Did you enjoy yesterday's video about healthy crushes? Today, we will be taking that topic to the next level by providing you 5 Ways to Ask Someone Out! We hope you have a wonderful Sunday, and maybe take that leap of faith and ask that special someone out ;)
@@Honeybunnyoats I've been there, it's absolutely terrible. I asked a co-worker out about a month ago, and while she turned me down, it hurt a helluva lot less than not telling my childhood friend how I felt about her when I had the chance.
I remember when I waited for a solid month to walk up to this girl and try to talk to her. Her being alone all the time kind of explained why she didn't wanna talk in the end.
Non-Existant Pie Build a bridge and get over it. There's not much more you can do after your crush says no. You just have to learn to accept that rejection happens. You have to learn to let it go and move onto someone that is interested in you.
You’re conflating possibilities with probabilities. If I look under my pillow, either there is a million dollars underneath it or there isn’t. Doesn’t mean there’s a 50% chance there’s a million dollars under my pillow. Otherwise, I’d buy pillows like mad. Still, the basic idea that you’re conveying here is a good way to think about it. I wish I had a 50% chance of success. It’s more like 1%. Lol
Just because there are two possibilities doesn’t mean they’re equally likely. Let’s apply your logic to the lottery. Either I win the lottery or I don’t. 50/50 chance, right? No, because the chance of winning the lottery is generally around one in 300 million. Many people enter the lottery, and only one can win. If everyone had a 50% chance, the lottery would go bankrupt, since about 150 million people would win. My point is, asking someone out isn’t as simple as a coin flip. It’s not random. It’s more like a lottery. Several guys may ask a girl out, but she can only date one of them at a time (assuming she is monogamous). If you had a 50% success rate, that means if you ask out 100 girls, you should expect about 50 of them to say yes. I have had nowhere close to that level of success.
It's just as Jonathan said. Asking someone out is like lottery, especially if they're a woman and get asked out a lot. If they get 100 requests a day, then from THEIR perspective each guy only has a 1/100th chance of being selected, then your actual probability of being the chosen one drops much lower. A better way to calculate whether a girl will reject you or not would be through Drake's equation. There's more complicated ways to do it, but since all rely on subjective meassures of happiness and attractiveness, I don't see the use in trying one over the other.
@Scott Ali i found my crushes social media if i ask her out on there she knows who i am but i dont want her to get the idea that im creepy for finding it in the first place so im not sure if i should message her
Number 6: ask them out on April fools day. If they reject you can say April fools. Edit: Good luck to all those who are going to try this :D Edit 2: It's almost the day bois, plan the big question out and gl B)
my crush had a crush on me but i didnt realise until it was too late but im still considering asking her out but i dont know if i should or not because she hasnt been trying to get my attention for a while now so im thinking that she doesnt like me anymore and btw im in highschool so it could mess some stuff up if i get rejected
Cory Colmer Hmm I know I'm in middle school but I'd say shoot your shot. You don't have much to lose. And maybe she's waiting for you to make the first move. You got this. When ny friend asked me out I low key thought it was a joke but I said yes anyway and turns out it wasn't. Since we're in quarantine if it fails you can say a sibling or parent took your phone.
@@wendigo374 Harder, as in, in person you get a holistic view and proper assessment of someone and your compatibility, not just swiping left right based on a photo.
I was crushing on this boy, and I asked him out over text, he said he saw me more as a sister because we weren't too close, but the next year he asked me to be his girlfriend YOU HAVE A CHANCE PEOPLES
Here's the genius play: Ask them out for ice cream and netflix. If they say yes, congratulations! You have your date, ice cream, AND netflix! If they say no, at least you have ice cream and netflix!
"there will be times you'll be rejected but this only brings you closer to who you're meant to be with" ABSOLUTELY. Ever since I started thinking this way(in love and in life), Ive learned to embrace rejections. It's one way of letting you know you might not be in the right direction, or right now might not be the right time... :)
Me: “Are we official” Her: “You haven’t said anything” Me: “Do you want to be my girlfriend?” Her: “yes” Obviously it wasn’t as easy as that though lol. I planned on asking her out sooner but I was too scared. She’s the only gf I’ve ever had (:
Alexandra Ramos maybe it’s better to have tried! Life is about recovering from our self proclaimed failures. Maybe rejection is a blessing in disguise.
Rejection is better than never asking them out and later have regrets to be honest but maybe it's just me. I have dealt with this in the past that I NEVER told someone whom I had a mad crush on only indirectly had I done it and made so much mistakes that my best friend, yes she's my best friend ended up having a lot of "fights" and arguments to the point where I told myself that we were better off being friends and I regretted it. But I'm past that already and we are still good friends.
Be Yourself is overused, I think more importantly is misinterpreted. I see it as Be Yourself when you're at your most comfortable and best self. A way to help is to imagine everywhere you go is your own bedroom. In your bedroom you're usually open, "confident", relaxed and at ease. Breath through your nose slowly for 5 seconds then breath out through your nose for 5 seconds repeat this if you're feeling nervous. The thing with feel "nervous" is that's all dependant on how you see it. Because nervousness and excitement have similar feelings so try switching how you view what you're feeling. Be safe and stay blessed
The part ”be brave, take the leap!” and all the positive comments inspired me to ask my crush out. And hey they admitted that they felt the same way and were too afraid to ask. Im so glad that i did it. Edit: I’m still dating them. Over 2 years of happy relationship :) I love them so much! Edit2: Hopping to say that we celebrated our 3 year anniversary in november 2021, we are still together :) Also, I used "they" to not specify the gender of the person. Gender is irrelevant here and therefore I used it. I am not dating multiple people, stop asking me that. There is nothing wrong with polyamory but that is not the case here. Cheers!
@@IkesPimpHand They is a genderneutral pronoun. "They pronoun is also used with singular meaning, sometimes to avoid specifying the gender of the person referred to: see gender neutrality in language." It was one person and I am happy to be with them.
Panda Potato awesome! Too many people are stuck in a time warp, thinking that the guy always asks the girl out. Not true! It is 2018! Girls ask guys out these days, too!!!
Psych2Go I kind of have to be happy with it since I dont want attention from family about being in a relationship, and I have zero self confidence 😂 and I'm at the bottom of the totem pole socially so I cant get a gf (I'm pretty sure hawking came up with a formula explaining why the universe is doing this to me) so yeah... I'm not saying my life sucks as in I'm in poverty or anything, but from the perspective of someone in a first world country I can only go up
On the bright side, relationships in middle school almost rarely work out and relationships in highschool have a 50/50 chance of working out but there isn't ever a definite chance
Well hey at least you have passion. Look at it like you enjoy art and entertainment, you have a sense of humor AND you are willing to take chances. You just have to accentuate the positives of yourself and your hobbies, always have a glass half full approach to life :)
I actually collected enough courage 2 months ago to ask my crush out (in person), with whom I was in love for about half a year. Sadly, she told me no... Well, at least I'm glad I asked, rather than always having to wonder 'what if?'. I've moved on now and accepted the reality. Looking back on it now, I realize that she may not have been the perfect one for me after all, as our personalities are quite different. I really hope I meet someone new some day!
Because nothings like endangering your life to then impress your crush only for her to say no leading to your state of depression only for the cycle to repeat untill everyone have either said yes or no
I love how sweet, gently and softly this was explained. Makes me feel so loved and supported and worth living life, to which I suspect is the intention and I have so much respect for that
The person I've been wanting to ask out is a coworker. We both like the same shows and movies, and we're kind of friends. I know she wants to see the new Halloween movie coming out and so do I, but every time I try to ask her I feel like I can't get the words to come out.
Dude, I know what you feel. Mine is a coworker as well. She seems to really like me. But I'm afraid to mess things up. And there is additional problem - large age gap. Pathetic 😔 life loves to throw curved balls at you
@@jacekmak87 I know how it is with age gaps. 16 year difference between me and my ex fiance. Cheated on me with a guy 2 houses away from mine. I sent my coworker a text earlier and am waiting on a reply.
K7TZ I've never had any experience dating but from what is stated the main objective in a date is to know the person. Don't make it too big or something grand. All that matters is that you get to know the person first. Hope it helps.
Invite them over to play games with you? If they can't handle the fact that you play games often, then that's a warning sign that may end up affecting a relationship, possibly even after marriage too. If they say yes but don't know how to play, teach them. It'll be a good bonding experience… I hope.
what if I have a crush with someone I barely know and we barely speak? how to ask them out then? and is it normal to have a crush with someone you barely know?
Greentelo Lelo it’s normal. I’ve been there. I know it’s a year later, but maybe this can still help you? Just, you know, try to get to know them. Make friends with their friends, that actually helps a lot. Maybe even just walk up to them and say you’re interested in em, it doesn’t hurt to try.
A small tip for people feeling nervous about rejection. I never knew why, but I was quite popular with the guys in middle school. Unfortunately, many of these were my friends. Rejecting someone feels terrible, especially if they’re a great friend. The rejection is how you take it. If they reject you, it often doesn’t mean they don’t like you. Sometimes, they don’t realise they like you, or are to shy to admit they like you. Either that, or they only see you as a friends. Friendzoning someone gives you extreme guilt. So, try to be happy, and show the person who rejected you so. Keep being a great friend. A guy who had a huge crush on me is still a great friend of mine to this day. Other than the fact that rejection is only as scary as you make it, there is still the chance you won’t be rejected. There’s a reason you like them. There are so many psychological reasons that you like them and they may like you back. One of them is that people tend to find others that look like them more attractive. If you like their personality, your personalities probably go well together. Don’t be afraid, go for it!
I didn't really ask my crush out, but I did confess my feelings for her in person. It was probably the hardest thing I had ever done. Also the first time I had ever done something like that.
I've never heard "be yourself" explained as being open about how you feel as opposed to trying to do what you feel like you're supposed to. This is actually incredibly profound advice in my perspective.
Thank you for making this video. I wouldn’t have known what to do if I didn’t watch this. Because of this video I’ve been dating my crush for a few weeks now and I’m very grateful.
Throughout these past two weeks, yall made videos that really connected to me. Videos about friends and toxic relationships and recently, couple days ago, about crushes. I told my crush that i liked him and he accepted my feelings. Thanks for all your advice!💕
Honestly this generation makes confessions harder the worse that could happen is rejection in a public area like a school but it's that risk that the other person will see how much you care for them.
wolf feathers in 5 years, you will give us an update. "So recently i got a balloon, put a note in it, asking my crush out, filled it with helium, and set it loose into the sky. Do you think she got it? I hope i remembered to include my phone number, so she could text me her answer!"
I heard something once and now I can confirm it's true. You'll regret more the things you didn't do than the things you did. I was afraid of telling something to someone and then I found out that they indeed would have said yes. So just go for it
I Loove this channel, and I really need this. I've wanted to ask my crush out so many times. Its just I get so nervous. I'm going to try these tips. Thank you :)
Stefan Brockelbank saaame, when I'm with my friends I try to do some eye contact moves. Lol 👀Like the look: 👀 "Please leave so I can try to have some one-on-one with my crush" 👀 😭 >-< >_
The things said in the last minute or so of the video have done it for me. It’s been 4 solid months since I had ‘The One’ in my mind, but my fears of past rejection and relationships that have headed severely downhill have stopped me from asking them out. But I think it’s finally time. I’m annoyed I didn’t get the motivation from this video before Valentines, but I’m going in. Wish me luck, and thanks, 3 year old Psych2Go video. You’ve pushed me to do what I wanted to do 4 months ago, but never found the courage.
It took awhile for me to remember what video I had this comment in, but I’m here to let you know that IT WORKED! It turns out she had a crush on me too and we’ve got along well. Thanks Phych2Go!
Thank you for this. I'm considering asking a girl out when school starts. Btw, because of your UA-cam and Tumblr content makes me want to study psychology and possibly becoming a psychologist
As an introvert and misanthrope; asking people out and communicating is difficult. Some days I really don't want to be around people. And; to be honest, I feel out of touch with a lot of people. When someone does take my interest approaching them is hard because while I try to understand and take an interest in their interests; mine are complex to explain. And I sometimes come off as intimidating.
Ask them out to dinner to get to know them. You don't figure them out right away. Well... you have to have some easier interests to explain. If you can hear what the person likes the maybe you can share the same interests? Much easier than explaining to them your severed head collection.
I do appreciate the non-gendered bubble heads! Sounds sarcastic, but it's true. As a father, it's way easier to have these conversations with open interpretations. Thank you for the open minded way of going about this video!
1st method: Ooh! We're both 100% Weebs! I can ask her to watch anime! :o 2nd method: Watch anime and eat marshmallows and drink tea. It's safe! Unless I spill the tea on myself... 3rd method: Well, she's a good weird like me myself too, soo... 4th method: I'll ask her in class! We go to school together! 5th: *gathers up confidence and puts it in a wheelbarrow* I'M READY HEEE
Watching this encouraged me to ask my crush out, about 10 minutes ago.... I got rejected... and I accept her decision but... I feel like I caused it by trying to act like I was better than everyone else all the time...
Infinite Strife Try and under stand that not everyone you like is gonna like you for who you are. And for the ones who do, you should keep befriend them or be on good terms with them.
Here's a better way of wording it. Be the BEST version of yourself for the current situation. Like, if you wanna charm someone you don't want to act the way you do when you're about to chow down on a sloppy joe right? Behave the way you believe will work best, and don't act entitled for that person. If they don't like you back, trust me it's better to just move on.
I need this because I'm asexual / biromantic so it's hard for me ;-; I also find it hard to ask people out because most of the people, if not all, are my friends so it's extremely awkward. I'm also an introvert, so there's that too.
So, there was this boy who I was in love with for 8 years without him even knowing. I haven't seen him in physical for over 2-3 years now and I don't think I will ever get over the love for him. I think next year, when I settle down with my new college, I am surely gonna ask him out. We never talked, like friends but we had like silent eye contacts all throughout those 5 years in school. I wonder why didn't we talk. We occasionally did talk though. But it was all not friendly. I just wanna marry him, lol. That's weird but true.
I always have trouble asking people out especially since I've failed so much in the past and have also missed opportunities. I've started talking with someone new recently and am going to take some of this advice to heart and go for it. The stress and fear won't stop me this time.
The struggle for me isn't the asking out part at all, the thing I've always struggled with is whether or not she is already seeing someone because I've always feared the awkwardness after asking her would be detrimental to the friendship we once had and all that jazz. Anyone else here on the same page as me?
This is perfect for me, im nervous of asking my crush out. He’s amazing and im not but we have the same in common and i wanna get to know him more about him and I wanna ask him to get some coffee but i get awkward when im around
Hi, I am a big fan, psych2go. But from personal experience, my suggestion is never ask someone out, if you are too much attached to a person. Infact, one should not be attached or smitten by someone in the first place. Asking out may sound cute and all, but don't do it. The more mature approach is to know about human personality and how people are behave. That's what psychology is all about. I believe a channel like you dedicated to psychology should be more dedicated to that. For young people, it's important to know about human nature and how to respond to them effectively. If we all know that well, we will choose the right people in the first place. Whether it's for dating, friendship or even starting a business. Your point of "knowing them well" is actually quite great. It's just extremely important that introverts or other people who get attracted by someone head over heals should learn to control the urge to put people on pedestal. This is important because some people do get devastated even by mere rejections. And worse, they are mocked because of their inability to control emotions. This is sad, but it's important that some people are actually taught to keep their emotions steady and not fall for someone in instantaneously or break in stressful times. I would like to suggest you guys to make a video on a topic which helps young teenagers to build higher emotional intelligence and control emotions. It should teach them to think logically in tough times and not get swayed by emotions. I am a lot into eastern philosophy where this is discussed a lot, and many Western psychologists talk about it all the time but I found the awareness absent in the teenagers. Your move will be deeply appreciated by me and many others.
As someone who tried that in high school, I very much disagree. Doing so just stunts the emotional growth, and you don't gain the experience needed for future relationships. Teenagers are hardwired to be impulsive. I don't think a UA-cam video will help with their crushes. The longer you keep your distance from your crush, the more your brain puts them on a pedestal. Just ask them out. Fail faster, or you'll never get the chance to fail at all.
My first "confession": The other day I wanted to buy a book. Due to the current "circumstances", I can't just waltz into a bookstore, so I thought I'd buy online. Someone was selling a used copy of the book for a really cheap price, and all I had to do was go pick it up. We met for the exchange, and I kind of fell for him right then and there. The exchange was very brief, no small talk at all, but I wish I had said more to him. Since I had a way to contact him from the book purchase, just this afternoon I contacted him again telling him I wish we'd talked more. So far no response, and I may never get one at all, but this is the first time I've ever done anything like this, and I feel really accomplished and powerful now! Props to my bestie for being with me and encouraging me when I pressed send
I did everything on this list for a girl where I organized our common ground (a movie we really wanted to see) along with ice cream after and gathered the courage to ask her, to which she responded yes, but then never showed up and never talked to me again even though we were in the same class lol. I guess she was just too predisposed to say yes and didn’t actually wanna go out with me
Did you enjoy yesterday's video about healthy crushes? Today, we will be taking that topic to the next level by providing you 5 Ways to Ask Someone Out! We hope you have a wonderful Sunday, and maybe take that leap of faith and ask that special someone out ;)
Psych2Go Satan gotta see this... he doesn't know how to ask his girlfriend (MOMO) Out.
Psych2Go I wish I had this video lol. Took abit for me to ask my girlfriend out.
Make a video about OCD vs OCPD
Psych2Go when are we gonna get a video about letting go of the past?
I'm not crushing on anyone...yet. I'm still single. Lol
Nah you gotta send one of those "send this to your crush with no context" videos to them
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"Don't wait too long to make your move"
Laughs in 4 years of anxiety.
*Cries in a year of regrets*
My friend has had thia crush on this girl for 12 years dude still hasn’t told her hes deep in friendzone
@@Honeybunnyoats rip his soul
@@Honeybunnyoats I've been there, it's absolutely terrible. I asked a co-worker out about a month ago, and while she turned me down, it hurt a helluva lot less than not telling my childhood friend how I felt about her when I had the chance.
I remember when I waited for a solid month to walk up to this girl and try to talk to her. Her being alone all the time kind of explained why she didn't wanna talk in the end.
Break your anxiety. Get your weak ass up, STOP WASTING YOUR TIME! GET WHAT YOU WANT!
Step one: ask them out
Step two: deal with your depression after you got rejected
I might need this, thanks :)
Yep I'm gonna do that tomorrow and see if I have to deal with depression, oh god frick me I am going to die alone and sad
@@idan7856 Mood.
Gotta be honest, It's a vicious cycle everytime I open up to be vulnerable
1000% not gonna lieeeee
Okay so uhm maybe I need a video on dealing with rejection now
oof
Communism was rejected too
Non-Existant Pie ask her sister out
16 rejections and still counting. I know that pain bro.
Non-Existant Pie Build a bridge and get over it. There's not much more you can do after your crush says no. You just have to learn to accept that rejection happens. You have to learn to let it go and move onto someone that is interested in you.
Here's another way to look at it;
If you ask someone out, you have a 50% chance of success.
If you don't, your odds drop to 0%.
You’re conflating possibilities with probabilities. If I look under my pillow, either there is a million dollars underneath it or there isn’t. Doesn’t mean there’s a 50% chance there’s a million dollars under my pillow. Otherwise, I’d buy pillows like mad.
Still, the basic idea that you’re conveying here is a good way to think about it.
I wish I had a 50% chance of success. It’s more like 1%. Lol
Jonathan Cangelosi If you ask someone out, one of two possibilities will happen; they will either say yes or no.
50/50.
Just because there are two possibilities doesn’t mean they’re equally likely.
Let’s apply your logic to the lottery. Either I win the lottery or I don’t. 50/50 chance, right?
No, because the chance of winning the lottery is generally around one in 300 million. Many people enter the lottery, and only one can win. If everyone had a 50% chance, the lottery would go bankrupt, since about 150 million people would win.
My point is, asking someone out isn’t as simple as a coin flip. It’s not random. It’s more like a lottery. Several guys may ask a girl out, but she can only date one of them at a time (assuming she is monogamous).
If you had a 50% success rate, that means if you ask out 100 girls, you should expect about 50 of them to say yes. I have had nowhere close to that level of success.
It's just as Jonathan said. Asking someone out is like lottery, especially if they're a woman and get asked out a lot. If they get 100 requests a day, then from THEIR perspective each guy only has a 1/100th chance of being selected, then your actual probability of being the chosen one drops much lower. A better way to calculate whether a girl will reject you or not would be through Drake's equation. There's more complicated ways to do it, but since all rely on subjective meassures of happiness and attractiveness, I don't see the use in trying one over the other.
I read this in L's (from death note) voice XD
I'm asking tomorrow on Valentine's Day. Wish me luck.
Edit: nvm guys forget abt them I did it
Bill Le how did it go
Good luck!!!
How'd it goes
Bill Le we need an update 👀
How did it go?
I found out today that my best friend is now dating my crush. Great.
A Random Introvert THATS fuckt up I hope you are oke !
@Scott Ali i found my crushes social media if i ask her out on there she knows who i am but i dont want her to get the idea that im creepy for finding it in the first place so im not sure if i should message her
@Scott Ali ar club my G let's go
@Scott Ali yup
Same here i got depressed for the next month so i found out that she liked me the whole time
having an ice cream is an ice breaker... Genius
P U N S
That was an ice observation
They will give you cold shoulder tho
FU***NG *GENIUS* !!!!!
Don't forget to keep it cool
bad pickup line:
Are you todays date because you’re 10/10
(only works on october 10)
I can't wait for october 10th
Funny... Mine worked on the 12th...
Kimet 10 - or u could say “Are you today’s date? Cause I want u to be mine” idk if it makes sense tho 😂
Or 3010 and any date on the 10th
Lovely Wonders nice
Lol I never got rejected
Because I never asked someone out.
Same amigo.
Outstanding move?
Yeah and i hope to stay like that
Yup
Same
Number 6: ask them out on April fools day. If they reject you can say April fools.
Edit: Good luck to all those who are going to try this :D
Edit 2: It's almost the day bois, plan the big question out and gl B)
Oh that's smart
What if they say no as an april fools joke
You are....A GENIUS
Grauts - But what if they say no, because they know it’s April’s fool even when you are genuinely asking them out
big brain
What’s it called when your crush has a crush on you and that you end up being a couple?
Just Your Imagination.....
_ Cezarpower _ lol.
😂 why is this true
I said that last year on valentines day and then I got into a relationship with one of my crushes in december😂but now we've broken up
my crush had a crush on me but i didnt realise until it was too late but im still considering asking her out but i dont know if i should or not because she hasnt been trying to get my attention for a while now so im thinking that she doesnt like me anymore and btw im in highschool so it could mess some stuff up if i get rejected
Cory Colmer Hmm I know I'm in middle school but I'd say shoot your shot. You don't have much to lose. And maybe she's waiting for you to make the first move. You got this. When ny friend asked me out I low key thought it was a joke but I said yes anyway and turns out it wasn't. Since we're in quarantine if it fails you can say a sibling or parent took your phone.
*Asking out in person is the best method.* It’s more romantic, shows more courage, and it’s also harder for them to reject you.
this bitch lives states away
@@twkyu BREEEEHHH
Sure if you're already hanging out 1 on 1 in person.
That isn't reality for most people though
it shouldn't be harder for them to reject you you should care what they want too
@@wendigo374 Harder, as in, in person you get a holistic view and proper assessment of someone and your compatibility, not just swiping left right based on a photo.
I was crushing on this boy, and I asked him out over text, he said he saw me more as a sister because we weren't too close, but the next year he asked me to be his girlfriend
YOU HAVE A CHANCE PEOPLES
Hey so you still with him or nah gurl Xd
@@alexei6481 lol
Elite you’re*
@@doughboy1841 you are and you're is the same thing
@Ethanhat LMFAO
them: "do you have trouble asking someone out?"
me: ive been trying for months and i chicken out every time
same! xD
Same I feel like I'm gonna get rejected
Apaches are cool if ur afraid of rejection then 100% ur gonna regret not asking her out
I’ve been trying for 4 years
I was the same until one day I just did it and let's just say things couldn't have gone better
When you watch these videos instead of actually interacting with your crush.
I never thought I could relate to a comment this much.
Relatable
I am the 333th like
So relatable bro😂
same
How to Ask Someone Out:
Step 1: Ask Someone Out
Step 2: There isn't step nr. 2
Here's the genius play:
Ask them out for ice cream and netflix.
If they say yes, congratulations! You have your date, ice cream, AND netflix!
If they say no, at least you have ice cream and netflix!
@@BunniBuu I liked your idea to ask her out for ice cream and Netflix, so I did this, I said "How about Netflix and chill?"...she slapped my face.
At least you have ice cream and netflix!
I mean, technically...
There is a step 2: get rejected
"there will be times you'll be rejected but this only brings you closer to who you're meant to be with"
ABSOLUTELY. Ever since I started thinking this way(in love and in life), Ive learned to embrace rejections. It's one way of letting you know you might not be in the right direction, or right now might not be the right time... :)
Great way to put it !!
This is so true. I asked out my crush and he rejected me, but he has been so nice since and we have gotten 10x closer since.
Me: “Are we official”
Her: “You haven’t said anything”
Me: “Do you want to be my girlfriend?”
Her: “yes”
Obviously it wasn’t as easy as that though lol. I planned on asking her out sooner but I was too scared. She’s the only gf I’ve ever had (:
Lucky
CONGRATS! Hope things are going well for you!😊
LoL
do you guys have baby names yet?
@@jacsanderson1774How is the situation for now?
If you guys find our video helpful, do you mind sharing it on your social media?
Psych2Go Funny how the comment by psych2go has only 2 likes 😅
How I got my bf: accidental friendly frankness. 😝 been together for a year
Psych2Go kay
Absolutely! I’d be glad to, you guys’re the best
Psych2Go yehh shure
Me realizing u need to talk to someone to ask them out
Nice and all but what about the feeling of rejection? That's really what keeps me from putting myself out there and ask my crushes out.
Alexandra Ramos maybe it’s better to have tried! Life is about recovering from our self proclaimed failures. Maybe rejection is a blessing in disguise.
Psych2Go there is always alcohol!
It's always better to have tried and failed than to have not tried at all
Psych2Go I'll have to disagree, constantly getting rejected is a big punch to the heart, I don't do it anymore because of past experiences
Rejection is better than never asking them out and later have regrets to be honest but maybe it's just me. I have dealt with this in the past that I NEVER told someone whom I had a mad crush on only indirectly had I done it and made so much mistakes that my best friend, yes she's my best friend ended up having a lot of "fights" and arguments to the point where I told myself that we were better off being friends and I regretted it. But I'm past that already and we are still good friends.
How to get rejected after the 1st date:
Date: "Waiter split the bill"
CARING IS SHARING
🤣
@@loneneotank.5687 wait what..? lol
@@loneneotank.5687 **communist anthem plays**
Hmm, really? I think splitting the bill is a good idea.
good video *I can smell it*
I just farted, did that smell good?
Like wellcaster
*i can taste it*
I smell spam now
*THAT'S WHAT SHE SAID*
I smell good times coming
ikr, it smells like teen spirit!
Nicolau Show rip Kurt :|
Be Yourself is overused, I think more importantly is misinterpreted.
I see it as Be Yourself when you're at your most comfortable and best self. A way to help is to imagine everywhere you go is your own bedroom. In your bedroom you're usually open, "confident", relaxed and at ease. Breath through your nose slowly for 5 seconds then breath out through your nose for 5 seconds repeat this if you're feeling nervous.
The thing with feel "nervous" is that's all dependant on how you see it. Because nervousness and excitement have similar feelings so try switching how you view what you're feeling.
Be safe and stay blessed
The part ”be brave, take the leap!” and all the positive comments inspired me to ask my crush out. And hey they admitted that they felt the same way and were too afraid to ask. Im so glad that i did it.
Edit: I’m still dating them. Over 2 years of happy relationship :) I love them so much!
Edit2: Hopping to say that we celebrated our 3 year anniversary in november 2021, we are still together :)
Also, I used "they" to not specify the gender of the person. Gender is irrelevant here and therefore I used it. I am not dating multiple people, stop asking me that. There is nothing wrong with polyamory but that is not the case here. Cheers!
I git a question
Lol at the same time i scrolled to this comment the part began
congrats!!
How many people were you crushing on? "They" lol
@@IkesPimpHand They is a genderneutral pronoun.
"They pronoun is also used with singular meaning, sometimes to avoid specifying the gender of the person referred to: see gender neutrality in language."
It was one person and I am happy to be with them.
Perfect for my friend who's gonna ask out her crush tomorrow, thank you so much
Good luck to her!
Psych2Go yay
Panda Potato awesome! Too many people are stuck in a time warp, thinking that the guy always asks the girl out. Not true! It is 2018! Girls ask guys out these days, too!!!
my love songs I'll try to get that through my brain but I'm shy 😂
Panda Potato How did it go?
"Be brave" is very true. It seems basic, but it's true! aaaah. I can DO this, we all can!! Thank you psych2go!!
This just about confirms that they are psychic, every video is relevant to my or someone I know's life.
Lord Rayin We work on our psychic abilities every team meeting ;)
ikr
The beauty of psychology and the dedication of such great people bring together something special indeed.
I've been myself for 15 years and I still dont have shit
If you're comfortable with that, there's nothing wrong. Is your life improving? Are you happy?
Psych2Go I kind of have to be happy with it since I dont want attention from family about being in a relationship, and I have zero self confidence 😂 and I'm at the bottom of the totem pole socially so I cant get a gf (I'm pretty sure hawking came up with a formula explaining why the universe is doing this to me) so yeah... I'm not saying my life sucks as in I'm in poverty or anything, but from the perspective of someone in a first world country I can only go up
same but im 18.i hope you are not like me..and you will find someone soon
skowarde tetsicules feels bad br0 🙁
On the bright side, relationships in middle school almost rarely work out and relationships in highschool have a 50/50 chance of working out but there isn't ever a definite chance
This is like the tutorial stage before the mission.
Yep
"Be yourself."
I look at memes, anime, and videogames for a majority of my days. I have a short temper and I'm impulsive.
REEEEAAAAAALL helpful.
thats basically my life and there are like 7 girls crushing on me
I would end up overexplaining myself
@@Renegade4_life how about you do us all
A favour and grow up
you'd be my perfect match tbh
Well hey at least you have passion. Look at it like you enjoy art and entertainment, you have a sense of humor AND you are willing to take chances. You just have to accentuate the positives of yourself and your hobbies, always have a glass half full approach to life :)
I actually collected enough courage 2 months ago to ask my crush out (in person), with whom I was in love for about half a year. Sadly, she told me no... Well, at least I'm glad I asked, rather than always having to wonder 'what if?'. I've moved on now and accepted the reality. Looking back on it now, I realize that she may not have been the perfect one for me after all, as our personalities are quite different. I really hope I meet someone new some day!
I like how take this in so seriously
Good responce regret is worse then rejection
Me: asks out crush and is shot down faster than pearl harbor
This video: happens on the same day
Me: oh dang
When you said choose a safe activity I immediately thought juggling chainsaws
Because nothings like endangering your life to then impress your crush only for her to say no leading to your state of depression only for the cycle to repeat untill everyone have either said yes or no
No no let’s play hot potato with an un pinned grenade! They’ll be mind blown to see your incredible skill!
I love how sweet, gently and softly this was explained. Makes me feel so loved and supported and worth living life, to which I suspect is the intention and I have so much respect for that
Time: week ago
States: task failed succesfully
What happened: told her I had a Crush ON her. She just laughEd normally and we were still friends
Get your crush to help you get a girlfriend. It’s always the next best step. Girl’s are great wingmen.
Wait so it doesn’t work if I say I take live hostages and say I’ll only release them if they go out with me?!
Non-Existant Pie you didn’t release them, did you? They always play hard to get at first.
I did the same. I confessed to them but all they did was kick and scream. It’s confusing
Natanohj nevermind the chloroform, the gag, the handcuffs, and locking them in the trunk!
Nah that's called a psychopath
I tried that with my first crush. She gave me a black eye.
(Jk, I didn’t do that, but the black eye bit was true)
Psych2go.....will you go out with me?.......uwu
Austin Esquillin Of course! Tell me the place and time!
aww they said yes uwu
I support this UwU
uwu
Austin Esquillin owo
The person I've been wanting to ask out is a coworker. We both like the same shows and movies, and we're kind of friends. I know she wants to see the new Halloween movie coming out and so do I, but every time I try to ask her I feel like I can't get the words to come out.
Dude, I know what you feel.
Mine is a coworker as well. She seems to really like me. But I'm afraid to mess things up. And there is additional problem - large age gap.
Pathetic
😔 life loves to throw curved balls at you
@@jacekmak87 I know how it is with age gaps. 16 year difference between me and my ex fiance. Cheated on me with a guy 2 houses away from mine.
I sent my coworker a text earlier and am waiting on a reply.
@@mysterion3182 oh shoooot
My boy. I hope it will be a success.
Fingers crossed.
@@jacekmak87 I asked... a family member of hers had to tell me "no" for her. She still hasn't gotten over what happened between her and her ex fiance.
@@mysterion3182 Oh man...
Well, at least she could tell it herself.
Crush: hi
My mind: ok there she is don't say anything wierd
Me: yes
My mind: wait...
I'm about to start school thank you for this.
Melese Ghetahun {ImpPro} hope you have a wonderful school year!
Psych2Go Thanks!
I’m asking someone out tomorrow
I’m freaking scared
How did it go?
So it went good?
@@noahcool5372 you left her speakless
@@noahcool5372 did you get over it?
@@noahcool5372 do you wanna talk?
I asked out my crush. He said yes.
Theeeeeeen he dumped me the next day bc he felt like he should of asked me out.
🤷♀️👏
Tf????
That's just stupid
The fuck?
It was good he dumped you because now you know
Well
But but I got no dating ideas. Where do we go? What do we do? I’m an introvert. I don’t go out much. I just stayed home playing games
K7TZ I've never had any experience dating but from what is stated the main objective in a date is to know the person. Don't make it too big or something grand. All that matters is that you get to know the person first. Hope it helps.
Invite them over to play games with you? If they can't handle the fact that you play games often, then that's a warning sign that may end up affecting a relationship, possibly even after marriage too.
If they say yes but don't know how to play, teach them. It'll be a good bonding experience… I hope.
you can go out for coffee, take a walk, or go to a museum your welcome
I know how it feels
I did it.. and she said…..
Yes, and after we went out she said she liked me
what if I have a crush with someone I barely know and we barely speak?
how to ask them out then? and is it normal to have a crush with someone you barely know?
Greentelo Lelo it’s normal. I’ve been there. I know it’s a year later, but maybe this can still help you? Just, you know, try to get to know them. Make friends with their friends, that actually helps a lot. Maybe even just walk up to them and say you’re interested in em, it doesn’t hurt to try.
So does it work? You asked her out? Dont leave us hanging.
U gotta tell us bro what happened
Think person moved on
When you love someone for so long but they don't love you back...
LiFeLess Boi or they just play with your feelings by pretending to love you
Has anyone ever had a crush on someone But was never nervous or felt butterflies? It’s weird....
Maybe it's not a crush
i have that too but its because we have basically less emotions than others i guess
i’ve never had butterflies cuz i’ve only had crushes on ppl i’m already comfortable with ☠️
The only butterflies I know are the knives...
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAGAGAGAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHA FUNNY JOKE I CANT EVEN TEXT A FRIEND I HAVENT SEEN IN YEARS!
Thank you😭😭i just asked my crush out and she loves me tooooo😭 thank you so much🙏🙏
Hope you're still dating.
@@fjhsts sadly not hahaha she cheated on me last year
@@theodorospetrides oh sorry for hearing that. Hope you dealt with the break up well.
@@fjhsts nah its okay thanks haha
@@theodorospetrides I was gonna say lucky bastard as a joke now I feel bad, sending condolences.
A small tip for people feeling nervous about rejection. I never knew why, but I was quite popular with the guys in middle school. Unfortunately, many of these were my friends. Rejecting someone feels terrible, especially if they’re a great friend. The rejection is how you take it. If they reject you, it often doesn’t mean they don’t like you. Sometimes, they don’t realise they like you, or are to shy to admit they like you. Either that, or they only see you as a friends. Friendzoning someone gives you extreme guilt. So, try to be happy, and show the person who rejected you so. Keep being a great friend. A guy who had a huge crush on me is still a great friend of mine to this day. Other than the fact that rejection is only as scary as you make it, there is still the chance you won’t be rejected. There’s a reason you like them. There are so many psychological reasons that you like them and they may like you back. One of them is that people tend to find others that look like them more attractive. If you like their personality, your personalities probably go well together. Don’t be afraid, go for it!
That’s very selfish of you.
Me: *does not have a crush*
Also me: -well this might be useful in the future-
I didn't really ask my crush out, but I did confess my feelings for her in person. It was probably the hardest thing I had ever done. Also the first time I had ever done something like that.
I’m proud of u man
I've never heard "be yourself" explained as being open about how you feel as opposed to trying to do what you feel like you're supposed to. This is actually incredibly profound advice in my perspective.
Thank you for making this video. I wouldn’t have known what to do if I didn’t watch this. Because of this video I’ve been dating my crush for a few weeks now and I’m very grateful.
Throughout these past two weeks, yall made videos that really connected to me. Videos about friends and toxic relationships and recently, couple days ago, about crushes. I told my crush that i liked him and he accepted my feelings. Thanks for all your advice!💕
Honestly this generation makes confessions harder the worse that could happen is rejection in a public area like a school but it's that risk that the other person will see how much you care for them.
I naruto ran away when I asked my crush out 😂
Lol epic
That’s were it’s at
I tried one of these a few days ago, and I’m now going out with the girl of my dreams, thank you!
Which tips did you try? :)
We went to the park UwU
@@Psych2goI’m WINNING HER TYSM
I needed this. I've been thinking about asking my crush out for a while. I'm going to do it.
I hope things go well!
But don't just say it, do it!
Good luck!
wolf feathers in 5 years, you will give us an update. "So recently i got a balloon, put a note in it, asking my crush out, filled it with helium, and set it loose into the sky. Do you think she got it? I hope i remembered to include my phone number, so she could text me her answer!"
I heard something once and now I can confirm it's true. You'll regret more the things you didn't do than the things you did.
I was afraid of telling something to someone and then I found out that they indeed would have said yes. So just go for it
I've never clicked so fast 😅😂
I Loove this channel, and I really need this. I've wanted to ask my crush out so many times. Its just I get so nervous. I'm going to try these tips. Thank you :)
Stefan Brockelbank saaame, when I'm with my friends I try to do some eye contact moves. Lol 👀Like the look: 👀 "Please leave so I can try to have some one-on-one with my crush" 👀 😭 >-< >_
The things said in the last minute or so of the video have done it for me. It’s been 4 solid months since I had ‘The One’ in my mind, but my fears of past rejection and relationships that have headed severely downhill have stopped me from asking them out. But I think it’s finally time. I’m annoyed I didn’t get the motivation from this video before Valentines, but I’m going in. Wish me luck, and thanks, 3 year old Psych2Go video. You’ve pushed me to do what I wanted to do 4 months ago, but never found the courage.
It took awhile for me to remember what video I had this comment in, but I’m here to let you know that IT WORKED! It turns out she had a crush on me too and we’ve got along well. Thanks Phych2Go!
@@N4T3_OFFL1N3 this. This brings me hope 😩😩
I will ask my cat out
@@pyramidplunder8650 The cat probably had a boyfriend
excuSE me
Good idea
And also that sounds a lil furryish
@@MM-ss9yd yeah lol
Haha, this girls voice is so calming and it low key sounds like ASMR speaking!! 😂😂
Lowkey think youtube knows what I am thinking. I was thinking about it earlier and now this pops up in my recommended
This channel is really awesome. You guys are doing a great job!
Thanks for the support Trace! :)
Thank you for this. I'm considering asking a girl out when school starts.
Btw, because of your UA-cam and Tumblr content makes me want to study psychology and possibly becoming a psychologist
Zooer godspeed my comrade. Hope things go well!
If a girl was going to ask out a guy what would you want the girl to say to you
this vid has literally saved the social lives of almost a million people, me included
Me trying to ask out my crush is like a mouse avoiding a cat
I wish I could, my crush is my best friend and a lot of people have guessed they are my crush.
As an introvert and misanthrope; asking people out and communicating is difficult. Some days I really don't want to be around people. And; to be honest, I feel out of touch with a lot of people. When someone does take my interest approaching them is hard because while I try to understand and take an interest in their interests; mine are complex to explain. And I sometimes come off as intimidating.
Ask them out to dinner to get to know them. You don't figure them out right away. Well... you have to have some easier interests to explain. If you can hear what the person likes the maybe you can share the same interests? Much easier than explaining to them your severed head collection.
I get yuh
Great I'll use these in several months when I can actually see anyone again!
Good video. I didn’t even watch it yet
me tho
I was literally just thinking how I'll ask my crush out.
What did you say how did you ask him out
I do appreciate the non-gendered bubble heads! Sounds sarcastic, but it's true. As a father, it's way easier to have these conversations with open interpretations. Thank you for the open minded way of going about this video!
1st method: Ooh! We're both 100% Weebs! I can ask her to watch anime! :o
2nd method: Watch anime and eat marshmallows and drink tea. It's safe! Unless I spill the tea on myself...
3rd method: Well, she's a good weird like me myself too, soo...
4th method: I'll ask her in class! We go to school together!
5th: *gathers up confidence and puts it in a wheelbarrow* I'M READY HEEE
musicals, wow! Wtf
Did you do it??!?
Jeez so much relationship advice lately. I needed it thanks 😁
You're welcome! We will have some other types of videos up soon :)
Watching this encouraged me to ask my crush out, about 10 minutes ago.... I got rejected... and I accept her decision but... I feel like I caused it by trying to act like I was better than everyone else all the time...
Why is this kinda relatable. The last crush I had I offended multiple times, wasn’t on purpose but now we don’t speak anymore 😐.
"Being yourself" never works.
Infinite Strife Try and under stand that not everyone you like is gonna like you for who you are. And for the ones who do, you should keep befriend them or be on good terms with them.
It has always worked for me
Here's a better way of wording it. Be the BEST version of yourself for the current situation. Like, if you wanna charm someone you don't want to act the way you do when you're about to chow down on a sloppy joe right? Behave the way you believe will work best, and don't act entitled for that person. If they don't like you back, trust me it's better to just move on.
Infinite Strife well if You suck then it won't work.. So try being someone else.. Who is better than You
Being Myself Always.. Worked.. Though..
Can a necrophiliac be himself around their crush? lol
I need this because I'm asexual / biromantic so it's hard for me ;-;
I also find it hard to ask people out because most of the people, if not all, are my friends so it's extremely awkward. I'm also an introvert, so there's that too.
Macawesome Bird Dude, same!
Macawesome Bird Samer Here, Bi ace
Ikr. I'm ace and pan
Macawesome Me Too!
As a demiro ace, I feel ya.
This is how I’m planning to tell them
"ROSES ARE RED"
"VIOLETS ARE BLUE"
"GUESS WHAT"
"I LOVE YOU"
Danm bro that's a good pickup line
So, there was this boy who I was in love with for 8 years without him even knowing. I haven't seen him in physical for over 2-3 years now and I don't think I will ever get over the love for him. I think next year, when I settle down with my new college, I am surely gonna ask him out. We never talked, like friends but we had like silent eye contacts all throughout those 5 years in school. I wonder why didn't we talk. We occasionally did talk though. But it was all not friendly. I just wanna marry him, lol. That's weird but true.
Go for it you got this
6: Jump ‘em. Works every time.
...Whaddaya mean that’s “sexual harassment”?
Doe then you gotta deal with the restraining order.
my love songs What restraining order?
I always have trouble asking people out especially since I've failed so much in the past and have also missed opportunities. I've started talking with someone new recently and am going to take some of this advice to heart and go for it. The stress and fear won't stop me this time.
The struggle for me isn't the asking out part at all, the thing I've always struggled with is whether or not she is already seeing someone because I've always feared the awkwardness after asking her would be detrimental to the friendship we once had and all that jazz. Anyone else here on the same page as me?
Yes
My advice, either call or talk in person
Me. 18. Sitting on my bed. Watching this. Depressing.
I think I'm going to ask him out for coffee some time, but I want to do it in person so I'm going to talk to him tomorrow!
I love how everyone here probably needs instruction on how to ask somebody out 😂😂😂
Third time I have watched this video in the past 4 years. Wish me luck!
This is perfect for me, im nervous of asking my crush out. He’s amazing and im not but we have the same in common and i wanna get to know him more about him and I wanna ask him to get some coffee but i get awkward when im around
Hi, I am a big fan, psych2go. But from personal experience, my suggestion is never ask someone out, if you are too much attached to a person. Infact, one should not be attached or smitten by someone in the first place. Asking out may sound cute and all, but don't do it. The more mature approach is to know about human personality and how people are behave. That's what psychology is all about. I believe a channel like you dedicated to psychology should be more dedicated to that. For young people, it's important to know about human nature and how to respond to them effectively. If we all know that well, we will choose the right people in the first place. Whether it's for dating, friendship or even starting a business. Your point of "knowing them well" is actually quite great. It's just extremely important that introverts or other people who get attracted by someone head over heals should learn to control the urge to put people on pedestal. This is important because some people do get devastated even by mere rejections. And worse, they are mocked because of their inability to control emotions. This is sad, but it's important that some people are actually taught to keep their emotions steady and not fall for someone in instantaneously or break in stressful times. I would like to suggest you guys to make a video on a topic which helps young teenagers to build higher emotional intelligence and control emotions. It should teach them to think logically in tough times and not get swayed by emotions. I am a lot into eastern philosophy where this is discussed a lot, and many Western psychologists talk about it all the time but I found the awareness absent in the teenagers. Your move will be deeply appreciated by me and many others.
As someone who tried that in high school, I very much disagree. Doing so just stunts the emotional growth, and you don't gain the experience needed for future relationships. Teenagers are hardwired to be impulsive. I don't think a UA-cam video will help with their crushes. The longer you keep your distance from your crush, the more your brain puts them on a pedestal. Just ask them out. Fail faster, or you'll never get the chance to fail at all.
Alex Jones I agree with this it allows experience and you learn from mistakes
My first "confession": The other day I wanted to buy a book. Due to the current "circumstances", I can't just waltz into a bookstore, so I thought I'd buy online. Someone was selling a used copy of the book for a really cheap price, and all I had to do was go pick it up. We met for the exchange, and I kind of fell for him right then and there. The exchange was very brief, no small talk at all, but I wish I had said more to him. Since I had a way to contact him from the book purchase, just this afternoon I contacted him again telling him I wish we'd talked more. So far no response, and I may never get one at all, but this is the first time I've ever done anything like this, and I feel really accomplished and powerful now! Props to my bestie for being with me and encouraging me when I pressed send
As good as always. Also the animation is in point!
I did everything on this list for a girl where I organized our common ground (a movie we really wanted to see) along with ice cream after and gathered the courage to ask her, to which she responded yes, but then never showed up and never talked to me again even though we were in the same class lol. I guess she was just too predisposed to say yes and didn’t actually wanna go out with me
UA-cam algorithm finally thinks it's time I can use this info.
Me: Takes leap*
Girl I like: Shoots me down with an AA canon