If He’s Not Contacting You, These 5 Things Make Him Chase You Again + 5 Behaviors That Turn Him OFF!
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- Опубліковано 12 вер 2020
- Learn how to make a man chase you again if he's not contacting you right now (plus five behaviors that will turn him OFF and push him further away if he's acting distant) in this video with Helena Hart.
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I love this unedited format! Also, I love "not worrying about it for a time frame". I am not going to worry about it until the end of October. ;) In the meantime, I am at the gym, building my business, helping my family, and going camping with friends. :) Thank you, Helena!
Oh, the last post was not from Noah.... haha! He (my son) used my computer last.
You’re welcome! I’d love to hear how this goes for you. 💗
This is super helpful and Iike the free flow, authentic format.
Helena. Totally love the new style! Less editing, more talking works for me! Keep them coming. So loved the last tip about making space for the right man so that the others fade away easily.
Basically "leave him alone" accept that your paths are on a different trajectory, and focus on yours. If he truly loves you and belongs with you, your paths will collide once again. Keep it moving
Thanks for sharing! 💜 I talk more about that in these videos: ua-cam.com/video/qA6BgG246bU/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/7r_ba4kReaQ/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/_VRQpgSdmbo/v-deo.html.
Yap!!
Yes .I don want to work myself more.its just disturbing .I am tired
Amen!!
You’ll never have to negotiate your way into a heart that wants you there.
Thanks for sharing your insights here - I agree! 💞
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The best advice in this video is to allow yourself to feel bored and disinterested with his lack of attention and distance. That’s what happens to me. Look for someone who will give you that attention effortlessly, they are out there. Believe me!
Yes, thanks for sharing your insights here! These videos should be helpful for anyone looking to do that: ua-cam.com/video/qA6BgG246bU/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/7r_ba4kReaQ/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/GVnjg3UFYdY/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/_VRQpgSdmbo/v-deo.html.
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Spot on
So true
i sure hope you aren’t implying to start entertaining other men while you are in a relationship just to satisfy a need for validation. that’s big icks for any man with self respect.
"Let yourself get bored with this lack of momentum. Get turned off by what he is doing or not doing. " This is how I feel now. I'd love to hear from him, but I'm getting bored with it and realize perhaps I need someone different. Someone who can be attentive, romantic, show consistent interest. Perhaps we're just not a good match.
Thanks for sharing your experience here! 💚 These videos might also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/qA6BgG246bU/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/7r_ba4kReaQ/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/Sx4ttEKULOI/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/_VRQpgSdmbo/v-deo.html.
I’m going through the same thing right now with a guy. He was texting me every day in the beginning but now it’s a few months later and he’s gone silent. I’m getting bored with it too and I’m tired of being the one always reaching out to him. I need someone consistent and he was in the beginning but now all of a sudden he’s not anymore and it’s a total turn off. I think he’s just not ready for a relationship and didn’t have the courtesy to tell me.
@Kaitlin Mastrantuono I didn't realize I wrote this comment 5 months ago. I wish I would have gracefully faded out of his life back then. My feelings grew, and I thought we were slowly moving forward. He officially ended it with me last night. I felt things were "off" around mid-December, but chalked it up to him getting sick, me moving, being busy with holidays. I'm pretty sure he'd met someone else just before then, and in hindsight, I realize he was creating distance with me as he let her in. Our last contact was me teasing him, thinking he was just being grumpy by sort of telling me to back off. I said I'd text him tomorrow but... I realize it's better not to contact him. It hurts and I feel foolish but obviously I see I had a clue 5 months ago with how I was feeling. If I don't contact him, I still hope he'll realize he wants me if he thinks I'm no longer chasing, but in fact, no contact is probably exactly what he'd prefer. He clobbered me with his words, and no one with a shred of self-respect would hang around. I think that was his idea. He's not a terrible person and I still love him, but it doesn't mean I need to be in his life -- or more to the point- he wants me in his.
@@TART111 I’m sorry you went through all that with this guy. You’re better off without him. You don’t need somebody like that in your life. He’ll realize what he lost eventually but it’ll be too late. You’ll meet somebody else. That’s probably what’s gonna happen with the guy I was seeing. I’m not gonna sit around and wait for him.
@@kaitlinmastrantuono7216 thanks. I kinda knew I'd be ready for a new chapter once I moved, but I guess I wasn't quite ready to have it end. I thoughtnif iI did everything right- respected his space, dialed expectations down to zero, remained busy with my life, always positive and accepting- he'd trust and open up. It was always one step forward two steps back with his emotions I only focused on the one step forward. I will eventually meet someone better for me. Deep down I knew it would never be him. I just preferred not to see it.
Basically live the way I would before I met him, when I didn't know he existed haha
Thanks for sharing your perspective on this Melina, I like that! 💕
That’s so hard to do
@@lalathyravong247 but totally DOABLE 😊
This explains y they stop trying when they know they have u! Then beg for u once u are done
I do this sometimes
I tell myself, “there is always someone better”
Thanks for sharing, Patricia!
Same here 😊
I do the same thing but then when he contacts me & gives me that sob story I say just one more chance & then I kick myself each & everytime i think its a bored thing & i also dont want to go be with anybody else at the moment if u get what i mean
@@tammief.381 If for any reason it was due to valid reason why you broke up such as cheating or abuse then I don't take them back but if we break up because we just are not seeing eye to eye then I do allow him back into my life. There's only been a few of them that I've been like that, the rest I'm like no.
@@justlove8865 i feel the same....i was with my ex for 13yrs & once i found out he was messing around that was it i let him go & told the girl she did me a favor (she knew we were together otherwise I wouldnt be mad at her but she was his friends gf) & I thanked her. But before him & after him I have found myself going back to someone when I knew i could find better.
‘Pull all of that attention back to yourself and focus on whats right in front of you” 💕
I’m glad that resonated with you! This video might be helpful in doing that: ua-cam.com/video/qA6BgG246bU/v-deo.html
Imagine a relationship where "The Honeymoon Period" never ends!
Good idea 💡
#pipedream
I'm blessed to have experience that 😊
Love it. My dream. ;)
That’s what I want in my life right now
Mistakes to Avoid:
1. You don’t want to panic.
2. Leaning forward and trying to get clarity while anxious.
3. Over apologizing or over explaining yourself.
4. Confronting him or giving him an ultimatum.
5. Faking disintrest.
Things We Can Do:
1. Give yourself a timeline to not worry.
2. Take your focus off of him completely.
3. Retrain your brain to focus on what is right in front of you, not on him.
4. Build up your life outside of this man.
5. Let yourself get bored with this lack of momentum. Get turned off by what he is doing or not doing.
Thanks for summarizing these! 💝
Helena Hart if people still click your video, your view count still works right? Sometimes I get upset people comment this stuff. Keeps the UA-camr from having people actually watch.
McLaren Croft I’ve seen many people do this and I did it as an outline and appreciate when I see other videos with an outline. It helps me follow the video better, since I do watch it.
Helena Hart you’re very welcome 💞 I very much enjoyed this video and I’m going to watch it again right now, so much priceless information you are giving us, thank you💞
@@mclarencroft2501 having someone summarize is a lifesaver, because sometimes it's not always clear, and I can screenshot it as a quick reference
I exercise, dance, yoga, clean, organizing!! Mani's. and pedi's, massage. Reading, watching a series or a movie. These distractions are all so helpful bc SELF CARE and SELF LOVE🙏🏼💕
Love it, Beth! Thanks for sharing! 💖
@@HelenaHartCoaching self care is easier- self love is tougher but I'm working on it I think🙏🏼💕
Gee!! Can’t wait to graduate so I can have more time for these lol
@@bethshaferman6712 you deserve a better man!
Agree, all great things for yourself. Healthy things to do.
It's simple if he pulls away, don't follow him. Give the man the room he needs.
Thanks for sharing your insights here!
‘Feeling bored’ is the perfect tip. I always try and not let the physical attraction blind me and remind myself of how boring he is to me.
I’m glad that resonated with you! These videos should also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/7r_ba4kReaQ/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/qA6BgG246bU/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/_VRQpgSdmbo/v-deo.html.
I know of a powerful love spell caster who help me get my ex back, now will are happily married.
Ooo - that’s a good one, NPJ
If a man cannot spare a few secs to send one text to a woman who he loves, how lazy is that!!
It definitely shows where his priorities are (and where they aren’t!).
Totally lazy emotionally lazy is what i call my boyfriend. Im sick of it. Everytime i tell him i want to be do e with it he is the most Perfect guy. Give me a break
Hi Amy, this is the video I’d recommend for your situation: ua-cam.com/video/Q9oHsr6RdP8/v-deo.html
Amy K thats called hoovering. They disconnect/ignore/don’t meet your needs, then when you start to pull away they Hoover you back in, like a vacuum. True love really builds on itself you deserve consistency
I didn't message a gorgeous guy on IG over the weekend because I went 'no contact'....and he blocked me. But I still miss him.
I focus on me! Workout, detox, fast, I am always busy and it never bothers me when a man pulls back it actually gives me a chance to be with me! I love being alone lol
Awesome, thanks for sharing! 💖
Omg this exactly what I do self love🥰❤💎🙏
Me too … good for you
Yes
So exactly me
The first time you let a man disrespect you, you set up boundaries and give him permission to disrespect you. Don't start it. It only gets worse.
Thanks for sharing your insights here, Peggy! 💚
Learned this later in life and pearls of wisdom!
Don't start anything you aren't willing to continue
Peggy in the context of this video, how would the man be disrespecting if you’re not even seeing him?
Do you mean when he pulls away just don’t focus on him (but then how does that “teach” as he doesn’t know why we’re not responding?!)
Bullseye!!!!!
What works for me is getting pampered even as little as having my nails done, have a facial, go to the gym, start reading a new book. One thing I learned is that actions speak louder than words. I give them a week after I delete the number. He has to win me all over again 🙌🏼
Awesome Guadalupe, thanks for sharing! 💖
@Oliver Frost he doesn’t have WhatsApp
@Oliver Frost sorry I don’t have WhatsApp and I don’t do long distance friendships either ... good luck!!!
@@Grace4me111 He has chase me or else it’s a no go!! I’m married now so he won!! Lol 😂
Wonderful ideas to forget him, thank you..
I have found that taking a walk, going somewhere near water, a little stream or waterfall and focusing on gratitude in my life helps to get the energy going to a positive place instead of feeling anxious.
Love it, Marci! Thanks for sharing your experience here. 💖
Marci Morgan,your pretty smile ☺️ can make the news!
I love water and a long Epsom salt bath always picks up my spirits.
I needed to hear this today. He does not want a relationship. I need my energy back. Self love. 100%
I’m glad this was helpful for you! ❤️
@@HelenaHartCoaching oo
Same! 🤦🏽♀️
Yesss self-love is always #1~ :)
I need to focus my energy on the most important person in my life: Me.
If you want your lover to come back to you and stay forever💯💯
'let yourself become bored and turned off by his actions'.....
Wow...... That is very clever, a complete
game changer.....
Impressive!
Thanks Diana! I talk more about that concept in these videos: ua-cam.com/video/qA6BgG246bU/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/7r_ba4kReaQ/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/Sx4ttEKULOI/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/GVnjg3UFYdY/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/_VRQpgSdmbo/v-deo.html.
So true!!! I feel the spark is dead when they don’t pay enough attention or aren’t ready to get closer. It’s a big turn off to me and it’s easy to move on.
I’m glad to hear that’s a turn-off for you! 💚
Men that are flaky are boring. Great point! I wouldn’t be interested in a man at all if he isn’t able to step up and act like an alpha male. Bottom line. I have a very attentive, loving man. He started acting a bit flaky in the beginning and I told him I really was totally turned off by flaky men. Boy, he did an about face in a heartbeat ! Lol 😊 We’ve been together about 2.5 yrs. Our mutual love and respect is so rewarding and we are ring shopping in Oct. ❤️
Thanks for sharing your experience here Jackie, that’s so inspiring! 💖
I second this men who are flaky are boring. They try to keep the spark alive by playing hot and cold cz they don't have anything else interesting!! Period
🎉✨❤ congratulations ☺💐🎉
I was looking around for the right response as I haven’t heard from him in a couple of days. I found it in your comment, “it turns me off” 💥 boom
@@laluna424 Not unless they want Money, they keep you on hold to their convenience, My time is too valuable!!
I love this! I'm all about self love. Stop chasing him and start chasing yourself!
Yes, love it! 💞
This is what I am trying to learn. Because of his lack of interest, I have become very depressed
Hi Andrea, this video should be helpful for you: ua-cam.com/video/rtkse9NpDO0/v-deo.html
Exactly! This is what I’m working on self love and self care!
So true! I feel like adding "start chasing the BEST version of yourself" and invest in that beautiful person that you are as much as possible =)
I do a lot of self talk to get my mind off him and into the present. If I'm alone I say it out loud, which is even more powerful. "It doesn't matter what he is doing, it's none of you business." I love this and the fact that it isn't trying to "control" or be gamey.
Thanks for sharing! These videos might also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/qA6BgG246bU/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/7r_ba4kReaQ/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/Sx4ttEKULOI/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/GVnjg3UFYdY/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/_VRQpgSdmbo/v-deo.html.
I do this too! Sometimes I wonder if Im crazy but it works!
Every time he comes into my mind that interprets what I am focusing on at the moment, I say in my mind's eye, "I release you in love and light", and I repeat that phrase until his energy is totally gone.
Thanks for sharing, Adrienne! These videos might also be helpful for anyone in this situation: ua-cam.com/video/qA6BgG246bU/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/7r_ba4kReaQ/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/ndlJEVTOm4c/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/4CbO9qRmvDM/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/GVnjg3UFYdY/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/_VRQpgSdmbo/v-deo.html.
Love this! Wonderful idea for all.
Words of wisdom, I wish our mothers taught us this when we were little girls, it would have avoided us as women so much heart breaks, disappointments and waste of time.
Thank you, I agree! 💗
I taught my 2 daughters and my son about these things so they don't seem to have these issues with the guys in their lives (they're adults now), but somewhere along the way I somehow forgot it all and put up with 8 yrs of hell from my husband until he left me for a much younger woman after almost 21 yrs of marriage smh... so now I'm 45 and have lost everything and everyone in my life. So it's back to square one for me and back to being the way I used to be before I met him.
@Randi Latislaw I'm so sorry that happened to you, girl. But you are still young and beautiful and you are going to find someone again and someone better this time and they will be the love of your life. F*ck your ex husband. You were probably too good for him. I hope you're having a great night. ❤
Don't dare think u lost.
I was 39 n thought to myself...How in the world am I Ganna go from here? I wrote a prayer to God for the man I was looking for. Mind u... that list was nearly impossible even for the man upstairs to fullfil. I folded n placed in Palms 91.
From experience... don't look back.
Hardest thing is to forgive them.
Even if they didn't ask for it. Do it for yourself. To clarify n allow yourself to forgive for beating yourself up mentally.
Allowing the ❤️ to mend n heal.
Cry it out n clear your soul.
Once done...pick yourself up...dust yourself off.
Say proudly...I am here to love n be loved.
Love comes out of NOWHERE.
I was 46 working in training on my day off. I agreed to work.
U know the impossible prayer I wrote?
God had a sense of humor...n showed who's God! He send the most good looking man I ever met. We both were immediately attracted to each other's energy. He chased me but I didn't make it easyyyyy.
Everything is written was gifted by God. What made my prayer impossible?
I prayed for a virgin.
There was no way...
But God granted with an intelligent man with a good heart n soul. Willing to love n take care of me.
Yes I was extremely shocked I was his first. He was gentle n sensitive.
To this day he still loves me n more after 2 yrs.
Now 48...he has been wanting to marry me. Not before thanking God for loving me enough to blessed me with all I prayed for.
I shared this with only 2 people...now here.
Moral of the story....God has created someone already for U.
Divorce means nothing when God has u in his hands. Remember that.
Our mothers did not know either
Work full time and go to graduate school keeps your mind off those fools, stay off social media, make him miss you.
Thanks for sharing your insights here, Stephi!
I seem to be over thinking the situation! I'm thinking about him too much! What I have done is to clean and reorganize my living space, started back waking to loose weight, I got my hair cut into a nice, flattering shape, I'm reading my Christian books, going on outings with church groups, and attending classes! Just doing self-caring!
I'm working on being more feminine!
Having been a single parent, I'm finding out who I am again!
I have changes SO much and I like who I'm becoming more and more!
God is the potter and I'm the clay, So God and Jesus make me how U want me today! Amen!
Thanks for sharing your experience here, Louise! These videos should also be helpful for you: ua-cam.com/video/7r_ba4kReaQ/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/_VRQpgSdmbo/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/-IJAZaWUlMw/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/gjXYdM90bSU/v-deo.html.
The retraining of your brain is so so important. It is very attractive. I concentrate on the things that fills me up, going to church, worshipping God, being busy serving and tapping into His presence during Shabbat services and soaking evenings. Doing pottery. Reading the Word. Cooking and baking
Absolutely - thanks for sharing, Renola Jodie! 💞
Thank you for pointing out that it's ok to get bored with this sort of behavior. So often we want to guilt trip ourselves for losing interest in this sort of behavior and beat ourselves up for not being "understanding" or "loving" or whatever about it. So we lean in even further to prove to ourselves AND them that we are loyal, loving and totally understanding no matter how we are treated. 🙄 I know I've been guilty of this.
But if you find yourself losing interest over a guy's behavior, remind yourself that that is good! It's means your standards and boundaries are strong, real and doing just what they are supposed to do! Thanks for putting this out there!
You’re welcome! Thanks for sharing your insights here too, I completely agree. I talk more about that in these videos: ua-cam.com/video/qA6BgG246bU/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/7r_ba4kReaQ/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/_VRQpgSdmbo/v-deo.html.
That last bit of advice is spot-on! When he doesn't reach out, it feels like rejection and that is a definitely off-putting.
Thank you, Mary! These videos should also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/7r_ba4kReaQ/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/qA6BgG246bU/v-deo.html.
Ignore him
Focus on you
Self care
Have fun in your own life
Date others
Thanks for sharing your insights here! 💜
Girl, this really hit hard, especially the very last thing you said to do-“get bored” with his lack of attention. I’ve watched so many UA-cam videos about this and yours is the one that hit hard. You are so so spot on. This helped me so much. Thank you. ❤
You’re welcome, I’m glad it resonated with you! 🩷 These videos might also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/qA6BgG246bU/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/7r_ba4kReaQ/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/_VRQpgSdmbo/v-deo.html.
Dancing / exercising to music videos on UA-cam for at least an hour really helps me focus on the present and let go of anything outside of me that I can't control. By the time I'm done, I feel so centered and grounded and great, I really don't care what anyone else in the world is or isn't doing.
Me too ❤
Love it, thanks for sharing! I’m so happy to hear that. 💖
Ok for real, I watched this video then withdrew my energy from him after obsessing over this connection for months now. Later that night he messaged me and he RARELY messages first. I was laughing that it actually worked! Soooo I think I’m going to keep withdrawing my energy yep.
Thanks for sharing your experience here! Yes, it definitely works! 💞
How much space and how many times a year does a man need space ?
He and I both work and are not kids thats for sure.
He seems to not know what he wants to do .Every year when we hit another year anniversary....he gets scarex I guess.
During this pandemic he took a 5 month break ...then is trying to come back 1 step at a time like when we first dated 3 years agi.
@yvonne romera any updates?
@@neffyiffy nothing's happening, sorry to say. As I've learned from Helena, focus on people who are coming towards you. He wasn't making any effort, so I let him go.
I keep a journal for the times that I want to text him anything that I cannot condense into 1 or 2 short sentences. and then I shift my focus to work, cleaning, pampering, meditation/prayer/reading, listening to dating coaches, or sleeping.. which ever one is priority.
Journaling helps me get it off my chest so I don't forget about it. It also helps me keep track of things to ask questions later so I can respond logically over emotionally.
Love it, thanks so much for sharing! This video might also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/qA6BgG246bU/v-deo.html
For me going to the gym or just working out in general helps! Putting all my frustration into a physical activity helps brings me back to center and I can think clearly.
Love it Angela, thanks for sharing! 💖
I enjoy and prefer these short and to the point videos😌
Thanks for the feedback, Michelle! 💕
Agree! I like the authenticity and focus of these shorter, ‘to the point’ videos. I got SO much out of this 15 min but sometimes will avoid a 45 min+ video due to time constraints (I like to listen on a 30min lunch break) Thx for all you do!
You’re welcome! 💝
Yes, i love this format
same
I tend to distract myself with household chores, cooking, keeping up with current events, anything! ;)
Awesome, thanks for sharing! 💕
Yeah, but I cant cook for myself.
Wow, I needed to hear this today! I was going to lean in, but after watching this video, I'm going to redirect my energy on myself. Thank you 😊
You’re welcome Angela, I’m glad this came at the right time for you! 💕
Loved every bit of this… And it was so helpful to re-channel my energy, while I was watching your video he called :-) I laughed out loud, said thank you to God, let it ring five times before I answered. Thanks for being there XO
You’re welcome, Lara! I actually hear about that kind of thing happening ALL the time. Thanks for sharing! 💞
Good video...no rambling...clear statements, no editing needed..what I do in quiet moments is remind myself of the good things men have told me like, “You have a lot to offer and I am a nice looking woman.” The guy I’m talking to now said this very thing to me and I listened. He gets quiet at times. I keep things in perspective. I’m busy with grad school, caring for my mother (which is a full time job) and I force myself to keep my emotions out of how I view the quiet moments. He always comes back 😉. I’ve learned to always keep a degree of separation (emotionally) and to guard my heart until I know his true intentions.
Thanks for sharing your experience here, Tonya!
I agree
This was perfect timing for me . I started obsessing about a guy who has not texted in a few days. I was going to make the classic mistake and text him tmw. Thanks to your amazing video I won’t and I’m not gonna think of him till next week . Your mental tools make so much sense 🙏🏻🙏🏻💓💓
I’m glad this was helpful for you, Aisha! 💗
A little self-restraint can save the day... and go such a long way! 😉🤗 Love the tips, Helena!
Thank you, Diana! 💜
I love this format - unedited and working from your notes. Feels more real and relaxed. The more polished versions are good, too, but I really like this! Thank you, Helena, for all of your thoughtful, clear, and detailed guidance on the path to finding true love!!! xoxoxo
You’re welcome, I’m glad you enjoyed this! Thanks for the feedback, I just recorded two new videos in this format that I’ll be posting soon. Here’s my latest one: ua-cam.com/video/gP3qWLH45e4/v-deo.html
Agreed! This format is great.
I love this new style of video. I think you give us more information and it's like a natural conversation. I won't even mind if you repeat any points in your videos because we need to hear the advice over and over for it to really make an impact. Thanks so much Helena, I still think you're the best coach.
You’re welcome Donna, thanks for the feedback! I recorded a couple more videos in this format that I’ll be posting soon, here’s my latest one: ua-cam.com/video/gP3qWLH45e4/v-deo.html
You must be reading my mind, Beautiful Helena! I’ve been feeling emotional lately. 😢 I need to take time off of thinking of his absence.🤦🏼♀️ I know I’m not the only one getting triggered here. Thank you for your helpful reminders. I like this unedited version like we are literally talking face to face.💖
You’re very welcome! Thanks for the feedback. ❤️
I love this unedited style. I really feel like you’re talking to me.
Thanks for the feedback Cassandra, that’s helpful to know. 💜
I feel the same way!
Yes the unedited style is great!! Real and raw is always a positive!
Thank you, Linda and Elaina! 💕
Me too!
I love #5 from “things to do”. As an impatient person, 1-3 are difficult for me to implement in my experience, but 5 “get bored with his lack of action” fits in perfectly with my temperament and is the quickest way for me to get over a love interest who is unavailable. Also, 4 is brilliant. I definitely had the experience of feeling motivated to growing in and attending to other areas in my life while getting over someone. Very productive time haha. Thank you for your videos!
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This is me as well. I've had to tell a man who wasn't stepping up that I know myself and if I'm frustrated and nothing changes, I'm out
This is really sinking in and I see how much I am changing, for the better. The insecure ways are becoming empowered. Thank you so much for all of your videos!! Beyond just helpful, its life altering.
You’re welcome, I’m so happy to hear that! This video should also be really helpful: ua-cam.com/video/7r_ba4kReaQ/v-deo.html
Really love this format. It’s more organic and flows really well!
Thanks for the feedback Jessica, I’m glad you liked it! 💕
Loved this, and really loved this sort of unedited talking all the way through format Helena! Thank you for everything, you’re amazing!! 💗
You’re welcome Angela, I’m glad you enjoyed it! ❤️
I’m loving #5 - getting bored with his lack of momentum!!! I’m trying to break this cycle right now, thank you! All your videos are great, Helena. You can talk just as you are, doesn’t have to bed edited.
Thank you, Meredith! I’m glad that resonated with you. These videos might also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/7r_ba4kReaQ/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/qA6BgG246bU/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/GVnjg3UFYdY/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/4CbO9qRmvDM/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/_VRQpgSdmbo/v-deo.html.
I really love this new video format! It feels very relaxed and natural, like a conversation with a good friend. I think you’ve got the perfect formula right here!!
Thank you, Heather! I recorded a couple more videos in this format that I’ll be posting soon. Here’s my latest one: ua-cam.com/video/gP3qWLH45e4/v-deo.html
I love the unedited version! It feels like you’re my friend and we’re having a heart to heart conversation. Please expand on #5! ❤️
Thanks for the feedback! I’ve been getting a lot of requests for that so I’ll definitely keep it in mind for future video topics. 💗
Jenn Lamont, you got a lovely smile!
Thank you so much for this video. I’m going thru this now and your message brought me much needed clarity and peace.
You’re welcome, I’m so glad it was helpful for you! ❤️
Helena Hart 💞❤️💞
I love this video, especially the last point about aligning with a man's masculine energy coming forward compared to that bored feeling. I would love to hear more about this.
And I like these videos where you just talk through things as they come. Feels really personable and authentic.
I’m glad you enjoyed this, Tasleem! I’ll definitely keep that in mind for future videos. 💜
This is fabulous! Love how it is a healthy way to focus on your life first.
Thank you, Karen! This video should also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/7r_ba4kReaQ/v-deo.html
I love your videos and do prefer them unedited. The genuinity and presence makes it feel real for me. Thank you Helena for showing up and guiding us women to become better versions of the selves we already are. Much gratitude 💕
You’re very welcome Bella, thanks for the feedback! ❤️
Thank you very much for these very practical advices. Since he stop messaging me, i told myself that, "maybe he is not the right person that God wants me to be with for lifetime!" Thus, i keep myself busy for anything, but i continued praying for his physical, spiritual and emotional protection. God bless you and love ones.💓💓💓🙏🙏🙏
You’re welcome, Lucita! 💜
Love your response this true to my heart your great:)
Soooooon helpful. Thank you! Especially the 'get bored' tip. It rocked, Were projecting stuff on them and then fantasizing that they are the One, Pfff, the One does not make you wonder. So, yeah, I withdraw my obsession habit right now, this very moment . I switch to bored mode, which is actually more relevant . thank you for waking me up 😎
You’re welcome, Eli! I’m glad this was helpful for you. 💞
Yes DEFINITELY need some extra videos of getting myself in-line with the men who wanna honor & value me.. I'm soooooo done with this on & off thing.. It makes me feel terrible, like I'm not good enough for anyone, along with questioning myself.. Thanks 😊
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This came at such a perfect time! I got into the strangest funk recently after all the work is been doing on mySelf, so it threw me off & I needed these reminders!
Thank you Helena 😊🙏🏻💗
You’re welcome, I’m glad this came at the right time for you! 💗
T free
Love this!!! You explain this so well! I like the unedited version as you do a great job! Some of these techniques could also apply to other relationship situations. I have a friend who's dealing with anxiety from a breakup and I thought of her actions while listening. I'm sharing with her.
Thank you, Kirsten! Yes, these could definitely apply to other situations as well. 💞
i like this format where u talk unedited. u are obviously a great public speaker and this format makes it authentic and connecting for the viewer in my opinion! great information, thank you for your generosity and caring.
You’re welcome, Stephanie! Thanks for the feedback, I’m glad you enjoyed this! 💗
I found this video at the end of my day and it is the most important concept that I have heard all day, and possibly in my whole life (I am 73), regarding relationships with men. Please continue with your easy talking style. I really "got" what you are saying, particularly the last positive point. I am excited about hearing what else you have to say about relationships, because after all these years (and 17 years of marriage) I still have hope of finding true companionship.
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This type of video is just as good.
I did journaling and a facial while listening:)
I’m back at doing my Art a lot more since my ex and I are split up.
I’ve also focused more on being outside in the nature, walks and going in the kayak and socializing with small get togethers at my cottage. An ex has started to live bomb me even.
I’m being cautious and not jumping to a rebound. Also met 2 new guys but they are not for me so I practiced being my feminine fun self as I and another girl danced around a bond fire. These 2 single guys literally were fighting for me to speak with them through that entire night. Best night ever. Please keep your videos going. They are clearly helpful in my life 💖💫
I’m so glad they’ve been helpful! Thanks for sharing your experience here. 💗
Love the way you speak without editing, feels like we are having a one on one. The easiest most natural thing in the world. Thank you. Plus, being busy and put your focus back on yourself gets your mans attention, quickly. Be at inner peace doing something you love, and the result is that you become more attractive to yourself and anyone else who is attracted to your energy of happiness.
You’re welcome, Susan! I love what you said here, thanks for sharing your insights! 💗
Again, I'm liking how real you are. You're talking about what we're wired to and reframing it. Realizing attraction can be tuned to the wrong kind of guy, and to intend to recalibrate to how he's acting instead of his overall energy, which is obviously my paraphrase.
Really though, it got me thinking about anchors in NLP. We can create positive anchors intentionally, as well as collapse negative anchors... Really that's what we're talking about here. A negative anchor. It fires off attraction when a man's energy matches the negative experience we're used to...
Meanwhile we have a positive or negative association to how a man is showing up... When he's attentive and calling we feel good. When he's pulling away and we don't know why, we feel anxious...
So the key is retraining our pattern/strategy.
Instead of guy pursues, we get feelings, guy pulls away, we get scared and drive ourselves crazy cuz we're still positively oriented to his general energy (that's based on polarity with an emotionally unavailable man)...
Instead, guy pursues, we get feelings, guy pulls away, we get bored, cuz we're oriented to his negative anticlimactic behavior....
Like honestly, who gets up and walks out of an amazing movie just as it's building to the peak of the storyline? If a guy bails out like that, it's like, well you're no fun.
So yeah, good stuff... The next guy that pulls away I'm just gonna change his name in my phone to "Fun Sucker" for sucking the fun right out of our awesome experience... And then tell my head when it starts to think of him how cool it was too he sucked the fun out and left me bored.
God, I hope that works... And some of the stuff I'm having to look at to solve this makes me feel like I have to deny my feelings you be something different and leaves me with diminished hope to the point of high sensitivity lately... But this is REAL. This I can wrap my mind around. I might not get it right away, but I can be me while practicing it and that feels good.
I love what you said here Amber, thanks for sharing your insights! This free training I hosted might be helpful for you: helenahartcoaching.com/stop-attracting-the-wrong-men-so-you-can-attract-the-right-one/
Hi Helena
Your advice is so helpful as l was doing as you were describing,getting anxious etc,when he wasn't contacting me.
I have followed your advice by letting him contact me and getting on with my life,in fact when he saw that l was enjoying my life after a post on social media he made contact with me.
Your videos are such a life saver.
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Really impressed that you can talk for this long so well and with such great advice and without editing!
Thank you so much! 💕
This was my favorite video I’ve heard from you. The way delivered your advice was clear and straight to the point.
Thank you, Vivian! I recorded a couple more videos in this format that I’ll be posting soon. Here’s my latest one: ua-cam.com/video/gP3qWLH45e4/v-deo.html
“stay with what you’re doing” i love that!! thank you
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Helena, I recently went through this scenario. I gave him his space. And decided to fallow your advice and got into my Art work, sought out friends and went out. This works!!! Thank you so much!!!
You’re welcome Angie, I’m glad this worked for you! Thanks for sharing your experience here. 💖
Are you still with him? And when he came back how did you respond?
Hi Helena, I enjoyed this shorter video too! It’s short, concise and easy to listen and repeat if necessary. I appreciate your efforts to constantly improve, re-evaluate your content and messages
Thank you, I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💜
Great dos and donts. Thanks for sharing your excellent advice! I really like your unedited style of just talking through. 🙂
You’re welcome, Carmen! Thanks for the feedback, that’s helpful to hear. 💕
That last tip is a bombshell gamechanger. Made so much sense. Thanks, Helena. You're very smart.
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The authenticity of this 'natural' delivery is one of the most compelling aspects of your work.
Thank you so much, Claire! ❤️
Helena you lovely soul, thank you for that video. Just right in time. Actually made me proud about myself as I really find myself in the middle of this shift out of old into new patterns. Exactly what you are saying. This true male energy and behaviour is starting to deeply attract me and the others guys I feel more and more bored and even disgusted by. Love to hear that this shift is natural and would be amazing in case you feel like making a video about the pattern shift. Blessings from Germany 🙌🏼🎈🤗☘
You’re welcome, Stephanie! I’m so happy to hear that, that’s a great sign. I’ll definitely keep this in mind for future video topics, thanks for the suggestion! 💗
Excellent point, Helena, to create new habits that foster mental health, overall wellbeing, new neurological connections in brain. Great to apply to improve quality of one's life in general. Thanks for all these valuable suggestions.
You’re welcome, Lisa! Absolutely, this can help improve other areas of your life as well. 💗
Wonderful information! And I love this casual format. We know you’re amazing... you don’t have to have perfectly edited videos for us 💕
Thank you! I recorded a couple more videos in this format that I’ll be posting soon. Here’s my latest one: ua-cam.com/video/gP3qWLH45e4/v-deo.html
The most realistic and genuine advice I've ever heard from a relationship coach. I'm doing the right thing and I need to focus on my wellbeing.
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I enjoyed the natural realness of the advice you gave - you're coming from the heart. No need to edit. Especially about focusing on what is in front of you. Life is short - too short to chase a man! Most of us have chase a man and it's not fun. Thank you for such practical advice.
You’re welcome Christine, I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💗
Love the unedited version - you're so smooth and natural! I'd also love for you to talk more about authentically leaning back and creating that space for the right man to step up. Step one probably is believing that there is really a right man out there for me, right? (Hard to do when I'm not attracting anyone most of the time and then only brief texters where nothing advances past an empty promise to call.)
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I like this format! And getting in touch with boredom is brilliant! So obvious, but I never saw it...wait for the masculine energy to approach me! Why didn't I think of that? The right advice at the right time! Thank you!
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Love this delivery style. You appear to be so much more relaxed and information just flows.
You're impressive either way.
Love, love, love your content
Thank you so much! 💙
I love the natural flow of your caring nature. Also, I found my best method of destressing about a grown boy is too focus on his negative energy more than his very few good qualities. Thanks 😘
Thanks for sharing your insights here, Diane!
I love just the free flow. Far more authentic. Thanks
You’re welcome, Beth! Thanks for the feedback, that’s helpful to know. 💜
Thanks Helena, I like this natural way of you talking, no editing. I preferred it
You’re welcome! Thanks for the feedback. 💞
Hi Helena, this is the first time I've seen you. This was SO wonderful and helpful to me. This was very organic and flowing. You shared such helpful, empowering advice. The delivery was excellent. After years (well over a decade) of being single and not dating, I'm trying dating again. It's a whole new world and I'm not crazy about it. I'll be watching more of you and I have just subscribed. Wish me luck in finding my Soulmate at 49. 😊🤞❤️
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I love this natural, flowing, conversational feeling video! Thank you!
You’re welcome, I’m glad you liked it! 💞
I really like how you encourage us to focus on the things that are right in front of you versus someone who isn’t in front of us or calling us. Retraining the brain into getting into the habit of making the best of what and who you do have! Awesomeness!!!! 🤗
Nothing like a man who doesn’t follow through with his word to turn you off. HONEY THESE ARE RED FLAGS!!! “Never ignore the feeling you feel when you’re feeling ignored”
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I really like this one. Maybe I'm listening better today, but you made some really good straight points and you also seem more natural, just talking. You related better to us than I've ever seen you before. Thanks!
You’re welcome, Elizabeth! The new video I published today should also be helpful (I’d love to hear your thoughts on it!): ua-cam.com/video/7r_ba4kReaQ/v-deo.html
Helena, this deeply resonated and soothed my spirit and knowing into it's right and true space. Thank you for sharing... as you walked before me. I appreciate your desire to help heal, teach and find victory from within.
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I absolutely love this video! My ex of 3 years told me “I wish we were strangers..” that broke me while I was explaining how we could fix the relationship. Thanks for the advice, I will definitely be trying this.
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Aw, girly, that's hard. My heart goes out to you for this. I'm hoping by now you're in a great place!
wow what the hell was that comment? meaning he wished he didn’t meet you?
If so that was not nice - and definitely re-direct energy as soon as you can:)
Thank you! This is the simplest and best advice I needed right now. I’m going to listen to it every day for a week until I learn it by heart :).
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The spontaneous freestyle from your notes is brilliant . Very polished and rich content as is! Very helpful !! Thank you ❤
You’re welcome Kathryn, I’m glad this was helpful! 💕
Thank you Helena. This video was so very thought out abd well explained. Also the most important aspect of why we are all watching in my opinion
You’re welcome Stacy, I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💛
Wow Helena! Really needed to hear this today. You’re an angel 🙏🏻 thank you!
You’re welcome Lily, I’m glad this came at the right time for you! ❤️
Naturally unedited. I have always loved the way you get to the point with gracefullness and humility.
Thanks so much for the feedback! ❤️
This video was extremely helpful and made me feel better about how I need to proceed with my situation. And I like the raw unedited videos.
I’m glad this was helpful, thanks for the feedback! 💜