Waaaayy to intense with new friendships. It tends to scare NT people away, while ND people join you in 'the zone' on the new friendship.That is how you always end up in a group of ND people.
I think I even found my wife like this, while my dating life was a complete disaster. Telling too much, constantly disrupted by newer and newer impulses.
It's called auditory processing..something..something. Maybe even something..auditory processing..something..something. 😞 Sorry. I totally forgot everything they said. I just remembered those two words, because... new shiny pokemon 🤣 I REALLY hope that helps. (I would totally go and look it up for you, but we both know I'd never find my way back here...) 🫂
... i don’t think i’ve seen an ADHD video this relatable before and it’s actually crazy lol i talk so fast (and so much) that people can barely understand me sometimes, and i figured it had something to do with having anxiety + adhd but i’ve never seen the ‘brain shutting down’ thing anywhere and this happens to me all the fucking time 😭 specially if i’m doing something that requires speed, or if i’m concentrating/focusing really hard on something. i’ve tried to explain it but people usually think about the anxious/overthinking kind of “freeze”, and i’m always like ... no actually it’s like my brain just error404-ed for like 10 whole seconds... 🚶🏻♀️ (also the oversharing has made me wanna crawl into a hole and never speak to anyone ever again lots of times lol)
The funny thing is, I pictured you saying all of this really fast, and the paragraph in a youtube comment says it all. In other words, I feel your pain.
I found out I had adhd a few years ago in my mid 40's. I can't even begin to explain how much of my life makes sense now. Problem is, I'm so engrained to the confusion it's hard to adjust. And lets just say, no one around me takes that into consideration. I'm just still unpredictable, scatter brained, and the word I think all adhd'ers hate the most, LAZY!! I've worked harder then anyone I know, yet, I get less accomplished and I HATE IT!! Anyone else relate?? LOL
I didn’t understand ADHA until 4 months ago and I’m 60. I feel like I have just woken up out of a bad dream only to realize I am actually ok. I understand me know. No more thinking I’m crazy. I wish I had been told this 20 years ago when I was diagnosed. I was given a pill and told this will fix the problems. This information needs to be taught to the children. That way they might not grow up hating themselves like I did. The worst part for me was that I was married to a narcissists that became a Dr. Of psychology. She used my ADHA as a weapon to control me.
When you're in mid-sentence and your brain putters out. So you begin filling the gap with stutter-like noises til your brain jumpstarts itself to begin producing thoughts again. Happens all the time.
I was diagnosed with ocd, and ptsd, 2 years ago, but I've had them since I was 4, I'm now 37! I've recently found out that I also have adhd, and had it since childhood as well!😢 Thank you for your video. ❤ I subscribed. 🎉🎉😊❤
I think the oversharing thing is very interesting. I as a person with ADHD, have been totally comfortable talking about my life very honestly to anyone who I at least have a little respect for. Some people find that weird. Also, it is very natural for me to say stuff like "I love you" to my friends. To some that is more difficult. Honesty is very natural to me, and it is the very center of relationships to me. But sometimes I do overshare.
Spot on! I wish I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was a kid and had the medicine my kid had. My kid, has a copy of my brain but the medicine now is waaaaaaayyy better. He is killing it at 21 and i didn't figure shit out until I was 32
I wanted to laugh and cry at the same time in watching this. Because I find the first three really occuring to me, and I am going to be a teacher. It's really difficult for me to communicate and it frustrates me.
ive taken to living in a hole lol better with children and animals. the constant anxiety iim doing the overtalky stuff is too much to risk 'grown up'' people!
There are times when I can be really articulate, but there are other times when I can barely string a sensible sentence together, particularly if I'm in a discussion or debate. I seem to get flustered and not able to select appropriate words in a timely manner and end up waffling. I've failed a few employment interviews because of this issue. Does anyone have a similar problem, and if so how do you deal with it?
I struggle with the same thing. Exercise and eat right often, overstimulation tends to be a very common root issue because when your brain becomes overwhelmed with rapid thoughts and stress, it can be a very bad mixture and can often disrupt the way your brain processes thoughts. Mine gets pretty bad if im in a public environment where there’s lots of noise like cars going by, side conversations from dozens and dozens of different groups of people, ect. Mainly just find outlets to destress often
Thank you! This really helped me to laugh at things I have really been ashamed of all my life. I learned that it’s not really that deep. I mean ya I have some odd mannerisms but I tend to bring high value to a conversation and almost always leave people better than I found them. The only downside is they might have a headache from listening to me talk so much. Hey quality and quantity! That’s a win win! 😂
Man that brain shutting off happened with me when a junior asked me about my fav black rapper singer I was like dude I do listen but right now what tf is black tho 😭😭😭😭😭
Is it just me who just mixes up word and makes a sentence, and the person listening is like , WHAT ?? before i start, it all makes sense, but when i start speaking the words of the sentence maybe right but the format gets mixed up. I have also tried practicing the sentence before i speak, helps to a very minute level.
I know what you're saying. You'll start saying the sentence, but as you're speaking, your brain jumps around the sentence, and the words come out jumbled. You spoke the complete sentence, just not in the right order. Though sometimes I'll stop midway after realizing and trying to piece it back together.
My mom thinks me her and her mom have it. Oh my gosh all this makes so much sense. The brain shutting off thing too.. like when someone asks my birthday sometimes I forget. And all of it just resonates so clearly with me.
As for the movie thing, I just say anything Disney bc that's something everyone can agree on. Or the truth, whatever I'm hyperfixated on is my favorite.
You may be neurodiverse in some other way like bipolar. In the end we don't all fit into a neat little box or label, like they try to make us. Alot of this stems from big harma. It is mostly about shifting drugs!
Of course people can have the symptoms without having the condition... But are you sure you don't have it? Some stuff happens to everyone occasionally and it doesn't mean they have a condition.
U Made a break after point 2 and fast talking. This suggests my brain to scream at me, with information lul Cross diagnosis are also interesting...tell from friend.😂
I hate it. I'll be talking to my daughter, and eventually I'll stop being able to think of topics to talk about, and then long pauses and thankfully she understands what's up but it cuts into the happiest times of my day, so... it's more frustrating now than it used to be.
I had a situation where I oversharing about my family at the the end my friend said: thanks for sharing. but her face was: I didnt need to know about that .
still waiting very patiently to be diagnosed with ADHD, Im from the UK and getting a diagnosis can take over 3 years. Im at around 2 years waiting now.
I do the fast talking thing, I'm whenever I'm with friends the one who's either talking or laughing, I want to get my thoughts out and I have to keep pushing them out, some do get lost, but that's kind of inevitable. Anyone else ever procrastinate swallowing your spit? It sucks because I know I need to swallow but I have SO MUCH TO SAY, so I'm like I'll swallow it later when I have a break in my thoughts. Five minutes later I'm sounding like Sid the Sloth and I know I need to swallow so in those moments I'm almost praying someone interrupts me or interjects so I can swallow. One time last summer it got so bad a friend texted me "Victoria, swallow your spit, it's dripping out", I realized my lip was feeling unusually wet, thankfully I got it before I was full on drooling. I do the oversharing thing, but not as much. I usually don't go the "TMI" route but I might do something like describe something I saw like a 19th century writer would. I don't go blank, but I do have the "what was I saying?" thing on occasion, usually it happens right after I swallow.
Or when you’re trying to talk as fast as your thoughts and end up combining two words. I mixed my coworkers name Taylor with the word train and said Traylor 😅😂
🔥🔥🔥Fire is spicy right? I don’t know if this is a me only thing but I often talk in accents at random times, like I normally talk with a Canadian accent but sometimes it’ll come out as Scottish, British, Irish etc and I have no control over when it happens or when it stops.
I always think I might have it but a lot of people relate to most of ADHD symptoms but I feel like if i say i relate to it on a more higher level it makes me think i'm just asking for attention, which I'm not, or that just because i have really good grade and that I have A's that theirs no way I could have it. I don't want to seem like an attention seeker yet I relate to these on a personal level. Is it wrong to think that?
Are any of these "officially recognized"? The blank thing can happen to people who regularly switch speaking 2 or more languages as you have to "suppress" the original language's vocabulary, so the secondary can come. Now if the word is the same or super similar, then the word won't come to your mind. But hey, why the hell am I speaking about _this_?
Oh my god yes, the oversharing thing, there are people I never want to run into again bc they know too much
😂😂😂😂😂😂 THIS IS ME!!! 😂😂😂😂😂
Yes! Me to.
What a horrible reason not to talk to someone.
That's me and now I know why people run away from me😢
@@brendalg4not really
My favorite is when my brain shuts off mid sentence and I just use the completely wrong word or a form of a word that doesn’t exist.
Waaaayy to intense with new friendships. It tends to scare NT people away, while ND people join you in 'the zone' on the new friendship.That is how you always end up in a group of ND people.
I think I even found my wife like this, while my dating life was a complete disaster. Telling too much, constantly disrupted by newer and newer impulses.
OH MY GOD YES IM SO HAPPY IM NOT ALONE. I feel lucky to have the three people in my life who have stuck around as friends cause of this
I wish. Where are you all?
"Wanna head to the library at 7?"
"What?
"Wanna-"
"Oh yeah sure!"
It takes me a while to realize what people are saying lol.
This! happens all the time haha
Sammeee😢
Ah, yes, the buffering... I do this all the time. Lol.
It's called auditory processing..something..something.
Maybe even something..auditory processing..something..something.
😞
Sorry. I totally forgot everything they said. I just remembered those two words, because... new shiny pokemon 🤣
I REALLY hope that helps. (I would totally go and look it up for you, but we both know I'd never find my way back here...)
🫂
OMG THATS SO TRUE I DIDNT KNOW IT WAS BECAUSE OF ADHD
Yes I hate ADHD. I mumble and pressure talk. I’m impulsive, forgetful and can’t stop moving
This both triggers me and helps me understand my immediate family MUCH much more.
... i don’t think i’ve seen an ADHD video this relatable before and it’s actually crazy lol i talk so fast (and so much) that people can barely understand me sometimes, and i figured it had something to do with having anxiety + adhd but i’ve never seen the ‘brain shutting down’ thing anywhere and this happens to me all the fucking time 😭 specially if i’m doing something that requires speed, or if i’m concentrating/focusing really hard on something. i’ve tried to explain it but people usually think about the anxious/overthinking kind of “freeze”, and i’m always like ... no actually it’s like my brain just error404-ed for like 10 whole seconds... 🚶🏻♀️ (also the oversharing has made me wanna crawl into a hole and never speak to anyone ever again lots of times lol)
The funny thing is, I pictured you saying all of this really fast, and the paragraph in a youtube comment says it all. In other words, I feel your pain.
You missed "I'm sorry what were you saying? Five minutes ago you mentioned cats and I've been thinking about that else ever since. "
YEs!!! THIS. 😄💯
when I was younger I could almost never finish a long sentence because I would shuffle the words putting the end of the sentence in the middle
I found out I had adhd a few years ago in my mid 40's. I can't even begin to explain how much of my life makes sense now. Problem is, I'm so engrained to the confusion it's hard to adjust. And lets just say, no one around me takes that into consideration. I'm just still unpredictable, scatter brained, and the word I think all adhd'ers hate the most, LAZY!! I've worked harder then anyone I know, yet, I get less accomplished and I HATE IT!! Anyone else relate?? LOL
yes
I didn’t understand ADHA until 4 months ago and I’m 60. I feel like I have just woken up out of a bad dream only to realize I am actually ok. I understand me know. No more thinking I’m crazy. I wish I had been told this 20 years ago when I was diagnosed. I was given a pill and told this will fix the problems. This information needs to be taught to the children. That way they might not grow up hating themselves like I did. The worst part for me was that I was married to a narcissists that became a Dr. Of psychology. She used my ADHA as a weapon to control me.
Yes. People won't cut me any slack at all. I had to figure it out myself and tell my doctor I needed ADHD treatment. I was 59.
Whole heartedly yes
Ive just entertained that I could have life long adhd at 53yo. Overshareing well i better stop im a oversharerer lol🤣 great to hear testimonies
ADHD couple? Solidarity. Also, it's infinitely heartwarming that we have you making videos for us.
After watching this with my husband, he said, “When did you make that video?”!!❤
When you're in mid-sentence and your brain putters out. So you begin filling the gap with stutter-like noises til your brain jumpstarts itself to begin producing thoughts again. Happens all the time.
Or worse...keep talking with the hopes that some sort of clarity will emerge for the other person...
same with me. I sometimes fast talk then trip into my own words. People think I have a mini stroke half way through speaking. 😅
I was diagnosed with ocd, and ptsd, 2 years ago, but I've had them since I was 4, I'm now 37! I've recently found out that I also have adhd, and had it since childhood as well!😢 Thank you for your video. ❤ I subscribed. 🎉🎉😊❤
I think the oversharing thing is very interesting. I as a person with ADHD, have been totally comfortable talking about my life very honestly to anyone who I at least have a little respect for. Some people find that weird. Also, it is very natural for me to say stuff like "I love you" to my friends. To some that is more difficult. Honesty is very natural to me, and it is the very center of relationships to me. But sometimes I do overshare.
Spot on! I wish I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was a kid and had the medicine my kid had. My kid, has a copy of my brain but the medicine now is waaaaaaayyy better. He is killing it at 21 and i didn't figure shit out until I was 32
What is the name of the medication ? We tried one for our son before it was bad
@@foreversadddd8337tell the doctor the medicine didn't work and ask for a substitute.
You are spot on with this and many other things too
I wanted to laugh and cry at the same time in watching this. Because I find the first three really occuring to me, and I am going to be a teacher. It's really difficult for me to communicate and it frustrates me.
AAahh this is so relatable I feel like crawling in a hole sometimes 🫠🫠
ive taken to living in a hole lol
better with children and animals.
the constant anxiety iim doing the overtalky stuff is too much to risk 'grown up'' people!
There are times when I can be really articulate, but there are other times when I can barely string a sensible sentence together, particularly if I'm in a discussion or debate. I seem to get flustered and not able to select appropriate words in a timely manner and end up waffling. I've failed a few employment interviews because of this issue.
Does anyone have a similar problem, and if so how do you deal with it?
I struggle with the same thing. Exercise and eat right often, overstimulation tends to be a very common root issue because when your brain becomes overwhelmed with rapid thoughts and stress, it can be a very bad mixture and can often disrupt the way your brain processes thoughts. Mine gets pretty bad if im in a public environment where there’s lots of noise like cars going by, side conversations from dozens and dozens of different groups of people, ect. Mainly just find outlets to destress often
I hate this so much I don’t know what to do , everyone says I’m smart but it makes me feel so dumb 😢
Thank you! This really helped me to laugh at things I have really been ashamed of all my life. I learned that it’s not really that deep. I mean ya I have some odd mannerisms but I tend to bring high value to a conversation and almost always leave people better than I found them. The only downside is they might have a headache from listening to me talk so much. Hey quality and quantity! That’s a win win! 😂
Is forgetting words and also loosing the physical ability to speak when tired an ADHD thing?
happens to me too
Watched: 5/5 understanding, thank you for educating me on this topic I haven't thought much about.
Absolutely relatable. I'm thinking about more Comorbidity with Speech delay and problems like stuttering
Imagine have adhd fast talking and then you also have a speech issue so Noone definitely understands anything you have said
But I know what I said or at least what I ment to say
Man that brain shutting off happened with me when a junior asked me about my fav black rapper singer I was like dude I do listen but right now what tf is black tho 😭😭😭😭😭
Is it just me who just mixes up word and makes a sentence, and the person listening is like , WHAT ?? before i start, it all makes sense, but when i start speaking the words of the sentence maybe right but the format gets mixed up. I have also tried practicing the sentence before i speak, helps to a very minute level.
I know what you're saying. You'll start saying the sentence, but as you're speaking, your brain jumps around the sentence, and the words come out jumbled. You spoke the complete sentence, just not in the right order. Though sometimes I'll stop midway after realizing and trying to piece it back together.
your content is amazing and so accurate, I feel seen haha, thank you
you're so welcome! Glad to hear that you find it relatable.😊💕
My mom thinks me her and her mom have it. Oh my gosh all this makes so much sense. The brain shutting off thing too.. like when someone asks my birthday sometimes I forget. And all of it just resonates so clearly with me.
I started to learn English, then I watched your video, English is wonderful! Can you make more videos like this? Your accent is great.
Thanks--so true!!!
So true. Thank you!
How can I stop forgetting things in my speech, I just stop thinking what I was just trying to think about like you said
As for the movie thing, I just say anything Disney bc that's something everyone can agree on. Or the truth, whatever I'm hyperfixated on is my favorite.
Going blank and over sharing is me
THE ACOTAR/ACOMAF REFERENCE???
As someone without ADHD I for some reason relate to all of these, especially the fast talking
You may be neurodiverse in some other way like bipolar. In the end we don't all fit into a neat little box or label, like they try to make us. Alot of this stems from big harma.
It is mostly about shifting drugs!
Of course people can have the symptoms without having the condition... But are you sure you don't have it? Some stuff happens to everyone occasionally and it doesn't mean they have a condition.
This video is so relatable thanks
Bro when I talk I constantly say "the thing with the place where u do the thing" stuff like that and I always sound dumb af but my brain just said no
Your humour is great! So relatable, fellow adhd-er here haha
Do you in this????
Thousand reason why I do, 1000 reasons why I don’t.
Ending in awkward stare for 2-3 seconds.
i swear i’m just filler words to prevent the words that’s coming out my mouth that doesn’t exist or make any sense. Especially stuttering
U Made a break after point 2 and fast talking.
This suggests my brain to scream at me, with information lul
Cross diagnosis are also interesting...tell from friend.😂
Holy god this is so me...I thought I was crazy hearing millions of voices yelling all at once....
🌶️ thank you for making this 🫶 made me feel not so alone
...all this time... been having adhd without having realized it till today ;~;
🌶🌶🌶first video I’ve seen about having adhd that I feel like I can relate to🌶🌶🌶
i immediately thought the "spicy chapter 53 of my life" was a reference to a court of mist and fury lol
love it. thanks for sharing!!!
I hate it. I'll be talking to my daughter, and eventually I'll stop being able to think of topics to talk about, and then long pauses and thankfully she understands what's up but it cuts into the happiest times of my day, so... it's more frustrating now than it used to be.
So relatable
I had a situation where I oversharing about my family at the the end my friend said: thanks for sharing. but her face was: I didnt need to know about that .
All of these are painfully true for me
Plz come back
Edit: commented this when all I had seen was that it had been a year since you last posted but after watching the video PLEASE COME BACK
still waiting very patiently to be diagnosed with ADHD, Im from the UK and getting a diagnosis can take over 3 years. Im at around 2 years waiting now.
Going blank, chaotic ever changing thoughts and what I was saying are so relatable.. any solution to this?
It’s so true lol
I think the reason why we try to speak fast is because we try to speak our minds fast before our thoughts go away.
🌶️🌶️I usually like to recommend the bonus chapters so that afterwards I can absolutely beat myself up 🤣🤣
I love your videos❤. Very relatable and helpful. Oh, and 🌶️🌶️🌶️
Hey
Guess if I was able to watch this 1 minute and a half video from beginning to end in one go?
Thank god. For this video
your video is amazing i just love your Humor👌😁❤️
thank you! 😁❤
"What is this movie you speak of?" lol
I think I have adhd cause everything you meantioned happens alot with me. I hate my brain
Struggling with customers over here! Not sure if its ADHD! But I think it is!
I do the fast talking thing, I'm whenever I'm with friends the one who's either talking or laughing, I want to get my thoughts out and I have to keep pushing them out, some do get lost, but that's kind of inevitable. Anyone else ever procrastinate swallowing your spit? It sucks because I know I need to swallow but I have SO MUCH TO SAY, so I'm like I'll swallow it later when I have a break in my thoughts. Five minutes later I'm sounding like Sid the Sloth and I know I need to swallow so in those moments I'm almost praying someone interrupts me or interjects so I can swallow. One time last summer it got so bad a friend texted me "Victoria, swallow your spit, it's dripping out", I realized my lip was feeling unusually wet, thankfully I got it before I was full on drooling. I do the oversharing thing, but not as much. I usually don't go the "TMI" route but I might do something like describe something I saw like a 19th century writer would. I don't go blank, but I do have the "what was I saying?" thing on occasion, usually it happens right after I swallow.
Confusing words is a big one of mine, and mixing my friends names, “ hey Jon am Jerry am dani come here for a sec 😂
Or when you’re trying to talk as fast as your thoughts and end up combining two words. I mixed my coworkers name Taylor with the word train and said Traylor 😅😂
Yep, definitely all of the above ☝️🌶
Somehow I can lecture someone on quantum theory but cannot answer a simple question like "what's your favourite movie"🌶🌶🌶
I hate the going blank part. I forget simple words when trying to talk and I feel like an idiot
i hate that i talk so much because people want to stop talking or listening because i yap so much and talk so fast
Thank you for this🌶️🌶️🌶️🌶️🌶️🌶️🌶️🌶️🌶️
Woah… this sounds like spying on me :(
Yesssss... a huge yessss ...
🔥🔥🔥Fire is spicy right? I don’t know if this is a me only thing but I often talk in accents at random times, like I normally talk with a Canadian accent but sometimes it’ll come out as Scottish, British, Irish etc and I have no control over when it happens or when it stops.
Me too!😢😂😂😂❤
“Fire is spicy right” god what was I thinking when I wrote this? In fact I don’t even remember writing this.
I thought the fast-talkin thing was just a nyc thing lol 😂😂😂😂
OOOO ,MY FUCKIN G GOSHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
I talk extremely fast and nothing people say helps does anyone have any tips because it’s really bad and I feel so bad when no one understands me
I always think I might have it but a lot of people relate to most of ADHD symptoms but I feel like if i say i relate to it on a more higher level it makes me think i'm just asking for attention, which I'm not, or that just because i have really good grade and that I have A's that theirs no way I could have it. I don't want to seem like an attention seeker yet I relate to these on a personal level. Is it wrong to think that?
I can't rest.Help
lol we wildin out the mouth
Do you monologe to people too
All of this plus I mumble!! Lol fuck
I am wondering if it is why people don't like me.
Okay so solutions??
I am doing tones of things to reduce adhd
And then come days when you cannot speak and the guy starts to think...Wtf is wrong whit that girl.Yep.
🌶️🌶️🌶️
Are any of these "officially recognized"? The blank thing can happen to people who regularly switch speaking 2 or more languages as you have to "suppress" the original language's vocabulary, so the secondary can come. Now if the word is the same or super similar, then the word won't come to your mind. But hey, why the hell am I speaking about _this_?
How come over sharing is adhd
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That sounds like ADD too, me
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I sound dumb lately
🌶️ Spicy Comment 😺
Chilli