5 CBT Exercises For Anxiety

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  • @Sarahr98998
    @Sarahr98998 4 місяці тому +301

    Anxiety is the absolute worst. I would rather have a broken leg than be severely anxious. It's exhausting and awful to try to go through daily life with a pit in your stomach, racing thoughts, fears about the future, etc. I'm in therapy currently, but I have had little success with trying to stop the anxiety spirals. My heart goes out to all who feel the same.

    • @shanicewestenberg3686
      @shanicewestenberg3686 4 місяці тому +16

      Same here 🥺 I’m so tired of this. Hope everyone struggling with this is healing soon.

    • @CesarSandoval024
      @CesarSandoval024 3 місяці тому +12

      Whats helping me is actually recognizing that my emotions are amplified by anxiety. So feeling something multiplies. Allow yourself first to be calm. You dont have to be the rat in the rat race so to speak because one, life isnt a race and two, we are not even rats. Be cognizant. Feel yourself. Then youll feel more present in the moment. But whilst feeling, ALLOW yourself to be calm. And relax. And happy. Because YOU have the right too. ❤❤❤ Amxiety fucken sucks. Im currently in a episode, had to lose a female friend because she didnt like me, but I feel now.. feel soo much better. Feel so nervous. So sad. Feelings of unfairness.. but guess what.. I laughed earlier today to a funny joke.. It felt soo good,the joke was sok funy, I could have cried so to speak. I felt relief. Because thats allI really wanted to do. Was to cry.. hope this helps you guys.

    • @ancientaliensarecoming7201
      @ancientaliensarecoming7201 3 місяці тому +8

      I feel You. i always had anxiety. but recently its been harder and harder to sleep, and i had one or two night without any sleep, witch worsen my anxiety and now a NEW fear to sleep and anger to myself for not be able to rest. i had some meds that worked but after a while it made everything worse. And fearing becoming sick.. but now im starting to get better, i really really hope you do to. sorry not my native language

    • @ВікторіяДоскочинська
      @ВікторіяДоскочинська 3 місяці тому

      Try exposure therapy​@@ancientaliensarecoming7201

    • @mystiquevening
      @mystiquevening 3 місяці тому +5

      I’ve had constant anxiety my whole life. My parents were severely abusive and life has rarely been easy or kind for me. I handle depression better than anxiety… anxiety is absolutely horrific. I would love to hear from folks who were like us but now no longer live with anxiety. How does it feel?

  • @ingrid3578
    @ingrid3578 Рік тому +351

    We suffer much more in imagination than in reality. I try to keep that in mind at all times especially when my thoughts begin to spiral.

    • @jeevankm8813
      @jeevankm8813 4 місяці тому +4

      It's 100% true.

    • @LGM-tb4kh4pl9v
      @LGM-tb4kh4pl9v 4 місяці тому +1

      yes we do ! It's hard ya got to train your mind not to panic breath in an out don't dwell on it

    • @vipinvijay5012
      @vipinvijay5012 4 місяці тому

      Mlgl

    • @Sarahr98998
      @Sarahr98998 4 місяці тому +1

      Yes! They say that when you worry, you suffer twice....once in your mind and once when (if) the event actually happens.

    • @Bob-c4l9c
      @Bob-c4l9c 5 днів тому

      Oh thank you for that

  • @latinabeauty6503
    @latinabeauty6503 Рік тому +451

    I just found you Barbara. I deal wit daily anxiety and depression for the past 5 years. To the point I am unable to take care of my family. Listening to you seems to help me so much than on my own. I am so grateful for you and I just wanted to tell you your amazing for doing this. Real live super hero in my heart❤️🙏🏻

    • @anatino
      @anatino Рік тому

      We need progesterone cream. Check Barbara Hoffman.

    • @christianfernandez4285
      @christianfernandez4285 10 місяців тому +16

      Have you checked your vitamin D levels? They should be atleast 50-70

    • @lalhruaikimachinzah9165
      @lalhruaikimachinzah9165 10 місяців тому

      @@christianfernandez4285hi i have anxiety and depression right now i am at my worst

    • @lalhruaikimachinzah9165
      @lalhruaikimachinzah9165 10 місяців тому

      @@christianfernandez4285i have just done a test and my vitamin D result is 19 does this low level have anything to do with my anxiety??

    • @jackoftrades6282
      @jackoftrades6282 10 місяців тому +10

      Less Vitamin d also cause anxiety?

  • @DonnDenisse
    @DonnDenisse 7 місяців тому +57

    I could remember several years ago after losing my dad, I suffered severe anxiety and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with OCD. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 6 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.

    • @ErnestoHorner88
      @ErnestoHorner88 7 місяців тому +4

      Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Australia. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them.

    • @CathieGomez-mp8sk
      @CathieGomez-mp8sk 7 місяців тому +2

      YES very sure of Dr.benfungi. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

    • @JohnGeorge-pw2xo
      @JohnGeorge-pw2xo 7 місяців тому +3

      Mushrooms are very medicinal. This is why anybody familiar with psilocybin and any other kind of fungi will tell you, "They are alive." They have a very ancient wisdom. To my experience, all mushrooms have always said, "Pay attention to your life. How you think, how you feel, and what will you do with the information that you always knew, but now are seeing in this point of view." This is why mushrooms are so respected in tribal cultures. This mental health treatment works for me too. Half micro doses do the trick for me. At least a few days at a time with lengthy time in between. Never addictive. Thank you for sharing this point!

    • @Owemruther-hk4zn
      @Owemruther-hk4zn 7 місяців тому +1

      How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta

    • @Marylongor
      @Marylongor 7 місяців тому +1

      I would like to know from those who have solved PTSD and anxiety, if they have solved it definitively and how to understand what quantity of psilocybin to take and when, for how long. And can you really heal without having an addiction?
      Thanks to everyone for helping me understand, I want to understand if it's
      something that can help me solve the problem (I have c-ptsd)

  • @haleyhawk3365
    @haleyhawk3365 10 місяців тому +66

    My anxiety always starts with physical symptoms and then my mind starts going bc I feel so shakey and nerved up sometimes it can even make me experience derealization ty for this video

    • @mikeronaldclosa4861
      @mikeronaldclosa4861 4 місяці тому +2

      I feel the same😢 I want to get rid of this anxiety 😥

    • @rajenmurugan3229
      @rajenmurugan3229 11 днів тому

      That is exactly what I feel too. I always notice symptoms and get fixated on the symptoms. Then I read about which condition meets my symptoms. Then I anticipate other symptoms that fit the condition and within days I develop these physical symptoms. It just never ends

  • @NobodyImportant74
    @NobodyImportant74 2 місяці тому +47

    May I have the serenity to accept things I can't change, courage to change what i can and wisdom to choose correctly.

    • @nygal4ever
      @nygal4ever 24 дні тому

      100% agree. hard to tell yourself when you in the midst of it. I am glad that I am not the only one with this. Sometimes if feel alone and no one understands.

  • @angel.heart007
    @angel.heart007 9 місяців тому +100

    Been dealing with anxiety for about 12 yrs now. And last night I had a dizzy spell. That’s all it took for me to spiral. I’ve been learning all about CBT but sometimes at the moment when I’m panicking it’s so hard to shift to everything I’ve learned. I understand what’s going on but my mind is in control of me in an awful way. And this health anxiety is taking a toll. I’m exhausted 😩 Thank you for your video🙏🏼

    • @TheLiberaceTheory
      @TheLiberaceTheory 9 місяців тому +15

      I’ve had anxiety all my life too, and what really got me to start trying to treat it was the dizziness and vertigo. That’s one of my least favorite parts of anxiety X) if you want help specifically with the dizziness, I recommend looking up The Steady Coach on UA-cam. Her career is in working with people at the specific intersection of anxiety and dizziness, and it’s been helping me a lot!

    • @angel.heart007
      @angel.heart007 9 місяців тому +9

      @@TheLiberaceTheory thank you so much! Yes the dizziness is one of my triggers and worst part too. I suffered a positional vertigo about 13 yrs ago and that’s what caused my anxiety. So anything to do with dizziness/imbalance feeling, it destroys me for a day or two. It’s awful. I’ll def look into the steady coach. Hope you’re doing well!

    • @FerintoshFarmsPhotography
      @FerintoshFarmsPhotography 8 місяців тому +5

      Hugs

    • @KickingIt-In-the-Kitchen
      @KickingIt-In-the-Kitchen 8 місяців тому +8

      Just know you are not alone. Many people feel symptoms when they are worried. Just allow yourself to feel and don’t judge your thoughts. Know that growth takes time, some time longer than others. You’ll be healed in Jesus’ name. Amen!

    • @angel.heart007
      @angel.heart007 8 місяців тому +3

      @@FerintoshFarmsPhotography thank you. Hugs back🩶

  • @bkirstie
    @bkirstie 8 місяців тому +35

    i’m hoping my sympathetic nervous system is more sympathetic 😊

  • @ElfinPrincess
    @ElfinPrincess Рік тому +56

    During the lockdowns, I lost trust in doctors. After finding your video's, I've been able to work through things with your help. Just wanted to thank you.

  • @michelleveloni1329
    @michelleveloni1329 Рік тому +48

    YES! Please do a video on OCD Anxiety. Thank you.

  • @palliaskamen5722
    @palliaskamen5722 10 місяців тому +56

    I feel for everyone commenting here. I've been dealing with anxiety and panic for many years.
    OCD? I was recently fixated on my blood pressure for a month. It's fine but I was taking a reading 25 times a day!
    To reduce my anxiety, I've tried stimulating my parasympathetic nerve by massaging pressure points in my ears, and running cold water over my face and head.

    • @chetan9533
      @chetan9533 10 місяців тому +14

      Bhramari pranayama helps a lot as well. Inhale to the count of 4, then exhale to the count of 6 with mouth closed and saying "hmmm". Repeat 5 to 15 times.

    • @TheLiberaceTheory
      @TheLiberaceTheory 9 місяців тому +7

      Interestingly enough, that breathing technique also helps stimulate the vagus nerve! The ends of the vagus nerve are in the diaphragm, so breathing out for 6 count relaxes the diaphragm and sends safety signals to the parasympathetic system. There are also branches of the vagus nerve in the throat, so when you “ommmm”, you’re vibrating on that nerve, which again sends safety signals!

    • @yolandaruiz5805
      @yolandaruiz5805 9 місяців тому +3

      Hi I have have severe anxiety and was recently diagnosed with high blood pressure too! I'm on Losartan and I've been getting more panic attacks. Have you found a medicine that works with no side effects?

    • @MagdalenaIsaiah431
      @MagdalenaIsaiah431 5 місяців тому

      ​@@yolandaruiz5805for me having almost committed suicide from desperation I cannot believe I finally found something that actually works without side effects!
      It's an action not a medication. Anti-depressants only made me both manicky and zombie-fied and then flipped me into suicidal depression.
      My thing that I do is a religious practice but not Eastern style meditation. I tried Transcendental meditation for years and all I got was killer headaches and nausea. I tried that "hot yoga" and had the same symptoms as those people who died in a that Sweat Lodge incident (in Arizona if I remember correctly) and got the guy leading the retreat sent to jail for manslaughter.
      My Meditation is based on Bible Scriptures and it's called The Rosary. I've been practicing it just slightly over 4 years now and it has worked better than anything I have ever tried, both to help me with sleep and night terrors and with that relentless grinding anxiety and depression that almost devoured my mind since my traumatic childhood days.
      Recently I was working on some very intense Conference Interpretation Jobs in English and Spanish and only praying multiple Rosaries helped me tranquilize my over worked anxious brain and relax to where I could get through the days without having a nervous collapse.
      There are videos on how to pray The Rosary right here on UA-cam if anyone is interested in trying it out. I wish I'd found it sooner. I wish everyone the best in finding something to help overcome the torment of mental suffering that comes with these kinds of diabolical illnesses❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏✝️✝️✝️

    • @love-zw1ky
      @love-zw1ky 4 місяці тому

      This is so me...right now i am obsessed with my blood pressure and pulse rate to the point it is making my heart beat fast even worse...it is a viscious cycle

  • @robbiesmoonmusic
    @robbiesmoonmusic 10 місяців тому +47

    This was the most comprehensive explanation of CBT and all of its components I’ve ever watched. As an MSW psychotherapist student who also has an anxiety disorder of my own, this was such a God send. Thank you so much

    • @vivienlee610
      @vivienlee610 9 місяців тому +2

      Totally agree with you.

  • @trishf2184
    @trishf2184 10 місяців тому +16

    Starts with sick stomach--think about a time I got SO VERY sick---this MUST be that again---now I'm completely freaked out waiting for THE absolute worst to happen---rush to prove I must be right. 🤢🤯🤯🙄

    • @kreriplayz5953
      @kreriplayz5953 2 місяці тому +3

      @@trishf2184 this. Becoming sick because of the anxiety is the worst. 💔 I

  • @kreriplayz5953
    @kreriplayz5953 2 місяці тому +21

    Hi. I’m 17, and I’ve gotten some type of anxiety over the last three months or so. It’s been getting worse, and it’s so so hard. A lot of the time, I feel physical pain, or I throw up.
    I used to think people (like me now) were over dramatic. That they’re just thoughts/feelings. But I’ve learnt that when you’re in that moment, it’s so fucking awful and uncontrollable.
    Thank you for this video. I’ve been fighting this anxiety with tooth and nail since the beginning, and I’m not giving up anytime soon, even if it’s exhausting.
    I really do hope life gets better.

    • @kreriplayz5953
      @kreriplayz5953 2 місяці тому

      @oldsoul4762 thank you.❤️

    • @gretchenmeyer9567
      @gretchenmeyer9567 2 місяці тому

      It will get better!
      Sending you hugs and encouragement 😊

    • @kreriplayz5953
      @kreriplayz5953 2 місяці тому

      @@gretchenmeyer9567 thank you. 🫶🏼 I’ve just started seeing a specialist, so I’m hopeful it will help.

    • @Coco_xo13
      @Coco_xo13 2 місяці тому

      I have the same symptoms youre not alone and I'm glad I'm not the only one

    • @lynellb
      @lynellb Місяць тому

      Please remember to also be patient, gentle and kind with yourself while on this journey 🙏🏾🩷

  • @Fahim_Lalani
    @Fahim_Lalani Рік тому +35

    I feel my anxiety anger reduced when I started loving everybody ❤I love everybody is my new affirmation for personal use and I learned it through martial arts to not think of anyone as an enemy but try to love everybody thanks for all your great videos I love them

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  Рік тому +15

      LOVE this. Thank you so much for sharing. Yes, when we come from a place of love, we feel safer (and vice versa probably). An aspiration to walk through the world with an open heart :)

    • @stevenkovler5133
      @stevenkovler5133 Рік тому +7

      My anxiety is 1000% due to financial issues caused by being unable to break free from a narcissist who has taken everything from me! If I could get over my money issues , I know I would be cured !!

    • @anatino
      @anatino Рік тому

      @@stevenkovler5133absolutely! I am the same! It’s all about the financial situation.

    • @OhhCharliee..
      @OhhCharliee.. 10 місяців тому

      @@stevenkovler5133you have to shift that thought- if you change the feeling first (make it positive- how you will feel when it’s resolved), the issue will resolve itself faster than waiting for the issue to resolve itself before you feel better.
      If that makes sense.

    • @Breeannful
      @Breeannful 3 місяці тому

      @@stevenkovler5133 How about if you say I forgive you everytime you get anxious even though it doesn't feel real at first after awhile you might find it does take hold...

  • @heysuno
    @heysuno 4 дні тому +1

    God is great. I happen to find this video, before which I was at peak and physically was feeling super weak. I felt helpless and wanted to go for therapy, but financially couldn't afford. So grateful that u made this video ma"am.❤

  • @cyrusromeo
    @cyrusromeo 10 місяців тому +17

    I have been in such severe flight or flight. Today, a big oiece of that “paused” and now I’m having… rolling panic. A nurse a while ago told me she suspected high stress hormones and that really, really makes sense. Now, I’m struggling to sleep, eat right… I have a chronic illness that is kicking my ass at the same time. So, I have everything to learn. Thank you so so much for this gift!

    • @memequeeen100
      @memequeeen100 9 місяців тому +1

      I hope you are doing much better

    • @cyrusromeo
      @cyrusromeo 9 місяців тому +2

      @@memequeeen100 no. I’m so absolutely in hell I’m looking into ketamine treatmemrt.

    • @memequeeen100
      @memequeeen100 9 місяців тому +2

      @@cyrusromeo oh no :( I really hope you get much better im very sorry things are going terrible I pray that whatever is troubling you, that you will eventually overcome it

    • @cyrusromeo
      @cyrusromeo 9 місяців тому +3

      @@memequeeen100 thanks, this is when I love the internet. When we support one another.

    • @memequeeen100
      @memequeeen100 9 місяців тому +3

      @@cyrusromeo I fully agree 🩷

  • @sheri6089
    @sheri6089 Рік тому +15

    I really think that hearing (some of us need to hear them over and over) harsh realities is the most helpful.

  • @haileymitchell607
    @haileymitchell607 11 місяців тому +30

    I needed to hear this tonight, thank you so much for your wise words🙏🏼

  • @ciarabrown1412
    @ciarabrown1412 2 місяці тому +4

    I feel so alone even though I have family. I have panic attacks at night due to Dv abuse, my partner is a heavy sleeper so he doesn't wake up. Your videos and other professionals on here have saved my life. My attacks can last hrs, its so scary. Your videos helped so much with rhe physical symptoms, mainly agitation, tremors, severe stomach cramps etc i finally feel in control thank you so much ❤

  • @natet5959
    @natet5959 10 місяців тому +9

    Thanks! This really helped me today. It made me realize that anxious thoughts are just thoughts.

  • @APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU
    @APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU 8 місяців тому +7

    Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

  • @nancylamb1117
    @nancylamb1117 7 місяців тому +2

    This is exactly what i need to blend my practices of physical/spiritual practice with the thoughts that are triggering massive anxiety.

  • @Lino75
    @Lino75 Рік тому +36

    This video is truly extraordinary. It sums up a lot of concepts and you are giving very powerful suggestions. English is not my first language but I was able to understand each and every word you said. Thank you Ma'am

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  Рік тому +6

      You are very welcome, and I am so pleased you found it so helpful! I appreciate the encouraging feedback!

    • @braxtonsworld7121
      @braxtonsworld7121 11 місяців тому

      @@BarbaraHeffernan can you help my 15 year old son with instructive thoughts . Do you offer individual therapy sessions or have referrals?

  • @nakeishaarmorer7735
    @nakeishaarmorer7735 5 місяців тому +16

    PLEASE do a video on overcoming OCD! I neeeeed it!

  • @michiel_tielemans
    @michiel_tielemans 5 днів тому

    I've been dealing with stress, overthinking, anxiety and rumination for over 20yrs. It has lead me to have problems at work, in my relationship and to a near burn out. Having seeked help from several coaches, I've never had anyone explain why these thoughts happen in my mind or how to deal with them as clearly and on point as in your videos. I'm so grateful.

  • @beverleylewis469
    @beverleylewis469 8 місяців тому +4

    Thank you so much, this is helping me. I have chronic fatigue syndrome which I know is rooted in an under developed parasympathetic nervous system. I am learning every day how to navigate this world in a more balanced way. This world has always been a terrifying place for me, I am looking forward to a better future.

  • @lovewillwinnn
    @lovewillwinnn 10 місяців тому +33

    The Psalmist said it best. “When anxieties overwhelmed me, you comforted and soothed me.”
    Psalm 94: 19. Who better to help than our Creator through prayer. 🙂

  • @erd675
    @erd675 5 місяців тому +101

    Health anxiety is horrible. A headache is a tumor, cough is cancer and I'm tired 😫 oh no my heart is failing 💔. It's torture.

    • @adas3519
      @adas3519 5 місяців тому +7

      Same here 😢

    • @briananderson5034
      @briananderson5034 5 місяців тому +2

      How did yall get over there..?

    • @erd675
      @erd675 5 місяців тому +4

      @briananderson5034 well a lot self help works like eating right ,exercising regularly and getting proper sleep. Mine is beyond that it's everyday trying find therapist.

    • @briananderson5034
      @briananderson5034 5 місяців тому +4

      I hope you find one! I have several Bible verses I repeat....my heightened anxiety just started last week

    • @leenadas2611
      @leenadas2611 5 місяців тому

      True.
      It's horrible 😢

  • @edgarfausto4907
    @edgarfausto4907 9 місяців тому +6

    I don’t know you but for some reason everything you said it’s what I’m feeling. I really felt a connection and felt so better about what you talked about. I’m so relieved now. I keep going to the doctor and they don’t understand my feelings but I’m so pain free now. Thank you so much❤❤❤

  • @Verniece1968
    @Verniece1968 Рік тому +19

    This is exactly talking about my panic disorder. I've been on Effexor for 12 years and haven't had an attack since then. I would love to get off this medication and I think as I slowly go off it, practicing this will help! Thank you❤

    • @MigthyDucksz24
      @MigthyDucksz24 11 місяців тому

      fack

    • @Verniece1968
      @Verniece1968 11 місяців тому +2

      @@MigthyDucksz24 What's that mean?🤔

    • @skippy7208
      @skippy7208 10 місяців тому +3

      Hi I just wanted to wish you well as you withdraw from Effexor. Please please research tapering protocols online as doctors don’t always understand how tricky it can be coming off psych meds. Good luck 🤞

    • @OhhCharliee..
      @OhhCharliee.. 10 місяців тому

      Yes go slowly.
      I know if a group in FB first getting off cymbalta. They are literally counting the tiny beads in each capsule and going down by 5% every 14 days. Starts at 330 beads. It takes 149 WEEKS to safely get off the drug without the terrible side effects.
      I went search for info when they wanted to put me in cymbalta-because I have such terrible reactions to medications in general.
      This group scared the $hit out of me and iv refused to take the meds.
      So just please be careful!

  • @woodman2269
    @woodman2269 11 місяців тому +12

    Best explanation about anxiety EVER !!!...... Thank you for making this..

  • @abcdefgtuvwxyz
    @abcdefgtuvwxyz 6 місяців тому +48

    My anxiety has gotten worse since the early years of COVID-19 until now

    • @vanessamay3689
      @vanessamay3689 5 місяців тому +3

      I think that has happened quite a lot though no one I know talks about it.
      Be strong and happy.

    • @chloejhugroo2353
      @chloejhugroo2353 Місяць тому +1

      Me too

  • @zoueee
    @zoueee Місяць тому +1

    My anxiety has gotten worse since summer. For the past week there wasnt a night where I slept more than 4 hours. Every morning I woke up with chest tightness and panic attacks. I couldnt focus on anything. I’ve lost my appetite completely and lost a few kgs which made me feel even worse. I am shaking from coldness. I feel so lonely and depressed. I am scared to go to sleep because I dont want to feel that way ever again. Everyday is a struggle. I hope I will get back to normal soon. But now I just try to survive. I got some medicine but it takes 2-3 weeks for it to work so I just have to be patient. There was a time when I thought that the only option for me is mental hospital but my doctor fortunately said that no. I cry all the time bc of helplessness. There are many people who support me but anxiety comes back all the time.

  • @lily_m3538
    @lily_m3538 9 місяців тому +5

    Very logical and makes sense. So right about the lack of control and worrying about something that can't be controlled. You really verbalised anxiety exactly.

    • @annettenoga6182
      @annettenoga6182 9 місяців тому +1

      Hope u tried some techniques , but be patient because it takes time , effort and persistence. Anxiety can rob us from living. Good luck!

  • @vyseerx
    @vyseerx 11 місяців тому +47

    Anxiety is universal emotion, but when out of control causing symptoms and impairment, needs management. 1. Meditation ( S K Y breathing ) thwarts all the symptoms of anxiety, and costs nothing. 2. Daily indoor exercise (stationary bike) helps relieve anxiety. 3. Medication SSRI once daily helps sleep well, once you sleep well -anxiety would be a thing of past. 4. Regular interactions with live people / friends / relatives helps decrease anxiety 5. Usage of debit card (instead of credit card) helps decrease anxiety as well as credit seems to be the biggest stress causing agent.

    • @mo777-
      @mo777- 5 місяців тому +1

      take magnesium glycinate instead of a medication. but always check with your doctor first and get a blood test, because if you have too much magnesium it could harm you.

  • @gregsettle9725
    @gregsettle9725 5 місяців тому +8

    A question you can ask yourself to calm what I call the "Idiot Mind" is, "Is it reasonable?" This question can help break the imaginary connections between you getting into a fender-bender and the fall of the free world. Life and its events are more connected than we know but less than we think. Great video on CBT.

  • @anupammital1966
    @anupammital1966 11 місяців тому +11

    You are so reassuring Barbara. My anxiety triggers my IBS and vice versa. This becomes a vicious cycle. Your suggestions sound great. I shall give it a try. Thanks a lot

  • @AlbinoTheHedgehog
    @AlbinoTheHedgehog 11 місяців тому +8

    Thank you so much. I have my anxiety every single day and my stomach always hurts and makes me wanna throw up but surprisingly I don’t. But im really scared of throwing up due to my emetophobia and I just get mostly worried from that. This video helps a lot so tysm! ❤️

  • @stacyburrell13
    @stacyburrell13 11 місяців тому +7

    I applaud you for saying that!! The hardest thing to admit is feeling powerless but now I feel validated and liberated ❤. Thank you soooooo much!!

  • @georgeali7189
    @georgeali7189 2 години тому

    Catching those distorted thoughts and disposing them is a key for me its like having a corrupt file in your head.

  • @maskedcat8808
    @maskedcat8808 Рік тому +20

    Please do a series on OCD. Awesome videos!

  • @Ms1Mina
    @Ms1Mina Рік тому +15

    I really like your videos and your delivery! I have a hard time slowing down enough to think about doing the things you suggest here. I feel anxious all the time and being in menopause makes it SO much worse! My anxiety has blown up! Not just from menopause but from living with an alcoholic husband who hasn't been faithful. Some days I can barely make it through and I hope that I get back to my old self someday! I am also worse because I stopped my anti-anxiety meds last year. I developed severe Raynaud's, likely from HRT, so I stopped all meds. Now alternative methods and these exercises will hopefully help lower my anxiety so THANK YOU VERY MUCH!!!!!!!

  • @annettenoga6182
    @annettenoga6182 Рік тому +27

    Wow! You put it into context with two words certainty and control. What has helped me is to look at my thoughts and sit with the emotion because it does pass, but in that moment you don't think it will. Mediation, a deal breaker, journaling, putting down your thoughts has really helped. At the end of the day, trying to just live in the Now moment is what I'm trying to achieve and not worry about the "what if's".🤗💖

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  Рік тому +2

      thanks for sharing what has helped you, which will help others! ❤

    • @lily_m3538
      @lily_m3538 9 місяців тому +2

      Completely identify with that.

    • @s.d.a.d.r8538
      @s.d.a.d.r8538 8 місяців тому

      That is 100% correct...live this moment...🙂🙂🙂

  • @NNJGirl321
    @NNJGirl321 2 місяці тому +4

    Guided meditations do help but if you have a hard time focusing in this space, try body scanning and yoga nidra. I find them more effective because they are much easier disciplines to focus on.

  • @babycakes8434
    @babycakes8434 9 місяців тому +7

    Great info. I subscribed.
    In my last job I had stomach pain for hours due to my job, or rathet bosses. Once I started to work there I would get excruciating stomach aches, that would not go away without pain reliever. I didn't have any thoughts that were causing it, but my bosses were not my kind of people, not vety soothing or genuinely friendly. It lasted for few months. Once it started, I would get these stomach pains caused by other things and stressfull situations.

    • @sanjana4219
      @sanjana4219 7 місяців тому

      I am sorry to hear this.Pleaae do yoga for anxiety and meditation regularly.You will be fine.

  • @yoppysoleman9758
    @yoppysoleman9758 8 місяців тому +9

    Dear Prof. Barbara Heffernan. Thank you so much for sharing very valuable, in-depth and useful knowledge 🙏🙏👍👍👍👍👍👍. GB.

  • @ronaldhendersonakathefitne8806
    @ronaldhendersonakathefitne8806 9 місяців тому +3

    I enjoyed her way of looking at anxiety I have been teaching people how to eradicate the bad stressors of life , I used to allow peoples words or actions to stress me out or make me anxious until I got a revelation into the strategies that I now teach people

  • @BroccoliRocks
    @BroccoliRocks 6 місяців тому +13

    For several years I read every book on CBT I could get my hands on. I was that interested in it. As a self help tool I got some value out of it.
    I was disappointed when I went to my first professional CBT session.
    I was extremely upset. I was sobbing my car both before and after the session.
    The therapist was so cold and distant. Her reply to everything was to fill out xeroxed forms.
    It reminded me of being in an emergency room with an injured hand and being forced to fill out a form with that injured hand to get help.
    I never went back to that therapist and she never called to make sure I was okay.
    This video reminded of why I do not like professional CBT. It just comes off as COLD, which makes my issues worse.
    I don't need help thinking and I don't think most people do either.
    I think CBT would be more effective if it was more like a normal conversation. A patient could vent, feel heard, feel validated, be encouraged, and when the time was right in the conversation new thoughts/beliefs could be introduced in a natural way.

    • @GG-dt4sb
      @GG-dt4sb 5 місяців тому

      If that was the case we wouldn’t need therapy
      We gotta do the work!

    • @artslover99
      @artslover99 5 місяців тому +3

      I'm so sorry you had that experience, and I hope you connect with a therapist much better-suited to your needs.

  • @annabella9039
    @annabella9039 6 днів тому

    This was great. When she mentioned distance and observance. It reminded me of mediation. Meditation literally changes the brain where you become the observer instead of getting stuck in it. There are some good short meditation videos on UA-cam too. This was good :)

  • @sherrifarris7312
    @sherrifarris7312 10 місяців тому +3

    I have been in therapy through the VA for years and what I love is that this short video helped to incapsulate so much if my counseling. Validation for what I've been shown and doing. And good reminders of what to emphasize moving forward.

  • @michellehill8336
    @michellehill8336 11 місяців тому +8

    Barbara, PLEASE do a video on anxiety around OCD please . I need it for help with a family member. Thank you

  • @28zeamays
    @28zeamays 5 місяців тому +8

    How does the cycle work for you? What is the external trigger event? Where does the response start it? Where can you intervene to stop the cycle? Choose a different response
    1. Know your thoughts are just thoughts. Bring our observer mind - look there is my thought pattern. Cognitive defusion - I don’t have to believe what I am thinking. I am having this thought - build a distance from thought. I am having a thought that I may have a disease.
    2. Think through cognitive distortions - catastrophizing, black and white thinking, magical thinking,
    3. Imagine a calming and enjoyable activity
    4. Let yourself feel other emotions
    5. Meditation

    • @28zeamays
      @28zeamays 5 місяців тому +1

      5. Write all your anxiety

  • @LA-vf6xd
    @LA-vf6xd 16 днів тому

    I’m so glad I found this video. I’ve had anxiety since I was a kid and in going thru perimenopause it’s taken over my life. It doesn’t help I’m currently in a shelter after moving to a new city to start a new job after looking for over a year. I try to go for walks to clear my mind but I’m terrified wondering when panic will hit as it does out of the blue. I also for the first time am noticing an extreme sensitivity to light and sound. In a nutshell, I feel a hot mess! I plan on listening to this daily, even if for a year if I have to because it IS exhausting!!

  • @trudyatkinson760
    @trudyatkinson760 3 місяці тому +4

    I came across this video on UA-cam as I was looking for something to help with my anxiety with flying. The way you explained something just clicked and realise that I was able to control my thoughts. It helped so much and I’ve just returned from holiday using the skills I’ve learnt on the flight. Thank you SO much ! I am recommending you to my friends with anxiety too.

    • @kreriplayz5953
      @kreriplayz5953 2 місяці тому

      Hi, I saw your comment and hope you’re fine with me asking something, as I’m going on vacation soon and I’m struggling with really bad anxiety.
      What helped you the most when flying? I’m 17 going on a trip with friends, and last time I went on a plane, I ended up throwing up. I need to find better coping mechanism but I’m not sure where to start. Again, sorry to bother, and hope you’re having a great day!

    • @trudyatkinson760
      @trudyatkinson760 2 місяці тому

      @@kreriplayz5953 hello thanks for reaching out pleased to help as I know how difficult it can be leading up to the flight (I hadn’t been on one for 8 years). Firstly I came across the “5 exercises to help anxiety” here and something clicked in me when Barbara said the thoughts you have are just thoughts and you can retrain them, it was almost like ok I can control them rather than them controlling me. So whenever a negative thought came I’d imagine me grabbing it and throwing it away over my shoulder. Sounds strange but it worked. Another calming thought I had was right now this very second I’m ok (and on the flight I just kept repeating that to myself and tried not to let myself think ahead on what could (but probably wouldn’t) happen. On the flight itself I downloaded the calm app and there was an airline anxiety play list and I played that throughout the flight and it focused me on grounding myself to just focus on me and my breathing and that right now I was ok. There was a tiny bit of turbulence and I rem someone saying it’s no different to a boat on the sea or a car on a bumpy road so I told myself that. I hope you get on ok and find your own way of coping 🩷 I have to say once I arrived in Italy i had a little tear because I was so proud of myself that I’d got there! So you can do it … turn your thoughts around and tell yourself that the beautiful aeroplane will take you to where you want to go and when you’re flying keep picturing yourself at your destination (and on the way home focus on picturing yourself walking through the door). Really hope that helps … good luck

  • @jaspreetnandra
    @jaspreetnandra 10 місяців тому +3

    Thank you so much from bottom of my heart!

  • @ivebel3966
    @ivebel3966 9 місяців тому +5

    this video made me feel the most calm i’ve felt in a while. thank you so much! i wrote your advice down and i can’t wait to put it in practice!❤

  • @rebranded1248
    @rebranded1248 8 місяців тому +3

    Love the format when you explain things. Very clear and easy to follow. You use great examples
    that are easily relatable to the viewer to get your point across. Excellent.

  • @Zar2244
    @Zar2244 Місяць тому

    The last part of this talk is gold.

  • @krutibhavsar9534
    @krutibhavsar9534 11 місяців тому +2

    Bless you Barbara 😢
    My eyes started dripping as I was watching this. Its really hard...

  • @luvwings
    @luvwings 7 місяців тому +1

    Thank You! so much!! This is what I needed to hear!!!! It was me all along! My fear created my dilemma, which created panic and fast pulse during the nite.

  • @megblackwolf5470
    @megblackwolf5470 10 місяців тому +4

    I really appreciate you. Thank you for making these. It's immensely helpful for someone who struggles a lot of anxiety.

  • @aliveslice
    @aliveslice 11 місяців тому +6

    4:28 6:49 8:30 11:50 14:40

  • @gardenialeeman4932
    @gardenialeeman4932 11 місяців тому +5

    Excellent explanation! So logic! Yo made me feel at easy. You are telling me that I have control over this! I never thought it that way! It absolutely makes sense! Thank you very much Barbara! God Bless you!

  • @shahba2020
    @shahba2020 11 місяців тому +2

    Love your style, just found you… when I went through my worst depression and Anxiety period, I did that box trick, it really helped, now I make my brain like you said think of a happy place, and what really helped me pretending like the Anxiety is a person and dear him/ her to beat me in my feelings, hey I will never let anyone win 😁

  • @tommachniak8899
    @tommachniak8899 Рік тому +11

    Thank you so much for this Barbara. I was recently discharged / disengaged by a private psychologist after $800 worth of sessions because I needed help after hallucinations due to self harming , after all I was paying, this video has immensely reduced these symptoms. The hospitals told me to call lifeline which only let me vent (not overly helpful). (I’m in Australia). Psychiatrists here by the way only prescribe medications. It’s really a sham down under. Thank you for your channel and your respite.

    • @steadypace1262
      @steadypace1262 Рік тому +4

      The medical system in Australia is pretty disgusting at the moment. I hope your health problems improve, keep well.

    • @peterstanghellini393
      @peterstanghellini393 Рік тому +3

      Hope you are doing better. I too have found a lot of benefit with self help video's like Barbara's

    • @tommachniak8899
      @tommachniak8899 Рік тому

      @@peterstanghellini393 thanks Peter am doing better barb is great 👍

    • @DH-ht9pl
      @DH-ht9pl 11 місяців тому

      Hope you're better

  • @rijd2304
    @rijd2304 Рік тому +14

    I tried CBT last year and it didn't go so well...I was too anxious to even get through one exercise. I had to first use mindfulness to calm myself enough to get through the exercises. The book "30 Days to Reduce Anxiety" by Harper Daniels was a good small book for that. But now I'm ready to go into CBT. This video was super helpful, thank you!

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  Рік тому +2

      You are so welcome, and thank you for sharing the book you found helpful! I hope the CBT goes well for you!

  • @feliciamski4328
    @feliciamski4328 9 місяців тому +2

    I battle CD and I am struggling to break this behavior. I really like what you have to say. You explain to were I can understand .

  • @patriciaparlee-fox4353
    @patriciaparlee-fox4353 Рік тому +10

    Thank you for the ideas to help with anxiety

  • @weldonvivian2985
    @weldonvivian2985 10 місяців тому +9

    Thank you so much. I am having extreme anxiety right now. I used to know how to deal with it for a long time but then there was a trigger that brought anxiety back. I cannot do anything at all. I cannot meditate like I used to. I cannot observe what is going on. But you are right. Life is uncertain.

    • @MichaelGarcia-ze7ej
      @MichaelGarcia-ze7ej 10 місяців тому +2

      Same here. U arent alone i had it went away for years then came back

    • @memequeeen100
      @memequeeen100 9 місяців тому

      How are you feeling now? I hope better

    • @memequeeen100
      @memequeeen100 9 місяців тому

      @@MichaelGarcia-ze7ejI hope you are feeling much better I’ve had the symptoms as well

  • @jayiso4967
    @jayiso4967 12 днів тому

    I just stumbled upon your video, I am trying to learn about CBT Therapy to help control my anxiety and your insight was very helpful to me. I want to thank you for taking the time to share these exercises and hopefully I can learn how to cope with my personal demons and live with this disease.

  • @TB.....
    @TB..... 2 місяці тому

    3 rounds of wim hof breathing really helps. It takes approximately 10 mins . Real easy. Very very effective.

  • @suededogs9670
    @suededogs9670 12 днів тому

    I know life is uncertain but I never use to worry about it. Life happened to me , how they say . Just now since the trauma I feel as if I am under threat outside , I feel like a ticking time bomb. Its like surreal , you can't settle .

  • @lissetros5287
    @lissetros5287 Рік тому +8

    You’re wonderful!!! Thank you so much ❤

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  Рік тому +2

      You are so welcome! Thanks for your encouragement :)

  • @XTRAlauryn
    @XTRAlauryn 3 місяці тому

    as someone who's suffered with anxiety AND tried (guided) medication it REALLY DOES WORK!! it's so relaxing and freeing- while it felt strange and difficult at first, after a few tries I was able to really appreciate it!

  • @lauriewaldrep2196
    @lauriewaldrep2196 9 місяців тому +2

    I love this technique exercises, and will incorporate them into my life as habits. I normally take mini vacations to help me relax. Meditating is not hard for me.
    I also realized that external factors generate thoughts that fuel feelings transforming in behaviors. Other times they may be subconscious thoughts causing a feeling, resulting in behaviors. Now I know how to nip them at the bud.
    Thank you Dr. This is exactly what I needed. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @sanjana4219
      @sanjana4219 7 місяців тому

      What do we do to nip it in the budolease explain the process clearly.

  • @jessicaT12345
    @jessicaT12345 8 місяців тому +1

    you are heaven sent. thank you!

  • @starrleo12
    @starrleo12 Місяць тому

    I love the way she explain it

  • @justmeldaydreaming
    @justmeldaydreaming 28 днів тому

    Thank you for this very clear way of explaning anxiety. I have done CBT multiple times. I'm now more on the path of mindfullness, connection between body & brain. I found this video very clear and helpful. ❤ greetz from The Netherlands

  • @motieposs6277
    @motieposs6277 Рік тому +5

    Very helpful. I have to review this video at least one more time before moving on to the next one. Thanks 😊

  • @olga7454
    @olga7454 11 місяців тому +2

    Many thanks from Ukraine 🇺🇦 Barbara! Really helpful suggestions for me now

  • @richardroyster405
    @richardroyster405 6 місяців тому +1

    I could watch this five times and learn something every time. Thank you!

  • @DwytGeral
    @DwytGeral 2 місяці тому +3

    I hate anxiety I can't work properly because of this. Now I finally understood why some people commit suicide.

    • @EB-gt1pq
      @EB-gt1pq Місяць тому

      I agree… My children, my parents and God preventing me from doing it

  • @lynnkandola6220
    @lynnkandola6220 11 місяців тому +2

    I think you found me !amazing. I deal with this constantly
    You explain this so well❤️

  • @mayfoo7258
    @mayfoo7258 11 місяців тому +4

    Clear and very helpful. Love your beautiful face and smile

  • @Kelli5555
    @Kelli5555 Рік тому +5

    Thank you for teaching about the somatic triggers of anxiety vs cognitive. I experience anxiety in my body first then my brain processes the discomfort. This was very helpful!

  • @LorettaBillingsley-l5e
    @LorettaBillingsley-l5e Рік тому +3

    BRILLIANCE! Thank you, Barbara!

  • @laveshsyania5001
    @laveshsyania5001 3 місяці тому +8

    1. Thoughts are just thoughts
    2. Think through cognitive distortion
    3. Imagine a calming and enjoyable activity
    4. Let yourself feel other emotions
    5. Meditation
    6. Write your all anxious thoughts...

    • @bethanyyy7695
      @bethanyyy7695 2 місяці тому +2

      I was looking for this 😂 thank you

  • @hamedswonderland
    @hamedswonderland 9 місяців тому

    The things that happen in our minds are amazing and horrible at the same time.
    I was today years old when I realized I should not call it " Going through my demons" and trying to frame it as feeling myself, walking with my thoughts to guide them.
    Mental health is a bless and I want to gift it to myself. Thanks for the great exercises.

  • @michaeltmike
    @michaeltmike 10 місяців тому +2

    Yes definitely needed this! I’m wanting to do so much in the entertainment business and I’m realizing some things about myself.

  • @jean6460
    @jean6460 Рік тому +7

    Thank you! Please do a video on OCD!

  • @sukhmanicambridge
    @sukhmanicambridge 10 місяців тому +3

    Brilliant advice! Loved this so much. Helpful, real, informed. Thank you ❤

  • @CalmMindOasis
    @CalmMindOasis Місяць тому

    Thoughts are just thoughts. It just come and goes but most importantly you stay, so stop stressing yourself just breathe breathe and relax everythings gonna be fine. ❤ Just Think about those people who are having even more worst but at some point they will be fine. This Shall too pass.. ❤

  • @jekbreezy16
    @jekbreezy16 4 місяці тому +1

    Thank you for this! Been struggling for years

  • @saritalinga4611
    @saritalinga4611 4 місяці тому +1

    You dont believe how much this video helping me. Thank youuu ❤
    Can you kindly make more videos on CBT🙏

  • @4xzx4
    @4xzx4 Рік тому +3

    Magical thinking... Please do a video about this!

  • @kloveys
    @kloveys 10 місяців тому +2

    Been suffering from anxiety for about 7 months now this video truly shed some light on what I'm experiencing. Mines is caused by feelings the heart racing and the inability to carry out my work and routine activities as quickly and timely as I used to. I would like more info on the OCD as I suffer from this also

    • @bernarda7653
      @bernarda7653 10 місяців тому

      look into mindfulness and non engagement (response prevention) for ocd :)

    • @memequeeen100
      @memequeeen100 9 місяців тому

      How are you feeling now?

  • @amyhoop9651
    @amyhoop9651 10 місяців тому +1

    This is the most helpful anxiety exercise video I have ever seen. Thank you for your honest, up front, and caring approach.

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  10 місяців тому

      Thank you for letting me know how helpful it was for you! Wishing you all the best :)

    • @amyhoop9651
      @amyhoop9651 9 місяців тому

      Amen and thank you for the Biblical encouragement.

  • @soniadodson6173
    @soniadodson6173 Рік тому +2

    Thank you so much you have helped me see the causes. Thank you, ⚘ ❤

  • @vivienlee610
    @vivienlee610 9 місяців тому +1

    What am excellent easy to understand video. Helped me pinpoint my anxiety about anxious thoughts!