The way you describe the pain is relentless and beautiful. No other “channel on narcissistic personality” will ever come close to your truly guttural, insightful masterpieces of work.
This was beautiful, Sam. It is what I need, however painful, for there is no turning back. I am lost, abandoned, in a sea of promises, never granted. Thank you for articulating what you do in my most difficult time of what I hope will become recovery from all the pain, confusion, and disappointment.
This soft boundary between lecture and poetry is beautiful. I hope you will continue to inhabit it and share it with us. The fact that we may come upon this video perhaps expecting a lecture style speech and are almost imperceptibly carried into a metaphoric, poetic state is very cool. Perhaps it's the best way, the least contrived and most natural and potent way to be exposed to poetry.
Professor Vaknin, in Time is Here, what does "seek transit" mean? Is it about losing one's rigidity, flowing like what one would like to be-more water than razor-sharp stalactite, more river than frozen monolith-and moving on somehow? And how one can't do that alone, but may feel like one's loved ones are irreversibly changed and set aside, so that they cannot help us along our desired journey?
I rather love your poetry. Forgive me if burst out laughing if only it wasnt so tragic. Yesterday we phoned our youngest son who has emigrated to Australia. His beautiful wife sat half obscured in an elegant black dress. She made no effort to talk to us but did look bored with distain in our direction. I love our son so much i dream of him often. My husband is not well enough to make the plane trip from S.A to Australia. My heart breaks and i feel such unreachable pain in my soul. Yet he tells us not to ever expect him to visit us. Too expensive as he and his beautiful wife would be able to take so many other more enjoyable holidays for that cost. Who can help me feel just a little less heartbroken. I thought perhaps i might leave him just enough money in my will for a holiday but perhaps i havent got it in my heart to be mean. He can attend his father or my funeral on line if it suits him.
Zanimljiv je to izbor: izabrati da voliš onoga koji NEMA KAPACITET DA VOLI i NE ZNA što je LJUBAV* Narcis NE MOŽE DA VOLI* To zaista može samo netko sa graničnim poremećajem osobnosti SAVJESNO BIRATI,jer zaista,to jeste kao vrsta samodestrukcije i lične sabotaže i samokažnjavanja koji su suštinski vezani za granični poremećaj ličnosti. Uz narcisa se netko sa graničnim poremećajem ličnosti NE MORA SAM/SAMA kažnjavati i sabotirati,tu narcis dođe kao "melem na ranu"...tako se nadopunjuje "LJUBAV" sa narcisom* Nitko NE MOŽE tako dobro da se osjeća PRAZNO i NIŠTAVNO kao osoba sa graničnim poremećajem ličnosti,i onda narcis može da slikovito nadopunjuje tu "prazninu" po svojoj želji* Granični poremećaj ličnosti ima problem sa IDENTITETOM,praktički,i definitivno može da vjeruje jednom NARCISU "TKO JE I ŠTO JE" u NARCISOVIM OČIMA* Narcis i granični poremećaj su "dobri zajedno" zato jer mogu egzistirati u totalnim iluzijama o sebi samima* Sa time da narcis NIKADA ne dâ na sebe,dok se granični poremećaj ličnosti uvijek "prelama i bori" sam sa sobom pa mijenja raspoloženje prema minuti i zato je "nestalan",dok je narcis UVIJEK STABILAN u SVOM NEZNANJU* NE ZANIMA GA NIKO,OSIM ON SAMOG SEBE* U VEZI SA NARCISOM UVIJEK DVOJE VOLE NARCISA- partner/ica i ON SAM SEBE* TO JE NEUPITNO* Narcis je NARCIS* NEMA TOG PARTNERA KOJI MOŽE DA GA VOLI VIŠE NEGO ŠTO ON VOLI SAMOG SEBE* I DA GA VOLI NAJVIŠE NA ČITAVOM SVIJETU,ON SEBE JOŠ VIŠE VOLI* ....iako,narcis ustvari NE VOLI ni sebe,suštinski... To mu je samo mehanizam preživljavanja i obrane...Silom prilike naučio je da se svim silama DRŽI IZNAD SVIH i da SAM U SEBE VJERUJE jer to mu je SVE...* Živjeti na taj način,u stalnom konfliktu sa samim sobom i sa svijetom definitivno NE MOŽE... A naravno da će onda izabrati SEBE da bi opstao...i upravo zato NIKADA NIKOME ni pod koju cijenu NE DOPUŠTA da svoj položaj dovede u pitanje...* UVIJEK MORA BITI "NAJ",a bilokakvo osporavanje toga NE DOLAZI U OBZIR* ...i fakat,nije baš mala stvar biti U VEZI i VOLJETI onog koji UVIJEK MORA BITI "NAJ" i NEUPITNO NEPOGREŠIV... Nije lako VOLJETI osobu koja NIKADA NIJE NI ZA ŠTO KRIVA,PA TAKO NI ZA SVE SVOJE KRIVNJE I GREŠKE... Zaista ne razumijem na koji način MOŽEŠ VOLJETI bilokoga za koga znaš i možeš UNAPRIJED znati i računati na to da ćeš TI za sve UVIJEK BITI odgovorna i kriva,čak iako NISI?... To je ono... Samo granični poremećaj osobnosti VOLI da se kažnjava... ....to dođe kao samoozljeđivanje... ....što je svakako jedna od osobina borderline-a.... .....to je TEŠKO objasniti... Bilo kako bilo,narcisi su vrlo TRAGIČNE OSOBNOSTI ustvari,to je i za plakanje i za smijanje istovremeno... TO JE SMIJEŠNO,TUŽNO I ISTINITO* TO JE BAŠ TRAGI-KOMEDIJA* 10/10 100% Želim ti SVAKO DOBRO i SREĆU,bez obzira na nerazborite odluke.... Eto...
If it's malignant narcissist who is somewhat successful in life and doesn't abuse and is intelligent, okay. Anything else, I feel bad for you. (Especially grandiose maliganant, borderline malignant much more dysregulated, not sure when they get old.)
@@LjiljanaBrankovic-rw2db U ljubavi nema računice,svakako...ja sam uvijek na strani LJUBAVI,svakako,čak i kada SVE GOVORI da ne treba,ili nije pametno...ti svakako najbolje znaš,najnaravnije* Čuvaj se,i zaista ti želim SVAKO DOBRO i SREĆU❤️🌹
The way you describe the pain is relentless and beautiful. No other “channel on narcissistic personality” will ever come close to your truly guttural, insightful masterpieces of work.
Brought me to tears. I really feel for the suffering of the narc. Stay well Sam.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful work.
This was beautiful, Sam. It is what I need, however painful, for there is no turning back.
I am lost, abandoned, in a sea of promises, never granted.
Thank you for articulating what you do in my most difficult time of what I hope will become recovery from all the pain, confusion, and disappointment.
What a way with words, 😔. Beautiful description of tragedy.
Wow...your insight and eloquence is astounding Prof Sam. Time is arrived was my favorite. Hauntingly beautiful.
Devastatingly and heartbreakingly beautiful works.
This soft boundary between lecture and poetry is beautiful. I hope you will continue to inhabit it and share it with us. The fact that we may come upon this video perhaps expecting a lecture style speech and are almost imperceptibly carried into a metaphoric, poetic state is very cool. Perhaps it's the best way, the least contrived and most natural and potent way to be exposed to poetry.
Sublime, Vaknin... this is art.
Beautiful and tragic
Indeed I felt this.
What heart wrenching words. 😢
You have captured this perfectly.
Keep educating us prof sam. Thank you.
Unspeakably tragic existence, captured beautifully. Reminds me of ozymandias
True poetry!
So Poetic... beautiful! უ____________უ
...of an existence, failed. Mic drop 🎤
Bravo Vaknin
powerful poetry.. i will come back to this frequently. it gives me peace. thank you for sharing your gifts.
👏👏👏👏👏 PEERLESS 👏👏👏👏👏
PROF
SAM .
👌 .
Superb 😊
The ugliness of suffering and the beauty of poetry. Thank you , Professor Vaknin ❤
How extremely sad.
Thank you. ❤
Yes.
Professor Vaknin, in Time is Here, what does "seek transit" mean? Is it about losing one's rigidity, flowing like what one would like to be-more water than razor-sharp stalactite, more river than frozen monolith-and moving on somehow? And how one can't do that alone, but may feel like one's loved ones are irreversibly changed and set aside, so that they cannot help us along our desired journey?
I rather love your poetry. Forgive me if burst out laughing if only it wasnt so tragic. Yesterday we phoned our youngest son who has emigrated to Australia. His beautiful wife sat half obscured in an elegant black dress. She made no effort to talk to us but did look bored with distain in our direction. I love our son so much i dream of him often. My husband is not well enough to make the plane trip from S.A to Australia. My heart breaks and i feel such unreachable pain in my soul. Yet he tells us not to ever expect him to visit us. Too expensive as he and his beautiful wife would be able to take so many other more enjoyable holidays for that cost. Who can help me feel just a little less heartbroken. I thought perhaps i might leave him just enough money in my will for a holiday but perhaps i havent got it in my heart to be mean. He can attend his father or my funeral on line if it suits him.
Yes,but I love my narcissist...he is 60 years old,sick,but,I will stay with him to the end❤I am borderline,and he's my dearest.
He is my life❤
Zanimljiv je to izbor:
izabrati da voliš onoga koji NEMA KAPACITET DA VOLI i NE ZNA što je LJUBAV*
Narcis NE MOŽE DA VOLI*
To zaista može samo netko sa graničnim poremećajem osobnosti SAVJESNO BIRATI,jer zaista,to jeste kao vrsta samodestrukcije i lične sabotaže i samokažnjavanja koji su suštinski vezani za granični poremećaj ličnosti.
Uz narcisa se netko sa graničnim poremećajem ličnosti NE MORA SAM/SAMA kažnjavati i sabotirati,tu narcis dođe kao "melem na ranu"...tako se nadopunjuje "LJUBAV" sa narcisom*
Nitko NE MOŽE tako dobro da se osjeća PRAZNO i NIŠTAVNO kao osoba sa graničnim poremećajem ličnosti,i onda narcis može da slikovito nadopunjuje tu "prazninu" po svojoj želji*
Granični poremećaj ličnosti ima problem sa IDENTITETOM,praktički,i definitivno može da vjeruje jednom NARCISU "TKO JE I ŠTO JE" u NARCISOVIM OČIMA*
Narcis i granični poremećaj su "dobri zajedno" zato jer mogu egzistirati u totalnim iluzijama o sebi samima*
Sa time da narcis NIKADA ne dâ na sebe,dok se granični poremećaj ličnosti uvijek "prelama i bori" sam sa sobom pa mijenja raspoloženje prema minuti i zato je "nestalan",dok je narcis UVIJEK STABILAN u SVOM NEZNANJU*
NE ZANIMA GA NIKO,OSIM ON SAMOG SEBE*
U VEZI SA NARCISOM UVIJEK DVOJE VOLE NARCISA-
partner/ica i ON SAM SEBE*
TO JE NEUPITNO*
Narcis je NARCIS*
NEMA TOG PARTNERA KOJI MOŽE DA GA VOLI VIŠE NEGO ŠTO ON VOLI SAMOG SEBE*
I DA GA VOLI NAJVIŠE NA ČITAVOM SVIJETU,ON SEBE JOŠ VIŠE VOLI*
....iako,narcis ustvari NE VOLI ni sebe,suštinski...
To mu je samo mehanizam preživljavanja i obrane...Silom prilike naučio je da se svim silama DRŽI IZNAD SVIH i da SAM U SEBE VJERUJE jer to mu je SVE...*
Živjeti na taj način,u stalnom konfliktu sa samim sobom i sa svijetom definitivno NE MOŽE...
A naravno da će onda izabrati SEBE da bi opstao...i upravo zato NIKADA NIKOME ni pod koju cijenu NE DOPUŠTA da svoj položaj dovede u pitanje...*
UVIJEK MORA BITI "NAJ",a bilokakvo osporavanje toga NE DOLAZI U OBZIR*
...i fakat,nije baš mala stvar biti U VEZI i VOLJETI onog koji UVIJEK MORA BITI "NAJ" i NEUPITNO NEPOGREŠIV...
Nije lako VOLJETI osobu koja NIKADA NIJE NI ZA ŠTO KRIVA,PA TAKO NI ZA SVE SVOJE KRIVNJE I GREŠKE...
Zaista ne razumijem na koji način MOŽEŠ VOLJETI bilokoga za koga znaš i možeš UNAPRIJED znati i računati na to da ćeš TI za sve UVIJEK BITI odgovorna i kriva,čak iako NISI?...
To je ono...
Samo granični poremećaj osobnosti VOLI da se kažnjava...
....to dođe kao samoozljeđivanje...
....što je svakako jedna od osobina borderline-a....
.....to je TEŠKO objasniti...
Bilo kako bilo,narcisi su vrlo TRAGIČNE OSOBNOSTI ustvari,to je i za plakanje i za smijanje istovremeno...
TO JE SMIJEŠNO,TUŽNO I ISTINITO*
TO JE BAŠ TRAGI-KOMEDIJA*
10/10
100%
Želim ti SVAKO DOBRO i SREĆU,bez obzira na nerazborite odluke....
Eto...
If it's malignant narcissist who is somewhat successful in life and doesn't abuse and is intelligent, okay. Anything else, I feel bad for you. (Especially grandiose maliganant, borderline malignant much more dysregulated, not sure when they get old.)
@@janna_777_ Hvala ❤️,sve si u pravu,ali ja ne mogu drugacije.
Samo s njim sam ziva.
Pozelim da vrijeme stane....
ZAUVIJEK ON I JA
@@LjiljanaBrankovic-rw2db U ljubavi nema računice,svakako...ja sam uvijek na strani LJUBAVI,svakako,čak i kada SVE GOVORI da ne treba,ili nije pametno...ti svakako najbolje znaš,najnaravnije*
Čuvaj se,i zaista ti želim SVAKO DOBRO i SREĆU❤️🌹
@@janna_777_ hvala najljepsa,takodje 😊🤗🥰