Perfectionism: Will I Ever Be Good Enough? | His Grace

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  • Опубліковано 24 лип 2019
  • Do you sometimes feel like you’re not good enough for God or anyone else? Chances are you’ve had a bout with perfectionism. That downward spiral of thinking “If I’m not perfect, I must be bad” is painful. But whether you know it or not, God’s grace reaches everyone-including perfectionists.
    Watch Olivia Ekberg reflect on her experience with perfectionism and God’s grace.
    After years of competing internationally in synchronized swimming, Olivia expected the very best from herself. But even when she stood on the podium after a competition and heard her own national anthem, there was always something she thought she could have done better.
    For Olivia, not being the best athlete, person, student, daughter, friend, and so on meant something was wrong with her. The extent of Olivia’s perfectionism came to a head when a therapist asked her to look in the mirror and say three things she was proud of and loved about herself. She broke down into tears and couldn’t do it.
    As she persevered with counseling, Olivia began to understand what was happening inside her mind. And she learned to be OK with not being the perfect person people saw on the outside.
    Having been raised in a religious home, Olivia also sought for God’s help. One day she experienced a warmth that filled every empty space in her soul-she felt God’s grace.
    You may not be an internationally ranked athlete like Olivia, but your struggles with perfectionism are real. How have you experienced God’s grace?
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 208

  • @jonjensen6745
    @jonjensen6745 5 років тому +147

    "I am good because I know God. I am good because I want God. And I am good because I believe in God. And that's enough." So so powerful. Thank you Olivia. You have inspired me.

    • @tekoamok8986
      @tekoamok8986 4 роки тому +4

      Faith is active charity. It is not just being selfish and only loving oneself and those one can use. Loving God means being like Him, not just expecting Him to excuse all your evils.

    • @Droemar
      @Droemar 4 роки тому +1

      I mean, but you can't want God and put your feet up and still be good enough. You and I both know there's a caveat there. A little asterisk with some fine print.

    • @heidiross4002
      @heidiross4002 2 роки тому

      Yes, thank you for sharing. It’s so beautiful and true!

  • @meganpena9165
    @meganpena9165 5 років тому +81

    Something I've learned, is that when there is silence it sort of means "You're already doing and being what you need to be, go on", and it's a sort of trusting gesture from our Heavenly Father- although at times it hurts because all you want is a more tangible assurance.
    Thank you for the video!

  • @DarkTyyp
    @DarkTyyp 5 років тому +103

    This hits hard. I always feel like I'm never doing the best that I can. Just gotta remember that you are always doing enough. ♥️

    • @xaviersonofgod4464
      @xaviersonofgod4464 5 років тому +4

      Righteousness is in faith alone.
      And of course love thy God with all thy heart, mind, body, and soul.
      And love thy neighbor as thy self.
      The rest falls into place.

  • @ToddKMichael
    @ToddKMichael 5 років тому +169

    Hats off to her for continuing to do what she knew was right even during her time of doubt. That is really the key.

    • @xaviersonofgod4464
      @xaviersonofgod4464 5 років тому +7

      Amen, I have had my bouts, but never once have I doubted God and his love.
      Though, I have always thought I wasnt good enough(which is true), without Christ.
      I doubted if I was saved, or if I was going to hell, or if my sins were really forgiven.
      Then God, in essence said "trust me" over and over until finally I did. And now I am as at peace as I have ever been.

    • @drakewalker8047
      @drakewalker8047 5 років тому +4

      Amen. Dont betray the truth and fire you know once burned deep inside you, just keep moving along and give God the opportunity to manifest himself because I promise he always will.

    • @rosejohnson8248
      @rosejohnson8248 4 роки тому +1

      @@xaviersonofgod4464 me

  • @justinmbird
    @justinmbird 4 роки тому +26

    I am a recovering perfectionist, and have discovered that my weakness is the space designed for God to fill.

    • @Onlinesully
      @Onlinesully 4 роки тому

      Justin M. Bird
      It sure seems a good fault to have and something that can be managed ?

  • @aleixiaprof7155
    @aleixiaprof7155 4 роки тому +123

    When I was younger, my family got a divorce. After the split, we didn't have a lot of money, and had to move into a run-down house that was so hot and broken.
    My mom was rough, and my dad had a lot of anger issues. I remember sometimes crying when I heard fighting, and sometimes my dad would get so mad he would cuss at us and make me feel even worse. My brothers were terrible to me and tormented me to the point of sickness.
    I got diagnosed with anxiety and depression, so I felt so sad and so un-normal all of the time.
    My grandparents and I were the only ones going to church most of the time. I was usually all alone in the chapel seat.
    I felt so jealous and angry when I saw how "perfect" all of the other young women's lives were. They all had kind moms and dads, nice homes, great siblings, and they were so happy all the time. I always thought what I had done to deserve such a terrible life, what I had done to deserve and live with this for the rest of my life while everyone else got it so much easier.
    I was the opposite of everyone. I had terrible acne and everyone knew about my bad family life. They were kind, and tried to help me out, but it just wasn't fair. I wanted to be equal to them. I, sadly, wanted to become perfect in their eyes to finally feel accepted.
    Every day, I'd pile on make-up, even thought I hated it, to cover up my acne. I worked my tail-end off every day to afford clothes that were "in-style". I'd pretend to be social and funny and out-going, even when doing it made me feel sick to my stomache with my anxiety. I walked, talked, smiled, and did almost everything differently when I was outside of my home.
    I looked happy on the outside, but I felt worthless on the inside. I told myself that I was ugly every day. I told myself things would never get better, and I was sometimes so sad, I'd stay in my bed all day. I felt like I could never compare to my friend's lives.
    All of this stress, anxiety, and anger manifested in me. It turned into hate very soon. It was horrendous. I kept trying to be better and better, that I forgot to take care of myself. I wasn't eating to lose weight. I was still caught in the never-ending stress.
    I'll never forget what my Grandma told me one day as I broke down crying. She told me that it doesn't matter what your life is like, who you are, what you look like, your background, or how many possesions you own. You are equal in the eyes of God. Nothing matters but your own happiness, and trying to please everyone will make you miserable. You have struggles because God knows you need to grow stronger, and all of that has happened in my life will make me a stronger person as I grow. I just need to do what will make me happy.
    I took that advice to heart, got a counselor, and finally started to feel happy again. My acne didn't matter to me anymore, in fact, I liked it. If anyone ever told me they loved me, I'd know it was true and not just because I was beautiful. I used my money to buy things that would help me in the real world and to use for tithing. I took off my make-up and reverted to the things that made me happy.
    I learned that my friends also had a lot of problems. And I definitely didn't have a bad a life as some other people in the world. And after some decoration and re-painting, my house started to look like home.
    Please don't try to be perfect. It will ruin
    your life like it did mine. God loves you. Jesus loves you. The Church is true and you will find answers within it. You are beautiful, strong, amazing, talented, and you will move on to great things.

    • @churchofjesuschrist
      @churchofjesuschrist  4 роки тому +16

      Thanks for sharing your experience and your belief in God's love for each of His children. We're sorry for the pain and difficulty you experienced. Your grandma shared wise counsel! Thanks for your comment. comeuntochrist.org

    • @marcellus71c.89
      @marcellus71c.89 4 роки тому +7

      “Loving someone isn’t about how much you love how perfect they are for you. Loving someone is about how much you love their imperfections enough to stay with them forever that way.” These words came to me one day as I was thinking about love and being perfect. I'm glad you found your way again sister.

    • @thepunmaster2661
      @thepunmaster2661 4 роки тому

      Your comment is way too detailed to be true dude

    • @aleshaborisovich
      @aleshaborisovich 4 роки тому +2

      Sorry, but I never tried to be perfect. Maybe because I feel inside that it's impossible at least in this life:)
      Just tried to be a little bit better than before.
      Actually I tried a few times to make an object from wood and from metal perfect, but always failed. Than I realized it's impossible and gave up that idea. Now I simply try to make things as good as I can , and when I do it , I receive satisfaction :)

    • @yellowyosh470
      @yellowyosh470 4 роки тому +1

      That is so beautiful ❤️ Thank you for sharing! I also expirienced hardships growing up and felt like every one else's life was perfect. The older I get the more I realize we each have our own struggles to go through, and they can help us recognize the reality of our Savior and feel his guiding help. 💕 Keep being positive and holding to him! It's the only way to feel peace and make it through our struggles.

  • @cyndypearl8368
    @cyndypearl8368 2 роки тому +4

    "God's grace makes up everything Im not"..... Love that!

  • @paulb515
    @paulb515 3 роки тому +4

    I've heard millions of testaments in my life but as I stumbled upon yours I felt something I never have before. Thank You so much for your testament to our father. I've been struggling with the exact same situation for so many years and I've felt my situation was hopeless. You have reminded me its not. I simply haven't opened up my heart to our father enough to let him in fully.

  • @ariellepletain5731
    @ariellepletain5731 5 років тому +35

    Man, I've been there when you hear that heart-breaking silence from the Heavens. Thanks for sharing to help others feel less alone!

  • @kingbenjamin22
    @kingbenjamin22 5 років тому +22

    I never cease to be amazed just how fully God is in the details of our lives. This very morning the thought came to me that Jesus spoke to the Father and said "Here am I, send me". Then I believe He looked upon all of us and said, "because every one you are worth it"- Then I "randomly" found this video- God is in the details of our lives!

  • @ellenacollinson4448
    @ellenacollinson4448 4 роки тому +9

    Something Elder Bednar said that really hit home in dealing with my perfectionism is ‘your steadiness chases away the dark’. I love that quote and the concept that not doing your 100% is still really good, it’s a game-change

  • @christianthompson9734
    @christianthompson9734 5 років тому +13

    When you are all about Him, He is all about you. When it's for God, complete surrender is complete victory.
    I relate very much to the struggle this young woman faced, and I know you do too. I have hit that "rock bottom" so many times, but I never let it be rock bottom enough to turn into a stone ceiling too. Call it stubbornness or steadfastness, but I never let it make me give up pushing forward, even though the firm witness and assurance takes its time.
    I fight so hard to be good enough, hoping one day to be good enough... Good enough for Him, good enough for my family, good enough for my friends... But as far as hope goes, I had none for being good enough for myself. I never allowed me to be happy with myself, whether it's my appearance, my performance, my understanding, my character, or my level of any good quality. I never see myself as enough to be pleased or satisfied with. Regardless of praise of appreciation from anyone else, I thought it was untrue and "they just say that because they don't know the goal I fell short of." Nothing I do is as good as I want it to be. (see that it's my expectation of myself, and not the expectation of others).
    But what does "enough" look like? At what point can I really be happy with myself and have peace?
    It is when I realize in my whole soul the perfection of God and the power of His grace. He has justice and fairness taken care of. Now, He wants me to remove my internal barriers and my unwillingness to receive mercy and grace. The ultimate goal will be reached with Him. All the failures and fears of failure will be overcome with Him. All eternally significant obstacles and opposition is defeated by Him for me. All the shortcomings will be made up and weakness will be turned to strength with Him.
    While I strive towards perfection, I don't have to try so hard non-stop to be absolutely perfect by myself. There is no such thing, and it's contrary to Heavenly Father's will concerning me (or you). It cannot be done, and that is just how it is meant to be. I am not meant to become as God without God, as though I can replace Christ with myself if I just try hard enough. That's not how it works. That's not what "trying to be like Jesus" is about. Life is not a perfection competition against Jesus. I did not lose my spot because Jesus is ahead; instead, I have a spot because He is ahead. If I am all about me, and me perfecting me, then the level of perfect I can achieve is this constant disappointment. If I am all about Him, then He is all about me, and because He is perfect, He can perfect me, and I can be happy with myself because of Him.
    I can be perfect in Christ. I can be happy in Jesus, like Jesus, not because of me, but because of Jesus. This is what enough looks like.

  • @1800lexaful
    @1800lexaful 4 роки тому +9

    Perfect people don't need a Savior. His grace is sufficient because He knows we aren't perfect and He is okay with that, so we should be too. God will always provide a way for those who want to do better and be better, and He will always provide comfort for if and when we feel we can't hit the imaginary mark. I struggle with perfectionism, the worst of it is never feeling enough for those who I love most, including the Savior. But all I can do is try and stay positive. I always say seek potential through progress instead of perfection.

    • @sydneysmith2388
      @sydneysmith2388 4 роки тому

      This is such a good reminder for me. Thanks for sharing!

  • @millenialhymns
    @millenialhymns 5 років тому +4

    Opening your heart to God (repenting/changing) is exactly what he wants. Loving him, his ways, and doing what you can to be close to him and to have faith that he is in control is exactly it!! That inner peace and approval that comes from him is worth everything. Thanks for sharing!!

  • @andreavincent4619
    @andreavincent4619 5 років тому +33

    Wow! It's crazy how Satan can make us feel about ourselves. Growing up, I never had any problem with my body, I didn't think I was pretty though but I didn't really care too much about it, but after having kids (4) and seeing how my body changed, that's when Satan started to put bad thoughts about my body. Elder Klebingat conference talk (4 years ago) gave me the courage to change those things that I could change. The Atonement of JesusChrist is real and we have such cool bodies, we can do so many good things with it like going to the temple to serve our deceased ancestors. I'm so grateful for my body, it's not perfect but it's the perfect temple for my spirit.

    • @sarahd1706
      @sarahd1706 5 років тому +2

      @@PunsandPixels A symbol of Christ who chose to keep His scars.

    • @ohsupdom
      @ohsupdom 4 роки тому +1

      @lil chxrrpp God is jealous? Of what?

    • @yellowyosh470
      @yellowyosh470 4 роки тому +2

      @lil chxrrpp that's not really God's personality my friend. He doesn't "retaliate" against us, he tries to help us.

    • @yellowyosh470
      @yellowyosh470 4 роки тому

      Amen sister! 🙌

    • @jaklumen
      @jaklumen 3 роки тому

      I'm quite male, but I'm recovering from binge eating disorder, regardless. I only mentioned it to my physician when I saw him about a week ago, or so. Not an easy road, and I'm still trying to figure out how to support my wife of 22 years in similar matters. But I reckon Master Jesus will help me find a way. I remember just enough about Him that I know it will be so.

  • @joshrigtrup2729
    @joshrigtrup2729 5 років тому +45

    Thank you! This is an amazing story that I think many people (including myself) can relate to.

  • @thedoxeyreel
    @thedoxeyreel 5 років тому +2

    I love this. Thank you for sharing! It’s so tough to think we are worthy sometimes and I struggle with this as a mother almost daily. I’m so happy this message was shared.

  • @andrewgmasters
    @andrewgmasters 5 років тому +2

    Thank you for sharing this; I can relate to her in so many ways on so many levels. She’s a beautiful woman and deserves the best in her life for being so open about her struggles and concerns.

  • @l.richmondchilds9548
    @l.richmondchilds9548 4 роки тому +3

    The Lord’s perfection was being COMPLETED--SUFFICIENTLY PURE.
    For His Grace Is Sufficient for Us!!
    I am so Grateful for Mortal Angels that brought these verses to me and made them live!

  • @TruthRestored1830
    @TruthRestored1830 5 років тому +3

    Thank you. Hearing this made me think about my own experience which are similar, and I’m reminded of how painful it was. However, I’m also reminded of all the time I’ve felt peace and happiness in my life and how grateful I am for them. Far outweighs the low times in my life, even when I’m unaware of some of them at the time.

  • @chuckackerson3868
    @chuckackerson3868 4 роки тому +3

    This short statement has helped me. I knew it all along but the talk given in conference was like a key. "Be Ye Therefore Perfect...Eventually".

    • @jaklumen
      @jaklumen 3 роки тому

      I learned in .. well, it was CES instruction- either seminary or Institute- that the intent is already there in the original Greek, but it's been a bit lost in translation. The Greek word translated "perfect" is telos, I think? Anyways, it clearly implies a process. I will search for this Conference talk.

  • @teresawilliams7884
    @teresawilliams7884 5 років тому +2

    Thank you for being vulnerable and willing to share something so personal with so many. Your story will help so many. Thank you and best wishes to you always.

  • @rwwon
    @rwwon 5 років тому +1

    This is great - thank you for sharing. The 2nd great commandment is to love thy neighbor as thyself. Sometimes I think we forget the “thyself” part, or we think loving ourselves is bad and can be misconstrued as pride or being self-centered. The reality is, just like that mirror exercise, we can be pretty brutal to ourselves and devoid of self-compassion to the point that it is hard to love ourselves the way we are. I know for me, recognizing that we are here to learn and grow and develop, and yes, make mistakes, allows me to still strive to be better, but to be caring to myself in the process, and to remember that we are progressing.

  • @jzwillows
    @jzwillows 3 роки тому +1

    "I think his grace makes up for everything else in life." Very well said, particularly in light of Moroni 10:32 which states:
    Yea, come unto Christ, and be perfected in him, and deny yourselves of all ungodliness; and if ye shall deny yourselves of all ungodliness, and love God with all your might, mind and strength, then is his grace sufficient for you, that by his grace ye may be perfect in Christ; and if by the grace of God ye are perfect in Christ, ye can in nowise deny the power of God.
    It is through His grace, after all we can do - denying ourselves of all ungodliness; and loving God with all our might, mind and strength - that we are perfect in Christ.

  • @cassiebrooke2490
    @cassiebrooke2490 5 років тому +7

    I relate to this girl. I hope that she knows her worth and that she is beautiful!

  • @rogerramnarain5099
    @rogerramnarain5099 5 років тому +4

    Feels like me. Although I can't explain this to no one. Grateful for the video.

  • @matthewdean7433
    @matthewdean7433 5 років тому +7

    Man, I love these videos! So inspiring! Thank you for sharing! :)

  • @theultimatehunt
    @theultimatehunt 5 років тому +1

    God bless you sweetie. You got to the doors of the olympics something alot of people wont do. Your always loved in gods eyes.
    I think your fantastic too!

  • @Mike_In_Idaho
    @Mike_In_Idaho 4 роки тому +1

    Thank you for this video. I showed it to my youth Sunday School class today. I asked if anyone felt like they weren't good enough. Everyone raised their hands. I hope this video helped. It was a powerful message for me. Thank you!

    • @churchofjesuschrist
      @churchofjesuschrist  4 роки тому

      You're welcome. We're glad you enjoyed the video. Thanks for sharing your experience, and thanks for serving the youth!

  • @UnknownWorldMusic2
    @UnknownWorldMusic2 3 роки тому +1

    “Filled every empty space I had” 💕

  • @davidk349
    @davidk349 4 роки тому +2

    We're here to learn about where happiness comes from. It doesn't come from competition or comparison in what we can do, talents, skills, achievements. All of us already have what we need, we just need to recognize that and put it to practice. We all care about how we feel, and we can care about how others feel, and we can share with each other what we think, what is important to us. We can support each other by making little places in our minds for those around us, where they can feel known and cared about.

  • @davidthomas4611
    @davidthomas4611 5 років тому +1

    What an amazing experience to cause a break fro the world. I believe that God gives us disasters to help shape us into who we most want to be. When we lean into these experiences we find ourselves, God, and others. The humble sweetness that follows is so amazing because His Spirit guides us to what we most want. I'm so thankful for my own disasters.

  • @cameronsmith5786
    @cameronsmith5786 5 років тому +6

    The real key or secret to this life is to submit our will, our desires, everything we are or want to that which God is. That is the only way to true Joy! To lasting peace, happiness, etc. And the crowing attribute is Charity, the pure love of Christ. When we learn this, we begin to forget ourselves learn we will never be “enough” compared to God, but that’s ok as long as we strive daily to improve ourselves, work to gain Knowledge and be diligent and humble in learning and living the gospel of Christ.
    Search the holy scriptures, study all the titles of Christ and this principle will become plain to you. God Bless!

  • @dapperdragon5602
    @dapperdragon5602 4 роки тому +1

    I love my perfectionism. I have gone through my life thinking everyone was like me and is going through the same thing I am. I guess not everyone thinks the way I do. But this video says it exactly, He makes it full. He picks me up and carries me the rest of the way. I love my perfectionism because it makes me look at everything I can improve. And I tell myself, "Why not try?" I am constantly improving and doing all that I can to better myself. But the thing is... I love myself. I absolutely adore myself, not in a prideful way. When the world is yelling at me, and telling me about all my imperfections, I look at myself in the mirror and say, "You are a child of God... And he loves you. I love you." Nothing of what others say can affect me because God is the same as he was yesterday. Jesus Christ died FOR ME. He DIED for me. I am loved. I am blessed. All of my prayers have been answered. I love learning new things, because I try my best, and the Lord knows my efforts, and awards me with the goal. And that is how I feel about life. I will continue my journey onward towards perfection in Christ, for I know that if I try my best, I will be blessed with my efforts, and accomplish my goal.

  • @corriennefarley4811
    @corriennefarley4811 3 роки тому

    Just watched this. So inspiring. I need to guard against judging myself as not good enough, and therefore not bothering to try as I will always fall short of being perfect.

  • @nyokabigsby5205
    @nyokabigsby5205 4 роки тому +1

    Thanks so much for this video. I am a recovering perfectionist. I always wanted to be perfect, in body, school in life in general. I spent a lot of time comparing myself to others and also other christians to see if I fit the mold, Unfourtunately this is still my battle. There can be such a pressure to be perfect and never feel enough. I'm hoping on this journey that God will continue to lead me to let go of my perfectionism

  • @terrilynlofing4148
    @terrilynlofing4148 5 років тому +10

    Thank you for sharing your story.

  • @josephshumway
    @josephshumway 4 роки тому

    Thanks so much! I struggle with perfectionism too. Your video is a reminder I needed that because of God I will be alright

  • @xaviersonofgod4464
    @xaviersonofgod4464 5 років тому

    Good message, thank you for sharing your story young lady. Much love for all brothers and sisters In Christ! God bless all who watch, and or read this comment.

  • @LoneWolf-pr6rf
    @LoneWolf-pr6rf 5 років тому +1

    Wow I needed this today!!!

  • @debfryer2437
    @debfryer2437 5 років тому +31

    Olivia I hope you get to read my words here. I am writing a book on this very topic of rejection and how to overcome it permanently.
    I want you to know that your worth was established before you were born when in the pre mortal world you raised your arm to the square and thus indicated that you were on the Lord's side.
    Perfectionism is a worldly pursuit founded on a life of judgment and criticism. From a very young age we see ourselves through the eyes of other mortals who spend their time measuring and weighing, comparing and contrasting. Those very words smack of intellectualism. On the other hand God just looks into our eyes and loves us. Can you feel the difference? While men are busy doing their math, God is very still, very sure and calm.
    Pray every hour to feel God's love, to see yourself as He does and to value yourself as He values you. When you do this hourly He will respond and you will be changed. This is the antidote to the world's constant clamor for perfection. All God is interested in is our progression.
    So - pray always, and you will come off conqueror.

    • @fayelucas3842
      @fayelucas3842 5 років тому

      Deb Fryer Thank you for this 💖 it really uplift my soul

    • @sydneysmith2388
      @sydneysmith2388 4 роки тому

      Progression, not perfection. I love that. Thanks for sharing, it really has helped me today!

    • @richardscott3501
      @richardscott3501 4 роки тому

      Deb Fryer your post is very inspiring

  • @corinnestuart7012
    @corinnestuart7012 3 роки тому +1

    Great video. Something I really needed.

  • @benjaminbaffoe3062
    @benjaminbaffoe3062 5 років тому +1

    I really admire your courage and inspiration.

  • @SamTechWorld9
    @SamTechWorld9 4 роки тому +3

    It's the environment, I'm a member as well, and since I moved to the USA some people especially in Utah (this is my personal opinion based on what I've seen and lived with my mission companions) feel like they have to be perfect in order to be worthy of God's love. This view of life and non healthy competitiveness is causing depression and feelings of failure. Please stop and see how great and awesome you are!!

  • @kaylanchristensen9086
    @kaylanchristensen9086 5 років тому

    I really needed this today. Thank you!

  • @ldsgermanshepherdboy9272
    @ldsgermanshepherdboy9272 5 років тому +14

    I feel like this is something I struggle with too.... I've always felt that I could never do anything right, or be good enough for anyone. This video has definitely been helpful.... thank you so much😁

  • @garrettpope5062
    @garrettpope5062 3 роки тому +1

    This was very authentic and helped me a lot today. Thank you!

  • @madmartigan579
    @madmartigan579 5 років тому

    Wonderful message, thank you.

  • @christophermelling5053
    @christophermelling5053 4 роки тому

    Very important message. Thank you for sharing.

  • @raquelejeanmartins4934
    @raquelejeanmartins4934 5 років тому +1

    Thanks so much for sharing this.

  • @amqt56
    @amqt56 4 роки тому

    Thank you--always know you are loved.

  • @michaelnshumsky2149
    @michaelnshumsky2149 4 роки тому

    Thanks, Olivia for sharing your story. I have experienced many of the same thoughts and feelings in my life. Thanks for reminding me of God's love and the mercy and grace that come from our saviour, Jesus Christ. He will continue to bless you, I know.

    • @cedricburkhart3738
      @cedricburkhart3738 3 роки тому

      Yeah but she never got an answer as to why he didn't answer her. If I had children I wouldn't egnor them. Is he angry with us?

  • @nsandeep9982
    @nsandeep9982 5 років тому +1

    Thank you for sharing God is with us

  • @BRADthatsit
    @BRADthatsit 5 років тому +1

    This is awesome!

  • @davidglover5255
    @davidglover5255 11 місяців тому +1

    I used to feel the same way. I believed I had to be perfect before Father would love me. So I could not have any sin in my life. I had to come to Him pure. How obscured that is. That's the reason for the Atonement. This is what makes it possible for us to be forgiven so that we can come to Father pure.

  • @pamweinberg1212
    @pamweinberg1212 4 роки тому

    Thank you sweet dear Sister. I do believe at one time or another we all feel that way. Thank you for sharing your testimony. It let’s me know that I’m Ok. Your exceptional Smart and beautiful. I hear God’s spirit speaking through you. So Thank you. 😉🙏😇💫

  • @sarabernpaintner4704
    @sarabernpaintner4704 Рік тому

    Thank you for sharing this great video 😊

  • @matthewceko172
    @matthewceko172 4 роки тому

    Powerful testimony.

  • @MarleeCraig
    @MarleeCraig 2 роки тому

    Thank you for sharing your beautiful journey with us ❤

  • @ReubenTalks
    @ReubenTalks 4 роки тому

    Thnx for the positive vibe..

  • @ryanr9260
    @ryanr9260 5 років тому

    I really enjoy these short videos.

  • @mathiaslangrin7160
    @mathiaslangrin7160 5 років тому +1

    Thank you for sharing this video 😘😘😘

  • @dimondbasketball2417
    @dimondbasketball2417 5 років тому +4

    I love it thanks for the video I love the story

  • @seppesai
    @seppesai 5 років тому +1

    Sister you are perfect! Best wishes!

  • @charlottethaler1643
    @charlottethaler1643 4 роки тому

    This is something everyone needs to hear.

  • @lilnbigman
    @lilnbigman 3 роки тому +1

    We can not take the verse as literal meant to we Jesus sheep/children. For only "One" was, is and will Eternally remain "Perfect" Sinless that is Jesus! We His children are sinners there in never to be "Perfect" but to live as Jesus taught and lived to the best of our abilities. We are perfect in Jesus Christ who gave everything for us to give us life back. To be alive and not just live. Once we accept Jesus Christ and are Batized in The Father, Son, and Holly Spirit we then are good enough for God's Mercy's and Grace are made New each day. I thankful to hear she realized that.

  • @samwilcox3883
    @samwilcox3883 4 роки тому

    What a beautiful testimony! We know we will be good enough as long as we keep working on keeping the commandments and following our church leaders, and endure to the end. Joseph Smith taught that God was once as we were and we one day can become just like him. Imagine creating worlds without end! I love the gospel and the prophet Joseph Smith and his teachings and example.

  • @larc-en-cielg69
    @larc-en-cielg69 4 роки тому +2

    I love this video so much it is really pretty good i love to studying out of the book of Mormon i love going out with the missionary work

  • @Sagelystables8272
    @Sagelystables8272 3 роки тому +1

    This taught me a lesson maybe not to be so hard on myself I’m learning a instrument upright bass I wont be very good from the start but I keep getting better I have to know and believe and be patience and know I don’t have to be perfect.

    • @jaklumen
      @jaklumen 3 роки тому

      Awesome! I was a music education student, and I really loved learning double bass. Bowing was part of my instruction, but I loved plucking technique more. It was 20 years ago, BUT, since my eldest child wants to learn bass guitar, I'm planning to get them one for their birthday- if they would be OK with sharing so I can learn, too. Please let me know how it continues to go?

  • @user-ho2vm3eg3n
    @user-ho2vm3eg3n 3 роки тому

    Inspiring thoughts!

  • @blueredkoa7795
    @blueredkoa7795 2 роки тому

    ur loved!

  • @alchristensen8121
    @alchristensen8121 4 роки тому +1

    Right, and how many times was I lectured from the podium, in classes, "Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father in Heaven is perfect?" All the while, no church leader ever said, "Stop beating yourself up. You're doing just fine."

    • @jaklumen
      @jaklumen 3 роки тому

      Well, I hope you see this.. my experience is a bit different, but I would have loved to hear as much, too. See, perfectionism is a toxic tradition of my family of origin, on both sides. I look at my hoarding problem, and I remember how a therapist (that I didn't much like, btw) brought up the subject of perfectionism with me, years ago. She talked about the aspects from beneath- i.e., hiding the mess when I couldn't front well enough.
      Then I will just quickly say that narcissistic abuse is rife in my family of origin, too.
      So absolutely I would like this to be said from the podium, often. I see you, I hear you, it's been a year since you typed this, but, I hope you'll catch my message anyways.

  • @denisplouffe514
    @denisplouffe514 5 років тому +1

    Thank you

  • @robinthrob1010
    @robinthrob1010 4 роки тому

    Thanks so much for this wonderfull saying

  • @michiyokrapsicher6315
    @michiyokrapsicher6315 4 роки тому

    It sure is easy to forget that through His Power The Father Through Our Brother (and because He has made intercession for us as His and Our Father wanted Him to do, is a Father to Us) is holding everything together by His Priesthood Power. It is so easy to forget that not one Physical Law or Law of Physics that all of us depend on to keep living would remain in Force for us to dependably use without Him Holding it that way. This is Their work of Love for every Living Creature, including all of us, even those that Curse God! Being as We Members of This Church do not try to Curse God, or Anyone Else, Knowing that Our Father and His Son are always taking care of us, who try to do Our Best In Jesus Christ's Name, should always give us an inner feeling of Happiness, even if we are and feel Unhappy, as Christ and Our Father must Appreciate what we are trying to do, even when it is impossible for us, as, since they are keeping the most minute Law In Force all the time, They Definitely Know what we are having trouble with while Doing Our Best, Especially, when we Thank them every time we eat something, even if we forget at all other times, especially if thanks be to the Father by Jesus Christ's Name! So easy! Not what some others go through to get to the Supreme Light! -Because they think they need to. Our Faith in Christ puts us there! We should be Always Thankful!

  • @brettgarandza683
    @brettgarandza683 4 роки тому

    The thing that gets in your way and clouds you from the truth is pride. We're not perfect beings. Praise the Lord!

  • @mickerdoodle51
    @mickerdoodle51 5 років тому

    You are brave! Thank you...

  • @GreeninNature.
    @GreeninNature. 5 років тому

    Thanks for your Testimony

  • @benjaminkamman3844
    @benjaminkamman3844 3 роки тому

    I feel her testimony is speaking to me

  • @MegWasHere2011
    @MegWasHere2011 Рік тому

    I love this video

  • @abbymills7382
    @abbymills7382 5 років тому +1

    Beautiful ♥️

  • @carlenecurtis3829
    @carlenecurtis3829 4 роки тому

    So precious

  • @isaacmalcolm2020
    @isaacmalcolm2020 5 років тому

    I love these vids.

  • @michelamar-khodja8591
    @michelamar-khodja8591 4 роки тому

    Really and simply God is a good guy.
    We can count on Him, always!

  • @danleda83
    @danleda83 4 роки тому

    As of today (6/9/2020) I see 3.5K thumbs up and 101 thumbs down. The thumbs down represent people alienated. Bitter alienation to the degree that they can't even accept the eternal gospel - the "good news!" This clip is such Good News!
    Yesterday the Church posted this statement titled: "Locking arms for racial harmony in America" It's a call to action! It's a call to do the "rigorous work of building bridges of cooperation rather than walls of segregation and alienation." May the Lord bless us with individual inspiration and personal revelation as we work to reach out to those who have been alienated.
    Love to you all!

  • @Connect2Thrive.Courtney
    @Connect2Thrive.Courtney 5 років тому

    Thank you.

  • @jamesschmidt534
    @jamesschmidt534 3 роки тому

    Amen!

  • @sylvesternyonomie433
    @sylvesternyonomie433 4 роки тому

    very strong my dear thank for that challenge.

  • @trevor7844
    @trevor7844 4 роки тому

    It is by grace we are saved

  • @rebeccarisk1772
    @rebeccarisk1772 5 років тому +1

    I have struggled with perfectionism for the last several years, slowly making progress.

    • @rebecca42mun
      @rebecca42mun 5 років тому +1

      Good for you! I think half the battle for me is recognizing that I think I have to be perfect, and also that other people have their own free agency, and it's not up to me to make sure they make good choices.

    • @richardscott3501
      @richardscott3501 4 роки тому

      It's a lifetime journey

    • @richardscott3501
      @richardscott3501 4 роки тому

      Can you enlighten me more about eternal family I'm Less active

    • @churchofjesuschrist
      @churchofjesuschrist  4 роки тому

      Hi Richard, thank you for your question! Families are a big part of God’s plan for our happiness. We are born into a family. We aspire to build strong family relationships. Home can be a place where we feel support, safety, and love. God does not want family ties to end when we die. Because of temples, we can be reunited with our families in the next life. You or others interested can learn more at the link below, and we hope you know you are missed and welcome to join us at Church! www.comeuntochrist.org/beliefs/family/forever-families

  • @jebastinkoilraj1951
    @jebastinkoilraj1951 5 років тому

    Inspiring

  • @kayleealger1117
    @kayleealger1117 3 роки тому

    Ether 1:26 “6 And now, I, Moroni, would speak somewhat concerning these things; I would show unto the world that faith is things which are hoped for and not seen; wherefore, dispute not because ye see not, for ye receive no witness until after the trial of your faith.” Her story reminded me of this scripture!

  • @ehimaosama8490
    @ehimaosama8490 3 роки тому +1

    Perfection in life is pending.

  • @brentonhorton6845
    @brentonhorton6845 3 роки тому

    Mom would often take us to church me and my older siblings..my dad were never part of that system or the hereditary nature and grounding behind mormonism I can only remember a few years ..but life begs the question..could I have understood all those things on my own and through boyhood and without my dad..I still don't know..I think ill always have that event or barrier in my life...I hope that one day ill see mom and dad 👨 I know this bcos of the truth of the gospel..but really I'm not sure I know anything of real value..only that I try to share it..people are struggling today and they need light and inspiration..if I were to attend church I would do just that..I pay my bills say my prays I take part in 6 or 7 different charity's and go to work I wanted to start to playing in a good band pre covid..its hard to find good players..who don't drink and smoke..I draw the line their and they kick.me out..so they can go jump off high cliff 🙄 anyway..anyway the voice says to me "find a different way to explain things " and im trying to be more intellectual without compromising my knowledge of christ and heavenly father..its a very gentle voice...so I am trying..I fell off the roof while helping my brother build his home...I forget things too ...so funny 🤣 😂 I played with this group one time and they're like call me up the next day...dude you play steely Dan last night chur!! chur!!!..im like yeah yeah...who the hell are you...so funny 🤣 😆 😄 😂

  • @REDFANGDALLRED
    @REDFANGDALLRED 5 років тому +1

    Nice video.

  • @Fhj-jrseuiopq43
    @Fhj-jrseuiopq43 4 місяці тому

  • @emmanuelmashiamzaingvideo6999
    @emmanuelmashiamzaingvideo6999 4 роки тому

    nice Sharing

  • @timfodensr7449
    @timfodensr7449 4 роки тому

    Never give up strive to be your best heavenly father allows us to falter to be what we are and to learn its called being human. We all falter, heavenly father remains steadfast and faithful to us and will always speak with to point the way in the dark

  • @stardustgirl2904
    @stardustgirl2904 5 років тому +8

    🌷😇I never once felt like I had to be PERFECT AT ALL!!! I ONLY FELT LIKE I JUST WANTED TO DO MY BEST, AND THAT HEAVENLY FATHER KNOWS, I'm not PERFECT, BUT MY BEST IS GOOD ENOUGH FOR HIM!!!! HE MADE ME, he knows me best! ONLY JESUS CHRIST IS PERFECT, we don't need to worry about this!!!

    • @rebecca42mun
      @rebecca42mun 5 років тому +2

      To many people, it's hard to define "doing my best". I mean... I could have gotten up even earlier or tried a little harder right? Be grateful you don't struggle with this.

  • @mieliepip4611
    @mieliepip4611 4 роки тому

    Keep looking up sister, keep striving to do your best and let the Lord do the rest. Remember : "Ether 12:27 And if men come unto me I will show unto them their weakness. I give unto men weakness that they may be humble; and my grace is sufficient for all men that humble themselves before me; for if they humble themselves before me, and have faith in me, then will I make weak things become strong unto them." Our Father in Heaven loves you, you are a precious daughter of Heavenly Parents. When you feel a bit down, sing, "I Am a Child of God" and say the Young Women's Theme; you will feel uplifted. Also, look where you may be of service to someone, by immersing yourself in performing acts of service and kindness, you will feel strengthened. Ask yourself these simple questions:- Who in my circle of influence could I help today? What time and resources do I have? In what ways can I use my talents and skills to bless others? I think you will be amazed by what the Holy Ghost will inspire you to do! God bless you sister!