and say that I value the friendship and I don't want a one night stand ruin the friendship and if sex is going to end our friendship, then I wouldn't want it. If anything, making love should make the friendship stronger since I have shared intimate moments with that person. Even if we don't end up as couples or lovers, I'd like us to remain good friends. This arrangement works for me. I became the godfather of my 5 ex's babies baptism. All of them are still my good friends to this day and one of them remains my best friend. Their wives know about our past and the wives also became my good friends. Of course, in the beginning it felt awkward but we all knew that nothing sexual will ever happen again between us and I will never allow myself to be in a situation where I could be tempted. The only time I would go to my exes house is when their spouse was at home. I have turned down two of my exes advances who wanted to mess around just because they had arguments with their spouse. I never allow myself to be the "other lover" just for the sake of being or having a lover. I want mine to be mine alone 100% because I give 100% of myself. I don't believe in sharing or borrowing or a part time lover. It has to be 100% full time lover or nothing at all. I remain good friends with them but it has to be a platonic friendship and no hanky panky. This is the secret of keeping my exes and their spouses remain my good friends.
WOW! I'm sorry that happened for you.. Been there, done that. :( But, omg, SO dang hot! 🔥 You're an amazing storyteller & SO cute! Thanks for sharing, Travis. 🤗
Travis is the best storyteller. I can listen to him speak all day. 😊
You are a such good editor and storyteller Travis. I was completely on it! The way how you describe these moments just before THE MOMENT are just amazing! Love you, greetings from France!
I probably am bi and i have crush on *every single beautiful boy at college* 🤣
This reminds me of my experience with a straight friend, it goes like that:
We went to the same university together, and we became friends there, he was very homophobic back then, and I was closeted (I am still closeted, but not to him or some of my friends). We were sleeping over at our 3rd friend because he had the closest apartment to our university, we three became really close friends, like we did almost everything together. So, that friend wasn't that hot, but his personality was very great, he was so positive in life and brought joy to everyone he met, including me, and I started liking him.
One night, we were sleeping over at the other friend's place, and we used to sleep on the same bed, because our friend had 2 beds one for him and another one for both of us. I held his hand that night because I really wanted him, it also was my first time touching a guy's hand, but unfortunately he felt it, but he didn't say anything at the moment, until the next day. We went to grab food, and on the way he asked me if I had touched his hand that night, and at this moment my heart started pounding out of my chest, because I knew he was super straight (he always talked about girls and I was exactly like Tracis trying to blend and talked about girls too...) and homophobic. I immediately changed the subject and somehow convinced him that I move alot while I'm asleep, and that I had problems when I was little with sleep moving (like walking and such), things kinda went to normal after that, until one night we went to our friend's and started drinking and played the truth or dare game, when our friend dared him to kiss me, and he kissed me twice not only once, and I pretended like I was out and drunk, but I felt the kiss and it kinda made me connect to him more (it was my first kiss as well). 2 years pass, and we became the best of best friends, when I finally became comfortable with my sexuality and he changed to become a gay supporter (because he realized there was no reason to hate them), when I found out that he was no longer homophobic I decided to tell him about me. (important fact: he was always searching the internet for sex information and education like how can you get a good orgasm, what positioning are good, good ways to masturbate and such stuff... and somehow I was the only guy he felt comfortable to tell me about his searching adventures and how he tries them when he masturbates... I know it sounds really weird), and he always did the same with the towel and his penis, just like "Dylan" did to Travis, he did it every time in the changing room after we finish swimming.
The story continues after I told him, suddenly he told me about a fantasy that has been on his mind for many weeks, and I was literally shocked when he told me. The fantasy was about me and him, sitting next to each other masturbating, and I reached to him slowly and started kissing his body, then gave him a BJ. After my coming out to him, it was in morning times, I went to my lecture, and the same day, when I was in the lecture, he texts me, and told me "what do you think about what I told you?" and I was like (playing dumb), "the fantasy?" and he was like "yeah.. do you like the idea", so me (falling for him the entire time) was like "I mean, I'm gay the idea is really cool for me" (in my head I was like I hope it happens XD), he was like "wanna try it TODAY?" I was nervous, very nervous, that I started shaking and couldn't talk, but since it was on a text I replied "I don't mind if you REALLY REALLY wanna try it", he was like " I sure do, come my place after lectures". I went there and he hugged me a long hug, and we stood in front of each other for like minute, doing nothing, then he said "if you don't feel comfortable you dont have to" in my head I was like, I want him so bad, but I nervously said "bro, I am gay I don't mind, it's really up to you" and he dropped his pants with underwear the moment I finished that sentence, and took his clothes off, I did the same, he started rubbing my penis and I carefully touched his, because I was scared since he was straight, (not to mention he had a good one XD), he didnt kiss me on my lips nor on my body, but I took his permission to kiss his body, and he said yes (in excitement), I started kissing all over him slowly and then gave him a BJ (yeah yeah no hookups, he didnt want to, I didnt aswell (surprisingly). But after that he gave me a big hug (I was like, what is happening with him), and he said "I dont think I will EVER do this again with any guy, but at least I know for sure now that I'm not gay", and we both laughed. We are still best friends and really close friends, he is now dating his girlfriend for 3 almost 4 years, I am friend with them both, my relationship with him is: we're brothers.
Felt the need to share too, have a good life everyone
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Really nice you got great pleasure and your still good friends.
Why couldn't this happen to me? I wish a friend like that came my way.
There are a handful of guys out there who are not DL but are bi curious. Travis sparked the guy's interest. Straight guys like these can go one or two ways. Either he will never do it again or years later he might try it again. But it will always be in the back of his mind
Straight guys can often be gettable (under the right circumstances), but sadly they aren’t necessarily that keepable. It’s a good way to ruin a beautiful friendship. It’s a good way to get your heart broken. And it’s a good way to squander some of your best, prime years. So plier beware.
I love this story. Omg it's ridiculous how that straight friend who knows about you can control your mind. But it's probably not the best. My heart aches for you dude! I had a friend like that. Didn't get anywhere near that point because I pulled back early.
dude, I know precisely what you mean and what you felt. I don't think we fall for them, instead, they are the ones who fall for us, for we have been clear with them about our sexuality. Many years ago I had an almost identical experience with a 'straight' guy, but it wasn't a single encounter. Unfortunately I let it last, instead of ending it. Deep inside I knew nothing good would come out of it, and nothing good did. It ended in suffering, I regret the time lost, but at the same time it was kind of 'pedagogical'. Today I know better before entering into something with people not sure of themselves, better avoid them altogether. Funny thing is... I fall for girls sometimes (rarely), but I let them know fully what they're buying beforehand. This whole experience made me more 'ethical'. I just hope those guys to be honest and truthful with their wives about what happened to them in the past and how they feel about it, for they can all of the sudden find themselves in the same situation again, giving in to temptation.
That's so sad how it ended between them!! I literally started crying😭
First off I am crying so hard right now because of the way you looked @ 15:11my heart sank But im also crying because this happened to me just last year. Don't judge me but I only just came out as BI to some friends last year and I am now 31. One of those friends was literally that one friend that you know you can tell everything to and they won't judge you and he was also the one who got me to have fun and really enjoy life(long story). We had been friends for a few years and i always thought he was cute but it wasn't until I started seeing other sides of him did i have a full on crush. We would go out to bars and drink and dance and we did music together, his girlfriend was also a great friend. But then last year i started "Finding" myself and acknowledging a lot of things within myself and felt very strongly that not only should i come out to him but I should tell him i have feelings for him because he would do and say things that made me pause and wonder was he trying to let me know he's sexually fluid(he grabbed my ass a lot, and my junk and would call me his other gf) So this one night we went out with another friend who i had recently came out to and we were all drinking and having fun and my friend whispered in my ear something about how hot some random guy looked and how he'd totally go gay for him. In the moment it pissed me off because that's not how it works, but also I was super tipsy and it was hot(In FL) and I was really into him that night so I decided to meet up with him another night and told him my entire journey up to that point and STUPIDLY told him that I had feelings for him. Long story short nothing was ever the same after that. We aren't friends anymore, in fact him and the other friend who i had previously came out to, both have ghosted me since Sept of 2018. I'm essentially friendless at this point in my little life which is fine on some days but watching this just brought all of that up again and yeah. Sorry this was so long. DON'T FALL FOR STRAIGHT GUYS especially if they are your friends. Thanks for sharing this Travis. ❤️🥺😢
Mike Mathis I hope things can change. I really do.
@@97indianuk Me too!
Thanks for the advice.
It's no need to be friends any more if they dont support you to be who you are. You can find better friends:)
I hate people who lead people on. It's annoying to me.
‼️‼️‼️SO TRUE‼️‼️‼️
Thank you for sharing this story. I can relate with everything that you said, and yes it's difficult to have a relationship with someone like that (straight guy). Knowing that it will never be more than a small piece of your life that was so special you will never forget it. Then to wonder every once in a while in the back of your mind. I wonder if he still thinks about that time of us, and our unique or special relationship we had??? Who knows, but yes, never ever fall for a straight guy.
That was a very intense story. I went through falling for straight guys in high school. I was always falling for one. Never again will I be like that.
You should reach out and just say hi. Maybe go for lunch sometime and meet his family. If you guys were as close as you said then you shouldn’t let him go. Don’t just drop yourself in his life but let him know you’re still friends. Loved the story! You’re amazing!
Doing something with a straight friend is opening Pandora's box. It feels so good at the time,but when it ends, it's hard to handle. It does ruin friendships.
Thanks for sharing this story. Yeah, it sucks to fall for a straight guy. But you handled it really well.
You could even say he cared so much for you, he tried to tried to be what you needed/wanted. Painful, yes. But how cool he cared that deeply for you.
An important lesson: a crush is NOT a real friendship. Those things cannot coexist. Wanting to kiss or fck someone is NOT a friendship, and it will just cause pain and confusion. I’ve learned that the hard way over the years
Is he getting better looking
The "hand pulling away" part actually really hit me because i can very much relate :/ though i think things like this are important lessons, I'm sorry you had to feel that.
I currently live in Oklahoma City. So, this "Dylan" was a wrestler, married with kids, his family owns a lake house by Lake Eufaula. *goes in James Charles modes and starts digging*
Joe Morales lol I live in Oklahoma City too
Joshua Rutter OMG! For real? Let's be friends!!!
Joe Morales sure bro! It was crazy when he mentioned going to OSU
Joe Morales and my parents used to have a cabin at Eufala
I know right! I've been watching Travis for so long, even before so moved to OKC. Then after watching this video and reminding myself he used to live here, I still can't grasp the idea that he used to be here. I wonder how many times he would to Copa or Finish line lol
I don’t know if it is just the area I live in (a fairly conservative small town where everyone is judgey and knows everyone) but I would say 80% of the guys I have hooked up with including one time flings all are straight or at least live their lives as straight men to their family and friends...HELL SOME OF THEM EVEN HAVE GOTTEN ENGAGED OR EVEN MARRIED AND STILLLLL TRY TO GET AHOLD OF ME!
Sometimes we cant control our feelings for persons that we feel physically attracted to even though we know that they kinda dont feel the same way and its even harder especially if you share a close connection with them. Sometimes people experiment. Its something we go through in life, it happens we learn along the way from these so stuff like this dont happen again but then again there does come that time that we fall back into the same thing again
Interesting story. You learned a lot from that experience.That is bold too. When you developed feelings, that was the point of no return. That attempted kiss is when it went too far. The story kept taking turns. He did what was comfortable with and he went all the way. That put you in an awkward situation. It created a situation that was scary and it is sad how it ended. You are right for warning people .
A straight guy fell for me at the Macy's store and he was breath-taking anyway i never look to deep into because straight/bi-curious men come with wayyy to much baggage. I think some men that are straight sometimes just have that one guy he can't resist.
@Rookielove1 Your actually right! Gosh What was i thinking
You are such a good storyteller!!! I was instantly sucked into your story. Having lived in the midwest and hung out with wrestlers myself I know exactly what type of guy "Dylan" was. And they are the worst!! It's crazy how often this story repeats itself...
Thats messed up! Dylan basically just used Travis for sex! Smfh 😡🤦🏻♂️
oh mama, straight guys tend to do that.
At least Travis also gained something.
It happened to me too
I know, right
Whats wrong with that? Atleast he can say he’s able to experienced him
I really dig the way you tell a story!!! That sounded like a beautiful experience! I can totally relate!!!💝
BS I bet u if u wouldnt have tried to kiss him he later would have kissed you. I've been in these situations and I hate when the "gay guy" tries something it's a big scene but when the straight guy does something no problem smh🤦🏽♂️
Thank you so much. I've been frustrated with that same crap for years now. Straight guys lifting their shirts, putting their hands down their undies and winking at ya like, yo, want some? and then you try saying yeah, or somehow affirm to them that you do and they get all upset and put off. Almost as if they want you to refuse or play about it.
I've heard a guy, a straight guy, say "Dude I thought I was just gonna ride your dick, I didn't think you'd actually fuck me bro."
Like.....is he actually listening to what he just said. It's almost as gut-wrenching as "bro-jobs". The fucking entitlement. Just unreal.
Agree.
Agree.
@@evilreigns7213 it's funny how u don't realise what u said u clearly don't have a sence of humour
Thank you, that was such an amazing story. I sure do hope you guys will see each other again soon, I think that he still cares about you and probably he’s watching your videos. God bless you 😊