An interview with Isabella Rossolini she said she was in an antique shop & saw a middle-aged lady in the back of the store and they shared a smile. She was shocked to realize as she got closer to the woman, it was herself! Who can't related to that? Even someone as beautiful as Isabella!
Oh stop it !! but it's true. My Aunt's at family occasions would say. ' oh you look so much like your mother' I was happy I felt complemented. My mother was a beautiful woman. Silly me I look in the mirror now 20 years later and I see my Mother looking back at me I was never as beautiful as my mother A beautiful person inside and out. . Where did all the years go.
@@dianahogg6164 What a beautiful reminder to us all about how we can look like our Moms and then one day after they've departed from this earth, we can still look in the mirror and see them through ourselves! What a beautiful gift God has given to us.🙏
I am so aware of the difference between being alone and lonely. When my marriage ended after 28 years - I was afraid of that. Now more than 15 years have passed I realized that my stress and pain of the life I was living is gone. Life is more peaceful and yes to "freedom". I am wishing that all that are feeling lonely will find peace and rest.
My favorite part of this video is that I learned that you and Desi volunteer at the nursing home!This makes my heart sing with joy!!! At almost 61 ys and living solo for over 25 yrs! ( I say that out loud and just stare.....lol) I can't help but think what is going to happen to me in my late late years. The fact that you give life and joy to these wonderful souls shows your beautiful heart. I drive by nursing homes/ memory care facilities, and cry praying no one there is lonely. You have inspired me to reach out to this memory care that is only 5 min away from me. Thank you for being the light in their lives!!! Thank you! ☆♡☆
Oh reading your words just made my night! Desi and I are only there for 3 hours but it's like magic for us! Thank you for your beautiful heart! xo Susan & Dez
@thatgirlmadge 👍Yes, you can go help perhaps during lunch or dinner time to help the staff feed those clients who can't assist themselves. Perhaps you can help wheel those who cant get back to their bedrooms, then ask staff to assist them into their beds. Sometimes when we'd go with our church to do an evening entertainment classes, some that wanted to get out of their rooms would be left out of the events because no one told them about or reminded them about events. I'd go room to room to invite and assist them to the events room. It was sad to see clients lined up all along the hall waiting to be transported back to their rooms. There are many ways you can assist. Onc es during Christmastime, I found out a lady who worked at a department store who had her Dad at a facility that our church visited. The lady was so sad that she'd have to work long late hours and couldn't get to see her Dad to feed him, so I told her that I would go feed him on days she worked late...oh how relieved she was!
When I was in my 60’s age didn’t bother me, but now that I am 77 I often think about approaching 80 which is very different. So far I’ve had good health, and I’m grateful, but I became a widow almost three years ago and I feel more vulnerable. Thank you for the advice about reaching out to help others which is helpful in getting the focus off our circumstances.
Yes Kathy I know exactly how you feel. I will be 75 this summer and I keep thinking 80 IS JUST AROUND THE CORNER!!. Good health in the past also but now I have a knee that will not bend when I walk and it is very disturbing to walk looking disabled. I am not married. I guess to have children and friends and family who love you and want to spend time with you is about as good as it gets. Unfortunately I do not have those people in my life either but there is nothing I can do about it. Take one day at a time I guess. Take care, and let's try to have some joy whenever we can and be thankful we have been blessed with good health in the past and we are still here in our 70s.I hope 🙏 ❤
My grandmother told us ( her granddaughters) a life lesson 60 years ago. She said “ I keep seeing this old wrinkled woman looking at me from a mirror. It took me a bit to realize it was me! But I feel the same on the inside as I did when I was 16”. She was in her late 70s at that time. You would have to know her life story to appreciate this statement. I now understand her meaning.
Getting older is a privilege that many never have Every stage of life has great advantages My Mother,who had Cancer twice,did volunteer work well until her nineties She walked the neighbour’s dog down to the beach and would go on day trips with her friend Very independent and lived to read and listened to music Life is a Celebration Warm Hugs xx
I really needed to hear this right now. It is 4 a.m. and I can’t sleep. I had a bad day thinking about all the people I have lost recently and another one who is dying. I cried a lot. My weekends are the time when I miss them most. It is very difficult. Thank you for easing my heart. 💕
I came to terms with my looks a while ago. Yes, I am feeling older in my body and looks. If I could just feel better, I could deal with what I look like. Friends come and go and that makes me sad. 2 of my best friends had to move because their husband died. Volunteer work is a good to overcome loneness. I will not plan my funeral. I know where I am going. I am a believer in the Lord. so I don't care if I have a funeral because there will be a celebration in Heaven. Love you and Desi
At 68 and married to a man 17 years younger it has been a wild ride. We will be married 30 years in July. He always keeps me feeling young, but lately that old feeling starts creeping in and I’m so aware of my mortality. Knowing that we may never “grow old” together haunts me everyday. But I wouldn’t trade the past 30 years for all the tea in China. I have been blessed so I plan to give all I’ve got like there is no tomorrow. Love all you ladies❤️ And Susan you are the belle of the ball. ❤️🥰
I want to thank you because you have really saved me a lot of money! Truly! I have needed some counseling for some time now but each week you seem to hit on the topics and thoughts that I have needed to talk about or confess out loud to myself or to a therapist! I want to come back to myself, so thank you. In the past I was a pretty woman but in the last five years or so I have allowed myself to become invisible and gave myself permission to fade into the background of my life. I have suffered emotionally from doing that and I think my husband has suffered from it because he doesn't understand why I quit caring about myself. It really takes a lot of effort to keep up with "pretty" and the strength to keep up with it all had faded away too! Anyway, slowly but surely, I am re-committing myself to myself each week after listening to you. It is obvious that you care about us and I personally thank you for all of the thought and advise that you share each week. For not having met you in person, you are really becoming one of my most favorite people. Thank you for all of the encouragement that you give each and every week. Love to you and Desi! Have a lovely week to come. Give Desi ❤🐈a doggy treat from me!
I read this Ginger and I got tears in my eyes. Being a woman is not really an easy gig...and it never had been. Gosh, I remember at 10 years old somebody at school said I wore bad socks and my legs were too fat. Thus, my first diet at 10...just a little girl. I want to sometimes just say screw it! I LOVE popcorn! I would eat a bag every day if I could! But alas, it puts weight on me and I have little willpower if I buy a bag...it calls my name!!! I think for me I want to live a long life...that means keeping my weight down...exercising, drinking water and so on and so forth. I would rather stick pins in my foot than post a picture of myself somewhere, but I do it. But I think it's silly. You are deep, kind and so insightful...I imagine that man of yours loves you very much. I am grateful you are here. It means the world to me...and we have such a fine bunch of gals here...I feel so luck! Love to you, Sues
@@LittlePoet Thank you Susan for your sweet reply!!!! You are 100% right about following through with the daily necessary routines of diet, exercise and drinking that water!!!!yes!!!! I want to live out my days in health not sickness! Anyway, thank you for being here. You are a treasure!❤ Btw you are such a great videographer! The winter scenes are so beautiful! Hugs! Ok, I'm pressing forward!! See you Friday!
Dearest Susan thank you for this video from your heart ❤️ thank you for teaching us to not give up and to find a purpose! You hit a nerve when you said ‘invisible’. That is exactly how I feel now especially at work. I’ve caught the looks of the younger people in meetings when I express my ideas. It’s like oh no here she goes rambling on about her dated ideas and how it was done in the good old days. The last time that happened I was in the break room and I was talking about going to WW and how much it has helped me be healthy and feel better and I’ve lost over 50 lbs I realize they were making fun of me and making me with their questions and I just stopped in mid-sentence and went back to my cubicle. I’ve decided they are not worthy of my time or advice! I don’t have to waste my time on them I have better friends to spend my time with that care and respect me for who I am at any age! Again thank you for all the beautiful lessons you share with us every week. You mean so much to so many! Love always 🌞Donna
This is so true Ms Donna, I was just having that conversation with my sons the other day how back when I was growing up the respect for older people and even just people in general was so different then it is now. I feel so blessed that my man children were raised to respect and be humble and helpful to everyone.
Congratulations Donna! 50 lbs is a lot of weight to loose and takes such control and hard work. You are right, don’t waste time on people who are selfish and disrespectful. Go Donna! 🙏👍😁
Hi Donna, this is not a you problem. It’s a them problem. They weren’t raised right and they don’t understand showing respect for other people. Especially people that are older and wiser than them. That is a fantastic accomplishment for your health. Don’t let them steal your thunder!!
Their lost, not yours...just yesterday I've spent hours talking with my mum, almost all people I am friends with are older, family members or not, I learn so much from them, plus, they know how to talk. I just couldn't be bothered to spend time with people my age, I feel I was born in the wrong generation. 50 lbs weight loss is a great accomplishment. Congrats!
Aww Donna, don't let them get you down. We live in a world now where disrespect and incivility are OK. I am shocked every day at what people think is OK to say and do. You sound like an awesome woman who achieved a wonderful weight loss goal. Be proud of yourself and don't let the idiots get to you!
You will never know how much you spoke to my hurting heart. One thing we ladies ALWAYS need is a galpal to just sit and laugh with. Many of us no longer have that any longer...this message was so uplifting. Thank you❤
Such a relatable video. I’m like your friend Mary - my husband and I (I’m 68) pre-paid for our cremation last year -just to get it taken care of and since 2020 I’ve been obsessed with clearing out our drawers, rooms etc getting rid of stuff so if something happens to one of us, we won’t feel overwhelmed. Doing both actually gives me peace and relief. Also, lost my dad and girlfriends recently. My mom is gone too. The loss is tremendous- it has created such a void. I’m healthy and active but clearly feeling my mortality more and more with the passing of time. My husband will be 90 this year and has cognitive decline so I’m bracing myself for tough times ahead
You sound quite realistic and grounded to me. I'm 70 and feel like I need to get started de-cluttering my house so my kids won't be burdened with dealing with it someday. It's no different than downsizing in a sense, which everyone praises...so, why not, especially if it gives ypu peace.
I feel like a stranger in a strange land! Since I found you and Desi . . I’m interested in things again. Thank you so much for sharing your personal self with all of us. Thank you for opening up your private life and making it a public life. I guess what I’m trying to say is “You are Amazing!”. . .
I am 62. Divorced after 30+ yrs. On my own. Bought my little single mobile home in a safe place. I get to see my children and grandchildren. My greatest mistakes in life involved embarrassing DUI's. I am just paddling water to be happy again listening to you all day gives me so much hope! Love you so much! Love from Mead WA.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. They really hit home with me. I’ll be 66 soon and don’t feel old at all! The world around me keeps telling me I’m old but I refuse to believe it! I have been struggling with grief and the loss of people in my life so thank you for your prospective.
Susan - Truer words were never spoken. Things we all need to hear. We all have value and worth at any age and the main person we need to remind of that fact is ourselves. Thank you for opening this discussion and reminding us to indeed cherish the past as we look forward to the future. Happy Valentine's Day to you and dear Mr. Desi, my friend. 💕 Blessings - Judith 🎭🎵
Dear Susan!!! Thank you, you inspire me to move forward at 63 getting devorced after a marriage of 40yrs. I've been a fitness competitor all my best years and stopped competing 10yrs ago, waking up every day to a new body was a challenge but God opened my eyes to a new me whom I embrace. Isn't it an absolute blessing that our eyes look to the beauty of God 90% of they day and only a small sec looking in a mirror? I thank God for my health, I don't train that much anymore, I can honestly say I'm more content with my life now than any other period of my life. You gave some amazing ideas and highlighted things worth changing, I needed that. May God bless you in Abundance. HE MADE ME WHOLE!!! ALL THE WAY FROM SOUTH AFRICA!!
I love this. I was divorced after 32 years and God has helped me to move forward also. I’m no longer sad to be alone. We are never alone with Jesus. I’m much more at peace than I’ve ever been in my life. And nothing can separate us from His love. 🙌🏻🕊✝️Blessings.❤️
After reading a lot of the comments I realize that I feel the same as a lot of people it's funny how when you feel like you've lost yourself you don't think that happens to other people that it's only your problem
Thank you for sharing your experience ❤ I’m 62 and starting over with nothing except my faith in God. Your video helped me today to keep hope alive. God bless you.
Great heartfelt topic tonight.I'm going to be 63 in May and I am thinking about my future all the time lately.Seeing you thrive and giving back is an inspiration for me.😊💛
I am going to be 75 this year, I understand how you feel. There is always someone that wants to be your age. I know that doesn't help but someone wants to be my age too. Take care and enjoy life.
I’m about to celebrate my 75th b-day in a few weeks. I never felt old until I reached 70. Suddenly, I’m having a difficult time seeing that woman in the mirror, too. I started cleaning out things so my daughters won’t have so much to do, so you hit the nail right on the head with that comment. It’s an adjustment for sure this getting older. I had a job I loved and worked until I was 72. I’ve worked all my life so my retirement feels like everything came to a dead halt. I do have friends and go to parties, etc. I have some hobbies that I love and I still enjoy using makeup and dressing up even if I’m staying home. I just hope I can adjust to the slower pace. I want to thank you for this video because immediately I’m going to relax and enjoy my home and what’s in it; no more getting rid of things, LOL. Love that you and Desi go to the nursing home, that’s fantastic! I have no doubt that they love you both.
Great topic. I moved a couple years ago. Moved away from my long time friends. The loss is unbearable at times. I do work , meet people, invited people in my neighborhood for dinner parties, reached out to people I meet. But sadly I feel at this age getting others to let you in to their friend group is really difficult and that makes me sad. If I have any advice it’s to always keep in mind that if someone has reached out to you and tried to connect maybe extend the hand of kindness in return at some point. Because you should know it took extreme bravery from that person to extend reach out to you to try to connect. Big birthday this year for me. It is great to make it this far. But the empty nest and loneliness 🙁 I’d love if you talked about making friends at an older age.
I, too, moved 1300 miles away from everything I knew/ loved/ cherished. Am in an over 55 community & thought it would be fairly easy at my age( presently age 68) to make new friends, but I was 100% wrong!) .the pandemic hasn't helped either as all activities were shut down. Hopefully, with the slow re- opening of activities, I may make acquaintances, but I'm not so sure. Sometimes I feel like I'm reliving high school days with the " cliques"!!!! I haven't given up completely yet!
Thank you for the video today because it is just what I needed to hear. I am now in my 70"s and the " me" that I always depended on is hidden behind the fact that the whole world knows I'm not young anymore. Having been on my own at a young age, I realized how much I could depend on looking pretty and being full of life. Now, somehow I can't explain to anybody else, I am still me. Tonight I have been scared about the whole thing to the point of panic. When I found your video, it was exactly what I needed. I am older and as you said it is an adjustment. However, I do take good care of myself and try not to gain weight, keep up with my walking, and dress well. It is good to know that I am still me and there is a place for me that is good.
I was the same and thought I was doing really good for my age until I was diagnosed with breast cancer. Going through chemo and radiation took a tremendous toll on my brain and my body. I can no longer do what I used to. Talk about feel useless. So many who have never been through this think that since my treatments are over I should be my old self. My oncologist told me this is my new normal. The neuropathy in my hands and feet some days is unbelievable. No one understands. And...chemo brain is a real thing.
Hi Gerry This is the first time I have ever sent a comment! Your msg touched me. I hear you. I also have neuropathy in my feet and hands from chemo - having recovered from Stage 4 colon cancer. I know how difficult it can be But remember to celebrate that we do have Life!! We do have a purpose, we can show others how to be grateful, strong survivors!!! Blessings to you! Be gentle with yourself.
Gerry I was there 5 years ago. Truly believe unneeded that experience. I’ve grown a lot since then. Yes I’m no where near as sharp and feeling every ache and pain, but trust in your belief and know you will come out with a greater gift. Hugs 💕
The losses have overwhelmed me lately and I’ve felt painfully lonely for the first time, though I’ve often been alone. Thank you for reminding me that my loved ones are gone but not the love they had for me. That will always be part of me. So much healing in that.❤️
Thank you Susan-loss is real! I just found out a newer friend is preparing for hospice. She will be the second friend I’ve lost inside of two years! This morning I’ve wept with this news and yet I know for me at this age 76 I want to head out and see the world. Selfishly before my time I want to explore more. To just live! ❤️
Oh Diane, what a harsh morning you have had. I am so sorry and I will say a prayer for your friend. It seems you turned the grief you feel into determination....I admire you so much. xo Susan
Susan..this video touched me so deeply. The most difficult part for me about getting older is missing family and friends that have passed. A great loss for me has been my grandparents. How I wish I could pick up the phone and call them! I feel like they do live inside of me and I feel their presence. That is what gets me through the challenging times. I love that you go to the nursing home. My dad, who is 80, goes there with his band to play for the residents. Music has been his life too, and I think he loves playing now more than ever. You are such an inspiration! Love you!❤️
Oh we have that in common..such a love of a grandparent! I so wish we could meet you your Dad sometime! I didn't know your Dad had a band!!!! Happy Sunday to you!!! xxoo Sues & D
@@LittlePoet You both would get along so well. He is also a singer. His main instruments are piano and saxophone. I have always admired his musical talent and yours!❤️
Well this video was timely! I am turning 65 in the next couple of weeks and have been feeling very down about the whole thing. My husband left our marriage about 8 years ago after being married for 37 years - I have not dated as my self esteem really tanked when he left. Then I lost my dear mother earlier this year and watching her decline the last few months really scared me - that this is what I now have to "look" forward to. I just seem to have lost my direction and find it hard to get excited about what is to come for me. I am wondering how many other woman have been "hit on" - cuz if I have, I missed it. That too depresses me as I have not had one man ask me out or show any interest in me - so of course that does not help with self esteem. I do get out with friends and keep active but I am still sometimes lonely!
32 years for my husband and me. I know the pain too. It’s now been 11 years and I’m glad to be single again. I didn’t think I would live through it but I’m much better without him. God has been with me and I feel loved by Him. I pray you find Love and comfort, too. ❤️🙏🕊
What we have to stop doing is comparing ourselves to anyone, not to other women, younger women, or our younger selves and who we once were. What we need to do is accept ourselves right where we're at and work with it. At 66 I am once again working on recreating myself. But I have to employ self acceptance and self compassion everyday. And I'm doing it while I continue to be the 24/7 caregiver for my 87 yr old mother with Dementia. But I have dreams, visions, and goals for my life. My mentor just passed last year at age 100. She was a dancer and she danced right up to the end. I love your last 3 points. 🙏💞🙏
My best friend from elementary school passed away suddenly last week and I'm still trying to process it. 😥.I still can't believe that she is gone. She will always be in my heart and I will always remember all of our memories together.
I truly needed this today. I'll be 70 March 3rd and although I've never felt old, have been blessed with good health, turning 69 +1as my friend says. It's made me have more downs than ups. I look at my house and it's in such bad shape, my finances are not good. That doesn't help. So thank you for this video, I needed that. You and Desi are sweet and adorable. Happy Valentine's Day to you both.
I was really shocked when I went to pay my bill and the clerk automatically gave me senior discount!… the nerve!… I felt violated,I was shocked!… but I stayed calm and said to myself “it’s happening,it’s showing,stay calm,go,just go,don’t say anything “
Wow Susan !! This video really touched home!!! So many things I’m feeling these days since turning 60 you have pointed out and voiced them. I just recently turned 63 and I feel I need constant reminders that I still matter!! I was in tears with what you were saying. Thank you for the reassurance that life is still worth fighting for and living with everything you got!! ❤❤❤❤
One of the most difficult things about aging is that I feel clueless with all the technology. I feel like I don’t know how to do anything. Thank goodness for my kids who explain everything to me.
Your outlook on life has helped me to see aging in a positive light. I'm 63 and need role models around that inspire me. Thank you! -Desi always melts my heart.💞
Thank you so much. I needed this video today. I lost my best friend to suicide 2 years ago and I’ve felt such a sense of loneliness since she’s been gone. I feel a sense of emptiness and hurt when I see friends out having a great time.
Andri I too have lost my best friend and have never been able to get over losing her. She was so sad and I feel so guilty I was not able to help her. I am so lost and lonely without my best friend. Life is not the same and will never be.
@@nancyvelasquez546 I’m so sorry for your loss. I totally understand that guilt feeling of not being able to help. I miss her everyday and sometimes when I think I am healing, something will remind me of her and I can’t hold back the tears. There definitely an emptiness that never goes away.
For me the hardest things are money worries and losing friends to father Time. My dearest Mother also passed away nearly two years ago and it still hurts so very bad and I have become a stranger to myself. What a wonderful video this was, you take care and give my regards to Desi.
I’m 66 and lately I can’t wait to get started with something new - anything!! I was talking to my sister-in-law and she was saying how she wouldn’t do some facelifts etc because she was too old at 77. I told her if she wanted it to do it because it would make her feel better and more alive!! You’re never too old.
This was a valuable video for me to hear; It's good to know that others internal age hasn't caught up to their external age either! I still can't believe that 61 years have passed, but then my knees remind me that they have! Susan, I'd love it if you'd do a video on making new friends at our age. So many of my friends have moved on, retired and moved away, passed away, or just can't bring themselves to get out in a covid scary world. I feel like I'm always ready to meet a new friend, but don't always find others want to- maybe they feel they already have enough friends. Thank you for providing such important food for thought!
I'm having trouble meeting new friends too. I moved to a new town 3 years ago and my husband passed away this past October. My neighbors are always keeping to themselves and act like I'm intruding if I take them a gift such as extra ears of corn I get at the farmers market or a small token of friendship with Christmas goodies. I'm about to give up on them. I keep trying different churches and just can't seem to get past a friendly hello. Weird times we are living in.
I've looked at life from both sides now, well maybe all sides and at this age of 65 I feel you can certainly be happy on some days alone. I think times have changed where children and family members come around and make you a part of something , part of the the tribe, your tribe so to speak. Now in many families, everyone is out doing there own thing and the elderly are being ignored and I tend to feel a sadness in my heart because of this. As a private duty nurse for so long taking care of the elderly I saw this so often, older people with health issues just left alone without anyone, my visit was so important to them and I tried to make it the best experience I could and sometimes stayed longer when I felt they needed it. It always made me sad that none of their family visited them. I don't believe it is the older person that actually feels bad about themselves , I believe it is what this culture in America has made them feel, like they aren't important anymore or they are disposable after they reach a certain age and we feel that. I wish more people would respect, care and visit people that are getting older and make them feel needed and wanted, especially family. I always thought if I won the lottery I would start an organization where people could just go and check on the elderly that need someone to talk to or a meal prepared or their house tided up and it would not cost them anything for this service. I lived alone for a long time and I grew not to like it so much, I just believe everyone needs someone to be close to in some manner. But maybe that is just me. I guess maybe I should write a book about this or maybe I already have.
Hi Beautiful Susan, Thank you for your amazing videos. You are so courageous in opening yourself up like you do! I commend you. I'm 62 (Michele from Cape Town, South Africa) and recently fully recovered from Stage 4 cancer and learnt that every day is precious! You are so inspirational with your insights and outlook. You feel like a very dear friend to me - someone I would Love to go out with and have lots of fun with - celebrating life! My Dad - who lived very healthily to 95 always said...anyone 90 years and younger is a 'spring chicken'! Now in my book that's a good outlook on life!!! Sending you and Desi lots of love!! Thank you for all the change you inspire in so many people's lives!!
Such an important subject. I appreciate your openness. It's difficult as a woman,in my 60s and alone.I do feel judged on my looks as a first impression. I've loved being on my own,but not so much,anymore.
Just wanted to say......I am 76 years old and I am an artist who sells a bit of art and that has been a great and wonderful accomp,ishment for me! I just finished and graduated an online real estate course! I am proud of what I accomp,ished there! I did not tell anyone that I was embarking upon such a thing. I waited until I was almost finished to even tell my children! I did not want anyone to tell me I was too old. Now I look forward to have an interesting part time, exciting new adventure and may even make a little money! So, please, please do not limit yourself, do not give in to that thing that says you are finished! That is why I love this channel because the Little Poet has so much to say in this regard!
Hi Susan, Love your spontaneous videos. You a really are lovely. I’m divorced and 62. We all hold each other up. Life is just beginning. Much love and friendship.
HI Susan This was quite soul-serching episode, I am 84 and live alone but luckily I still have 6 childhood friends who are not too mobile but still in good health. Because of the Pandemic we don't get together but are often on line or on the phone and anxiously waiting for this virus to give up! We are women who have traveled a lot and we have lived through the best years ❤ in history! I remember your saying your dream of going to Paris so I have found a wonderful utube LES FRENCHIES and JANICE IN FRANCE (moved at age 70) which you would find very interesting as well as some of your subscribers (I lived in Paris for 1 year for studies in1968 ) GO AS SOON AS YOU CAN DO IT SAFELY!
I have felt invisible since I have retired five years ago. I cannot tell you how much your video touched me. Thank you Susan. You are my best friend I have never met.
Wise words, very inspirational post! I love this Mark Twain quote: "Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter." Hugs to you and the Dez!
Omg yes, as i aged I realized, I need to be able to sleep at night. I must do the right thing. I tell my nephews, be kind yor depression will ty... Everything changed after 59, inside and outside... Vanity is our affliction our whole life. Aging is about letting that GO. WE are now seen for what's inside, without the distraction of our youthful face. I'm happier not dressing up some days, just blending into the crowd... As for grief. Dealing with grief is Harder with age, cuz it seems everyday so much is taken away from us already. Just one loss after another. Friends moved away, people transition, divorce.... Day after day the petals of our youth drift away... searching for the taste of it fighting the inevitable.... all the while the ticking of the clock is heard. AND wasted on grief and regret. 💞
Thank you so much for your video. When I turned 60 I felt something change in me, but I refused to hold me back. Yes, I have some physical issues now, but they are mostly due to decisions I made at a certain time in my life. My best friend, after losing her husband had to move across the country. It devastated me, but I knew it would be good for her. I miss her, but talk to her almost daily and I do carry her in my heart. As I'm retiring in 3 months, I look forward to making the trip to see her and be there for awhile. My dog keeps me feeling young. I may have crepy skin and weakened bones, but she makes me laugh every single day and laughter is good for the soul. May you have a blessed week!
Thank you for taking the time to read all responses to your videos , this one truly was a awesome full of insight and wisdom and a kick in the pants to some stinking thinking about us older women in aging . Thank you for sharing and lighten up the thoughts of the process and shining light on we still have life left to live so get the dancing shoes out from underneath where ever they maybe get the pretty dress on due the hair up right some earrings on or not find the perfume that lifts up the mood of Joy and head on out to a place where the stars are shining the music lifts up the spirits and enjoy .
Hi Susan, we look older outside but we still feel 20 inside! I have a chronic illness and kidney disease, but I still look after myself! I wear perfume every day, I cleanse my skin, I eat healthily, I like clothes, I like to look nice, but I like myself, you are such an inspiration, I still enjoy my life even with an illness, I like make up, I colour my hair, I am 64! I love to help others, I think of other people's feelings, I care! But it makes me feel good, I don't worry about my age, I have a lot of life to live! I was a nurse, I like to help people, I care!
Thank you so much for such kind and gentle reminders that we all need to hear. I really needed this today. I’ve been feeling tired and worn out at 56. I am my husbands full time caregiver he’s only 53. Also two of my adult children with one wife, daughter 2 and son on the way. And my daughter has a 3 year old. Very busy house hold. A lot of stress. Working on upcoming changes. Anyway I really enjoyed your words.
I LOVE that you bring Desi to the nursing home! I work in a memory care facility, and they adore babies, dogs, and visits from anyone!! They are still people, and capable of great love. God bless you for doing that. P.S. I ADORE Desi! What kind of a dog is he??
Love 🎉 i turned 60 this weekend ! I’m determined to healthy happy smart if anything to pass on to my children and grandkids ❤ You encourage me so much ! Thank you !
Susan, this was exactly the Sunday morning sermon I needed. I just turned 62 and feel like I'm really struggling with body image and feeling irrelevant in this crazy world of social media. You are really a joy to listen to and, although I'm a fairly new subscriber, you have really helped me navigate the murky waters of aging. I've gone back and listened to many of your videos. Thank you so much and keep the "sermons" coming. Desi is adorable.
I was very touched by this video, Susan. I had the supreme shock when I was actually still in my 30's of seeing not my mom, not myself, but my DAD in the mirror in unexpected sightings and this continues Sheesh! I've developed a personal practice now of doing all my self-care on the imaginary face and body of a younger, prettier, thinner version of me. I look in the mirror carefully of course but I kinda squint, or look with my heart instead of my eyes, and sustain the illusion that I'm just an ageless 'glowing from the inside' person the same as I've always been. (I know it's very much a game, but mostly it's fun and makes me happy.). When men ask if I'd like to have a coffee or meet up somewhere else, I don't think of it as being "hit on" but of them seeing an interesting person who they'd enjoy talking to. All the things you mentioned are very poignant and there's no getting around them. Thank you for inspiring us to face the music, enjoy what we hear and make every precious day count. I'm finding that paying attention to the little things makes the big things more bearable. I think that's what you do too. xo karen
Beautiful video Little Poet, Thank you! I've begun working out again at the gym. I notice the next day, I feel stronger, and more vibrant, and so Proud of myself for keeping a schedule to allow me to feel better. I also realize, I am a senior now, I can't stop the aging process, but I can age as Fit as I can be, and feel proud and strong, for me. 🥰 Love you Little Poet, and all you Beautiful sister's out there. And I did notice that Desi looked particularly handsome tonight, and I think he was proudly looking into the camera. 😃 ( You Always look Beautiful LP) ❤
Beautiful inspiration in this video and the comments. I had a partner that was 17 years younger than me for 13 years. It was a wonderful time in my life. We had so much in common and we went dancing every Saturday night! He was so good to me. I used to say “ look at that babe” when we were at the club and he said “ I don’t want to look at her-I want to look at you”❤️
At 67 I’m far wiser then I used to be but I miss my youth, feeling good and yes my hair skin and body were pretty perfect.I wish I could go back in time but be this smart and savvy. Lol Congratulations to the winners
I'm probably going to shock you but I love being older [66] and I'm never lonely . I've been a widow since 1995 and disabled since 1997 , lost many loved ones but their in my heart and not forgotten . I have a beautiful son &daughter , I feel very blessed . I live my life with gratitude and positivity along with family and friends . I'm leaving a big mess of my stuff for people to empty out when I go because I need all that stuff for living my life . I know I make a difference in people's lives , am very glad you & Desi volunteer at the nursing home . Susan you are a vibrant , wonderful ,caring person ,just lovely . Hugs for Desi ,you gangsta !! Susan , I received notice from you that I won 100.00 for VENUS and I sent you my email in messenger but I haven't heard from you , if you can send me a note I would appreciate . Thank you & God Bless
Lou Ann I am very sorry you were tageted by a scammer. I draw the winner live in the video and never email. I am so sorry. Thank you fro being here...let me know if all is ok...xxoo Sues
Oh my god! This video made me laugh and cry so hard! I needed a good cleanse like this. I’m only in my late 50’s but I’ve been so beat down for so long. Last July I moved out on my boyfriend and got an apartment by myself. I have felt so unsure, invisible, afraid and old. I lost my Mom in November and one of my daughters went to school for psychology and decided she needed to cut me out of her and my grandson’s lives. I felt like I didn’t know what was right or wrong anymore. I know I haven’t been perfect but I can honestly say I never did anything with malice in mind, I never look to hurt anyone and I really try hard to do what’s right. The past two weeks, having found your channel, has helped me start to pick up my pieces and feel alive again. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, feelings and experiences. You truly are a blessing 💖🙏
Susan, after I listen to you, I just feel better. More optimistic. Lighter. More hopeful--like I've just gone to church. Thank you for caring enough about us and yourself to tell us the truth. It's helping me! xoxo
You are my new guru. I don't feel lonely in my freedom anymore. I have two cats, two birds, all my treasures and mementos, and thankfully my health. Who could ask for more. I volunteer also, it is so rewarding. I reach out often. I have also lost several dear friends and family. I still feel their energy. Many people just want connection, even if briefly. Life is good.
Dear Susan, Thank you for this amazing and unfiltered discussion. I learn monthly how I want to understand myself and how to contribute. Sometimes we get caught up in “the story I tell myself”. So thankful for your Saturday inspiration and giving back as a volunteer. I know, it can be life changing ❤️❤️ .
I just wanna say thank you for making this video because I am in my mid-40s and most of my relatives passed away all I have is my husband and kids & I have lost most of my family because they passed away & since then I feel like I am living in a different world especially because I see myself aging this video was very helpful & you helped me understand the true meaning of life & i just want to live my life in peace & happiness I Appreciate every thing in my life I don’t take nothing for granted and I think God helped me find your channel because you inspire me so very much you make me cry all the time. Lol but in a good way I brag about you to my husband and kids all the time You speak a lot of how I’m feeling and thinking anyway with that being said please give Desi a kiss on the cheek for me!! 🥰 thank you so much for your videos I really appreciate you have a good night God bless!! 🥰🙏❤️
Thank you so much for your video. I feel like I already died 32 years ago when I lost my true love. He didn’t die, but it feels like he did because he’s married to someone else. Then I really died all over again when I was only 47 when I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I prayed to God to let me get older, and now I am 69. I even prayed at 47 I wouldn’t mind getting wrinkles if he’d let me get older. Now I do have a few, but much less than most women my age. I feel like I have been living on borrowed time since being diagnosed with the breast cancer. I found out friends I thought were friends really weren’t. I’m glad to know it now so I didn’t have to waste time with them. I know men still feel me attractive & even sexy. I never tell any of them I had breast cancer; I don’t want them to think of me in that way. I hate how they say men are visual as though women aren’t. Of course I think younger men look way better than the older ones. (LOL) I prefer to be with men close to my age though, but I think a lot of them are bitter from divorces or they hold their deceased wife so far up on a pedestal as perfect I couldn’t live up to that. So, I might end up alone, but with what I’ve been through I know I”ve been through worse.
Hello Chris! Oh yes, love can hurt us in ways that we never imagined. And I do enjoy being alone because I really never am alone...at least that is how it feels to me!!! Thank you so much for leaving me such a lovely comment...it means the world to me. A very happy weekend to you! Stay warm and safe. xxo Susan & Desi
@@LittlePoet Happy weekend to you also. I don’t really ever feel alone either, I’m always busy doing something. One of the most beautiful gifts God has given all of us is animals. At any time we can go out and adopt a pet or pets & have an instant family. I have a daughter & four grandchildren that live four hours away unfortunately, but I can at least go visit them & they visit me when they can. I wouldn’t mind having a mate again, but it’s not easy nowadays. I do hate when my niece keeps asking me if I’ve met anyone yet. It makes me feel like she thinks I’m incomplete because I’m not with someone. If it’s meant to be it will happen, if not I feel like Betty White when she said when you’ve had the best who needs the rest.
All you say is so true! I do find more younger men are finding me attractive now. At first I thought it was hilarious that someone younger than my son would be interested in me. Now I think why not! If we have interests in common and not everything is a forever thing!
I am a new member and I love it 🥰 I am almost 81 and everybody said I look about 60. I use a very good products and exercise every day. I love to see your smile and you being happy.🌹🙏
Susan, I discovered your UA-cam channel during the pandemic and in many ways, you helped me get through all the isolating lonely days. I've lived alone since 1994 and had created a good life for myself, but when I was no longer able to spend time with friends, go out to enjoy live music, attend singles dances that I discovered 22 years ago (those helped bring me out from under the rock I had been living under far too long!), it became increasingly difficult to fight off anxiety and depression. I had just turned 75, but still felt young and had vitality, when COVID began to shut things down and now, two years later, I'm on the back side of my 70s! During the past two years, it was easy to get lazy, live in sweats, feel so lonely, just plain "blah," and aging too fast as each day rolled into another. On so many days, watching you inspired me, encouraged me, motivated me, made me laugh, and brought me so much comfort and hope. I'm very happy that with COVID case numbers decreasing I've been able to once again get out to do some dancing, hear music, reunite with friends and each time I do, I feel alive again and I'm sure that with time and more chances to do that, my sense of vitality will return! I've often wished we lived near each other (I live in the Detroit metro area) because I think we would become good friends and enjoy many activities together. Thank you for all that you give to each and every one of us who watch you...for me, you are a gift and have been a blessing in my life. By the way, I agree with you about older men versus the younger ones...lol.
OH Martha, thank you for taking the time and letting me know about you and your life. I am so flattered you found me and Desi at such a frightening time in our world. You are in Detroit?!!! I am filming a video in Detroit this spring! Just saying!!!!! Thank you for being here! perhaps we can do lunch!!! xxoo Love to you, Susan & Desi
@@LittlePoet I was so happy to receive your response, Susan! I live in St. Clair Shores, a suburb of Detroit and would be thrilled to do lunch with you! Please let me know when you'll be in the area! I should have added in my first comment that seeing Desi has brought me joy as well...my little Bichon, Vixen, passed away in July of 2019 and I miss him so much. I'm so glad that you have Desi to keep you company! Pets are the best!! Look forward to hearing from you so we can make plans to meet...I'm betting we could talk for hours! xo Love to you and Desi, Martha
@@marthacassie1881 SO great to meet you Martha!!! Oh dear, I bet we could talk for days!!! I should be there filming in June....my email is sgaide@comcast.net just in case it's June and you would still like to lunch!!! I am going there to film a video on street photography. xxoo
I absolutely love your channel and I don't get here enough but I need to do it more for certain. You look lovely and your topic was spot on. I am 75 and everything you said should be heard by every woman in the world. Loved the message and love the delivery of it! Please keep bringing us your beautiful smile, sharing's and thoughts for everyone to hear. Love your little fur baby and love your home.......apartment.........space..........it's as beautiful as you are inside and out. Blessings
Thank you for this video. Im turning 68 this yr also. I still work this being my last year. I still get smiles from men my age and younger too. Once i received a nod and hello by a man near my age with his much younger girlfriend. She did not react positively to me taking off in his roles royce. This was in Paradise Valley, AZ. I also find myself wanting to be with younger people as my age. I like to keep learning and wanting to know whats new in music, life, etc. I look forward to growing older. Health, mind are important of course. Loss is something i have dealt with, it is more lonely without those who were in my life. Meeting people, getting out and about if able, and retiring into something else, hobbies, doing what you did not have time to do in the past. Thank you for your channel. I enjoy it.
Dear Susan , I found you channel not too long ago , but every week I'm waiting for a new video , this time , is a great heartfelt topic ...and has touched so many of us . I'm 76 , and I feel invisible and lonely ... listen to you , has been refreshing you are such an inspiration , thank you for being such a friend . God blessed you hon .
This video hit home. Since losing my husband to ALS, I feel sorry for myself sometimes instead of being thankful for the many blessings that I do have. Thanks for reminding us about life.
You are TRULY the BEST!! Your kids are so lucky that when the time does come and we are no longer here they are going to get to know your heart and soul through your videos.... You are definitely best friend material wish we lived closer I'd go listen to jazz with you! 🤗 You wear your heart on your sleeve! It's called being real!! BLESSINGS ALWAYS
You & Desi are the best ! You help so many of us by helping us deal with so many problems. I love your giving heart and how much you care. You’re the best and I await your video every week with joy. Thanks for helping us and for sharing.
Wonderful Video! Thank you! I'm turning 60 in four months and have not been handling it all too well. As silly as it may sound, I feel as if the best part of my life is behind me. Lately, I find myself engaged in bittersweet, vivid memories of yesteryear .As delightful as the memories are, I feel haunted by them. To me, it is a reminder of life gone by and the adventures that I will never have again. I am trying to find new adventures and make new memories. However, they often look better on paper. Don't mean to sound dark...Normally, I am quite the optimist. I'm happy to have found your channel...
Susan I love every minute spending time with u on your amazing channel. This was poignant and thought provoking. I've watched it several times and always learn something from u. Now 70 a happy besotted grandma but some of my most special times are volunteering. I've been volunteering for more than 10 yrs and receive so much joy and satisfaction. Once a week at a care centre for the aged and my most rewarding and privilege is volunteering for lone soldiers of both sexes who come from all over the world to do their 3 year army service. Young and old all have special stories to tell. They show so much appreciation but us volunteers receive far more. With love to u and Desi Leanne from Israel
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Great video, I was 94 Jan 30 , so much yet to do, I do NOT have time to die! LOOK ON THE BRIGHT SIDE OF LIFE
A Very Happy Birthday Marie!!! You just made my year!!! wishing you another fantastic busy year!!! Love to you and yours, Susan & Desi
You are an inspiration to us all! Precious!
@@ladyyaya6782 HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY MY SISTER IS 96 AND STILL GOING STRONG
Happy Belated Birthday Marie! You give us hope! Good health and long life to you! ❤️
The Buddhist master Thich Nhat Hahn called his birthdays Continuation Day and that helped me to understand better that we do go on. Bless you Marie.
An interview with Isabella Rossolini she said she was in an antique shop & saw a middle-aged lady in the back of the store and they shared a smile. She was shocked to realize as she got closer to the woman, it was herself! Who can't related to that? Even someone as beautiful as Isabella!
Oh wow! I am so glad you told me that!!!
Oh stop it !! but it's true. My Aunt's at family occasions would say. ' oh you look so much like your mother' I was happy I felt complemented. My mother was a beautiful woman. Silly me I look in the mirror now 20 years later and I see my Mother looking back at me I was never as beautiful as my mother A beautiful person inside and out. . Where did all the years go.
@@dianahogg6164 What a beautiful reminder to us all about how we can look like our Moms and then one day after they've departed from this earth, we can still look in the mirror and see them through ourselves! What a beautiful gift God has given to us.🙏
Susan...where's the sound????🤷♀️
@@cherieallen9508 lol :) I assure you it's there! How are your speakers?
I am so aware of the difference between being alone and lonely. When my marriage ended after 28 years - I was afraid of that. Now more than 15 years have passed I realized that my stress and pain of the life I was living is gone. Life is more peaceful and yes to "freedom". I am wishing that all that are feeling lonely will find peace and rest.
My favorite part of this video is that I learned that you and Desi volunteer at the nursing home!This makes my heart sing with joy!!! At almost 61 ys and living solo for over 25 yrs! ( I say that out loud and just stare.....lol) I can't help but think what is going to happen to me in my late late years. The fact that you give life and joy to these wonderful souls shows your beautiful heart. I drive by nursing homes/ memory care facilities, and cry praying no one there is lonely. You have inspired me to reach out to this memory care that is only 5 min away from me. Thank you for being the light in their lives!!! Thank you! ☆♡☆
Oh reading your words just made my night! Desi and I are only there for 3 hours but it's like magic for us! Thank you for your beautiful heart! xo Susan & Dez
Amen.🙏💯❤️🩸❤️👊👍💯
What a beautiful comment! God bless you today!❤️
@thatgirlmadge 👍Yes, you can go help perhaps during lunch or dinner time to help the staff feed those clients who can't assist themselves. Perhaps you can help wheel those who cant get back to their bedrooms, then ask staff to assist them into their beds. Sometimes when we'd go with our church to do an evening entertainment classes, some that wanted to get out of their rooms would be left out of the events because no one told them about or reminded them about events. I'd go room to room to invite and assist them to the events room. It was sad to see clients lined up all along the hall waiting to be transported back to their rooms. There are many ways you can assist.
Onc es during Christmastime, I found out a lady who worked at a department store who had her Dad at a facility that our church visited. The lady was so sad that she'd have to work long late hours and couldn't get to see her Dad to feed him, so I told her that I would go feed him on days she worked late...oh how relieved she was!
@@pinkmartini4509 Thank you for all you are doing Pink
When I was in my 60’s age didn’t bother me, but now that I am 77 I often think about approaching 80 which is very different. So far I’ve had good health, and I’m grateful, but I became a widow almost three years ago and I feel more vulnerable. Thank you for the advice about reaching out to help others which is helpful in getting the focus off our circumstances.
Where did the years go? We do feel more vulnerable don't we...........Take care please! I understand completely.
Yes Kathy I know exactly how you feel. I will be 75 this summer and I keep thinking 80 IS JUST AROUND THE CORNER!!. Good health in the past also but now I have a knee that will not bend when I walk and it is very disturbing to walk looking disabled. I am not married. I guess to have children and friends and family who love you and want to spend time with you is about as good as it gets. Unfortunately I do not have those people in my life either but there is nothing I can do about it. Take one day at a time I guess. Take care, and let's try to have some joy whenever we can and be thankful we have been blessed with good health in the past and we are still here in our 70s.I hope 🙏 ❤
@@patriciatravis4497 I will be 75 in April and how I feel about it is complicated. It's like boom, there it is. It just slipped up on me.
We need a beyond 70's channel.
@@MySkywatch2 'Crushing their 80's' is a great channel of a couple (Nanny and Moose) living with zest and realism in their 80s.
My grandmother told us ( her granddaughters) a life lesson 60 years ago. She said “ I keep seeing this old wrinkled woman looking at me from a mirror. It took me a bit to realize it was me! But I feel the same on the inside as I did when I was 16”. She was in her late 70s at that time. You would have to know her life story to appreciate this statement. I now understand her meaning.
Getting older is a privilege that many never have
Every stage of life has great advantages
My Mother,who had Cancer twice,did volunteer work well until her nineties
She walked the neighbour’s dog down to the beach and would go on day trips with her friend
Very independent and lived to read and listened to music
Life is a Celebration
Warm Hugs xx
I just found you! This is an answer to my prayers! Thank you for your love and wisdom it is amazing energy and truth. Be blessed.
I really needed to hear this right now. It is 4 a.m. and I can’t sleep. I had a bad day thinking about all the people I have lost recently and another one who is dying. I cried a lot. My weekends are the time when I miss them most. It is very difficult. Thank you for easing my heart. 💕
cLyon, see my reply to Kathy above. You are not alone. Stella
I came to terms with my looks a while ago. Yes, I am feeling older in my body and looks. If I could just feel better, I could deal with what I look like. Friends come and go and that makes me sad. 2 of my best friends had to move because their husband died. Volunteer work is a good to overcome loneness. I will not plan my funeral. I know where I am going. I am a believer in the Lord. so I don't care if I have a funeral because there will be a celebration in Heaven. Love you and Desi
The older you get, the prettier you are . You are actually glowing 💗
At 68 and married to a man 17 years younger it has been a wild ride. We will be married 30 years in July. He always keeps me feeling young, but lately that old feeling starts creeping in and I’m so aware of my mortality. Knowing that we may never “grow old” together haunts me everyday. But I wouldn’t trade the past 30 years for all the tea in China. I have been blessed so I plan to give all I’ve got like there is no tomorrow. Love all you ladies❤️ And Susan you are the belle of the ball. ❤️🥰
I want to thank you because you have really saved me a lot of money! Truly! I have needed some counseling for some time now but each week you seem to hit on the topics and thoughts that I have needed to talk about or confess out loud to myself or to a therapist! I want to come back to myself, so thank you. In the past I was a pretty woman but in the last five years or so I have allowed myself to become invisible and gave myself permission to fade into the background of my life. I have suffered emotionally from doing that and I think my husband has suffered from it because he doesn't understand why I quit caring about myself. It really takes a lot of effort to keep up with "pretty" and the strength to keep up with it all had faded away too! Anyway, slowly but surely, I am re-committing myself to myself each week after listening to you. It is obvious that you care about us and I personally thank you for all of the thought and advise that you share each week. For not having met you in person, you are really becoming one of my most favorite people. Thank you for all of the encouragement that you give each and every week. Love to you and Desi! Have a lovely week to come. Give Desi ❤🐈a doggy treat from me!
I read this Ginger and I got tears in my eyes. Being a woman is not really an easy gig...and it never had been. Gosh, I remember at 10 years old somebody at school said I wore bad socks and my legs were too fat. Thus, my first diet at 10...just a little girl. I want to sometimes just say screw it! I LOVE popcorn! I would eat a bag every day if I could! But alas, it puts weight on me and I have little willpower if I buy a bag...it calls my name!!! I think for me I want to live a long life...that means keeping my weight down...exercising, drinking water and so on and so forth. I would rather stick pins in my foot than post a picture of myself somewhere, but I do it. But I think it's silly. You are deep, kind and so insightful...I imagine that man of yours loves you very much. I am grateful you are here. It means the world to me...and we have such a fine bunch of gals here...I feel so luck! Love to you, Sues
@@LittlePoet Thank you Susan for your sweet reply!!!! You are 100% right about following through with the daily necessary routines of diet, exercise and drinking that water!!!!yes!!!! I want to live out my days in health not sickness! Anyway, thank you for being here. You are a treasure!❤ Btw you are such a great videographer! The winter scenes are so beautiful! Hugs! Ok, I'm pressing forward!! See you Friday!
Said so right
Bless you little poet-I’m so glad I watched your video today! ❤️❤️❤️
@@dianegriffith3006 me too!! Happy Valentines Day!!
Dearest Susan thank you for this video from your heart ❤️ thank you for teaching us to not give up and to find a purpose! You hit a nerve when you said ‘invisible’. That is exactly how I feel now especially at work. I’ve caught the looks of the younger people in meetings when I express my ideas. It’s like oh no here she goes rambling on about her dated ideas and how it was done in the good old days. The last time that happened I was in the break room and I was talking about going to WW and how much it has helped me be healthy and feel better and I’ve lost over 50 lbs I realize they were making fun of me and making me with their questions and I just stopped in mid-sentence and went back to my cubicle. I’ve decided they are not worthy of my time or advice! I don’t have to waste my time on them I have better friends to spend my time with that care and respect me for who I am at any age! Again thank you for all the beautiful lessons you share with us every week. You mean so much to so many! Love always 🌞Donna
This is so true Ms Donna, I was just having that conversation with my sons the other day how back when I was growing up the respect for older people and even just people in general was so different then it is now. I feel so blessed that my man children were raised to respect and be humble and helpful to everyone.
Congratulations Donna! 50 lbs is a lot of weight to loose and takes such control and hard work. You are right, don’t waste time on people who are selfish and disrespectful. Go Donna! 🙏👍😁
Hi Donna, this is not a you problem. It’s a them problem. They weren’t raised right and they don’t understand showing respect for other people. Especially people that are older and wiser than them.
That is a fantastic accomplishment for your health. Don’t let them steal your thunder!!
Their lost, not yours...just yesterday I've spent hours talking with my mum, almost all people I am friends with are older, family members or not, I learn so much from them, plus, they know how to talk. I just couldn't be bothered to spend time with people my age, I feel I was born in the wrong generation.
50 lbs weight loss is a great accomplishment. Congrats!
Aww Donna, don't let them get you down. We live in a world now where disrespect and incivility are OK. I am shocked every day at what people think is OK to say and do. You sound like an awesome woman who achieved a wonderful weight loss goal. Be proud of yourself and don't let the idiots get to you!
You will never know how much you spoke to my hurting heart. One thing we ladies ALWAYS need is a galpal to just sit and laugh with. Many of us no longer have that any longer...this message was so uplifting. Thank you❤
Thank you so much Bonnie...I think I know just what you mean!!! I am so lucky you are here!!
Such a relatable video. I’m like your friend Mary - my husband and I (I’m 68) pre-paid for our cremation last year -just to get it taken care of and since 2020 I’ve been obsessed with clearing out our drawers, rooms etc getting rid of stuff so if something happens to one of us, we won’t feel overwhelmed. Doing both actually gives me peace and relief. Also, lost my dad and girlfriends recently. My mom is gone too. The loss is tremendous- it has created such a void. I’m healthy and active but clearly feeling my mortality more and more with the passing of time. My husband will be 90 this year and has cognitive decline so I’m bracing myself for tough times ahead
@cheryl rice I think it could be because it could be classed as a advert. I don’t know?
Your husband is so much older than you, didn't you anticipate that he would go first?
@@imahick5723 yes
@cheryl rice yes I noticed the same and wondered about it- very strange
You sound quite realistic and grounded to me. I'm 70 and feel like I need to get started de-cluttering my house so my kids won't be burdened with dealing with it someday. It's no different than downsizing in a sense, which everyone praises...so, why not, especially if it gives ypu peace.
I feel like a stranger in a strange land! Since I found you and Desi . . I’m interested in things again. Thank you so much for sharing your personal self with all of us. Thank you for opening up your private life and making it a public life. I guess what I’m trying to say is “You are Amazing!”. . .
I am 62. Divorced after 30+ yrs. On my own. Bought my little single mobile home in a safe place. I get to see my children and grandchildren. My greatest mistakes in life involved embarrassing DUI's. I am just paddling water to be happy again listening to you all day gives me so much hope! Love you so much! Love from Mead WA.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. They really hit home with me. I’ll be 66 soon and don’t feel old at all!
The world around me keeps telling me I’m old but I refuse to believe it!
I have been struggling with grief and the loss of people in my life so thank you for your prospective.
I always love your videos but this one really hit home. Thanks for reminding us of how important we are to the world, regardless of our age.
Susan - Truer words were never spoken. Things we all need to hear. We all have value and worth at any age and the main person we need to remind of that fact is ourselves. Thank you for opening this discussion and reminding us to indeed cherish the past as we look forward to the future. Happy Valentine's Day to you and dear Mr. Desi, my friend. 💕 Blessings - Judith 🎭🎵
Dear Susan!!! Thank you, you inspire me to move forward at 63 getting devorced after a marriage of 40yrs.
I've been a fitness competitor all my best years and stopped competing 10yrs ago, waking up every day to a new body was a challenge but God opened my eyes to a new me whom I embrace. Isn't it an absolute blessing that our eyes look to the beauty of God 90% of they day and only a small sec looking in a mirror?
I thank God for my health, I don't train that much anymore, I can honestly say I'm more content with my life now than any other period of my life. You gave some amazing ideas and highlighted things worth changing, I needed that. May God bless you in Abundance. HE MADE ME WHOLE!!! ALL THE WAY FROM SOUTH AFRICA!!
I love this. I was divorced after 32 years and God has helped me to move forward also. I’m no longer sad to be alone. We are never alone with Jesus. I’m much more at peace than I’ve ever been in my life. And nothing can separate us from His love. 🙌🏻🕊✝️Blessings.❤️
After reading a lot of the comments I realize that I feel the same as a lot of people it's funny how when you feel like you've lost yourself you don't think that happens to other people that it's only your problem
I know Charlotte...we are all in this together! We got this!!!
You are not alone.
Thank you for sharing your experience ❤
I’m 62 and starting over with nothing except my faith in God. Your video helped me today to keep hope alive. God bless you.
Susan, this is by far the best video you have done. You so make me feel like I am still human. Thank you
Great heartfelt topic tonight.I'm going to be 63 in May and I am thinking about my future all the time lately.Seeing you thrive and giving back is an inspiration for me.😊💛
I am going to be 75 this year, I understand how you feel. There is always someone that wants to be your age. I know that doesn't help but someone wants to be my age too. Take care and enjoy life.
Remembering those we've lost is keeping their memory alive. I love how you share such deep thoughts with us. You make my heart smile. Thank you, Sue.
I’m about to celebrate my 75th b-day in a few weeks. I never felt old until I reached 70. Suddenly, I’m having a difficult time seeing that woman in the mirror, too. I started cleaning out things so my daughters won’t have so much to do, so you hit the nail right on the head with that comment. It’s an adjustment for sure this getting older. I had a job I loved and worked until I was 72. I’ve worked all my life so my retirement feels like everything came to a dead halt. I do have friends and go to parties, etc. I have some hobbies that I love and I still enjoy using makeup and dressing up even if I’m staying home. I just hope I can adjust to the slower pace. I want to thank you for this video because immediately I’m going to relax and enjoy my home and what’s in it; no more getting rid of things, LOL. Love that you and Desi go to the nursing home, that’s fantastic! I have no doubt that they love you both.
Great words, my dear! My birthday is Monday and was feeling a little down, but you managed to cheer me up and remind how very lucky I am! 💖💖💖
Happy JO DAY! Or JO(Y) DAY! CELEBRATE your journey, growth and another year, still here...🎂🎈🎈🎈🎉🕯
Happy birthday Jo!! 🎉🎉👏👏
Have a wonderful birthday! 🌷🌹🌼🌺
Happy Snappy Birthday, Jo 🥳 May all your wishes come true! 🎂🎈
Here’s to feeling blessed to be alive on your birthday, JO…go girl❣️🎂
So much truth and so beautifully given...I am feeling so upifted.
Great topic. I moved a couple years ago. Moved away from my long time friends. The loss is unbearable at times. I do work , meet people, invited people in my neighborhood for dinner parties, reached out to people I meet. But sadly I feel at this age getting others to let you in to their friend group is really difficult and that makes me sad. If I have any advice it’s to always keep in mind that if someone has reached out to you and tried to connect maybe extend the hand of kindness in return at some point. Because you should know it took extreme bravery from that person to extend reach out to you to try to connect. Big birthday this year for me. It is great to make it this far. But the empty nest and loneliness 🙁 I’d love if you talked about making friends at an older age.
Totally agree.
I have also reached out to people at my new place and it led nowhere. Made me feel rejected and insecure even more. So I agree with you completely
I, too, moved 1300 miles away from everything I knew/ loved/ cherished. Am in an over 55 community & thought it would be fairly easy at my age( presently age 68) to make new friends, but I was 100% wrong!) .the pandemic hasn't helped either as all activities were shut down. Hopefully, with the slow re- opening of activities, I may make acquaintances, but I'm not so sure. Sometimes I feel like I'm reliving high school days with the " cliques"!!!!
I haven't given up completely yet!
@@em1503 exactly how I feel too.
@@em1503 I understand ❤️ so hard. Hoping I’ll be stronger for it. Hoping God has a plan.
Thank you for the video today because it is just what I needed to hear. I am now in my 70"s and the " me" that I always depended on is hidden behind the fact that the whole world knows I'm not young anymore. Having been on my own at a young age, I realized how much I could depend on looking pretty and being full of life. Now, somehow I can't explain to anybody else, I am still me. Tonight I have been scared about the whole thing to the point of panic. When I found your video, it was exactly what I needed. I am older and as you said it is an adjustment. However, I do take good care of myself and try not to gain weight, keep up with my walking, and dress well. It is good to know that I am still me and there is a place for me that is good.
You hit this one out of the park! Thank you, Susan. Appreciated and needed.
Thank you Lucy...you are so kind...I didn't realize how long this video is!! Happy weekend to you!!!
I was the same and thought I was doing really good for my age until I was diagnosed with breast cancer. Going through chemo and radiation took a tremendous toll on my brain and my body. I can no longer do what I used to. Talk about feel useless. So many who have never been through this think that since my treatments are over I should be my old self. My oncologist told me this is my new normal. The neuropathy in my hands and feet some days is unbelievable. No one understands. And...chemo brain is a real thing.
Prayers for you Gerry! Jesus is a wonderful companion and friend. Turn to Him, you won’t be disappointed.😘
@@cynthiagawin2991 He is my EVERYTHING. I can't do without Him.
Hi Gerry This is the first time I have ever sent a comment! Your msg touched me.
I hear you. I also have neuropathy in my feet and hands from chemo - having recovered from Stage 4 colon cancer. I know how difficult it can be But remember to celebrate that we do have Life!! We do have a purpose, we can show others how to be grateful, strong survivors!!! Blessings to you! Be gentle with yourself.
@@michelehlozek2341 Thank you so much. I needed to hear this. You are a true inspiration. ❤❤❤
Gerry I was there 5 years ago. Truly believe unneeded that experience. I’ve grown a lot since then. Yes I’m no where near as sharp and feeling every ache and pain, but trust in your belief and know you will come out with a greater gift. Hugs 💕
The losses have overwhelmed me lately and I’ve felt painfully lonely for the first time, though I’ve often been alone. Thank you for reminding me that my loved ones are gone but not the love they had for me. That will always be part of me. So much healing in that.❤️
I just turned 55 and this was like a big hug to my soul this morning. Thank you❤️
Thank you Susan-loss is real! I just found out a newer friend is preparing for hospice. She will be the second friend I’ve lost inside of two years! This morning I’ve wept with this news and yet I know for me at this age 76 I want to head out and see the world. Selfishly before my time I want to explore more. To just live! ❤️
Oh Diane, what a harsh morning you have had. I am so sorry and I will say a prayer for your friend. It seems you turned the grief you feel into determination....I admire you so much. xo Susan
Susan..this video touched me so deeply. The most difficult part for me about getting older is missing family and friends that have passed. A great loss for me has been my grandparents. How I wish I could pick up the phone and call them! I feel like they do live inside of me and I feel their presence. That is what gets me through the challenging times. I love that you go to the nursing home. My dad, who is 80, goes there with his band to play for the residents. Music has been his life too, and I think he loves playing now more than ever. You are such an inspiration! Love you!❤️
Oh we have that in common..such a love of a grandparent! I so wish we could meet you your Dad sometime! I didn't know your Dad had a band!!!! Happy Sunday to you!!! xxoo Sues & D
@@LittlePoet You both would get along so well. He is also a singer. His main instruments are piano and saxophone. I have always admired his musical talent and yours!❤️
Well this video was timely! I am turning 65 in the next couple of weeks and have been feeling very down about the whole thing. My husband left our marriage about 8 years ago after being married for 37 years - I have not dated as my self esteem really tanked when he left. Then I lost my dear mother earlier this year and watching her decline the last few months really scared me - that this is what I now have to "look" forward to. I just seem to have lost my direction and find it hard to get excited about what is to come for me. I am wondering how many other woman have been "hit on" - cuz if I have, I missed it. That too depresses me as I have not had one man ask me out or show any interest in me - so of course that does not help with self esteem. I do get out with friends and keep active but I am still sometimes lonely!
I know that feeling. Hugs. Prayers we both get out there and enjoy life.
32 years for my husband and me. I know the pain too. It’s now been 11 years and I’m glad to be single again. I didn’t think I would live through it but I’m much better without him. God has been with me and I feel loved by Him. I pray you find Love and comfort, too. ❤️🙏🕊
I think taking Desi with you to the nursing home is such a wonderful, sweet thing! God bless you!!
What we have to stop doing is comparing ourselves to anyone, not to other women, younger women, or our younger selves and who we once were. What we need to do is accept ourselves right where we're at and work with it. At 66 I am once again working on recreating myself. But I have to employ self acceptance and self compassion everyday. And I'm doing it while I continue to be the 24/7 caregiver for my 87 yr old mother with Dementia. But I have dreams, visions, and goals for my life. My mentor just passed last year at age 100. She was a dancer and she danced right up to the end. I love your last 3 points.
🙏💞🙏
very inspirational....life opens up like we never thought it could....
I have a joyful day in my sewing room and got lots done. Now I get to sit and watch you. I hope you have a wonderful week ahead! Thanks for sharing!
My best friend from elementary school passed away suddenly last week and I'm still trying to process it. 😥.I still can't believe that she is gone. She will always be in my heart and I will always remember all of our memories together.
I truly needed this today. I'll be 70 March 3rd and although I've never felt old, have been blessed with good health, turning 69 +1as my friend says. It's made me have more downs than ups. I look at my house and it's in such bad shape, my finances are not good. That doesn't help. So thank you for this video, I needed that. You and Desi are sweet and adorable. Happy Valentine's Day to you both.
I was really shocked when I went to pay my bill and the clerk automatically gave me senior discount!… the nerve!… I felt violated,I was shocked!… but I stayed calm and said to myself “it’s happening,it’s showing,stay calm,go,just go,don’t say anything “
Wow Susan !! This video really touched home!!! So many things I’m feeling these days since turning 60 you have pointed out and voiced them. I just recently turned 63 and I feel I need constant reminders that I still matter!! I was in tears with what you were saying. Thank you for the reassurance that life is still worth fighting for and living with everything you got!! ❤❤❤❤
I just love you!!! xxoo
One of the most difficult things about aging is that I feel clueless with all the technology. I feel like I don’t know how to do anything. Thank goodness for my kids who explain everything to me.
Your outlook on life has helped me to see aging in a positive light. I'm 63 and need role models around that inspire me. Thank you! -Desi always melts my heart.💞
Thank you so much. I needed this video today. I lost my best friend to suicide 2 years ago and I’ve felt such a sense of loneliness since she’s been gone. I feel a sense of emptiness and hurt when I see friends out having a great time.
Andri I too have lost my best friend and have never been able to get over losing her. She was so sad and I feel so guilty I was not able to help her. I am so lost and lonely without my best friend. Life is not the same and will never be.
@@nancyvelasquez546 I’m so sorry for your loss. I totally understand that guilt feeling of not being able to help. I miss her everyday and sometimes when I think I am healing, something will remind me of her and I can’t hold back the tears. There definitely an emptiness that never goes away.
I lost my best friend, years ago,
too. She called me while waiting for the ambulance, I wasn't home. That made it more painful.
@@karendegraaf1146 🙏🏻❤️
For me the hardest things are money worries and losing friends to father Time. My dearest Mother also passed away nearly two years ago and it still hurts so very bad and I have become a stranger to myself. What a wonderful video this was, you take care and give my regards to Desi.
I’m 66 and lately I can’t wait to get started with something new - anything!! I was talking to my sister-in-law and she was saying how she wouldn’t do some facelifts etc because she was too old at 77. I told her if she wanted it to do it because it would make her feel better and more alive!! You’re never too old.
You look absolute amazing.. you go girl 🤲🏼🌸✨💕✨💕✨💕✨💕✨💕🌸
This was a valuable video for me to hear; It's good to know that others internal age hasn't caught up to their external age either! I still can't believe that 61 years have passed, but then my knees remind me that they have! Susan, I'd love it if you'd do a video on making new friends at our age. So many of my friends have moved on, retired and moved away, passed away, or just can't bring themselves to get out in a covid scary world. I feel like I'm always ready to meet a new friend, but don't always find others want to- maybe they feel they already have enough friends. Thank you for providing such important food for thought!
I'm having trouble meeting new friends too. I moved to a new town 3 years ago and my husband passed away this past October. My neighbors are always keeping to themselves and act like I'm intruding if I take them a gift such as extra ears of corn I get at the farmers market or a small token of friendship with Christmas goodies. I'm about to give up on them. I keep trying different churches and just can't seem to get past a friendly hello. Weird times we are living in.
Same
I've looked at life from both sides now, well maybe all sides and at this age of 65 I feel you can certainly be happy on some days alone. I think times have changed where children and family members come around and make you a part of something , part of the the tribe, your tribe so to speak. Now in many families, everyone is out doing there own thing and the elderly are being ignored and I tend to feel a sadness in my heart because of this. As a private duty nurse for so long taking care of the elderly I saw this so often, older people with health issues just left alone without anyone, my visit was so important to them and I tried to make it the best experience I could and sometimes stayed longer when I felt they needed it. It always made me sad that none of their family visited them. I don't believe it is the older person that actually feels bad about themselves , I believe it is what this culture in America has made them feel, like they aren't important anymore or they are disposable after they reach a certain age and we feel that. I wish more people would respect, care and visit people that are getting older and make them feel needed and wanted, especially family. I always thought if I won the lottery I would start an organization where people could just go and check on the elderly that need someone to talk to or a meal prepared or their house tided up and it would not cost them anything for this service. I lived alone for a long time and I grew not to like it so much, I just believe everyone needs someone to be close to in some manner. But maybe that is just me. I guess maybe I should write a book about this or maybe I already have.
In the town where my mother lives, the social worker said they do have volunteers who go into the home and just visit with the elderly.
Hi Beautiful Susan, Thank you for your amazing videos. You are so courageous in opening yourself up like you do! I commend you.
I'm 62 (Michele from Cape Town, South Africa) and recently fully recovered from Stage 4 cancer and learnt that every day is precious! You are so inspirational with your insights and outlook. You feel like a very dear friend to me - someone I would Love to go out with and have lots of fun with - celebrating life!
My Dad - who lived very healthily to 95 always said...anyone 90 years and younger is a 'spring chicken'! Now in my book that's a good outlook on life!!!
Sending you and Desi lots of love!! Thank you for all the change you inspire in so many people's lives!!
Great channel. Wonderful content. You've done a great job developing your message and it's helpful.
Such an important subject. I appreciate your openness. It's difficult as a woman,in my 60s and alone.I do feel judged on my looks as a first impression. I've loved being on my own,but not so much,anymore.
Just wanted to say......I am 76 years old and I am an artist who sells a bit of art and that has been a great and wonderful accomp,ishment for me! I just finished
and graduated an online real estate course! I am proud of what I accomp,ished there! I did not tell anyone that I was embarking upon such a thing. I waited until I was almost finished to even tell my children! I did not want anyone to tell me I was too old. Now I look forward to have an interesting part time, exciting
new adventure and may even make a little money! So, please, please do not limit yourself, do not give in to that thing that says you are finished! That is why I love this channel because the Little Poet has so much to say in this regard!
Hi Susan,
Love your spontaneous videos. You a really are lovely. I’m divorced and 62. We all hold each other up. Life is just beginning. Much love and friendship.
HI Susan
This was quite soul-serching episode, I am 84 and live alone but luckily I still have 6 childhood friends who are not too mobile but still in good health. Because of the Pandemic we don't get together but are often on line or on the phone and anxiously waiting for this virus to give up! We are women who have traveled a lot and we have lived through the best years ❤ in history! I remember your saying your dream of going to Paris so I have found a wonderful utube LES FRENCHIES and JANICE IN FRANCE (moved at age 70) which you would find very interesting as well as some of your subscribers (I lived in Paris for 1 year for studies in1968 ) GO AS SOON AS YOU CAN DO IT SAFELY!
I have felt invisible since I have retired five years ago. I cannot tell you how much your video touched me. Thank you Susan. You are my best friend I have never met.
Wise words, very inspirational post! I love this Mark Twain quote: "Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter." Hugs to you and the Dez!
Hello Magdalena ! Happy Valentines Day to beautiful you! xxo Susan and Desi
Susan so ironic...I had moments ago told the good Lord how afraid I am to get old. I'm scared and am not living my best life.
Omg yes, as i aged I realized, I need to be able to sleep at night. I must do the right thing. I tell my nephews, be kind yor depression will ty...
Everything changed after 59, inside and outside...
Vanity is our affliction our whole life. Aging is about letting that GO. WE are now seen for what's inside, without the distraction of our youthful face.
I'm happier not dressing up some days, just blending into the crowd...
As for grief. Dealing with grief is Harder with age, cuz it seems everyday so much is taken away from us already. Just one loss after another. Friends moved away, people transition, divorce....
Day after day the petals of our youth drift away... searching for the taste of it fighting the inevitable.... all the while the ticking of the clock is heard. AND wasted on grief and regret.
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Thank you so much for your video. When I turned 60 I felt something change in me, but I refused to hold me back. Yes, I have some physical issues now, but they are mostly due to decisions I made at a certain time in my life. My best friend, after losing her husband had to move across the country. It devastated me, but I knew it would be good for her. I miss her, but talk to her almost daily and I do carry her in my heart. As I'm retiring in 3 months, I look forward to making the trip to see her and be there for awhile. My dog keeps me feeling young. I may have crepy skin and weakened bones, but she makes me laugh every single day and laughter is good for the soul. May you have a blessed week!
Thank you Susan for this video, you really are an inspiration. I will be 63 this September and a widow and I enjoy watching your videos.
Thank you for taking the time to read all responses to your videos , this one truly was a awesome full of insight and wisdom and a kick in the pants to some stinking thinking about us older women in aging . Thank you for sharing and lighten up the thoughts of the process and shining light on we still have life left to live so get the dancing shoes out from underneath where ever they maybe get the pretty dress on due the hair up right some earrings on or not find the perfume that lifts up the mood of Joy and head on out to a place where the stars are shining the music lifts up the spirits and enjoy .
Hi Susan, we look older outside but we still feel 20 inside! I have a chronic illness and kidney disease, but I still look after myself! I wear perfume every day, I cleanse my skin, I eat healthily, I like clothes, I like to look nice, but I like myself, you are such an inspiration, I still enjoy my life even with an illness, I like make up, I colour my hair, I am 64! I love to help others, I think of other people's feelings, I care! But it makes me feel good, I don't worry about my age, I have a lot of life to live! I was a nurse, I like to help people, I care!
Thank you so much for such kind and gentle reminders that we all need to hear. I really needed this today.
I’ve been feeling tired and worn out at 56. I am my husbands full time caregiver he’s only 53. Also two of my adult children with one wife, daughter 2 and son on the way. And my daughter has a 3 year old. Very busy house hold. A lot of stress. Working on upcoming changes.
Anyway I really enjoyed your words.
Susan,
You make women proud to be women.
And you make your grandchildren feels proud, to be such a great heritage to leave them behind .
I LOVE that you bring Desi to the nursing home! I work in a memory care facility, and they adore babies, dogs, and visits from anyone!! They are still people, and capable of great love. God bless you for doing that. P.S. I ADORE Desi! What kind of a dog is he??
Love 🎉 i turned 60 this weekend ! I’m determined to healthy happy smart if anything to pass on to my children and grandkids ❤
You encourage me so much ! Thank you !
Susan, this was exactly the Sunday morning sermon I needed. I just turned 62 and feel like I'm really struggling with body image and feeling irrelevant in this crazy world of social media. You are really a joy to listen to and, although I'm a fairly new subscriber, you have really helped me navigate the murky waters of aging. I've gone back and listened to many of your videos. Thank you so much and keep the "sermons" coming. Desi is adorable.
Your fan fam will always ENCOURAGE AND EMBRACE YOU. We need you in our lives. You are a gift.🎁 One we get to open every week.
I was very touched by this video, Susan. I had the supreme shock when I was actually still in my 30's of seeing not my mom, not myself, but my DAD in the mirror in unexpected sightings and this continues Sheesh! I've developed a personal practice now of doing all my self-care on the imaginary face and body of a younger, prettier, thinner version of me. I look in the mirror carefully of course but I kinda squint, or look with my heart instead of my eyes, and sustain the illusion that I'm just an ageless 'glowing from the inside' person the same as I've always been. (I know it's very much a game, but mostly it's fun and makes me happy.). When men ask if I'd like to have a coffee or meet up somewhere else, I don't think of it as being "hit on" but of them seeing an interesting person who they'd enjoy talking to. All the things you mentioned are very poignant and there's no getting around them. Thank you for inspiring us to face the music, enjoy what we hear and make every precious day count. I'm finding that paying attention to the little things makes the big things more bearable. I think that's what you do too. xo karen
What a lovely, sweet, and inspiring video. Thanks for sharing so much of yourself with us.
Beautiful video Little Poet, Thank you! I've begun working out again at the gym. I notice the next day, I feel stronger, and more vibrant, and so Proud of myself for keeping a schedule to allow me to feel better. I also realize, I am a senior now, I can't stop the aging process, but I can age as Fit as I can be, and feel proud and strong, for me. 🥰 Love you Little Poet, and all you Beautiful sister's out there. And I did notice that Desi looked particularly handsome tonight, and I think he was proudly looking into the camera. 😃 ( You Always look Beautiful LP) ❤
Beautiful inspiration in this video and the comments. I had a partner that was 17 years younger than me for 13 years. It was a wonderful time in my life. We had so much in common and we went dancing every Saturday night! He was so good to me. I used to say “ look at that babe” when we were at the club and he said “ I don’t want to look at her-I want to look at you”❤️
At 67 I’m far wiser then I used to be but I miss my youth, feeling good and yes my hair skin and body were pretty perfect.I wish I could go back in time but be this smart and savvy. Lol Congratulations to the winners
Thank you both again! Shalom blessings to you and yours today and always. You have been blessed to be a blessing and you surly are for so many!
I'm probably going to shock you but I love being older [66] and I'm never lonely . I've been a widow since 1995 and disabled since 1997 , lost many loved ones but their in my heart and not forgotten . I have a beautiful son &daughter , I feel very blessed . I live my life with gratitude and positivity along with family and friends . I'm leaving a big mess of my stuff for people to empty out when I go because I need all that stuff for living my life . I know I make a difference in people's lives , am very glad you & Desi volunteer at the nursing home . Susan you are a vibrant , wonderful ,caring person ,just lovely . Hugs for Desi ,you gangsta !! Susan , I received notice from you that I won 100.00 for VENUS and I sent you my email in messenger but I haven't heard from you , if you can send me a note I would appreciate . Thank you & God Bless
Lou Ann I am very sorry you were tageted by a scammer. I draw the winner live in the video and never email. I am so sorry. Thank you fro being here...let me know if all is ok...xxoo Sues
Oh my god! This video made me laugh and cry so hard! I needed a good cleanse like this. I’m only in my late 50’s but I’ve been so beat down for so long. Last July I moved out on my boyfriend and got an apartment by myself. I have felt so unsure, invisible, afraid and old. I lost my Mom in November and one of my daughters went to school for psychology and decided she needed to cut me out of her and my grandson’s lives. I felt like I didn’t know what was right or wrong anymore. I know I haven’t been perfect but I can honestly say I never did anything with malice in mind, I never look to hurt anyone and I really try hard to do what’s right. The past two weeks, having found your channel, has helped me start to pick up my pieces and feel alive again. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, feelings and experiences. You truly are a blessing 💖🙏
Susan, after I listen to you, I just feel better. More optimistic. Lighter. More hopeful--like I've just gone to church. Thank you for caring enough about us and yourself to tell us the truth. It's helping me! xoxo
You are my new guru. I don't feel lonely in my freedom anymore. I have two cats, two birds, all my treasures and mementos, and thankfully my health. Who could ask for more. I volunteer also, it is so rewarding. I reach out often. I have also lost several dear friends and family. I still feel their energy. Many people just want connection, even if briefly. Life is good.
Dear Susan, Thank you for this amazing and unfiltered discussion. I learn monthly how I want to understand myself and how to contribute. Sometimes we get caught up in “the story I tell myself”. So thankful for your Saturday inspiration and giving back as a volunteer. I know, it can be life changing ❤️❤️
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I just wanna say thank you for making this video because I am in my mid-40s and most of my relatives passed away all I have is my husband and kids & I have lost most of my family because they passed away & since then I feel like I am living in a different world especially because I see myself aging this video was very helpful & you helped me understand the true meaning of life & i just want to live my life in peace & happiness I Appreciate every thing in my life I don’t take nothing for granted and I think God helped me find your channel because you inspire me so very much you make me cry all the time. Lol but in a good way I brag about you to my husband and kids all the time You speak a lot of how I’m feeling and thinking anyway with that being said please give Desi a kiss on the cheek for me!! 🥰 thank you so much for your videos I really appreciate you have a good night God bless!! 🥰🙏❤️
Thank you so much for your video. I feel like I already died 32 years ago when I lost my true love. He didn’t die, but it feels like he did because he’s married to someone else. Then I really died all over again when I was only 47 when I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I prayed to God to let me get older, and now I am 69. I even prayed at 47 I wouldn’t mind getting wrinkles if he’d let me get older. Now I do have a few, but much less than most women my age. I feel like I have been living on borrowed time since being diagnosed with the breast cancer. I found out friends I thought were friends really weren’t. I’m glad to know it now so I didn’t have to waste time with them. I know men still feel me attractive & even sexy. I never tell any of them I had breast cancer; I don’t want them to think of me in that way. I hate how they say men are visual as though women aren’t. Of course I think younger men look way better than the older ones. (LOL) I prefer to be with men close to my age though, but I think a lot of them are bitter from divorces or they hold their deceased wife so far up on a pedestal as perfect I couldn’t live up to that. So, I might end up alone, but with what I’ve been through I know I”ve been through worse.
Hello Chris! Oh yes, love can hurt us in ways that we never imagined. And I do enjoy being alone because I really never am alone...at least that is how it feels to me!!! Thank you so much for leaving me such a lovely comment...it means the world to me. A very happy weekend to you! Stay warm and safe. xxo Susan & Desi
@@LittlePoet Happy weekend to you also. I don’t really ever feel alone either, I’m always busy doing something. One of the most beautiful gifts God has given all of us is animals. At any time we can go out and adopt a pet or pets & have an instant family. I have a daughter & four grandchildren that live four hours away unfortunately, but I can at least go visit them & they visit me when they can. I wouldn’t mind having a mate again, but it’s not easy nowadays. I do hate when my niece keeps asking me if I’ve met anyone yet. It makes me feel like she thinks I’m incomplete because I’m not with someone. If it’s meant to be it will happen, if not I feel like Betty White when she said when you’ve had the best who needs the rest.
It's very touching to see how you touch so many women. That's a true blessing you give everyone. Have a lovely week ❤
All you say is so true! I do find
more younger men are finding
me attractive now. At first I
thought it was hilarious that
someone younger than my son would be interested in
me. Now I think why not!
If we have interests in common and not everything
is a forever thing!
I am a new member and I love it 🥰 I am almost 81 and everybody said I look about 60. I use a very good products and exercise every day. I love to see your smile and you being happy.🌹🙏
Happy Valentine's Day Susan and Desi💘 Great video, beautiful poetry. And be kind, DON'T rewind. Lots of hugs, Donna.
Susan, I discovered your UA-cam channel during the pandemic and in many ways, you helped me get through all the isolating lonely days. I've lived alone since 1994 and had created a good life for myself, but when I was no longer able to spend time with friends, go out to enjoy live music, attend singles dances that I discovered 22 years ago (those helped bring me out from under the rock I had been living under far too long!), it became increasingly difficult to fight off anxiety and depression. I had just turned 75, but still felt young and had vitality, when COVID began to shut things down and now, two years later, I'm on the back side of my 70s! During the past two years, it was easy to get lazy, live in sweats, feel so lonely, just plain "blah," and aging too fast as each day rolled into another. On so many days, watching you inspired me, encouraged me, motivated me, made me laugh, and brought me so much comfort and hope. I'm very happy that with COVID case numbers decreasing I've been able to once again get out to do some dancing, hear music, reunite with friends and each time I do, I feel alive again and I'm sure that with time and more chances to do that, my sense of vitality will return! I've often wished we lived near each other (I live in the Detroit metro area) because I think we would become good friends and enjoy many activities together. Thank you for all that you give to each and every one of us who watch you...for me, you are a gift and have been a blessing in my life. By the way, I agree with you about older men versus the younger ones...lol.
OH Martha, thank you for taking the time and letting me know about you and your life. I am so flattered you found me and Desi at such a frightening time in our world. You are in Detroit?!!! I am filming a video in Detroit this spring! Just saying!!!!! Thank you for being here! perhaps we can do lunch!!! xxoo Love to you, Susan & Desi
@@LittlePoet I was so happy to receive your response, Susan! I live in St. Clair Shores, a suburb of Detroit and would be thrilled to do lunch with you! Please let me know when you'll be in the area! I should have added in my first comment that seeing Desi has brought me joy as well...my little Bichon, Vixen, passed away in July of 2019 and I miss him so much. I'm so glad that you have Desi to keep you company! Pets are the best!! Look forward to hearing from you so we can make plans to meet...I'm betting we could talk for hours! xo Love to you and Desi, Martha
@@marthacassie1881 SO great to meet you Martha!!! Oh dear, I bet we could talk for days!!! I should be there filming in June....my email is sgaide@comcast.net just in case it's June and you would still like to lunch!!! I am going there to film a video on street photography. xxoo
I absolutely love your channel and I don't get here enough but I need to do it more for certain.
You look lovely and your topic was spot on. I am 75 and everything you said should be heard by every woman in the world. Loved the message and love the delivery of it!
Please keep bringing us your beautiful smile, sharing's and thoughts for everyone to hear.
Love your little fur baby and love your home.......apartment.........space..........it's as beautiful as you are inside and out.
Blessings
Thank you for this video. Im turning 68 this yr also. I still work this being my last year. I still get smiles from men my age and younger too. Once i received a nod and hello by a man near my age with his much younger girlfriend. She did not react positively to me taking off in his roles royce. This was in Paradise Valley, AZ. I also find myself wanting to be with younger people as my age. I like to keep learning and wanting to know whats new in music, life, etc. I look forward to growing older. Health, mind are important of course. Loss is something i have dealt with, it is more lonely without those who were in my life. Meeting people, getting out and about if able, and retiring into something else, hobbies, doing what you did not have time to do in the past. Thank you for your channel. I enjoy it.
Dear Susan , I found you channel not too long ago , but every week I'm waiting for a new video , this time , is a great heartfelt topic ...and has touched so many of us . I'm 76 , and I feel invisible and lonely ... listen to you , has been refreshing you are such an inspiration , thank you for being such a friend . God blessed you hon .
This video hit home. Since losing my husband to ALS, I feel sorry for myself sometimes instead of being thankful for the many blessings that I do have. Thanks for reminding us about life.
You are TRULY the BEST!! Your kids are so lucky that when the time does come and we are no longer here they are going to get to know your heart and soul through your videos.... You are definitely best friend material wish we lived closer I'd go listen to jazz with you! 🤗 You wear your heart on your sleeve! It's called being real!! BLESSINGS ALWAYS
Susan your hair looks so beautiful!!! I just love that hairstyle 🥰
You & Desi are the best ! You help so many of us by helping us deal with so many problems. I love your giving heart and how much you care. You’re the best and I await your video every week with joy. Thanks for helping us and for sharing.
Wonderful Video! Thank you! I'm turning 60 in four months and have not been handling it all too well. As silly as it may sound, I feel as if the best part of my life is behind me. Lately, I find myself engaged in bittersweet, vivid memories of yesteryear .As delightful as the memories are, I feel haunted by them. To me, it is a reminder of life gone by and the adventures that I will never have again. I am trying to find new adventures and make new memories. However, they often look better on paper. Don't mean to sound dark...Normally, I am quite the optimist. I'm happy to have found your channel...
Susan I love every minute spending time with u on your amazing channel.
This was poignant and thought provoking.
I've watched it several times and always learn something from u.
Now 70 a happy besotted grandma but some of my most special times are volunteering. I've been volunteering for more than 10 yrs and receive so much joy and satisfaction.
Once a week at a care centre for the aged and my most rewarding and privilege is volunteering for lone soldiers of both sexes who come from all over the world to do their 3 year army service. Young and old all have special stories to tell.
They show so much appreciation but us volunteers receive far more.
With love to u and Desi
Leanne from Israel