Hills and Valleys | Carla Rockmore
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- Опубліковано 4 жов 2023
- Hills and valleys. It's so important recognize that when you're going through it, that you are strong enough to survive. At a certain point, you will find joy again. Enjoy and appreciate those hills. Enjoy the climb getting there. Recognize that valleys take time, patience, commitment and strength to crawl out of. You will reach another hill in time ❤️❤️❤️
PS...Ivy is doing very well!! She's happy and healthy ❤️💋...she experienced the freshman "first few weeks" ups and downs, and is now on that hill 😅😂❤️❤️❤️... - Навчання та стиль
Not all storms come to disrupt our life, some come to clear our path. 🌻😊
love that💕
We don’t have to be constantly on the move. We don’t have to be searching for the next big thing. It’s okay to be now, it’s okay to be low, it is okay to question. It is okay to not be okay. Recognize the little moments that make us stronger.💜
Yes yes and yes ❤️
There are no highs if there are no lows... everything will be allright.
And Ivy rocks. Just like her mother. ❤
Yes indeed. Xoxo
This vid says something we all need to remember.
I think it's common in the first month of Uni for most, if not everyone, to experience that huge doubt. What's amazing though is that you've given your daughter the confidence she can speak to you, and the trust to lay out her vulnerability and know she'll be heard.
Sending you both lots of love as you get to grips with this milestone and the changes / introspection it brings
Thank you for this message honey❤️
This really is important though because I know that I had doubts and troubles in college but my mom was the last person I could talk to. You really need to know that the support you've given Ivy has been wonderful, beautiful and definitely not something everyone can count on!
I'm so happy you have each other because you both seem amazing but I'm glad that wonderful young woman has this deep love and support from her family! Big hugs, k 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️💜
I appreciate you saying this while “underdressed”, too. It shows that one doesn’t always have to be in the ON switch position.
My kids have been gone for four years almost 5, and I’m still in denial… for me, it has not gotten easier, it may even be a little harder.. One moved home, and I think I celebrated and cried secretly. Bravo to Ivy for her self recognition and feelings! One of the hardest times in life was going off to college then, getting out of college and having to adult, and then letting them go to college
Sending love ❤️
I needed to hear that! I hope Ivy is feeling better about her choices! Also hang in there Carla you've got this!
She's doing much better ❤️ thank you honey xx
Like being a man and pretending to be a woman? You people are disgraceful!
You're going to make me cry! I hope you & Ivy reach that next hill soon.
She's already reached it so as have I🥰
I love you & Ivy so very much. You are BOTH very strong and it takes COURAGE to speak out and say, "I'm not okay". PROUD OF YOU BOTH 🙌🙌🙌❣❣ Also, my niece changed her major 3 times freshman year and felt very lost because she was a sweet, kind, people pleaser that had never experienced so much outside energy and pressure before. She was raised in a small town in a small school and then went to a major university. She didn't have the tools really to live in that world. Though she didn't have the exact same strughles that Ivy may be having because they are different women, she did struggle with an eating disorder. Some people can't wait to leave home, some actually enjoy it and going away to school isn't the right fit for them. Ivy is so connected to her Higher self, and emotions, not to mention incredibly brave & grounded. She will find her way, Mama Bird, as you know. In the meantime, thank you for sharing your BEAUTIFUL vulnerability with us 🙏🏻 . A good cleansing cry would probably help you both greatly. I had a temper tantrum the other day because the whole world felt like it was crashing down all around me. Went outside, sat in the driveway and had myself a good cry and it really helped, I even laughed afterwards about how silly it all was...energetically. But clearly my Empathic soul had hit the limit. Will most likely have a good cry again today 😂 ! Astrologically speaking we have all been THROUGH IT this year 🤕 ! Venus has been Retrograde for weeks, since August, but is going direct on the 7th and once she does, we will ALL be feeling a whole lot better. Eclipse season is upon us, so all who radio this, take it easy & just keep breathing...and meditate, get out in nature and ground✌💞😌 .
You said something that I recently uncovered in therapy. I stay BUSY ALL THE TIME too, but I was only avoiding my issues. The way to peace is to be still in your body, your heart and your mind. Keep meditating!!❤❤❤
Meditation has been so great ❤️
Hoping the best for Ivy and you too Carla ❣️
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Our children are constantly teaching us. A blessing. ❤❤
Grateful for that❤️
I’m so glad Ivey has the relationship with you that she can trust you with this. And I bet the advice you gave her wasn’t ‘buck up, buttercup’ but more along the lines of unconditional love and support.
It is hard when your kid calls you from far away and sobs, though. The first time you can’t wrap your arms around them when they cry their heart out is always gut-wrenching. I am 53 years old and the first person (after my husband) I want to talk to when something happens is my mother. She’s heard me ugly-cry over the phone countless times in my adulthood. She’s a ‘buck up’ sort of mom though. Next time, I’ll just call you, Carla. 😊
It is SO HARD ❤️ But learning experiences for all. She is doing much better now! Sending best wishes honey xo
This is so so profound and so very true. My mom always says, this too shall pass which is the same advice I think. Deep breaths
xo
It takes strength to sit with the quiet, or whatever new situations change brings us. You and Ivy are both strong, and strong enough to admit the difficulty you're both facing.
This couldn't be better timed Carla. I've been on a rollercoaster of hills and valleys the last year, more.. to be honest for the last 5 years since losing my brother and only in the last year have I started realizing that I can allow myself to fully enjoy and embrace those hills and not just wallow and wait for the next valley to arrive.. but I've also realized that I get to acknowledge those valleys but I don't need to hyper fixate on them, I can see them as temporary and not a permanent fixture which I think I'd been doing so long it became a habit. Life is too short to let those valley's become the destination.. they're only part of the journey. Sending you love and hugs!!! I hope both you and Ivy and the rest of the family have a better week this week!
I'm a mom too and I just want to say I'm sending all good vibes and prayers to you and your family.
I live a very simple life. We are poor and I get nearly all of my fashion from thrifting. Your videos are such a bright spot in my day. I thank you ❤️
Aw thank you so much for this message honey❤️ sending love xoxo
I’ve been through a terrible year so far finally seeing a light at the end of the tunnel, living is such a wonderful thing ❤
Yes indeed ❤️ Sending love
I had cancer and was told won’t survive or be able to have a child, 32 years later I’m alive have a 25 year old daughter left me for work three years ago and I still grieve have faith my friend everything will be ok ❤️🙏
Such are the vicissitudes of life….🥰
A very taoistic lesson: nothing last forever, life is permanent change. The pain in your life will change too. 😊❤❤❤
I'm taking an extended break from (most) social media and the doom scrolling. The line you said about keeping busy as a form of a distraction hit me square in the chest because I know that's what I've been doing.
Distractions are good sometimes!
This was GOOD! ... You brought me back to my young adulthood-- Having had the HIGHS and lows I experienced throughout my entire college career-- calling Mom hysterical about the choices I made-- The same scenarios/different circumstances today; nearly 45 years later. No Mom to call to cry to these days😢-- So I try to center myself and talk to God❤ ... I've had MANY HIGHS Miss Carla and I thought the lows would kill me-- but they just made me stronger! I know you and Ivy both will be ok❤
I love this thank you for sharing ❤️
I just got married and still trying to understand the life change, going from one phase to another. I needed to hear this!
Excellent advice for all of us! I always say riding the rollercoaster, stay on the ride of life it will always shift, bend, slow up speed up! Hands in the air or on the bar you can get through.
Absolutely right. If we did not have the lows we also would not appreciate the good times in our lives.
Carla what an absolute Sweetheart you are and you are so right in what you say. I find 'not so good days' are usually followed by 'better days', and perspective is EVERYTHING. Being mindful of all our blessings and thinking of others who aren't so fortunate keeps me really grounded. Some might consider this a cliche, but when it absolutely comes down to it, it's not. Thank you so much for sharing these moments with us. Your family are fortunate to have you and how lovely that Ivy feels able to express herself so freely with you. Love from Australia. ❤
Thank you for this message honey ❤️ I appreciate you being here xoxo
Times of change are always challenging. Grown kids are way more emotionally challenging than we are lead to believe. Hang tight and thanks for the honesty.
❤❤❤I can totally relate, Carla. My first born just left for college, too, in August and same feelings. Ups and downs every day and every week. That’s fine though. Me and my husband call it a transition. The kid is not a young one anymore but neither is an adult yet. A lot of independency but still face times us every night for moral support and advice, lol. For the first two weeks I cried like a baby. 😢I miss my baby soooo much. So yeah, hills and valleys still ahead. 🤷🏼♀️
Change is tough but needed ❤️ Sending love and best wishes to you honey xoxo
@@CarlaRockmore1 😁💕Thank you sooo much! You too, Carla.
Hi Carla - love your channel! I’m an alumna of Pitzer College, go Sagehens! And I went through the same self-doubt that you describe Ivy is experiencing. I stuck it out and have no regrets. The Claremont Consortium offers so many options. Pitzer was the most relaxed and nurturing of all the schools. Best wishes for Ivy and you ❤
Agreed on so many levels!! Why to have a boring planned life sometimes let it go and experience those little moments which somehow or other we just ignore and move on!!
Thank you for sharing this, Carla! It is important for the most successful people to share such things. Life is not always as smooth as we would like it to be but … we learn from the valleys and then appreciate the hills even more 😊❤
100%❤️🙌
Made me think of the quote: "There's GOLD in them thar hills!"
Yes🙌❤️
Well said Carla. Wishing Ivy all the best but without problems there is no resilience and it is that resilience that keeps you climbing out of those valleys...onwards and upwards, y'all...😎xx
Xoxo thank you honey
The hills are coming, beautiful ones. You got this!!! All my love to Ivy. ❤
Yes indeed
Gone through it 4 times with kids leaving the nest. Last one was tough, but we eventually found our groove. This life change does take a minute to settle into. Both of you Stay Strong❤
Sending best wishes xoxo
Even the fiercest storms, the rain runs out. Maya Angelou
Well said. Sometimes we have to slow down and let the quietness bring us perspective and direction. Calm us.
Yes indeed
You are so right. Enjoying the highs while we have them is a valuable lesson. Also my dear mama used a very typical Northern English saying “What doesn’t kill your makes you stronger !”
Often do hard to see that in the moment though.
Hoping Ivy rides the storm and this is just a blip. Sending lots of positive love x x ❤
Thank you 💕 shes doing much better now xx
I’m so glad. As parents we are there for our children to offload their worries and concerns. Sometimes those worries evaporate , not just because their situation has improved but simply because they have offloaded to us and we have reassured them😍 Then WE have the sleepless nights! ☹️ but far better it’s that way 😍!
You are so supportive of Ivy, and I absolutely love you for that as a transgender woman that has gone through life a successful career in nursing I owe my success to my family, especially my parents and siblings because they have supported me from day one and continue to do so
Amen amen amen ❤ keep your vision on the hills when you’re feeling stuck in the valleys. Continued blessings to you and ivy. On the topic of college…. College was a very trying and difficult experience for me. I thinking there are a lot of factors at play during this time period. Hopefully ivy can continue through her first year and then reflect on her options.
Thank you. I really needed this now. ❤❤❤
Xoxo❤️🙏
Wow. I didn't know how much I needed this message today. Thank you 💔😭
XOXO
With her suitcase 🧳
she took also,all the tools 🧰
that she collected from her special education,
from her family&home,
sweet and strong home🌿
♥️♠️❤️
Aw I love that 🥰
@@CarlaRockmore1♥️
These are the best videos you do, I wish you would do more of them.
Aw thank you honey. I'll add it to the list!
Thank you ❤❤❤
Great advice 👍
I needed this today. Thank you! 🩵💜
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I think it is pretty normal for people of Ivy's age to have a lot of ups and downs. And also to feel at odds at big life-stage transitions. So ride the wave!
Totally
Take good care of yourself, mama Carla.❤
You too honey❤️
❤ Carla
How present were you for the last fifteen minutes of your life? Are you here, or are you worrying about the past or racing to finish yet another task? Sending much love your way, be safe, blessings 🙏😇💓
Your a good Mom Carla Rockmore👍❤️
Thank you ❤️
There is a saying that is appropriate here, “wherever you go, there you are”.
Well said.
Thank you for sharing this. My goddaughter has been going through some things. She’s an aspiring designer and works very hard , but she’s in a valley right now. I sent her your video because I believe you explain it very well. Thank you, again. My best to you and your family.
Love this💕 sending best wishes xo
Hugs 🤗 and ❤
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Keep swimming. Goldfish are so wise. To one side of the bowl, then the other... repeat.
I feel ya! Youngest just moved to the city to complete her under grad 1:30 degree. Oldest is there too finishing grad school and planning to get married in a year. Feeling a little sideways and off kilter😊
You know that Zora Neale Hurston quote from Their Eyes Were Watching God: “There are years that ask questions and years that answer”? I'm thinking, there are months/weeks that ask questions and months/weeks that answer. You may quote that profound thought for free. LOL
That is what every freshman goes through. That is why there is parents weekend. If the college is not the right choice she can always transfer. There are a zillion colleges out there. Just encourage her to get through the semester. Over winter break she can figure out her next steps.
At least your nails look beautiful 😍. Don't worry, we've all been there....
And you've obviously figured it out, so will she 😊
Absolutely ❤️
Wherevee you go there youll be
Thank you for your video message today.❤ I'm looking for a hill.🙏 My young adult kids(18 & 20) are both in challenging moments, and it's an emotional struggle for me at these times. Brighter times to come!!! (right?🤞)
Absolutely! Sending best wishes your way love💋
@CarlaRockmore1 This made me emotional🥺
I’m going through a very sad situation with my husband who left me out of nowhere after 24 years. I discovered he was committing adultery after months of being neglected and got on a plane to finally busted him with the woman in the same house we used to live together…My whole world collapsed and I’m still wondering why he did this to me. I’m in a divorce process now and dealing with emotional and psychological support and therapy because it hasn’t been easy, but life keeps going on and even though this is harder at times, I will survive😔🙏🏼
I’m so very sorry honey!! That’s a nightmare. Hang in there 🙏❤️❤️
Thank you Carla🥺
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That pink chandelier ❤❤❤
Not being at all qualified to speak about what you & Miss Ivy are going through, I will say that your relationship seems rock-solid & that says a great deal about how she was raised & the security your home provided. (I know, you "raise" crops but children are "reared". It just sounds horribly pretentious, so please forgive my hillbilly grammar)
Change is tough, but can lead to some pretty great things in life. And that pink chandelier...love it!
❤️ XO
Jupp been there …right now at home with a concussion and tbh think the universe was trying to slow me down because burnout was sincere but how do I find a middle ground … what IS a middle ground that would make me happy and not miserable.
Feel better love 💕
@@CarlaRockmore1 Thank you.
@@CarlaRockmore1 Thank you and yes agree on the hills and valleys
You are truly beautiful inside and out.
Aww thank you ❤️
The better parties are in October
More Carla life lessons please!
Adding to the list!✨
Human doing or human BEING?… Its a deceptively profound question. Especially for us women 😏
Trust God. What you're going through is completely normal.
Thanks for sharing the honest, hard stuff Carla 🫶🏼
Always ❤️