I have just lost my husband 4 weeks ago. I have to sell up and downsize. I feel lonely and I don’t know where to even begin with this new life at almost 57 😢
Oh dear Caroline! Words can’t even express what you’re going through now. I know because I’ve gone through it. It’s been a few years now and I’m doing so well! I’m praying for you this very moment and sending you a heart hug. God bless you, dear Caroline ❤
I am so sorry for your loss Caroline....I am so sorry for the pain you must feel. I wish I could take away that feeling of loneliness you have...but you are not alone and although it may be hard to hear, time will heal. You will find out you are stronger than you ever dreamed...and you will go on...and you will make a difference in this world...my love to you and everybody here, Susan & Dez
Caroline, so many of us here have been where you are now either through death of a spouse or divorce. Adjusting is hard but we don’t really have a choice. We just have to go through it. One thing I did and still do is I try to plan on doing one thing a day that brings me joy whether it was meeting a friend for lunch or coffee or going to the library reading all the magazines and checking out a few books. I also have learned to live going through my home and gathering things to donate to a charity that supports animal rescue. I also have rescued two stray cat’s and before them two dogs. The dogs have passed but now being handicapped I just have my cats. Plan on doing something that gives you joy and plan on doing things for others that brings them joy. Don’t sit and stew it does no good for you or anyone else. I hope the idea brings you a bit of joy. Take care of your body, mind and spirit. Be well.
I’m 64 and when my husband and I got divorced a yr ago, I really got into getting rid of stuff and starting over. So when I got my apartment, I decorated it the way I wanted it!! That contributed to my feeling so free. This took a while to truly feel this way. I was mourning my relationship (still am). My ex and i are still great friends. Now I’m going to Costa Rica for spanish immersion by myself, and although feeling scared, I’m so proud of myself for doing it anyway.
I have a hard time knowing what to keep and what to,throw away. I have some things of course I know I’m would keep. Yet I have all these beautiful clothes my late Mom purchased for me. Some brand new others from Thrift stores. I love shoes. I am also a lady who when I bought my first pc,of jewelry at 16. I’ve added to my collection. Yet I’ve had to,sell a lot of my really good PCs to buy myself a car, idk how to fill out all the medical paperwork,or to get extra help. I feel totally alone. I have a bf yet unless he stops drinking or at least slows way down we have no future. I am having to remember for him as well as myself. I had a bad fall and I can’t even get the time to heal. I’m afraid I am in the first stages of another stroke. Sad he is one of the sweetest when sober yet the most horrid when he is toast. The alcohol controls him badly. Any tips on how to shed what you don’t need. I would be grateful. Bless you and I hope you have a wonderful November coming up soon. 💖💖
Take one day at a time everything is going to be fine 😊💕 just do whatever I luv 💞🙏 n what brings you joy I understand how you feel because I'm going through somewhat the same, sending all of the people who have commented on this video peace love health and abundance life ❤️✝️
I am in a very similar situation with 63. , moved out in March, building up MY PLACE, I try to make my new home it as cozy as possible. Cheers from Ireland.
I'm 15 and I have a terrible fear of death and dying, also of being lonely and unhappy lol. Thank you so much for this video, when I think of myself at anything over 40 I think of me sick and dying and it terrifies me, it helps that to know that it won't be the case and it is still possible to be living my best life until my final breath. I wish you and everyone here nothing but peace and happiness, we all deserve it and so much more
You are too young to even worry about all this. But I am 51 and alone now for the first time. No family and one cat. It's been a fun life and living alone will be okay once you adjust. But you have a whole life ahead of you. You will be okay. Sit back and enjoy it all the good and bad.. it's all an experience
My heart goes out to you dear. I felt like you when I was only 15 yrs old. You have to realize you are ONLY 15. You have not been in this world very long. You don't have much experience with life yet. Yes you will have alot of hurt AND happiness, but that is what life is. Both hurt and happiness are life's lessons. They both teach us who we are. When you are hurt, you will learn from that experience. Even the worst experiences teach us to be smarter and wiser if or when it happens again. It's called Wisdom, and wisdom is Wonderful because you learn what you want in life and what you don't want. You're able to weed out those who do not bring quality to your life, and you will develop a zero tolerance for toxic. At this point in life you will feel such a freedom from unnecessary stress. You start not caring what others think of you. It's your life and you will live it the way YOU want. That's why they are called The Golden Years. Don't look at life after 40 is over. Life begins at 40. That is not just a saying. I am 66, I look and feel better than I have felt in decades. I'm widowed several years. I feel I have a full life with family and friends, and that's really what a happy and fulfilled life is all about. I hope nothing but the best for you as you start on this amazing journey of this thing called life. Always have boundaries and that will show you who really genuinely loves you.❤❤❤🎉
The good news is that Christ loved you so much that He died for you, is risen, and wants a relationship with you. We need not ever fear death if we choose Christ. He is coming back soon, and He promises eternal life to those who trust in Him and obey him. Please consider Him, won't you?
Wow...can't believe this came up today of all days. I'm 75, newly divorced (yes, it happens to any age!) Every word is truthful and relevant and touched my heart and helped me get back on my emotional feet!! Thank you!
My dear Linda, Someone very wise once told me something I really had to think about because it was a shock to me. A true revelation. I was told that we are born into this world alone and we will leave this world, yes, alone. My point is that in our generation a woman alone may be looked at as if something is wrong with her! That was my conditioning. We were always "told" what to do by...some one! Find a husband...okay. Did that. Now what's wrong with both of you? Why aren't you having children, I was asked? Society was (probably still is to a degree) like sheep 🐑. The sheep are all going in the same direction, not really knowing why nor where? Not one thinks to ask why, where? Then you see this little black sheep going in the opposite direction saying "excuse moi...excuse moi," That little black sheep knew what it wasted to do and it was not what the other sheep were doing. My point, if I can make it clearer. We don't have to answer to anyone (like it's been said in this video.) Now is the time to feel what freedom is really like. It's called SELFCARE, take care of YOU. If you don't know, we have utube. Enter any question or topic and you'll find it. It's never too late to learn, to be curious and to grow. I find that at 69 almost 70 years old, its a blessing to have such freedom. Take your time to grieve if needed. Live in today. One foot in front of the other and soon you'll take off and begin to love to be alive. Today.
I am so sorry you faced a divorce at 75. Mine was about the age of 43, after 28 years. 1/4 + counting our years before the marriage. It was tough enough. I can’t imagine how difficult it must have been for you. (((Hugs))) Praying God’s been good to you. ❤
For the first time in my entire life I live alone, a widow at 64. I spent my whole life helping and giving comfort to my family members with no regrets. Yet, I have found that living alone allows me to focus on my own comfort and happiness. Living alone doesn't necessarily mean your lonely it could also feel like freedom to be just yourself. Finding peace with yourself. God Bless🙌.
Very true that, I borrow my mothers dog and take him out for a walk in the forest every day...through winter, through spring and summer we walk, through autumn. Its what has held me up❤
Living alone does bring so many happiness! I turned 65 in July and I am Not willing to put up with BS...... I'm done with that nonsense....giving people chances to change, improve themselves, Narcissistic family members, employers who commit Wage theft and work you till you cannot function..... I love Peace.
Wow I discovered your channel today, you are absolutely amazing. I am 62 years old and I live alone, my husband passed away 4 years ago. I have 1 daughter, she lives 600 km away. I try and keep busy and make myself happy. I realized no one is going to bother about you, you need to be strong and positive. Be able to make yourself happy, keep yourself looking good. Do it all for yourself. I miss my husband very much , but know that I need to complete this journey of my life. We just need to enjoy our time on earth. Sending you love and light from South Africa ❤️❤️🙏🙏
Hello Anisha, I read your post in YT and I first of all am sorry for your loss of your husband. It must be really rough to find yourself, all of a sudden alone, without your permission, I am nearly 80, divorced for many, many years and never regretted it. But that exactly is the difference; I CHOSE to be alone but nobody asked you if you would LIKE yo be alone! If you are up to it, maybe you could find some volunteer work to pass the time. I also do that but only in winter because summer is terribly hot where I live. I'm originally from Holland (Ja, ek es a kaaskop!!) but I live in the Middle East. There is always plenty of volumteer work to do because our government is lousy and does nothing. Try to find something to fill your ďays and keep smiling! Regards and blessings from the Middle East. 🐫
I’m 75 and just placed my husband in an Assisted Living Facility. Although together 49 yrs, we should have been divorced 20 yrs ago. Due to 911 and he being in the building and surviving, I stuck it out no matter how miserable I was. Now, it’s like “what now”. Then I saw this video. Thank you.
Thank you so much for being transparent. It’s not easy starting over; it takes strength, which sometimes can be hard to come by. My faith undergirded me so many times during these past six years since I lost my beloved husband. A shout out too, to the different comments to your video. We truly are in this together. May God bless each of those who commented and you for sharing your journey in finding a new life.
New Woman on a New Road! I am a widow who lost a wonderful partner, moved from a beloved home, down-sized, changed communities entirely, and started over two years ago…I am 76 now and I believe I have finally found my way, am so cozy in my little nest, and more content and full of gratitude than I have ever been. Being kind to myself, self-respectful, resourceful, and playful has made all the difference. Love being on this journey with you and this wonderful circle of women!
Kaitlin, I could have written your comment except for the “moving and downsizing “. I, too, lost my beloved husband of 50 years (minus w weeks) a little over 2 years ago and I, too, am 76😲. There is not a day I do not miss him but I know how proud of me he must be to see how I faced my “new” journey with strength and positivity. I wish you the same in your new journey.
My beautiful friend was diagnosed with multiple myeloma cancer 22 years ago and was given 6 months to live. She’s still here. She’s buried her mother and her husband and refuses anyone to steal her joy! Happy birthday dear Desi!🎈🍰
Your video inspired me immensely. I am 54 years old teacher who lost her job and although I am surrounded by loving people…I feel useless and lonesome. No more lesson plans to write, no more drawing from kids saying I Love you Ms. Sammy! No more are the sounds and giggles of 20 preschoolers walking around the school. I spend my days lamenting my situation… your video hit me right in the face! I was not going to decorate for Christmas..what’s the point! I have told myself over and over again. Tomorrow morning I will get up and find my Christmas treasures and decorate like I haven’t decorated in my life! Thank for your words.
Oh thak you so much for taking the time to tell me this wonderful news! I realized one day that it wasn't enough to just love myself but I had to show myself some affection and respect...it was Christmas and I denied myself all that made me happy...and I did it in other ways too...pretty soft towels for the bathroom in my favorite color....my favorite bed cover to and favorite book to put by my bed...it was as if I would go out of my way to not only not love myself, but almost be cruel to myself. The day I stopped doing that was when my life turned around. I know it sounds silly...lol...but I carried the blame for what had gone wrong.. Once I let that go I cried...I bought new towels and made sure I treated myself with love and respect...I have a peace in my life I have never known. If you can relate to anything I am saying...I hope it helps in some way. Thank you so much for being here! xo Susan
You can still create. Make your own stuff, coffee creamer, laundry soap, bone broth, sew, find something new to do you may like it or not but you gave it a go.
Just went through the hardest transition 2 yrs ago now. The divorce was stressful, especially since I never worked. Income was and still is the scariest thing to think about. I get a small bit of alimony but not enough to make it with all the bills and everything else that pops up. I'm 62 now and trying to find a job that doesn't require standing most of the time seems to be a challenge. Nevertheless , after crying spontaneously off and on for a few months the tears have stopped and I'm adjusting. I'm happier not living with my Ex, so much more peace , no drama, much more content. Flip side is it is tougher financially. The dysfunctional codependent relationship is over and that's worth everything to me. I'am internally happier and much stronger and freer within. ❤
Same story with me, divorced teo years ago, work a very little for 20 years, he's been earning a good money so we were fine.... now at 53 I work full time and getting stronger and stronger ( first week I cried every single morning driving to work🤣)... and yes you still can find a sitting job, I work at distribution centar ( small office parts) where I sit all day in a comfortable chair and kitting stuff in little baggies... best wishes❣️
My abusive husband caused me to be homeless for much of the last two decades, but through a series of extreme difficulties I finally have enough money to buy an RV to live in as opposed to paying rent to someone else. Starting over in one's 70s is definitely different than it was half a century ago! I also withdrew and was isolated for a long time, but I was not near family or friends so I had no support system to help me out. It got to a point when I was battling depression, PTSD, and chronic fatigue that I was just trying to stay alive so that I COULD start over again. I am going to pick up my RV as soon as my ride gets here. I had cataracts, had surgery, but now I have double vision so I'm still dependent on others to survive. BUT I'm picking up my new HOME in an hour or so. I won't be able to do much of anything to decorate my new place and it's no way near as nice as the homes I lived in with my husband, but there's not going to be any abuse there so, yes, there IS going to be freedom in my second hand accommodations. And I'm starting to become optimistic about the future again. 😊 Because of where I am and have been over the years, I stopped and listened to your video and it spoke to me. It touched my soul and gave me encouragement. Thank you for that, it helped me so much.
This message really touched my heart. I’m 53yrs and went through a really painful divorce 12 months ago. I so identified with isolating and feeling ashamed. I had to let go of my home, business, and husband but I still had my dog. Sadly my dog passed away 7 months ago and it really did break my heart. I wasn’t happy in my 30yr marriage and went through mental, emotional and physical abuse as well as financial. Today I feel as free as a bird and I got a new puppy who is 7 months old now. I downsized into a lovely little house in the country and I love cooking and going for walks with my dog and have made new friends through a support group online too. Just recently I've started letting go of old stuff and introducing new things I want around me in my new home which really helps me feel like I'm moving on. I try as much as I can to keep it in the now and will also be putting up the Christmas tree this year. I was being tested for ovarian cancer and my husband left me before I got the results it was the darkest days of my life, however after he left my doctor told me my biopsy was benign what a relief. God looks after good people and I just love what your friend said about not dying today as today is a gift that's why we call it the present. I’ve not tried the dating thing yet but I’m not going looking for it I'm trusting when I'm ready my soul mate will find me. You are such an inspiration and a wonderful example thank you for this video as it's given me much hope. ❤
Thank you so much for being here...you touched my heart when you knew what it is like to feel shame after a divorce and unsure....but look at you now! Your life sounds just beautiful!!! Congratulations!!!
Thank you for sharing your story Samantha. I lost my husband last year. to aggressive brain tumour. I'm 62. Its lonely and terrifying as I gave up my career to move countries a few years back. A long and 'interesting' road ahead. I wish you much courage and soon much joy and contentment.
We call it the present because it comes from the French language " le present'. Many English words are French due to the Latin origin, which not taught anymore.
Samantha - your comment resonated with me so much. I am in the middle of divorcing my husband of 30 years. So many changes but yet I am starting to find glimmers of peace. It is just me & my 11 yr. old pup. I am so glad this video channel came up! Thank you God - I know that was you!
Love,love what you said, that when you made the mistake of not doing something for yourself by decorating for christmas, you showed yourself such disrespect. I think we do that far too often in so many ways, showing ourselves such disrespect. We really do need to remember that we are worthy to be respected, especially by our own selves.
The thing I do most is giving alot of thought on what to make myself to eat. I think of what may be in the fridge or pantry to maximize nutrition and taste. Take the time to fix it to my liking and give plenty of Thanks for all of it. I call it respecting myself. I see from the comments that is what most all of you are saying. Cheers!
I am so happy your video popped up on my feed. I am a new empty nester at 48. I moved away to a new town where I know no one and I too lost my husband to heart failure. Three weeks in I began to feel I wasn’t loved and lonely. Until I saw your video. Thank you so much for creating a new narrative for my new life. Your video changed my life.
You are still young. Hopefully your healthy too. Go live your life don’t be sad. I’m 62 I feel like I’m 32 but people treat me like I’m 92. But I’m healthy and free.
How are you now? I am about to relocate to a new place. I lost my husband to cancer in the year 2018. I feel so alone and I feel like all the obligation is on my shoulders. I feel a bit scared to relocate. I might be lonelier there, that’s my fear.
Weve all been there, i havent even been married at 52. Im ok these days im happy and any love can find me. I love myself enough so dont feel the need for the partner thing tbh at this time. Stay strong..
Divorced 5 years now. 69 years old. It took 2 years to feel free and happy. I could smile and laugh again. I purchased a 1600sf house and slowly made it home. Have just what I need and feel the comfort and warmth of knowing I would survive. I feel absolutely blessed!
OMG! I stumbled onto your video and what an eye opener it is! I'm 68 been single for over 8 yrs. Now and do not have a social life! Thank you for making this video and putting yourself on spot for all of us single older ladies to relate to! I do decorate my space for me because after all these yrs. Of being told "thats a waste of time or that you can't do that I don't like it", I do it for me! I don't miss the drama or the abuse! Again THANK YOU!!!
Happy Birthday Desi🎉🧁🐾. Reassurance is what I needed today as I got up feeling defeated. So I went shopping and bought something new for my new “happy place”. So wherever my new home may be or whenever it happens then I’ll have something new that will bring me joy!!! I have been in remission from ovarian cancer now for 14 years. Praise God!
Mace's Polk My aunt passed from ovarian cancer a few months after she was diagnosed. I'm so glad to hear you beat it for 14 years.ay you continue to be blessed 🌹
@@macepolk5281 Thank you. It's been 20 years since she's been gone... I still miss her dearly. Praise YAH for your healing. That is a hard cancer to beat. By the time they found hers it had spread everywhere. They said she had a small cyst, but they see them all the time and there was nothing to worry about. I'm happy you made it Mace'
Mace, how did u know u had it so u could treat it before it entered stage 4? I worry cuz the spike protein in the vax collects in the ovaries MORE than any other organ. One symptom of ovarian cancer is lower back pain which I have had for OVER a year! But lower back pain is also an adverse side effect from vax. So I'm curious WHAT symptons alerted you to your ovarian cancer?
@@ladybug5859 my diagnosis was stage 3 after I had a full hysterectomy at age 47. My only symptom was heavy periods. I encourage you to visit with your gynecologist about ovarian cancer and request a CA-125 blood test. ❤️
Happy Birthday Desi. I lost my fiance 9 yrs ago . I cried for 3years. I thought I was going to die myself. I lost everything and I had no place to go. My ex- mother in-law let me live in her basement until I could find an apartment. I am so grateful to her. So after about 2yrs I finally got an apartment. I had no furniture just a bed on the floor. It was not long until our dear beloved Savior have everything I had lost and then some. I give all Glory To God. He has been so good to me. Oh. And my the way my little dog smokey, which my sweet Tim bought for me on mother's day, the same year he passed had be so wonderful to me. I just love him.
I found after my husband passed away 31 yrs ago (I was 31) that the only way I got through the grief & sadness was God! And dogs definitely are a lot of comfort when you lose a loved one! Their love is unconditional!
I am 69 years old and God directed me to your channel! I am having some health issues that are affecting my relationships! I have said I’m gonna be more selfish and give myself more self care! The problem is I feel guilt! You have given me soo many good ideas to think about and hopefully execute them ! I have subscribed to your channel because it has given me motivation to live in the mome more! I am a Christian so my faith keeps me grounded but there are times when I get a bad case of woe is me!
Oh this is wonderful to hear!!! You have so many amazing things you are going to do!!! Life is always a glorious surprise just waiting for us! Love to you always, Susan
I suspect those health issues you speak of can be attributed to a long-standing pattern of self-denial: putting others first, always placing your own needs/desires on a back-burner, giving your power away to others. It all registers, over time, on a cellular level, & culminates in disease. Guilt is a fear-based emotion, evidence of deep-rooted feelings of undeserving-ness (how dare I feel so worthy as to engage in self-care when I am/could be needed by others?) Guilt = resistance to Self-love. Dimming your Light does not enable another to shine.
Your Christmas story resonates with me. I have been on my own for more than 30 years. My first Christmas on my own, I did not bother decorating or giving myself Christmas presents or cooking Christmas food. I was so miserable and lonely. Then one day, I came across a book in a 2nd hand bookshop, written by Golden Girl, Rue Maclennahan, about living solo as a widow. She wrote about taking herself out to dinner or to the movies or going for a walk at the beach to catch the sunset. She wrote about buying lovely things for herself and celebrating Christmas on her own and the joy it brought her. It changed my life, God Bless her. My next Christmas was very special. I bought myself some lovely gifts, wrapped them in beautiful wrapping paper and put them under the tree. I was so surprised with how excited I felt about getting to open those presents on Christmas morning. Ever since that Christmas, I have never made my personal happiness contingent on the decisions or choices of others. It has been very liberating. Thank you for sharing your insights. I'm glad I found your channel. God bless💖🌺
I found out a long time ago that true happiness and peace another person can't give you . The void we have in our heart only God can fill (not religion) . I live alone for over 20 years and i have peace . Happy Birthday little sweet dogi . Thanks for your meaningful video !
You are narcisstic and selfish that is why you are alone . Happy couples live much more longer than single people as the human race is a social animal . The Usa has the highest use of anti depressants per capita due to their worship of narcisism and egoism
I lost my Husband in 2005 to a very horrible accident. I was 41 at the time and now I'm 58 and still alone. You sound so friendly with such a soft-spoken voice. You cheered me up. Thank You.
My husband passed Oct 31, 2005 (yup, that ruined any future Halloweens for me) he'd just turned 49 I was 48. What a life changing experience! This is an amazing channel ❤
Wow, I really needed to hear this. I am 72 and have been divorced for 26 years. I worry constantly that I will run out of my retirement money. I downsized two years ago to a two bedroom apartment, so I really related to this video. Like you, Susan, I have made my apartment so inviting and cozy. It's actually decorated better than my actual townhouse that I owned. I do have good health, so I am not dying today!
Y say u r afraid that the cash flow runs out.Dont you have a skim where you can deposit your cash n live on your intrest only.That way theres no fear of your cash flow
I too live in an apartment/townhouse. I recently had a friend over for a cocktails and appetizers and he was saying that he purchased his CONDO but my place was like living in a house. I was so proud of my place and so happy I’ve created a home within my rental life.
The trouble with a large and spacious home was because I was with a terrible partner. Having my own apartment after my divorce was a difficult transition, just because I was in a codependent and enabling relationship with an addict. It was my decision to divorce him. Even so, it was an adjustment. Happily, I had a great therapist who was very helpful. It took me a couple of years to adjust, but when I did, I decided to take ballroom dance lessons. Dancing was something I waited my entire life to do. It was a game-changer. I met many new people, and made new friends. I never looked back at that point. Life improved dramatically. I could do what I wanted. Living alone became a pleasure. I felt free to be myself. Finally!💗
@@LittlePoet You remind me of me, I shopped for things for my apartment. Things I loved, or brought me happy memories. Things to make my apartment my own. To make it my home. I learned to love and accept myself the way I am. Thank you for being you and being honest about the happy and the sad times. You could be my sister. I relate to so much of what you talk about. 💗💗Love you.💗💗
I lost my husband 14 months ago. It's been the hardest thing I've ever had to live through. He was the love of my life. I just started watching your UA-cam videos. They have inspired me to know that life is possible after my biggest loss. Thk you for your positive inspiration.
Oh I am so sorry for your loss Maggie...xxoo thank you for letting me know you are here~yes, we do go on...that's what we women do...we get knocked down so hard....and then we get back up... we survive and we thrive...my love to you, Susan
I am free... l did not come out of a happy marriage... l felt loss for the first 2 years... l did truly love my husband but I realized it was one sided... My children and grandchildren are my world. Thank you for your videos
My situation is a bit different but this video helped me so much. I have been divorced 15 years. After getting divorced, I took sole custody of our son with autism. I was his mom and caregiver and he was my life partner, best friend, soul mate and son. He was my whole world. We were so happy! Traveled, shopped,movies… everything together. He was truly the love of my life. I had no desire to re marry as he took up 100% of my time and heart. We lost him last year at the age of 28. I was plunged immediately into a life of HELL on earth. I am still there but need to make some decisions. I moved in with family because I could not go back to our home without him. Our house is just sitting there. I cannot bring myself to sell our home, but cant bear to live there alone. The thought of living anywhere alone terrifies me!! Its not physical fear, its fear of living in a home alone without my son. It would magnify the fact that he is gone forever from my life. I dont know if I can ever do it but I have to do something. This video and all of the comments made me feel a bit stronger and determined. I have a long way to go and with God all things are possible. Thank all of you strong ladies for your inspiration!💜
I can't I'magine your pain the children are an inheritance from the lord but you were there for him and he knows he was loved you did God's perfect will I have a Grandson who autistic please pray for him to so he could have the same loving home
You can do it, and your son will be guiding you along the way from the other side. Don't let fear or that connection you had cripple you. I really feel our loved ones who have crossed over want us to be joyful, smile, and still live our precious lives to the fullest, and in time many are able to once again. We all need to grieve and the process is not the same for everyone. Be gentle with yourself and when your ready, be bold and brave.
I’m 44. Left my Husband at 42 just before lockdown hit. Phew! Your clip is so inspirational. Now downsizing again with my 5 year old who I co-parent. I am the happiest I have ever been since leaving my husband. I love being free. ❤
I'm recently widowed...such a blessing in my life. I had no idea how much happiness I'd have with just my own company. He's gone, gone, gone and I've never enjoyed my life so much.
I have been alone for a long time, its really difficult around the Holiday. My family lives three thousands miles away, its really hard not to be around them during this time of year. I came upon your video by accident and was feeling very lonely and was so taken by your strengh. It was a good pick me up and I know I can get through the days, we all have our moments. Excersice daily if only for 30 minutes, I have meet so many ladies in the same position we are in, we are not alone. Keeping busy and having faith is my salvation. I indulge in items that please me, why not it makes me happy. Thank you for a pep talk . I will continue to follow your video.
It's different, though, for those of us who have always been single despite wanting to have a husband. I learned to cope with aloneness in many ways by the time I was 40, but by 60 no one seems interested: I have no family to talk about and people are retiring so not interested in talking about work, however exciting it may be. My Mom recently died and everyone called me at that point, but otherwise, unless I call them, I never hear from anyone. I have lots of interests and activities, but people are few and far between. Like you, I try to call 1 person a week, try to get in touch with people I haven't seen for years, but it is slim pickings and requires me to put out energy when I'm the one who needs support.
I'm so sorry. I know what that is like. I feel out of place everywhere. I'm so sorry you lost your mom. Losing a parent is devastating. I can listen. You are not alone.
Hello Marianela🌸 Your comment is touching.. I wanted to reach out to you.. I can relate to what you said.. I recently have separated and have a 16 year old daughter at home still… we live in Texas.. I would like to reach out to you somehow when it’s a good time. Blessings to you 😇
I have the same problem I was married young and divorced young after losing a baby. I am the person people turn to but not one they consider a close friend it’s soul destroying sometimes.
Happy birthday, sweet boy! I’ve been living alone 5 years. The happy greeting I get from my precious pup Holly truly transformed my house into a home. I’m so happy to come home to a wagging tail & lots of wet kisses❤
I do so appreciate this lovely video. 💗 I have been widowed twice. I’m 69. I raised five amazing human beings I get to call my own. There are 10 grandchildren, two of which live very nearby. I am remarried. My present state of mind? Profound gratitude for the journey. Grateful for the knowledge that every smile AND every tear brought me to this present, perfect moment! I do surround myself with things that are precious and have meaning. I sincerely try to embrace and cherish every day. 💗 You are a kindred spirit!
Oh Susan, you touched on so many things I can relate to. My niece lived with Ovarian Cancer for almost two years...she lived her best life, knowing she had about 2 years to live, but she had such beauty and poise about her, she was age 38 in 2017 💔. My condolences you lost your dear friend, as much as we try living its sad at times, and I saw your tears, I understood. 💔............... On to that little RED Teapot, I just loved it! ... Red being My favorite color and oh how I love teapots. I lost everything in 2021 ... my life changed in the blink of an eye. I became homeless and never saw it coming. I had the big house on 168 acres , my dream home. Its taken me a year ( the longest year of my life! ) to re-establist a home, no furniture, not even a bed. I was on several waiting lists for an apartment, I moved in a new ( the apartment building is 14 months old ) so its new. My daughter bought me a twin bed, sheets, and comforter. WE Shopped at thrift stores, I moved in late July this summer 2022. I feel SO RICH! A ROOF OVER MY HEAD/ HEAT/ AC/ I HAVE FOOD ...... And Im warm. Last winter was SOoooo cold, I shivered all winter. ...... Its taking me 3 months to come out of a depressed state, something I never dreamed Id suffer. But now I feel opposite, I feel blessed and happy. And I WILL have me a Christmas tree this year ( a small one ) and my Santa collection was saved , and boxes of other things were also saved, and I feel happy to also have many of my pictures ....I just turned age 69. ......I also want to say how lovely you look in the peach jacket.....and a HAPPY BIRTHDAY to precious little Desi. .... sorry this is so long. I just love you Susan Thanks for being here. ..... Lynn
So enjoyed your video. In fact, have enjoyed all of them. As a man, we’re not supposed to show emotion, but, I’ve never really followed that “antiquated” rule. I’m 67 and this will be the first time in my entire life that I will be alone for Christmas. My dear mother passed away this past may 3 weeks before her 87th birthday. Usually I always saw her over Christmas Eve and Christmas morning before she went to my sister’s for the day. I’ve been alone for Christmas before, but, my mother was still alive, just away with the step family and that was fine. I was to the point that I was not even going to bother decorating or putting up a tree, but after watching your video, I’m starting to think differently. Thank you and have a most awesome day!
Dear Susan, After my husband went to live in Heaven, I did a severe downsizing, sold my home and moved across country! Yes, it was one of the hardest things I’ve done, but there’s nothing like loss to give stuff perspective. I went through my home and took pictures of it and all the things I didn’t keep. I can look at them if I want…but I don’t because I cherish what comes into my life now. Maybe different…but still lovely and ever-growing me! I like becoming whole in a whole new way! And best woofs to Desi… he’s still a guy having his cake and eating it too🎂 And, Susan, Thanks for sharing that guy who is hanging out with you lately! He has a really nice voice! Sending you love always❤️
Psalm 146:4 when someone dies his spirit goes out, he returns to the ground; on that very day his thoughts perish. John 528,29 Do not be amazed at this, for the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out.
My husband went to heaven 9 years ago, unexpectedly. Life insurance did not cover anything. I was living in Northern CA and had an excellent job. But I could no longer stay, because of rising costs. I decided to go to Ohio where some of my family is. The only thing I could take had to fit in my small ford fiesta. So, pictures and memories were all I could take. Here I am today, with a 2-bedroom apartment, and loving Midwestern life. God has provided everything I need.
I agree 100% on single versus married. I was divorced for 30 years and now married for 5. I don’t fear either lifestyle and appreciate the experiences of both. I do feel sorry for the women who have only developed one way then being thrust into the other. One piece of advice is to don’t “fear” anything as it will only limit you.
I am 69. I spent so much of my life in unfulfilling relationships. I have been living alone for many years and love it. Over two years ago, I downsized from a two bedroom apartment into a one room studio. The process was physically and mentally exhausting, but well worth the effort!
I loved this video because the older I get the less I value all the stuff I have held onto over the years. I’ve been going through things and I’m only keeping the things I truly love! I still have a way to go but it is a process. Happy Birthday 🎂 Desi
I’m doing the same. I’m not attached to things or stuff. I am blessed to have every single thing I have and appreciate it all but if a fire took it all tomorrow I would be okay. People matter not things.
May God give you the strength to go through this very difficult phase of your life. I don't know how things are in your country but in India oue children surround us and take over......
You are SPOT ON about having things around you that bring YOU happiness. Your home is your haven. If an object makes you sad or brings a bad memory then get rid of it, sell it, give it away, etc. BE FREE!
One of the best videos ever. ❤ I went through a hard divorce after 25 years and 4 children. I was married to by second husband 15 years and then bone cancer took him. I know exactly what you’re talking about in this video. I went through so many emotions and after 4 years, I’m finally moving on. Thanks so much!
I so needed this video of encouragement! I am going thru a hard time with my Dysfunction Family right now. I am having to walk away from all the Emotional Abuse they continue to throw at me. I feel so alone & abandoned by people who should be there to do "life with". I just had a good cry and watched your video. I have so many areas that need healing. Your Words of Wisdom came at such a good time! Thank you!! 🙏💖
I cried when you talked about the FIVE things you would take with you if you had to make a choice. I, too, would choose sentimental things. I am 63 years old, and my Grandmother died when I was 3. She had a gorgeous rocking chair with two matching chairs and small table in her room. I was always in there with her playing with her, she died getting up from her rocker to close the blinds, I was right there. I have kept the set with me wherever I go. I have had the chairs reupholstered but the set is in great shape. I feel comfort with these items in my home and will always keep them; it makes my house feel like a home. The other items would be my mother's cup and saucer set, which is displayed on a beautiful three tier shelf, it has 12 different ones and when my best friend comes to visit we will each choose one to drink our coffee in during her visit, they are all very old and very beautiful!
Thank you for your video which is very relatable to me. I divorced 20 years ago but had another relationship after that for 10 years which didn'twork out. My children have grown up, left home and have their own lives now, and I am very happy for them. I am retired and live alone with my cat in a 2 bedroom townhouse and have to budget carefully, but I don’t lack for anything. I have made lots of new friends through volunteering and other groups I belong to. I have travelled solo many times and there is so much more I want to do! Life is for living!
This video came on and touched my heart. You have no idea how your words hit me. My husband of 34 years filed for divorce a few months ago and just 2 weeks ago it was finalized. I sit in my apartment feeling alone, empty and forgotten. Then your video began playing and your words were mine. Thank you for speaking to me, I hear you.
Oh you made me cry!!! Congratulations on your freedom and the beautiful new life that is waiting for you! I am so happy you found me and Dez!!! My love to you and yours, Susan
YEs. I know, now moving to TN to start over & am determined to make new friends. I did the right thing by taking care of my parents until the bitter end. I dont have many regrets just wish I had more children in my old age, but then again I am grateful for every little thing. Just being able to get moving is a blessing with a tiny nest egg, so I can sleep not worrying about being homeless. So many don't have a thing, not even fair health.
Happy Birthday to dear, sweet Desi. My home used to be my sanctuary; my safe place away from the world. I was burglarized over a year ago. Except for a few quick trips by there to pick up an item or two, I haven't gone back and I won't every live there again. I don't feel safe. My safe place is gone forever. I was concieved in that house. It was the first home I ever knew. But the feeling of sanctuary is gone forever. I've moved in with my parents. They are elderly and need care. Even though I'm disabled myself I do the best I can. My only safe space now is my bed. But I'll be fine.
I am also learning to live alone. I lost my husband in 2020. Retired in 2021, and then discovered that I spent way too much time sitting and being depressed. I decided to take a part-time job at a Historical site, (a fun place to work!) I have made new friends and also have been able to reconnect with some old friends that life had prevented me from spending time with. I had to decide that life was good! And I was going to enjoy the rest of mine until the Lord calls me home!
When my house was broken into, the first thing I looked for was my art. Watercolors by my grandparents, that I treasure. They were there! The rest didn't matter.
My husband passed❤❤ last month after 28 years, but i often think about how lonely I was when he was here. I truly loved ❤ I also lost myself. My brother asked me what is it you like I told him i have no idea. But now I do im getting there. Hobbies,Church,traveling something I've never done with family or friend too much. ❤
Happy Birthday to the little guy Desi! What I do is have lots of cushions and a few throws. My family laugh and say they don’t know anyone with so many cushions! They give my home a cosy welcoming feel. And guess who love to cuddle into all those cushions and throws when they visit?!
Happy Birthday Desi!!! Thank you Susan for posting such uplifting videos. Every Saturday at 8:00 (EST) I start checking You Tube to see if you have posted this weeks video. It’s one of the highlights of my week!
I've been on my own most of my life. I travel alone, I go shopping alone and have no children. In my travels I've been able to be spontaneous and in doing so I've discovered so many beautiful and unexpected places and things. Sometimes I wish there was someone else to share those wonderful moments with, but when things are out of our control, we have to learn to love the moment and enjoy those times , even though we are on our own. With peace and love to you all xx
I lost my husband 5 years ago ... I want to thank you for bring life front and center. I’m not sure that anyone that has experience this kind of loss understands the the severity of the the loss. I so appreciate your take on giving the feeling and the gift of knowing that life does go on. Thank you much for giving us the ability to look forward to a life of knowing that we are okay...
Hi, I just moved into a condo after a divorce and live alone. It has only been 3 months and am in the process of decorating it. I bought all used furniture except the bed. I really appreciate your sunny outlook and emotional honesty about your struggles and strengths. You have been a great inspiration to me. Have a wonderful day ❤
Susan, you have touched my heart. We have SO much in common, even our age. At 67 I'm struggling to survive my lonely life. Because of withdrawing from everyone, being ashamed of my life, I lost all my friends. I'm not sure I'll ever be happy again. I feel I've used up all my chances. Thank you for your wise, honest words. I don't know where you live, but I wish we were neighbors. :)
I know your feelings. The feeling of using up all your chances will go away as you realize that creation is an ongoing part of life. As long as you're alive you are creating consciously or unconsciously. You will find things to love again and be enthusiastic to do them or discover them. It does take time. Respect your feelings but realize that they will change. Now is the time to experiment and find things that refresh you.
HORSES are my love and freedom. There Noble Spirit and presence continues to reinforce in me to gallop on the 🏖, snort and play in the snow. AND be forever grateful for the ❤ the Time God has given us. Seize the Day 🏇 BELLA 🎉
I found your channel yesterday and watched a few videos. I have to say, you are one of the most inspiring people I have found on UA-cam. I am 35 years old and going through hell trying to figure my relationship and life out. But your reminders to just find my inner peace and take care of myself is so truly motivating. I was crying the entire day yesterday until I started listening to your wisdom. I just wanted to share with you how much your words touched my heart. I believe every day will get better from now on. Thank you for being you and sharing your world with the rest of us.
Do whatever gives you peace...I had to pay for a divorced and move across the country to find me and it was well worth it have its tough days but I still rather my peace of mind than people and their drama...I find things like gardening Therapeutic being involved in charity and visiting church relaxing too.
I love your story. I felt the same way. My husband died 8 years ago, for the first two years I missed him so much, I didn’t want to do anything. The only thing that is close to me is his cat Phyllis that he loved so much. Then one day, I thought to myself my husband would want me to move on, so I decided to renovate and redecorate my house and give it a new look. I gave away a lot of the things I had that I did not need and kept only the furniture of sentimental value. Then I decided to join the school for seniors, cause I always wanted to learn languages, and there I made a lot of friends who are in the same boat as me and I don’t feel alone anymore.
For years I was devastated about not meeting Mr. Right and having the 5 children I wanted. In the end I came to realize, 'A man is NOT a plan', and life without headaches is beautiful. I also decided to choose other things to worry about. Loneliness is a state of mind, and I choose not to be in that state. Stoicism, and hard work easily compensates. Sure, singles miss out on invites but really, choosing harmony and no headaches is perfect. I wanted to worry about my children in boarding school, my horses, and riding across the fields in the English countryside where I grew up, and plan glorious dinner parties with interesting people. But my worries were much more mundane. I have now decided to worry about my terracotta mansion on the shores of the Mediterranean in Tuscany. I come up with new poems all the time and love the life I have. Not the one I hoped for! I live in gratitude instead.
You are such a beautiful lady. I wish I could date, but I've had so much abuse I just can't. Your advice about taking stuff that doesn't represent you is spot on. I held on to dead relative's things for decades. Freedom when I let it all go. Relatives bought that stuff for them, not for me. Happy birthday Desi!
Happy birthday Desi, you handsome little man ❤. Susan I appreciate how raw and honest you are about your life experiences and things you have overcome. You have made a beautiful life for yourself and I so admire you. I lost my husband of 37 years nine years ago to cancer. I am 70 years young now and have found you cant wait for others to fill your time, you have to do this yourself. I love candles and small lights , much as you do , they make me feel cozy in my home especially in the fall and winter months. Do I cry some days? Oh yes I do but I dont tell my family. They are busy with their lives so why burden them with the sadness I feel some days. I have found I cry so easily now. Sometimes it's just a thought or memory or something on TV. I get it out then I move on. I wish you and Desi a fun wonderful blessed week ahead. I will be here next weekend to see you. 😊
You are amazing and beautiful. I’m moving into this stage at 61 and you give me hope. I bought new x-mas lights for the windows of my little place. It makes it look magical. My place is filled with thrift store finds and heirlooms from my Mom and Grandmother. You can’t help but feel loved inside but mostly peaceful and happy. Merry Christmas😊
We live in a 100 year old house. All of our furniture is thrifted, except mattresses. I recently redid a bathroom decorated in the 70s. Instead of ripping it apart, I had the walls painted a bright white, redid the vanity myself and added some carved looking detail with cameos and flowers in all white. I found some vintage shelves and added hooks for towels. My big splurge was a deep stainless sink, quartz countertop, a kitchen faucet, a thrifted mirror and bright lights. I also added a slate looking click in floor. Cost to update, 700 bucks. Using this bathroom = priceless. I can wash, mask, condition my hair in deep sink. I can do hand laundry in deep sink, and eventually wash my dogs 🐕 in the sink. Reduce, reuse, recycle, …… repurpose, redesign, remake.
Happy birthday to adorable Desi. I hope you enjoyed your date tonight Susan. You are uplifting and inspiring. I spent most of my life, married to a man I loved, liked, trusted, because he never gave me one reason not to trust him, or not to like him as a human being. He changed after 32 years. He betrayed me. I never dreamed he would become the person he became. My life, my heart and my soul were totally blown apart. I wish I could say, I got past it as quickly as you did. I had no family to lean on. I had God. It took me several years, to get used to living alone. I am single, I have a wonderful fur baby, and I try to live one day at a time. I like to listen and see you Susan because you always lift my spirits. Thank you and please give Desi some birthday love from me.
Thank you for this message. I’m 57 and sort of starting over again. I moved to my childhood home to care for my disabled brother 7 years ago when our mom died. He passed away this year and I have decided to move back to the city I’d lived in for 30 years before. There is a lot to do and I’ve made friends here that I’ll miss but I know it’s what my heart needs. I am downsizing not only my things but now my Mom’s things and it has been a bit overwhelming. Your advice is sinking in and bringing peace. ❤️
What a timely video. My philosophy in life has always been why worry about the things you can't control. It's the advice I give to my family. I relate to you on so many levels. I was just talking to my sister this week and we talked about how much we loved being by ourselves. This video was fantastic. We only have today, yesterday already happened and we don't know about tomorrow.
It is so true that we are connected to everything! I have been on my own for 15 years. I have not even dated for the last 10 lol it was hard in the beginning, but I am happy with my life and have learned that our happiness does not depend on anyone outside of ourselves. I have a relationship with God and life is GOOD! Happy Birthday to precious Desi! Hugs and love to you Susan.....xoxo Debbie😘❤
Hello my Dear, I am 37 and discovered you channel by pure coincidence and felt in love immediately, with your peace, grace and amazing ability to tell stories. Listen to you gives me comfort and warm. Thank you 💖
I lost my husband to covid September of 2021. I'm 58 and it's been over a year. I'm still in our home, and I will downsize at some point. There is a lot to take care of, he was a car racer and motorcycle enthusiast. I had so much to take care of. My son lives with me and that helps. Everything was so sudden, one minute he was here 12 Days later gone. I miss him more than life itself. But I know he'd want me to be strong. I will see him again
I too lost my husband after 16 days of illness. Dec 2021. I was 58. I left the big house behind and moved to a two bedroom apt. I have been here a year now and I feel more free and enjoying some me time! Best to you and your healing.
First of all, happy birthday to Desi!!🐶❤️ I will share that I am a widow of almost 3 years now. My husband died suddenly of a brain bleed at the age of 57 in October 2021. And I definitely downsized into a smaller home after that and the things that make my house a home are surrounding myself with pictures of my husband who I miss dearly and little mementos of my mom who has passed over 10 years ago.. also pictures of my grandson who is 2 1/2. These things comfort me and make my house a home. I like you you have a very soothing voice and personality. I think I can learn from you about how to try be happy again since it seems to be something I feel I’ll never have again. It’s so hard to go on without your soulmate your best friend, the love of your life. Grieving is definitely a slow process for me. I just want peace over pain. Thank you for this channel. You made me smile. 😊❤ may God bless.🙏❤️🥰
Happy birthday Desi.All I do is worry and it helps nothing and affects my health but I can’t seem to stop. I do have a lot going on in my life and boy do I long for some peace.❤️
I’m 52, married 21 years and my husband 20+ older is struggling with health problems. I can’t imagine him gone and I’m scared, but this video makes me feel better like there is hope and life beyond. Thank you ❤.
I have never been married but my son will migrate soon to be with his dad. I am happy to hear your ideas on making myself happy....I dreaded being alone. Thanks for those ideas. Peace to you,
I just discovered your podcast, and I'm so glad that I did. 😊 I'm 62, divorced and happily single, officially retiring in 3 weeks, and I will be moving into my own apartment in a couple of months, and living alone for the first time in my life. I'm so looking forward to creating my own home, decorating it the way that I want to, and doing whatever I want to do. I will be buying everything new, starting over basically with nothing. And I look forward to all the shopping. 😁 My new home will have all white furniture, with a lot of colorful butterfly and angel decorations, candles, white twinkling lights, flowers, and photos of my kids and grandkids. I'm so excited to start my new life, and to be able to retire in peace, joy, and new fun adventures! 😊💜
Dearest Susan ~ your words always ring true & at precisely the right time. You’re inspirational! Thank you very much for sharing this subject that women our age are faced with daily. It’s empowering ❤️
Thank you for the inspirational pep talk! I too, am tempted to get into that negative rut but I choose not to when I feel it coming on. I am shy but I choose to say something nice or smile at people I do not know. I only say the truth as I feel it. Well, I do admit I feel freer to say those nice things because I am older. Too old to be consider a cougar when I greet those younger men, lol. I do choose to be thankful too. I thank store, fast food workers or people that hold the door open. Most of all, I thank God for being such a great artist. I see the amazing beauty of the fall colors of the trees, the sunset or sunrise, the clouds in the sky, or the moon and I have to catch my breath in awe. Thank you God that I can see Your beautiful works. Happy Birthday Desi and many more!
Loved this video! It’s been one year since my husband passed away and we were married for 51 years. I found your channel around six months ago and you have helped me deal with so many things that happen when you are suddenly alone. God is using you to help and bless others by sharing your positive attitude and life’s experiences, I wish I could meet you in person and give you a big hug 🤗. Thank you for sharing and God Bless you!!
It is 10 months since my husband of 55 yrs passed away. Was doing well now all of a sudden I am feeling very sad and alone, I have friends and family who are so good. But thinking of holidays is starting to get me anxious. I never saw this video before it is helpful. Nice to know from comments so many others are dealing with this, thanks and God bless you
GloriaFriend2U: I can relate too. We still got to try and live our best life we have left. Prayers going up for everyone going through. Let's hang in there & Keep the Faith, if only the size of a mustardseed.❤️🙏🏻🤗
Reading comments, I see we are a community of beautiful women all feeling the same! Thank you Susan for your thoughtful words many of us feel but forget. Yes, I am alone but I am worth feeling loved even for myself! And darn if I'm going to retreat into self-pity! I am inspired by you to bring my home into a space I love and feel special in! Time for changes! 🥰 As I say everytime I watch you, Little Poet has done it again! ❤️ You bring the words to my feelings and fill my heart with self love and hope! You make me feel like a close friend❣️
I love living on my own too. Your tips really help me... I feel like I'm not alone in this. ❤️👍🏻 This is such a wonderful video as always!! You are so talented Susan... and Funny!! 😀 Have Fun on your date!!👍💕 Can't wait to hear about all about it! You look gorgeous!!! Happy birthday Desi! We love you both!! 😀💕🙏🎂🎉🎈🎈🎈 So glad you're feeling better Susan you look wonderful and I've been praying for you 🙏💕
Your story about Dani touched my soul. Lately the song “these are the good old days” has been running through my mind. Make memories and live like today is a gift from God ❤
I have NEVER been so much at peace as I have been when began to live alone. Just me and my cat. 🙏 I LOVE it. And I don't feel alone because I know God is always with me.
Happy 9th Birthday Desi. 🎂 You are the sweetest. We never know when our life will change. It can be sad, scary, a challenge & rewarding. It's a new path we were given to travel. We are our own destiny in our life. 🙏 for those who are having sadness & struggles in their lives. May God Bless you and wrap you in his loving arms. ❤ Mary
You have made such a difference in my life. In January, 202 I filed for divorce. Your comments about comfort and being terrified hit home. Keep showing up, you are making a big difference for me!!
So happy I found your channel today. I think you are just what I need to help me through the sadness and depression I’m feeling after the loss of my husband of almost 50 years and 3 other family members in the past year. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Looking forward to seeing all of your videos ❤️
Hello Susan how are you doing today?sorry for your lost Susan God gives and take...just keep your hopes alive okay God is still saying something okay...hope you enjoyed the video?
This was amazing. I just had stopped having a good cry when I found this video. This helped me so much tonight. Lost my dear amazing husband May 27. We were/ are both 57 years old. I am a new woman on a new journey too. Not by choice, but I want to be happy. Thank you for helping me go to sleep with some sense of hope.
I have just lost my husband 4 weeks ago. I have to sell up and downsize. I feel lonely and I don’t know where to even begin with this new life at almost 57 😢
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Oh dear Caroline! Words can’t even express what you’re going through now. I know because I’ve gone through it. It’s been a few years now and I’m doing so well! I’m praying for you this very moment and sending you a heart hug. God bless you, dear Caroline ❤
I am so sorry for your loss Caroline....I am so sorry for the pain you must feel. I wish I could take away that feeling of loneliness you have...but you are not alone and although it may be hard to hear, time will heal. You will find out you are stronger than you ever dreamed...and you will go on...and you will make a difference in this world...my love to you and everybody here, Susan & Dez
Caroline, so many of us here have been where you are now either through death of a spouse or divorce. Adjusting is hard but we don’t really have a choice. We just have to go through it. One thing I did and still do is I try to plan on doing one thing a day that brings me joy whether it was meeting a friend for lunch or coffee or going to the library reading all the magazines and checking out a few books. I also have learned to live going through my home and gathering things to donate to a charity that supports animal rescue. I also have rescued two stray cat’s and before them two dogs. The dogs have passed but now being handicapped I just have my cats. Plan on doing something that gives you joy and plan on doing things for others that brings them joy. Don’t sit and stew it does no good for you or anyone else. I hope the idea brings you a bit of joy. Take care of your body, mind and spirit. Be well.
I’m 64 and when my husband and I got divorced a yr ago, I really got into getting rid of stuff and starting over. So when I got my apartment, I decorated it the way I wanted it!! That contributed to my feeling so free. This took a while to truly feel this way. I was mourning my relationship (still am). My ex and i are still great friends. Now I’m going to Costa Rica for spanish immersion by myself, and although feeling scared, I’m so proud of myself for doing it anyway.
That sounds really fun and exciting!
I have a hard time knowing what to keep and what to,throw away. I have some things of course I know I’m would keep. Yet I have all these beautiful clothes my late Mom purchased for me. Some brand new others from Thrift stores. I love shoes. I am also a lady who when I bought my first pc,of jewelry at 16. I’ve added to my collection. Yet I’ve had to,sell a lot of my really good PCs to buy myself a car, idk how to fill out all the medical paperwork,or to get extra help. I feel totally alone. I have a bf yet unless he stops drinking or at least slows way down we have no future. I am having to remember for him as well as myself. I had a bad fall and I can’t even get the time to heal. I’m afraid I am in the first stages of another stroke. Sad he is one of the sweetest when sober yet the most horrid when he is toast. The alcohol controls him badly. Any tips on how to shed what you don’t need. I would be grateful. Bless you and I hope you have a wonderful November coming up soon. 💖💖
Take one day at a time everything is going to be fine 😊💕 just do whatever I luv 💞🙏 n what brings you joy I understand how you feel because I'm going through somewhat the same, sending all of the people who have commented on this video peace love health and abundance life ❤️✝️
I am in a very similar situation with 63. , moved out in March, building up MY PLACE, I try to make my new home it as cozy as possible. Cheers from Ireland.
@@missglenellen wish you all the best in your new journey in life 🙏🏼😇✝️❣️
I'm 15 and I have a terrible fear of death and dying, also of being lonely and unhappy lol. Thank you so much for this video, when I think of myself at anything over 40 I think of me sick and dying and it terrifies me, it helps that to know that it won't be the case and it is still possible to be living my best life until my final breath. I wish you and everyone here nothing but peace and happiness, we all deserve it and so much more
You are too young to even worry about all this. But I am 51 and alone now for the first time. No family and one cat. It's been a fun life and living alone will be okay once you adjust. But you have a whole life ahead of you. You will be okay. Sit back and enjoy it all the good and bad.. it's all an experience
My heart goes out to you dear. I felt like you when I was only 15 yrs old. You have to realize you are ONLY 15. You have not been in this world very long. You don't have much experience with life yet. Yes you will have alot of hurt AND happiness, but that is what life is. Both hurt and happiness are life's lessons. They both teach us who we are. When you are hurt, you will learn from that experience. Even the worst experiences teach us to be smarter and wiser if or when it happens again. It's called Wisdom, and wisdom is Wonderful because you learn what you want in life and what you don't want. You're able to weed out those who do not bring quality to your life, and you will develop a zero tolerance for toxic. At this point in life you will feel such a freedom from unnecessary stress. You start not caring what others think of you. It's your life and you will live it the way YOU want. That's why they are called The Golden Years. Don't look at life after 40 is over. Life begins at 40. That is not just a saying. I am 66, I look and feel better than I have felt in decades. I'm widowed several years. I feel I have a full life with family and friends, and that's really what a happy and fulfilled life is all about. I hope nothing but the best for you as you start on this amazing journey of this thing called life. Always have boundaries and that will show you who really genuinely loves you.❤❤❤🎉
The good news is that Christ loved you so much that He died for you, is risen, and wants a relationship with you. We need not ever fear death if we choose Christ. He is coming back soon, and He promises eternal life to those who trust in Him and obey him. Please consider Him, won't you?
@@eehardcast4672 have already. not a fan. thanks though
Wow...can't believe this came up today of all days. I'm 75, newly divorced (yes, it happens to any age!) Every word is truthful and relevant and touched my heart and helped me get back on my emotional feet!! Thank you!
My dear Linda,
Someone very wise once told me something I really had to think about because it was a shock to me. A true revelation. I was told that we are born into this world alone and we will leave this world, yes, alone. My point is that in our generation a woman alone may be looked at as if something is wrong with her! That was my conditioning. We were always "told" what to do by...some one! Find a husband...okay. Did that. Now what's wrong with both of you? Why aren't you having children, I was asked? Society was (probably still is to a degree) like sheep 🐑. The sheep are all going in the same direction, not really knowing why nor where? Not one thinks to ask why, where? Then you see this little black sheep going in the opposite direction saying "excuse moi...excuse moi," That little black sheep knew what it wasted to do and it was not what the other sheep were doing.
My point, if I can make it clearer. We don't have to answer to anyone (like it's been said in this video.)
Now is the time to feel what freedom is really like. It's called SELFCARE, take care of YOU. If you don't know, we have utube. Enter any question or topic and you'll find it. It's never too late to learn, to be curious and to grow. I find that at 69 almost 70 years old, its a blessing to have such freedom. Take your time to grieve if needed. Live in today. One foot in front of the other and soon you'll take off and begin to love to be alive. Today.
I meet u 😍❤🌷
Best wishes to you! 😊❤
I am so sorry you faced a divorce at 75. Mine was about the age of 43, after 28 years. 1/4 + counting our years before the marriage. It was tough enough. I can’t imagine how difficult it must have been for you. (((Hugs))) Praying God’s been good to you. ❤
You aren’t alone my friend ❤
For the first time in my entire life I live alone, a widow at 64. I spent my whole life helping and giving comfort to my family members with no regrets. Yet, I have found that living alone allows me to focus on my own comfort and happiness. Living alone doesn't necessarily mean your lonely it could also feel like freedom to be just yourself. Finding peace with yourself. God Bless🙌.
Thank you Mary so much for being here! xo Susan
I feel the same finally. It’s taken me a while to feel good.
Bless you! I love your post! Being at peace with yourself is the greatest gift.
I’m the same. Lost my husband 12 weeks ago. Widow at 64 after 44 years together.
@@brendawahlberg7341 loss my husband last thanksgiving after 46 years, I’m still loss today!
Having a dog makes everything better. You are never alone. They give you love unconditionally. ❤️
Very true that, I borrow my mothers dog and take him out for a walk in the forest every day...through winter, through spring and summer we walk, through autumn. Its what has held me up❤
Living alone does bring so many happiness!
I turned 65 in July and I am Not willing to put up with BS......
I'm done with that nonsense....giving people chances to change, improve themselves, Narcissistic family members, employers who commit Wage theft and work you till you cannot function.....
I love Peace.
I m alone
Looking true love ❤❤
been there done that
Wow I discovered your channel today, you are absolutely amazing. I am 62 years old and I live alone, my husband passed away 4 years ago. I have 1 daughter, she lives 600 km away. I try and keep busy and make myself happy. I realized no one is going to bother about you, you need to be strong and positive. Be able to make yourself happy, keep yourself looking good. Do it all for yourself. I miss my husband very much , but know that I need to complete this journey of my life. We just need to enjoy our time on earth. Sending you love and light from South Africa ❤️❤️🙏🙏
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Hello Anisha, I read your post in YT and I first of all am sorry for your loss of your husband. It must be really rough to find yourself, all of a sudden alone, without your permission, I am nearly 80, divorced for many, many years and never regretted it.
But that exactly is the difference; I CHOSE to be alone but nobody asked you if you would LIKE yo be alone! If you are up to it, maybe you could find some volunteer work to pass the time. I also do that but only in winter because summer is terribly hot where I live. I'm originally from Holland (Ja, ek es a kaaskop!!) but I live in the Middle East. There is always plenty of volumteer work to do because our government is lousy and does nothing. Try to find something to fill your ďays and keep smiling! Regards and blessings from the Middle East. 🐫
Nicely said, thank you for sharing, we are not alone.
I’m 75 and just placed my husband in an Assisted Living Facility. Although together 49 yrs, we should have been divorced 20 yrs ago. Due to 911 and he being in the building and surviving, I stuck it out no matter how miserable I was. Now, it’s like “what now”. Then I saw this video. Thank you.
Hello Margaret i just read through your comment and it's kind of inspiring...i hope you enjoyed this video?
Thank you so much for being transparent. It’s not easy starting over; it takes strength, which sometimes can be hard to come by. My faith undergirded me so many times during these past six years since I lost my beloved husband. A shout out too, to the different comments to your video. We truly are in this together. May God bless each of those who commented and you for sharing your journey in finding a new life.
Enjoy life to the fullest!
New Woman on a New Road! I am a widow who lost a wonderful partner, moved from a beloved home, down-sized, changed communities entirely, and started over two years ago…I am 76 now and I believe I have finally found my way, am so cozy in my little nest, and more content and full of gratitude than I have ever been. Being kind to myself, self-respectful, resourceful, and playful has made all the difference. Love being on this journey with you and this wonderful circle of women!
I am so glad you shared all this Kaitlin! You made it!!!! And I know it wasn't easy but you sound so truly happy...fulfilled and free...
Kaitlin, I could have written your comment except for the “moving and downsizing “. I, too, lost my beloved husband of 50 years (minus w weeks) a little over 2 years ago and I, too, am 76😲. There is not a day I do not miss him but I know how proud of me he must be to see how I faced my “new” journey with strength and positivity. I wish you the same in your new journey.
That is wonderful!
Wonderful!!
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My beautiful friend was diagnosed with multiple myeloma cancer 22 years ago and was given 6 months to live. She’s still here. She’s buried her mother and her husband and refuses anyone to steal her joy!
Happy birthday dear Desi!🎈🍰
So good to hear 💗
Omg ❤❤
Happy birthday Desi
What a great story.♥️
How wonderful to hear! Praise God!
Your video inspired me immensely. I am 54 years old teacher who lost her job and although I am surrounded by loving people…I feel useless and lonesome. No more lesson plans to write, no more drawing from kids saying I Love you Ms. Sammy! No more are the sounds and giggles of 20 preschoolers walking around the school. I spend my days lamenting my situation… your video hit me right in the face! I was not going to decorate for Christmas..what’s the point! I have told myself over and over again. Tomorrow morning I will get up and find my Christmas treasures and decorate like I haven’t decorated in my life! Thank for your words.
Oh thak you so much for taking the time to tell me this wonderful news! I realized one day that it wasn't enough to just love myself but I had to show myself some affection and respect...it was Christmas and I denied myself all that made me happy...and I did it in other ways too...pretty soft towels for the bathroom in my favorite color....my favorite bed cover to and favorite book to put by my bed...it was as if I would go out of my way to not only not love myself, but almost be cruel to myself. The day I stopped doing that was when my life turned around. I know it sounds silly...lol...but I carried the blame for what had gone wrong.. Once I let that go I cried...I bought new towels and made sure I treated myself with love and respect...I have a peace in my life I have never known. If you can relate to anything I am saying...I hope it helps in some way. Thank you so much for being here! xo Susan
Couldn’t you volunteer with kids or babysit. ?
How's life and you now ? ❤
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You can still create. Make your own stuff, coffee creamer, laundry soap, bone broth, sew, find something new to do you may like it or not but you gave it a go.
Just went through the hardest transition 2 yrs ago now. The divorce was stressful, especially since I never worked. Income was and still is the scariest thing to think about. I get a small bit of alimony but not enough to make it with all the bills and everything else that pops up. I'm 62 now and trying to find a job that doesn't require standing most of the time seems to be a challenge. Nevertheless , after crying spontaneously off and on for a few months the tears have stopped and I'm adjusting. I'm happier not living with my Ex, so much more peace , no drama, much more content. Flip side is it is tougher financially. The dysfunctional codependent relationship is over and that's worth everything to me. I'am internally happier and much stronger and freer within. ❤
Same story with me, divorced teo years ago, work a very little for 20 years, he's been earning a good money so we were fine.... now at 53 I work full time and getting stronger and stronger ( first week I cried every single morning driving to work🤣)... and yes you still can find a sitting job, I work at distribution centar ( small office parts) where I sit all day in a comfortable chair and kitting stuff in little baggies... best wishes❣️
@@lidiyas7153 That sounds like a nice job. I interviewed for a job now, see how it pans out. I know at some point it will all click into place.
@@annettewald9056 It will my dear for sure, good luck🌸
@@lidiyas7153 Good Luck and Prosperity to you Lidiya 😊
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My abusive husband caused me to be homeless for much of the last two decades, but through a series of extreme difficulties I finally have enough money to buy an RV to live in as opposed to paying rent to someone else. Starting over in one's 70s is definitely different than it was half a century ago!
I also withdrew and was isolated for a long time, but I was not near family or friends so I had no support system to help me out. It got to a point when I was battling depression, PTSD, and chronic fatigue that I was just trying to stay alive so that I COULD start over again. I am going to pick up my RV as soon as my ride gets here.
I had cataracts, had surgery, but now I have double vision so I'm still dependent on others to survive. BUT I'm picking up my new HOME in an hour or so. I won't be able to do much of anything to decorate my new place and it's no way near as nice as the homes I lived in with my husband, but there's not going to be any abuse there so, yes, there IS going to be freedom in my second hand accommodations. And I'm starting to become optimistic about the future again. 😊
Because of where I am and have been over the years, I stopped and listened to your video and it spoke to me. It touched my soul and gave me encouragement. Thank you for that, it helped me so much.
I wish you the best of luck, hang in there, the sun does break through the darkest clouds.
I wish you the best of luck, hang in there, the sun does break through the darkest clouds.
God bless and go with you! You are a woman of strength and courage!
Enjoy your new home.
Hey so proud of you as it is so hard to stay with a narcissist.
How you getting on hun?
Be proud of your accomplices and Not Giving Up! Thank you for your response letter. It inspires. 🐦
This message really touched my heart. I’m 53yrs and went through a really painful divorce 12 months ago. I so identified with isolating and feeling ashamed. I had to let go of my home, business, and husband but I still had my dog. Sadly my dog passed away 7 months ago and it really did break my heart. I wasn’t happy in my 30yr marriage and went through mental, emotional and physical abuse as well as financial. Today I feel as free as a bird and I got a new puppy who is 7 months old now. I downsized into a lovely little house in the country and I love cooking and going for walks with my dog and have made new friends through a support group online too. Just recently I've started letting go of old stuff and introducing new things I want around me in my new home which really helps me feel like I'm moving on. I try as much as I can to keep it in the now and will also be putting up the Christmas tree this year. I was being tested for ovarian cancer and my husband left me before I got the results it was the darkest days of my life, however after he left my doctor told me my biopsy was benign what a relief. God looks after good people and I just love what your friend said about not dying today as today is a gift that's why we call it the present. I’ve not tried the dating thing yet but I’m not going looking for it I'm trusting when I'm ready my soul mate will find me. You are such an inspiration and a wonderful example thank you for this video as it's given me much hope. ❤
Thank you so much for being here...you touched my heart when you knew what it is like to feel shame after a divorce and unsure....but look at you now! Your life sounds just beautiful!!! Congratulations!!!
Thank you for sharing your story Samantha. I lost my husband last year. to aggressive brain tumour. I'm 62. Its lonely and terrifying as I gave up my career to move countries a few years back. A long and 'interesting' road ahead. I wish you much courage and soon much joy and contentment.
We call it the present because it comes from the French language " le present'. Many English words are French due to the Latin origin, which not taught anymore.
Samantha - your comment resonated with me so much. I am in the middle of divorcing my husband of 30 years. So many changes but yet I am starting to find glimmers of peace. It is just me & my 11 yr. old pup. I am so glad this video channel came up! Thank you God - I know that was you!
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Love,love what you said, that when you made the mistake of not doing something for yourself by decorating for christmas, you showed yourself such disrespect. I think we do that far too often in so many ways, showing ourselves such disrespect. We really do need to remember that we are worthy to be respected, especially by our own selves.
Oh Susan you really make me think!!!! You inspire me to do better and try to be thankful ❤️
I’ve done the same thing with Christmas bc of my husband, I’ll never do that to myself again.
I totally agree with you. Firstly, we must love ourselves
The thing I do most is giving alot of thought on what to make myself to eat. I think of what may be in the fridge or pantry to maximize nutrition and taste. Take the time to fix it to my liking and give plenty of Thanks for all of it. I call it respecting myself. I see from the comments that is what most all of you are saying. Cheers!
@@tmo.48 I do the same.
I am so happy your video popped up on my feed. I am a new empty nester at 48. I moved away to a new town where I know no one and I too lost my husband to heart failure. Three weeks in I began to feel I wasn’t loved and lonely. Until I saw your video. Thank you so much for creating a new narrative for my new life. Your video changed my life.
Cheer up and start doing the little things that makes you happy
You are still young. Hopefully your healthy too. Go live your life don’t be sad. I’m 62 I feel like I’m 32 but people treat me like I’m 92. But I’m healthy and free.
How are you now? I am about to relocate to a new place. I lost my husband to cancer in the year 2018. I feel so alone and I feel like all the obligation is on my shoulders. I feel a bit scared to relocate. I might be lonelier there, that’s my fear.
Weve all been there, i havent even been married at 52. Im ok these days im happy and any love can find me. I love myself enough so dont feel the need for the partner thing tbh at this time. Stay strong..
@@marylouveniziano1881 no u go and be happy marylou find yourself.
Divorced 5 years now. 69 years old. It took 2 years to feel free and happy. I could smile and laugh again. I purchased a 1600sf house and slowly made it home. Have just what I need and feel the comfort and warmth of knowing I would survive. I feel absolutely blessed!
OMG! I stumbled onto your video and what an eye opener it is! I'm 68 been single for over 8 yrs. Now and do not have a social life! Thank you for making this video and putting yourself on spot for all of us single older ladies to relate to! I do decorate my space for me because after all these yrs. Of being told "thats a waste of time or that you can't do that I don't like it", I do it for me! I don't miss the drama or the abuse! Again THANK YOU!!!
Hey Peggy!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so happy you are your own woman!!!!!
good, I relate at being 61. where do u live, UK or US?
So true
You're never alone.
Hi ❤😍
Happy Birthday Desi🎉🧁🐾. Reassurance is what I needed today as I got up feeling defeated. So I went shopping and bought something new for my new “happy place”. So wherever my new home may be or whenever it happens then I’ll have something new that will bring me joy!!! I have been in remission from ovarian cancer now for 14 years. Praise God!
Mace's Polk
My aunt passed from ovarian cancer a few months after she was diagnosed. I'm so glad to hear you beat it for 14 years.ay you continue to be blessed 🌹
@@jaxjax4813 I’m so sorry for your loss😢. Not a day goes by without me giving thanks to our creator & healer.
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Thank you. It's been 20 years since she's been gone... I still miss her dearly. Praise YAH for your healing. That is a hard cancer to beat. By the time they found hers it had spread everywhere. They said she had a small cyst, but they see them all the time and there was nothing to worry about. I'm happy you made it Mace'
Mace, how did u know u had it so u could treat it before it entered stage 4?
I worry cuz the spike protein in the vax collects in the ovaries MORE than any other organ. One symptom of ovarian cancer is lower back pain which I have had for OVER a year! But lower back pain is also an adverse side effect from vax. So I'm curious WHAT symptons alerted you to your ovarian cancer?
@@ladybug5859 my diagnosis was stage 3 after I had a full hysterectomy at age 47. My only symptom was heavy periods. I encourage you to visit with your gynecologist about ovarian cancer and request a CA-125 blood test. ❤️
Thanks!
That is so sweet Patricia!!!! Thank you so much for supporting the LittlePoet channel!!!! You are so kind! xxoo Susan & Dez
Happy Birthday Desi. I lost my fiance 9 yrs ago . I cried for 3years. I thought I was going to die myself. I lost everything and I had no place to go. My ex- mother in-law let me live in her basement until I could find an apartment. I am so grateful to her. So after about 2yrs I finally got an apartment. I had no furniture just a bed on the floor. It was not long until our dear beloved Savior have everything I had lost and then some. I give all Glory To God. He has been so good to me. Oh. And my the way my little dog smokey, which my sweet Tim bought for me on mother's day, the same year he passed had be so wonderful to me. I just love him.
I found after my husband passed away 31 yrs ago (I was 31) that the only way I got through the grief & sadness was God! And dogs definitely are a lot of comfort when you lose a loved one! Their love is unconditional!
Happy birthday Desi.
There’s no where more lonely than living in a full and busy home where you are invisible
I am 69 years old and God directed me to your channel! I am having some health issues that are affecting my relationships! I have said I’m gonna be more selfish and give myself more self care! The problem is I feel guilt! You have given me soo many good ideas to think about and hopefully execute them ! I have subscribed to your channel because it has given me motivation to live in the mome more! I am a Christian so my faith keeps me grounded but there are times when I get a bad case of woe is me!
Oh this is wonderful to hear!!! You have so many amazing things you are going to do!!! Life is always a glorious surprise just waiting for us! Love to you always, Susan
I suspect those health issues you speak of can be attributed to a long-standing pattern of self-denial: putting others first, always placing your own needs/desires on a back-burner, giving your power away to others. It all registers, over time, on a cellular level, & culminates in disease. Guilt is a fear-based emotion, evidence of deep-rooted feelings of undeserving-ness (how dare I feel so worthy as to engage in self-care when I am/could be needed by others?) Guilt = resistance to Self-love. Dimming your Light does not enable another to shine.
Your Christmas story resonates with me. I have been on my own for more than 30 years. My first Christmas on my own, I did not bother decorating or giving myself Christmas presents or cooking Christmas food. I was so miserable and lonely. Then one day, I came across a book in a 2nd hand bookshop, written by Golden Girl, Rue Maclennahan, about living solo as a widow. She wrote about taking herself out to dinner or to the movies or going for a walk at the beach to catch the sunset. She wrote about buying lovely things for herself and celebrating Christmas on her own and the joy it brought her. It changed my life, God Bless her. My next Christmas was very special. I bought myself some lovely gifts, wrapped them in beautiful wrapping paper and put them under the tree. I was so surprised with how excited I felt about getting to open those presents on Christmas morning. Ever since that Christmas, I have never made my personal happiness contingent on the decisions or choices of others. It has been very liberating. Thank you for sharing your insights. I'm glad I found your channel. God bless💖🌺
Hi Anne how are you doing today?
I like u
I m alone
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I found out a long time ago that true happiness and peace another person can't give you . The void we have in our heart only God can fill (not religion) . I live alone for over 20 years and i have peace . Happy Birthday little sweet dogi . Thanks for your meaningful video !
Hi ISR how are you doing today?
You are narcisstic and selfish that is why you are alone . Happy couples live much more longer than single people as the human race is a social animal . The Usa has the highest use of anti depressants per capita due to their worship of narcisism and egoism
@ISR Berlinerin. Amen!!! Me too !! Peace and joy (different from happiness) only come from the Lord!!!
Blessings
@@jesussaves7973 yes indeed !
@@isrberlinerin4063 yes!!!
I lost my Husband in 2005 to a very horrible accident. I was 41 at the time and now I'm 58 and still alone. You sound so friendly with such a soft-spoken voice. You cheered me up. Thank You.
Feel you❤. Lost my fiancee during tragic circumstsnces in 2015 when I was 37, he was 43. We didnt have children and I am still alone
My husband passed Oct 31, 2005 (yup, that ruined any future Halloweens for me) he'd just turned 49 I was 48. What a life changing experience! This is an amazing channel ❤
Wow, I really needed to hear this. I am 72 and have been divorced for 26 years. I worry constantly that I will run out of my retirement money. I downsized two years ago to a two bedroom apartment, so I really related to this video. Like you, Susan, I have made my apartment so inviting and cozy. It's actually decorated better than my actual townhouse that I owned. I do have good health, so I am not dying today!
Y say u r afraid that the cash flow runs out.Dont you have a skim where you can deposit your cash n live on your intrest only.That way theres no fear of your cash flow
Be careful for this scammer
This scammer are everywhere, please ladies be careful
I too live in an apartment/townhouse. I recently had a friend over for a cocktails and appetizers and he was saying that he purchased his CONDO but my place was like living in a house. I was so proud of my place and so happy I’ve created a home within my rental life.
75 and its ali ok..blessings
The trouble with a large and spacious home was because I was with a terrible partner. Having my own apartment after my divorce was a difficult transition, just because I was in a codependent and enabling relationship with an addict. It was my decision to divorce him. Even so, it was an adjustment. Happily, I had a great therapist who was very helpful. It took me a couple of years to adjust, but when I did, I decided to take ballroom dance lessons. Dancing was something I waited my entire life to do. It was a game-changer. I met many new people, and made new friends. I never looked back at that point. Life improved dramatically. I could do what I wanted. Living alone became a pleasure. I felt free to be myself. Finally!💗
I am so thankful you made it Esther!!!! Bravo to you!!!
@@LittlePoet You remind me of me, I shopped for things for my apartment. Things I loved, or brought me happy memories. Things to make my apartment my own. To make it my home. I learned to love and accept myself the way I am. Thank you for being you and being honest about the happy and the sad times. You could be my sister. I relate to so much of what you talk about. 💗💗Love you.💗💗
Aww! God Bless you!❤️😘🙏
You are beautiful. Enjoyed listening to you. Pets help us cope.
I lost my husband 14 months ago. It's been the hardest thing I've ever had to live through. He was the love of my life. I just started watching your UA-cam videos. They have inspired me to know that life is possible after my biggest loss. Thk you for your positive inspiration.
Oh I am so sorry for your loss Maggie...xxoo thank you for letting me know you are here~yes, we do go on...that's what we women do...we get knocked down so hard....and then we get back up... we survive and we thrive...my love to you, Susan
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@@LittlePoet Sending Love ❤️...Are you single? ❤️🌹🌹
I am free... l did not come out of a happy marriage... l felt loss for the first 2 years... l did truly love my husband but I realized it was one sided... My children and grandchildren are my world. Thank you for your videos
Ditto!❤️
My situation is a bit different but this video helped me so much.
I have been divorced 15 years. After getting divorced, I took sole custody of our son with autism. I was his mom and caregiver and he was my life partner, best friend, soul mate and son. He was my whole world. We were so happy! Traveled, shopped,movies… everything together. He was truly the love of my life. I had no desire to re marry as he took up 100% of my time and heart.
We lost him last year at the age of 28. I was plunged immediately into a life of HELL on earth. I am still there but need to make some decisions. I moved in with family because I could not go back to our home without him. Our house is just sitting there. I cannot bring myself to sell our home, but cant bear to live there alone. The thought of living anywhere alone terrifies me!!
Its not physical fear, its fear of living in a home alone without my son. It would magnify the fact that he is gone forever from my life. I dont know if I can ever do it but I have to do something. This video and all of the comments made me feel a bit stronger and determined. I have a long way to go and with God all things are possible. Thank all of you strong ladies for your inspiration!💜
I can't I'magine your pain the children are an inheritance from the lord but you were there for him and he knows he was loved you did God's perfect will I have a Grandson who autistic please pray for him to so he could have the same loving home
I feel the same way about my Grandson
You can do it, and your son will be guiding you along the way from the other side. Don't let fear or that connection you had cripple you. I really feel our loved ones who have crossed over want us to be joyful, smile, and still live our precious lives to the fullest, and in time many are able to once again. We all need to grieve and the process is not the same for everyone. Be gentle with yourself and when your ready, be bold and brave.
Rent a room in your house, find a lady that might feel lonely as well..
💛🙏🏾💛He is with you, always💛🙏🏾💛
I’m 44. Left my Husband at 42 just before lockdown hit. Phew!
Your clip is so inspirational.
Now downsizing again with my 5 year old who I co-parent. I am the happiest I have ever been since leaving my husband. I love being free. ❤
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I'm recently widowed...such a blessing in my life. I had no idea how much happiness I'd have with just my own company. He's gone, gone, gone and I've never enjoyed my life so much.
I wish I had the guts to do this when I was in my 40’s … I’m 65 in poor health snd still with him 💔
@@karahamil3657 Dr Phil said a few times on his shows. "I'd rather be happy alone than sick with you."
I have been alone for a long time, its really difficult around the Holiday. My family lives three thousands miles away, its really hard not to be around them during this time of year. I came upon your video by accident and was feeling very lonely and was so taken by your strengh. It was a good pick me up and I know I can get through the days, we all have our moments. Excersice daily if only for 30 minutes, I have meet so many ladies in the same position we are in, we are not alone. Keeping busy and having faith is my salvation. I indulge in items that please me, why not it makes me happy. Thank you for a pep talk . I will continue to follow your video.
It's different, though, for those of us who have always been single despite wanting to have a husband. I learned to cope with aloneness in many ways by the time I was 40, but by 60 no one seems interested: I have no family to talk about and people are retiring so not interested in talking about work, however exciting it may be. My Mom recently died and everyone called me at that point, but otherwise, unless I call them, I never hear from anyone. I have lots of interests and activities, but people are few and far between. Like you, I try to call 1 person a week, try to get in touch with people I haven't seen for years, but it is slim pickings and requires me to put out energy when I'm the one who needs support.
I'm so sorry. I know what that is like. I feel out of place everywhere. I'm so sorry you lost your mom. Losing a parent is devastating. I can listen. You are not alone.
Hello Marianela🌸
Your comment is touching.. I wanted to reach out to you.. I can relate to what you said.. I recently have separated and have a 16 year old daughter at home still… we live in Texas..
I would like to reach out to you somehow when it’s a good time.
Blessings to you 😇
I know the feeling, at least u have good contacts
Keep reaching out though. You never know if today's the day you might meet a wonderful friend or more!
I have the same problem I was married young and divorced young after losing a baby. I am the person people turn to but not one they consider a close friend it’s soul destroying sometimes.
Happy birthday, sweet boy! I’ve been living alone 5 years. The happy greeting I get from my precious pup Holly truly transformed my house into a home. I’m so happy to come home to a wagging tail & lots of wet kisses❤
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I do so appreciate this lovely video. 💗 I have been widowed twice. I’m 69. I raised five amazing human beings I get to call my own. There are 10 grandchildren, two of which live very nearby. I am remarried.
My present state of mind? Profound gratitude for the journey. Grateful for the knowledge that every smile AND every tear brought me to this present, perfect moment!
I do surround myself with things that are precious and have meaning. I sincerely try to embrace and cherish every day. 💗 You are a kindred spirit!
Oh Susan, you touched on so many things I can relate to. My niece lived with Ovarian Cancer for almost two years...she lived her best life, knowing she had about 2 years to live, but she had such beauty and poise about her, she was age 38 in 2017 💔. My condolences you lost your dear friend, as much as we try living its sad at times, and I saw your tears, I understood. 💔............... On to that little RED Teapot, I just loved it! ... Red being My favorite color and oh how I love teapots.
I lost everything in 2021 ... my life changed in the blink of an eye. I became homeless and never saw it coming. I had the big house on 168 acres , my dream home. Its taken me a year ( the longest year of my life! ) to re-establist a home, no furniture, not even a bed. I was on several waiting lists for an apartment, I moved in a new ( the apartment building is 14 months old ) so its new. My daughter bought me a twin bed, sheets, and comforter. WE Shopped at thrift stores, I moved in late July this summer 2022. I feel SO RICH! A ROOF OVER MY HEAD/ HEAT/ AC/ I HAVE FOOD ...... And Im warm. Last winter was SOoooo cold, I shivered all winter. ......
Its taking me 3 months to come out of a depressed state, something I never dreamed Id suffer. But now I feel opposite, I feel blessed and happy. And I WILL have me a Christmas tree this year ( a small one ) and my Santa collection was saved , and boxes of other things were also saved, and I feel happy to also have many of my pictures ....I just turned age 69. ......I also want to say how lovely you look in the peach jacket.....and a HAPPY BIRTHDAY to precious little Desi. .... sorry this is so long. I just love you Susan Thanks for being here. ..... Lynn
I am so glad your situation has improved so much! Happy Holidays and Merry Christmas!
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God Bless you!!!❤️😘🙏
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So enjoyed your video. In fact, have enjoyed all of them. As a man, we’re not supposed to show emotion, but, I’ve never really followed that “antiquated” rule. I’m 67 and this will be the first time in my entire life that I will be alone for Christmas. My dear mother passed away this past may 3 weeks before her 87th birthday. Usually I always saw her over Christmas Eve and Christmas morning before she went to my sister’s for the day. I’ve been alone for Christmas before, but, my mother was still alive, just away with the step family and that was fine. I was to the point that I was not even going to bother decorating or putting up a tree, but after watching your video, I’m starting to think differently. Thank you and have a most awesome day!
Wishing you a lovely Christmas! Give yourself a chance to be happy these holidays! Sending a hug! 🎄
“You’re a new woman on a new road.” I felt that!💜
Dear Susan, After my husband went to live in Heaven, I did a severe downsizing, sold my home and moved across country! Yes, it was one of the hardest things I’ve done, but there’s nothing like loss to give stuff perspective. I went through my home and took pictures of it and all the things I didn’t keep. I can look at them if I want…but I don’t because I cherish what comes into my life now. Maybe different…but still lovely and ever-growing me! I like becoming whole in a whole new way! And best woofs to Desi… he’s still a guy having his cake and eating it too🎂 And, Susan, Thanks for sharing that guy who is hanging out with you lately! He has a really nice voice! Sending you love always❤️
Psalm 146:4 when someone dies his spirit goes out, he returns to the ground; on that very day his thoughts perish. John 528,29 Do not be amazed at this, for the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out.
@@egwthe1 Amen
My husband went to heaven 9 years ago, unexpectedly. Life insurance did not cover anything. I was living in Northern CA and had an excellent job. But I could no longer stay, because of rising costs. I decided to go to Ohio where some of my family is. The only thing I could take had to fit in my small ford fiesta. So, pictures and memories were all I could take. Here I am today, with a 2-bedroom apartment, and loving Midwestern life. God has provided everything I need.
@@jazzybee5148 So identify with your story❣️ Blessings, Dear🥰
@@tonihendrix6652 Blessings to you as well!
I agree 100% on single versus married. I was divorced for 30 years and now married for 5. I don’t fear either lifestyle and appreciate the experiences of both. I do feel sorry for the women who have only developed one way then being thrust into the other. One piece of advice is to don’t “fear” anything as it will only limit you.
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Great advice.
I am 69. I spent so much of my life in unfulfilling relationships. I have been living alone for many years and love it. Over two years ago, I downsized from a two bedroom apartment into a one room studio. The process was physically and mentally exhausting, but well worth the effort!
I am about to downsize to maybe a one bedroom. Lots to purge. Glad you like it :)
I loved this video because the older I get the less I value all the stuff I have held onto over the years. I’ve been going through things and I’m only keeping the things I truly love! I still have a way to go but it is a process. Happy Birthday 🎂 Desi
I’m doing the same. I’m not attached to things or stuff. I am blessed to have every single thing I have and appreciate it all but if a fire took it all tomorrow I would be okay. People matter not things.
Ditto!❤️
May God give you the strength to go through this very difficult phase of your life. I don't know how things are in your country but in India oue children surround us and take over......
You are SPOT ON about having things around you that bring YOU happiness. Your home is your haven. If an object makes you sad or brings a bad memory then get rid of it, sell it, give it away, etc. BE FREE!
One of the best videos ever. ❤ I went through a hard divorce after 25 years and 4 children. I was married to by second husband 15 years and then bone cancer took him. I know exactly what you’re talking about in this video. I went through so many emotions and after 4 years, I’m finally moving on. Thanks so much!
I so needed this video of encouragement! I am going thru a hard time with my Dysfunction Family right now. I am having to walk away from all the Emotional Abuse they continue to throw at me. I feel so alone & abandoned by people who should be there to do "life with". I just had a good cry and watched your video. I have so many areas that need healing. Your Words of Wisdom came at such a good time! Thank you!! 🙏💖
Hello Trudy
I cried when you talked about the FIVE things you would take with you if you had to make a choice. I, too, would choose sentimental things. I am 63 years old, and my Grandmother died when I was 3. She had a gorgeous rocking chair with two matching chairs and small table in her room. I was always in there with her playing with her, she died getting up from her rocker to close the blinds, I was right there. I have kept the set with me wherever I go. I have had the chairs reupholstered but the set is in great shape. I feel comfort with these items in my home and will always keep them; it makes my house feel like a home. The other items would be my mother's cup and saucer set, which is displayed on a beautiful three tier shelf, it has 12 different ones and when my best friend comes to visit we will each choose one to drink our coffee in during her visit, they are all very old and very beautiful!
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Thank you for your video which is very relatable to me. I divorced 20 years ago but had another relationship after that for 10 years which didn'twork out. My children have grown up, left home and have their own lives now, and I am very happy for them. I am retired and live alone with my cat in a 2 bedroom townhouse and have to budget carefully, but I don’t lack for anything. I have made lots of new friends through volunteering and other groups I belong to. I have travelled solo many times and there is so much more I want to do! Life is for living!
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This video came on and touched my heart. You have no idea how your words hit me. My husband of 34 years filed for divorce a few months ago and just 2 weeks ago it was finalized. I sit in my apartment feeling alone, empty and forgotten. Then your video began playing and your words were mine. Thank you for speaking to me, I hear you.
Oh you made me cry!!! Congratulations on your freedom and the beautiful new life that is waiting for you! I am so happy you found me and Dez!!! My love to you and yours, Susan
YEs. I know, now moving to TN to start over & am determined to make new friends. I did the right thing by taking care of my parents until the bitter end. I dont have many regrets just wish I had more children in my old age, but then again I am grateful for every little thing. Just being able to get moving is a blessing with a tiny nest egg, so I can sleep not worrying about being homeless. So many don't have a thing, not even fair health.
Same here.
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Happy Birthday to dear, sweet Desi. My home used to be my sanctuary; my safe place away from the world. I was burglarized over a year ago. Except for a few quick trips by there to pick up an item or two, I haven't gone back and I won't every live there again. I don't feel safe. My safe place is gone forever. I was concieved in that house. It was the first home I ever knew. But the feeling of sanctuary is gone forever. I've moved in with my parents. They are elderly and need care. Even though I'm disabled myself I do the best I can. My only safe space now is my bed. But I'll be fine.
I am also learning to live alone. I lost my husband in 2020. Retired in 2021, and then discovered that I spent way too much time sitting and being depressed. I decided to take a part-time job at a Historical site, (a fun place to work!) I have made new friends and also have been able to reconnect with some old friends that life had prevented me from spending time with. I had to decide that life was good! And I was going to enjoy the rest of mine until the Lord calls me home!
You inspire me. Yes, once I stopped worrying, I started enjoying the moment...life is in the present moment❤️
When my house was broken into, the first thing I looked for was my art. Watercolors by my grandparents, that I treasure. They were there! The rest didn't matter.
My husband passed❤❤ last month after 28 years, but i often think about how lonely I was when he was here. I truly loved ❤ I also lost myself. My brother asked me what is it you like I told him i have no idea. But now I do im getting there. Hobbies,Church,traveling something I've never done with family or friend too much. ❤
Happy Birthday to the little guy Desi!
What I do is have lots of cushions and a few throws. My family laugh and say they don’t know anyone with so many cushions! They give my home a cosy welcoming feel. And guess who love to cuddle into all those cushions and throws when they visit?!
Happy Birthday Desi!!! Thank you Susan for posting such uplifting videos. Every Saturday at 8:00 (EST) I start checking You Tube to see if you have posted this weeks video. It’s one of the highlights of my week!
I've been on my own most of my life. I travel alone, I go shopping alone and have no children. In my travels I've been able to be spontaneous and in doing so I've discovered so many beautiful and unexpected places and things. Sometimes I wish there was someone else to share those wonderful moments with, but when things are out of our control, we have to learn to love the moment and enjoy those times , even though we are on our own. With peace and love to you all xx
I love the lessons I learn from you.
Just making the bed and getting dressed everyday was how I started my healing. 3 year journey.
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I lost my husband 5 years ago ... I want to thank you for bring life front and center. I’m not sure that anyone that has experience this kind of loss understands the the severity of the the loss. I so appreciate your take on giving the feeling and the gift of knowing that life does go on. Thank you much for giving us the ability to look forward to a life of knowing that we are okay...
Hello Solo Sisters! What a nice description of the world of serene solitude!
Hi, I just moved into a condo after a divorce and live alone. It has only been 3 months and am in the process of decorating it. I bought all used furniture except the bed. I really appreciate your sunny outlook and emotional honesty about your struggles and strengths. You have been a great inspiration to me. Have a wonderful day ❤
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This was such a gentle, inspiring, compassionate video. Happy Birthday Desi ❤️
I’m 60 and the more videos of yours that I see the more I like your channel. Enjoying your positivity!💐
Susan, you have touched my heart. We have SO much in common, even our age. At 67 I'm struggling to survive my lonely life. Because of withdrawing from everyone, being ashamed of my life, I lost all my friends. I'm not sure I'll ever be happy again. I feel I've used up all my chances. Thank you for your wise, honest words. I don't know where you live, but I wish we were neighbors. :)
Thank you DD Gullible so much for being here! xo Susan
I know your feelings. The feeling of using up all your chances will go away as you realize that creation is an ongoing part of life. As long as you're alive you are creating consciously or unconsciously. You will find things to love again and be enthusiastic to do them or discover them. It does take time. Respect your feelings but realize that they will change. Now is the time to experiment and find things that refresh you.
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HORSES are my love and freedom. There Noble Spirit and presence continues to reinforce in me to gallop on the 🏖, snort and play in the snow. AND be forever grateful for the ❤ the Time God has given us.
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Happy birthday sweet Desi🎉
I am so happy I saw your channel today! I love to see happy women and enjoying the now! Thank you for sharing your life! God bless you!😊
I found your channel yesterday and watched a few videos. I have to say, you are one of the most inspiring people I have found on UA-cam. I am 35 years old and going through hell trying to figure my relationship and life out. But your reminders to just find my inner peace and take care of myself is so truly motivating. I was crying the entire day yesterday until I started listening to your wisdom. I just wanted to share with you how much your words touched my heart. I believe every day will get better from now on. Thank you for being you and sharing your world with the rest of us.
Oh I was having a tough day with the rain and there you go, putting me in a great mood!!!! Love to you and yours, Susan & Desi
Do whatever gives you peace...I had to pay for a divorced and move across the country to find me and it was well worth it have its tough days but I still rather my peace of mind than people and their drama...I find things like gardening Therapeutic being involved in charity and visiting church relaxing too.
I love your story. I felt the same way. My husband died 8 years ago, for the first two years I missed him so much, I didn’t want to do anything. The only thing that is close to me is his cat Phyllis that he loved so much. Then one day, I thought to myself my husband would want me to move on, so I decided to renovate and redecorate my house and give it a new look. I gave away a lot of the things I had that I did not need and kept only the furniture of sentimental value. Then I decided to join the school for seniors, cause I always wanted to learn languages, and there I made a lot of friends who are in the same boat as me and I don’t feel alone anymore.
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For years I was devastated about not meeting Mr. Right and having the 5 children I wanted. In the end I came to realize, 'A man is NOT a plan', and life without headaches is beautiful. I also decided to choose other things to worry about. Loneliness is a state of mind, and I choose not to be in that state. Stoicism, and hard work easily compensates. Sure, singles miss out on invites but really, choosing harmony and no headaches is perfect. I wanted to worry about my children in boarding school, my horses, and riding across the fields in the English countryside where I grew up, and plan glorious dinner parties with interesting people. But my worries were much more mundane. I have now decided to worry about my terracotta mansion on the shores of the Mediterranean in Tuscany. I come up with new poems all the time and love the life I have. Not the one I hoped for! I live in gratitude instead.
You are such a beautiful lady. I wish I could date, but I've had so much abuse I just can't. Your advice about taking stuff that doesn't represent you is spot on. I held on to dead relative's things for decades. Freedom when I let it all go. Relatives bought that stuff for them, not for me. Happy birthday Desi!
Oh I loved reading your words! I did that too!!!!!!!!!!! it feels good to be free!!!
Happy birthday Desi, you handsome little man ❤. Susan I appreciate how raw and honest you are about your life experiences and things you have overcome. You have made a beautiful life for yourself and I so admire you. I lost my husband of 37 years nine years ago to cancer. I am 70 years young now and have found you cant wait for others to fill your time, you have to do this yourself. I love candles and small lights , much as you do , they make me feel cozy in my home especially in the fall and winter months. Do I cry some days? Oh yes I do but I dont tell my family. They are busy with their lives so why burden them with the sadness I feel some days. I have found I cry so easily now. Sometimes it's just a thought or memory or something on TV. I get it out then I move on. I wish you and Desi a fun wonderful blessed week ahead. I will be here next weekend to see you. 😊
You are amazing and beautiful. I’m moving into this stage at 61 and you give me hope. I bought new x-mas lights for the windows of my little place. It makes it look magical. My place is filled with thrift store finds and heirlooms from my Mom and Grandmother. You can’t help but feel loved inside but mostly peaceful and happy. Merry Christmas😊
We live in a 100 year old house. All of our furniture is thrifted, except mattresses. I recently redid a bathroom decorated in the 70s. Instead of ripping it apart, I had the walls painted a bright white, redid the vanity myself and added some carved looking detail with cameos and flowers in all white. I found some vintage shelves and added hooks for towels. My big splurge was a deep stainless sink, quartz countertop, a kitchen faucet, a thrifted mirror and bright lights. I also added a slate looking click in floor. Cost to update, 700 bucks. Using this bathroom = priceless. I can wash, mask, condition my hair in deep sink. I can do hand laundry in deep sink, and eventually wash my dogs 🐕 in the sink. Reduce, reuse, recycle, …… repurpose, redesign, remake.
Sounds lovely! ❤
Happy birthday to adorable Desi. I hope you enjoyed your date tonight Susan. You are uplifting and inspiring. I spent most of my life, married to a man I loved, liked, trusted, because he never gave me one reason not to trust him, or not to like him as a human being. He changed after 32 years. He betrayed me. I never dreamed he would become the person he became. My life, my heart and my soul were totally blown apart. I wish I could say, I got past it as quickly as you did. I had no family to lean on. I had God. It took me several years, to get used to living alone. I am single, I have a wonderful fur baby, and I try to live one day at a time. I like to listen and see you Susan because you always lift my spirits. Thank you and please give Desi some birthday love from me.
Thank you for this message. I’m 57 and sort of starting over again. I moved to my childhood home to care for my disabled brother 7 years ago when our mom died. He passed away this year and I have decided to move back to the city I’d lived in for 30 years before. There is a lot to do and I’ve made friends here that I’ll miss but I know it’s what my heart needs. I am downsizing not only my things but now my Mom’s things and it has been a bit overwhelming. Your advice is sinking in and bringing peace. ❤️
What a timely video. My philosophy in life has always been why worry about the things you can't control. It's the advice I give to my family. I relate to you on so many levels. I was just talking to my sister this week and we talked about how much we loved being by ourselves. This video was fantastic. We only have today, yesterday already happened and we don't know about tomorrow.
I so agree Kelly....we only have today...:) Desi...he has no since of time!!!
It is so true that we are connected to everything! I have been on my own for 15 years. I have not even dated for the last 10 lol it was hard in the beginning, but I am happy with my life and have learned that our happiness does not depend on anyone outside of ourselves. I have a relationship with God and life is GOOD! Happy Birthday to precious Desi! Hugs and love to you Susan.....xoxo Debbie😘❤
Hello my Dear,
I am 37 and discovered you channel by pure coincidence and felt in love immediately, with your peace, grace and amazing ability to tell stories. Listen to you gives me comfort and warm. Thank you 💖
Thank you so much for your kind words! I am so happy you are here! xxoo Susan & Dez
I lost my husband to covid September of 2021. I'm 58 and it's been over a year. I'm still in our home, and I will downsize at some point. There is a lot to take care of, he was a car racer and motorcycle enthusiast. I had so much to take care of. My son lives with me and that helps. Everything was so sudden, one minute he was here 12 Days later gone. I miss him more than life itself. But I know he'd want me to be strong. I will see him again
❤️ I am sorry for your loss.
@@laurawalker546 Thank you 🙏
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I too lost my husband after 16 days of illness. Dec 2021. I was 58. I left the big house behind and moved to a two bedroom apt. I have been here a year now and I feel more free and enjoying some me time! Best to you and your healing.
I know the freedom you are talking about being alone. It's wonderful! Loved your words of wisdom today!
First of all, happy birthday to Desi!!🐶❤️ I will share that I am a widow of almost 3 years now. My husband died suddenly of a brain bleed at the age of 57 in October 2021. And I definitely downsized into a smaller home after that and the things that make my house a home are surrounding myself with pictures of my husband who I miss dearly and little mementos of my mom who has passed over 10 years ago.. also pictures of my grandson who is 2 1/2. These things comfort me and make my house a home. I like you you have a very soothing voice and personality. I think I can learn from you about how to try be happy again since it seems to be something I feel I’ll never have again. It’s so hard to go on without your soulmate your best friend, the love of your life. Grieving is definitely a slow process for me. I just want peace over pain. Thank you for this channel. You made me smile. 😊❤ may God bless.🙏❤️🥰
Happy birthday Desi.All I do is worry and it helps nothing and affects my health but I can’t seem to stop. I do have a lot going on in my life and boy do I long for some peace.❤️
I’m 52, married 21 years and my husband 20+ older is struggling with health problems. I can’t imagine him gone and I’m scared, but this video makes me feel better like there is hope and life beyond. Thank you ❤.
Oh I hope your husband will win his health battles! Thank you so much for being here...:0 xxoo Susan & Dez
Don't imagine him gone. Concentrate on the time you have NOW. Being scared of the future is useless and steals your time and emotions. 💜
Just have faith things will get better am here for you if you need to chat and vent .
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I have never been married but my son will migrate soon to be with his dad. I am happy to hear your ideas on making myself happy....I dreaded being alone. Thanks for those ideas. Peace to you,
This was so inspiring! Desi… the birthday boy… with his little cute cupcake!!!
Thank you so much!!
I just lost my partner of 25 years last night. He passed away from cancer. Stumbling on your video is divine intervention.
oh I am so so sorry for your loss...my heart goes out to you...please take care of yourself......xxoo Susan
So sorry for your loss! May God bring you comfort somehow some way! 😔💕
@@LittlePoet Thank you so much.
@@gypsiemomm Thank you for your kind words.
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I just discovered your podcast, and I'm so glad that I did. 😊 I'm 62, divorced and happily single, officially retiring in 3 weeks, and I will be moving into my own apartment in a couple of months, and living alone for the first time in my life. I'm so looking forward to creating my own home, decorating it the way that I want to, and doing whatever I want to do. I will be buying everything new, starting over basically with nothing. And I look forward to all the shopping. 😁 My new home will have all white furniture, with a lot of colorful butterfly and angel decorations, candles, white twinkling lights, flowers, and photos of my kids and grandkids. I'm so excited to start my new life, and to be able to retire in peace, joy, and new fun adventures! 😊💜
Dearest Susan ~ your words always ring true & at precisely the right time. You’re inspirational! Thank you very much for sharing this subject that women our age are faced with daily. It’s empowering ❤️
Thank you so much Teddie!!!
Thank you for the inspirational pep talk! I too, am tempted to get into that negative rut but I choose not to when I feel it coming on. I am shy but I choose to say something nice or smile at people I do not know. I only say the truth as I feel it. Well, I do admit I feel freer to say those nice things because I am older. Too old to be consider a cougar when I greet those younger men, lol. I do choose to be thankful too. I thank store, fast food workers or people that hold the door open. Most of all, I thank God for being such a great artist. I see the amazing beauty of the fall colors of the trees, the sunset or sunrise, the clouds in the sky, or the moon and I have to catch my breath in awe. Thank you God that I can see Your beautiful works. Happy Birthday Desi and many more!
Thanks for sharing this. I’m 7 weeks and trying to find my way.
Loved this video! It’s been one year since my husband passed away and we were married for 51 years. I found your channel around six months ago and you have helped me deal with so many things that happen when you are suddenly alone. God is using you to help and bless others by sharing your positive attitude and life’s experiences, I wish I could meet you in person and give you a big hug 🤗. Thank you for sharing and God Bless you!!
It is 10 months since my husband of 55 yrs passed away. Was doing well now all of a sudden I am feeling very sad and alone, I have friends and family who are so good. But thinking of holidays is starting to get me anxious. I never saw this video before it is helpful. Nice to know from comments so many others are dealing with this, thanks and God bless you
Loss my husband last thanksgiving after 46 years!
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GloriaFriend2U: I can relate too. We still got to try and live our best life we have left. Prayers going up for everyone going through. Let's hang in there & Keep the Faith, if only the size of a mustardseed.❤️🙏🏻🤗
Reading comments, I see we are a community of beautiful women all feeling the same! Thank you Susan for your thoughtful words many of us feel but forget. Yes, I am alone but I am worth feeling loved even for myself! And darn if I'm going to retreat into self-pity! I am inspired by you to bring my home into a space I love and feel special in! Time for changes! 🥰
As I say everytime I watch you, Little Poet has done it again! ❤️
You bring the words to my feelings and fill my heart with self love and hope! You make me feel like a close friend❣️
Amen! Ditto!❤️
I lost my husband about 2 years ago. I am basically alone. Thank you for helping me be alittle selfish & living for the moment! Vicki F.
I love living on my own too. Your tips really help me... I feel like I'm not alone in this. ❤️👍🏻 This is such a wonderful video as always!! You are so talented Susan... and Funny!! 😀
Have Fun on your date!!👍💕 Can't wait to hear about all about it! You look gorgeous!!! Happy birthday Desi! We love you both!! 😀💕🙏🎂🎉🎈🎈🎈 So glad you're feeling better Susan you look wonderful and I've been praying for you 🙏💕
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Your story about Dani touched my soul. Lately the song “these are the good old days” has been running through my mind. Make memories and live like today is a gift from God ❤
I have NEVER been so much at peace as I have been when began to live alone. Just me and my cat. 🙏 I LOVE it. And I don't feel alone because I know God is always with me.
That is beautiful Scarlett....there is a peace that comes with age that nobody really warned us about....and it's very beautiful!
Very beautifully said ❤
Happy 9th Birthday Desi. 🎂 You are the sweetest.
We never know when our life will change. It can be sad, scary, a challenge & rewarding. It's a new path we were given to travel. We are our own destiny in our life. 🙏 for those who are having sadness & struggles in their lives. May God Bless you and wrap you in his loving arms. ❤ Mary
Thank you Mary Ellen xx
You have made such a difference in my life. In January, 202 I filed for divorce. Your comments about comfort and being terrified hit home. Keep showing up, you are making a big difference for me!!
Thank you Chrystal so much for being here! Congratulation on your freedom!! xo Susan
So happy I found your channel today. I think you are just what I need to help me through the sadness and depression I’m feeling after the loss of my husband of almost 50 years and 3 other family members in the past year. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Looking forward to seeing all of your videos ❤️
Hello Susan how are you doing today?sorry for your lost Susan God gives and take...just keep your hopes alive okay God is still saying something okay...hope you enjoyed the video?
This was amazing. I just had stopped having a good cry when I found this video. This helped me so much tonight. Lost my dear amazing husband May 27. We were/ are both 57 years old. I am a new woman on a new journey too. Not by choice, but I want to be happy. Thank you for helping me go to sleep with some sense of hope.
oh Cindy...I am so sorry for your loss....I am so honored you found me...we will travel this road togther!
I m alone 😍❤❤