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I love this unedited format! Also, I love "not worrying about it for a time frame". I am not going to worry about it until the end of October. ;) In the meantime, I am at the gym, building my business, helping my family, and going camping with friends. :) Thank you, Helena!
Helena. Totally love the new style! Less editing, more talking works for me! Keep them coming. So loved the last tip about making space for the right man so that the others fade away easily.
Basically "leave him alone" accept that your paths are on a different trajectory, and focus on yours. If he truly loves you and belongs with you, your paths will collide once again. Keep it moving
Thanks for sharing! 💜 I talk more about that in these videos: ua-cam.com/video/qA6BgG246bU/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/7r_ba4kReaQ/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/_VRQpgSdmbo/v-deo.html.
The best advice in this video is to allow yourself to feel bored and disinterested with his lack of attention and distance. That’s what happens to me. Look for someone who will give you that attention effortlessly, they are out there. Believe me!
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i sure hope you aren’t implying to start entertaining other men while you are in a relationship just to satisfy a need for validation. that’s big icks for any man with self respect.
Mistakes to Avoid: 1. You don’t want to panic. 2. Leaning forward and trying to get clarity while anxious. 3. Over apologizing or over explaining yourself. 4. Confronting him or giving him an ultimatum. 5. Faking disintrest. Things We Can Do: 1. Give yourself a timeline to not worry. 2. Take your focus off of him completely. 3. Retrain your brain to focus on what is right in front of you, not on him. 4. Build up your life outside of this man. 5. Let yourself get bored with this lack of momentum. Get turned off by what he is doing or not doing.
Helena Hart if people still click your video, your view count still works right? Sometimes I get upset people comment this stuff. Keeps the UA-camr from having people actually watch.
McLaren Croft I’ve seen many people do this and I did it as an outline and appreciate when I see other videos with an outline. It helps me follow the video better, since I do watch it.
Helena Hart you’re very welcome 💞 I very much enjoyed this video and I’m going to watch it again right now, so much priceless information you are giving us, thank you💞
I do the same thing but then when he contacts me & gives me that sob story I say just one more chance & then I kick myself each & everytime i think its a bored thing & i also dont want to go be with anybody else at the moment if u get what i mean
@@tammief.381 If for any reason it was due to valid reason why you broke up such as cheating or abuse then I don't take them back but if we break up because we just are not seeing eye to eye then I do allow him back into my life. There's only been a few of them that I've been like that, the rest I'm like no.
@@justlove8865 i feel the same....i was with my ex for 13yrs & once i found out he was messing around that was it i let him go & told the girl she did me a favor (she knew we were together otherwise I wouldnt be mad at her but she was his friends gf) & I thanked her. But before him & after him I have found myself going back to someone when I knew i could find better.
"Let yourself get bored with this lack of momentum. Get turned off by what he is doing or not doing. " This is how I feel now. I'd love to hear from him, but I'm getting bored with it and realize perhaps I need someone different. Someone who can be attentive, romantic, show consistent interest. Perhaps we're just not a good match.
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I’m going through the same thing right now with a guy. He was texting me every day in the beginning but now it’s a few months later and he’s gone silent. I’m getting bored with it too and I’m tired of being the one always reaching out to him. I need someone consistent and he was in the beginning but now all of a sudden he’s not anymore and it’s a total turn off. I think he’s just not ready for a relationship and didn’t have the courtesy to tell me.
@Kaitlin Mastrantuono I didn't realize I wrote this comment 5 months ago. I wish I would have gracefully faded out of his life back then. My feelings grew, and I thought we were slowly moving forward. He officially ended it with me last night. I felt things were "off" around mid-December, but chalked it up to him getting sick, me moving, being busy with holidays. I'm pretty sure he'd met someone else just before then, and in hindsight, I realize he was creating distance with me as he let her in. Our last contact was me teasing him, thinking he was just being grumpy by sort of telling me to back off. I said I'd text him tomorrow but... I realize it's better not to contact him. It hurts and I feel foolish but obviously I see I had a clue 5 months ago with how I was feeling. If I don't contact him, I still hope he'll realize he wants me if he thinks I'm no longer chasing, but in fact, no contact is probably exactly what he'd prefer. He clobbered me with his words, and no one with a shred of self-respect would hang around. I think that was his idea. He's not a terrible person and I still love him, but it doesn't mean I need to be in his life -- or more to the point- he wants me in his.
@@MIMIDSH I’m sorry you went through all that with this guy. You’re better off without him. You don’t need somebody like that in your life. He’ll realize what he lost eventually but it’ll be too late. You’ll meet somebody else. That’s probably what’s gonna happen with the guy I was seeing. I’m not gonna sit around and wait for him.
@@kaitlinmastrantuono7216 thanks. I kinda knew I'd be ready for a new chapter once I moved, but I guess I wasn't quite ready to have it end. I thoughtnif iI did everything right- respected his space, dialed expectations down to zero, remained busy with my life, always positive and accepting- he'd trust and open up. It was always one step forward two steps back with his emotions I only focused on the one step forward. I will eventually meet someone better for me. Deep down I knew it would never be him. I just preferred not to see it.
I focus on me! Workout, detox, fast, I am always busy and it never bothers me when a man pulls back it actually gives me a chance to be with me! I love being alone lol
I exercise, dance, yoga, clean, organizing!! Mani's. and pedi's, massage. Reading, watching a series or a movie. These distractions are all so helpful bc SELF CARE and SELF LOVE🙏🏼💕
I have found that taking a walk, going somewhere near water, a little stream or waterfall and focusing on gratitude in my life helps to get the energy going to a positive place instead of feeling anxious.
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So true I’m in this myself he’s very attractive physically my ideal type the sex is out this world but other than that he’s boring. I’m a silly person I like to joke and laugh and he doesn’t get me at all he doesn’t get my humor hes not stimulating to me mentally but I keep letting his attractiveness and the sex cloud that and I shouldn’t idk how though 😂
What works for me is getting pampered even as little as having my nails done, have a facial, go to the gym, start reading a new book. One thing I learned is that actions speak louder than words. I give them a week after I delete the number. He has to win me all over again 🙌🏼
So true!!! I feel the spark is dead when they don’t pay enough attention or aren’t ready to get closer. It’s a big turn off to me and it’s easy to move on.
Totally lazy emotionally lazy is what i call my boyfriend. Im sick of it. Everytime i tell him i want to be do e with it he is the most Perfect guy. Give me a break
Amy K thats called hoovering. They disconnect/ignore/don’t meet your needs, then when you start to pull away they Hoover you back in, like a vacuum. True love really builds on itself you deserve consistency
I do a lot of self talk to get my mind off him and into the present. If I'm alone I say it out loud, which is even more powerful. "It doesn't matter what he is doing, it's none of you business." I love this and the fact that it isn't trying to "control" or be gamey.
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Men that are flaky are boring. Great point! I wouldn’t be interested in a man at all if he isn’t able to step up and act like an alpha male. Bottom line. I have a very attentive, loving man. He started acting a bit flaky in the beginning and I told him I really was totally turned off by flaky men. Boy, he did an about face in a heartbeat ! Lol 😊 We’ve been together about 2.5 yrs. Our mutual love and respect is so rewarding and we are ring shopping in Oct. ❤️
I second this men who are flaky are boring. They try to keep the spark alive by playing hot and cold cz they don't have anything else interesting!! Period
The retraining of your brain is so so important. It is very attractive. I concentrate on the things that fills me up, going to church, worshipping God, being busy serving and tapping into His presence during Shabbat services and soaking evenings. Doing pottery. Reading the Word. Cooking and baking
Peggy in the context of this video, how would the man be disrespecting if you’re not even seeing him? Do you mean when he pulls away just don’t focus on him (but then how does that “teach” as he doesn’t know why we’re not responding?!)
I seem to be over thinking the situation! I'm thinking about him too much! What I have done is to clean and reorganize my living space, started back waking to loose weight, I got my hair cut into a nice, flattering shape, I'm reading my Christian books, going on outings with church groups, and attending classes! Just doing self-caring! I'm working on being more feminine! Having been a single parent, I'm finding out who I am again! I have changes SO much and I like who I'm becoming more and more! God is the potter and I'm the clay, So God and Jesus make me how U want me today! Amen!
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I also learned that when a man pulls away and stops contacting you or seems disinterested, he is more than likely entertaining another prospect... they are not like us. We want stability and exclusiveness. They want options and the feeling of something new
If a man wants options and the feeling of something new constantly, that’s a red flag in my opinion. My husband and I gave our perspective on that in this video: ua-cam.com/video/tXSwtpLnvaI/v-deo.html
Dancing / exercising to music videos on UA-cam for at least an hour really helps me focus on the present and let go of anything outside of me that I can't control. By the time I'm done, I feel so centered and grounded and great, I really don't care what anyone else in the world is or isn't doing.
Words of wisdom, I wish our mothers taught us this when we were little girls, it would have avoided us as women so much heart breaks, disappointments and waste of time.
I taught my 2 daughters and my son about these things so they don't seem to have these issues with the guys in their lives (they're adults now), but somewhere along the way I somehow forgot it all and put up with 8 yrs of hell from my husband until he left me for a much younger woman after almost 21 yrs of marriage smh... so now I'm 45 and have lost everything and everyone in my life. So it's back to square one for me and back to being the way I used to be before I met him.
@Randi Latislaw I'm so sorry that happened to you, girl. But you are still young and beautiful and you are going to find someone again and someone better this time and they will be the love of your life. F*ck your ex husband. You were probably too good for him. I hope you're having a great night. ❤
Don't dare think u lost. I was 39 n thought to myself...How in the world am I Ganna go from here? I wrote a prayer to God for the man I was looking for. Mind u... that list was nearly impossible even for the man upstairs to fullfil. I folded n placed in Palms 91. From experience... don't look back. Hardest thing is to forgive them. Even if they didn't ask for it. Do it for yourself. To clarify n allow yourself to forgive for beating yourself up mentally. Allowing the ❤️ to mend n heal. Cry it out n clear your soul. Once done...pick yourself up...dust yourself off. Say proudly...I am here to love n be loved. Love comes out of NOWHERE. I was 46 working in training on my day off. I agreed to work. U know the impossible prayer I wrote? God had a sense of humor...n showed who's God! He send the most good looking man I ever met. We both were immediately attracted to each other's energy. He chased me but I didn't make it easyyyyy. Everything is written was gifted by God. What made my prayer impossible? I prayed for a virgin. There was no way... But God granted with an intelligent man with a good heart n soul. Willing to love n take care of me. Yes I was extremely shocked I was his first. He was gentle n sensitive. To this day he still loves me n more after 2 yrs. Now 48...he has been wanting to marry me. Not before thanking God for loving me enough to blessed me with all I prayed for. I shared this with only 2 people...now here. Moral of the story....God has created someone already for U. Divorce means nothing when God has u in his hands. Remember that.
Thank you for pointing out that it's ok to get bored with this sort of behavior. So often we want to guilt trip ourselves for losing interest in this sort of behavior and beat ourselves up for not being "understanding" or "loving" or whatever about it. So we lean in even further to prove to ourselves AND them that we are loyal, loving and totally understanding no matter how we are treated. 🙄 I know I've been guilty of this. But if you find yourself losing interest over a guy's behavior, remind yourself that that is good! It's means your standards and boundaries are strong, real and doing just what they are supposed to do! Thanks for putting this out there!
You’re welcome! Thanks for sharing your insights here too, I completely agree. I talk more about that in these videos: ua-cam.com/video/qA6BgG246bU/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/7r_ba4kReaQ/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/_VRQpgSdmbo/v-deo.html.
Girl, this really hit hard, especially the very last thing you said to do-“get bored” with his lack of attention. I’ve watched so many UA-cam videos about this and yours is the one that hit hard. You are so so spot on. This helped me so much. Thank you. ❤
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Great advice but life is short and I'd say do what you have to do, say what u want to say, tell him how you feel. Be vulnerable. If he is still not showing any interest and ignoring you then pull yourself together and let go of him completely. The right man will always come to you. There is two things in life that you'll never have to chase; True friends and true love!
For me going to the gym or just working out in general helps! Putting all my frustration into a physical activity helps brings me back to center and I can think clearly.
Good video...no rambling...clear statements, no editing needed..what I do in quiet moments is remind myself of the good things men have told me like, “You have a lot to offer and I am a nice looking woman.” The guy I’m talking to now said this very thing to me and I listened. He gets quiet at times. I keep things in perspective. I’m busy with grad school, caring for my mother (which is a full time job) and I force myself to keep my emotions out of how I view the quiet moments. He always comes back 😉. I’ve learned to always keep a degree of separation (emotionally) and to guard my heart until I know his true intentions.
I keep a journal for the times that I want to text him anything that I cannot condense into 1 or 2 short sentences. and then I shift my focus to work, cleaning, pampering, meditation/prayer/reading, listening to dating coaches, or sleeping.. which ever one is priority. Journaling helps me get it off my chest so I don't forget about it. It also helps me keep track of things to ask questions later so I can respond logically over emotionally.
Every time he comes into my mind that interprets what I am focusing on at the moment, I say in my mind's eye, "I release you in love and light", and I repeat that phrase until his energy is totally gone.
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Ok for real, I watched this video then withdrew my energy from him after obsessing over this connection for months now. Later that night he messaged me and he RARELY messages first. I was laughing that it actually worked! Soooo I think I’m going to keep withdrawing my energy yep.
How much space and how many times a year does a man need space ? He and I both work and are not kids thats for sure. He seems to not know what he wants to do .Every year when we hit another year anniversary....he gets scarex I guess. During this pandemic he took a 5 month break ...then is trying to come back 1 step at a time like when we first dated 3 years agi.
@@neffyiffy nothing's happening, sorry to say. As I've learned from Helena, focus on people who are coming towards you. He wasn't making any effort, so I let him go.
Helena, I recently went through this scenario. I gave him his space. And decided to fallow your advice and got into my Art work, sought out friends and went out. This works!!! Thank you so much!!!
This is so true! I had a man pull away and because I wasn’t familiar with it, I started panicking and texted him like crazy to keep the connection. He ended things. Then I decided to put all the energy back into myself and now he’s been popping up and reaching out here and there, without me moving a finger. I still deserve better though - I want a high-caliber, masculine man that is clear and 150% sure he wants me, and communicates with me through hard times because he doesn’t want to lose me 😉
You must be reading my mind, Beautiful Helena! I’ve been feeling emotional lately. 😢 I need to take time off of thinking of his absence.🤦🏼♀️ I know I’m not the only one getting triggered here. Thank you for your helpful reminders. I like this unedited version like we are literally talking face to face.💖
Love the way you speak without editing, feels like we are having a one on one. The easiest most natural thing in the world. Thank you. Plus, being busy and put your focus back on yourself gets your mans attention, quickly. Be at inner peace doing something you love, and the result is that you become more attractive to yourself and anyone else who is attracted to your energy of happiness.
Thank you very much for these very practical advices. Since he stop messaging me, i told myself that, "maybe he is not the right person that God wants me to be with for lifetime!" Thus, i keep myself busy for anything, but i continued praying for his physical, spiritual and emotional protection. God bless you and love ones.💓💓💓🙏🙏🙏
I love #5 from “things to do”. As an impatient person, 1-3 are difficult for me to implement in my experience, but 5 “get bored with his lack of action” fits in perfectly with my temperament and is the quickest way for me to get over a love interest who is unavailable. Also, 4 is brilliant. I definitely had the experience of feeling motivated to growing in and attending to other areas in my life while getting over someone. Very productive time haha. Thank you for your videos!
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I listened to this clip of a sermon yesterday and this pastor had the simplest advice which is the hardest to accept but she said IF someone wants to leave your life, let them.
I’m loving #5 - getting bored with his lack of momentum!!! I’m trying to break this cycle right now, thank you! All your videos are great, Helena. You can talk just as you are, doesn’t have to bed edited.
Thank you, Meredith! I’m glad that resonated with you. These videos might also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/7r_ba4kReaQ/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/qA6BgG246bU/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/GVnjg3UFYdY/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/4CbO9qRmvDM/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/_VRQpgSdmbo/v-deo.html.
This was perfect timing for me . I started obsessing about a guy who has not texted in a few days. I was going to make the classic mistake and text him tmw. Thanks to your amazing video I won’t and I’m not gonna think of him till next week . Your mental tools make so much sense 🙏🏻🙏🏻💓💓
I absolutely love this video! My ex of 3 years told me “I wish we were strangers..” that broke me while I was explaining how we could fix the relationship. Thanks for the advice, I will definitely be trying this.
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wow what the hell was that comment? meaning he wished he didn’t meet you? If so that was not nice - and definitely re-direct energy as soon as you can:)
My boyfriend and I are on a break right now and I’ve watched a ton of videos like this and how to understand and meet his needs as well as mine. Im drawing while watching this, went on a hike earlier. making it a little easier.
Every couple needs space to be individuals and it's a healthy thing but far as a long break from the man/woman they love, Theres no such things as a break. Why would a man or woman need a break from his soulmate? That's just code for he wants to see other ppl and probably already is.
Agree! I like the authenticity and focus of these shorter, ‘to the point’ videos. I got SO much out of this 15 min but sometimes will avoid a 45 min+ video due to time constraints (I like to listen on a 30min lunch break) Thx for all you do!
Hi Helena Your advice is so helpful as l was doing as you were describing,getting anxious etc,when he wasn't contacting me. I have followed your advice by letting him contact me and getting on with my life,in fact when he saw that l was enjoying my life after a post on social media he made contact with me. Your videos are such a life saver.
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Soooooon helpful. Thank you! Especially the 'get bored' tip. It rocked, Were projecting stuff on them and then fantasizing that they are the One, Pfff, the One does not make you wonder. So, yeah, I withdraw my obsession habit right now, this very moment . I switch to bored mode, which is actually more relevant . thank you for waking me up 😎
Again, I'm liking how real you are. You're talking about what we're wired to and reframing it. Realizing attraction can be tuned to the wrong kind of guy, and to intend to recalibrate to how he's acting instead of his overall energy, which is obviously my paraphrase. Really though, it got me thinking about anchors in NLP. We can create positive anchors intentionally, as well as collapse negative anchors... Really that's what we're talking about here. A negative anchor. It fires off attraction when a man's energy matches the negative experience we're used to... Meanwhile we have a positive or negative association to how a man is showing up... When he's attentive and calling we feel good. When he's pulling away and we don't know why, we feel anxious... So the key is retraining our pattern/strategy. Instead of guy pursues, we get feelings, guy pulls away, we get scared and drive ourselves crazy cuz we're still positively oriented to his general energy (that's based on polarity with an emotionally unavailable man)... Instead, guy pursues, we get feelings, guy pulls away, we get bored, cuz we're oriented to his negative anticlimactic behavior.... Like honestly, who gets up and walks out of an amazing movie just as it's building to the peak of the storyline? If a guy bails out like that, it's like, well you're no fun. So yeah, good stuff... The next guy that pulls away I'm just gonna change his name in my phone to "Fun Sucker" for sucking the fun right out of our awesome experience... And then tell my head when it starts to think of him how cool it was too he sucked the fun out and left me bored. God, I hope that works... And some of the stuff I'm having to look at to solve this makes me feel like I have to deny my feelings you be something different and leaves me with diminished hope to the point of high sensitivity lately... But this is REAL. This I can wrap my mind around. I might not get it right away, but I can be me while practicing it and that feels good.
I love what you said here Amber, thanks for sharing your insights! This free training I hosted might be helpful for you: helenahartcoaching.com/stop-attracting-the-wrong-men-so-you-can-attract-the-right-one/
I enjoyed the natural realness of the advice you gave - you're coming from the heart. No need to edit. Especially about focusing on what is in front of you. Life is short - too short to chase a man! Most of us have chase a man and it's not fun. Thank you for such practical advice.
I am going through this now and I just get depressed and sleep all the time. I can't seem to get motivated to work on myself. I liked this video how you just talked uncut . Thanks Helena. I will try these steps to help me get through this.
@Patricia LuceroI know how you feel! I'm going through it right now. We left off on a great note. We've been seeing each other a little over a year so I just don't understand why he won't answer me. It's so hard for me to shut these feelings off and I know it's screwing up the energy and the whole law of attraction thing. UGH
Yes DEFINITELY need some extra videos of getting myself in-line with the men who wanna honor & value me.. I'm soooooo done with this on & off thing.. It makes me feel terrible, like I'm not good enough for anyone, along with questioning myself.. Thanks 😊
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Stop wanting validation from him!!! If he ain’t responding or pulling away, let him go! He isn’t the only man in the world, move forward ☺️ know your worth!
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We think that it's just us, but over the years I'm shocked at how many women this happens to. Fortunately I found my centre, so when this happens to me, it has started getting easier and easier to get back there. It has just happened again. It is a pattern as this is our 3rd shot at something. He has become distant because I pushed a little for something more exclusive. I have told myself that I am also a prize here and if me speaking my truth keeps making him run away, well then so be it. We do have a special connection, but he is damaged and now, I'm actually not so sure if I want to be there. Love the getting bored with the lack of motivation. I always go back to gym, gardening, early morning walks to the dam, seeing my friends, getting my focus back on work, or just relaxing with series. The more we practice remembering we have value and importance and that our needs also should be met the easier it gets to believe it. By voicing my pure intentions for exclusivity, I have realised is not needy, it's setting a boundary. Thank you for your beautiful work.
Love this format! I'm a single mom of 4 kids, 7 cats, 20 fish and I work! I don't always have time to sit and watch the hr long videos all in one sitting! Thank you!
i like this format where u talk unedited. u are obviously a great public speaker and this format makes it authentic and connecting for the viewer in my opinion! great information, thank you for your generosity and caring.
This is really sinking in and I see how much I am changing, for the better. The insecure ways are becoming empowered. Thank you so much for all of your videos!! Beyond just helpful, its life altering.
I found this video at the end of my day and it is the most important concept that I have heard all day, and possibly in my whole life (I am 73), regarding relationships with men. Please continue with your easy talking style. I really "got" what you are saying, particularly the last positive point. I am excited about hearing what else you have to say about relationships, because after all these years (and 17 years of marriage) I still have hope of finding true companionship.
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I love this video! Something in me snapped and I blocked my sons father from everything! I even blocked his number. I love him so much but I’m loving myself more! I have my days when I’m missing him but I’m learning to keep myself busy with the things in front of me and watching these type of videos about putting yourself first
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I tried a video message focused on warmth and what I felt which also completely honored him pulling away. I was really proud of myself. I didn't go into story or the negative. I mentioned after he got sick that things got challenging and I felt we became like two islands experiencing each other separately without ever finding out what was true for the other and said I'd like to talk about what was true if he's open to it... My expression was so authentic and I was really happy I did it for me and felt like I nailed it. It didn't draw him back to me at all, and while that was ok cuz I was happy with myself, I also felt like it's really over. He said he figured out he's not ready, and I know it's not personal, but I feel really hurt. I feel lead on and made a fool of. It feels like he offered me a seat at his table and like a gentleman, pulled a chair out for me to sit and when I went to accept and sit in it, he pulled it the rest of the way out from underneath me just to watch me fall down. Why is this so hard? Why can't men just love a woman as she is? They set us up to have to play games and then project all the crazy on to us.
In my opinion and experience, the right guy will love you as you are (as long as you’re loving and accepting all the different parts of yourself, even the parts that don’t always feel good) - and he absolutely WON’T disappear! 💕
I really like how you encourage us to focus on the things that are right in front of you versus someone who isn’t in front of us or calling us. Retraining the brain into getting into the habit of making the best of what and who you do have! Awesomeness!!!! 🤗
Nothing like a man who doesn’t follow through with his word to turn you off. HONEY THESE ARE RED FLAGS!!! “Never ignore the feeling you feel when you’re feeling ignored”
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That’s so great! Learning how to hook up your feelings of attraction with the masculine action of pursuit. Instead of being drawn in by inconsistency and mixed signals. Yes!! Thank you. I’m slowly becoming turned off by lack of effort but it’s taking a lot of retraining my brain. I’m so used to convincing and chasing bc for a while I didn’t believe I was worthy 😪
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Yes, thank you. Am in a similar situation right now and am working towards it, hearing this from an expert helps me more. What am doing now is focusing on my building my self though in the first place I did something wrong of letting him know how i felt, trying to explain my self, blaming my self but then I realized it wasn't right and pulled out and am now getting off him and actually loosing even the little feelings I developed for him. Thank you.
Loved every bit of this… And it was so helpful to re-channel my energy, while I was watching your video he called :-) I laughed out loud, said thank you to God, let it ring five times before I answered. Thanks for being there XO
This is the time to become the warrior and reach out the sky☁️Use all your energy to build yourself to your maximum potential 💪🏽💪🏽, that you fly high and powerful like an eagle🦅, way above the cloud where ordinary people like him cannot even reach. There you vibrate at a higher frequency where you attract the man of your calibre who is in the same vibration level. For those who are reading, wishing you all the very best to find your right man 👍🏼 You deserve the best Dear😘🤗
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Excellent point, Helena, to create new habits that foster mental health, overall wellbeing, new neurological connections in brain. Great to apply to improve quality of one's life in general. Thanks for all these valuable suggestions.
He was my life. My love of 27 years. I have no other family, and I can’t work due to my health condition. He promised to always take care of me and we’d planned to travel soon when he retired. I feel so sad and so lost without him.
I really learned something from you today. Fall in love with the relationship I want or have- not the man- the right man will provide the good loving relationship THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR ALL YOUR TEACHING.
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When a man pulls away it hurts unless you understand that being around a women for so long decreases his testosterone level, give him space and if its meant to be he will be even more happy to see you, dont punish him, tell him yes its hurts your feelings. You want a man not another gf that's why you feel in love with him the 1st place. Give him space, let him be with the guys trust me when he comes back he will be so loving towards you, think of it as a gift to you, its sounds strange but read an article on what to do when he backs off. Ill cut and paste it later excellent article. It really helped me understand men. Get hobbies, tske classes, hang with family, friends, co-workers, etc. Be the prize 🏆
I like this format! And getting in touch with boredom is brilliant! So obvious, but I never saw it...wait for the masculine energy to approach me! Why didn't I think of that? The right advice at the right time! Thank you!
Golden advice. Have positive energy - it’s difficult but absolutely does work if they want to be with you. No wiser words than this isn’t about you but about the other person needing time / space. If they decide not to come back or don’t contact you, this is where they want to be and should show you the kind of person they are. Do you really want to be with someone who bolts?
Thank you so much for making this video Helena, I find myself re-watching it over and over. I am dating a man who works in investment banking and has crazy hours. I have been understanding of his work schedule and only being able to see each other once a week, but the inconsistent communication has been driving me nuts. We've been able to communicate about it, but he'll only change for a week before it's back to what it was before and it really makes me sad. I am starting to see things for what they are.
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Practice keeping your peace. When they make you feel anxious, fake it til you lake it lol it'll be worth it when they come back around and have seen that you're fine on your own. Teach yourself to be okay no matter what. You'll be better for it either way.
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Such good advice. This happens to me sometimes, that when a guy I like stops calling or texting me, I start feeling despair or terrible anxiety. And it’s a terrible feeling.
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Thing's i do to re-train my brain is workout, clean , find new hobbies like skating, catch up on reading, go hiking, picnics, journal, meditate, pray, binge watch tv series, spiritual baths, do my own nails , go shopping , running, walking ect...all things i love all the focus and energy returns to me, i become self centered. Most of the time being in a relationship pulls you away from yourself....youll find how much you've missed your own company, anything after 3 weeks just throw the whole relationship away, a man that want's you wouldn't waste valuable time. Men pursue the women they want. Let this be a season of getting back to yourself. After 3 weeks you'll have new healthy self love self care habits. Youll be attracting more then just him because you'll glow different. 💖
Helena- I needed this today. Perfect message. I am cleaning my pantry, cabinets and closets this weekend bc my man has asked to put this weekend “on hold” for getting together. We have been together for only 2 months but every weekend we see each other. Not sure if he is going to break up with me or if he just needs space. I’m trying so hard to put my energy elsewhere. Thank you!!!
I am living my life the way that I will be happy.Improve my religious community with my friends ,go out take time to go to places I enjoy my habbit .Most importantly believing the universe will hear my wish to be with a man of my dream.❤️🙏
Thanks Helena, it's specially interesting the "boring" factor that you point out. I think that factor bring us to focus in the relationship that we want, instead of keep been in the obsessive ideal of one guy that usually is not into the same kind of relationship as we are. Is a very practical advice and it give us a greatear and healthier perspective!
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I love this unedited format! Also, I love "not worrying about it for a time frame". I am not going to worry about it until the end of October. ;) In the meantime, I am at the gym, building my business, helping my family, and going camping with friends. :) Thank you, Helena!
Oh, the last post was not from Noah.... haha! He (my son) used my computer last.
You’re welcome! I’d love to hear how this goes for you. 💗
This is super helpful and Iike the free flow, authentic format.
Helena. Totally love the new style! Less editing, more talking works for me! Keep them coming. So loved the last tip about making space for the right man so that the others fade away easily.
Basically "leave him alone" accept that your paths are on a different trajectory, and focus on yours. If he truly loves you and belongs with you, your paths will collide once again. Keep it moving
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Yap!!
Yes .I don want to work myself more.its just disturbing .I am tired
Amen!!
Keep it moving...it may seem hard to do..but it's easier than staying and being hurt, confused and lonely.
You’ll never have to negotiate your way into a heart that wants you there.
Thanks for sharing your insights here - I agree! 💞
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The best advice in this video is to allow yourself to feel bored and disinterested with his lack of attention and distance. That’s what happens to me. Look for someone who will give you that attention effortlessly, they are out there. Believe me!
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Spot on
So true
i sure hope you aren’t implying to start entertaining other men while you are in a relationship just to satisfy a need for validation. that’s big icks for any man with self respect.
Mistakes to Avoid:
1. You don’t want to panic.
2. Leaning forward and trying to get clarity while anxious.
3. Over apologizing or over explaining yourself.
4. Confronting him or giving him an ultimatum.
5. Faking disintrest.
Things We Can Do:
1. Give yourself a timeline to not worry.
2. Take your focus off of him completely.
3. Retrain your brain to focus on what is right in front of you, not on him.
4. Build up your life outside of this man.
5. Let yourself get bored with this lack of momentum. Get turned off by what he is doing or not doing.
Thanks for summarizing these! 💝
Helena Hart if people still click your video, your view count still works right? Sometimes I get upset people comment this stuff. Keeps the UA-camr from having people actually watch.
McLaren Croft I’ve seen many people do this and I did it as an outline and appreciate when I see other videos with an outline. It helps me follow the video better, since I do watch it.
Helena Hart you’re very welcome 💞 I very much enjoyed this video and I’m going to watch it again right now, so much priceless information you are giving us, thank you💞
@@mclarencroft having someone summarize is a lifesaver, because sometimes it's not always clear, and I can screenshot it as a quick reference
Basically live the way I would before I met him, when I didn't know he existed haha
Thanks for sharing your perspective on this Melina, I like that! 💕
That’s so hard to do
@@lalathyravong247 but totally DOABLE 😊
This explains y they stop trying when they know they have u! Then beg for u once u are done
I do this sometimes
‘Pull all of that attention back to yourself and focus on whats right in front of you” 💕
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I tell myself, “there is always someone better”
Thanks for sharing, Patricia!
Same here 😊
I do the same thing but then when he contacts me & gives me that sob story I say just one more chance & then I kick myself each & everytime i think its a bored thing & i also dont want to go be with anybody else at the moment if u get what i mean
@@tammief.381 If for any reason it was due to valid reason why you broke up such as cheating or abuse then I don't take them back but if we break up because we just are not seeing eye to eye then I do allow him back into my life. There's only been a few of them that I've been like that, the rest I'm like no.
@@justlove8865 i feel the same....i was with my ex for 13yrs & once i found out he was messing around that was it i let him go & told the girl she did me a favor (she knew we were together otherwise I wouldnt be mad at her but she was his friends gf) & I thanked her. But before him & after him I have found myself going back to someone when I knew i could find better.
"Let yourself get bored with this lack of momentum. Get turned off by what he is doing or not doing. " This is how I feel now. I'd love to hear from him, but I'm getting bored with it and realize perhaps I need someone different. Someone who can be attentive, romantic, show consistent interest. Perhaps we're just not a good match.
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I’m going through the same thing right now with a guy. He was texting me every day in the beginning but now it’s a few months later and he’s gone silent. I’m getting bored with it too and I’m tired of being the one always reaching out to him. I need someone consistent and he was in the beginning but now all of a sudden he’s not anymore and it’s a total turn off. I think he’s just not ready for a relationship and didn’t have the courtesy to tell me.
@Kaitlin Mastrantuono I didn't realize I wrote this comment 5 months ago. I wish I would have gracefully faded out of his life back then. My feelings grew, and I thought we were slowly moving forward. He officially ended it with me last night. I felt things were "off" around mid-December, but chalked it up to him getting sick, me moving, being busy with holidays. I'm pretty sure he'd met someone else just before then, and in hindsight, I realize he was creating distance with me as he let her in. Our last contact was me teasing him, thinking he was just being grumpy by sort of telling me to back off. I said I'd text him tomorrow but... I realize it's better not to contact him. It hurts and I feel foolish but obviously I see I had a clue 5 months ago with how I was feeling. If I don't contact him, I still hope he'll realize he wants me if he thinks I'm no longer chasing, but in fact, no contact is probably exactly what he'd prefer. He clobbered me with his words, and no one with a shred of self-respect would hang around. I think that was his idea. He's not a terrible person and I still love him, but it doesn't mean I need to be in his life -- or more to the point- he wants me in his.
@@MIMIDSH I’m sorry you went through all that with this guy. You’re better off without him. You don’t need somebody like that in your life. He’ll realize what he lost eventually but it’ll be too late. You’ll meet somebody else. That’s probably what’s gonna happen with the guy I was seeing. I’m not gonna sit around and wait for him.
@@kaitlinmastrantuono7216 thanks. I kinda knew I'd be ready for a new chapter once I moved, but I guess I wasn't quite ready to have it end. I thoughtnif iI did everything right- respected his space, dialed expectations down to zero, remained busy with my life, always positive and accepting- he'd trust and open up. It was always one step forward two steps back with his emotions I only focused on the one step forward. I will eventually meet someone better for me. Deep down I knew it would never be him. I just preferred not to see it.
I focus on me! Workout, detox, fast, I am always busy and it never bothers me when a man pulls back it actually gives me a chance to be with me! I love being alone lol
Awesome, thanks for sharing! 💖
Omg this exactly what I do self love🥰❤💎🙏
Me too … good for you
Yes
So exactly me
I exercise, dance, yoga, clean, organizing!! Mani's. and pedi's, massage. Reading, watching a series or a movie. These distractions are all so helpful bc SELF CARE and SELF LOVE🙏🏼💕
Love it, Beth! Thanks for sharing! 💖
@@HelenaHartCoaching self care is easier- self love is tougher but I'm working on it I think🙏🏼💕
Gee!! Can’t wait to graduate so I can have more time for these lol
@@bethshaferman6712 you deserve a better man!
Agree, all great things for yourself. Healthy things to do.
I have found that taking a walk, going somewhere near water, a little stream or waterfall and focusing on gratitude in my life helps to get the energy going to a positive place instead of feeling anxious.
Love it, Marci! Thanks for sharing your experience here. 💖
Marci Morgan,your pretty smile ☺️ can make the news!
I love water and a long Epsom salt bath always picks up my spirits.
'let yourself become bored and turned off by his actions'.....
Wow...... That is very clever, a complete
game changer.....
Impressive!
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‘Feeling bored’ is the perfect tip. I always try and not let the physical attraction blind me and remind myself of how boring he is to me.
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Ooo - that’s a good one, NPJ
So true I’m in this myself he’s very attractive physically my ideal type the sex is out this world but other than that he’s boring. I’m a silly person I like to joke and laugh and he doesn’t get me at all he doesn’t get my humor hes not stimulating to me mentally but I keep letting his attractiveness and the sex cloud that and I shouldn’t idk how though 😂
It's simple if he pulls away, don't follow him. Give the man the room he needs.
Thanks for sharing your insights here!
What works for me is getting pampered even as little as having my nails done, have a facial, go to the gym, start reading a new book. One thing I learned is that actions speak louder than words. I give them a week after I delete the number. He has to win me all over again 🙌🏼
Awesome Guadalupe, thanks for sharing! 💖
@Oliver Frost he doesn’t have WhatsApp
@Oliver Frost sorry I don’t have WhatsApp and I don’t do long distance friendships either ... good luck!!!
@@Grace4me111 He has chase me or else it’s a no go!! I’m married now so he won!! Lol 😂
Wonderful ideas to forget him, thank you..
I needed to hear this today. He does not want a relationship. I need my energy back. Self love. 100%
I’m glad this was helpful for you! ❤️
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Yesss self-love is always #1~ :)
I need to focus my energy on the most important person in my life: Me.
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I love this! I'm all about self love. Stop chasing him and start chasing yourself!
Yes, love it! 💞
This is what I am trying to learn. Because of his lack of interest, I have become very depressed
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Exactly! This is what I’m working on self love and self care!
So true! I feel like adding "start chasing the BEST version of yourself" and invest in that beautiful person that you are as much as possible =)
So true!!! I feel the spark is dead when they don’t pay enough attention or aren’t ready to get closer. It’s a big turn off to me and it’s easy to move on.
I’m glad to hear that’s a turn-off for you! 💚
If a man cannot spare a few secs to send one text to a woman who he loves, how lazy is that!!
It definitely shows where his priorities are (and where they aren’t!).
Totally lazy emotionally lazy is what i call my boyfriend. Im sick of it. Everytime i tell him i want to be do e with it he is the most Perfect guy. Give me a break
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Amy K thats called hoovering. They disconnect/ignore/don’t meet your needs, then when you start to pull away they Hoover you back in, like a vacuum. True love really builds on itself you deserve consistency
I didn't message a gorgeous guy on IG over the weekend because I went 'no contact'....and he blocked me. But I still miss him.
Ignore him
Focus on you
Self care
Have fun in your own life
Date others
Thanks for sharing your insights here! 💜
I do a lot of self talk to get my mind off him and into the present. If I'm alone I say it out loud, which is even more powerful. "It doesn't matter what he is doing, it's none of you business." I love this and the fact that it isn't trying to "control" or be gamey.
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I do this too! Sometimes I wonder if Im crazy but it works!
That last bit of advice is spot-on! When he doesn't reach out, it feels like rejection and that is a definitely off-putting.
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Men that are flaky are boring. Great point! I wouldn’t be interested in a man at all if he isn’t able to step up and act like an alpha male. Bottom line. I have a very attentive, loving man. He started acting a bit flaky in the beginning and I told him I really was totally turned off by flaky men. Boy, he did an about face in a heartbeat ! Lol 😊 We’ve been together about 2.5 yrs. Our mutual love and respect is so rewarding and we are ring shopping in Oct. ❤️
Thanks for sharing your experience here Jackie, that’s so inspiring! 💖
I second this men who are flaky are boring. They try to keep the spark alive by playing hot and cold cz they don't have anything else interesting!! Period
🎉✨❤ congratulations ☺💐🎉
I was looking around for the right response as I haven’t heard from him in a couple of days. I found it in your comment, “it turns me off” 💥 boom
@@laluna424 Not unless they want Money, they keep you on hold to their convenience, My time is too valuable!!
The retraining of your brain is so so important. It is very attractive. I concentrate on the things that fills me up, going to church, worshipping God, being busy serving and tapping into His presence during Shabbat services and soaking evenings. Doing pottery. Reading the Word. Cooking and baking
Absolutely - thanks for sharing, Renola Jodie! 💞
The first time you let a man disrespect you, you set up boundaries and give him permission to disrespect you. Don't start it. It only gets worse.
Thanks for sharing your insights here, Peggy! 💚
Learned this later in life and pearls of wisdom!
Don't start anything you aren't willing to continue
Peggy in the context of this video, how would the man be disrespecting if you’re not even seeing him?
Do you mean when he pulls away just don’t focus on him (but then how does that “teach” as he doesn’t know why we’re not responding?!)
Bullseye!!!!!
I seem to be over thinking the situation! I'm thinking about him too much! What I have done is to clean and reorganize my living space, started back waking to loose weight, I got my hair cut into a nice, flattering shape, I'm reading my Christian books, going on outings with church groups, and attending classes! Just doing self-caring!
I'm working on being more feminine!
Having been a single parent, I'm finding out who I am again!
I have changes SO much and I like who I'm becoming more and more!
God is the potter and I'm the clay, So God and Jesus make me how U want me today! Amen!
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I also learned that when a man pulls away and stops contacting you or seems disinterested, he is more than likely entertaining another prospect... they are not like us. We want stability and exclusiveness. They want options and the feeling of something new
If a man wants options and the feeling of something new constantly, that’s a red flag in my opinion. My husband and I gave our perspective on that in this video: ua-cam.com/video/tXSwtpLnvaI/v-deo.html
Dancing / exercising to music videos on UA-cam for at least an hour really helps me focus on the present and let go of anything outside of me that I can't control. By the time I'm done, I feel so centered and grounded and great, I really don't care what anyone else in the world is or isn't doing.
Me too ❤
Love it, thanks for sharing! I’m so happy to hear that. 💖
Words of wisdom, I wish our mothers taught us this when we were little girls, it would have avoided us as women so much heart breaks, disappointments and waste of time.
Thank you, I agree! 💗
I taught my 2 daughters and my son about these things so they don't seem to have these issues with the guys in their lives (they're adults now), but somewhere along the way I somehow forgot it all and put up with 8 yrs of hell from my husband until he left me for a much younger woman after almost 21 yrs of marriage smh... so now I'm 45 and have lost everything and everyone in my life. So it's back to square one for me and back to being the way I used to be before I met him.
@Randi Latislaw I'm so sorry that happened to you, girl. But you are still young and beautiful and you are going to find someone again and someone better this time and they will be the love of your life. F*ck your ex husband. You were probably too good for him. I hope you're having a great night. ❤
Don't dare think u lost.
I was 39 n thought to myself...How in the world am I Ganna go from here? I wrote a prayer to God for the man I was looking for. Mind u... that list was nearly impossible even for the man upstairs to fullfil. I folded n placed in Palms 91.
From experience... don't look back.
Hardest thing is to forgive them.
Even if they didn't ask for it. Do it for yourself. To clarify n allow yourself to forgive for beating yourself up mentally.
Allowing the ❤️ to mend n heal.
Cry it out n clear your soul.
Once done...pick yourself up...dust yourself off.
Say proudly...I am here to love n be loved.
Love comes out of NOWHERE.
I was 46 working in training on my day off. I agreed to work.
U know the impossible prayer I wrote?
God had a sense of humor...n showed who's God! He send the most good looking man I ever met. We both were immediately attracted to each other's energy. He chased me but I didn't make it easyyyyy.
Everything is written was gifted by God. What made my prayer impossible?
I prayed for a virgin.
There was no way...
But God granted with an intelligent man with a good heart n soul. Willing to love n take care of me.
Yes I was extremely shocked I was his first. He was gentle n sensitive.
To this day he still loves me n more after 2 yrs.
Now 48...he has been wanting to marry me. Not before thanking God for loving me enough to blessed me with all I prayed for.
I shared this with only 2 people...now here.
Moral of the story....God has created someone already for U.
Divorce means nothing when God has u in his hands. Remember that.
Our mothers did not know either
Thank you for pointing out that it's ok to get bored with this sort of behavior. So often we want to guilt trip ourselves for losing interest in this sort of behavior and beat ourselves up for not being "understanding" or "loving" or whatever about it. So we lean in even further to prove to ourselves AND them that we are loyal, loving and totally understanding no matter how we are treated. 🙄 I know I've been guilty of this.
But if you find yourself losing interest over a guy's behavior, remind yourself that that is good! It's means your standards and boundaries are strong, real and doing just what they are supposed to do! Thanks for putting this out there!
You’re welcome! Thanks for sharing your insights here too, I completely agree. I talk more about that in these videos: ua-cam.com/video/qA6BgG246bU/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/7r_ba4kReaQ/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/_VRQpgSdmbo/v-deo.html.
Girl, this really hit hard, especially the very last thing you said to do-“get bored” with his lack of attention. I’ve watched so many UA-cam videos about this and yours is the one that hit hard. You are so so spot on. This helped me so much. Thank you. ❤
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Great advice but life is short and I'd say do what you have to do, say what u want to say, tell him how you feel. Be vulnerable. If he is still not showing any interest and ignoring you then pull yourself together and let go of him completely. The right man will always come to you. There is two things in life that you'll never have to chase; True friends and true love!
Thanks for sharing your insights here! 💙
For me going to the gym or just working out in general helps! Putting all my frustration into a physical activity helps brings me back to center and I can think clearly.
Love it Angela, thanks for sharing! 💖
Good video...no rambling...clear statements, no editing needed..what I do in quiet moments is remind myself of the good things men have told me like, “You have a lot to offer and I am a nice looking woman.” The guy I’m talking to now said this very thing to me and I listened. He gets quiet at times. I keep things in perspective. I’m busy with grad school, caring for my mother (which is a full time job) and I force myself to keep my emotions out of how I view the quiet moments. He always comes back 😉. I’ve learned to always keep a degree of separation (emotionally) and to guard my heart until I know his true intentions.
Thanks for sharing your experience here, Tonya!
I agree
I keep a journal for the times that I want to text him anything that I cannot condense into 1 or 2 short sentences. and then I shift my focus to work, cleaning, pampering, meditation/prayer/reading, listening to dating coaches, or sleeping.. which ever one is priority.
Journaling helps me get it off my chest so I don't forget about it. It also helps me keep track of things to ask questions later so I can respond logically over emotionally.
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Every time he comes into my mind that interprets what I am focusing on at the moment, I say in my mind's eye, "I release you in love and light", and I repeat that phrase until his energy is totally gone.
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Love this! Wonderful idea for all.
Ok for real, I watched this video then withdrew my energy from him after obsessing over this connection for months now. Later that night he messaged me and he RARELY messages first. I was laughing that it actually worked! Soooo I think I’m going to keep withdrawing my energy yep.
Thanks for sharing your experience here! Yes, it definitely works! 💞
How much space and how many times a year does a man need space ?
He and I both work and are not kids thats for sure.
He seems to not know what he wants to do .Every year when we hit another year anniversary....he gets scarex I guess.
During this pandemic he took a 5 month break ...then is trying to come back 1 step at a time like when we first dated 3 years agi.
@yvonne romera any updates?
@@neffyiffy nothing's happening, sorry to say. As I've learned from Helena, focus on people who are coming towards you. He wasn't making any effort, so I let him go.
Helena, I recently went through this scenario. I gave him his space. And decided to fallow your advice and got into my Art work, sought out friends and went out. This works!!! Thank you so much!!!
You’re welcome Angie, I’m glad this worked for you! Thanks for sharing your experience here. 💖
Are you still with him? And when he came back how did you respond?
This is so true! I had a man pull away and because I wasn’t familiar with it, I started panicking and texted him like crazy to keep the connection. He ended things. Then I decided to put all the energy back into myself and now he’s been popping up and reaching out here and there, without me moving a finger. I still deserve better though - I want a high-caliber, masculine man that is clear and 150% sure he wants me, and communicates with me through hard times because he doesn’t want to lose me 😉
Thanks for sharing your experience here! 💞
Oh I know this all too well.
You must be reading my mind, Beautiful Helena! I’ve been feeling emotional lately. 😢 I need to take time off of thinking of his absence.🤦🏼♀️ I know I’m not the only one getting triggered here. Thank you for your helpful reminders. I like this unedited version like we are literally talking face to face.💖
You’re very welcome! Thanks for the feedback. ❤️
Love the way you speak without editing, feels like we are having a one on one. The easiest most natural thing in the world. Thank you. Plus, being busy and put your focus back on yourself gets your mans attention, quickly. Be at inner peace doing something you love, and the result is that you become more attractive to yourself and anyone else who is attracted to your energy of happiness.
You’re welcome, Susan! I love what you said here, thanks for sharing your insights! 💗
I tend to distract myself with household chores, cooking, keeping up with current events, anything! ;)
Awesome, thanks for sharing! 💕
Yeah, but I cant cook for myself.
Thank you very much for these very practical advices. Since he stop messaging me, i told myself that, "maybe he is not the right person that God wants me to be with for lifetime!" Thus, i keep myself busy for anything, but i continued praying for his physical, spiritual and emotional protection. God bless you and love ones.💓💓💓🙏🙏🙏
You’re welcome, Lucita! 💜
Love your response this true to my heart your great:)
Work full time and go to graduate school keeps your mind off those fools, stay off social media, make him miss you.
Thanks for sharing your insights here, Stephi!
I love #5 from “things to do”. As an impatient person, 1-3 are difficult for me to implement in my experience, but 5 “get bored with his lack of action” fits in perfectly with my temperament and is the quickest way for me to get over a love interest who is unavailable. Also, 4 is brilliant. I definitely had the experience of feeling motivated to growing in and attending to other areas in my life while getting over someone. Very productive time haha. Thank you for your videos!
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This is me as well. I've had to tell a man who wasn't stepping up that I know myself and if I'm frustrated and nothing changes, I'm out
I listened to this clip of a sermon yesterday and this pastor had the simplest advice which is the hardest to accept but she said IF someone wants to leave your life, let them.
Thanks for sharing, Celine - I agree! 💕
Really impressed that you can talk for this long so well and with such great advice and without editing!
Thank you so much! 💕
I’m loving #5 - getting bored with his lack of momentum!!! I’m trying to break this cycle right now, thank you! All your videos are great, Helena. You can talk just as you are, doesn’t have to bed edited.
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This was perfect timing for me . I started obsessing about a guy who has not texted in a few days. I was going to make the classic mistake and text him tmw. Thanks to your amazing video I won’t and I’m not gonna think of him till next week . Your mental tools make so much sense 🙏🏻🙏🏻💓💓
I’m glad this was helpful for you, Aisha! 💗
A little self-restraint can save the day... and go such a long way! 😉🤗 Love the tips, Helena!
Thank you, Diana! 💜
I absolutely love this video! My ex of 3 years told me “I wish we were strangers..” that broke me while I was explaining how we could fix the relationship. Thanks for the advice, I will definitely be trying this.
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Aw, girly, that's hard. My heart goes out to you for this. I'm hoping by now you're in a great place!
wow what the hell was that comment? meaning he wished he didn’t meet you?
If so that was not nice - and definitely re-direct energy as soon as you can:)
My boyfriend and I are on a break right now and I’ve watched a ton of videos like this and how to understand and meet his needs as well as mine. Im drawing while watching this, went on a hike earlier. making it a little easier.
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Every couple needs space to be individuals and it's a healthy thing but far as a long break from the man/woman they love, Theres no such things as a break. Why would a man or woman need a break from his soulmate? That's just code for he wants to see other ppl and probably already is.
I love this unedited style. I really feel like you’re talking to me.
Thanks for the feedback Cassandra, that’s helpful to know. 💜
I feel the same way!
Yes the unedited style is great!! Real and raw is always a positive!
Thank you, Linda and Elaina! 💕
Me too!
I enjoy and prefer these short and to the point videos😌
Thanks for the feedback, Michelle! 💕
Agree! I like the authenticity and focus of these shorter, ‘to the point’ videos. I got SO much out of this 15 min but sometimes will avoid a 45 min+ video due to time constraints (I like to listen on a 30min lunch break) Thx for all you do!
You’re welcome! 💝
Yes, i love this format
same
Hi Helena
Your advice is so helpful as l was doing as you were describing,getting anxious etc,when he wasn't contacting me.
I have followed your advice by letting him contact me and getting on with my life,in fact when he saw that l was enjoying my life after a post on social media he made contact with me.
Your videos are such a life saver.
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I love the unedited version! It feels like you’re my friend and we’re having a heart to heart conversation. Please expand on #5! ❤️
Thanks for the feedback! I’ve been getting a lot of requests for that so I’ll definitely keep it in mind for future video topics. 💗
Jenn Lamont, you got a lovely smile!
Soooooon helpful. Thank you! Especially the 'get bored' tip. It rocked, Were projecting stuff on them and then fantasizing that they are the One, Pfff, the One does not make you wonder. So, yeah, I withdraw my obsession habit right now, this very moment . I switch to bored mode, which is actually more relevant . thank you for waking me up 😎
You’re welcome, Eli! I’m glad this was helpful for you. 💞
Again, I'm liking how real you are. You're talking about what we're wired to and reframing it. Realizing attraction can be tuned to the wrong kind of guy, and to intend to recalibrate to how he's acting instead of his overall energy, which is obviously my paraphrase.
Really though, it got me thinking about anchors in NLP. We can create positive anchors intentionally, as well as collapse negative anchors... Really that's what we're talking about here. A negative anchor. It fires off attraction when a man's energy matches the negative experience we're used to...
Meanwhile we have a positive or negative association to how a man is showing up... When he's attentive and calling we feel good. When he's pulling away and we don't know why, we feel anxious...
So the key is retraining our pattern/strategy.
Instead of guy pursues, we get feelings, guy pulls away, we get scared and drive ourselves crazy cuz we're still positively oriented to his general energy (that's based on polarity with an emotionally unavailable man)...
Instead, guy pursues, we get feelings, guy pulls away, we get bored, cuz we're oriented to his negative anticlimactic behavior....
Like honestly, who gets up and walks out of an amazing movie just as it's building to the peak of the storyline? If a guy bails out like that, it's like, well you're no fun.
So yeah, good stuff... The next guy that pulls away I'm just gonna change his name in my phone to "Fun Sucker" for sucking the fun right out of our awesome experience... And then tell my head when it starts to think of him how cool it was too he sucked the fun out and left me bored.
God, I hope that works... And some of the stuff I'm having to look at to solve this makes me feel like I have to deny my feelings you be something different and leaves me with diminished hope to the point of high sensitivity lately... But this is REAL. This I can wrap my mind around. I might not get it right away, but I can be me while practicing it and that feels good.
I love what you said here Amber, thanks for sharing your insights! This free training I hosted might be helpful for you: helenahartcoaching.com/stop-attracting-the-wrong-men-so-you-can-attract-the-right-one/
I enjoyed the natural realness of the advice you gave - you're coming from the heart. No need to edit. Especially about focusing on what is in front of you. Life is short - too short to chase a man! Most of us have chase a man and it's not fun. Thank you for such practical advice.
You’re welcome Christine, I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💗
I am going through this now and I just get depressed and sleep all the time. I can't seem to get motivated to work on myself. I liked this video how you just talked uncut . Thanks Helena. I will try these steps to help me get through this.
You’re welcome, Patricia! Sending you lots of love. ❤️
@Patricia LuceroI know how you feel! I'm going through it right now. We left off on a great note. We've been seeing each other a little over a year so I just don't understand why he won't answer me. It's so hard for me to shut these feelings off and I know it's screwing up the energy and the whole law of attraction thing. UGH
Yes DEFINITELY need some extra videos of getting myself in-line with the men who wanna honor & value me.. I'm soooooo done with this on & off thing.. It makes me feel terrible, like I'm not good enough for anyone, along with questioning myself.. Thanks 😊
Hi Amanda, these videos should be really helpful for you (I’d love to hear your thoughts on them!): ua-cam.com/video/oFvfNmWMueE/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/7r_ba4kReaQ/v-deo.html.
Stop wanting validation from him!!!
If he ain’t responding or pulling away, let him go! He isn’t the only man in the world, move forward ☺️ know your worth!
Thanks for sharing your insights here - I agree! 💕
That last tip is a bombshell gamechanger. Made so much sense. Thanks, Helena. You're very smart.
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We think that it's just us, but over the years I'm shocked at how many women this happens to. Fortunately I found my centre, so when this happens to me, it has started getting easier and easier to get back there. It has just happened again. It is a pattern as this is our 3rd shot at something. He has become distant because I pushed a little for something more exclusive. I have told myself that I am also a prize here and if me speaking my truth keeps making him run away, well then so be it. We do have a special connection, but he is damaged and now, I'm actually not so sure if I want to be there. Love the getting bored with the lack of motivation. I always go back to gym, gardening, early morning walks to the dam, seeing my friends, getting my focus back on work, or just relaxing with series. The more we practice remembering we have value and importance and that our needs also should be met the easier it gets to believe it. By voicing my pure intentions for exclusivity, I have realised is not needy, it's setting a boundary. Thank you for your beautiful work.
You’re welcome! I love what you said here, thanks for sharing your experience and insights! ❤️
Love this format! I'm a single mom of 4 kids, 7 cats, 20 fish and I work! I don't always have time to sit and watch the hr long videos all in one sitting! Thank you!
You’re welcome! 🧡
Cherish Marshall try good quality headphones 🎧. You can move around the house whilst listening to videos 👌👌
i like this format where u talk unedited. u are obviously a great public speaker and this format makes it authentic and connecting for the viewer in my opinion! great information, thank you for your generosity and caring.
You’re welcome, Stephanie! Thanks for the feedback, I’m glad you enjoyed this! 💗
Really love this format. It’s more organic and flows really well!
Thanks for the feedback Jessica, I’m glad you liked it! 💕
This is really sinking in and I see how much I am changing, for the better. The insecure ways are becoming empowered. Thank you so much for all of your videos!! Beyond just helpful, its life altering.
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Thanks Helena, I like this natural way of you talking, no editing. I preferred it
You’re welcome! Thanks for the feedback. 💞
I found this video at the end of my day and it is the most important concept that I have heard all day, and possibly in my whole life (I am 73), regarding relationships with men. Please continue with your easy talking style. I really "got" what you are saying, particularly the last positive point. I am excited about hearing what else you have to say about relationships, because after all these years (and 17 years of marriage) I still have hope of finding true companionship.
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I love this video! Something in me snapped and I blocked my sons father from everything! I even blocked his number. I love him so much but I’m loving myself more! I have my days when I’m missing him but I’m learning to keep myself busy with the things in front of me and watching these type of videos about putting yourself first
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Where have you been in my life Helena Hart?...that s what i need to do right now...and i m smiling already. Thank you
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I tried a video message focused on warmth and what I felt which also completely honored him pulling away. I was really proud of myself. I didn't go into story or the negative. I mentioned after he got sick that things got challenging and I felt we became like two islands experiencing each other separately without ever finding out what was true for the other and said I'd like to talk about what was true if he's open to it...
My expression was so authentic and I was really happy I did it for me and felt like I nailed it. It didn't draw him back to me at all, and while that was ok cuz I was happy with myself, I also felt like it's really over. He said he figured out he's not ready, and I know it's not personal, but I feel really hurt. I feel lead on and made a fool of.
It feels like he offered me a seat at his table and like a gentleman, pulled a chair out for me to sit and when I went to accept and sit in it, he pulled it the rest of the way out from underneath me just to watch me fall down.
Why is this so hard? Why can't men just love a woman as she is? They set us up to have to play games and then project all the crazy on to us.
In my opinion and experience, the right guy will love you as you are (as long as you’re loving and accepting all the different parts of yourself, even the parts that don’t always feel good) - and he absolutely WON’T disappear! 💕
@@HelenaHartCoaching 😍 this is what we women need to be taught by our parents!
I really like how you encourage us to focus on the things that are right in front of you versus someone who isn’t in front of us or calling us. Retraining the brain into getting into the habit of making the best of what and who you do have! Awesomeness!!!! 🤗
Nothing like a man who doesn’t follow through with his word to turn you off. HONEY THESE ARE RED FLAGS!!! “Never ignore the feeling you feel when you’re feeling ignored”
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That’s so great! Learning how to hook up your feelings of attraction with the masculine action of pursuit. Instead of being drawn in by inconsistency and mixed signals. Yes!! Thank you. I’m slowly becoming turned off by lack of effort but it’s taking a lot of retraining my brain. I’m so used to convincing and chasing bc for a while I didn’t believe I was worthy 😪
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@@HelenaHartCoaching hehe already watched and liked-thank you 💕
You are worthy!
Yes, thank you. Am in a similar situation right now and am working towards it, hearing this from an expert helps me more.
What am doing now is focusing on my building my self though in the first place I did something wrong of letting him know how i felt, trying to explain my self, blaming my self but then I realized it wasn't right and pulled out and am now getting off him and actually loosing even the little feelings I developed for him.
Thank you.
You’re welcome Jackie, I’m happy to hear that! 💕
Thank you so much for this video. I’m going thru this now and your message brought me much needed clarity and peace.
You’re welcome, I’m so glad it was helpful for you! ❤️
Helena Hart 💞❤️💞
Loved every bit of this… And it was so helpful to re-channel my energy, while I was watching your video he called :-) I laughed out loud, said thank you to God, let it ring five times before I answered. Thanks for being there XO
You’re welcome, Lara! I actually hear about that kind of thing happening ALL the time. Thanks for sharing! 💞
This is the time to become the warrior and reach out the sky☁️Use all your energy to build yourself to your maximum potential 💪🏽💪🏽, that you fly high and powerful like an eagle🦅, way above the cloud where ordinary people like him cannot even reach. There you vibrate at a higher frequency where you attract the man of your calibre who is in the same vibration level.
For those who are reading, wishing you all the very best to find your right man 👍🏼 You deserve the best Dear😘🤗
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Excellent point, Helena, to create new habits that foster mental health, overall wellbeing, new neurological connections in brain. Great to apply to improve quality of one's life in general. Thanks for all these valuable suggestions.
You’re welcome, Lisa! Absolutely, this can help improve other areas of your life as well. 💗
I like the unedited version of the videos. It makes you appear authentic
Thanks Sheila! 💕
I love just the free flow. Far more authentic. Thanks
You’re welcome, Beth! Thanks for the feedback, that’s helpful to know. 💜
He was my life. My love of 27 years. I have no other family, and I can’t work due to my health condition. He promised to always take care of me and we’d planned to travel soon when he retired. I feel so sad and so lost without him.
So sorry to hear you’re going through this right now, Michelle. ❤️
I really learned something from you today. Fall in love with the relationship I want or have- not the man- the right man will provide the good loving relationship
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR ALL YOUR TEACHING.
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When a man pulls away it hurts unless you understand that being around a women for so long decreases his testosterone level, give him space and if its meant to be he will be even more happy to see you, dont punish him, tell him yes its hurts your feelings. You want a man not another gf that's why you feel in love with him the 1st place. Give him space, let him be with the guys trust me when he comes back he will be so loving towards you, think of it as a gift to you, its sounds strange but read an article on what to do when he backs off. Ill cut and paste it later excellent article. It really helped me understand men. Get hobbies, tske classes, hang with family, friends, co-workers, etc. Be the prize 🏆
Thanks for sharing your insights here, Stephi! 💞
I like this format! And getting in touch with boredom is brilliant! So obvious, but I never saw it...wait for the masculine energy to approach me! Why didn't I think of that? The right advice at the right time! Thank you!
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Golden advice. Have positive energy - it’s difficult but absolutely does work if they want to be with you. No wiser words than this isn’t about you but about the other person needing time / space. If they decide not to come back or don’t contact you, this is where they want to be and should show you the kind of person they are. Do you really want to be with someone who bolts?
I love what you said here, thanks for sharing your takeaways and insights! 💞
Thank you so much for making this video Helena, I find myself re-watching it over and over. I am dating a man who works in investment banking and has crazy hours. I have been understanding of his work schedule and only being able to see each other once a week, but the inconsistent communication has been driving me nuts. We've been able to communicate about it, but he'll only change for a week before it's back to what it was before and it really makes me sad. I am starting to see things for what they are.
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Naturally unedited. I have always loved the way you get to the point with gracefullness and humility.
Thanks so much for the feedback! ❤️
Having committed all of the “don’ts” I’ve naturally progressed to the 5 dos. Ty 😊 never been here before
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Practice keeping your peace. When they make you feel anxious, fake it til you lake it lol it'll be worth it when they come back around and have seen that you're fine on your own. Teach yourself to be okay no matter what. You'll be better for it either way.
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Wow, I needed to hear this today! I was going to lean in, but after watching this video, I'm going to redirect my energy on myself. Thank you 😊
You’re welcome Angela, I’m glad this came at the right time for you! 💕
you are an angel sent from heaven to save me from myself thank you
You’re very welcome, Lisa! ❤️
Such good advice. This happens to me sometimes, that when a guy I like stops calling or texting me, I start feeling despair or terrible anxiety. And it’s a terrible feeling.
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Me too feel worthless
Thing's i do to re-train my brain is workout, clean , find new hobbies like skating, catch up on reading, go hiking, picnics, journal, meditate, pray, binge watch tv series, spiritual baths, do my own nails , go shopping , running, walking ect...all things i love all the focus and energy returns to me, i become self centered. Most of the time being in a relationship pulls you away from yourself....youll find how much you've missed your own company, anything after 3 weeks just throw the whole relationship away, a man that want's you wouldn't waste valuable time. Men pursue the women they want. Let this be a season of getting back to yourself. After 3 weeks you'll have new healthy self love self care habits. Youll be attracting more then just him because you'll glow different. 💖
Thanks for sharing your experience and insights here! 💖
Excellent comment....
You are 100% right..why waist your time for someone don't care about you.
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Pamper myself and my needs
Thanks for sharing, Kathleen! 💜
Helena- I needed this today. Perfect message. I am cleaning my pantry, cabinets and closets this weekend bc my man has asked to put this weekend “on hold” for getting together. We have been together for only 2 months but every weekend we see each other. Not sure if he is going to break up with me or if he just needs space. I’m trying so hard to put my energy elsewhere. Thank you!!!
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Hey what ended up happening with this man? Are you guys still together?
I am living my life the way that I will be happy.Improve my religious community with my friends ,go out take time to go to places I enjoy my habbit .Most importantly believing the universe will hear my wish to be with a man of my dream.❤️🙏
Awesome, thanks for sharing! 💖
Thanks Helena, it's specially interesting the "boring" factor that you point out. I think that factor bring us to focus in the relationship that we want, instead of keep been in the obsessive ideal of one guy that usually is not into the same kind of relationship as we are.
Is a very practical advice and it give us a greatear and healthier perspective!
You’re welcome, I’m glad that resonated with you! I love what you said here too, thanks for sharing! 💗