yes because today is my best friend's 10th birthday but i'm at home freaking out about serial killers so i'm so scared that one is going to go to her house even though she has a security thing so it beeps when some one comes.
When a situation came up where I wanted to do something but I was afraid, I would stop and ask myself, "what would I do if I wasn't afraid" and it's been very helpful for me
@@cal.p7776 Yes my friend to get over this I would write all your worries on a piece of paper and tell god to help you and leave it somewhere safe and don't forget about god
This video changed my life. Back in 2015 I had moved in to a complete different country and was on my own. A lot of things messed up with my mental health but anxiety and fear specifically left me broken and unable to make any progress in my life. After watching this video I made the decision that I won’t stay captive to my own mind. 6 years later, I am now a lawyer married to the love of my life and doing a masters degree in law. Don’t let fear stop you from living your life and achieving your goals.
I’m sure your comment will make a difference on how I perceive the information in this video. I will be doing my masters soon! Hope you are doing well🌷
Im scarred of being alone. Because then im alone with My toughts. I'll start thinking of death,the future, money,social anxiety, school, having to meet people, existential crisises and more. I always end up crying and i hate it.
Its not uncommon, also the current state of the world is centred around distraction. But think of it this way, you will never be this young, you may not have the same oppertunities. I like my own company, you learn about your capabilitiesyour prefrences... Just witness the sun coming up in the morning and realise the world didnt crumble overnight. The universe and life have a balance, you are going to be ok through it all, just like the rising sun manages to come up every morning no matter what happens.
it is not good to daydream while forgetting to live. :) i had these problems when i was a child, sometimes still stop and think alot but need to get out and do things keep the mind at bay.
the more you learn as you grow up the more you will understand about everything i guess but you just need to get on it isnt good to keep thinking about the same thing over and over you will end up stuck in a rut and you don't want to go down the rabbit hole!! which you might already be doing.. try not to think about death or the future. every time you wake up go outside and do something creative, wake up early and the day will go slow if you organise well enough, you have to have a good diet aswell, i am a vegan and i believe that had made improved my mood :) talking to people you don't know is a great start! explain how you feel and you will end up talking about different things and be happier in yourself to go out more.
Then you honestly don't know what you should Know...It's not a bad thing at all it's the powers that be fault you must dive deep into known you will experience confusion but you will adapt that's the way of life you should consider
Mrs T_9807 yes Ty that was so kind of you to explain, yes what I do is eat early dinner by 6 or 6.30 and gradually work my eyes to get tired and sleep by 8 or 9.
1. Fear of loss - focus on what you can gain. 2. Fear of the process pain/ hard work it will take to change - know that challenges will help you reach your highest self and you can find some challenges to be fun 3. Fear of outcome pain (afraid that you will do everything that you should've done but still won't reach the desired outcome) - Visualize and attract the positive outcome, don't obsess over the negative outcome. You will find a way and grow more competitive to achieve the desired outcome through the process.
I find that moving my eyes laterally helps me overcome my fears. I kind of roll my eyes at a comfortable pace and try my hardest to do what I want to do at the same time and it usually works. Andrew Huberman has some videos on it.
This video changed my life some years ago. Thank you so much, Brendon! I remember I listed all my fears for each category in excel 🤣😂 and then in another column I have put an idea that helped me overcome each fear. I looked on that list enough times until I have found my courage. Life saving! I have quit my job and started living my dream. It was hard, but it was the best thing ever! I have also become during this process a lot more healthy, more mature, aware, self-confident, helpful for my family, my house is cleaner (as I have time for it), I lost weight, I have better relationships with others as I discovered nicer people... It is incredible! You are amazing and this advice is gold! There are no words to thank you enough! God bless you!❤🤗😍💋
Please tell me more about your experience going after your dream. I have resigned from my work recently, it’s not approved yet as I have a meeting with the HR director tomorrow, but yeah!
Fear has held me captive for a long time... but no more. I am sharing my voice with others. I have taken a bog step. It is challenging, frustrating, and sometimes can freak me out. But my creative juices are flowing like a raging river. I can't be stopped by anything, not even the moments I feel like giving up!
What most people really want is a feeling. True mastery of life comes from understanding how to create these feelings in a healthy way. Don't be fooled into creating a life that you think will make you happy, first understand what makes you happy, then build your dreams around it. For me my deepest sense of happiness is in singing praise and worship songs to God.
For me what makes me happy and makes me feel like myself is when I sing and dance and so I realized my dream is to become a singer, to do what I love. The fear that I have tho is following or reaching this dream would mean messing up the relationship I have with my parents. I am not from a well off family so my parents wants me to be practical in everyway so I chose a job that is very far from my dream but compensates very well. The thing is I suck everytime. Why do I get stressed over something I don't want inthe first place? But bcoz parents has huge expectations from me I just followed what they want. I've been through this for more than 3 years and during these times I decided to forget about happiness. My Mom even said that I should not work to be happy bcoz we work for money. It sounds crazy but I did not contest her, I understand where she' s coming from. Surviving everyday is difficult specially for a family of 11 people. Its reaaally frustrating tho that they care less of my feelings. They seem to understand the importance of being happy and being yourself. So If I chase for my dream, for certain I would not have good relationship with them anymore. I say this from what reaction I saw from them when I gave them hints. They take hapiness as simply leisure. And if I just let it be, I feel like dying. Its like I'm digging my own grave. I'm ... miserable. When I think about it family should be your first and biggest supporters but they are actually the ones pulling me down everytime I try to climb and the weight is too much for me to carry. Do I really need to choose who to save between myself and my family??? Sorry for this looong story. I just somehow needed to vent out. I have no one to speak about this so ... I would be truly grateful If anyone can give me an advice about my horrible situation. Thanks!
+eros blasco Even my life is this crazy. Going for the more practical solution like going for the money making job with more security. I think u can lose this mentality only by doing what u love and become successful in it.Just start taking these small tasks as challenges and the freedom you will gain when u overcome them. I understand what u mean by family holding u back and the constant worry u get about their well being.
Yes, I get a different feeling when I do what I love. It feels like I'm complete and tho life is hard, I am still genuinely happy. All I ever want is a chance to follow my dream bcoz I hate to grow old looking back, regretting the things I haven't done but sadly I couldn't get that one chance. I couldn't even tell my parents how I truly feel because they constantly speak about how life is harder when they were young. There is a saying " It is not your fault to be born poor but you will be solely responsible if you die poor." My parents failed to see their future and didn't plan our family thus our situation is like this. I want to break this chain and become successful. What is my first step? I've been thinking long and hard but I just got doubtful and confused. I don't want to be a failure for my parents ( already am in the eyes of my father ). I feel so helpless. I always hope I can talk to someone about this and get encouragement and enlightment. Thank you so much for responding!!!
+eros blasco Reading your story I felt like you were describing my situation. I can totally relate! My mother always wanted me to be perfect, to have good grades, to always excel in everything. I know that her intentions were always good, but she knew that my true passion was drawing, creating. She didn't want me to choose an art career, though. She said that I was capable of more (and choosing art equals an uncertain carreer path) but I just simply wanted to create art, to draw, because this is my passion. After graduating high school, I chose to study fine arts and graphic design, even though my mother didn't want me to. She accepted it after a while, because she saw that I really wanted to do this, and more importantly, I loved doing this. I will graduate this year from university (it was my greatest decision so far), but my family is still doubtful about my career, because they don't believe that there is a way to make money from art. You know, I think that you should pursue your passion as well, for example, going to music school would be a great start. You should definitely practice a lot, sing a lot, and DO WHAT YOU LOVE!!! I understand that you don't want to be a failure for your parents (I am also a failure in my mother's eyes because she doesn't believe in art), but the point is that you should take the first step, and just do it. They will realize that you are driven, passionate, because you are doing what you really love. I really support you, I suggest you practice every day a lot, apply to music school practice an instrument, upload videos of you singing on UA-cam, gain a supporting team... I've heard you singing, you are really talented!!! I subscribed to your channel, hoping to see more. I really hope that you will follow your dreams and start doing what you really love. P.S. : I really recommend you to watch videos like this one, they can help a lot.
Wow I love how deep this video went, no fluff, love it! 1. The fear of loss 2. The fear of process 3. The fear of outcome Thanks again Brendon! Much love from Bali ❤️
It’s crazy cause I be in fear just looking for videos to help me fearing that I won’t get it and still sitting in the same situation. It’s time for me to face everything and rise
One way to overcome fear is by saying prayers. It's high positive thinking: "O Lord! Protect us from what lieth in front of us and behind us, above our heads, on our right, on our left, below our feet and every other side to which we are exposed. Verily, Thy protection over all things is unfailing." - The Bab, Baha’i Prayers, p. 133
See the world's order. Basic logic reveals that all thing have a Maker. The Maker is superior to that which is made. Superior Messengers are sent every 500-1000 years to guide & help us .
I literally failed at Nursing School in Undergrad. Fast forward 11 years later and becoming a nurse is all I think about, but I am scared shitless. I must focus on the rewards, not the process. I needed to see this video. Thank you so much!
The thing is that, your fear is only on your mind. You are letting your mind consume you. You should be in control of your own thoughts, do not let your own thoughts startle you. You are way bigger than what you fear.
There are so many paralyzing fears I’ve faced and had to overcome. I had no choice because the fear of an empty life is far more terrifying. After doing this work for so many years (and coaching women in it), I’ve come to see exactly what Brendon’s saying here: it’s JUST a thought. My brain has random thoughts all the time. The difference is which I give time and attention to. With practice, the thoughts/fears don’t go away, but they do lose power. You start to realize you’re trying to ignore or reason with or “overcome” a monster under the bed, when there is in fact no monster at all. 😆
omg thanks! do soo did help i have a speech today that i have to say in front of hundreds of people and everytime i do this i get REALLY nervous.... and when i talk i swallow IN THE MIDDLE OF A WORD i swallow while i'm taking in the middle of a word. and i remeber the first time i did the swallowing thing and i keep doing it EVERYTIME!
Don’t worry about it....lots of people are afraid of the dark...truly, not a big deal...just keep a light on...I’m a teensy bit afraid too, I need some sort of soft light streaming into my room....and I freak out more if I watch a horror movie....then I need to sleep with the room light on....but I think it’s a non important fear....it’s like being afraid of moths....big whoopie
I had a dream or nightmare I should say I was in my bed I woke up a dark figure is starting at me this has happened for a long time everyday I see this when I sleep I stopped sleeping correctly it feels like it's killing me I feel pain.
This is true! Feel the fear and do it anyway. I am at a point in my life where I can no longer live in fear. Just be who you are authentically and live your life. It's amazing once you stay connected to who you are. Your videos rock Brendon! Thank you! :)
6 Years ago, you inspired me to think positively. Through these 6 years I experienced my worst deppression. I consistantly devalued myself, telling myself that what I did was not enough. It was all because of fear. I was fearfull of being nothing while at the time I had the most I could ever want. I remember every night crying and every day thinking if I should quit what I am doing. My self esteem wrecked itself and my body already had really bad stress symptoms to the point where my hands where shaking daily. I quit all of my daily routines and ignored reality for half a year. Now I am standing stronger then ever but today I felt that fear again.
I'm really afraid of the dark or living in a big house because in a big house I think someone will break in or in the dark I think there is someone there like a ghost
Just think about it with logic ghosts make no senes and are made up by humans that that thought helped me get over my fear of the dark. The big house part i cant answer since i do not fear death.
Crazy how this video has 7 yrs of being posted but still it's the most helpful I´ve found! I am afraid of heights but I am slowly travelling to this places that are really high above sea level and on Wednesday I will try the most difficult road until now for me. I used to think the what if and the negative thought but now I only think about the what if and immediately see myself admiring incredible landscapes as well as visualizing myself finishing this trip and not being able to stop smiling!!!
Fear is a unconscious mechanism evolutionarily designed to help us survive. The problem is that it’s an extremely over sensitive instrument, and often triggers in situations where fear is counterproductive. That’s why we must practice the ability of consciously separating ourselves from our fear when it isn’t helpful. In these situations, we can remind ourselves that fear is just an emotion generated by a mechanism we cannot control. It’s an uncomfortable force being exerted on us that we can overcome if we so choose.
I've been sick all year long with anxiety. Im nauseous every day and my biggest fear is throwing up. I hate my fear, my fear makes me feel so weak. I can't stand it. I'm embarrassed to even talk about my fear to anyone. Please someone, anyone give me advice on how to conquer my fear 🙏
I suffer from the same thing! If u live in a medical marijuana state you can try to get your hands on a prescription for cannabis. It really helps with anxiety especially for stomach pain. If your anxieties. That in your stomach is flaring up, the medical cannabis may help you keep your food down and get a start to your day. It is medicine its not a druggie culture anymore
watch videos of Jiddu Krishnamurthi about fear. The only way is to observe fear as it happens. Then you'll see you are not the fear. You are the one who sees fear... as you accept fear, it no longer disturbs you. This applies for any condition such as stress, anxiety, etc. also i suggest osho and mooji
***** Accept your anxiety and stress imma. Totally. Let it flow all towards you and you just be the witness of it. Accept yourself as you are. Dont try to relax. Accept the way you stand,Breathe, feel. Accept everything thats happening inside you.
Fear is so real to me the feel is so real and over powering for me . Its a struggle but this helps me look at it in a different way . The pain I felt makes fear so powerful.
Only people with money can start a business. Us poor people have to rob banks to get things done. It's a conundrum, isn't it? I don't know if you can change your paradigm to become rich or not.
Thank you for this. Imma face my fear's now coz I've been having this fear in me ,the fear of failure and being laughed at and the anxiety too... Soon ill be back here and say I did it
My fear is so powerful that even when I am so blessed with so many people who truly Love me, that in my mind I still feel unworthy. Nobody really sees this because I am a great actress. My closest loves ones say I am a tower of strength and love. I believe I have it in me to feel worthy. But there is a constant war within me.
I believe if you listen to what God says about you, you can learn to be more confident in yourself on the inside. I to also do the same thing but my God tells me I am enough and it helps calm me.
Brendon you just don't know how much this video changed my whole outlook on my fears. I instantly feel like I can face them fearlessly now... Shift your mind from negative thinking and focus on the positives. Very powerful message. Keep blessing us with your wisdom.
I think you should start that business. Do not let your fear hinder you from doing something great. Fear is only on your mind, it manipulates you to fail. Find your inner strength and fight it. You are bigger than your fear.
@@jennifercalixto9970 You're most welcome. I want you to believe in yourself because that's the key that would open a lot of doors towards success. Anyway, if I could make a video on something that could help you. What would that be?
I love these bits of wisdom and encouragement. Tucked in are solid gold nuggets we can use to move away from fear and towards a joyously charged life. I really appreciate your time and effort on our behalf, Brendon. Very nicely done. Class - nothing but class.
Here's one I have been dealing with for the past few years: a few years ago I had an accident where I broke both my legs, after a few months of revalidation I was walking again no problem but then the real nightmare happened : I started having panic attacks and I suddenly became terrified of walking, and at one point It got so bad that even just standing up from my wheelchair would terrify me. So I'm a few years later now and I don't have the panic attacks, and I can walk however there is a catch. I still have an overwhelming fear of walking alone, I've got no problem when someone gives me their hand or even a finger to hold but as soon as they are gone I freeze and panic again. And I don't use crutches because I broke my legs using them so I don't even trust them anymore. I've come a long way from where I was and I've learnt alot but I'm still not where I want and I'm only 17. So how can you overcome a fear of something as important as walking? How can fear still get the best of you when you've been fighting it for so long? Sometimes it really gets to me and I feel overwhelmed but I know I'll reach the finish line, but I just can't see it yet.
@@didge74 I have tried something that's considered hipnosis, it's were they tie feelings to past lives (if you believe in that stuff, you kinda just have to be open minded about it) and memories and they rewrite the way you feel about it and in return it changes the way you feel about the present
I'm so proud of you for overcoming that, things will definitely get easier as times goes! I'll be praying for you! But know that you have been an inspiration to me, 4 months ago I was in a really bad car accident and recently at physical therapy I've been doing normal things like walking and it scares me so much to the point I just start crying but after reading your comment, I'm ready to try again! Thank you!
@@espyy_arias reading your comment made me smile, didn't think it would give that affect. I hope you find the motivation you need to get through it. Just know that no matter how much time it takes you'll get there, doesn't matter how long as long as you're trying. Don't try and get better on any one else's tempo but your own and remember, it does get better, even if you don't see it yet 😉
@@oOEnderHunterOo thank you so much!!! I will always keep your words close to me during this journey, I truly believe your comment was my sign to keep going. When I woke up this morning I was thinking really negative & I was just overall afraid so I came to this video & but reading your comment is actually what gave me that peace that I can do it too. Have a blessed day 💗
I am afraid of drowning, having a serious physical injury, being shot when I talk down the road, losing all of my friends, spiders, dying alone and never having enough money to live happily in my own place.
I am genuinely surprised at how good the advice is in this video. Not filled w/ stereotypical phrases & platitudes but a great assessment of what fear really is & what it prevents us from achieving.
I think a big part of having fear is sometimes the worry of what others may think of your decisions. However, that being said, honestly, it doesn't matter what others think. You just have to own your own experience in your life. Other people's projections are exactly that. Without your reaction to their opinions of you, you keep your own power.
My biggest fear is being alone and unloved. But it comes from a rational place because I haven't had a girlfriend in years and it gets harder to talk to women, not out of fear, but out of not knowing how. That's fucking scary.
Do not make excuses for your failures. Thats unacceptable. Go out and do it. It's ok to have fear, but it's not ok to yield to it. Good luck to you, my brother from another mother :D
I say this carefully to Vic. If its rejection you fear - by choosing not to reach out to someone, you are only rejecting "taking a chance". Good things seldom happen without a chance of some sort taking place first. If someone says no thanks, its better to know than to wallow in self doubt and wonder if the chance was ever there. As long as someone is kind, and polite, you may be surprised who will be impressed by the confidence alone, taken to merely say hello. Other people are lonely too. Ask someone, may I buy you a coffee? Is this seat taken? Gee, the weather is rough today ... anything ... do it for you ! If you were happy being lonely - you would not have reach out on here - I have my fingers and toes crossed for you ! And it is tough at first, but the more you try, the more natural things will feel. Challenge yourself.
i'm afraid of driving the car, it sounds stupid, but for me sitting into a car is horrible and every time i say to myself okay today i will drive i think about the pain that i had last time thus i never do it, it's like a cycle to nothing and so frustrating.. and my friends don't understand me either.. i just can't overcome this fear..
+PMC_BASIL Make mistakes and have fun! Pick a aspect of English speaking culture which you like and play with it. Japanese is my second language, but I like Japanese comedy and Osaka. People always joke on how I know so much about random things. It's simply fun. Good luck!
I saw this guy that said (If you are afraid of smth then get mad, anger kills fear, get mad at your inability to achieve the things that you want then identify what exactly you are afraid of and break it down into small steps that progressively get harder as you get more competent *
At first I was super skeptical of this guy. I thought I had hit the weird side of UA-cam. (I'm a 13 year old girl, for crying out loud!) But what he was saying started to make sense to me. I had/have a REALLY bad irrational fear of big, open spaces, or rooms with high ceilings, like auditoriums and gymnasiums. Gym class and assemblies were practically torture for me. But after I watched this video, I realized how silly and irrational my fear was. I realized that I wasn't scared of the thing itself, I was scared of the fear that came with it. This really helped me. Thank you SO much.
I have a fear of ghosts, spirits, ghouls, dolls etc. I tried watching more horror movies but I'm really scared that I can't sleep without a light or someone I trust near me... Every time I hear a noise I just freak out, and it's not fair
Fear is not just an emotion, it’s a tool. It’s one of the most powerful weapons. If you can learn to over come fear then you can learn to inflict fear. You’ll basically be unstoppable.
I have severe fear. Every day I live with this thought "Oh god , I feel like passing out , I don't wanna die , I love my life". But I don't have any medical reasons to pass out. I never did. But I am hella afraid of it.
Started watching this because I've been dealing with what people call HPPD. Ever since bad molly and LSD trips last year in October I've been dealing with a lot of crazy visuals and feelings of depersonalization. I'm unemployed at the moment and I'm usually home alone which makes my anxiety worse. This video really helped me get my head together on the days I've been home alone. Thanks Brendon! You're better than any therapist I've ever had.
Mine is a real shit!! I have a fear of fear!! I suffer with anxiety/panic attacks and I have a fear of those, and when they are next going to happen. I have somehow made myself have a fear of getting in the car as a passenger for a long journey incase I experience an attack. Now, I have anxiety about it a lot and have this awful feeling of dread and worry and fear come over me every now and again because of how I am. I need to get this sorted!!
+Jamie White good job , you must know that the first step to overcome a certain fear is to admet you're facing problems with it now all you must do is to train your self to be more relaxed in public .. try music it really helps me a lot
i came here for the same purpose... this fear is holding me back and surrounds me with negative thoughts all the time ..my hand is getting all sweaty just writing about this. you are not alone let's overcome this! i really do wish to change and I'm trying. let's stand up and face this!
That is spot on!! We can do it!! Just try to live along side it rather than worrying about it all the time, easier said than done I know!! Exercise is good, I run a bit and that can clear my head!
I have so many self help books in my life that I though success will just be automatic but yet I still haven’t progressed in my life and I couldn’t understand why until now. Thanx for the revelation Brendon. God bless!
BE HAPPY & JOYFUL FOR NO REASON. IT'S SIMPLY A CHOICE. FAKE A LAUGH UNTIL YOU CAN FEEL IT MANIFEST, THAN DO IT WHOLE HEARTEDLY. FEAR CANNOT EXIST AROUND HAPPINESS & JOY, THAT IS UNIVERSAL LAW!! ALLOW THE TEARS TO BE, THAT'S WHEN IT'S PUREST (A SURRENDERING).
karen chuchu then dont think about death. think positive think about the good things in life think about what you enjoy doing when you have thos thoughts.
Trashye its not worth your energy... do you know whats worse? never having lived. i would rather live and fear death than have never lived at all... its honestly not worth your time, i honestly think there are worst things than death
This city has a factory farm, me and my son have walked past it before - just a few days ago we happened to be nearby and you could hear the poor pigs (hogs) screaming. A few weeks ago we saw this large truck with pigs crowded close together in it - how horrid. Some humans are so damn evil - it's so pathetic.
You are not afraid of truth, you are afraid of feeling certain emotions that come with accepting the truth. And most probably afraid that you won’t get over it...But trust me, you are able to overcome those emotions and that pain. And you are able to be happy after that sad moment in your life. We all have a hard time saying good bye to loved ones.
This is my favorite video. I will always come back here and watch you bec I can relate. I’ve been a super positive person before until I have to deal with adult responsibilities. It consumed me, made me a worrier, made me a different person that I know I’m not. Until when I woke up this morning from nights of less sleep bec I’ve been worrying about things in life, I woke up tired of feeling like this... so now I’m going to try one day at a time to change my mindset and deal with everyday in a positive way. Thank you for sharing your positive, light and bright personality.
I BELIEVE IN JESUS JESUS IS NOT SCARED OF ANYTHING JESUS BELIEVE IN US WE SHOULD BE BRAVE AND JESUS WILL PROUD OF US ALL😀😀😀 Ok i'll be BRAVE😡😡😡 YOUR RIGHT I SHOULD NOT SCARED (im not mad im just focusing)
Jakob S No, stop it. Jesus is alive, Jesus the son of God is everlasting just like his father. Don’t take your frustration and anger to comment nonsense on someone’s comment. Do something with your life because in reality you me and everyone we’re all going to be a corpse, but because of those of us who believe and follow God we’re going to be something more.
I’m 13, I have a fear of dying and being alone loosing someone someone please give me advice I’ve gotten told “If you’re living in fear your not living you’re surviving”
My friend your living in your imagination your not suppose think that way enjoy them while you can tell them I love you and I don't know what I happened by now but enjoy the other people around you don't be scared.
Instead of thinking like that, you should try to think a little bit happier and think of ways you can support your family and things you can do that will make you and them happy. Never think negatively. It won't help. Think positively
Karen Long, im really sorry for your loss😔 but everyone in life has a time for them to go. My grandmother died but i wasnt that sad, i knew she died loving me, loving my mom my dad my family :) The good thing is that she died by age. No diseases, no sickness, the time just came:)
Remember moments when you accepted fears last Time. Now is the same. Its a same Fear in body and in mind. Nothing diferent. Just diferents images and thoughts. You can choose not believe in this thoughts becouse you know now its thoughts not yours its Fear thoughts.
That does go away as you get older, unless you have kids and then you will have it for the rest of your life (lol). Seriously, any decent person has that problem, you need to go through in your mind what's the worst that could happen so that if the worst DOES happen, you feel more prepared for it. But the fear should go down in time.
Edwin Cabrera not true. lol. Cute story though but not real. It’s false evidence appearing real. Which is wrong lol. Their are many things we should be afraid of. Pretending like we shouldn’t is actually dangerous. The blunt truth is you have to face your fears until they break you and rebuild. You. There isn’t a magic trick. Period
Thank you this is exactly how I feel. Wasn’t sure what exactly what I was afraid of. I kept telling myself in my head it doesn’t exist but still the fear and anxiety takes over keep asking myself why???!!!!! Of what????
By no means is school an indication. Focus on your passion and literally devote your entire being to the pursuit and ultimate betterment of that. Good luck.
In anything you do, just work hard to do the best you can do. This will get you far. College is not for everyone and there are plenty of successful people with no college degree. I wish you the best my friend.
F.E.A.R ... Forget Everything And Run...OR...Face Everything And Rise
C Nell yep
First Encounter Assault Recon
C Nell I saw that before
skornie123 *hi five* mah man
False Evidence Appearing Real
I learned that fear is just lies holding you back once you overcome it you will feel fantastic
Best EDM Today but what if fear wasnt the problem, and there was a very real thing to fear?
Best EDM Today I'm scared of gohst
yes because today is my best friend's 10th birthday but i'm at home freaking out about serial killers so i'm so scared that one is going to go to her house even though she has a security thing so it beeps when some one comes.
Best EDM Today I don't think you have any idea what I'm scared of. Facing it will just make me question living
So true!
When a situation came up where I wanted to do something but I was afraid, I would stop and ask myself, "what would I do if I wasn't afraid" and it's been very helpful for me
@@josellebolden578 My pleasure ☺️
Yesss another comment that is more useful then the two videos I just watched!! Thanks hun
I think I’m gonna try this .
@@IntuitiveWellnessAdelaide Thank you :) I hope it helps you too!
Don't focus on the fear… focus on the SOLUTION.
Great quote.
I like you're comment pall :)
Hey , that's my motto ! I use it almost every single day :)
what about fear of death?
The Action Brick ❤❤❤
“Living in fear is not living at all.”
True my freind
People have to learn to stop living in their mind but live in reality
Merced Sotelo true
@@cal.p7776 Yes my friend to get over this I would write all your worries on a piece of paper and tell god to help you and leave it somewhere safe and don't forget about god
@@mercedsotelo2055 isnt that also not living in reality?
This video changed my life. Back in 2015 I had moved in to a complete different country and was on my own. A lot of things messed up with my mental health but anxiety and fear specifically left me broken and unable to make any progress in my life. After watching this video I made the decision that I won’t stay captive to my own mind. 6 years later, I am now a lawyer married to the love of my life and doing a masters degree in law. Don’t let fear stop you from living your life and achieving your goals.
I’m sure your comment will make a difference on how I perceive the information in this video.
I will be doing my masters soon!
Hope you are doing well🌷
Wow!! That’s wonderful
This guy is better than a £100 ph psychotherapist. Priceless therapy and it;s FREE!
I need to pinch myself
I'll get over my fear of falling off a mountain in fact I'll jump off a mountain right now
Actually psychotherapy is different but I get your point.
Im scarred of being alone. Because then im alone with My toughts. I'll start thinking of death,the future, money,social anxiety, school, having to meet people, existential crisises and more. I always end up crying and i hate it.
Scared*
Its not uncommon, also the current state of the world is centred around distraction. But think of it this way, you will never be this young, you may not have the same oppertunities. I like my own company, you learn about your capabilitiesyour prefrences... Just witness the sun coming up in the morning and realise the world didnt crumble overnight. The universe and life have a balance, you are going to be ok through it all, just like the rising sun manages to come up every morning no matter what happens.
well look at ur picture its happy
it is not good to daydream while forgetting to live. :) i had these problems when i was a child, sometimes still stop and think alot but need to get out and do things keep the mind at bay.
the more you learn as you grow up the more you will understand about everything i guess but you just need to get on it isnt good to keep thinking about the same thing over and over you will end up stuck in a rut and you don't want to go down the rabbit hole!! which you might already be doing.. try not to think about death or the future. every time you wake up go outside and do something creative, wake up early and the day will go slow if you organise well enough, you have to have a good diet aswell, i am a vegan and i believe that had made improved my mood :) talking to people you don't know is a great start! explain how you feel and you will end up talking about different things and be happier in yourself to go out more.
I have fear of facing people. And I feel like I'm not enough. No talents, skills, passion & interest. I'm a total mess.
Same. T-T AND IM ALSO SCARED OF BEING SCARED :(
BLACK BLOOD666 It's very frustrating!
Hii if i may ask what do you do ?
Everybody has a talent, whether you realise it quickly or not. Stay strong hun :)
Then you honestly don't know what you should Know...It's not a bad thing at all it's the powers that be fault you must dive deep into known you will experience confusion but you will adapt that's the way of life you should consider
I'm afraid of being alone but I also feel deep down that I'm destined to be alone.
nobody is destined to be alone. you'll find someone
I feel you there
Yes me too, actually anyone can manage alone but society and media has created so much fear around loneliness that we have forgotten to experiment it.
My Name Is My Name I feel you bro
Mrs T_9807 yes Ty that was so kind of you to explain, yes what I do is eat early dinner by 6 or 6.30 and gradually work my eyes to get tired and sleep by 8 or 9.
1. Fear of loss - focus on what you can gain. 2. Fear of the process pain/ hard work it will take to change - know that challenges will help you reach your highest self and you can find some challenges to be fun 3. Fear of outcome pain (afraid that you will do everything that you should've done but still won't reach the desired outcome) - Visualize and attract the positive outcome, don't obsess over the negative outcome. You will find a way and grow more competitive to achieve the desired outcome through the process.
in short we fear the truths like loss ,hard work and outcome
Very good thank you but always not look me 👆 🙏👍😆😂
What is the difference btw « what you gain » (1) and « positive outcome » (3)?
I find that moving my eyes laterally helps me overcome my fears. I kind of roll my eyes at a comfortable pace and try my hardest to do what I want to do at the same time and it usually works. Andrew Huberman has some videos on it.
This video changed my life some years ago. Thank you so much, Brendon! I remember I listed all my fears for each category in excel 🤣😂 and then in another column I have put an idea that helped me overcome each fear. I looked on that list enough times until I have found my courage. Life saving! I have quit my job and started living my dream. It was hard, but it was the best thing ever! I have also become during this process a lot more healthy, more mature, aware, self-confident, helpful for my family, my house is cleaner (as I have time for it), I lost weight, I have better relationships with others as I discovered nicer people... It is incredible! You are amazing and this advice is gold! There are no words to thank you enough! God bless you!❤🤗😍💋
Please tell me more about your experience going after your dream.
I have resigned from my work recently, it’s not approved yet as I have a meeting with the HR director tomorrow, but yeah!
Fear has held me captive for a long time... but no more. I am sharing my voice with others. I have taken a bog step. It is challenging, frustrating, and sometimes can freak me out. But my creative juices are flowing like a raging river. I can't be stopped by anything, not even the moments I feel like giving up!
We can do what we set our mind to do and push ourselves to achieve. Bottle up that raging river to tap into at the low times...good luck.
Jan Hoadley, thanks :)
Thanks buddy ! ,for sharing your opinion, I can relate to what you said.
What most people really want is a feeling. True mastery of life comes from understanding how to create these feelings in a healthy way. Don't be fooled into creating a life that you think will make you happy, first understand what makes you happy, then build your dreams around it. For me my deepest sense of happiness is in singing praise and worship songs to God.
well said bro :)
For me what makes me happy and makes me feel like myself is when I sing and dance and so I realized my dream is to become a singer, to do what I love. The fear that I have tho is following or reaching this dream would mean messing up the relationship I have with my parents. I am not from a well off family so my parents wants me to be practical in everyway so I chose a job that is very far from my dream but compensates very well. The thing is I suck everytime. Why do I get stressed over something I don't want inthe first place? But bcoz parents has huge expectations from me I just followed what they want. I've been through this for more than 3 years and during these times I decided to forget about happiness. My Mom even said that I should not work to be happy bcoz we work for money. It sounds crazy but I did not contest her, I understand where she' s coming from. Surviving everyday is difficult specially for a family of 11 people. Its reaaally frustrating tho that they care less of my feelings. They seem to understand the importance of being happy and being yourself. So If I chase for my dream, for certain I would not have good relationship with them anymore. I say this from what reaction I saw from them when I gave them hints. They take hapiness as simply leisure. And if I just let it be, I feel like dying. Its like I'm digging my own grave. I'm ... miserable. When I think about it family should be your first and biggest supporters but they are actually the ones pulling me down everytime I try to climb and the weight is too much for me to carry. Do I really need to choose who to save between myself and my family???
Sorry for this looong story. I just somehow needed to vent out. I have no one to speak about this so ... I would be truly grateful If anyone can give me an advice about my horrible situation. Thanks!
+eros blasco Even my life is this crazy. Going for the more practical solution like going for the money making job with more security. I think u can lose this mentality only by doing what u love and become successful in it.Just start taking these small tasks as challenges and the freedom you will gain when u overcome them. I understand what u mean by family holding u back and the constant worry u get about their well being.
Yes, I get a different feeling when I do what I love. It feels like I'm complete and tho life is hard, I am still genuinely happy. All I ever want is a chance to follow my dream bcoz I hate to grow old looking back, regretting the things I haven't done but sadly I couldn't get that one chance. I couldn't even tell my parents how I truly feel because they constantly speak about how life is harder when they were young. There is a saying " It is not your fault to be born poor but you will be solely responsible if you die poor." My parents failed to see their future and didn't plan our family thus our situation is like this. I want to break this chain and become successful. What is my first step? I've been thinking long and hard but I just got doubtful and confused. I don't want to be a failure for my parents ( already am in the eyes of my father ). I feel so helpless. I always hope I can talk to someone about this and get encouragement and enlightment.
Thank you so much for responding!!!
+eros blasco
Reading your story I felt like you were describing my situation. I can totally relate! My mother always wanted me to be perfect, to have good grades, to always excel in everything. I know that her intentions were always good, but she knew that my true passion was drawing, creating. She didn't want me to choose an art career, though. She said that I was capable of more (and choosing art equals an uncertain carreer path) but I just simply wanted to create art, to draw, because this is my passion. After graduating high school, I chose to study fine arts and graphic design, even though my mother didn't want me to. She accepted it after a while, because she saw that I really wanted to do this, and more importantly, I loved doing this. I will graduate this year from university (it was my greatest decision so far), but my family is still doubtful about my career, because they don't believe that there is a way to make money from art.
You know, I think that you should pursue your passion as well, for example, going to music school would be a great start. You should definitely practice a lot, sing a lot, and DO WHAT YOU LOVE!!!
I understand that you don't want to be a failure for your parents (I am also a failure in my mother's eyes because she doesn't believe in art), but the point is that you should take the first step, and just do it. They will realize that you are driven, passionate, because you are doing what you really love.
I really support you, I suggest you practice every day a lot, apply to music school practice an instrument, upload videos of you singing on UA-cam, gain a supporting team... I've heard you singing, you are really talented!!! I subscribed to your channel, hoping to see more. I really hope that you will follow your dreams and start doing what you really love.
P.S. : I really recommend you to watch videos like this one, they can help a lot.
F.E.A.R
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- F = False
- E = Evidence
- A = Appearing
- R = Real
Thank you.
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@@stuntclub1526 na man Fear comes with a lot of meaning sooooooo
Fail Elevate And Realize
@@justmeandmyhomies1533 yes👷♀️👷♀️
Wow I love how deep this video went, no fluff, love it!
1. The fear of loss
2. The fear of process
3. The fear of outcome
Thanks again Brendon!
Much love from Bali ❤️
In all my years of struggling with fear, I’ve never had anyone explain fear to me so well. It makes so much sense! God bless you!
It’s crazy cause I be in fear just looking for videos to help me fearing that I won’t get it and still sitting in the same situation. It’s time for me to face everything and rise
One way to overcome fear is by saying prayers. It's high positive thinking: "O Lord! Protect us from what lieth in front of us and behind us, above our heads, on our right, on our left, below our feet and every other side to which we are exposed. Verily, Thy protection over all things is unfailing." - The Bab, Baha’i Prayers, p. 133
Blah blah God ain't real
that doesn't help athiests
See the world's order. Basic logic reveals that all thing have a Maker. The Maker is superior to that which is made. Superior Messengers are sent every 500-1000 years to guide & help us .
dude I think you are so right
+LearnEnglishESL define messengers
I literally failed at Nursing School in Undergrad. Fast forward 11 years later and becoming a nurse is all I think about, but I am scared shitless. I must focus on the rewards, not the process. I needed to see this video. Thank you so much!
The thing is that, your fear is only on your mind. You are letting your mind consume you. You should be in control of your own thoughts, do not let your own thoughts startle you. You are way bigger than what you fear.
Fear is an illusion...it's actually just your imagination the real thing that existed is nervousness
So you doing the gainer off the 50 foot cliff?
Fear is unbelief
Yeah I believe in you
Yeah I belive 👍👍
@@crymeariver546 i’m here for same sorta thing
Wow, this helped me so much! Today I overcame my fear, and did what I was afraid of. I was so surprised to see how amazing it felt!
There are so many paralyzing fears I’ve faced and had to overcome. I had no choice because the fear of an empty life is far more terrifying. After doing this work for so many years (and coaching women in it), I’ve come to see exactly what Brendon’s saying here: it’s JUST a thought. My brain has random thoughts all the time. The difference is which I give time and attention to. With practice, the thoughts/fears don’t go away, but they do lose power. You start to realize you’re trying to ignore or reason with or “overcome” a monster under the bed, when there is in fact no monster at all. 😆
Tara, that's a super illustration of what I call Anticipatory Fear.
My fear is talking to people or in front of a lot of people....embarrassing myself, waterslides, spiders. But most of all losing someone I love
omg thanks! do soo did help i have a speech today that i have to say in front of hundreds of people and everytime i do this i get REALLY nervous.... and when i talk i swallow IN THE MIDDLE OF A WORD i swallow while i'm taking in the middle of a word. and i remeber the first time i did the swallowing thing and i keep doing it EVERYTIME!
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This man is such a blessing! Thank God for him.
learning to focus on what we will gain, not what we lose.
Thank you for sharing. WELL DONE
I'm so afraid of the dark. I turn my light off and finally start to relax and then I panic and turn my light back on.
Same
I watched pennywise and since then im so scared
You aren’t scared of the dark.... you’re just scared about what could be in the dark, scared of what lives in the dark and that is a fact.
Don’t worry about it....lots of people are afraid of the dark...truly, not a big deal...just keep a light on...I’m a teensy bit afraid too, I need some sort of soft light streaming into my room....and I freak out more if I watch a horror movie....then I need to sleep with the room light on....but I think it’s a non important fear....it’s like being afraid of moths....big whoopie
I had a dream or nightmare I should say I was in my bed I woke up a dark figure is starting at me this has happened for a long time everyday I see this when I sleep I stopped sleeping correctly it feels like it's killing me I feel pain.
This is true! Feel the fear and do it anyway. I am at a point in my life where I can no longer live in fear. Just be who you are authentically and live your life. It's amazing once you stay connected to who you are. Your videos rock Brendon! Thank you! :)
6 Years ago, you inspired me to think positively. Through these 6 years I experienced my worst deppression. I consistantly devalued myself, telling myself that what I did was not enough. It was all because of fear. I was fearfull of being nothing while at the time I had the most I could ever want.
I remember every night crying and every day thinking if I should quit what I am doing. My self esteem wrecked itself and my body already had really bad stress symptoms to the point where my hands where shaking daily. I quit all of my daily routines and ignored reality for half a year. Now I am standing stronger then ever but today I felt that fear again.
Hope you’re doing much better now!
I'm really afraid of the dark or living in a big house because in a big house I think someone will break in or in the dark I think there is someone there like a ghost
Looking at me
same bro
Just think about it with logic ghosts make no senes and are made up by humans that that thought helped me get over my fear of the dark. The big house part i cant answer since i do not fear death.
OMG I KNOW
Zeven Zavonis JUST LIKE LIGHTS OUT, IM NOW SCARED OF THE DARK, TO KEEP MY LIGHT ON I WILL HELP PAY THE BILLS
Crazy how this video has 7 yrs of being posted but still it's the most helpful I´ve found! I am afraid of heights but I am slowly travelling to this places that are really high above sea level and on Wednesday I will try the most difficult road until now for me. I used to think the what if and the negative thought but now I only think about the what if and immediately see myself admiring incredible landscapes as well as visualizing myself finishing this trip and not being able to stop smiling!!!
Tell us about how that experience went! Or I guess you had so much more trips that you don’t remember now what was that trip!
God bless you
Fear is a unconscious mechanism evolutionarily designed to help us survive. The problem is that it’s an extremely over sensitive instrument, and often triggers in situations where fear is counterproductive. That’s why we must practice the ability of consciously separating ourselves from our fear when it isn’t helpful. In these situations, we can remind ourselves that fear is just an emotion generated by a mechanism we cannot control. It’s an uncomfortable force being exerted on us that we can overcome if we so choose.
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The problem is "fear", feels really bad.. Very sick to your stomach and many body symptoms.
I've been sick all year long with anxiety. Im nauseous every day and my biggest fear is throwing up. I hate my fear, my fear makes me feel so weak. I can't stand it. I'm embarrassed to even talk about my fear to anyone. Please someone, anyone give me advice on how to conquer my fear 🙏
Just throw up when you throw up you'll be like woah it feels better
thats the thing its just nausea every day
I suffer from the same thing! If u live in a medical marijuana state you can try to get your hands on a prescription for cannabis. It really helps with anxiety especially for stomach pain. If your anxieties. That in your stomach is flaring up, the medical cannabis may help you keep your food down and get a start to your day. It is medicine its not a druggie culture anymore
watch videos of Jiddu Krishnamurthi about fear. The only way is to observe fear as it happens. Then you'll see you are not the fear. You are the one who sees fear...
as you accept fear, it no longer disturbs you. This applies for any condition such as stress, anxiety, etc.
also i suggest osho and mooji
***** Accept your anxiety and stress imma.
Totally.
Let it flow all towards you and you just be the witness of it.
Accept yourself as you are.
Dont try to relax. Accept the way you stand,Breathe, feel.
Accept everything thats happening inside you.
Such a simple video yet such powerful words. Thank you for this video and sharing your knowledge, Truly.
This message deserves to be repeated regularly Brendan...
Yes! Tune out of the networks and the constant bombardment of fear-talk and tune into Brendon! You rock as always Brendon! Thank you.
Fear is so real to me the feel is so real and over powering for me . Its a struggle but this helps me look at it in a different way . The pain I felt makes fear so powerful.
Great video I enjoyed it, my greatest fear is coming out of the box (coming out of my comfort zone) being fearful of how others will view me
Man, you are so motivational!!!
true
Only people with money can start a business. Us poor people have to rob banks to get things done. It's a conundrum, isn't it? I don't know if you can change your paradigm to become rich or not.
Thank you for this. Imma face my fear's now coz I've been having this fear in me ,the fear of failure and being laughed at and the anxiety too... Soon ill be back here and say I did it
Every time i watch this my stress and fear just flows away.
My fear is so powerful that even when I am so blessed with so many people who truly Love me, that in my mind I still feel unworthy.
Nobody really sees this because I am a great actress. My closest loves ones say I am a tower of strength and love. I believe I have it in me to feel worthy. But there is a constant war within me.
I believe if you listen to what God says about you, you can learn to be more confident in yourself on the inside. I to also do the same thing but my God tells me I am enough and it helps calm me.
Fear is something you let go of. Best way to do it is to accept it and allow it to be there. The more you resist it will persist
I needed this video to personally overcome fear and that piece of art just helped me ! Thanks a lot Brendon . Blessings for everybody !
Brendon you just don't know how much this video changed my whole outlook on my fears. I instantly feel like I can face them fearlessly now... Shift your mind from negative thinking and focus on the positives. Very powerful message. Keep blessing us with your wisdom.
I want to start my own business and fear of failure was stoping me and this honestly helped, thank you :)
Great
I think you should start that business. Do not let your fear hinder you from doing something great. Fear is only on your mind, it manipulates you to fail. Find your inner strength and fight it. You are bigger than your fear.
@@thenewcedric Thank you 😊
@@jennifercalixto9970 You're most welcome. I want you to believe in yourself because that's the key that would open a lot of doors towards success. Anyway, if I could make a video on something that could help you. What would that be?
@@thenewcedric if you could make a video in how to be persistent it would be nice
I love these bits of wisdom and encouragement. Tucked in are solid gold nuggets we can use to move away from fear and towards a joyously charged life. I really appreciate your time and effort on our behalf, Brendon. Very nicely done. Class - nothing but class.
Thanks James. I hope you'll pass 'em on to whomever might need them. Thanks for taking the time to say so, too. I appreciate it.
Here's one I have been dealing with for the past few years: a few years ago I had an accident where I broke both my legs, after a few months of revalidation I was walking again no problem but then the real nightmare happened : I started having panic attacks and I suddenly became terrified of walking, and at one point It got so bad that even just standing up from my wheelchair would terrify me. So I'm a few years later now and I don't have the panic attacks, and I can walk however there is a catch. I still have an overwhelming fear of walking alone, I've got no problem when someone gives me their hand or even a finger to hold but as soon as they are gone I freeze and panic again. And I don't use crutches because I broke my legs using them so I don't even trust them anymore. I've come a long way from where I was and I've learnt alot but I'm still not where I want and I'm only 17. So how can you overcome a fear of something as important as walking? How can fear still get the best of you when you've been fighting it for so long? Sometimes it really gets to me and I feel overwhelmed but I know I'll reach the finish line, but I just can't see it yet.
Hi there, Well done for you to facing your fear and not giving up. Have you ever tried hypnosis to reveal why you are having this attacks?
@@didge74 I have tried something that's considered hipnosis, it's were they tie feelings to past lives (if you believe in that stuff, you kinda just have to be open minded about it) and memories and they rewrite the way you feel about it and in return it changes the way you feel about the present
I'm so proud of you for overcoming that, things will definitely get easier as times goes! I'll be praying for you! But know that you have been an inspiration to me, 4 months ago I was in a really bad car accident and recently at physical therapy I've been doing normal things like walking and it scares me so much to the point I just start crying but after reading your comment, I'm ready to try again! Thank you!
@@espyy_arias reading your comment made me smile, didn't think it would give that affect. I hope you find the motivation you need to get through it. Just know that no matter how much time it takes you'll get there, doesn't matter how long as long as you're trying. Don't try and get better on any one else's tempo but your own and remember, it does get better, even if you don't see it yet 😉
@@oOEnderHunterOo thank you so much!!! I will always keep your words close to me during this journey, I truly believe your comment was my sign to keep going. When I woke up this morning I was thinking really negative & I was just overall afraid so I came to this video & but reading your comment is actually what gave me that peace that I can do it too. Have a blessed day 💗
You right I not fear no more am good thank you
My anxiety causes my fear and makes it stronger.I cant overcome.I tried to get over it.I still do.Thank God,I'm ok.
same here, how have you been holding up ?
I am afraid of drowning, having a serious physical injury, being shot when I talk down the road, losing all of my friends, spiders, dying alone and never having enough money to live happily in my own place.
I am genuinely surprised at how good the advice is in this video. Not filled w/ stereotypical phrases & platitudes but a great assessment of what fear really is & what it prevents us from achieving.
Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge with so much people like me Brendon. I'm taking advantage of this.Thank you again!!🤗
Pray for God to heal you.
Jesus doesn't exist though
@@jamboy1843 you believe that, I do believe that he exist
Is this supported to 5 religions?
Ethan Botes shut up do you atheist
@PoLISh JeRRY nice dude you just convinced me the tooth fairy exist as well as Zeus exists because they're in books as well.
I think a big part of having fear is sometimes the worry of what others may think of your decisions. However, that being said, honestly, it doesn't matter what others think. You just have to own your own experience in your life. Other people's projections are exactly that. Without your reaction to their opinions of you, you keep your own power.
I'll just say this is that “what if” didn't do anything "what if" is just an excuse so when u say "what if" think what ur gonna do and do it
My biggest fear is being alone and unloved. But it comes from a rational place because I haven't had a girlfriend in years and it gets harder to talk to women, not out of fear, but out of not knowing how. That's fucking scary.
With God in my life, I may be alone but I am never lonely.
Do not make excuses for your failures. Thats unacceptable. Go out and do it. It's ok to have fear, but it's not ok to yield to it. Good luck to you, my brother from another mother :D
Same
I say this carefully to Vic. If its rejection you fear - by choosing not to reach out to someone, you are only rejecting "taking a chance". Good things seldom happen without a chance of some sort taking place first. If someone says no thanks, its better to know than to wallow in self doubt and wonder if the chance was ever there. As long as someone is kind, and polite, you may be surprised who will be impressed by the confidence alone, taken to merely say hello. Other people are lonely too. Ask someone, may I buy you a coffee? Is this seat taken? Gee, the weather is rough today ... anything ... do it for you ! If you were happy being lonely - you would not have reach out on here - I have my fingers and toes crossed for you ! And it is tough at first, but the more you try, the more natural things will feel. Challenge yourself.
Lexieluthor You're amazing. See, when somebody smarter than you comes along, it serves you well to listen. So I am all ears right now.
I listened to this before but I wasn't READY TO LISTEN TO THIS until now. You have to be mentally ready and boy did this hit home! Thank you!
I have a fear of standing infront of people or talking to other people or asking ppl if i can join in
Mia Maynard that's normal you just have to believe you can do it
Thank you for clearing my mind..
not only he helped us overcome fear he also made an speech to us
i'm afraid of driving the car, it sounds stupid, but for me sitting into a car is horrible and every time i say to myself okay today i will drive i think about the pain that i had last time thus i never do it, it's like a cycle to nothing and so frustrating.. and my friends don't understand me either.. i just can't overcome this fear..
Well you can think of it as your preventing global warming (:
Great, the hippies are here.
The fear overcomes me when I speak English , English is my second language . Any advices?
+PMC_BASIL Make mistakes and have fun! Pick a aspect of English speaking culture which you like and play with it. Japanese is my second language, but I like Japanese comedy and Osaka. People always joke on how I know so much about random things. It's simply fun. Good luck!
+CupcakeLove48 感同身受啊
I needed to hear that today. Thank you!
I saw this guy that said
(If you are afraid of smth then get mad, anger kills fear, get mad at your inability to achieve the things that you want then identify what exactly you are afraid of and break it down into small steps that progressively get harder as you get more competent *
At first I was super skeptical of this guy. I thought I had hit the weird side of UA-cam. (I'm a 13 year old girl, for crying out loud!) But what he was saying started to make sense to me. I had/have a REALLY bad irrational fear of big, open spaces, or rooms with high ceilings, like auditoriums and gymnasiums. Gym class and assemblies were practically torture for me. But after I watched this video, I realized how silly and irrational my fear was. I realized that I wasn't scared of the thing itself, I was scared of the fear that came with it. This really helped me. Thank you SO much.
charlea brooke I'm a 13 year old girl to
astrid I’m glad you overcame your fear! Great job!
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I have a fear of ghosts, spirits, ghouls, dolls etc. I tried watching more horror movies but I'm really scared that I can't sleep without a light or someone I trust near me... Every time I hear a noise I just freak out, and it's not fair
I have the exact same thing, everytime I close my eye alone I will see a ghost or something near me, so I can't sleep alone or in darkness
***** LOL
TWINZIEESS LIKE HECK OMG EVERYTHING YOU SAID WAS SAME AS ME!!
I have a fear of going to 4th grade tomorrow
Renee Gleason LOL good luck with that just stay calm xD
Fear is not just an emotion, it’s a tool. It’s one of the most powerful weapons. If you can learn to over come fear then you can learn to inflict fear. You’ll basically be unstoppable.
Thank you❤
I have severe fear. Every day I live with this thought "Oh god , I feel like passing out , I don't wanna die , I love my life". But I don't have any medical reasons to pass out. I never did. But I am hella afraid of it.
The only thing I'm afraid of, is that something happens to my family.
Family has #1 priority!
Sooo true ❤️ same here ❤️
Started watching this because I've been dealing with what people call HPPD. Ever since bad molly and LSD trips last year in October I've been dealing with a lot of crazy visuals and feelings of depersonalization. I'm unemployed at the moment and I'm usually home alone which makes my anxiety worse. This video really helped me get my head together on the days I've been home alone. Thanks Brendon! You're better than any therapist I've ever had.
To overcome fear :
1. What is your fear ?
2. What is the bad things will happen?
3. How to deal with it ?
Mine is a real shit!!
I have a fear of fear!! I suffer with anxiety/panic attacks and I have a fear of those, and when they are next going to happen. I have somehow made myself have a fear of getting in the car as a passenger for a long journey incase I experience an attack. Now, I have anxiety about it a lot and have this awful feeling of dread and worry and fear come over me every now and again because of how I am.
I need to get this sorted!!
+Jamie White good job , you must know that the first step to overcome a certain fear is to admet you're facing problems with it now all you must do is to train your self to be more relaxed in public .. try music it really helps me a lot
Thanks a lot!! I appreciate it!! I WILL get there.
i came here for the same purpose... this fear is holding me back and surrounds me with negative thoughts all the time ..my hand is getting all sweaty just writing about this. you are not alone let's overcome this! i really do wish to change and I'm trying. let's stand up and face this!
That is spot on!! We can do it!!
Just try to live along side it rather than worrying about it all the time, easier said than done I know!! Exercise is good, I run a bit and that can clear my head!
Mine is a PS1 game of an alien......You think yours shit... :/
I have so many self help books in my life that I though success will just be automatic but yet I still haven’t progressed in my life and I couldn’t understand why until now. Thanx for the revelation Brendon. God bless!
Is anyone else afraid of the ocean and the depths of outer space like there being multiverses out there?
+Bibimbapski yes
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nope. im afraid of all the animals and fishes what we dont know yet in the depths of water
Sunlight if it makes you feel better.
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I'm afraid of drowning.
BE HAPPY & JOYFUL FOR NO REASON. IT'S SIMPLY A CHOICE. FAKE A LAUGH UNTIL YOU CAN FEEL IT MANIFEST, THAN DO IT WHOLE HEARTEDLY.
FEAR CANNOT EXIST AROUND HAPPINESS & JOY, THAT IS UNIVERSAL LAW!!
ALLOW THE TEARS TO BE, THAT'S WHEN IT'S PUREST (A SURRENDERING).
By definition fear is a big scary thing!
I wish i had no feelings.. anger, fear, hunger, pain.
Happy joy or hope
Feeling of hunger? Your body will still get hungry though but you wish to not feel it, so its possible you will die from hunger
You mean you wish you weren't human? :)
ifear somthing bad happening to my family...ifear death
karen chuchu then dont think about death. think positive think about the good things in life think about what you enjoy doing when you have thos thoughts.
King Anthony thanx
i dont fear death but i fear that my family dies
Trashye its not worth your energy... do you know whats worse? never having lived. i would rather live and fear death than have never lived at all... its honestly not worth your time, i honestly think there are worst things than death
Yeah, i get your point.
I fear starting new jobs and thinking I'm not good enough and overthinking that I won't be successful
This city has a factory farm, me and my son have walked past it before - just a few days ago we happened to be nearby and you could hear the poor pigs (hogs) screaming. A few weeks ago we saw this large truck with pigs crowded close together in it - how horrid. Some humans are so damn evil - it's so pathetic.
I'm scared of being alone and the dark. So if you lock me in a dark room I may pass out
Alexa same
*you know darkness cant beat the light💡 so there nothing in the dark can do something to you because guess what you are the light...*
you're not afraid of being along you're afraid of not being alone
Skskks same, i can't stop screaming until im really tired
I stopped smoking one month ago and this video keeps me
Motivated
Thank You
I dont understand why some people disliked this video?
I’m afraid of the truth.
I still don’t believe my mom passed away...she’s alive..just..lost...
Yeah she lives in you...she s not lost,she is with you...more than you realize...that s true...be well friend
Your mom ain't coming back
You are not afraid of truth, you are afraid of feeling certain emotions that come with accepting the truth. And most probably afraid that you won’t get over it...But trust me, you are able to overcome those emotions and that pain. And you are able to be happy after that sad moment in your life. We all have a hard time saying good bye to loved ones.
She is alive because energy doesn't die ,it just transforms.The spirit is forever.
Rafael Herrera that’s mean
This is my favorite video. I will always come back here and watch you bec I can relate. I’ve been a super positive person before until I have to deal with adult responsibilities. It consumed me, made me a worrier, made me a different person that I know I’m not. Until when I woke up this morning from nights of less sleep bec I’ve been worrying about things in life, I woke up tired of feeling like this... so now I’m going to try one day at a time to change my mindset and deal with everyday in a positive way. Thank you for sharing your positive, light and bright personality.
I BELIEVE IN JESUS
JESUS IS NOT SCARED OF ANYTHING JESUS BELIEVE IN US WE SHOULD BE BRAVE AND JESUS WILL PROUD OF US ALL😀😀😀
Ok i'll be BRAVE😡😡😡
YOUR RIGHT I SHOULD NOT SCARED
(im not mad im just focusing)
Jakob S No, stop it. Jesus is alive, Jesus the son of God is everlasting just like his father. Don’t take your frustration and anger to comment nonsense on someone’s comment. Do something with your life because in reality you me and everyone we’re all going to be a corpse, but because of those of us who believe and follow God we’re going to be something more.
YơơŋKíʍ ʝɱ that did not make any sense at all
Jakob S thank you 👏🏻
me to i have been a fool i should not be scared
oh yeah if your scared you should not because its your brain that plays joke on you so fear is no real when your scared just say fera is not real
I’m 13, I have a fear of dying and being alone loosing someone someone please give me advice
I’ve gotten told
“If you’re living in fear your not living you’re surviving”
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My friend your living in your imagination your not suppose think that way enjoy them while you can tell them I love you and I don't know what I happened by now but enjoy the other people around you don't be scared.
Accept your fears as what they are, and let go of them
I'm scared that my family will all die because my dad passed away a couple months ago and I'm only 10
Karen Long .... you are so young. God bless you.
Instead of thinking like that, you should try to think a little bit happier and think of ways you can support your family and things you can do that will make you and them happy. Never think negatively. It won't help. Think positively
Karen Long, im really sorry for your loss😔 but everyone in life has a time for them to go. My grandmother died but i wasnt that sad, i knew she died loving me, loving my mom my dad my family :) The good thing is that she died by age. No diseases, no sickness, the time just came:)
Dude i'm only 11 and my mom passed away 9 months ago and now i'm depressed. I feel like i'm way older than 11 aswell.
Don't worry
Remember moments when you accepted fears last Time. Now is the same. Its a same Fear in body and in mind. Nothing diferent. Just diferents images and thoughts. You can choose not believe in this thoughts becouse you know now its thoughts not yours its Fear thoughts.
Fear is an mind gaming, fear is not reality
there is nothing to fear but fear itself.
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And man eating spiders
I came here after watching clown videos
Me to
Sammy Plays Pokémon i came here after watching lights out lmao im done
Sammy Plays Pokémon I came her after watching oksman
I came. Here after watching rezident evil
I came because I was watching Markiplier play SCP containment breach.
Black and white makes this timeless. Thanks for making this.
fear of dying and losing loved ones :(
+Arty Bravo me too bro :(
Same :(
That does go away as you get older, unless you have kids and then you will have it for the rest of your life (lol). Seriously, any decent person has that problem, you need to go through in your mind what's the worst that could happen so that if the worst DOES happen, you feel more prepared for it. But the fear should go down in time.
Arty Bravo same
Same, its driving me insane
F.E.A.R. False Experiences Appearing Real - Tony Robbins
That's clever :)
Edwin Cabrera not true. lol. Cute story though but not real. It’s false evidence appearing real. Which is wrong lol. Their are many things we should be afraid of. Pretending like we shouldn’t is actually dangerous. The blunt truth is you have to face your fears until they break you and rebuild. You. There isn’t a magic trick. Period
False evidence appearing real...les brown he a great man also for motivation
Thank you this is exactly how I feel. Wasn’t sure what exactly what I was afraid of. I kept telling myself in my head it doesn’t exist but still the fear and anxiety takes over keep asking myself why???!!!!! Of what????
I fear i will be nothing in my future because im doing horrible at school. I feel no college will accept me and i wont be able to live my life freely
By no means is school an indication. Focus on your passion and literally devote your entire being to the pursuit and ultimate betterment of that. Good luck.
In anything you do, just work hard to do the best you can do. This will get you far. College is not for everyone and there are plenty of successful people with no college degree. I wish you the best my friend.
thanks for the words, i needed that.
+Dhruv Shah Einstein was shit at math !Did he do nothing ?!?!
Maybe look for some support if you are so bothered about school work maybe you have dyslexia or adhd just suggesting maybe