Oh Sylvia.....I am so sorry for your loss...and it is most difficult when we lose our Mom. Her love for you will endure and be with you forever...time will heal. I am sending love and prayers to you and your family, Please,Take care of yourself, Susan & Dez
As saddened by the death of your friend as I am! I'm most worried for the Grandson, who is now grieving and without his main parent figure. Please update. This is MOST Alarming to me.
I learned on my 50th birthday that you can be betrayed by a best friend. I also learned that there are just some people in your past that don’t have a place in your future.
For me, it was a sibling after our dear dad passed away. She implied that I stole jewelry from our mom on the day that we moved her!! Blew me away...I was SO surprised/bewildered/ANGRY/confused!! Even seriously considered hiring an attorney...😒. I'm trying to forgive her for myself, but she had already said something even MORE hurtful a few years prior to that, so it's VERY difficult to do!! ( She acted like my late daughter didn't exist...) 😢 I really don't care to have her in my life...K.G.
My 50th no one came or called. I let go of the last 'friend' who was not a friend. Our society is no designed to nurture friendships, its all about completion, do i look better than you, you than me, getting stuff, showing off stuff, being loud and making sure you are first, its toxic and I'd rather be alone than with people, its about stuff out there, not humanness. These days everyone teaching that you must come first and no one can create a relationship when humanity is to be avoided!
I never stopped loving my ex. He and I never found anyone else. After 20 years of being divorced, he died. He was my best friend; the father of my children and I miss him so much. It's only been 10 months... When he died, a part of me died too; the part of me that only he knew. I'll never find another love like that. I'm 70 and will live with my memories. He was always there for me.❤ I'm so sorry for your loss. 💔
I had a man come into my life just the same. Kind, caring, helpful beyond measure. I opened my vulnerable heart in gratitude. He took advantage!!!!! I was a total fool blinded by his kindness and I ruined my life falling to pieces for this guy. Susan, please pay attention to the flashing red light don't be fooled a second time. You've come too far on your own! A shiver of caution came over me looking at John! Hal was a real man! A gentleman!
I guess people can change, John sounds like a very nice person. But Maybe you have to remember why you got divorced in the first place. You don't want to be hurt a second time,
It’s that thing where you can’t understand how they love you never stopped loving you because they will do everything and anything for you but stay forever. I have come to the conclusion that just maybe it’s that they don’t want to be hurt by your leaving them.
The fact that you and John have maintained a friendship over the years speaks highly of both of you. There are so many different levels of love, but if love is genuine, then I think it cannot fail. Blessings to you and all those who loved Jan.
I know exactly where you’re coming from. My ex-husband died in 2007 at the age of 53 and even though we were no longer husband and wife, we shared a connection, a strong bond. I loved him, still do. Love is an energy and energy can not be destroyed, it simply changes form. Thank you once again Sue for sharing with us and for the memory of love everlasting 💕🌹
I was divorced after 20 years. I helped my ex to get where the children and I were. He passed in 2001 at 49. Broke my heart for our children and grandchildren . Then my daughter died in 2015 at 44. I have a divine husband since 1990. I am so blessed. I still communicate with his younger sister.
Hello, Greetings from the Sky, Land, and Sea. I pray this year brings great Joy, Love, Peace and Happiness to you, and your Family. The words you commented on this Video is amazing, you sounds very Great. Am John Patrick from Nashville Tennessee, where are you from if i may ask?
I too lost my beautiful husband when he was 53 in 2008 from a horrible accident. I am still alone as no one will ever replace that bond we shared. I am content in living alone, though miss what life could be if he were still here.
@bootsiekeegan4401 A broken heart never heals completely. Focus more energy on the fabulous person you are and surround yourself with positive people. I've personally survived many heartbreaks for the past 25 years but we have to honour and love ourselves first. You are amazing!!!!
I will die of a broken heart ...as I see it now anyway. Have only been divorced 8 months. Was married 46 years and dated 4 years. 50 years of my life. He was living with another woman for many years and cheated many other years before that. I was too trusting. Never checked the bank account. I will never trust again. My heart is empty broken, and I can't see it mending.
I've seen this happen to my daddy when my mom passed away he died of a broken heart i am so sorry. I also have broken heart from divorce i did not want
Just remember why you divorced him in the first place, don't let him break your heart all over. But if you can handle it should it happen, then go for it. God bless you both.
When my high school love went off to college and broke my heart I was in pain for a long time. 30 years later following the death of my sweet husband old love showed up in my life again. Told me he had been divorced for years.....blah blah blah...I fell for him again. Nope, he was still married to the same woman. So, look out ladies!
You were in a vulnerable position. And unfortunately some men take advantage of that. You were very blessed to have a sweet husband. If anything you can pity the woman who has been with that other man for years. He was no prize. Some things turn out to be a blessing in disguise.
@@PatriciaLane-jv2mjOh my gosh~how cruel some people can be~ that must of hurt a lot. I’m so sorry you lost ur husband of 30 years-but I bet you have a lot of great memories 🤗
@@PatriciaLane-jv2mj it’s hard to believe there are people like that - a painful experience to say the least. I’m happy you had a good husband. I hold on to the thought that we will all meet again some day. 💕🌺
Your son and grandchildren benefit so much from seeing the love between their grandparents. One of the greatest gifts you can give your children and grandchildren is showing love and respect for their parent or grandparent whether you are together or not. They will cherish this video.
Hello, Greetings from the Sky, Land, and Sea. I pray this year brings great Joy, Love, Peace and Happiness to you, and your Family. The words you commented on this Video is amazing, you sounds very Great. Am John Patrick from Nashville Tennessee, where are you from if i may ask?
I said that to my husband of forty years that I loved him so much I didn’t know where he ended and where I begin. Like we’re one person. I believe I will never have that again in my life. That feeling is part of young love. You only get that once in a lifetime.
We only remember the good times and forget the reason we divorced them in the first place. I reconciled with my ex only to find he has not changed at all, i forgot why i left him in the first place.
What a touching and heartwarming video! Just looked meeting Johnny and seeing you two like kids! I’m very sorry his his and your loss of his beloved Sister. What an amazing video and tribute. Well done, Susan! Bravo 👏. Much love and respect.
What a beautiful story on love. Love is dear and gives hope. I live in sorrow missing my family. Hold the treasures of love. Thank you. ❤ I think we grow and people in change have to go. But never forgotten. ❤
So nice you and John could stay friends especially with a shared son. Wonderful you have been able to be there for one another in times of need. You are good people! Blessings to his dear sister on her new path. Bless the dear grandson and his new path without Jan. I have heard our tears open our heart greater to love more deeply. May your hearts heal and be at peace.
My ex husband of 30 years recently lost his wife. I could not believe my eye's when just 2 weeks following her death he messaged me! 2 weeks! It reminded me why he'd been my ex husband, what a horrible man he was, how dare he even try and contact me. I raised his son's alone, all those years of so much hard work, tears, fears, for him to even dream I had anything to say to him.. vile disgusting human being.
Thank so much for your story ,this one got to me . I file for divorce 13 years ago ,i felt like he wasnt behaving like a husband ,the social media destroyed my marriage . He was the love of my life , and he told me before the divorce that i was the only woman he loved .I believed him and told him i was divorcing him ,not because i did not love him but because i could no longer trust him . My youngest sister had a heart attack an died during this time and one of my friends as well . I was so lost an hurt soo much . So angry at him . Gosh your story got to me , how i wish i could be friends with him ,for the rest of our lives , still love him , but trust is so important. Im so happy for you Lady .God bless you and Desi .I felt so down and lonely today but your story helped me . Blessings to you and your Ex friendship.
Can't imagine having anything good with my ex-husband. I am happy for you, or ex, your son and the grandkids. Sending sympathy for the loss of your friend Jan.
Such a beautiful story. Your words always touch my heart and they usually move me to tears. Today was no exception. Being divorced I know how important it was to stay friends with my ex for my children and for myself. It gives me such a peace to have forgiven and to have been forgiven. Love is truly forever. ❤
Hello, Greetings from the Sky, Land, and Sea. I pray this year brings great Joy, Love, Peace and Happiness to you, and your Family. The words you commented on this Video is amazing, you sounds very Great. Am John Patrick from Nashville Tennessee, where are you from if i may ask?
Susan, I appreciate you sharing such a deep and personal situation. Sending sympathy for this loss and for John, as well. You expressed this all beautifully. So nice that John has been there, for and with you, through the years. Thank you again for this very tender and touching video. May God sustain and comfort you … ✝️
Hi Susan and Desi, I decided to wait another week and a half, then go rescue another shelter dog. A shelter dog who needs love, and hopefully loves cats. It’s so nice that you and John stayed friends over the years. Take care Susan and Desi.🦮🕊🦋✨
Dr. Phil says past behavior predicts future behavior. I find that to be true with MOST people. I’ve reconnected with people from my past and am astounded at how they haven’t grown or changed. I’m too old and too tired to compromise my morals and values for them when they could care less about anyone but themselves!
He could really care less and hasn't learned or grown.. I do believe "the John" has deceived her for years and smacks narcissist to me (she'd be probably not aware of either a sexual diversion which almost 1 out of 3 men have had and ( I'm out generation over 55 vs 1 out 30 women in our generation) is why she" never saw it coming." He put on a great show w helping her move. Even on camera he had to come back and be the "good guy" before he tells her in (private no "more friendship") He doesn't want to be the bad guy. Then comes back to tell her "no more friendship." That's a sure demand from either a therapist or new "Friend" has given HIM an ultimatum... I'm telling you "LOVE is Truly blinding" Been there done that several times. Then found out after the internet how many women are so deceived.. and just bury their heads in the sand as was I. In Diane's case I am SO IMPRESSED by her strength to get busy, get online and create, learn how to make money, and share something most of us would be afraid to. She's such an impressive innovative woman. In my opinion any male that found her would be the luckiest guy in the world! Too bad she ended up w someone that cdnt be loyal.. because I pretty sure he "ain't".. read about narcissists... OMG she doesn't even see it was his fault she we was in that position because he DITCHED her. So many women are brain trained not to get it.. I worked in the film industry with the likes of Harvey Weinsteins.. women from our generation believed everything men told us. Male privilege has run amok for HUNDREDS of years even when we're being abused. Thank God for the internet young women can now at least learn the Truth about who the bad apples are...and there are PLENTY.. Los Angeles has 93% divorce rate men leaving women for the YOUNG more gorgeous mistress or young girl using older men for YEARS We all need to wake up and then NO MORE an the ex's come back and forth when they're either dumped by the new lady friend or guy friend that rejected THEM .... It's not good for you. FORGET about the rotten apple that dumped you during your impending golden years. I'm sorry ladies but here's your reading list. Then you all tell me if you think most men still think it's ok to dump u even if it destroys your life... Dr Phil a HUGE CHEATER read about his FIRST WIFE he left ended up destroying her life for his current controlling crazy wife. Elon MUSK Dumped AND Tried TO EVICT his first wife of his four children btw read about all his affairs AFTER that. Bill Gates who we thought was such a GREAT guy having affairs with many of his staff and I know one of them. AMAZON Jeff Bezos who actually picked UP Lauren Sanchez at a party he & his first wife was with him and Lauren Sanchez was with her WONDERFUL husband. Harvey Weinstein's affairs were not only notorious even his new wife believed him til she cdnt anymore! Last but MOST favorite was CHRIS BURRESS of KTLA ) WE ALL LOVED this down to earth regular newscaster known for BURRES BITES) Los Angeles fooled even the public & his female collegues for YEARS.. On camera down to earth OFF CAMERA WOW!!! His wife NEVER SAW OT COMING.. Its one story the MEDIA KTLA has swept under the rug. It's VERY INTERESTING It's not just famous guys. It's the regular Joe's...you need to RESEARCH your potential new males because they All have access to porn and pay for Hook up online... It's a huge problem Ladies WAKE UP...
Oh Susan i can't thank you enough for sharing from your heart. You have no idea what that meant to me to hear your words about love and loss. My husband and I are both in our sixties and making a huge move to another state far away so we can watch our one and only grandchild grow up and be a part of his life and I know that we are doing the right thing! Like you pointed out...some friends just don't show up when the going gets tough. But I'm choosing to be joyful and thankful for the ones who did! So much heartbreak comes into our lives and it seems there are always those certain few who hang in with you. I'm so grateful for those precious friends and family whom I've formed lifetime bonds with. They are what makes my life twinkle! Keep sharing your thoughts feelings and insights. You've become a part of my life even if we've never met! God b less you and Desi!
I think that people drop little jewels into our life, but sometimes we let the sorrow overtake. The blessings, and when we stop and look at the little treasures, they left behind no matter if it's a husband leaving for my son passing suddenly at 28, the love, the joy in that and the things that you've learned and the things that to go forward and help others with. That's passion that's life that's love
Thank you so much. I wept whilst watching. Today is what would’ve been been my oldest daughter’s 45th birthday. She died in 1985. My ex reached out to me via text: Happy Birthday. I love thinking of Beth Anne. Thank you for being so strong and ensuring she came to us. It touched my heart bc I only recently realized all the things you expressed in this video, “nothing washes love away”. It’s a good way to end a tough day. Virtual hugs from Va.
My oldest daughter is about to turn 35. Her name: Bethany Ann. I just had to say hello. I hope your daughter realizes what a beautiful love you have for her this year. ❤
"Nothing washes love away." What a wonderful sentiment, truth. Thank you for this sensitive video of self discovery, Susan. It makes us reflect. Desi looks like he enjoyed Johnny's visit too!
There is a term in Gaelic called " Anam Cara" which means 'friend of the heart' and that is the bond you are describing. Once established , it's rarely broken.
I still mourn the loss of my husband of 50 years over a year ago. The relationship doesn’t die, just because they die. John seems kind & giving. He seems nice to have in your life. I never burn friendship bridges…May I ask where you got your beautiful butterfly necklace? Thank you, Jeanne ( retired RN)
Very touching and yes I cried. I still have feelings for former men in my life and I’m friendly with my very first love . Takes nothing away from my husband whom I miss so much but he’s waiting for me in Heaven 💕
Oh how I know what you mean about the bond we have with some people. I feel that way about my ex-husband. I left him after 27 years of marriage and, although he is remarried and we rarely see each other, I know that if I ran into him in a store or somewhere, I would feel that connection that we had and that all was right with the world. Elegantly put! Thank you.
John sounds like a true friend. Thank you for sharing this beautiful story about trust and friendship. I’m so sorry that Jan died. She must have been a very special person; just like you are. ❤️
What a lovely man. It is refreshing to see that kindness towards you and the respect you have for one another-an example for us all. My condolences to the family. I can’t get enough of Desi stretching. ❤️😊
You can love someone even if you are no longer in love with.. John is a true and loving friend. It's wonderful that you were there for him just as he was there for you. My deepest sympathies to John, you, your son.
There is so much I could say, but what I will say is that as an Astrologer I see life as going in cycles, even compatibility. As the saying goes, some people are in our lives for a season, a reason, or a lifetime. And in the end, all we have is love ❤️
Susan, I’m 62, youngest of 4 children. I’ve lost my sis who was closest to me, & a brother & his sweet wife (passed 6 days apart) a year later. I often wonder the same thing you do. Why are people in our lives for many years, others for a decade, and still others for only a few years. I loathe saying goodbye & would rather not but I force myself- it’s heart breaking. My son moved with his young family to TX. I understand why he moved, very good choice, Yet, I’m left in CA. Separation is very hard, Susan. I’m so very proud of you for all of your success. You’ve done so well, & you are so good at making these wonderful videos! AND you are absolutely gorgeous!! Don’t forget that!💕 Mary, CA
Oh that brought so much raw emotion, loss, and sadness to the surface! Things I try hard to stuff out of sight or at least out of my conscious mind. I do not know the answer to the question, other than timing, maturity, cross-purposes, insecurity, focusing on shallow things that matter not in the end….. I’ve been alone for so long and just lately…it’s really hurting. I do believe in second chances, and hope. And love
So sorry for the loss of your friend, but happy for the time you got to spend with John, you can certainly see the love in his eyes when he looks at you.
Sweet lil Desi is adorable!! Your flowers are so beautiful!! 🌞 Sounds like your ex is very kind. I am so very sorry for both of yours loss of someone so very special to you both...🙏🤍 I think some people come thru our journey to teach us lessons... It's wonderful, when they stay! 🌞💛
I have a former boyfriend, and when we "broke up" he told me, in writing, that he would always have my back. No matter what the circumstances, even if he was "with" someone else. It's such a secure feeling that someone, in this case, him, will always be there for me. Many blessings to you and your ex-husband. He has a lovely persona on video, for sure.
Love Desi and the bow tie...Nice to meet your ex and see the two of you together. The paths of life open and we experience new connections because we need thos to grow and nurture something in our soul. I love that you said to celebrate Jan's life. As a Hospice RN, I tell everyone to think of the crazy times and laugh, celebrate the loved ones life. Don't mourn they want us to flourish, grow and make a new connection. Love your channel
This came right on time. Tomorrow will be 5 yrs since my mom passed from dementia. I've been thinking about relationships and friendships. I always think people give me what I need for the next step or maybe it's just in that moment, but it's a gift. Sometimes they don't get to stay, but they stay in my heart and that's a good place to keep them. I'm sorry for your loss and I will keep Jan's grandson in my prayers. ❤
My mom has dementia and I feel like all of us STILL have to kiss her hiney!! It doesn't help any that she was physically abusive to me as a child!! Have to do things her way, on her timeline,etc. I guess I need to change my attitude for MY sake, but it's difficult when I think of her past behavior towards me, including REJECTION a NUMBER of times. I truly feel that she is the cause of my ( major) depression. I love her, but CERTAINLY don't like her a great deal of the time!! K.G.
Boy do I GET THIS. I am caring for apparently the same mother! Lol. However she did do 75 % pretty beautiful things taught me a lot. However the physical and mental abuse did not help growing up.. I'm seeing it all play out now as I care for her to keep her healthy and alive when my vindictive sister and brother just collaborated to get money while they allowed her to rot in a horrible assisted living facility. I cdnt have the cycle of abuse to continue.. she's now safe and cared for 24/7
My ex husband remained friends for over 35 years we share a son. I will always love him and he loves me as well, we both feel he rushed the divorce and your right some people come into our lives for a season. Thank you for sharing this beautiful story.
Your John is my Scott. We were sixteen as well. Got married right out of highschool.. we were too young, as you said and we didn't make it but we have remained friends for over forty years now.I believe the reason some people stay in our lives forever because the "ties"of love (in all it's forms) cannot be broken❤️
I've known my husband since we were teens. We got married young and we have like most have weathered a few storms. I waited when he was sent to war. We have been devoted to each other for 60 years. My friends that married young and divorced always say that person ment the most to them. It's a personal experience for everyone, doesn't mean they should or shouldn't get back together. Some have and enjoy years of happiness. Other divorce again.
Such a beautiful video! Your relationship with your ex is so special - wish more people could be like that with their exes! Sorry for your loss! Seeing Desi running freely in his new back yard brings. me such joy!
There's just a special bond with those we went to school with, with those we fell in love with as teenagers. Those of us who married young - well, we grew up together. Even though we are divorced - those memories of the young days are still precious. My best friend - she and I walked in to Kindergarten together. Even though I lived far away for 32 years, now that I've moved back home to mid-Michigan, she lives just down the road. :) So precious to have our friendship still in tact. Thank you for sharing.
You are right when you said when we get older everything becomes clearer! I think it's great that you are friends with your ex. You have a son together. That is a strong bond! So wonderful you were there for him when his sister died. I had one of those Hershey's cookbooks and gave it to a charity shop! I love how Desi has to stretch his legs back behind him when he gets up! He is so cute!
I love your videos. Love does go on forever. I recently thrifted a hand sown quilt. I noticed how special it was and brought it home and was fixing a couple places that frayed and realized it is a wedding quilt made by hand for someone. I will cherish it. So love does go on it just transferred to me by someone I didn’t even know. I felt in my heart how special it was. I know how you feel and thank you for sharing I was able to connect. My husbands been gone 29 years on August 21 at and I still feel his love with me always. Thank you so much. Many blessings to you
Susan, thank you for this beautiful share of your story of your ex-husband his sister and your family. It sounds like you have reached the most kind and loving balance, what joy to all be together! I feel those we know and love, for however long come to help Us grow into our best selves.
True fact. I give & demand Loyalty & Trust. I've, painfully, ripped people I've loved out of my life due to THIS. I'll forgive a LOT but not betrayal. It is what it is! Seems we have to sift fools gold out of our lives to reap true gold.
@@graciepooxoxo143 Pure speculation about a complete stranger you’ve never met or spent time with. Some men who are ‘straight’ can seem gay and I’ve known men who happen to be gay who most guessed as straight. The only thing I need or care to know is what kind of human being someone is and her ex is obv a loyal caring one.
Dear Susan, Love never ceases, it's eternal. ❤ I was just thinking about this too just the other day as to why people stay or are just there temporary. John is a GEM! My deepest sympathy to John's sister Jan. Much love and God bless. ❤
You always touch my soul with your words, but today it went deeper. My husband of 30 years left a year ago, but not once he stopped caring about my well being. I care about him a lot. We will be always there for each other. I know that. I have a few people in my life that have stayed in my heart and I still have contact with. To me is the kindness, trust and chemistry that I find in them that keeps the love. Many others, even close family members, have hurt me in one way or another and the bond never formed. I have a family member that I wanted and tried so bad to stay close to, but she is not kind with her words. There is a difference between being honest and being cruel. The few people I love and bond with are kind and thoughtful.
Susan, I left you a message yesterday, but what I didn't tell you was my ex husband was always there for me. We became best friends after our divorce and even when he was in a terrible accident, my kids asked, what will he do if he cannot take care of himself. Without even thinking, I said," well we'll just take him home! He did recover but not for long. We talked every night on the phone for several years, and finally he asked me to marry him again. I said yes, and I was so thrilled, as we had worked out our problems and got along so well. He died two nights later! I have asked myself so many times why we hadn't done this sooner......I can't come up with an answer. He had always been my best friend. So, when I suggested you and John had something very special, I really wanted you to think about it. That sort of bond doesn't come along every day, or ever again. I do apologize for the nudging but I guess I was just thinking of myself.
In and out of our lives as we all have different paths to take. I think it has to do a lot with trust and bonding like you said. Bonding seems to happen when we are young or with family. I cry whenever people lose a loved one, i dont have to know them, as I know that pain. So happy your family and friends were once again together. Make it a point you all do it again soon. Make it happen.
Beautiful video! im 48 and my bff is my ex husband…throughout years together and separately,hes supported me, encouraged me, never judged me …and help be a stepdad to my son. Love never washes away - True..and he has never asked for anything from me… so i get it… I understand. Thnx for sharing your stories with us and Dezi is so cute! ❤
You KILLED me with thi video!! You have such a tender heart, I relate to you a lot. All I ever wanted is to be loved unconditionally. Is that too much to expect? Two husbands, and I never found it. I learned a lot from #2, was impressed with his knowledge of so many things that were not in my world, we did things I never thought would happen like living in a big rv on the road for 5 years after we married at 50 for him and 45 for me. 20 years, both marriages! Gone, Poof! just millions of memories and last 3 years of it are really bad memories. Such is life they say. I'm 75 now, not well, and share an apt with my son age 53. I'm not alone, but very alone at the same time. Desi, take care of your mom! He's so cute! And Susan, you are beautiful inside and out.
OH I feel we are sisters! I had 3 marriages and now I am alone...I have been alone for 10 years...I am 68 and have found peace. I did know love and passion...I do have warm memories...I still cry for my husband Bill at weak moments....but me and Desi are doing fine...it helps to have friends like you Elaine...we are strong ladies and we grab life...that's what we do best!
I love your friendship with John! I also have a friendship with my ex and it’s the best gift we could ever have given our kids. They don’t have to choose where to spend Christmas or where to spend Thanksgiving; we are all willing to be together with peace in the air. ❤
Susan, I don’t really know why people come and go from our lives. I’ve had some pretty hurtful exits. I’ve loved people with an open heart and deeply. Then poof. They are gone. One thing I know is that not everything is in my control and having a narcissistic parent in one’s life is not at all helpful. BTW Desi really appears to be strutting his stuff and being king of the garden. You both seem very settled and happy in your new, beautiful home. I’m very sorry for your loss and am glad you can be a comfort to your exhusband during this time.
Very heartwarming Susan. You are blessed to still be close friends with your x husband and for him to help you at the lowest point in your life says a lot about his character and his genuine concern for you. So sorry for the loss of your beloved friend.
Somehow you have not been on my feed since you moved into your new home. I missed you! Life distracted me. Today, there you were! As always, your videos touched me. This one in particular meant a lot to me. In 2012, I was diagnosed with breast cancer. My son was away at school, my mom was ill in a nursing home, and I felt absolutely alone. I had been divorced for 20 years. Nonetheless, My former husband, and father of my son, drove from another state every time I had a doctor’s appointment, testing and surgery ( I had several ). He called me often, and we would watch Dancing with the Stars together while on the phone. He knew I was all alone. He was the reason I survived that time in my life. I will never forget what he did for me. A few years later, he was suddenly taken from us due to an horrific train accident. His kindness taught me what love truly is, and I will never be the same because of it. Thank you for sharing, your story. Yes, love is forever.
This was one of my favorite videos. I'm 70, my husband is in poor health and my friends and relatives are passing. It's a perfect time to try to figure out all the mysteries of life. My children and grandchildren are my world now. All my friends have their families who take up their time. I hold fast to all the love around me. Susan, I'm sending you and Dezi all my love. 🌷
Sorry for your loss and I'm happy that you still share kindness with your ex and he shares it with you. Life is too short to waste on resentment or negativity.
I think some people stayed because we could accept each other and others went because they didnt- sometimes due to a sense of superiority, resentment or a desire to control which quiet as I am never works with me! You are such a sweet person. Do take care ❤xx.
Susan, how touching this weeks video was on so many levels and I am truly so sorry for the loss of your ex-Sister-in-Law. Your ex-husband (so handsome indeed) appreciates your love and friendship and kindness in his time of need... just like you appreciated his in yours. I too am now friends with my ex from TN. I have forgiven him and now we feel long distance love for eachother and forgive. You are blessed to have him in your life. Not trying to be too personal but would he consider relocating back home? I'm happy you had this time together no matter.
Sometimes our sisters by marriage become our sisters-in-love. End of a marriage does not diminish the relationship with our sister-in-love. love, or our brother , or son that we acquired through marriage. It’s far deeper than a legality.
LittlePoet, thank you for sharing such love today. I think Jesus puts people in our lives at certain times for a reason. Remembering to love and forgive is huge. I wonder also why some people stay and some leave in my life. I’m thankful for those that are in my life and have been in my life. That includes my furry friends.❤
I always say “Friends for a season” is so true- I’ve had people drift in and out of my life and not stay around or keep in touch- they are friends for a season, as I said before. Sometimes, them not staying close is a blessing. Or so Ive learned- I have three close friends who’ve stayed in touch and reached out and we’ve remained friends who I know will always be there for me if needed- those who I keep close to my heart- and what you e said they tell you the truth- THOSE are the friends I want and welcome into my life- but we only want the best for that person, and that is love.
Well you had me in tears. Thank you for sharing your story. I send my deepest condolences to you and your family. I think people come and go in and out of our lives because people and circumstances change. We are lucky to have those who are always there and who we can count on but there are always those who have gone away in one way or another which is the hardest part about trusting relationships. There is always a chance they may not always be there and when and if they're not it hurts. There are years of joy and love and there are years of sorrow and grief and yet we still trust and love. Amazing. May peace fill your heart and your wonderful memories of Jan sustain you.
Today is the third time I have watched this video and every time I have thought about what you said and how to answer it. I am still not sure what to say but I think that for me, people come and go as if I have things to tidy up with them. Something left undone that had to be corrected then they went out of my life. It may sound crazy but that seems to be what I am here for. You have a beautiful yard and house just like you are yourself. I enjoy listening to you
Susan& Desi- hello!! I have tears in my eyes, hearing your story!! You are indeed blessed to have people in your life who love and trust you!! The fact that you and your ex husband are still good friends and devoted to your family days so much about your character!! You are a special person!! Wishing you and your family all the best!! 😍😍😍🙏🙏🙏
I think that people go in and out of our lives to strengthen us, teach us something important, or prepare us for a new phase of life so we can be there to do the same for others. ❤
Susan, I am so sad for your loss and John's loss. That was wonderful that you two had a chance to help each other with this loss. When I look at John, I see love in his eyes, as well as yours. Friendship, maybe. More, perhaps. What is the basis of a good relationship other than friendship. first? Trust, friendship, children, grandchildren........sounds like a new beginning, possibly? Anyway, thank you for sharing with us.
Now that I've stopped crying,i thank you for such a true video.I was best friends with my exhusand and my husband now was also best friends with my ex-husband.Thank you.
I'm so sorry for your loss of your dear friend. Death has a way of bringing out either the good or the bad in relationships. What a great time you had with Johnny and your family! Blessings to you and Desi from Midas and me.
Susan you are so right love never dies when someone leaves us. I have lost all my family and my husband. I miss my family so much especially my mother. I try to go forward each day. My husband betrayed me but i think I have forgiven him after 10 years. I have met a man whom loves me but I cant be vunerable. I adore little Desi so adorable. Your videos are so real . May you feel happiness in your heart very soon.
Such a beautiful thought provoking evening you gave me. I think people that come into our lives and out of our lives are for lessons to be learned. The good, the bad and the ugly lessons in life. Some we forever bond with, some we are glad they left, and some we are left hurting, but each one of the people that came, stayed or left gave us something to learn. ❤
I traveled to San Francisco yesterday around the time that I would normally be anxiously awaiting your vid to post lol I live just 20 to 30 minutes south of the city, but took public transportation due to parking issues up there. Met up with my son and his girl of 4 years, they moved in together and wanted to take me out on the town, a great time, got home pretty late. So, I was just having my first cup of coffee watching this gorgeous piece of work yours, Susan ❤ You are a story teller, thank you for sharing ;*)
So sorry for your loss of your dear friend, Jan and John’s sister! It was so nice that he came to see you and you could spend time with each other! I’m sure it was very much needed for you both! 💔🥲
Protect your heart Susan ❤️ I'm feeling afraid for you. 'TRUST" is a word that never touches my lips anymore. You are a romantic, trusting and vulnerable. RED LIGHT!!!
She's lucky she has Johnny in her life. They may not have worked out but at least he's not naturally evil. She said nothing washes love away but I think she's wrong- it's easy to wash away any love you had for someone who ended up being a sadistic psychopath who tortured you on purpose. Obviously Johnny is not that
Love your videos I recently lost my mom and it is very hard to lose someone ♥😢
Oh Sylvia.....I am so sorry for your loss...and it is most difficult when we lose our Mom. Her love for you will endure and be with you forever...time will heal. I am sending love and prayers to you and your family, Please,Take care of yourself, Susan & Dez
Yes me too my dear husband of 52 years 🥲
Hugs
Sorry for your loss.
As saddened by the death of your friend as I am! I'm most worried for the Grandson, who is now grieving and without his main parent figure. Please update. This is MOST Alarming to me.
I learned on my 50th birthday that you can be betrayed by a best friend. I also learned that there are just some people in your past that don’t have a place in your future.
For me, it was a sibling after our dear dad passed away. She implied that I stole jewelry from our mom on the day that we moved her!! Blew me away...I was SO surprised/bewildered/ANGRY/confused!! Even seriously considered hiring an attorney...😒. I'm trying to forgive her for myself, but she had already said something even MORE hurtful a few years prior to that, so it's VERY difficult to do!! ( She acted like my late daughter didn't exist...) 😢 I really don't care to have her in my life...K.G.
@@stevengoracke7644 she might be a narcissist.
They are everywhere. 😔
My friend betrayed me; I never expected that in a million years. She's my ex-friend now.
@@josephinearriaga7028 I had THAT happen,too!!
My 50th no one came or called. I let go of the last 'friend' who was not a friend. Our society is no designed to nurture friendships, its all about completion, do i look better than you, you than me, getting stuff, showing off stuff, being loud and making sure you are first, its toxic and I'd rather be alone than with people, its about stuff out there, not humanness. These days everyone teaching that you must come first and no one can create a relationship when humanity is to be avoided!
I never stopped loving my ex. He and I never found anyone else. After 20 years of being divorced, he died. He was my best friend; the father of my children and I miss him so much. It's only been 10 months...
When he died, a part of me died too; the part of me that only he knew. I'll never find another love like that. I'm 70 and will live with my memories. He was always there for me.❤ I'm so sorry for your loss. 💔
So sorry for your loss. Why you couldn't be together?😉🌷
First Susan made me cry and then you made me cry. I am so sorry for your loss.
a real true love comes maybe once and if you are lucky twice.Sometimes the memories of your old love is better than any avrage dull relationship.
Just because your 70 doesn’t mean you can’t love again
Love this video. You are so precious. I could watch you all day. Adorable Desi !!❤❤❤
I had a man come into my life just the same. Kind, caring, helpful beyond measure.
I opened my vulnerable heart in gratitude. He took advantage!!!!!
I was a total fool blinded by his kindness and I ruined my life falling to pieces for this guy.
Susan, please pay attention to the flashing red light don't be fooled a second time. You've come too far on your own!
A shiver of caution came over me looking at John!
Hal was a real man! A gentleman!
I guess people can change, John sounds like a very nice person. But Maybe you have to remember why you got divorced in the first place. You don't want to be hurt a second time,
It’s that thing where you can’t understand how they love you never stopped loving you because they will do everything and anything for you but stay forever. I have come to the conclusion that just maybe it’s that they don’t want to be hurt by your leaving them.
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Such wise advice ❤
Is it her second husband that kicked her out? It sounds like John is the first husband and came from another state to help her.
The fact that you and John have maintained a friendship over the years speaks highly of both of you. There are so many different levels of love, but if love is genuine, then I think it cannot fail. Blessings to you and all those who loved Jan.
I know exactly where you’re coming from. My ex-husband died in 2007 at the age of 53 and even though we were no longer husband and wife, we shared a connection, a strong bond. I loved him, still do. Love is an energy and energy can not be destroyed, it simply changes form.
Thank you once again Sue for sharing with us and for the memory of love everlasting 💕🌹
I was divorced after 20 years. I helped my ex to get where the children and I were. He passed in 2001 at 49. Broke my heart for our children and grandchildren . Then my daughter died in 2015 at 44. I have a divine husband since 1990. I am so blessed. I still communicate with his younger sister.
Hello, Greetings from the Sky, Land, and Sea. I pray this year brings great Joy, Love, Peace and Happiness to you, and your Family. The words you commented on this Video is amazing, you sounds very Great. Am John Patrick from Nashville Tennessee, where are you from if i may ask?
I too lost my beautiful husband when he was 53 in 2008 from a horrible accident. I am still alone as no one will ever replace that bond we shared. I am content in living alone, though miss what life could be if he were still here.
Protect your heart Susan. You are very trusting and especially vulnerable at this time.
I agree, her kindness can be used as weakness in a moment of sadness.
My heart still broken since divorce 2019 hope pray maybe some day he will not just visit DAISY dog but want to remarry ? I've not given up hope❤❤
@bootsiekeegan4401 A broken heart never heals completely. Focus more energy on the fabulous person you are and surround yourself with positive people.
I've personally survived many heartbreaks for the past 25 years but we have to honour and love ourselves first.
You are amazing!!!!
I will die of a broken heart ...as I see it now anyway. Have only been divorced 8 months. Was married 46 years and dated 4 years. 50 years of my life. He was living with another woman for many years and cheated many other years before that. I was too trusting. Never checked the bank account. I will never trust again. My heart is empty broken, and I can't see it mending.
I've seen this happen to my daddy when my mom passed away he died of a broken heart i am so sorry. I also have broken heart from divorce i did not want
Just remember why you divorced him in the first place, don't let him break your heart all over. But if you can handle it should it happen, then go for it. God bless you both.
When my high school love went off to college and broke my heart I was in pain for a long time. 30 years later following the death of my sweet husband old love showed up in my life again. Told me he had been divorced for years.....blah blah blah...I fell for him again. Nope, he was still married to the same woman. So, look out ladies!
You were in a vulnerable position. And unfortunately some men take advantage of that.
You were very blessed to have a sweet husband. If anything you can pity the woman who has been with that other man for years. He was no prize. Some things turn out to be a blessing in disguise.
@@PatriciaLane-jv2mjOh my gosh~how cruel some people can be~ that must of hurt a lot. I’m so sorry you lost ur husband of 30 years-but I bet you have a lot of great memories 🤗
@@PatriciaLane-jv2mj it’s hard to believe there are people like that - a painful experience to say the least. I’m happy you had a good husband. I hold on to the thought that we will all meet again some day. 💕🌺
@@PatriciaLane-jv2mjgosh! What a rotter he is!
Your son and grandchildren benefit so much from seeing the love between their grandparents. One of the greatest gifts you can give your children and grandchildren is showing love and respect for their parent or grandparent whether you are together or not. They will cherish this video.
Hello, Greetings from the Sky, Land, and Sea. I pray this year brings great Joy, Love, Peace and Happiness to you, and your Family. The words you commented on this Video is amazing, you sounds very Great. Am John Patrick from Nashville Tennessee, where are you from if i may ask?
I’ve noticed that it’s work to stay in touch. The time and attention needs to be reciprocal. Few people remain on the same page for years and years.
I said that to my husband of forty years that I loved him so much I didn’t know where he ended and where I begin. Like we’re one person. I believe I will never have that again in my life. That feeling is part of young love. You only get that once in a lifetime.
SUSAN, I FOUND YOUR CHANNEL DURING COVID. WE'RE ABOUT THE SAME AGE. YOUR TALKS WITH US ARE LITTLE MASTERPIECES.
How very very true. ❤
True. A Master Class in beauty, wisdom and love.
We only remember the good times and forget the reason we divorced them in the first place. I reconciled with my ex only to find he has not changed at all, i forgot why i left him in the first place.
What a touching and heartwarming video! Just looked meeting Johnny and seeing you two like kids! I’m very sorry his his and your loss of his beloved Sister. What an amazing video and tribute. Well done, Susan!
Bravo 👏. Much love and respect.
What a beautiful story on love. Love is dear and gives hope. I live in sorrow missing my family. Hold the treasures of love. Thank you. ❤ I think we grow and people in change have to go. But never forgotten. ❤
So nice you and John could stay friends especially with a shared son. Wonderful you have been able to be there for one another in times of need. You are good people! Blessings to his dear sister on her new path. Bless the dear grandson and his new path without Jan. I have heard our tears open our heart greater to love more deeply. May your hearts heal and be at peace.
My ex husband of 30 years recently lost his wife. I could not believe my eye's when just 2 weeks following her death he messaged me! 2 weeks! It reminded me why he'd been my ex husband, what a horrible man he was, how dare he even try and contact me. I raised his son's alone, all those years of so much hard work, tears, fears, for him to even dream I had anything to say to him.. vile disgusting human being.
He is a narcissist!!
Wow!
Amen. You took the trash out for a reason... you don't want it back!!!
You are so strong and brave.
Men often want a nurse for themselves once they are old as hell. Disgusting
Thank so much for your story ,this one got to me . I file for divorce 13 years ago ,i felt like he wasnt behaving like a husband ,the social media destroyed my marriage . He was the love of my life , and he told me before the divorce that i was the only woman he loved .I believed him and told him i was divorcing him ,not because i did not love him but because i could no longer trust him . My youngest sister had a heart attack an died during this time and one of my friends as well . I was so lost an hurt soo much . So angry at him . Gosh your story got to me , how i wish i could be friends with him ,for the rest of our lives , still love him , but trust is so important. Im so happy for you Lady .God bless you and Desi .I felt so down and lonely today but your story helped me . Blessings to you and your Ex friendship.
Can't imagine having anything good with my ex-husband. I am happy for you, or ex, your son and the grandkids. Sending sympathy for the loss of your friend Jan.
I was thinking the same thing about my ex....
I’m always very happy for people that can have a decent or even great relationship with their ex. I unfortunately cannot he is very high conflict.
Such a beautiful story. Your words always touch my heart and they usually move me to tears. Today was no exception. Being divorced I know how important it was to stay friends with my ex for my children and for myself. It gives me such a peace to have forgiven and to have been forgiven. Love is truly forever. ❤
Beautifully worded and tears here also. 😢
Beautifully said ❤
Hello, Greetings from the Sky, Land, and Sea. I pray this year brings great Joy, Love, Peace and Happiness to you, and your Family. The words you commented on this Video is amazing, you sounds very Great. Am John Patrick from Nashville Tennessee, where are you from if i may ask?
Susan, I appreciate you sharing such a deep and personal situation. Sending sympathy for this loss and for John, as well. You expressed this all beautifully. So nice that John has been there, for and with you, through the years. Thank you again for this very tender and touching video. May God sustain and comfort you … ✝️
Yes this is beautiful- love truly endures💞
Hi Susan and Desi, I decided to wait another week and a half, then go rescue another shelter dog. A shelter dog who needs love, and hopefully loves cats. It’s so nice that you and John stayed friends over the years. Take care Susan and Desi.🦮🕊🦋✨
Dr. Phil says past behavior predicts future behavior. I find that to be true with MOST people. I’ve reconnected with people from my past and am astounded at how they haven’t grown or changed. I’m too old and too tired to compromise my morals and values for them when they could care less about anyone but themselves!
He could really care less and hasn't learned or grown.. I do believe "the John" has deceived her for years and smacks narcissist to me (she'd be probably not aware of either a sexual diversion which almost 1 out of 3 men have had and ( I'm out generation over 55 vs 1 out 30 women in our generation) is why she" never saw it coming." He put on a great show w helping her move. Even on camera he had to come back and be the "good guy" before he tells her in (private no "more friendship") He doesn't want to be the bad guy. Then comes back to tell her "no more friendship." That's a sure demand from either a therapist or new "Friend" has given HIM an ultimatum...
I'm telling you "LOVE is Truly blinding" Been there done that several times. Then found out after the internet how many women are so deceived.. and just bury their heads in the sand as was I. In Diane's case I am SO IMPRESSED by her strength to get busy, get online and create, learn how to make money, and share something most of us would be afraid to. She's such an impressive innovative woman. In my opinion any male that found her would be the luckiest guy in the world! Too bad she ended up w someone that cdnt be loyal.. because I pretty sure he "ain't".. read about narcissists...
OMG she doesn't even see it was his fault she we was in that position because he DITCHED her. So many women are brain trained not to get it.. I worked in the film industry with the likes of Harvey Weinsteins.. women from our generation believed everything men told us. Male privilege has run amok for HUNDREDS of years even when we're being abused.
Thank God for the internet young women can now at least learn the Truth about who the bad apples are...and there are PLENTY.. Los Angeles has 93% divorce rate men leaving women for the YOUNG more gorgeous mistress or young girl using older men for YEARS
We all need to wake up and then NO MORE an the ex's come back and forth when they're either dumped by the new lady friend or guy friend that rejected THEM .... It's not good for you. FORGET about the rotten apple that dumped you during your impending golden years. I'm sorry ladies but here's your reading list. Then you all tell me if you think most men still think it's ok to dump u even if it destroys your life...
Dr Phil a HUGE CHEATER read about his FIRST WIFE he left ended up destroying her life for his current controlling crazy wife.
Elon MUSK Dumped AND Tried TO EVICT his first wife of his four children btw read about all his affairs AFTER that.
Bill Gates who we thought was such a GREAT guy having affairs with many of his staff and I know one of them.
AMAZON Jeff Bezos who actually picked UP Lauren Sanchez at a party he & his first wife was with him and Lauren Sanchez was with her WONDERFUL husband.
Harvey Weinstein's affairs were not only notorious even his new wife believed him til she cdnt anymore!
Last but MOST favorite was CHRIS BURRESS of KTLA ) WE ALL LOVED this down to earth regular newscaster known for BURRES BITES) Los Angeles fooled even the public & his female collegues for YEARS.. On camera down to earth OFF CAMERA WOW!!! His wife NEVER SAW OT COMING.. Its one story the MEDIA KTLA has swept under the rug. It's VERY INTERESTING
It's not just famous guys. It's the regular Joe's...you need to RESEARCH your potential new males because they All have access to porn and pay for Hook up online... It's a huge problem
Ladies WAKE UP...
Oh Susan i can't thank you enough for sharing from your heart. You have no idea what that meant to me to hear your words about love and loss. My husband and I are both in our sixties and making a huge move to another state far away so we can watch our one and only grandchild grow up and be a part of his life and I know that we are doing the right thing! Like you pointed out...some friends just don't show up when the going gets tough. But I'm choosing to be joyful and thankful for the ones who did! So much heartbreak comes into our lives and it seems there are always those certain few who hang in with you. I'm so grateful for those precious friends and family whom I've formed lifetime bonds with. They are what makes my life twinkle! Keep sharing your thoughts feelings and insights. You've become a part of my life even if we've never met! God b less you and Desi!
Patricia we did this exact thing in 2021! We moved to palm beach county to be closer to our grandchildren. It hasn’t been an easy move but worth it!
I think that people drop little jewels into our life, but sometimes we let the sorrow overtake. The blessings, and when we stop and look at the little treasures, they left behind no matter if it's a husband leaving for my son passing suddenly at 28, the love, the joy in that and the things that you've learned and the things that to go forward and help others with. That's passion that's life that's love
Thank you so much. I wept whilst watching.
Today is what would’ve been been my oldest daughter’s 45th birthday. She died in 1985.
My ex reached out to me via text:
Happy Birthday. I love thinking of Beth Anne. Thank you for being so strong and ensuring she came to us.
It touched my heart bc I only recently realized all the things you expressed in this video, “nothing washes love away”.
It’s a good way to end a tough day.
Virtual hugs from Va.
My oldest daughter is about to turn 35. Her name: Bethany Ann. I just had to say hello. I hope your daughter realizes what a beautiful love you have for her this year. ❤
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"Nothing washes love away." What a wonderful sentiment, truth. Thank you for this sensitive video of self discovery, Susan. It makes us reflect. Desi looks like he enjoyed Johnny's visit too!
That Love bond is sweet and forever. If one is lucky enough to have that, cherish it.
The true gift of friendship. Something that cannot be bought. A true treasure❤ thank you for this video❤thank you for being you❤
There is a term in Gaelic called " Anam Cara" which means 'friend of the heart' and that is the bond you are describing. Once established , it's rarely broken.
Hope you and your neighbors and family survived the last two nights of the crazy storm that passed through Michigan. That was scary!
I still mourn the loss of my husband of 50 years over a year ago. The relationship doesn’t die, just because they die. John seems kind & giving. He seems nice to have in your life. I never burn friendship bridges…May I ask where you got your beautiful butterfly necklace? Thank you, Jeanne ( retired RN)
8/25/2023 I just saw a report of horrible weather in Michigan. I hope you, Desi and house are okay!
Very touching and yes I cried. I still have feelings for former men in my life and I’m friendly with my very first love . Takes nothing away from my husband whom I miss so much but he’s waiting for me in Heaven 💕
Oh how I know what you mean about the bond we have with some people. I feel that way about my ex-husband. I left him after 27 years of marriage and, although he is remarried and we rarely see each other, I know that if I ran into him in a store or somewhere, I would feel that connection that we had and that all was right with the world. Elegantly put! Thank you.
John sounds like a true friend. Thank you for sharing this beautiful story about trust and friendship. I’m so sorry that Jan died. She must have been a very special person; just like you are. ❤️
This was a very philosophical video for me. It makes me think back over the years and the special people in my life.
What a lovely man. It is refreshing to see that kindness towards you and the respect you have for one another-an example for us all.
My condolences to the family.
I can’t get enough of Desi stretching. ❤️😊
You can love someone even if you are no longer in love with.. John is a true and loving friend. It's wonderful that you were there for him just as he was there for you. My deepest sympathies to John, you, your son.
There is so much I could say, but what I will say is that as an Astrologer I see life as going in cycles, even compatibility. As the saying goes, some people are in our lives for a season, a reason, or a lifetime. And in the end, all we have is love ❤️
Susan, I’m 62, youngest of 4 children. I’ve lost my sis who was closest to me, & a brother & his sweet wife (passed 6 days apart) a year later. I often wonder the same thing you do. Why are people in our lives for many years, others for a decade, and still others for only a few years. I loathe saying goodbye & would rather not but I force myself- it’s heart breaking. My son moved with his young family to TX. I understand why he moved, very good choice, Yet, I’m left in CA. Separation is very hard, Susan. I’m so very proud of you for all of your success. You’ve done so well, & you are so good at making these wonderful videos! AND you are absolutely gorgeous!! Don’t forget that!💕
Mary, CA
Oh that brought so much raw emotion, loss, and sadness to the surface! Things I try hard to stuff out of sight or at least out of my conscious mind. I do not know the answer to the question, other than timing, maturity, cross-purposes, insecurity, focusing on shallow things that matter not in the end….. I’ve been alone for so long and just lately…it’s really hurting. I do believe in second chances, and hope. And love
So sorry for the loss of your friend, but happy for the time you got to spend with John, you can certainly see the love in his eyes when he looks at you.
It is so nice to see you smile. It’s true that you see things more clear when you are older. He will always be a part of your family.
... that "bond" is a Spiritual connection.... 💗
Sweet lil Desi is adorable!!
Your flowers are so beautiful!! 🌞
Sounds like your ex is very kind.
I am so very sorry for both of yours loss of someone so very special to you both...🙏🤍
I think some people come thru our journey to teach us lessons...
It's wonderful, when they stay! 🌞💛
I have a former boyfriend, and when we "broke up" he told me, in writing, that he would always have my back. No matter what the circumstances, even if he was "with" someone else. It's such a secure feeling that someone, in this case, him, will always be there for me. Many blessings to you and your ex-husband. He has a lovely persona on video, for sure.
Love seeing you & Desi every week! It's nice you & your ex can still remain friends & help each other. Have a nice week !
Love Desi and the bow tie...Nice to meet your ex and see the two of you together. The paths of life open and we experience new connections because we need thos to grow and nurture something in our soul. I love that you said to celebrate Jan's life. As a Hospice RN, I tell everyone to think of the crazy times and laugh, celebrate the loved ones life. Don't mourn they want us to flourish, grow and make a new connection. Love your channel
This came right on time. Tomorrow will be 5 yrs since my mom passed from dementia. I've been thinking about relationships and friendships. I always think people give me what I need for the next step or maybe it's just in that moment, but it's a gift. Sometimes they don't get to stay, but they stay in my heart and that's a good place to keep them. I'm sorry for your loss and I will keep Jan's grandson in my prayers. ❤
My mom has dementia and I feel like all of us STILL have to kiss her hiney!! It doesn't help any that she was physically abusive to me as a child!! Have to do things her way, on her timeline,etc. I guess I need to change my attitude for MY sake, but it's difficult when I think of her past behavior towards me, including REJECTION a NUMBER of times. I truly feel that she is the cause of my ( major) depression. I love her, but CERTAINLY don't like her a great deal of the time!! K.G.
Boy do I GET THIS. I am caring for apparently the same mother! Lol. However she did do 75 % pretty beautiful things taught me a lot. However the physical and mental abuse did not help growing up.. I'm seeing it all play out now as I care for her to keep her healthy and alive when my vindictive sister and brother just collaborated to get money while they allowed her to rot in a horrible assisted living facility. I cdnt have the cycle of abuse to continue.. she's now safe and cared for 24/7
I am sorry for your loss. It’s beautiful how you celebrate her life.
My ex husband remained friends for over 35 years we share a son. I will always love him and he loves me as well, we both feel he rushed the divorce and your right some people come into our lives for a season. Thank you for sharing this beautiful story.
Your John is my Scott. We were sixteen as well. Got married right out of highschool.. we were too young, as you said and we didn't make it but we have remained friends for over forty years now.I believe the reason some people stay in our lives forever because the "ties"of love (in all it's forms) cannot be broken❤️
She had a son with him.
I've known my husband since we were teens. We got married young and we have like most have weathered a few storms. I waited when he was sent to war. We have been devoted to each other for 60 years. My friends that married young and divorced always say that person ment the most to them. It's a personal experience for everyone, doesn't mean they should or shouldn't get back together. Some have and enjoy years of happiness. Other divorce again.
I believe that life is like a tapestry and God is the Master Weaver moving people in and out of our lives.💟🤗
Such a beautiful video! Your relationship with your ex is so special - wish more people could be like that with their exes! Sorry for your loss! Seeing Desi running freely in his new back yard brings. me such joy!
There's just a special bond with those we went to school with, with those we fell in love with as teenagers. Those of us who married young - well, we grew up together. Even though we are divorced - those memories of the young days are still precious. My best friend - she and I walked in to Kindergarten together. Even though I lived far away for 32 years, now that I've moved back home to mid-Michigan, she lives just down the road. :) So precious to have our friendship still in tact. Thank you for sharing.
Precious ❤. Y’all still have one another. That’s beautiful ❤️
You are right when you said when we get older everything becomes clearer! I think it's great that you are friends with your ex. You have a son together. That is a strong bond! So wonderful you were there for him when his sister died. I had one of those Hershey's cookbooks and gave it to a charity shop! I love how Desi has to stretch his legs back behind him when he gets up! He is so cute!
Desi and that squirrel...priceless.
You are blessed to be connected with John through an enduring love. Sending condolences over the loss of dear Jan. Hugs and love to you both xoxoxo
I'm so happy you were able to spend time with John. We all need people like John in our life. Thank you for sharing. Enjoy your week Susan and Desi.
I love your videos. Love does go on forever. I recently thrifted a hand sown quilt. I noticed how special it was and brought it home and was fixing a couple places that frayed and realized it is a wedding quilt made by hand for someone. I will cherish it. So love does go on it just transferred to me by someone I didn’t even know. I felt in my heart how special it was. I know how you feel and thank you for sharing I was able to connect. My husbands been gone 29 years on August 21 at and I still feel his love with me always. Thank you so much. Many blessings to you
Susan, thank you for this beautiful share of your story of your ex-husband his sister and your family. It sounds like you have reached the most kind and loving balance, what joy to all be together! I feel those we know and love, for however long come to help Us grow into our best selves.
True fact. I give & demand Loyalty & Trust. I've, painfully, ripped people I've loved out of my life due to THIS. I'll forgive a LOT but not betrayal. It is what it is! Seems we have to sift fools gold out of our lives to reap true gold.
Perfect video my friend I loved it and I love and admire you ❣️
John is obviously a very decent man, helping in your time of desperate need- say no more, he’s a real man, decent human
Thank you so very much...he is a good man...Happy weekend to you! xo Susan & Desi
That's so wonderful your friends with your EX that's very special so happy for you ❤
Again im so sorry for your loss of a beautiful friend keep all those special memories of her close ❤️
I personally think John is gay. Her gaydar might be off just a bit off…but she clearly knew something was off! Jus sayin” SMH
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Pure speculation about a complete stranger you’ve never met or spent time with. Some men who are ‘straight’ can seem gay and I’ve known men who happen to be gay who most guessed as straight. The only thing I need or care to know is what kind of human being someone is and her ex is obv a loyal caring one.
Dear Susan, Love never ceases, it's eternal. ❤ I was just thinking about this too just the other day as to why people stay or are just there temporary. John is a GEM! My deepest sympathy to John's sister Jan. Much love and God bless. ❤
I think it's beautiful how you and Johnny are still friends .
You always touch my soul with your words, but today it went deeper. My husband of 30 years left a year ago, but not once he stopped caring about my well being. I care about him a lot. We will be always there for each other. I know that.
I have a few people in my life that have stayed in my heart and I still have contact with. To me is the kindness, trust and chemistry that I find in them that keeps the love. Many others, even close family members, have hurt me in one way or another and the bond never formed. I have a family member that I wanted and tried so bad to stay close to, but she is not kind with her words. There is a difference between being honest and being cruel. The few people I love and bond with are kind and thoughtful.
Susan, I left you a message yesterday, but what I didn't tell you was my ex husband was always there for me. We became best friends after our divorce and even when he was in a terrible accident, my kids asked, what will he do if he cannot take care of himself. Without even thinking, I said," well we'll just take him home! He did recover but not for long. We talked every night on the phone for several years, and finally he asked me to marry him again. I said yes, and I was so thrilled, as we had worked out our problems and got along so well. He died two nights later! I have asked myself so many times why we hadn't done this sooner......I can't come up with an answer. He had always been my best friend. So, when I suggested you and John had something very special, I really wanted you to think about it. That sort of bond doesn't come along every day, or ever again. I do apologize for the nudging but I guess I was just thinking of myself.
In and out of our lives as we all have different paths to take. I think it has to do a lot with trust and bonding like you said. Bonding seems to happen when we are young or with family. I cry whenever people lose a loved one, i dont have to know them, as I know that pain. So happy your family and friends were once again together. Make it a point you all do it again soon. Make it happen.
Beautiful video! im 48 and my bff is my ex husband…throughout years together and separately,hes supported me, encouraged me, never judged me …and help be a stepdad to my son. Love never washes away - True..and he has never asked for anything from me… so i get it… I understand. Thnx for sharing your stories with us and Dezi is so cute! ❤
You KILLED me with thi video!! You have such a tender heart, I relate to you a lot. All I ever wanted is to be loved unconditionally. Is that too much to expect? Two husbands, and I never found it. I learned a lot from #2, was impressed with his knowledge of so many things that were not in my world, we did things I never thought would happen like living in a big rv on the road for 5 years after we married at 50 for him and 45 for me. 20 years, both marriages! Gone, Poof! just millions of memories and last 3 years of it are really bad memories. Such is life they say. I'm 75 now, not well, and share an apt with my son age 53. I'm not alone, but very alone at the same time. Desi, take care of your mom! He's so cute! And Susan, you are beautiful inside and out.
OH I feel we are sisters! I had 3 marriages and now I am alone...I have been alone for 10 years...I am 68 and have found peace. I did know love and passion...I do have warm memories...I still cry for my husband Bill at weak moments....but me and Desi are doing fine...it helps to have friends like you Elaine...we are strong ladies and we grab life...that's what we do best!
It’s so true, some people walk in and out of our lives and some of the leave forever footprints on our hearts ❤️
I'm so sorry for John's and your loss of precious Jan. 🥀 Beautiful video!
I love your friendship with John! I also have a friendship with my ex and it’s the best gift we could ever have given our kids. They don’t have to choose where to spend Christmas or where to spend Thanksgiving; we are all willing to be together with peace in the air. ❤
Susan, I don’t really know why people come and go from our lives. I’ve had some pretty hurtful exits. I’ve loved people with an open heart and deeply. Then poof. They are gone. One thing I know is that not everything is in my control and having a narcissistic parent in one’s life is not at all helpful.
BTW Desi really appears to be strutting his stuff and being king of the garden. You both seem very settled and happy in your new, beautiful home. I’m very sorry for your loss and am glad you can be a comfort to your exhusband during this time.
Very heartwarming Susan. You are blessed to still be close friends with your x husband and for him to help you at the lowest point in your life says a lot about his character and his genuine concern for you. So sorry for the loss of your beloved friend.
Somehow you have not been on my feed since you moved into your new home. I missed you! Life distracted me. Today, there you were! As always, your videos touched me. This one in particular meant a lot to me. In 2012, I was diagnosed with breast cancer. My son was away at school, my mom was ill in a nursing home, and I felt absolutely alone. I had been divorced for 20 years. Nonetheless, My former husband, and father of my son, drove from another state every time I had a doctor’s appointment, testing and surgery ( I had several ). He called me often, and we would watch Dancing with the Stars together while on the phone. He knew I was all alone. He was the reason I survived that time in my life. I will never forget what he did for me. A few years later, he was suddenly taken from us due to an horrific train accident. His kindness taught me what love truly is, and I will never be the same because of it. Thank you for sharing, your story. Yes, love is forever.
A tear jerker, you are truly blessed Susan.
This was one of my favorite videos. I'm 70, my husband is in poor health and my friends and relatives are passing. It's a perfect time to try to figure out all the mysteries of life. My children and grandchildren are my world now. All my friends have their families who take up their time. I hold fast to all the love around me.
Susan, I'm sending you and Dezi all my love. 🌷
Sorry for your loss and I'm happy that you still share kindness with your ex and he shares it with you. Life is too short to waste on resentment or negativity.
I think some people stayed because we could accept each other and others went because they didnt- sometimes due to a sense of superiority, resentment or a desire to control which quiet as I am never works with me! You are such a sweet person. Do take care ❤xx.
Susan, how touching this weeks video was on so many levels and I am truly so sorry for the loss of your ex-Sister-in-Law. Your ex-husband (so handsome indeed) appreciates your love and friendship and kindness in his time of need... just like you appreciated his in yours. I too am now friends with my ex from TN. I have forgiven him and now we feel long distance love for eachother and forgive. You are blessed to have him in your life. Not trying to be too personal but would he consider relocating back home? I'm happy you had this time together no matter.
Sometimes our sisters by marriage become our sisters-in-love. End of a marriage does not diminish the relationship with our sister-in-love. love, or our brother , or son that we acquired through marriage. It’s far deeper than a legality.
When you truly love someone, you will make it work! For better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, in good times and bad times!
LittlePoet, thank you for sharing such love today. I think Jesus puts people in our lives at certain times for a reason. Remembering to love and forgive is huge. I wonder also why some people stay and some leave in my life. I’m thankful for those that are in my life and have been in my life. That includes my furry friends.❤
I always say “Friends for a season” is so true- I’ve had people drift in and out of my life and not stay around or keep in touch- they are friends for a season, as I said before. Sometimes, them not staying close is a blessing. Or so Ive learned- I have three close friends who’ve stayed in touch and reached out and we’ve remained friends who I know will always be there for me if needed- those who I keep close to my heart- and what you e said they tell you the truth- THOSE are the friends I want and welcome into my life- but we only want the best for that person, and that is love.
Well you had me in tears. Thank you for sharing your story. I send my deepest condolences to you and your family.
I think people come and go in and out of our lives because people and circumstances change. We are lucky to have those who are always there and who we can count on but there are always those who have gone away in one way or another which is the hardest part about trusting relationships. There is always a chance they may not always be there and when and if they're not it hurts. There are years of joy and love and there are years of sorrow and grief and yet we still trust and love. Amazing.
May peace fill your heart and your wonderful memories of Jan sustain you.
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Today is the third time I have watched this video and every time I have thought about what you said and how to answer it. I am still not sure what to say but I think that for me, people come and go as if I have things to tidy up with them. Something left undone that had to be corrected then they went out of my life. It may sound crazy but that seems to be what I am here for. You have a beautiful yard and house just like you are yourself. I enjoy listening to you
Susan& Desi- hello!! I have tears in my eyes, hearing your story!! You are indeed blessed to have people in your life who love and trust you!! The fact that you and your ex husband are still good friends and devoted to your family days so much about your character!! You are a special person!! Wishing you and your family all the best!! 😍😍😍🙏🙏🙏
I think that people go in and out of our lives to strengthen us, teach us something important, or prepare us for a new phase of life so we can be there to do the same for others. ❤
Susan, I am so sad for your loss and John's loss. That was wonderful that you two had a chance to help each other with this loss. When I look at John, I see love in his eyes, as well as yours. Friendship, maybe. More, perhaps. What is the basis of a good relationship other than friendship. first? Trust, friendship, children, grandchildren........sounds like a new beginning, possibly? Anyway, thank you for sharing with us.
I heard that people come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Thank you for sharing. I am so sorry for your loss. ❤️
So sorry for your and John's loss! I love the bond you and John have! Desi is so adorable playing in the yard ❤❤❤❤
He really is ❤
Now that I've stopped crying,i thank you for such a true video.I was best friends with my exhusand and my husband now was also best friends with my ex-husband.Thank you.
I'm so sorry for your loss of your dear friend. Death has a way of bringing out either the good or the bad in relationships. What a great time you had with Johnny and your family! Blessings to you and Desi from Midas and me.
Susan you are so right love never dies when someone leaves us. I have lost all my family and my husband. I miss my family so much especially my mother. I try to go forward each day. My husband betrayed me but i think I have forgiven him after 10 years.
I have met a man whom loves me but I cant be vunerable.
I adore little Desi so adorable. Your videos are so real . May you feel happiness in your heart very soon.
Such a beautiful thought provoking evening you gave me. I think people that come into our lives and out of our lives are for lessons to be learned. The good, the bad and the ugly lessons in life. Some we forever bond with, some we are glad they left, and some we are left hurting, but each one of the people that came, stayed or left gave us something to learn. ❤
I traveled to San Francisco yesterday around the time that I would normally be anxiously awaiting your vid to post lol I live just 20 to 30 minutes south of the city, but took public transportation due to parking issues up there. Met up with my son and his girl of 4 years, they moved in together and wanted to take me out on the town, a great time, got home pretty late. So, I was just having my first cup of coffee watching this gorgeous piece of work yours, Susan ❤ You are a story teller, thank you for sharing ;*)
John is a very special person and it’s so beautiful that you are both there for each other. Love never dies.😘❤🙏🏻✨
So sorry for your loss of your dear friend, Jan and John’s sister! It was so nice that he came to see you and you could spend time with each other! I’m sure it was very much needed for you both! 💔🥲
Protect your heart Susan ❤️
I'm feeling afraid for you. 'TRUST" is a word that never touches my lips anymore. You are a romantic, trusting and vulnerable. RED LIGHT!!!
She's lucky she has Johnny in her life. They may not have worked out but at least he's not naturally evil. She said nothing washes love away but I think she's wrong- it's easy to wash away any love you had for someone who ended up being a sadistic psychopath who tortured you on purpose. Obviously Johnny is not that