Story 1: Caution… to me Bill is a snake. Because he knows you are in a relationship. He never should have told you all of that and put you in a weird place. He was trying to tempt and manipulate you. That’s a red flag. He should have never spilled his love to you while you are out with your boyfriend. That’s incredibly disrespectful. HUGE red flag… Bill is a snake
yeah straight up manipulation and then saying to just put a break on the relationship just to go sleep with Bill. plus if he was in relationships before why not speak up before not just when he is free and lusting
And made his move in public, at an event her partner is at 😶 made his move on someone he knows damn well is already taken. Poured his heart out to her… in the women’s bathroom’s line. I hope all the ladies were listening lol. Crazy and messy
Agreed! Bill gives me bad vibes. I hope OP knows about the 80/20 rule with relationships. I am fully against people especially women settling for their partners but there is also a lot of truth to the grass is greener where you water it.
@hcf4kd1992 THIS!! I actually came here to say this too. I'm already a walking medical mystery/disaster/mess. I cannot recall a single going to a single doctors appointment and them saying "everything looks great. Everything came back normal." Except for ONE time, Feb 2, 2013. It was a Sat and I had my lasik eye surgery on the 1st. The 2nd was my first post-op appointment and the doctor did the check up, said everything looked great...and for the first time since 1996 I could see perfectly without glasses or contacts. Granted it cost me close to $9k (since it was so new) but it also came with a lifetime guarantee so if my eyesight ever started to get bad again, they would do the procedure again for FREE. (Which I do have to get done again because ny eyes are back on the medical mess side again. 🫤 That being said, I think I'm gonna be skipping the full body scan. Lol
story 1: bill is infatuated with the idea of her, and she is just excited that someone likes her. i feel like she needs to stick with the current partner
I just fully disagree with the first story. He is disrespecting her relationship, her parents are disliking her current partner because they want her with the family friend. If he really cared about her and truly loved her he wouldn't have waited until she was in a relationship. He's going after her now because he's single and lonely. He wasn't doing this when he got in his long-term relationship.
I’m with you! also seems as this Bill in love in fantasy of living happy life with the OP but not in to real person, and OP just on this calm period in her relationships so she felt only excitement of something new, I don’t think it worth the breakup
I fully agree. Even if i did have some feelings for someone like the Bill I'd loose them very quickly if I was approached with such disrespect to my existing relationship. Also what ifs are not that bad to have as long as they don't pull you away from what you have now.
Story 1: 2 thoughts here. Girl, you are 22. There’s a good chance you won’t think about either of these two in 10 years. Bill is giving me the ick. Obsession is not love. I say steer clear.
And at the same time if she’s second guessing the relationship she has now it’s better to stay away, and like they said her current bf has 5 years on her, so easy for him to get engaged now, so agreed i would forget abt the two of them
Story 1 I had a relationship like this when I was 22. I found myself being attracted to a man that I had known for quite awhile and my parents loved him him. They didn’t like my partner but I stayed in the relationship but that did eventually breakdown. I ended up dating the other guy and it was the worst relationship I ever had! It didn’t live up to the expectations .
For the first story - something similar happened with me. The relationship didn’t work out because the idea he had of me in his head from when he was a kid wasn’t reality and he couldn’t cope with that. The idea of having me was better than having me. The relationship ended quickly and destroyed the friend group.
Sorry dad but for most couples when you “take a break to see” you’re done. The relationship is over. And quite frankly it should be over. I would NEVER take back someone who did that to me. You either want all of me or none of me and you’re not sitting on a fence or seeing if the grass is greener just in case with someone else. Any self respecting person would never take someone back who wanted to take a break to “see if they’re the one”.
I came to comment on the first story but I’m glad moat people are giving the opposite side. If you leave because of the what ifs, don’t expect to go back to your happy relationship. The crush is 100% being disrespectful to your relationship by constantly bringing this up to friends for years and even coming up to you saying “we CAN make this work” while you are still in a relationship which you claim is great. I agree that if you’re hesitant, just go for it because I also don’t think it’s really fair for your bf to be with someone who will constantly think of another man as the one that got away or the “what if”. If your boyfriend is nice enough and waits for you, great, but I doubt it especially with your family also starting to team up against your boyfriend and saying they suddenly don’t like him and are cheering for the crush. :(
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ugh i had to skip mid that one. it's a whole telenovela. i don't get how she would want to be with someone so plainly disrespectful. reminds me of that one story where the guy started telling everyone she's his gf till she i think caved in.
On the tail end of Story 1: my grandma’s second husband ended up divorcing her and getting back together with his high school sweetheart in his late sixties, early 70’s, and spent the rest of his earthly days with her. My grandma was devastated but she moved on and found love again eventually. You gotta do what’s right for you before it’s too late. And it never really is until you’re gone.
I'm going to have to correct Morgan on the "there are studies coming out that that show hormonal birth control can affect the attractiveness you find towards people" we as people don't use our phremones to pick our partners we use our frontal lobes and use our logic. It's ONE "study" called The Role of Human Pheromones on Human Sexual Behavior Preferences by Oral Contraceptives and the Abortifacient Effects of Oral Contraceptives that was on the bases of the book Humanae Vitae written by Pope Paul VI back in 1968 to promote the banning of birth control. The claims are skewed to fearmonger people to not use birth control.
thanks for sharing this! id heard that spread around before and fully believed it but dang it was for properganda written by a religious dude why am i not surprised 😕
Story 1: Every situation is different but I believe the second you are questioning feelings for another person, your current relationship is over. Whether or not you want to act on your feelings or let them pass and continue the current relationship, you basically have one foot in the door to emotionally or physically cheating ( or at least disrespecting your partner and wasting their time). I know people have different opinions on what cheating is but having feelings for another person and wanting to act on them when you are already with a partner is nothing but the precursor to cheating. If I or my partner ever questioned if they want to be with me or break up with me for someone else I immediately would end it. Being in a "good" relationship only says so much if one of you is ready to drop it the second your high school bestie finally admits feelings. It is crazy to lie to yourself and say otherwise, plus i'm sure your partner doesn't want you anymore after that. This is a slightly rogue take, but i think the reason a lot of people deal with these issues in relationships is because most people are micro cheating or are okay with it because their partner is too, and it's a lot easier to deal with it and not take it seriously or think it's relationship ending when you also have "wondering eyes" too...
Story 5: i was listening on Spotify and had to hop over to youtube to comment on this story.. i was in a almost 4 year relationship and started having those same feelings. It took me a while but i finally ended the relationship back in june and honestly i feel amazing.. of course i was sad because it was comfortable and change is scary but we are still on friendly terms and i am so glad i did it. I think maybe breaking up might give you some clarity, ik for me it just confirmed it was the right choice.. who knows you might break up and realize you dont want to end things and thats also great. I wish you the best, you got this whatever you do❤
Story 3: from my own experience, situatuinships is the result of low self esteem, it’s when you settling on those things you don’t actually want, and guys can feel it, so when you have low self esteem you will only attract this kind of guys that want to take advantage of you my advice: define your clear boundaries to not giving any girlfriend treatment before the guy won’t do any real effort into your dating, and be strict to it to not cross, and, second: explore yourself in dates and in general, do some new hobbies, sport, try to get yourself out for you, not for meeting potential boyfriend, you need to let go the desperation, believe me, I know that, bcz had pretty same problems on my 20-s, and if you feel that you don’t have power to do all this maybe personal therapy, its very helpful love yourself, you worth of the best treatment sorry, if my comment isn’t clear enough, english is not my first language
Story 4: thank you for writing in. I needed to hear the panel as well on something similar. My situation is in my rear mirror, but I still struggle with my parent's codependency. You have to live your life. You can help and care without losing what you want out of life. You deserve to have your own life without the regret of not living it. 💙
Story 3: I feel that so hard. I got into my first actual relationship at 25 (I’m 26) - similar reasons, the men I felt connections to didn’t want commitment with me. My best advice is to just focus on you, your family, and your friends, and the right person will come along. I know it’s hard but it’ll be worth it in the end
Story 2: I’m exmormon, and as someone who has been both in a high demand religion and out of it, I feel like there’s a little more to think about than just sex before marriage. Like Morgan said, mixed religion relationships can be very hard. I would 100% be sure you guys are in the same place before moving forward. What if he wants to get married in a temple, meaning that you’d have to convert to his religion? I am curious maybe on why he believes that sex should be saved for marriage and why oral sex is okay. Anyway, just something to think about because morals and values are deep rooted in religion.
Story 3: I agree with Morgan. You need to go in setting expectations that you’re dating to find a partner. Ideally you should say upfront something like if he can’t commit to you after three months, you’re going to move on.
Story 3: This is the first time I'm in disagreement with our dad! I agree with Morgan about the situationships are generational. I totally understand the writer's perspective because you want to share your relationship, you want to take this person home, share experiences and moments. Usually situationships are secret and sometimes they are used to cheat (in extreme cases). Very different from a friend with benefits because in a situationship the limits are not well defined and feelings most likely will be hurt. To the writer: define what is it that you want, don't be afraid to be alone if that person runs for the hills, better now than in 3 years from now.
I agree with what justin said for the first story u have to have a complete break up to know what you want. My friend had to go through this because there was someone else that she liked and liked her. But she didn't pursue him after breaking up with her bf, but just finally had the chance to think clearly and her bf and her got back together right afterwards. I was telling her before this that she truly did need to devote time to just thinking about it, but she was so constantly busy she couldn't. And i also thought it was coz her bf and her had been together for a few years and so it was just this new feeling of having a crush and someone like her, rather than truly wanting this relationship more. Which ended up being true. The number one thing i made clear to her the whole time though, was if she truly was not certain she needed to break up with her bf because it was not fair to him or for her to be questioning the relationship and longing for someone else. Im just glad that it worked out the way it did because I've also gained a friend in her bf and i really truly think they have an amazing relationship together. And i wish them the best for the future even if they don't end up staying together forever, they are both truly amazing people that deserve all the best. Im just gonna cross my fingers and hope they're endgame tho 😂🤞
1st story DONT DO IT! DONT DO IIITT!!! NOOOOOOOOOOOO I'm 22f with 28m with parents who also has been with him for 3 years and who's parents also didn't like him for the first 2.5 years (not because truly him but because I didn't feel comfortable having my parents around him -my parents aren't in a healthy place mentally so I don't bring him around often-) The 20m is being disrespectful. I've had guys say the same thing... all of them cheated. Please don't do it. He might not cheat but he was disrespectful enough to put that thought in your head while you're in a relationship. Don't ruin what you have Justin IS right it IS rare. Oh my god please don't be tempted by 20m.
Story 1: people cheat on great relationships all the time, because people are weak and flawed. Just because she’s wondering what things would be like with Bill doesn’t mean there’s an issue or something missing in her current relationship. Story 4: my husband is 8 years older than me and was going through a divorce when we met at work. My mom was NOT happy when we started dating 3 months later because I was also freshly out of a 6 year relationship with my HS bf. We were married almost 2 years after that. We’ve been together 9 years now!
For story two: if if sex is important to you, please do not date somebody who is waiting for marriage. Do not waste that person‘s time! Do not hurt them by believing you can do it. You are just going to end up putting pressure on that person to break their commitment, or you’re going to end up frustrated and you’re going to break that person‘s heart. If you cannot go without sex, do not date somebody who is waiting for marriage.
Story 2. My husband and I both waited for marriage (muslims) Trust me you dont need to try everything to have a sexually fulfilled marriage. You can learn everything together and have a great sex life! Noone is born a pro on that side. You both need to communicate and be sexually positive when you get married and explore everything. If you feel like you absolutely cant marry someone that you havent had sex with then he isnt your person marry someone that will :) you have to judge how important that is for you and if your values align.
It’s something people do but it is not something that the church is actually okay with. Same with anal. It is sex, the church thinks it’s sex, not viewed as okay. I’m not active in the church but I did grow up in it and live in Utah. People who actually follow and believe won’t do that
story 1: omg the calm male take is crazy. they don’t see bills crazy obsession? he’s infatuated. none of his other relationships worked because of his obsession? that’s weird she’s going to break up with her seemingly nice bf and be madly disappointed. and Bills obsession will either crash with his own disappointment. she’s not what he’s been imagining for years. or he’ll do something crazy like lock her in the basement!
Story 3: You’re still young so don’t feel rushed. Take your time to get to know someone slow, that builds into something deeper. Also take a look at who you are choosing to date. You may find your picker is picking the wrong kind of guy. The wrong type of guy will never settle down easily. Best advice in all of it is to take things slowly so you can build a loving relationship or so the wrong ones can fall away without hurting your heart.
For story 1: please be careful! Bill has seen you in a healthy, happy relationship, and he decided to attempt to break it up by planting seeds of doubt. Also, he said that he has issues committing in his relationships. If you were to leave your wonderful, loving boyfriend to date Bill, don’t expect his commitment issues to magically fix themselves! You will find that he’s going to have trouble committing to you too, and he’s going to cheat on you. Do not worry about outside pressures from family or people from your past. If your relationship is happy and healthy, focus on developing it, and focus on the partner who loves and respects you.
in relation to story number 3, I also met my fiance (recently engaged on xmas) on hinge...At first i didnt really think much of him, and i met up with him cause for once I wanted to be a "hoe", but instantly when i met him in person we BOTH instantly fell madly in love. im just saying there seems to be better luck there!!!! best of luck dating should be fun, but take people for face value and dont give them the instruction manual how to pretend to be your dream guy!
Yep, met my gorgeous partner on hinge too ❤ We had similar interests, now over the last two years of a slow burn relationship, which is not the norm for me, I feel so lucky.
I know right. She’s been in a happy committed loving relationship for a long period of time. There’s not a lot to suggest it’s an unhappy relationship. To potentially throw it all away for some guy that’s had a crush on her since he was 13 seems kinda creepy. Because it’s almost like he’s saying that it’s her fault all his other relationships haven’t worked out
@@greatmusic52 I think Justin got it right saying her current relationship should be over. She should let that guy go find someone who is into him and only him.
Yes I think I agree with Justin’s take. Also another person commented, why do the parents dislike the current partner? Is it a selfish dislike or is it a valid dislike?
@@ivylovesrunning exactly. I just think that because they’re all family friends the parents think it’ll be a good idea if they got together. But I think bill has the potential to be one of those incel types
it truly is it’s a scary app im never going on it again the two men I actually met up with from hinge one of them catfished me and the other one I got rlly attached to then he died LMAO bad things come from that app
Story 2: So I want to hop on here to say I am a current member of the church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints (Mormons) and yes “soaking” is a thing but it is not “okay” in our religion and back door sex it also not okay… it is just what some people say to justify having sex outside of marriage. Really to each their own but I just figured I would clarify that to the religion it is not okay.
Story 2, I’m still a virgin and my boyfriend has been wonderful with pleasuring me in other ways. It also helps since he doesn’t want sex rn and I’m still waiting so we get creative lol 😂 , OP just needs to have a good conversation and find common ground about sex, oral, and definitely religion! You got this OP! Add some spice with your guy 😆
I love that you guys call out the hypocry. I knew a Muslim Co worker who said she does everything including back door except vaginal penetration because she has to stay a virgin till marriage 😅. Makes no sense
For Story 4-- I missed it, how old is OP? OP's mom definitely sounds like textbook enmeshment but a 12-year age gap definitely makes me raise my eyebrows, no matter HOW they met. However, 12-years' gap between a 60 year-old and a 72 year-old is different. If OP's prefrontal cortex still isn't fully developed (which it's not done cooking until 25!) then it's a no from me, dog.
To the person who’s bf is waiting for marriage to have sex, I don’t know if you eventually want to get married or have children but that is something to consider before dating someone with different feelings about religion & sex. I know it’s early but things like religion, politics, expectations for gender roles etc. are important to figure out asap. Will you be okay if he wants your kids to be religious? Is he anti abortion & are you okay teaching your kids that? Or if you end up having PIV sex & get pregnant before marriage & he’s anti abortion what are your guys plans? Are you okay that he sees sex before marriage as shameful but can do enough mental gymnastics that blowjobs etc. are okay? Are you okay that he might teach your kids that sex is shameful? Will he shame them for masturbation etc. I know that’s wild to think about at this point, but those are extremely important things to think about before having kids. Religion & saving yourself for marriage is a lot more than just spirituality & not having sex. It’s a whole lot of shame & beliefs that could be put on you & your future family. Religious trauma is really, shame from religion can mess you up for life, it’s something to consider when considering a future with someone who’s religious when you’re not or of a different religion. If you don’t want kids…. Then have at it I suppose!
1st story no he had years to tell her his feelings if he loved her he would have done something sooner he wants her because he's single now. Parents just want her to date the family friend
I really really disagree with the butterflies thing. I think you SHOULD be excited about your partner. I've been with people who have caused me anxiety, and I have been with people who caused me butterflies. The ones where I had butterflies, there were anxious moments but that was due to arguments with the fear of a breakup. Otherwise, it was fun and a best friend and genuine looking forward and happiness while with them. I do understand that it's not a long term thing ( honeymoon effect and everything), but if you don't have it, then I don't personally think it will last that long. Butterflies is what keeps it going and you learn about one another to see if it can go the distance. I do think young people need to understand it will not last forever so they're not confused when they're not feeling those anymore and it's now the next stage of the relationship.
Is it that there’s something not perfect in the current relationship or is she not mature enough or ready for marriage. Is she just excited someone showed heavy interest. Everytime someone does this does ur current bf need to wait to the side to see if u pick someone else. That guy deserves better. What if the tables were turned. I would t wait if I was in. What, so u can date and fuck him, run ur course then come running back. Fuck that. And who cares who ur parents want u with. It’s ur life not theirs. And of course every parent wants their kid with their friends kid. Means more family time. But ur not appeasing them u are choosing ur life and path.
Disagree with the first story. That friend is being disrespectful, even if he had a full conversation with the boyfriend, which I think he handled it well. This girl can’t have her cake and eat it too, she needs to understand once she ends it with her current relationship to test the waters, and it fails, don’t expect the guy to take you back. It’s not fair for him to sit back & let her venture feelings that may or may not be there.
dude my pronunciations are so bad hahah piriformis is another one I have to think so intentionally about to not say it wrong. My anatomy teacher butchered so much 😂
I babysat for these girls who's dad went to some friend meet up reunion, someone put on from their childhood days. They were in their forties at this point, and he saw his "kindergarten crush," there and left his family (girls and their mom), less than a week later to be with her. And that's what absolutely terrifies me about relationships and people. One minute they're there, and the next they're just GONE. And over a kindergarten crush?! Sometimes you really don't know how all in the person really is. Relationships are wild and people do wild things. Emotions and feelings are weird. 💀🫤
I dont fully agree with yaplls opinion on story 1. He doesn't sound respectful of her relationship with the way he said things. However I also don't agree with 'there must be somsthing wrong to even feel attraction for someone else when you have a good partner'. I'm sorry but that is just not how humans work xD you don't control what hormones are produced yall. And as someone who is polygamous and only has open relationships for a reason, the amount of times I've heard there must be something wrong with me or my partners for being okay with this or even wanting it in the first place, so many times that it's become a'utomatic response robot engage' for me 😂. She might just be a late bloomer in that department or she might have an unknown newly unlocked kink etc. None of us know but these points should've been discussed instead of judging pretty much all polygamous people by accident in the process 😂
Story 2: im in a 4 year relationship with someone that wants to wait till mirrage for sex, better said penetration. Its something he set for his christian believe. Its not about the sex its about the "becoming one" whith it. We have a great sex life we just dont do that part.
Story 2 hot take but if you break up with someone ONLY because you can't 'test drive' them like a damn car you need to re-evaluate your priorities. You should def break up but goddamn.
Story 1: Caution… to me Bill is a snake. Because he knows you are in a relationship. He never should have told you all of that and put you in a weird place. He was trying to tempt and manipulate you. That’s a red flag. He should have never spilled his love to you while you are out with your boyfriend. That’s incredibly disrespectful. HUGE red flag… Bill is a snake
yeah straight up manipulation and then saying to just put a break on the relationship just to go sleep with Bill. plus if he was in relationships before why not speak up before not just when he is free and lusting
Bill sound unhinged… he’s been obsessed with her for years because of one kiss?! That’s kinda scary!!
And made his move in public, at an event her partner is at 😶 made his move on someone he knows damn well is already taken.
Poured his heart out to her… in the women’s bathroom’s line. I hope all the ladies were listening lol. Crazy and messy
I started singing Bill like the Bill Nye show... And then by the end of the story I was singing "Bill Nye the creepy guy!"
Agreed! Bill gives me bad vibes. I hope OP knows about the 80/20 rule with relationships. I am fully against people especially women settling for their partners but there is also a lot of truth to the grass is greener where you water it.
awhh to me it sounds like the grew up close and flirty 🙈childhood crush vibes
Not Morgan talking about her dad’s condition like she sent her dog into the vet 💀
hahaha
I would never get a full body scan. As a 31 year old with multiple autoimmune conditions, I have enough to deal with with what I already know tsym
@hcf4kd1992 THIS!! I actually came here to say this too. I'm already a walking medical mystery/disaster/mess. I cannot recall a single going to a single doctors appointment and them saying "everything looks great. Everything came back normal." Except for ONE time, Feb 2, 2013. It was a Sat and I had my lasik eye surgery on the 1st. The 2nd was my first post-op appointment and the doctor did the check up, said everything looked great...and for the first time since 1996 I could see perfectly without glasses or contacts. Granted it cost me close to $9k (since it was so new) but it also came with a lifetime guarantee so if my eyesight ever started to get bad again, they would do the procedure again for FREE. (Which I do have to get done again because ny eyes are back on the medical mess side again. 🫤
That being said, I think I'm gonna be skipping the full body scan. Lol
story 1: bill is infatuated with the idea of her, and she is just excited that someone likes her. i feel like she needs to stick with the current partner
I just fully disagree with the first story. He is disrespecting her relationship, her parents are disliking her current partner because they want her with the family friend. If he really cared about her and truly loved her he wouldn't have waited until she was in a relationship. He's going after her now because he's single and lonely. He wasn't doing this when he got in his long-term relationship.
I’m with you! also seems as this Bill in love in fantasy of living happy life with the OP but not in to real person, and OP just on this calm period in her relationships so she felt only excitement of something new, I don’t think it worth the breakup
I totally agree. Strong feelings does not equate to a strong life partner.
Right. He’s only coming around because she’s with someone new.
I fully agree. Even if i did have some feelings for someone like the Bill I'd loose them very quickly if I was approached with such disrespect to my existing relationship. Also what ifs are not that bad to have as long as they don't pull you away from what you have now.
Yeah her issue is her age and fomo... Simple
I completely agree with Justin on the crush vs. bf story. If you have other feelings for someone else, it’s time to let that poor person go.
Story 1: 2 thoughts here. Girl, you are 22. There’s a good chance you won’t think about either of these two in 10 years.
Bill is giving me the ick. Obsession is not love. I say steer clear.
And at the same time if she’s second guessing the relationship she has now it’s better to stay away, and like they said her current bf has 5 years on her, so easy for him to get engaged now, so agreed i would forget abt the two of them
Story 1 I had a relationship like this when I was 22. I found myself being attracted to a man that I had known for quite awhile and my parents loved him him. They didn’t like my partner but I stayed in the relationship but that did eventually breakdown. I ended up dating the other guy and it was the worst relationship I ever had! It didn’t live up to the expectations .
For the first story - something similar happened with me. The relationship didn’t work out because the idea he had of me in his head from when he was a kid wasn’t reality and he couldn’t cope with that. The idea of having me was better than having me. The relationship ended quickly and destroyed the friend group.
Bill from story 1 feels like a love bomber. I bet a relationship with him would be hell.
I’ve officially binged all the tht episodes, so now I’m binging fks
Same 😂
Me too😂😂
Right there with you!
Dude same, i absolutely love their vibes
We need more! I also just did this
Sorry dad but for most couples when you “take a break to see” you’re done. The relationship is over. And quite frankly it should be over. I would NEVER take back someone who did that to me. You either want all of me or none of me and you’re not sitting on a fence or seeing if the grass is greener just in case with someone else. Any self respecting person would never take someone back who wanted to take a break to “see if they’re the one”.
exactly!! so entitled to expect someone to be “patient” and wait for you while you go out and see someone else. so disrespectful
yeah taking a break basically just to go sleep with and be with the other person. like no
I came to comment on the first story but I’m glad moat people are giving the opposite side. If you leave because of the what ifs, don’t expect to go back to your happy relationship. The crush is 100% being disrespectful to your relationship by constantly bringing this up to friends for years and even coming up to you saying “we CAN make this work” while you are still in a relationship which you claim is great. I agree that if you’re hesitant, just go for it because I also don’t think it’s really fair for your bf to be with someone who will constantly think of another man as the one that got away or the “what if”. If your boyfriend is nice enough and waits for you, great, but I doubt it especially with your family also starting to team up against your boyfriend and saying they suddenly don’t like him and are cheering for the crush. :(
ugh i had to skip mid that one. it's a whole telenovela. i don't get how she would want to be with someone so plainly disrespectful. reminds me of that one story where the guy started telling everyone she's his gf till she i think caved in.
On the tail end of Story 1: my grandma’s second husband ended up divorcing her and getting back together with his high school sweetheart in his late sixties, early 70’s, and spent the rest of his earthly days with her. My grandma was devastated but she moved on and found love again eventually. You gotta do what’s right for you before it’s too late. And it never really is until you’re gone.
I'm going to have to correct Morgan on the "there are studies coming out that that show hormonal birth control can affect the attractiveness you find towards people" we as people don't use our phremones to pick our partners we use our frontal lobes and use our logic. It's ONE "study" called The Role of Human Pheromones on Human Sexual Behavior Preferences by Oral Contraceptives and the Abortifacient Effects of Oral Contraceptives that was on the bases of the book Humanae Vitae written by Pope Paul VI back in 1968 to promote the banning of birth control. The claims are skewed to fearmonger people to not use birth control.
thanks for sharing this! id heard that spread around before and fully believed it but dang it was for properganda written by a religious dude why am i not surprised 😕
Story 1: Every situation is different but I believe the second you are questioning feelings for another person, your current relationship is over. Whether or not you want to act on your feelings or let them pass and continue the current relationship, you basically have one foot in the door to emotionally or physically cheating ( or at least disrespecting your partner and wasting their time). I know people have different opinions on what cheating is but having feelings for another person and wanting to act on them when you are already with a partner is nothing but the precursor to cheating. If I or my partner ever questioned if they want to be with me or break up with me for someone else I immediately would end it. Being in a "good" relationship only says so much if one of you is ready to drop it the second your high school bestie finally admits feelings. It is crazy to lie to yourself and say otherwise, plus i'm sure your partner doesn't want you anymore after that. This is a slightly rogue take, but i think the reason a lot of people deal with these issues in relationships is because most people are micro cheating or are okay with it because their partner is too, and it's a lot easier to deal with it and not take it seriously or think it's relationship ending when you also have "wondering eyes" too...
Story 5: i was listening on Spotify and had to hop over to youtube to comment on this story.. i was in a almost 4 year relationship and started having those same feelings. It took me a while but i finally ended the relationship back in june and honestly i feel amazing.. of course i was sad because it was comfortable and change is scary but we are still on friendly terms and i am so glad i did it. I think maybe breaking up might give you some clarity, ik for me it just confirmed it was the right choice.. who knows you might break up and realize you dont want to end things and thats also great. I wish you the best, you got this whatever you do❤
Story 3: from my own experience, situatuinships is the result of low self esteem, it’s when you settling on those things you don’t actually want, and guys can feel it, so when you have low self esteem you will only attract this kind of guys that want to take advantage of you
my advice: define your clear boundaries to not giving any girlfriend treatment before the guy won’t do any real effort into your dating, and be strict to it to not cross, and, second: explore yourself in dates and in general, do some new hobbies, sport, try to get yourself out for you, not for meeting potential boyfriend, you need to let go the desperation, believe me, I know that, bcz had pretty same problems on my 20-s, and if you feel that you don’t have power to do all this maybe personal therapy, its very helpful
love yourself, you worth of the best treatment
sorry, if my comment isn’t clear enough, english is not my first language
Story 4: thank you for writing in. I needed to hear the panel as well on something similar. My situation is in my rear mirror, but I still struggle with my parent's codependency.
You have to live your life. You can help and care without losing what you want out of life. You deserve to have your own life without the regret of not living it. 💙
25:02 Morgan, I've never related more to a "yeah" in my life 😂😂
Story 3: I feel that so hard. I got into my first actual relationship at 25 (I’m 26) - similar reasons, the men I felt connections to didn’t want commitment with me. My best advice is to just focus on you, your family, and your friends, and the right person will come along. I know it’s hard but it’ll be worth it in the end
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Story 2: I’m exmormon, and as someone who has been both in a high demand religion and out of it, I feel like there’s a little more to think about than just sex before marriage. Like Morgan said, mixed religion relationships can be very hard. I would 100% be sure you guys are in the same place before moving forward. What if he wants to get married in a temple, meaning that you’d have to convert to his religion? I am curious maybe on why he believes that sex should be saved for marriage and why oral sex is okay. Anyway, just something to think about because morals and values are deep rooted in religion.
Story 3: I agree with Morgan. You need to go in setting expectations that you’re dating to find a partner. Ideally you should say upfront something like if he can’t commit to you after three months, you’re going to move on.
Story 3: This is the first time I'm in disagreement with our dad! I agree with Morgan about the situationships are generational. I totally understand the writer's perspective because you want to share your relationship, you want to take this person home, share experiences and moments. Usually situationships are secret and sometimes they are used to cheat (in extreme cases). Very different from a friend with benefits because in a situationship the limits are not well defined and feelings most likely will be hurt. To the writer: define what is it that you want, don't be afraid to be alone if that person runs for the hills, better now than in 3 years from now.
If I knew I didn’t write story 5 I would thought u where describing my life. Your not alone ❤
Loved all of the stories but I’m ready for some deep, hard hitting ones next week! 🙏🏼🙂
Huge question..... why do her parents hate her current partner?
That's a really good question! Moreso when they "recently" started hating him...
Which story? I know for the one with the new guy , they recently started to dislike her current bf because they rather her be with the family friend
I would say because they would probably hate her with any guy that isn't the family friend with the crush
I agree with what justin said for the first story u have to have a complete break up to know what you want. My friend had to go through this because there was someone else that she liked and liked her. But she didn't pursue him after breaking up with her bf, but just finally had the chance to think clearly and her bf and her got back together right afterwards. I was telling her before this that she truly did need to devote time to just thinking about it, but she was so constantly busy she couldn't. And i also thought it was coz her bf and her had been together for a few years and so it was just this new feeling of having a crush and someone like her, rather than truly wanting this relationship more. Which ended up being true. The number one thing i made clear to her the whole time though, was if she truly was not certain she needed to break up with her bf because it was not fair to him or for her to be questioning the relationship and longing for someone else. Im just glad that it worked out the way it did because I've also gained a friend in her bf and i really truly think they have an amazing relationship together. And i wish them the best for the future even if they don't end up staying together forever, they are both truly amazing people that deserve all the best. Im just gonna cross my fingers and hope they're endgame tho 😂🤞
Story 1 is like the movie Past Lives!
1st story DONT DO IT! DONT DO IIITT!!! NOOOOOOOOOOOO I'm 22f with 28m with parents who also has been with him for 3 years and who's parents also didn't like him for the first 2.5 years (not because truly him but because I didn't feel comfortable having my parents around him -my parents aren't in a healthy place mentally so I don't bring him around often-)
The 20m is being disrespectful. I've had guys say the same thing... all of them cheated. Please don't do it. He might not cheat but he was disrespectful enough to put that thought in your head while you're in a relationship.
Don't ruin what you have Justin IS right it IS rare. Oh my god please don't be tempted by 20m.
Justin you’ve got good shit to say, man.
Story 3: agree about hinge. Yiu can screen people for similar values, interests etc.... thats how I met my partner ❤
Story 1: people cheat on great relationships all the time, because people are weak and flawed. Just because she’s wondering what things would be like with Bill doesn’t mean there’s an issue or something missing in her current relationship.
Story 4: my husband is 8 years older than me and was going through a divorce when we met at work. My mom was NOT happy when we started dating 3 months later because I was also freshly out of a 6 year relationship with my HS bf. We were married almost 2 years after that. We’ve been together 9 years now!
"I call this.. You're a caterpillar..." 🐛👁👄👁
For story two: if if sex is important to you, please do not date somebody who is waiting for marriage. Do not waste that person‘s time! Do not hurt them by believing you can do it. You are just going to end up putting pressure on that person to break their commitment, or you’re going to end up frustrated and you’re going to break that person‘s heart. If you cannot go without sex, do not date somebody who is waiting for marriage.
Story 2. My husband and I both waited for marriage (muslims) Trust me you dont need to try everything to have a sexually fulfilled marriage. You can learn everything together and have a great sex life! Noone is born a pro on that side. You both need to communicate and be sexually positive when you get married and explore everything. If you feel like you absolutely cant marry someone that you havent had sex with then he isnt your person marry someone that will :) you have to judge how important that is for you and if your values align.
Wasn’t the whole soaking thing a joke made up for the TV show Jury Duty? 😂
Sadly it is real 😩
@@lilacorn 😂😂oh wow! It seemed so extreme
It’s something people do but it is not something that the church is actually okay with. Same with anal. It is sex, the church thinks it’s sex, not viewed as okay. I’m not active in the church but I did grow up in it and live in Utah. People who actually follow and believe won’t do that
story 1: omg the calm male take is crazy. they don’t see bills crazy obsession? he’s infatuated. none of his other relationships worked because of his obsession? that’s weird
she’s going to break up with her seemingly nice bf and be madly disappointed.
and Bills obsession will either crash with his own disappointment. she’s not what he’s been imagining for years. or he’ll do something crazy like lock her in the basement!
AGREEE
Story 3: You’re still young so don’t feel rushed. Take your time to get to know someone slow, that builds into something deeper. Also take a look at who you are choosing to date. You may find your picker is picking the wrong kind of guy. The wrong type of guy will never settle down easily. Best advice in all of it is to take things slowly so you can build a loving relationship or so the wrong ones can fall away without hurting your heart.
Holly is a child of divorce 🤣🤣🤣
For story 1: please be careful! Bill has seen you in a healthy, happy relationship, and he decided to attempt to break it up by planting seeds of doubt. Also, he said that he has issues committing in his relationships. If you were to leave your wonderful, loving boyfriend to date Bill, don’t expect his commitment issues to magically fix themselves! You will find that he’s going to have trouble committing to you too, and he’s going to cheat on you. Do not worry about outside pressures from family or people from your past. If your relationship is happy and healthy, focus on developing it, and focus on the partner who loves and respects you.
We like the wacky!
in relation to story number 3, I also met my fiance (recently engaged on xmas) on hinge...At first i didnt really think much of him, and i met up with him cause for once I wanted to be a "hoe", but instantly when i met him in person we BOTH instantly fell madly in love. im just saying there seems to be better luck there!!!! best of luck dating should be fun, but take people for face value and dont give them the instruction manual how to pretend to be your dream guy!
Yep, met my gorgeous partner on hinge too ❤
We had similar interests, now over the last two years of a slow burn relationship, which is not the norm for me, I feel so lucky.
The birth control thing happened to my best friend after 10 years!!
Forgot that you all take turns readong the stories sometimes so when Justin started off the sentence for story two I was like 😮
First story is giving Twilight love triangle 😂
And it sounds like she’s gonna choose Jacob 😂
The advice for story 1 is insane. WTF?
I know right. She’s been in a happy committed loving relationship for a long period of time. There’s not a lot to suggest it’s an unhappy relationship. To potentially throw it all away for some guy that’s had a crush on her since he was 13 seems kinda creepy. Because it’s almost like he’s saying that it’s her fault all his other relationships haven’t worked out
@@greatmusic52 I think Justin got it right saying her current relationship should be over. She should let that guy go find someone who is into him and only him.
Yes I think I agree with Justin’s take. Also another person commented, why do the parents dislike the current partner? Is it a selfish dislike or is it a valid dislike?
I feel sorry for the partner. I don't think they should get married. She shouldn't get with Bill either. What the heck is up with the parent and Bill?
@@ivylovesrunning exactly. I just think that because they’re all family friends the parents think it’ll be a good idea if they got together.
But I think bill has the potential to be one of those incel types
Hinged is unhinged. That app scared me
it truly is it’s a scary app im never going on it again the two men I actually met up with from hinge one of them catfished me and the other one I got rlly attached to then he died LMAO bad things come from that app
Story 2: So I want to hop on here to say I am a current member of the church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints (Mormons) and yes “soaking” is a thing but it is not “okay” in our religion and back door sex it also not okay… it is just what some people say to justify having sex outside of marriage. Really to each their own but I just figured I would clarify that to the religion it is not okay.
Thanks for saying something! I was so confused when she said that.
Story 2, I’m still a virgin and my boyfriend has been wonderful with pleasuring me in other ways. It also helps since he doesn’t want sex rn and I’m still waiting so we get creative lol 😂 , OP just needs to have a good conversation and find common ground about sex, oral, and definitely religion! You got this OP! Add some spice with your guy 😆
Nicklaus Cliffs
I love that you guys call out the hypocry. I knew a Muslim Co worker who said she does everything including back door except vaginal penetration because she has to stay a virgin till marriage 😅. Makes no sense
For Story 4-- I missed it, how old is OP? OP's mom definitely sounds like textbook enmeshment but a 12-year age gap definitely makes me raise my eyebrows, no matter HOW they met. However, 12-years' gap between a 60 year-old and a 72 year-old is different. If OP's prefrontal cortex still isn't fully developed (which it's not done cooking until 25!) then it's a no from me, dog.
To the person who’s bf is waiting for marriage to have sex, I don’t know if you eventually want to get married or have children but that is something to consider before dating someone with different feelings about religion & sex.
I know it’s early but things like religion, politics, expectations for gender roles etc. are important to figure out asap.
Will you be okay if he wants your kids to be religious? Is he anti abortion & are you okay teaching your kids that? Or if you end up having PIV sex & get pregnant before marriage & he’s anti abortion what are your guys plans? Are you okay that he sees sex before marriage as shameful but can do enough mental gymnastics that blowjobs etc. are okay? Are you okay that he might teach your kids that sex is shameful? Will he shame them for masturbation etc. I know that’s wild to think about at this point, but those are extremely important things to think about before having kids. Religion & saving yourself for marriage is a lot more than just spirituality & not having sex. It’s a whole lot of shame & beliefs that could be put on you & your future family. Religious trauma is really, shame from religion can mess you up for life, it’s something to consider when considering a future with someone who’s religious when you’re not or of a different religion.
If you don’t want kids…. Then have at it I suppose!
I have a hiatal hernia too lol
1st story no he had years to tell her his feelings if he loved her he would have done something sooner he wants her because he's single now. Parents just want her to date the family friend
I really really disagree with the butterflies thing. I think you SHOULD be excited about your partner. I've been with people who have caused me anxiety, and I have been with people who caused me butterflies. The ones where I had butterflies, there were anxious moments but that was due to arguments with the fear of a breakup. Otherwise, it was fun and a best friend and genuine looking forward and happiness while with them. I do understand that it's not a long term thing ( honeymoon effect and everything), but if you don't have it, then I don't personally think it will last that long. Butterflies is what keeps it going and you learn about one another to see if it can go the distance. I do think young people need to understand it will not last forever so they're not confused when they're not feeling those anymore and it's now the next stage of the relationship.
If dad doesn’t go to Boston show ima cry in VIP
Schultz Circles
Insurance is a scam, sing it sister. Such a twisted system we’re told is to help us that is actually hoping and making us get sicker.
Story 1: sounds like ur not ready to be married. If you were u would t be seeing a future with two ppl.
Is it that there’s something not perfect in the current relationship or is she not mature enough or ready for marriage. Is she just excited someone showed heavy interest. Everytime someone does this does ur current bf need to wait to the side to see if u pick someone else. That guy deserves better. What if the tables were turned. I would t wait if I was in. What, so u can date and fuck him, run ur course then come running back. Fuck that. And who cares who ur parents want u with. It’s ur life not theirs. And of course every parent wants their kid with their friends kid. Means more family time. But ur not appeasing them u are choosing ur life and path.
Disagree with the first story. That friend is being disrespectful, even if he had a full conversation with the boyfriend, which I think he handled it well. This girl can’t have her cake and eat it too, she needs to understand once she ends it with her current relationship to test the waters, and it fails, don’t expect the guy to take you back. It’s not fair for him to sit back & let her venture feelings that may or may not be there.
Morgan, It is pronounced, HIGH - ATE - TILL.\ Hiatel Hernia. Sometimes the nurse comes out in me, like the OT comes out in you. LOL
dude my pronunciations are so bad hahah piriformis is another one I have to think so intentionally about to not say it wrong. My anatomy teacher butchered so much 😂
Shemar Dale
Bins Locks
Schamberger Mission
Dibbert Square
Gwendolyn Parkways
Are really not gonna talk about that age gap? Shes 24 and hes 36! Girl dont do it. Run. Run like the wind.
I babysat for these girls who's dad went to some friend meet up reunion, someone put on from their childhood days. They were in their forties at this point, and he saw his "kindergarten crush," there and left his family (girls and their mom), less than a week later to be with her. And that's what absolutely terrifies me about relationships and people. One minute they're there, and the next they're just GONE. And over a kindergarten crush?! Sometimes you really don't know how all in the person really is. Relationships are wild and people do wild things. Emotions and feelings are weird. 💀🫤
Cronin Turnpike
Friesen Plain
I dont fully agree with yaplls opinion on story 1. He doesn't sound respectful of her relationship with the way he said things. However I also don't agree with 'there must be somsthing wrong to even feel attraction for someone else when you have a good partner'. I'm sorry but that is just not how humans work xD you don't control what hormones are produced yall. And as someone who is polygamous and only has open relationships for a reason, the amount of times I've heard there must be something wrong with me or my partners for being okay with this or even wanting it in the first place, so many times that it's become a'utomatic response robot engage' for me 😂.
She might just be a late bloomer in that department or she might have an unknown newly unlocked kink etc. None of us know but these points should've been discussed instead of judging pretty much all polygamous people by accident in the process 😂
Bayer Crossroad
She doesn't love her man and it shows. (Story 1)
Velva Cliff
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Story 2: im in a 4 year relationship with someone that wants to wait till mirrage for sex, better said penetration. Its something he set for his christian believe. Its not about the sex its about the "becoming one" whith it. We have a great sex life we just dont do that part.
Peyton Junctions
I hate Lume ads . You cant put Lume anywhere. You cant put it inside . And. shouldn't. It's just misleading
Story 2 hot take but if you break up with someone ONLY because you can't 'test drive' them like a damn car you need to re-evaluate your priorities. You should def break up but goddamn.
Jakubowski Via
the first story she’s 22 with a now 27 year old and been dating for three years Ummmm
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Patsy Loaf
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