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I have been diagnosed with BPD... this video really means a lot to me... for multiple reasons which I am not able to put into words just yet... but I feel this will help me learn...Thank you!
Omg for me that’s SO NOT true. Every single day I was about to kill myself I DID go to work or school. No matter how bad I felt. I would NOT act out on my emotions, I would try to hold on even though I was emotionally going trough hell. I had really good grades and nobody noticed anything for a long time. Yes I can act on emotions. I hurt myself a lot. But I where my mask in public and do it when alone. In the hospital they actually tried to make me show my emotions, but I built super high walls around myself. I need to feel really really safe with someone before I do or in a lot of pain or whatever. And it’s also not true that they know how to treat it. They can teach you how to not act on your emotions etc. But the agony comes back over and over again. Unless somebody is there like a parent/mother and makes me feel safe. As long as I have at least one person like that I often feel like I can live a normal life. But when they leave, omg It feels like you’re dying. Like a child without a mother. You can’t live. I had tons of therapists and therapy, so many years. It did get better since puberty is over I guess. But some things never changed. And I don’t think they can. Sometimes I’m so very glad to be alive. And so very thankful I kept fighting and for every person who shows love. But it’s so fucking painful still.
I agree with you totally! Your describing it like how I have it. Without the good grades, everything turned really bad for me when I became 13. I was more of a run away self-harming child. And I still feel like I am on the run. Alone like a orphan. So difficult to get rooted no matter where I live. I can appreciate thing and stuff but unable to feel comfort peace. It's very difficult and hard, I hope you're still fighting. For yourself, I have seen how it can be on the "other side". But I do everything in my own way, as long as I still learn about myself. Be your own detective, with yourself as a case. The nut must be cracked :) One thing that works for me, when am able to take the pain into anger, and then point it at to cause that put it there. And use that as a fuel like I just want to show them am not broken, I will rebuild myself just so I can say fuck you with a smile. :) I also have a friend that have borderline and there we can vent however we like. We know all our wrongs and rights. No judgement, just support and acceptance. I think that is important to find someone special if it feels OK to give it a chance. Lots of love!! And a highfive for you showing life how badass you can be!
Huge hugs to you, i do feel you, cause i do feel the same.. Listen.. There is a way to feel better, look into SELF PARENTING TECHNIQUES.. read and research about and than start doing this innerwork, to grown up the inner vhild after having rebalamced the disregulated inner adult, you will see how many positive changees and how much you will feel better! If you can, obviously, do ot with a therapist, but at the worst do it by yourself by journaling.. It will work aswell.. And a good parental figure can be Jordan Peterson with his training(you will find it on his youtube Channel).. Do his training 8f you feel it could resonate, because that training gives the will power that is needed to guid gently but also firmely our inner child preventing it to become a bratt driving our life. Remember.. The inner adult has to be re rwgulated as aGOOD parent, not our inner enemy, that kindly and always supportively will drive the inner child toward their grown up. Becoming our iwn self parent is the core to heal and become independent feom that need of mother/parent that we have. Lets be THERE For OURSELF to become able to be there for others!!! A huuuge hug!!
Yes, i was misdiagnosed with bipolar when actually i have bpd. i still take anti psychotics for bipolar but i don't get the help i need to really cope with the stress and the psychotic episodes. i was hospitalised once because of that. The medicine they put me under, was creating problems with my hormones. However, i went back to my old doctor and now i take Qutipin and Clonezopam but i i still can't cope with the mood swings, the anger issues and can't manage stress at all.
@@agnese2215 So sorry to hear that. Actually, for our case, long term counselling is the actually solution. Whether we can afford it or not, is the main question... i can't. :(
Hi. You might have heard it many times. Have you ever thought of trying out yoga, meditation, regular physical exercise, DBT? Stress is often experienced in the body very very strongly and I found it very helpful to learn how to get more into my body. It helps me so much w/stress management. DBT equally is very helpful.
@@nefwaenre read study, find exercises books on DBT, become a master in SELF PARENTING TECHNIQUEST and You will see that by self validating after a correct re regulation of your inner adult and growth of your inner child, all the problems will go slowly solving.. But it is absolutely also needed to work on the release and heal from past traumas and set up a daily me tome self care to release also the daily traumas. All those things will bring us out of the hell.. You can bet it!
She makes it seem like it's so easy to just say.."we'll talk about it tomorrow" when all that means is the bpd person will stew on it all night and rage harder the next day..or is that just me?
the wrong diet can amplify the emotions. my recommendation is a alkaline diet . eliminate everything that has to do with addictions , learn breathing in the stomach and learn meditation
Not everyone with BPD makes a scene... You can have these intense thoughts and feelings without letting them out. It's called quiet BPD. This lady's narrow view of BPD is triggering. How about creating a VALIDATING environment for people with Quiet PBD?!
You should be able to still make connections to it. It’s in a similar category but it’s just a general detail, this mental diagnosis is huge and difficult to due to many characteristics and people are different
Shut up you negative b!tch! She is simply expressing herself and her KNOWLEDGE. Nobody is 100% right about anything EVER! There are always things we do not know . Your narrow minded comment is your stupidity thinking that this beautiful is suppose to know everything. This is her perspective as there are MANY
@El she knows what she read as in book smart maybe? but not lived it like hell on earth and u gotta fight to LIVE forget caring of opinions and liking and acceptance however as a chikd I couldn't understand that) but remember anybody w possible bpd or bpd traits we can't hate this lady her soul is not able for me to get mad at but the fact she doesn't know what she is saying is not just damaging to those w the disorder but to everyone take it from one that like it take one to know one ... knowledge didn't fix me .... they never ever could.....they did alot of damage but nonetheless I forgave them already tho it is tough to listen to them completely go on and on year after year about the SAME psychology but NEW WAYS TO FIX tho it didn't ever fix it....but experiment maybe idk probably being negative forgive me but yes psychotherapy can uh stay away from me? I wanna actually help those that are hurting out there........ and yes radical acceptance is a good thing to look into....btw....
Is there anyone who can respond to me in regards to my bpd I have been seeking help n everyone seems so money driven no one truly wants to help genuinely 😞
Rachel, that must be hard with everyone being so money driven and all you're looking for is help. Feel free to call our free Behavioral and Mental Health Line at 713-871-1004 Ext. 570 and speak with one of our professionals who can look to get you connected to help.
@@rachelquinn7734 We're glad to hear. With the increased need for mental health services and our limited staff, if you call and don't get someone on the phone, please leave a message and they will get back with you within 24 hours.
I would either sit there and do nothing, or stand up and yell “GO ORIOLES!” louder than anyone in the room. And there is nothing wrong with that, because her request is stupid and manipulative. It’s not my show lady, it’s yours!
Has today been hard for you? Trapped by anxiety, mental anguish, or loneliness? Struggling and want to talk with someone? Call our Houston Hope Line at (832) 831-7337, an outlet for the feelings and emotional distress we all face everyday regardless of where you live. The call is free, and you might just feel that way too. Open daily, 5-8pm. Learn more at houstonhopeline.com. *If you are experiencing an emergency, please call 911.
this is by far the best video on BPD on UA-cam, AMAZING work
What a beautiful speaker!! Thank u for sharing , simplified and easy to follow thank u so much
I have been diagnosed with BPD... this video really means a lot to me... for multiple reasons which I am not able to put into words just yet... but I feel this will help me learn...Thank you!
What an excellent speaker! Thanks for sharing this.
Omg for me that’s SO NOT true.
Every single day I was about to kill myself I DID go to work or school. No matter how bad I felt. I would NOT act out on my emotions, I would try to hold on even though I was emotionally going trough hell. I had really good grades and nobody noticed anything for a long time. Yes I can act on emotions. I hurt myself a lot. But I where my mask in public and do it when alone. In the hospital they actually tried to make me show my emotions, but I built super high walls around myself. I need to feel really really safe with someone before I do or in a lot of pain or whatever.
And it’s also not true that they know how to treat it. They can teach you how to not act on your emotions etc. But the agony comes back over and over again. Unless somebody is there like a parent/mother and makes me feel safe. As long as I have at least one person like that I often feel like I can live a normal life. But when they leave, omg
It feels like you’re dying. Like a child without a mother. You can’t live.
I had tons of therapists and therapy, so many years. It did get better since puberty is over I guess. But some things never changed. And I don’t think they can.
Sometimes I’m so very glad to be alive. And so very thankful I kept fighting and for every person who shows love. But it’s so fucking painful still.
I agree with you totally! Your describing it like how I have it. Without the good grades, everything turned really bad for me when I became 13. I was more of a run away self-harming child. And I still feel like I am on the run. Alone like a orphan. So difficult to get rooted no matter where I live. I can appreciate thing and stuff but unable to feel comfort peace. It's very difficult and hard, I hope you're still fighting. For yourself, I have seen how it can be on the "other side". But I do everything in my own way, as long as I still learn about myself. Be your own detective, with yourself as a case. The nut must be cracked :)
One thing that works for me, when am able to take the pain into anger, and then point it at to cause that put it there. And use that as a fuel like I just want to show them am not broken, I will rebuild myself just so I can say fuck you with a smile. :)
I also have a friend that have borderline and there we can vent however we like. We know all our wrongs and rights. No judgement, just support and acceptance. I think that is important to find someone special if it feels OK to give it a chance.
Lots of love!! And a highfive for you showing life how badass you can be!
Huge hugs to you, i do feel you, cause i do feel the same..
Listen.. There is a way to feel better, look into SELF PARENTING TECHNIQUES.. read and research about and than start doing this innerwork, to grown up the inner vhild after having rebalamced the disregulated inner adult, you will see how many positive changees and how much you will feel better! If you can, obviously, do ot with a therapist, but at the worst do it by yourself by journaling.. It will work aswell.. And a good parental figure can be Jordan Peterson with his training(you will find it on his youtube Channel).. Do his training 8f you feel it could resonate, because that training gives the will power that is needed to guid gently but also firmely our inner child preventing it to become a bratt driving our life.
Remember.. The inner adult has to be re rwgulated as aGOOD parent, not our inner enemy, that kindly and always supportively will drive the inner child toward their grown up.
Becoming our iwn self parent is the core to heal and become independent feom that need of mother/parent that we have.
Lets be THERE For OURSELF to become able to be there for others!!!
A huuuge hug!!
@@lollob8254 pls, read here below my reply to Saelly... There is a way out!! Read... Huge hugs to you too!!!
@@mindyabizz6804 pls, read my reply to Saelly here below/following... There is a way out!!! Huge hugs to you too
@@stefaniamirri1112 Jordan Peterson is one of the best.
Yes, i was misdiagnosed with bipolar when actually i have bpd. i still take anti psychotics for bipolar but i don't get the help i need to really cope with the stress and the psychotic episodes. i was hospitalised once because of that. The medicine they put me under, was creating problems with my hormones. However, i went back to my old doctor and now i take Qutipin and Clonezopam but i i still can't cope with the mood swings, the anger issues and can't manage stress at all.
I am borderline too and i take sertraline and depakin
@@agnese2215 So sorry to hear that. Actually, for our case, long term counselling is the actually solution. Whether we can afford it or not, is the main question... i can't. :(
Hi. You might have heard it many times. Have you ever thought of trying out yoga, meditation, regular physical exercise, DBT? Stress is often experienced in the body very very strongly and I found it very helpful to learn how to get more into my body. It helps me so much w/stress management. DBT equally is very helpful.
@@nefwaenre read study, find exercises books on DBT, become a master in SELF PARENTING TECHNIQUEST and You will see that by self validating after a correct re regulation of your inner adult and growth of your inner child, all the problems will go slowly solving.. But it is absolutely also needed to work on the release and heal from past traumas and set up a daily me tome self care to release also the daily traumas.
All those things will bring us out of the hell.. You can bet it!
She makes it seem like it's so easy to just say.."we'll talk about it tomorrow" when all that means is the bpd person will stew on it all night and rage harder the next day..or is that just me?
the wrong diet can amplify the emotions. my recommendation is a alkaline diet . eliminate everything that has to do with addictions , learn breathing in the stomach and learn meditation
Love is all, the other person needs.
✅ interesting
Not everyone with BPD makes a scene... You can have these intense thoughts and feelings without letting them out. It's called quiet BPD.
This lady's narrow view of BPD is triggering. How about creating a VALIDATING environment for people with Quiet PBD?!
You should be able to still make connections to it. It’s in a similar category but it’s just a general detail, this mental diagnosis is huge and difficult to due to many characteristics and people are different
Shut up you negative b!tch! She is simply expressing herself and her KNOWLEDGE. Nobody is 100% right about anything EVER! There are always things we do not know . Your narrow minded comment is your stupidity thinking that this beautiful is suppose to know everything. This is her perspective as there are MANY
@@rupk5578 krup seems to have bpd and ptsd.
I definitely don’t see enough on quiet bpd so sometimes it’s hard for me to relate to some of the other spectrums of bpd.
@El she knows what she read as in book smart maybe? but not lived it like hell on earth and u gotta fight to LIVE forget caring of opinions and liking and acceptance however as a chikd I couldn't understand that) but remember anybody w possible bpd or bpd traits we can't hate this lady her soul is not able for me to get mad at but the fact she doesn't know what she is saying is not just damaging to those w the disorder but to everyone take it from one that like it take one to know one ... knowledge didn't fix me .... they never ever could.....they did alot of damage but nonetheless I forgave them already tho it is tough to listen to them completely go on and on year after year about the SAME psychology but NEW WAYS TO FIX tho it didn't ever fix it....but experiment maybe idk probably being negative forgive me but yes psychotherapy can uh stay away from me? I wanna actually help those that are hurting out there........ and yes radical acceptance is a good thing to look into....btw....
20:03 if the person responds like this they are invalidating their own emotions because they're pretending they're not angry when they are.
THE PROBLEM WITH YOUR RESEARCH IS THAT I NEVER SIGNED A RELEASE TO PARTICIPATE NOR HAVE YOU COLLECT MY DATA.
I had my share w ruthless doctors that would do those kinds of things in a completely insincere way so forgive me if I was wrong
How do i get this lady for therapy?
Like all the rest: pay her money.
Is there anyone who can respond to me in regards to my bpd I have been seeking help n everyone seems so money driven no one truly wants to help genuinely 😞
Rachel, that must be hard with everyone being so money driven and all you're looking for is help. Feel free to call our free Behavioral and Mental Health Line at 713-871-1004 Ext. 570 and speak with one of our professionals who can look to get you connected to help.
Ty 🙏😌I will do that
@@rachelquinn7734 We're glad to hear. With the increased need for mental health services and our limited staff, if you call and don't get someone on the phone, please leave a message and they will get back with you within 24 hours.
Move to another country. In mosg of the world, help for mental health is free. Guess you're from USA? Move!
I wish I could move I would
I would either sit there and do nothing, or stand up and yell “GO ORIOLES!” louder than anyone in the room. And there is nothing wrong with that, because her request is stupid and manipulative. It’s not my show lady, it’s yours!
HAHHAHAAH YES
Why she gotta start it by manipulation
This is a kindergarten teacher, not a doctor of the mind. Smfh... how condescending. How ironic as well.
Well, if you don't want your kid to get bpd, you should probably listen to her.