You are a good person. I didn’t find a good counselor until I was in my 50s! He was 80! He was so straight forward with me! That’s what I personally needed! Being an alcoholic that many years, is what is affecting your thoughts. When Timothy Baker YT: Sarasota Tim told his audience he was an alcoholic for many many years and spent $400.00 a month on Vodka and cranberry juice, then I knew why he was saying and doing what he does! He supposedly has quit, but his video has shown him drinking wine and fake beer. That’s his big problem. He can’t sleep but 4 or 5 hours. I suggest you keep looking for a counselor/ talk to your GP and get on a non opioid anxiety med for a couple of months and see if it helps.
@raymond_sycamore Love that energy brother! Many of us refuse to play their games and it’s time we wake the rest of our sleeping brothers up and push back against tyranny!
@@raymond_sycamore according to your words, the big tittied redheads aren't worth the price tag. So she's wherever the people who are paying the asking price. If you believe the price is overinflated, however correct you are, the market forces are what they are. Instead your time and effort is tied up trying to carve out a retirement with properties. I agree with you, but your response was probably more satire than anything else, and I'm not offering any new or profound wisdom.
@@raymond_sycamore is this a thing where you can afford it, you choose not to because it's not worth the cost to you, and because it's not free the system isn't optimal? Alot of us choose not to buy that product even though we could, but the juice isn't worth the squeeze.
Take it from someone who has had false friends my entire life, it is better to have no friends. I have put myself out there for years to make friends and keep friendships but as it turns out they aren't interested in me. They could gaf. So I don't find value in friends. If I have to pay money so that someone will be my friend and talk to me that's not a true friend. Haven't you noticed that people are really, really shallow these days? To the point where I want to vomit. I look at people now as transactional. I go to the store maybe I have to exchange some words with the cashier and that's the end of it. There's no point to me even trying. Perhaps the difference is I enjoy my solitude and have projects I'm working on that give me a lot of joy. People bring nothing but misery to my life. I love humanity but it's people I don't like.
The question is not _good_ vs. _not good._ It’s _skillful_ vs. _unskillful._ If you harbor resentment, bitterness, envy, and other negative emotions, you will be in mental anguish because those are unskillful qualities to have. We live under _higher laws._ These laws, like causality or karma, exist whether you like them or not. If you think in unskillful ways (egotistically), believe unskillful things (ignorance), and perform unskillful actions (harming other beings, lying, stealing, ingesting intoxicants), then you will suffer and be unhappy. Intellectual rumination is a torturous habit that can be remedied with meditation.
It seems like 8/10 times I see something morally wrong or questionable online, 90% of the comments are in support. “Stop hating”, “at least they got their bag”. It’s disturbing.
I feel your thoughts. I find you very interesting and would definitely hang out as friends until you either become rude, obnoxious or just a mean nasty person. I don't think you're any of the above. I'm in Nevada not sure where you're at.
Well Raymond in this world your only incentive is your moral compass. Ya you could take the path of being a rotten person and see where it gets you, but I would be willing to bet that you would realize that the this shitty society won. Stick to the moral high ground . It might be hard to do for a few years but it will pay off someday.
You will NEVER get any positive thing for the rest of your life. You have to accept this and understand it. You'll never be free until you give up. I am ugly 38 yo virgin too, but I gave up, I walk shirtless in my city, don't give a dam about my look, what they feel about me.
Raymond is nothing like you .I don't see Raymond giving up, He is not ugly in any way. I do recommend seeking out Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior. RAYMOND YOU CAN DO THIS. You are a very smart and wise young man.
Incentive as in from what direction ? I believe the reward ultimately is only from the Heavenly Father, as a Christian I believe in God, and his son Jesus Christ . That and your own self accountability I believe are the only ones we can depend on to care about our true intentions
You are playing too much into how you look when it comes to your interactions with people. Sure, women are shallow, and they do judge by looks but outside of women as men when it comes to making friends, we don't judge how other men look. I don't think a straight man gives a shit about how you look when you walk into a store or restaurant and have an interaction when paying for your transaction. As a man most of us don't want drama and if you don't bring drama, we are cool. That doesn't mean we'll be your friend, but it means we won't disrespect you. As far making friends your struggle is not something new that you are going through alone. There are millions of people on social media complaining that they can't make friends and how they are lonely. I have seen countless videos of this from ugly to good looking people to different races of people to people who are successful to not successful. The real issue is American culture, and our economic system keeps people isolated after their schooling is finished. Another thing I will tell you it's also how you carry yourself that will determine how a lot of people will treat you. If you come into a place of business looking upset and angry well don't expect people to pleasantly interact with you. The same thing goes with if you look depressed and confused then people will want to avoid you. I'm not a looker just a regular looking guy but most of the time my interactions with people outside of my house is positive. Keep in mind I'm also an introvert but it's how I carry myself that's why I tend to get positive interactions.
Being good is virtuous. Virtue is its own reward.
You are a good person.
I didn’t find a good counselor until I was in my 50s! He was 80! He was so straight forward with me! That’s what I personally needed!
Being an alcoholic that many years, is what is affecting your thoughts.
When Timothy Baker YT: Sarasota Tim told his audience he was an alcoholic for many many years and spent $400.00 a month on Vodka and cranberry juice, then I knew why he was saying and doing what he does!
He supposedly has quit, but his video has shown him drinking wine and fake beer. That’s his big problem. He can’t sleep but 4 or 5 hours.
I suggest you keep looking for a counselor/ talk to your GP and get on a non opioid anxiety med for a couple of months and see if it helps.
@@wichitatxgal I will never pay some feminist $200 an hour to tell me I’m a horrible person because I’m a straight white male that wants sex.
@raymond_sycamore Love that energy brother! Many of us refuse to play their games and it’s time we wake the rest of our sleeping brothers up and push back against tyranny!
If you’re asking for a “pay off” then you’re already lost.
Youll always find what your looking for
@@tomlaundry4021 then where’s my big titted red head ready to have fun bedroom time whenever I want?
@@raymond_sycamore according to your words, the big tittied redheads aren't worth the price tag. So she's wherever the people who are paying the asking price. If you believe the price is overinflated, however correct you are, the market forces are what they are. Instead your time and effort is tied up trying to carve out a retirement with properties. I agree with you, but your response was probably more satire than anything else, and I'm not offering any new or profound wisdom.
@@tomlaundry4021 well the point stands, I am not finding what I'm really looking for... if I could I would have it.
@@raymond_sycamore is this a thing where you can afford it, you choose not to because it's not worth the cost to you, and because it's not free the system isn't optimal? Alot of us choose not to buy that product even though we could, but the juice isn't worth the squeeze.
Take it from someone who has had false friends my entire life, it is better to have no friends. I have put myself out there for years to make friends and keep friendships but as it turns out they aren't interested in me. They could gaf. So I don't find value in friends. If I have to pay money so that someone will be my friend and talk to me that's not a true friend. Haven't you noticed that people are really, really shallow these days? To the point where I want to vomit. I look at people now as transactional. I go to the store maybe I have to exchange some words with the cashier and that's the end of it. There's no point to me even trying. Perhaps the difference is I enjoy my solitude and have projects I'm working on that give me a lot of joy. People bring nothing but misery to my life. I love humanity but it's people I don't like.
You’re familiar with Nietzsche & Jung, so I assume you’ve read Dostoevsky? You remind me a little bit of the narrator in _Notes from Underground_
I have a video where I talk about Dostoevsky being my favorite author.
The question is not _good_ vs. _not good._ It’s _skillful_ vs. _unskillful._ If you harbor resentment, bitterness, envy, and other negative emotions, you will be in mental anguish because those are unskillful qualities to have. We live under _higher laws._ These laws, like causality or karma, exist whether you like them or not. If you think in unskillful ways (egotistically), believe unskillful things (ignorance), and perform unskillful actions (harming other beings, lying, stealing, ingesting intoxicants), then you will suffer and be unhappy.
Intellectual rumination is a torturous habit that can be remedied with meditation.
I do not practice witchcraft.
It seems like 8/10 times I see something morally wrong or questionable online, 90% of the comments are in support. “Stop hating”, “at least they got their bag”. It’s disturbing.
@@ChadAV69 okay, Chad
I feel your thoughts. I find you very interesting and would definitely hang out as friends until you either become rude, obnoxious or just a mean nasty person. I don't think you're any of the above. I'm in Nevada not sure where you're at.
Well Raymond in this world your only incentive is your moral compass. Ya you could take the path of being a rotten person and see where it gets you, but I would be willing to bet that you would realize that the this shitty society won. Stick to the moral high ground . It might be hard to do for a few years but it will pay off someday.
You will NEVER get any positive thing for the rest of your life.
You have to accept this and understand it.
You'll never be free until you give up. I am ugly 38 yo virgin too, but I gave up, I walk shirtless in my city, don't give a dam about my look, what they feel about me.
Raymond is nothing like you .I don't see Raymond giving up, He is not ugly in any way. I do recommend seeking out Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior. RAYMOND YOU CAN DO THIS. You are a very smart and wise young man.
@322Dot2, one last thing , people like you always play the VICTIM. stop it and be something or crawl back in your hole.
Incentive as in from what direction ?
I believe the reward ultimately is only from the Heavenly Father, as a Christian I believe in God, and his son Jesus Christ . That and your own self accountability I believe are the only ones we can depend on to care about our true intentions
You are playing too much into how you look when it comes to your interactions with people. Sure, women are shallow, and they do judge by looks but outside of women as men when it comes to making friends, we don't judge how other men look. I don't think a straight man gives a shit about how you look when you walk into a store or restaurant and have an interaction when paying for your transaction. As a man most of us don't want drama and if you don't bring drama, we are cool. That doesn't mean we'll be your friend, but it means we won't disrespect you.
As far making friends your struggle is not something new that you are going through alone. There are millions of people on social media complaining that they can't make friends and how they are lonely. I have seen countless videos of this from ugly to good looking people to different races of people to people who are successful to not successful. The real issue is American culture, and our economic system keeps people isolated after their schooling is finished.
Another thing I will tell you it's also how you carry yourself that will determine how a lot of people will treat you. If you come into a place of business looking upset and angry well don't expect people to pleasantly interact with you. The same thing goes with if you look depressed and confused then people will want to avoid you. I'm not a looker just a regular looking guy but most of the time my interactions with people outside of my house is positive. Keep in mind I'm also an introvert but it's how I carry myself that's why I tend to get positive interactions.