The Truth About Dating Congolese Women…
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- Опубліковано 19 чер 2024
- The Truth About Dating Congolese Women…
Hey fam!
Soooo today we are talking about Congolese women! I know dating is more about compatibility than anything else, but I also think that the cultures we grow up around affect how we date. So, take a seat as I explain what it means to date a Congolese woman. This is of course just my personal opinion, it’s not the bible. So, feel free to leave your opinions in the comments. You guys know I have always been passionate about showcasing the amazing culture that Congo has and this video is another step forward to achieving that goal. As always, your thoughts are welcomed, so feel free to put them down in the comments! Please do give this video a thumbs up and don’t forget to subscribe and spread the word! Much love!
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As a Nigerian from delta state. You are right. I’m currently dating a Congolese lady which I want to make my wife. She loves me when I did not have nothing and she stood by me.
I’m black American and I’m so in love with Kongolese women! They are so fine and since I traveled to Kongo once I cannot stop thinking about their beauty! ❤ 😍😍😍🥰
I was born and raised in South Africa (out of Congo)
...but everything you said was on point. Because of how we saw our father's lead their families, we automatically expect that from our future partners
Exactly! And it just works well for us that way.
I always like your balanced views. Tu présente bien notre culture.
Glad you do, ndeko!
Congolese women love money is not about they want a man who is responsible Congolese women to much 🙄 money
I agree even though I didn't grow up in Congo ,especially the chasing the guy part,I spoke to a guy first the last day of class because I had a very huge crush on him let's just say it ended horribly never again!
I'm proud to be here today much love from Uganda 🇺🇬
Let stay connected dear friend
OMG YOU ARE SO SPOT ON ‼‼‼
love this, thanks for sharing. This can apply to any African women.
As a Congolese South African I one hundred percent agree with everything that you said. I even found that as I got older and more serious my mindset is exactly like this.
Thank you for tuning in for the premier, family!!! I really enjoyed our chitchats 😂😂😂 Much love to you all and to our late comers 😜😜💙💙💙💙 Sooooo who wants a Congolese girl here? Did this help?
I would but I think my fiancee would slit my throat 😂🤣😂
@@AkinAkin Sorryy 😂 Yes, married men are disqualified 😂😂
Definitely love Congolese women. One of the few culture where speaking your mind gets you somewhere. Some o us are not good at giving hints 😂
@@djbk505 nope it just we never tell someone if we like them unless we get sign from the men lol 🤣
if they are anything like you they must be awesome
VERY VERY TRUEEE😂❤
The part of being "straight forward" omg very accurate.
I like how you touched the surface of the conversation
I am Congolese (Père et Mère) and am married to a Congolese woman best choice I have ever made.
To all the Congolese men out there, get yourself a Congolese lady, I promise you, there will be no more fish fingers you will eat proper food.
To all our Congolese ladies out there, we love and appreciate you very much. 🤍
What abt Congolese women dating black Americans?
@@YaYa_1435 personal choice
@@YaYa_1435I am happily married to one
Well done, good explain.
My sister, glad to see you on a UA-cam channel educating people about our diverse and rich culture. Keep it up!
Thank you so much!
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Great video and tips📝. I’m a new subscriber 🇨🇩❤️
Ii is a brilliant post I have nothing bad to say here.Just great
Nice content. Just subscribed and hoping to see more content about your beautiful country😄. 🇦🇴 🇨🇩
Your sense of humour in the intro is 👌🏿. Did i forget say happy new year felly🤩, oh my how rude of me. In Namibia especially in my culture, you will most likely not be introduced to the family unless you come make your intentions clear ( intention to marry). Its is also seen as disrespect
I learned a lot from this video; now I know what to do/continue doing 😉🤔
Hahaha I’m glad to be of help 👐🏾💁🏾♀️💕
That’s true, I still follow that in my dating, a man being a leader 😊
Eye kin relate with all your expressions love.. it’s only right for A Man to desire to keep his woman 👑 and family sustained and be a conducive Leader 🙏🏾 ❤ nsambwadi
Everything is pretty much true haha nice vid !!
Well this is good. We now know what to expect when dating Conglese women
I am following your advice as a Congolese Canadian. It's going well. I like to initiate contact and I'm enjoying the exchanges.
Interesting.
Cute thumbnail btw.
Gotta visit this beautiful place ✨🗺️🛩️
Thank you for speaking my heart😂👌🏽🥰♥️
😂😂 I’ve got you 🙌🏾💖
I was at a Congolese friend wedding anniversary and b.day yesterday in Tottenham, and It was beautiful. I saw this lady with her aunt, I guess, while parking and in the event hall, now I am not happy I did not approach her to get her number or get to know her.
I will like to attend more Congolese events. I am Nigerian and I think I'll like to go Congolese.
I’m Congolese American and I was thinking this mind set was just me. Now watching this video and reading the comments , it’s definitely just in our blood to be like this 😂
Very nice content what's the name of the song that plays at the end of the video I have been looking for it
Just listen to Congolese rumba and you will know how Congolese are romantic. Men and women. We love love lol
Yes!!! 😂😭 We love love!
Congolese women be hitting different 😍
Born in Congo, raised in America since I was a baby. An from everything you’ve said it’s the same things American women say they want, Men women are around the world want what she saying…. As I say this I honestly contemplate on this information. But it’s
I think you're largely right. There's some individual stuff that will be specific to a specific relationship. You're right about African women in general because the expectation is for the man to be the provider. It's a source of shame if, for example the wife has to support the family while the husband studies. Our Mummy Pig is the only one who can do FuFu. I struggle to learn Congolese cuisine from Fatu because I need a recipe, she can't work with one so she can't communicate that information to me. But in general although she can cook very well I'm the foodie in the house and the better cook.
Indeed! And thank you for sharing a bit about your family with us!
❤❤❤❤ beautiful video
As a Congolese guy I agree with you 100%
You are such an amazing woman and very beautiful might I add …I love your features 👑
I also love the way you express yourself.. you are so full of light that I must say I am most attracted too … i wheal love to get to kno you and honor our conversation
Congolese 🇨🇩 people are very friendly, brilliant and are great great inovators!
Thanks 🩵🇨🇩
We want more of the Kikongo learning videos l can only count to 20 in Kikongo and I want to learn more
Oh! This is noted, ndeko 😇
Seimi Family, Matondo! great video!
I love Congolese woman am Ugandan
Hey is there a name for original Kikongo like there is for the languages and dialects derived from it?
How can I know if I look up “learn Kikongo” if it is original?
You definitely right Dear but you can’t find those traditional women no more as the all been westernized , I agree with you on one thing men have to show up a leadership caractère for a strong congolaise women, no a lazy and a crybaby that won’t work 😂thanks for video its very informative 🙏
Thanks!
Anytime!
Here's a question would you say that that view of dating is based on younger people just starting out? Do you think there's a slightly different mindset, different expectations when the would be couple have been in relationships before, for example 2 divorcees. Your parents are probably my age. Not going to speculate on them exactly but do you think there would be any differences between your dating habits and someone of your Mothers vintage? Again. I don't mean like having a bit on the side, but straight forward dating. As in 2 divorcees or even widows/widowers in their 40's or 50's.
And my take on the romance side. I think the romance has to be backed up by practical. And make her laugh. I love her laughing so I.m biased.
There are truth on the lines u mentioned ; among missing lines ; women can financially take charges without stresses their men until they're covered and outsiders will not be aware the situation;
Unless if u are closest to them.
This si very true about congolese women
Gotta go shopping frequently 😂😊
❤ I like the videos
Yes baby girl you are right it's your boy from Bukavu city.
Im African American and I recently started being involved with a Congolese born woman and I’m actually very excited and hopeful about it. She is so caring and loving. She’s understanding and just peaceful. I get more and more intrigued of her by the day. She seems to be serious with her intentions and tho I know it will come with learning curves and patience I really hope she can be the one!
Wish you luck. We congolese women are loyal
That’s beautiful! Wishing you guys all the best :)
Congratulations! "Congolese" is her citizenship, which can be misleading. There are many ethnicities here and their cultures can be totally different - from matriarchal (Bakongo) to very patriarchal (Baluba). Some ethnicities have historically encouraged their women to actively seek to have kids with foreigners (African or European), and nowadays these women end up having children from different partners out of a wedlock. BTW, her family most likely is going to ask her to pay brideprice for her, before they allow that she gets married to you. Do you know which ethnicity she is?
@@africaine4889 🙄 😂
@@elladapetrosyan9610 true lol
They love the family to know you even you are dating, but money makes difference yup!!!
The gold-digger comment has me cracking up 🤣 😂
Hahaha, very true. I really love the background music, where can I get it from please. I would love to use it too on my UA-cam videos. I hope it's free. I don't want copyright 🤣
Hahah it’s free sis! 👉🏾ua-cam.com/video/aAalgL4OMLk/v-deo.html
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Thanks sis🙏🏽
When it comes to romancing... Congoleses women and Dominican Women have strong similaities. probably because our inhabitants are a mixture of European, AFrican and Native Americans
Nice to know! Thanks for sharing 🙌🏾
I agree
on number 4, it is simpler to say that most ladies want their men to be the one spending for everything...and the lady only consumes...bring responsible has nothing to do with not doing 50/50
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Super helpful! thank you for sharing this! I have a beloved lady from DR Congo and I still really don't know how to express my feelings to her... One time I've been very straightforward actually after visiting her for 3 times; "I understand what you are saying but No, I am not ready for a relationship" she said.
Maybe she is thinking about my skin colour that is white(I am actually suffering to see Africans are looking different to me as a white man but I also understand the issues that white people have caused and made life very hard for Africans and the racism that is too obvious...I am so ashamed because of this and of course, I am against this foolish belief). I think I should give her some time; or kindly ANY SUGGESTIONS that you could give to my case(My apologies that I don't know your name).
To let you know, she fully trusts me. I am getting to her apartment every time and she lives alone. I show my interest to French language and she really get excited! Btw we are both students in Cyprus! "Thanks for reading this"
I am originally from Iran, in the middle east.
omg this is so sweet 🥺🥺
Sweet story! From what you’ve stated here, I’d suggest you just be her friend for now. Give her time and be kind, pause the relationship requests for the moment. I’m sure she’ll come around if you’re patient.
@@CongoTalks243 thank you so much dear♡
Certain Congolese don't merry foreigners. Especially middle eastern people. Sorry to say this. There is something Congolese people have against middle eastern people.
Ya it is nice and good when the man takes care of his love when they are pairing
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Together
Hi mrs beautiful 😻
Could you tell me pls if is needed a transit visa to pass through Kinshasa airport?
Yes, you need visa for whatever reason you're entering the country.
Waou how accurate it is 😅😅😅
I have one. I love her so much 🥰🥰🥰
No 50:50 mindset, the man should do everything, so what do they contribute to the relationship, what value do they add? Again, what is it about Congolese women and bad temper, I'm yet to meet one that isn't dramatic nor get angry easily. The positive I've seen however is that they are loyal.
"so what do they contribute to the relationship" you western people are so transactional, us african woman already know our role as a wife/mother (catering to the home, the emotional state of the family, all domestic things) i would advise you to go back and rewatch the video. she is saying how congolese people believe there are unspoken things one must do in relationships that should feel natural. we will naturally contribute to the relationship because we love our partner, if we ever feel a mechanic need to "think about our value" we will just leave. notice how there are only western podcasters asking things like this and never african born men?
As a Congolese with dual nationality living in South Africa. I will never understand love like this
Make more videos about Congolese women
Very Very trueeeeeeeeeeee
😂
Just my point of view. No fight. Calling a man, irresponsible or immature because he wants to split the bills 50/50 is normal for women, but calling Congolese women lazy or gold diggers is wrong? When we say that women are objects, or private property, they came from man, it is an insult ? I understand why married men in Congo cheat on their wives. At first it's fun to please women, but over time it becomes tiring to stay with a wife, who spends her days in prayer, she trusts her pastor, friends more than her husband, but asks everything to her husband, even toiletry. When these same men look elsewhere, where they can find responsible women who don't mind sharing bills as long as it's for the common good, and love them as they are and not for what they have, it will be these same women who are going to complain that there is no more men available for them. A relationship is about love. All depends on the will, and the means available. Given the financial crisis that the world is going through these days, I am for 50/50 when it comes to the affairs of the house, if I earn more I will pay everything, if I earn less then we split the bills. But when it comes to my personal business, I'm not going to do a 50/50. I'm not going to ask my wife, girlfriend to pay 50% for me to buy a football jersey. One thing i will never steal, kill to satisfy the desire of a woman. I would rather be called irresponsible.
Nah congolewe women mostly have sma businesses on the side. And everybody knows that we are there for our men and support the family because a lot of our men are jobless
she never called a man irresponsible/immature for wanting to split 50/50. she said she likes men who are responsible and know how to lead and then after said she personally wouldnt date a man who went 50/50. rewatch the video, she never conflated the two, so this "diary entry" you left under this comment section is unneeded.
The way I'm looking for a Congolese woman
As I remember when I first met SHE WHO MUST BE OBEYED. on a station platform, definitely smitten. I knew she was going to be going to work at a certain time so I went there to "happen to bump into her" but she arrived by car so came in the back way & I nearly froze to death under a squally hailstone shower. But 6 years later we got married so.
I can't live without my kongolese woman
I never knew Lingala was easier😁
Most congolese loves family...i mean they expect mariage
im 25% congolese!!!!!!!!
😂😂😂👍🏿🖤🖤🖤 brilliant
Wow the western mindset on relationships really do treat it as contracts 😂
Congolese Lady will spend everything on you if you are very committed in the relationship.
Interesting!
Lol really?
Merci Ya Feli
Toyoko 😀😁
Haha anytime yaya 😅
❤
Only if you do not work. But if you work, you will pay for somethings while I pay for somethings.
This tip is not much different than we’re I come from, Igbo Nigerian. 100% same thing. Though things are changing.
Heavenly sweet baby ❤
Lol, I am just listening.
Get me one OMULLO SYLUS from KENYA 🇰🇪 very romantic lou man
The Video is very General about most Women, I'm looking for specifics because Congo Women are like a different breed. The ones I've met are VERY STRANGE. First they won't HUG, they have all the Most Weird thoughts but something as simple as HUG won't happen, they all say it's Congo Tradition🤣🤣🤣 So I'm here thinking there's no way I'm doing this "NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE" THINGY Yet their browsing history is full of Porn, C'Mon NOW🤣🤣
It a disgrace to have sex before marriage in Congolese tradition. Boys/ girls friendship is not allowed.
So true
@@estajeanette7487makes no difference. once married , some cheat anyway. nothing special about that tradition
How can one reach CongoTalk243 by mail?
Hello, I would like to meet Congolese lady for settle life together. I'm from Tanzania
Heyy sister I want to ask you about the bazombo(muzombo) people were they apart of the kingdom of Kongo under bena Kongo Mbanza Kongo?
No they were not under us in Mbanza Kongo. The Zombo are a brand new ethnic group that originated in Kinshasa, DRC.
They claim origins from Kongo but they speak a creole language.
The only true people of the Kongo Kingdom are those in Mbanza Kongo. We are known as the EsiKongo!
@@mbanzakongo8077 what about the Bakongo
@@kongo4294 There is no 'BaKongo' tribe in DRC. They all call themselves something else like Manianga, Lemba, Yombe, Ntandu etc.
Only in Angola we have the EsiKongo who live in the 'zaire province ' of Angola and speak kisikongo. We are the only KONGO and called ourselves KONGO!
Kongo for us means hunter and only that and all Angolan languages same meaning of Kongo.
In DRC 'Kikongo languages' they have many different fake meanings of Kongo 🤦🏽♂️
The 'BaKongo' in DRC are a mixture of people who were once related to the EsiKongo but we have been separated with them since 1660s as they are mixed with many different bantu tribes such as Lunda and Teke etc.
They just kept the name 'Kongo' without even knowing the real history or our culture.
They even speak lingala and claim to be Kongo???
An Mbundu (NDongo) is far closer to an EsiKongo in language and culture than a DRC 'mukongo' is.
@@mbanzakongo8077 so are The Bakongo Today not bena Kongo or from the Kongo kingdom
@@mbanzakongo8077 and thank you for this information I couldn’t find any anywhere where do u get ur information from
True true😅😂😂
So if you wanna approach a Congolese you must right a later ? 🤔🤔 anyway Congolese ladies are beautiful and cool just like you
one of my friend dating congolese girl.. after some time she ruined his Life ... guy is foreigner ... this i am talking about Girls of Kinshasa.. i am not saying all are bad ..but majority are Gold Diggers ...
Ok so
So basically stay away
The ones in Namibia are different cos most of them here going after people's husband, despite they are going to church...nah most of them here are a turn off
I wnt to learn how to speak Congolese
Bro you don’t know how to speak Lingala
Just learn French it mostly spoken in the capital
Learn French
You so beautiful
Wow okay 😅😅
😅😅
Hi
Come right here Congolese women lol
Heri za mwaka mpya
Does the Congolese culture allow men to marry more than one wife
Yes. But it's mostly men with money do that
😂