If you ask me a lot of people knows about Nigeria, South Africa and maybe Rwanda because of the Movie and the genocide that happen over there in the 90's
Generally that's the caveat on how the society accepts it. In the West for example society expects you not to have more children than you can afford to feed If someone in the West has too many children and cannot provide for them all it's considered a personal failing and not an indictment on a child rearing in general
@@jamosss OK, cool. He's very fashionable. I saw him in another video with a Naija woman. They were hilarious. Something about stereotypes of subSaharan Africans.
I’m through now and that was really interesting 🤓 I’m not really sure about the background music and the pacing could be quicker, but the casting on the people you brought in and especially the audio is really amazing! Bringing in Nigeria is a must of course, as it’s the biggest country, but Rwanda and especially Sudan was really appreciated! To sum up, really good video Marina + team 😊
Very interesting! And such beautiful and so different people, too, if I may say! I knew about Algeria that the family of the man has to offer what in my country we call προίκα but the lady's family has to offer to the groom, but I didn't know it's a tradition for the entire Africa! It's so fascinating to see all the different perspectives.
Due to our deep seated South African history, many of us had a British education and therefore I don’t have a typical South African or Indian accent. Personality, I am 5th generation South African so none of us have Indian accents. I would mostly say it’s universal.
@Jé-naine Meyer Accent is more than location. It is also influenced by people around you. An American kid raised in the UK with American parents is likely to have an hybrid American/ British accent. But if he goes to an American school he can even have an American accent.
@@HereDiianas can't speak on the example you gave but in SA, our accents are based on location and the schools we attend regardless of our parents accents. This applies to all races as well. Your example is about two different countries, I'm talking about areas within a country.
Equality on consequences of cheating but not when it comes to the dowry payment and the cost of dating/marriage. Yeah that does not sound like double standards at all.
@@chrystianaw8256 it's the fathers who also request the men to pay for every time you meet a man otherwise you don't want to see him again? Stupid female
Yes because this channel's caucasian owners are trying to enforce their ideology on Africans to accept the invaders as "African". This isn't like American media that itself chooses to show diversity, no this is foreigners IMPOSING diversity on an African country that didn't ask for it.
@@wilerydasilva6367 For the same reason i don't identify as "Black" African man. Africa is farrrrrr to diverse to classify someone as "Black'' African 'cause it's to broad e.g. in my country 99.5% of the population is" Black" sooooooo 🤷🏾♂️
@Friday night LOL, did you even read the comment? In Congo for the Dowry the future's wife family, Uncles and Aunts on top will give a list of things they want to the future husband. So read before you type.
Wow, so much I didn’t know. Had no idea polygamy is still a thing in 2023, yikes. 😮😬 Dowries seem just as antiquated tbh, but still not as shocking as the possibility of having to share a spouse. Can’t get over that one lol.
@@silveryfeather208 clearly you don't know/understand how polygyny works, you're just looking at it from a very simplistic view. In the simplest form, even a woman's body doesn't work in a way that it supports polygamy but let's leave that for another discussion & get to work with facts. The husband in polygyny marries the women, he goes to seek their hands in marriage from their families,the woman & her family are mostly aware that the man practices polygamy. The man takes ABSOLUTE RESPONSIBILITY of taking care & providing for ALL the wives & ALL the children while the women do nothing but just be wives(they won't have to lift a finger for anything). Imagine having to bear the heavy responsibility of taking care of about 10 children, 3 wives & their extended family & a woman who does nothing of the same responsibility says she wants to also have other men? How? She's literally bringing nothing to the table besides being a wife, the husband is dealing with a large number of people he has to take care of & can still afford to say he wants more wives but she's doing nothing & wants other 'husbands'? Is she the one going to take care of those husbands? You have no idea how polygyny works. Like I said, you're just looking at it from a very simple view. Polygyny is not for everyone but those who practice it understand their roles & responsibilities.
Lady on the right I do agree with only in some cases. But I find she is also hypocritical I don't think dude on the left gets it. Yeah, sure he can have as many wives as he want. But the point is why the double standard. If a woman is rich and can afford to keep a lot of man happy, why the social stigma. It should go both ways. And yes, women should take care of their partners too. Anyone should take care of their partner in ways they can. It's such a strange mentality. If my man doesn't make a lot of money but knows how to cook, I would love him. I'm a money maker. I like working. It's OK if men stay at home. But this goes to her point about dating. Everything is equal or go home. Don't preach about equality in one place but not others.
People who don't understand why polygyny (1 man multiple women) is the norm in polygamous societies, and why polyandry (1 woman multiple men) is not accepted, are people who generally really haven't given this topic serious thought The Nigerian man did a good job at explaining why it is how it is but this isn't a very complicated topic. There are countless social and biological factors which give polygyny a significant advantage over polyandry. Most people who object are usually going based on emotions and tend to hold very liberal wishes for society
Biologically it might be the norm. But with DNA testing and modern work, we shouldn't hold on to traditions for the sake of it. I make more money once upon a time than my male coworkers because of my skills. I was more educated. I chose a different career eventually and make the same amount (unionized) so if most women are more educated and eventually make more money (doctors in Canada are skewed female) would polyandry be OK? The lady on the right isn't western and I think many women who object aren't coming from a western view. Sticking to traditions with no explanation just won't do. If any gender can care for their partners they should all go for it.
@@silveryfeather208 1) The lady on the right is very Western, she grew up in Canada and it shows. 2) No amount of modernity will erase biology, unless we literally start to change our DNA to merge the genders into one. Our psychology is also just as hard wired as our biology. Polyandry is made easier with modern technology, but all that has happened is that it has gone from completely impossible to extremely impractical. For polyandry to work you would need to have a barren female, or one who is made barren through medical intervention. And she would have to exclusively date men who do not wish to have children and who also do not mind sharing her sexually. Both those things are counter to the psychology of the man and the woman as they are going against biology. Also the risk of STDs rise dramatically with polyandry, which is not true about polygyny Personally I'm a believer in monogamy, but polygyny can work and it has worked historically. But polyandry is a recipe for disaster
@@emZee1994 You're right, no need to argue with anything. They are fighting against God. "God you're wrong! I know better than you! Men and women are the same! except men should bear all financial responsibility including dowries and paying for everything and support the home emotionally etc but women shouldn't be expected anything because that's sexist!"
@@emZee1994 i'm curious... why is it a problem for a women to have children in a Polyandry. I don't understand what you mean about it going against biology? is it because they would not know who the father is? right now I don't remember the names but I know of several cultures or places where Polyandry is the norm and the children born from it are either considered belonging to the whole family meaning all the men are their fathers or the children are assinged at random to one man but again beacuse is not that improtant since they are considered still a whole family. And about the risk of STDs.... isn't the whole point that the men will only sleep with one woman and nobody else? so how are they going to get STDs if they are all clean? again, not arguing, just curious
@@violettavelvet6972 Good questions, I'll say that 1) Yes figuring out who the father is is going to be a real concern. Yes there are some cultures who get around this issue by seeing the child as exclusively the mothers, or the common child of the village, but this is extremely rare. The culture you're referring to is the Alaskan native Inuits. They did this not from choice but only out of necessity as the extreme climate meant that life expectancy was very short. Generally we only see polyandry in cultures that are found in extreme scenarios. 2) Without the environment pressures, polyandry is extremely distasteful and unpopular to almost all cultures in the world. 99% of men would not be happy about not knowing who their child was, as well as sharing their wife. Polyandry almost always results in violence between the men, if not mandated by the environment. 3) One huge problem with polyandry is that one woman is expected to birth the children of multiple men. In her life span she is likely to birth upwards of 10+ children, this is obviously very dangerous. It makes more sense to spread out the birthing to multiple women. 4) In regards to STDs, if one woman has (for example) 5 husbands, and they are all disease free, a STD can still develop as the mixing of different bacteria will eventually cause the woman to develop a yeast infection. STDs are very dangerous in this scenario as they will quickly spread to each man and in a low tech society this means death for a large amount of people and it means birth defects. 5) Polyandry goes against our evolution. Human beings have evolved to be mainly monogamous, with small bursts of polygyny being used as needed. Polygyny is most useful when the male population is too low, such as after a famine or after a war. But long term polygyny is generally very unpopular with men, as the majority of men will be left without a partner and this will again result in violence
We have a huge Indian population in SA due to the British and Dutch bringing them over for labour. The rainbow nation (a term coined by Mandela) prides itself in our individual identities and cultures whilst bringing us together as SAns
Your South African representatives are always disappointing as a South African, I never feel represented by them as they usually aren't very culturally South African
Rwandan girl is annoyingly woke, you can tell she grew up in the West. First she tried to preach equality in polygamy, which is a laughable concept becuase polygamy is almost always expressed as polygyny by all animals who do it. And the core concept of it is inequality, the whole idea was about alpha males hoarding women and blocking sexual access to them. Even today polygynous marriages are done as a way to express wealth and status. In the West we do polygyny as well but not formally in marriage but informally through hook up culture Secondly she tried to pass off the dowry as "not buying the woman" when in reality we know that's exactly where the dowry system started from. For 99% of human history the woman was property, it's pointless to try to rewrite history. The dowry was developed as a way to civilise male interactions when it came to the topic of sexual access to females. In the past the alpha male got many wives exclusively through violence, which is not a good method if you want to build a society. The dowry allowed for the exchange of females without it being seen as a loss in honour to the male who was giving up that property, as he was being reimbursed. Of course today it's almost always done simply as tradition (in the West at least) EDIT: All her progressive liberalism and equality preaching went out the window immediately when talking about who pays for the first date. As soon as she was pressured to apply equality in an area which didn't benefit her she immediately abandoned it. She can't talk about double standards in gender relations if she has her own. Either you believe in complete equality or you don't, and I have yet to meet anyone who genuinely believes in complete equality
But with today laws in which the marriage is a time bomb which the females can activate at any moment and destroy completely the husband, have no more sense to legally marry females.
But that's how we think in Rwanda because in the first place polygamy is not allowed in Rwanda because we respect our women She definitely grew up in Rwanda
Cringe how you put an obviously ehnically Indian woman in there.. Plus that Sudanese is way too light to even be Sudanese. He is mixed or just a Sudanese with majority Arab DNA (which is Rare). I wouldn’t consider the Indian girl as african..
What hypocrisy!! Are you using your western yardstick to judge cultures that do not agree or relate with you guys? Who (or what authority) defines whose culture is backward or not?
@@_MC529 who cares...culture doesn't have to be westernized. Doweries aren't particularly offensive to females. You foreigners shouldn't tell us how to go about our culture. You've done too much on this. 🙄🙄🙄🙄 we're urbanizing, that's enough. Now shoo... You're the least eligible person to complain, if you were one of us it's viable but you?? Please excuse yourself from the chat
I love that this includes African countries that aren't so mainstream or well-known. I love learning about places that aren't in the limelight.
Maybe they need to update themselves on the map 😅
@@lionelsheja6381 All of these countries are on the map, what are you talking about 🤬
@@ugwuanyicollins6136 that has got nothing to do with what I wrote.
All these countries are very mainstream
If you ask me a lot of people knows about Nigeria, South Africa and maybe Rwanda because of the Movie and the genocide that happen over there in the 90's
Thank you for posting viewpoints from those of African countries. Much appreciated!
Natsomi is so gorgeous 😍 ❤. Beautiful smile❤. Much love from Angola🇦🇴
The rwandan girl looks perfect 💚👀
She is gorgeous 🥵😍
@@JUST-LAUREyes of course
Natsomiiii she ate it❤️❤️❤️😍😍 love from Angola🇦🇴🇦🇴!!
The girl from Rwanda has Such an amazing skin!
Because you don't see from close distance
She generally is gorgeous 😍
I love this Mina guy from Sudan!!! Such a nice smile 😁
Me too, he seems so sweet.
RWANDANS where u at? 🎉
This video can teach African-Americans including me about dating. Thank you, Dating Beyond Borders. : )
"If i have 10 women that means i'm rich enough to take care of all of them" oh man 😅
LoL
Generally that's the caveat on how the society accepts it. In the West for example society expects you not to have more children than you can afford to feed
If someone in the West has too many children and cannot provide for them all it's considered a personal failing and not an indictment on a child rearing in general
As a Nigerian, this made me pretty hype😌. I like the Angolan girl and the Rwandan girl seems rather...progressive😂
Why is the Naija man wearing a coat??
@@benjaminsmith2287 just his fashion sense. Some Africans dress like this😌
@@jamosss OK, cool. He's very fashionable. I saw him in another video with a Naija woman. They were hilarious. Something about stereotypes of subSaharan Africans.
we are from Continent bro😂❤🎉
Lived in Rwanda for a year and I loved every minute of it :) The dating as well 😏
i know natsomi! shes amazing
The girl from Angola is so beautiful and has such calm energy. I like her.
Shout out to Natsomi 🇦🇴❤️
Natsomiiiii!!! My sis❤
I’m just 30 seconds into the video but I’m already LOVING the music 🤩
I’m through now and that was really interesting 🤓 I’m not really sure about the background music and the pacing could be quicker, but the casting on the people you brought in and especially the audio is really amazing! Bringing in Nigeria is a must of course, as it’s the biggest country, but Rwanda and especially Sudan was really appreciated!
To sum up, really good video Marina + team 😊
Love love NATSOMI and Nadia💕
Very interesting! And such beautiful and so different people, too, if I may say!
I knew about Algeria that the family of the man has to offer what in my country we call προίκα but the lady's family has to offer to the groom, but I didn't know it's a tradition for the entire Africa! It's so fascinating to see all the different perspectives.
Big up from ❤ Angola 🇦🇴🇦🇴🇦🇴
Should have invited a Kenyan to teach you about character development phenomena in Nairobi Dating
Nadia: Polygamy is unfair because women don't get to do it! Equality!
Also Nadia: Bring me cattle, pay for my meals.
Happy Friday, Marina! Happy St. Patrick's day, Marina 🇮🇪 🍻 🍀
I love love love Natsomi🥰🥰
Natsomi better represent! 🙌🏾🇦🇴❤️❤️
In Nigeria I agree that we don’t let women pay for anything. Nigerians raise theirs sons to take care of any expense even if the woman is richer
This place is hell 2.0 man I gotta escape South Africa quick! Love ya Canada 🇨🇦
Girls from Angola and Rwanda are tall and beautiful ❤I wonder what is their height?! 🤔😇
In Angola it’s not common to be as tall as Natsomi she’s an exception
@@Momomutchi she is beautiful! Tall girls are awesome!
@@Momomutchi There is an Angolan ethnic group where people are very tall but I don't remember which one it is
@@pauvermelhothats why his saying its not so common im angolan and tep its true
@@Momomutchimean while Nadia is the a mid height of Rwandan girls 😂
Rwandan girl is plain beautiful.
My wife is Rwandan. Nadia is right about everything.
Great video!
One of the best...
Kigali we share 🇷🇼
So interesting
La chica de Rwanda es lo mas lindo que hay.
Rwandan women are known to be beautiful 😊
We are handsome's and beautiful s
We also caled lobola in angola 🇦🇴 but some angolans cant let that portugues go 🤦♂️
Is that a typical South African Indian accent? my impression of such accent is loosen Indian pruniciation with british Intonations
Due to our deep seated South African history, many of us had a British education and therefore I don’t have a typical South African or Indian accent. Personality, I am 5th generation South African so none of us have Indian accents. I would mostly say it’s universal.
Our accents are based on where you were raised regardless of race. She sounds like she is from Durban but more the suburbs
@Jé-naine Meyer Accent is more than location. It is also influenced by people around you. An American kid raised in the UK with American parents is likely to have an hybrid American/ British accent. But if he goes to an American school he can even have an American accent.
@@HereDiianas can't speak on the example you gave but in SA, our accents are based on location and the schools we attend regardless of our parents accents. This applies to all races as well. Your example is about two different countries, I'm talking about areas within a country.
Equality on consequences of cheating but not when it comes to the dowry payment and the cost of dating/marriage. Yeah that does not sound like double standards at all.
Females 🤦♂️🤦♂️🤣🤣🤣
It's the fathers of African women who require dowry payment, so take it up with your own sex.
@@chrystianaw8256 it's the fathers who also request the men to pay for every time you meet a man otherwise you don't want to see him again? Stupid female
@@chrystianaw8256 Yes while the mothers are always like ''No just let him marry her for free we don't need cows or goats or money''
@@chrystianaw8256 lmao you’re joking right? you don’t think the mothers require and demand for it also if not more??
There’s so many men with multiple wives i Sudan , and people do date in Sudan and use social media to speak to one another
Shoutout to Rwanda
Nadia is gorgeous 😍😍😍
damn, that Rwandan woman is hot...
Kigali we share😅 indeed
1:17 lol
I liked that nigerian guy 😂
Shout out to the Nigerian guy
I wonder why he wore a coat though.....would have taken it off for the interview else he was planning to stand out
@@reezndukwe9339 Because Nigerians stand out wherever we go and we dress down for no one. You jealous or something
They never have black South Africans
South Africa we are diverse come now
I see a lot of black french also. Are you going to complain with the Sudanese too?
Don't be upset maybe during the summer he gets darker 👍
Yes because this channel's caucasian owners are trying to enforce their ideology on Africans to accept the invaders as "African". This isn't like American media that itself chooses to show diversity, no this is foreigners IMPOSING diversity on an African country that didn't ask for it.
@@regomoditswemolai5168 not as diverse as Nigeria, just saying
@@regomoditswemolai5168 yet we are 99.5% Native Nigerians
Terrible comment section 👎 nice video though
Can u make Dating Afghan Girl plz
Alambamento:
O Homem alomba com as despesas todas
E depois ela tem que alombar com o homem na noite de núpcias...🤷♂
É a vida 🤷♂
A irmã é alta..... qual é a etnia dela?
Angolana
@@wilerydasilva6367 angolan is not an ethnicity
@@ugwuanyicollins6136 yep sorry she’s BLACK AFRICAN
@@wilerydasilva6367 again not an ethnic group
@@wilerydasilva6367 For the same reason i don't identify as "Black" African man. Africa is farrrrrr to diverse to classify someone as "Black'' African 'cause it's to broad e.g. in my country 99.5% of the population is" Black" sooooooo 🤷🏾♂️
Gender equality!
You know in my culture... Eritrea, the woman pays the dowry. But the man gets the woman the gold
Natsomi 🇦🇴🇦🇴🇦🇴🇦🇴🇦🇴❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Sighhhh nigeria needs to work on morals ohhh. We cant be like the west ohh...the youth need to wake up
Angolan are like congolese. Yes, they will get a list.
@Friday night LOL, did you even read the comment? In Congo for the Dowry the future's wife family, Uncles and Aunts on top will give a list of things they want to the future husband. So read before you type.
Wow, so much I didn’t know. Had no idea polygamy is still a thing in 2023, yikes. 😮😬
Dowries seem just as antiquated tbh, but still not as shocking as the possibility of having to share a spouse. Can’t get over that one lol.
That's the thing about culture, things vary from place to place. It's the same way, we can't understand same-sex marriage.
So what, Euro centrist, so what
You like double standards i see
I'm fine with sharing spouses if you are not hypocritical about it. You can't have multiple ladies then get mad that your ladies are doing the same
@@silveryfeather208 clearly you don't know/understand how polygyny works, you're just looking at it from a very simplistic view. In the simplest form, even a woman's body doesn't work in a way that it supports polygamy but let's leave that for another discussion & get to work with facts.
The husband in polygyny marries the women, he goes to seek their hands in marriage from their families,the woman & her family are mostly aware that the man practices polygamy. The man takes ABSOLUTE RESPONSIBILITY of taking care & providing for ALL the wives & ALL the children while the women do nothing but just be wives(they won't have to lift a finger for anything). Imagine having to bear the heavy responsibility of taking care of about 10 children, 3 wives & their extended family & a woman who does nothing of the same responsibility says she wants to also have other men? How? She's literally bringing nothing to the table besides being a wife, the husband is dealing with a large number of people he has to take care of & can still afford to say he wants more wives but she's doing nothing & wants other 'husbands'? Is she the one going to take care of those husbands?
You have no idea how polygyny works. Like I said, you're just looking at it from a very simple view. Polygyny is not for everyone but those who practice it understand their roles & responsibilities.
Sounds like more trouble than its worth.
I think at least one north African country should be included because it's still Africa 😅
Well in this channel they consider Sudan as a North African country since it was included in the North African video.
Nigérians are very similar dating views with Congo 🇨🇬🇨🇩, Cameroon and Central African Republic.
the nigerian guy is a sell out to others nigerian prince 😁
Lady on the right I do agree with only in some cases. But I find she is also hypocritical I don't think dude on the left gets it. Yeah, sure he can have as many wives as he want. But the point is why the double standard. If a woman is rich and can afford to keep a lot of man happy, why the social stigma. It should go both ways. And yes, women should take care of their partners too. Anyone should take care of their partner in ways they can. It's such a strange mentality. If my man doesn't make a lot of money but knows how to cook, I would love him. I'm a money maker. I like working. It's OK if men stay at home. But this goes to her point about dating. Everything is equal or go home. Don't preach about equality in one place but not others.
Oh, the South African girl is Zulu? She looks rather Arab or Indian to me.
She’s Indian.
She is South African, ethnically Idian but obviously she knows the different tribes and culture of her country.
Please read a book
People who don't understand why polygyny (1 man multiple women) is the norm in polygamous societies, and why polyandry (1 woman multiple men) is not accepted, are people who generally really haven't given this topic serious thought
The Nigerian man did a good job at explaining why it is how it is but this isn't a very complicated topic. There are countless social and biological factors which give polygyny a significant advantage over polyandry. Most people who object are usually going based on emotions and tend to hold very liberal wishes for society
Biologically it might be the norm. But with DNA testing and modern work, we shouldn't hold on to traditions for the sake of it. I make more money once upon a time than my male coworkers because of my skills. I was more educated. I chose a different career eventually and make the same amount (unionized) so if most women are more educated and eventually make more money (doctors in Canada are skewed female) would polyandry be OK? The lady on the right isn't western and I think many women who object aren't coming from a western view. Sticking to traditions with no explanation just won't do. If any gender can care for their partners they should all go for it.
@@silveryfeather208 1) The lady on the right is very Western, she grew up in Canada and it shows. 2) No amount of modernity will erase biology, unless we literally start to change our DNA to merge the genders into one. Our psychology is also just as hard wired as our biology. Polyandry is made easier with modern technology, but all that has happened is that it has gone from completely impossible to extremely impractical. For polyandry to work you would need to have a barren female, or one who is made barren through medical intervention. And she would have to exclusively date men who do not wish to have children and who also do not mind sharing her sexually. Both those things are counter to the psychology of the man and the woman as they are going against biology. Also the risk of STDs rise dramatically with polyandry, which is not true about polygyny
Personally I'm a believer in monogamy, but polygyny can work and it has worked historically. But polyandry is a recipe for disaster
@@emZee1994 You're right, no need to argue with anything. They are fighting against God. "God you're wrong! I know better than you! Men and women are the same! except men should bear all financial responsibility including dowries and paying for everything and support the home emotionally etc but women shouldn't be expected anything because that's sexist!"
@@emZee1994 i'm curious... why is it a problem for a women to have children in a Polyandry. I don't understand what you mean about it going against biology? is it because they would not know who the father is? right now I don't remember the names but I know of several cultures or places where Polyandry is the norm and the children born from it are either considered belonging to the whole family meaning all the men are their fathers or the children are assinged at random to one man but again beacuse is not that improtant since they are considered still a whole family. And about the risk of STDs.... isn't the whole point that the men will only sleep with one woman and nobody else? so how are they going to get STDs if they are all clean? again, not arguing, just curious
@@violettavelvet6972 Good questions, I'll say that 1) Yes figuring out who the father is is going to be a real concern. Yes there are some cultures who get around this issue by seeing the child as exclusively the mothers, or the common child of the village, but this is extremely rare. The culture you're referring to is the Alaskan native Inuits. They did this not from choice but only out of necessity as the extreme climate meant that life expectancy was very short. Generally we only see polyandry in cultures that are found in extreme scenarios. 2) Without the environment pressures, polyandry is extremely distasteful and unpopular to almost all cultures in the world. 99% of men would not be happy about not knowing who their child was, as well as sharing their wife. Polyandry almost always results in violence between the men, if not mandated by the environment. 3) One huge problem with polyandry is that one woman is expected to birth the children of multiple men. In her life span she is likely to birth upwards of 10+ children, this is obviously very dangerous. It makes more sense to spread out the birthing to multiple women. 4) In regards to STDs, if one woman has (for example) 5 husbands, and they are all disease free, a STD can still develop as the mixing of different bacteria will eventually cause the woman to develop a yeast infection. STDs are very dangerous in this scenario as they will quickly spread to each man and in a low tech society this means death for a large amount of people and it means birth defects. 5) Polyandry goes against our evolution. Human beings have evolved to be mainly monogamous, with small bursts of polygyny being used as needed. Polygyny is most useful when the male population is too low, such as after a famine or after a war. But long term polygyny is generally very unpopular with men, as the majority of men will be left without a partner and this will again result in violence
varushka from SA? lol
We have a huge Indian population in SA due to the British and Dutch bringing them over for labour. The rainbow nation (a term coined by Mandela) prides itself in our individual identities and cultures whilst bringing us together as SAns
I do NOT agree with polygamy, but everything else is great!
Why
Euro centrist "morality" strikes again
First
Your South African representatives are always disappointing as a South African, I never feel represented by them as they usually aren't very culturally South African
Yall gotta bring the real people to represent the country she is india
Rwandan girl is annoyingly woke, you can tell she grew up in the West. First she tried to preach equality in polygamy, which is a laughable concept becuase polygamy is almost always expressed as polygyny by all animals who do it. And the core concept of it is inequality, the whole idea was about alpha males hoarding women and blocking sexual access to them. Even today polygynous marriages are done as a way to express wealth and status. In the West we do polygyny as well but not formally in marriage but informally through hook up culture
Secondly she tried to pass off the dowry as "not buying the woman" when in reality we know that's exactly where the dowry system started from. For 99% of human history the woman was property, it's pointless to try to rewrite history. The dowry was developed as a way to civilise male interactions when it came to the topic of sexual access to females. In the past the alpha male got many wives exclusively through violence, which is not a good method if you want to build a society. The dowry allowed for the exchange of females without it being seen as a loss in honour to the male who was giving up that property, as he was being reimbursed. Of course today it's almost always done simply as tradition (in the West at least)
EDIT: All her progressive liberalism and equality preaching went out the window immediately when talking about who pays for the first date. As soon as she was pressured to apply equality in an area which didn't benefit her she immediately abandoned it. She can't talk about double standards in gender relations if she has her own. Either you believe in complete equality or you don't, and I have yet to meet anyone who genuinely believes in complete equality
But with today laws in which the marriage is a time bomb which the females can activate at any moment and destroy completely the husband, have no more sense to legally marry females.
But that's how we think in Rwanda because in the first place polygamy is not allowed in Rwanda because we respect our women
She definitely grew up in Rwanda
Cringe how you put an obviously ehnically Indian woman in there..
Plus that Sudanese is way too light to even be Sudanese. He is mixed or just a Sudanese with majority Arab DNA (which is Rare).
I wouldn’t consider the Indian girl as african..
She was born in South Africa. There are different ethnicities living in SA. ☺️
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Talking about Africans it’s better to bring indigenous people.
As nice as these people seem, their countries are still very backwards... Especially the dowries, polygamy and financial responsibility... ridiculous
What hypocrisy!! Are you using your western yardstick to judge cultures that do not agree or relate with you guys? Who (or what authority) defines whose culture is backward or not?
It's not backwards. It's culture
@@JemimaNta it's not in accord with the 21st century. Sexism and discrimination are rampaging
@@_MC529 who cares...culture doesn't have to be westernized. Doweries aren't particularly offensive to females. You foreigners shouldn't tell us how to go about our culture. You've done too much on this. 🙄🙄🙄🙄 we're urbanizing, that's enough. Now shoo... You're the least eligible person to complain, if you were one of us it's viable but you?? Please excuse yourself from the chat
@@_MC529 just shut up
yet again you people fumble with south africa 🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️
Nah, bro she respected us very well. You triping
interesting… no sex into marriage … that’s a good thing y’all love y’all bodies 🫶🏼 .
Yesssss. I would never have sex before marriage.