Am a private person but today lemme TMI coz this one touches a nerve . My story in summary : pursued me for years , finally caved , had the happiest 1 month of my life in that relationship .He travels to shagz,we are to meet for a date when he returns , calls unanswered for 24 hours . Smitten but naive me pesters ,I even report missing person . That’s the day I learnt what ghosting is . Lord 🤦🏾♀️ it hurt so bad I left the country .
Rejection is painful. A man ghosted me 2 months ago after we'd agreed on a date. That stung so I texted him days later telling him to learn to respect people's time. Weeks later, he reappeared from the dead and started commenting on my social media posts☹️ I ignored him. A month after that, he texted me saying "I owe you a good fuck before the year ends." I had to tell him off. I don't block such people. Instead, I tell them off when they return and go on with my life. It's upon them to notice that I've moved on because I don't owe a ghoster any amount of explanation. I think ghosters are immature, cowardly and disrespectful humans. Ghosting is also emotional abuse. It's like silent treatment.
Yeah my experience from rejection is from ghosting!!! Waaah talk about ‘character development’!! I was ghosted by my fiancé and I had to find a way to get over it as I was overseas studying at the time. I found that you can get on with life without ‘closure’!😂
Rejection can be painful but it brings out the best in someone provided you deal with it in a positive manner. I deal with mine but getting a distraction and staying away from people who are negative and people who are not helping me grow out of it. Anyway am here for more lessons as usual
Thank you so much ladies, for sharing your rejection stories with us❤️❤️❤️ When Lydia said "Maybe he's dead" 😂😂😂 He's just not that into you.. Murugi's story: "Went for a walk and never came back" Wueh!? I'm never letting mans go on a walk by himself again😂😂
You have no idea how you guys are really helping me manoeuvre my mid-twenties and helping me appreciate myself and my worth and also discover my Identity. Thank you so much, I am officially a subscriber. ❤
Hey Murugi and Lydia, This was an awesome show. I would love to contribute on two things; First, its okay for you guys to be called big sisters. The title 'Big sister' is not about age, it's associated with wisdom and you ladies are saturated with some. So just embrace it yoh.💌 Secondly, about that dilemma you ladies handled. I have been there before. I had never dated seriously, I would in fact disappear when men become serious with me. So many times I even changed my telephone number, I was afraid of being more than a friend with men. I was okay on my own. This was because I lived with an aunt of mine while in Primary School and Her hubby used to cheat on her with different ladies, beat her up when she complained and threaten me not to tell on him every time he brought home a lady. And so, I knew these ladies, I knew my aunt was being cheated on but I never had the courage to tell anyone. This became a good breeding ground for all my insecurities as far as relationships with men is concerned. Forward to when I met my husband after campus, we connected so well and I opened up to him about what happened to me and how insecure I was. The guy made it his duty to help me heal and he encouraged me to allow myself heal. He hid nothing from me, he validated me every single day and I slowly learnt to trust again and for the first time I allowed myself to love. Then he proposed to me and we got married. I got married a healed person with zero insecurities. Right now, there is nothing about me that someone can say to pin me down and there is nothing my husband does that makes me seriously hurt and I freely express myself about serious and delicate issues without involving my emotions. So, I just want to encourage that lady that she doesn't have to separate with that guy to heal while apart, because how can you heal from something you aren't confronting? Its okay to be in a relationship and still have all your baggage, its okay to feel insecure about things and it is okay to confront your partner whenever you feel insecure about somethings. The guy should know, she isn't accusing him, she just needs disclosure, with time, she will gain trust and those confrontations will tone down. Otherwise, I wish her all the very best in her new relationship and kudos to you guys for this quality podcast! Cheers!
Each day we keep learning and I love TMI for the lessons...i was kinda rejected from a guy who I felt liked we vibed and i kept doubting myself but when I listened to this podcast I've moved on finally and made peace with myself....sasa ni kuoga na kurudi soko😁
Sorry. Sending you hugs. He will probably reach out again but it won't change the fact that he is an asshole. He will ghost you again until you learn your lesson. You are a goddess and you deserve a man who is obsessed with you ♥
Silent rejection really hurts,it makes you question your worth and everything in you, I prefer someone to speak up and say this won't work or am not your type rather than just ghosting me and making me feel insecure about myself
I also faced rejection when i told a guy i liked him and he ghosted me and changed . He used to lead me on and i thought the feeling was mutual . We are co-workers but when he rejected me it made me question myself . What i did wrong or what i did to deserve that rejection
I recommend a book called the 4 agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz Oh my this book is powerful and it gives 4 agreements that one can use to overcome self doubt,rejection etc and create the life you want..🧡
Rejection hurts but learning to move on is a life skill✔️ On today's dilemma, I'll reiterate what you said. The guy has a past and has been honest about it, I feel like she should give him the benefit of doubt and trust him unless he gives her a reason not to by acting a fool🤷♀️ Say he does cheat or whatever, that doesn't mean that the lady should feel guilty because she should have "seen it coming". It only means that she trusted him and he broke it. Simple. Also, cheers to self awareness! 🥂
Rejection is painful... especially being ghosted without no communication..one time you good the next you are alone..and you start questioning if the problem was with you...time heals anything though
I've been ghosted so much in my life from being rejected by my own blood father to highschool to now in the real life as a grown ass ID holder that through all those experiences made me a ghoster too And now i ghost unapologetic I am trying to stop it but its just so difficult
Am going through it now,so i confronted the guy to know why he rejected me only to tell me on my face that i was too skinny for him ,i ended up eating alot and have gain alot of weight and lost my confident but so far am healing its is just seasonal.
I have been ghosted and it hurts did the thing, moved on dint take long before he found out I had started dating again, then the late night text and calls started again, we met a couple of time coz I wanted to give him something he never gave me, respect(3years in a relationship)but I knew I was done with him, to cut the long story short, I changed my number once I made it clear I was not interested in getting back together, 10 years down the line he still calls my sister to check up on me…
Yesss!Napenda the dress and hairstyle coordination😍😍. If only i could subscribe more than once I would😘. Topic moto hits home💔,1st rejections are hard to get over. We learn and move different.
I told this guy who i had major chemistry with that I’d love to be the step mom of his child just coz i thought it would make us get even closer . And Let me tell you Maina that’s the last conversation we ever had 😭😭.
You guys are so sweet amazing and so transforming ilove you two from the bottom of my heart. Igot got from one wic left me in my power in my whole self so happy peaceful grateful and more compassionate.
I was currently rejected by a company because I didn’t had a passport and instead I had a naturalization document which is as good as a passport… to heal from it i applied in a better hospital and they gave me a chance… rejection hurts so bad
Hey I’m currently 23 and dating.I’m on all apps ..bumble hinge tinder and I constantly connect with men go on dates.This is the second guy who has ghosted me and I’m like what I’m I doing wrong.After my first ghosting I cried and went back on the app but now the second time I’m like wait what am I doing wrong .Yes I’m back on the apps but why me .I’m not sure if I can survive another ghosting 🤷🏾♀️🤦🏽♀️
😅😅To be sincerely honest in my humble opinion without being sentimental of course without offending anyone who thinks differently from my point of view and without hiding any thoughts in my mind and without lies,to the actual truth with my clear open mind and clean heart,expressing what ever is embedded inside me for a long time which I didn't say just because I was nervous.But Today, by gathering all the courage and motivation, I just want to say that I actually feel and think that I have absolutely nothing to say. Oooh I almost forgot I love every one of you who is reading this😉😘
Current situation...I just needed to hear this... thanks gorgeous ladies for the heads up...it's time to move on...silent treatment is weird... blueticks..no reply...hahaa
It's the real gherro out here but we move regardless.I had someone give their experience .that they liked this guy and could speak every now and then now they had not spoken for a while and she texted him and said " hey you've been silent " and his reply was " I wish you did the same" 😂😂 that was it💔💔
Me asked a guy out via text who I have been friends with for along time, and he ignored the part in the msg where I mentioned I had feelings for him. Yooo!
Wouldn't recommend. As a recent ghostee, the person tends to think there is something wrong with them when in reality, it has nothing to do with them. Just tell them that while you think they are a great person and you enjoy their company, you are not ready to take the next step. There won't be a conversation to be had after that.
I wouldn't advise ghosting. It is emotionally and mentally torturous. Be gracious with people and just tell them you don't think he or she is what you are looking for.
@@justmyworld2542 well, I don't know the first thing about psychology but I think it's good to just let them know. I would tell them that I appreciate the effort but I'm not interested in furthering the acquaintance. There, i drew my boundary. Since this person is toxic i assume he or she can't handle my reasons for cutting them off. If they blow it out of proportion, call me names etc, i would block them, for the sake of my mental health. If they are open minded enough, i would state my reasons, gently of course. Maybe it's something they don't already know about themselves and they would wanna work on it. But it won't change the fact that I'm ending the acquaintance. Just my two cents though
Me too I recently just reached out to someone I ghosted and I was really mortified and disappointed in myself for putting someone else through such pain
those who have never been ghosted ,how does it feel to be GOD`S favorite ? anyway another thing about rejection is also that you are being rejected because you are too good for them they can not handle your worth ,so it is not every time you are rejected that you are not good enough and the rejecter🤫 most of the time don't have the courage to tell you that .so they make you feel you are not good enough
If you’re watching this and you’re not subscribed, please do now! Let’s get to 30k before Feb 😍
I always tell myself, 'So much has been given to me to dwell on that which has been denied.'
Love this!
It gets to that point 🤗
Wooow am adding that to my notes
Am a private person but today lemme TMI coz this one touches a nerve . My story in summary : pursued me for years , finally caved , had the happiest 1 month of my life in that relationship .He travels to shagz,we are to meet for a date when he returns , calls unanswered for 24 hours . Smitten but naive me pesters ,I even report missing person . That’s the day I learnt what ghosting is . Lord 🤦🏾♀️ it hurt so bad I left the country .
Rejection is painful.
A man ghosted me 2 months ago after we'd agreed on a date. That stung so I texted him days later telling him to learn to respect people's time. Weeks later, he reappeared from the dead and started commenting on my social media posts☹️ I ignored him.
A month after that, he texted me saying "I owe you a good fuck before the year ends." I had to tell him off.
I don't block such people. Instead, I tell them off when they return and go on with my life. It's upon them to notice that I've moved on because I don't owe a ghoster any amount of explanation.
I think ghosters are immature, cowardly and disrespectful humans. Ghosting is also emotional abuse. It's like silent treatment.
We absolutely agree with how you dealt with that ❤️❤️
@@tmipodcastke ❤️
👏👏👏👏I love how you delt with him
You're too kind! I'd have given him a mouthful he'd never forget for sure
@@lorrecco My pride won't let me do that. Even in relationships, I never leave with drama.
Yeah my experience from rejection is from ghosting!!! Waaah talk about ‘character development’!! I was ghosted by my fiancé and I had to find a way to get over it as I was overseas studying at the time. I found that you can get on with life without ‘closure’!😂
Fiancée? Not even boyfriend? Lord your men are mad down here 🥲🥲
Oh no😢 I'm glad you moved on. May you find perfect healing.
I'm glad you moved on ...gosh I can never wish that experience to happen to anyone
Rejection can be painful but it brings out the best in someone provided you deal with it in a positive manner. I deal with mine but getting a distraction and staying away from people who are negative and people who are not helping me grow out of it. Anyway am here for more lessons as usual
Thank you so much ladies, for sharing your rejection stories with us❤️❤️❤️
When Lydia said "Maybe he's dead" 😂😂😂 He's just not that into you..
Murugi's story: "Went for a walk and never came back" Wueh!?
I'm never letting mans go on a walk by himself again😂😂
You have no idea how you guys are really helping me manoeuvre my mid-twenties and helping me appreciate myself and my worth and also discover my Identity. Thank you so much, I am officially a subscriber. ❤
Hey Murugi and Lydia,
This was an awesome show.
I would love to contribute on two things;
First, its okay for you guys to be called big sisters. The title 'Big sister' is not about age, it's associated with wisdom and you ladies are saturated with some. So just embrace it yoh.💌
Secondly, about that dilemma you ladies handled. I have been there before. I had never dated seriously, I would in fact disappear when men become serious with me. So many times I even changed my telephone number, I was afraid of being more than a friend with men. I was okay on my own. This was because I lived with an aunt of mine while in Primary School and Her hubby used to cheat on her with different ladies, beat her up when she complained and threaten me not to tell on him every time he brought home a lady. And so, I knew these ladies, I knew my aunt was being cheated on but I never had the courage to tell anyone. This became a good breeding ground for all my insecurities as far as relationships with men is concerned.
Forward to when I met my husband after campus, we connected so well and I opened up to him about what happened to me and how insecure I was. The guy made it his duty to help me heal and he encouraged me to allow myself heal. He hid nothing from me, he validated me every single day and I slowly learnt to trust again and for the first time I allowed myself to love. Then he proposed to me and we got married. I got married a healed person with zero insecurities. Right now, there is nothing about me that someone can say to pin me down and there is nothing my husband does that makes me seriously hurt and I freely express myself about serious and delicate issues without involving my emotions.
So, I just want to encourage that lady that she doesn't have to separate with that guy to heal while apart, because how can you heal from something you aren't confronting? Its okay to be in a relationship and still have all your baggage, its okay to feel insecure about things and it is okay to confront your partner whenever you feel insecure about somethings. The guy should know, she isn't accusing him, she just needs disclosure, with time, she will gain trust and those confrontations will tone down.
Otherwise, I wish her all the very best in her new relationship and kudos to you guys for this quality podcast!
Cheers!
"how can you heal from sth you arent confronting? " 🏅
Things which feel bad are meant to feel bad 💯💯💯💯
Each day we keep learning and I love TMI for the lessons...i was kinda rejected from a guy who I felt liked we vibed and i kept doubting myself but when I listened to this podcast I've moved on finally and made peace with myself....sasa ni kuoga na kurudi soko😁
Right on time coz the crying I have cried today coz I see the rejection coming from the ghosting and all.,💔💔 Thanks
Sorry. Sending you hugs. He will probably reach out again but it won't change the fact that he is an asshole. He will ghost you again until you learn your lesson. You are a goddess and you deserve a man who is obsessed with you ♥
@@itsme_Andi Thankyou very much.Lesson learnt already.Thanks for the positive and kind words
Today's sound is much much better.
Hey lovelies,,,I can't believe how I have grown from your episodes 🥺❤️you guys are such a vibe,,,,🥳🥳🥳
Murugi.... you were just too good for him, periodt!
Silent rejection really hurts,it makes you question your worth and everything in you, I prefer someone to speak up and say this won't work or am not your type rather than just ghosting me and making me feel insecure about myself
I also faced rejection when i told a guy i liked him and he ghosted me and changed . He used to lead me on and i thought the feeling was mutual . We are co-workers but when he rejected me it made me question myself . What i did wrong or what i did to deserve that rejection
Rejection is really a good deal ghetto but every time you face it you learn ways to get over it esp those job rejections
I recommend a book called the 4 agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
Oh my this book is powerful and it gives 4 agreements that one can use to overcome self doubt,rejection etc and create the life you want..🧡
Rejection hurts but learning to move on is a life skill✔️
On today's dilemma, I'll reiterate what you said. The guy has a past and has been honest about it, I feel like she should give him the benefit of doubt and trust him unless he gives her a reason not to by acting a fool🤷♀️
Say he does cheat or whatever, that doesn't mean that the lady should feel guilty because she should have "seen it coming". It only means that she trusted him and he broke it. Simple.
Also, cheers to self awareness! 🥂
Rejection is painful... especially being ghosted without no communication..one time you good the next you are alone..and you start questioning if the problem was with you...time heals anything though
I've been ghosted so much in my life from being rejected by my own blood father to highschool to now in the real life as a grown ass ID holder that through all those experiences made me a ghoster too And now i ghost unapologetic
I am trying to stop it but its just so difficult
Am going through it now,so i confronted the guy to know why he rejected me only to tell me on my face that i was too skinny for him ,i ended up eating alot and have gain alot of weight and lost my confident but so far am healing its is just seasonal.
🤗🤗🤗 don't change for anyone. What matters is you being happy with yourself. Someone should like you the way you are
🥺🥺 hope it got better sis
I have been ghosted and it hurts did the thing, moved on dint take long before he found out I had started dating again, then the late night text and calls started again, we met a couple of time coz I wanted to give him something he never gave me, respect(3years in a relationship)but I knew I was done with him, to cut the long story short, I changed my number once I made it clear I was not interested in getting back together, 10 years down the line he still calls my sister to check up on me…
TMI is therapy for sure
Thanks guys
I'd not wish ghosting on my enemy, it leads to a lot of fear of abandonment in future.
Yesss!Napenda the dress and hairstyle coordination😍😍. If only i could subscribe more than once I would😘. Topic moto hits home💔,1st rejections are hard to get over. We learn and move different.
I told this guy who i had major chemistry with that I’d love to be the step mom of his child just coz i thought it would make us get even closer . And Let me tell you Maina that’s the last conversation we ever had 😭😭.
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You did too much babe 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Silent rejection is painful.. i prefer the spoken one
You guys are so sweet amazing and so transforming ilove you two from the bottom of my heart. Igot got from one wic left me in my power in my whole self so happy peaceful grateful and more compassionate.
These ladies look goodddddss💕💕💕💕💕💕 loving this podcast and going to binge watch u and subscribe 🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬
Is it only me ama Kuna mwingine anaona Hawa wawili wanafanana?
I like your content girls...
Yes TMI is back
Just curious to why the structure of the episode changed? Dope conversation either way
Absolutely love the thumbnail ♥️😍
Thank you! We really try to make them as cute as possible 😍😍
I was currently rejected by a company because I didn’t had a passport and instead I had a naturalization document which is as good as a passport… to heal from it i applied in a better hospital and they gave me a chance… rejection hurts so bad
Hey I’m currently 23 and dating.I’m on all apps ..bumble hinge tinder and I constantly connect with men go on dates.This is the second guy who has ghosted me and I’m like what I’m I doing wrong.After my first ghosting I cried and went back on the app but now the second time I’m like wait what am I doing wrong .Yes I’m back on the apps but why me .I’m not sure if I can survive another ghosting 🤷🏾♀️🤦🏽♀️
Why did you guys drop the first intro song. It had some awesome vibe!
Those chairs 💺 👌 😍 and that set is giving better vibes 👌
I appreciate rejection because it really saves me alot of time😂😂whew!
Wow okay, well that's one way to look at it. You go!
A mans rejection is God’s protection 🤎
I am here fam .
A shot for each time Joan says "kind of thing".. haha
😅😅😅😅😅🤣24.42 Lyd just said maybe he's dead😭?
Perfect timing 😉😉
U guys are wonderful
😅😅To be sincerely honest
in my humble opinion without being
sentimental of course without
offending anyone who thinks
differently from my point of view
and without hiding any thoughts in
my mind and without lies,to the
actual truth with my clear open
mind and clean heart,expressing
what ever is embedded inside me
for a long time which I didn't say
just because I was nervous.But
Today, by gathering all the courage
and motivation, I just want to say
that I actually feel and think that I
have absolutely nothing to say.
Oooh I almost forgot I love every one of you who is reading this😉😘
Rejection really sucks but I would appreciate actual communication like, this is not for me.
Okay, today I'm early😋. Love you guys!
This is so timely.
Rejected by my own mother just because of reasons I don't know.....it hurts , will I heal!!
I don't know!!
Hugs
Hugs
Sending virtual love to you ❤️❤️
@ wambua mbula.....there are some books that help get perspective on a parent's rejection and toxic parents...
Lydia 🥺🥺💜💜💜
Beautiful attires...
I love
Current situation...I just needed to hear this... thanks gorgeous ladies for the heads up...it's time to move on...silent treatment is weird... blueticks..no reply...hahaa
I'm just here to ask what kind of bras y'all are wearing. You look great.
Yaaas another episode 👯
It's the real gherro out here but we move regardless.I had someone give their experience .that they liked this guy and could speak every now and then now they had not spoken for a while and she texted him and said " hey you've been silent " and his reply was " I wish you did the same" 😂😂 that was it💔💔
😂😂lawd noo
Ghai 🤣
Silent rejection is for rodents on the ground🤣🤣🤣Lydia!! Loud/spoken rejection is better as it gives closure.
Is it me or does Murugi resemble Danny from Sistas🤔🤔🤔
Brenda wairimu looks like Andy too
Just you sis!
@@EYVAH_INNIT oops my bad😂
She resembles her kidogo btw
I see why you'd say that 🤔but Dani has higher cheekbones making her features kind of sharp but murugi has a softer look
Love your topics so much you are really inspiring
Silent rejection..is worse..
Me asked a guy out via text who I have been friends with for along time, and he ignored the part in the msg where I mentioned I had feelings for him. Yooo!
With your help in 2021 I got rid of that stupid mongoose ....I sed I ain't taking him in 2021....na mniite niwafanyie interior design
Loved the show, Lydia r u ok? Ur coughing
premier gang!
Bomb episode.
Been in this getto
Such an informative conversation
I also ghost but this is because I would not want to hurt that person
Ghosting hurts even worse babe
Wouldn't recommend. As a recent ghostee, the person tends to think there is something wrong with them when in reality, it has nothing to do with them. Just tell them that while you think they are a great person and you enjoy their company, you are not ready to take the next step. There won't be a conversation to be had after that.
@@itsme_Andi what about ghosting when someone is toxic? (Not potential date someone random). How do you tell them they're toxic?
I wouldn't advise ghosting. It is emotionally and mentally torturous. Be gracious with people and just tell them you don't think he or she is what you are looking for.
@@justmyworld2542 well, I don't know the first thing about psychology but I think it's good to just let them know. I would tell them that I appreciate the effort but I'm not interested in furthering the acquaintance. There, i drew my boundary. Since this person is toxic i assume he or she can't handle my reasons for cutting them off. If they blow it out of proportion, call me names etc, i would block them, for the sake of my mental health. If they are open minded enough, i would state my reasons, gently of course. Maybe it's something they don't already know about themselves and they would wanna work on it. But it won't change the fact that I'm ending the acquaintance. Just my two cents though
Today I am in the premier gang
Am aghoster and have learned that this sucks 😔😔😔
Me too
I recently just reached out to someone I ghosted and I was really mortified and disappointed in myself for putting someone else through such pain
Miss the games
😅😅we don't blink in the streets 😅
Its been great
This chemistry is just off 🤣🤣🤣
Hae ladies
he went on an adventure 😂
Only 400 to 30k... I have over 1k contacts let me go share the link for them to subscribe!
😂😂😂😂😂 ati silent treatment is for the rodents😂😂😂 someone call 911!! I'm so dead.
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Episode 27...
those who have never been ghosted ,how does it feel to be GOD`S favorite ? anyway another thing about rejection is also that you are being rejected because you are too good for them they can not handle your worth ,so it is not every time you are rejected that you are not good enough and the rejecter🤫 most of the time don't have the courage to tell you that .so they make you feel you are not good enough
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