I was in a very similar situation when I was in high school. I had a crush on a girl who was openly gay. But I am painfully shy and she had a girlfriend. I do not understand what my sexuality is yet but that experience really made me think about it. Thank you for sharing your story.
I feel her story so hard.. I’ve lost both my parents before I got to come out to them. But I was also raised knowing they supported LGBT rights. They told me so, growing up. I feel so fortunate to have such loving parents, even if it wasn’t for very long.💖 I will never ever forget them!!
My sister came out when she was 16, and an exchange student in the US - it did NOT go down well with her "family" there, and she had to change families - after that traumatic experience she was really scared how the people she loved would take it, but when my father, who was usually the silent type, heard about it he called her immediately and told her on the phone that he "doesn't care if she revealed she's really green, and from mars, she'll always be his daughter who he loves very much". I'd never been more proud of my dad.
I understand the importance of wanting our parent's approval but not having it won't change who we are , it just changes things on a level we don't want to or thought we would ever have to deal with ? . I personally would rather them be honest about their feelings rather than lie and pretend ?.I think it's the only way to really move forward and be able to respect and understand each other , we don't always have to agree with each other but it's imperative to be able to be open and truthful .
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This one touched me deeply and got the water works running. I have gone through hell in my life and I always had my family to help lift me up. I was raised by my grandparents and I was outed to my gradmama. I never really told my grandpapa about my sexuality and then he passed away. I ended up in a very dark place, his death being a factor. But, now that I care for my gradmama 24/7, we have so much fun and talk a lot. In one of those conversations she told me how one of my uncles would talk badly about me. First on how he thought that I was having an affair with his wife and then about my being gay. And she said that they would both defend me. How they would laugh with each other over the affair comments. And how he would say that no one, it didn't matter who, was going to talk bad about me. I wish I had been _my_ 100% self with him. But, knowing this, made me love him and my grandmama so much more. Why this video got me right in the heart. Thank you for sharing.
I mean it doesn't sound like he had a problem with the gay uncle so if he was ok with him I would think it would not be a problem with you .....I'm not gay but I have a huge problem with people staying in the closet ...it's not healthy and everyone should be allowed to be who they are unapologetically
I have a relatively fundamentalist Christian grandmother, and am torn between telling her I'm bisexual(I think? definitely like girls(being female myself) but I think also boys too sometimes) and maybe worse, an atheist for the seemingly slim chance of gaining a real relationship with her or just keeping it to myself to spare her feelings and avoid pissing off my dad by upsetting his mum. I'm at a loss here. Any advice?
Justin D'Amato Yeah, might as well aye? If it all goes south and my very existence hurts her feelings that really ain't my problem. I guess I'll do my part by telling her the truth and past that point the responsibility is all on her.
If you're in a position where the people you rely on for your living situation are the people you are afraid will react poorly, I would say don't do it yet. If you risk being kicked out, disowned, or harassed in your own home because of it, don't do it yet. Wait until you have more independence and a wider support system. Otherwise, it's up to you.
I'm always struck by how DIFFERENT the upbrinings and backrouds of LGBTQ+ people are, in a good way. It tells thinking people that the notion of being who we are is from some external, specific, corrupting influence.
I had the opposite type of coming out story. I'm 45 came out at 18 and my family still does not accept it. They are just now starting to want me around again but of course they don't want my spouse around. I have to respect that I suppose. But I never begrudge anyone who had a great coming out story such as yours. Tell your mom a random person that saw your story said good job Mom good job! Got me a little bit in the feels. Lol
My advice would be to always tell your parents (when you're ready!). You'll be miserable when you don't tell them. The worst that could happen is that they indeed are not happy with it. But at least you now have all this weight lifted from your shoulders. And who knows, maybe they'll be completely supportive. If you're sure they aren't going to be, you'll live in pain whether you tell them or not. But when you tell them, at least there's a sense of pride and relief with yourself. And there's always people that will love you for who you are! As a bi guy, I'm much happier out than in.
Damn ninjas cutting onions...
I was in a very similar situation when I was in high school. I had a crush on a girl who was openly gay. But I am painfully shy and she had a girlfriend. I do not understand what my sexuality is yet but that experience really made me think about it. Thank you for sharing your story.
I feel her story so hard.. I’ve lost both my parents before I got to come out to them. But I was also raised knowing they supported LGBT rights. They told me so, growing up. I feel so fortunate to have such loving parents, even if it wasn’t for very long.💖 I will never ever forget them!!
My sister came out when she was 16, and an exchange student in the US - it did NOT go down well with her "family" there, and she had to change families - after that traumatic experience she was really scared how the people she loved would take it, but when my father, who was usually the silent type, heard about it he called her immediately and told her on the phone that he "doesn't care if she revealed she's really green, and from mars, she'll always be his daughter who he loves very much".
I'd never been more proud of my dad.
Wow, great and heartfelt story. Thanks...
I understand the importance of wanting our parent's approval but not having it won't change who we are , it just changes things on a level we don't want to or thought we would ever have to deal with ? . I personally would rather them be honest about their feelings rather than lie and pretend ?.I think it's the only way to really move forward and be able to respect and understand each other , we don't always have to agree with each other but it's imperative to be able to be open and truthful .
This one touched me deeply and got the water works running. I have gone through hell in my life and I always had my family to help lift me up. I was raised by my grandparents and I was outed to my gradmama. I never really told my grandpapa about my sexuality and then he passed away. I ended up in a very dark place, his death being a factor. But, now that I care for my gradmama 24/7, we have so much fun and talk a lot. In one of those conversations she told me how one of my uncles would talk badly about me. First on how he thought that I was having an affair with his wife and then about my being gay. And she said that they would both defend me. How they would laugh with each other over the affair comments. And how he would say that no one, it didn't matter who, was going to talk bad about me. I wish I had been _my_ 100% self with him. But, knowing this, made me love him and my grandmama so much more. Why this video got me right in the heart. Thank you for sharing.
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I mean it doesn't sound like he had a problem with the gay uncle so if he was ok with him I would think it would not be a problem with you .....I'm not gay but I have a huge problem with people staying in the closet ...it's not healthy and everyone should be allowed to be who they are unapologetically
This is really touching.
Kaitlin looks a bit like Sarah Silverman.
I wish I had told my dad he died 1.5 years before I came out and I have so much guilt for not telling him
I'm a little surprised that her mom told her other relatives. I don't really get that. It's not her place to do so and it's not anyone's business.
I have a relatively fundamentalist Christian grandmother, and am torn between telling her I'm bisexual(I think? definitely like girls(being female myself) but I think also boys too sometimes) and maybe worse, an atheist for the seemingly slim chance of gaining a real relationship with her or just keeping it to myself to spare her feelings and avoid pissing off my dad by upsetting his mum.
I'm at a loss here.
Any advice?
Justin D'Amato
Yeah, might as well aye?
If it all goes south and my very existence hurts her feelings that really ain't my problem.
I guess I'll do my part by telling her the truth and past that point the responsibility is all on her.
If you're in a position where the people you rely on for your living situation are the people you are afraid will react poorly, I would say don't do it yet. If you risk being kicked out, disowned, or harassed in your own home because of it, don't do it yet. Wait until you have more independence and a wider support system. Otherwise, it's up to you.
such a heartwarming story. thank you
wonderful story!
That made me cry.
I'm always struck by how DIFFERENT the upbrinings and backrouds of LGBTQ+ people are, in a good way. It tells thinking people that the notion of being who we are is from some external, specific, corrupting influence.
I had the opposite type of coming out story. I'm 45 came out at 18 and my family still does not accept it. They are just now starting to want me around again but of course they don't want my spouse around. I have to respect that I suppose. But I never begrudge anyone who had a great coming out story such as yours. Tell your mom a random person that saw your story said good job Mom good job! Got me a little bit in the feels. Lol
Few years late to this one, but absolutely beautiful story. Thank you for sharing it!
People put too much emphasis on sexuality who cares keep it to yourself it’s not your parents business who u have sex with
How is it there areas many good stories. Yet there are so many homophobes that seem absolutely nuts.
My advice would be to always tell your parents (when you're ready!). You'll be miserable when you don't tell them. The worst that could happen is that they indeed are not happy with it. But at least you now have all this weight lifted from your shoulders. And who knows, maybe they'll be completely supportive. If you're sure they aren't going to be, you'll live in pain whether you tell them or not. But when you tell them, at least there's a sense of pride and relief with yourself.
And there's always people that will love you for who you are!
As a bi guy, I'm much happier out than in.
So sorry about your dad
Thank you for this, Kaitlin. I hope that you're doing well these days.❤👍❤
Why do you ALWAYS spoil it in the title?
Glad for you. Thanks...
Her palms were sweating, knees weak and her arms were heavy, there was vomit on her sweater already, what ever reasuant's spaghetti