i did some pretty dumb and disgusting things... that made me touch rock bottom.... it hurts so much but i did learn that indeed feeling bad is a good sign that my morals are in the right direction is just that i made a mistake and i need to work to never doing them again... for those who are christian please pray for me!
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I don’t know who needs to hear this but you are not alone in your suffering. Everyone fucks up. That’s the reality of being a human. I fucked up pretty bad towards the end of 2023. I was lost for a really long time, I didn’t have a strong sense of self, I forgot who I was, I had all this toxic shame within me from traumas I didn’t know how to handle productively, and I gave my power away to way too many people in ways that made me very malleable to the influence of others, and which continued to damage my relationship with myself. And then all that self-neglect caused me to make a big mistake-I betrayed my partner at the time and one of my close friends. (*trigger warning*) And that shit almost made me kill myself because of how excruciating the remorse and the shame and the guilt felt of hurting the people I love. But I’m here, living to tell you that sometimes it’s in the moments that you’re REALLY lost, in those moments where that huge fuck up is staring you in the face that you realize “oh shit, this is not who I am.” More often than not, you realize more about who you are by experiencing who you are not. And you find greater compassion for others who are also lost, who have also made mistakes, when you experience what it’s like being on that end of the spectrum. It’s a humbling reminder that no one has any right to judge others, because we’re all suffering from something and we all have made mistakes. Everyone has been hurt and has caused hurt in some way because humans are super complex and that’s just life. You’re not any less than someone who hasn’t made the same mistake(s) as you, because you don’t know all the ways they’ve also made mistakes-And we’re all human. I’m not perfect, you’re not perfect, and neither is anyone else-even the people who we look up to have their faults. We’re all on this Earth learning as we go with literally no instruction on how to live our own life with the specific cards we’ve been dealt with. No one is above or below anyone else. Your past does not define who you are. The biggest truth in life is that nothing is permanent-everything is always changing. And there’s so much relief in realizing the beauty of that, because you realize you don’t need to attach to anything-and especially not the past versions of yourself. Every moment is an opportunity to change and grow, and to continuously redefine who you are and who you want to be. It is never too late to try again-to learn from your mistakes, and to take the action you need in this ever-present Now moment to do better. Like anything in life, you try your best, you make a mistake, you reflect on what you can do better, and you try again with the new information you have. The remorse never fully goes away-there will always be times where it may resurface, where you will remember the guilt or the shame. But as you learn to continue sitting with it and simply observing that feeling within your body without any judgement, you begin to see that feeling for what it is-a feeling. It’s not something that defines who you are. It’s just an emotion that arises within your body as a natural occurrence of whatever event triggered that emotion. And it’s something that you can handle and move forward with, and integrate as a reminder of how to not make the same mistake. It gets easier. And no matter what people think of you, no matter what people say about you, no matter how they treat you, you are not your past. You are not your mistakes. You don’t have to cling on to a past version of yourself just because someone else is holding onto it. Other people’s opinions and behaviors truly have nothing to do with you-You’re not responsible for anything else but the thoughts, words, and actions YOU have in this present moment. You can’t do anything about other people, the past, or the future. Everything you need is all within you and all you have is right Now. Spend your present moment giving yourself compassion, leaning into things that bring you joy, implementing actions that reflect the type of person you want to become. If you are still alive after all the shit that has caused you guilt or shame, you still have a greater purpose here on this Earth. All these mistakes and rock bottoms are just stepping stones to help you figure how to continue changing your actions to align with your soul. These are part of your awakening. Keep regular record of all the progress you’re making, big or small, because it’ll help you in the long run. And above all, you are so loved. No matter what has happened to you or what you may have done, there is always going to be the one truth: that love is always within you, always around you, and always here for you to return to. Love is ever-present and despite how everyone and everything in this material world will come and go, that Source of love-call it God, Spirit, the Universe, whatever-will never leave you because it is love without limitation or condition. You will always be loved no matter who you are, where you are, or what you do. For the sake of yourself, rise up against all of it and remind yourself that you are good enough, you are valuable, you are worthy, and you are capable. Live your life out of devotion to your soul and out of devotion to the Source of love, and you will find yourself overflowing with a light that remains constant even in the midst of your greatest adversities. Change your focus to change your reality. Sending love to all of you 🤎
I really needed to see this. Thank you so much. You have me sitting here crying. Because I just want to be heard and understood. Thank you for sharing because I see, I’m not the only one.
Oh my gosh, this really grabbed my attention. Thank You Very Much for your advice. I feel like seeing this is really important for all to see, everyone needs to learn exactly where you are coming from, and what an eloquent way to describe something that is emotionally tough to describe and is just challenging enough to put into speakable words.
I'm living with this guilt right now over something that happened 10 years ago. I've been contemplating not being here anymore. I don't feel worthy of a good life, friends, and a healthy relationship. I'm trying to make my way back to God. I know He's always with me. I just wish I wasn't going through this alone on earth..... I needed this.
I also dealt with feeling suicidal this year because of guilt. I just want you to know though that no one is perfect. We make mistakes and sometimes we donthings we shouldn't but we have to learn and grow from those mistakes. You are not dirty or filthy or unworthy. You are beautiful and pure. You dont have to punish yourself you have already suffered so much. I pray that you experience supernatural peace. I know god gave me peace . Know that how you are feeling now is temporary sis.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I've been where you are. Release and surrender all of your worry, guilt, and shame to God. He loves, heals, comforts and cares for you. You are His child 💛. Forgive others and yourself. Peace will surround you.. Be kind to yourself 💛
The thing that killed, anihilated, destroyed and erased my guilt was studying philosophy and society. It would be very easy for me to claim that we have free will, but we have so little that its minimal compared to what ir could be, everything is influenced by something 99% of the time. The other thing is, society, justice, culture, institutions they all asume we have this enormous free will, so then we have all the responsability for all of our acts as if we owe something to society everytime a group of predetermined facts about our psyche its transformed into an action. Our will is trainable, we could think and reason more but not everyone does it, society is wrong, culture is wrong, institutions are wrong and that is what causes this pathological guilt you have, you feel judged, if you were alone in an island you wouldn't feel this for sure, its the unnatural claim that every action of yours is under absolute control and that is a delusion, a delusion in which society works of course but not the most objective truth you can get, its far from that. Now that you know this (study this, without a bias, even without wanting it to be true) forgive yourself and move on and be better, be concious, be here and now, accept your past but SIT and do all this, its gonna take some months probably but your brain will let it go and start to function again normally, like mine now. I copied my comment because I didn't wanna type the same advise over and over again. And get to know Jesus, He is the truth, I don't follow Gos because of confort btw, I accepted him after I cured all my guilt on my own so you could say I cleaned myself before the shower 😂 but whatever, thats me
@@thatoneguy523I'm going through it now, I feel like moving away or overdosing, but I also feel that God wants me here to complete the journey he wrote me, even though I don't feel I deserve anything good in this life, these last 8 years have been horrific and the only thing that's been getting me through is connecting with people that understand and love you, and talking to God. Cry to him, he is always listening and he knows and loves you more than your own blood, staying away from alcohol and drugs is an absolute must aswell. We got tricked into that from young and it absolutely does nothing but make us depressed and ruin lives . Love ya kid keep your head up
The problem with feeling guilt and deep shame over something from your past is that you feel like you are a bad and horrible person at your very core and your self esteem is always at rock bottom.
I try to remember that it's not our fault, however it is our responsibility to get better and correct our mistakes if needed. But I don't believe that guilt is always an optimal motivator.
What is I was a horrible person in the past who have kelled a lot of people whom I hate very much . So do u think u can forgive me ? I don't want to feel guilty but I feel very guilty for what have I done.i don't know what to do anymore
I've been there. Your present self isn't your past. Appoint your life in a good direction and do yourself a favor and treat yourself by staying on the right path. Be a person that you can live with. Prove your guilt wrong by the actions that you do and your intent behind your actions while also accepting and owning up to your past mistakes.
If you feel guilt or shame that is good! It means you have a functioning brain. The worst kind of people are those who have no guilt, remorse, shame, regret, etc. typically people who are psychopathic in nature, simply too stupid or have no emotional regulation. If you have one of the aforementioned emotions take them in, ponder them, and adjust your life in a way that will allow you to avoid such emotions in the future. When you experience emotions like these it’s your mind/social conditioning telling you something is wrong and you need to pivot or change your behavior moving forward.
popular lying interchangeably, you just described almost everyone. you know all about ~all social conditioning? its ~always the most subnormal psychopathic thing impossible normalised. being innocent guiltless independent of it is able to gauge any morality or anything at all to provide voices of reason independently of fakely looking normal by fully lying contexts. ppl use the inventions of the few conscious ppl as insulting them all the times for everyone else having no guilt shame remorse as reversing it ref nazis witchhunts crusades crucifixions infinite etcs normal moral social approvals agreeable autopilot herd mentality ppls (*i dont value being fashionably wrong, wrong measurements low rank is high rank). i see most social conditioning leads to ~all psychopathy in all of histories, you only hear about one singled out news headline outcasting targets to make everyone else dishonest to avoid the same creating fictitious minorities *its also deeply true, its an invisible weight only those sensitive to this carry when living a sold out life not worth living i think these are true good advices thank you ❤❤😊
@@pearlmiller3868 not sure what you mean by “preprogrammed” in this context but if you’re referring to deeply seated childhood trauma then nothing changes except overcoming said emotions is much harder because they are firmly rooted and your brains structure and chemistry is likely very well established. In my opinion there are three* ways to go about fixing* something like this. Your first option and probably most the conventional way would be to seek therapy. Your second option would be to take some form of drug that would immediately give your brain neuroplasticity allow it to change. People typically do this under guidance/supervision. Lastly maybe the harder or potentially easiest option would be to just “not care” and to try and make the best of things. You can’t change the past and the only thing you have control over in this life is your mind (assuming you aren’t a schizo or something). Best of luck.
I constantly feel shame and guilt for myself. I feel like such a messed and fucked up person. Alot of people say I'm a very respectful and kind person. I dont feel good though about myself. Ive been stuck in a constant state of negatively and deep depression. Im almost 25 and I haven't been working for ages and i have constant anxiety. Im so sick of going thru life like this. Im so tired 😔
Please forgive yourselves. We learn through mistakes and wisdom comes in hindsight ONLY. Why do you condemn yourselves when God had set you free? Why accuse yourselves after you’ve realised your mistakes and are contrite about it? Who told you that you are beyond redemption, salvation and resurrection? No, when we know better we do better. So go now make peace with yourselves, a war within has no victors only destruction. Choose you, you are worthy, you have value, invest in forgiveness, your dreams, hopes and interests. Don’t let this rob you of your time and life. Don’t be a co-conspirator to a narrative that is false. Nothing grows nor flourishes in the past. It’s dead. You are alive- no go live. You are worthy. ❤
So sorry to hear that! I highly recommend Heidi Priebes videos about toxic shame! She explains that we are all normal and not broken at our core and we feel abnormal due to the things which happened to us❤
When my son passed away I was racked with guilt. The first day he was in the hospital he had symptoms he never had before and I questioned the nurses. They told me I was feeding his anxiety. He was in acidosis & the steroids he was on skewed hid true glucose numbers. He was on them because it's how they treat Addisons disease. The local hospital he was in was not the best. By the time I asked him to transfer they said he could die in transfer. After he passed I developed Hashimotos disease my mind had turned on my body. I worked in health care I felt I should of known. It is so hard to forgive yourself & tell yourself you were not in charge of his care. The mind-body connection is strong. You have to give yourself grace to forgive yourself.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your son. Please know that you did the best you could with the information and circumstances at hand. It's natural to question ourselves, but remember that healthcare is complex and mistakes can happen. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to grieve. Remember, you are not alone, that feelings of guilt are not uncommon, everyone has some kind of pain and regrets.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.a
I’m so sorry to this commenter. I’m praying for you. A pain no human should endure. You loved your baby. And it’s only easy to see now in hindsight. You did the best with what was in front of you. Praying God wraps you in his arms.
Surround yourself with people you love and who love you back! Those who have your best interests at heart. Any evidence of their sabotage, is a reason for their removal from your life. Healthy Boundaries are pertinent for your healing, and empowerment of self worth. 'No' is a complete sentence.
I can’t love you enough for saying “no is a complete sentence!” I have been immensely careful about who gets to be in my inner circle and who Gets the outer circle and who deserves the boot!. Haven’t been happier since..
@@mnvn YES! 'NOs' are necessary for Healthy Boundaries! I had no idea what narcissism was, never heard of it, but then my sister said I was a narcissistic sociopath. Then she threw her head back and laughed. Always a clue with her that there is more to the story! I went home and looked it up and her picture was there! I knew her ex husband was going to a shrink because of her. They had been separated for decades 30, 40 and she wouldn't let him go. When I asked her why, she said, " I find him entertaining." I suspected his shrink diagnosed her. He left her while she was on a ski trip. He'd bought a house in the mountains and was already moved in when he 'disappeared'. She would have him come to family holidays even though he was then living with someone else. She is SOooo controlling! I've come to find she is a narcissistic psychopath. She and my other sister conspired to take my mother 'out' because she wanted the house, our inheritance! She rewrote my mother's will to give her total control of the house after Mom's death and then conspired to up costs for us to pay which she tried to sue us for, while she rent the beach house out, and spend all the estate money for the next 7 years by keeping the house in probate for control. I have been 'no contact' for those 7 years except when I heard from her lawyer. The judge had ruled the house be sold so she dropped the suit to keep control of the house. Then my brother died, and we were on the same page with this. I'm now suing her to get her removed as executrix. Money well spent. She is rewriting her lies and running in a panic! I've never seen such a panic! Those 7 years of 'no contact' were the most difficult, and intense self awareness 'lessons' I have ever experienced. After receiving GODs download of wonderful Healthy Boundaries, and practicing yelling NO into my bathroom mirror (what a wonderful sound! So freeing). The next hurdle was denial! A codependent carries around denial for protection and it is extremely heavy, a burden. Denial is simply lies you tell yourself. Why? Because the truth is too painful, however, no matter how difficult the Truth will set you free! The lies I told myself were destroying my life, and relationships as they little by little chipped away at me. Celebrate Recovery was the catalyst for that! It was tough but Truth is free from the self inflicted emotional wounds of the lies of denial we use to survive in a situation. Getting out of that situation is the only way to heal, and find out who you are, not who someone else says you are. The truth is when I'm around them, their toxicity is more than I can handle now because I'm healed and recognize it for what it is. Codependent people are groomed to be kind, considerate, have unlimited patience, are helpful puppies and so much more! Wonderful traits, however, it's the Healthy Boundaries that have been denied by a narcissistic parent or two! When you find you have value, worth in GOD'seyes, it changes everything because you know you're loveable! If the GOD of the universe loves you, King of all kings, hey! Nothing can stop you! You are royalty, sons and daughter of the living King! Just sayin', it's good to know your GOD's beloved! 💌
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.a
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I did dumb and disgusting thing when i was 13 -14 years old which i wish i never did i feel so disgusted and guilt and shame about myself and i wish god forgives me and please pray for me brothers and sisters
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
It’s ok God forgive it be us sometimes beat that mind... because u could’ve been dead if God we’re like how we be thinking he is... each day is a brand new mercy
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I lost my brother 2 years ago due to suicide ,I hate myself everyday for not being there for him, for being so busy not to have some time to share with my brother,I noticed he was not okay, I knew he was going through a hard time ,I was also going through stuff but that was never an excuse to leave him alone at those times ,he was always there for me at my lowest, but I didn't do the same for him ,I didn't appreciate him enough, i didn't make him feel like he had to fight so he can stay with me ,I didn't show him how much I loved and cared about him ,I didn't hug him and tell him that he is the one and the only person I feel happy when I with ,I didn't do alot of stuff that could have completely changed what happened, if only I could go back in time ,and just tell him everything is going to be fine ,and no matter how fucked up our life is we still have each other, if only that was possible
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.l
There is valid guilt, and there is false guilt. As a Christian, I believe in both, and I believe in repentance, forgiveness, and grace. I also like the Serenity Prayer.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.a
As someone who has suffered exactly what you describe, it is so freeing to hear your treatment and understanding of our despair and depression. Thank you, Mr. Peterson. I wish you had been my psychologist through the years of deepest darkness. There is no pain like mental pain. No pill can fix it, and no compassion can soothe. It is inner healing that most doctors in my experience know nothing about. I am 70 now, and because of God's love and word of truth, I am better, far better than I was in my 20's, trying to raise children. My husband tried to understand, but no one could explain to him why I could not rid myself of guilt and shame at not being perfect. It is hard still, but you said it well. It is a learning experience. One you never get to stop. Thank you for your insight and candor.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Thank you, Doc. I have this tendency to blame and push myself into guilt. I have been told I am too hard on myself once or twice, but I do not think I need to change that. However, guilt and shame are forms of corrosion. Taking self accountability too far, and thinking you are the reason behind every goddamned terrible thing, it eats away at your sanity. I am under confident, second guess myself too many times even when I'm evidently correct, less assertive than I'd like to be. I'm working on it. I will let those parts of myself burn and chip away which make me weak. And I must come out of the fire as the individual I aspire to be. Needless to state, it's excruciating, but so is this.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.a
That after 50 something years they finally started to see the light and started trying to find themselves as a worthy being and learn to figure out how to fit into society as an individual
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.a
This resonates with me as I had a real problem with throwing my hands up in the air saying “I’m an idiot.” “I can’t do anything” etc. it was a way to justify my complacency. If I was the “idiot”then I didn’t need to work on myself. Still working on balancing the thorough assessment of my weakness and giving myself the benefit of the doubt (within reason).
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.a
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.a
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I am right there with you man. Even though that person may not be able to forgive and accept you in their life. You can take solace that a higher power will if you truly are sorry and make amends or reverse some negative karma through good deeds not done to reverse negative karma. That is when you have healed and are strong enough too!
@@spectrepar2458 I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
@@nomoreliberties i am truly sorry and have tried to make amends (though indirectly as direct amends don´t seem recommendable in my situation) and good deeds, but what do you mean by "good deeds not done to reverse negative karma"...does this mean my good deeds are not enough to be forgiven, because i am doing them to try to make up for what i did?
Yes absolutely correct that a person must surround themselves with people who love them . I've experienced a true narcissistic person who pretended to care but was only a user and always thinking someone was out to get her . I'm so happy to have broken that spell even though I'm homeless .
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Mr. Peterson is one of the most brilliant physiologists out there. His words and metaphors have helped guide me through the hardest times, no in person Therapy has ever come close 🙏
This clip is so helpful. It is so validating that Dr Peterson has observed this, because in my experience being consumed with guilt and shame is a very common thing of childhood trauma. As he says, we operate on the assumption that we are guilty by default, so we can’t defend ourselves. Incidentally, I found this passage in the Bible where Satan is referred to as the Accuser ( and also as the Dragon and the Snake… the same snake from the garden of Eden). The verse is in the Apocalypse (or Revelations): Ap 12, v9-12.
Also, 1 PETER 5:8-9 “Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. Resist him, firm in your faith”
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.a
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Dr Peterson you nailed it, Im struggling very much with guilt and regret which has caused severe depression. I cannot live in this state anymore. Can you help me please.
You seems to have taken that first step already; naming the problem - you are struggling very much with guilt and regret and you can not live in that state anymore? Right? Then it's time.... Audit what your triggers are? What is fueling those feelings? Can you name those too? Audit the elements in your current environment; how are those impacting on your feelings?
Same here bro , i also can't able to overcome it 😢. It's ruining my studies , life . I don't know what to do. Have you overcome it? Please let me know , what steps have you taken to overcome it.
Psilocybin. It literally saved my life. I was on the verge of suicide. Took a heroic dose once, four years ago. Non-addictive, completely safe, and it works. Do your research. It's easy to grow your own medicine. It was the single most profound experience of my entire 40 years.... That's over marriage, having children, etc. Don't take my word for it, do some research.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
One of my relative bro gives me trauma bcoz of that trauma i did some disgusting thing .....and i regret about it everyday .... clearly i m scapegoat.....i feel like i m a scapegoat of others wrongdoings😔
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.I
Uhmm I've been here in same situation, it's okay , embrace the true self , don't torture urself , everybody makes mistakes,try be humble more than yesterday , be conscious on hurting ppl
Satan works as a disciplinator for hypocrites that would blame other beings instead of admiting their own faults and sins, but sometimes Satan also need some disciplination to become a better leader and a better model. Nador
@@basedbroskiworld Serbian first names largely originate from Slavic roots: e.g. Miroslav, Vladimir, Zoran, Ljubomir, Vesna, Radmila, Milica, Svetlana, Slavica, Božidarka, Milorad, Dragan, Milan, Goran, Radomir, Vukašin, Miomir, Branimir, Budimir. Some may be non-Slavic but chosen to reflect Christian faith.
@@basedbroskiworld 1 PETER 5:8-9 “Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. Resist him, firm in your faith”
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.a
I did some messed up things which caused me my loved ones,my friends..I always thought tomorrow would be better but it kept dragging my soul into a very dark place each and everyday.I don't recognise myself anymore.
Your present self isn't your past and if it is only you have the power to change it . Appoint your life in a good direction and do yourself a favor and treat yourself by staying on the right path. Be a person that you can live with. Prove your guilt wrong by the actions that you do and your intent behind your actions while also accepting and owning up to your past mistakes.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
From guilt that l made the worst mistake l punished myself for it l brought the enemy into my life... then l forgave myself. Too many years wasted in darkness! Lesson learnt hard.
I highly recommend Heidi Priebes videos about toxic shame! She explains that we are all normal and not broken at our core and we feel abnormal due to the things which happened to us❤
Even non Christians pray. The act of reaching upward to a power greater than you is universal 🙏 I say this as a Christian and blended with Bhudism. Look for the divine in all people and you will find it. Some just make some pretty horrific mistakes and sometimes even some purpose- ments 😢
You are an amazing human being. Not knowing the concept of forgiveness can have many negative consequences mentally and physically. Fear, guilt, shame are triggers for personal growth but can also devastate a life. The external consequences can be dealt with from an internal position of forgiveness and innocence as you mention. Thank you for what you do and the ideas you share. When you love yourself, you’re loving your surroundings as well
I feel so guilty and ashamed of something ive done to someone who used to be a good friend and partner.. something so bad I cant justify it from any point of innocence. Something i look at and think "Damn.. I really am a monster." And i would give anything to rectify it but i dont expect ill ever be given a chance. Not like i deserve one..
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.l
@@Ryu-v8r what I did did to my previous gf was monstrous.. insane even. I hurt her not physically, But mentally, emotionally, and from sense a trust betrayed her. In the time since, I keep apologizing to myself knowing right now if possible I'd do anything to help and rectify what I caused. Knowing she doesn't ever want to see me again, I've been taking steps towards self forgiving. Asking for Christ's guidance and forgiveness for the Inherent evil in me. Now I'm happier knowing I've taken responsibility for the monster in me and he will never find his way out to another soul. Thanks you for your story. It meant everything to me.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I love this man! I love his way of putting things together to help all of us on how to untangle the spaghetti in our minds. Jordan Peterson is an incredible gift to humanity & I am forever grateful to my brother, who told me about him. All my life, that same brother has passed on true gems that have always helped me. Thank you!!!❤
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.a
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Its not the most important thing to talk about in front of God, the most important is Love how you will handle it and care it. From the heart of my Parents.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.a
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I hope that this reaches the right person. I've been there. Your present self isn't your past. Appoint your life in a good direction and do yourself a favor and treat yourself by staying on the right path. Be a person that you can live with. Prove your guilt wrong by the actions that you do and your intent behind your actions while also accepting and owning up to your past mistakes.
I have unresolved issues from my past. I have gone to professionals several times. I have done prescription meds. But the issues still linger. This have led to me having problems with taking in information, memory loss and other conditions. Yesterday, we had to take down our dog due to a failing pancreas (a condition he probably had since birth). I learned today that the vet had told me 10months ago to give him a low fat diet, something I didn’t pick up on. I just knew that he needed special food for his sensitive belly. Now the dog is gone, my wife and daughters are devastated because of my negligence. The guilt is real
You didn't do anything deliberately cruel.. those are the ones who need to feel guilt (and often dont) many of us have sadly let something like you describe occur. You are a good person, it's ok.
Prayers sent. Recognizing what you have is the first part and unfortunately we cant just expect others to hear us say that we hit that point. They have to see it through our actions.
You ever thought some people have lived under the spell of manipulation of people they trusted to have their best interest at heart and over a lifetime n
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Going to confessiong helps people with this. They can then work on forgiving themselves. I just read a book by Michael H. Brown about after death experiences and purgatory. And in that book, the author asserts that many souls are in purgatory because they don't forgive themselves yet.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.I
I use the Word from scriptures “The Most High is my fortress” because when I am out of this strong place I tend to go to my worse ways. Let us all be strong and remember if you need more strength just read some good psalms from the Bible and lean more on the edifying things that the scriptures can teach. I’m grown and never thought I’d never a book to feel better but it’s not just a book. It is self empowering when you connect to the source
Hey. Don't know if anyone is going to read this comment, but we all know why you're here. It's the same reason we're all here. Maybe you just scrolled across it, or you're searching for ways to forgive yourself, like I am. I messed up incredibly bad the other day, and just about got sent away for what I did. But I'm still here, mainly because I think that there is still a purpose for me left in this life. If you're still here, you have a reason to be. I don't know how many of you who read this are religious, but I believe that there is a God above who loves unconditionally, even if we don't show him love back, and I believe that he still has a purpose for me left here. But that really isn't the point of this comment. The point is that you've messed up if you're reading this. I've messed up. We all have. I know it's hard to do, but you have to forgive yourself and move on. Yes, you may have to face consequences for you actions. But if you aren't dead by the time that you are done facing the consequences, then you still have something left to do here. I believe in you. You have a second chance. Keep going. The race isn't over. You've got this.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I feel so dumb at work. In my highly competitive workplace while others are working so fast, I have since a few years started to feel like I am so old and tired. After I attend somebody's presentation, I always think that I will also work hard. But then I get distracted always. Then when it's my turn to present I mess it up and look so dumb in front of everybody, I feel like people are laughing at me. My boss has started taunting me occasionally and I feel like I deserve it. I feel so ashamed of myself, but at the same time I feel so weak and burnt out and lost. I was not like this, but now I am just ridiculously dumb.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.I
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.I
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I fucked up my summer internship in a law firm. I was not confident but others were really mean. That impacted me deeply. I came home broken hearted. I hated myself and others. It is October that I am writing this. I am improving myself constantly. I count my blessings everyday. I practice gratefulness. I am trying to get fit. I have started listening to these kinds of people. I am healing and so should everyone. God, bless us🙏
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.a
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
With all the hours of wonderful lectures he has given that I've consumed, I still keep finding more from him that absolutely blows my mind and slaps me in the face so righteously.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.l
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Once I quit going to church I felt emotionally much stronger. Making good decisions was easier. And the restrictions placed on my life simply dissolved. Freedom from church allowed me the opportunity to believe there might be a God.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Lost my best friend because I was a complete and utter idiot and made a huge mistake. I am living with that guilt knowing that I caused it. The pain is incredible. The realization that I will speak to this person again hurts.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Yes, our natural inclination is to self-righteousness and righteousness as a means of defense. What we really need to do once those natural defenses come down is to look at our actions with a cooler, dispassionate eye to see whether we were really in the wrong. John MacArthur recently did a sermon on "Dying to Self". I was really impacted by this.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.I
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.a
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.I
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Thank you Dr. Peterson for sharing this message. For me, what other people say about me doesn't have anything to do with me. Especially if they don't know me in person.😂🎉🎉
Once we truly repent of our sins, and the Lord has forgiven us… and although we will never totally forget our past transgressions… although we will forever be more keenly attuned to all sin… we may walk in the joy of His Saving Grace. Praise the Lord! All Glory is God’s alone. ✝️
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
If we confess our sin, God is faithful and just to forgive us our sin, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. (1John 1:9). Confess your sins to one another, pray for one another that you may be healed. The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much. (James 5:16).
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.l
I'm Christan, i got drunk and some people saw me passed out I feel like i could dig a hole and hide myself, cause the very same people who saw me always see me sharing the gospel and telling them to repent, but i did the very same evil as them, one even said i live 2 lives, those words broke me, Just seeing the very same people on my flat kills me, Im embarrased and i feel like a hypocrite. I
For me it was about facing the seriousness and depth of damage shame does. Being accused or chattered about cheekily or ignored in one’s needs or dignity, or facing an ambiguous seemingly harmless indictment means facing an enemy whose power is not immediately obvious . So seeing the enormity of power this emotion has leads indeed to mounting a serious defense ; you cannot turn up to a fight with a multiple headed hydra with a bottle of beer and self deprecating irony . You need a sharp sword and a keen eye.
I'm Sorry For alot of years, I carried a deep sense and feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tormented myself, for all those years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was me myself. I tormented myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did or do to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything there is to it. So I find my innocence again; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torment yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses Sometimes to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or tormenting myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it is my free choice. And I use these two methods. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to do it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Maybe we’re meant to go through certain things to fully understand who we are. I realised that hanging around people who wanted to compete with me all the time and hated my progress made me people please. I’m still the best inspite of all the rubbish I endured. All the humiliation, mistreatment, acting as a catalyst to wrong people but I’m still here, rock solid. And I truly believe that god has a plan. Not sure what that is but I’d rather trust him than trust my fears.
I feel depressed alot im an alcoholic, relapsing over & over, i feel the guilt , shame, when i do i think of the lord & my family, alcoholisms a bad disease, i just pray for mercy, and self belief , its up to you to make a choice and changes, and be disciplined
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
@@DOmni-gb2lj you are welcome. Guilt has been a huge pain for me and when I found peace through this text and practice, I tried to reach others with it. I wish you all the best.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
His words are gold. Please drop the music. It detracts from his message. If you must add music. Please put it in the background so you barely notice it. It is too loud. Thank you.
This is immense understanding. Cannot be fully understood except as having been personally experienced. We don't ACCUSE OURSELVES except we have been PROGRAMMED externally to do so. Without tran- scendent power, guidance, and a RE- informative force of understanding, can one even consider the concept of a strong defense? Or achieve a pre- sumption of innocence, EVEN WHEN THERE IS EXTERNAL, DOCUMENT- ARY EVIDENCE that one is not guilty? One has been so flogged with lies that the fear of being "carelessly self-righteous" - an entrenched ac- cusation by some point along the way - the proclivity to move toward extreme views is the only default measure left in an attempt to self-correct when a person who has no legs is, as it were, required to pull himself up by his own boot-straps and walk. IS THIS NOT THE state of man in a STATE OF ENFORCED RELIGION, by whatever name it calls itself?
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.l
I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
i did some pretty dumb and disgusting things... that made me touch rock bottom.... it hurts so much but i did learn that indeed feeling bad is a good sign that my morals are in the right direction is just that i made a mistake and i need to work to never doing them again... for those who are christian please pray for me!
I will pray for you brother
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
thank you your comment did help me
💙Hope you make it out sir
I m suffering from 7 years
I don’t know who needs to hear this but you are not alone in your suffering. Everyone fucks up. That’s the reality of being a human. I fucked up pretty bad towards the end of 2023. I was lost for a really long time, I didn’t have a strong sense of self, I forgot who I was, I had all this toxic shame within me from traumas I didn’t know how to handle productively, and I gave my power away to way too many people in ways that made me very malleable to the influence of others, and which continued to damage my relationship with myself. And then all that self-neglect caused me to make a big mistake-I betrayed my partner at the time and one of my close friends. (*trigger warning*) And that shit almost made me kill myself because of how excruciating the remorse and the shame and the guilt felt of hurting the people I love. But I’m here, living to tell you that sometimes it’s in the moments that you’re REALLY lost, in those moments where that huge fuck up is staring you in the face that you realize “oh shit, this is not who I am.”
More often than not, you realize more about who you are by experiencing who you are not. And you find greater compassion for others who are also lost, who have also made mistakes, when you experience what it’s like being on that end of the spectrum. It’s a humbling reminder that no one has any right to judge others, because we’re all suffering from something and we all have made mistakes. Everyone has been hurt and has caused hurt in some way because humans are super complex and that’s just life. You’re not any less than someone who hasn’t made the same mistake(s) as you, because you don’t know all the ways they’ve also made mistakes-And we’re all human. I’m not perfect, you’re not perfect, and neither is anyone else-even the people who we look up to have their faults. We’re all on this Earth learning as we go with literally no instruction on how to live our own life with the specific cards we’ve been dealt with. No one is above or below anyone else.
Your past does not define who you are. The biggest truth in life is that nothing is permanent-everything is always changing. And there’s so much relief in realizing the beauty of that, because you realize you don’t need to attach to anything-and especially not the past versions of yourself. Every moment is an opportunity to change and grow, and to continuously redefine who you are and who you want to be. It is never too late to try again-to learn from your mistakes, and to take the action you need in this ever-present Now moment to do better. Like anything in life, you try your best, you make a mistake, you reflect on what you can do better, and you try again with the new information you have.
The remorse never fully goes away-there will always be times where it may resurface, where you will remember the guilt or the shame. But as you learn to continue sitting with it and simply observing that feeling within your body without any judgement, you begin to see that feeling for what it is-a feeling. It’s not something that defines who you are. It’s just an emotion that arises within your body as a natural occurrence of whatever event triggered that emotion. And it’s something that you can handle and move forward with, and integrate as a reminder of how to not make the same mistake. It gets easier.
And no matter what people think of you, no matter what people say about you, no matter how they treat you, you are not your past. You are not your mistakes. You don’t have to cling on to a past version of yourself just because someone else is holding onto it. Other people’s opinions and behaviors truly have nothing to do with you-You’re not responsible for anything else but the thoughts, words, and actions YOU have in this present moment. You can’t do anything about other people, the past, or the future. Everything you need is all within you and all you have is right Now. Spend your present moment giving yourself compassion, leaning into things that bring you joy, implementing actions that reflect the type of person you want to become.
If you are still alive after all the shit that has caused you guilt or shame, you still have a greater purpose here on this Earth. All these mistakes and rock bottoms are just stepping stones to help you figure how to continue changing your actions to align with your soul. These are part of your awakening. Keep regular record of all the progress you’re making, big or small, because it’ll help you in the long run.
And above all, you are so loved. No matter what has happened to you or what you may have done, there is always going to be the one truth: that love is always within you, always around you, and always here for you to return to. Love is ever-present and despite how everyone and everything in this material world will come and go, that Source of love-call it God, Spirit, the Universe, whatever-will never leave you because it is love without limitation or condition. You will always be loved no matter who you are, where you are, or what you do.
For the sake of yourself, rise up against all of it and remind yourself that you are good enough, you are valuable, you are worthy, and you are capable. Live your life out of devotion to your soul and out of devotion to the Source of love, and you will find yourself overflowing with a light that remains constant even in the midst of your greatest adversities. Change your focus to change your reality. Sending love to all of you 🤎
Very powerful. Thank you! 🫶🏽
Thank You for sharing
I really needed to see this. Thank you so much. You have me sitting here crying. Because I just want to be heard and understood. Thank you for sharing because I see, I’m not the only one.
Hy didn't know this needed, it's not just words it has my heart, thank you , may god bless u
Oh my gosh, this really grabbed my attention. Thank You Very Much for your advice. I feel like seeing this is really important for all to see, everyone needs to learn exactly where you are coming from, and what an eloquent way to describe something that is emotionally tough to describe and is just challenging enough to put into speakable words.
I'm living with this guilt right now over something that happened 10 years ago. I've been contemplating not being here anymore. I don't feel worthy of a good life, friends, and a healthy relationship. I'm trying to make my way back to God. I know He's always with me. I just wish I wasn't going through this alone on earth..... I needed this.
I also dealt with feeling suicidal this year because of guilt. I just want you to know though that no one is perfect. We make mistakes and sometimes we donthings we shouldn't but we have to learn and grow from those mistakes. You are not dirty or filthy or unworthy. You are beautiful and pure. You dont have to punish yourself you have already suffered so much. I pray that you experience supernatural peace. I know god gave me peace . Know that how you are feeling now is temporary sis.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I've been where you are. Release and surrender all of your worry, guilt, and shame to God. He loves, heals, comforts and cares for you. You are His child 💛. Forgive others and yourself. Peace will surround you.. Be kind to yourself 💛
The thing that killed, anihilated, destroyed and erased my guilt was studying philosophy and society.
It would be very easy for me to claim that we have free will, but we have so little that its minimal compared to what ir could be, everything is influenced by something 99% of the time.
The other thing is, society, justice, culture, institutions they all asume we have this enormous free will, so then we have all the responsability for all of our acts as if we owe something to society everytime a group of predetermined facts about our psyche its transformed into an action.
Our will is trainable, we could think and reason more but not everyone does it, society is wrong, culture is wrong, institutions are wrong and that is what causes this pathological guilt you have, you feel judged, if you were alone in an island you wouldn't feel this for sure, its the unnatural claim that every action of yours is under absolute control and that is a delusion, a delusion in which society works of course but not the most objective truth you can get, its far from that.
Now that you know this (study this, without a bias, even without wanting it to be true) forgive yourself and move on and be better, be concious, be here and now, accept your past but SIT and do all this, its gonna take some months probably but your brain will let it go and start to function again normally, like mine now.
I copied my comment because I didn't wanna type the same advise over and over again.
And get to know Jesus, He is the truth, I don't follow Gos because of confort btw, I accepted him after I cured all my guilt on my own so you could say I cleaned myself before the shower 😂 but whatever, thats me
@@thatoneguy523I'm going through it now, I feel like moving away or overdosing, but I also feel that God wants me here to complete the journey he wrote me, even though I don't feel I deserve anything good in this life, these last 8 years have been horrific and the only thing that's been getting me through is connecting with people that understand and love you, and talking to God. Cry to him, he is always listening and he knows and loves you more than your own blood, staying away from alcohol and drugs is an absolute must aswell. We got tricked into that from young and it absolutely does nothing but make us depressed and ruin lives . Love ya kid keep your head up
The problem with feeling guilt and deep shame over something from your past is that you feel like you are a bad and horrible person at your very core and your self esteem is always at rock bottom.
I try to remember that it's not our fault, however it is our responsibility to get better and correct our mistakes if needed. But I don't believe that guilt is always an optimal motivator.
exactly and it’s my fault and idk what to do
What is I was a horrible person in the past who have kelled a lot of people whom I hate very much . So do u think u can forgive me ?
I don't want to feel guilty but I feel very guilty for what have I done.i don't know what to do anymore
@@brochange123
Pray to God Only God can fix everything...👏
Some people are.
It’s harder to forgive myself than to to forgive others
So true
@@maryann7941 Do others forgive ? And why do you end up feeling guilty ?
I've been there. Your present self isn't your past. Appoint your life in a good direction and do yourself a favor and treat yourself by staying on the right path. Be a person that you can live with. Prove your guilt wrong by the actions that you do and your intent behind your actions while also accepting and owning up to your past mistakes.
If you feel guilt or shame that is good! It means you have a functioning brain.
The worst kind of people are those who have no guilt, remorse, shame, regret, etc. typically people who are psychopathic in nature, simply too stupid or have no emotional regulation.
If you have one of the aforementioned emotions take them in, ponder them, and adjust your life in a way that will allow you to avoid such emotions in the future. When you experience emotions like these it’s your mind/social conditioning telling you something is wrong and you need to pivot or change your behavior moving forward.
@@James-ll3jb I also believe having a stoic and absurdist mindset is invaluable.
What if it’s preprogrammed from childhood trauma?
@@pearlmiller3868 Would like to know as well.
popular lying interchangeably, you just described almost everyone. you know all about ~all social conditioning? its ~always the most subnormal psychopathic thing impossible normalised. being innocent guiltless independent of it is able to gauge any morality or anything at all to provide voices of reason independently of fakely looking normal by fully lying contexts. ppl use the inventions of the few conscious ppl as insulting them all the times for everyone else having no guilt shame remorse as reversing it
ref nazis witchhunts crusades crucifixions infinite etcs normal moral social approvals agreeable autopilot herd mentality ppls (*i dont value being fashionably wrong, wrong measurements low rank is high rank). i see most social conditioning leads to ~all psychopathy in all of histories, you only hear about one singled out news headline outcasting targets to make everyone else dishonest to avoid the same creating fictitious minorities
*its also deeply true, its an invisible weight only those sensitive to this carry when living a sold out life not worth living
i think these are true
good advices thank you ❤❤😊
@@pearlmiller3868 not sure what you mean by “preprogrammed” in this context but if you’re referring to deeply seated childhood trauma then nothing changes except overcoming said emotions is much harder because they are firmly rooted and your brains structure and chemistry is likely very well established.
In my opinion there are three* ways to go about fixing* something like this. Your first option and probably most the conventional way would be to seek therapy. Your second option would be to take some form of drug that would immediately give your brain neuroplasticity allow it to change. People typically do this under guidance/supervision. Lastly maybe the harder or potentially easiest option would be to just “not care” and to try and make the best of things. You can’t change the past and the only thing you have control over in this life is your mind (assuming you aren’t a schizo or something). Best of luck.
I constantly feel shame and guilt for myself. I feel like such a messed and fucked up person. Alot of people say I'm a very respectful and kind person. I dont feel good though about myself. Ive been stuck in a constant state of negatively and deep depression. Im almost 25 and I haven't been working for ages and i have constant anxiety. Im so sick of going thru life like this. Im so tired 😔
I’m 23, turning 24 in a month and feel the same. Hurts.
Please forgive yourselves. We learn through mistakes and wisdom comes in hindsight ONLY. Why do you condemn yourselves when God had set you free? Why accuse yourselves after you’ve realised your mistakes and are contrite about it?
Who told you that you are beyond redemption, salvation and resurrection?
No, when we know better we do better.
So go now make peace with yourselves, a war within has no victors only destruction.
Choose you, you are worthy, you have value, invest in forgiveness, your dreams, hopes and interests.
Don’t let this rob you of your time and life. Don’t be a co-conspirator to a narrative that is false.
Nothing grows nor flourishes in the past. It’s dead.
You are alive- no go live. You are worthy. ❤
@@QuietClariti Very well said and put.
Without faults you can't grow, be proud of your shit because it is part of life❤
So sorry to hear that! I highly recommend Heidi Priebes videos about toxic shame! She explains that we are all normal and not broken at our core and we feel abnormal due to the things which happened to us❤
When my son passed away I was racked with guilt. The first day he was in the hospital he had symptoms he never had before and I questioned the nurses. They told me I was feeding his anxiety. He was in acidosis & the steroids he was on skewed hid true glucose numbers. He was on them because it's how they treat Addisons disease. The local hospital he was in was not the best. By the time I asked him to transfer they said he could die in transfer. After he passed I developed Hashimotos disease my mind had turned on my body. I worked in health care I felt I should of known. It is so hard to forgive yourself & tell yourself you were not in charge of his care. The mind-body connection is strong. You have to give yourself grace to forgive yourself.
The Banner of Truth press offers pamphlets, books which may deepen/give grace to your perspective.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your son. Please know that you did the best you could with the information and circumstances at hand. It's natural to question ourselves, but remember that healthcare is complex and mistakes can happen. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to grieve. Remember, you are not alone, that feelings of guilt are not uncommon, everyone has some kind of pain and regrets.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.a
sending thoughts from France
you will be well eventually
I’m so sorry to this commenter. I’m praying for you. A pain no human should endure. You loved your baby. And it’s only easy to see now in hindsight. You did the best with what was in front of you. Praying God wraps you in his arms.
Surround yourself with people you love and who love you back! Those who have your best interests at heart. Any evidence of their sabotage, is a reason for their removal from your life. Healthy Boundaries are pertinent for your healing, and empowerment of self worth. 'No' is a complete sentence.
I can’t love you enough for saying “no is a complete sentence!” I have been immensely careful about who gets to be in my inner circle and who
Gets the outer circle and who deserves the boot!. Haven’t been happier since..
It's worth being a noted quote:
"N0" Is a complete sentence.
Brilliant! ✨️💖✨️
@@mnvn YES! 'NOs' are necessary for Healthy Boundaries! I had no idea what narcissism was, never heard of it, but then my sister said I was a narcissistic sociopath. Then she threw her head back and laughed. Always a clue with her that there is more to the story! I went home and looked it up and her picture was there! I knew her ex husband was going to a shrink because of her. They had been separated for decades 30, 40 and she wouldn't let him go. When I asked her why, she said, " I find him entertaining." I suspected his shrink diagnosed her. He left her while she was on a ski trip. He'd bought a house in the mountains and was already moved in when he 'disappeared'. She would have him come to family holidays even though he was then living with someone else. She is SOooo controlling! I've come to find she is a narcissistic psychopath. She and my other sister conspired to take my mother 'out' because she wanted the house, our inheritance! She rewrote my mother's will to give her total control of the house after Mom's death and then conspired to up costs for us to pay which she tried to sue us for, while she rent the beach house out, and spend all the estate money for the next 7 years by keeping the house in probate for control. I have been 'no contact' for those 7 years except when I heard from her lawyer. The judge had ruled the house be sold so she dropped the suit to keep control of the house. Then my brother died, and we were on the same page with this. I'm now suing her to get her removed as executrix. Money well spent. She is rewriting her lies and running in a panic! I've never seen such a panic! Those 7 years of 'no contact' were the most difficult, and intense self awareness 'lessons' I have ever experienced. After receiving GODs download of wonderful Healthy Boundaries, and practicing yelling NO into my bathroom mirror (what a wonderful sound! So freeing). The next hurdle was denial! A codependent carries around denial for protection and it is extremely heavy, a burden. Denial is simply lies you tell yourself. Why? Because the truth is too painful, however, no matter how difficult the Truth will set you free! The lies I told myself were destroying my life, and relationships as they little by little chipped away at me. Celebrate Recovery was the catalyst for that! It was tough but Truth is free from the self inflicted emotional wounds of the lies of denial we use to survive in a situation. Getting out of that situation is the only way to heal, and find out who you are, not who someone else says you are. The truth is when I'm around them, their toxicity is more than I can handle now because I'm healed and recognize it for what it is. Codependent people are groomed to be kind, considerate, have unlimited patience, are helpful puppies and so much more! Wonderful traits, however, it's the Healthy Boundaries that have been denied by a narcissistic parent or two! When you find you have value, worth in GOD'seyes, it changes everything because you know you're loveable! If the GOD of the universe loves you, King of all kings, hey! Nothing can stop you! You are royalty, sons and daughter of the living King! Just sayin', it's good to know your GOD's beloved! 💌
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.a
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I did dumb and disgusting thing when i was 13 -14 years old which i wish i never did i feel so disgusted and guilt and shame about myself and i wish god forgives me and please pray for me brothers and sisters
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
It’s ok God forgive it be us sometimes beat that mind... because u could’ve been dead if God we’re like how we be thinking he is... each day is a brand new mercy
You were a child. You can't judge yourself the same way you judge your adult self.
What did you do?..
Seems like u don’t forgive ur self. Think abt that first before u even consider god forgiving you
Thank you, Dr Peterson. You are always there when I need you.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
lord jesus christ son of god forgive me a sinner🕯️🩵✝️❤
I lost my brother 2 years ago due to suicide ,I hate myself everyday for not being there for him, for being so busy not to have some time to share with my brother,I noticed he was not okay, I knew he was going through a hard time ,I was also going through stuff but that was never an excuse to leave him alone at those times ,he was always there for me at my lowest, but I didn't do the same for him ,I didn't appreciate him enough, i didn't make him feel like he had to fight so he can stay with me ,I didn't show him how much I loved and cared about him ,I didn't hug him and tell him that he is the one and the only person I feel happy when I with ,I didn't do alot of stuff that could have completely changed what happened, if only I could go back in time ,and just tell him everything is going to be fine ,and no matter how fucked up our life is we still have each other, if only that was possible
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.l
There is valid guilt, and there is false guilt. As a Christian, I believe in both, and I believe in repentance, forgiveness, and grace. I also like the Serenity Prayer.
Thank you for mentioning the prayer, I will try it
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.a
Currently I feel guilt and it’s a valid guilt I simply had to make it known so I won’t repeat it again or at least become better
My favorite prayer
Thank you for the prayer!
As someone who has suffered exactly what you describe, it is so freeing to hear your treatment and understanding of our despair and depression. Thank you, Mr. Peterson. I wish you had been my psychologist through the years of deepest darkness. There is no pain like mental pain. No pill can fix it, and no compassion can soothe. It is inner healing that most doctors in my experience know nothing about. I am 70 now, and because of God's love and word of truth, I am better, far better than I was in my 20's, trying to raise children. My husband tried to understand, but no one could explain to him why I could not rid myself of guilt and shame at not being perfect. It is hard still, but you said it well. It is a learning experience. One you never get to stop. Thank you for your insight and candor.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Yes I agree. He is a good man and tries to see the humanity and potential in others and not automatically jump to judge. ❤
Thank you, Doc. I have this tendency to blame and push myself into guilt. I have been told I am too hard on myself once or twice, but I do not think I need to change that. However, guilt and shame are forms of corrosion. Taking self accountability too far, and thinking you are the reason behind every goddamned terrible thing, it eats away at your sanity. I am under confident, second guess myself too many times even when I'm evidently correct, less assertive than I'd like to be. I'm working on it. I will let those parts of myself burn and chip away which make me weak. And I must come out of the fire as the individual I aspire to be. Needless to state, it's excruciating, but so is this.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.a
That after 50 something years they finally started to see the light and started trying to find themselves as a worthy being and learn to figure out how to fit into society as an individual
Who is they?
@@genesmith4386some non binary whopper
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.a
This resonates with me as I had a real problem with throwing my hands up in the air saying “I’m an idiot.” “I can’t do anything” etc. it was a way to justify my complacency. If I was the “idiot”then I didn’t need to work on myself. Still working on balancing the thorough assessment of my weakness and giving myself the benefit of the doubt (within reason).
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.a
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.a
Feel safe because having these thoughts means you aren't a total idiot after all. Hope you go through life nicely
Man I would love to have him as my therapist for a while.
I find his brutal honesty and love for statistics and scientific facts very healing.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
"How do you make something right when you've made it so wrong you can never go back?"
I am right there with you man. Even though that person may not be able to forgive and accept you in their life. You can take solace that a higher power will if you truly are sorry and make amends or reverse some negative karma through good deeds not done to reverse negative karma. That is when you have healed and are strong enough too!
You can’t go back anyway - only forward. Forge a new path and don’t do it again.
@@spectrepar2458 I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
@@nomoreliberties i am truly sorry and have tried to make amends (though indirectly as direct amends don´t seem recommendable in my situation) and good deeds, but what do you mean by "good deeds not done to reverse negative karma"...does this mean my good deeds are not enough to be forgiven, because i am doing them to try to make up for what i did?
“It’s never too late to be the person you want to be”
Yes absolutely correct that a person must surround themselves with people who love them . I've experienced a true narcissistic person who pretended to care but was only a user and always thinking someone was out to get her . I'm so happy to have broken that spell even though I'm homeless .
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Mr. Peterson is one of the most brilliant physiologists out there. His words and metaphors have helped guide me through the hardest times, no in person
Therapy has ever come close 🙏
This clip is so helpful. It is so validating that Dr Peterson has observed this, because in my experience being consumed with guilt and shame is a very common thing of childhood trauma. As he says, we operate on the assumption that we are guilty by default, so we can’t defend ourselves. Incidentally, I found this passage in the Bible where Satan is referred to as the Accuser ( and also as the Dragon and the Snake… the same snake from the garden of Eden). The verse is in the Apocalypse (or Revelations): Ap 12, v9-12.
ad adult trauma.
Also,
1 PETER 5:8-9
“Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. Resist him, firm in your faith”
@Gene Smith
It was meant to be and, but also works.
Sober... just have 16 years but the damage done will never go away.
@@shawnianzano5113 congratulations on your 16 years of sobriety. You defeated the lion, that is no small feat.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.a
Jordan is golden !! self-freedom is acquired through self-respect and self-consideration.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Dr Peterson you nailed it, Im struggling very much with guilt and regret which has caused severe depression. I cannot live in this state anymore. Can you help me please.
You have to live on the present moment . Stop thinking about the past or the future that you don’t even know about yet
You seems to have taken that first step already; naming the problem - you are struggling very much with guilt and regret and you can not live in that state anymore? Right? Then it's time.... Audit what your triggers are? What is fueling those feelings? Can you name those too? Audit the elements in your current environment; how are those impacting on your feelings?
You can seek counseling
Same here bro , i also can't able to overcome it 😢. It's ruining my studies , life . I don't know what to do. Have you overcome it? Please let me know , what steps have you taken to overcome it.
Psilocybin. It literally saved my life. I was on the verge of suicide. Took a heroic dose once, four years ago. Non-addictive, completely safe, and it works. Do your research. It's easy to grow your own medicine. It was the single most profound experience of my entire 40 years.... That's over marriage, having children, etc. Don't take my word for it, do some research.
"The adversary is within and is eating my soul!" definitely well said and true! that brought some awareness to me!
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I can't bear it anymore it never get better
One of my relative bro gives me trauma bcoz of that trauma i did some disgusting thing .....and i regret about it everyday .... clearly i m scapegoat.....i feel like i m a scapegoat of others wrongdoings😔
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.I
Uhmm I've been here in same situation, it's okay , embrace the true self , don't torture urself , everybody makes mistakes,try be humble more than yesterday , be conscious on hurting ppl
"The adversary" meaning Satan in hebrew, I love this man. God bless him.
ancient serbian you mean
Satan works as a disciplinator for hypocrites that would blame other beings instead of admiting their own faults and sins, but sometimes Satan also need some disciplination to become a better leader and a better model.
Nador
@@basedbroskiworld Satan is accurate.
@@basedbroskiworld Serbian first names largely originate from Slavic roots: e.g. Miroslav, Vladimir, Zoran, Ljubomir, Vesna, Radmila, Milica, Svetlana, Slavica, Božidarka, Milorad, Dragan, Milan, Goran, Radomir, Vukašin, Miomir, Branimir, Budimir. Some may be non-Slavic but chosen to reflect Christian faith.
@@basedbroskiworld
1 PETER 5:8-9
“Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. Resist him, firm in your faith”
Can this man please be my personal therapist.. Peterson is the one of GOATs in these peculiar times we live in!🙆🏾♀️🙆🏾♀️
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Learned how or when to express themselves in a positive manner due to the fact that their role in the family was to be the family misfit and voiceless
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.a
I did some messed up things which caused me my loved ones,my friends..I always thought tomorrow would be better but it kept dragging my soul into a very dark place each and everyday.I don't recognise myself anymore.
Keep your head up Kane.
Your present self isn't your past and if it is only you have the power to change it . Appoint your life in a good direction and do yourself a favor and treat yourself by staying on the right path. Be a person that you can live with. Prove your guilt wrong by the actions that you do and your intent behind your actions while also accepting and owning up to your past mistakes.
Feelings of guilt and shame over things from a persons past can be a destroyer, very difficult
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
From guilt that l made the worst mistake l punished myself for it l brought the enemy into my life... then l forgave myself. Too many years wasted in darkness! Lesson learnt hard.
How did you cope with the enemy
I highly recommend Heidi Priebes videos about toxic shame! She explains that we are all normal and not broken at our core and we feel abnormal due to the things which happened to us❤
Even non Christians pray. The act of reaching upward to a power greater than you is universal 🙏 I say this as a Christian and blended with Bhudism. Look for the divine in all people and you will find it. Some just make some pretty horrific mistakes and sometimes even some purpose- ments 😢
You are an amazing human being. Not knowing the concept of forgiveness can have many negative consequences mentally and physically. Fear, guilt, shame are triggers for personal growth but can also devastate a life. The external consequences can be dealt with from an internal position of forgiveness and innocence as you mention. Thank you for what you do and the ideas you share. When you love yourself, you’re loving your surroundings as well
I feel so guilty and ashamed of something ive done to someone who used to be a good friend and partner.. something so bad I cant justify it from any point of innocence. Something i look at and think "Damn.. I really am a monster." And i would give anything to rectify it but i dont expect ill ever be given a chance. Not like i deserve one..
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.l
@@Ryu-v8r what I did did to my previous gf was monstrous.. insane even. I hurt her not physically, But mentally, emotionally, and from sense a trust betrayed her. In the time since, I keep apologizing to myself knowing right now if possible I'd do anything to help and rectify what I caused. Knowing she doesn't ever want to see me again, I've been taking steps towards self forgiving. Asking for Christ's guidance and forgiveness for the Inherent evil in me. Now I'm happier knowing I've taken responsibility for the monster in me and he will never find his way out to another soul. Thanks you for your story. It meant everything to me.
Thank you Mr Peterson Sir your advice is helping me to no end Thank You!!
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Jordan is a blessing to us all no need to medicate our children just listen to his advice
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I love this man! I love his way of putting things together to help all of us on how to untangle the spaghetti in our minds. Jordan Peterson is an incredible gift to humanity & I am forever grateful to my brother, who told me about him.
All my life, that same brother has passed on true gems that have always helped me. Thank you!!!❤
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
This man is amazing ❤
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.a
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Suffering a lot with this.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Its not the most important thing to talk about in front of God, the most important is Love how you will handle it and care it. From the heart of my Parents.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.a
Step 4 in the 12 step program is to take a moral and fearless inventory.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I hope that this reaches the right person. I've been there. Your present self isn't your past. Appoint your life in a good direction and do yourself a favor and treat yourself by staying on the right path. Be a person that you can live with. Prove your guilt wrong by the actions that you do and your intent behind your actions while also accepting and owning up to your past mistakes.
I have unresolved issues from my past. I have gone to professionals several times. I have done prescription meds. But the issues still linger. This have led to me having problems with taking in information, memory loss and other conditions.
Yesterday, we had to take down our dog due to a failing pancreas (a condition he probably had since birth). I learned today that the vet had told me 10months ago to give him a low fat diet, something I didn’t pick up on. I just knew that he needed special food for his sensitive belly.
Now the dog is gone, my wife and daughters are devastated because of my negligence.
The guilt is real
You didn't do anything deliberately cruel.. those are the ones who need to feel guilt (and often dont) many of us have sadly let something like you describe occur. You are a good person, it's ok.
Prayers sent. Recognizing what you have is the first part and unfortunately we cant just expect others to hear us say that we hit that point. They have to see it through our actions.
You ever thought some people have lived under the spell of manipulation of people they trusted to have their best interest at heart and over a lifetime n
I have. That was my parents. They used me and I feel a lot of shame still at the age of 34.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
So Very Helpful! Thank you! God Bless You!
Going to confessiong helps people with this. They can then work on forgiving themselves. I just read a book by Michael H. Brown about after death experiences and purgatory. And in that book, the author asserts that many souls are in purgatory because they don't forgive themselves yet.
You can't forgive yourself. God forgives.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.I
I use the Word from scriptures “The Most High is my fortress” because when I am out of this strong place I tend to go to my worse ways.
Let us all be strong and remember if you need more strength just read some good psalms from the Bible and lean more on the edifying things that the scriptures can teach. I’m grown and never thought I’d never a book to feel better but it’s not just a book. It is self empowering when you connect to the source
THANK YOU SIR! BEAUTIFUL SOUL!❤🎉😊
Hey. Don't know if anyone is going to read this comment, but we all know why you're here. It's the same reason we're all here. Maybe you just scrolled across it, or you're searching for ways to forgive yourself, like I am. I messed up incredibly bad the other day, and just about got sent away for what I did. But I'm still here, mainly because I think that there is still a purpose for me left in this life. If you're still here, you have a reason to be. I don't know how many of you who read this are religious, but I believe that there is a God above who loves unconditionally, even if we don't show him love back, and I believe that he still has a purpose for me left here. But that really isn't the point of this comment. The point is that you've messed up if you're reading this. I've messed up. We all have. I know it's hard to do, but you have to forgive yourself and move on. Yes, you may have to face consequences for you actions. But if you aren't dead by the time that you are done facing the consequences, then you still have something left to do here. I believe in you. You have a second chance. Keep going. The race isn't over. You've got this.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Thank you for this
I feel so dumb at work. In my highly competitive workplace while others are working so fast, I have since a few years started to feel like I am so old and tired. After I attend somebody's presentation, I always think that I will also work hard. But then I get distracted always. Then when it's my turn to present I mess it up and look so dumb in front of everybody, I feel like people are laughing at me. My boss has started taunting me occasionally and I feel like I deserve it. I feel so ashamed of myself, but at the same time I feel so weak and burnt out and lost. I was not like this, but now I am just ridiculously dumb.
You aren't dumb at all, it's because of the stress.
Thank you for sharing these observations. Trying hard to make autonomous decisions.
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I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.I
Thank you for making these videos
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Beautifully phrased
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.I
So well said, so excellent beyond words.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
I fucked up my summer internship in a law firm. I was not confident but others were really mean. That impacted me deeply. I came home broken hearted. I hated myself and others.
It is October that I am writing this. I am improving myself constantly. I count my blessings everyday. I practice gratefulness. I am trying to get fit. I have started listening to these kinds of people. I am healing and so should everyone.
God, bless us🙏
Thank you for confirming my thoughts and view of these things!
Never felt guilt&shame in my life existence due to my strong FAITH!!! GOD willing!!!😊❤
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.a
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
With all the hours of wonderful lectures he has given that I've consumed, I still keep finding more from him that absolutely blows my mind and slaps me in the face so righteously.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.l
This is an amazing man. I only hope that he don't put the weight of the world on his own shoulders. For his own health and happiness.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Thank you ❤
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Once I quit going to church I felt emotionally much stronger. Making good decisions was easier. And the restrictions placed on my life simply dissolved. Freedom from church allowed me the opportunity to believe there might be a God.
I’d most certainly like to dig deeper in this regard.
Recognise fault (repent), followed by forgiveness (reconciliation). These two go hand in hand
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Lost my best friend because I was a complete and utter idiot and made a huge mistake. I am living with that guilt knowing that I caused it. The pain is incredible. The realization that I will speak to this person again hurts.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
This really helped Me thank you
Thank you Jordan.
Yes, our natural inclination is to self-righteousness and righteousness as a means of defense. What we really need to do once those natural defenses come down is to look at our actions with a cooler, dispassionate eye to see whether we were really in the wrong. John MacArthur recently did a sermon on "Dying to Self". I was really impacted by this.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Thank u jordan and thank God i came across this
thank you. this helps
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.I
Yeah, always give your best 100%, no less no more. Then guilt walks away
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.a
Since 2016 i m carrying deep guilt.... everyday i m suffering
Amen
Grace for oneself
Needed this today!
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.I
Love this guy
Thank you I needed to hear this today
He has good things to say
I needed this! ❤
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Thank you Dr. Peterson for sharing this message.
For me, what other people say about me doesn't have anything to do with me.
Especially if they don't know me in person.😂🎉🎉
Once we truly repent of our sins, and the Lord has forgiven us… and although we will never totally forget our past transgressions… although we will forever be more keenly attuned to all sin… we may walk in the joy of His Saving Grace. Praise the Lord! All Glory is God’s alone. ✝️
Sir, your a gem❤️
💯Amen Mr Peterson AMEN 🙏🏼 ❤️🔥
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
We have alot in common Sir much deeper than words it's ,life's experience that not to many have. Loveyou Sir
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
If we confess our sin, God is faithful and just to forgive us our sin, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. (1John 1:9). Confess your sins to one another, pray for one another that you may be healed. The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much. (James 5:16).
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.l
I'm Christan, i got drunk and some people saw me passed out
I feel like i could dig a hole and hide myself, cause the very same people who saw me always see me sharing the gospel and telling them to repent, but i did the very same evil as them, one even said i live 2 lives, those words broke me,
Just seeing the very same people on my flat kills me,
Im embarrased and i feel like a hypocrite.
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For me it was about facing the seriousness and depth of damage shame does. Being accused or chattered about cheekily or ignored in one’s needs or dignity, or facing an ambiguous seemingly harmless indictment means facing an enemy whose power is not immediately obvious . So seeing the enormity of power this emotion has leads indeed to mounting a serious defense ; you cannot turn up to a fight with a multiple headed hydra with a bottle of beer and self deprecating irony . You need a sharp sword and a keen eye.
I'm Sorry
For alot of years, I carried a deep sense and feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tormented myself, for all those years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was me myself. I tormented myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did or do to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything there is to it. So I find my innocence again; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torment yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses Sometimes to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or tormenting myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it is my free choice. And I use these two methods. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to do it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
This may be his best.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
Thank you
Maybe we’re meant to go through certain things to fully understand who we are.
I realised that hanging around people who wanted to compete with me all the time and hated my progress made me people please. I’m still the best inspite of all the rubbish I endured. All the humiliation, mistreatment, acting as a catalyst to wrong people but I’m still here, rock solid. And I truly believe that god has a plan. Not sure what that is but I’d rather trust him than trust my fears.
I wish I could talk with Dr Peterson. I’m dealing with a lot and would love to hear his thoughts.
Jordan Peterson for PRIME MINISTER 👍❤️
I feel depressed alot im an alcoholic, relapsing over & over, i feel the guilt , shame, when i do i think of the lord & my family, alcoholisms a bad disease, i just pray for mercy, and self belief , its up to you to make a choice and changes, and be disciplined
This man has indeed walked the guilty part. I can relate to what he is saying. Guilty is an underrated illness
Most people like Jordan Peterson charge 1000 a minute for life altering information as this. Thank you from my soul to yours.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
@@Ryu-v8r thanks for replying. I find myself stuck a lot even though I do the actual work. So, thank you.
@@DOmni-gb2lj you are welcome. Guilt has been a huge pain for me and when I found peace through this text and practice, I tried to reach others with it. I wish you all the best.
@@Ryu-v8r I love how you said that. Thanks again 🦅
How wise IS this man?
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
All mistake has to happen to create u a better human No one is perfect it's time to learn and move forward and make the right decision in the future
His words are gold. Please drop the music. It detracts from his message. If you must add music. Please put it in the background so you barely notice it. It is too loud. Thank you.
This is immense understanding. Cannot be fully understood except as having been personally experienced. We don't ACCUSE OURSELVES except we have been PROGRAMMED externally to do so. Without tran- scendent power, guidance, and a RE- informative force of understanding, can one even consider the concept of a strong defense? Or achieve a pre- sumption of innocence, EVEN WHEN THERE IS EXTERNAL, DOCUMENT- ARY EVIDENCE that one is not guilty? One has been so flogged with lies that the fear of being "carelessly self-righteous" - an entrenched ac- cusation by some point along the way - the proclivity to move toward extreme views is the only default measure left in an attempt to self-correct when a person who has no legs is, as it were, required to pull himself up by his own boot-straps and walk. IS THIS NOT THE state of man in a STATE OF ENFORCED RELIGION, by whatever name it calls itself?
I meant "Deny Yourself" a recent sermon by John MacArthur. It really hits home for me.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.
“Proclivity” is Jordan’s Favorite “Word”- The Past Can Haunt you, and that’s where the Guilt and Shame Come in.
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.l
Brilliant
I'm Sorry
For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the One I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence; which I had once lost. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time.
Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.