I'm 69, retired and living alone. This video is so on the money. I have never been this happy in my life. It is just great. Every day is an exciting time to be alive.
Me too .. i was married twice ..but divorced 11 years ago ..also 69 and no wish to change back to the chaos of being with another woman ...had enough and miss non of it lol .😊
I have quite a few friends and associates who have retired in the last 10 years or so. Like me, they all say "busy?? I've never been so busy in all my life. In fact I dont know how I ever found the time to go to work!"
@@linofreek52 Yep. Same here. No more drama in my life. I love women, but I don't need them. Happiness for me are the simple things in life. The helping of others whenever I can. Short term and long term projects. Completing the short term projects creating a lot of pleasure. Get up early each morning, 4 - 6 AM. Each day, wake up as a better person than I was the day before. I love it!
I am 64 retired and a single man. I can do what I want when I want. I love it ! I worked in a factory of 3,000 employees and don't miss seeing people at all !
I’m 66 and living alone since my ex filed for divorce six years ago. It’s lonely at times but much better than living with a demanding psychopathic woman.
Me too. Lost my husband to Covid almost 3 years ago. I tried several family members and absolutely none worked out. I thought one would stay, but he’s with wife who is a constant source of stress. He said he was done. Told me he’s going back YO GET HIS CAR. HASN’T RETURNED. I’m learning more and more. I m lonely but I am fine, better off alone.
It will be 5 years for me come November. I miss her dearly. Tomorrow would have been my 25th wedding anniversary. I found a woman to have as a GF. Neither of us wants to marry and the massive social, financial, architectural, and family hassles are just not to be misjudged. You can just get smashed in a divorce and your carefully set up will and trust plans just go to zero with a marriage. Best just to stay single.
Same. I am 60, retired, & all my family is now gone. I have 3 adult Daughters, however only my middle 1 has anything to do with me. I have always been an introvert, so this lifestyle suits me just fine! I have gotten along with animals better than people my whole life, even as a kid. Life is great!! I believe focusing on WHO One truly is, & WHAT One wants their life to BE is the secret to real happiness!!
I'm 62 and alone. I don't need judgements, accusations, guilt, being ignored, manipulation, arguments, pain, nor risking half my stuff if it doesn't work out. Relationships are over rated. I think there are actually more than 9 benefits to living alone.
Hello, brother! I’m also 62. Divorced 7 years ago at my initiation. My life has vastly improved since then. It took a while to adjust to being on my own again after 30 years of marriage, but I wouldn’t have it any other way now. I do what I want to do when I want to do it and I do things the way I see fit. No more nagging to put up with. No more dealing with a female who is never happy and never content. Now I have PEACE. Blessed - serene - indescribable - peace. I no longer require blood pressure meds. My weight has dropped. My health has improved. My finances are under control. What is not to like?
My wife of 42 years died the end of January this year. I am 83, too old for dating, and no one could replace my Mary, so I am adapting to being alone.. Actually for the first time in my life I am totally alone. It is taking time, but I am adapting. It's not easy and I miss her so much.
Oh Brother - if I learned anything (I'm 60 in two weeks) I'm certain we don't 'lose' anyone. She is still with you. Glad you had that time - best wishes, dude!
I’m 47 yrs old & my wife of 25yrs passed away in 2022. I’m just now functioning w/o her. It’s a process. Eventually the grief was replaced with purpose. You’re not alone. Think healthy thoughts and pursue positive thinking. Your strong.
You are never too old to date! It's logical that those who have had a solid marriage are not looking for a replacement. However, you would be surprised how enjoyable it is to spend some quality time with women. They offer some interesting perspectives on a wide range of topics. Eating alone is OK, but sharing a meal with a woman truly enhances the dining experience. Give it a try.
Ive been living alone now for 7 months. Im 64 and absolutely love it. I cant think of a single thing I dont enjoy about it. I start every day with a slow cup of good coffee, in total peace. No one pecking at my head constantly. And financially, im so much better off, spending my money on what matters, not a constant stream of rubbish which ends up discarded.
I'm 77 and after a really good marriage of 42 years, I have resorted back to my 1975 Austerity bicycle - scooter life. I go out often at 5 or 6 AM and cyle. Sold the car the month my wife passed, sold the TV and gave away the Christmas tree and decorations. But I don't think I'll ever be without a dog.
I am 63 and have tried living with two women since my divorce 17 years ago. Neither was very satisfying. At this stage of my life it is much easier maintaining my own home and see various women when the mood strikes. After a short time with me, I am ready for her to go. My conclusion regarding women, is they are too much work, create problems I don’t want to deal with and are not that interested to pass my time with. If I want a true companion I will get a dog.
I'm 62, been divorced for almost 20 years and been happily single since. But I do have female roommate and living with someone or having a relationship with them it's pretty much the same. There never happy and still take their issues it out on you. Would rather live by myself, but can't afford it.
So well said. Women are necessary for producing offspring and, if they are traditionally minded, can be fine wives and companions, but sadly most are emotionally unstable, selfish, conniving shrews. Add feminism to the mix and they become completely insufferable and their company unbearable. At 62 I am well-pleased to live alone. I am fine with occasional social interaction with sane, mature, well-adjusted ladies but I have zero desire to marry again or to co-habitate with a woman. The second you share a roof with them they turn into Royal P.I.T.A’s.
Seems to me you have it figured out. And there are loads of 60ish women out there who also 'geddit' now they're more mature. Enjoy them..... Good Luck.
I thought it was lonely being single, then I got married to a narcissist at 35. Became very lonely, lost family and friends and became broke. Divorced at 50, and never been so happy. I thank God every day for my blessings and practice gratefulness
I'm so glad that you're happy, I am too. I can at last cross dress as much as I want without feeling guilty. I even hang out my dresses and undies outside on the washing line and neighbours don't care or bother me...feels wonderful to have this freedom at last without being judged.
Same here !! can,t agree more! I also thank the good lord for every day and the great company of my"cat" I was also divorced at 50, and felt id,e been let out of prison, now at 69, every day is perfect... God bless.. ✝...
That is pretty much my experience. I was divorced at 48 and retired at 64 with a good pension and now debt free at 72 and living a stress free lifestyle.
I can relate to that also. But when I get lonely, I just go to a movie or go for a ride on my TriGlide. Would love for a nice woman to hit me up here. I don't have many people to talk with.
Experienced divorce lawyer here (Pennsylvania and New Jersey). Very few of my gray divorced men are getting remarried. They are happy with their freedom and independence. Many have a romantic partner but keep a separate residence and separate finances. A majority are living their very best lives.
@@robertjohnston8876 I agree with you! I have lived alone since 2008. Have had several beautiful, vivacious, fun women in my life. I travel both solo and with a female partner. I focus on the things that bring me joy. I wish more guys understood and experienced the joy of living alone, yet having a great partner.
I am 76, and have been alone since my wife passed 5 years ago. I pretty much agree with the vid. I just enjoy myself and try to do something positive each day.
Really great video. Hit all the highlights. I got divorced 12 years ago but had kids for the first 10 years, half time. I've had two years completely on my own now and it's heaven. I feel blessed that I had my kids, and now blessed to be alone. As an introvert, I couldn't be happier.
Its been six years since I retired, and 2 since my divorce and while inflation has made it challenging to maintain my lifestyle, living single has helped to manage better, its lonely, as most of my friends and family are still in their routines but It's been easier to stretch my savings and hopefully, I won't outlive it.
I’m nearing retirement myself, and I had similar concerns. I started investing later than most, and just relying on ETF compounding wasn’t cutting it for me. After working with a financial advisor, I managed to restructure my investments and am now on track to retire with around $5 million. If I hadn’t sought advice, I doubt I’d be as confident in my plan right now.
I usually steer clear of recommending specific people because financial needs are so personal. But I can say that working with Emily Ava Milligan has made a world of difference for me. I noticed her strategies are tailored to fit personal goals and make sense for different needs. It might be worth exploring to see if her approach resonates with you.
I enjoyed my job and didn't view it as "a daily grind." I also had a lot of freedom and flexibility. Retirement for me has been all losses and no gains, I'm afraid. Oh well, that’s my fault, I accept that responsibility
I’ve lived alone for 26 years, after a long marriage. Had a job I loved.. from which I am now retired. Loving life in a simple way. Debt free. My own home, vehicle, and cat.. in the country. I hope all can have what they desire and deserve.
@@BlueLineGroovy I'm an expat in the Philippines, hoping to meet a wonderful Filipina to share my life. I have already been badly burned once, and so I am more careful now.
This resonates so well with me! At 55 I am single since 6 years and it is such freedom! I discovered how frugal I can live and still just enjoy it. I mainly like hiking in nature, excersising in nature and home gym, and read books. I go to private dinners sometimes but am mainly alone and enjoy it. It's easier to both get fit and save/invest when you're alone. I spend money on my daughter but rarely on myself except new running shoes when an update is needed. It is incredible how liberating it is when you decide to cut out women from your life and stay single. Peace, freedom and creativity!
To jans724..that exactly how I feel free to do anything i want to, dont have to have any body living with me, extremely happy,i personaly think its the lord making me feel this way he knows i want to do right no matter how many things are trying to pull me the wrong way, it such a feeling of delight ,i realy have a hard time trying to explain it. All i know is that i love it ,I hope it keeps on like this ,god bess you
56, I am at a level of REALLY enjoying this. I do not even feel the need to date. It's just another level of awesome. Might not work for everyone but works for me. To not filter your thoughts or actions through another brain is so liberating.
Excellent - it IS liberating, isn't it? I went thru a phase of mad, late-life 'dating' (screwing) - and it was fun, but (like alcohol) somewhat toxic. Look after oneself I guess.... be nice to meet The One - but..... I'll have to do for now. Best wishes, mate.
To dwightbrown i know exactly whar your talking about, i feel the same way, i think the lord supplys that to us because he knows that we want to do right,but the deck is stacked aginst us so he makes a way where there was no way
It's been 50 years since i went on a date. I wouldn't even know what to do any more! Frankly i dont want to have to learn. Women are so complicated - i know that's what makes them so infuriatingly fascinating but i dont really want to be bothered trying to figure them out any more. I'd rather go out to my workshop and do some woodwork, even if all i make is sawdust.
I miss my wife and would give up everything I own to have her alive again but that isn't possible and no one can replace her. Living alone allows me to continue to be the man she loved and I don't have to change for someone else.
I agree. My wife came into my life at primary school when i was 7, died 10 years ago when i was 64. So for all practical purposes she was in my life for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health till death did us part. I still have her around in my head - when i trip over something i yell at her for deliberately setting a trap, we discuss things together inside my head, but in the end its peaceful. I dont find i miss her as much as i thought i would, because she's still interacting with me inside my head. But there are some days when it hurts so much i dont know what to do. She was the last person alive to know about any of the things of our childhood.
I’m 78 years old,my wife died 5 years ago, in the beginning it was hard after 50 years of marriage but now I’m feel better (time heals) I’m enjoy seniors club,I still missing her.
My wife of 57 yrs died 10 months ago. I am moving forward with family friends & full time business. My farms take my extra time along with family activity. It isn’t my choice but my wife Would want the time left at 79 yrs to be filled with happy memories w friends and family plus my hobbies which are numerous If someone comes along so be it but is not a first priority in life
I'm 64. I love living alone. I remember sharing places with people when I was younger. Sure it had its positive side , but I wouldn't want the dramas , and issues again.
True, for a younger man as well. I'm 78 and have lived alone since I was 27. Never regretted a moment of it. Got to visit 73 countries so far taking photos of whatever interests me, like exotic butterflies in Costa Rica. The possibilities are endless.
I spent twelve years married between 2 wives 35 years ago. Living without criticism of any kind is much better. I only spend 600 a month to live and save 2000 a month in metal. Travel overseas is easy and nice. The US can collapse or go crazy and I can move out to a nicer place. I'm not a collector so I travel light. I don't often have health issues so don't bother with health insurance. I always did repair of my own things. My interest of finance and world affairs keep me busy learning current situations. I like sailing, may get a boat to travel. I'm a Christian and traveled to learn more. The key is Jesus Commandment on the Tablets in Axum, Ethiopia. Churchs that display it are the wheat, the chaf are the others. A cross doesn't make you a Christian, his Commandment to Love others does. Just act accordingly. The return of the Arc to Israel, so they learn of him ushers in the Rapture. Be ready. It's coming soon.
i lived alone from 40 to 55 then met my wife now I live in chaos; now I reminice of how sweet it was'im 70 now; Im aloways doing things she wants to do that I have no interrest in
I spent over 35 years married (twice). I absolutely love living alone and living my life my way. Yap, yap, yap with their way always the best. Woman are all the same. No thanks, never again.
Married at 35 and divorced at 50. Love living alone. Busy with many different things, and interests Turning 80 this month and enjoying great health. Have a great girlfriend. We live apart and that works out perfectly. We never fight because there is nothing to fight over. Marriage can be wonderful; it can also be hell. Remember - look after loved ones but always look after #1 as well. Great video. Thanks
I've had the best of all worlds. I grew up in a tough industrial neighborhood in the '40s and '50s. In the '60s, '70s, & '80s I was single and carefree, including my stints in college and the military. Then I married a wonderful, loving, and caring woman in 1990 until her death in 2020. And now, I'm once again, a single man ... healthy, carefree, and content with my monk life. Fortunately, I'm able to help others, without a need for thanks or repayment.
I was 50 B4 I ever loved alone. I ABSOLUTELY LOVE IT! Doing what you want when you want. I'm not afraid to live or being alone. I was an only child for a while growing up. Had a vivid imagination and always amused myself. My father took a lot of time with me and taught me so much.I appreciate company but I love my life like it is.
I'm 64 and never married, and love it! It is just so stressful when relatives come to visit; I can't wait for them to leave so I can do what I want again!! Just the fact that you have to be considerate of another person in your space is stressful! Sometimes I wish I had kids when I need some yard work done or something, but then I remember my slave driver father and get to work.
I'm 72 and have never married, though I've wanted to be. I have a lady-friend who is in her 80s that I've known for over 32 years, but we live a few states apart. I visit a few times a year, and keep in touch by phone, but after a week or so together I believe we're both ready for me to go home. When I hear of all the divorces, and the squabbles in other couples, I suspect I'm actually the fortunate one, in good health with sanity and finances intact. My parents lived to their 90s, so I sometimes wonder what my life will be like in a couple decades if I follow suit.
I'm 81, have been living alone for over 20 years. I love it. my life and my mind is my own. Don't have to do what others want me to do. While not not wealthy. God, provides for all my needs.
Takes a while to figure that out though, doesn't it?! Did for me - He kept knocking and I kept not hearing it until very recently. I am the smallest, but squeakiest wheel in His collection I reckon 🙂
I am 63 and all these things ring true for me. I'm retired and live frugally on a modest teacher's pension. It allows me significant personal freedom that brings peace and contentment.
I'm 73, widow and living alone in my flat here in bgc Philippines . This decision to live alone is the best that I did. More often my children and grandchildren come and visit me and sleep over sometime. Solitude is addictive ❤
No Medicare in Philippines Think twice Best to go visit 1 to 3 months few times then see how you are Major medical problem you pay up front No 911 Noisy, chickens, barking dogs, trikes, traffic, brown outs daily, horrible infrastructure Wonderful friendly people Lived there, married there in Philippines before, now alone in Oregon USA 2 cats at 73 very peaceful Only worry who's going to help me if I'm sick Elder orphan here but God is Good Again be careful
I (78) just lost my dear husband one week ago and this video has been so good for me. I needed something to pull me back up. It will help me move forward and figure out what is next. Thank you so much….
@@anniesmith2 I'm so sorry for your loss. It's incredibly brave of you to reach out and share your feelings during such a time. I'm glad the video could offer you some comfort and a sense of direction. Remember to take things one step at a time, and know that it's okay to grieve while also finding small moments that help you heal and move forward.
I love being alone the peace and quiet is so rewarding. My ex-wife died when my youngest was 9 years old, and I became a single father. He turned out better than his 3 other siblings. My daughter has moved in and out several times with her significant others and children, and I hate it so much when she does. I always look forward to her moving out again. I like having my personal space. I'm going through such a circumstance right now. I'm 71 and I don't think I'm going to survive this time.
I could not agree more! I am in my 60s. I have lived alone, and moved to a beachtown in Costa Rica.🏖 I work at and maintain a athletic body, by hiking, swimming and biking. Franky, I'm not sure I could maintain a long term relationship with a woman, I have become accustomed to total freedom!
Good that I found this video. I’m 73 and a retired hospice bereavement counselor. This video has confirmed what I’m feeling/going thru now. Wife of 25 year died in 2021. The grief was immense and life changing. Gradually started enjoying my solitary lifestyle and now love it. The US mainstream health advise is to keep an active social life for optimum mental health. I thought something was wrong with me enjoying solitude so much. Currently have no plans, goals or project, just what is in front of me in each moment. I love putzing in my yard and gardens. I call it outstanding in my field. Gratitude gratitude, gratitude.
To everyone watching this, I truly hope you find peace, health, and good fortune on your journey. Living alone can be a powerful time for self-reflection, growth, and understanding who we are. It may come with its challenges, but the independence and peace it brings can be a true blessing. This video beautifully captures the freedom and resilience that come with embracing solitude as an older man. Let’s celebrate this phase of life with strength and optimism!
At 62 I have been divorced nearly 20 years and retired for 12 years now so I have experienced many of the benefits listed in the video and I love it, life can be so peaceful plus rewarding when you get away from the rat race. A soul should be able to enjoy the fruits of their labor in this world and that's what freedom is all about, sleeping in, reading a book, paint a picture or play an instrument, maybe get a new hobby, live life to the fullest!
Thanks. A widower of 12 years, this caused me to reflect on the positives of living alone (with my dogs) in ways I hadn't completely appreciated before.
I still go through life like a guy in his 30's but I'm officially an older guy at 62. Without a doubt, by far, no gray area whatsoever, the best part of getting older is the freedom. Keeping things simple, avoiding hassles and drama, not overcommitting to any person or activity is very liberating. Saying "no" more often and actually planning less, doing less, greatest transition you can imagine.
0:51 Freedom to be Yourself 2:19 Peace & Quiet 3:48 Personal Growth & Self Discovery 5:26 Control over Your Environment 6:53 Financial Independence 8:21 Improved Mental Health 9:51 Strengthened Relationships 11:06 Independence & Confidence 12:30 Rediscovery of Simple Pleasures
I’m 73 years old, I cherish absolutely cherish my privacy, there is no drama. If I want to go out on my road bike for a couple miles or working in my garage doing woodworking projects. I can’t say enough on how I cherish quiet.
I am 75, live alone after my stroke 5 years ago. I have a son 50 , but every family member has died. Not x wives. I got so much I enjoy doing here at home! Like the others say, no one to dictate where and when! Me and a few other old men get together every Monday 10 am, 2 cold beers then home for a nap!!!
one "compromise " that really helps if you are married is, have separate bedrooms . i stay up late watching tv and my wife goes to bed at eight or nine but gets up at four . so have separate quiet areas is wonderful for recharging fully .
Most of this applies to men of any age. I lived alone for 20+ years after a divorce. I never once was lonesome. I loved doing what I wanted, when I wanted.
I am 68 and have lived alone since my wife passed away 14 months ago. While there are definite benefits,I do get lonely. So,following friends suggestions,I joined an on line dating site. After filtering through a number of women,I have found one who shares many of my interests and we have formed a strong connection/chemistry. I find myself being much happier since finding her.
I am 73 and enjoy being alone. I am not anti-social; I like socializing and chatting, but when I return home, I always feel grateful and blessed. I hope I can continue to feel this way through God's grace.
I don't have any trouble experiencing these things with my bride of 32 years. She respects my space. I get all the alone time I need. OTH, when I ran into physical complications that required immediate medical attention, she was there to drive me to the ER at 12, 2, 4 AM. Once I required major surgery and she gladly stayed the night with me in the hospital, curled up in that small bed. Being opened up like fish fillet was a big deal. She's the only reliable family I have.
@@stevebc957 So far we've encountered at least 3 other women with her exact married name. One of them died recently who just happened to live in the same city we do. As for cloning, be careful what you ask for. Beautiful flowers sometimes come with sharp thorns. My bride is no different.
Some people really enjoy being alone. I am not one of them. My wife is my lover and a very nice woman. We get along very well. We have been married for over forty years. My father lived alone and died from a fall. He would have lived if he was not alone.
I am 80 and have lived on my own from age 50. My relationship with my children is enhanced by their knowledge of my happy independence. In the past 30 years, I have immersed myself in a latent passion, music composition and song writing, all self taught and applied as a true amateur. It is a never ending journey. With this, and the necessity of solely looking after myself, I have never enough hours in the day. I have produced 50 original pieces of music and I can't wait to get to the next. I would never have discovered this joy had I not lived in this extraordinary and rewarding condition.
I’m 86 years old. I live alone in a foreign country; I am deaf and do not speak the local language. I suffer from clinical depression and find life difficult unfortunately.
Been retired, and living alone for quite some time. I enjoy it immensely. Get to go, and come as I please especially since I enjoy to travel. Keeping my home clean, and organized isn’t a problem. I even enjoy it. Never have a problem finding things around the house, because I know where I left them. And when I do miss interacting with people I do so, but I enjoy my solitude. Even make better time to organize my schedule for exercise, self care,and focusing on my health. Life is good!😃
Older men who have had relatively stable lives generally do well in living alone. Those who have not cultivated good relationships or taken care of their physical health are the ones who suffer and start looking for female nursemaids.
I'm 52 and lived with two women, or rather they lived with me, both times it was a nightmare and I doubt I'll ever let another woman live in my house. I have all the company and friends I need and being in a relationship is very much overrated, I'm guessing it was a woman who started that myth.
I'm 70, divorced 22 years ago, two wonderful daughters, retired at age 59, absolutely love retirement and being alone. At retirement I'm now a mediocre guitar player and now learning the bass, keyboards and harmonica. I can play anytime being alone! Love it!!
Tocharleslindsay3201 thats great i love to hear that you doing great,makes me feal.good.if any of you fellows care to write, be my guest iwould love to here from you
Lost my wife to cancer 15 years ago its difficult at first but then comes acceptance. Women dont age as well as men and once they hit 60 or 70 they are not required so its probably far more difficult for them than it is for men. I agree with most of what you say.
1.Farting, 2. Not lifting the seat, 3. Dribbling on the toilet mat. 4. Leaving the cap off the toothpaste. 5. Listening to YOUR music. 6. The remote control. 7. Putting the bin out when it suits you. 8. Eating when and what you like. 9. Putting food in the pantry and beer in the fridge. And many, many others!!
@@kevinmckinney3785 that settles it im going in and going to pee all.over the seat on purpose, and leave it that way and maybe trackmud In the kitchen and jus leave it there to enjoy
I’m 56 and been single about 6 years now, if you combine the separation and divorce. I met my first wife when I was 17 and my second right after being separated. I have never really been single for any part of my life. I dated after being separated and just wasn’t feeling it. It’s stressful and at this point I don’t see the benefit outweighing the input. I stopped dating about 3-4 years ago. I bought a super car and an RV this year and have a group of guy friends and we go to shows and extended drives. Going to do a rally next month. I am currently looking at boats and considering doing the great loop now. I just want to enjoy life and so far I am enjoying the peace and solitude. I am still open to a woman joining if she isn’t stressful but I don’t see that being possible at this point. Most women are just inherently discontented in my observation. My married friends talk often about their wives being unhappy no matter what. I feel like I have finally gotten off the hamster wheel and the view once you do is entirely different.
Fantastic video! I live with a partner who is in many ways more trouble than he’s worth. He has been going away and taking care of his ex for ten years. Not sure why I have put up with it all these years but I have enjoyed all the months of solitude. This video makes me realize that going it alone may be a solution to my dilemma.
I'm 72, never been married, have no kids, and am happy as hell! I do what I want, when I want to. I spend my money any way I please. It's truly a wonderful life!
79 and live alone. Married twice, but they’r gone - what’s the big deal? Finally, I only make decisions for myself - kids grown and have their families. Enjoy life, go to library and bring home arm full of books; unplug ur television, watch the wildlife, never a dull moment.
74 and always single. The big benefit of solitude is personal freedom. No drama and head-games to suck the joy out of life. I enjoy other people in small doses and it is easier to look after my health. I find my life has been satisfying with few regrets.
All good stuff! I'm 65 and have been on my own for 10+ years. Best time of my life and it's only getting better. Gentlemen, the clock is ticking for all of us. Make the most of whatever time you have left. Invest in yourself and enjoy your freedom!
I just turned 78 and my wonderful husband died 3 years ago. I made a HUGE mistake letting a young (61) friend and his elderly parents move into my home temporarily, told them 6 months. Now they are here 2 years already!! May have to sell my house to get them out. Once I by myself again, I will NEVER allow anyone to live with me again!!!! You are blessed, sir, I envy you!
@@46FreddieMercury91 Yes, I’ve already thought of that, but I’m afraid of what might happen if I go that route, plus the parents are in their 90s with dementia and physical problems….
@@carolblair2845 understandable but it's a discussion you need to have if the situation is making you unhappy. It's your house. If they're genuine friends they'll understand. If not you better off without. Are you in the UK? If so you can speak to citizens advice. Remember, you said 6 months. They've taken advantage regardless of how you rationalise it. 2 years will become 4 , then what?
@@46FreddieMercury91 I’m In Arizona. The young man is the paid caregiver for his parents . Their dementia renders them unable to have a discussion about anything. I believe I will be able to get him to move as I need to have both knees replaced starting at the beginning of the year and will need a live-in caregiver for a short time myself….and it won’t be a man! Anyway, thank you for listening to me, you seem like a very kind person. I made a stupid decision to help out a friend and it backfired big time. Live and learn I guess. 😏
@@carolblair2845 ok, well I still think you need to get some advice about the best way to handle this, maybe from a local authority. You can do this without telling your " lodgers". I hate to see someone's kindness taken advantage of, but sooner or later this is going to have to be dealt with. Don't wait until you need a carer yourself. Good luck. You're welcome to update me if you ever wish.
good video. there was a book published in the 70's called "living alone and liking it" loved it and i was in my early 20's. someone once told me that a man without a woman is like a fish without a bicycle. how true it is !!
I'm 76 yrs. young and have been living by myself for over 20 yrs. I live alone but I am not lonely!!!!!! I love it.
Well, that's good, I'm so proud of you. You just keep doing that, hopefully we can be friend though?
@@FloresPatterson
Do you enjoy being alone?
Do you have hobbies?
@@boscodog4358 Nope! Well, i do love the outdoors adventures going on road trips, camping and hiking or camping next to a creek
@@boscodog4358 How about you?
@@FloresPatterson
Do you think that it's possible to become friends like this?
I saw a comment on another channel: “Retirement is like being 12 years old, but with money and a drivers license. And every day is Saturday”.
Amen brother, I can testify to that. Actually now living the dream.
Yes
Every day is a day off.
Every night is Friday nights.
That is me half the year, but not retired. Single guys don't have to work their youth away if they are smart about it.
@@SuperBlobsterMan agreed as a single 41-year-old I feel like that every day after work.
I'm 69, retired and living alone. This video is so on the money.
I have never been this happy in my life. It is just great. Every day is an exciting time to be alive.
Me too .. i was married twice ..but divorced 11 years ago ..also 69 and no wish to change
back to the chaos of being with another woman ...had enough and miss non of it lol .😊
Well, that's good, I'm so proud of you. You just keep doing that, hopefully we can be friend though?
No sex? That what bothers me when I consider leaving my marriage
I have quite a few friends and associates who have retired in the last 10 years or so. Like me, they all say "busy?? I've never been so busy in all my life. In fact I dont know how I ever found the time to go to work!"
@@linofreek52 Yep. Same here. No more drama in my life. I love women, but I don't need them.
Happiness for me are the simple things in life. The helping of others whenever I can. Short term and long term projects. Completing the short term projects creating a lot of pleasure. Get up early each morning, 4 - 6 AM. Each day, wake up as a better person than I was the day before. I love it!
I am 64 retired and a single man. I can do what I want when I want. I love it ! I worked in a factory of 3,000 employees and don't miss seeing people at all !
Well, that's good, I'm so proud of you. You just keep doing that, hopefully we can be friend though?
"it is better to be alone than to wish youb were."
I’m 66 and living alone since my ex filed for divorce six years ago. It’s lonely at times but much better than living with a demanding psychopathic woman.
Yep. It's all good. No nagging.
Yup no bullshit to deal with
Mine was a narcissist. Made life hell for everyone.
I hear you
Mine was a slob
I have been widowed for 6 plus years now, and I have never been happier. I miss my wife, but I am truly content being alone.
@@Sheepdawg7 Glad you've found peace and contentment. It's also great to hear you've embraced this chapter of your life. Thank you for sharing!
Me too. Lost my husband to Covid almost 3 years ago. I tried several family members and absolutely none worked out. I thought one would stay, but he’s with wife who is a constant source of stress. He said he was done. Told me he’s going back YO GET HIS CAR. HASN’T RETURNED. I’m learning more and more. I m lonely but I am fine, better off alone.
It's been 5 years for me, and I also miss my dear wife, but being alone suits me fine.
Sorry for your loss! But glad you found peaceful living!
It will be 5 years for me come November. I miss her dearly. Tomorrow would have been my 25th wedding anniversary. I found a woman to have as a GF. Neither of us wants to marry and the massive social, financial, architectural, and family hassles are just not to be misjudged. You can just get smashed in a divorce and your carefully set up will and trust plans just go to zero with a marriage. Best just to stay single.
65 here, i outlived my family and friends. now i got nobody. but i'm not lonely. it's relaxing being by oneself.
65 and out lived everyone already...ur my moms age
Youth is only temporary! Time goes by fast.
Yes. The premise of this video sounds great, but a lonely existence
Same. I am 60, retired, & all my family is now gone. I have 3 adult Daughters, however only my middle 1 has anything to do with me. I have always been an introvert, so this lifestyle suits me just fine! I have gotten along with animals better than people my whole life, even as a kid. Life is great!! I believe focusing on WHO One truly is, & WHAT One wants their life to BE is the secret to real happiness!!
@@jackdavis768 Amen! I get along with animals better than people also. i'm ok with that.
I'm 62 and alone. I don't need judgements, accusations, guilt, being ignored, manipulation, arguments, pain, nor risking half my stuff if it doesn't work out. Relationships are over rated. I think there are actually more than 9 benefits to living alone.
But did you take out the trash can? Empty the dishes? You're always so distant. Did you do the groceries? ....
@@jans724 Always so distant? You don't know me. What are you talking about?
@@xfiles4792 it was a nagging joke.
@@jans724 I didn't get it. That might better explain why I'm single. LOL.
Hello, brother! I’m also 62. Divorced 7 years ago at my initiation. My life has vastly improved since then. It took a while to adjust to being on my own again after 30 years of marriage, but I wouldn’t have it any other way now.
I do what I want to do when I want to do it and I do things the way I see fit. No more nagging to put up with. No more dealing with a female who is never happy and never content.
Now I have PEACE. Blessed - serene - indescribable - peace.
I no longer require blood pressure meds. My weight has dropped. My health has improved. My finances are under control. What is not to like?
My wife of 42 years died the end of January this year. I am 83, too old for dating, and no one could replace my Mary, so I am adapting to being alone.. Actually for the first time in my life I am totally alone. It is taking time, but I am adapting. It's not easy and I miss her so much.
Oh Brother - if I learned anything (I'm 60 in two weeks) I'm certain we don't 'lose' anyone. She is still with you. Glad you had that time - best wishes, dude!
I'm 67 and moving from US to SE Asia next year. Dating is much different there. Not sure if I will, but the option exists.
I’m 47 yrs old & my wife of 25yrs passed away in 2022. I’m just now functioning w/o her. It’s a process. Eventually the grief was replaced with purpose. You’re not alone. Think healthy thoughts and pursue positive thinking. Your strong.
Life is the blinking of an eye 👁 you will soon be together again.
You are never too old to date! It's logical that those who have had a solid marriage are not looking for a replacement. However, you would be surprised how enjoyable it is to spend some quality time with women. They offer some interesting perspectives on a wide range of topics. Eating alone is OK, but sharing a meal with a woman truly enhances the dining experience. Give it a try.
58 divorced 10 years ago. The best 10 years of my life.
Getting divorced was probably the best decision I ever made.
As it should be..congratulations..may you enjoy each and every second
Ive been living alone now for 7 months. Im 64 and absolutely love it. I cant think of a single thing I dont enjoy about it. I start every day with a slow cup of good coffee, in total peace. No one pecking at my head constantly. And financially, im so much better off, spending my money on what matters, not a constant stream of rubbish which ends up discarded.
I'm 77 and after a really good marriage of 42 years, I have resorted back to my 1975 Austerity bicycle - scooter life. I go out often at 5 or 6 AM and cyle. Sold the car the month my wife passed, sold the TV and gave away the Christmas tree and decorations.
But I don't think I'll ever be without a dog.
Peace and quiet are under appreciated.
Reduced stress has many health benefits.
Google : The health benefits of several
hours of total SOLITUDE each day.
I think Jesus may want us to be hen pecked so we can learn forebearance
It s for our own good
I am 63 and have tried living with two women since my divorce 17 years ago. Neither was very satisfying. At this stage of my life it is much easier maintaining my own home and see various women when the mood strikes. After a short time with me, I am ready for her to go. My conclusion regarding women, is they are too much work, create problems I don’t want to deal with and are not that interested to pass my time with. If I want a true companion I will get a dog.
I'm 62, been divorced for almost 20 years and been happily single since. But I do have female roommate and living with someone or having a relationship with them it's pretty much the same. There never happy and still take their issues it out on you. Would rather live by myself, but can't afford it.
So well said. Women are necessary for producing offspring and, if they are traditionally minded, can be fine wives and companions, but sadly most are emotionally unstable, selfish, conniving shrews. Add feminism to the mix and they become completely insufferable and their company unbearable.
At 62 I am well-pleased to live alone. I am fine with occasional social interaction with sane, mature, well-adjusted ladies but I have zero desire to marry again or to co-habitate with a woman. The second you share a roof with them they turn into Royal P.I.T.A’s.
Seems to me you have it figured out. And there are loads of 60ish women out there who also 'geddit' now they're more mature. Enjoy them..... Good Luck.
I have a dog. Nuff said.
they only good for one thing
I thought it was lonely being single, then I got married to a narcissist at 35.
Became very lonely, lost family and friends and became broke.
Divorced at 50, and never been so happy.
I thank God every day for my blessings and practice gratefulness
I'm so glad that you're happy, I am too. I can at last cross dress as much as I want without feeling guilty. I even hang out my dresses and undies outside on the washing line and neighbours don't care or bother me...feels wonderful to have this freedom at last without being judged.
Excellent. Nobody can be grateful and unhappy at the same time!
Same here !! can,t agree more! I also thank the good lord for every day and the great company of my"cat" I was also divorced at 50, and felt id,e been let out of prison, now at 69, every day is perfect... God bless.. ✝...
That is pretty much my experience. I was divorced at 48 and retired at 64 with a good pension and now debt free at 72 and living a stress free lifestyle.
I get lonely from time to time but feel more at peace and fulfilled.
Well, that's good, I'm so proud of you. You just keep doing that, hopefully we can be friend though?
I can relate
I can relate to that also.
But when I get lonely, I just go to a movie or go for a ride on my TriGlide.
Would love for a nice woman to hit me up here. I don't have many people to talk with.
Experienced divorce lawyer here (Pennsylvania and New Jersey). Very few of my gray divorced men are getting remarried. They are happy with their freedom and independence. Many have a romantic partner but keep a separate residence and separate finances. A majority are living their very best lives.
@@marianmoses9604 Great comment! I agree!
Same here
My friends who got divorced and married single mothers regret it
I have lived alone for 30 years and love it.
@@robertjohnston8876 I agree with you! I have lived alone since 2008. Have had several beautiful, vivacious, fun women in my life. I travel both solo and with a female partner. I focus on the things that bring me joy. I wish more guys understood and experienced the joy of living alone, yet having a great partner.
Thank you for the experienced insights... Are you divorced, yourself? I could not be in your profession, and be married...
1000%
I am 76, and have been alone since my wife passed 5 years ago. I pretty much agree with the vid. I just enjoy myself and try to do something positive each day.
POSITIVE = CONSTRUCTIVE
Really great video. Hit all the highlights. I got divorced 12 years ago but had kids for the first 10 years, half time. I've had two years completely on my own now and it's heaven. I feel blessed that I had my kids, and now blessed to be alone. As an introvert, I couldn't be happier.
Its been six years since I retired, and 2 since my divorce and while inflation has made it challenging to maintain my lifestyle, living single has helped to manage better, its lonely, as most of my friends and family are still in their routines but It's been easier to stretch my savings and hopefully, I won't outlive it.
I’m nearing retirement myself, and I had similar concerns. I started investing later than most, and just relying on ETF compounding wasn’t cutting it for me. After working with a financial advisor, I managed to restructure my investments and am now on track to retire with around $5 million. If I hadn’t sought advice, I doubt I’d be as confident in my plan right now.
I’m trying to figure out the best approach for my portfolio. How did you find your advisor? I feel like I need that kind of guidance
I usually steer clear of recommending specific people because financial needs are so personal. But I can say that working with Emily Ava Milligan has made a world of difference for me. I noticed her strategies are tailored to fit personal goals and make sense for different needs. It might be worth exploring to see if her approach resonates with you.
Thanks for that. I did a quick search and found her page. I was able to email so I sent over a few questions to get more info. Appreciate you sharing
I enjoyed my job and didn't view it as "a daily grind." I also had a lot of freedom and flexibility. Retirement for me has been all losses and no gains, I'm afraid. Oh well, that’s my fault, I accept that responsibility
I’ve lived alone for 26 years, after a long marriage. Had a job I loved.. from which I am now retired. Loving life in a simple way. Debt free. My own home, vehicle, and cat.. in the country. I hope all can have what they desire and deserve.
Sir, you are in Heaven as compared to most men.
@@JohnGrigg-gz9gm Yes, Sir. Thank you. I am grateful every day. I don’t take this chapter for granted.. we all know how quickly things can change. 💕⭐️
@@BlueLineGroovy I'm an expat in the Philippines, hoping to meet a wonderful Filipina to share my life. I have already been badly burned once, and so I am more careful now.
I'm 65. I lost my ex to my friend. Thank you. I love the peace ✌️
Now…. That’s what I call a real friend 👍🏼
Me too! He saved me from the stupidest mistake of my life.
This resonates so well with me! At 55 I am single since 6 years and it is such freedom! I discovered how frugal I can live and still just enjoy it. I mainly like hiking in nature, excersising in nature and home gym, and read books. I go to private dinners sometimes but am mainly alone and enjoy it. It's easier to both get fit and save/invest when you're alone. I spend money on my daughter but rarely on myself except new running shoes when an update is needed. It is incredible how liberating it is when you decide to cut out women from your life and stay single. Peace, freedom and creativity!
Well, that's good, I'm so proud of you. You just keep doing that, hopefully we can be friend though?
To jans724..that exactly how I feel free to do anything i want to, dont have to have any body living with me, extremely happy,i personaly think its the lord making me feel this way he knows i want to do right no matter how many things are trying to pull me the wrong way, it such a feeling of delight ,i realy have a hard time trying to explain it. All i know is that i love it ,I hope it keeps on like this ,god bess you
56, I am at a level of REALLY enjoying this. I do not even feel the need to date. It's just another level of awesome. Might not work for everyone but works for me. To not filter your thoughts or actions through another brain is so liberating.
Excellent - it IS liberating, isn't it? I went thru a phase of mad, late-life 'dating' (screwing) - and it was fun, but (like alcohol) somewhat toxic. Look after oneself I guess.... be nice to meet The One - but..... I'll have to do for now. Best wishes, mate.
To dwightbrown i know exactly whar your talking about, i feel the same way, i think the lord supplys that to us because he knows that we want to do right,but the deck is stacked aginst us so he makes a way where there was no way
It's been 50 years since i went on a date. I wouldn't even know what to do any more! Frankly i dont want to have to learn. Women are so complicated - i know that's what makes them so infuriatingly fascinating but i dont really want to be bothered trying to figure them out any more. I'd rather go out to my workshop and do some woodwork, even if all i make is sawdust.
I miss my wife and would give up everything I own to have her alive again but that isn't possible and no one can replace her. Living alone allows me to continue to be the man she loved and I don't have to change for someone else.
What does ' The Word Of God ' say in your case ?
no godly wife no good life
I agree. My wife came into my life at primary school when i was 7, died 10 years ago when i was 64. So for all practical purposes she was in my life for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health till death did us part. I still have her around in my head - when i trip over something i yell at her for deliberately setting a trap, we discuss things together inside my head, but in the end its peaceful. I dont find i miss her as much as i thought i would, because she's still interacting with me inside my head. But there are some days when it hurts so much i dont know what to do. She was the last person alive to know about any of the things of our childhood.
I’m 78 years old,my wife died 5 years ago, in the beginning it was hard after 50 years of marriage but now I’m feel better (time heals) I’m enjoy seniors club,I still missing her.
My wife of 57 yrs died 10 months ago. I am moving forward with family friends & full time business. My farms take my extra time along with family activity. It isn’t my choice but my wife
Would want the time left at 79 yrs to be filled with happy memories w friends and family plus my hobbies which are numerous If someone comes along so be it but is not a first priority in life
Well, that's good, I'm so proud of you. You just keep doing that, hopefully we can be friend though?
59 and on my own. I love my freedom and my retirement. It is a pleasure not to be bothered by anyone. Intimacy is up to me and I love the empowerment.
I've lived alone for 8 yrs now...the only time in my life I felt loneliness was the last 6 yrs of my marriage. Life is good.
66 here. I live alone with my cat. We get on well and are happy and relaxed. Daytime sleeping, oh yeah! 🎉
I too am 66 and live alone with my cat! Very happy!
I am 71.
Living alone with my two kats.
Kit n Kat. They are sisters and we all get along.
No more conniving witches around me.
Well, that's good, I'm so proud of you. You just keep doing that, hopefully we can be friend though?
Same story for me , minimum wage earner all my life , will take my last breaths owing nothing to anyone
At age 75 I enjoy my privacy and solitude with time to read, study and meditate
Nobody feels lonely now thanks to the Internet!
And Xvideos
@@larryjones9773Ha. Even when you’re in your 70s, like me and by myself (not lonely), you have to put on the monkey suit from time to time. Ha.
I'm 64. I love living alone. I remember sharing places with people when I was younger. Sure it had its positive side , but I wouldn't want the dramas , and issues again.
There is nothing lonelier than being married to the wrong woman.
@@thequickbrownfox7289 Are you married to the wrong woman ?
@@Carl-x8y3c not any more!
As a 71 yo widower, I found your video spot on. Great topic.
Well, that's good, I'm so proud of you. You just keep doing that, hopefully we can be friend though?
True, for a younger man as well. I'm 78 and have lived alone since I was 27. Never regretted a moment of it. Got to visit 73 countries so far taking photos of whatever interests me, like exotic butterflies in Costa Rica. The possibilities are endless.
I spent twelve years married between 2 wives 35 years ago. Living without criticism of any kind is much better. I only spend 600 a month to live and save 2000 a month in metal.
Travel overseas is easy and nice. The US can collapse or go crazy and I can move out to a nicer place. I'm not a collector so I travel light. I don't often have health issues so don't bother with health insurance. I always did repair of my own things. My interest of finance and world affairs keep me busy learning current situations. I like sailing, may get a boat to travel.
I'm a Christian and traveled to learn more. The key is Jesus Commandment on the Tablets in Axum, Ethiopia. Churchs that display it are the wheat, the chaf are the others. A cross doesn't make you a Christian, his Commandment to Love others does. Just act accordingly. The return of the Arc to Israel, so they learn of him ushers in the Rapture. Be ready. It's coming soon.
I love living alone, I’m so at peace.
i lived alone from 40 to 55 then met my wife now I live in chaos; now I reminice of how sweet it was'im 70 now; Im aloways doing things she wants to do that I have no interrest in
Take her mountain climbing. Be sure you
are always further from the edge of the
cliffs
That's not funny Mr. Walker!
Poor bastard.Im so happy I was a player as a young man and never gave into marriage. At some point they all become a pain in the ass
@@robertwalker5521 Well I laughed...
@@Stevescafidi-km3td
Most "problems" have numerous solutions.
I spent over 35 years married (twice). I absolutely love living alone and living my life my way. Yap, yap, yap with their way always the best. Woman are all the same. No thanks, never again.
Not all yap
Ain't that the truth. I'm with you.
Married at 35 and divorced at 50.
Love living alone. Busy with many different things, and interests
Turning 80 this month and enjoying great health.
Have a great girlfriend. We live apart and that works out perfectly.
We never fight because there is nothing to fight over.
Marriage can be wonderful; it can also be hell.
Remember - look after loved ones but always look after #1 as well.
Great video. Thanks
I've had the best of all worlds. I grew up in a tough industrial neighborhood in the '40s and '50s. In the '60s, '70s, & '80s I was single and carefree, including my stints in college and the military. Then I married a wonderful, loving, and caring woman in 1990 until her death in 2020. And now, I'm once again, a single man ... healthy, carefree, and content with my monk life.
Fortunately, I'm able to help others, without a need for thanks or repayment.
Wow - look at that - you've had it all. It never ends; get ready for the next phase - best wishes Brother.
I was 50 B4 I ever loved alone. I ABSOLUTELY LOVE IT! Doing what you want when you want. I'm not afraid to live or being alone. I was an only child for a while growing up. Had a vivid imagination and always amused myself. My father took a lot of time with me and taught me so much.I appreciate company but I love my life like it is.
I AM 62 AND NEVER MARRIED, BUT HAVE LESS REGRETS NOW THAN EVER.
I am in the same circumstances/ Thanks 4 posting...
I'm 64 and never married, and love it! It is just so stressful when relatives come to visit; I can't wait for them to leave so I can do what I want again!! Just the fact that you have to be considerate of another person in your space is stressful! Sometimes I wish I had kids when I need some yard work done or something, but then I remember my slave driver father and get to work.
I'm 72 and have never married, though I've wanted to be. I have a lady-friend who is in her 80s that I've known for over 32 years, but we live a few states apart. I visit a few times a year, and keep in touch by phone, but after a week or so together I believe we're both ready for me to go home. When I hear of all the divorces, and the squabbles in other couples, I suspect I'm actually the fortunate one, in good health with sanity and finances intact. My parents lived to their 90s, so I sometimes wonder what my life will be like in a couple decades if I follow suit.
Same here. Life long bachelor and no regrets and was able to retire early. I’m on my 15th year of retirement. I’m Bizzy all the time.
Well, that's good, I'm so proud of you. You just keep doing that, hopefully we can be friend though?
I'm 81, have been living alone for over 20 years. I love it. my life and my mind is my own. Don't have to do what others want me to do. While not not wealthy. God, provides for all my needs.
Takes a while to figure that out though, doesn't it?! Did for me - He kept knocking and I kept not hearing it until very recently. I am the smallest, but squeakiest wheel in His collection I reckon 🙂
Well, that's good, I'm so proud of you. You just keep doing that, hopefully we can be friend though?
I am 63 and all these things ring true for me. I'm retired and live frugally on a modest teacher's pension. It allows me significant personal freedom that brings peace and contentment.
I'm 73, widow and living alone in my flat here in bgc Philippines . This decision to live alone is the best that I did. More often my children and grandchildren come and visit me and sleep over sometime. Solitude is addictive ❤
Moving from US to SE Asia next year. I've loved living alone in the US, but looking for new adventures so not sure I'll go solo.
No Medicare in Philippines
Think twice
Best to go visit 1 to 3 months few times then see how you are
Major medical problem you pay up front
No 911
Noisy, chickens, barking dogs, trikes, traffic, brown outs daily, horrible infrastructure
Wonderful friendly people
Lived there, married there in Philippines before, now alone in Oregon USA 2 cats at 73 very peaceful
Only worry who's going to help me if I'm sick
Elder orphan here but God is Good
Again be careful
I spent my youth struggling to survive. Now I explore my interests.
Facts, facts and more facts. 64 and can't even imagine bringing in the sufferings of having a wife. Now is MY time.
I'll be 54 in December..sharing my life with multiple life threatening conditions... I'm really looking forward to flying solo..having my own space
I (78) just lost my dear husband one week ago and this video has been so good for me. I needed something to pull me back up. It will help me move forward and figure out what is next. Thank you so much….
@@anniesmith2 I'm so sorry for your loss. It's incredibly brave of you to reach out and share your feelings during such a time. I'm glad the video could offer you some comfort and a sense of direction. Remember to take things one step at a time, and know that it's okay to grieve while also finding small moments that help you heal and move forward.
@@goldenyears101 I wrote it all down so I can refer back to all your points. Good days/bad days….Thanks.
I'm sorry for your loss. Hope you gradually find contentment!
Thanks…
I love being alone the peace and quiet is so rewarding. My ex-wife died when my youngest was 9 years old, and I became a single father. He turned out better than his 3 other siblings. My daughter has moved in and out several times with her significant others and children, and I hate it so much when she does. I always look forward to her moving out again. I like having my personal space. I'm going through such a circumstance right now. I'm 71 and I don't think I'm going to survive this time.
You have to learn how to say, no! You do not have to help a sociopath just because she is your blood.
I’m 68, and have lived alone for over 11 years. I’m happy
81 just completed a king pin renewal on my old '66 Benz.
Good work man!
I love mechanicing.
Awesome Sir
I am 63. Parents passed away. My ex passed away. Fully agree with what is said.
I could not agree more! I am in my 60s. I have lived alone, and moved to a beachtown in Costa Rica.🏖 I work at and maintain a athletic body, by hiking, swimming and biking. Franky, I'm not sure I could maintain a long term relationship with a woman, I have become accustomed to total freedom!
Interested in how you are living- what it costs, health care, etc. Any advice would be appreciated.
Good that I found this video. I’m 73 and a retired hospice bereavement counselor. This video has confirmed what I’m feeling/going thru now. Wife of 25 year died in 2021. The grief was immense and life changing. Gradually started enjoying my solitary lifestyle and now love it. The US mainstream health advise is to keep an active social life for optimum mental health. I thought something was wrong with me enjoying solitude so much. Currently have no plans, goals or project, just what is in front of me in each moment. I love putzing in my yard and gardens. I call it outstanding in my field. Gratitude gratitude, gratitude.
Well I'm sorry you had to go through that, but you're gonna be okay, hopefully we can be friend though?
To treefrog3679 very nice to here that you doing very well now,that kind of picks me up to here that,God bless you
To everyone watching this, I truly hope you find peace, health, and good fortune on your journey. Living alone can be a powerful time for self-reflection, growth, and understanding who we are. It may come with its challenges, but the independence and peace it brings can be a true blessing. This video beautifully captures the freedom and resilience that come with embracing solitude as an older man. Let’s celebrate this phase of life with strength and optimism!
At 62 I have been divorced nearly 20 years and retired for 12 years now so I have experienced many of the benefits listed in the video and I love it, life can be so peaceful plus rewarding when you get away from the rat race. A soul should be able to enjoy the fruits of their labor in this world and that's what freedom is all about, sleeping in, reading a book, paint a picture or play an instrument, maybe get a new hobby, live life to the fullest!
Well I'm sorry you had to go through that, but you're gonna be okay, hopefully we can be friend though?
@buddylove346 great advice praiseGod
@@Chuncy566 Retirement also allows more time with God too!
Same for aging women. Freedom is a wonderful, life-fulfilling reality when we live alone.
Nobody asked
@@DaveBritton-i8r defensive
@@DaveBritton-i8rthey always have to invade our space
Thanks. A widower of 12 years, this caused me to reflect on the positives of living alone (with my dogs) in ways I hadn't completely appreciated before.
@@peterz53 You're welcome. I'm glad it resonated with you and helped you see those positives. Your dogs are lucky to have you!
I still go through life like a guy in his 30's but I'm officially an older guy at 62. Without a doubt, by far, no gray area whatsoever, the best part of getting older is the freedom. Keeping things simple, avoiding hassles and drama, not overcommitting to any person or activity is very liberating. Saying "no" more often and actually planning less, doing less, greatest transition you can imagine.
0:51 Freedom to be Yourself
2:19 Peace & Quiet
3:48 Personal Growth & Self Discovery
5:26 Control over Your Environment
6:53 Financial Independence
8:21 Improved Mental Health
9:51 Strengthened Relationships
11:06 Independence & Confidence
12:30 Rediscovery of Simple Pleasures
I’m 73 years old, I cherish absolutely cherish my privacy, there is no drama. If I want to go out on my road bike for a couple miles or working in my garage doing woodworking projects. I can’t say enough on how I cherish quiet.
I'm old and single. Thanks to my wealth I can have some fun with an attractive and young woman from time to time. That's all I want and need. 😊
Yep pay her to leave 😊
Cruising alone nicely at 73... have not found a reason to change.
@@barraabus Keep cruising-sounds like you've mastered the art of living on your own terms!
I am 75, live alone after my stroke 5 years ago. I have a son 50 , but every family member has died. Not x wives. I got so much I enjoy doing here at home! Like the others say, no one to dictate where and when! Me and a few other old men get together every Monday 10 am, 2 cold beers then home for a nap!!!
It sounds like you’ve found a great routine and community! Keep enjoying those Monday meet-ups and the freedom you’ve carved out for yourself.
I’m 80 and alone for 8 years. Of course have kids and grandkids. I am at complete peace and content.
one "compromise " that really helps if you are married is, have separate bedrooms . i stay up late watching tv and my wife goes to bed at eight or nine but gets up at four .
so have separate quiet areas is wonderful for recharging fully .
Next step is Living Together Apart.
rubbish
Most of this applies to men of any age. I lived alone for 20+ years after a divorce. I never once was lonesome. I loved doing what I wanted, when I wanted.
I am 68 and have lived alone since my wife passed away 14 months ago. While there are definite benefits,I do get lonely. So,following friends suggestions,I joined an on line dating site. After filtering through a number of women,I have found one who shares many of my interests and we have formed a strong connection/chemistry. I find myself being much happier since finding her.
@jeffbever carefull it dont sneekup on you and kick your butt again for the umteenth time.
I'm 67 and did lots of online dating when I was a younger guy.I realize now it's over because I have no desire to date old women.Im serious lol
Improved mental health is the first benefit
I am 73 and enjoy being alone. I am not anti-social; I like socializing and chatting, but when I return home, I always feel grateful and blessed. I hope I can continue to feel this way through God's grace.
Being alone is like living on treasure Island.You are the Treasure enjoy and be at peace.
I don't have any trouble experiencing these things with my bride of 32 years. She respects my space. I get all the alone time I need. OTH, when I ran into physical complications that required immediate medical attention, she was there to drive me to the ER at 12, 2, 4 AM. Once I required major surgery and she gladly stayed the night with me in the hospital, curled up in that small bed. Being opened up like fish fillet was a big deal. She's the only reliable family I have.
Well said! There is something to having a loving relationship and I don't mean with a pet.
Can we clone her?
@@stevebc957 So far we've encountered at least 3 other women with her exact married name. One of them died recently who just happened to live in the same city we do.
As for cloning, be careful what you ask for. Beautiful flowers sometimes come with sharp thorns. My bride is no different.
Living along; my whole house is my ManCave.
My living room was a woodshop for several years. Fixing up the house now to sell next year. Wonderful to have my house as I want.
62 years old. Happy being single. My 3 dogs make me so happy.
Some people really enjoy being alone. I am not one of them. My wife is my lover and a very nice woman. We get along very well. We have been married for over forty years. My father lived alone and died from a fall. He would have lived if he was not alone.
Good point!
I am 80 and have lived on my own from age 50. My relationship with my children is enhanced by their knowledge of my happy independence. In the past 30 years, I have immersed myself in a latent passion, music composition and song writing, all self taught and applied as a true amateur. It is a never ending journey. With this, and the necessity of solely looking after myself, I have never enough hours in the day. I have produced 50 original pieces of music and I can't wait to get to the next. I would never have discovered this joy had I not lived in this extraordinary and rewarding condition.
Truly beautiful and also sad that another person could be so distracting.
I’m 86 years old. I live alone in a foreign country; I am deaf and do not speak the local language. I suffer from clinical depression and find life difficult unfortunately.
There should be SOURCES who can help
you communicate better with others.
Ask for help - repeatedly - until someone
makes things better for you.
Sad, you need people
@johnmaukin i live withthe same circumstances in the u.s. and especially with the ultra high inflation its tremendously tough over here also
Five months into “Living Alone”, you are 100% accurate on eight of the nine
It is incredible how much I can relate to most of what you highlighted.
This applies to women as well. 💯 %
Nobody asked
Been retired, and living alone for quite some time. I enjoy it immensely. Get to go, and come as I please especially since I enjoy to travel. Keeping my home clean, and organized isn’t a problem. I even enjoy it. Never have a problem finding things around the house, because I know where I left them. And when I do miss interacting with people I do so, but I enjoy my solitude. Even make better time to organize my schedule for exercise, self care,and focusing on my health. Life is good!😃
Older men who have had relatively stable lives generally do well in living alone. Those who have not cultivated good relationships or taken care of their physical health are the ones who suffer and start looking for female nursemaids.
Away from cities is good
Agreed. The latter start looking for a nurse or a purse.
I'm 52 and lived with two women, or rather they lived with me, both times it was a nightmare and I doubt I'll ever let another woman live in my house. I have all the company and friends I need and being in a relationship is very much overrated, I'm guessing it was a woman who started that myth.
Oioier098 well come to the club,glad to here from you w all have a lot in common stay i touch
Peace and quiet!
I'm 70, divorced 22 years ago, two wonderful daughters, retired at age 59, absolutely love retirement and being alone. At retirement I'm now a mediocre guitar player and now learning the bass, keyboards and harmonica. I can play anytime being alone! Love it!!
I can buy what i want,do what i want,go where i want,I lost myself,my money.my home,i did not know what freedom was until i lost it all
i'm happier and more relaxed living alone
@@charleslindsay3201 ME 2.
Tocharleslindsay3201 thats great i love to hear that you doing great,makes me feal.good.if any of you fellows care to write, be my guest iwould love to here from you
Peace..Tranquility....PRICELESS
Lost my wife to cancer 15 years ago its difficult at first but then comes acceptance. Women dont age as well as men and once they hit 60 or 70 they are not required so its probably far more difficult for them than it is for men. I agree with most of what you say.
Don't let some feminist hear you say that! According to them women are hotties and desirable at any age.
1.Farting,
2. Not lifting the seat,
3. Dribbling on the toilet mat.
4. Leaving the cap off the toothpaste.
5. Listening to YOUR music.
6. The remote control.
7. Putting the bin out when it suits you.
8. Eating when and what you like.
9. Putting food in the pantry and beer in the fridge.
And many, many others!!
I do 8 out of 9 of these. I do put the cap back on the toothpaste. But I don't always clean up the sink after brushing.
Never invite me to your place
😅 Sounds like you’re really enjoying the freedom! I enjoyed going through your list-it's hilarious! Thanks for the laugh! 😅
@allenmansell4297 .sounds to me like your living it to the max,keep up the good work
@@kevinmckinney3785 that settles it im going in and going to pee all.over the seat on purpose, and leave it that way and maybe trackmud In the kitchen and jus leave it there to enjoy
Peace of mind is a great thing in life! Always better to be alone for the right reasons than being with someone for the wrong ones!
Ditto for healthy minded women. Better to be alone than miserable with someone making your life difficult.
I’m 56 and been single about 6 years now, if you combine the separation and divorce. I met my first wife when I was 17 and my second right after being separated. I have never really been single for any part of my life. I dated after being separated and just wasn’t feeling it. It’s stressful and at this point I don’t see the benefit outweighing the input. I stopped dating about 3-4 years ago. I bought a super car and an RV this year and have a group of guy friends and we go to shows and extended drives. Going to do a rally next month. I am currently looking at boats and considering doing the great loop now. I just want to enjoy life and so far I am enjoying the peace and solitude. I am still open to a woman joining if she isn’t stressful but I don’t see that being possible at this point. Most women are just inherently discontented in my observation. My married friends talk often about their wives being unhappy no matter what. I feel like I have finally gotten off the hamster wheel and the view once you do is entirely different.
Well I'm sorry you had to go through that, but you're gonna be okay, hopefully we can be friend though?
@johnbarr2100 i agree with every word, i invite you and all other fellows of the same thoughts to write and exchange thoughts,thank you
Excellent points and a near universal experience (unfortunately).
Fantastic video! I live with a partner who is in many ways more trouble than he’s worth. He has been going away and taking care of his ex for ten years. Not sure why I have put up with it all these years but I have enjoyed all the months of solitude. This video makes me realize that going it alone may be a solution to my dilemma.
I'm 72, never been married, have no kids, and am happy as hell! I do what I want, when I want to. I spend my money any way I please. It's truly a wonderful life!
Love it! Sounds like you're truly enjoying the freedom and living life on your own terms, which is amazing!
Perhaps one of the best segments for solo living I have ever seen. It opens new doors of discovery and fulfillment in the later years of life.
79 and live alone. Married twice, but they’r gone - what’s the big deal? Finally, I only make decisions for myself - kids grown and have their families. Enjoy life, go to library and bring home arm full of books; unplug ur television, watch the wildlife, never a dull moment.
74 and always single. The big benefit of solitude is personal freedom. No drama and head-games to suck the joy out of life. I enjoy other people in small doses and it is easier to look after my health. I find my life has been satisfying with few regrets.
It’s great to hear how personal freedom and balance have brought you fulfillment and peace. Thanks for sharing!
I am 67 and I have been single for about 6 years. I still work full time. Afternwork it is just my dog and I. Couldn't think of any better company.
_" The more I know people - the more I like my dog. "_
~ Mark Twain
All good stuff! I'm 65 and have been on my own for 10+ years. Best time of my life and it's only getting better.
Gentlemen, the clock is ticking for all of us. Make the most of whatever time you have left. Invest in yourself and enjoy your freedom!
I just turned 78 and my wonderful husband died 3 years ago. I made a HUGE mistake letting a young (61) friend and his elderly parents move into my home temporarily, told them 6 months. Now they are here 2 years already!! May have to sell my house to get them out. Once I by myself again, I will NEVER allow anyone to live with me again!!!! You are blessed, sir, I envy you!
Don't sound like friends if they're taking advantage of you like that. Give them a month to find somewhere else otherwise you'll call the cops
@@46FreddieMercury91 Yes, I’ve already thought of that, but I’m afraid of what might happen if I go that route, plus the parents are in their 90s with dementia and physical problems….
@@carolblair2845 understandable but it's a discussion you need to have if the situation is making you unhappy. It's your house. If they're genuine friends they'll understand. If not you better off without. Are you in the UK? If so you can speak to citizens advice. Remember, you said 6 months. They've taken advantage regardless of how you rationalise it. 2 years will become 4 , then what?
@@46FreddieMercury91 I’m In Arizona. The young man is the paid caregiver for his parents . Their dementia renders them unable to have a discussion about anything. I believe I will be able to get him to move as I need to have both knees replaced starting at the beginning of the year and will need a live-in caregiver for a short time myself….and it won’t be a man! Anyway, thank you for listening to me, you seem like a very kind person. I made a stupid decision to help out a friend and it backfired big time. Live and learn I guess. 😏
@@carolblair2845 ok, well I still think you need to get some advice about the best way to handle this, maybe from a local authority. You can do this without telling your " lodgers".
I hate to see someone's kindness taken advantage of, but sooner or later this is going to have to be dealt with. Don't wait until you need a carer yourself. Good luck. You're welcome to update me if you ever wish.
good video. there was a book published in the 70's called "living alone and liking it" loved it and i was in my early 20's. someone once told me that a man without a woman is like a fish without a bicycle. how true it is !!
I think a fish without a tail or a boat without a rudder?