I survived being taken as a small child. A man pulled over and threw my friend in his car layered in black plastic trash bags. She was stunned and didn't move. I was not going to let him take my best friend and he was not going to put his hands on me. I was tiny. I made it because my family taught me to yell a very bad word to get peoples attention. Rape. I had no idea what it meant but I knew it was very bad. I was super wiggly. He couldn't get me in the car. When I screamed rape he broke from his trance. He looked around. That's when I grabbed my friend by the feet pulling her out of the car. She finally got up and began to help me help her. He began to pull her by the shoulders but I wouldn't let go of her feet. I was screaming rape and causing a scene. He decided to drive away. We ran. My friend lost her shoes. All she could think about was getting in trouble for losing her shoes. Her family didn't teach her what to do. I still remember what he looks like. The attack was so quick. He really was in a trance like state. He moved like a machine. He knew exactly what he wanted. We would be dead for sure. I can't imagine being murdered in elementary school. That would have ruined our families and destroyed our town. No they never caught the guy. I don't know why I was so brave. I just knew he was a bad guy and I wasn't going to let him do it.
Thank you. Anna Maria and I are 51 years old now. Our families still live across the street from each other. We both care for our elderly parents and disabled family members. Our families need us. It's not fair that he would have taken us away from them. He had no right. I've come to believe I must have a guardian angel because I've experienced a dangerous situation in every decade of my life. It's a dangerous world for anybody but much worse for a child or a female.
And boys too. Even older boys. My 16 year old male friend was lured, raped, beaten and murdered. We forget to tell teenage boys they are just as much at risk. Mark Radke is his killer. They almost let him out of prison recently. He will kill again if they do.
What about scenarios where potential kidnappers have guns and/or knives? In South Africa, this is the case most of the time. A police officer told me once NEVER to get into the car, no matter what. Rather let them shoot you on the spot than comply and get in, because whatever is going to happen to you in the car or at the destination they're taking you to is far worse than being shot on the spot.
I'd MUCH rather comply than being shot. Sure, whatever is waiting for me at the other destination could be worse, but I would never be willing to just give up.
@@DwynTwo not here in South Africa 😔. If you knew stories of what has happened to women here.... You would also rather be shot. Torture doesn't even come close to fully describing it.
@@DwynTwo I’ve seen cases where they have boiled people alive in SA and brutal gang rapes are common. Getting shot is preferable to getting kidnapped in SA.
I had a horrible situation happened to me. Long story short, I opened the door and jumped out of the car when he was making a turn. I knew he had to slow down due to the turn and I jumped. Got pavement injuries but got out. Even when he was driving at high speed I was thinking of jumping out, I wasn’t going to let him take me to an isolated place with no witnesses and let my family suffering because they couldn’t find my body.
@@leeoconnor123 I am grateful, I did call the police and they arrested him to only be charged with a misdemeanor and he was freed that same day. I possibly could’ve done more but at that time I just wanted to move on and forget about it. I did learn how to be more careful and how to avoid being in a similar situation like that ever again. Happy new year’s! ❤️
At 18 years old i was kidnapped by 4 men and somehow drugged and abused and after they forced me to drive their van for some reason and luckily my mind started fighting off the drug probably due to adrenaline and as soon as I saw a police car I drove straight into a lamp post and ran out straight to the police...can't remember much after that. You need to do what it takes to escape.
@@erinjean7929 @Erin Jean Thank you 🙏💖. That was nearly 40 years ago and not the worst thing happened to me but I've noticed that I seem to somehow be protected or am a cat with more than 9 lives but all of it has made me grow beyond what I could have imagined so I've transmuted the trauma into wisdom...I also learnt kickboxing
@Gita: You had luck, the police car was there at that time. Often they come when it is too late. I don't understand why 4 men let you drive and bring them to the police? Were all 4 drunk?
These reality-based techniques are very useful to develop survival mindset. No one would willingly go to the ground in guard or crash attacker's car if they had other better choices but sometimes the worst happens and you gotta do whatever it takes to stop you from dying. My daughter is training Gracie's women's empowerment classes and eventually Gracie's combative classes - the best gift I can give her before she's on her own. Thanks, Gracie University.
@Ron Miller: "These reality-based techniques" How much money do you get to write this a$$ crawling. Or are you running this class? Maybe you are the owner of that University. :)
@@gigamaxis I don't own the Gracie University - I believe that Rener and Ryron Gracie do but I don't know that for certain - I do not and did not get paid or receive any benefit for the comments. I regularly attend the combatives class, my daughter attends the women's empowerment classes and joins me in weekly private lessons. I have significant experience with dangerous people - physically and verbally violent, mentally ill, armed and unarmed - in combat and in my profession.You are welcome to show up (the class schedule is on the website) and the instructors will happily demonstrate on you, and you can decide for yourself based on actual knowledge and experience rather than lobbing darts while hiding behind a keyboard. Your offensive comment is not necessary nor respectful, but that says more about you than me.
@@ronmiller3319 Hi Ron. I appologize if my comment is disrespectful. Still I don't think my comment is not necessary (maybe I wrote it in a wrong manner and my English is really bad) -> still we have to talk about important topics, also from a critical view. I don't like those whitewashed comments - like yours. You are a great example since your daughter attends that class. Do you think, she is well prepared for an extreme situation? Doesn this vodeo show a reality-based case?
@@ronmiller3319 I am not hiding behind the keyboard. I am simply trying to say, this video is NOT reality-based (like you wrote). A rapist doesn't let a victim sitting behind his back without fixing her hands. Finally it doesn't make sence if an instructor demonstrate on me. I prefer one attendee of this class (like your daughter) should demonstrate on me, how well prepared they are.
Causing a wreck if you’re being forced to drive is another great tactic to stop what’s happening. Awesome video thanks for helping us learn to fight back and stay safe!
@@lucifervalentine275 Many attackers have forced their victims to drive so that the attacker can keep their hands and attention free to control the victim. If an attacker is driving, it's difficult for him to keep an eye and a weapon on his victim (or restrain the victim, etc.) in order to get the victim to stay still and quiet. If the attacker holds a weapon on the intended victim, the victim is likely to do whatever he wants - by staying still and quiet, by driving as told to, etc.
But causing a wreck needs to be planned well enough so you don't harm yourself the most. If you see a tree or lamppost try to keep yourself out of the direct hit. Airbags may or may not work
Been in this program for over a year (that’s after a 2nd degree black belt). Hands down this is way more practical for women in 1:1 situations which happens a lot more than you think when she’s alone some where.
For those of you saying there will always be someone else, that isn't true. I was almost kidnapped twice as a child. The first time, my mom left 3yo me with the parent of a child I was playing with in the water at the beach while she moved our stuff to a different location. After she walked away, a man walked up and scooped me out of the water and walked away. I was confused because I didn't know him but I wasn't scared initially. When my mom came back for me, the lady told her that my dad came and got me.(Not her fault. She didn't know.) When we got out to the parking lot, he put me down and we walked out to his car. He got in the car weird. Instead of putting me in and then getting in, he got into the drivers seat. Then, he reached for me to put me in his car. At that moment, I heard my mom screaming my name so I turned to go to her. He grabbed my arm to stop me. That's when I got scared and tried to pull away. He couldn't pull me into the car (idk why because he could have just picked me back up) but I couldn't break his grip. He pulled the car door and then put his other arm through the window, switched hands, and held on to me as he started the car and slowly backed out of his parking spot. I was pulling and crying and I completely panicked because he wouldn't let me go to my mom. I kept hearing her scream my name and I couldn't see her. He slowly started driving in the lane of the parking area but he wouldn't let go. Finally, I saw her and then I started kicking the car and hitting his arm and scratching him and screaming for my mom while crying. She finally saw me and started screaming for help while running towards me. There was a police car nearby. The officer whoop whooped his siren and the man finally let go and drove off. Idk what happened to him after that but I ran to my mom and I remember her talking to the cops while I played with my sister. The point is, people do try to take you alone. I've also seen news stories of people being kidnapped by one individual.
Thank you for sharing your story ❤ I'm so glad you fought your little heart out❤❤❤ I've also been taken as a 21 year old! A pimp kidnapped me! And when I was 12, q man tried breakfast my door and window out to take me, I was babysitting and it was broad daylight. So yes, it doesn't matter what age you are, it is NEVER safe
People don’t often intervene. I just watched a video of a high school student getting stabbed multiple times and not one of the dozens of people around helped.
When my daughter was younger I used to have her watch safety videos just like this, then I would quiz her on it. She is now 35 and still remembers what to do in case someone tries kidnapping her.
He is right, you never want to be taken away from the scene. Even if they point a gun at you. Yell, fight like hell, and if they have a gun run away in a ziz zag if possible......because once they get u in that vehicle, chances are much slimmer you'll be able to escape wherever they take you.
- VERY TRUE.!!! In fact my friend was dating a cop in San Diego and the one thing he told her was; ''If you're taken, and he gets you IN the vehicle, it's pretty much over'' I always remembered that. Always worthwhile to FIGHT.!!! It is your life..!!!
I was brought up in the worst town, hackney, London. My mother sent me to school over 10 miles away and from age 7 I had to travel by myself. She told me what to do if I was ever attacked. I was vulnerable being so young anyway but added to that, I'm Indian and very short, so at 7 I probably looked 5..an easy target, on my way home one day, a flashy yellow sports car pulled up beside me and then man screamed at me angrily to get in the car, I was stunned, when you are in shock, you either freeze or fly. In one sit second, I was thinking I have to obey an adult, he's angry, I should do what he says, this is typical of what a 7 yr old mind will think if you don't train that out of them. Suddenly, I unfroze, remembering what my mother told me, scream, shout, run, knock on doors of the particular streets she told me I would be safe to knock on. The street where he stopped was not a busy one, it gets lonelier the further you go to my home, perfect spot to kidnap someone. But I ran, fast, in hindsight, I should have ran in the opposite direction I came from as it was a high street, bus stops, there are people travelling up and down by foot and car, he would have had to get out his car and get me into the car because he couldn't turn the car around. As it was, I didn't have that thinking time, and I ran towards my home where he could easily have followed me in the car and tried worse. But I was lucky, my screaming and running scared him off, he didn't follow. Another time, I got home from college, someone was lurking outside in the dark, I'm 5ft and he was over 6 ft, he waited until I opened the door to my flat, as I turned around to close the door, I saw his face in between the gap of the door, he pushed the door with force, which hit me in the face, I fell, he opened the door wider, I quickly got up, he then pushed my one shoulder to the ground and went down on my knees, he was stronger than me, I got hold of the front door he was trying to close, I grabbed it, my knuckles were jammed in the door twice but I didn't let go. Then I screamed, loudest I ever could, he was shouting at me to shut up, I refused, I just kept screaming and screaming, he let go, took my purse and ran out. All in under 30 seconds because then my house alarm went off. I was so angry that as he ran out , I had run after him still screaming, first few seconds I tried to look for him outside, still screaming but he had run off. I should have made myself safe after he left but anger took over. I was lucky again. I also had another incident on a bus after work one day, 2 men rolled up multiple news papers and threw it at my head, I turned around and told them off, after that I got a barrage of abuse, that they will kill me, I wasn't leaving the bus alive, the bus was completely full of people, so packed up people were standing and not one of them got me help. Being used to living in a dangerous area, I refused to get off the bus, they said they'd put me in a body bag, they would beat my boyfriend up, to which, the man sitting next to be got up and got off the bus in fright, with people standing up, they refused to sit next to me in fear they would be treated the same way. We reached a very busy train station stop and I could hear them getting up, I knew to be ready for something but what? As they passed my seat, they spat in my face and one raised his arm, but before it hit me I hit him in the face with all could muster from a seated position, it was the worst position I could be in, I counted my lucky stars when they ran off the bus, but everything was in slow motion I knew something more was coming, but what? They smashed the bus window into my face, and ran off, never to be found. I did have shards of tiny glass in my face. I was shaken up a little bit again, v angry that women are targeted constantly in London. Everyone came to my aid once they ran off but too little too late, they could have killed me and 40 plus people would have just put their heads down! Growing up in a violent area, made me strong, I have helped many women in the streets against violent attackers, druggies, drunks, because I could see their fear, shocked into being frozen, unable to speak or flee, I've never ever stood by and watched someone get attacked without helping them. I seem grown men, taller than my 5 ft, walk away, look away, pretend they could not hear or see women being attacked. I'm always left disgusted with society.
Jesus, what a bunch of f’cking cowards on that bus! Doesn’t surprise me though. People are often so scared that they forget about their power in numbers. But they look after themselves and so they are and will always be alone, not willing to band together or even stick their neck out for someone else. I’ve always been feisty myself and refuse to walk away from someone else who is in trouble, eventhough I look as strong as a wet noodle. I wonder if people who have been on the receiving end of that crap are more likely to stand up for others in that situation. I know that if I was on that bus with you I would have punched the other guy in the face.
I'm so sorry you had to go through all that! It's totally insane that 40 people did not lift a finger to help you. May all the powers of good keep you safe, free and at peace.
Yes, people are disgusting, no one ever helps, they're absolutely repulsive in their cowardice. Strong men feel strong if they offer to lift your suitcase for you (and even that, VERY FEW will, even if you ask them!), but omg, NOT ONE WILL EVER stand up to help you if there is actual danger.
I've always said NEVER let them take you from the point they grab you, I don't care if they have a gun to your head or a knife to your side, DO NOT let them take you. Your best chance of survival, even if you're stabbed, is to remain at the point of where they're tying to take you. The first thing they'll say is "Don't scream", but scream and kick and bite as loud as you can. I'd rather be stabbed next to my car than taken, raped for two days and murdered.
many attackers will run after stabbing or shooting you especially because they know a gun makes a lot of noise. the idea of resisting even against an armed attacker is that if they injure you, you still have a better chance of survival because you will be found by emergency personnel and treated. if you're injured and in an unfamiliar place away from town you don't have nearly the chance of being found and treated for injuries. of course this doesn't mean that a truly bent mind couldn't kill you and stuff your body in their trunk. but yes always fight and resist no matter what
This is the best information I've ever heard. I'm a small woman. It would be easy for someone to pick me up. This has shown me how to make it harder for my attacker. I would fight to the death if I had to I have nothing to lose.
Happened to my friend in Paris, she was walking in the street when 3 guys came out of a car. They tried really hard to take her to the car, but she screamed all her lungs out, laid on the floor, moved her legs relentlessly, it was impossible for them to drag her body all the way to the car, they eventually gave up.
Wow well done to your friend! That reminds me of when I try to pick my kids up when they are in full tantrum mode - it’s like trying to pick angry jelly up with your hands. Be angry jelly.
Even if they threaten to kill you, do not give up, fight, I would rather be stabbed in a parking lot with possible wittnesses, cameras, evidence, and where they are not prepared, then be taken to a second location where something way worse will probably happen to me. DO NOT BE TAKEN TO THE SECOND LOCATION.
I've been a Gracie University member for 2 years now. The courses are excellent and you're learning from the founding family of Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu - the Gracie family. The brothers Rener and Ryron give outstanding instruction and are SUPER passionate about Jiu-Jitsu.
these are effective but in the case of criminals, a lot of them will commit knowing if they disengage, they'll end up facing worse consequences. because of this, groins strikes can be effective if it's used with jiu jitsu to takedown/submit.
My 65 yrs old mom was grabbed from behind and carried into a restroom to be raped. My mom did what she did, mom kicked the sink so hard with both legs causing the back of her head to hit the perpetrator in his face. He fell backwards and let mom go. As mom ran he ran in the opposite direction out of the building. He had gloves and a ski mask. But mom saw his blue eyes and white facial skin. We don’t know if the pervert was ever caught but I’m still so proud of my mom. As this guy said, make it hard for the perpetrator to reach his outcome. FIGHT!
Wow! Your mom did such a great job! I'm an older woman and your story boosts my confidence in my own capacity to fight back effectively, if the need arises.
I will definitely share this by sending it to my family and friends...This is one of the very best I have found and it is so well done in every way! 👊🏻
One of the biggest things, imho, that’s saved my butt is that I can be extremely loud when need be. Something about screaming as much nonsense as possible, as loudly as possible. Really draws attention they don’t want. One of the scariest was getting jumped from behind while walking home from work. After a graveyard shift I specifically said I wasn’t available for for safety reasons. They were caught off guard when I didn’t immediately start reacting. I waited just a brief moment to see if they’d loosen their grip long enough to flip me over or pick me up. And they did. And that’s when I went nuts & they ran off muttering about what a crazy bee I am. Better crazy than dead. 🤷🏼♀️ Excellent tips here! Does anyone have any suggestions in regards to personal safety classes when you have severe PTSD & when triggered automatically snap into fight mode? I’d feel so much better knowing I had that training but I don’t want to flip out on the poor instructor. 😊
It has been proven that taking a self defense class helps with PTSD. See my youtube video. ua-cam.com/video/SYfKCDwwNow/v-deo.html Go to the comment section for all the prevention and techniques you will ever need. If I list the place here it will be blocked. Good Luck. Gale
You wont be able to flip out on him, stop living a fantasy. Whether you like it or not, you wont rise to the occasion you will fall to your training in a serious situation.
the problem is that in that moment, when u're attacked (grabbed, dragged, etc) in a split second, the fear takes over the victim. u think u could use ur strength to fight back, but honestly u most probably strength in ur limbs subconsciously, because of the panic or whatever fear that takes over ur muscle/brain. I don't know if knowing techniques will work to help overcome fear in a split second of an attack but i hope it does.
I had a drunk man try to drag me on a train when I was overseas and techniques from a self-defense class I had taken decades prior came back to me! Definitely take a course. When the fear strikes, you'll be ready! Now, if someone you know attacks you, that's a different matter because if you've previously had positive experiences with them, it will take your mind more time to shift to danger mode but it still can. You just have to prepare in advance so that your mind will make the shift. 👍
I was attacked when I was a 16. When I first realized that I was being followed I was scared, but I told myself not to show it. The guy then rapidly approached me and grabbed me in the crotch area. I went straight into fight mode. The fear was totally gone. There was a wooded area next to the sidewalk, and I knew that I couldn't let him take me there. I was only 5'2" and 105 lbs, and he was 5'11" and 180lbs. I felt such a rage at this guy for grabbing me ! I amazed myself with my response and I got away. I saw the guy again 2 days later in my neighborhood and called the police, who arrested him further down the street.
This is something that should be mandatory for young girls to learn, just like school! It honestly should be a part of the schooling! Self defense is SO important to learn in this dangerous world. The only thing he didn't talk about though is when the attacker has a weapon, that is something that in many many cases just paralysis the victim and makes them too afraid to defend themselves, what do you do when the person has a gun for example. But we all know that the first rule in these situations is to NEVER let them take you to a second location because then you've increased your chances of not surviving by probably 90%. I'm sure it's easier said than done but you should rather fight for your life and possibly get injured or worse in that first location then to let them take you away. I say it's at least better to possibly lose your life fighting them then whatever else awaits you when they take you away.
First step is to prevent the incident in the first place - be aware of your surroundings, only use 1 side of your headphones/earbuds, put down the effing cellphone. Second, paranoia saves lives. It is unfortunate, but we need to make choices based on the knowledge that rapists, kidnappers, murderers... get a slap on the wrist and are turned loose on society to repeat their crimes. Yes, we *SHOULD* be able to safely drive alone at night & stop for gas if we need to, run/jog/exercise whenever & wherever is appropriate, wear what we are comfortable in; sadly, there are monsters out there who take those decisions as an open invitation. Every woman on the planet is a target, a potential victim. We *need* to make safe choices and teach our daughters to do the same. Insisting on the right of way when we're driving causes accidents; insisting on the right to make unsafe choices as though we are somehow special and/or immune from being attacked causes headlines. Yes, learning self defense is great. Another viable option is a Security 9, a Glock 19... Escaping a potential attacker is lifesaving for *you*, but he is still free and looking for his next victim. The solution many of us who must drive at night (medical professionals, first responders, store or factory workers...) have been forced into is to *safely and legally* carry a firearm (that we have been thoroughly trained in) for personal protection. Priority 1, should I ever find myself in that situation (again) is *always* to get home safely to my family; but I also feel a sense of responsibility to the other women & girls in my community, so making sure the attacker is stopped is my secondary goal.
Very true. Also the part about only wearing one earphone. It is amazing to me that women will walk so nonchalantly with their earphones in and head down watching their phone instead of their surroundings.
Eve Torres!!!!Thank you - I knew your man was a good one years ago, when you teamed up to be a power-duo in what you do best and love most! God bless and keep you and your fam.
Everyone criticizing a guy that has extensive experience and a commendable history of sponsoring bullied victims to regain confidence in learning defensive skills, and he teaches law enforcement how to be less aggressive, more in control therefore reducing the need for the use of deadly force. All very good stuff and now he's helping women and medical staff and folks are still criticizing? Smh
This is great advice. Everyone should also learn how to use weapons, they are better equalizers than bare hands against stronger attackers. I saw the Memphis guy...he was big and strong while his target was like 120lbs.
This video needs to be shown and these skills need to be taught MANDATORILY in schools all across the world! Like the guy said in the end this is lifesaving!! I can't imagine anything more important to be taught in school yet it somehow isnt!
Firearms safety and self defense with a firearm needs to be taught in every school. Whether or not you choose to avail yourself of that option is up to you, but with the right training it's a very effective self defense option.
Took classes from this guy a looong time ago in Torrance, fantastic teacher and extremely nice guy. His older brother was a cocky joe cool guy…like evil twin brother. Dudes so lanky huge feet and hands, not to be messed with
Having watched the video and read the comments, I have two points to make. Point number 1: For those who always have problems for solutions, saying what if and this and that...your fears are valid but how about you brainstorm possible solutions for the problems you're coming up with? These people have come up with possible solutions for a one man attack. It would not always work but it is something. Better to be armed with some knowledge and feel a bit adequate about fending attack than to be totally helpless and paralyzed in the moment. Let's be solution minded huh? Think this information is inadequate? Then you might just be the solution we're all searching for. Point number 2: I'd rather whatever horrors I face occur in public than in some basement somewhere. A colleague of mine was almost kidnaped on her way back from work. She thought to herself, I'd rather die in public and have my family see my corpse than have them forever wonder what happened to me and because of that thought, she jumped out of the moving vehicle and thankfully, she survived. She was hospitalized for weeks but she survived. In summary, if you can resist going to a second location, do so. No matter the outcome.
HEY Rener! FYI Sir, A Chick-fil-A employee in Fort Walton Beach just stopped a baby kidnapping with a guillotine. Please look it up and do a video on it please. ❤️😎 (love your stuff, big fan mate)
Thank you so much for this video. You are helping so many people. Please do a demo on if the attacker has a gun. Because most do. Thank you again! You guys rock!
It is NEVER right for anyone to do you harm in any way! In the video you said you should be able 2 wear,do, or go anywhere you want. Your giving the impression that we should have no consequences for our actions & that is very dangerous. Example if we go running in a unsafe place we're taking a huge risk that could be avoided. We are responsible for our own safty for as much as we can & that includes making safe & better choices I know what his intentions in the video is however there are those who will take him at his word & do just that for what ever reason.
I hate the idea that we "should" be able to do anything without thought, or asking if what I'm doing is a good idea. Evil exists, and it doesn't care about our shoulds.
@@black9897 When I was in college , sports bras and those tiny shorts weren’t allowed and there were restrictions for men too at the university’s recreation center here in the USA. You cannot wear whatever you want anywhere you want like he said in the video, if you go to court you cannot walk in dressed like a clown and say I have the right to wear whatever I want in court, you will be get kicked out. I’m a woman and I used to go for early morning runs 30 minutes before sunrise, I always wore leggings and a hoodie to look less attractive.. I see guys looking at women who are dressed in those tiny shorts and sports bras in the gym but they don’t look much at the woman who is dressed in a hoodie and leggings. This is not blaming victims these are facts. Jogging ALONE in the dark at 4am wearing earpods listening to music when the roads are empty calls for trouble especially these last couple of years with the defund the police movement and the rise in crimes. I used to see a lot of police cars in the past in my town but it all changed since 2020, I rarely see any patrolling on the streets. Even in the animal kingdom, lions and wolves always wait for that one animal to leave the herd to attack, safety and strength are in numbers, jog with a couple of friends or a husband but never alone in the dark, even if carries a mace or a knife or a gun, it won’t help if she is caught off guard or hit in the head with something or knocked unconscious etc… I watch a lot of crime shows and criminals come prepared especially if they spent a lot of time stalking the victim.
I went on a date with a guy recently. We got in his car for him to drive me home. He asked for a kiss and I nicely said no but he insisted. He started to pull me closer to him…. I karate chopped the hell out of him and jumped out the passenger side. The scariest 3 seconds. I was so out of breath and we both just stood there for five minutes staring at each other in shock.
You definitely have the right to act however you like and not be assaulted, but not everyone respects that right so you need to be realistic about that fact.
dont dim his message. we all fucking hear what you're saying all the time. every fucking victim gets told this. what we need is men like him speaking up for us. no one needs to hear this repeated in our ears for the millionth time holy shit
We also have the right to our own body autonomy, especially against our Tyrannical government when it comes to forcing us to take a poison shot or loose our jobs.
Gotta love the rejection of personal responsibility there at the beginning. “Wearing whatever you want, drinking whatever you want and hanging with whoever you want” gets you into these situations in the first place. Otherwise you wouldn’t have to use any of these self defense techniques to begin with, unless you get attacked unprovoked. A lot of people get themselves into these dangerous scenarios with lack of common sense. All the time I’m still hearing in the news about women going out alone late at night, people hanging around in their cars early morning/late night and getting shot, talking with sketchy strangers, etc. If you’re going to teach/follow safety lessons, don’t go halfway.
THAT WAS A TRULY LIFE - SAVING VIDEO !!! THIS SHOULD BE SEEN E V E R Y W H E R E .!!! R E N E G R A C I E IS I N C R E D I B L E AND A M A Z I N G TO HAVE MADE THIS VIDEO FOR US ALL....!!!!
I've trained in martial arts for years and am an instructor. Disagree with two of his suggestions....that if the woman is being grabbed and being pulled, she shouldn't let her body go forward towards the attacker. If the woman trains correctly in that scenario, she can land a devastating elbow and/or punch to the face or even a kick to the growing with all that momentum being built up instead of trying to pull and break free opposing force. I do like the wrist release to break free however as an option as we train that technique too. Second....is Eve was yelling HELP, HELP. NEVER yell help. Now adays people hear help and maybe might get someone or two to come running.. Instead yell FIRE FIRE! People hear that and they come running! The last technique of willingly falling to the ground, only do that as the last resort!! He did say if she slipping, to do that. The risk is that if you're not able to land good strong effective kicks from the ground or even miss, the attacked could quickly get on top of you. Staying on your feet to fight is always best!
The fact that I have to watch this video because Illinois is introducing a law where any kidnappers will be let out of jail without a bond is ridiculous.
I have a very simple self defense option for women that works very well against any attacker no matter what their size or whether they're armed or not. Let me introduce my friends Mr. Smith and Mr. Wesson.
These techniques are great, thank you so much. Now, this selfdefense strategies would only work if the attacker is not holding a knife or a gun, right?
People , use this techniques they are just common sensé and right. Unfortunately, in my country you will bé killed instantly for trying to resist: that's their rule and they are AT l'East 5 or 7 to operates. But I will memorirized thèse techniques they certains Can Help in some différent situations. Beautiful couple btw
Rener is assuming correctly that the odds of being killed after the abduction is high. So you’re playing the odds by attempting to escape until they present you with deadly force and maybe even after.
I survived being taken as a small child. A man pulled over and threw my friend in his car layered in black plastic trash bags. She was stunned and didn't move. I was not going to let him take my best friend and he was not going to put his hands on me. I was tiny. I made it because my family taught me to yell a very bad word to get peoples attention. Rape. I had no idea what it meant but I knew it was very bad. I was super wiggly. He couldn't get me in the car. When I screamed rape he broke from his trance. He looked around. That's when I grabbed my friend by the feet pulling her out of the car. She finally got up and began to help me help her. He began to pull her by the shoulders but I wouldn't let go of her feet. I was screaming rape and causing a scene. He decided to drive away. We ran. My friend lost her shoes. All she could think about was getting in trouble for losing her shoes. Her family didn't teach her what to do. I still remember what he looks like. The attack was so quick. He really was in a trance like state. He moved like a machine. He knew exactly what he wanted. We would be dead for sure. I can't imagine being murdered in elementary school. That would have ruined our families and destroyed our town. No they never caught the guy. I don't know why I was so brave. I just knew he was a bad guy and I wasn't going to let him do it.
Thank God you and your friend made it out the alive. I pray that God will continue to bless and protect you both.
Thank you. Anna Maria and I are 51 years old now. Our families still live across the street from each other. We both care for our elderly parents and disabled family members. Our families need us. It's not fair that he would have taken us away from them. He had no right. I've come to believe I must have a guardian angel because I've experienced a dangerous situation in every decade of my life. It's a dangerous world for anybody but much worse for a child or a female.
That’s so scary how old were you you’re brave
This is why being a misandrist is okay
Because ur parents taught you to be brave🙏🏽 thank u for this story I have a newborn baby girl and am going to teach her the same🙏🏽
This is what our children and young adults should be trained in from elementary thru college. Period enough Said!
They're too busy teaching them the 150+ types of gender.
Not all some kids nooo
And boys too. Even older boys. My 16 year old male friend was lured, raped, beaten and murdered. We forget to tell teenage boys they are just as much at risk. Mark Radke is his killer. They almost let him out of prison recently. He will kill again if they do.
@Mister Jizmester Right! What the HELL is she talking about?
Sad but true
What about scenarios where potential kidnappers have guns and/or knives? In South Africa, this is the case most of the time. A police officer told me once NEVER to get into the car, no matter what. Rather let them shoot you on the spot than comply and get in, because whatever is going to happen to you in the car or at the destination they're taking you to is far worse than being shot on the spot.
I'd MUCH rather comply than being shot. Sure, whatever is waiting for me at the other destination could be worse, but I would never be willing to just give up.
@sigma c exactly
@@DwynTwo not here in South Africa 😔. If you knew stories of what has happened to women here.... You would also rather be shot. Torture doesn't even come close to fully describing it.
Facts!
@@DwynTwo I’ve seen cases where they have boiled people alive in SA and brutal gang rapes are common. Getting shot is preferable to getting kidnapped in SA.
I had a horrible situation happened to me. Long story short, I opened the door and jumped out of the car when he was making a turn. I knew he had to slow down due to the turn and I jumped. Got pavement injuries but got out. Even when he was driving at high speed I was thinking of jumping out, I wasn’t going to let him take me to an isolated place with no witnesses and let my family suffering because they couldn’t find my body.
No seriously I rather die trying than to make it to the second location
You did the right thing, bless your heart.
@@leeoconnor123 I am grateful, I did call the police and they arrested him to only be charged with a misdemeanor and he was freed that same day. I possibly could’ve done more but at that time I just wanted to move on and forget about it. I did learn how to be more careful and how to avoid being in a similar situation like that ever again. Happy new year’s! ❤️
@@Jmm797ugh it’s disgusting you didn’t get justice. I’m so sorry.
At 18 years old i was kidnapped by 4 men and somehow drugged and abused and after they forced me to drive their van for some reason and luckily my mind started fighting off the drug probably due to adrenaline and as soon as I saw a police car I drove straight into a lamp post and ran out straight to the police...can't remember much after that. You need to do what it takes to escape.
I'm so glad you survived! ❤️ I pray that you have healing.
@@erinjean7929 @Erin Jean Thank you 🙏💖. That was nearly 40 years ago and not the worst thing happened to me but I've noticed that I seem to somehow be protected or am
a cat with more than 9 lives but all of it has made me grow beyond what I could have imagined so I've transmuted the trauma into wisdom...I also learnt kickboxing
You're a hero, Gita, I'm glad you made it out of there alive. Stay safe!
@@YamatoXion Thank you 🙏🧡
@Gita: You had luck, the police car was there at that time. Often they come when it is too late. I don't understand why 4 men let you drive and bring them to the police?
Were all 4 drunk?
These reality-based techniques are very useful to develop survival mindset. No one would willingly go to the ground in guard or crash attacker's car if they had other better choices but sometimes the worst happens and you gotta do whatever it takes to stop you from dying. My daughter is training Gracie's women's empowerment classes and eventually Gracie's combative classes - the best gift I can give her before she's on her own. Thanks, Gracie University.
@Ron Miller: "These reality-based techniques"
How much money do you get to write this a$$ crawling. Or are you running this class? Maybe you are the owner of that University. :)
@@gigamaxis I don't own the Gracie University - I believe that Rener and Ryron Gracie do but I don't know that for certain - I do not and did not get paid or receive any benefit for the comments. I regularly attend the combatives class, my daughter attends the women's empowerment classes and joins me in weekly private lessons. I have significant experience with dangerous people - physically and verbally violent, mentally ill, armed and unarmed - in combat and in my profession.You are welcome to show up (the class schedule is on the website) and the instructors will happily demonstrate on you, and you can decide for yourself based on actual knowledge and experience rather than lobbing darts while hiding behind a keyboard. Your offensive comment is not necessary nor respectful, but that says more about you than me.
@@ronmiller3319 Hi Ron. I appologize if my comment is disrespectful.
Still I don't think my comment is not necessary (maybe I wrote it in a wrong manner and my English is really bad) -> still we have to talk about important topics, also from a critical view. I don't like those whitewashed comments - like yours.
You are a great example since your daughter attends that class.
Do you think, she is well prepared for an extreme situation? Doesn this vodeo show a reality-based case?
@@ronmiller3319 I am not hiding behind the keyboard. I am simply trying to say, this video is NOT reality-based (like you wrote).
A rapist doesn't let a victim sitting behind his back without fixing her hands.
Finally it doesn't make sence if an instructor demonstrate on me. I prefer one attendee of this class (like your daughter) should demonstrate on me, how well prepared they are.
@@gigamaxis lol what do you train?
Causing a wreck if you’re being forced to drive is another great tactic to stop what’s happening. Awesome video thanks for helping us learn to fight back and stay safe!
Why would they let the victim drive
@@lucifervalentine275 Many attackers have forced their victims to drive so that the attacker can keep their hands and attention free to control the victim. If an attacker is driving, it's difficult for him to keep an eye and a weapon on his victim (or restrain the victim, etc.) in order to get the victim to stay still and quiet. If the attacker holds a weapon on the intended victim, the victim is likely to do whatever he wants - by staying still and quiet, by driving as told to, etc.
@@FiddlebirdBlue Learned something new today
@@lucifervalentine275 they often jump in the passenger side and force the intended victim to drive.
But causing a wreck needs to be planned well enough so you don't harm yourself the most.
If you see a tree or lamppost try to keep yourself out of the direct hit.
Airbags may or may not work
Been in this program for over a year (that’s after a 2nd degree black belt). Hands down this is way more practical for women in 1:1 situations which happens a lot more than you think when she’s alone some where.
For those of you saying there will always be someone else, that isn't true. I was almost kidnapped twice as a child. The first time, my mom left 3yo me with the parent of a child I was playing with in the water at the beach while she moved our stuff to a different location. After she walked away, a man walked up and scooped me out of the water and walked away. I was confused because I didn't know him but I wasn't scared initially. When my mom came back for me, the lady told her that my dad came and got me.(Not her fault. She didn't know.) When we got out to the parking lot, he put me down and we walked out to his car. He got in the car weird. Instead of putting me in and then getting in, he got into the drivers seat. Then, he reached for me to put me in his car. At that moment, I heard my mom screaming my name so I turned to go to her. He grabbed my arm to stop me. That's when I got scared and tried to pull away. He couldn't pull me into the car (idk why because he could have just picked me back up) but I couldn't break his grip. He pulled the car door and then put his other arm through the window, switched hands, and held on to me as he started the car and slowly backed out of his parking spot. I was pulling and crying and I completely panicked because he wouldn't let me go to my mom. I kept hearing her scream my name and I couldn't see her. He slowly started driving in the lane of the parking area but he wouldn't let go. Finally, I saw her and then I started kicking the car and hitting his arm and scratching him and screaming for my mom while crying. She finally saw me and started screaming for help while running towards me. There was a police car nearby. The officer whoop whooped his siren and the man finally let go and drove off. Idk what happened to him after that but I ran to my mom and I remember her talking to the cops while I played with my sister. The point is, people do try to take you alone. I've also seen news stories of people being kidnapped by one individual.
Omg I'm soooo glad you were saved!!!!!
Thank you for sharing your story ❤ I'm so glad you fought your little heart out❤❤❤ I've also been taken as a 21 year old! A pimp kidnapped me! And when I was 12, q man tried breakfast my door and window out to take me, I was babysitting and it was broad daylight. So yes, it doesn't matter what age you are, it is NEVER safe
How can a 3 year old remember this so clearly?
@@drawntofashionillustration9596 you’re asking how one would remember such a traumatic event such as being kidnapped??
People don’t often intervene. I just watched a video of a high school student getting stabbed multiple times and not one of the dozens of people around helped.
When my daughter was younger I used to have her watch safety videos just like this, then I would quiz her on it. She is now 35 and still remembers what to do in case someone tries kidnapping her.
Do you let her go out alone
@@anonymous-cx7ng she's a grown married woman now with her own child
@@vickiefinney6073 I’m 19 and my Muslim parents don’t even let me step out of the house alone 😞
@@anonymous-cx7ng “let” is where you’re wrong…if your over 18 you’re “letting” them
@@deathangel5317 exactly, they dont let you?!what kind of crap is that?
He is right, you never want to be taken away from the scene. Even if they point a gun at you. Yell, fight like hell, and if they have a gun run away in a ziz zag if possible......because once they get u in that vehicle, chances are much slimmer you'll be able to escape wherever they take you.
- VERY TRUE.!!! In fact my friend was dating a cop in San Diego and the one thing he told her was; ''If you're taken, and he gets you IN the vehicle, it's pretty much over'' I always remembered that. Always worthwhile to FIGHT.!!! It is your life..!!!
and make sure the zig zagging is not predictable enough and get behind anything you possibly can
I’d rather die in the car crash than be tortured in the woods. This is excellent training. Good job!
I was brought up in the worst town, hackney, London. My mother sent me to school over 10 miles away and from age 7 I had to travel by myself. She told me what to do if I was ever attacked. I was vulnerable being so young anyway but added to that, I'm Indian and very short, so at 7 I probably looked 5..an easy target, on my way home one day, a flashy yellow sports car pulled up beside me and then man screamed at me angrily to get in the car, I was stunned, when you are in shock, you either freeze or fly. In one sit second, I was thinking I have to obey an adult, he's angry, I should do what he says, this is typical of what a 7 yr old mind will think if you don't train that out of them. Suddenly, I unfroze, remembering what my mother told me, scream, shout, run, knock on doors of the particular streets she told me I would be safe to knock on. The street where he stopped was not a busy one, it gets lonelier the further you go to my home, perfect spot to kidnap someone. But I ran, fast, in hindsight, I should have ran in the opposite direction I came from as it was a high street, bus stops, there are people travelling up and down by foot and car, he would have had to get out his car and get me into the car because he couldn't turn the car around. As it was, I didn't have that thinking time, and I ran towards my home where he could easily have followed me in the car and tried worse. But I was lucky, my screaming and running scared him off, he didn't follow. Another time, I got home from college, someone was lurking outside in the dark, I'm 5ft and he was over 6 ft, he waited until I opened the door to my flat, as I turned around to close the door, I saw his face in between the gap of the door, he pushed the door with force, which hit me in the face, I fell, he opened the door wider, I quickly got up, he then pushed my one shoulder to the ground and went down on my knees, he was stronger than me, I got hold of the front door he was trying to close, I grabbed it, my knuckles were jammed in the door twice but I didn't let go. Then I screamed, loudest I ever could, he was shouting at me to shut up, I refused, I just kept screaming and screaming, he let go, took my purse and ran out. All in under 30 seconds because then my house alarm went off. I was so angry that as he ran out , I had run after him still screaming, first few seconds I tried to look for him outside, still screaming but he had run off. I should have made myself safe after he left but anger took over. I was lucky again. I also had another incident on a bus after work one day, 2 men rolled up multiple news papers and threw it at my head, I turned around and told them off, after that I got a barrage of abuse, that they will kill me, I wasn't leaving the bus alive, the bus was completely full of people, so packed up people were standing and not one of them got me help. Being used to living in a dangerous area, I refused to get off the bus, they said they'd put me in a body bag, they would beat my boyfriend up, to which, the man sitting next to be got up and got off the bus in fright, with people standing up, they refused to sit next to me in fear they would be treated the same way. We reached a very busy train station stop and I could hear them getting up, I knew to be ready for something but what? As they passed my seat, they spat in my face and one raised his arm, but before it hit me I hit him in the face with all could muster from a seated position, it was the worst position I could be in, I counted my lucky stars when they ran off the bus, but everything was in slow motion I knew something more was coming, but what? They smashed the bus window into my face, and ran off, never to be found. I did have shards of tiny glass in my face. I was shaken up a little bit again, v angry that women are targeted constantly in London. Everyone came to my aid once they ran off but too little too late, they could have killed me and 40 plus people would have just put their heads down! Growing up in a violent area, made me strong, I have helped many women in the streets against violent attackers, druggies, drunks, because I could see their fear, shocked into being frozen, unable to speak or flee, I've never ever stood by and watched someone get attacked without helping them. I seem grown men, taller than my 5 ft, walk away, look away, pretend they could not hear or see women being attacked. I'm always left disgusted with society.
Jesus, what a bunch of f’cking cowards on that bus! Doesn’t surprise me though. People are often so scared that they forget about their power in numbers. But they look after themselves and so they are and will always be alone, not willing to band together or even stick their neck out for someone else. I’ve always been feisty myself and refuse to walk away from someone else who is in trouble, eventhough I look as strong as a wet noodle. I wonder if people who have been on the receiving end of that crap are more likely to stand up for others in that situation. I know that if I was on that bus with you I would have punched the other guy in the face.
People should have helped you I'm so sorry you went through this terrible ordeal 😭I would have shouted and stood up said something I'm not big at all
I'm so sorry you had to go through all that! It's totally insane that 40 people did not lift a finger to help you. May all the powers of good keep you safe, free and at peace.
we have raised some cowardly men there are brave men out there.
Yes, people are disgusting, no one ever helps, they're absolutely repulsive in their cowardice. Strong men feel strong if they offer to lift your suitcase for you (and even that, VERY FEW will, even if you ask them!), but omg, NOT ONE WILL EVER stand up to help you if there is actual danger.
I've always said NEVER let them take you from the point they grab you, I don't care if they have a gun to your head or a knife to your side, DO NOT let them take you. Your best chance of survival, even if you're stabbed, is to remain at the point of where they're tying to take you. The first thing they'll say is "Don't scream", but scream and kick and bite as loud as you can. I'd rather be stabbed next to my car than taken, raped for two days and murdered.
many attackers will run after stabbing or shooting you especially because they know a gun makes a lot of noise.
the idea of resisting even against an armed attacker is that if they injure you, you still have a better chance of survival because you will be found by emergency personnel and treated.
if you're injured and in an unfamiliar place away from town you don't have nearly the chance of being found and treated for injuries.
of course this doesn't mean that a truly bent mind couldn't kill you and stuff your body in their trunk.
but yes always fight and resist no matter what
This is the best information I've ever heard. I'm a small woman. It would be easy for someone to pick me up. This has shown me how to make it harder for my attacker. I would fight to the death if I had to I have nothing to lose.
Happened to my friend in Paris, she was walking in the street when 3 guys came out of a car. They tried really hard to take her to the car, but she screamed all her lungs out, laid on the floor, moved her legs relentlessly, it was impossible for them to drag her body all the way to the car, they eventually gave up.
Wow well done to your friend! That reminds me of when I try to pick my kids up when they are in full tantrum mode - it’s like trying to pick angry jelly up with your hands.
Be angry jelly.
@@Liliarthan Thank you for sharing your angry jelly wisdom I'm adding it to my safety toolbox.
Even if they threaten to kill you, do not give up, fight, I would rather be stabbed in a parking lot with possible wittnesses, cameras, evidence, and where they are not prepared, then be taken to a second location where something way worse will probably happen to me. DO NOT BE TAKEN TO THE SECOND LOCATION.
Excellent advice to fight the objective, not the attacker.
I've been a Gracie University member for 2 years now. The courses are excellent and you're learning from the founding family of Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu - the Gracie family. The brothers Rener and Ryron give outstanding instruction and are SUPER passionate about Jiu-Jitsu.
Love this!! We should be told at school about self defense
but then the attackers will know
Also worth mentioning don't forget the power of a good eye gouge and groin strike.
Yep it’s all fair play in self defence. A good throat punch is always good too.
these are effective but in the case of criminals, a lot of them will commit knowing if they disengage, they'll end up facing worse consequences. because of this, groins strikes can be effective if it's used with jiu jitsu to takedown/submit.
My 65 yrs old mom was grabbed from behind and carried into a restroom to be raped. My mom did what she did, mom kicked the sink so hard with both legs causing the back of her head to hit the perpetrator in his face. He fell backwards and let mom go. As mom ran he ran in the opposite direction out of the building. He had gloves and a ski mask. But mom saw his blue eyes and white facial skin. We don’t know if the pervert was ever caught but I’m still so proud of my mom.
As this guy said, make it hard for the perpetrator to reach his outcome. FIGHT!
Your mom did the exact right thing. I am so glad she got away.
@@galebryan3866 thank you, us too.
I hope he got seriously deformed from the head-butt and now has PTSD around women.
Wow! Your mom did such a great job! I'm an older woman and your story boosts my confidence in my own capacity to fight back effectively, if the need arises.
When I was 15 yrs a man try to Kidnapped me I did that first self defense technique. the pull of the hand I got away Amen it work for me
I started Gracie combatives a month ago, it’s amazing!!
I will definitely share this by sending it to my family and friends...This is one of the very best I have found and it is so well done in every way! 👊🏻
One of the biggest things, imho, that’s saved my butt is that I can be extremely loud when need be. Something about screaming as much nonsense as possible, as loudly as possible. Really draws attention they don’t want. One of the scariest was getting jumped from behind while walking home from work. After a graveyard shift I specifically said I wasn’t available for for safety reasons. They were caught off guard when I didn’t immediately start reacting. I waited just a brief moment to see if they’d loosen their grip long enough to flip me over or pick me up. And they did. And that’s when I went nuts & they ran off muttering about what a crazy bee I am. Better crazy than dead. 🤷🏼♀️ Excellent tips here! Does anyone have any suggestions in regards to personal safety classes when you have severe PTSD & when triggered automatically snap into fight mode? I’d feel so much better knowing I had that training but I don’t want to flip out on the poor instructor. 😊
It has been proven that taking a self defense class helps with PTSD. See my youtube video. ua-cam.com/video/SYfKCDwwNow/v-deo.html Go to the comment section for all the prevention and techniques you will ever need. If I list the place here it will be blocked. Good Luck. Gale
You wont be able to flip out on him, stop living a fantasy. Whether you like it or not, you wont rise to the occasion you will fall to your training in a serious situation.
the problem is that in that moment, when u're attacked (grabbed, dragged, etc) in a split second, the fear takes over the victim. u think u could use ur strength to fight back, but honestly u most probably strength in ur limbs subconsciously, because of the panic or whatever fear that takes over ur muscle/brain. I don't know if knowing techniques will work to help overcome fear in a split second of an attack but i hope it does.
It certainly can't hurt. Knowledge and skill are power! Better than allow the fear to keep you sick and petrified.
Hopefully being prepared with some survival techniques will help panic to keep from setting in.
You're right, thats why practice and being part of a program, learning muscle memory from techniques you've practiced can be so helpful
I had a drunk man try to drag me on a train when I was overseas and techniques from a self-defense class I had taken decades prior came back to me! Definitely take a course. When the fear strikes, you'll be ready!
Now, if someone you know attacks you, that's a different matter because if you've previously had positive experiences with them, it will take your mind more time to shift to danger mode but it still can. You just have to prepare in advance so that your mind will make the shift. 👍
I was attacked when I was a 16. When I first realized that I was being followed I was scared, but I told myself not to show it. The guy then rapidly approached me and grabbed me in the crotch area. I went straight into fight mode. The fear was totally gone. There was a wooded area next to the sidewalk, and I knew that I couldn't let him take me there. I was only 5'2" and 105 lbs, and he was 5'11" and 180lbs. I felt such a rage at this guy for grabbing me ! I amazed myself with my response and I got away. I saw the guy again 2 days later in my neighborhood and called the police, who arrested him further down the street.
Excellent tips as always, love both of you guys and your brother. Gonna teach these to my wife.
Great stuff! Always be prepared for the fight. Never give up.
This is something that should be mandatory for young girls to learn, just like school! It honestly should be a part of the schooling! Self defense is SO important to learn in this dangerous world. The only thing he didn't talk about though is when the attacker has a weapon, that is something that in many many cases just paralysis the victim and makes them too afraid to defend themselves, what do you do when the person has a gun for example. But we all know that the first rule in these situations is to NEVER let them take you to a second location because then you've increased your chances of not surviving by probably 90%. I'm sure it's easier said than done but you should rather fight for your life and possibly get injured or worse in that first location then to let them take you away. I say it's at least better to possibly lose your life fighting them then whatever else awaits you when they take you away.
First step is to prevent the incident in the first place - be aware of your surroundings, only use 1 side of your headphones/earbuds, put down the effing cellphone.
Second, paranoia saves lives. It is unfortunate, but we need to make choices based on the knowledge that rapists, kidnappers, murderers... get a slap on the wrist and are turned loose on society to repeat their crimes. Yes, we *SHOULD* be able to safely drive alone at night & stop for gas if we need to, run/jog/exercise whenever & wherever is appropriate, wear what we are comfortable in; sadly, there are monsters out there who take those decisions as an open invitation. Every woman on the planet is a target, a potential victim. We *need* to make safe choices and teach our daughters to do the same. Insisting on the right of way when we're driving causes accidents; insisting on the right to make unsafe choices as though we are somehow special and/or immune from being attacked causes headlines.
Yes, learning self defense is great. Another viable option is a Security 9, a Glock 19... Escaping a potential attacker is lifesaving for *you*, but he is still free and looking for his next victim. The solution many of us who must drive at night (medical professionals, first responders, store or factory workers...) have been forced into is to *safely and legally* carry a firearm (that we have been thoroughly trained in) for personal protection. Priority 1, should I ever find myself in that situation (again) is *always* to get home safely to my family; but I also feel a sense of responsibility to the other women & girls in my community, so making sure the attacker is stopped is my secondary goal.
Very true. Also the part about only wearing one earphone. It is amazing to me that women will walk so nonchalantly with their earphones in and head down watching their phone instead of their surroundings.
Eve Torres!!!!Thank you - I knew your man was a good one years ago, when you teamed up to be a power-duo in what you do best and love most! God bless and keep you and your fam.
Great tips! This should be taught in all campuses starting from grade school to college!
i always said if someone tries to take me, i'd rather they just kill me right on the spot. i'm not leaving in anyone's vehicle while still conscious
Everyone criticizing a guy that has extensive experience and a commendable history of sponsoring bullied victims to regain confidence in learning defensive skills, and he teaches law enforcement how to be less aggressive, more in control therefore reducing the need for the use of deadly force. All very good stuff and now he's helping women and medical staff and folks are still criticizing? Smh
And they probably never even tried jujitsu. Some people feel a need to be cynical. Feel sad for them
@@Kmcheuk right, it blows my mind. But perhaps I'm the idiot for allowing internet comment sections to affect my state of mind.
whos criticizing? hes awesome
thank you for this. I'm showing my daughter tomorrow.
Dont forget honking the horn can also cause attention to the vehicle
This is great advice. Everyone should also learn how to use weapons, they are better equalizers than bare hands against stronger attackers. I saw the Memphis guy...he was big and strong while his target was like 120lbs.
This is incredible. I am going to share this with my children. Thank you for helping people to save their own lives.
My granddaughter is a student with GB. I also have her training in Krav and muay Thai. I am going to show her this video as well.
You guys are amazing! Thank you ❤
It's not like you're going to be loose in the backseat. You need to teach us what you do if tied up! That would be awesome 😎
Yeah like that poor family that was abducted and killed in California last week.
Just follow the steps that he stated for OUTSIDE of the car and you will not find yourself tied up in the backseat.
Don't get tied up. If you get tied up jiu jitsu can't save you.
Never let them take you to the 2nd location …you have a better chance than the latter
This video needs to be shown and these skills need to be taught MANDATORILY in schools all across the world! Like the guy said in the end this is lifesaving!! I can't imagine anything more important to be taught in school yet it somehow isnt!
Wow, kinda scary but so appreciative for the lessons.
Firearms safety and self defense with a firearm needs to be taught in every school. Whether or not you choose to avail yourself of that option is up to you, but with the right training it's a very effective self defense option.
Took classes from this guy a looong time ago in Torrance, fantastic teacher and extremely nice guy. His older brother was a cocky joe cool guy…like evil twin brother. Dudes so lanky huge feet and hands, not to be messed with
Awesome. I'm teaching this to the college ladies on safety, here in Indones1a.
I thought they were going to show the seatbelt used as a choke- check out their channel for that one. Incredible work
Having watched the video and read the comments, I have two points to make.
Point number 1: For those who always have problems for solutions, saying what if and this and that...your fears are valid but how about you brainstorm possible solutions for the problems you're coming up with?
These people have come up with possible solutions for a one man attack. It would not always work but it is something. Better to be armed with some knowledge and feel a bit adequate about fending attack than to be totally helpless and paralyzed in the moment.
Let's be solution minded huh? Think this information is inadequate? Then you might just be the solution we're all searching for.
Point number 2: I'd rather whatever horrors I face occur in public than in some basement somewhere.
A colleague of mine was almost kidnaped on her way back from work. She thought to herself, I'd rather die in public and have my family see my corpse than have them forever wonder what happened to me and because of that thought, she jumped out of the moving vehicle and thankfully, she survived. She was hospitalized for weeks but she survived.
In summary, if you can resist going to a second location, do so. No matter the outcome.
HEY Rener! FYI Sir, A Chick-fil-A employee in Fort Walton Beach just stopped a baby kidnapping with a guillotine. Please look it up and do a video on it please. ❤️😎 (love your stuff, big fan mate)
She's amazing. Very helpful tips!
Thank you so much for this video. You are helping so many people. Please do a demo on if the attacker has a gun. Because most do. Thank you again! You guys rock!
It is NEVER right for anyone to do you harm in any way!
In the video you said you should be able 2 wear,do, or go anywhere you want.
Your giving the impression that we should have no consequences for our actions & that is very dangerous.
Example if we go running in a unsafe place we're taking a huge risk that could be avoided. We are responsible for our own safty for as much as we can & that includes making safe & better choices
I know what his intentions in the video is however there are those who will take him at his word & do just that for what ever reason.
I hate the idea that we "should" be able to do anything without thought, or asking if what I'm doing is a good idea. Evil exists, and it doesn't care about our shoulds.
Exactly. Sadly, that is the reality of the world we live in.
It’s like saying criminals shouldn’t commit crimes 😂
@@قناةلنشرالخير-ص3ل correct. A pointless fact that doesn't help at all. I'm surprised rener said that
@@black9897 When I was in college , sports bras and those tiny shorts weren’t allowed and there were restrictions for men too at the university’s recreation center here in the USA. You cannot wear whatever you want anywhere you want like he said in the video, if you go to court you cannot walk in dressed like a clown and say I have the right to wear whatever I want in court, you will be get kicked out. I’m a woman and I used to go for early morning runs 30 minutes before sunrise, I always wore leggings and a hoodie to look less attractive.. I see guys looking at women who are dressed in those tiny shorts and sports bras in the gym but they don’t look much at the woman who is dressed in a hoodie and leggings. This is not blaming victims these are facts. Jogging ALONE in the dark at 4am wearing earpods listening to music when the roads are empty calls for trouble especially these last couple of years with the defund the police movement and the rise in crimes. I used to see a lot of police cars in the past in my town but it all changed since 2020, I rarely see any patrolling on the streets. Even in the animal kingdom, lions and wolves always wait for that one animal to leave the herd to attack, safety and strength are in numbers, jog with a couple of friends or a husband but never alone in the dark, even if carries a mace or a knife or a gun, it won’t help if she is caught off guard or hit in the head with something or knocked unconscious etc… I watch a lot of crime shows and criminals come prepared especially if they spent a lot of time stalking the victim.
@@قناةلنشرالخير-ص3ل 100 percent correct. If only more people understood this
Man this was good...thanks mr. Gracie..we need this teaching in san jose ca. Wish we had a gracie studio here... :(
I went on a date with a guy recently. We got in his car for him to drive me home. He asked for a kiss and I nicely said no but he insisted. He started to pull me closer to him…. I karate chopped the hell out of him and jumped out the passenger side. The scariest 3 seconds. I was so out of breath and we both just stood there for five minutes staring at each other in shock.
We need this in South Africa. The kidnapping of women and children and even men are hectic.
Public schools should be mandatory self defense and etiquette. As a main course like math
I just started. Up in Tampa doing women's empowered.
0:01 Thank you SIR!!!!
Thanks guys for this information. I appreciate you so much. I will keep this information in mind. God bless you guys.
I love it,, Thank you 👍👏👏👏I'm definitely showing my kids this Thank you 👍😁
Great video. Watched many videos with Rener teaching. He should enter the world's fastest talker competion, or loudest talker.
Love the videos though.
This kid is one of the nicest people around thank you rener
Thank you so much. Just knowing what to do in advance is a big help.
Do NOT scream for help. Everyone will run and hide. Scream, FIRE! FIRE! FIRE! Help makes them run and hide. Fire brings everyone out of their doors.
No, screaming for help WILL summon Good Samaritans.
Lol 😆 sure someone will remember “FIRE” in a situation like that.
@@Rocket-rs1eb it already has worked. Through repetitive thought remembering that this could happen. It has worked.
@@Rocket-rs1eb They’ve been training women to yell “Fire!” since the 80s.
Solid advice
You definitely have the right to act however you like and not be assaulted, but not everyone respects that right so you need to be realistic about that fact.
dont dim his message. we all fucking hear what you're saying all the time. every fucking victim gets told this. what we need is men like him speaking up for us. no one needs to hear this repeated in our ears for the millionth time holy shit
We also have the right to our own body autonomy, especially against our Tyrannical government when it comes to forcing us to take a poison shot or loose our jobs.
Too bad tyrannical governments and poison shots are not covered in this class. Maybe the next class.
Excellent tips!
Always be wary of vans, slow driving or parked, they can scoop you up in a second. Door is usually open.
Gotta love the rejection of personal responsibility there at the beginning. “Wearing whatever you want, drinking whatever you want and hanging with whoever you want” gets you into these situations in the first place. Otherwise you wouldn’t have to use any of these self defense techniques to begin with, unless you get attacked unprovoked. A lot of people get themselves into these dangerous scenarios with lack of common sense. All the time I’m still hearing in the news about women going out alone late at night, people hanging around in their cars early morning/late night and getting shot, talking with sketchy strangers, etc. If you’re going to teach/follow safety lessons, don’t go halfway.
I love jiu-jítsu ❤I got injured couple months ago and I am missing it so much! I hope get on track soon!!
THAT WAS A TRULY LIFE - SAVING VIDEO !!! THIS SHOULD BE SEEN E V E R Y W H E R E .!!!
R E N E G R A C I E IS I N C R E D I B L E AND A M A Z I N G TO HAVE MADE THIS VIDEO FOR US ALL....!!!!
I've trained in martial arts for years and am an instructor. Disagree with two of his suggestions....that if the woman is being grabbed and being pulled, she shouldn't let her body go forward towards the attacker. If the woman trains correctly in that scenario, she can land a devastating elbow and/or punch to the face or even a kick to the growing with all that momentum being built up instead of trying to pull and break free opposing force. I do like the wrist release to break free however as an option as we train that technique too. Second....is Eve was yelling HELP, HELP. NEVER yell help. Now adays people hear help and maybe might get someone or two to come running.. Instead yell FIRE FIRE! People hear that and they come running! The last technique of willingly falling to the ground, only do that as the last resort!! He did say if she slipping, to do that. The risk is that if you're not able to land good strong effective kicks from the ground or even miss, the attacked could quickly get on top of you. Staying on your feet to fight is always best!
You have the right to do whatever however, there is a time and place for everything. Be wise with how and when you move.
Absolutely awesome! And attainable for all.
The fact that I have to watch this video because Illinois is introducing a law where any kidnappers will be let out of jail without a bond is ridiculous.
Nothing good comes from being taken to a secondary location
NOTHING!
My mom always said never go to the second location because you are dead and even if someone has a gun on you not to go
She's right
Great video! Thank you
Thank you for this video ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I live right below Memphis. There was a dude shooting people the other day. Southaven PD chased him back to Memphis. Memphis isn’t a good city.
When has it been?
Great tips!! Thanku
Great tips!!!
Very helpful information!!!
I need to exercise so I can at least make it past the ‘kick against the vehicle’ part….
Thank you!
Great tips!
I have a very simple self defense option for women that works very well against any attacker no matter what their size or whether they're armed or not. Let me introduce my friends Mr. Smith and Mr. Wesson.
Does it work when the gun is not already in her hand or if she is attacked from behind?
This is stuck in my head now😎👍
Wow, this is so powerful
Oh I want a class. Great tips
These techniques are great, thank you so much. Now, this selfdefense strategies would only work if the attacker is not holding a knife or a gun, right?
"now i know your techniques, i shall make a counter of it, thank you" Kidnapper 🤣
This is excellent. Thank. you
Thank you.
2:04 "after you"🤣
People , use this techniques they are just common sensé and right.
Unfortunately, in my country you will bé killed instantly for trying to resist: that's their rule and they are AT l'East 5 or 7 to operates. But I will memorirized thèse techniques they certains Can Help in some différent situations.
Beautiful couple btw
Rener is assuming correctly that the odds of being killed after the abduction is high. So you’re playing the odds by attempting to escape until they present you with deadly force and maybe even after.
Yet another reason to never visit France.