New Boss: "It's Been Brought To My Attention That You're A Lesbian."
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- Опубліковано 17 жов 2024
- During the 1996 Summer Olympics, Ingrid Galvez-Thorp accepted a position with her company in Atlanta, Georgia. A lesbian from the suburbs of New York City, she soon encountered a less-than-welcoming work environment, but also found an unexpected ally.
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I'm so happy this turned out the opposite of what I expected.
Izzy McKenna Same.
Izzy McKenna SPOILERS!!!
Izzy McKenna Same for me.
Total BS. She is making Southerners look like assholes. Go back to NY.
@@Ever_Green510 those Southerners apparently were a**holes ... ! and you apparently are a xenophobe ... !
This lady shouldn't have needed her boss' approval to give her job security. The laws are so different here in the UK, it's time Americans demanded basic employee protections.
Adam that was 20 years ago, American laws have changed to cater to those types of things now 😊
Clearly it doesn't really work. Maybe they should tighten the employee protection and give companies a counselor that is regulary looking deeper into this stuff.
Sora No Ao I mean I'm sure it fails sometimes sure. But you missed the point. This story took place years ago. Now we even have organizations that you can call for any sort of discrimination, from sexuality to face to gender.
Adam it was 21 years ago :) UK didn't look better I guess :)
Adam we are fighting for the rights!
This comment section is so damn positive and that makes me so happy
It's a rare thing when YT comment section doesn't turn to cancer on big issues.
A true rarity
Such a touching story, if being asked about your sexuality unexpected feels very very threatening in a indescribable way I can't imagine how it can feel when your job depends on your answer and hear you're "causing problems" and making your colleagues uncomfortable. So so glad you got that talk and support from your boss, i could see the relief in your voice, it's incredible how something that can be so simple can leave such a positive mark on your life ♥ can't express my big love for this channel and the amazing stories and people we get to hear and know (sorry for my English, I'm from latinoamerica so English isn't my main language at all xD)
I completely agree with your comment.
Your English is great, by the way!
There is Nothing wrong with your English, I am English and I find it as good, if not better than a huge number who post on here,
As a butch this made me so happy to hear. Just by existing and being our authentic selves around our families and friends, we create allies.
@theRightizright It's cute when kids have imaginary friends. It's a tragedy when adults have them.
theRightizright
Can I get proof that your god exist first? Or should I just roll a few dice to find out which one I believe in?
Allow me to add onto my previous argument. What makes your god the one worthy of belief? Is there proof that it exists? Is it somehow inherently better to believe in your god? Why should I choose Christianity over Islam or Hinduism?
@theRightizright I hope one day you can see past all that brain washing. It's very sad. What makes you think the 'god' you believe in is any more real than all the other gods that other religions believe in? *Only your own narcissism.* You believe it so that must be the correct one. Ever thought how incredibly arrogant that actually is? All you have is your false beliefs, zero proof of anything. It's akin to a child believing in santa Claus because its mommy told them he's real. Grow up and stop bullying other people with your arrogant BS nonsense.
theRightizright god made her a butch and made you a Karen if I get to heaven I hope there are a lot more butches then Karen’s or I’ll take my chances with the heat
What a story. This woman 👩 is brave for telling what she experienced. Glad she found an ally. Nothing wrong with being gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender. I'm bisexual and proud 😌
You should be proud. Though they may not know or may not be treated this way, but bisexual people are the luckiest people on the planet. They have the freedom to choose any gender they want as a partner whereas everyone else is restricted to just one gender.
@@Marchant2 thank you.
@@Marchant2 Sorry to correct but that's pansexual/omnisexual who is attracted to all genders, whilst bisexuals are only attracted to two genders, and there is also other sexualities with attraction to more than one gender
Enbybunny Bisexual usually isn’t restricted to only two genders, if you ask any Bi person if they’d date outside male/female I’m sure they’d say yes. Not much different between bi/pan/Omni.
@@katsisvi8097 Bisexuals are sexually attracted to only two genders, howewer, it isn't restricted in the gender binary. So they can date people of any gender, but they're still attracted to only two genders
Your story had such an unexpected twist to what I thought was going to be an awful boss story. It still moved me, and I am sure you were setting up the story to make the ending unexpected. I loved it for the fact that you had a boss's boss who stood up for you. Thank you for sharing your story.
The people in the work place who are bothered by a co-workers sexually ... should never have been hired in the 1st place and should be FIRED!
Sexuality not sexually. I think it boils down to them being afraid that someone of the same sex might find them attractive which would mean in their pea sized brain that when others find out, usually because the person tells them by complaining about it hoping to be validated in their disgust, will call them gay.
No boss should be asking those kinds of personal questions.
And no employee should be expected to answer those kinds of questions.
Indeed, so much unprofessionalism
Unprompted it would be inappropriate. Instead, she became aware of this harassment and let the woman know she was going to be okay and had someone on her side.
I was a child in the 90' s but I think the normatives were diferent then
@WinstonS84 than you missed the point of her story, she found an ally and that gave her more courage and drive.
It was 20 years ago, when being gay was considered an “offense” by many in the business world. Happily, she won the coin flip and got a fair-minded upper level manager. But you’re right, it should have nothing to do with your job. Even the late Barry Goldwater weighed in with, “I don’t care if a soldier IS straight, only if he can SHOOT straight.”
This takes me right back to the 80's when I worked for a retail chain here in the UK. There weren't any employment protection laws then and once it became known I'm Gay it was like 'the gloves are off', it was open season on 'the queer'. I endured 5 years of almost daily abuse, subtle though it was, and was reminded that the only way it would cease was for me to leave. It left me having a break down and didn't work for almost 2 years. It sickens me that a so-called civilised nation such as the US, a nation which is quick to point the finger when it comes to other countries' human/civil rights abuses, can't seem to have a universal legislation protecting LGBT employees! It just astounds me. It's great that Ingrid found an ally in her boss but it could've gone so horribly wrong for her.
JohnPaul Dixon the right wing conservatives have too much power and now w another Republican President n controlled Senate things aren't going to change in that respect for a while, sadly.
@theRightizright ... You are so wrong. The so-called Christian 'love' you speak of is as abusive as any other. If a Christian TRULY loved then he/she would not get in anyone else's business telling them that his/her sexuality is a 'sin' and to trust in Jesus! Abuse is abuse no matter what form it takes.
theRightizright
But what if I saw no water at all? The person can’t drown without water.
@theRightizright Fake Christian. Judging other people is a sin. Fake Christian hiding behind religion to justify your own bigotry. You're so transparent 😂
@theRightizright Oh, shut up. People like you give Christians a bad name. A true Christian shows compassion without judgement. And there is _no_ sin in loving someone who is of age and is consenting. A sin is something that turns you away from God. You making judgement upon others is you taking God's place. Meaning you commits a sin.
Lmao my retort to that titled was, “why? Are you interested?” 🤣
This is a great story. My best boss was also a Lesbian. She was more like a Sister to me. I love her so much. Thank you for sharing.
I'm happy about the support from the boss but at the same time so grossed out by people - in a diversity initiative of all things - felt "uncomfortable" about someone's sexual orientation. I realize this was 20 years ago but still! I just don't understand what there even is to be "uncomfortable" about? Is this person hitting on you at work or being inappropriate somehow? No? Then what is there to even talk about? It seems like people feel personally threatened somehow and I literally have never understood why. I know, I'm ranting, gonna stop now.
Jennifer Clauson same with gay marriage. How does gay marriage threaten the institution of marriage? I will never understand why straights feel threatened by gays?
+Ryan Black
if gay marriage affects you, you're probably gay
(or bi like me)
Homophobia is a much worse disease, it comes from ignorance and religion!!
@theRightizright "word of god"
yeah fuck your evil god that doesnt even exist
you just use religion to justify your evil mind
@theRightizright also there is evidence that evolution exists you dumb fuck
but what can i do you are just someone that because you understand nothing you are just going to say "i dont understand this so im going to assume that its fake/wrong
Amazing and positive story. I have been discriminated by work superiors before and it is a devastating experience. I will also soon be seeking new employment and hope to have a boss that is open, fair, and treats everyone the same...
This was a million times better than what I was expecting. ❤️ Good on her and her boss.
"Oh, so you're a Yankee?"
"Yep, I'm from the winning side."
😂
All facts
I'm from Upstate NY. Thirty years ago my brother moved to Atlanta. Twenty years ago his company oved him to Charlotte, where he still lives. After thirty years in the South he is still referred to by some Southerners around him as that damn Yankee halfback. They're still fighting the war more than 150 years later. One reason that you'll never see me retire to the South.
@@tc556guy lol "you lost the war sunshine... you live in MY country, your country was beaten like the slaves asses you owned"
@@HappyfoxBiz Not entirely accurate. It's OUR country. That conflict was over a century and a half ago, and people need to let it go. Unfortunately, we have a new conflict on the horizon. it isn't geographical, but it will split the country apart as much as the previous conflict did, perhaps irrevocably.
Lol. From someone who grew up in Mississippi, I must say that your impression from being called a Yankee may not have been correct. We used that term all the time when I was growing up but it didn’t mean anything good or bad. It just means that somebody was from the north. I would have been enchanted by you when I was growing up because your voice sounds so kind and your speech so clear! You have a beautiful speaking voice! My mother’s pastor at church sent me a letter telling me that he heard that I might be gay and asked if it was true. When I answered yes, he sent a return letter within a couple of days, telling me that I would be disfellowshipped from the church at a meeting that night! I didn’t go to that church anymore so it didn’t matter to me. I’m glad that you had better results than I did when they found you out.
Truth. I'm from Michigan and yankee means you live above the Mason dixon line. Ie you are a northener
Oh my gosh. As a Christian, I’m so sorry that happened to you. It makes me ill when I hear of pastors doing those kind of things. That wasn’t an accurate depiction of Christ’s love and you should know that (which you might but still wanted to say) x
@@Amy.freedomliving Which of the gazillion and a half "Christian" religions are you referring to? Is there a reason you can't just state your religion but instead have to us an umbrella term?
Hi NotMykl, I only ever refer to myself as a Christian, it’s not just for the sake of this comment. I’m not a part of any ‘religion’ - religion is man made. But I’ve heard of many people who prescribe to all kinds of religions inflicting pain on people and when that religion is also said to represent Christ, they’re stepping outside of how Christ would treat people when doing so and that makes me ill. It’s an abuse of power.
How horrible is it that you need permission to be yourself, and amazing is it to have an ally in your corner!
I like you, you expressed yourself very well , you seem to be a real nice woman , all the best.
I'm so glad she supported you! Her sister is obviously important to her and it's amazing seeing family of LGBT standing up for others in the community.
I understand how those words can bring tears to your eyes.
This went exactly the opposite that I thought it was. Have to love it when a supervisor turns out to be on your side.
Weird that no one said anything to that person being so rude to that server. Not even this speaker.
To be next to a "different people" it is not allways necessary to have a close friend or a relative. It is enough to be wise and understand the real value of an human being.
Everyone is different to each other.
Yes but it’s more effective to have a personal touch
I'm glad I'm not a mascara gay; I'd be a mess right now. What an inspiring and thought provoking story.
The build up.. that peak, the pauses for dramatic effect- THE CLIMAX! lol this was so suspenseful 😂🙌🙌
So grateful to have this channel show up on my feed. This is the most heartwarming and wholesome thing I’ve seen in a long time ❤️ thank you guys you’re amazing
Thanks for the comment. I currently sit on the board of I'm From Driftwood and yet I was the first woman to join the team. There is still work to do.
Wow I don't think a coming out story has ever made me cry before.
I like how the boss had her back. Some things are none of people's buainess in the workplace anyway. But what bothered me was the boss's attitude about her coffee (or was it tea?). Dude! If I was her server, I'd be thinking about helping her WEAR that hot beverage! I wouldn't do it, but I'd think it! And as a new employee of hers, I'd seriously be keeping my resume out there. Those little things say alot about people's character. People who provide service for others, whatever service that is, deserve respect. Just because you're the paying customer doesn't mean you need to be a bitch to get a mistake corrected. Simply let that person know that it wasn't hot enough please make it hotter. Now, most servers would gladly correct that error. I value any service provider more on how they handle any errors more than on perfection. Because errors WILL happen. It's when they don't correct it or compensate for it or give a customer a hard time about it that I get fired up on them. That boss was rude and it showed alot about how she would likely deal with her employees.
I love it when we're _so_ relieved, to be 100% wrong! This was fantastic. Thanks for sharing 💕
In a messed up world it is so great to see good people doing small things that have great consequences.
I was so worried for you....thought you were going to say you got fired. So glad that worked out...thank you for sharing the story.
What a lovely, charming person....one cannot comprehend the viciousness of people who try to hurt someone like her
theRightizright
Why should I choose Christianity over any other belief?
@@reneebear3641 Just ignore the arrogant brain-washing victim trying to use religion as an excuse for their own hatred and prejudice. They take pride in bullying other people and being a judgemental arsehole even though their bible tells them judging other people is wrong. They don't care because they're just fake Christians.
@theRightizright hahaha
@theRightizright there are 4,200 religions in the world each with their own backing like christianity. Do you really think yours is the right one ?
@theRightizright you think you are in the correct religion when in fact none are
Dumb ass
Omg, this had such a wholesome heartwarming twist at the end. Great video :)
WOW I came into this expecting a horror story. ♥ This really warmed my heart.
That was not how I expected that to go :D
I did NOT expect the outcome! Wow! Good for your boss! I will always be an ally and a champion for people who are discriminated against!!! Thank you for sharing your story and for reminding us that being an ally has long term effects on people.
This was such a beautiful story
Apparently, some people at the company weren't all that GREAT if they are reporting to management that you are a lesbian!
Wow. I love this story.
Third or forth time I revisited this clip. It just brings me joy and tears to my eyes. /pan male
I’m glad that worked out. So often it doesn’t. I worked at Catholic Community Services of Utah for 11 years until I was thrown out like trash. They said it was “reduction of staff,” but the last several months were filled with gossip and accusations against me they didn’t know I knew about and had corroborated from multiple sources. There was more to it than they care to say, and said so when they let me go after I asked them. “We can’t tell you.” Being Catholic, I understood bearing false witness against others is a mortal sin. The business bearing the name of my religion used that mortal sin as a means to expedite the removal of employees they aren’t supposed to admit they don’t like. What has this done to me at this point in time? Well, they put my life in serious danger and refuse to give me any more information to take to the police to possibly save myself from violent death. There is nothing I can do.
Oh my god I'm loving this.
The ending is AMAZING!
I really thought this story was going to turn out bad. We'll always face prejudices wherever we go. Luckily for this lady it turned out to be a positive one. I'm sure there are millions that are the exact opposite.
Imagine seeing the fear/dread/anxiety on her face because her sexuality offends people.
Imagine being afraid of losing everything because someone else said who you love is wrong.
This story turned out much happier than I expected
You need more lesbian stories on your channel
the story of your boss reminded me of the story of one of my supervisors in the fire dpt. i came out to him as gay at his 19th year anniversary party i was told i was being transferred to a different shift... i did came out to a few that night but my supervisor was the last i told. he was surprised but totally awesome and let me know i was always a pleasure to work with and if when ever im ready to come back he'll pull the necessary strings to get me back. even when he got transferred to another shift months later his offer to bring me on whatever shift hes on still stands and it made me happy to know that theres prople in my life not only accepts me for who i am but actually wants me regardless and look at as an actually person and what i bring to the table... not as a weird guy or who i may or may not sleep with
Be proud of who you are. Love yourself and try to ignore negative people
I honestly didn't know which way that was going until she whether boss said about her sister. You could cut the tension with a knife. And then of course, the tension was instantly dispersed to nothing. Such a simple thing to know someone has your back can make such a huge impact.
What moving story. this brought me to tears. xx
Thank you for sharing your story you are a beautiful courageous soul and need the permission of none to be who you are! I am very sorry that we live in a society so primitive and backward that makes people feel they need permission to just be! Much love to you sweetie
Dear Ingrid, your story inspired me a lot. Thank you. I am so glad that your boss is so understanding and everything turned out to be good in the end! Such moments shape our personality and behaviour. And a little bit your experienced influenced my personality and mindset too. I am only 19 years old, in a year I will finish studying and will be trying to find a job. I am also bisexual. And till today I was afraid only about the reactions of my family, friends and future partner after they hear about my sexuality. You know, problems at work caused by my sexuality have never crossed my mind, though I live in Poland, where many people are still very conservative and same-sex marriages are not legalised yet. Your story made me think about all of this. Will I be able to be open about who I am, if my job will depend on this? Or SHOULD I be open about this, even if that means I will be fired and will change a couple of work places? You know, the easiest thing is to get scared and opt for the safest solution. Just stay silent and work in a peaceful place. But is it really that peaceful? I understood that without our own affort nothing will change. Ever. If we want to hide for the rest of our lives, keep our sexuality a secret from some relatives, co-workers, etc. so they don't abandon us, then it's fine, we may keep being silent. But I don't want such a life for myself. And you know, I still don't know how I would react, would I keep it a secret just to get a job, or act dauntlessly. I don't know. May be I won't be dauntless at the beginning of my journey, as my whole life will depend on my salary. But I am certain that those of us who can afford being their true selves, they should go for this without fear. Yeah, it is though and easier said than done. But we deserve living and working without being scared. We are all equal. And the more we show this world that we exist and we have rights just as heterosexuals do, the sooner we will get our freedom. I believe and this and so should you. Love you all guys, no matter who you are and who you are attracted to. Love is the most beautiful and pure feeling, and nobody should be judged for it. I hope you will experience only love, understanding and acceptance from everyone you meet and what is the most important from yourselves too.
Those of u who live in the first world are lucky, imagine here in Africa, LGBTI people get rejected by schools, employers, churches, families, the community and society at large. Africa needs another 100 years to see the light! Pray for us.
This is amazing! What a great pick me up for my day.
This is an awesome truth being told . I'm glad to see pride Spread and you got a good outcome .
This reminds me of the interaction between Michael Scott and Oscar. LOL. Nice
Great story, thanks for sharing !
It's sad the the situation arose, but it's really lovely that she had support.
I'm glad times have change. We shouldn't have to be afraid to be ourselves because we are all people at the end of the day. I'm glad the boss also saw it that way
That one almost made me cry, such a positive story
Gotta be honest, if that had have been me, I would have said, Well, before I confirm or deny, what's YOUR favourite sexual position?"
It's nobody's business WHO you love. Just love and don't worry about the arseholes. 🥰
Love from Australia
What does one's sexuality have to do with the job? All that truly matters is that one shows up on time, works well with others, and gets stuff done. Period.
And this is why it’s so important that we are authentic! The bosses sister effected that whole company positively.
I like when some of these have a happy ending
Compassion, Empathy & moral support. How profoundly human that these wonderful behaviors are. How much better that they make our culture, our society, our civilization. What kind of pathological society could even exist without them & would we want to live there?
This is a good story. U are a strong, nice and pretty lady. God Bless you.
Such a happy twist!! I'm so happy
Holy plot twist. I’m definitely not crying 😭
This did not go where I thought it would
Bless her. What an utterly sweet natured person.
It is great to hear there are good people in this world. Too much hate going around.
I'm glad she was able to take it as a positive, but it's sad that she ever had to feel that she needed permission to be her authentic self.
They had us at the first half ngl
so inspirational....really does give hope
What a Sweetheart!
"I have been warned that when someone say stuff like that that there's hidden meaning behind"
No there isn't! Someone lied to you.
"I went with an open mind and an open heart"
No you weren't!
Plot twist m. Night style
That boss just went from a zero to 100 like snapp !!
Woah, I'm so glad this didn't end how I thought it would
I had a young Southern man call me a yankee once. I responded to him this way: You know what I hear when I hear the word Yankee? (he looked at me questioningly) WINNER. I said it with strength. And he looked pretty sheepish but smiled at me.
I'd respond, "My home state didn't even exist during the Civil War therefore I am not a Yankee ya idjit." or "My ancestors were both Union and Confederate. And one lucky individual served in BOTH armies, all be it it wasn't his idea to work for the Union Army after his tour of duty with the Virginia state militia."
Not every statement has a hidden meaning to it, my Son-in-law is a Yankee from New York & most of us call him Yank & laugh about it! It's said out of love, endearment & giving him recognition of his birthplace, n turn he calls all of us Okeys! We love him& he loves us!!!
It still doesn't make sense to me. Why do some people try to investigate and police the personal lives of others? Worse yet is the whole vast illogic behind asking that someone else be punished because of one's own discomfort. Why can't we just leave each other alone?
they had us in the first half not gonna lie
It’s work 🙄 Who the hell has time to be concerned with anyone’s sexual orientation? My God. She’s an extraordinary woman ⭐️⭐️
Awww! I was so not expecting that from such a crass person
When Yankee is actually two Dutch names pasted together, Jan and Kees. Me as a Dutch person thinking, what's wrong with Jan and what's wrong with Kees? Great story tough, as a Dutch person, I cannot comprehend this bias towards gay people. In the Netherlands, our Queen back then, signed a bill to approve same sex marriage, making the Netherlands the first country in the world where same sex marriage became legal.
Definitely opposite of what I thought! Good fo her boss. Happy for you🏳️🌈
What a wonderful story (as you told your story, I feared the worst), I'm happy for you.
I thought the story was not going to end well, but happy it did. I just cannot understand why people have to stick their noses into the sexual life of another person (unless, of course, they are interested in that person in a sexual way).
Why is it any boss's business who you have romantic or sexual relationships with? All that matters is that you turn up and do your job properly. It's nobody's business who any one goes to bed with!
The boss wasn’t asking just to ask, she was asking because she was concerned for her employee, she was concerned that she was getting harassed by her coworkers (thankfully she wasn’t) and she wanted to give out a hand to someone she wanted to protect the same way she probably had to protect her sister.
Being from Georgia, sometimes I do say "Ohh you're a yankee?" but it's playful. I don't mean anything by it. Southerners tend to be sarcastic and pick on you a little bit. It's all in good fun. But if it really offends you just let us know :)
Also worth noting that the entire of the UK refer to any Americans, North or South, as Yanks. To us, its just a nickname to mean "an American"
@Shufei uhhh....you are way out on a limb there bud. if we have a problem with you, we will damn sure tell you. all of those phrases you are trying to define are totally wrong. how can you even know what they mean, when you never grew up in the south? im not gonna hate on northerners just because you are an asshole.
Frigglebiscuit nah I live in the south and those definitions are pretty accurate. The south just likes to put a polite face on their hatred.
I am southern, though not Georgia southern, and Yankee to me generally means that you're a little more rude than someone raised in the area. It's the idea that if you were born up north, then the conditions are a little more brusque and business-like than things tend to be in the south. You know it takes us 12 minutes just to say hello. I, personally, have found my southern ways to be a hindrance in the American business world, but a bonus when living and working in other countries that do not rush into business conversations. As far as whatever other connotations are put on Yankee and are implied here, I really have no clue.
Hey. We northerners do the same. I worked at a hospital many years back. I was an Eagles fan and the patient I was taking to the OR was a Texan and loved the Cow Girls. Mind you, it was 2008, or whichever year the Eagles were in the Super Bowl...so of course the entire OR staff was wearing their jerseys...lucky them lol. Anyway, this patient and I had so much fun busting on eachother. And I said to him "wait...you're a Cow Boys fan putting your life into the hands of a bunch of Eagles fans?" He said, "yes ma'am". I said, "are you sure it isn't your head that needs to be operated on?" He just LOST it! 😂
I sm so happy it turned out you had an ally.
The time when this happened!
What an amazing story! Pride!!!!!
Ok, super unfair depiction of the South, it's sad there were some hateful people at her job, but generally speaking when we call people Yankees we mean it entirely playfully, it's not a slur. But yay for the story, that's amazing
there need to be more people like the boss lady person in the world there'd be way less suicides and awful, awful conversion camps if there were
theRightizright
Kids were sexually abused in conversion camps. Considering what is widely known about Catholics, that sounds like God’s love to me.
@theRightizright Fake Christian full of hatred and bigotry.
Touching!
People should be able to do their jobs without their personal lives affecting it, unless of course they are human traffickers or mass murderers.