Dylan, gurl, omfg! 🙀 so glad you got out of that sick shit! I’m from Tennessee… I would have Volunteered to beat his ass. You seem to be a very good person and you deserve better! I just started watching your channel, and since I’ve been praying for you (gay Christian here). Proud for you that you have survived and flourishing! Your community will be there for you! Please enjoy your life and succeed… you’re so young and a beautiful soul. I’ll try to keep up with your posts. Thanks for sharing!
A narcissist is like a human haunted house with a lot of dark secrets that they hide from you. Yep, the house (narc) looks peaceful on the outside but once your get in, it slowly gets worse and worse and you'll be living a nightmare before you know it.
I simply can’t believe that anyone could’ve treated someone like you in that way 😢 I pray that you’ll continue to find genuine and true love in your life❤
Your bravery in revealing such deeply personal chapters of your life has truly moved me. Escaping the grasp of such a tumultuous relationship is an immense battle, one that undoubtedly etches lasting scars upon the heart. I extend my utmost admiration for the incredible courage you have shown in breaking free and choosing the path of self-love. It's an act of profound strength and self-respect.
6:25 Near the end of my "situationship" my ex said "You were just a groupie 😂" , denied even dating me. They always do that, call their partners names.
My friend, its a good thing that there are people like worthless metal. But others are like diamonds and gold!...and you are like this group! ..and you will find someone like you! You have a sweet and loving heart.❤ hugs, Mike.
I have a very bad story with a person like that as well. In my case, it was a straight relationship. I am the female and the guy was the narcissistic psychopath. If I were to tell the whole story I would be writing a PhD dissertation! For the sake of time I will jump to the end. I had to literally plan my escape as well. I was assisted by my former manager. I remember the day very well October 23rd 2018. We had to time it down to the wire because he could come back at any moment. We were living together. Well at about 3pm, my manager pulled up with her SUV. I had my bags ready to go. I got in and slammed the door! I later found out that I had just missed him he came back 10 minutes after I left. There was another time before this about 6 months earlier I had tried to leave. He found out and almost choked me out. That day in October I really had the will. Nothing was going to stop me. A few days later I was on a bus to Indiana with my 10 month old Maltipoo Nikola. I felt that threatened that I had to leave the state. I am now back in my home state of California with Nikola❤ still by my side. We even have a new family member a Terrier mix named Juliette ❤ I urge anyone in any kind of an abusive relationship to Get out and stay Out!! Go no Contact and never let that type of Soul Crushing Rot in your life ever again!! You are worth so much more. ✌️✌️🕊️🕊️❤️
Unfortunately, he knew your weaknesses and vulnerability and took advantage of them. He was quite a disturbed person. Glad you were able to get away from him!
WOW! That’s all I can think of. What a total prick…..I am sorry you had to experience that . I have am in a relationship with a guy 10yrs younger than me, and we are together for 16 years….. I just can’t image such a toxic relationship experience. You were very lucky you got the courage to walk… or should I say RUN…. Away from that total prick. Well done u! And Tks for sharing. U come across as a thoroughly decent soul. Wishing u the best from Ireland
I dated a narcissist three years ago and I still have PTSD and dealing with depression. It's good at least that we become aware of the red flags to be more cautious with new people. Best wishes!
Relationships work when individuals have something to give to the relationship. When someone has nothing to give to the relationship, they become abusive in order to keep the relationship.
Wow, my experience was exactly the same as yours! I learn the same lesson you did from your experience. I ❤ you brother, hang in there. Your life will turn out just fine!
…you were much like me: you go in it for love and they treat you like a PRETTY-BOY POSSESSION/TOKEN to be admired for HIS own use. Anything that you do is KNOCKED DOWN so that you do not build ANY kind of security for yourself!
Had it happen to me except I was older, 28, world traveled from the Marines and some College. With all this, it slowly got so controlling that I was embarrassed that it happened to me. I feared for my life when we finally broke up. It can happen to anyone. Sorry dude.
Sorry you had to go through all that. No one should have to live like that. Glad you distanced your self when you did, who knows what could have happened if you had stayed.
As a 58 yo Australian gay man I can relate to this, and i'm so glad you are out of that relationship, no-one deserves to be treated like that, especially if this person claims to love you, thanks for telling the story an I hope it helps others to have the courage to leave these bad relationship Mark
Just by watching your videos tells me you are too sweet of a person to have had to go through something like that. I am so sorry you had to go through it. I'm glad you got away from him. A guy would be lucky to have you. Stay you.
Life gets so much better as we mature, looking back and do learning from our experiences and mistakes. To avoid seeking validation in others is definitely among the most important of lessons one can take. We must be happy with ourselves and our own company first, there is no one else more deserving than our love than we are ourselves.
I had that kind of relationship really, a selfish person and never said sorry for the things he ever done to me and very prideful but most of all self centered. 😢
Goodness. You are a handsome Southern Man. I grew up in the Chalreston area, and later in Georgia. They don't make 'em like we do in the South. Please be safe out here and pray to God to help you make better choices.
I also met my sociopath ex when I was 19. We met online and a week later he called me crying telling me that his roommates were kicking him out because he's gay, and that he didn't have anywhere to go. Being young and naive, I told him he could stay with me temporarily until he made other arrangements. Well, that turned into almost two years of pure HELL! He knew the laws and I could not get rid of him no matter what I tried. That was 22 years ago and I still get bitter about it.
I was in a long term relationship with a narcissist and I can relate to many of the things you described. I feel for you and what you went through, I’m not sure if I’m still completely back to who I was. I hope you find love and happiness! ❤ 5:27
The psychological abuse keeps on doing damage in the form of rumination. Therapy and Welbutrin helped me push beyond the pain and angst, but the trick is to not fall back into the same trap. I'm now an old man and have outlived every one of them. Looking back, I can see my part in it, and I'm most thankful for everyone who stepped forward to help guide me out of the darkness and into the light.
WoW I relate to this so much. I was with a Narc for almost 8 years. And tried to get away so many times and he always lured me in with empty promises. I always denied he was a narc bc he never cheated. It wasnt until the end when I broke up with him I found out he was immediately talking to another girl it made me question everything. They are so dramatic and controlling and will go after you if you are empathetic and come from troubled home. Thank you for sharing your story. This can help so many and I'm so happy you were able to leave successfully.
Yeah man. I spent 21 yrs in love wit a narcissist. It’s called a “crazy maker”. My heart breaks for you. If I were not; “Unsinkable” I would be dead, right now. I became obsessed with figuring this nonsense out, & I went to my public library & researched the”DSM”. I spotted the personality disorder in the diagnostic manual.
You're such a sensitive person, and sensitive people get hurt. I'm over 30 years older than you, but I recognize my younger self in you. Continue your life lessons, and please continue to share them. Best of all to you.
I was with my narcissist / psychopath for nearly 15 years. I'm glad you were able to move on from it. I've been single for almost 12 years now and have no interest in dating because of the damage that was done.
I dated a guy who always said he could get whoever any of his ex’s were dating. We quit dating and he was making assumptions as far as people I dated. I had two guys that were just friends come up to me and tell me my ex tried to kiss them in the bar parking lot. While the guy he was currently dating was in the bar. Dodged that bullet.
Man! That is insanity! I never personally experienced any of that but I grew up around abuse all the time. I always wondered why these women stayed in these abusive relationships. Your explanation helps me understand a bit better. My sister was in an abusive relationship and the guy was physical with her. Broke her ribs one time. I was like, "you have your WHOLE family here to back you up. Why you keep going back?" I never understood it. She lost a ton of weight from the injuries and died about 9 months later. I'm VERY glad you had the understanding to get tf out.
I listened carefully to the entire podcast. I was really shocked. 😢 I'm sorry he put you through that. I've never heard of it. Glad you are ok and God continues to bless you, dear.
I can relate to your situation on multiple levels.. The mean suspicious behavior, the wardrobe control .Your situation was my literally identical to my life when I was 24. In my case He claimed he dumped me yet I am the one who fled not only the house but the whole state in the middle of the night in fear of him with just a suitcase 23 years later I still have zero contact with him thankfully. I never wish such a relationship on anyone . Stay strong. Better days are ahead for you.
His behaviour is known as coercive control, and is absolutely typical. According to the law of England and Wales, section 76 of the Serious Crime Act 2015 (SCA 2015) created the offence of controlling or coercive behaviour in an intimate or family relationship. I don't think there is one law in the US to cover this behaviour but everyone, especially young people, should be aware that it is harmful and criminal. Get away from such a person as soon as you can!!! Coercive control is generally thought of as a man controlling a woman but there must be gay men who like to control. For people outside the relationship, keep an eye out for the controller painting the controlled as mad: 'He / she is absolutely crazy; do you know what s/he did the other day....?' Once or twice in a jovial way is OK, but if it keeps happening without humour, the one being spoken of might need help.
My own brother was a narcissist, never got along as kids, I met up with him in a gay bar (we're both gay), from there I tried to be friends, but after 20 years of trying to do so, I'd just had enough. I finally had to put him out of my life.
Oh, he beat me up twice, finally, he got arrested or drug use. While he was in jail, I filed for a restrictive order from the judge, and I got away from him, and he within two months move to Los Angeles, California.
I am sorry you have been through so much. Abuse can be verbal, hitting, stealing from someone that you are in a relationship with, a lot of different things. Unfortunately a lot of guys do that because they are the ones that are cheating.
You are the sweetest most gentle soul Dylan. I'm sensitive too and this video wrecked me. How I escaped that horror is only by the grace of God. I can only imagine. I love your videos buddy. You truly inspire me.❤
Damn, you went through the experience you had with your family, and then THIS? Okay, is that going to be part of the book? If that's the case, just remember, I'm still here to help you with the screenplay for the movie, which will most definitely NOT be a Hallmark Channel movie. And seriously, glad you've been able to move on, you seem to be an adorable kid, both inside and out. I gave you a virtual hug on another video, I'm giving you another one with this video. Hope you're good with that.
@@dylangabriel13 , you're more than welcome and then some. I can relate to some of what you've been through, as I grew up in a small, rural town in northern Arkansas, where "religion" was king. But I dated women most of my life (never longer than about six months), even though I pretty much knew I preferred guys. The last woman I dated was 15 years ago (she'd been the first in over 10 years), and I've never dated a guy. I've only occasionally hooked up with a seemingly completely hetero friend or a friend of one of those friends. I have a son (close to your age) and he's never asked about me and my "preferences", though I've told myself for years if he ever did, I'd tell him the truth. It's just that he hasn't asked, though I think he probably has a pretty good idea, and pretty much doesn't care. I'd go on a bit further, but I really should've stopped a few sentences ago. That's what happens when I get into the evening wine. Maybe I'll pick it up from there with your next video. 😉
@@dylangabriel13Hi well i have experienced that kind of relation ship and strangely he was and is the men i loved the most until today, but well i have a strong essence and i never let him get over me, i went crazy over him sometimes i broke up some times also, after 1 day he get back at me like a dog, so stay strong and when you are not strong enough leave ! Which i did after 1 year of ups and downs because the king was after 1 year not sure enough of my love for him, that's one of the thing that makes me left but i also have had the feeling that he was trying to make me end that relation because he was lost and confused about his sexuality and the funny fact was that he was the one who push the relation till the place we end it, sad
Thank you so much for sharing this with me, I’m not sure if my ex was a narcissist, but he made me feel like everything was my fault, would get angry if I was upset, and threaten to go to extremes. Thank you ❤
You are not alone. I just found this channel after being ghosted and discarded after four year's of a relationship. Just up and took off leaving me with a future fake of a mess. Still have his clothes and personal items at the house. Up and walked away. Wow!
Very sorry this happened to you. That guy sounds bat sh!t crazy. Sounds like you have had some hard knocks. You are helping others by sharing your story. I enjoy your videos.
Omg mate how proud u should b for doing this and im not even 1 minute into the video i just know becox it resonates alot with me so far😁 well done you 👊🏼👊🏼👊🏼👊🏼👊🏼👊🏼😊 sending u love from the UK xxx
I am having flashbacks. I finally left one to later end up with another. I had to do a lot of self work and value myself. Happy you are in a better situation.
You are describing my ex to a T! Oh the crying thing ! He would be so mean right before we went into public and if I cried he'd belittle me and say I was trying to get sympathy from strangers......it's been a long time but listening to you brings it all back! Narcissists are evil
That was beyond Dylan. It started off and the more you said I was like this is unreal. I can tell you the physical was next. He wanted to see how far he could push you. Dylan I am so glad you got out of that situation. You had to build your life back up after that. I am sorry you lived it, experienced it and endured that. You keep doing you and doing your videos. Someone out there needed to hear this to Dylan. They will get the strength to leave a bad situation.
Firstly, I’m truly sorry you were tormented like that. Secondly, I’m sure by now you’re aware you were in a relationship with a ‘Covert Narcissist’. That type of narcissist is the MOST dangerous kind (in my opinion)!! Covert Narcissist’s ammo is “Mental Warfare.” Due to them being cowards by nature, they’ll break items and make extremely terrifying verbal threats (even against themselves) but, they rarely become physically abusive. They’re truly afraid of getting that a$$ beaten… trust me!!!! 😏 Their “Narcissistic Rage” is real but, when you stand your ground and remain firm against their abuse, they’ll continue raging without ever laying a hand on you. Covert Narcissists knows the mental AND physical ailments their behaviors produces on their intended targets. They’ll simply try a different mind game to try to break your spirit….starting with convincing others (secretly behind your back) that you’re the horrible person in the relationship. This technique is known as “The Smear Campaign.” This may be hard for you to believe but, destroying you was his intentions the moment he first laid eyes on you. He view your kind nature as a weakness (which, it’s NOT) to exploit. He saw your nice smile and warm personality, then sought to take those qualities away from you. From the beginning, his “kindness” was a façade. You met the REAL him once you moved in with him!!! Again… I’m sorry you experienced that cruelty. You didn’t deserve that!
I went through the same thing. Living with someone like that almost destroyed me. I was young a naive. These days though, if anyone tries any of that stuff with me, they get a major verbal smack down and they never see me again. No second chances. I made a friend recently who was all sweet and generous, but he started to try and manipulate and monopolise my time so I started to keep my distance but stayed friendly… until we went out with another friend one night and he accused me of betraying him by getting too friendly with the other friend… I think he was into me and the other guy and he couldn’t handle that we were laughing and having fun and he wasn’t the centre of attention for a few minutes…. Never mind that he was married and there was nothing actually happening, even if it was he doesn’t own us… it was bizarre paranoid possessive behaviour. He ranted at both of us. I gave him a dressing down like he’s never had before because he was being nasty and viscous and talking crap about the other guy who didn’t deserve it. I’m a big guy so he couldn’t do anything but stand there gaping at someone who would not accept his BS. I heard that he bitched and told lies about me after. He has tried to contact me and wants me to just forget about it and be friends again, like he did nothing wrong. I know enough these days to completely cut these people from my life. Not worth the aggravation.
Thank god ❤you got away from him- he needs psychiatric help - he mirrored his issues onto you - narcissistic self hating personalities are the worst kind of people- you are a victor
Most people try different types before they realize who they really want to be with. When young it is easy to fall for someone who is controlling. You feel cared for. After awhile however you realize that they are smothering you and you hopefully get out. Some guys who have been around the block a few times and are beaten up by life actually settle for this type because it is easier than fending for yourself. Sad really. So, you got this experience behind you and have learned something. That's life.
I’m glad to know that part of your life is over. No one should have to live with being abused at any level. I hope now that you know your life is important and you do not have to tolerate this type of behavior even for one day. I’ve listened to a few of your videos today starting with your coming out video. You have been dealing with abuse ever since your early teens, if not longer, starting with your family. I’m beginning to ask myself is it possible a person could be conditioned to accept this type of behavior starting with the mother or father. I’m not a professional to actually know an answer to that question. A lot of bad things had happened to you over your lifetime. I hope that the day comes when you let everyone you become involved with, that you will only accept to be treated with love, honesty and respect. This includes friends, lovers and family. Otherwise, walk away or be told to walk away. By the way, I love your accent. I thinks it’s cute. My next video of yours to watch.
100% true! They try so hard to get you to move in together for total control. And yes, in their mind they do own you. I also met the boyfriend of my dreams. Almost four year's of lovebomb, constant attention seeking, emotional abuse and finally physical. Still researching this disorder and finding channels like you. Goodluck everyone!
Hi bro, I feel for you because I know what a person like that can do to you. I have the same experience. It’s hard and it’s difficult to leave. Love you, think about you and wish you all the best. ❤️ Lex
Oh wow...I think you could add paranoid schizophrenic to psychopath and narcissist. I was very moved by your story; thanks for sharing it. I think it was good for you to tell it and good for others to hear. You are an inspiration. Stay strong brother. 😊❤🤗
Wow, that was a terrifying experience and I’m so sorry you went through that. I’m glad you’re doing better now. Thank you for telling us. This is certainly an important message for anyone in relationships.
I hated being called a slut too...they think they're being cute or funny when they say it. He made jokes about my looks like he was joking, but I was still hurt and had to think about it, so i took it serious. I felt confused, like i was losing my mind. They like to play with you. I should have known from the beginning when he cheated on me and told me about it. I took him back and he knew he could do whatever with my mind.
The thing people nag on the most is the thing they are most likely to do. Best advice I got, was to have a fight with the person your dating before you commit to a relationship, see HOW they fight. The relationship is the best it will ever be before you commit, while your dating.
Sometimes it takes for us to hit rock bottom before we look up and say, “There’s something better out there and THIS isn’t it.” Thank you for standing up and just running away from this guy… you deserve so much better.
I as well in the same situation as you , bud my male love twice my age , yes understand what you are saying I found out he was one that was loyal to our relationship, Iam so happy I moved away from him
Just because someone isn’t hitting you doesn’t mean they aren’t abusive.
What???
@@jeffrey5537 pathetic.
Spending time with a narcissist will make even the sanest person go crazy.
Facts 🤧🤧🫠🤦🏾
Who else thinks Mr. Nightmare was trying to run from the fact his inner ugliness made him unworthy of Dylan's love?
So glad you’re out. It’s amazing. These abusers all seem to use the same playbook.
Dylan, gurl, omfg! 🙀 so glad you got out of that sick shit! I’m from Tennessee… I would have Volunteered to beat his ass. You seem to be a very good person and you deserve better! I just started watching your channel, and since I’ve been praying for you (gay Christian here). Proud for you that you have survived and flourishing! Your community will be there for you! Please enjoy your life and succeed… you’re so young and a beautiful soul. I’ll try to keep up with your posts. Thanks for sharing!
A narcissist is like a human haunted house with a lot of dark secrets that they hide from you. Yep, the house (narc) looks peaceful on the outside but once your get in, it slowly gets worse and worse and you'll be living a nightmare before you know it.
I simply can’t believe that anyone could’ve treated someone like you in that way 😢 I pray that you’ll continue to find genuine and true love in your life❤
This man is beautiful
Absolutely. What a sweet guy.❤❤❤
Your bravery in revealing such deeply personal chapters of your life has truly moved me. Escaping the grasp of such a tumultuous relationship is an immense battle, one that undoubtedly etches lasting scars upon the heart. I extend my utmost admiration for the incredible courage you have shown in breaking free and choosing the path of self-love. It's an act of profound strength and self-respect.
I went through a relationship with a narcissist also! That was the worst experience I have ever had, so I totally understand your situation.
6:25 Near the end of my "situationship" my ex said "You were just a groupie 😂" , denied even dating me.
They always do that, call their partners names.
My friend, its a good thing that there are people like worthless metal. But others are like diamonds and gold!...and you are like this group! ..and you will find someone like you! You have a sweet and loving heart.❤ hugs, Mike.
I have a very bad story with a person like that as well. In my case, it was a straight relationship. I am the female and the guy was the narcissistic psychopath. If I were to tell the whole story I would be writing a PhD dissertation! For the sake of time I will jump to the end. I had to literally plan my escape as well. I was assisted by my former manager. I remember the day very well October 23rd 2018. We had to time it down to the wire because he could come back at any moment. We were living together. Well at about 3pm, my manager pulled up with her SUV. I had my bags ready to go. I got in and slammed the door! I later found out that I had just missed him he came back 10 minutes after I left. There was another time before this about 6 months earlier I had tried to leave. He found out and almost choked me out. That day in October I really had the will. Nothing was going to stop me. A few days later I was on a bus to Indiana with my 10 month old Maltipoo Nikola. I felt that threatened that I had to leave the state. I am now back in my home state of California with Nikola❤ still by my side. We even have a new family member a Terrier mix named Juliette ❤ I urge anyone in any kind of an abusive relationship to Get out and stay Out!! Go no Contact and never let that type of Soul Crushing Rot in your life ever again!! You are worth so much more. ✌️✌️🕊️🕊️❤️
Unfortunately, he knew your weaknesses and vulnerability and took advantage of them. He was quite a disturbed person. Glad you were able to get away from him!
Hooray! Dylan’s gone over 1000 subscribers 🎉
You are too good looking and have such a sincere personality to have gone through a terrified situation.
If someone starts this stuff with me, I'll just start packing my bags.
People like him should be behind bars for preying on innocent people. This makes me so angry.
You are so darn handsome. I'm gonna need smelling salts.... 🤣
I know, Marcus. I said in a previous post, if he told me he loved me in that charming accent, I would faint!
WOW! That’s all I can think of. What a total prick…..I am sorry you had to experience that . I have am in a relationship with a guy 10yrs younger than me, and we are together for 16 years….. I just can’t image such a toxic relationship experience. You were very lucky you got the courage to walk… or should I say RUN…. Away from that total prick. Well done u! And Tks for sharing. U come across as a thoroughly decent soul. Wishing u the best from Ireland
I dated a narcissist three years ago and I still have PTSD and dealing with depression. It's good at least that we become aware of the red flags to be more cautious with new people. Best wishes!
Relationships work when individuals have something to give to the relationship. When someone has nothing to give to the relationship, they become abusive in order to keep the relationship.
Wow, my experience was exactly the same as yours! I learn the same lesson you did from your experience. I ❤ you brother, hang in there.
Your life will turn out just fine!
Sorry that happened to you, its very scary,...i experienced similar crap. Glad your done with it.🌈
…you were much like me: you go in it for love and they treat you like a PRETTY-BOY POSSESSION/TOKEN to be admired for HIS own use. Anything that you do is KNOCKED DOWN so that you do not build ANY kind of security for yourself!
Had it happen to me except I was older, 28, world traveled from the Marines and some College. With all this, it slowly got so controlling that I was embarrassed that it happened to me. I feared for my life when we finally broke up. It can happen to anyone. Sorry dude.
Wow---no one deserves such treatment---he didnt know what a good thing he had.
Sorry you had to go through all that. No one should have to live like that. Glad you distanced your self when you did, who knows what could have happened if you had stayed.
Domestic abuse sadly is a constant everyday thing that happens everywhere, often times resulting in murder even. This problem has always existed.
As a 58 yo Australian gay man I can relate to this, and i'm so glad you are out of that relationship, no-one deserves to be treated like that, especially if this person claims to love you, thanks for telling the story an I hope it helps others to have the courage to leave these bad relationship Mark
Hey Dylan, glad you got out of that situation, you deserve better, glad things are better for you.
Just by watching your videos tells me you are too sweet of a person to have had to go through something like that. I am so sorry you had to go through it. I'm glad you got away from him. A guy would be lucky to have you. Stay you.
A full fledged preditor Dylan. God had His hand was certainly on you to escape that horror. I can only imagine.
Life gets so much better as we mature, looking back and do learning from our experiences and mistakes. To avoid seeking validation in others is definitely among the most important of lessons one can take. We must be happy with ourselves and our own company first, there is no one else more deserving than our love than we are ourselves.
I had that kind of relationship really, a selfish person and never said sorry for the things he ever done to me and very prideful but most of all self centered. 😢
I'm so glad you got away good for you ! Your a great person be well ! 💙🙏
So glad you're doing better now. I relate to you in so many ways. love your personal stories.
What in the absolute hell..that 😮 is unreal thanks for sharing
Goodness. You are a handsome Southern Man. I grew up in the Chalreston area, and later in Georgia. They don't make 'em like we do in the South. Please be safe out here and pray to God to help you make better choices.
I also met my sociopath ex when I was 19. We met online and a week later he called me crying telling me that his roommates were kicking him out because he's gay, and that he didn't have anywhere to go. Being young and naive, I told him he could stay with me temporarily until he made other arrangements. Well, that turned into almost two years of pure HELL! He knew the laws and I could not get rid of him no matter what I tried. That was 22 years ago and I still get bitter about it.
I was in a long term relationship with a narcissist and I can relate to many of the things you described.
I feel for you and what you went through, I’m not sure if I’m still completely back to who I was.
I hope you find love and happiness! ❤ 5:27
Bro..i have been through this same cycle of treatment..now im out of this..its like i saved myself from a jombie😢
The psychological abuse keeps on doing damage in the form of rumination. Therapy and Welbutrin helped me push beyond the pain and angst, but the trick is to not fall back into the same trap. I'm now an old man and have outlived every one of them. Looking back, I can see my part in it, and I'm most thankful for everyone who stepped forward to help guide me out of the darkness and into the light.
It's amazing you got out! It was the best decision I made, I was with a narcissist for 4 years. It was the worst time of my life.
This was literally my first relationship.
I was 20, and he was 29. It was 7 years of hell.
WoW I relate to this so much. I was with a Narc for almost 8 years. And tried to get away so many times and he always lured me in with empty promises. I always denied he was a narc bc he never cheated. It wasnt until the end when I broke up with him I found out he was immediately talking to another girl it made me question everything. They are so dramatic and controlling and will go after you if you are empathetic and come from troubled home. Thank you for sharing your story. This can help so many and I'm so happy you were able to leave successfully.
You are beautiful, stay positive 😚
God Bless You and thank God for protecting you and delivering you from that monster.
Yeah man. I spent 21 yrs in love wit a narcissist. It’s called a “crazy maker”.
My heart breaks for you. If I were not; “Unsinkable” I would be dead, right now.
I became obsessed with figuring this nonsense out, & I went to my public library & researched the”DSM”. I spotted the personality disorder in the diagnostic manual.
You're such a sensitive person, and sensitive people get hurt. I'm over 30 years older than you, but I recognize my younger self in you. Continue your life lessons, and please continue to share them. Best of all to you.
I was with my narcissist / psychopath for nearly 15 years. I'm glad you were able to move on from it. I've been single for almost 12 years now and have no interest in dating because of the damage that was done.
Thanks bro!
I dated a guy who always said he could get whoever any of his ex’s were dating. We quit dating and he was making assumptions as far as people I dated. I had two guys that were just friends come up to me and tell me my ex tried to kiss them in the bar parking lot. While the guy he was currently dating was in the bar. Dodged that bullet.
Man! That is insanity! I never personally experienced any of that but I grew up around abuse all the time. I always wondered why these women stayed in these abusive relationships. Your explanation helps me understand a bit better. My sister was in an abusive relationship and the guy was physical with her. Broke her ribs one time. I was like, "you have your WHOLE family here to back you up. Why you keep going back?" I never understood it. She lost a ton of weight from the injuries and died about 9 months later. I'm VERY glad you had the understanding to get tf out.
I listened carefully to the entire podcast. I was really shocked. 😢 I'm sorry he put you through that. I've never heard of it. Glad you are ok and God continues to bless you, dear.
It's terrible to be in that place :( once you get the lesson you never allow yourself to be in that situation, thanks for sharing.
Off topic, you are very handsome.
I can relate to your situation on multiple levels.. The mean suspicious behavior, the wardrobe control .Your situation was my literally identical to my life when I was 24. In my case He claimed he dumped me yet I am the one who fled not only the house but the whole state in the middle of the night in fear of him with just a suitcase 23 years later I still have zero contact with him thankfully. I never wish such a relationship on anyone . Stay strong. Better days are ahead for you.
His behaviour is known as coercive control, and is absolutely typical. According to the law of England and Wales, section 76 of the Serious Crime Act 2015 (SCA 2015) created the offence of controlling or coercive behaviour in an intimate or family relationship. I don't think there is one law in the US to cover this behaviour but everyone, especially young people, should be aware that it is harmful and criminal. Get away from such a person as soon as you can!!! Coercive control is generally thought of as a man controlling a woman but there must be gay men who like to control. For people outside the relationship, keep an eye out for the controller painting the controlled as mad: 'He / she is absolutely crazy; do you know what s/he did the other day....?' Once or twice in a jovial way is OK, but if it keeps happening without humour, the one being spoken of might need help.
My own brother was a narcissist, never got along as kids, I met up with him in a gay bar (we're both gay), from there I tried to be friends, but after 20 years of trying to do so, I'd just had enough. I finally had to put him out of my life.
Oh, he beat me up twice, finally, he got arrested or drug use. While he was in jail, I filed for a restrictive order from the judge, and I got away from him, and he within two months move to Los Angeles, California.
I am sorry you have been through so much. Abuse can be verbal, hitting, stealing from someone that you are in a relationship with, a lot of different things. Unfortunately a lot of guys do that because they are the ones that are cheating.
You are the sweetest most gentle soul Dylan. I'm sensitive too and this video wrecked me. How I escaped that horror is only by the grace of God. I can only imagine. I love your videos buddy. You truly inspire me.❤
Damn, you went through the experience you had with your family, and then THIS? Okay, is that going to be part of the book? If that's the case, just remember, I'm still here to help you with the screenplay for the movie, which will most definitely NOT be a Hallmark Channel movie. And seriously, glad you've been able to move on, you seem to be an adorable kid, both inside and out. I gave you a virtual hug on another video, I'm giving you another one with this video. Hope you're good with that.
I’m perfectly fine with that. Thank you so much!
@@dylangabriel13 , you're more than welcome and then some. I can relate to some of what you've been through, as I grew up in a small, rural town in northern Arkansas, where "religion" was king. But I dated women most of my life (never longer than about six months), even though I pretty much knew I preferred guys. The last woman I dated was 15 years ago (she'd been the first in over 10 years), and I've never dated a guy. I've only occasionally hooked up with a seemingly completely hetero friend or a friend of one of those friends. I have a son (close to your age) and he's never asked about me and my "preferences", though I've told myself for years if he ever did, I'd tell him the truth. It's just that he hasn't asked, though I think he probably has a pretty good idea, and pretty much doesn't care. I'd go on a bit further, but I really should've stopped a few sentences ago. That's what happens when I get into the evening wine. Maybe I'll pick it up from there with your next video. 😉
@@dylangabriel13Hi well i have experienced that kind of relation ship and strangely he was and is the men i loved the most until today, but well i have a strong essence and i never let him get over me, i went crazy over him sometimes i broke up some times also, after 1 day he get back at me like a dog, so stay strong and when you are not strong enough leave ! Which i did after 1 year of ups and downs because the king was after 1 year not sure enough of my love for him, that's one of the thing that makes me left but i also have had the feeling that he was trying to make me end that relation because he was lost and confused about his sexuality and the funny fact was that he was the one who push the relation till the place we end it, sad
Nice story, Dylan. Worth telling.
Thank you so much for sharing this with me, I’m not sure if my ex was a narcissist, but he made me feel like everything was my fault, would get angry if I was upset, and threaten to go to extremes. Thank you ❤
You are not alone. I just found this channel after being ghosted and discarded after four year's of a relationship. Just up and took off leaving me with a future fake of a mess. Still have his clothes and personal items at the house. Up and walked away. Wow!
Very sorry this happened to you. That guy sounds bat sh!t crazy. Sounds like you have had some hard knocks. You are helping others by sharing your story. I enjoy your videos.
Omg mate how proud u should b for doing this and im not even 1 minute into the video i just know becox it resonates alot with me so far😁 well done you 👊🏼👊🏼👊🏼👊🏼👊🏼👊🏼😊 sending u love from the UK xxx
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So sorry you experienced all of those. I'm so glad you're out and thank you for sharing.
I pray that you heal and thrive. ❤
Dylan I’m so sorry for what you went through.. this was not a relationship but you were held hostage 😢
I am having flashbacks. I finally left one to later end up with another. I had to do a lot of self work and value myself. Happy you are in a better situation.
You are describing my ex to a T! Oh the crying thing ! He would be so mean right before we went into public and if I cried he'd belittle me and say I was trying to get sympathy from strangers......it's been a long time but listening to you brings it all back! Narcissists are evil
That was beyond Dylan. It started off and the more you said I was like this is unreal. I can tell you the physical was next. He wanted to see how far he could push you. Dylan I am so glad you got out of that situation. You had to build your life back up after that. I am sorry you lived it, experienced it and endured that. You keep doing you and doing your videos. Someone out there needed to hear this to Dylan. They will get the strength to leave a bad situation.
I'm so grateful I'm single and alone......
He sounds like my ex. I'm flowing love and peace your way
Firstly, I’m truly sorry you were tormented like that. Secondly, I’m sure by now you’re aware you were in a relationship with a ‘Covert Narcissist’. That type of narcissist is the MOST dangerous kind (in my opinion)!! Covert Narcissist’s ammo is “Mental Warfare.” Due to them being cowards by nature, they’ll break items and make extremely terrifying verbal threats (even against themselves) but, they rarely become physically abusive. They’re truly afraid of getting that a$$ beaten… trust me!!!! 😏
Their “Narcissistic Rage” is real but, when you stand your ground and remain firm against their abuse, they’ll continue raging without ever laying a hand on you. Covert Narcissists knows the mental AND physical ailments their behaviors produces on their intended targets. They’ll simply try a different mind game to try to break your spirit….starting with convincing others (secretly behind your back) that you’re the horrible person in the relationship. This technique is known as “The Smear Campaign.”
This may be hard for you to believe but, destroying you was his intentions the moment he first laid eyes on you. He view your kind nature as a weakness (which, it’s NOT) to exploit. He saw your nice smile and warm personality, then sought to take those qualities away from you. From the beginning, his “kindness” was a façade. You met the REAL him once you moved in with him!!! Again… I’m sorry you experienced that cruelty. You didn’t deserve that!
Bless you. So glad you got out. Keep up the good work😊
I went through the same thing. Living with someone like that almost destroyed me. I was young a naive. These days though, if anyone tries any of that stuff with me, they get a major verbal smack down and they never see me again. No second chances. I made a friend recently who was all sweet and generous, but he started to try and manipulate and monopolise my time so I started to keep my distance but stayed friendly… until we went out with another friend one night and he accused me of betraying him by getting too friendly with the other friend… I think he was into me and the other guy and he couldn’t handle that we were laughing and having fun and he wasn’t the centre of attention for a few minutes…. Never mind that he was married and there was nothing actually happening, even if it was he doesn’t own us… it was bizarre paranoid possessive behaviour. He ranted at both of us. I gave him a dressing down like he’s never had before because he was being nasty and viscous and talking crap about the other guy who didn’t deserve it. I’m a big guy so he couldn’t do anything but stand there gaping at someone who would not accept his BS. I heard that he bitched and told lies about me after. He has tried to contact me and wants me to just forget about it and be friends again, like he did nothing wrong. I know enough these days to completely cut these people from my life. Not worth the aggravation.
Thank god ❤you got away from him- he needs psychiatric help - he mirrored his issues onto you - narcissistic self hating personalities are the worst kind of people- you are a victor
that must have been like hell
Most people try different types before they realize who they really want to be with. When young it is easy to fall for someone who is controlling. You feel cared for. After awhile however you realize that they are smothering you and you hopefully get out. Some guys who have been around the block a few times and are beaten up by life actually settle for this type because it is easier than fending for yourself. Sad really. So, you got this experience behind you and have learned something. That's life.
I’m glad to know that part of your life is over. No one should have to live with being abused at any level. I hope now that you know your life is important and you do not have to tolerate this type of behavior even for one day.
I’ve listened to a few of your videos today starting with your coming out video. You have been dealing with abuse ever since your early teens, if not longer, starting with your family. I’m beginning to ask myself is it possible a person could be conditioned to accept this type of behavior starting with the mother or father. I’m not a professional to actually know an answer to that question.
A lot of bad things had happened to you over your lifetime. I hope that the day comes when you let everyone you become involved with, that you will only accept to be treated with love, honesty and respect. This includes friends, lovers and family. Otherwise, walk away or be told to walk away.
By the way, I love your accent. I thinks it’s cute. My next video of yours to watch.
Mental abuse is worse than physical I've been in a relationship that was mentally divorce her and love for The high ground
100% true! They try so hard to get you to move in together for total control. And yes, in their mind they do own you. I also met the boyfriend of my dreams. Almost four year's of lovebomb, constant attention seeking, emotional abuse and finally physical. Still researching this disorder and finding channels like you. Goodluck everyone!
Hi bro, I feel for you because I know what a person like that can do to you. I have the same experience. It’s hard and it’s difficult to leave. Love you, think about you and wish you all the best. ❤️ Lex
Oh wow...I think you could add paranoid schizophrenic to psychopath and narcissist. I was very moved by your story; thanks for sharing it. I think it was good for you to tell it and good for others to hear. You are an inspiration. Stay strong brother. 😊❤🤗
Thanks for sharing
Thank you for sharing this it does happen and hopefully it will help some people
Wow, that was a terrifying experience and I’m so sorry you went through that. I’m glad you’re doing better now. Thank you for telling us. This is certainly an important message for anyone in relationships.
I hated being called a slut too...they think they're being cute or funny when they say it. He made jokes about my looks like he was joking, but I was still hurt and had to think about it, so i took it serious. I felt confused, like i was losing my mind. They like to play with you. I should have known from the beginning when he cheated on me and told me about it. I took him back and he knew he could do whatever with my mind.
The thing people nag on the most is the thing they are most likely to do. Best advice I got, was to have a fight with the person your dating before you commit to a relationship, see HOW they fight. The relationship is the best it will ever be before you commit, while your dating.
Thank you 🙏 for your inspiration Dylan 😊
Bravo Dylan ! Bravo!
Thanks for sharing, it hits home for me.
I am glad u have grown so much since u got out
Sometimes it takes for us to hit rock bottom before we look up and say, “There’s something better out there and THIS isn’t it.”
Thank you for standing up and just running away from this guy… you deserve so much better.
Thank you for that story ❤
Dylan, is this guy your age? How well did you know this person??
Love you, take care.❤❤❤
I as well in the same situation as you , bud my male love twice my age , yes understand what you are saying
I found out he was one that was loyal to our relationship,
Iam so happy I moved away from him