Fellas, don't let that deter you. All you need to do is find the lady that likes you. I don't care what "they" prefer as long as the lady "prefers" ME! Like they say, "Quit barking up the wrong tree".
PRICELESS!!! Forget that madness trying to convince a woman who doesn't want to be with you, to be with you. Save your time, effort and money for the women who likes YOU.
I remember watching a video from the 'Every Man Has A Story' UA-cam Channel and the host asked his Filipina wife what it was about him that she found attractive when they first met and she said bluntly, "your white skin".
I’m white, and Calvin is my go to for UA-cam and information on the Philippines. I hate that race has to factor into everything, especially these days. Bros there are enough women for all of us in the Philippines. Love the content Calvin. “Boots on the Ground!”
A lot of men seem to have the wrong criteria. There are plenty of good women in the Philippines. You gotta know what you want. What do you really want out of it? A 10 out of ten for real? Ok in what? Your eyes? That's absolutely fine. What about worrying about the real world and how she's gonna be a wife and mother. Be realistic about it and get to work. You gotta be patient and smart about it.
@@Maputi_na_Kalabaw anyone can get a 10/10 if they want the issue is that guys are discouraged that girls in Asia only have one preference in white men when in reality they have more than one or no preference at all its alot of shades of grey and in reality the ones who attempt to try to meet and court them regardless of their prefrence have a high chance of actually finding a women.
@@CSCSCS100 I'm not here for advice or knowledge man I'm 1000 percent sure I already did this. I'm also sure that many men concentrate on appearances without worrying about content of charachter but whatever. Seek and ye shall find.
@@Maputi_na_Kalabaw You can be your own man live in the shadows of others. This response isn't entirely for you anyways its for the eyes who need to see this. A man shouldn't lower his standards because he assumed he isn't that womans preference. A man like this isn't a man hes a insecure boy.
I’ve been to the Philippines twice and I’m a black married to a beautiful Filipina from Las Pinas. We’ve traveled around the PH and I’ve seen so many beautiful Filipina women with black and brown men. Even as a married man I find the Filipinas to be very friendly towards men of color. As I read some of the comments, make yourself presentable and respectful and you’ll find a pretty Filipina where color doesn’t matter. Trust me. There’s plenty of them waiting for you there. Don’t worry about the ones that like white men only, it’s their choice 👍🏾
My fillipina wife left me for a white guy, they got married and divorce in less than 2months, Calvin she came back but I was over it by then....... I took a pass, the damage was done.
It’s a cultural thing lighter skin is a status symbol. A lot of Filipina’s try to lighten their skin with different creams. Because in parts of the Philippines the darker your skin you probably work on farm meaning your poor . Plus a lot of women want babies with light skin and light eyes . There is lots of Filipina’s for men of all races.
Of course, it’s not always the case, however, Yes they do and I’ve been told this by many Filipina’s in the Philippines. But the perception is slowly changing. The term “White men” cover a lot of races. For example, I am Spanish, Portuguese, African and middle Eastern however, I would be considered white to the naked eye. When I was in the dating circles I would always get asked are you white are you mixed etc. etc. it would come up inevitably. This is cultural preference in the PI in all of Southeast Asia
White is not cultural. There's no country in the world called "White". It's the colonized mind that has been taught to be color "Crayon" restrictive. If it were culture, the ladies would only prefer the mean from their own culture, not some racial category that realistically doesn't exist. Good post though!
Colorism reigns supreme in the Philippines and throughout Southeast Asia. One only needs to look at the beauty shelves and cosmetic counters to see all the whitening products to understand which color reigns supreme in the eyes of Filipinos.
There are so many generalization based on this that it's tiring. As a black man, I've been married to a Filipina in the states and my current gf is Filipina. I've seen African, Indians, and Koreans with Filipinas. I prefer a woman with a fat ass and big boobs, but doesn't mean I won't date a woman without it. That's why all this Preference talk is nonsense. Visit the Philippines and see for yourself.
Any time these topics are brought up it’s a generalization of course there will always be exceptions to the rules and their will pinays that have a hierarchy of their preferences. So even if she prefers a white guy she may choose a black guy or other if she can’t get the white guy that meets most of her wants
As someone who isn't interested in dating when traveling there, I guess I'm a bit biased because it's not a priority. But basically, White males have a headstart in experiences with Filipinos, including romantic relationships. *And some of these guys are bottom shelf Brads* Either way, it's better to tell the truth where men rank in the Philippines. They can accept it or go to another country 🤷🏿♂️
I once saw a 400 lb black man at the Manila airport with a beautiful young Filipina. And the first thing that came my mind was: How did he fit in the airplane seat? Lol It didn't even register in my mind that he was with a Filipina because Filipinas for the most part are open minded. Of course each person has their own preference, but it really doesn't matter where you're from and what your skin color is, you'll find one here for you as long as you're genuine, sincere and kind hearted.
If you go to any drug store in the Philippines they have a whole section of skin whiteing products there to buy. There is a reason for that. I have had several filipina wanting me to give them a baby cause my white skin and blue eyes. They even told me they just want me to get them pregnant and I didn't have to even be responsible for the childs upbringing.
Any woman who doesn't care about the father of the child not being in the kids life, doesn't care about the kid. That kid is just a trophy or like a flashy trinket to her. The only exception would be if the father is abusive and is a danger to her and the kid if he's around. But I guess we are all vain to a certain extent
53 year old White guy here. It’s funny, because I have, since I was a young boy of 4 or 5 years old, always preferred Asian women. My first crush was a half Filipina girl in 3rd through 8th grade. I dated a Filipina in High School. But, as an adult I only dated White and Black women, as that was what surrounded me. I tried to get stationed in Korea when I was in the Army to be in Asia, which should have been easy to accomplish, but I went to Germany instead. Despite my preferences, I married a White girl. A friend of mine from when I was in the Air Force, stated he didn’t like Asian women. However, he fell in love and married a Filipina in California. Despite his life long preference for White girls he married Asian, and despite mine, I married White. It comes down to the individual as in most relations. The preferences or desires, are superficial. Once the one to one relationship develops, none of these differences matter unless we let it matter. I understand the psychology of skin color and status in Asia with relation to darker skin being viewed as one who works outside at menial tasks. However, most westerners I know, like the darker skinned women. In the end, we as Westerners can view these differences in beliefs as an advantage. Anyone who is that hung up on race disqualifies themselves, and saves us the time and effort. We all can surmise that a person who views race as a defining factor, is either too beholden to an anachronistic system that is dying out, or they are too ignorant on the subject and likely ignorant in other ways also. I view it as a win-win. They’ve eliminated themselves and saved us the work.
I agree with your comment also. I think that women in the Philippines are gradually becoming more open minded. It is kinda funny that western men, including myself, tend to be attracted to darker skinned Asian women.
In addition, its known and open in Filipino culture that lighter skin children are a sign of luck and prosperity. They even give their own children nick names based on how dark they are at birth. So go figure ? It's they're own cultural issues not actually their personal preferences in a white vurses dark skinned man..
America (white and black soldiers alike) was a liberator of the Philippines as a white nation. A white country with a very few black soldiers. Also, White people expanded their civilization far more successfully than did Black civilisation. It’s just truth. And that’s why women around the world think differently about the two. Women love conquerors. That will never change.
LOL. My black barber was in the Navy stationed in the Philippines during the 1960s. Few brothers hung out with the whites. Yes, some Filipinas preferred white soldiers. But he said he and his mates had a phenomenal time. He told me about a fight that broke out, and the MPs were grabbing up everyone. The Filipinos in the bar where they were hid them from the MPs! They also got invited to family parties where they didn't spend a dime. I always saw a smile on his face when he reminisced about the Philippines.
I would say that was true 20 years ago when I first started going in my early 20’s now that I’m Early 40’s the attitudes towards race is changing, especially with the young . I think there is still colorism within the Filipino community but they somehow put black westerners in a different category. I’ve seen this same thing in South America also ..where foreigner blacks are treated better than local blacks . I’ve also experienced this in Africa . I think being a westerner somehow overrides race . That being said , there are plenty that still prefer white and this is because they believe that having a mixed race baby with a white man gives that child a social advantage.
It's the same in Thailand, but with a twist, because it's more pay for play. I am a black man, raised as a black person but I look totally white. I have black friends and I watch a lot of Black UA-camrs who state in Thailand that there is a higherarchy for men with levels of beauty of women. Of course, Thai men with means are first, then young white men, then young asian men, then young western asian men, finally young Black men. In the older realm, older white men do well here, but not necessarily as well as a young black man, at least here in Thailand. Older black men are bringing up the rear, but the bottom line, there is enough women to go around. In life, in the USA, it was not different. One of my best friends, with charm and european good looks, could do better than me, on any night, no matter how drunk he was. I found my comfort zone, was 5,6, and an occasional 7. I did not fit well with 9,10s, too much work. My male friends who were unhappy were the guys who pursued women out of their league. I am dating a 6 here in Thailand and I have the looks and money to get 10s, but I am comfortable with my 6s, Like you said, when you got a good women, you got it all.
Women have a racial preference no matter where you go. Just don't focus on those women, fellas, if they don't want you. There will always be a woman out there who will appreciate you and don't care about your color. For some guys, they have to search more than others.
I had a Latina friend once tell me that she would not date someone darker than her. I couldn't say anything because my history is dating fair skin women myself. To each his own I say.
Yeah I think it's just better to just accept that some people have preferences when it comes to ethnicity, skin color etc and sometimes it might not be in your favour. But there are millions of other potential partners that have preferences that might be in your favour so don't get discouraged just because you meet someone who says "I only date people who look like this". There is somebody out there for everybody! I'm white and my fiancée is Filipina and she has told me that my fair skin and blue eyes were some of the things she found attractive about me, but yeah if you have darker skin your dating might be rougher in the Philippines but you just have to find the right one, in a long term relation there are other things that are so much more important to flourish together.
@@alals67941.8m (5'11'') and skinny so no. But also I would like to add that what is most important to most Filipinos in a partner is nr.1 financial stability and nr.2 family values. At least this is my experience. This preference with fair skin comes after, but is still very real. They even have words for the darker skin tone Filipinos called "moreno/morena" and the lighter/mixed ones are called "mestizo/mestiza" which are seen as more beautiful by many there, so it's not only with foreigners they have this sort of beauty standard.
Ah it's probably not worth it talking about race white vs black, it's an American thing and everywhere Americans go they bring the same situations with them like they have in the states and I don't even hear it from other "white" groups in Ph like British, or German or Australian, If the Filipina prefers white men so what? the important thing is the Filipina I prefer is not obsessed with having a "white" baby or wanting to use skin whitening products, these Filipinas are few and far in between but they're out there. It's all good, just go out there and meet a nice Filipina who wants you for who you are and not wanting skin colour to interfere with your relationship. 🇯🇲
Well, let's not forget this goes back way further than when Americans showed up in the Philippines. It actually first started with the Spanish colonizing the Philippines in 1500's, about 250-300 yrs before any Americans showed up. There are plenty of Filipinas here in the Philippines who want or have no problem being with or marrying a brother. I know a few. Don't be in a rush to find "the one". Avoid the dating apps, and just go out and meet girls in town. The cold approach game is very easy here and doesn't require much effort, unlike in the states or Europe. As long as you can show them that you are nice and respectful, most will give you a shot. You ain't gotta hit it on the first date. There are ple ty of fish here for my brothers from the states.
All foreigners have a 50/50 or maybe little bit more preferability for a Filipino or Filipina, but the reason why white people gets a little more edge has really less to do with their race. It is more because any country, but especially a country that is NOT predominantly of the white race but its citizens can mostly read, write, and/or speak ENGLISH, will surely have first seen and may have mostly only seen foreigners of just the white race from their TV's, the movies, or in books and magazines. That was the special case for many generations in Philippines. Cable-TV, and the internet media did make a very big and important impact for global diversity, But an even older form of diversity still stops people to even listen to other people, and it's simply because of verbal understanding, or "language" barriers. The many language diversities still needs a solution before ethnic races can even come together, which will make it easy for next time, and easier and easier with each time. In short; Most people will always choose the easiest one first.
Colonialism is Real, if David Fagen doesn’t change a Filipina mind on the Black Man nothing will. The game is the game and we have to play it according , choose the girl who likes you, I love your honesty and this is the Real Nitty Gritty.
I'll be visiting the Philippines to check out the culture and explore. Dating is a bonus if it can work. Maybe you'll find your soul mate there, maybe not. Thanx for keeping it real Calvin, another reason men shouldn't go to the Philippines thirsty.
Calvin, let me give you some insight on this topic based on Chinese culture. Long before China even knew white and black people existed, they had a saying, 一白遮百丑. This literally means that one white (face) can cover 100 ugly (qualities). This is why people in Asian cultures wear what we might consider white face. Having light complexion can cover up your ugliness, either inside or outside, and having dark skin makes people think that you are ugly and POOR. Now cut to a 1000 years later when Asians started meeting real white people who they thought of as rich and black people/ Africans who they thought of as poor, they probably believed that their ancient saying were even more true. As an American, we think it's about race, but the truth is, this is how they look at each other too, sort of like how some black people think light-skinned black people are better looking than dark skinned black people. So I wouldn't be surprised if the Philippines had the same cultural phenomenon as China. Do they prefer white men? Yes, because they think light skinned is better regardless and they think dark skinned is ugly regardless. I saw a UA-cam video of this Japanese guy showing these Japanese girls a series of pictures of black men and white men, and all the white men were average looking and fat or balding and all the black men had what even white women would call movie star good looks. The black men were professional models, and 80% of the Japanese girls said the fat white guys were more handsome than any of the black men, because being fat is a sign of prosperity for men and being white/light-skinned is a sign of beauty for women in most Asian cultures.
No not a chance, in general the woman ive been told about and myself having first hand experience , its definitely a challenging task. Sometimes you need telepathic energy along with patience and sorry to say, money helps.
Yes Calvin you are correct. Wish it wasnt like this but it is. To bad we couldnt follow the words of MLK, and judge people by the content of their character
Lol Most people prefer the skin tone that they grew up dating ! I'm black I really only like black women and black women's features ! It's rare to gravitate to women from a different ethnic background .
I believe that Calvin and others like him spreading the gospel on line have made it possible for men other than white to get that classy beautiful woman they deserve. In my opinion shoot for the most attractive woman and you’ll be surprised how easy it really is here. Been coming here since 1982, and I’m actually surprised at the caliber woman that brothas are able to court now. Most Filipinas don’t know that it was the black servicemen who rebuilt the Philippines after WWII, because they weren’t allowed to fight in the war, only allowed to be a cook or load and unload ships. They weren’t even issued weapons. Some even joined Philippines in the philippine American war. But as Calvin said everywhere you look there’s a statue.
Calvin, I thought you went to Iloilo City? Filipinos celebrate their history and culture, proudly with dark skinned warrior statues against a wall. You never saw that? you asked why that prejudice might exist. I've heard it could be, lighter skin signifies wealth, because people who work long hours in the sun have darker skin. Same with a "dad bod". If a guy is overweight, he's able to afford plenty of food. That certainly doesn't mean it's good to be overweight!
Interesting topic. However, there is more to it than just skin color. It's my understanding they're attracted to the nose and eyes that are different than their own. The white man has those 2 attributes "more" different than other races as compared to Filipinos. On the contrary, a black man is seen as more masculine than a white man. There is also the stereotype of bananas in the black man's favor. These two attributes are attractive to certain gals. Then there is teeth. This is another that favors the black man due to the contrast in color between his teeth and skin color giving the appearance of being brighter. In the end, there is enough selection on both sides for everyone.
Yes." pointed nose" and round eyes they are attracted to as well. I chatted up a few Filipinas online and we discussed this topic of their culture and what they find attractive etc.
@dddtrump I tell you what,it's assumed whit guys like a tan, but that's not true either. Personally I don't give a crap either way. I like tall girls which is tough to fund in PI. Found one I did.
Thank you. I was just talking about this to my friend. For whatever reason, a lot of white men tend to get defensive, mad and dismissive when you try to explain their advantages to them. You’ve never seen mental gymnastics until you broach the subject of racial discrimination with white men. It’s incredible and disappointing at the same time.
I like how everyone don't see how good black people are they don't see how we Dominic sports and if you have a baby by a black man you can make them the best kid you have in your family..
Filipinas might perfer white men; if your game is on point and you know how to approach a woman correctly, not to mention a seasoned playa can get whoever he wants over there, i visited bacalod city a couple of year's ago and got all type of play from Filipinas; why, because of the way i carried myself; cool, Calm and collective 💥
I hear you and i have been very successful with Pinas but nothing beats that white DNA their is real colorism in the Philippines and being a white skinned filipina definitely gives you more opportunity
@@alals6794 I see them all the time, working in Malls, modeling, television. Skin lighting is so common. Maybe you're more in the province but in the major cities on Luzon very common
The reason why I, and many others, like your channel is because you're not afraid to approach any topic. Even though some women prefer a certain color that should never be a deterrent. The right woman will recognize that you're a good person.☀💪🌴
Great video. By the way, I have watched about 20 or 30 videos of this author already and I never once got mad about the topic discussed, including this one about "white privilege". Also, for 60yo the author does not look his age. I would say he looks in his 40's in the video. Working out helps alot, haha
C'mon Calvin you've always said if you and Marilyn broke up you would have a new love interest the next day, probably several such were your options. Then you say black men have it tough. What's going on boots on the ground really?
I remember you talking about this before, this has been an issue before. A lot of women there have been brain washed to think that white men is what they want. I married a Filipino woman and she agreed that some women have a preference. That is okay though to each is own, or they have made their choice. But it’s okay if you keep looking though you will find the right one. I didn’t have a problem years ago when I came over….. But I see your point!!!
Is is not true that Filipino men prefer “pale” or light complexion Filipina women over ones that have a natural more tanned look ? The opposite of what I believe most white or Western men prefer? Don’t many Filipina women consider themselves less attractive if they have a darker skin tone or tanned appearance and actually think that having children with a white guy will result in their children being more attractive (skin color/tone wise) ?
Is there anything we can do about that outlook or is it just personal preference? I hear black women in the US complaining that black men want white women but I figure that's a black man's personal preference who he desires. I know in my life there have been women I wanted sooo bad but they preferred someone else
Yes but black women, some, want a white guy or lighter skin guy. This friend of mine got himself a smoking hot black chick when they were both 18yo and he is only a lighter skin Latin guy. This recently got married too. But only after 10 years of dating, engagement. haha
Good Morning! I am so glad you are addressing this issue because I grew up in New York City. These were the basic tenets of the Philippine community in New York City when I attended high school in the eighties. In fact, if you saw 15 black men, maybe two were with an Asian woman, period. The Pinays in New York City were very candid and told us, brothers, "My parents told me not to date a black man." I had a classmate in high school who had relocated to my high school from San Diego, California, in my senior year. Because her parents did not like the fact she was dating an all-star football black man, so they shipped her out and sent her to live with her aunt in New York City. Until she graduated from High school, and several years after high school, she still lived in New York City. Did they end up back together? I do not know, this is not exclusive to the Phillipinnes, this is a basic sentiment across ASIA. Because of social media, there have been more Blasian relationships but educated Asian women are not so easily prone to date Black men. I used to be subscribed to many UA-cam channels from white men because before, I had come across your channel, Calvin. To be honest, they were not making it seem like we Afro-Centric men were not wanted in the Phillipines Some were blunt about it, in addition they (meaning white bloggers) did not shed any light about the black experience in the Phillpinnes. . I tell black men, if this is your mission, do not let that deter you because, at the end of the day, you have to be patient with the process. It is never where you are from, especially if you are going to someone else's backyard to play. It is where you are at, and that is real.
My hats off to you Calvin for having the courage to talk about this AGAIN, for the second time, in my opinion and experience there is no place on earth where race is not an issue, not even in Africa, white men are preferred, it is what it is, these kinds of videos is why I f#$k with you calvin
What are you talking about? Have you ever been there? They get their info the same way everyone else does All of SE Asia has a colorism issue, Thailand, Phillipines, everywhere They prefer white skin among their own over darker skin. So of course the same will apply to their preference in foreigners. SE Asia, parts of Africa and Jamaica make a killing selling skin lightening creams. Same color dynamic exists in the Dominican Republic as well Sammy Sosa skin bleaching? Like? What do you mean where do they get their info from? Where are you Not getting yours?
This is really a tired subject. Who really cares - except those with low self-esteem. Let's move on from this overdone subject. This is low hanging fruit for novice vloggers; Calvin, you're better than this type of click-bait.
I look forward to the day when we are all a coffee brown so we can be done with all the racial bullshit. But then we would probably just argue about something else just as stupid. You bring up a lot of things that most wouldn't touch with a 10 foot pole. Thank you for that. What is funny is here (USA) it is becoming common for whites and blacks and browns and yellows and blues to all date. It's taken far to long for that to finally be accepted.
Great Content Brother! But the one 3,000 pound Elephant in the Room is that the Phillipines has been Brainwashed by the Catholic Chruch and the concept of The White Jesus!! I belive that I heard Calvin himself speak of The "Bearded White Man" In The Sky!!😂😂🤣🤣
Fellas, don't let that deter you. All you need to do is find the lady that likes you. I don't care what "they" prefer as long as the lady "prefers" ME! Like they say, "Quit barking up the wrong tree".
Couldn't have said it better. 💯
Deal with the woman who wants to deal with you regardless of color
True...They will learn that a tourist is not a husband...And I know white guys who drop babies then get right back on the plane....
@@KentuckyBlue502 Exactly. Pick from the ones that really want you
Not the ones you think you want
PRICELESS!!! Forget that madness trying to convince a woman who doesn't want to be with you, to be with you. Save your time, effort and money for the women who likes YOU.
Exactly
I remember watching a video from the 'Every Man Has A Story' UA-cam Channel and the host asked his Filipina wife what it was about him that she found attractive when they first met and she said bluntly, "your white skin".
I am not saying that it was wrong for her to say it, I was just commenting on the topic.
@jayo.6232
Ha, I remember that.
But they are not white they are pink when are we going to wake up from all the lies
Never saw that. But he does have some swagger with that hat he always wears😅
Brutal
It shows a maturity and intelligence when we can talk about our differences without it leading to war.
I’m white, and Calvin is my go to for UA-cam and information on the Philippines. I hate that race has to factor into everything, especially these days. Bros there are enough women for all of us in the Philippines. Love the content Calvin. “Boots on the Ground!”
Sandals on the ground, hehe
Agree
I'm with you man. Calvin speaks the hard truths everyone fears. Best channel.
Sir Calvin is certainly "All inclusive."Nothing new under the Sun
@@robertdaem2315 facts, nothing new under the sun.
You dont need all the women in the Philippines you just need one good one anyways
A lot of men seem to have the wrong criteria. There are plenty of good women in the Philippines. You gotta know what you want. What do you really want out of it? A 10 out of ten for real? Ok in what? Your eyes? That's absolutely fine. What about worrying about the real world and how she's gonna be a wife and mother. Be realistic about it and get to work. You gotta be patient and smart about it.
Facts, cause I see 👀 them getting scam out their homes the most....
@@Maputi_na_Kalabaw anyone can get a 10/10 if they want the issue is that guys are discouraged that girls in Asia only have one preference in white men when in reality they have more than one or no preference at all its alot of shades of grey and in reality the ones who attempt to try to meet and court them regardless of their prefrence have a high chance of actually finding a women.
@@CSCSCS100 I'm not here for advice or knowledge man I'm 1000 percent sure I already did this.
I'm also sure that many men concentrate on appearances without worrying about content of charachter but whatever.
Seek and ye shall find.
@@Maputi_na_Kalabaw You can be your own man live in the shadows of others. This response isn't entirely for you anyways its for the eyes who need to see this. A man shouldn't lower his standards because he assumed he isn't that womans preference. A man like this isn't a man hes a insecure boy.
Thanks brother for keeping it real
I’ve been to the Philippines twice and I’m a black married to a beautiful Filipina from Las Pinas. We’ve traveled around the PH and I’ve seen so many beautiful Filipina women with black and brown men. Even as a married man I find the Filipinas to be very friendly towards men of color. As I read some of the comments, make yourself presentable and respectful and you’ll find a pretty Filipina where color doesn’t matter. Trust me. There’s plenty of them waiting for you there. Don’t worry about the ones that like white men only, it’s their choice 👍🏾
My fillipina wife left me for a white guy, they got married and divorce in less than 2months, Calvin she came back but I was over it by then....... I took a pass, the damage was done.
Filipinos men and women prefer lighter complications even amongst their oun countrymen.
It’s a cultural thing lighter skin is a status symbol. A lot of Filipina’s try to lighten their skin with different creams. Because in parts of the Philippines the darker your skin you probably work on farm meaning your poor . Plus a lot of women want babies with light skin and light eyes . There is lots of Filipina’s for men of all races.
Of course, it’s not always the case, however, Yes they do and I’ve been told this by many Filipina’s in the Philippines. But the perception is slowly changing. The term “White men” cover a lot of races. For example, I am Spanish, Portuguese, African and middle Eastern however, I would be considered white to the naked eye. When I was in the dating circles I would always get asked are you white are you mixed etc. etc. it would come up inevitably. This is cultural preference in the PI in all of Southeast Asia
White is not cultural. There's no country in the world called "White". It's the colonized mind that has been taught to be color "Crayon" restrictive. If it were culture, the ladies would only prefer the mean from their own culture, not some racial category that realistically doesn't exist. Good post though!
Men*
Colorism reigns supreme in the Philippines and throughout Southeast Asia. One only needs to look at the beauty shelves and cosmetic counters to see all the whitening products to understand which color reigns supreme in the eyes of Filipinos.
There are so many generalization based on this that it's tiring. As a black man, I've been married to a Filipina in the states and my current gf is Filipina. I've seen African, Indians, and Koreans with Filipinas. I prefer a woman with a fat ass and big boobs, but doesn't mean I won't date a woman without it. That's why all this Preference talk is nonsense. Visit the Philippines and see for yourself.
Any time these topics are brought up it’s a generalization of course there will always be exceptions to the rules and their will pinays that have a hierarchy of their preferences. So even if she prefers a white guy she may choose a black guy or other if she can’t get the white guy that meets most of her wants
@@jbiz979 exactly 💯
I commend you for having the courage to even touch this topic!
Preferences are fine and dandy Calvin. But, who’s knocking at her door???? And, will she send them away?
As someone who isn't interested in dating when traveling there, I guess I'm a bit biased because it's not a priority. But basically, White males have a headstart in experiences with Filipinos, including romantic relationships. *And some of these guys are bottom shelf Brads* Either way, it's better to tell the truth where men rank in the Philippines. They can accept it or go to another country 🤷🏿♂️
Why would anyone care? Those who want white males let them have white males. Those who want to date black men go ahead and date them.
I once saw a 400 lb black man at the Manila airport with a beautiful young Filipina. And the first thing that came my mind was: How did he fit in the airplane seat? Lol It didn't even register in my mind that he was with a Filipina because Filipinas for the most part are open minded. Of course each person has their own preference, but it really doesn't matter where you're from and what your skin color is, you'll find one here for you as long as you're genuine, sincere and kind hearted.
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If you go to any drug store in the Philippines they have a whole section of skin whiteing products there to buy. There is a reason for that. I have had several filipina wanting me to give them a baby cause my white skin and blue eyes. They even told me they just want me to get them pregnant and I didn't have to even be responsible for the childs upbringing.
Any woman who doesn't care about the father of the child not being in the kids life, doesn't care about the kid. That kid is just a trophy or like a flashy trinket to her. The only exception would be if the father is abusive and is a danger to her and the kid if he's around. But I guess we are all vain to a certain extent
@@hasanabdi7317 that kid it's their retirement plan. and an opportunity to upgrade their social status
@@hasanabdi7317 sadly that's also a common thing in America.
@@timwest277 ignorance is rampant everywhere I guess
53 year old White guy here. It’s funny, because I have, since I was a young boy of 4 or 5 years old, always preferred Asian women. My first crush was a half Filipina girl in 3rd through 8th grade. I dated a Filipina in High School. But, as an adult I only dated White and Black women, as that was what surrounded me. I tried to get stationed in Korea when I was in the Army to be in Asia, which should have been easy to accomplish, but I went to Germany instead. Despite my preferences, I married a White girl.
A friend of mine from when I was in the Air Force, stated he didn’t like Asian women. However, he fell in love and married a Filipina in California. Despite his life long preference for White girls he married Asian, and despite mine, I married White.
It comes down to the individual as in most relations. The preferences or desires, are superficial. Once the one to one relationship develops, none of these differences matter unless we let it matter. I understand the psychology of skin color and status in Asia with relation to darker skin being viewed as one who works outside at menial tasks. However, most westerners I know, like the darker skinned women.
In the end, we as Westerners can view these differences in beliefs as an advantage. Anyone who is that hung up on race disqualifies themselves, and saves us the time and effort. We all can surmise that a person who views race as a defining factor, is either too beholden to an anachronistic system that is dying out, or they are too ignorant on the subject and likely ignorant in other ways also. I view it as a win-win. They’ve eliminated themselves and saved us the work.
Agreed 100%
I agree with your comment also. I think that women in the Philippines are gradually becoming more open minded. It is kinda funny that western men, including myself, tend to be attracted to darker skinned Asian women.
@@herbertwilliams6555 I always liked em kinda dark anyway but in reality my mother's heritage was extremely mixed.
Great way of looking at it, I appreciate the wisdom.
In addition, its known and open in Filipino culture that lighter skin children are a sign of luck and prosperity. They even give their own children nick names based on how dark they are at birth. So go figure ? It's they're own cultural issues not actually their personal preferences in a white vurses dark skinned man..
I always appreciate your honesty
The colonized state of mind is a hard thing to fix.
The preference for light skin in places all over the world started long before any of them saw a white man.
America (white and black soldiers alike) was a liberator of the Philippines as a white nation. A white country with a very few black soldiers. Also, White people expanded their civilization far more successfully than did Black civilisation. It’s just truth. And that’s why women around the world think differently about the two. Women love conquerors. That will never change.
Its not all about natural attraction Status is revered universally along with privilege. Whats true in Harlem is true around the globe my brother ❤
Calvin you always keep it 100
LOL. My black barber was in the Navy stationed in the Philippines during the 1960s. Few brothers hung out with the whites. Yes, some Filipinas preferred white soldiers. But he said he and his mates had a phenomenal time. He told me about a fight that broke out, and the MPs were grabbing up everyone. The Filipinos in the bar where they were hid them from the MPs! They also got invited to family parties where they didn't spend a dime. I always saw a smile on his face when he reminisced about the Philippines.
I would say that was true 20 years ago when I first started going in my early 20’s now that I’m Early 40’s the attitudes towards race is changing, especially with the young . I think there is still colorism within the Filipino community but they somehow put black westerners in a different category. I’ve seen this same thing in South America also ..where foreigner blacks are treated better than local blacks . I’ve also experienced this in Africa . I think being a westerner somehow overrides race . That being said , there are plenty that still prefer white and this is because they believe that having a mixed race baby with a white man gives that child a social advantage.
The dog was hilarious. I love little stuff like that in videos. Great stuff as usual Mr. Calvin.
It's the same in Thailand, but with a twist, because it's more pay for play. I am a black man, raised as a black person but I look totally white. I have black friends and I watch a lot of Black UA-camrs who state in Thailand that there is a higherarchy for men with levels of beauty of women. Of course, Thai men with means are first, then young white men, then young asian men, then young western asian men, finally young Black men. In the older realm, older white men do well here, but not necessarily as well as a young black man, at least here in Thailand. Older black men are bringing up the rear, but the bottom line, there is enough women to go around. In life, in the USA, it was not different. One of my best friends, with charm and european good looks, could do better than me, on any night, no matter how drunk he was. I found my comfort zone, was 5,6, and an occasional 7. I did not fit well with 9,10s, too much work. My male friends who were unhappy were the guys who pursued women out of their league. I am dating a 6 here in Thailand and I have the looks and money to get 10s, but I am comfortable with my 6s, Like you said, when you got a good women, you got it all.
Women have a racial preference no matter where you go. Just don't focus on those women, fellas, if they don't want you. There will always be a woman out there who will appreciate you and don't care about your color. For some guys, they have to search more than others.
Choose the women who choose you!!!
There are millions and millions of women in the Philippines. Times are changing there
I had a Latina friend once tell me that she would not date someone darker than her. I couldn't say anything because my history is dating fair skin women myself. To each his own I say.
Hey Calvin, I appreciate the info.
Yeah I think it's just better to just accept that some people have preferences when it comes to ethnicity, skin color etc and sometimes it might not be in your favour. But there are millions of other potential partners that have preferences that might be in your favour so don't get discouraged just because you meet someone who says "I only date people who look like this". There is somebody out there for everybody!
I'm white and my fiancée is Filipina and she has told me that my fair skin and blue eyes were some of the things she found attractive about me, but yeah if you have darker skin your dating might be rougher in the Philippines but you just have to find the right one, in a long term relation there are other things that are so much more important to flourish together.
So you are fair skin, blue eye, but short and fat.....? Just curious
@@alals67941.8m (5'11'') and skinny so no.
But also I would like to add that what is most important to most Filipinos in a partner is nr.1 financial stability and nr.2 family values. At least this is my experience.
This preference with fair skin comes after, but is still very real. They even have words for the darker skin tone Filipinos called "moreno/morena" and the lighter/mixed ones are called "mestizo/mestiza" which are seen as more beautiful by many there, so it's not only with foreigners they have this sort of beauty standard.
Ah it's probably not worth it talking about race white vs black, it's an American thing and everywhere Americans go they bring the same situations with them like they have in the states and I don't even hear it from other "white" groups in Ph like British, or German or Australian, If the Filipina prefers white men so what? the important thing is the Filipina I prefer is not obsessed with having a "white" baby or wanting to use skin whitening products, these Filipinas are few and far in between but they're out there. It's all good, just go out there and meet a nice Filipina who wants you for who you are and not wanting skin colour to interfere with your relationship. 🇯🇲
Let people like what they like and we should all try to go where we are treated best.
I remember when you were 58 years young! Now you are 60 years old!
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Well, let's not forget this goes back way further than when Americans showed up in the Philippines. It actually first started with the Spanish colonizing the Philippines in 1500's, about 250-300 yrs before any Americans showed up.
There are plenty of Filipinas here in the Philippines who want or have no problem being with or marrying a brother. I know a few. Don't be in a rush to find "the one". Avoid the dating apps, and just go out and meet girls in town. The cold approach game is very easy here and doesn't require much effort, unlike in the states or Europe. As long as you can show them that you are nice and respectful, most will give you a shot. You ain't gotta hit it on the first date. There are ple ty of fish here for my brothers from the states.
I think it actually started before that. In many places in the world people preferred light skin before any of them ever saw a white man.
you FORGOT TO FACTOR regionalism! EACH REGION in the philippines have different character and attitude when it come to relationship.
All foreigners have a 50/50 or maybe little bit more preferability for a Filipino or Filipina, but the reason why white people gets a little more edge has really less to do with their race.
It is more because any country, but especially a country that is NOT predominantly of the white race but its citizens can mostly read, write, and/or speak ENGLISH, will surely have first seen and may have mostly only seen foreigners of just the white race from their TV's, the movies, or in books and magazines. That was the special case for many generations in Philippines.
Cable-TV, and the internet media did make a very big and important impact for global diversity, But an even older form of diversity still stops people to even listen to other people, and it's simply because of verbal understanding, or "language" barriers. The many language diversities still needs a solution before ethnic races can even come together, which will make it easy for next time, and easier and easier with each time.
In short; Most people will always choose the easiest one first.
I think it's a thought process cus, my gf uncle thought I was white before he met me, back in 2019
I was dating a Filipina and her friends told her to get a white man, so it does exist in the Philippines.
They may say their preferences. But the reality for the most part is: First Come, First Served !!! 😃
The white skin they prefer in Angeles city is Korean
In some place in cebu too. Those poeple has poor mentality.
Good luck on them getting a k pop star to come to the Philippines 😅
Colonialism is Real, if David Fagen doesn’t change a Filipina mind on the Black Man nothing will. The game is the game and we have to play it according , choose the girl who likes you, I love your honesty and this is the Real Nitty Gritty.
I'll be visiting the Philippines to check out the culture and explore. Dating is a bonus if it can work. Maybe you'll find your soul mate there, maybe not.
Thanx for keeping it real Calvin, another reason men shouldn't go to the Philippines thirsty.
The ones that are interested will let you know and there are plenty of em.
Calvin, let me give you some insight on this topic based on Chinese culture. Long before China even knew white and black people existed, they had a saying, 一白遮百丑. This literally means that one white (face) can cover 100 ugly (qualities). This is why people in Asian cultures wear what we might consider white face. Having light complexion can cover up your ugliness, either inside or outside, and having dark skin makes people think that you are ugly and POOR. Now cut to a 1000 years later when Asians started meeting real white people who they thought of as rich and black people/ Africans who they thought of as poor, they probably believed that their ancient saying were even more true. As an American, we think it's about race, but the truth is, this is how they look at each other too, sort of like how some black people think light-skinned black people are better looking than dark skinned black people. So I wouldn't be surprised if the Philippines had the same cultural phenomenon as China. Do they prefer white men? Yes, because they think light skinned is better regardless and they think dark skinned is ugly regardless. I saw a UA-cam video of this Japanese guy showing these Japanese girls a series of pictures of black men and white men, and all the white men were average looking and fat or balding and all the black men had what even white women would call movie star good looks. The black men were professional models, and 80% of the Japanese girls said the fat white guys were more handsome than any of the black men, because being fat is a sign of prosperity for men and being white/light-skinned is a sign of beauty for women in most Asian cultures.
Whoa.....very interesting and thanks for that.
No not a chance, in general the woman ive been told about and myself having first hand experience , its definitely a challenging task. Sometimes you need telepathic energy along with patience and sorry to say, money helps.
Yes Calvin you are correct. Wish it wasnt like this but it is. To bad we couldnt follow the words of MLK, and judge people by the content of their character
Lol Most people prefer the skin tone that they grew up dating ! I'm black I really only like black women and black women's features ! It's rare to gravitate to women from a different ethnic background .
I believe that Calvin and others like him spreading the gospel on line have made it possible for men other than white to get that classy beautiful woman they deserve. In my opinion shoot for the most attractive woman and you’ll be surprised how easy it really is here. Been coming here since 1982, and I’m actually surprised at the caliber woman that brothas are able to court now. Most Filipinas don’t know that it was the black servicemen who rebuilt the Philippines after WWII, because they weren’t allowed to fight in the war, only allowed to be a cook or load and unload ships. They weren’t even issued weapons. Some even joined Philippines in the philippine American war. But as Calvin said everywhere you look there’s a statue.
Calvin, I thought you went to Iloilo City? Filipinos celebrate their history and culture, proudly with dark skinned warrior statues against a wall. You never saw that?
you asked why that prejudice might exist. I've heard it could be, lighter skin signifies wealth, because people who work long hours in the sun have darker skin. Same with a "dad bod". If a guy is overweight, he's able to afford plenty of food. That certainly doesn't mean it's good to be overweight!
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Good information
4 billion women on the planet, there's one for everyone!
Interesting topic. However, there is more to it than just skin color. It's my understanding they're attracted to the nose and eyes that are different than their own. The white man has those 2 attributes "more" different than other races as compared to Filipinos.
On the contrary, a black man is seen as more masculine than a white man. There is also the stereotype of bananas in the black man's favor. These two attributes are attractive to certain gals.
Then there is teeth. This is another that favors the black man due to the contrast in color between his teeth and skin color giving the appearance of being brighter.
In the end, there is enough selection on both sides for everyone.
Yes." pointed nose" and round eyes they are attracted to as well. I chatted up a few Filipinas online and we discussed this topic of their culture and what they find attractive etc.
@dddtrump I tell you what,it's assumed whit guys like a tan, but that's not true either. Personally I don't give a crap either way. I like tall girls which is tough to fund in PI. Found one I did.
Thank you. I was just talking about this to my friend. For whatever reason, a lot of white men tend to get defensive, mad and dismissive when you try to explain their advantages to them. You’ve never seen mental gymnastics until you broach the subject of racial discrimination with white men. It’s incredible and disappointing at the same time.
to each is it owns however there is enough women for all men in the Philippines. I think the bottom line is money do you have money.
I like how everyone don't see how good black people are they don't see how we Dominic sports and if you have a baby by a black man you can make them the best kid you have in your family..
Colonization dominates the world, its history!
How lucky can a Spanish man from the US, with light skin but dark hair and eyes? Will he struggle because he doesn't have blue eyes?
Are koreans and men from India considered white. Because that would certainly prove your point.
If they mad about Filipina preferences, wait till they find out about African girls 😅😂
Foreign women perceive me the same as a white man but with better equipment...
Yeah..and, without Viagra!!
Some of us caucasians are doing very good in that dept. as well though !
Filipinas might perfer white men; if your game is on point and you know how to approach a woman correctly, not to mention a seasoned playa can get whoever he wants over there, i visited bacalod city a couple of year's ago and got all type of play from Filipinas; why, because of the way i carried myself; cool, Calm and collective 💥
I hear you and i have been very successful with Pinas but nothing beats that white DNA their is real colorism in the Philippines and being a white skinned filipina definitely gives you more opportunity
@@jbiz979 White skinned Filipinas.........I rarely see that type around.
@@alals6794 I see them all the time, working in Malls, modeling, television. Skin lighting is so common. Maybe you're more in the province but in the major cities on Luzon very common
Lol if you still believe in game in 2024, I feel sorry for you. DNA is everything besides ELITE finances.
The reason why I, and many others, like your channel is because you're not afraid to approach any topic. Even though some women prefer a certain color that should never be a deterrent. The right woman will recognize that you're a good person.☀💪🌴
Here in angles city i see black men here dating flipnas
They prefer green as in money it’s not that complicated fellas
Great video. By the way, I have watched about 20 or 30 videos of this author already and I never once got mad about the topic discussed, including this one about "white privilege". Also, for 60yo the author does not look his age. I would say he looks in his 40's in the video. Working out helps alot, haha
C'mon Calvin you've always said if you and Marilyn broke up you would have a new love interest the next day, probably several such were your options. Then you say black men have it tough. What's going on boots on the ground really?
Good morning 🌞
Good evening Eric!
I remember you talking about this before, this has been an issue before. A lot of women there have been brain washed to think that white men is what they want. I married a Filipino woman and she agreed that some women have a preference. That is okay though to each is own, or they have made their choice. But it’s okay if you keep looking though you will find the right one. I didn’t have a problem years ago when I came over….. But I see your point!!!
Is is not true that Filipino men prefer “pale” or light complexion Filipina women over ones that have a natural more tanned look ? The opposite of what I believe most white or Western men prefer? Don’t many Filipina women consider themselves less attractive if they have a darker skin tone or tanned appearance and actually think that having children with a white guy will result in their children being more attractive (skin color/tone wise) ?
They mat prefer, but I had whole bunch of them come at me, I don't have no problem with it....
Is there anything we can do about that outlook or is it just personal preference? I hear black women in the US complaining that black men want white women but I figure that's a black man's personal preference who he desires. I know in my life there have been women I wanted sooo bad but they preferred someone else
Yes but black women, some, want a white guy or lighter skin guy. This friend of mine got himself a smoking hot black chick when they were both 18yo and he is only a lighter skin Latin guy. This recently got married too. But only after 10 years of dating, engagement. haha
Good Morning! I am so glad you are addressing this issue because I grew up in New York City. These were the basic tenets of the Philippine community in New York City when I attended high school in the eighties. In fact, if you saw 15 black men, maybe two were with an Asian woman, period. The Pinays in New York City were very candid and told us, brothers, "My parents told me not to date a black man." I had a classmate in high school who had relocated to my high school from San Diego, California, in my senior year. Because her parents did not like the fact she was dating an all-star football black man, so they shipped her out and sent her to live with her aunt in New York City. Until she graduated from High school, and several years after high school, she still lived in New York City. Did they end up back together? I do not know, this is not exclusive to the Phillipinnes, this is a basic sentiment across ASIA.
Because of social media, there have been more Blasian relationships but educated Asian women are not so easily prone to date Black men.
I used to be subscribed to many UA-cam channels from white men because before, I had come across your channel, Calvin. To be honest, they were not making it seem like we Afro-Centric men were not wanted in the Phillipines Some were blunt about it, in addition they (meaning white bloggers) did not shed any light about the black experience in the Phillpinnes. .
I tell black men, if this is your mission, do not let that deter you because, at the end of the day, you have to be patient with the process. It is never where you are from, especially if you are going to someone else's backyard to play. It is where you are at, and that is real.
Rise above
My hats off to you Calvin for having the courage to talk about this AGAIN, for the second time, in my opinion and experience there is no place on earth where race is not an issue, not even in Africa, white men are preferred, it is what it is, these kinds of videos is why I f#$k with you calvin
Amen
So, your black rich friend found a mate. Did he have to settle or date down?
It doesn't bug me one bit. Because I have heard too many say they like black men
You know Calvin I really wonder where they get there info from too.” We’re( Black)definitely more closer to them in their past than any other race!!!
What are you talking about? Have you ever been there?
They get their info the same way everyone else does
All of SE Asia has a colorism issue, Thailand, Phillipines, everywhere
They prefer white skin among their own over darker skin.
So of course the same will apply to their preference in foreigners.
SE Asia, parts of Africa and Jamaica make a killing selling skin lightening creams. Same color dynamic exists in the Dominican Republic as well
Sammy Sosa skin bleaching?
Like? What do you mean where do they get their info from? Where are you Not getting yours?
@@josephjones3525 your just a hater!!!!
@@allanluney5917 Hiding now huh?
Say what you want Filipina's prefer a Filipino.
The majority do prefer their own kind!
This is really a tired subject. Who really cares - except those with low self-esteem. Let's move on from this overdone subject. This is low hanging fruit for novice vloggers; Calvin, you're better than this type of click-bait.
@@anthonyjordan7150 I stand on what I said. If this subject means anything to you, you must be one of those with the low self-esteem.
Keep up the good work, Asking questions We all need and want answers to
Maybe maybe not!
Watch the video 😅
@@calroach1 Yes Sir!
I look forward to the day when we are all a coffee brown so we can be done with all the racial bullshit. But then we would probably just argue about something else just as stupid. You bring up a lot of things that most wouldn't touch with a 10 foot pole. Thank you for that. What is funny is here (USA) it is becoming common for whites and blacks and browns and yellows and blues to all date. It's taken far to long for that to finally be accepted.
You are right Brother you said it just as I observed it myself.
I don’t talk race living as an expat I left it behind lol
Sir… when you bring race into your broadcast I have to remove your offerings. Good bye!😊
Great Content Brother! But the one 3,000 pound Elephant in the Room is that the Phillipines has been Brainwashed by the Catholic Chruch and the concept of The White Jesus!! I belive that I heard Calvin himself speak of The "Bearded White Man" In The Sky!!😂😂🤣🤣
Brain Washing @ It's Finest...
mike from canada had to pay money for a filipina........white man
The exception just means that the rule is correct 💪🏾
Do your thing man. Shout the truth from the rooftops!!
They forgot about there history black people saved them look up the Buffalo soldiers and see what they did for the Philippines
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