This is utterly disgusting and the long term damage being done to these children is criminal. The costs of "care" for children in the system is on par with private school boarding. Yet the outcomes could not be more stark. "Judge a society on how they treat the most vulnerable."
I grew up in care and I felt like every time I had to go to a Children's Panel before I moved, it was as if I was cattle or a piece of furniture being auctioned off to whoever was willing to take me, since I was unwanted everywhere else. They sat and talked about how terrible you were as if you weren't even in the room. You are no longer a person, you are considered government property. Everything was about extreme control and micro-management. You felt like you couldn't speak out about being mistreated because the social workers were just as bad and they always took the carer's side. You were not allowed to learn any skills to do things for yourself, got punished for trying to be independent in every way and then they expected you to just know those things at a certain age and would punish you for failing at it. "This is why you can't be trusted to do things for yourself". No mistakes were allowed or you would be threatened with the secure unit for the smallest thing (that's the foster care equivalent of prison). They deliberately set you up for failure and god forbid you want to be something like an artist or musician or a doctor, something other than working in Tesco for your whole life because you were considered a failure. I had a lot of learned helplessness that I still struggle with and at 30, I'm still way behind everyone else at my age with knowing certain skills or just developmentally because it stunts your development. I've got C-PTSD, Quiet BPD, chronic depression and anxiety now.
The first thing you learn when taking care of children in crisis is to keep as many familiar things/people/places around them as possible. Those people doing this know what they are doing 😥
The people having these children in the first place are the ones who know what they are doing, and know perfectly well they are unfit to raise a hamster. When you look closely, this country is horrendous.
@@hansiesma16 I think you’re being grossly unfair. Most people would argue it’s a lot harder to raise a child a you think it is. Some people find out the hard way.
@@csharpe5787 are you joking? Parents who drink, take drugs, can’t even care for themselves, violently abuse and neglect innocent children. Are you joking?
The majority of children in care come from a segment of the population that has always been of least interest to government: the poor and dysfunctional. Until a government exists that supports bottom-up development, things will not improve for poor families or the nation.
Absolutely..It seems to be a cycle of neglect. Often the care leavers have children young, who in their turn get taken into care- and so it goes on. EVERY child deserves to be nurtured and loved, but this is far from reality, unfortunately.
Children's Social Care vs Private Equity. You can't have them on the same page. The fact we're referenced as data, and used to make a profit instead of the correct care given sickens me.
I can only hope that this young woman has received an education and will be a responsible hard working parent that can provide for her daughter beyond state benefits.
This shows how psychologically damaged our children are, but they’re farmed out to corporate businesses, often run by wealth funds, rather than caring organisations!
Me and my partner got put off fostering by how the local authority treated us. We were doing some renovations at the time. If they said once completed, try again later and left it at we might have continued, but we were judged on our choice of home decor. We are big fans of rock/metal music and horror films and got told our house would be to scary.
@Tuber80 and people wonder why they struggle to find Foster parents. So many of the social workers rule out potential foster carers for so many silly reasons.
Why not move the carer to the child town? And if you already place the child, why would you move the child 9 times? I get that they may move you to emergency carer and after that to long term carer. But 9 times? That's wild.
@@puclopuclik4108 Our old neighbours used to be foster carers for very ''hard to place'' teenagers. {They are now retired, but they found teenaged girls really hard to ''keep safe'' as men targeted them- It was horrifying. Men can sense a vulnerable child at 100 paces. The girls especially were extremely vulnerable to ''groomers''. In the end, the foster carers said they could only take boys, because of the predatory men.
@@Oakleaf700 I do agree with you on this. Predatory men do target teenage vulnerable girls for two reasons. Children are naive at that age, and those girls never had good example how healthy relationship should look like. I'm sorry that it had to end the way it doesn't benefits the girl. I wish there would be better law to protect teenagers and punish predators.
How can it cost as much as private schooling when it delivers so badly? There are people making money out of children in care and making too much money for poor service delivery.
Our family courts are shocking. The number of fathers alienated from their kids not out of choice is outrageous. We will look back on this system with shame.
So many red flags in this story which suggest that this is probably only half the story . Sound like there may have been some behavioral issues there .
While I do feel for the children of underdeveloped countries, you shouldn't diminish another child's suffering just because there are other children worse off.
@@DG-ie5ip I don't need to. If a corporation was billing £5000/ week to improve the life outcomes of kids in the third world, I'd expect some investigation. I think you need to watch the video again and figure out what it's about, before you respond.
Fertility treatment has nothing to do with this problem. Firstly, people naturally want their own offsprings. Secondly, children from social care often have trauma and special needs. Not everyone can provide for those children. It's better to not adopt than being another bad parent. Finally, those who seek fertility treatment aren't those whose children end up in care. Those children come from disfunctional families. There is physical and mental abuse. Alcohol and drugs are often involved. Those children may have been unwanted in the first place.
@puclopuclik4108 you can lie to yourself and others but parents are a limited resource and instead of saving a living breathing child they choose to breed. Its bad eugenics it's saying your genes are better and I can not love a child that I do not see myself in. Look I was raped and beating then went to fostercare and got raped and beaten again. I was 3. It isn't that ohh those are bad ppl. It's that only bad ppl are choosing to foster.
See the comment left by user "Frightday." She said that she and her husband wanted to foster but were turned down due to their choice of decoration in their house.
This is utterly disgusting and the long term damage being done to these children is criminal. The costs of "care" for children in the system is on par with private school boarding. Yet the outcomes could not be more stark. "Judge a society on how they treat the most vulnerable."
Then, they should look at the whole system. 45 years ago was not much different.
@@DatBeautifulNightmare if you knew it, you would argue that it’s worse!
I grew up in care and I felt like every time I had to go to a Children's Panel before I moved, it was as if I was cattle or a piece of furniture being auctioned off to whoever was willing to take me, since I was unwanted everywhere else. They sat and talked about how terrible you were as if you weren't even in the room. You are no longer a person, you are considered government property. Everything was about extreme control and micro-management. You felt like you couldn't speak out about being mistreated because the social workers were just as bad and they always took the carer's side. You were not allowed to learn any skills to do things for yourself, got punished for trying to be independent in every way and then they expected you to just know those things at a certain age and would punish you for failing at it. "This is why you can't be trusted to do things for yourself". No mistakes were allowed or you would be threatened with the secure unit for the smallest thing (that's the foster care equivalent of prison). They deliberately set you up for failure and god forbid you want to be something like an artist or musician or a doctor, something other than working in Tesco for your whole life because you were considered a failure. I had a lot of learned helplessness that I still struggle with and at 30, I'm still way behind everyone else at my age with knowing certain skills or just developmentally because it stunts your development. I've got C-PTSD, Quiet BPD, chronic depression and anxiety now.
The first thing you learn when taking care of children in crisis is to keep as many familiar things/people/places around them as possible. Those people doing this know what they are doing 😥
The people having these children in the first place are the ones who know what they are doing, and know perfectly well they are unfit to raise a hamster. When you look closely, this country is horrendous.
@@hansiesma16 I think you’re being grossly unfair. Most people would argue it’s a lot harder to raise a child a you think it is. Some people find out the hard way.
@@csharpe5787 are you joking? Parents who drink, take drugs, can’t even care for themselves, violently abuse and neglect innocent children. Are you joking?
The majority of children in care come from a segment of the population that has always been of least interest to government: the poor and dysfunctional. Until a government exists that supports bottom-up development, things will not improve for poor families or the nation.
Absolutely..It seems to be a cycle of neglect. Often the care leavers have children young, who in their turn get taken into care- and so it goes on.
EVERY child deserves to be nurtured and loved, but this is far from reality, unfortunately.
Children's Social Care vs Private Equity. You can't have them on the same page. The fact we're referenced as data, and used to make a profit instead of the correct care given sickens me.
It's sickening that human and social needs (especially of children) come second to profit. Yet this is the world the Tories want.
I can only hope that this young woman has received an education and will be a responsible hard working parent that can provide for her daughter beyond state benefits.
Children in care are suffering. It is so sad . It is upsetting 😢😢
What beautiful precious baby she now has❤ God bless and protect both of them
This shows how psychologically damaged our children are, but they’re farmed out to corporate businesses, often run by wealth funds, rather than caring organisations!
Why is there an increase of 62% in last 10 years of children being taken into care?
Because of many reasons, a general collapse of parenting, poverty, social media, covid...
Me and my partner got put off fostering by how the local authority treated us. We were doing some renovations at the time. If they said once completed, try again later and left it at we might have continued, but we were judged on our choice of home decor. We are big fans of rock/metal music and horror films and got told our house would be to scary.
wow, that's so messed up. sorry to hear this!
@Tuber80 and people wonder why they struggle to find Foster parents. So many of the social workers rule out potential foster carers for so many silly reasons.
Sherrie's is so brave . Sherrie's is incredible. Sherrie's is inspirational ❤❤❤
Disgusting and needs to stop tearing up innocent families 😢
This is so sad honestly, It’s not the child’s fault and clearly she’s a good person
Care shouldn't be privatised
It's not as if they choose to place them away. There are no foster carers available a lot of times
Why not move the carer to the child town?
And if you already place the child, why would you move the child 9 times? I get that they may move you to emergency carer and after that to long term carer. But 9 times? That's wild.
@@puclopuclik4108 Our old neighbours used to be foster carers for very ''hard to place'' teenagers.
{They are now retired, but they found teenaged girls really hard to ''keep safe'' as men targeted them- It was horrifying.
Men can sense a vulnerable child at 100 paces. The girls especially were extremely vulnerable to ''groomers''.
In the end, the foster carers said they could only take boys, because of the predatory men.
@@Oakleaf700 I do agree with you on this. Predatory men do target teenage vulnerable girls for two reasons. Children are naive at that age, and those girls never had good example how healthy relationship should look like.
I'm sorry that it had to end the way it doesn't benefits the girl. I wish there would be better law to protect teenagers and punish predators.
Why are the children taken into care on the first place?
Serious neglect by parent/s. No local authority wants to take children away from their families, as it's distressing for the children.
Un titolo perfetto!!!
How can it cost as much as private schooling when it delivers so badly? There are people making money out of children in care and making too much money for poor service delivery.
😢so bad😢
Unfortunately, it’s BUSINESS for them, every child makes Southands if not millions of pounds.
Broken and broke Britain. Is anyone surprised?
Our family courts are shocking.
The number of fathers alienated from their kids not out of choice is outrageous.
We will look back on this system with shame.
Why don't you put the money back into children homes/make their lives better?!?!
😢😢😢
So many red flags in this story which suggest that this is probably only half the story . Sound like there may have been some behavioral issues there .
You are you don’t have a feel
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Don’t have the data what a joke it’s not complicated. Unless you want it to be.
What is this about?
Birth control, it saves lives. By preventing life crestion. 😂
Sorry to hear that. I know how you feel.💔💔💔🫶🏽
Does Cerise have a job or just living if the benefits system?
How is this Q relevant?
She's very lucky compared to poor kids in the third world which have no care system at all
Nobody is talking about them. What kind of usurper of authority/demon are you?
While I do feel for the children of underdeveloped countries, you shouldn't diminish another child's suffering just because there are other children worse off.
How is that relevant?
@@DG-ie5ip I don't need to. If a corporation was billing £5000/ week to improve the life outcomes of kids in the third world, I'd expect some investigation. I think you need to watch the video again and figure out what it's about, before you respond.
"you get in random people's cars." Its called uber, and lyft. Its also capled being a prostitute. 😂
Ppl are using fertility treatments instead of adopting and fostering child. Because society says the only children that matter have to share dna.
Fertility treatment has nothing to do with this problem.
Firstly, people naturally want their own offsprings.
Secondly, children from social care often have trauma and special needs. Not everyone can provide for those children. It's better to not adopt than being another bad parent.
Finally, those who seek fertility treatment aren't those whose children end up in care. Those children come from disfunctional families. There is physical and mental abuse. Alcohol and drugs are often involved. Those children may have been unwanted in the first place.
@puclopuclik4108 you can lie to yourself and others but parents are a limited resource and instead of saving a living breathing child they choose to breed. Its bad eugenics it's saying your genes are better and I can not love a child that I do not see myself in.
Look I was raped and beating then went to fostercare and got raped and beaten again. I was 3. It isn't that ohh those are bad ppl. It's that only bad ppl are choosing to foster.
See the comment left by user "Frightday." She said that she and her husband wanted to foster but were turned down due to their choice of decoration in their house.